It's not even worth it. Don't do it. It's a waste of your time. Do something else more productive. Because talking to a narcissist is very, very, very nonproductive. They will only confuse the whole of everything, gaslighting, and lies. Don't have a conversation with a narcissist. Don't talk, and if you can go no contact.
I hadn’t spoken to my mom in a very long time after she had a complete blowout raging on me in the car when I was in town visiting. She called me wanting to talk… I think I was about 29 years old. I had already been away from home for about a decade. I knew all of her games. She called me saying she wanted to know everything bad she had ever done. She exclaimed that she told her mother everything she did to her. I was like you told her that when she was on her deathbed and couldn’t leave the room. That was 100% true. I didn’t fall for it. That’s when I realized I really needed to separate myself from her. I I stopped staying at her house when I was in town and started staying with my brother. Don’t fall for the talk.
If you must speak with a narcissist, always always always record it! Regardless of the laws because you aren’t doing it for a legal case, you’re doing it for your sanity. As long as you’re part of the conversation, record it. Even with a recording, pathological liars will deny it.
Is it okay that I just dont want to talk? I dont want to talk to them anymore. Im done. Im soooo done. Im living my life right now. I dont want them in it because I know they will destroy it again.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror They want me to because they're my Family. The Narc in my life is my Mom and my sister. Yesterday was my Mom's birthday. I didnt greet her but I included her in my prayers. I just dont like to talk to her it feels like I'll be pulled in a maze again.
My mom is one too. This past Easter was 1 year no contact. Her bday is 3-17 & I didn't acknowledge her. On 3-18 she sent a text wondering what she's done to me (she knows Xactly what she's done!) Still no reply from me & I plan on keeping it that way!! You can do this friend. Stand firm & resolute in your decision ❤
This is so true! Omg I remember one time right before I was about to go out with a friend of mine (After I wouldn’t go over to his place) he called me and told me it was this horrible accident and someone was stuck in between the door of a truck and it also involved a motorcycle. The way he explained it, it was a horrible accident and a lady was on the highway about to throw up. It seemed so strange that he would share that with me when we weren’t on the best of terms, but even stranger that the news never spoke about this horrible accident. I even googled and nothing ever came up. I believe this was just to ruin my evening with a friend of mine because he was silently raging that I turned him down. All these years, I thought this Man truly loved me and was just different in expressing his love. I was so naive and vulnerable and I paid a big price. It’s no telling what else he’s done to me behind my back, other than what I already know. We now have a 7 year old and I absolutely only deal with him when absolutely necessary. I never thought this day would come or my love would ever die down. I thought we had this magical thing, but come to find out, it’s others who’ve shared this magical feeling too 🤦♀️I’ve been stuck in this cycle far too long and I realized every time I try to be cordial, he finds a way to get back in my life, only to discard me in the most nastiest way, ever, each time! I told myself the last time was it. He started talking about being friends and letting the chips fall where they may. Started saying he didn’t know what the future held for us. After about a year ago expressing to me and others that he realized I was his wife and God showed him that. Even had my Mom believing him and we did couples counseling. Looking back, I realize it was all fake and him altering his behavior again because his way of doing things wasn’t working anymore….so he had to shift gears.I started to see this pattern very clearly and wanted no parts of it any longer. It took from 2010 up until August of this year. Lots of back and forth and craziness, but I can finally say “That’s it” these people never change. Always trust your gut and stop giving so many chances. They will always bite you in the butt!! It’s no amount of love, care or anything for these people. They are disordered people and they don’t view the world as we do. After all these years, I understand him. Something he told me for so long, “You don’t know me! You don’t understand me” oh, but I do!! 🤭🙌🏼😎
We need to talk= i need to demean you even more and get you back under my thumb. My narc ex told me we had a good thing going. That was as long as I did everything she said. When I finally stood up for myself, then I was told I need to get help.
"How would this conversation go if you were the one to initiate it?" Spot on. Great question to remember during the hoover stage! Thank you, that part hit home for me!
You just covered my childhood. Thanks for clarifying this abuse. It's one thing to experience it, and another to have it put properly in perspective by someone who isn't vested in mowing me down.
Brilliant. Anyone who plays mind games with this narrator, doesn't have a whisper of a chance. You've just described what I don't miss and would rather put my ear on a hot stove ( figuratively speaking).
This was so spot on. I've decided to go no contact with a younger sibling. I'm not playing this game anymore. All of the blame, manipulation, rage, and trying to control me is too much. I'm good.
All they want are admissions of your guilt so that they can validate themselves as victims or how they’re willing to forgive as they are such martyrs to the “relationship”. The rest will be word salad! A circular argument! Possible a silent treatment when questioned on their betrayals or in this stage they may just deny everything even to themselves unless you have something like sex tape or something then I suppose just silent treatment!
Wow this video... got me emotional... and got me crying and reduced me to tears as the harsh truth... about reality and this is what I'm going through right now! I never felt comfortable having "that conversation"... because he always makes me feel like the problem!...It ends up in an argument...or me not speaking just to keep the peace! I was on the verge of divorcing....had marriage counselling... but something does not feel right still... my intuition guides me to stay. some what separated and not give fully ever again to this marriage... We have an adult son and daughter teenage together! 😊💖🙏.
I'm a pretty intelligent person. Outside the home I'm respected and collaborative at work, church, etc. In my marriage I'm always wrong. Always. Conversations are ONLY just one way, her to me. If try to speak, she gets angry and insists that she "has the floor". I thought it was just a "woman" issue but listening to you, I'm wondering if I'm dealing with narcissism. Your words are enlightening to me.
Yes, absolutely 100%. I was married to a horrible man for 21 years. Even the divorce was horrible. I can validate everything that you were talking about in every single one of your videos absolutely spot on.
He wants to criticize and condemn me. That's all he wants to do. He is not interested in being called out on the things he's done, but he wants to tell me everything I've ever done wrong in my life and make threats against my husband. That's all he ever does. Why would I want to talk to someone like that?
Talk? He screams at me tells me shut the f up then says i interrupt him. He just attacked me out of nowhere I dont even live there. Thats him "talking". "Talking" is him berating someone for 30 minutes
Thank you! A friend whom I've discovered is a narcissist is not pleased that I and another friend in our friend group have started to hang out more and even discussed some of our feelings around this person - which has been really good for me because I have been the only one seeing this before (I have a narcissistic mother, so …). She wants to talk to the both of us. I know there's nothing in it for me and I think it might be harmful to me, but she is pushing hard. This helps me stick to my guns!
How have you been able to become so clear, pleasant, funny and happy after your narc experiences?? I’d just love to end up with your demeanor!!! Maybe there’s hope! I live with a queezy feeling in my gut.
thanks for describing my experience, LBTM, it's like you were on a recent phonecall with me giving reassuring advice. I have tried to repair an important relationship for over 20 years and totally failed so I've given up and pulled back which I've never done before. Now she wants to talk presumably to resume our previous relationship. I didn't feel completely comfortable with my change of heart towards her until you popped onto my screen. It's like you read my mind, LBTM, thanks for some much needed advice and intuition. Yes narcissists really are this devious and manipulative, I've seen it, felt it towards me, and usually fall for it. So sad they use our emotions and affection this way. Talking about relationships is supposed to fix relationships but not with a narcissist. I just became a subscriber. You have a great mind.
Yup, plans ruined, confidence blown. I just see this as another way to manipulate you into feeling their feelings for them, because THEY LACK THE ABILITY to feel them. Ooooh, I'm on fire
Haven't talked to her in months and she calls and messages me repeatedly one evening. Practically demnds to come over and spend the night. I'm sick with a cold/flu, almost as sick as I was with COVID last year. I explain I'm really sick and she proceeded to try to make me feel guilty and said she's turning off the phone. Whatever. I have a life too.
Excellent take home points on how to process these conversations and how to remain emotionally balanced. This is helpful as I am learning to regulate and value myself. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for this channel. I really appreciate your perspective on this mind-boggling and life-wrecking mess called narcissism. I'm on a healing journey myself and your input helps me quite a lot! Greetings from Poland 😉
My ex narc tried to ruin my plans with my parents one time, they came for a visit, I made plans to take them somewhere, he tried to tell me that I needed to cancel because the car was due for an oil change, 🤣 whatever. He also used to back out at the last minute, it bothered me at first but after a while I was thankful for him backing out because he would ruin everything. Always had better time without him.
He can completely zone out, even fall asleep, when I talk on these situations. Remembers nothing. Waste of time. Just say “ok” and go about your business.
I feel so understood and seen by watching your videos. You describe all this abuse so great I am speechless. I just want to thank you for this knowledge that you share, you are a blessing for so many of us. Please keep doing what you do, your energy and wisdom does not have price I hope that you know that. Simply said, you are doing God"s work. God Bless You 🙏🙏🙏
Yeah, this is why I “Step out the back, Jack…” I could see that, outside of dealing with my mother, and “maybe” a sister that, may not want me to move away, as well as with a neighbor, one of the main strategies is to arm wrestle you into conversation. It can appear like the most friendly, calm, cooperative, benign thing in the world. But, once you’ve seen red flags, patterns and agendas, and if you’ve left the general conversation and gone no contact, if they appear to simply be continuing convo with you, that alone is a red flag that your boundaries do not mean Jack Sh*t, as far as they’re concerned. That, when you cut them off, they just KNEW you didn’t and they didn’t want to hear no, so “Oh, yes, we’re still in conversation.” It is a very covert way of bullying and especially in public, because most people subscribe to the idea that, if someone wants “in” your life, you should consider yourself lucky and kick the door open. Otherwise, you are the one with the problem - and narcissists know this. But, you have to not care what people think.
@@dragonclaws9367 yep and with this neighbor, now that Spring is here again, 3 years after I gave her the virtual boot, she’s back at trying to get convo going again. I think she feels, “Well, as long as you live above me and, heck, I’m not going anywhere, you just may as well settle for the fact that you’re stuck and we’re kin.” No we’re not. I just wear earbuds when I am out, walking my cat and that woman can have all the conversation she likes - with herself.
Uncle, the brother of my covert mom, reached out to get to know me. That lasted for 5 minutes. Now it's all about him. I was ready for it thanks to covert gf who opened my eyes to our family sickness. Oh well, there goes $10m inheritance. Ghosted him today. Phone is blowing up. I refuse to have this poison in my life. I discarded gf during devalue phase. Discarded uncle during happy phase. I'm getting quicker!!
In the end i told her, do you want to talk or tell me. Is it only you talking or am i allowed to join in ?? You sit down and when theres a break you open your mouth and they talk over you and accuse you of doing it. When you want to initiate a conversation theres a million and one excuses to not have it.
We went NC and left the house. Now 2 weeks later they want "to talk" so that things don't escalate as much ... even though he's still the victim of course
I told myself this is a bad person, didn't want to talk to him about anything ever not even by accident. I moved (the end). Not dealing with them at all is best even though all I had to say was GO I don't want you in my life.😊
Also, would you have any thoughts on the topic of when a narcissist experiences some real suffering, like an illness or a loss, and how to manage the emotions we might then have. I have no doubt that our sincere sympathy in such cases could easily be used by them to hoover us back in even under such circumstances. Or we could easily end up being blamed for whatever real tragedy or harshness they might be facing.
That is an interesting topic. On the one hand, some of them would not want to show vulnerability, while on the other hand, some may use the opportunity to garner attention.
I obviously searched answer to the topic. I don't want to talk anymore. It's over. I'm fed up with the manipulation and bullshit. I replied. Not right now, and it seems my schedule is very busy for a long time. I didn't say anything about willing to talk after that either. Of course this is far from the "I don't. Go fuck yourself" that I really wanted to say. Or "Just leave me alone!"
Never feel sorry for narcissists who will exploit your emotions.
He did it every time and I fell for the apologies for YEARS!! No more. I see right thru it now.
Making sense out of nonsense, you have just described at least 30 years of my life.
It's not even worth it. Don't do it.
It's a waste of your time.
Do something else more productive.
Because talking to a narcissist is very, very, very nonproductive.
They will only confuse the whole of everything, gaslighting, and lies.
Don't have a conversation with a narcissist.
Don't talk, and if you can go no contact.
This is a small channel, but this young woman has a fresh approach, combined with lots of common sense and wisdom.
I hadn’t spoken to my mom in a very long time after she had a complete blowout raging on me in the car when I was in town visiting. She called me wanting to talk… I think I was about 29 years old. I had already been away from home for about a decade. I knew all of her games. She called me saying she wanted to know everything bad she had ever done. She exclaimed that she told her mother everything she did to her.
I was like you told her that when she was on her deathbed and couldn’t leave the room. That was 100% true.
I didn’t fall for it. That’s when I realized I really needed to separate myself from her. I I stopped staying at her house when I was in town and started staying with my brother.
Don’t fall for the talk.
If you must speak with a narcissist, always always always record it! Regardless of the laws because you aren’t doing it for a legal case, you’re doing it for your sanity. As long as you’re part of the conversation, record it. Even with a recording, pathological liars will deny it.
Totally agree! Just don’t recommend telling the narcissistic person!!
I don't have conversations with four year olds. Matter of fact, I'd rather have a conversation with a four year old.
Is it okay that I just dont want to talk? I dont want to talk to them anymore. Im done. Im soooo done. Im living my life right now. I dont want them in it because I know they will destroy it again.
Of course that’s okay. You never have to talk to anyone you don’t want to talk to.
@@LookingBehindtheMirror They want me to because they're my Family. The Narc in my life is my Mom and my sister. Yesterday was my Mom's birthday. I didnt greet her but I included her in my prayers. I just dont like to talk to her it feels like I'll be pulled in a maze again.
My mom is one too. This past Easter was 1 year no contact. Her bday is 3-17 & I didn't acknowledge her. On 3-18 she sent a text wondering what she's done to me (she knows Xactly what she's done!) Still no reply from me & I plan on keeping it that way!!
You can do this friend. Stand firm & resolute in your decision ❤
This is so true! Omg I remember one time right before I was about to go out with a friend of mine (After I wouldn’t go over to his place) he called me and told me it was this horrible accident and someone was stuck in between the door of a truck and it also involved a motorcycle. The way he explained it, it was a horrible accident and a lady was on the highway about to throw up. It seemed so strange that he would share that with me when we weren’t on the best of terms, but even stranger that the news never spoke about this horrible accident. I even googled and nothing ever came up. I believe this was just to ruin my evening with a friend of mine because he was silently raging that I turned him down. All these years, I thought this Man truly loved me and was just different in expressing his love. I was so naive and vulnerable and I paid a big price. It’s no telling what else he’s done to me behind my back, other than what I already know. We now have a 7 year old and I absolutely only deal with him when absolutely necessary. I never thought this day would come or my love would ever die down. I thought we had this magical thing, but come to find out, it’s others who’ve shared this magical feeling too 🤦♀️I’ve been stuck in this cycle far too long and I realized every time I try to be cordial, he finds a way to get back in my life, only to discard me in the most nastiest way, ever, each time! I told myself the last time was it. He started talking about being friends and letting the chips fall where they may. Started saying he didn’t know what the future held for us. After about a year ago expressing to me and others that he realized I was his wife and God showed him that. Even had my Mom believing him and we did couples counseling. Looking back, I realize it was all fake and him altering his behavior again because his way of doing things wasn’t working anymore….so he had to shift gears.I started to see this pattern very clearly and wanted no parts of it any longer. It took from 2010 up until August of this year. Lots of back and forth and craziness, but I can finally say “That’s it” these people never change. Always trust your gut and stop giving so many chances. They will always bite you in the butt!! It’s no amount of love, care or anything for these people. They are disordered people and they don’t view the world as we do. After all these years, I understand him. Something he told me for so long, “You don’t know me! You don’t understand me” oh, but I do!! 🤭🙌🏼😎
"We need to talk" = I need to bring you back under my thumb, or I need to confuse you so you can accept my withdrawl and or breakup. - Narc.
Yep, exactly
We need to talk= i need to demean you even more and get you back under my thumb.
My narc ex told me we had a good thing going. That was as long as I did everything she said.
When I finally stood up for myself, then I was told I need to get help.
"How would this conversation go if you were the one to initiate it?" Spot on. Great question to remember during the hoover stage! Thank you, that part hit home for me!
💯 When they didn’t want to talk after a breakup but then they want to, on their terms 🧐
You just covered my childhood. Thanks for clarifying this abuse. It's one thing to experience it, and another to have it put properly in perspective by someone who isn't vested in mowing me down.
Very relatable.
Brilliant. Anyone who plays mind games with this narrator, doesn't have a whisper of a chance. You've just described what I don't miss and would rather put my ear on a hot stove ( figuratively speaking).
This was so spot on. I've decided to go no contact with a younger sibling. I'm not playing this game anymore. All of the blame, manipulation, rage, and trying to control me is too much. I'm good.
All they want are admissions of your guilt so that they can validate themselves as victims or how they’re willing to forgive as they are such martyrs to the “relationship”.
The rest will be word salad! A circular argument! Possible a silent treatment when questioned on their betrayals or in this stage they may just deny everything even to themselves unless you have something like sex tape or something then I suppose just silent treatment!
They can appear to be remorseful and sad and repentant but the worm turns again
Wow this video... got me emotional... and got me crying and reduced me to tears as the harsh truth... about reality and this is what I'm going through right now! I never felt comfortable having "that conversation"... because he always makes me feel like the problem!...It ends up in an argument...or me not speaking just to keep the peace! I was on the verge of divorcing....had marriage counselling... but something does not feel right still... my intuition guides me to stay.
some what separated and not give fully ever again to this marriage... We have an adult son and daughter teenage together! 😊💖🙏.
Don't go back
My mother says, "I've got a bone to pick with you." Horrible time ahead.
I'm a pretty intelligent person. Outside the home I'm respected and collaborative at work, church, etc. In my marriage I'm always wrong. Always. Conversations are ONLY just one way, her to me. If try to speak, she gets angry and insists that she "has the floor". I thought it was just a "woman" issue but listening to you, I'm wondering if I'm dealing with narcissism. Your words are enlightening to me.
Yes, absolutely 100%. I was married to a horrible man for 21 years. Even the divorce was horrible. I can validate everything that you were talking about in every single one of your videos absolutely spot on.
He wants to criticize and condemn me. That's all he wants to do. He is not interested in being called out on the things he's done, but he wants to tell me everything I've ever done wrong in my life and make threats against my husband. That's all he ever does. Why would I want to talk to someone like that?
Talk? He screams at me tells me shut the f up then says i interrupt him. He just attacked me out of nowhere I dont even live there. Thats him "talking". "Talking" is him berating someone for 30 minutes
Me too. They think interjecting in a convo is interrupting. They only care about themselves.
Thank you! A friend whom I've discovered is a narcissist is not pleased that I and another friend in our friend group have started to hang out more and even discussed some of our feelings around this person - which has been really good for me because I have been the only one seeing this before (I have a narcissistic mother, so …). She wants to talk to the both of us. I know there's nothing in it for me and I think it might be harmful to me, but she is pushing hard. This helps me stick to my guns!
How have you been able to become so clear, pleasant, funny and happy after your narc experiences?? I’d just love to end up with your demeanor!!! Maybe there’s hope! I live with a queezy feeling in my gut.
thanks for describing my experience, LBTM, it's like you were on a recent phonecall with me giving reassuring advice. I have tried to repair an important relationship for over 20 years and totally failed so I've given up and pulled back which I've never done before. Now she wants to talk presumably to resume our previous relationship. I didn't feel completely comfortable with my change of heart towards her until you popped onto my screen. It's like you read my mind, LBTM, thanks for some much needed advice and intuition. Yes narcissists really are this devious and manipulative, I've seen it, felt it towards me, and usually fall for it. So sad they use our emotions and affection this way. Talking about relationships is supposed to fix relationships but not with a narcissist. I just became a subscriber. You have a great mind.
desperate hope = malignant optimism as worded by Sam Vaknin
Yup, plans ruined, confidence blown.
I just see this as another way to manipulate you into feeling their feelings for them, because THEY LACK THE ABILITY to feel them.
Ooooh, I'm on fire
Haven't talked to her in months and she calls and messages me repeatedly one evening. Practically demnds to come over and spend the night. I'm sick with a cold/flu, almost as sick as I was with COVID last year. I explain I'm really sick and she proceeded to try to make me feel guilty and said she's turning off the phone. Whatever. I have a life too.
Excellent take home points on how to process these conversations and how to remain emotionally balanced. This is helpful as I am learning to regulate and value myself. Thank you 🙏
Thank you for this channel. I really appreciate your perspective on this mind-boggling and life-wrecking mess called narcissism. I'm on a healing journey myself and your input helps me quite a lot! Greetings from Poland 😉
My ex narc tried to ruin my plans with my parents one time, they came for a visit, I made plans to take them somewhere, he tried to tell me that I needed to cancel because the car was due for an oil change, 🤣 whatever. He also used to back out at the last minute, it bothered me at first but after a while I was thankful for him backing out because he would ruin everything. Always had better time without him.
He can completely zone out, even fall asleep, when I talk on these situations. Remembers nothing. Waste of time. Just say “ok” and go about your business.
they only talk about themselves. Its all, what about me...
They monopolize the conversation. Just give up on trying to communicate with a toddler.
I feel so understood and seen by watching your videos. You describe all this abuse so great I am speechless. I just want to thank you for this knowledge that you share, you are a blessing for so many of us. Please keep doing what you do, your energy and wisdom does not have price I hope that you know that. Simply said, you are doing God"s work. God Bless You 🙏🙏🙏
Yeah, this is why I “Step out the back, Jack…”
I could see that, outside of dealing with my mother, and “maybe” a sister that, may not want me to move away, as well as with a neighbor, one of the main strategies is to arm wrestle you into conversation. It can appear like the most friendly, calm, cooperative, benign thing in the world. But, once you’ve seen red flags, patterns and agendas, and if you’ve left the general conversation and gone no contact, if they appear to simply be continuing convo with you, that alone is a red flag that your boundaries do not mean Jack Sh*t, as far as they’re concerned. That, when you cut them off, they just KNEW you didn’t and they didn’t want to hear no, so “Oh, yes, we’re still in conversation.” It is a very covert way of bullying and especially in public, because most people subscribe to the idea that, if someone wants “in” your life, you should consider yourself lucky and kick the door open. Otherwise, you are the one with the problem - and narcissists know this. But, you have to not care what people think.
No need to be coy Roy ❤
@@dragonclaws9367 yep and with this neighbor, now that Spring is here again, 3 years after I gave her the virtual boot, she’s back at trying to get convo going again. I think she feels, “Well, as long as you live above me and, heck, I’m not going anywhere, you just may as well settle for the fact that you’re stuck and we’re kin.” No we’re not. I just wear earbuds when I am out, walking my cat and that woman can have all the conversation she likes - with herself.
Make a new plan, Stan. Drop off the key, Lee, and set yourself free.😂
Uncle, the brother of my covert mom, reached out to get to know me. That lasted for 5 minutes. Now it's all about him. I was ready for it thanks to covert gf who opened my eyes to our family sickness. Oh well, there goes $10m inheritance. Ghosted him today. Phone is blowing up. I refuse to have this poison in my life. I discarded gf during devalue phase. Discarded uncle during happy phase. I'm getting quicker!!
Ah thats the worst
In the end i told her, do you want to talk or tell me. Is it only you talking or am i allowed to join in ?? You sit down and when theres a break you open your mouth and they talk over you and accuse you of doing it. When you want to initiate a conversation theres a million and one excuses to not have it.
You and Dr C are the best at bringing everyone this info in a 100 percent relatable and real life scenarios
Thank you❣️❣️
Terrific video!
Such a great video! So much great information in a tight conversation.
My ex used to demand I come back now and talk if I want to save this marriage! Even went to separated on Facebook few times,obsessed with facebook
We went NC and left the house. Now 2 weeks later they want "to talk" so that things don't escalate as much ... even though he's still the victim of course
Truly Spot On ! Thank you so very much . Very helpful . 🙏💪
I hate the THE TALK
I told myself this is a bad person, didn't want to talk to him about anything ever not even by accident. I moved (the end). Not dealing with them at all is best even though all I had to say was GO I don't want you in my life.😊
Also, would you have any thoughts on the topic of when a narcissist experiences some real suffering, like an illness or a loss, and how to manage the emotions we might then have. I have no doubt that our sincere sympathy in such cases could easily be used by them to hoover us back in even under such circumstances. Or we could easily end up being blamed for whatever real tragedy or harshness they might be facing.
That is an interesting topic. On the one hand, some of them would not want to show vulnerability, while on the other hand, some may use the opportunity to garner attention.
God, I pray for wisdom and strength to ignore the narcissist from here to hell.
Spot. On. 45 minute lecture for watering the dog.
When a narcissists ask to talk its not about us, its what they want from us and how we can be useful in their life not anything good for us
I obviously searched answer to the topic. I don't want to talk anymore. It's over. I'm fed up with the manipulation and bullshit. I replied. Not right now, and it seems my schedule is very busy for a long time. I didn't say anything about willing to talk after that either. Of course this is far from the "I don't. Go fuck yourself" that I really wanted to say. Or "Just leave me alone!"
There's no such thing.