I struggle so bad with this.Daydreaming leaves me feeling emotionally drained and depressed.I can’t even finish school work without my mind slipping.I need to start facing fears because some of the greatest things in life are behind fear.
That’s the biggest challenge. Facing our own fears. I found out that one step to take is to forgive myself if i forget and taking a step towards over coming the feats and daydreaming. The worst thing for us to do is to feel bad or guilty. I mean we’re already dealing with so much , right? I really hope you take steps to overcoming the fears. Also, I leave messages and notes on the wall to remind me to do things, immediately. Just so i don’t forget when I’m in the middle of something. Please feel free to message me here. I’d like to help as many people over come this as best as we can. Thank you for being so open. ❤️❤️❤️
@@prettypritee4491 sometimes. Like today. I have this pressure around my head. But i think it’s barometric pressure. Things like this that i never realized that kept me feeling hazy. But you know what helps with that? Breathing exercises. Have you tried Wim Hof?
@@prettypritee4491 I’m not a doctor. But what helps me is to keep my self as alkaline as possible. Eating foods that aren’t inflammatory. Dr. Sebi of you UA-cam is one of the best. Although he passed his children are carrying on the information. Also, wim hof breathing helped me a lot. More oxygen to the brain. And practicing something daily. For me it was chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. You can UA-cam it from SGI. It’s a great mantra
Thank you for sharing. Daydreaming like how you’re expressing it is totally normal. Maladaptive daydreaming is a whole other level where you literally get lost in the thoughts and never seem to take action. It can get frustrating. Hope that makes sense. 😀
@@richard-chiu I've been avoiding anything that makes me daydream and I have a piece of paper where I take some daily notes everytime that I try to daydream. It has been 3 months since I found about this... but the attempts are many... And It's very hard to study because, comparing to exercising or reading, it's in somehow different and harder to focus. And when I don't dream I feel quite empty. It's like fearing the reality. I just don't know what is like living without those characters who are nothing but the perfect side of "me". It's weird. And I can't tell this to anyone...
nicole donald wow, i totally relate. It’s like we live in this whole other world that know one knows about. Could i offer a few suggestions that helped me knock myself out of this?
nicole donald excellent First i realized that anything that had to have me in a state of nothingness like mediation, sitting quietly made things worse or didn’t work. Second i started doing research why it’s important to be more physical. Doing physical things like exercise release dopamines in our body that help activate a certain thing on our brains to be present. Third, share in person. Keep communicating verbally. I minimized social media and texting. I found actually talking out loud, speaking with others on the phone or in person, reading a book a book out loud, singing a song as loud as possible, chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo our loud, really really helps. Overall, out of all of these try them all and see what works for you. Maybe you can find something that works for you that you can share with others. It’s why i started the 365 day daily vlog on UA-cam. To challenge myself to share and talk out loud. But that was one of many things i added to my daily like. Hope this works. 😀❤️
I have maladaptive daydreaming really bad. It actually affected my life. I get lost in my daydreams because I was so dedicated to them and that became my safe place. It’s until now looking back I realized how much time I’ve wasted and I haven’t done things I wanted to do. I’m actively trying to overcome this
Me too! It affects every area of my life. I self-diagnosed here on youtube because none of the psychologists I went to did. I will try to overcome it as well, good luck to you
@@richard-chiu Not in particular. I really appreciate your video. I can’t express how helpful this was! I’m looking forward to watching your upcoming videos.
@@3amDayDreamer hey u didn’t waste your life. U needed to daydream and u needed to realize it wasn’t right for u. Life is a bunch of ups and downs for everyone. Don’t be too hard on urself 🫵
@@zawarudo93 Me too tho I skipped all my whole classes since first day. But I don’t care about grades anymore, I wanna take care of my mental health more often
omg it's my problem too. i thought i was the only one who does it. I've been doing it since i was 12 and now I'm 16. i got into high school and you know there are a lot of tasks but i can't get anything done because i daydream 24/7. and when I'm not daydreaming, I'm stressed out for no reason. god i feel really bad I'm the worst honestly. i wish there were like a medication or something to help. daydreaming really drains all my energy and motivation.
I know this maybe be hard but here are some things I’ll recommend:Try to practice Mindfulness of God and if Your time you’ll never get it back, try to do stuff like sitting down after Salah (if you’re a Muslim) or set some time to sit down and relax try to think about how your mental, social, and emotional health try to talk to people more like start with family members (even if it’s a hi!), try to exercise
@@richard-chiu Absolutely, I want some insight about Depersonalization Disorder and MDD. Also that I developed insomnia because of this, I cant sleep with my mind running 24/7
@@hakimasmr5378 i’ve tried looking at every possibility of why my life is the way it is, MD is the main thing that’s holding me back. Its the hardest addiction ive tried quitting, the only way around it is being mindful where u watch thoughts, i went 4 days last week without doing it and started to feel like my old self again. U need to practice mindfulness(watching thoughts go by). Its a strange process but you’ll get used to it eventually i’m starting ti head the same way
I promised myself I'd take the steps to stop this when I finally move out, because this is a dumb coping mechanism for me in my house 😃. I wonder how that'll go down.
Alright, ish. It's gotten worse, but I've been trying to incorporate my paracosm and parames into reality. My parame is strong and can dance - I've been working out more and doing more dance covers. My friends in my paracosm are always happy when I show up. I've been complimenting my irl friends more and texting them all "good Morning/good night."
I am going to try the tips you shared in the comments below. I am single in my 30s and suffer from this alot. It really drains me. Sitting alone by myself quietly makes it worse. I cant concentrate when im working. I have to literally tell my self to get it together focus! Unfortunately i dont have any friends. I do read out loud when am reading a book since a week now and i have noticed it works with keeping me focused. Man there are alot of us that suffer from this, i thought im alone 😞
I think maybe you need to accept that lonelyness, if you want to talk to someone you can talk to me, but the problem of loneliness will not solve with any company that's not compatible with your personality
I have recently tried to overcome it but I keep falling back into a pattern of daydreaming. I find myself making excuses to myself; "I'll only do it for 20 minutes", "I won't walk around I'll stand in one place". I may try again because I know that the main problem in my life is the thing that is also my biggest stress reliever. Thankyou for making this video, watching how you've overcome this for you and for your family inspires me to try and not be selfish with this and to take responsibility in indulging my cravings to daydream.
thank you. its no easy feat. I felt like a big struggle it was but learned to overcome it gradually. I think the best bet is not to put pressure on ourselves. if we can take each step of the day when we fail and just refresh ourselves saying, "ok, lets start over. its all good." and just forgive ourselves because at the end of the day we're human. I hope that helps....:)
@@richard-chiu any tips for preventing or dealing with the urge to daydream? I'm starting exams soon so I'm probably going to fall back into a pattern of daydreaming to deal with the stress and anxiety of it all, so any advice on how to deal with it would be cool to see! (Side note: I'm still doing it in different ways, but I've found I can actually ignore urges long enough to get work done or to hang out with friends)
@@snitchy._.120 personally when I’m studying i do things in spurts so i don’t get to lost in the whole process. For example, 20 minutes study. Break for 10 doing something physical. Then back to 20 min. Then 10 min break. I do this within the hour of study. If I’m studying for a massive test and need 2-3 of study per se, i continue with 20 min. Then break for 5 min doing some type of physical exercise. Put a timer on everything. No matter where you are.
How much time did it take you to get out of it???...... I'm losing hope already thinking about the fact ..... that I might not be able to overcome this😭😭
It was a lot of work. But i also had a lot of supportive people around me to help. You can totally overcome it. It just takes small tiny steps. Whats one thing you’d like to overcome in 2021? Please feel free to ask me any questions. And I’ll do my best to assist.
@@ak-pl5us I’m nit sure the type of environment you live in, but i had challenges myself. I was so earnest in finding a supportive someone/others to connect with i ended up finding the wrong people. But sometimes desperate times comes to desperate measures. I started getting therapy. I started attending all kinds of religious activities until i found Buddhism, i started re-connecting with nature. There’s so much we can do. We just need to thinking outside the box a little.
@@richard-chiu I've noticed one thing........that my maladaptive daydreaming is also coexistent with extreme amounts of anxiety......was this a problem with you too??....and if it was .....how did you handle both of them??
I have excessive daydreaming which I fear may stop me from being who I really can be... There were certain triggers like mainly music... Which I was able to control for Almost like 6 months then due to a major mental breakdown I had to turn to the only coping mechanism I had and then I lost myself. Again. This seems more like a disease...I fear that it would stay with me for the rest of my life... I want to stop at least excessive daydreaming... Please do give some advice or something that could help
First off, you should be proud of your self that you made it six months. That’s a huge achievement. Let’s acknowledge that and really give your self that embracing love you need. Go ahead I’ll wait. 😀 Secondly, falling off is part of the game. It’s shows how far you’ve come. Now that you know you can do it for this long you have the confidence to start back up again. Lastly, be aware of your triggers is one of the most important things you need to know. Awareness is key. How do you become more aware of ourselves? Talk a walk. Connect with nature. Do physical movements like jumping, tai chi, yoga, etc. whatever you like to do. Movement is key.
Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words ,that means a lot to Me... I would take your advice and follow it and if I fall again I will try to rise up and I might come here again for adobe or encouragement ...Thanl you for creating such a wonderful and amazing Channel and taking your valuable time to reply and help me... I am grateful for that. Thank you!
@@richard-chiu normally there is a line between slightly daydreaming and excessive daydreaming... If we are actually healing and then there is a sudden raise of daydreaming again... How do we know that the daydream we have is a light /normal one or which is an intense /excessive one... Is there any warning that shows or indicates that we are exceeding a normal daydreaming limit? Please do take time to answer this question. Thank you!
I tried to quit maladaptive daydreaming and at the same time I started nofap I was able to last 73 days but then I relapsed on no fap. Unexpectedly I found it difficult to go back to daydreams it was as if a wall was built and I couldn't daydream, back then I realized that these daydreams are really different than normal daydreams it took me more than a week to actually be able to daydream again. I really want to understand what happened then. Now I'm at day 3 without daydreams.
Can u help me: so I watch Netflix and most of the time I make up characters to a show f.e like stranger things or money heist idek and I tried to stop acting them out but it’s just more fun so I didn’t stop. And sometimes I imagine being friends with a celeb like it legit feels real but I don’t do it for hours just these little moments that just make me happy but is it a demonic thing?
@@rue.eudoxie i do relate to that. I had to really tell myself who i am. I’d log down what my name is. Who my family and friends are. The things i like. The things i don’t like. Everything i could do to remind myself who i am. The stronger the foundation you can create for your own identity the better. Also, surround yourself with people who are strong and positive And that will keep you accountable for things. It’s important to communicate and create or join a community that understands what you’re going through. Hope that helps. Please ask anything. I’ll do my best to help.
if i stop it for few months..will it be gone forever, Earlier i used to daydream 7 hrs etc. A day...later it went to 5 min or 10 min. Now its few seconds
It really depends. Some have it at an extreme, where they’re doing something and pause to have a thought and then drift off forgetting what they were originally thinking about.
Man I struggle with maladaptive daydreaming too, I try mindfulness meditation which I love doing but I really doesn’t help my daydreaming problem. Tbh ion even know why I do this, but it a big part of my life.
Try journaling write down what your dreaming about or what's stressing you out, it kinda helps. I'm been trying to stop for awhile now I think music makes it worse but I love music.
Can you maladaptive daydreaming but it’s not you in them? Like you pretend to be somebody else either a famous person or character Ect ect.. I don’t think mines on a serious level bc I’ve actually done it all my life even when I was a kid seen as tho I hated been an only child never thought it was a problem untill I found it had a name. I am gonna mention this to my therapist in my session later on.. Every time I do it from now on I’m gonna catch myself in the act and bring myself to the present moment It’s really not hard to stop I think it’s more we don’t want to coz are brains are so used to it People think they’re gonna go crazy or something when they don’t do it. That’s not possible at all btw! This is just a bad habit we picked up on over the years some need to cut down some don’t and some do it once and never ever again either way it’s normal! I hate seeing people call themselves weird for it. You’re really not. I don’t think at all you should do this instead of socialising But I don’t see what harm it does when bored, listening to music Ect ect They was once a time we didn’t do this at all so they will be a time we won’t do it again also
@@richard-chiu yeah sometimes my daydreams will Be me with my friends mainly after I’ve socialised with them. But majority of the time it’s pretending to be somebody else A celebrity I look up to ect /
@@maisieburns822 I go through that sometimes. when I pretend or think that I'm someone else. I just have to snap myself out it. maybe go in front of the mirror. or remind my self of who I am by talking to someone that will help me with that.
@@richard-chiu yeah I don’t think mine is maladaptive daydreaming It’s more okay I’m gonna act out a made up scenario/ music video / made up interviews ect it sounds silly saying it out loud but I’ve got to the bottom of it now and it’s all down to just clearly not been happy with who I am / losing myself a little after struggling for a while. I’m only 18 so I don’t know who I am yet coz I’m still young of course. But I know it’s not really even tho it sucks to admit it lol I don’t see the people / hear them it’s all my voices ect so it’s not any psychological problem / worry of being something else.. I guess it just a habit right? That can be stopped/cut down to a healthy amount. I get frustrated now at it tho coz I’m actually in recovery of GAD so I’m actually doing something with my life and would like a personality lol. I’ll allow myself some time to do it but then snap back to the present as best as I can. Also I never do it when I’m busy / out with friends / family So it defo catches me when I’m alone / bored It’s a habit that’s kinda bad for me now I don’t get confused over who I am (thinking I’m the actual person) I just don’t like the idea of not knowing who I am if that make sense in the terms of what my life is what am I going to be / do ect I do also struggle with depersonalisation so it’s always a bad path to go down thinking about yourself when you have symptoms of dpd coz one of them is thinking everything fake ect I am going to open up about it to my close family And if they think it would be beneficial mentioning it To my support worker at my cbt then I will do so But I think the best thing is I notice it.. and no I do it so it’s not a problem in that sense
Omg same most of the time I’m even scared to daydream about Myself and my life because those wishes are so far away... And I have so much fear about most of the things or they just aren’t realistic compared to how I really am. I daydream about a celebrity that I like... just his life, the people he may date... He things he may do... it’s embarrassing really but I think I’ve kinda used him as a projection of my feelings. I can only be really happy when I hear from him so I can daydream more... Its just really unhealthy and he’s like a non social type of celebrity too without social media... Maybe I saw a bit of myself in him too... But it’s so hard to stop. It’s ruining my life... Taking up all my time... Killing my focus, creativity... Sometimes it leaves me so depressed and numb. I don’t know how to move on from this... Probably have to learn to get over my fears and just do more with life... Meet more people. But people are so disappointing and I don’t even like most of them.
I over came excessive daydreaming. It’s ok to daydream slightly but when it takes over our lives it gets tough. I sometimes still have moments but i learned to catch myself. If that makes sense
@@richard-chiu what do you do when you have to focus on a task and there are dead lines and it makes you ten times more stressed so you're ten time more prone to get caught into a daydream , i could really use some advice , i'm 19 i have goals in life but this is keeping me from showing my full potentiel i'm sick of it , i want to be normal
Salina Karbache i make sure i have a visual aid with me at all times. Like a list of goals for the day. I also prep my self on the morning and evening by doing a guided meditation or chanting nam Myoho Renge Kyo. I find it sets my mind up.
@@salinakarbache9856 I’m putting together a series of how to overcome maladaptive daydreaming technique videos. We’re there any questions you’d like me to answer?
I struggle so bad with this.Daydreaming leaves me feeling emotionally drained and depressed.I can’t even finish school work without my mind slipping.I need to start facing fears because some of the greatest things in life are behind fear.
That’s the biggest challenge. Facing our own fears. I found out that one step to take is to forgive myself if i forget and taking a step towards over coming the feats and daydreaming. The worst thing for us to do is to feel bad or guilty. I mean we’re already dealing with so much , right? I really hope you take steps to overcoming the fears. Also, I leave messages and notes on the wall to remind me to do things, immediately. Just so i don’t forget when I’m in the middle of something.
Please feel free to message me here. I’d like to help as many people over come this as best as we can.
Thank you for being so open. ❤️❤️❤️
Did you get headache or heavy head sometimes?
@@prettypritee4491 sometimes. Like today. I have this pressure around my head. But i think it’s barometric pressure. Things like this that i never realized that kept me feeling hazy.
But you know what helps with that? Breathing exercises. Have you tried Wim Hof?
@@richard-chiu please suggest me any ayurvedic herbal medicine to it? If you know any ?
@@prettypritee4491 I’m not a doctor. But what helps me is to keep my self as alkaline as possible. Eating foods that aren’t inflammatory.
Dr. Sebi of you UA-cam is one of the best. Although he passed his children are carrying on the information.
Also, wim hof breathing helped me a lot. More oxygen to the brain.
And practicing something daily. For me it was chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo. You can UA-cam it from SGI. It’s a great mantra
I personally love Daydreaming, but i do catch myself doing it if i'm doing things like school, going shopping, or doing chores.
Thank you for sharing. Daydreaming like how you’re expressing it is totally normal. Maladaptive daydreaming is a whole other level where you literally get lost in the thoughts and never seem to take action. It can get frustrating.
Hope that makes sense. 😀
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Daydreaming is killing my brain.
I get it man. It sucks to a certain extent. Are you doing anything to deal with it?
@@richard-chiu I've been avoiding anything that makes me daydream and I have a piece of paper where I take some daily notes everytime that I try to daydream. It has been 3 months since I found about this... but the attempts are many... And It's very hard to study because, comparing to exercising or reading, it's in somehow different and harder to focus. And when I don't dream I feel quite empty. It's like fearing the reality. I just don't know what is like living without those characters who are nothing but the perfect side of "me". It's weird. And I can't tell this to anyone...
nicole donald wow, i totally relate. It’s like we live in this whole other world that know one knows about. Could i offer a few suggestions that helped me knock myself out of this?
@@richard-chiu yes, I would be grateful!
nicole donald excellent
First i realized that anything that had to have me in a state of nothingness like mediation, sitting quietly made things worse or didn’t work.
Second i started doing research why it’s important to be more physical. Doing physical things like exercise release dopamines in our body that help activate a certain thing on our brains to be present.
Third, share in person. Keep communicating verbally. I minimized social media and texting. I found actually talking out loud, speaking with others on the phone or in person, reading a book a book out loud, singing a song as loud as possible, chanting Nam Myoho Renge Kyo our loud, really really helps.
Overall, out of all of these try them all and see what works for you. Maybe you can find something that works for you that you can share with others.
It’s why i started the 365 day daily vlog on UA-cam. To challenge myself to share and talk out loud. But that was one of many things i added to my daily like.
Hope this works. 😀❤️
I have maladaptive daydreaming really bad. It actually affected my life. I get lost in my daydreams because I was so dedicated to them and that became my safe place. It’s until now looking back I realized how much time I’ve wasted and I haven’t done things I wanted to do. I’m actively trying to overcome this
Me too! It affects every area of my life. I self-diagnosed here on youtube because none of the psychologists I went to did. I will try to overcome it as well, good luck to you
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@@richard-chiu Not in particular. I really appreciate your video. I can’t express how helpful this was! I’m looking forward to watching your upcoming videos.
@@MsRosirosi Thank you! Same to you! I understand more than you know! I wish you the best on this journey.
@@3amDayDreamer hey u didn’t waste your life. U needed to daydream and u needed to realize it wasn’t right for u. Life is a bunch of ups and downs for everyone. Don’t be too hard on urself 🫵
It’s honestly gotten worse for me since quarantine
Same im starting to fail my classes
@@littlemisswill2142 righttt like I’ve been procrastinating so much more cause of it and now it’s caused me to fall behind in classes
@@zawarudo93 Me too tho I skipped all my whole classes since first day. But I don’t care about grades anymore, I wanna take care of my mental health more often
When’s the last time you went for a walk?
@@richard-chiu October
Great you overcame it. I have been doing it since my teen years and I am 50 now. Trying to come out of it now. Your videos are inspiring. Keep it up.
Thank you 🙏 how are you now?
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can you tell me some examples of your dreams wich you think about when you start daydreaming if it's possible ?
I daydream way too much.
I did tell myself I'd stop but it's just so addictive. But I reeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeallly need to fix it.
Sending love your way
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omg it's my problem too. i thought i was the only one who does it. I've been doing it since i was 12 and now I'm 16. i got into high school and you know there are a lot of tasks but i can't get anything done because i daydream 24/7.
and when I'm not daydreaming, I'm stressed out for no reason.
god i feel really bad I'm the worst honestly.
i wish there were like a medication or something to help. daydreaming really drains all my energy and motivation.
I know this maybe be hard but here are some things I’ll recommend:Try to practice Mindfulness of God and if Your time you’ll never get it back, try to do stuff like sitting down after Salah (if you’re a Muslim) or set some time to sit down and relax try to think about how your mental, social, and emotional health try to talk to people more like start with family members (even if it’s a hi!), try to exercise
This drains all my motivation, I wanna sleep 8 hours always so I can rest but can’t fall back asleep when I wake midnight.
Do you have partial insomnia?
@@richard-chiu I have maladaptive daydreaming and depersonalization disorder.
@@mkmllrc have you gotten any help with the Depersonalization Disorder?
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@@richard-chiu Absolutely, I want some insight about Depersonalization Disorder and MDD. Also that I developed insomnia because of this, I cant sleep with my mind running 24/7
Jesus can help, behind every problem lays a spirit.. Jesus Is healing with him nothing is impossible and he loves you
Listening to affirmations is the best way to overcome MD
It really reduced it to a great extent I can listen to songs without slipping to a fake world
Damn, you are a really handsome man. Had to say it.
Good content!
You’re making me blush ☺️
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Mine is so bad bro, I do it 24/7 and it’s always embarrassing daydreams where I’m embarassing myself doing something awkward or being attacked.
How are you now?
@@richard-chiu it’s still really bad
@@hakimasmr5378 i’ve tried looking at every possibility of why my life is the way it is, MD is the main thing that’s holding me back. Its the hardest addiction ive tried quitting, the only way around it is being mindful where u watch thoughts, i went 4 days last week without doing it and started to feel like my old self again. U need to practice mindfulness(watching thoughts go by). Its a strange process but you’ll get used to it eventually i’m starting ti head the same way
@@jstobie2000 i dont get you? How do you ‘watch’ the thoughts ?
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I promised myself I'd take the steps to stop this when I finally move out, because this is a dumb coping mechanism for me in my house 😃. I wonder how that'll go down.
How are you now?
Alright, ish. It's gotten worse, but I've been trying to incorporate my paracosm and parames into reality. My parame is strong and can dance - I've been working out more and doing more dance covers. My friends in my paracosm are always happy when I show up. I've been complimenting my irl friends more and texting them all "good Morning/good night."
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@@richard-chiu Probably how to like suppress urges and how to distract yourself.
I maladaptive daydream it's like a drug it's really hard for me alot:*(
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I am going to try the tips you shared in the comments below. I am single in my 30s and suffer from this alot. It really drains me. Sitting alone by myself quietly makes it worse. I cant concentrate when im working. I have to literally tell my self to get it together focus! Unfortunately i dont have any friends. I do read out loud when am reading a book since a week now and i have noticed it works with keeping me focused. Man there are alot of us that suffer from this, i thought im alone 😞
I think maybe you need to accept that lonelyness, if you want to talk to someone you can talk to me, but the problem of loneliness will not solve with any company that's not compatible with your personality
Jesus love you guys.He helped me with my maldaptive daydreaming, he can help you too, just pray to him and read the Bible (if you have one).💖💖💖💖
Hi I’m a Christian too. How did he help you? I’m 16, been suffering since I was like 12
I have recently tried to overcome it but I keep falling back into a pattern of daydreaming. I find myself making excuses to myself; "I'll only do it for 20 minutes", "I won't walk around I'll stand in one place". I may try again because I know that the main problem in my life is the thing that is also my biggest stress reliever. Thankyou for making this video, watching how you've overcome this for you and for your family inspires me to try and not be selfish with this and to take responsibility in indulging my cravings to daydream.
thank you. its no easy feat. I felt like a big struggle it was but learned to overcome it gradually. I think the best bet is not to put pressure on ourselves. if we can take each step of the day when we fail and just refresh ourselves saying, "ok, lets start over. its all good." and just forgive ourselves because at the end of the day we're human. I hope that helps....:)
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@@richard-chiu any tips for preventing or dealing with the urge to daydream? I'm starting exams soon so I'm probably going to fall back into a pattern of daydreaming to deal with the stress and anxiety of it all, so any advice on how to deal with it would be cool to see! (Side note: I'm still doing it in different ways, but I've found I can actually ignore urges long enough to get work done or to hang out with friends)
@@snitchy._.120 personally when I’m studying i do things in spurts so i don’t get to lost in the whole process.
For example, 20 minutes study. Break for 10 doing something physical. Then back to 20 min. Then 10 min break. I do this within the hour of study.
If I’m studying for a massive test and need 2-3 of study per se, i continue with 20 min. Then break for 5 min doing some type of physical exercise.
Put a timer on everything. No matter where you are.
@@snitchy._.120 hope that helps. Always experiment with different things
Appreciate the good stuff and spreading positiveness. For a change make a video like talking while jogging showing the background.
How much time did it take you to get out of it???...... I'm losing hope already thinking about the fact ..... that I might not be able to overcome this😭😭
It was a lot of work. But i also had a lot of supportive people around me to help. You can totally overcome it. It just takes small tiny steps. Whats one thing you’d like to overcome in 2021? Please feel free to ask me any questions. And I’ll do my best to assist.
@@richard-chiu How do I get supportive people around me????..... because I don't have that kind of company.....any suggestions on that??
@@ak-pl5us I’m nit sure the type of environment you live in, but i had challenges myself. I was so earnest in finding a supportive someone/others to connect with i ended up finding the wrong people. But sometimes desperate times comes to desperate measures. I started getting therapy. I started attending all kinds of religious activities until i found Buddhism, i started re-connecting with nature. There’s so much we can do. We just need to thinking outside the box a little.
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@@richard-chiu I've noticed one thing........that my maladaptive daydreaming is also coexistent with extreme amounts of anxiety......was this a problem with you too??....and if it was .....how did you handle both of them??
I have excessive daydreaming which I fear may stop me from being who I really can be... There were certain triggers like mainly music... Which I was able to control for Almost like 6 months then due to a major mental breakdown I had to turn to the only coping mechanism I had and then I lost myself. Again. This seems more like a disease...I fear that it would stay with me for the rest of my life... I want to stop at least excessive daydreaming... Please do give some advice or something that could help
First off, you should be proud of your self that you made it six months. That’s a huge achievement. Let’s acknowledge that and really give your self that embracing love you need. Go ahead I’ll wait. 😀
Secondly, falling off is part of the game. It’s shows how far you’ve come. Now that you know you can do it for this long you have the confidence to start back up again.
Lastly, be aware of your triggers is one of the most important things you need to know. Awareness is key.
How do you become more aware of ourselves? Talk a walk. Connect with nature. Do physical movements like jumping, tai chi, yoga, etc. whatever you like to do. Movement is key.
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Thank you so much for your kind and encouraging words ,that means a lot to Me... I would take your advice and follow it and if I fall again I will try to rise up and I might come here again for adobe or encouragement ...Thanl you for creating such a wonderful and amazing Channel and taking your valuable time to reply and help me... I am grateful for that.
Thank you!
@@richard-chiu normally there is a line between slightly daydreaming and excessive daydreaming... If we are actually healing and then there is a sudden raise of daydreaming again... How do we know that the daydream we have is a light /normal one or which is an intense /excessive one... Is there any warning that shows or indicates that we are exceeding a normal daydreaming limit? Please do take time to answer this question. Thank you!
@@sathwikasathwika5322 honestly, this is just my own experience. Awareness has helped me a lot. Also practice of being in the moment.
Current trying to overcome this.
Thanks mane I been md since 6 and now I'm in 11th grade this has to stop thanks for the help
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Thanks for video
We are waiting for your new series
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more I try to stop it worst it is getting
I tried to quit maladaptive daydreaming and at the same time I started nofap I was able to last 73 days but then I relapsed on no fap.
Unexpectedly I found it difficult to go back to daydreams it was as if a wall was built and I couldn't daydream, back then I realized that these daydreams are really different than normal daydreams it took me more than a week to actually be able to daydream again. I really want to understand what happened then.
Now I'm at day 3 without daydreams.
U can do it!! Sad that u relapsed after 73 days..quit it completely this time:)
Jesus heals
Can u help me: so I watch Netflix and most of the time I make up characters to a show f.e like stranger things or money heist idek and I tried to stop acting them out but it’s just more fun so I didn’t stop. And sometimes I imagine being friends with a celeb like it legit feels real but I don’t do it for hours just these little moments that just make me happy but is it a demonic thing?
@@rue.eudoxie i do relate to that. I had to really tell myself who i am. I’d log down what my name is. Who my family and friends are. The things i like. The things i don’t like. Everything i could do to remind myself who i am. The stronger the foundation you can create for your own identity the better. Also, surround yourself with people who are strong and positive And that will keep you accountable for things. It’s important to communicate and create or join a community that understands what you’re going through. Hope that helps. Please ask anything. I’ll do my best to help.
if i stop it for few months..will it be gone forever,
Earlier i used to daydream 7 hrs etc. A day...later it went to 5 min or 10 min.
Now its few seconds
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How did you manage to get to that point and stop?
@@aii1710 i mostly googled and saw alot of videos on UA-cam and used those tips like avoiding triggers, trying to enjoy life in present etc..
People say its bc of trauma but I don't think I have trauma. I don't like to fantasize more than real life I just can't stop doing it
Thank you so much
@quarantinerabbit I kinda have it when iam studying or watching TV I imagine scenarios with my friends is that the normal kind of day dreaming ?
It really depends. Some have it at an extreme, where they’re doing something and pause to have a thought and then drift off forgetting what they were originally thinking about.
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Man I struggle with maladaptive daydreaming too, I try mindfulness meditation which I love doing but I really doesn’t help my daydreaming problem. Tbh ion even know why I do this, but it a big part of my life.
Try journaling write down what your dreaming about or what's stressing you out, it kinda helps. I'm been trying to stop for awhile now I think music makes it worse but I love music.
Who else was daydreaming during this video?
I definitely was
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I have that I'm sick of it😭
The thing is-
I don't want to overcome it.
😅
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I have MaDD + ADHD ..... I found out a few days ago..... It feels like I have no control over my mind...... Will I get through this?
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ALL YOU HAVE TO LEARN IS TO SAY NO TO MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING. YOU CANT STOP IT JUST DO IT FOR LIKE JUST AN HOUR AND SAY NO AFTER THIS HOUR GOES
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Can you maladaptive daydreaming but it’s not you in them? Like you pretend to be somebody else either a famous person or character Ect ect..
I don’t think mines on a serious level bc I’ve actually done it all my life even when I was a kid seen as tho I hated been an only child never thought it was a problem untill I found it had a name.
I am gonna mention this to my therapist in my session later on..
Every time I do it from now on I’m gonna catch myself in the act and bring myself to the present moment
It’s really not hard to stop I think it’s more we don’t want to coz are brains are so used to it
People think they’re gonna go crazy or something when they don’t do it. That’s not possible at all btw! This is just a bad habit we picked up on over the years some need to cut down some don’t and some do it once and never ever again either way it’s normal! I hate seeing people call themselves weird for it. You’re really not. I don’t think at all you should do this instead of socialising
But I don’t see what harm it does when bored, listening to music Ect ect
They was once a time we didn’t do this at all so they will be a time we won’t do it again also
not really quite sure what you're asking. are you saying pretending to be a different person?
@@richard-chiu yeah sometimes my daydreams will
Be me with my friends mainly after I’ve socialised with them.
But majority of the time it’s pretending to be somebody else
A celebrity I look up to ect /
@@maisieburns822 I go through that sometimes. when I pretend or think that I'm someone else. I just have to snap myself out it. maybe go in front of the mirror. or remind my self of who I am by talking to someone that will help me with that.
@@richard-chiu yeah I don’t think mine is maladaptive daydreaming
It’s more okay I’m gonna act out a made up scenario/ music video / made up interviews ect it sounds silly saying it out loud but I’ve got to the bottom of it now and it’s all down to just clearly not been happy with who I am / losing myself a little after struggling for a while. I’m only 18 so I don’t know who I am yet coz I’m still young of course. But I know it’s not really even tho it sucks to admit it lol I don’t see the people / hear them it’s all my voices ect so it’s not any psychological problem / worry of being something else.. I guess it just a habit right? That can be stopped/cut down to a healthy amount.
I get frustrated now at it tho coz I’m actually in recovery of GAD so I’m actually doing something with my life and would like a personality lol.
I’ll allow myself some time to do it but then snap back to the present as best as I can.
Also I never do it when I’m busy / out with friends / family
So it defo catches me when I’m alone / bored
It’s a habit that’s kinda bad for me now
I don’t get confused over who I am (thinking I’m the actual person)
I just don’t like the idea of not knowing who I am if that make sense in the terms of what my life is what am I going to be / do ect
I do also struggle with depersonalisation so it’s always a bad path to go down thinking about yourself when you have symptoms of dpd coz one of them is thinking everything fake ect
I am going to open up about it to my close family
And if they think it would be beneficial mentioning it To my support worker at my cbt then I will do so
But I think the best thing is I notice it.. and no I do it so it’s not a problem in that sense
Omg same most of the time I’m even scared to daydream about Myself and my life because those wishes are so far away... And I have so much fear about most of the things or they just aren’t realistic compared to how I really am. I daydream about a celebrity that I like... just his life, the people he may date... He things he may do... it’s embarrassing really but I think I’ve kinda used him as a projection of my feelings. I can only be really happy when I hear from him so I can daydream more... Its just really unhealthy and he’s like a non social type of celebrity too without social media... Maybe I saw a bit of myself in him too... But it’s so hard to stop. It’s ruining my life... Taking up all my time... Killing my focus, creativity... Sometimes it leaves me so depressed and numb. I don’t know how to move on from this... Probably have to learn to get over my fears and just do more with life... Meet more people. But people are so disappointing and I don’t even like most of them.
Does it always stem from trauma
According to some research, it doesn't
Not completely sure. Some research say it does.
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You overcame daydreaming ?
I over came excessive daydreaming. It’s ok to daydream slightly but when it takes over our lives it gets tough. I sometimes still have moments but i learned to catch myself. If that makes sense
@@richard-chiu what do you do when you have to focus on a task and there are dead lines and it makes you ten times more stressed so you're ten time more prone to get caught into a daydream , i could really use some advice , i'm 19 i have goals in life but this is keeping me from showing my full potentiel i'm sick of it , i want to be normal
Salina Karbache i make sure i have a visual aid with me at all times. Like a list of goals for the day. I also prep my self on the morning and evening by doing a guided meditation or chanting nam Myoho Renge Kyo. I find it sets my mind up.
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How are You now?+-
Doing good. Sometimes i have minor relapses but catch as soon as i can
And you?
@@richard-chiu I think i'm better, and i hope i'll get better every day. Thanks for asking
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@@richard-chiu mindfulness maybe. And more stuff about DD or anything You like/ You think it would help
Thank You for taking the time