I will spend HOURS listening to music and pacing around my room while daydreaming. Acting stuff out and mouthing/whispering words... My feet and back will hurt from walking around so much but I'll still continue cause I'm "not done" with the day dream. It happens every day... I hope I can learn to stop
I literally had to ban music from myself for a short while because the same thing happened to me 😅 like I would start a song while pacing my hallway then realize 3 hours had gone by.
@@O00sh I have the same experience. I noticed a change for me after 3 days of not listening to music and my mind got so much clearer but then I miss getting „ high ” and I think a little will be ok but I end up right where I have started and need to stop listening to music again . Maybe it needs to be for a longer time ?
@Madison if you read this, did you make any progress so far regarding this kind of obsessive day dreaming? After 29 years on this earth i just discovered today that this is a thing and that i've done this since i'm a child. Eventhough music isn't necessarily a trigger for me, everything else you described is exactly what i experience, basically every day
Oh my god. False sense of productivity. That sentence hit me! Resonates with me SO MUCH. That's exactly what my daydreamibg gives me. A false sense of productivity and achievement... Which I guess I want and need but not actually achieving in the present. Hope you manage to grab a hold of your day dreams and achieve productivity in the here and now. So glad I discovered this concept. Really is liberating ☺️
It all started with me being bullied at school and being called “ ugly “ so much that it was hard for me to make friends, as everybody was pushing me away. I am a person who always craves validation and attention, when I am not getting it in my real life , I started making friends up. I imagine I was prettier and richer with lots of friends who love and care for me. These fake people quickly became a part of my life. Since I felt more loved by them then the ones in real life. The scenarios would change over the years , and now it is a strong problem for me, I am extremely forgetful, I am unfocused and I realize that I do have a big problem with this situation. I am trying my best. Thank you for reading this tiny part of my story. If like me you are experiencing this problem, I wish you can recover from this too. 💯💯💋
Same here ... This is almost the same situation for me... Now daydreaming has become addictive to me and i feel now it's turning into other mental illness like anxiety,OCD ,ADHD and my heart cries realising I'm becoming additive to fake things and unable to do good in real life , I tried discussing with my parents but they just feel that I'm crazy , i know the root cause for my maladaptive daydreaming , tried to speak to my parents and closed ones but i get more hurt listening to their replies that i feel like talking to no one now.
@@Smile-xz8zy my parents also gets angry on me when i tell them my problem of daydreaming. so now i dont tell them anything but struggling to get out of this
@@ganeshmulik6431 I also told my parents but they didn't understood it and found me one day crying and thought I'm in depression and they cried too and now it hide my problems and never tried too tell them about it and just facing it 😭
Ruthy Larose it's not your fault that u r not good looking u can't change your face but if u understand it that beauty is not everything in life good life depends on other facts like people like brilliant people, being good at studies , etc improve your skills and peoples will attract you by that and like to be your friends 😇😇
Sometimes I wake up in the morning and go to school. I would come home and step off the bus and realize I don’t remember anything that happened at school that day because I was day dreaming the ENTIRE TIME. Literally from the moment I enter school to the end of it my brain shuts off.
Same, the only time I study was the day before the test and after that I always forget about everything. Now I'm trying to stop my day dreaming and try to relearn all of those school stuff or else I'll be miserable in the future
Studies say maladaptive daydreamers spend as much as 57% of their waking hours on daydreaming, everyday. The more serious question is not finding a surefire solution to stop the daydreaming but rather "how and what do we fill in into the 57% of our waking hours that we more certainly spent on daydreaming?"
I stopped maladaptive daydreaming 1 year ago, After a deydream long 16 years. Back than i would spend much more than the 57 percent of time daydreaming. Now i'm "clean" and i'm facing exactly the problem you pointed out: i don't know how to spend my time as in the cast 16 years i haven't developed any passion. I don't know anymore how to cope with boredom
@@reginaferroni7350 You know what to do, actually all of us maladaptive daydreamers do; now that you've weaned out, just still your mind and it'll tell you exactly what to do, it does. For me it was two things, writing, scribbling any kind of blabber that my mind spits out and the other one, helping or striking a conversation on any subject you can speak of with any random human, be it on a bus, train, while waiting in a line, you line it. Try it, find yours, it helps us know us better, trust me👍🏽
@@reginaferroni7350I try to stop it for some days then again start to enjoy it. It is necessary to stop it but I'm enjoying it. I'm unable to study. It's fucking my life, please bro tell me how did you stop it.
i've been daydreaming my entire life. i always have some kind of story in my head, while im working, or at school, anywhere. i think the daydreaming became maladaptive when i was a teen and home was stressful, then when the stressor was removed, the daydreams never stopped. it's a permanent part of myself. ive noticed that i use the daydreaming to socialise, using my imagination to trick myself out of feeling lonely. now that im working more, i'm struggling with the majority of my freetime being eaten up by daydreaming.
Exactly the same story for me. When I was Younger I want to a lot!! Jesus has set me free 2 times know but then when I miss it I wil jumb back to it 😢😢😢 I know that I will get free but I need to sid down and learn how too ... And listen and understand this journey of freedom... So that I can be a minister for God in compleet freedom
This are some tips that really helped me to get ride of maladaptive daydreaming or at least reduce them : stop listening to music I know it's hard,*this is very isefull tip* keep yourself busy socialize avoid sitting alone in your room Pleaaase try those tips and share how that makes you feel
I don't listen music as well as I don't watch movies , but the thing is I don't have friends , I just meet to them once a while rarely , I don't have any best friends 😢. So I have to spend lot of time in my room alone or anywhere .
I daydream to cope with my life im weird and even with the friends i have i feel disconnected sometimes and i daydream at home the most because even at home I have to watch my loud little brother and my family is loud in general so I stay in my room to get away being on my phone and listening to music isn’t doing any good so to stop maladaptive daydreams I have to change my personality focus on what’s infront of my and stop using social media this isn’t gonna be fun
Im a medical student and it used to be a nightmare cus I had very very severe depression. One that made my heart sink and didn't want to wake up in the morning and had. Severe headaches and stomachaches. I cried every day and night and the only escape was listening to music and daydream. I used to think of scenarios that I wish happened instead. I disrupted a lot of my studies but I'll keep moving forward cus it took me years but I'm still going to persure my dreams no matter what. I'm happier now and I never want to go back to that mental state ever again. Inshallah
I am also medical student and experiencing maladaptive daydreaming I can't concentrate on my study and daily life tasks how did you get rid of it please tell me I spend most of my time in daydreaming and it is ruinning my life
You know what. I've literally just discovered the concept of maladaptive daydreaming today. How liberating. I have such a frustrating daydreaming problem..... I have recently been trying to catch myself daydreaming and telling myself to snap out of it. I didn't realise I wasn't alone and that there are mechanisms behind this that really need addressing. A lot of my daydreams entail confrontation. Where I've confronted a situation or someone I feel I couldn't do in ordinary life. Or resolved an argument or stood up boldly for myself in my daydream which I wouldn't do in reality and then find myself feeling angry because at times I feel like that's actually happened and I'm now facing the person or situation I confronted. The negative feelings maintain. This was helpful. U met needs. Triggers. What am I dealing with and escaping from. I'm going to start to really observe and bite what the answers and underlying forces are here. I really want to live in the NOW quite fed up 🙄🙄🙄🙄 thanks for the video 🙏🙏🙏
I'm suffering from maladaptive daydreaming too. For me it happens in bursts. Like i think of it for 5 minutes and back to what I'm doing. Then when i see something or just my brain randomly triggers it and i then slip into it. Damn i need help. And due to quarantine its gotten worse. Before i had md but very less. But now due to no interaction with people its consuming me and I'm scared
I don’t remember my life without md. It most likely stemmed from extreme loneliness and being bullied as a child. It has completely consumed my life, as I’m daydreaming around 8-12 hours everyday. I’m about to graduate this year and I’m terrified…
I remember before depression I used to day dream and listen to music in a positive way. But later after depression I used it as an escape. So it's like I've been using it always but I realized it now and I hate it now more than ever.
Nico, you asked that if you saddently stop day dreaming, is that affect your personality?? The answer is very simple. Ofcourse you can stop day dreaming. But you cannot suddently stop day dreaming. Because it has become a habit in you. You can stop fay dreaming by making another habit of not day dreaming. It is a process and will not happen suddenly. But you can do it. Meditation, yoga, practicing zero thought stage... Will help you stoping day dreaming. Meditation using frequency sound is awesome.But start meditating with the frequency of the basic chakra, which is root chakra. If you open root chakra, your fear, anxiety,.. all such problems will heal. The frequency of root chakra is 396 hz. Hz of 5,15,30 minutes to 1,3,7...hrs are available. After clearing root chakra, start meditating with the frequency sound of the next chakra after root chakra. Imp:=you can only start with the base chakra. If base is no strong, then your problems will not be solved. The reason for fear and anxiety is your energy is blocked on root chakra. You can overcome fear, anxiety, depression, sadness.. only if you open your root chakra.
Im 19 and ive known that my daydreaming has been harmful for a while but im just realizing how detrimental it has been. In evey major way i can think, ive ruined my life and essentially avoided most personal growth. I did badly in school because i couldn't focus. I got fired because i wouldn't focus. I don't get out of bed because im daydreaming. I can't fall asleep because im daydreaming. Daydreaming triggers other flaws i struggle with. And possibly the worst part, daydreaming distracts me and fools me i to thinking "everything is fine," "im happy," "I've been so productive today. I was a rockstar, a pro soccer player, i went on dates with a few of my girlfriends." "There's no maladaptive trait keeping from living your life." 19 years. 25 percent of my life Wasted.
I feel i m getting depressed these days because of this. I have been suffering from maladaptive daydreaming from 2018. Its true that negative feeling were the things that started it. Loneliness n being left out made me create characters n friends of my own in my fantasies. Now after 2 years its so bad that i cant focus on anything. Whether i m happy sad or angry or embarassed i daydream . This s making me depressed 😞. I can completely relate to that cycle. Reality s difficult to cope with. Sefety n validation-i daydream abt it too. I fantasise so much that its hard to stop n talking to those characters i created makes me happy. This pandemic situation has made it worse. I m well aware of the fact that i m daydreaming when i daydream. The problem is the fact that i cant resist that urge to daydream. I wish i could get over this issue😔
I am in shok....I thought i am the only person who has that disorder.I am suffering from maladaptive daydreaming for 8 years. Weirdly, when its happening you can't push them away.I thought that is about being teenager. But now I am 18 and this is not stoping.This is too hard learning with that weird disorder. Unfortunatly,there is not threapist around me and no one can understand me
I used to daydream extrmely thru high school, It helps to reach out to reality. I mean I was scared at first bcs giving up daydream is really hard. I began to talk more with parents and old friends, or new people. Just small conversations with strangers help me too. I stopped putting myself in my daydreams and instead created characters with thier own stories, this help me to disconnect with the fantasy adn just enjoyed the daydreams as if they were movies, You can see what triggers your md , like me is manly music. Is not completely gone, but is less problematic now. Hope you get better.
@@azureshieru423 At communucating with people it doesn't bother me but when i am alone or i am learning i just can't push them away. Unlike you i dont put myself into daydreams . I daydream about one of the tv series.I make different version of it .i am sick of doing this....By the way thank you for your advice
@@yusifbayramli686 Oh yeah I might have a different experience. What I learned was that is like an addiction. Is innocent at first but as time goes you lose control of the daydreams somtimes Im not a professional but this article helped me with the MD hope it helps and if not you can try therapy Im still going to theraphy and is a slow process, but I think we both can make it maladaptivedaydreamingguide.wordpress.com/guide/
gawd i have the same problem. i fell in love with a fictional character and i day dream abt him every day. honestly, i dont feel like anything is real anymore. i can hear , see and talk but i dont feel like im real. im addicted to this shit...
@@yettocome4412 it is really harf at first. Just try to keep urself busy with work and stuff. Whenever i feel like daydreaming i busy my self and listen to music. And i try soo hard not to do it. I still do daydream sometimes but not as much as i was suppose to do. I hope this helps...
No love from Mother, childhood trauma, bad financial condition, no acceptance by society. Feel lonely n suicidal. These are the causes for my maladaptive daydreaming
Id like to share my experience with daydreaming. I have a huge obsession with Harry Styles and it started off with me just thinking that i’m in a relationship with him. lalala, it progressed aggressively and i started daydreaming about any situation that made me feel like i wanted myself to be in. in most situations, i was this ‘perfect’ person who had a few problems that i didn’t even have in my life (idk how to word this). sometimes i’d even daydream about situations happening in my life right now like school, and me being popular and stuff. id daydream all day after school and sometimes id even wake up before school to daydream. whenever i’m alone, i daydream. i’ve became really quite in school and i think it’s because of daydreaming. i don’t socialize much but when i do hang out with friends, it’s different than before. i’ve been listening to music, edit audios, and audios that would help make these situations come more to life while acting them out in my room and passing around my room. i sometimes read harry fan fics but after every major moment in a book that i envision myself in, i have to daydream. same with movies, videos, or anything in general. it’s like i hate it so much because it’s been happening for so so so long, but i love the feelings i get even though i’m starting to re-use situations. ughhhh
omg I hate how much I can relate to this comment. Though I find a different semi-famous person to attach myself to every year and daydreaming about our perfect life together drives me nuts
Something I realized is that some of the ways in order to help with maladaptive daydreaming, are also ways to treat ocd (specifically intrusive thoughts). Since I have recovered from my ocd (sometimes the thoughts still happen, but only for a second), I'm gonna try treating this the same way! Thank you so much for the vid ❤️
I believe I suffer from something like this since I was 10 years old. Right now I am 30 and it has become disruptive for my routine :( now. Now it is all about worries ans unmet needs and fear. I am constantly living in a beautiful dream which transforms into representing something I worry about , borderline nightmarish. Stays under control when I am with people but then that increases my anger and frustration with people around me. If I don't daydream, I am too upset or frustrated when there is a lot of stress from people around me.
man you explained it perfectly, you addressed it very straightforward and practically, I always daydreamed walking in circles and my family would just laugh it off not thinking I could have something. I'm 23 and it feels there were huge gaps where time just seemed to vanish. Im learning now much later how to reduce it. Thanks lots
This whole pandemic has worsen my condition more.....i daydream a lot and i feel like it's the best way i can escape from reality i thought ill be fine and someday i will stop this daydreaming thing but i just can't do it and it has come to a point where i dont want to stop creating scenarios that i guess never gonna happen fr. it makes me sad when i see the real world not the one i created in my head. I'm in 12 class and it has really affected my studies and I'm scared for my future i just dont wanna be like this forever
You have to identify your triggers and do what you can to stop the md, what helped for me was journalling what i was using my md to escape from, then writing the stuff I wanted to do irl which i would daydream about, i started to pick up those things but it took a longtime so don’t be too hard on yourself, it takes a lot of determination, if i can do it so can you. My grades were affected by this but i also have other underlying mental health issues. Make sure you also have a maintain a good diet snd exercise. You got this, I believe in you !!!
I am a banking aspirant, so when I was doing maths, I imagined in my mind that a student was sitting in front of me and I was explaining quant to him, so in my imagination, the student would ask questions and I would answer them, so it was my first time to read like that. At first I felt very good, then after a few days I noticed that the imaginary student I was teaching could not understand me as if he was a separate person of his own whom I could not control. I couldn't understand my imaginary student as if he didn't want to understand, gradually this shows up in different things I keep doing maladaptive daydreaming which I know is not true I also get stuck in the imaginary world, sometimes I daydream that someone misunderstands me in the bus He is arguing with me and I can't make him understand that it's not my fault. Then more daydreaming like the police have arrested me for no reason and I can't convince them or talk to them. Now I feel like my brain is training me how to talk to someone. I kept quarreling with someone in my daydreaming. forgive me for my bad English.😞
I also then realize, maladaptive daydreaming makes me more antisocial plus (despite my very social persona). When I get a new prospect( like crush) I play things in my head like I am a heroine , very rich, super cool, can speak various language, powerful and unique. I am the center of attention. I dream that the girl fancy me until poof I acted weird around her and it makes me creepy. I always like listening to songs cos it makes me create more stories. It has been 20 years and I really can't control.
I don't know when it first started(maybe as a kid) but these days I'm just losing my mind because of this. I can't focus on anything. I waste the hours and hours on daydreaming about stuff that had never happened and will not ever happen. I need to stop this before I actually end up going crazy.
Did anyone realize that maladaptive day dreaming is like drugs?I have never tried drugs nor being addicted to any form of vice or alcohol but I think they are somewhat the same? It gives you that kind of high. I thank you for this video at least, this is an informative and guide for someone like me who is addicted to.
I did this off and on since I was about 10 years old. Then it blew way out of proportion when entering into my 50's. I don't know why but somewhere along the way I began to become disinterested in my "story" and it no longer appealed to me so I stopped. I'm so glad it's over.
oh god... yes of course, because mb test has section asking if you're being lonely daydream wonderer...so when you're like this, surprise, you're more likely to be like this... and that's the causality/correlation "personality type" magic trick, enjoy
@@theother4781 nah I get what you are saying but I have learned cognitive functions as well. Ne users are prone to daydreaming like INTP,INFP. Even some Ni users daydream but not to the point of Ne users
Being an INFP is a curse; the world doesn't understand us, we cannot stop paying heed for even stray dogs, let alone fellow humans and every now and then end up alike a crumpled in the trash used tissue.
Hi I'm gonna vent here so I don't end up daydreaming venting to someone. Times I remember daydreaming (a few) When I started to daydreaming about telling my parents that I'm not feeling ok, I feel left out n I wanted them to understand that I'm not always as strong they paint me to be. When I daydream about hanging out with my friends when I'm alone at home. Covid has not helped one bit...... I cant not daydream when am not alone. Daydreaming about being part of a movie I watched as a kid (which personally I feel like is alot less problematic but it added to the problem) Daydreaming bout hanging out with a guy I like Daydreaming about a trip we are about to go on Daydreaming about a party that's gonna happen soon and how my friends and I are gonna dance and have fun Most of my daydreams consist of communicating with "people" about anything any everything, from my problems to a new song that jus got released. I laugh at the jokes "they" make, cry with "them" about things and fall asleep and wake up next to "them" (and I rarely ever get insomnia because of this, caz I have "someone" to sleep next to. I dunno if it's good but I wanna try to fall asleep peacefully on my own). I do know how to Differentiate between reality and my daydreams. The problem is that I waste so much time in them and I'm always eager to get into them. I really wanna deal with this...
This message might be long but im 37 and have been doing this since my very abusive childhood. The effects of it have been terrible long term. for me I do day dream but I actually act out the day dreams, literally talking to people who I know aren't there, yet they are there. They are more real to me than real people. I also inhabit different personalties while I do this. At the moment I have 4 seperate personalties that I am totally aware of and can switch between depending on what I am doing. They all have different names, physical appearances, histories of their entire life, they all talk differently and have very unique seperate characteristics. Is this daydreaming also. I did day dream when I was younger, it involved listening to music and fantasy - now it is my reality. At the expense of my real life. I have agoraphobia, bpd, depression and an anxiety disorder. I leave my house once a week and only go out when I have too. Otherwise I'm inhabiting these personalities and acting out this inner world. Is this a mental illness or is it just day dreaming, I'm very confused. I recently became a Christian and God has been putting it on my heart to stop these imagination based things but I'm gripped with fear at the thought of letting it go, I don't even know if I can, I don't know if it's a choice any more. I literally cant stop. I've lost 37 years of my life to this behavior and I'm so ashamed of it that I can't tell any one. I don't want to be an old woman and look back and see that my whole life was a fantasy and my real life got swallowed up by absolutely nothing at all. Like its not real is it. It's imaginary. So how to stop it?
i just had like a 10 min daydream session with music after i was feeling sad and even 10 minutes is enough for me to lose focus and get anxious during the day. im trying to break this habit of long daydreams that include music and moving, but its so addicting. But i will keep trying
1) Buy a trampoline 2) stop using headphones because they trap our minds more than the actual music. Once we put our head phones, our brain cannot disconnect from it. 3) Play music when doing mundane chores
how I am trying to treat it is by Exercising and writing my feelings down in a journal which I don’t like to do but I need something to keep me active so I want get lost in my thoughts but tbh y’all I really think this year of 2021 we all been thru the most and for every little child or boy out there with Maladaptive day dreaming remember to keep ya head up and you ain’t gotta change yourself just to fit in or be so jealous you wanna look like this person or just wanna have a perfect life I just really think we need some love UA-cam ain’t gone tell you but I will BE YOURSELF just do you stay out of outher people way bc there way may not be the same as yours 💪y’all stay strong wait untill you get older and see how your life turn out don’t rush it and also this go for me and you we gone work together as a team stay off of social media bc all that’s doing is giving your brain thoughts to come up with I love y’all be safe out there god bless you all ❤️
After reading the comments , i must say movement and music does trigger the MDD. Also in my case lack of sleep. I am trying to be more disciplined and trying to wake up early which has resulted in lack of sleep which further triggers MDD.
Thank you so much for this video. I love the way you framed it. I feel more hopeful that I can get this under control. Also my patterns are the same safety and validation.
Wow seriously good job and thank you for this you are really helping people with this. When I had this issue a few years ago and searched on UA-cam there was barely any videos on this topic. But today I saw your channel and a few other channels seriously talking about it !! I’m very proud of you guys 🎉
Fabulous video! I suffer from Maladaptive Daydreaming myself & have been trying to improve it for a long time. Your video is super informative & precise. Helped me a lot. Amazing work, Keep it up!
Didn't watch the video fully yet but i want share my story . I been daydreaming almost my entire life i will turn 16 this year , I remember since when i was in kindergarten i used to daydream with cartoon characters, then later it turned to be with movie actors and now with few imagery friends and few social media influencers also with BTS daydreaming about being with them thinking from Future perspective . I guess i did way too much that i got a lot of harming intrusive thoughts about these people who i have never met in my real life once compared to the people who are around me . I usually act out these scenarios most of time when no one is noticing me . it is really hard to come out this mindset . I guess this because i have health issues and didn't have good friends at all . Please don't think that i am weird. I have no idea whether this is normal or not . It is really hard to explain it to my parents because they didn't understand when i explained about the intrusive thoughts i got .That is why i am commenting about this over here so somebody will understand me . I will try my best to get out this. To whoever reading it till here thank you so much .It is pretty big sorry .
Just read this, I hope Rumzi's tips will help you with the maladaptive daydreaming. I think those daydreams about BTS and being with them is a way to fill the emotional unmet need of friendship and joy in life right now. It's a tough situation, and I think the first step is to be mindful and aware that daydreaming about meeting BTS won't change the lack of friendships that you mentioned is a problem right now. It is up to you to take steps to meet new people and maybe see of others like kpop and share that common interest with them to grow your friend circle. I agree that parents won't understand the situation you are going through and the only person who can truly understand your pain is your inner self. Anyhow good luck and stay positive!
@@derektale6383 Thank you so much for being supportive i thought no one will reply as it is a bit old video. I will try my best to make new friends as my school is starting day after tomorrow.
That was a really insightful video that helped me notice my underlying issues which I've been not seeing clearly , i wonder why don't have a good no. Of subscribers
Been looking into this for the last couple of days. I’m an artist, and I kind of need my creativity, imagination for making things. But I also probably suffer from maladaptive daydreaming, limerence etc. I’m interested in meditation and have been doing that on and off for the last year. But yeah I don’t want to lose my imagination, but at the same time i have been using it in some ways to make me feel better, meet needs. When it comes to love, guys I’ve fallen for. I could fantasize about them for months, years.. having conversations, playing out stories, scenes. And I could do that with random people I’ve met, don’t really know. About my future, other people’s futures, the world. I’ve been trying to label it when I’m in those states, or coming out of it. Not sure if it’s completely maladaptive. I’ve been diagnosed with autism as well. If anyone has any tips for dealing with it, without losing your imagination.. ? Though I can fantasize about art, my future art as well but actually doing it, being active with it, can take me out of it.
I remember in the past having similar experiences that you have described. It was daily mindfulness practices, resolving past trauma in therapy + feeling difficult emotions and being present with them consistently to process and release them + working on my self-worth + basic daily exercise that made the biggest difference. I did not lose my imagination, it has always been very strong since childhood - instead now, I have actual control over it, instead of it hijacking my attention and life. Our imagination is an incredible tool, its when we can't control it that it becomes challenging. In my most recent videos I go into detail on how I overcame it.
I think I know the root to my problems I was born in the popular internet times so I was a iPad kid growing on unicorns and gacha with not much supervision I found my love for storytelling by gacha I was the weird kid in all my elementary years and still am now I’m weird and not very social and with the few friends I have I feel disconnected with them sometimes and my family is loud so I’m alone at home too maladaptive is my coping mechanism formed by my gacha phase I’ve been maladaptive dreaming for years now (COVID did not help) Ik in order to stop my entire mental way of thinking has to change my way to change Change personality: withdraw from social media, socialize more, change friends, self acceptance, get rid of weird things I like (for example: liking warrior cats, rp games, memes, overwatch, music) stop being loud, awkwardness Being positive: learn to appreciate life more, be happy with my outer and (once I fix it) inner beauty, start being more grateful, gain more acceptable hobbies, get rid of useless things like screen shots of cool fan art, memes, cool merch from my favorite tv shows movies and stuff My priorities: whatever is infront of me, like work to do people to talk to, things to notice and observe, focusing what I’m doing worry how I’m presenting myself as To be who I want to be I have to not be me
Is maladaptive daydreaming always different from the observer brain, I daydream conversations with people, sometimes they aren't of my interest/ they're intrusive conversations. Is that the true me (observer) or just MD?
Yes, that is MD, not the observer. Try to see it as, the observer is your center, your essence, the daydreams and thoughts occur separate to the observer. Sort of like how you can watch images on a TV, and you are the one watching the screen, but you are not the images on the screen.
@@MentalHealthPower I sometimes laughed and cried during MD, I didn't knew what was happening to me but when I started showing those expressions I searched for it and came to know how serious it is, I have started overcoming it I only dream during night now before going to sleep.
I just stumbled on this today... I am still in shock and disbelief of what I am listening and watching.. Since I can't self diagnose myself if I am notnfully aware of the symptoms itself
my daydreams form when something didn't go my way (mostly in the social area, like with a guy or stuff) e they act as kind of compensation of what I wasn't able to get. so lets say I get rejected by I guy o I fail to connect with people in a social interaction, I'll get frustrated. but instead of dealing with my frustration and actively try to move on, I start obsessively daydreaming. I found myself being victim of limerence more than once and I feel like my maladaptive daydreaming is strongly connected to it. Luckily I'm starting to recover. I found the strength to fight depression and anxiety problems that I had my whole adolescence and gained a lot of love and confidence in myself. I started to be conscious about my daydreaming and started to see it as a phenomenon that can be dealt with, just like an anxiety attack. I also found out that I get triggered by too much social media and listening to music with my headphones on, so I started to cut that out of my life and I feel so much better. It's definitely still part of my life, but everyday I learn something new and learn how to deal with it.
I think I am a maladaptive daydreamer. People often caught me with a lost look. I deal with the same, sometimes I try not lose attention when somebody is talking to me, and then this happens. I ve been seen like a freak for so long. 😒 Please excuse my english, i speak spanish.
I started having MD at a young age of about 9 years. Now looking back I think it was to escape childhood trauma of being raped by my cousin combined with my stuttering disorder.
awesome video!! this was super helpful and makes so much sense, i noticed that even after i started going to healthier coping mechanisms i would still excessively daydream and now i know why:)! im super glad to hear it can go away and to anyone interested i’ll be updating in a few months to see if the heavy daydreaming has stopped(i may forget) i’m gonna be starting therapy! and i think i’m gonna get a screening too to see if i have anxiety and/or depression because i’ve been having nearly every symptom for as long as i can remember, thank you so much for this video! also i’m gonna try meditating more , everytime i meditate i fall asleep but i’ll try to stay awake during most meditations😅 update : 9 months later , i had severe depression and severe anxiety , i’m doing a lot better now and have been on medication for about 7+ months and finished therapy about 1-2 months ago :)! maladaptive daydreaming was a coping mechanism for me , to escape everything i was feeling , and it’s a lot better now ! i’d say i daydream like an hour in total each day which is a lot less than i usually would ! my coping skills are much better now as well ! meditation is something i do regularly and i don’t fall asleep during them anymore hehe:’) ! if any of you worries that it doesn’t get better, i’m living proof that it does ! :) i promise it gets better hun ☺️💕
@@ranlovesyou8938 Yup same. but its gonna also take mindfulness practices to get ur brain to automatically recognize when u are in or about to enter a daydream
Easy to say that we must catch the DD as soon as it starts and recognize that it is happening and to not attach to it. But I find myself several steps along the series of imaginings before I realize I am out there in fantasy land. Sometimes I am stuck in a cycle of repeated DD's and i go back again and again to the miserable memory and replay the scene and get to acting out violently before I catch myself. To get over the underlying issue is a tall order.
Shorts,reels the 15 best seconds of the song are plugged in my headphones 24/7 cant even focus on anything and cant even get the ducking song outta my head
my condition is so worse that i cannot even focus in this video!!!😭...and i cant get help...none in my family will understand....i cant focus on studies and its killing me
...मेरी उम्र 23 साल है मैं comptitive exam की तैयारी कर रहा हूं मैं बहुत लम्बे समय से Daydreaming problem फेस कर रहा हूं मैं रूम में अकेला रहकर पढ़ाई करने के बजाय दिन भर बस ख्यालों में ही खोया रहता हूं इस तरह मेरा दो साल से ज्यादा बर्बाद हो गया लम्बे समय से बहुत परेशान हूं मैं अपने आपको cricketer के रूप में imagine करता हूं सचिन तेंदुलकर से भी महान क्रिकेटर के रूप में सपने देखता हूं..... मैदान पर चौके छक्के शतक imagine करता रहता हूं..... मुझे क्या क्या करना चाहिए जिससे मैं इस समस्या से निकल पाऊ ... मुझे पढ़ लिखकर कोई नौकरी लेनी है अभी बेरोजगार हूं 23 साल उम्र हो गई है लेकिन पूरा पूरा दिन कमरे में बैठकर सिर्फ Daydreaming ही करता हूं...
I have this maladaptive disorder i recognised lately before i dint think that its a disorder. When i start discover about this i come to know that its a disorder Every small negative thoughts/words/visuals that i listen hear immediately they turn to disgusting scenario that gona happen with me/fam member and that fears me and makes me to do some unexplained things in my head that are repeatedly i did in every movement i cant come over it i talk to my self repeat one thing frequently do some hand signs still suffered
I'm a student and I can't focus on my studies because of this dirty day dreaming I even can't tell this to my parents coz I have a feeling that they will laugh hard sometimes I feel like killing myself I hardly control myself 😥😖😕😔
Plsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss reply if I can stop these filthy things plss help me and can you plss tell me how to focus on my studies plss
@@tharushikekulthotuwa2735 Hi, if you do get those feelings of harming yourself, please seek assistance and support from a professional. I can understand if you are unsure how your parents could react to explaining maladaptive daydreaming, so maybe there is a way to explain it without having to specifically mention daydreaming, so it's easier to understand. Maybe your explanation could focus on the difficulty in concentrating - this is something much easier to understand than the daydreaming. This could be a way to seek help from a therapist because if you start with explaining the concentration issue to a therapist, it's then much easier to also explain the daydreaming to them, a therapist is more likely to understand this concept. You could also look for information and videos from professionals who talk about the issue, so maybe if they see doctors speaking about it it's then taken more seriously. Remember it's the stress and anxiety to focus on healing to reduce the daydreaming. Hope this helps.
I write down all the things that I daydream about and burn down that paper. it helps me a lot. Even when I am listening to music I write down what iam daydreaming and burn down that paper after that I daydream very less. Thanks.
I daydreamed while watching this videos. The dream was about me being attacked by a bear. doesn't relate to video at all but these are the types of day dreams I be having>. I got to stay focused man!
Omg i thought i was alone🤯. Mine is so bad i do it even in my sleep. As such i got chronic insomnia. I've got all those u listed above. Can't focus either. Been learning to be mindful and just watch my thoughts but the moment i start, i find my self engaged in another story in my mind🙄. Can't focus as well😱. I need help
EVERY night since I was 10-11 years old (I’m 16 now) I felt like I had to daydream. Over time it became an addiction without me even realizing it. I’ve gone 7 days without daydreaming once and it’s been unbelievably difficult. I constantly feel at war with myself, one part of me is struggling to stay focused and knows this is very unhealthy for me, and the other part of me is trying to convince myself to do it and it’s not *that* bad. It truly is a form of addiction but I’m determined to overcome it. If anybody has some advice/tips on how to deal with this, please reply!
I’ve started suffering from MD when I was 10. Sometimes it takes 5-6 hours per day and I don’t even realise it. It has been 2 years that I am fully aware of me having harmful maladaptive daydreaming. And I would say it is EXTREMELY difficult to overcome. I can’t find a lot of information about it.
But here some things that really help me. 1) I use a timer. When I realise that I am about to start engaging in daydreaming I put 30 minutes or 1 hour on a timer for myself. That way I at least have some control. Yes, I don't always stop after the timer, but 50 per cent of the time it works. And that's something.
2) This is a method I started testing recently. I keep a dream diary. When I want to start dreaming, I write in my notes the date and number of the entry. And about the following text: Now I go into dreams and fictional reality, because I experience a lot of unpleasant emotions (anger, fear, irritation, misunderstanding). I don't have the energy to deal with it. I know how to make myself feel good very quickly. So now I am going to imagine a perfect love story where I will be more attractive, smart, happy, funny, cool, etc. IMPORTANT: When keeping these notes, don't shame yourself for daydreaming. Be honest with yourself and have an understanding attitude. It is very important to accept the situation and yourself in it. Be aware of yourself and your emotions. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS TO STOP DEMANDING TOO MUCH OF YOURSELF. I invented this method myself, as the others I had heard about helped me little or were very hard to follow due to lack of discipline. I'm surprised, but often after writing these things down, I can suddenly stop wanting to go into daydreaming. As they lose their appeal in my eyes and I sort of unmask them. And even if I do go into daydreaming afterwards, I can still see the statistics ( how often, because of what emotions and what exactly I am looking for in daydreaming)
I believe that to really overcome this, you have to go a long way. I am ready to try a lot, to make mistakes, to recognise myself and to adopt new habits. And I'm even interested in going all the way. I would like to find people here who also want to overcome it, to share their experiences.
I wanna stop , but im afraid of my life losing sense cause I do this since I know me as a person. I keep living in another universe that i create to my self, I love the fake people I created, I love my fake home. I love my fake life that I had been living all my life. Im ab to start slowly, maybe get closer to the real people I know, maybe this way I will not miss my fake friends I created and my fake life. I'm so afraid, I just want someone that understands me and help me to stop but I dont have any money for therapy
So Yes i've been Day Dreaming all my live. There was a moment of real freedom for 2 months or longer.... But the problem is its easy to fall back again..
My focus was pretty good but not to the extent i wanted so i thought that to improve focus I should try a dopmine detox for once aleast and what is found was when i didn't fed dopamine to my brain ;my brain found its own ways of generatng dopamine i.e, MD and now i am fucked will try the method you discussed sideline daydream everytime i see it coming
I lost a lot of friends over the years for the reason i like to think of (growth) lol but all my daydreams is me being around a lovely group of friends that love me and care for me.. also a girl bullied me once when i used to think she’s pretty and i like her.. that i couldn’t recover from so i daydream about hurting her feelings too, i can’t remember since when i started daydreaming but i think 6 years
I'm not sure if it's maladaptive daydreaming that I'm experiencing because when I listen to music I get this daydreaming a lot. It gets problematic when I notice that it's been 3 hours and I have done nothing expect imagining made up characters doing stuff while listening to music. Oh yeah and I have tiks so it makes it worse cuz I'm swinging my head backwards and jumping on my bed while sitting on it... Ugh..
I will spend HOURS listening to music and pacing around my room while daydreaming. Acting stuff out and mouthing/whispering words... My feet and back will hurt from walking around so much but I'll still continue cause I'm "not done" with the day dream. It happens every day... I hope I can learn to stop
I literally had to ban music from myself for a short while because the same thing happened to me 😅 like I would start a song while pacing my hallway then realize 3 hours had gone by.
Omg the exact same thing is happening with me I walk 12 km in a day on average
@@O00sh I have the same experience. I noticed a change for me after 3 days of not listening to music and my mind got so much clearer but then I miss getting „ high ” and I think a little will be ok but I end up right where I have started and need to stop listening to music again . Maybe it needs to be for a longer time ?
@Madison if you read this, did you make any progress so far regarding this kind of obsessive day dreaming? After 29 years on this earth i just discovered today that this is a thing and that i've done this since i'm a child. Eventhough music isn't necessarily a trigger for me, everything else you described is exactly what i experience, basically every day
I'm 24 years old and have been doing this since childhood as a surrogate for having an actual social life
Daydreaming has given me a false sense of productivity and success. The journey to relearning myself is so liberating!
This is exactly what I'm getting from daydreaming
Oh my god. False sense of productivity. That sentence hit me! Resonates with me SO MUCH. That's exactly what my daydreamibg gives me. A false sense of productivity and achievement... Which I guess I want and need but not actually achieving in the present. Hope you manage to grab a hold of your day dreams and achieve productivity in the here and now. So glad I discovered this concept. Really is liberating ☺️
Bingo same problem
How are you now bro? Did you become successful in this ? I mean you stopped daydreaming?
Plzzz suggest me some vedeos regarding this even im also going through the same may be even worse than that plzzzz
It all started with me being bullied at school and being called “ ugly “ so much that it was hard for me to make friends, as everybody was pushing me away. I am a person who always craves validation and attention, when I am not getting it in my real life , I started making friends up. I imagine I was prettier and richer with lots of friends who love and care for me. These fake people quickly became a part of my life. Since I felt more loved by them then the ones in real life. The scenarios would change over the years , and now it is a strong problem for me, I am extremely forgetful, I am unfocused and I realize that I do have a big problem with this situation. I am trying my best. Thank you for reading this tiny part of my story. If like me you are experiencing this problem, I wish you can recover from this too. 💯💯💋
I feel you, it's exactly the same for me
Same here ... This is almost the same situation for me... Now daydreaming has become addictive to me and i feel now it's turning into other mental illness like anxiety,OCD ,ADHD and my heart cries realising I'm becoming additive to fake things and unable to do good in real life , I tried discussing with my parents but they just feel that I'm crazy , i know the root cause for my maladaptive daydreaming , tried to speak to my parents and closed ones but i get more hurt listening to their replies that i feel like talking to no one now.
@@Smile-xz8zy my parents also gets angry on me when i tell them my problem of daydreaming. so now i dont tell them anything but struggling to get out of this
@@ganeshmulik6431 I also told my parents but they didn't understood it and found me one day crying and thought I'm in depression and they cried too and now it hide my problems and never tried too tell them about it and just facing it 😭
Ruthy Larose it's not your fault that u r not good looking u can't change your face but if u understand it that beauty is not everything in life good life depends on other facts like people like brilliant people, being good at studies , etc improve your skills and peoples will attract you by that and like to be your friends 😇😇
Sometimes I wake up in the morning and go to school. I would come home and step off the bus and realize I don’t remember anything that happened at school that day because I was day dreaming the ENTIRE TIME. Literally from the moment I enter school to the end of it my brain shuts off.
Oh my god! DUDE THIS IS SAME FOR ME!
mine isnt as intense but im sure it'll become that intense if i dont try to stop it now
😭
Same, the only time I study was the day before the test and after that I always forget about everything. Now I'm trying to stop my day dreaming and try to relearn all of those school stuff or else I'll be miserable in the future
Me too . It is very disturbing and sad 🙁
For me this only happens when I am alone at school it literally doesn't cross my mind until I am alone
Studies say maladaptive daydreamers spend as much as 57% of their waking hours on daydreaming, everyday. The more serious question is not finding a surefire solution to stop the daydreaming but rather "how and what do we fill in into the 57% of our waking hours that we more certainly spent on daydreaming?"
I stopped maladaptive daydreaming 1 year ago, After a deydream long 16 years. Back than i would spend much more than the 57 percent of time daydreaming. Now i'm "clean" and i'm facing exactly the problem you pointed out: i don't know how to spend my time as in the cast 16 years i haven't developed any passion. I don't know anymore how to cope with boredom
@@reginaferroni7350 You know what to do, actually all of us maladaptive daydreamers do; now that you've weaned out, just still your mind and it'll tell you exactly what to do, it does. For me it was two things, writing, scribbling any kind of blabber that my mind spits out and the other one, helping or striking a conversation on any subject you can speak of with any random human, be it on a bus, train, while waiting in a line, you line it.
Try it, find yours, it helps us know us better, trust me👍🏽
@@reginaferroni7350 how did you recover?
@@reginaferroni7350could you please kindly tell me how you recovered & how much time it took?🥹
@@reginaferroni7350I try to stop it for some days then again start to enjoy it. It is necessary to stop it but I'm enjoying it. I'm unable to study. It's fucking my life, please bro tell me how did you stop it.
i've been daydreaming my entire life. i always have some kind of story in my head, while im working, or at school, anywhere. i think the daydreaming became maladaptive when i was a teen and home was stressful, then when the stressor was removed, the daydreams never stopped. it's a permanent part of myself.
ive noticed that i use the daydreaming to socialise, using my imagination to trick myself out of feeling lonely.
now that im working more, i'm struggling with the majority of my freetime being eaten up by daydreaming.
Same
Exactly the same story for me. When I was Younger I want to a lot!! Jesus has set me free 2 times know but then when I miss it I wil jumb back to it 😢😢😢 I know that I will get free but I need to sid down and learn how too ... And listen and understand this journey of freedom... So that I can be a minister for God in compleet freedom
This are some tips that really helped me to get ride of maladaptive daydreaming or at least reduce them :
stop listening to music I know it's hard,*this is very isefull tip*
keep yourself busy
socialize
avoid sitting alone in your room
Pleaaase try those tips and share how that makes you feel
Thanks. Will stop listening to music
I don't listen music as well as I don't watch movies , but the thing is I don't have friends , I just meet to them once a while rarely , I don't have any best friends 😢. So I have to spend lot of time in my room alone or anywhere .
@@Naveenkumar-qy5wy you should try reading books then.
I daydream to cope with my life im weird and even with the friends i have i feel disconnected sometimes and i daydream at home the most because even at home I have to watch my loud little brother and my family is loud in general so I stay in my room to get away being on my phone and listening to music isn’t doing any good so to stop maladaptive daydreams I have to change my personality focus on what’s infront of my and stop using social media this isn’t gonna be fun
@@abhijeetdeodhar5190 wow😮 😅reading books I miss doing that!!! MD is controlling that
Lol I started daydreaming mid video, paused, then came after 10 minutes not even remembering I had this open.
Im a medical student and it used to be a nightmare cus I had very very severe depression. One that made my heart sink and didn't want to wake up in the morning and had. Severe headaches and stomachaches. I cried every day and night and the only escape was listening to music and daydream. I used to think of scenarios that I wish happened instead. I disrupted a lot of my studies but I'll keep moving forward cus it took me years but I'm still going to persure my dreams no matter what. I'm happier now and I never want to go back to that mental state ever again. Inshallah
How did u get rid of it?
@@tanishaf8892 When you don't exept the reality you get depressed. So whatever it it just exept it and find a way to keep growing
Oh my God sis
I'm a med student too
And the daydreaming running my life
I can't focus or study
how can i get this stomach better? i always get hungry all the time, even when my stomach full of food, it still hurt especially at night
I am also medical student and experiencing maladaptive daydreaming I can't concentrate on my study and daily life tasks how did you get rid of it please tell me I spend most of my time in daydreaming and it is ruinning my life
You know what. I've literally just discovered the concept of maladaptive daydreaming today. How liberating. I have such a frustrating daydreaming problem..... I have recently been trying to catch myself daydreaming and telling myself to snap out of it. I didn't realise I wasn't alone and that there are mechanisms behind this that really need addressing. A lot of my daydreams entail confrontation. Where I've confronted a situation or someone I feel I couldn't do in ordinary life. Or resolved an argument or stood up boldly for myself in my daydream which I wouldn't do in reality and then find myself feeling angry because at times I feel like that's actually happened and I'm now facing the person or situation I confronted. The negative feelings maintain. This was helpful. U met needs. Triggers. What am I dealing with and escaping from. I'm going to start to really observe and bite what the answers and underlying forces are here. I really want to live in the NOW quite fed up 🙄🙄🙄🙄 thanks for the video 🙏🙏🙏
I'm suffering from maladaptive daydreaming too. For me it happens in bursts. Like i think of it for 5 minutes and back to what I'm doing. Then when i see something or just my brain randomly triggers it and i then slip into it. Damn i need help. And due to quarantine its gotten worse. Before i had md but very less. But now due to no interaction with people its consuming me and I'm scared
Same. I am now on a little journey to find more about it and how to deal with it.
@@yasminrafael3681 do share it so i can heal from it too
Yesss
Same is happening with me
I don’t remember my life without md. It most likely stemmed from extreme loneliness and being bullied as a child. It has completely consumed my life, as I’m daydreaming around 8-12 hours everyday. I’m about to graduate this year and I’m terrified…
If I suddenly stop this, will it affect my personality? Now I think I am a positive person because of the positivity I get from these day dreaming.
I remember before depression I used to day dream and listen to music in a positive way. But later after depression I used it as an escape. So it's like I've been using it always but I realized it now and I hate it now more than ever.
Me too, but also i cannot study because of it it's affecting my life if it doesn't affect your life than i don't see any problem with it at all
No. It won't affect your positivity at all. You are a positive person and you daydream about positive things and not the other way around.
@@lawlietlawliet my life story😭
Nico, you asked that if you saddently stop day dreaming, is that affect your personality??
The answer is very simple. Ofcourse you can stop day dreaming. But you cannot suddently stop day dreaming. Because it has become a habit in you. You can stop fay dreaming by making another habit of not day dreaming. It is a process and will not happen suddenly. But you can do it.
Meditation, yoga, practicing zero thought stage... Will help you stoping day dreaming.
Meditation using frequency sound is awesome.But start meditating with the frequency of the basic chakra, which is root chakra. If you open root chakra, your fear, anxiety,.. all such problems will heal. The frequency of root chakra is 396 hz. Hz of 5,15,30 minutes to 1,3,7...hrs are available. After clearing root chakra, start meditating with the frequency sound of the next chakra after root chakra.
Imp:=you can only start with the base chakra. If base is no strong, then your problems will not be solved. The reason for fear and anxiety is your energy is blocked on root chakra. You can overcome fear, anxiety, depression, sadness.. only if you open your root chakra.
Im 19 and ive known that my daydreaming has been harmful for a while but im just realizing how detrimental it has been.
In evey major way i can think, ive ruined my life and essentially avoided most personal growth. I did badly in school because i couldn't focus. I got fired because i wouldn't focus. I don't get out of bed because im daydreaming. I can't fall asleep because im daydreaming. Daydreaming triggers other flaws i struggle with. And possibly the worst part, daydreaming distracts me and fools me i to thinking "everything is fine," "im happy," "I've been so productive today. I was a rockstar, a pro soccer player, i went on dates with a few of my girlfriends." "There's no maladaptive trait keeping from living your life."
19 years. 25 percent of my life Wasted.
I feel i m getting depressed these days because of this.
I have been suffering from maladaptive daydreaming from 2018. Its true that negative feeling were the things that started it. Loneliness n being left out made me create characters n friends of my own in my fantasies. Now after 2 years its so bad that i cant focus on anything. Whether i m happy sad or angry or embarassed i daydream .
This s making me depressed 😞.
I can completely relate to that cycle.
Reality s difficult to cope with.
Sefety n validation-i daydream abt it too.
I fantasise so much that its hard to stop n talking to those characters i created makes me happy. This pandemic situation has made it worse. I m well aware of the fact that i m daydreaming when i daydream. The problem is the fact that i cant resist that urge to daydream. I wish i could get over this issue😔
Give small tasks daily, after u achieve give rewards. This will help being in present and enjoying what we do.
I am in shok....I thought i am the only person who has that disorder.I am suffering from maladaptive daydreaming for 8 years. Weirdly, when its happening you can't push them away.I thought that is about being teenager. But now I am 18 and this is not stoping.This is too hard learning with that weird disorder. Unfortunatly,there is not threapist around me and no one can understand me
I used to daydream extrmely thru high school, It helps to reach out to reality. I mean I was scared at first bcs giving up daydream is really hard. I began to talk more with parents and old friends, or new people. Just small conversations with strangers help me too. I stopped putting myself in my daydreams and instead created characters with thier own stories, this help me to disconnect with the fantasy adn just enjoyed the daydreams as if they were movies, You can see what triggers your md , like me is manly music.
Is not completely gone, but is less problematic now. Hope you get better.
@@azureshieru423 At communucating with people it doesn't bother me but when i am alone or i am learning i just can't push them away. Unlike you i dont put myself into daydreams . I daydream about one of the tv series.I make different version of it .i am sick of doing this....By the way thank you for your advice
@@yusifbayramli686 Oh yeah I might have a different experience. What I learned was that is like an addiction. Is innocent at first but as time goes you lose control of the daydreams somtimes Im not a professional but this article helped me with the MD hope it helps and if not you can try therapy Im still going to theraphy and is a slow process, but I think we both can make it
maladaptivedaydreamingguide.wordpress.com/guide/
@@azureshieru423 i hope so
gawd i have the same problem. i fell in love with a fictional character and i day dream abt him every day. honestly, i dont feel like anything is real anymore. i can hear , see and talk but i dont feel like im real. im addicted to this shit...
how are you now?
babe same dont worry ur not alone im also also dealing with the same problems im gonna get rid of them whatever it takes mf will go down
@@pooopuuu trying to control it now. now i dont do it too often
@@erynlesskov Hey thats good but please can you tell me how you control this like i am same
@@yettocome4412 it is really harf at first. Just try to keep urself busy with work and stuff. Whenever i feel like daydreaming i busy my self and listen to music. And i try soo hard not to do it. I still do daydream sometimes but not as much as i was suppose to do. I hope this helps...
No love from Mother, childhood trauma, bad financial condition, no acceptance by society. Feel lonely n suicidal. These are the causes for my maladaptive daydreaming
Same .. 😥
Exactly but how to come over this in less time
I love y'all. Be safe
Maladaptive Daydreaming is literally 80 percent of my life right now... if I could only just STOP! 🤦🏾♂️
Id like to share my experience with daydreaming. I have a huge obsession with Harry Styles and it started off with me just thinking that i’m in a relationship with him. lalala, it progressed aggressively and i started daydreaming about any situation that made me feel like i wanted myself to be in. in most situations, i was this ‘perfect’ person who had a few problems that i didn’t even have in my life (idk how to word this). sometimes i’d even daydream about situations happening in my life right now like school, and me being popular and stuff. id daydream all day after school and sometimes id even wake up before school to daydream. whenever i’m alone, i daydream. i’ve became really quite in school and i think it’s because of daydreaming. i don’t socialize much but when i do hang out with friends, it’s different than before. i’ve been listening to music, edit audios, and audios that would help make these situations come more to life while acting them out in my room and passing around my room. i sometimes read harry fan fics but after every major moment in a book that i envision myself in, i have to daydream. same with movies, videos, or anything in general. it’s like i hate it so much because it’s been happening for so so so long, but i love the feelings i get even though i’m starting to re-use situations. ughhhh
omg I hate how much I can relate to this comment. Though I find a different semi-famous person to attach myself to every year and daydreaming about our perfect life together drives me nuts
Me too I imagine about Jeon jungkook like that but I want to normal 😭
Better not be involved in content/apps that trigger MD
@@imperialshu734gmail same mine with BTS
Something I realized is that some of the ways in order to help with maladaptive daydreaming, are also ways to treat ocd (specifically intrusive thoughts). Since I have recovered from my ocd (sometimes the thoughts still happen, but only for a second), I'm gonna try treating this the same way! Thank you so much for the vid ❤️
I believe I suffer from something like this since I was 10 years old. Right now I am 30 and it has become disruptive for my routine :( now. Now it is all about worries ans unmet needs and fear. I am constantly living in a beautiful dream which transforms into representing something I worry about , borderline nightmarish. Stays under control when I am with people but then that increases my anger and frustration with people around me. If I don't daydream, I am too upset or frustrated when there is a lot of stress from people around me.
man you explained it perfectly, you addressed it very straightforward and practically, I always daydreamed walking in circles and my family would just laugh it off not thinking I could have something. I'm 23 and it feels there were huge gaps where time just seemed to vanish. Im learning now much later how to reduce it. Thanks lots
Thank you so much for this! I have tried to stop daydreaming for many years and this helped me understand a lot. I'll keep on trying!
This whole pandemic has worsen my condition more.....i daydream a lot and i feel like it's the best way i can escape from reality i thought ill be fine and someday i will stop this daydreaming thing but i just can't do it and it has come to a point where i dont want to stop creating scenarios that i guess never gonna happen fr. it makes me sad when i see the real world not the one i created in my head. I'm in 12 class and it has really affected my studies and I'm scared for my future i just dont wanna be like this forever
You have to identify your triggers and do what you can to stop the md, what helped for me was journalling what i was using my md to escape from, then writing the stuff I wanted to do irl which i would daydream about, i started to pick up those things but it took a longtime so don’t be too hard on yourself, it takes a lot of determination, if i can do it so can you. My grades were affected by this but i also have other underlying mental health issues. Make sure you also have a maintain a good diet snd exercise. You got this, I believe in you !!!
Thank you for discussing your experience. Also, it is very brave of you to not only recover from it but share it with others. Great!
I am a banking aspirant, so when I was doing maths, I imagined in my mind that a student was sitting in front of me and I was explaining quant to him, so in my imagination, the student would ask questions and I would answer them, so it was my first time to read like that. At first I felt very good, then after a few days I noticed that the imaginary student I was teaching could not understand me as if he was a separate person of his own whom I could not control. I couldn't understand my imaginary student as if he didn't want to understand, gradually this shows up in different things I keep doing maladaptive daydreaming which I know is not true I also get stuck in the imaginary world, sometimes I daydream that someone misunderstands me in the bus He is arguing with me and I can't make him understand that it's not my fault. Then more daydreaming like the police have arrested me for no reason and I can't convince them or talk to them. Now I feel like my brain is training me how to talk to someone. I kept quarreling with someone in my daydreaming. forgive me for my bad English.😞
I also then realize, maladaptive daydreaming makes me more antisocial plus (despite my very social persona). When I get a new prospect( like crush) I play things in my head like I am a heroine , very rich, super cool, can speak various language, powerful and unique. I am the center of attention. I dream that the girl fancy me until poof I acted weird around her and it makes me creepy. I always like listening to songs cos it makes me create more stories. It has been 20 years and I really can't control.
I don't know when it first started(maybe as a kid) but these days I'm just losing my mind because of this. I can't focus on anything. I waste the hours and hours on daydreaming about stuff that had never happened and will not ever happen. I need to stop this before I actually end up going crazy.
Did anyone realize that maladaptive day dreaming is like drugs?I have never tried drugs nor being addicted to any form of vice or alcohol but I think they are somewhat the same? It gives you that kind of high. I thank you for this video at least, this is an informative and guide for someone like me who is addicted to.
I did this off and on since I was about 10 years old. Then it blew way out of proportion when entering into my 50's. I don't know why but somewhere along the way I began to become disinterested in my "story" and it no longer appealed to me so I stopped. I'm so glad it's over.
Keep making videos! Really well done! I hope you blow up for real!
Your channel is awesome, I just subscribed. You are really going deep into the root cause of depression.
I think INFPs like us are more to experience maladaptive daydreaming
And INTP's
oh god... yes of course, because mb test has section asking if you're being lonely daydream wonderer...so when you're like this, surprise, you're more likely to be like this... and that's the causality/correlation "personality type" magic trick, enjoy
@@theother4781 nah I get what you are saying but I have learned cognitive functions as well. Ne users are prone to daydreaming like INTP,INFP. Even some Ni users daydream but not to the point of Ne users
I'm entj and have this problem.... Which is very surprising
Being an INFP is a curse; the world doesn't understand us, we cannot stop paying heed for even stray dogs, let alone fellow humans and every now and then end up alike a crumpled in the trash used tissue.
Hi I'm gonna vent here so I don't end up daydreaming venting to someone.
Times I remember daydreaming (a few)
When I started to daydreaming about telling my parents that I'm not feeling ok, I feel left out n I wanted them to understand that I'm not always as strong they paint me to be.
When I daydream about hanging out with my friends when I'm alone at home. Covid has not helped one bit...... I cant not daydream when am not alone.
Daydreaming about being part of a movie I watched as a kid (which personally I feel like is alot less problematic but it added to the problem)
Daydreaming bout hanging out with a guy I like
Daydreaming about a trip we are about to go on
Daydreaming about a party that's gonna happen soon and how my friends and I are gonna dance and have fun
Most of my daydreams consist of communicating with "people" about anything any everything, from my problems to a new song that jus got released. I laugh at the jokes "they" make, cry with "them" about things and fall asleep and wake up next to "them" (and I rarely ever get insomnia because of this, caz I have "someone" to sleep next to. I dunno if it's good but I wanna try to fall asleep peacefully on my own).
I do know how to Differentiate between reality and my daydreams. The problem is that I waste so much time in them and I'm always eager to get into them.
I really wanna deal with this...
This message might be long but im 37 and have been doing this since my very abusive childhood. The effects of it have been terrible long term.
for me I do day dream but I actually act out the day dreams, literally talking to people who I know aren't there, yet they are there. They are more real to me than real people. I also inhabit different personalties while I do this. At the moment I have 4 seperate personalties that I am totally aware of and can switch between depending on what I am doing. They all have different names, physical appearances, histories of their entire life, they all talk differently and have very unique seperate characteristics. Is this daydreaming also. I did day dream when I was younger, it involved listening to music and fantasy - now it is my reality. At the expense of my real life. I have agoraphobia, bpd, depression and an anxiety disorder. I leave my house once a week and only go out when I have too. Otherwise I'm inhabiting these personalities and acting out this inner world. Is this a mental illness or is it just day dreaming, I'm very confused.
I recently became a Christian and God has been putting it on my heart to stop these imagination based things but I'm gripped with fear at the thought of letting it go, I don't even know if I can, I don't know if it's a choice any more. I literally cant stop. I've lost 37 years of my life to this behavior and I'm so ashamed of it that I can't tell any one. I don't want to be an old woman and look back and see that my whole life was a fantasy and my real life got swallowed up by absolutely nothing at all. Like its not real is it. It's imaginary. So how to stop it?
ur voice is so soothing..
i just had like a 10 min daydream session with music after i was feeling sad and even 10 minutes is enough for me to lose focus and get anxious during the day. im trying to break this habit of long daydreams that include music and moving, but its so addicting. But i will keep trying
1) Buy a trampoline 2) stop using headphones because they trap our minds more than the actual music. Once we put our head phones, our brain cannot disconnect from it. 3) Play music when doing mundane chores
how I am trying to treat it is by Exercising and writing my feelings down in a journal which I don’t like to do but I need something to keep me active so I want get lost in my thoughts but tbh y’all I really think this year of 2021 we all been thru the most and for every little child or boy out there with Maladaptive day dreaming remember to keep ya head up and you ain’t gotta change yourself just to fit in or be so jealous you wanna look like this person or just wanna have a perfect life I just really think we need some love UA-cam ain’t gone tell you but I will BE YOURSELF just do you stay out of outher people way bc there way may not be the same as yours 💪y’all stay strong wait untill you get older and see how your life turn out don’t rush it and also this go for me and you we gone work together as a team stay off of social media bc all that’s doing is giving your brain thoughts to come up with I love y’all be safe out there god bless you all ❤️
After reading the comments , i must say movement and music does trigger the MDD. Also in my case lack of sleep. I am trying to be more disciplined and trying to wake up early which has resulted in lack of sleep which further triggers MDD.
Thank you so much for this video. I love the way you framed it. I feel more hopeful that I can get this under control. Also my patterns are the same safety and validation.
Wow seriously good job and thank you for this you are really helping people with this. When I had this issue a few years ago and searched on UA-cam there was barely any videos on this topic. But today I saw your channel and a few other channels seriously talking about it !! I’m very proud of you guys 🎉
Wow!You deserve more subbies!!
Thanks! Working on it lol
yes he does
damn he does :)
Fabulous video! I suffer from Maladaptive Daydreaming myself & have been trying to improve it for a long time. Your video is super informative & precise. Helped me a lot. Amazing work, Keep it up!
9:18 loved that
_Absorve your daydream_ that's what I was looking for.
Definitely relate to the part where it happens mid conversation, and the other person would have no idea that you’ve completely zoned out.
Thank you for this wonderful video!
Didn't watch the video fully yet but i want share my story . I been daydreaming almost my entire life i will turn 16 this year , I remember since when i was in kindergarten i used to daydream with cartoon characters, then later it turned to be with movie actors and now with few imagery friends and few social media influencers also with BTS daydreaming about being with them thinking from Future perspective . I guess i did way too much that i got a lot of harming intrusive thoughts about these people who i have never met in my real life once compared to the people who are around me . I usually act out these scenarios most of time when no one is noticing me . it is really hard to come out this mindset . I guess this because i have health issues and didn't have good friends at all . Please don't think that i am weird. I have no idea whether this is normal or not . It is really hard to explain it to my parents because they didn't understand when i explained about the intrusive thoughts i got .That is why i am commenting about this over here so somebody will understand me . I will try my best to get out this. To whoever reading it till here thank you so much .It is pretty big sorry .
Just read this, I hope Rumzi's tips will help you with the maladaptive daydreaming. I think those daydreams about BTS and being with them is a way to fill the emotional unmet need of friendship and joy in life right now. It's a tough situation, and I think the first step is to be mindful and aware that daydreaming about meeting BTS won't change the lack of friendships that you mentioned is a problem right now. It is up to you to take steps to meet new people and maybe see of others like kpop and share that common interest with them to grow your friend circle. I agree that parents won't understand the situation you are going through and the only person who can truly understand your pain is your inner self. Anyhow good luck and stay positive!
@@derektale6383 Thank you so much for being supportive i thought no one will reply as it is a bit old video. I will try my best to make new friends as my school is starting day after tomorrow.
That was a really insightful video that helped me notice my underlying issues which I've been not seeing clearly , i wonder why don't have a good no. Of subscribers
finally someone made an appropriate video on this topic
Been looking into this for the last couple of days. I’m an artist, and I kind of need my creativity, imagination for making things. But I also probably suffer from maladaptive daydreaming, limerence etc. I’m interested in meditation and have been doing that on and off for the last year. But yeah I don’t want to lose my imagination, but at the same time i have been using it in some ways to make me feel better, meet needs. When it comes to love, guys I’ve fallen for. I could fantasize about them for months, years.. having conversations, playing out stories, scenes. And I could do that with random people I’ve met, don’t really know. About my future, other people’s futures, the world. I’ve been trying to label it when I’m in those states, or coming out of it. Not sure if it’s completely maladaptive. I’ve been diagnosed with autism as well. If anyone has any tips for dealing with it, without losing your imagination.. ? Though I can fantasize about art, my future art as well but actually doing it, being active with it, can take me out of it.
I remember in the past having similar experiences that you have described. It was daily mindfulness practices, resolving past trauma in therapy + feeling difficult emotions and being present with them consistently to process and release them + working on my self-worth + basic daily exercise that made the biggest difference. I did not lose my imagination, it has always been very strong since childhood - instead now, I have actual control over it, instead of it hijacking my attention and life. Our imagination is an incredible tool, its when we can't control it that it becomes challenging. In my most recent videos I go into detail on how I overcame it.
@@MentalHealthPower Oke good to know. ☺️
I think I know the root to my problems I was born in the popular internet times so I was a iPad kid growing on unicorns and gacha with not much supervision I found my love for storytelling by gacha I was the weird kid in all my elementary years and still am now I’m weird and not very social and with the few friends I have I feel disconnected with them sometimes and my family is loud so I’m alone at home too maladaptive is my coping mechanism formed by my gacha phase I’ve been maladaptive dreaming for years now (COVID did not help) Ik in order to stop my entire mental way of thinking has to change my way to change
Change personality: withdraw from social media, socialize more, change friends, self acceptance, get rid of weird things I like (for example: liking warrior cats, rp games, memes, overwatch, music) stop being loud, awkwardness
Being positive: learn to appreciate life more, be happy with my outer and (once I fix it) inner beauty, start being more grateful, gain more acceptable hobbies, get rid of useless things like screen shots of cool fan art, memes, cool merch from my favorite tv shows movies and stuff
My priorities: whatever is infront of me, like work to do people to talk to, things to notice and observe, focusing what I’m doing worry how I’m presenting myself as
To be who I want to be I have to not be me
This is a cry for help anyone who comes across months or years remind me
Is maladaptive daydreaming always different from the observer brain, I daydream conversations with people, sometimes they aren't of my interest/ they're intrusive conversations. Is that the true me (observer) or just MD?
Yes, that is MD, not the observer. Try to see it as, the observer is your center, your essence, the daydreams and thoughts occur separate to the observer. Sort of like how you can watch images on a TV, and you are the one watching the screen, but you are not the images on the screen.
@@MentalHealthPower I sometimes laughed and cried during MD, I didn't knew what was happening to me but when I started showing those expressions I searched for it and came to know how serious it is, I have started overcoming it I only dream during night now before going to sleep.
I'm so glad this has a name
This man isn't realizing he is saving lifes
if something is hard I M.D. , this does not help with studying !
I just stumbled on this today... I am still in shock and disbelief of what I am listening and watching..
Since I can't self diagnose myself if I am notnfully aware of the symptoms itself
you were extremely precise...thankyou so much...this video feels like its especially for me since you've uploaded it on my bday too lol
my daydreams form when something didn't go my way (mostly in the social area, like with a guy or stuff) e they act as kind of compensation of what I wasn't able to get. so lets say I get rejected by I guy o I fail to connect with people in a social interaction, I'll get frustrated. but instead of dealing with my frustration and actively try to move on, I start obsessively daydreaming. I found myself being victim of limerence more than once and I feel like my maladaptive daydreaming is strongly connected to it. Luckily I'm starting to recover. I found the strength to fight depression and anxiety problems that I had my whole adolescence and gained a lot of love and confidence in myself. I started to be conscious about my daydreaming and started to see it as a phenomenon that can be dealt with, just like an anxiety attack. I also found out that I get triggered by too much social media and listening to music with my headphones on, so I started to cut that out of my life and I feel so much better. It's definitely still part of my life, but everyday I learn something new and learn how to deal with it.
I think I am a maladaptive daydreamer. People often caught me with a lost look. I deal with the same, sometimes I try not lose attention when somebody is talking to me, and then this happens. I ve been seen like a freak for so long. 😒
Please excuse my english, i speak spanish.
I started having MD at a young age of about 9 years. Now looking back I think it was to escape childhood trauma of being raped by my cousin combined with my stuttering disorder.
Same story oh my god
Oh my god this is the most helpful video i have ever seen thank you 🙏🏻
I tried to write this vicious cycle but couldn't articulate it. Thank you for this I am now getting help.
This is a load of information! thank you for sharing ♥
awesome video!! this was super helpful and makes so much sense, i noticed that even after i started going to healthier coping mechanisms i would still excessively daydream and now i know why:)! im super glad to hear it can go away and to anyone interested i’ll be updating in a few months to see if the heavy daydreaming has stopped(i may forget) i’m gonna be starting therapy! and i think i’m gonna get a screening too to see if i have anxiety and/or depression because i’ve been having nearly every symptom for as long as i can remember, thank you so much for this video! also i’m gonna try meditating more , everytime i meditate i fall asleep but i’ll try to stay awake during most meditations😅
update :
9 months later , i had severe depression and severe anxiety , i’m doing a lot better now and have been on medication for about 7+ months and finished therapy about 1-2 months ago :)! maladaptive daydreaming was a coping mechanism for me , to escape everything i was feeling , and it’s a lot better now ! i’d say i daydream like an hour in total each day which is a lot less than i usually would ! my coping skills are much better now as well ! meditation is something i do regularly and i don’t fall asleep during them anymore hehe:’) ! if any of you worries that it doesn’t get better, i’m living proof that it does ! :) i promise it gets better hun ☺️💕
I'm on my second week of therapy. Hopefully I can get rid of it, honestly I'm so done.
@@ranlovesyou8938 Yup same. but its gonna also take mindfulness practices to get ur brain to automatically recognize when u are in or about to enter a daydream
yup i was reliefed when i found out he was able to get rid of it w/o meds
Now its been 9 months .. how are you?:)
@@hutaro6498 updated !
trauma ➡️ anxiety ➡️ depersonalization/derealization ➡️ maladaptive daydreaming
The problem is the social environment there is no question for example in a tribe is seen as a blessing
fudge! I day dreamed this whole video. Now I have to watch it over again
Easy to say that we must catch the DD as soon as it starts and recognize that it is happening and to not attach to it.
But I find myself several steps along the series of imaginings before I realize I am out there in fantasy land.
Sometimes I am stuck in a cycle of repeated DD's and i go back again and again to the miserable memory and replay the scene and get to acting out violently before I catch myself.
To get over the underlying issue is a tall order.
Shorts,reels the 15 best seconds of the song are plugged in my headphones 24/7 cant even focus on anything and cant even get the ducking song outta my head
my condition is so worse that i cannot even focus in this video!!!😭...and i cant get help...none in my family will understand....i cant focus on studies and its killing me
I'm so sorry for you. It's hurts me too much. I wish I could stop it. Wish I can hug you right now.
...मेरी उम्र 23 साल है मैं comptitive exam की तैयारी कर रहा हूं मैं बहुत लम्बे समय से Daydreaming problem फेस कर रहा हूं मैं रूम में अकेला रहकर पढ़ाई करने के बजाय दिन भर बस ख्यालों में ही खोया रहता हूं इस तरह मेरा दो साल से ज्यादा बर्बाद हो गया लम्बे समय से बहुत परेशान हूं मैं अपने आपको cricketer के रूप में imagine करता हूं सचिन तेंदुलकर से भी महान क्रिकेटर के रूप में सपने देखता हूं..... मैदान पर चौके छक्के शतक imagine करता रहता हूं..... मुझे क्या क्या करना चाहिए जिससे मैं इस समस्या से निकल पाऊ ... मुझे पढ़ लिखकर कोई नौकरी लेनी है अभी बेरोजगार हूं 23 साल उम्र हो गई है लेकिन पूरा पूरा दिन कमरे में बैठकर सिर्फ Daydreaming ही करता हूं...
Same here bro
Did anyone else started daydreaming mid video? What if you can use this as a positive in your life?
Me
Thank you so much, I appreciate every word you have said 🙏🏻
This was incredibly helpful- thank you!!
I have this maladaptive disorder i recognised lately before i dint think that its a disorder. When i start discover about this i come to know that its a disorder Every small negative thoughts/words/visuals that i listen hear immediately they turn to disgusting scenario that gona happen with me/fam member and that fears me and makes me to do some unexplained things in my head that are repeatedly i did in every movement i cant come over it i talk to my self repeat one thing frequently do some hand signs still suffered
I'm a student and I can't focus on my studies because of this dirty day dreaming I even can't tell this to my parents coz I have a feeling that they will laugh hard sometimes I feel like killing myself I hardly control myself 😥😖😕😔
Plsssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss reply if I can stop these filthy things plss help me and can you plss tell me how to focus on my studies plss
@@tharushikekulthotuwa2735 Hi, if you do get those feelings of harming yourself, please seek assistance and support from a professional. I can understand if you are unsure how your parents could react to explaining maladaptive daydreaming, so maybe there is a way to explain it without having to specifically mention daydreaming, so it's easier to understand. Maybe your explanation could focus on the difficulty in concentrating - this is something much easier to understand than the daydreaming. This could be a way to seek help from a therapist because if you start with explaining the concentration issue to a therapist, it's then much easier to also explain the daydreaming to them, a therapist is more likely to understand this concept. You could also look for information and videos from professionals who talk about the issue, so maybe if they see doctors speaking about it it's then taken more seriously. Remember it's the stress and anxiety to focus on healing to reduce the daydreaming. Hope this helps.
I desperately want to stop
Watching this while crying
I write down all the things that I daydream about and burn down that paper. it helps me a lot. Even when I am listening to music I write down what iam daydreaming and burn down that paper after that I daydream very less. Thanks.
How to improve information processing speed,please make a video on this topic.
You have answered so many questions. Thank you.
I am in class 12 from 3 years due md. I scared to share my this problem with any one as people judge and hit the weakness. I am 21 years old...
@@dr.rutvapatel4043 its not that easy.
I have so muvh day dreaming that i was day dreaming while tge video was palying😢
I daydreamed while watching this videos. The dream was about me being attacked by a bear. doesn't relate to video at all but these are the types of day dreams I be having>. I got to stay focused man!
Omg i thought i was alone🤯. Mine is so bad i do it even in my sleep. As such i got chronic insomnia. I've got all those u listed above. Can't focus either. Been learning to be mindful and just watch my thoughts but the moment i start, i find my self engaged in another story in my mind🙄. Can't focus as well😱. I need help
I had to rewatch parts of the video because i started m.daydreaming :'/
EVERY night since I was 10-11 years old (I’m 16 now) I felt like I had to daydream. Over time it became an addiction without me even realizing it. I’ve gone 7 days without daydreaming once and it’s been unbelievably difficult. I constantly feel at war with myself, one part of me is struggling to stay focused and knows this is very unhealthy for me, and the other part of me is trying to convince myself to do it and it’s not *that* bad. It truly is a form of addiction but I’m determined to overcome it.
If anybody has some advice/tips on how to deal with this, please reply!
I’ve started suffering from MD when I was 10. Sometimes it takes 5-6 hours per day and I don’t even realise it. It has been 2 years that I am fully aware of me having harmful maladaptive daydreaming. And I would say it is EXTREMELY difficult to overcome. I can’t find a lot of information about it.
But here some things that really help me.
1) I use a timer. When I realise that I am about to start engaging in daydreaming I put 30 minutes or 1 hour on a timer for myself. That way I at least have some control. Yes, I don't always stop after the timer, but 50 per cent of the time it works. And that's something.
2) This is a method I started testing recently. I keep a dream diary. When I want to start dreaming, I write in my notes the date and number of the entry. And about the following text: Now I go into dreams and fictional reality, because I experience a lot of unpleasant emotions (anger, fear, irritation, misunderstanding). I don't have the energy to deal with it. I know how to make myself feel good very quickly. So now I am going to imagine a perfect love story where I will be more attractive, smart, happy, funny, cool, etc.
IMPORTANT: When keeping these notes, don't shame yourself for daydreaming. Be honest with yourself and have an understanding attitude. It is very important to accept the situation and yourself in it. Be aware of yourself and your emotions. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS TO STOP DEMANDING TOO MUCH OF YOURSELF.
I invented this method myself, as the others I had heard about helped me little or were very hard to follow due to lack of discipline.
I'm surprised, but often after writing these things down, I can suddenly stop wanting to go into daydreaming. As they lose their appeal in my eyes and I sort of unmask them. And even if I do go into daydreaming afterwards, I can still see the statistics ( how often, because of what emotions and what exactly I am looking for in daydreaming)
I believe that to really overcome this, you have to go a long way. I am ready to try a lot, to make mistakes, to recognise myself and to adopt new habits. And I'm even interested in going all the way. I would like to find people here who also want to overcome it, to share their experiences.
@@Elya88883 this is all so helpful! I’m gonna give the dream diary a shot and see where it takes me thank you so much! I believe in us lolol ☺️☺️
😱😱wait so you actually managed to recover from this?? Broo, that's so cool. So you absolutely have no urge to zone off at all??
I wanna stop , but im afraid of my life losing sense cause I do this since I know me as a person. I keep living in another universe that i create to my self, I love the fake people I created, I love my fake home. I love my fake life that I had been living all my life. Im ab to start slowly, maybe get closer to the real people I know, maybe this way I will not miss my fake friends I created and my fake life.
I'm so afraid, I just want someone that understands me and help me to stop but I dont have any money for therapy
So Yes i've been Day Dreaming all my live. There was a moment of real freedom for 2 months or longer.... But the problem is its easy to fall back again..
My real Freedom I mean I didn't get any drawings to MD anymore.. I was completely free.. I quit whats tv, listen music and al that things
its effecting my life very negatively I try my best to keep away from it but I just can't
My focus was pretty good but not to the extent i wanted so i thought that to improve focus I should try a dopmine detox for once aleast and what is found was when i didn't fed dopamine to my brain ;my brain found its own ways of generatng dopamine i.e, MD
and now i am fucked
will try the method you discussed sideline daydream everytime i see it coming
This comment section is scary relatable, especially when i thought i was the only one to do this
Inner child healing and nervous system balance is the most effective way, in my point of view. Be kind to yourself.
Thank you for this. Very helpful. 👍🏾
Great video man, subbed
Look at that, I’m back here… suffering
What does it mean when I take daydreaming to real life like pretend I'm in my daydream-
In MD that's very normal
I lost a lot of friends over the years for the reason i like to think of (growth) lol but all my daydreams is me being around a lovely group of friends that love me and care for me.. also a girl bullied me once when i used to think she’s pretty and i like her.. that i couldn’t recover from so i daydream about hurting her feelings too, i can’t remember since when i started daydreaming but i think 6 years
I'm not sure if it's maladaptive daydreaming that I'm experiencing because when I listen to music I get this daydreaming a lot. It gets problematic when I notice that it's been 3 hours and I have done nothing expect imagining made up characters doing stuff while listening to music. Oh yeah and I have tiks so it makes it worse cuz I'm swinging my head backwards and jumping on my bed while sitting on it... Ugh..