Toxic people treat others with more respect , but may treat you like garbage. Always hold them to their own standards. If they argue with you , then limit or stop socializing with them.
I noticed recently that when having a heated conversation with mine, he would put his hands around my neck almost in a joking way but not (if that makes any sense). I told my niece yesterday afternoon and 40 mins later, my big brother, my nephew (who's a cop) and three of his buddies who I also consider my brothers because they've been around my whole life, showed up at our place. He ordered me to pack my bags and get in the truck. Jimmy drove my Jeep outa there and I'm now here at my nephew's place. I just came back to get things in order before leaving for Texas but the ring threw me for a loop. I'm so ready for this pit in my stomach to leave and for my life to feel normal again. I know I've already been replaced if you will but I can't figure out for the lie of me, why he even wants me to stay. Go be with her! She'll soon see what you are too, just like the rest of us. I found our one of his ex 's actually ended up in the phych ward for a breakdown. She's a cardio vascular surgeon. I always enjoyed his stories about her. She sounds meek and sweet not to mention extremely intelligent. Idk if reaching out to her at some point in the future is wise but regardless, I think of her often for some reason. There's a couple of you on UA-cam that I'm sure are sent from God himself. Although, you've done some real dick headed things, you've seen the light, realized the reality and turned your bad behavior into something that helps many of us cope. I wanted to thank you for that! Sometimes, nobody believes us that things aren't okay and you guys are all we have. You are good! You are important! You are needed so stay cool, friend and never stop doing what you do!! (Air hugs from Milwaukee Wisconsin)
Ben, this ex covert narcissist figured out fast that he had the wrong one! He got over being undercover sneaky with a lot of things, but one thing he could not do is make me walk on eggs shells. He would have temper tantrums and I would completely gray rock him, until he got over himself!
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You don’t seem like a narcissist. It’s impossible for narcissists to be self aware. You’re aware of everything you do. Thank you for the good advice though
@@RawMotivations i found your video really helpful and it seems like you do know the inside of a narcissists brain really well but the whole point of a narcissist is that they are unable to truly introspect and be self aware. I’m no expert though.
Is this even worth it with someone who's not self-aware? Why is there not even a broad initiative/effort to promote self-awareness as an effective treatment/management strategy? Not enough evidence for it?
Use I statements more than you statements...the toxic person will automatically assume everything you are saying is about them not you...be specific "I"
With someone who is reasonable , that may work. Sometimes the more calm and reasonable I've been with a toxic person , the more toxic they become. That's when I distance myself from them socially. If they don't believe in mutual trust and respect , then the cycle of abuse will continue.
Boundaries are not for the other person the Boundaries are for you.
Never give consequences. Just remove yourself from the situation don't engage
"Don't take it personal " whatever the narcissist does or says has nothing to do with you its just the sh*t that's going on inside the narcissist "
Toxic people treat others with more respect , but may treat you like garbage. Always hold them to their own standards. If they argue with you , then limit or stop socializing with them.
I noticed recently that when having a heated conversation with mine, he would put his hands around my neck almost in a joking way but not (if that makes any sense). I told my niece yesterday afternoon and 40 mins later, my big brother, my nephew (who's a cop) and three of his buddies who I also consider my brothers because they've been around my whole life, showed up at our place. He ordered me to pack my bags and get in the truck. Jimmy drove my Jeep outa there and I'm now here at my nephew's place. I just came back to get things in order before leaving for Texas but the ring threw me for a loop. I'm so ready for this pit in my stomach to leave and for my life to feel normal again. I know I've already been replaced if you will but I can't figure out for the lie of me, why he even wants me to stay. Go be with her! She'll soon see what you are too, just like the rest of us. I found our one of his ex 's actually ended up in the phych ward for a breakdown. She's a cardio vascular surgeon. I always enjoyed his stories about her. She sounds meek and sweet not to mention extremely intelligent. Idk if reaching out to her at some point in the future is wise but regardless, I think of her often for some reason. There's a couple of you on UA-cam that I'm sure are sent from God himself. Although, you've done some real dick headed things, you've seen the light, realized the reality and turned your bad behavior into something that helps many of us cope. I wanted to thank you for that! Sometimes, nobody believes us that things aren't okay and you guys are all we have. You are good! You are important! You are needed so stay cool, friend and never stop doing what you do!! (Air hugs from Milwaukee Wisconsin)
Ben, this ex covert narcissist figured out fast that he had the wrong one! He got over being undercover sneaky with a lot of things, but one thing he could not do is make me walk on eggs shells. He would have temper tantrums and I would completely gray rock him, until he got over himself!
We're here to support you on your healing journey. Take the first step by joining our free masterclass, where you'll learn how to break free from toxic relationships and much more. Just head over to www.rawmotivations.com/masterclass
My problem, is the narcissistic person has a hold over my grandpa. She has isolated him, and is constantly gaslighting my mom
What is in your power is to work on you. Avoid arguing navigate away
You don’t seem like a narcissist. It’s impossible for narcissists to be self aware. You’re aware of everything you do. Thank you for the good advice though
I wasn’t several years ago and there is no data that says it’s impossible for them to be aware.
@@RawMotivations i found your video really helpful and it seems like you do know the inside of a narcissists brain really well but the whole point of a narcissist is that they are unable to truly introspect and be self aware. I’m no expert though.
@@Jiyooni11 Narcissism is a spectrum
You are dealing with a dangerous person. So these are great tactics on how to survive
True talk
This is super helpful and super hard at the same.
Wish you the best on your healing journey!
Very needed material 🎉. I caught myself on some of those attitudes 😂
Always fallow through
This is super helpful
Good advice here.
If soldiers can navigate thru a minefield this can be done...Dangerous, but it can be done.
Is this even worth it with someone who's not self-aware? Why is there not even a broad initiative/effort to promote self-awareness as an effective treatment/management strategy? Not enough evidence for it?
Use I statements more than you statements...the toxic person will automatically assume everything you are saying is about them not you...be specific "I"
With someone who is reasonable , that may work. Sometimes the more calm and reasonable I've been with a toxic person , the more toxic they become. That's when I distance myself from them socially. If they don't believe in mutual trust and respect , then the cycle of abuse will continue.
"That is not doing something to him"
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