So I've recently been coming to terms with being aromantic, and this song genuinely helps express so much of how I've struggled with my identity lately. So like, thanks. for helping me find myself.
Whenever I hear this, I think of cupioromantic. It's when you want a romantic relationship, but you don't experience any romantic attraction. Love this song so much
As an aroace person who has many, many crisis's about his identity - this song is hella relatable. Thank you, it's a wonderful song, and I know I'm going to revisit it (I've put it in one of my favourite OC's playlists) again and again!
To everyone who still dont understand this feeling and dont accepet themselves, dont give up, its okay not feel love, its okay not want a relationship, its okay being different, you not broken, you deserve respect. (Sorry my bad english, not my first language but i tried)
Last year I had two panic attacks trying to force myself to feel romantic like for a friend who had recently confessed to me that they liked me. I lost that friend over that confession and me not feeling the same way, so I tried so hard to feel differently. The whole experience made me realize I wasn't just Asexual but also Aromantic, and I'm still struggling to come to terms with it. This song is really relatable.
I had a similar thing happen, but I realized that having a panic attack over someone liking you, wasn't something I liked, and that I would never reciprocate to anyone, in the way that they meant it.
this song made everything click. i thought i had a crush and i wanted to confess to him. because i wanted to experience something new. (or just something i didn't understand or can really feel looking back at it.) i was so nervous waiting for him at the station. my heart was pounding! then when he was standing in front of me i felt nothing. for the rest of the day we where just talking and i thought it was strange that i didn't feel anything looking at him. later when i got home i realized that i have never felt something when we were talking. just when i was feeling lonely daydreaming. i felt confused and frustrated so i started searching for aromantic playlist to maybe find something?? and then this song started playing and it all just made sense. i can only like someone when they aren't standing in front of me. i only like romantic in theory. a weight has been lifted of me! i have been suspecting that i might be aromantic before. But i thought since i had "crushes" i couldn't be, i couldn't say it with confidence. its hard to tell difference between two things when i only know one of them. i just feel so happy! i can finally say i am aromantic with confidence!! :) thank you for making this song!!!
@@panicattheabbey oh wow this brings me back! doesn't really feel like it was only a year ago i wrote this comment. i don't really consider myself aromatic any more but I'm glad past me gave you something to relate to! i think past me was feeling so stressed about not feeling much romantic feelings at all in my life. that i just rushed into any possibility to feel something, or anything! i wasn't chasing this guy. i was just chasing a feeling i didn't understand. but i wanted so badly know what it was like! thank you for commenting on this so i could open this little time capsule of my feelings from a different time :D
This song brings me back to high school when I was so unconfident in my identity that I would date anyone who had any interest in me. I often mistook the nervous feeling of know someone had a crush on me, as me having a crush on them. Even if I never had any interest in the person before hand. It didn't help that every time I was confessed to, another person would tell me about this person's crush. So I would self doubt myself into saying yes. Great times.
Now I know what song I can listen to when I'm having existential crises about my romantic orientation, thank you for that x). It's seriously a really great song. I love the instru. Thanks for putting the chords. I'll try to play it on the guitar when I can.
im aroace. ive known this for 2 years, i only came to terms with being asexual last year and i came to ‘terms’ i was aromantic this year, a few months ago. im still not comfortable with it at all. my entire life ive been a hopeless romantic but now im literally hopeless. ive never felt romantic attraction ever, and i doubt that i ever will. this song makes me feel safe yet so, so sad. its exactly how i feel, right down to the instrumental. openly, im proud to be aromantic, and im truly proud to be asexual, but ive never hated something more. i dont want to be this way. i wish i wasnt aromantic. i want to love. let me fucking love.
I'll be honest. I used to hear this song all this time when I had a crisis because of discovering that I was aroace. Anyways, this song made me start to understand that I was not the first person who felt this way and that I was not alone in this. Thank you, Maxwell Anthony
Wishing you the best, Randal. It's tough being aroace in a society that's the complete opposite. I've known about my aroaceness for some years, but I also have my crisis every now and then. 😅
For the longest time, I couldn't understand why people fell in love. It was never something I felt, even when I was younger. It wasn't until middle school that I had to think about dating, love, or even romances. I didn't understand it, so I just said I had crushes on random people. I didn't realize "love" had a feeling till I was in high school. I don't care about love; I understand that most people do, but it doesn't concern me that I can't; in fact, I'd rather not love than fall in love. I listened to this song a lot as a freshman since that was exactly how I felt in high school, but as I grew older, I just accepted the reality that love wasn't going to be something I felt, at least not in the same ways. Nonetheless, I enjoy this song. I'm a senior this year, and I've learned to accept my aro side. Idk man I’m just weird😌
There's been a couple of times that I believed that I liked someone but in truth I was just bored in life or wanted to ne better friends. I've never felt desire to be in a relationship with any of thees so called "crushes". This song is very comforting
I relate to the comments so much, as well the song. As a kid I placed all my happiness on having a romantic relationship, so it was hard for me to realize I'm aromantic. It still is.
Yea... I remember people when I was in like 5th grade would talk about their crush's, a friend asked me who I had a crush on... I didn't have anyone... But they said "well you have too" and I answered with someone random, I didn't have feelings for them at all... And that same friend went through a break up, I tried to be sad about it but I just didnt understand why it was bad to break up, people I thought I liked I truly just wanted to be better friends with, but this society had made such a big deal about romance that I feel like I have to feel these feeling, I don't, I guess I should've realized I was aromantic when I told myself "I would only date someone I had a lot in common with" and I also just never understood romance... Your amazing man, remember that, your absolutely amazing
“im in love but only with a thought” really describes my love life right now. i keep trying to fall in love with people but i just can’t. i tell myself i like someone but i really just like them as a friend. it sucks
I don't understand much English, but I just have to thank you for bringing representation to the Aroace and trans community! His voice and aesthetics were beautiful beautiful. 💚🖤💜
I remember a time I thought I had a “crush” on this person (one of my friends). Sure, I enjoyed hanging out with them, but when I thought about dating them or anything else other than hanging out, I got a feeling of discomfort. I used to tell my other friend that I had a crush on them to *prove* myself that I can like people in *that* way because that was when I started to want people to stop asking if I had a crush etc. when my friend revealed they used to have a crush on me I said “I also used to have a crush on you too!” And straight after wards they decided we were better off as friends. This decision didn’t make me feel disappointed or anything. It made me feel…relieved. Looking back on this memory that made me question myself is still attached to me till this day in 2024. From recalling my other experiences, this was able to help my understanding on what I wanted and needed, and that was to accept that even though I will never feel that way for another person there are still other ways to love them that are completely valid. I just wished I was able to tell my younger self that so they didn’t have to feel pressured into forcing themself to go against their comfort zone.
I love this as an aro person, songs about how its ok to be aro/ace and to be proud of it are good and important, but lately i've been wanting to find songs about the pain and struggles of being so different. It's frustrating seeing 'aroace coded' songs by popular singers where it obviously wasn't the intention, so finding a song by an aroace person that isn't just positive is comforting in a weird way.
Thank you! Totally understand where you're coming from. I firmly believe in the principle that "joy shared is joy doubled, sorrow shared is sorrow halved"!
I cant tell you how much this song means to me. For so i long i demonized myself for being so abnormal, but its people like you who showed me its okay to just be who i am, and i couldnt be more proud of my orientation without the song you out out into the world. Thank you so much for allowing yourself to be vulnerable so we could understand ourselves. Truly, thank you.
As a Cupioromantic, I really relate to this song, and Ive probably listened to it over a million times already. It honestly has helped me cope with a lot of things, and Thanks for making the song :)
It's so hard for me to accept I'm aromantic.whenever i see someone that's good looking i always think I'm in love with them but when i sit down and ask myself would i actually kiss them i would always say no it's confusing really but i think I'm accepting I'm aromantic.
It's so hard so find a romantic songs, it's almost like people don't know anythything about aromantics🤷♂️ I mean at the same time, us aromantics know (somewhat) nothing about love so I guess it just returned the favor💀
I've been aromantic since 2021 and i always was kinda upset by the small representation we had, and hearing this music warms my little heart. Tysm for creating such a wholesome music
i found this song on spotify about 7 months ago and then this video just popped up in my recommended. i've listened to this song so many times and it's genuinely such a wonderful, heartrending piece of music. being a confused a-spec ... i'm really glad that this song exists.
I just found out I'm aromantic and I feel so incredibly happy to have a name for this feeling! It all makes sense, why I'm so happy to stay single, why relationships are such a bizarre concept to me and why I never fell in love and never wanted to. Thank you for this wonderful song :')
Thank you, thank you, thank you for making this. I was searching for an aromantic song but like EVERY song is somehow about love. This is so perfect, thank you
i have struggled a lot with being aromatic and being excepted. finding this made me feel heard and understood so thank you so much for this! this definitely made me feel more comfortable!
Wonderful song, thanks for making it. Songs about being aro are VERY rare. I’m the only aro I know irl and it can get lonely sometimes, but it’s nice to know there are other people who feel the same way
I found out I was aromantic about a month ago, and this song hits HARD. The funniest thing about being aromantic is when people are talking about crushes and they ask you who yours is, especially when they know your aro. I just go “really?” Until they remember
this song is so fucking amazing, the voice is just so perfect. the lyrics express how we feel about being aromantic, and god, we would cry to this song. you're an amazing person. thank you so much for making this, it means so much to us even if it's just a song. we've listened to it daily, and its just so perfect.
This is a very comfort song. And the video too. It can help a lot of people, I guess. At least me and those who wrote other comments. To feel like we are not alone. So thank you very much! This is extremely underrated.
Genuinely thank you so much for making this, I needed this today. Also I am a caffeine addicted aro as welll so... yeah. Anyway, def going to be listening to this a lot. 💚🖤
I remember the first time that one of my mutuals on tiktok posted this song, I went absolutely WILD because damn, it's SO RELATABLE. It's so accurate and just,,,,, wow. i love it.
I'm aroace, but I still struggle to understand and accept the aromantic aspect of my identity. This song describes it so well- I feel like next time someone doesn't understand what I mean when I say I'm aromantic, I will show them this, becuase it's way more accurate than any way I could describe it lol I've added this to my aroace playlist on spotify a while back, been listening to it a ton recently
This song is amazing I'm aroace and this song reminds me I'm not the only aromatic/asexaul they're are others like me and the lyrics and melody are both sooo great
I love being an aromantic because that means people know when I say 'i love you' it's completely platonic, and I'll never get heartbroken P.S. as an aromantic writer 0:20 hit hard
Lyrics I could write about love but i heard you should write what you know I could make a song about some faceless girl but i wouldn't come close To the fucked up feeling of being fucked up I'm not in love I'm not in love Ain't that fucked up I could write about love but my heart only responds to caffeine I wish i was as capable as i am when i'm writing, and i think I want the fucked up feeling of being fucked up I'm not in love I'm not in love Can't fall in love And my aromantic moodboard makes it cool to be alone A collection of bad poetry and photos on my phone And you're the closest body to me i think that i'm in love But only with a thought Oh, only with a thought I could write about love but i heard you should write what you know And i don't know I don't know And my aromantic moodboard makes it cool to be alone A collection of bad poetry and photos on my phone And you're the closest body to me i think that i'm in love But only with a thought Oh, only with a thought And my aromantic moodboard is the reason i'm alone I will lie a thousand times convincing people they're the one And the human condition is the way we fall in love But only with a thought Oh, only with a thought Paroles en français (traduction littérale) : Je pourrais écrire sur l'amour, mais j'ai entendu dire qu'on devrait écrire sur ce qu'on connaît Je pourrais faire une chanson sur une fille sans visage mais je ne m'en approcherais pas Au sentiment d'être foutu Je ne suis pas amoureux Je ne suis pas amoureux C'est pas foutu, ça ? Je pourrais écrire sur l'amour, mais mon cœur ne réagit qu'à la caféine J'aimerais être aussi capable que je le suis quand j'écris, et je pense Je veux avoir le sentiment d'être foutu Je ne suis pas amoureux Je ne suis pas amoureux Ne peux pas tomber amoureux Et ma tendance aromantique fait qu'il est cool d'être seul Un recueil de mauvais poèmes et de photos sur mon téléphone Et tu es le corps le plus proche de moi dont je pense que je suis amoureux Mais seulement avec une pensée Oh, seulement avec une pensée Je pourrais écrire sur l'amour, mais j'ai entendu dire qu'on devrait écrire sur ce qu'on connaît Et je ne sais pas Je ne sais pas Et ma tendance aromantique fait qu'il est cool d'être seul Une collection de mauvais poèmes et de photos sur mon téléphone Et tu es le corps le plus proche de moi dont je pense que je suis amoureux Mais seulement avec une pensée Oh, seulement avec une pensée Et ma tendance aromantique est la raison pour laquelle je suis seul Je mentirai mille fois pour convaincre les gens qu'ils sont les seuls Et la condition humaine est la façon dont nous tombons amoureux Mais seulement avec une pensée Oh, seulement avec une pensée
Have been listening to this song on loop for a few days now and I couldn't have found it at a better time. I've always known that I'm different from my mates, ever since 3rd grade: people kept bringing up love and crushes so I felt like I had to choose someone as well. Never felt anything for any of my "crushes" and never really wanted to either. Or at least that's what I thought. A few weeks ago I (again) started wondering whether I was in love with someone or not. Of course, I'm not, I'm aroace after all. I just keep confusing love with the need and want to be very close to somebody. Someone who craves physical affection just as much as me and who wouldn't be against living together with me but "just" as friends. I don't think I'll ever find anyone who would agree to such a thing since most people would like to live with their partners and not with a friend. Anyways this song helped me realize that I don't crave love but instead everything that comes with it. Most of the time I'm happy to be part of this community but other times I really feel like this song. Very rarely...I wish I could fall in love. Right now it's one of those times.
After being a hopeless with romance and never finding myself in love with my partners. I've discovered this year that I'm aromantic despite already being a mother from a relationship I tried to maintain because I wanted to be like everyone else.
i always keep coming back to this song, it perfectly describes how i feel ty for making this. the fact that you still take time to check comments on a 2 year old video is so sweet :]
I think I'm aromantic but the only thing I have as proof is that I have never had crushes and that I really wanna be comfortable with people in relationship but I can't have a relationship
"you're the closest body to me I think that I'm in love,but only with a thought" made something click in my head and maybe my heart lol. I've "dated" before but once the novelty wears out I feel it's not what i want anymore,I've tried acting the same even if that fake love was not even there anymore.. I felt so guilty cause I should.. love them,right? Why can't I love them? I thought it would be nice,I thought it would feel good but i just ended up feeling guilty because I couldn't love them the way they wanted,their way was so different from mine that I tried to adapt to that but I felt like I was losing myself when I acted like that. I tried again and again,with different people;thinking there was something wrong with me. I told myself I _should_ feel something cause those were the perfect circumstances,right? "It should be fine just try to love them,please try to feel something for them look at how happy they feel with you,you'll break their heart if you tell them" I felt so.. useless,guilty and broken,but I couldn't just keep faking it and lying to them... and everytime they questioned me and everytime I had no answer other than "I'm sorry I don't know what's wrong but.. I don't love you,I'm sorry.." they were angry,heartbroken,resentful.. but I couldn't do anything else besides feeling sorry and apologizing. I decided I shouldn't date anyone else even when I feel good in any fantasy with them. I like having friends and I value my friendships very much but after some time I get a confession and my heart breaks once more at the thought of losing yet another friend after a rejection,I know it's hard for the person that got rejected too so I can't really do anything other than respecting their decision of getting away from me.. but it hurts everytime
This is the first song i can really relate to. When i hear most songs i can never really relate to them but this time it's different :) Thank you so much
Hey! For whatever reason, I can't respond to your recent comment, but you can absolutely use this song for any of your non-commercial projects! Whether or not you post the finished project on YT, I'd love love love to have a copy of it to watch!! My email is MaxwellLizanich@gmail.com! Thanks for supporting my song 😁
I didn't know why, but I have always been scared of people actually falling in love with me, because I didn't want to be in a relationship and because I had no real "Crushes" like everyone else (I literally just have picked a person that looked handsome and this was my "crush". People were like: Romantic headcanons with kissing and more and I was literally just like: We'll just hang out together and have fun while reading and having a great friendship I guess?). One year ago I finally found the term of aromantic and asexual and now I literally understand all these things. But sometimes I still think that I probably will miss something in my life, but I just can't fall in love with someone.
I found out as aromantic recently. I'm positive, and I am in a relationship. And I love to write about romance. But I still aro and still being difficult to accept myself. Specially for being positive and for wish a romance
I’m aroace and I’ve never really had any problems with it. I’ve just never fell in love as kid and assumed the time would come. The moment I’ve heard about sex, I was absolutely revolted. How could anyone stand such a thing? I’m not even religious but no wonder it’s considered a sin. I’m trying to get out of that mindset but it’s hard. Anyways, my condolences to anyone struggling with identity, wherever you are, it’s okay!
holy shit why is this so relatable,, all my aromantic feelings in a nutshell!!! ty for making this :D I'm glad to know people feel the same as me cause I'm not good at expressing myself lol
OMG I FOUND THIS FROM AN ANIMATION ON TUMBLR AND I LUV THIS SONG!!! So fun 2 play on my guitar too :]!!!! As an aro person I get rlly excited 2 see aro stuff ^_^!!!
I love this song, it's seriously helping me right now cause all this romance is so confusing!! I know I'm ace, I've known this for almost a uear now, only recently I've found out i was aroace, i thought i had a crush on my best friend but I don't think I do. I asked my brother who's in a relationship what it feels like to have a crush and wnat to be in a relationship. I felt so weird cause i didn't understand how any of it worked, it was sort of like something in my brain just couldn't comprehend romantic relationships. I'm starting to think I just like the thought of being in one and it kind of sucks, we live in a society where romance is a huge thing and i love romance, I'd read a book if it had cute romance in it so i couldn't wait till i got in one, after I did it really just felt forced on my side (that's my fault) we broke up and i thought why i felt like i was aroace was because the relationship was going too fast for me but i think i just don't want it. Sorry for the rant, love this song tho.
Honestly I don't know what about this song makes me keep on coming back to it, but maybe it's just that I'm aroace and it has cool lyrics and rhythm to it. But no matter the reason, I love this song❤
bro this song is amazing!!1! theres very few songs explicitly about aro/aces, so hearing this made me feel so happy and seen. I just heard it in a tiktok and I spent like 10min googling the lyrics but I found it! I'm very happy the chords are pretty simple too, I'll probably try it out on my guitar and thank you so much for putting on spotify!!! I already added it to my playlist ahaha
ua-cam.com/video/fFtL2QvCKTo/v-deo.html it's the last tiktok in this, the person who posted the video is the creator of the tiktok :) and thanks for replying! keep up the amazing work, you're a really talented singer/songwriter
just found this and i love it so much aaahh i cant entirely relate as i can feel a little romantic attraction it’s just very limited but still! this is such a good song
I'll add this to my "Crying about my orientation at 10pm" playlist
I can feel you 💚😔
Fair
need the link rn lmao
Link??
Link friend?
So I've recently been coming to terms with being aromantic, and this song genuinely helps express so much of how I've struggled with my identity lately. So like, thanks. for helping me find myself.
I'm honored to hear that!! Congrats on finding yourself!!
Nice and I hope you’re happy
Whenever I hear this, I think of cupioromantic. It's when you want a romantic relationship, but you don't experience any romantic attraction.
Love this song so much
thank yourandom person for making me realize my sexuality :')
As an aroace person who has many, many crisis's about his identity - this song is hella relatable. Thank you, it's a wonderful song, and I know I'm going to revisit it (I've put it in one of my favourite OC's playlists) again and again!
That's so awesome to hear!! Thank you :D
aroace gang here! 🧡💛🤍🩵💙
To everyone who still dont understand this feeling and dont accepet themselves, dont give up, its okay not feel love, its okay not want a relationship, its okay being different, you not broken, you deserve respect. (Sorry my bad english, not my first language but i tried)
Dude, there are barely any grammatical errors in that comment. You type better English than like a third of the native English speakers I know.
the thing is..i do want a relationship. i want to be in love. but i can’t
@@jaybirdishhhhhh and that’s ok too!! Ur still valid :)
Last year I had two panic attacks trying to force myself to feel romantic like for a friend who had recently confessed to me that they liked me. I lost that friend over that confession and me not feeling the same way, so I tried so hard to feel differently. The whole experience made me realize I wasn't just Asexual but also Aromantic, and I'm still struggling to come to terms with it. This song is really relatable.
I had a similar thing happen, but I realized that having a panic attack over someone liking you, wasn't something I liked, and that I would never reciprocate to anyone, in the way that they meant it.
this song made everything click.
i thought i had a crush and i wanted to confess to him. because i wanted to experience something new. (or just something i didn't understand or can really feel looking back at it.)
i was so nervous waiting for him at the station. my heart was pounding! then when he was standing in front of me i felt nothing.
for the rest of the day we where just talking and i thought it was strange that i didn't feel anything looking at him.
later when i got home i realized that i have never felt something when we were talking. just when i was feeling lonely daydreaming. i felt confused and frustrated so i started searching for aromantic playlist to maybe find something?? and then this song started playing and it all just made sense. i can only like someone when they aren't standing in front of me. i only like romantic in theory. a weight has been lifted of me! i have been suspecting that i might be aromantic before. But i thought since i had "crushes" i couldn't be, i couldn't say it with confidence.
its hard to tell difference between two things when i only know one of them.
i just feel so happy! i can finally say i am aromantic with confidence!! :)
thank you for making this song!!!
Woah!! This is awesome. I'm so glad I could help you find a piece of yourself! ❤️❤️
@@panicattheabbey
oh wow this brings me back! doesn't really feel like it was only a year ago i wrote this comment.
i don't really consider myself aromatic any more but I'm glad past me gave you something to relate to!
i think past me was feeling so stressed about not feeling much romantic feelings at all in my life. that i just rushed into any possibility to feel something, or anything! i wasn't chasing this guy. i was just chasing a feeling i didn't understand. but i wanted so badly know what it was like!
thank you for commenting on this so i could open this little time capsule of my feelings from a different time :D
This song brings me back to high school when I was so unconfident in my identity that I would date anyone who had any interest in me. I often mistook the nervous feeling of know someone had a crush on me, as me having a crush on them. Even if I never had any interest in the person before hand. It didn't help that every time I was confessed to, another person would tell me about this person's crush. So I would self doubt myself into saying yes. Great times.
when i tell y’all this is my favorite song i mean it-
Omg 😭😭 thank you!
this is such a grat song,, I think you've created an aro anthem;;;
Or one of cavetown’s songs
I forgot which one
Possibly sweet tooth
@@CatDrinkingPoison yes I live fot that one too
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Now I know what song I can listen to when I'm having existential crises about my romantic orientation, thank you for that x). It's seriously a really great song. I love the instru. Thanks for putting the chords. I'll try to play it on the guitar when I can.
If you ever record a cover, please let me know!! I'd love to hear it :)
uhhhhhhhh I love this? Like, not only the lyrics but also the melody? Very beautiful? Thank you for blessing me with this song?
!!! Thank you!
im aroace. ive known this for 2 years, i only came to terms with being asexual last year and i came to ‘terms’ i was aromantic this year, a few months ago. im still not comfortable with it at all. my entire life ive been a hopeless romantic but now im literally hopeless. ive never felt romantic attraction ever, and i doubt that i ever will. this song makes me feel safe yet so, so sad. its exactly how i feel, right down to the instrumental. openly, im proud to be aromantic, and im truly proud to be asexual, but ive never hated something more. i dont want to be this way. i wish i wasnt aromantic. i want to love. let me fucking love.
anyways, thank you for this song. the only true love i may ever find is with this song
I'll be honest.
I used to hear this song all this time when I had a crisis because of discovering that I was aroace.
Anyways, this song made me start to understand that I was not the first person who felt this way and that I was not alone in this.
Thank you, Maxwell Anthony
Wishing you the best, Randal. It's tough being aroace in a society that's the complete opposite. I've known about my aroaceness for some years, but I also have my crisis every now and then. 😅
Wow. Never felt a song like this one. It puts the last 20 years into words. I always thought I am the only one who is "messed up" like that.
For the longest time, I couldn't understand why people fell in love. It was never something I felt, even when I was younger. It wasn't until middle school that I had to think about dating, love, or even romances. I didn't understand it, so I just said I had crushes on random people. I didn't realize "love" had a feeling till I was in high school. I don't care about love; I understand that most people do, but it doesn't concern me that I can't; in fact, I'd rather not love than fall in love. I listened to this song a lot as a freshman since that was exactly how I felt in high school, but as I grew older, I just accepted the reality that love wasn't going to be something I felt, at least not in the same ways. Nonetheless, I enjoy this song. I'm a senior this year, and I've learned to accept my aro side. Idk man I’m just weird😌
Omg as an Aroace, this song is so relatable. Wearing a cool aroace bracelet rn🥺
I want an aro bracelet so bad fr
There's been a couple of times that I believed that I liked someone but in truth I was just bored in life or wanted to ne better friends. I've never felt desire to be in a relationship with any of thees so called "crushes". This song is very comforting
I relate to the comments so much, as well the song. As a kid I placed all my happiness on having a romantic relationship, so it was hard for me to realize I'm aromantic. It still is.
Yea... I remember people when I was in like 5th grade would talk about their crush's, a friend asked me who I had a crush on... I didn't have anyone... But they said "well you have too" and I answered with someone random, I didn't have feelings for them at all... And that same friend went through a break up, I tried to be sad about it but I just didnt understand why it was bad to break up, people I thought I liked I truly just wanted to be better friends with, but this society had made such a big deal about romance that I feel like I have to feel these feeling, I don't, I guess I should've realized I was aromantic when I told myself "I would only date someone I had a lot in common with" and I also just never understood romance... Your amazing man, remember that, your absolutely amazing
2:13 "I will lie a thousand times convincing people they're the one" This is more relatable than I wish it would be...
“im in love but only with a thought” really describes my love life right now. i keep trying to fall in love with people but i just can’t. i tell myself i like someone but i really just like them as a friend. it sucks
I've finally found the right side of UA-cam. It's a lovely song, and it's great to finally hear a song that validates us aromantic people. Wonderful!
I don't understand much English, but I just have to thank you for bringing representation to the Aroace and trans community! His voice and aesthetics were beautiful beautiful. 💚🖤💜
Thank you so much!
I remember a time I thought I had a “crush” on this person (one of my friends). Sure, I enjoyed hanging out with them, but when I thought about dating them or anything else other than hanging out, I got a feeling of discomfort. I used to tell my other friend that I had a crush on them to *prove* myself that I can like people in *that* way because that was when I started to want people to stop asking if I had a crush etc. when my friend revealed they used to have a crush on me I said “I also used to have a crush on you too!” And straight after wards they decided we were better off as friends. This decision didn’t make me feel disappointed or anything. It made me feel…relieved. Looking back on this memory that made me question myself is still attached to me till this day in 2024. From recalling my other experiences, this was able to help my understanding on what I wanted and needed, and that was to accept that even though I will never feel that way for another person there are still other ways to love them that are completely valid. I just wished I was able to tell my younger self that so they didn’t have to feel pressured into forcing themself to go against their comfort zone.
I love this as an aro person, songs about how its ok to be aro/ace and to be proud of it are good and important, but lately i've been wanting to find songs about the pain and struggles of being so different. It's frustrating seeing 'aroace coded' songs by popular singers where it obviously wasn't the intention, so finding a song by an aroace person that isn't just positive is comforting in a weird way.
Thank you! Totally understand where you're coming from. I firmly believe in the principle that "joy shared is joy doubled, sorrow shared is sorrow halved"!
I wish there was more aromantic stuff out there. Nobody talks about it theres so little content around it.
Literally! I’ll search up aromantic on UA-cam and the first video to pop up would be about asxeuality. Like, seriously? Asexual ≠ Aromantic
I cant tell you how much this song means to me. For so i long i demonized myself for being so abnormal, but its people like you who showed me its okay to just be who i am, and i couldnt be more proud of my orientation without the song you out out into the world. Thank you so much for allowing yourself to be vulnerable so we could understand ourselves. Truly, thank you.
this is pretty awesome. also, in the bottom left corner, it says feb 14, which is valentines day, so thats a cool detail.
As a Cupioromantic, I really relate to this song, and Ive probably listened to it over a million times already. It honestly has helped me cope with a lot of things, and Thanks for making the song :)
LOVE THIS! An actual aromantic song!
It's so hard for me to accept I'm aromantic.whenever i see someone that's good looking i always think I'm in love with them but when i sit down and ask myself would i actually kiss them i would always say no it's confusing really but i think I'm accepting I'm aromantic.
It's so hard so find a romantic songs, it's almost like people don't know anythything about aromantics🤷♂️ I mean at the same time, us aromantics know (somewhat) nothing about love so I guess it just returned the favor💀
As I’m typing this I’m only half way through the song and it’s one of my favorites already
I've been aromantic since 2021 and i always was kinda upset by the small representation we had, and hearing this music warms my little heart. Tysm for creating such a wholesome music
This is too relatable to exist-
Valentine's Day, nice touch. This song rules!
Holy shit, I love it! You've officially created the new aro anthem
Thank you!!
@@MaxwellAnthony woah, you're still replying after a year? Wow, you deserve soo many more subscribers than this
@@alinagolovach7125 haha, believe it or not I don't get many comments, so every single one I get brightens up my day a lot!
@@MaxwellAnthony aww that's so lovely
Thank you algorithm!! Sending this to me on Feb 14th to distract me today 😭
i found this song on spotify about 7 months ago and then this video just popped up in my recommended. i've listened to this song so many times and it's genuinely such a wonderful, heartrending piece of music. being a confused a-spec ... i'm really glad that this song exists.
oh my gosh finally an aro/ace song i feel so seen
It hits different listening to this during valentine's day in 2024.
I just found out I'm aromantic and I feel so incredibly happy to have a name for this feeling!
It all makes sense, why I'm so happy to stay single, why relationships are such a bizarre concept to me and why I never fell in love and never wanted to.
Thank you for this wonderful song :')
I'm glad this was meaningful for you!! Congrats on learning a bit about yourself!
@@MaxwellAnthony Thank you so much, I really do feel less weird and alone now ^^ ❤
Thank you, thank you, thank you for making this. I was searching for an aromantic song but like EVERY song is somehow about love. This is so perfect, thank you
i have struggled a lot with being aromatic and being excepted. finding this made me feel heard and understood so thank you so much for this! this definitely made me feel more comfortable!
I'm so glad this made you feel comfortable with yourself!! Thank you for the kind words :D
Wonderful song, thanks for making it. Songs about being aro are VERY rare. I’m the only aro I know irl and it can get lonely sometimes, but it’s nice to know there are other people who feel the same way
i'm really glad you could connect to it! Also I definitely know the feel haha
I'm in love, but only with a thought.
So accurate.
I found out I was aromantic about a month ago, and this song hits HARD. The funniest thing about being aromantic is when people are talking about crushes and they ask you who yours is, especially when they know your aro. I just go “really?” Until they remember
Gonna blast this in the car for my parents and friends to hear as an easier way of coming out to them
This has officially became my favorite song
this song is so fucking amazing, the voice is just so perfect. the lyrics express how we feel about being aromantic, and god, we would cry to this song. you're an amazing person. thank you so much for making this, it means so much to us even if it's just a song. we've listened to it daily, and its just so perfect.
This is a very comfort song. And the video too. It can help a lot of people, I guess. At least me and those who wrote other comments. To feel like we are not alone. So thank you very much! This is extremely underrated.
I want to add this song to my aro-playlist on Spotify so badly?!! The lyrics resonate so much with me and the song in total is just amazing!
Thought this might interest you: open.spotify.com/track/1yYnsciETqJyZit30x7agr
Bro what’s ur Spotify ?? :))
Genuinely thank you so much for making this, I needed this today. Also I am a caffeine addicted aro as welll so... yeah. Anyway, def going to be listening to this a lot. 💚🖤
Thank you!! That means a lot :D
I remember the first time that one of my mutuals on tiktok posted this song, I went absolutely WILD because damn, it's SO RELATABLE. It's so accurate and just,,,,, wow. i love it.
I'm aroace, but I still struggle to understand and accept the aromantic aspect of my identity. This song describes it so well- I feel like next time someone doesn't understand what I mean when I say I'm aromantic, I will show them this, becuase it's way more accurate than any way I could describe it lol
I've added this to my aroace playlist on spotify a while back, been listening to it a ton recently
Thank you dude!!! I really appreciate your kind words :)
I've been coming back here for some time. This song means so much to me :,)
This song is amazing I'm aroace and this song reminds me I'm not the only aromatic/asexaul they're are others like me and the lyrics and melody are both sooo great
I love being an aromantic because that means people know when I say 'i love you' it's completely platonic, and I'll never get heartbroken
P.S. as an aromantic writer 0:20 hit hard
cant stop coming back to this song
I discovered i was aroace at the very beginning of the year and this song just really was able to put my emotions into words so thank you
@@Healing_Cookies thank you for listening!!! 💙💙
Lyrics
I could write about love but i heard you should write what you know
I could make a song about some faceless girl but i wouldn't come close
To the fucked up feeling of being fucked up
I'm not in love
I'm not in love
Ain't that fucked up
I could write about love but my heart only responds to caffeine
I wish i was as capable as i am when i'm writing, and i think
I want the fucked up feeling of being fucked up
I'm not in love
I'm not in love
Can't fall in love
And my aromantic moodboard makes it cool to be alone
A collection of bad poetry and photos on my phone
And you're the closest body to me i think that i'm in love
But only with a thought
Oh, only with a thought
I could write about love but i heard you should write what you know
And i don't know
I don't know
And my aromantic moodboard makes it cool to be alone
A collection of bad poetry and photos on my phone
And you're the closest body to me i think that i'm in love
But only with a thought
Oh, only with a thought
And my aromantic moodboard is the reason i'm alone
I will lie a thousand times convincing people they're the one
And the human condition is the way we fall in love
But only with a thought
Oh, only with a thought
Paroles en français (traduction littérale) :
Je pourrais écrire sur l'amour, mais j'ai entendu dire qu'on devrait écrire sur ce qu'on connaît
Je pourrais faire une chanson sur une fille sans visage mais je ne m'en approcherais pas
Au sentiment d'être foutu
Je ne suis pas amoureux
Je ne suis pas amoureux
C'est pas foutu, ça ?
Je pourrais écrire sur l'amour, mais mon cœur ne réagit qu'à la caféine
J'aimerais être aussi capable que je le suis quand j'écris, et je pense
Je veux avoir le sentiment d'être foutu
Je ne suis pas amoureux
Je ne suis pas amoureux
Ne peux pas tomber amoureux
Et ma tendance aromantique fait qu'il est cool d'être seul
Un recueil de mauvais poèmes et de photos sur mon téléphone
Et tu es le corps le plus proche de moi dont je pense que je suis amoureux
Mais seulement avec une pensée
Oh, seulement avec une pensée
Je pourrais écrire sur l'amour, mais j'ai entendu dire qu'on devrait écrire sur ce qu'on connaît
Et je ne sais pas
Je ne sais pas
Et ma tendance aromantique fait qu'il est cool d'être seul
Une collection de mauvais poèmes et de photos sur mon téléphone
Et tu es le corps le plus proche de moi dont je pense que je suis amoureux
Mais seulement avec une pensée
Oh, seulement avec une pensée
Et ma tendance aromantique est la raison pour laquelle je suis seul
Je mentirai mille fois pour convaincre les gens qu'ils sont les seuls
Et la condition humaine est la façon dont nous tombons amoureux
Mais seulement avec une pensée
Oh, seulement avec une pensée
I'm so glad this made it too my recommended. Finally a song about being aro
Glad you liked it!
Have been listening to this song on loop for a few days now and I couldn't have found it at a better time. I've always known that I'm different from my mates, ever since 3rd grade: people kept bringing up love and crushes so I felt like I had to choose someone as well. Never felt anything for any of my "crushes" and never really wanted to either. Or at least that's what I thought.
A few weeks ago I (again) started wondering whether I was in love with someone or not. Of course, I'm not, I'm aroace after all. I just keep confusing love with the need and want to be very close to somebody. Someone who craves physical affection just as much as me and who wouldn't be against living together with me but "just" as friends. I don't think I'll ever find anyone who would agree to such a thing since most people would like to live with their partners and not with a friend.
Anyways this song helped me realize that I don't crave love but instead everything that comes with it. Most of the time I'm happy to be part of this community but other times I really feel like this song. Very rarely...I wish I could fall in love. Right now it's one of those times.
After being a hopeless with romance and never finding myself in love with my partners. I've discovered this year that I'm aromantic despite already being a mother from a relationship I tried to maintain because I wanted to be like everyone else.
i always keep coming back to this song, it perfectly describes how i feel ty for making this. the fact that you still take time to check comments on a 2 year old video is so sweet :]
The fact that people are still commenting on a 2 yr old video is the amazing part! Thank you sm!!
@@MaxwellAnthony just shows how well it aged :]
I think I'm aromantic but the only thing I have as proof is that I have never had crushes and that I really wanna be comfortable with people in relationship but I can't have a relationship
"you're the closest body to me
I think that I'm in love,but only with a thought" made something click in my head and maybe my heart lol.
I've "dated" before but once the novelty wears out I feel it's not what i want anymore,I've tried acting the same even if that fake love was not even there anymore.. I felt so guilty cause I should.. love them,right? Why can't I love them? I thought it would be nice,I thought it would feel good but i just ended up feeling guilty because I couldn't love them the way they wanted,their way was so different from mine that I tried to adapt to that but I felt like I was losing myself when I acted like that. I tried again and again,with different people;thinking there was something wrong with me. I told myself I _should_ feel something cause those were the perfect circumstances,right? "It should be fine just try to love them,please try to feel something for them look at how happy they feel with you,you'll break their heart if you tell them"
I felt so.. useless,guilty and broken,but I couldn't just keep faking it and lying to them... and everytime they questioned me and everytime I had no answer other than "I'm sorry I don't know what's wrong but.. I don't love you,I'm sorry.." they were angry,heartbroken,resentful.. but I couldn't do anything else besides feeling sorry and apologizing.
I decided I shouldn't date anyone else even when I feel good in any fantasy with them. I like having friends and I value my friendships very much but after some time I get a confession and my heart breaks once more at the thought of losing yet another friend after a rejection,I know it's hard for the person that got rejected too so I can't really do anything other than respecting their decision of getting away from me.. but it hurts everytime
never knew i could relate to a song this much. this is beautiful, thank you for existing.
thank YOU for existing!
can i be your manager when you're famous
You'd run me into the damn ground Kari.
YOU ARE SO TALENTED!!!!!! THIS IS SO AMAZING!!!!! 💚💚💚
I love this song so much. It express everything so well, it's so important identify with things like this y'know? Just thank you so much.
This is the first song i can really relate to. When i hear most songs i can never really relate to them but this time it's different :)
Thank you so much
That means so much
this is so relatable and nice oh my
Hey! For whatever reason, I can't respond to your recent comment, but you can absolutely use this song for any of your non-commercial projects! Whether or not you post the finished project on YT, I'd love love love to have a copy of it to watch!! My email is MaxwellLizanich@gmail.com! Thanks for supporting my song 😁
@@MaxwellAnthony Awesome! Thanks a lot, I'll keep you posted :)
I didn't know why, but I have always been scared of people actually falling in love with me, because I didn't want to be in a relationship and because I had no real "Crushes" like everyone else (I literally just have picked a person that looked handsome and this was my "crush". People were like: Romantic headcanons with kissing and more and I was literally just like: We'll just hang out together and have fun while reading and having a great friendship I guess?). One year ago I finally found the term of aromantic and asexual and now I literally understand all these things. But sometimes I still think that I probably will miss something in my life, but I just can't fall in love with someone.
New favorite song?
I found out as aromantic recently. I'm positive, and I am in a relationship. And I love to write about romance.
But I still aro and still being difficult to accept myself. Specially for being positive and for wish a romance
My aro friend sent this song to me and I. may have cried. Thank you.
I'm glad it meant so much to you!! 😭
I have never related to a song more. And as a writer myself it's also a big mood. Thank you, it's amazing! 💚
I very much appreciate the representation, thank you so much! :D
i lowkey have an obsession with this song, ITS SO GOOD
Thank you 😭😭
you have a nice singing voice!
thank you!
I’m aroace and I’ve never really had any problems with it. I’ve just never fell in love as kid and assumed the time would come. The moment I’ve heard about sex, I was absolutely revolted. How could anyone stand such a thing? I’m not even religious but no wonder it’s considered a sin. I’m trying to get out of that mindset but it’s hard. Anyways, my condolences to anyone struggling with identity, wherever you are, it’s okay!
This is an aromantic song I really resonate with. It explains it extremely well, thank you.
holy shit why is this so relatable,, all my aromantic feelings in a nutshell!!! ty for making this :D I'm glad to know people feel the same as me cause I'm not good at expressing myself lol
I'm glad you related to it!!
OMG I FOUND THIS FROM AN ANIMATION ON TUMBLR AND I LUV THIS SONG!!! So fun 2 play on my guitar too :]!!!! As an aro person I get rlly excited 2 see aro stuff ^_^!!!
Hell yeah!! Thank u!
I realised I was aromantic whilst someone was in love with me. Was so hard to tell them I could never return their feelings
I still have the fucked up feeling of being fucked up and I don’t even fall in love with people.
THIS IS SO GOOD I LOVE U SM !!!!!!!!! LITERAL ICON !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i love u so much nicky morrison ,,,,
i love this so much!! Extremely well written, catchy, a lovely sound and voice, and the video is a very nice visual! ♥
Thank You!!!!
why is this so underrated
this song is perfect i love it
I love this song, it's seriously helping me right now cause all this romance is so confusing!! I know I'm ace, I've known this for almost a uear now, only recently I've found out i was aroace, i thought i had a crush on my best friend but I don't think I do. I asked my brother who's in a relationship what it feels like to have a crush and wnat to be in a relationship. I felt so weird cause i didn't understand how any of it worked, it was sort of like something in my brain just couldn't comprehend romantic relationships. I'm starting to think I just like the thought of being in one and it kind of sucks, we live in a society where romance is a huge thing and i love romance, I'd read a book if it had cute romance in it so i couldn't wait till i got in one, after I did it really just felt forced on my side (that's my fault) we broke up and i thought why i felt like i was aroace was because the relationship was going too fast for me but i think i just don't want it. Sorry for the rant, love this song tho.
Ok, I’m in love with this song ( come to Brazil lol)
I'm glad you like it ❤️❤️
Uma brasileira por aqui? aaa 🤧💚
Whoaaa! This is an epic song!
I'm glad you like it!!!!
This is extremely underrated and that sucks because this is so good. I'm going to listen to this about a thousand times again. I can already tell.
Thank you!
My brother had this playing, I’m aromantic so I loved it
got to saaaay i rlly like this song. still listening to it now
Honestly I don't know what about this song makes me keep on coming back to it, but maybe it's just that I'm aroace and it has cool lyrics and rhythm to it. But no matter the reason, I love this song❤
bro this song is amazing!!1! theres very few songs explicitly about aro/aces, so hearing this made me feel so happy and seen. I just heard it in a tiktok and I spent like 10min googling the lyrics but I found it! I'm very happy the chords are pretty simple too, I'll probably try it out on my guitar
and thank you so much for putting on spotify!!! I already added it to my playlist ahaha
So glad you dig it!!!!
If you have a link to the Tik Tok, I'd be totally psyched to see it 😬😬
ua-cam.com/video/fFtL2QvCKTo/v-deo.html it's the last tiktok in this, the person who posted the video is the creator of the tiktok :) and thanks for replying! keep up the amazing work, you're a really talented singer/songwriter
@@clementhyme awesome, thank you so much, my friend :D
of course!
just found this and i love it so much aaahh i cant entirely relate as i can feel a little romantic attraction it’s just very limited but still! this is such a good song