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Thank you SO MUCH for all the love and encouragement, I appreciate it so so much. I am proud of you for your healing journey, the best is yet to come 💫 Your comments always make my heart smile! Thank you always! :))) 🤍💫

🥹🥹 You just made my whole day!! Thank you SO much! That means a lot to me

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This makes me so extremely happy!! 🥹 Being able to help another in this way is exactly what I wished for. Thank you so much for all the love and encouragement :) 💌

Thank you so so much, that is so kind of you to say, you just made my day!! 💫🤍🤍

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@@childofthelivinggod9347 Thank you so much 🥹 that makes me so happy!! Yes I am ☺️❤️

@@susanaamaralsilva que querida 😊 eu sabia pelo nome! ☺️

That is very true, it is our responsability to heal and once we do we are able to manage these situations in a better light. We are vulnerable because that same vulnerability is rooted in a strong sense of self and self-esteem, which will bounce back if used against us but it is always hard to manage relationships. What is most important is the relationship that you have with yourself :) and that you always validate and honour what you feel and are able to be there for yourself :) 💌

​@@susanaamaralsilva Agreed and what you said in this video, we are afraid of rejection because deep down we are afraid that image of someone's judgment is true ( whether it's false or genuine feedback from others) Thank you for clarifying this process and reminder to not shame myself. I can allow myself to try, stumble and get back up.

@@pinchebruha405 You’re not alone!! 💖💖

Don't need to apologise!!!! Feel free to share how you feel :))) ❤💞

:))) I am so happy you are here!! 🥰✨✨

James I am so so sorry you are going through so much. The most important thing now is for you to validate what you feel, those feelings, the pain... journal if it helps!!! Write it all down, talk to someone who understands this (a safe space, coaching, etc.),... you are worthy of soooo much!!! I promise things will get better 💟💫 If you were guided to find this video is also because you are destined to heal and thrive!!! I believe in you 😁😁🥰

Thank youu 🥹🥹❤ love u 💌

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Thank you so much! 🥹 I appreciate you

I was waiting for your comment!!!! 🤣😁💌 Thank you so much 🥹 I was so excited for you to see the new background!! 🤣 Your words are of great value to me. Thank you so so much!!! Completely, I spent months accepting and releasing that anger + resentment. It takes time but it definitely gets better. You can do this. About the old videos, I have been watching this youtuber who helps small youtubers and I realised those videos (that I thought were so good) really weren't🤣🤣💀 Yes I like that idea of re-making them or at least taking some essential key ideas/quotes for my next video!!! Also I will make small changes on my background because I feel that repeating this one all the time would get pretty boring??

@@susanaamaralsilva I don't know what that UA-camr told you but this feels like you're throwing the baby out with the bathwater. A few imperfections and sticking points here and there shouldn't be reason to remove videos altogether. It's true, people like a good and well-presented channel. But more important is that the content be fresh, real and powerful, and that's what those videos were. Substance is ultimately more important than looks and presentation. No one is going to be perfect when they first get started on UA-cam (or in any other endeavor for that matter), and the audience knows this. The kind of people who find you aren't looking for perfection; they aren't looking for a video which has been tailored for the algorithm; they just want someone who's real and relatable, who says the things which matter. In any case, as time goes on, you may find yourself looking for something new to talk about. Consider re-releasing or re-doing those old videos. The very first videos are often the most powerful ones, because the subject, the thoughts and the emotions were fresh in your mind. No matter what you decide, thank you for all your efforts. This channel has been such an immense blessing in my life. I wish more people had found you instead of the rubbish-heap of mediocrity out there. It breaks my heart that they find the likes of Wizard Liz before they find you. I think of the time and energy I would have saved if only I had found the right mentors at the right time.

@@shox007 🥹🥹🥹 Thank you so so much for your never ending support!! I appreciate you so much! 💌 You are a blessing for this channel too 🤗

Thank you so so much 🥹🥹 You are the best 🤍💖

Thank you so much for the never ending support Mitchell 🥲 I appreciate it so much. Hope everything is going great!! 💫🙏

ahahaha this youtuber that I've been watching who basically helps failing youtubers was like ''you have to make your videos longer'' and I was like I CAN DO THAT 🤣🤣

@@susanaamaralsilva ur way successful

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This makes me truly happy. Thank you so much for your kind words and support, I appreciate you 🌟✨

😭😭 You just MADE MY DAY!!! Thank you so so much, I appreciate you 🤍

Hi! I like the short version for shorts, I actually think it works really well!! Some work better than others and that's okay!

@@Ryanmuniverse This makes me so happy 🥲 I am so honoured that I could help and I am sorry you have to struggle with this. I promise you that the best is yet to come 💫 You are beyond worthy!!

Yes!! This is totally valid and as common as what I described! We sometimes relate differently to what happens to us and end up developing different trauma responses and different attachment styles. What you feel is completely valid and you are not alone. I would suggest by starting to do research on the Fearful and Dismissive Avoidant attachment style and you will find many youtubers and content creators who have healed those same wounds and feelings and they speak amazingly from experience and I am sure you will feel very seen and heard. I wish that for you 💌

@@dylanlawrenceholland3295 You absolutely will 🤍

omg you just made my day 😭😭 Thank you so much 🤍 And yes you will feel worthy! You already are ☺❤

Thank you for saying this, I appreciate you so much 🤍 Thank you for being kind to me 🤍 I have thought about all this, especially the background, only recently I bought a ring light, so now I feel that I can film in other places without worrying about the light or whatever. Honestly, I don't think it's about that. It's more about my limiting beliefs, how I have been keeping myself small due to fear of shining, it's like a self-sabotaging energy. I could be wrong tho, but I will take into consideration what you said and think about a different background but I don't live in an asthetic house and I don't like a white background so I don't know!!! 😅 I have to seriously think about it. I just really don't know!! ahah but thank you so much again, thank you for making me feel confident and wanting me to win and giving me so much support and motivation. You are beautiful 🤍

​@@susanaamaralsilva He/she means well. You would get a lot more clicks and attention if you spruced up the video presentation a bit. Better thumbnails, better background, etc. People respond to these little details, and so does the UA-cam algorithm. I myself have been struggling with limiting beliefs and self-sabotage for most of my life. But I've recently come to an objective and unemotional understanding of the sheer value of my own thoughts, ideas, gifts and skills. Realizing my own value, I also realized that I need to be more forceful and assertive in order to be able to out-compete the many crooks, charlatans and mediocre fools out there who are very good at making themselves heard, whilst wholly lacking knowledge, substance and character. It is not fair to the world that the best among us should self-suppress out of fear or humility, whilst the worst characters shamelessly promote themselves. It disrupts the balance of nature. Society becomes a noisy forum full of liars, grifters and half-baked morons, whilst those whose voices most need to be heard shy away from the scene. Who will society turn to in a time of crisis? It needs people who genuinely know what they're talking about. People such as yourself. And such people need to make their voices heard, whatever it takes.

@@shox007 This made me tear up a bit 🥲 No amount of thanks could ever be enough 💌 I know they do!!! Absolutely and I agree with everything!!!! It is really a bit of insecurity around making videos... damn I don't know, it's very vulnerable, sometimes I feel cringe and I start to feel insecure... it's 100% a thought problem. Because in order to be famous/go viral, etc. you have to think that people really love you, people admire you and love your content and while I have you amazing people telling me this, I feel that my anxiety is still trying to protect me because of my past experiences, all those times when I was so wounded and insecure and received so much bullying everywhere I would go. It seems hard to believe now but it happened (I also received a lot of love but you know how it works)... It's a wavering issue, some days I feel confident and other days I am asking myself why didn't I use my grades to become a doctor or work in a bank, who knows, something that gives direct approval you know? It is silly I know but it's hard and I have been really trying my best. I have been working on these issues on the backstage and my goal is to reach a point where I no longer struggle with wavering (because last year for a period of time I could do it and some videos started to get a lot of views but then you know) but regardless you have no idea how much I've grown in confidence for creating this channel + keeping on doing this!!!! I promise next videos I will try different backgrounds and you let me know if it works... if I should change something... feel free to give me feedback like this, I really appreciate it. It helps me a lot. About the thumbnails... I know... I feel a bit cringe when I try too hard 😅 but if you look at the wizard liz for example (I don't know if you know who she is but I noticed she has so many followers) she does not try, nor with her thumbnails... and still works you know. I believe it's a energy/mindset problem but I promise I will try and change the background!! But everything is already so much work!!!!!!!!!! ahhhhhhhh I get it now why people have a filmig room 😅

@@susanaamaralsilva Just keep at it. The beginning of the journey will entail a lot of "wavering." An analogy: Imagine that someone has drugged you with a powerful sedative, and that you're only just waking up, and picking yourself up, quivering as you walk. But you've broken free of the slumber, and are on your way to full waking consciousness. Likewise, it will take some time for the habits and conditioning from the old life to wear off, and for new habits to take their place. The way to break down the old habits and tendencies, and to solidify the new habits, is to keep persisting towards the new habits. This is how I see my own journey. I am breaking free of the old conditioning by family, friends and society, and slowly re-conditioning myself into new thoughts and habits. During this journey, there will be lots of downtime, wasted time, regressions into old habits, detours into dead-ends. But it's important to just keep persisting, and to become more efficient, skillful and determined as time goes on. The "drug" of the past will wear off slowly. It will be a slow and gradual metamorphosis into a new self. Regarding thumbnails and backgrounds, there's no need to do everything at once. You can keep your existing format for thumbnails, background etc, yet have a To-Do list for the future in which you can include changing the format. You can brainstorm in the meantime about what kind of thumbnail you're most comfortable with; something respectable, not cringe, yet also enticing. I had a look at the "Wizard Liz" channel. The comical lip-botox, the nose-job and plastic surgery were instant turn-offs for me. I didn't even want to hear what she had to say, but I nevertheless managed to get through half a video before reaching my threshold of pain. Amazingly, one video is entitled "How to never feel embarrassed again." In my eyes, she is nothing but an embarrassment to womankind. It hurts my eyes just to look at a face so fake that it could be mistaken for a caricature. It hurts my head to listen to her banal and narcissistic proselytizing. She of all people needs to learn when and why to feel embarrassed. (Sorry if you like her. I don't mean any disrespect.) But I see what you mean about how she puts no effort into thumbnails whatsoever, yet this doesn't seem to lessen her popularity. Honestly, I don't know why she's popular. UA-cam has a way of promoting random and mediocre people into the spotlight, and in this way encouraging other people to be mediocre. Please don't become like her. Don't pursue success using titles like _"How to make someone obsessed with you."_ (Wizard Liz's words not mine.) You are more feminine, more respectable and dignified, have better education and breeding, have modesty and restraint, are more genuine, and are averse to shameless exhibitionism. These are good traits to have, though they need to be compensated for with a little more assertiveness and forcefulness.

​@@shox007 ''But it's important to just keep persisting, and to become more efficient, skillful and determined as time goes on'' you describe it PERFECTLY! I have thought about this before, you really should create a youtube channel or write something!! You have so much insight and awareness and you always speak amazingly. I would love to retribute the support too :)))))) because you have no idea how much this really keeps me going. Now I feel a renewed motivation to keep going and to not give up. It's like having to re-father myself and instead of feeling self-pity, motivating myself to get up, keep going and have strength and believe more in myself. I lack that a bit and I have to remember that. I feel that if one day I actually make it, it will be thanks to you too and I will never forget that. ''there's no need to do everything at once'' yes THANK YOU 🤣 I was already feeling anxious 😅 I will start by incorporating the background changes (I already sppoted some fake plants in the house 🤣🤣) Oh but about the Wizard Liz don't say that!!! I feel bad for her 😅😅 I don't know, I do think she is genuinely trying to help others and that she is a good person yet for some reason I don't really resonate, I never really got the hype (if that makes sense). I actually tried a title like her (because I had a friend telling me to watch her channel because she has so much success I could learn something or try something new) and I don't know if you noticed it but I tried the title ''How to stop feeling embarrassed of your anger'' or something like that and I changed it a few hours latter 🤣🤣 because I was like naaa I am not feeling this but you know that having cosmetic surgery comes from feelings of unworthiness and it usually means that people are in a lot of pain (sometimes they are not even aware of this). Believe me in the past I was just like that.. And then what happens is that we create this ''false masculine shield'' that screams ''no one is going to hurt me again!!'' but in reality people are going to hurt you again because it's not real power based on a healthy sense of self-esteem and love, you know? But I was there once too so maybe her content keeps some girls going and that is important. Regardless, thank you for being here. I will never ever forget your support 🙏 Thank you

Yes exactly, so many different things had and have an impact, so many scars and generational traumas to heal. But all of this information is getting fastly spread. I hope everyone who needs to heal gets the opportunity to 😊 thank you💌

Yesss!!! Because every relationship that we have is always a reflection/a mirror of the relationship that we have with ourselves. Heal the main one and you naturally heal all others, I promise. But even better then having good relationships with others, the really good part of healing is how good we get to feel about ourselves, no matter the circumstances. Not in an ego way, you just feel worthy regardless of how others react to you and naturally, they will react very good, you will see 😅But don't feel ashamed!!! It only means that you are struggling, it means that you are in pain. Be kind to yourself and most importantly - show up for your healing, invest in yourself, consistently. Everything will change 🤍

Exactly!!! I love this 🤍🤍

🥹 🥹 this makes me so happy!! I love u Chelsea!! Thank you so much 🤍