Communication Skills - The 6 Keys Of Powerful Communication

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  • Communication Skills - The six essential components you need to master in order to become a great communicator.
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    Video Summary:
    Issues in communication can be devastating to careers and intimate relationships. Conversely, remedying communication issues will reap rewards for your whole lifetime. Six key areas sum up the most common failures that contribute to communication issues.
    The six pillars of effective communication are: assertiveness, authenticity, open-mindedness, empathy, clarity and listening.
    If you have something to say, say it assertively, so you will be taken seriously. Identify your values, boundaries, and own agenda, so that you can communicate them authentically. Smiling and being afraid to contradict someone may be interpreted as being inauthentic. Be open-minded to the positions of others, which helps you grow as a person.
    Be empathetic to your listener, which builds common ground. The more clarity you use in communicating, the less likely it will be misconstrued. And don't just hear; demonstrate active listening.
    Disclaimer: All personal development advice and information is provided as-is and may not suit your specific circumstances. It may also contain errors or omissions. Neither Actualized.org, nor any of its employees, nor Leo Gura is liable in any way for any potential damages that may be incurred from this information. By listening to this advice you agree to take 100% responsibility for your life!

КОМЕНТАРІ • 804

  • @anirudh3925
    @anirudh3925 8 років тому +608

    1. Assertiveness/Persistence - Be serious about your situation.
    2. Authenticity - Be true.
    3. Open-mindedness - Think respect to others mind too.
    4. Empathy - Be a feeling to others as a human being.
    5. Clarity - clear to the subject.
    6. Listening - listen to others too.

  • @ActualizedOrg
    @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +165

    If you liked this video, I recommend you watch these related videos too:
    1) Fear Of Public Speaking - The One Key To Overcoming It Forever
    2) How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now

  • @stevebrule6172
    @stevebrule6172 8 років тому +850

    I am being assertive in writing this comment and I will receive the most likes because I am clearly communicating what I want.

    • @simeonheath-moss7023
      @simeonheath-moss7023 8 років тому +14

      +Steve Brule you didn't actually say what you want, did you want to post that comment or do you want likes?

    • @simeonheath-moss7023
      @simeonheath-moss7023 8 років тому +11

      now take that assertiveness and some legal tender and say that to a person who sells them and you're all set

    • @red2blackprofits
      @red2blackprofits 8 років тому +7

      +Steve Brule Assertiveness should not be confused with aggresiveness.
      Aggressive behavior comes from "I'm OK and You are Not OK." This puts the aggressive person in a mode of control and maniulation. Assertive behavior comes from "I'm OK and You are OK." This person isn't coming from "I will get the most Likes because...." Thye are getting what they want by giving others what they want in return.

    • @PalesaDimane
      @PalesaDimane 7 років тому

      Steve Brule 😂😂😂😂

    • @siddharthasingh6564
      @siddharthasingh6564 6 років тому

      how about NO!!

  • @gingershock
    @gingershock 9 років тому +366

    1- Assertiveness
    2- Authenticity
    3- Open mindedness
    4- Empathy
    5- Clarity
    6- Listening

    • @jonkun6180
      @jonkun6180 9 років тому +1

      snt

    • @lolbeco
      @lolbeco 8 років тому +5

      +ginger shock thanks for writhing it out english not my 1st language and i missed some words thanks again :)

    • @gingershock
      @gingershock 8 років тому +5

      All good. Hi from New Zealand :)

    • @ShortFingeredShreder
      @ShortFingeredShreder 8 років тому +6

      +ginger shock Thanks for the quiz answers.

    • @warmaxxx
      @warmaxxx 8 років тому +5

      +ginger shock thanks saved me 20minutes

  • @R93m
    @R93m 10 років тому +129

    I have an immense amount of communication problems . I have always been the quiet person and very self preserved because I never had a lot of friends and was never open about my feelings and I've gotten used to it and comfortable with it . Now I'm at a point in my life where I need to speak to people to gain friendships and relationships and enjoy meeting new people and follow my dreams. Sometimes I would communicate with a friend and wouldn't text or call in days or even weeks . Not because I don't want to, sometimes because I don't feel I'm interesting enough or have anything to add to conversations to make it fun and then I lose interest. I seem to judge my personality a lot as well when it comes to people while i try to hang out and I'm so tired of it. I just want to be free and confident :/

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +32

      I had similar problems. I have a lot of videos posted that will help you with that:
      - How To Overcome Shyness - Transform Yourself Into An Extrovert
      - Introvert vs Extrovert - A Deep Understanding Of Introverts And Extroverts
      - How To Make Friends - 4 Sticking-Points That Limit Your Ability To Make Friends
      - How To Be More Confident - A Step-by-Step Process for Becoming Truly Confident
      - How To Be Yourself - Become Your Authentic Self Right Now
      ...and more. Search through all my videos.

    • @AsifKhan-ec9ck
      @AsifKhan-ec9ck 7 років тому +2

      universal love it's been 3 years how are you now?

    • @charmaineborgia5695
      @charmaineborgia5695 6 років тому +4

      I am the same way and have been all my life. Very introverted. I am tired of fading into the back round, and not being heard.I want more friends. I want to be confident and feel that I have an opinion, and to speak up for myself. This is amazing info. Just what I need. We have to try to come out and know that we matter. Build our confidence and believe in ourselves. Change our charter.
      Wishing you much happiness.

    • @glutachi_6621
      @glutachi_6621 6 років тому +1

      Same, I’m working on changing it.

    • @barbararushing3382
      @barbararushing3382 6 років тому +1

      I never been shy but it has been hard for me to make friends with other. So this really help me a lot

  • @ActualizedOrg
    @ActualizedOrg  9 років тому +30

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    • @gabagambi
      @gabagambi 8 років тому +1

      +Actualized.org Thanks for the video. it was really helpfull

    • @joshuamendoza3029
      @joshuamendoza3029 8 років тому +1

      hey leo can you make a video on effective people skills or having great people skills I know you have lots of material can you make one specifically on this topic people skills? I know your knowledge can help....

    • @aseelalburno8225
      @aseelalburno8225 8 років тому

      +Actualized.org thanks leo for the effort u make.... god bless u....

    • @richiemalingo
      @richiemalingo 8 років тому

      +Actualized.org Thank you very much. Your videos are really helping

    • @mahamudtarey7837
      @mahamudtarey7837 8 років тому

      +Actualized.org Dr. Leo many thanks for this wonderful courses. through this i start to critically look at myself and already identified areas where i need to work on improving

  • @elihueliot
    @elihueliot 6 років тому +3

    1. Assertiveness
    • A lot of people communicate things but they don't get what they want because they are not assertive
    ○ You can't let other people impose their agenda on you, you have to be confident in your delivery.
    ○ You have to be insistent & persistent
    § Meakness only holds you back
    2. Authenticity
    • You have to be true to yourslef, unlike most people who hold back.
    ○ You have to be clear about your own values you have to know what your boundaries are.
    ○ You have to have to courage to go after what you want.
    ○ In some situations holding back is fine but NOT in the long run because of the inauthenticity.
    ○ He/she is ultimately unfulfilled.
    3. Open-mindedness
    • You have to be willing to consider other perspectives and and alternative scenarios and ideas.
    ○ Let's not judge and crtisize lest we build a wall impeding communication.
    ○ If your always closed people will NOT want to comincate with you.
    § People like to communicate with people who listen.
    ○ If you are closed you will stunt your growth as a human bean
    4. Empathy
    • One must see the pain of others (mirror neurons), we need to experience the emotions of others as if we're in that situation.
    ○ People want to feel heard. Empathy creates a common ground.
    ○ Creates cooperative dynamic.
    ○ If you do NOT have empathy towards others you create a gulf of separation.
    5. Clarity
    • Communication is not what you meant to say but it's what the other person received.
    ○ A lot of times what we say is heard errounously by others.
    ○ Clarity is NOT ambiguous, abstract, inaccurate, or "losey goesy"
    ○ If people are misperceiveing what you say it might not be their fault but yours.
    6. Listening
    • Communication is a two way street, one must fulfill their own part for successful communication.
    • You have to be active!
    ○ Ask questions, respond with "oh", "why", "ah"

  • @dalal5466
    @dalal5466 9 років тому +100

    Our professor showed us this video in January. She was so excited you replied to her email and allowed her to show this to us. I was so happy to see this because I had already watched some of your other videos prior. You're inspiring and brilliant! Thank you :)

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  9 років тому +34

      Sweet! :D Yeah, I remember an email like that.

    • @jonkun6180
      @jonkun6180 9 років тому

      kol by your doctor wjbo

    • @warmaxxx
      @warmaxxx 8 років тому

      +Dalal w 7alawa

    • @niborro4862
      @niborro4862 7 років тому

      What ММеn RЕAАLLY Want => twitter.com/faebb20bda23b7596/status/804693412402241537 Communiсation Skills Тhе 6 ККKКеyуууs Оf Роwеrful Cоmmuniсаaаation

    • @maycodes
      @maycodes 6 місяців тому

      My prof showed this without consent

  • @nikolc1270
    @nikolc1270 Рік тому +1

    Yes i like all your points.
    1.Assertive
    2. Authencity
    3. Open mindness
    4. Empathy
    5. Clarity
    6. Listening .
    It's a catch 22 situation when your gut feeling is different that of the other. Here open mindness has to be dealt with caution.
    Sometimes emotions are not important to the situation and one needs a tough stand when other insist on soft stand harming the matter.
    Situations in life are unpredictable.

  • @alianaliang8690
    @alianaliang8690 8 років тому +33

    Your talks are so deep that I have to think about it for so long to absorb. I love them though. You have a great mind, you see everything so clearly wish I had known you earlier

  • @vernasmith5443
    @vernasmith5443 6 років тому +4

    Leo, I cant tell you how much you have helped me to better myself. I love your honesty. I am a great fan of yours.

  • @joilsongomes5
    @joilsongomes5 4 роки тому +1

    In my journey to learn game I came face to face with this wall called communication. My lack of everything made my journey 10 times harder, every time something different happens and I have to fix something. Well nobody said it would be easy I think that's what makes it worth doing. Thanks for the great video!!!!

  • @youandmevegan
    @youandmevegan 6 років тому

    Oh my GOD, this was so eye-opening! I never realised I was a very bad communicator. I believe I'm incredibly authentic, which means that I will say whatever I think without paying attention to how I articulate myself. Then I get upset when people have their own interpretations. Luckily I'm a good listener, but I was always stubborn when people commented on how my words come across (sometimes pretty rude and arrogant, even though that's not how I feel). Now I understand that I can change my vocabulary and adapt it to my interlocutor without giving up my authenticity. Even better now, my communication will be truly authentic because I get my point across, mostly without distorting it.

  • @TheMindsJournal
    @TheMindsJournal 5 років тому

    What Kind of Communicator You Are? Visual Personality Test
    There is a whole spectrum of kinds of communicators that are their based on personality traits. Get to know what type you are. See the Video below
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  • @shanicew7165
    @shanicew7165 7 років тому

    I struggle with communication issues on a daily basis. As an aspiring politician I need to be more assertive and clearer when i am speaking. This video is very helpful.

  • @OlricTrivierManth
    @OlricTrivierManth 9 років тому +16

    thanks for your help you can't imagine how this helps me

  • @connorfrankston4040
    @connorfrankston4040 6 років тому +1

    Wow Leo, I really had a misunderstanding about communication that you brought up at the end of the video. I tacitly supposed that being an effective communicator would come naturally with time and attention, but I now realize that effective communication is a learned skill that requires work and practice. Thank you.

  • @robbiebernquimbo5893
    @robbiebernquimbo5893 9 років тому +7

    my hypothetical methodology for acquiring good communication skills.. the 2 pillars of good communication skills:
    1.EXPLICITY -authenticity (understanding first what you are trying to say) -assertiveness (he sound/tone of your voice) -precision (choice of words and timing) -acknowledgement (showing that you understand/understood) 2. ACCEPTING/RECIEVING -cognizance (considering the possibilies of ideas) -affection (how to properly react emotionally)

  • @catharinepizzarello4784
    @catharinepizzarello4784 3 роки тому +4

    Listening to the other person is the most important

  • @52648teedee
    @52648teedee 9 років тому +28

    I wish I could communicate in words exactly what I think of your logic, and your brilliant mind (without sounding like a groupie). Literally all of your (many) videos I've seen really do seem to be "the truth". Thanks always for sharing.

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  9 років тому +13

      Thanks, but actually none of my videos are the Truth. They are just handy models. Never mistake models for reality.

    • @allthings_family
      @allthings_family 9 років тому +1

      Actualized.org So why use models rather than reality?? I am sort of confused.

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  9 років тому +23

      Nickisha Williams You can't use reality. As soon as you try to use it, it becomes a model. You can only be it.

    • @allthings_family
      @allthings_family 9 років тому +2

      Actualized.org that is so TRUE!!!!!! Thank you for clearing that up. And keep doing the good works. Cheers

  • @jaison3905
    @jaison3905 4 роки тому

    I would have never thought that being polite could be considered being inauthentic. Makes sense. Thank you for posting.

  • @ecubeinstitute5479
    @ecubeinstitute5479 9 років тому

    6 techniques very nice way explained, my weakness was assertiveness, I was not assert because i was not authentic, i need to improve on that and i will practice now. i want to become a good communicator, i love you dear for this video.

  • @dawnraquel6929
    @dawnraquel6929 6 років тому

    Thank you for your video..I've been having a lot of struggles communicating and your words have made things a little more clearer for me..and I noticed that my two biggest struggles with communication is listening and showing empathy that the people in my life deserve.. your video was extremely helpful and I thank you from everyone who finds themselves struggling..

  • @librarychannelify
    @librarychannelify 10 років тому

    I'm usually told to adopt the ideas of other individuals like you say people shouldn't criticize people this is something a lot of people around me need to learn.

  • @martindegn3777
    @martindegn3777 10 років тому +2

    I really like the part of being authentic for yourself. I practice that a lot. I sadly experience reactions like people get quiet or feel offended instead of just talk authentic instead.

  • @christianjones9205
    @christianjones9205 8 років тому

    I am thankful I came aross this! I have been struggling in communicating with my wife in one area. After listening to this, I learned I lack effective communication in a few areas. Now that I know better I will do better.

  • @shannonantheapagaduan9491
    @shannonantheapagaduan9491 9 років тому

    As a Communication student, this is a really big help to me on improving how I communicate with others. I am a talkative person but sometimes, I am just good in talking and not communicating. I always say what is on my mind and I don't open my mind to other's opinions sometimes.
    I will do my best to change these and try to follow your advise.
    Thank you :)

  • @BigTimeRoamer
    @BigTimeRoamer 4 роки тому

    I was always told that I was and still am a good listener, so many times that I've even started to consider that maybe that was the reason I couldn't hold together any friendships or relationships, but now I'm starting to see that maybe I was used for this ability of mine just until the other person has managed to get their life in order so they wouldn't need me anymore. Now instead of hating my ability to listen, I'm starting to think that I have to work on the other aspects of my personality. Thank you for this video.

  • @faizansarwar6231
    @faizansarwar6231 7 років тому

    Leo. I would like to add 7th point to your talk its really important.That is what ever you are saying should not be only words with some specific dry gestures but full emotional connection with what you want to say from head to toe...Your facial expressions your shoulder movement and involvement of your whole body to express it.

  • @marlonfrancis48
    @marlonfrancis48 7 років тому

    HI my name is Kyla and i've been having problems with my dad and you really help me with being better with communicating to him

  • @GoldFumed
    @GoldFumed 10 років тому +7

    This, as well as every video of yours I've seen so far, has made me finally really want to take action on improving myself and others around me. I've been depressed for my entire life, but have had points of complete confidence and self-efficacy and you are helping me to get back to the person I enjoyed being. It is very easy to thing of the negative things, which often manifest in more obvious ways, but remembering your strengths is something I had/have a hard time doing on my own. Thank you, Leo! Without people like you out there there would be many more "wanderers", your work is highly appreciated and helps people more than some may be willing to admit! :) Thanks again, my friend. I'll keep continuing to improve myself, with your help, as long as you keep doing what you do!

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +6

      Thanks! :) Start taking baby steps and be consistent. You'll get there.

    • @YodlerGaming
      @YodlerGaming 6 років тому +1

      3 years later have you improved?

  • @mrsruthiecastro6484
    @mrsruthiecastro6484 7 років тому

    I just did must of this today! I was feeling really good about my authenticity in this Business meeting today. I was strong, I did listen and then told them to go ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,! So I din't do so bad.

  • @007Anukul
    @007Anukul 9 років тому

    I lack clarity. Thoughts are a mess in my my head and the same I project. Also, When I write (taking time), I am often clear but real time communication doesn't go smooth always. Big work on it is needed. Great video !

  • @larakonyk4782
    @larakonyk4782 8 років тому +33

    I'm working on assertiveness and clarity

  • @JewelRaw
    @JewelRaw 8 років тому

    I am so grateful I stumbled across Leo's lectures in a time in my life when I needed it the most. The tutorials "why he cheated " impacted me in ways that where really hard to swallow, but I have a better understanding on the different dynamics that are at play. I love my life coach.
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  • @stevenfarrington5700
    @stevenfarrington5700 8 років тому

    What's incredible is the correlation of good emotions and eicosanoids and its effects on the immune system and inflammation

  • @craigbusic917
    @craigbusic917 7 років тому

    This is a perfect introductory video for my Health classes as we enter the unit on healthy communication! I teach at a school for kids with various learning differences in Portland, OR. I'm so happy to have found this video! Thank you!

  • @noobletnels364
    @noobletnels364 6 років тому

    I really enjoyed this video. I am deaf and I wear hearing aids. I want to improve my communication skills. This definitely is what I need to work on!

  • @ada7896
    @ada7896 9 років тому

    I think the biggest key to good listening is listing and trying to understand to what the other person is saying, WITHOUT thinking in your head about what you're going to say next. It's the hardest thing to do.

  • @lea8046
    @lea8046 8 років тому

    my biggest problem is lack of emapthy or at least not showing it enough.. it leads me into conflicts and other uncomfortable situations. Thank you for your advices, very consize and helpful.

  • @aldrich123ful
    @aldrich123ful 9 років тому +4

    Hi leo, great video and well articulated points towards improving communication skills. I can relate to what your saying here more than anyone else. I have struggled with my communication all my life because of a chronic stutter and felt that this was actually ruining my chances in life. However I'm making improvements everyday and working on it constantly. keep up the good work!!

  • @sanjaysingh-xe4rn
    @sanjaysingh-xe4rn 8 років тому

    methods suggested to improve communication skills in simple language are really good... I am going to adopt them in all sincerity!

  • @arshane75
    @arshane75 7 років тому

    you changed my life .I understand what are you doing and that's a one hell out of a thing that you are doing you are really affecting human lives

  • @hilal2001
    @hilal2001 7 років тому

    6 ways of powerful communication
    1- assertiveness ( التأكيد / الإصرار / التشديد)
    Be assertive, be true
    2- authenticity ( الصدق / الحق / الموثوقية )
    Be honest to yourself , don't hold back
    3- open mindness ( انفتاح الذهن )
    Willing to consider other perspectives , ideas and point of views
    4- empathy ( التعاطف / التقمص الوجداني )
    Understand where others are coming from , understand ones emotions , create common grounds
    5- clarity (الوضوح )
    Be clear , think of how others receive your message
    6- listening (الإنصات )
    Ask questions , need to hear back
    Lacking any of the above would affect your communication.

  • @ashishuniyal5890
    @ashishuniyal5890 8 років тому

    Really loved this video.... Because mostly it's difficult for me to say no and now some people around me are taking advantage of that and also most of the time i end up in disastrous situations.

  • @JessicaQuinter
    @JessicaQuinter 8 років тому

    I used your video to learn and teach a group about communication. I really liked how you broke down the six keys of good communication. It was a good group discussion opener. I feel the group all learned something about their own communication skills. I know I definitely learned I need to work on my own communication skills. Thanks for the video. I will look out for more in the future.

  • @TheMay4u
    @TheMay4u 9 років тому +2

    Thank you Leo - Your VDO can really help me come through this hard time.

  • @annamoore3129
    @annamoore3129 8 років тому

    This video has been amazing for me and my family. Have just realised that communication theis problem area for all of us. I am now going to work out which skills we each need to work on. Thank you so much, might get back and let you know how we've done.

  • @lovekillslowly88
    @lovekillslowly88 8 років тому

    man I just came across your channel and I'm sure you get this constantly but you speak to my soul did a quick run through on the titles of you're videos and I'm not sure I have enough time in the world it's all things I've always wanted help with and never knew how to ask never had anyone willing to dedicate the time to explain it to me I've been keeping myself in very intense situations relationships and friendships not because I'm stupid just because I didn't know videos like this existed absolutely phenomenal human!!!!!😄😄😄😄😄

  • @Giu851
    @Giu851 4 роки тому

    I really recommend to watch NVC (nonviolent communication) workshop if you are really interested to improve your communication with others and above all with yourself

  • @padiemusic
    @padiemusic 5 років тому +2

    When i saw the thumbnail I understood that this is a master of effective communication

  • @PS-xb9hc
    @PS-xb9hc 4 роки тому +2

    Assertiveness, empathy, openness, so true!

  • @user-ok7nw3hd4k
    @user-ok7nw3hd4k 9 років тому +2

    Very generous of you to share such valuable information, you are truly giving a lot of folks hope again who may have lost their way. You are doing such a great service for others by sharing this valuable information. I have spent thousands of dollars on seminars that weren't nearly as impactful. I like your sincerity here very much.

  • @realnowheregirl
    @realnowheregirl 8 років тому +1

    I love how you communicate. Thank you for the straight talk.

  • @jonah2962
    @jonah2962 7 років тому +1

    I've always seen and heard people using "CLARITY" in their communications and i have always been fascinated and wondered what that is and how they do it. Well thanks to you Leo, now i know. I'll work on that and incorporate it in my communication skills from now on. Thanks one again.

  • @ericjenkins9358
    @ericjenkins9358 8 років тому

    You make so much since I swear you have open my eyes about a lot of stuff man your a good out going person. People kills to hear stuff like this but if other people hating on your videos they have no clue what they are miss because they are just jealous because you know more than them man have a great I'm glad see you doing this your like an love doctor man great job.!!!!!

  • @TheAvataroo
    @TheAvataroo 8 років тому

    Wow, this sounds sort of like an analysis of what Marshall Rosenberg teaches people how to do in his videos. This video is just more analytically descriptive and shorter. 10/10 for this one!

  • @briandcare1
    @briandcare1 9 років тому +1

    Thanks for sharing and helping with care. I can see you have done your homework. So far I can truly say I feel better than I did, in part, from listening to your craft at being a coach of sorts. Folks may know a lot of answers, but delivery is crucial in order to have clarity. Nice job Leo. I believe I understand your way of communication. In fact I also feel like you make it very simple to understand your point. Double thanks!!

  • @curiouscommunicator7117
    @curiouscommunicator7117 5 років тому +1

    You explained the points about assertiveness really well. Thanks for the great points.

  • @Bilal.I
    @Bilal.I 2 роки тому

    rly helpful tips. I rly lacking in authenticity. I always hold back to not offend the other person, but it seems I need get rid of it and be more honest about me to the other person Im talking. Thank you!

  • @JayJayRealhiphop
    @JayJayRealhiphop 4 роки тому +2

    Dracula is at it again. Love this!

  • @elizabethd.2398
    @elizabethd.2398 7 років тому

    Leo, I get a kick out of your facial expressions - they make me chuckle. I've just begun watching your videos and are enjoying them. Thanks.

  • @ohmychachingness7313
    @ohmychachingness7313 5 років тому

    I have bad communication skills. I enjoyed this video. Thank you for your time!

  • @pedromarquez114
    @pedromarquez114 9 років тому +1

    Thanks for sharing your knowledge man. This really helped me not only in verbal communication, but also in my relationships with people. Again thanks a lot man, God bless you.

  • @Mimi-cd2jk
    @Mimi-cd2jk 7 років тому +1

    Leo ,
    Thank you for your advice on communication skill.But,can you make a video on how to deal with people at work and family who boss someone around,using these skills and and avoiding conflict..I love watching your videos and keep coming to your site.

  • @camilamacherie1218
    @camilamacherie1218 2 роки тому

    Thank you! Me and my partner had to take a break to really work on this and we are learning and working on it so that once we come back communication will be very good!

  • @mirelladlima5278
    @mirelladlima5278 3 роки тому

    Very useful content. Most of the problems in day to day life stems from not being able to communicate effectively and assertively and positively. Tks 🙏

  • @salhimehdi515
    @salhimehdi515 7 років тому

    In addition to what you have said about empathy, I think that it can help a lot understanding the other; understanding the reason behind what the other is doing or saying.

  • @aseelalburno8225
    @aseelalburno8225 8 років тому

    authenticity and clarity are my goals now to work on !!

  • @martinluzcruz
    @martinluzcruz 6 років тому +8

    Notes:
    Communication Skills - The 6 Keys Of Powerful Communication
    3:18
    1. Assertiveness
    - That means you can't be a doormat, meek
    - Be insistent and persistent until you get what you want
    5:44
    2. Authenticity
    - Being true to yourself (versus being polite)
    - People can see right through your inauthenticity
    * Being inauthentic, that person is ultimately unfulfilled with him/herself
    7:30
    3. Open mindedness
    - You're willing to consider other perspectives
    * You're not willing to consider other perspectives = Other people will not want to communicate with you
    * You're stuck in your own place. It's going to limit your growth as a human being. Ultimately, you're hurting yourself by doing that.
    9:39
    4. Empathy
    ~ We have "mirror neurons": They allow us to experience the emotions that we would have experienced if we were in that situation
    - The other person wants to feel heard and understood
    * If you have no empathy for the other person, and you don't understand their emotions, you can't relate to their emotions, they will sense that off of you.
    - Empathy is going to get you a very long way in your communication skills especially in intimate relationships
    12:46
    5. Clarity
    - Getting your intention in line with what the other person actually perceives
    * Not loosey goosey, and nebulous, and too abstract
    14:35
    6. Listening
    - People want to feel like they're being listened to
    * They don't want to just be talked at
    - You also have to let the other person know that you're listening to them and they were heard. Being an active listener -- nodding your head, umhm, asking questions. Those are very critical.

  • @brandonlarussa9840
    @brandonlarussa9840 4 роки тому +1

    Thank you, Leo. I notice that I need to work on all of these areas in my life.

  • @kimonowitheyes3825
    @kimonowitheyes3825 10 років тому

    This vid feels so relevant to me right now because I'm managing a team of taciturn young men and given some recent experiences I'm choosing to focus on clarity and listening. When communicating to men, does keeping the message simple work better or is that me being sexist!.....once again, because of your guidance, my world has shifted in a good way....thanks Leo

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +3

      Men are generally more logical than women, so they can handle complexity just fine. Leading people is more than just communicating. A good leader motivates and inspires with appeal to emotions and higher vision.

    • @kimonowitheyes3825
      @kimonowitheyes3825 10 років тому

      Actualized.org Thanks for responding .......yep, communication is just one aspect of my journey, I'm slowly growing though.

  • @claudiomagalhaes1248
    @claudiomagalhaes1248 3 роки тому

    Well, lemme work on my communication here, for i feel anxious just to write this haha
    Leo, I`ve been following you for a while, and I just want to say that, as I grow more and more spiritually, I admire you more and more! You are an amazing guy, and your knowledge and understanding are out of this world!
    You helped me a lot through my awakening process, and you are still doing it!
    You are one of my safe heavens, whenever I feel lost in my mind!
    Thank you very much for spreading free content around! Your videos always seems to find me when I need them the most!

  • @andym0rand02
    @andym0rand02 6 років тому

    Assertiveness - Authenticity - Open Mindedness - Empathy - Clarity - Listening

  • @augustusself8119
    @augustusself8119 8 років тому

    Authenticity is a huge one, because people can sense it really quick if you have a hidden agenda or not.

  • @kevgh3869
    @kevgh3869 9 років тому +6

    I'm glad you have a 1/4 a million views on average a video... you deserve it!

  • @blank_earth
    @blank_earth 2 роки тому

    I feel like everything in this video seems like I’m fairly fine with. Although there is someone in my life that talks too much and thinks that I have to improve my communication. When perhaps that individual’s communication may just be one way

  • @jenmccurrey332
    @jenmccurrey332 10 років тому

    Leo, I just want to say that I love all of your videos. Thank you so much for posting them. They are very helpful!

  • @the9file
    @the9file 6 років тому +2

    The Seventh Key: Always make the face Leo's making in the thumbnail.

  • @ahmedmahrous330
    @ahmedmahrous330 6 років тому

    Thank you soooo much I discovered that i have a lake of open mindedness and because of ur video i will work on that right now 🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @mollyfox9305
    @mollyfox9305 8 років тому +1

    This was excellent! Thank you so much! My professor used your video for our class- so glad!

  • @alexandria3736
    @alexandria3736 3 роки тому

    Before watching I know I’m assertive I cut out those filler or trying not to be mean apologizes or pleading / thanking too much / I think... but I want to come off more positive and clear/ effectively setting up sentences . Working at a job answering phone calls I recently feel like I’m mastering this bc tone is important when you’re being efficient or else it sounds like you want to quickly end the phone call, of course both sides want it done quick clear and concise

  • @LikeCarvingACake
    @LikeCarvingACake 9 років тому +1

    Your content is so free of bs and fluff, it's so pure. Thanks for all your hard work man!

  • @Hashemechad
    @Hashemechad 6 років тому

    Thanks for this essential topic; may be you can relate to situations i've often struggled with which happen when you find yourself in a work place or a social group where the culture is destructive & everybody is worried about their place in it. Politics is endlessly practiced & nobody is genuine.

  • @tyronetakawira8605
    @tyronetakawira8605 7 років тому +2

    You deserve a bigger stage. Thanks!

  • @talkingtostrangerskitocits6020
    @talkingtostrangerskitocits6020 5 років тому +1

    Thank you, assertiveness and clarity is definitely something to work on when you are growing a business, a child, yourself or anything at all. Thanks!

  • @The1morningstar
    @The1morningstar 6 років тому

    Excellent video. Now i can see with clarity all of my communication flaws. I will be working hard because is an area i see i really need to improve. Thank you

  • @jencal540
    @jencal540 10 років тому

    As you were saying in the video ,that we should have open mindedness that we should view the other side of the persons perspective. The problem with me is that I view the other persons point and how they are and what they believe in. And they can be their own unique self when talking ,but my fault is that when i talk to them, i want them to accept me so bad that I take their aspects and I meld that to mine. So that I am becoming everything that I am not. And I don't know how to prevent that! 😱 Where I can go into a new friendship and just express myself!!

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +1

      Cause you care too much what other people think of you. You're needing them to validate yourself self-image. This usually happens because of past negative experiences that have scarred your self-image. You need to go to work on that in order to release it and become free. I'll shoot a video on how to not care about what people think of you soon. I actually shot this video already several times but the footage was damaged in my Death Valley trip.

  • @LessThanThreeLeo
    @LessThanThreeLeo 10 років тому +12

    Your lack of verbal ticks, umm's and err's for example is amazing. How did you improve this?

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +16

      Go back and look at my earlier videos. I had TONS of umm's and err's. You improve by practicing a lot. I've shot over 70 hours of video at least.

    • @GoldFumed
      @GoldFumed 10 років тому

      Actualized.org I was wondering this as well, and figured it was practice, but that is definitely something, even as an articulate and intelligent person, that is very hard to do. Mad props! :) I have a learning disability where it takes me a second to find the right words (once I find them it's usually what I mean to say) but I find the umms and errs are hard to avoid (for me) without seeming like I forgot what I was talking about, or am becoming un-engaged in the conversation. Another thing to work on! :)

    • @ActualizedOrg
      @ActualizedOrg  10 років тому +3

      GoldFumed All of that is easily fixed with lots of practice. If you speak a lot in front of people, you can't help but get good. Join Toastmasters, it's a very powerful way to build up experience quickly and without risk.

  • @kapriceehale6232
    @kapriceehale6232 9 років тому +1

    Thanks for helping me with my communication skills. I learned a lot.

  • @workinman2342
    @workinman2342 9 років тому

    Great video. It's amazing what impact communication has on your life, dealing with business, work, relationships, and happiness. Something I try to work on daily in my life. A lot of people need to work on there communication skills. The 6 points of communication you talk about are all important. I enjoy your videos and admire your ways of thinking

  • @sharinxx
    @sharinxx 9 років тому

    loved your talk and i will watch the rest Leo thank you its so much easier to learn when you can watch and listen to someone.

  • @ecstaticdancehamburg
    @ecstaticdancehamburg 5 років тому +1

    Hey Leo, your videos are again and again very inspiring and helpful to me! Big thanks for your work and helping people to become better versions of themselves!

  • @jimmygoode9482
    @jimmygoode9482 9 років тому

    You're single handedly changing my life. Thank you Leo!

  • @slondon7348
    @slondon7348 6 років тому

    oh what would i do without the help from these videos, thank you so much your a genius!

  • @reminiscencehomecare5099
    @reminiscencehomecare5099 8 років тому +4

    Hello Leo,
    The skill I need to work on is Assertiveness. Can you give some examples of "how to be more assertive"?

  • @busessuck1
    @busessuck1 9 років тому +175

    I think that he's an alien who has been studying human behaviour for years and is now explaining his findings to us... probably because his home planet couldn't care less about this shit

    • @marioyang3359
      @marioyang3359 8 років тому +13

      Made my day

    • @carlasoulthomasable
      @carlasoulthomasable 8 років тому +1

      loooool

    • @zan700
      @zan700 8 років тому +7

      +busessuck1 I sort of envy you, being that stupid can be a great privilege these days.

    • @tonilivingston8054
      @tonilivingston8054 8 років тому +6

      Wow ignorance is bliss.... You are not even close to his level... I hope your intelligence increases for you.... Or you can stay mediocre.
      If you seen his videos you will know that this comment doesn't faze him and he will just write you off.. Good luck troll

    • @GoNewEnglandPats1
      @GoNewEnglandPats1 8 років тому +1

      Laughed out loud. Thank you :)

  • @abbasqtaa
    @abbasqtaa 4 роки тому

    1. Assertiveness
    2. Authenticity
    3. Clarity

  • @anthonyhurtado7358
    @anthonyhurtado7358 9 років тому

    Leo, you know your shit, i am so glad i accidentally ran into your videos. you are awesome to listen to. you dont hesitate on any subject you talk about. its like you know me or people's well.

  • @LinuxJedi
    @LinuxJedi 9 років тому

    updates every week? lol..... i have to study your vids over and over and jot down tons of notes every single day then i have to refine some of those notes because a lot of times it clutters my mind and makes things more complicated so right now im just basically training my brain everyday at least for 3 hours just watching a various number of your vids if i waited once a week to do that i'd fall off track in like 3 days lol so i have to keep myself busy at all times 25/8 or my brain just wants to automatically be lazy and go back to my old ways so im constantly fighting my own psychology and each day my will power gets stronger and stronger i've already lost 15 pounds just by following all your advanced psychology personal development tips and all that crazy good stuff keeps me motivated and productive throughout the day and then some!! love your channel Leo thank you so much for the opportunities to CREATE AN EXTRAORDINARY LIFE!! ^_^