Omg. Comment of the century! Is it just me or does that make the quote about 600x more appropriate to the situation?! Bravo! Bravooooo!!!! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻 Ps: to clarify I’m not saying I personally believe they don’t or didn’t deserve it, I’m saying that due to the clash between H&M and the rest of the family they might feel undeserving or the rest of the family might see them as undeserving.
@@TheBehavioralArtsOMG you’ve made my day replying to me. I respect your opinion so much and always look forward to your insights. I am also a huge HP nerd 🥰 and even though I’ll be the first to admit I don’t fully understand all the drama with the Royals and the Harkles, that amendment just seemed appropriate.
I'm from Germany and I grew up knowing about the royal family, Harry and William were always in the papers and magazines, it's ridiculous that Meghan claims that because she's American she didn't know much about the royal family. Nevermind the fact that she lived in Canada for quite some time, too.
Oh she's lying her butt off! She has old friends from her youth that have said she was obsessed with Diana, and had multiple books about her. They've also said she had a huge crush on Prince William, which is believable bc every teeny bopper magazine had poster inserts of Prince William (I'm American and I had them on my walls!). There's photos of her with her favorite magazines that have Prince William and Kate on the cover. She even wrote a blog about their royal wedding. So she's completely full of it saying she didn't know anything about them and blamed being an American on it. She went out of her way to put herself in England, in the same club that Princess Eugene, Marcus Anderson and others that knew Harry well and she pulled off getting that blind date with him. But beforehand she hired a PR firm to make her Prince Harry's dream girl and reinvented herself into that person. She even went on a humanitarian mission to Africa, in the same place Diana and Harry had went multiple times before with children just like them and even wore the same outfits and had the same poses for the photos as Diana. Which helped her secure the blind date. On the blind date she wore Diana's favorite perfume so subconsciously Harry would smell it and be reminded of his beloved mother. She's beyond calculated and can never admit the truth bc she would be showing her true sociopathic self. She played the part of the shy, innocent, dreamy eyed fiance until he said I do, and she let her mask slip for a few moments making her look like the evil sea witch pretending to be Ariel in the little mermaid, identical smiles. Then she started being her real self, demanding, overly assertive, manipulative, pushing Harry out of the way, calling paparazzi on them, appearing like a victim of the royal family forcing Harry to leave to save her unlike he did with his mom. She's played him since day one and somehow is still pulling it off.
I saw an interview of a serviceman who knew Harry while at the military base and he said that whenever Harry went out, there were always at least 2 special units that would go out in front and behind him or often fly above him so he was well protected. I'm not taking anything away from him, it's a fact that he was a high prize target so extra effort would have been made to capture him. This also means that there were many brave men and possibly women that put their lives in danger to allow Harry the opportunity to serve.
I've heard that he wasn't really a pilot because he couldn't pass the tests and when they had a drug test day, the big guys (I don't know what they're called) let him off base. Which was unheard. He went home. And that he just wasn't a good soldier. How could he be with his attitude and maturity level?
People Harry served with said Harry saw no combat. He did not fly helicopters. He was kept far back from any danger and the soldiers he served with described it as babysitting him. He basically spent his time sitting around and did not earn any of the medals he wears on his uniform which bothered the soldiers.
He was flying in the helicopter, he did "not" fly the helicopter! He was totally protected while he was in Afghanistan and according to what I've heard & what I'd read, he had never participated in the wars. Their perceived versions of events, seem to be their truths, for whatever that's worth!
What irritates me about MM is that despite her self-proclaimed 'whip smart' intellect, she perpetually claims ignorance of every aspect of H's life, country, culture, etc. She then proceeds to blame said ignorance on being American. That's not an excuse! I don't actually believe she really was ignorant of those things, she simply did not want to comply with expectations and now needs an excuse to explain her failure to adapt. But, if she truly was so incredibly ignorant about Harry, his family and country, she shouldn't have married him until she did learn about those things, especially given his family's prominence.
and she claimed that in America they don't have gossip media columns when in fact every week back in the day there were stories about Jenifer Aniston etc etc...
Exactly. that is common sense even if Harry was not royal. Of course you would want to know about details of the life of your potential life partner. Heck even I google people I find on dating apps 🤦🤦
He didn’t say it in the Netflix show but he does in the book: his father made appts and told him he would talk to a Rabbi and holocaust survivor - he didn’t just seek them out himself . He was told basically “you did a dumb thing in a youth-driven moment and now you’re going to go learn why it was bad.” I find it super frustrating how much he tries to make it seem like he reached out on his own and then goes on to shift the bigot blame on family.
Harry was very well protected while in Afghanistan...he even had his own contingent of 7 gurkhas to protect him. They didn't want a repeat of what happened with Andrew, who wasn't given special protection during the Falklands war and the palace found out after the fact. William was prevented from being deployed for the same reason and was pushed to do more safe work, which is why he did 2 years as a search and rescue pilot. Prince Philip was a decorated war hero in the navy, and Queen Elizabeth was an ambulance driver during the Blitz in London because she was too young to enlist. Harry always overstates his military experience but it's actually laughable that he would say he is the only one in the family that has military experience.
I think he engaged more with the other people in the army during his time there and outside of his time there (with veterans, during the walk with heroes and through his charity work). He also details the training he was put through as part of the army and I think a lot of it was meant to break him down and rebuild him (the typical stressful training excercises that can mimic some forms of torture, e.g. being stripped naked, had his dick laughed at, blindfolded, music blared at him underground, put in the stress position, arms behind his head for hours, have horrible stuff about his mum yelled at him, alongside the other people in the army also getting the same treatment). Sure, I don't think he was on the front lines and I think he was very well protected, but it does appear that he had the same harsh training and lived on base in the same way the others did and commanded air strikes in stressful situations and so on.
I think they feel that their team work is hugely important and if they were a tad more honest with each other, they could have executed this pathway with so much more dignity. I imagine myself there in the mix, supporting the team and having to be and say things which are not accurate for the sake of the narrative and that’s is very intoxicating. But they sacrifice a lot of integrity in so doing, and I don’t know if they will ever realise it. They are in it, and structurally/emotionally they are left with little wiggle room. Just gotta watch each other and manage it. Not saying they don’t believe it, but there’s a lot missing and also the anger, his anger. And with her she is carried by the excitement of a position in history and self importance of Harry needing her.
Great Job!!! The only place M bugged me is when she talked about the drive to the castle for her wedding. I think she was lying when she acted so surprised that her and her mom saw SOOOO many people along the drive. She had to know that happened with other weddings and even funerals. I think it was said in a bragging way.
I heard an officer that served at the same time as Harry saying they used to have to go out ahead of Prince Harry to make sure it was safe for him. Also, he was never drug tested and got out of it by saying he had to go home for business, after, he had just come back from a leave. So yes, he had advantages that others did not while serving.
Your analysis is by far my favorite because 1. You focus strictly on the body language and don’t get distracted by trying to guess the intentions. 2. You provide an impartial analysis without giving preference to those for or against Harry & Meghan. I’m looking forward to the next video :)
I couldn't agree more! I've been down the rabbit hole lately with behavior analysis videos and Spidey's are by far my favorite. I so appreciate him never really taking sides and being so eloquent and clear.
Yes that’s I like about him. It doesn’t feel like he’s taking any side. Some of those body language analysis videos are heavily opinionated with a hateful tone. I can’t trust their analysis.
On The Behavior Panel, Chase who served 20 years had stated during their examination of the same Harry video that he personally knew soldiers who’d served deployments with Harry and that he was heavily protected and had a vastly different military experience, especially overseas, given that someone of status like Harry would’ve made him a prize & propaganda win for enemy forces. My husband is Active Duty in a combat MOS and has stated that anyone of diplomatic importance or high status during their deployments has been very comfortably taken care of as the consequences would be too severe if not.
In fairness to Harry I think being that close to a war zone and seeing and interacting with soldiers in active duty would have an impact on anyone and trauma is trauma no matter how "bad" it is compared to anyone else. I come from a military family and have seen PTSD and CPTSD firsthand and to dismiss the impact being near a war zone has on a person because they weren't in active combat doesn't sit right with me
I’m British and I understood since childhood that Harry was such a big target that his entire platoon were at risk because he was there. Everyone tried to talk him out of doing this to his countrymen but he didn’t listen and it was stressful always protecting him
@Cathy Earnshaw true and Queen Elizabeth was also in the world wars so on that side of things it's not an accurate statement to make but I also don't think that was the point he was trying to make. I think he was trying to say he had this experience that impacted him in a way that his family didn't relate to and denied him the seriousness of in the same way that saying he wasn't in active combat and therefore didn't experience war. If that makes any sense
He still deployed to a combat zone. It doesn’t mean he is any less than just because he wasn’t on the front lines. Not a single General in the US Army serves on the front line either. It’s not like ye olden times where kings went to war. Just stop all the hate already. Geez. How many times did you deploy to a combat zone?
I agree, my biggest take-away is that she’s very inconsistent with what she claims to be and how she actually behaves. The one that bothered me the most is she apparently took some jabs at Princess Kate for having “pregnancy brain” and imbalanced hormones which feels extremely insulting and disingenuous from someone who purports to champion and empower women.
This I attribute to her being a bubble with likeminded women as she seems to have a very close circle of friends. She didn’t think of pregnancy brain as an insult probably because she talks a lot about women’s issues. In this progressive view, it’s actually empowering to talk about challenges that women face, like pregnancy brain, menstruation, breastfeeding, etc. It’s another way that Meghan seems to try to relate. I think she was trying to tell Kate, it’s okay, pregnancy brain is normal and not something to be ashamed of.
I was waiting so patiently for this even more after reading Spidey’s community post about how he enjoyed making it. Your effort is well established and much appreciated sir.
I thought I was too, but I started watching and just a little over a minute in, I’m out. I’m done watching videos about the Harkles. However, always love Spidey and look forward to his analysis on non-British Royal Family topics.
Not true. The queen gave her, her ex private secretary to guide her which she had to accept at first. She did the opposite of everything she was taught but she was still taught. She was either fired or quit, don't remember which but then she got a new one and the cycle continued throughout her entire time there, going through over 14 staffers, I believe. So you're right, except she always had someone there guiding her even though she went out of her way to get rid of all of them and now denies ever having assistance at all
I'm not sure if you have already done a video on it, but their engagement interview is soo interesting too. I noticed in it that, Meghan was very much in the driving seat the entire time. Harry would look for confirmation a lot, and whenever she would break eye contact with him and look at back at the interviewer, Harry would pretty much stop talking as if it were a cue for him to stop his answer and that she was ready for the next question. Also noticed there was an instance in there where she looked back at the interviewer and Harry didn't stop for a few seconds, she then looked away to the other side and looked kinda annoyed that he was still talking. It was just so fascinating to see, and definitely has a lot to unpack! I would seriously love if you could do a video on that interview if you haven't already.
Even if the Palace was playing games by only giving her partial information, GOOGLE IS HER FRIEND HERE. Playing dumb about basic British culture is Pick Me Girl Energy.
She was given a 30 page dossier with instructions on protocols and how to behave. She was assigned to her, by the Queen, her most trusted aide to help her and guide her through any difficulties. She also had 7 other aides assigned to her to advise in different ways, whom she bullied, belittled and degraded, until they said they felt traumatised by her, so much so that they left the jobs they had been in for years. She refused help from all who offered it, including Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall, Sofia, Countess of Wessex, even the late Queen broke protocols in order to accommodate her. There was no excuse for her ignorance they were all there to help her fit in. The problem was her. 1; She didn’t want to fit in, she had no intention of staying in the UK to be a working member of the Royal Family 2; It boiled down to just basic good manners, which unfortunately she didn’t have. Never having been taught to show respect. Never having been taught to eat with a knife and a fork, instead of just a fork, which a lot of Brits find strange. She not only ignored protocol, she did her utmost not to comply with what was required. She said she didn’t know how to curtsy, yet clearly performed a decent curtsy in one of the episodes of Suits. She had to Google the National Anthem? Well she had her claws into Harry from 2016 and knew full well he was a member of the Royal Family and singing the NA would be required at some stage, so she had plenty of time to see it, understand it and learn it. Although she and Harry must have forgotten the words at the Queen’s funeral as they both had their mouths clamped shut when everyone else was singing it. Perhaps it threw them because the word Queen had been substituted with King.
@@lesleyboshell6778 and your comment is the reason H&M needed to tell their side of the story. Too much of what has been written in the tabloids were lies and skewed against them and they were told by the institution to keep quiet. It is definitely time for them to defend themselves.
@@lesleyboshell6778 the summation of literally all the British media tells you to think about Meghan Markle. Apparently she all of the sudden became a bully and refused any type of support? Lol ok
Even Princess Grace (Grace Kelly ) had difficulty adjusting but was a lady and took advice, and overcame the problems even though it was harder for her with a language barrier too, she was loved by the people of Monaco.
Thank you for contending with the 'avert eye-contact = liar' myth. Your avoidance of the tempting and easy 'this means that' is one of the reasons you are the only behaviour analyst I find credible. Thank you for the nuance and the intelligent, humane approach you always bring to your videos.
Re. married in Castles - in the UK there are lots of Castles and many people marry in Castles. Think it may seem more 'wow!' if one is not used to them.
As an actress, Megan should be familiar with researching for different characters and roles she played. There is no excuse for not knowing what was expected of her. I think she just felt very inadequate and tried to hide it by not accepting any advise and help. That is consistent with her talking constantly about strong, ambitious, smart women. For her to ask and accept help would be admitting that other people know more than her and she would percieve that as weakness.
Exactly! MM was a fan of the Royal Family, and most people know living life as a royal isn’t easy. I cannot imagine she didn’t think there would be protocols to follow, etiquette to learn, and fulfilling her role in the family. She was around truly elite people and realized she didn’t measure up, she was a fraud. Instead of being humble by asking for help and being willing to learn, she opted to run away and blame the Royal Family for her woes. It all sounds very narcissistic to me.
Narcissists believe people around them should please them and not the other way round. It is an insult to them that they cannot get every single thing they want and they resort to bullying staff because saying "no" is unacceptable
OMG, you NAILED it about the Oedipus Complex thing! I completely forgot about the father aspect... and that is a BIG thing for Harry (or at least I got that impression from his book)
It makes total sense to me, too. I also had forgotten about the resentment and anger toward the father from the Oedipal complex. I do feel for him and for William losing their mother at such a long age. Unfortunately I feel that Meghan is toxic for Prince Harry and brings out these negative feelings toward his other family members, including his father and his brother.
I’m from the uk. When she got married the media was saying wonderful things about her. We loved her and thought she was beautiful. It was her bending the rules, not wearing appropriate clothing or doing things royals didn’t usually do that the media picked up on etc. Her personality didn’t help her at all because personality I feel like Americans are a lot more easier to read when they’re being fake. Brits tend to be more subtle with their actions or facial expressions. (Not saying Americans are fake it’s just easier to see it for us) The reason the media got so out of hand is because the articles were getting tones of views and magazines were getting a load of sales with the hate towards her so the more attention they got the more they were produced. The majority of us think she’s disrespectful towards our culture and don’t like her at all. (If we liked her the media articles wouldn’t have got clicks and the magazines wouldn’t have sold so they would have moved on. That’s how it works) They can blame the media all they like but she refuses to look at herself and ask herself the real questions as to why they really picked on her. She thought it was because she is of colour but not once did they mention her skin colour from the things I saw. It was all to do with her manners, or what she was wearing. Of course she goes back to Oprah to complain because let’s face it in America she’s going to find a lot more people who side with her as they don’t understand the English culture, she clearly doesn’t either and even after being taught still doesn’t which is why I feel like we see some contempt from Harry. He must have tried hard to help her fit in but he just couldn’t in the end. He doesn’t look happy at all through this and even when he was doing military work when he was younger he seemed to be bursting with life. Her obsession with being in the spotlight needs to stop because she’s dragging him down with it and it’s very sad to see.
See, I've always been fairly neutral when it comes to Meghan. She isn't my type of vibe but I have never seen reason to dislike her either. The not following royal protocol stuff was mostly false, with Kate or the Queen herself having done the same things but the press would spin things differently for Meghan (although worth noting they did the same with Kate in the early days too). I agree though, that people just ate up the negativity and so they press created more and more stories. That said, I mentioned last week that I have a bit of an OTT personality to override anxiety etc so perhaps I would be less aware of similar instances in Meghan. I think the reality with her is somewhere in the middle of the polarized views. I certainly wouldn't trust any media when it comes to any celebrity or royal. Far too many people out to make money or can benefit their own coverage from selling stories or being a "trusted source".
@@Callimoone the other reason may be, as meghan is not a 'white' fellow, hence the accusation of 'being a home breaker' may be applied to her much easily as compared to kate(who is obviously white in color).
@@mayank64723 Not at all. Look at all the females who have joined the royal family, from fergie, diana, camilla and kate, they ALL got bad press for quite some time. Meghan was no different. Nothing to do with her colour. Camilla had to deal with some really vile stuff as a 'home breaker'.
@@mayank64723 oh agreed, entirely possible. I have just loved Harry since he was born (I was 8) and he's always been the one Royal I've admired most because he's the most human/ normal. All I know is that he's clearly the happiest he's been in decades. I thought he should leave long before Meghan though so I'd always support that.
He was not the only member of his family to serve in the military and see service during a war. Prince Andrew served in the Falklands war, Prince Phillip was in the navy for a number of years and saw service during WW2. Queen Elizabeth served in the army and lived through the blitz.
There’s a small clip from their patio party in one of the later episodes. The waitress greets them and is telling them where to go, and MM is very dismissive of her while Harry is looking at her and listening. I caught it as someone who has worked in the service industry for years. I wonder if anyone else did. I don’t have a stance on either of them any which way but I am always observing how people treat others (hence why I find myself on your channel). I just always find how people treat others who are In service to them or whom they deign as “not as important” to them always really interesting.
There's many other videos clips like that. When she married. And it's getting out of the car, there's a man, reaching out, and she removes his hand. Like ' get off my spot light!!!! I don't need your help!!!' He clearly got the message and backs up. Australia event. There's ladies with lanyards, telling Harry and Megan where to stand, where to go. And who to talk to. And Megan ignores her and does what she wants. While the lady tries to get her attention. Harry always listlens and looks in the eyes. Another event, in middle east. He was meeting with some other royals. Other princes and again. There was ladies telling them where to go, and stand. Lady tell Harry, you walk this way, Megan you walk this way.and she so wanted to ignore her. She couldn't because the lady got in her face and directly told her to walk THIISSS way. She wanted to walk in the red carpet. But that red carpet is only for blood royals. She walked literally next to the red carpet she sooo wanted to step on it. It is soooo cringe.her face says it all!!! She hates being told what to do on events.
There were many ladies that have cried because they can't believe how rude Megan was towards them. They are doing their job, and they get in trouble for making them look stupid, cause she keeps breaking protocol. They get ignored straight up. William got all the complaints and that's why they don't like her. She mistreated every employee that tried to groom her to be a royal.
She also makes harry look Hella dumb because he did say in his engagement interview that he had worked so hard to explain her everything that's ahead. She even says, she don't have to google sheeeeet because he tells her everything !! He was supposed to train her and he couldn't even show her respect towards his family. He looks so dumb having his wife claim she was fed to the wolfs!!! That's telling the whole world your husband ain't sheeet, he looks dumb and uneducated.
Spidey, I can not thank you enough for holding such a high ground in all of this. I just knew that there would be no entitled, mean, "fun"-making attitude from you, in this, no matter how we feel about the topic! I truly adore how you keep the tone in a respectful way. BIG kudos to you!
I agree with you about Megan not knowing that she should have avoided the “topical” issue of BLM as the royals avidly avoid politics. In the US, there is no misunderstanding that BLM and the “me, too” movement is a politically left stance, so exceedingly political. Topical can be apolitical, but Meghan has proved herself to be interested in moving in political circles. The monarchy is head of state, but represents everyone, and so works with charities and causes that don’t have a political bent. She came in to the Royal family with her own agenda, didn’t read the room, and had no interest in investing in Harry’s culture….this became pretty obvious with her behaviour, and that is what caused the Brits to turn on her….absolutely nothing to do with race. She was offensive, and many of her mannerisms were dismissive and condescending.
Me too and blm are politicized but isn't inherently political, only to those who make it so. She just wants to be the voice for victims, including herself.
For me it was the hypocrisy. 6 private jet flights in a month, yet making a video telling us to not fly really is the kind of behaviour that pisses us Brits off.
Yes because victims of abuse having rights is definitely a political ideology and not just a human right. Same that all people should be treated equally under the law. The only people who think this is a political stance are people who disagree. They told princess Diana the same thing when she fought for people with aids and against land mines it was politically incorrect for the royals to do. Sigh.
@TD DZ are you getting paid by the couple? you are believing harry to tell the truth? he says whatever nutmeg tells him to. The only person who has ever called Catherine arrogant is you. She doesn't have a history of being a horrible person. The only allegations against Catherine has come out since NUTMEG joined the family.
How have I only just discovered you and your channel?! I love this and agree with everything you've said. Love the psychology (if that's the right word!) alongside the body language stuff. So interesting. Thank you 👍
I. Don't usually watch programs like yours because they always must interject their opinions that don't relate to the body language. I WILL WATCH YOU AGAIN THANKYOU !!
I almost teared up when you mentioned the 'hatered towards the father' component in OC. No one talks about it, but it explains a lot of Harry's conflicts with the father.
Yeah 😕. It’s crazy to me how many people talk about Oedipus complex and focus exclusively on the love for the mother aspect. The disdain for the father is equally important and explains a LOT when it comes to Harry. Thanks for watching 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts I assume its because people already dislike Charles (thanks to his messy marriage) so it's easy to see that as different from the complex itself. But Harry's conflicts seem to be deeper. If you have read the book, it switches from portraying him as a warm-considerate to detached-cold. Always have enjoyed fair analysis!
Diana pitted Harry against his father and William unwittingly or not and made him feel less (2nd) she told everyone in an interview that he was the "spare" she was hurtful in many ways lashing out when thing don't go her way. Yes she was nice to strangers putting on a good act at times but also had a compassionate side to her putting herself on a parr with the underdog showing the world you can and suddenly the world was a humanitarian. She was and did a lot of good but to many put her on the same pedestal as God that I really dislike.
I watch several body language and behavior analysis channels on UA-cam, and Spidey's is definitely my favorite (The Behavior Panel fellas are for sure a close second!). I had totally forgotten today was Behavioral Arts upload day, and when I opened UA-cam to see the new video, it made my day! Thank you for bringing me fresh, informative, entertaining, and relevant content each week, Spidey!
I'm from the UK & I can remember Harry growing up & how much more relatable he was. I think he is most proud of his time in the army & that was pivotal in himself. I remember there being plenty of "show" that he was treated the same as other soldiers, but come on he's a Prince. Do u honestly believe that our monarchy would really allow that? I do believe he has some serious issues surrounding his parents. If u take what happened to his parents & apply it to anyone child in the world, I don't think any of them would not have "issues" for want of a better phrase. Harry's are just out there for the whole world to see. Or read. I think raising awareness is extremely important if u have the ability. Sometimes though, you need to learn when to quietly get on with your life. Spidey awesome as always. Love the smile to contempt sneer. So very well shown! Love it! & all u do 4 us. Big hugs x
It's rather absurd for a 35-year-old individual not to google their potential date before the first meeting. Most grown, single individuals seeking a serious relationship would undoubtedly take this step to make the most of their time. I'm 34 years old, and all my friends who are approximately my age always check on their prospective dates before arranging to meet them. We're all quite occupied and value our time, we are quite experienced and have clear knowledge of our personal preferences. Devoting a mere 10 minutes to this simple homework, is a smart move, saving us from wasting time and energy.
I haven’t been able to bring myself to watch the show itself. I stumbled on your video and I found your analysis to be very interesting. You are an engaging and eloquent presenter. I learned a great deal. Thank you for your analysis!
To be honest, getting married in the UK in a castle, is far more common than you'd think. There are 100's to hire out for weekends, overnight, or just the day for weddings, and all celebrations. Not cheap to do but a really common expense that 1000's of couples and families choose, each year, across the UK & Ireland. Brilliant analysis as always Spidey, thanks for all your hard work man!
To be fair, I live in NY & I'm about an hour away from a castle here, too! It's not the same, but many people say "I'm getting married at O'Heeka castle" 😆
Yes I agree! Windsor castle on the other hand is not so common 😂She should have been more specific, she clearly doesn’t grasp the history of the building or nearly anything to do with royal life. Even now
I'm from England and got married in a castle. It's not overly expensive compared to other venues either. We looked around the castle first and absolutely fell in love and thought we'd never be able to afford it. We sat down with their wedding planner and the cost really wasn't that bad. We then went to a selection of hotels in the same area, and where we could get married and then compared the costs. While some things were more expensive on either side, the overall cost came out pretty much the same... so we went for what we wanted. No it wasn't Windsor castle!
I live in the PNW and a mile or so away from a castle. It's a very popular wedding venue. I think she was going more for the whimsical idea of a fairytale wedding with a castle and a prince than the more mundane.
Spidey, You show so much grace and honesty in how you analyze the body language and dialogue. In most cases, people are not horrible all the time, nor are they amazing all of the time. Many people project their feelings or own shortcomings onto others, especially when they see them mirrored. Then there are people who live in the world of confirmation bias and only look for things to back up their own opinions. You take such an honest and “just the facts” approach to your analysis that it makes you among the best at what you are doing here. Anyone who comes at you for your analysis is most likely closed minded and unwilling or unable to see things objectively. Bravo!
An outspoken and very highly decorated (the Military Cross was presented by the Queen!) British soldier, Trevor Coult, says that he was part of a detail assigned to protect Harry throughout his military service. By his account, Harry’s experience was absolutely not typical. That said, it was probably the most “normal” period of his life 🤷♀️💐
Your analysis’ in general have helped me weave out so many toxic people around me + helped me notice when people are uncomfortable which could possibly help someone in the future if they’re in danger and I just wanted to show gratitude 🙏🏽 GOD BLESS YOU BRO!
Spidey! I'm a Panelist from Germany and a huge fan of your channel. I love the way you explain things and find it very inspirational and educational. Much love from Munich!
I think what bothers me about Megan is that she still seems disrespectful to the royal family in the way she talks about everything. Which I guess is fair seeing that she feels like they treated her poorly etc. but when she speaks about the stuff she didn't know, she tries to make it seem like everyone else is at fault and that it wasn't her responsibility to ask about these things or to make sure she knows
Yes! I have a hard time believing that the royal family and those that work for them were purposely trying to make her look bad (which is how I feel she portrays it). It doesn't make sense. If she looks bad, then that is a reflection on them. So the only logical view in my mind is that they would do everything in their power to make her look good. And, just as Spidey emphasized with the Harry Potter clips, all she had to do was ask!! It isn't that hard. She could have asked Harry or another member of the family, or she could have asked a staff member. If she wasn't sure about something, why didn't she reach out and say something along the lines of, "I want to be respectful and act and dress appropriately. Can you please help me?"
@@nanner3200 That doesn't explain why Harry didn't manage to prepare his wife for the basic requirements of Royal life and duties. He set her up to fail, not his family. The buck stops with him. When two people from different countries start dating, they typically learn about each other's cultures, beliefs, employment, lifestyle etc. during their courtship. Lovebirds usually want to know every minute detail they can about each other during that period. How entitled did Harry feel that he seemed to think it was down to the rest of his family to educate his partner on everything from needing to bow before the Sovereign to basic Royal duties including activities such as walkabouts? As if he didn't know that the women in his family have their fashion and style scrutinised by the media and a global audience? He has managed to write an entire book about everything he hated, struggled with or had to fulfil as a Royal - and the intense scrutiny Diana faced under the microscope of the media AND public - yet Meghan was apparently left clueless. The blame for Meghan's lack of preparation for Royal life lies with her husband. He had a responsibility to fully prepare her for his world, as she would have had to educate and prepare him for the US. He failed, and she has suffered for it. Once he accepts that his shoulders bear the burden of that blame, he can hopefully start realising that he is not a victim but the root cause of her problems. The man didn't even bother to meet her father before proposing yet moaned about having to ask the Queen for permission. The UK media seemed to turn on the couple after Meghan's family starting courting the press and complaining. Yet Harry seems to blame the media for talking to relatives he himself failed by not bothering to socialise and get to know them in person during his courtship with Meghan.
I’m glad you have stated, in the past, that not all rules will apply to EVERYONE. I glance into people’s eyes when having a conversation, not because I’m checking to see if they are buying something but because I get very uncomfortable looking people in the eye but know that it can come across as rude and/or uninterested to NOT make eye contact.
People lined up the streets days in advance. I’m British and live close to Windsor, I was there the day before the Wedding, there was a party atmosphere in town (it’s s small town). Streets and the park (the long walk) we’re filled with locals and Brits from other parts of the country and lots of Americans and Canadians who camped on the streets days in advance to ensure they have first row view of the carriage as it passes. This would have been covered on the news so unless she was locked up in a dungeon that has no WIFI or TV or radio and didn’t speak to anyone at all, there is no way she would not have known there are people on either side of the roads. These stupid lies she tells are pointless and only make her seem more dumb, insincere, fake and weird.
I do want to say thank you for taking the time to make these videos. Been following you since JD and AH trials. Your the first pod cast I've watched ever, and from there now I watch the behavior panel, law and lumber, lawyer you know, and you. Just wanted to take a sec and say I appreciate what you guys are doing
I love that you display the behaviour or cut to the shot of them doing it as you discuss it, it's really helpful. Thank you for your hard work, Spidey. Looking forward to the next one ❤️
Imagine carrying all the anger Harry feels for what happened to his mom, and then marrying someone who relentlessly attempts to convince you that everything you are and everyone you ever loved is, by nature, evil. When he said, "I hated myself..." it took me aback for a second - the contempt on his face looks, to me, like self-loathing... in the present ☹️
I’m English and I am admit while I never knew we called it a walk about for the royals, as the media would mostly when I watched the news (hardly watch it now😂) they always addressed it as something along the lines of. “The royals ‘insert names’ were out greeting the public at such and such a place”, so I will agree that initially yes, she may not have known what it was, but when she keeps stating no one helped her at all,theres multiple royals and high society people and aides who offered help and she allegedly turned it down. So she has no one to blame but her self
I agree. If she wasn't familiar with the term walk about, she could simply ask. I agree that there were likely plenty of people available to advise her and answer her questions if she would have bothered to ask.
I don’t believe she didn’t know she wasn’t supposed to talk about certain things. My wise teacher once said “it is not excuse to say I didn’t know, if you don’t know, find out”. For someone who did international studies and is an “activist”, there is a lot she doesn’t or didn’t know.
15:30 I believe it was kept there because it resembles the gesture of having that knot in the throat that happens when we're about to cry (or while being too emotional) and to subdue it, we tend to gulp it down. Interestingly, the hand gesture goes along with it as well! The placement is just right too; seemingly after unloading a rather sensitive topic, this gesture does seem to 'add' that tinge of an authentic emotion surging inside him tying the whole narrative of it all being truly emotional and genuine. Funny how it was either a hiccup or a burp, but the whole package works to depict something entirely different too, albeit too shabbily😄
It has been reported that, only a few days before Diana's death, she called the boys because she was away and wanted to check in. Apparently Harry refused to come to the phone for whatever reason. And so he never talked to her, and then she died. This is a very important fact and would, I would think, have a hugely negative and painful effect on Harry, and perhaps explains, at least in part, why he can't seem to heal from his mother's death.
Yes in agreement.. I was called by hospice my mom didn't have long I regret..but was so hysterical and upset. It affected me and my job I just couldn't view. My brother and father were horrible ..narc s and I couldn't Deal with it all. So much drama and corruption And lies.. So that can haunt.. Thanks I know so much more Now than I did yrs ago..
Yes, Harry also mentions this moment in the book. He very much regrets not really want to talk with his mother when she called because he was having too much fun playing. He did in fact talk to her but he rushed through the conversation and wasn’t really listening to her. He was after all 12 years old, so I can see he was involved with his own stuff at the time.
What I caught is that she is saying that nobody taught her how to wave, she just watched and learned. This makes her story about not knowing how to curtsy even less believable. Even if, supposedly, no one in the royal family taught her how, she could watch hours and hours of footage of people curtsying, so she would know.
She studied ballet when she was young. How on earth she didn't know to curtsy. All ballerinas are taught to make it. This is another lie. That is way she has been labelled a Pinocchio.
It's so interesting to have specific details pointed out that leads to the same conclusion I recognize but had no idea the small expressions are seen subconsciously. Nice job Spidey!
In “Finding Freedom” the authors specifically state how much help Meghan received! In fact, I think “Finding Freedom” goes into details better that the docuseries and “Spare.” The reason is that there is a more sinister reason for the docuseries and “The Spare.” Harry is gradually getting more frustrated as this saga proceeds! And reading the book you get a completely different concept of Harry’s story than when Harry talks about the book! The reason, someone else without the hate and animosity wrote the book! The book presents Harry as having a really wonderful childhood!!
She absolutely knew what a “walk about” was. She did extensive research validated by her “friends” who witnessed her googling, reading articles, watching interviews, etc. She knew just about everything to sell herself as comfortable with the press and her potential role in the Royal Family.
For a woman who has been obsessed with BRF since she is a teenager, she knew. And evidence are many, like the photo taken by her friend in 2004 in airport that she was googling the Queen with a clear view of laptop screen, and the words from her classmates and many acquaintance when they talk about her, and BTW those person have better credibility than her especially she was caught by public on media for lying so many times.
I’m dubious of the ol “a friend said” or “a source close to X said,” you should be too. We know tabloid media tactics are suspect. They aren’t news, they’re rumor mills.
Janis I lived in FOUR countries. You can research ALL DAY and still miss small subtleties, you ONLY know once you have seen and breathed it. Kind of like a man talking about what it is to be a woman.
To me, when I heard Meghan say 'so weird to say I'm getting married in the castle' (paraphrasing), I didn't hear she wanted to be relatable. It came across to me as 'how cool am I?! I got married in a castle'.
She wanted to emphasise it. That's why she said it twice. But she wrapped it up in a performative layer of relateability. ("I'm so special, I got married in a castle! I want to show off about it but I have to pretend to be humble"). In fact, it would be more authentically relatable (to a lot of Americans at least) if she had said: how frickin' cool is that!? I got married in a castle! I just heard myself say it ! My life is like a fairytale :)
I am not against Megan but, come on, since you become girlfriend of a Prince you begin to ask, search, get info and over all when you are going to meet Royal Family!!!! No question on it!
One thing it got me thinking is how not approachable the whole institution seems to be. Because when Harry talks about how the decision to have him leave went about makes me think offices talked to each other but not the person per day. Also the cottage they were giving to live… total not it. Without them saying, these are my words, based on my life experiences. Rarely when you shine more than your boss, the end result is your promotion or continue support towards your success but the opposite until you part ways. Just bringing it to my own experiences. I can see them being shunned. Honestly. These are powerful people that are head of states. I don’t see them loosing time with details and accommodating people. We are being naive to think they would.
Totally agree. Any ordinary person who cares about their partner would ask about the family before meeting the parents. Megan would have had plenty of chances looking these things up on the internet or to ask around. But clearly... She didnt, and now blames it on arguably the most easily searched family in the world, lol.
Meghan did research The RF, according to her half sister, Samantha. Meghan has proven at this point to be a very destructive Malignant Narcissist. She alienated her own family & then did the same to the RF. They both have been caught in lie after lie. I refer you to the videos by Lady Colin Campbell on this subject as she has her own reliable sources of Info. She also has personal experience with a narcissistic relative. She wrote a book about it, worth reading- Daughter of Narcissus. Many therapists have written to her & confirmed that from what they have seen, Meghan fits the personality disorder. What led to Meghan’s gesture? She’s an actress & not a very good one. That’s what.
Same, don't dislike the lady at all but unfortunately recently she and he haven't done themselves any favours. I wish they would disconnect frm the yes ppl around them and view there life as there own,not a soap opera needing constant new episodes.
Imagine trying to talk and have someone watching you so intensely and staring with what looks like she is saying to him" watch what you say.do not dare contradict me...."
I thought of something that I didn’t see talked about during this clip but there were other examples of similar situations given in part 1. Now maybe the reason it wasn’t mentioned is because there wasn’t much body language to support my claim but my claim is based mostly on common sense. The clip I’m referring to is when she is talking about her wedding and she explains that she knew there would be lots of people at the castle, but what she “didn’t know is people would be lining both sides of the street.” She even adds details like her mom apparently saying to her “what is going on here?” Meghan tells this story with a bit of excitement in her voice, but I have a very hard time buying her story. There is hours and hours of William/Kates wedding, from every vantage point possible, all available to her. She can probably get family copies of that wedding that most the public will never see. I just don’t think it’s reasonable to believe that with this perfect example of what you might be able to expect with your own wedding that you didn’t watch any of the Williams/Kate wedding. I have to believe she would have watched the William&Kate wedding hundreds of times just to get ideas for her own wedding. Seeing Meghan tell this lie with such ease and enthusiasm makes me believe she is a skilled liar. Meghan is so consistently dishonest and seems to lye about such small details that it makes you wonder what she won’t lie about. Unfortunately, you have to draw the conclusion that if there is any motivation for her to lye about something she won’t skip a beat. 34:47
Well said. Pretty accurate! I believe - especially regarding MM’s behavior patterns of lying, the veil between truth and a lie seems non-existent for her. It is said that is a characteristic of the narcissistic personality. Acting for her as a profession provides opportunities for role playing which can blur the lines between reality and fantasy under the circumstances as well.
Hmmm.. Good point. I don't like how she says, "I didn't know this, I didn't know that." Really, being an actress you have to research your roles so you can get a feel for the character. Wasn't this one of the biggest if not the Biggest most import role of your life? How could you not fully research every aspect about it? Definitely, the hardest claims for me to swallow. The other things I think are more believable, but not she just didn't have a clue.
Even if she hadn't watched Princess Catherine and Prince William's wedding, there were clips from King Charles and Diana, whom she idolizes intensely. It's likely that she would have watched Diana's wedding at some point.
I also thought it was so silly. How could you not know? The wedding for Kate and William was super publicized. You're marrying the son of Princess Diana. You're marrying into royalty. I seriously doubt none of this was unexpected 😒. I really enjoy these shows. It helps me learn more about people and their expressions.
The idiocy of both of them thinking anyone will buy that she didn't google him or what a "walk about" could possibly mean is stunning. It simply directs people to think they don't know how to navigate the modern world. Even 6 year olds will tell you if you want to find out absolutely anything you google it. But she's not smart enough to decide to do that? She'd rather make a public fool of herself doing it wrong and breaking protocol? She does it deliberately and they both offer lame unbelievable excuses.
Oh she walked that statement back also..later said she "looked at his Instagram" preferring the audacity that Googleing isn't the same as Instagram ..both of them also have many ways that "infers" things but.dont come out with specifics...I'm done with these two
He school girl friends and best friend through college, and her 1st marriage, said she was obsessed and really admired Princess Diana. She would have watched alot of the walks bouts Diana did, as we all did in North America. At another girl's birthday party video around age 13 or 14, Megan was seen running around with a crown on her head, calling herself the QUEEN . This was her FRIENDS BD party! She was saying now you guys have to obey me and cursty or whatever.
She’s the “smart girl” right? Did she never watch the news? Walk abouts are on the news all the time on the US news. In fact, US presidents do walk abouts , particularly on Inauguration Day. To feign ignorance on this subject, frankly I find completely unbelievable.
I have never seen or heard of a "walk about" here in the US. But the name is pretty self explanatory. I don't know if I would have said or handled it differently if I was in her position.
@Janice I’m from the US and have have never heard of a walkabout, nor seen it on the news. Not every household watches the news (my parents read the newspaper every morning)… TV was only for cartoons and movies.
When the burp/ hiccup moment happened- I actually interpreted it as a hard swallow or gulp, conveying emotion. The same hand to the gesture is also used for the same purpose of holding back emotions
It's interesting to hear that "probably" is a low confidence word. I often use it in conversations to come off less aggressive when I'm giving an opinion, or allow open room for error in the future if I'm found to be wrong. That's so fascinating how that works!
totally agree. I do the same thing even when I'm very confident, just to leave room for disagreement without it becoming awkward. but you could argue that it could be interpreteded as unconfident.
Hello 😊Maybe I should have specified. When I say “low confidence word;” I don’t mean low confident in oneself I mean low confidence in the position. Exactly as you described. If you’re uncertain or willing to have an open discussion it would indicate that you’re speaking of opinion not fact. Ex: you would never say “my name is probably Michaela” you know this to be true. We don’t use “probably” if we know for a fact what we’re saying is true. Also always remember baseline. Some people are naturally more open minded, so they use “probably” or “in my opinion” more often to leave room for debate naturally. He does not Thanks for watching 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts hard to argue against the baseline argument. Keeping with the royals could you do a breakdown of the infamous prince andrew interview?
@@TheBehavioralArts ah! I'm fangirling that you now know my name, haha. And yeah totally, I understood but maybe didn't specify enough that I agreed with your statement lol. Love your videos, keep up the great work!
My impression of Meghan is she is very social, has trouble empathizing, and is sensitive to criticism. I know someone like that, and they are constantly beefing with 7 people at once. I still support them and love them, but it’s exhausting and frustrating. I have also learned that the only way to have peace is to never speak my mind. I wonder if Harry is in a similar boat.
I can relate to this. My SIL was a very similar personality and family functions were always laced with anxiety for us all, treading on eggshells the whole time in case she took offence and got upset. ( Of course she could be breathtakingly insensitive to us in her comments ! ). We knew it would make life difficult for my brother when they got home later on. Exhausting is a good word for it. They are divorced now, each with a new partner, and I can't tell you the difference in family parties etc. Far more relaxed and less tiring. It's odd how much one person can influence the whole group.
@@Charlotte8591 Because they are not all bad and they respect my boundaries. I do avoid them a lot and decline many offers to hang out, haha. Luckily, they understand themself significantly better than many others with similar traits, thank god.
yay i’m early! i just wanna say i really love your videos! i have a bachelors in psychology (emphasis in addiction counseling) & your content is so interesting and you make it all really engaging! it’s obvious you’re passionate about what you do & all your hard work shows! you seem like such a genuinely good person & one of the things i really admire about you is how you handle difficult topics too when not many people would handle with nearly as much care. i love seeing your channel/following grow bc it is so well deserved! (:
Excellent analysis!! Spot on!! Thank you Spidey!! I always learn something new and see people and behaviour from different perspectives. I appreciate your videos so much. 🌟🙏
I more than enjoyed it, it was brilliantly done, and so profoundly dissected, amazing 👏 I don't know why your videos don't pop up more often, but this one did, and am grateful!
There is a difference between a 'regular' wave and how a Royal waves for a reason. The Royals usually have to wave at crowds for a considerable length of time and so to wave heartedly in the usual manner would take a lot of energy and would become very tiring very quickly. If you look at how the late Queen waved, you can see it was a very minimal gesture, raise the arm and wave only the forearm back and forth or the even just the hand. It is actually known to many as "The Royal Wave".
He talks about having a lived experience and joining the army like other members of the Royal family haven't done it. William was in the raf and was part of the raf search and rescue force for 6 years and then was a full-time pilot for the air ambulance for 2 years.
This is true, my brother use to increase his eye contact when he was lying and make his eyes bigger 😳 I could always tell if he was lying when he done this 🤣
I was thinking maybe they left that 6 second moment in with Harry when he burps or hiccups because they thought it could look like emotion towards what he was talking about. I wish we could see the unedited version of interviews! Thank you for all your hard work, you are such an inspiration!
I think they left the hiccup in because everybody hiccups, no one can control it... Harry is really just like one of us. His chamber attendants put his trousers on one leg at a time!
I'm sorry about this but Meghan was offered so many of the Queens top people to guide and help her as she didn't want a repeat of the mistakes that happened with Diana. Even Sophie offered to help her, she was given a massive file on protocol not to obey but to explain the why's and how's, all of this she refused. As to a "walk about", she watch video after video of Diana and the Royal family, according to her friends, and would have seen them all doing "walk about". These two are passing the buck. We all wanted this to work apparently they didn't.
I can't help but notice this inherit awkwardness that Harry has every time Megan says something. It's almost as if he struggles to really believe her and accept her story as truth as well. It's actually quite sad to see.
I see it more as meekness. He seems to mostly defer to her in these interviews. She seems to completely dominate her, and I'm not sure he is completely happy with it.
Lightbulb moment for me was when you talked about the Oedipal Complex which many agree that Harry has. Not only is he involved with his mom/wife and wants to protect but the other half of this is how they hate/intensely dislike their father! This would explain all the nasty things he said in Spare about how cold and uncaring his father was/is. Poor Harry hasn’t grown up-he’s a case of arrested development (emotional and mental stage stuck at 13 yrs old)! Thank you for explaining things so well!
I think he grew up, but you could never forgive your father cheating on your mom and allowing the press to lead to a high-speed chase that killed Diana. I STILL hate the UK press and I'm not even royalty or british.
Spidey, you are amazing at remaining impartial. Hearing Harry speak about the difficulties and stresses of being a part of the Royal family, I get that it is not for everyone, and it certainly wasn’t a role his wife found conducive to her happiness. However, I wish they stopped trying to blame everything and everyone for their inability to fit that life and their desire to move away from it. Another thing that has popped into my mind after the endless complaining in interviews, podcasts, series, book, articles, and the unkindness with which they constantly speak about the Waleses, is how much harder it must be for William and Katherine to carry themselves with such dignity and grace, under the constant attacks and the pressure of being the future King and Queen consort, and while bringing up their young family. I don’t believe one needs to pick sides and can actually feel compassion for both parties in this situation.
William cheats on Kate and she has to take it. One reason people have a positive opinion of W&K is that so much negative energy toward H&M distracts from all the negative stories there are about not just William, but the whole RF.
@@karmad4491 still, it’s not about how awesome William is, it’s about the stress of constant attacks. It must be tough and personally, I find compassion for both brothers based on how I’d feel if I was in that situation with a sibling. I also think H&M might be making things worse for themselves by constantly over sharing. My that’s just my personal opinion.
ya, but you have to realize Kate and William are likely deliberately making H and M the undesirables to be able to rule. Its a classic problem of siblings vying for the crown and power. Has been historical truth for generations, so the same thing is likely happening here as well via the press vs real battles.
I am a people watcher/observer. I love body language videos and your channel and content is brilliant. I have learned so much. Keep up the great videos 🙌🏻
I appreciate this well rounded and compassionate review of what you are seeing. There's definitely a strangeness to whatever is going on with this couple and yet it doesn't feel fair when body language experts are too rough on him, esp taking into consideration his unique highly publicized trauma at a young age. So thank you for avoiding the pitfalls and presenting a humanistic view.
As a Person born in Scotland,I /we as nation respect our Royal Family and for Harry and Megan to disrespect what we consider to be very important and “trying to make a laughing of our Heritage is not only insulting,shameful but out right massively unacceptable,they both are two spoiled brats and have no idea what real life is about !Our Royal Family has supported us through the rough times…I am appalled by them ,the lack of self awareness is beyond my understanding!
You truly the best body language specialist , your understanding of even the smallest nuances are amazing. I’m not a fan “H” and “M” but that being said I appreciate that you are very fair. Thank you for your videos.
You forget how even Dumbledore amends his own statement.
“Help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who DESERVE it.”
Omg. Comment of the century! Is it just me or does that make the quote about 600x more appropriate to the situation?! Bravo! Bravooooo!!!! 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
Ps: to clarify I’m not saying I personally believe they don’t or didn’t deserve it, I’m saying that due to the clash between H&M and the rest of the family they might feel undeserving or the rest of the family might see them as undeserving.
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Brittany , I do bow to you , I just wanted to leave a comment for Spidey how I realy loved his HP note , but then I saw yours and omg . Nailed it
@@TheBehavioralArtsOMG you’ve made my day replying to me. I respect your opinion so much and always look forward to your insights. I am also a huge HP nerd 🥰 and even though I’ll be the first to admit I don’t fully understand all the drama with the Royals and the Harkles, that amendment just seemed appropriate.
This was a cool memory lane post!!!! 😎😎
I'm from Germany and I grew up knowing about the royal family, Harry and William were always in the papers and magazines, it's ridiculous that Meghan claims that because she's American she didn't know much about the royal family. Nevermind the fact that she lived in Canada for quite some time, too.
Oh she's lying her butt off! She has old friends from her youth that have said she was obsessed with Diana, and had multiple books about her. They've also said she had a huge crush on Prince William, which is believable bc every teeny bopper magazine had poster inserts of Prince William (I'm American and I had them on my walls!). There's photos of her with her favorite magazines that have Prince William and Kate on the cover. She even wrote a blog about their royal wedding. So she's completely full of it saying she didn't know anything about them and blamed being an American on it. She went out of her way to put herself in England, in the same club that Princess Eugene, Marcus Anderson and others that knew Harry well and she pulled off getting that blind date with him. But beforehand she hired a PR firm to make her Prince Harry's dream girl and reinvented herself into that person. She even went on a humanitarian mission to Africa, in the same place Diana and Harry had went multiple times before with children just like them and even wore the same outfits and had the same poses for the photos as Diana. Which helped her secure the blind date. On the blind date she wore Diana's favorite perfume so subconsciously Harry would smell it and be reminded of his beloved mother. She's beyond calculated and can never admit the truth bc she would be showing her true sociopathic self. She played the part of the shy, innocent, dreamy eyed fiance until he said I do, and she let her mask slip for a few moments making her look like the evil sea witch pretending to be Ariel in the little mermaid, identical smiles. Then she started being her real self, demanding, overly assertive, manipulative, pushing Harry out of the way, calling paparazzi on them, appearing like a victim of the royal family forcing Harry to leave to save her unlike he did with his mom. She's played him since day one and somehow is still pulling it off.
Im American and didn’t know much about the royal family for most of my life. 😬
@@RubyVera-m2s yeah but you weren’t photographed as a teenager posing in front of Buckingham Palace or talk about Catherine on your blog.
She was NEVER a Hollywood actress!
I saw an interview of a serviceman who knew Harry while at the military base and he said that whenever Harry went out, there were always at least 2 special units that would go out in front and behind him or often fly above him so he was well protected. I'm not taking anything away from him, it's a fact that he was a high prize target so extra effort would have been made to capture him. This also means that there were many brave men and possibly women that put their lives in danger to allow Harry the opportunity to serve.
I've heard that he wasn't really a pilot because he couldn't pass the tests and when they had a drug test day, the big guys (I don't know what they're called) let him off base. Which was unheard. He went home. And that he just wasn't a good soldier. How could he be with his attitude and maturity level?
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He only shot down at people on the ground using mounted guns on helicopters.
People Harry served with said Harry saw no combat. He did not fly helicopters. He was kept far back from any danger and the soldiers he served with described it as babysitting him. He basically spent his time sitting around and did not earn any of the medals he wears on his uniform which bothered the soldiers.
I love all these “I’ve heard this” and “I’ve heard that” comments. Where did you hear it? Was it from someone credible?
Hell no he didnt have any type of "lived experience" but prince William piloted an Air Ambulance, now THAT is a lived experience....
He was flying in the helicopter, he did "not" fly the helicopter! He was totally protected while he was in Afghanistan and according to what I've heard & what I'd read, he had never participated in the wars. Their perceived versions of events, seem to be their truths, for whatever that's worth!
What irritates me about MM is that despite her self-proclaimed 'whip smart' intellect, she perpetually claims ignorance of every aspect of H's life, country, culture, etc. She then proceeds to blame said ignorance on being American. That's not an excuse! I don't actually believe she really was ignorant of those things, she simply did not want to comply with expectations and now needs an excuse to explain her failure to adapt. But, if she truly was so incredibly ignorant about Harry, his family and country, she shouldn't have married him until she did learn about those things, especially given his family's prominence.
Well the grandfather tried to tell him and happy harry wasn't having it. Boy she made a mess of everyones life. A true evildoer.
@@judyivie4181 Agreed. No doubt many people tried to warn him to no avail. Saw a similar situation play out with a friend. Very frustrating.
and she claimed that in America they don't have gossip media columns when in fact every week back in the day there were stories about Jenifer Aniston etc etc...
@@pamelacooney9074 He might not have wanted to listen because of some the resentments he may have towards his father for not protecting his mother.
Exactly. that is common sense even if Harry was not royal. Of course you would want to know about details of the life of your potential life partner. Heck even I google people I find on dating apps 🤦🤦
He didn’t say it in the Netflix show but he does in the book: his father made appts and told him he would talk to a Rabbi and holocaust survivor - he didn’t just seek them out himself . He was told basically “you did a dumb thing in a youth-driven moment and now you’re going to go learn why it was bad.”
I find it super frustrating how much he tries to make it seem like he reached out on his own and then goes on to shift the bigot blame on family.
And I appreciate what Spidey reinforced what I noticed that Harry doesn’t indicate that these “ forced atonement “ visits had any impact on him .
What page is that on please?
He could have gone on, if he hadn't been held accountable. Entitlement behavior? He was sorry he got caught.
I didn't know that. Thanks for sharing Jennifer.
Thanks for these videos and the calm and balanced way in which you present them. Watching them helps build Emotional Intelligence.
Harry was very well protected while in Afghanistan...he even had his own contingent of 7 gurkhas to protect him. They didn't want a repeat of what happened with Andrew, who wasn't given special protection during the Falklands war and the palace found out after the fact.
William was prevented from being deployed for the same reason and was pushed to do more safe work, which is why he did 2 years as a search and rescue pilot. Prince Philip was a decorated war hero in the navy, and Queen Elizabeth was an ambulance driver during the Blitz in London because she was too young to enlist.
Harry always overstates his military experience but it's actually laughable that he would say he is the only one in the family that has military experience.
As a princes, Queen Elizabeth also was a mechanic and drove a truck.
I think he engaged more with the other people in the army during his time there and outside of his time there (with veterans, during the walk with heroes and through his charity work). He also details the training he was put through as part of the army and I think a lot of it was meant to break him down and rebuild him (the typical stressful training excercises that can mimic some forms of torture, e.g. being stripped naked, had his dick laughed at, blindfolded, music blared at him underground, put in the stress position, arms behind his head for hours, have horrible stuff about his mum yelled at him, alongside the other people in the army also getting the same treatment). Sure, I don't think he was on the front lines and I think he was very well protected, but it does appear that he had the same harsh training and lived on base in the same way the others did and commanded air strikes in stressful situations and so on.
Just read today on UTUBE someone’s comment Bunker Harry. So he was well protected
I think they feel that their team work is hugely important and if they were a tad more honest with each other, they could have executed this pathway with so much more dignity. I imagine myself there in the mix, supporting the team and having to be and say things which are not accurate for the sake of the narrative and that’s is very intoxicating. But they sacrifice a lot of integrity in so doing, and I don’t know if they will ever realise it. They are in it, and structurally/emotionally they are left with little wiggle room. Just gotta watch each other and manage it. Not saying they don’t believe it, but there’s a lot missing and also the anger, his anger. And with her she is carried by the excitement of a position in history and self importance of Harry needing her.
I can't help thinking he's competing with William and even his father in pointing out that he was the only one in his family with military experience.
Great Job!!! The only place M bugged me is when she talked about the drive to the castle for her wedding. I think she was lying when she acted so surprised that her and her mom saw SOOOO many people along the drive. She had to know that happened with other weddings and even funerals. I think it was said in a bragging way.
I heard an officer that served at the same time as Harry saying they used to have to go out ahead of Prince Harry to make sure it was safe for him. Also, he was never drug tested and got out of it by saying he had to go home for business, after, he had just come back from a leave. So yes, he had advantages that others did not while serving.
And that's why he's bunker Harry.
Your analysis is by far my favorite because 1. You focus strictly on the body language and don’t get distracted by trying to guess the intentions. 2. You provide an impartial analysis without giving preference to those for or against Harry & Meghan.
I’m looking forward to the next video :)
ABSOLUTELY
I couldn't agree more! I've been down the rabbit hole lately with behavior analysis videos and Spidey's are by far my favorite. I so appreciate him never really taking sides and being so eloquent and clear.
Yes that’s I like about him. It doesn’t feel like he’s taking any side. Some of those body language analysis videos are heavily opinionated with a hateful tone. I can’t trust their analysis.
On The Behavior Panel, Chase who served 20 years had stated during their examination of the same Harry video that he personally knew soldiers who’d served deployments with Harry and that he was heavily protected and had a vastly different military experience, especially overseas, given that someone of status like Harry would’ve made him a prize & propaganda win for enemy forces. My husband is Active Duty in a combat MOS and has stated that anyone of diplomatic importance or high status during their deployments has been very comfortably taken care of as the consequences would be too severe if not.
That just makes good sense !
In fairness to Harry I think being that close to a war zone and seeing and interacting with soldiers in active duty would have an impact on anyone and trauma is trauma no matter how "bad" it is compared to anyone else. I come from a military family and have seen PTSD and CPTSD firsthand and to dismiss the impact being near a war zone has on a person because they weren't in active combat doesn't sit right with me
I’m British and I understood since childhood that Harry was such a big target that his entire platoon were at risk because he was there. Everyone tried to talk him out of doing this to his countrymen but he didn’t listen and it was stressful always protecting him
@Cathy Earnshaw true and Queen Elizabeth was also in the world wars so on that side of things it's not an accurate statement to make but I also don't think that was the point he was trying to make. I think he was trying to say he had this experience that impacted him in a way that his family didn't relate to and denied him the seriousness of in the same way that saying he wasn't in active combat and therefore didn't experience war.
If that makes any sense
He still deployed to a combat zone. It doesn’t mean he is any less than just because he wasn’t on the front lines. Not a single General in the US Army serves on the front line either. It’s not like ye olden times where kings went to war. Just stop all the hate already. Geez. How many times did you deploy to a combat zone?
I agree, my biggest take-away is that she’s very inconsistent with what she claims to be and how she actually behaves. The one that bothered me the most is she apparently took some jabs at Princess Kate for having “pregnancy brain” and imbalanced hormones which feels extremely insulting and disingenuous from someone who purports to champion and empower women.
This I attribute to her being a bubble with likeminded women as she seems to have a very close circle of friends. She didn’t think of pregnancy brain as an insult probably because she talks a lot about women’s issues. In this progressive view, it’s actually empowering to talk about challenges that women face, like pregnancy brain, menstruation, breastfeeding, etc. It’s another way that Meghan seems to try to relate. I think she was trying to tell Kate, it’s okay, pregnancy brain is normal and not something to be ashamed of.
@@kris_r exactly i did not take that as an insult and i think commoner kate knew that as well but decided to be remote and royal about it
Everything she says is ani sult to someone else and show her as perfect. Thank goodness none of my friends are as a sty as her
@@jeantillotson4091 your spelling and comprehension is poor i do not understand what you are saying - what is ani sult?? and sty as her???
@@kris_r what bubble of friends? Honestly asking as she has separated from all family and friends of long term
I was waiting so patiently for this even more after reading Spidey’s community post about how he enjoyed making it. Your effort is well established and much appreciated sir.
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I thought I was too, but I started watching and just a little over a minute in, I’m out. I’m done watching videos about the Harkles. However, always love Spidey and look forward to his analysis on non-British Royal Family topics.
@@daCubanaqt 🤣🤣🤣 - Harckles! Love it!
@@TheBehavioralArts please analyze the interrogation of Sarah the woman who killed her husband but leaving him in a suitcase
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1:18 for some reason it feels like “oh my cute little boy I’m so proud of what you are saying right now”
He told us he killed 25 during his tours.
He hasn’t given any apology to the family of 2 soldiers who died protecting him.
The queen offered her someone in authority and who had been in similar situations to help her and she refused
Not true. The queen gave her, her ex private secretary to guide her which she had to accept at first. She did the opposite of everything she was taught but she was still taught. She was either fired or quit, don't remember which but then she got a new one and the cycle continued throughout her entire time there, going through over 14 staffers, I believe. So you're right, except she always had someone there guiding her even though she went out of her way to get rid of all of them and now denies ever having assistance at all
I'm not sure if you have already done a video on it, but their engagement interview is soo interesting too. I noticed in it that, Meghan was very much in the driving seat the entire time. Harry would look for confirmation a lot, and whenever she would break eye contact with him and look at back at the interviewer, Harry would pretty much stop talking as if it were a cue for him to stop his answer and that she was ready for the next question. Also noticed there was an instance in there where she looked back at the interviewer and Harry didn't stop for a few seconds, she then looked away to the other side and looked kinda annoyed that he was still talking. It was just so fascinating to see, and definitely has a lot to unpack!
I would seriously love if you could do a video on that interview if you haven't already.
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Even if the Palace was playing games by only giving her partial information, GOOGLE IS HER FRIEND HERE. Playing dumb about basic British culture is Pick Me Girl Energy.
She was given a 30 page dossier with instructions on protocols and how to behave. She was assigned to her, by the Queen, her most trusted aide to help her and guide her through any difficulties. She also had 7 other aides assigned to her to advise in different ways, whom she bullied, belittled and degraded, until they said they felt traumatised by her, so much so that they left the jobs they had been in for years. She refused help from all who offered it, including Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall, Sofia, Countess of Wessex, even the late Queen broke protocols in order to accommodate her.
There was no excuse for her ignorance they were all there to help her fit in.
The problem was her.
1; She didn’t want to fit in, she had no intention of staying in the UK to be a working member of the Royal Family
2; It boiled down to just basic good manners, which unfortunately she didn’t have. Never having been taught to show respect. Never having been taught to eat with a knife and a fork, instead of just a fork, which a lot of Brits find strange.
She not only ignored protocol, she did her utmost not to comply with what was required.
She said she didn’t know how to curtsy, yet clearly performed a decent curtsy in one of the episodes of Suits.
She had to Google the National Anthem? Well she had her claws into Harry from 2016 and knew full well he was a member of the Royal Family and singing the NA would be required at some stage, so she had plenty of time to see it, understand it and learn it. Although she and Harry must have forgotten the words at the Queen’s funeral as they both had their mouths clamped shut when everyone else was singing it.
Perhaps it threw them because the word Queen had been substituted with King.
@@lesleyboshell6778 👏👏👏👏👏 Excellent summary.
@@lesleyboshell6778 and your comment is the reason H&M needed to tell their side of the story. Too much of what has been written in the tabloids were lies and skewed against them and they were told by the institution to keep quiet. It is definitely time for them to defend themselves.
@@lesleyboshell6778 the summation of literally all the British media tells you to think about Meghan Markle. Apparently she all of the sudden became a bully and refused any type of support? Lol ok
Even Princess Grace (Grace Kelly ) had difficulty adjusting but was a lady and took advice, and overcame the problems even though it was harder for her with a language barrier too, she was loved by the people of Monaco.
Thank you for contending with the 'avert eye-contact = liar' myth. Your avoidance of the tempting and easy 'this means that' is one of the reasons you are the only behaviour analyst I find credible. Thank you for the nuance and the intelligent, humane approach you always bring to your videos.
Re. married in Castles - in the UK there are lots of Castles and many people marry in Castles. Think it may seem more 'wow!' if one is not used to them.
As an actress, Megan should be familiar with researching for different characters and roles she played. There is no excuse for not knowing what was expected of her. I think she just felt very inadequate and tried to hide it by not accepting any advise and help. That is consistent with her talking constantly about strong, ambitious, smart women. For her to ask and accept help would be admitting that other people know more than her and she would percieve that as weakness.
That is what a talented actor/actress does - doing research to embody the character they are playing. Megan warps the character to be like her.
Exactly! MM was a fan of the Royal Family, and most people know living life as a royal isn’t easy. I cannot imagine she didn’t think there would be protocols to follow, etiquette to learn, and fulfilling her role in the family. She was around truly elite people and realized she didn’t measure up, she was a fraud. Instead of being humble by asking for help and being willing to learn, she opted to run away and blame the Royal Family for her woes. It all sounds very narcissistic to me.
Exactly!
It's because of her EGO, it's way over the top.
Narcissists believe people around them should please them and not the other way round. It is an insult to them that they cannot get every single thing they want and they resort to bullying staff because saying "no" is unacceptable
OMG, you NAILED it about the Oedipus Complex thing! I completely forgot about the father aspect... and that is a BIG thing for Harry (or at least I got that impression from his book)
After the Netflix shows I have been thinking that she wants fame and fortune and he wants a new mummy figure in his life
It makes total sense to me, too. I also had forgotten about the resentment and anger toward the father from the Oedipal complex. I do feel for him and for William losing their mother at such a long age. Unfortunately I feel that Meghan is toxic for Prince Harry and brings out these negative feelings toward his other family members, including his father and his brother.
I’m from the uk. When she got married the media was saying wonderful things about her. We loved her and thought she was beautiful. It was her bending the rules, not wearing appropriate clothing or doing things royals didn’t usually do that the media picked up on etc. Her personality didn’t help her at all because personality I feel like Americans are a lot more easier to read when they’re being fake. Brits tend to be more subtle with their actions or facial expressions. (Not saying Americans are fake it’s just easier to see it for us) The reason the media got so out of hand is because the articles were getting tones of views and magazines were getting a load of sales with the hate towards her so the more attention they got the more they were produced. The majority of us think she’s disrespectful towards our culture and don’t like her at all. (If we liked her the media articles wouldn’t have got clicks and the magazines wouldn’t have sold so they would have moved on. That’s how it works) They can blame the media all they like but she refuses to look at herself and ask herself the real questions as to why they really picked on her. She thought it was because she is of colour but not once did they mention her skin colour from the things I saw. It was all to do with her manners, or what she was wearing. Of course she goes back to Oprah to complain because let’s face it in America she’s going to find a lot more people who side with her as they don’t understand the English culture, she clearly doesn’t either and even after being taught still doesn’t which is why I feel like we see some contempt from Harry. He must have tried hard to help her fit in but he just couldn’t in the end. He doesn’t look happy at all through this and even when he was doing military work when he was younger he seemed to be bursting with life. Her obsession with being in the spotlight needs to stop because she’s dragging him down with it and it’s very sad to see.
See, I've always been fairly neutral when it comes to Meghan. She isn't my type of vibe but I have never seen reason to dislike her either. The not following royal protocol stuff was mostly false, with Kate or the Queen herself having done the same things but the press would spin things differently for Meghan (although worth noting they did the same with Kate in the early days too). I agree though, that people just ate up the negativity and so they press created more and more stories. That said, I mentioned last week that I have a bit of an OTT personality to override anxiety etc so perhaps I would be less aware of similar instances in Meghan. I think the reality with her is somewhere in the middle of the polarized views. I certainly wouldn't trust any media when it comes to any celebrity or royal. Far too many people out to make money or can benefit their own coverage from selling stories or being a "trusted source".
@@Callimoone the other reason may be, as meghan is not a 'white' fellow, hence the accusation of 'being a home breaker' may be applied to her much easily as compared to kate(who is obviously white in color).
@@mayank64723 Not at all. Look at all the females who have joined the royal family, from fergie, diana, camilla and kate, they ALL got bad press for quite some time. Meghan was no different. Nothing to do with her colour. Camilla had to deal with some really vile stuff as a 'home breaker'.
@@mayank64723 oh agreed, entirely possible. I have just loved Harry since he was born (I was 8) and he's always been the one Royal I've admired most because he's the most human/ normal. All I know is that he's clearly the happiest he's been in decades. I thought he should leave long before Meghan though so I'd always support that.
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He was not the only member of his family to serve in the military and see service during a war. Prince Andrew served in the Falklands war, Prince Phillip was in the navy for a number of years and saw service during WW2. Queen Elizabeth served in the army and lived through the blitz.
There’s a small clip from their patio party in one of the later episodes. The waitress greets them and is telling them where to go, and MM is very dismissive of her while Harry is looking at her and listening. I caught it as someone who has worked in the service industry for years. I wonder if anyone else did. I don’t have a stance on either of them any which way but I am always observing how people treat others (hence why I find myself on your channel). I just always find how people treat others who are In service to them or whom they deign as “not as important” to them always really interesting.
There's many other videos clips like that.
When she married. And it's getting out of the car, there's a man, reaching out, and she removes his hand. Like ' get off my spot light!!!! I don't need your help!!!'
He clearly got the message and backs up.
Australia event.
There's ladies with lanyards, telling Harry and Megan where to stand, where to go. And who to talk to. And Megan ignores her and does what she wants. While the lady tries to get her attention. Harry always listlens and looks in the eyes.
Another event, in middle east. He was meeting with some other royals. Other princes and again. There was ladies telling them where to go, and stand. Lady tell Harry, you walk this way, Megan you walk this way.and she so wanted to ignore her. She couldn't because the lady got in her face and directly told her to walk THIISSS way. She wanted to walk in the red carpet. But that red carpet is only for blood royals. She walked literally next to the red carpet she sooo wanted to step on it. It is soooo cringe.her face says it all!!! She hates being told what to do on events.
There were many ladies that have cried because they can't believe how rude Megan was towards them. They are doing their job, and they get in trouble for making them look stupid, cause she keeps breaking protocol. They get ignored straight up.
William got all the complaints and that's why they don't like her. She mistreated every employee that tried to groom her to be a royal.
She also makes harry look Hella dumb because he did say in his engagement interview that he had worked so hard to explain her everything that's ahead. She even says, she don't have to google sheeeeet because he tells her everything !! He was supposed to train her and he couldn't even show her respect towards his family. He looks so dumb having his wife claim she was fed to the wolfs!!! That's telling the whole world your husband ain't sheeet, he looks dumb and uneducated.
I think that the Dramatic HAND on the FOREHEAD was SARCASTIC, as was her BOW.
Spidey, I can not thank you enough for holding such a high ground in all of this. I just knew that there would be no entitled, mean, "fun"-making attitude from you, in this, no matter how we feel about the topic! I truly adore how you keep the tone in a respectful way. BIG kudos to you!
Agreed. Spider is very kind and balanced. I like how he gives various options for the behaviors he observes.
He needs a medal for this. I didn’t think anyone can stay unbiased when it comes to M&H
Much respect
I agree with you about Megan not knowing that she should have avoided the “topical” issue of BLM as the royals avidly avoid politics. In the US, there is no misunderstanding that BLM and the “me, too” movement is a politically left stance, so exceedingly political. Topical can be apolitical, but Meghan has proved herself to be interested in moving in political circles. The monarchy is head of state, but represents everyone, and so works with charities and causes that don’t have a political bent. She came in to the Royal family with her own agenda, didn’t read the room, and had no interest in investing in Harry’s culture….this became pretty obvious with her behaviour, and that is what caused the Brits to turn on her….absolutely nothing to do with race. She was offensive, and many of her mannerisms were dismissive and condescending.
@SandraStevenson I couldn't agree with you more.
Me too and blm are politicized but isn't inherently political, only to those who make it so. She just wants to be the voice for victims, including herself.
For me it was the hypocrisy. 6 private jet flights in a month, yet making a video telling us to not fly really is the kind of behaviour that pisses us Brits off.
Yes because victims of abuse having rights is definitely a political ideology and not just a human right. Same that all people should be treated equally under the law. The only people who think this is a political stance are people who disagree. They told princess Diana the same thing when she fought for people with aids and against land mines it was politically incorrect for the royals to do. Sigh.
@TD DZ are you getting paid by the couple? you are believing harry to tell the truth? he says whatever nutmeg tells him to. The only person who has ever called Catherine arrogant is you. She doesn't have a history of being a horrible person. The only allegations against Catherine has come out since NUTMEG joined the family.
Fascinating stuff from you yet again Spidey, thanks a million!So so interesting and you are a very good "lecturer"! Greetings from Ireland🤗🍀
How have I only just discovered you and your channel?! I love this and agree with everything you've said. Love the psychology (if that's the right word!) alongside the body language stuff. So interesting. Thank you 👍
I. Don't usually watch programs like yours because they always must interject their opinions that don't relate to the body language. I WILL WATCH YOU AGAIN
THANKYOU !!
I love your programs. You sound fair towards Meghan which makes you believable
I almost teared up when you mentioned the 'hatered towards the father' component in OC. No one talks about it, but it explains a lot of Harry's conflicts with the father.
Yeah 😕. It’s crazy to me how many people talk about Oedipus complex and focus exclusively on the love for the mother aspect. The disdain for the father is equally important and explains a LOT when it comes to Harry. Thanks for watching 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts I assume its because people already dislike Charles (thanks to his messy marriage) so it's easy to see that as different from the complex itself. But Harry's conflicts seem to be deeper. If you have read the book, it switches from portraying him as a warm-considerate to detached-cold. Always have enjoyed fair analysis!
@@MindBlinged I think that his time at boarding school has effected him.
I think people focus on the mother-son component because it can be sexually creepy.
Diana pitted Harry against his father and William unwittingly or not and made him feel less (2nd) she told everyone in an interview that he was the "spare" she was hurtful in many ways lashing out when thing don't go her way. Yes she was nice to strangers putting on a good act at times but also had a compassionate side to her putting herself on a parr with the underdog showing the world you can and suddenly the world was a humanitarian. She was and did a lot of good but to many put her on the same pedestal as God that I really dislike.
I watch several body language and behavior analysis channels on UA-cam, and Spidey's is definitely my favorite (The Behavior Panel fellas are for sure a close second!). I had totally forgotten today was Behavioral Arts upload day, and when I opened UA-cam to see the new video, it made my day! Thank you for bringing me fresh, informative, entertaining, and relevant content each week, Spidey!
I'm from the UK & I can remember Harry growing up & how much more relatable he was. I think he is most proud of his time in the army & that was pivotal in himself. I remember there being plenty of "show" that he was treated the same as other soldiers, but come on he's a Prince. Do u honestly believe that our monarchy would really allow that? I do believe he has some serious issues surrounding his parents. If u take what happened to his parents & apply it to anyone child in the world, I don't think any of them would not have "issues" for want of a better phrase. Harry's are just out there for the whole world to see. Or read. I think raising awareness is extremely important if u have the ability. Sometimes though, you need to learn when to quietly get on with your life. Spidey awesome as always. Love the smile to contempt sneer. So very well shown! Love it! & all u do 4 us. Big hugs x
Yes, exactly!
It's rather absurd for a 35-year-old individual not to google their potential date before the first meeting. Most grown, single individuals seeking a serious relationship would undoubtedly take this step to make the most of their time. I'm 34 years old, and all my friends who are approximately my age always check on their prospective dates before arranging to meet them. We're all quite occupied and value our time, we are quite experienced and have clear knowledge of our personal preferences. Devoting a mere 10 minutes to this simple homework, is a smart move, saving us from wasting time and energy.
I haven’t been able to bring myself to watch the show itself. I stumbled on your video and I found your analysis to be very interesting. You are an engaging and eloquent presenter. I learned a great deal. Thank you for your analysis!
To be honest, getting married in the UK in a castle, is far more common than you'd think. There are 100's to hire out for weekends, overnight, or just the day for weddings, and all celebrations. Not cheap to do but a really common expense that 1000's of couples and families choose, each year, across the UK & Ireland. Brilliant analysis as always Spidey, thanks for all your hard work man!
To be fair, I live in NY & I'm about an hour away from a castle here, too! It's not the same, but many people say "I'm getting married at O'Heeka castle" 😆
Yes I agree! Windsor castle on the other hand is not so common 😂She should have been more specific, she clearly doesn’t grasp the history of the building or nearly anything to do with royal life. Even now
I'm from England and got married in a castle. It's not overly expensive compared to other venues either. We looked around the castle first and absolutely fell in love and thought we'd never be able to afford it. We sat down with their wedding planner and the cost really wasn't that bad. We then went to a selection of hotels in the same area, and where we could get married and then compared the costs. While some things were more expensive on either side, the overall cost came out pretty much the same... so we went for what we wanted. No it wasn't Windsor castle!
i am from germany and my brother got married in a castle. Its a common thing in europe.
I live in the PNW and a mile or so away from a castle. It's a very popular wedding venue. I think she was going more for the whimsical idea of a fairytale wedding with a castle and a prince than the more mundane.
Spidey, You show so much grace and honesty in how you analyze the body language and dialogue. In most cases, people are not horrible all the time, nor are they amazing all of the time. Many people project their feelings or own shortcomings onto others, especially when they see them mirrored. Then there are people who live in the world of confirmation bias and only look for things to back up their own opinions. You take such an honest and “just the facts” approach to your analysis that it makes you among the best at what you are doing here. Anyone who comes at you for your analysis is most likely closed minded and unwilling or unable to see things objectively. Bravo!
An outspoken and very highly decorated (the Military Cross was presented by the Queen!) British soldier, Trevor Coult, says that he was part of a detail assigned to protect Harry throughout his military service. By his account, Harry’s experience was absolutely not typical.
That said, it was probably the most “normal” period of his life 🤷♀️💐
Your analysis’ in general have helped me weave out so many toxic people around me + helped me notice when people are uncomfortable which could possibly help someone in the future if they’re in danger and I just wanted to show gratitude 🙏🏽 GOD BLESS YOU BRO!
I really love your voice and your demeanour . You are very calming and know a lot about your subject. Cheers from Australia.
Spidey! I'm a Panelist from Germany and a huge fan of your channel. I love the way you explain things and find it very inspirational and educational. Much love from Munich!
I think what bothers me about Megan is that she still seems disrespectful to the royal family in the way she talks about everything. Which I guess is fair seeing that she feels like they treated her poorly etc. but when she speaks about the stuff she didn't know, she tries to make it seem like everyone else is at fault and that it wasn't her responsibility to ask about these things or to make sure she knows
Yes! I have a hard time believing that the royal family and those that work for them were purposely trying to make her look bad (which is how I feel she portrays it). It doesn't make sense. If she looks bad, then that is a reflection on them. So the only logical view in my mind is that they would do everything in their power to make her look good. And, just as Spidey emphasized with the Harry Potter clips, all she had to do was ask!! It isn't that hard. She could have asked Harry or another member of the family, or she could have asked a staff member. If she wasn't sure about something, why didn't she reach out and say something along the lines of, "I want to be respectful and act and dress appropriately. Can you please help me?"
@@heatherhartman2803 You are absolutely correct,all she had to do was ask…..ITS NOT LIKE SHE IS SHY.
@@heatherhartman2803 They did it to Diana......
@@nanner3200 That doesn't explain why Harry didn't manage to prepare his wife for the basic requirements of Royal life and duties. He set her up to fail, not his family. The buck stops with him. When two people from different countries start dating, they typically learn about each other's cultures, beliefs, employment, lifestyle etc. during their courtship. Lovebirds usually want to know every minute detail they can about each other during that period. How entitled did Harry feel that he seemed to think it was down to the rest of his family to educate his partner on everything from needing to bow before the Sovereign to basic Royal duties including activities such as walkabouts? As if he didn't know that the women in his family have their fashion and style scrutinised by the media and a global audience? He has managed to write an entire book about everything he hated, struggled with or had to fulfil as a Royal - and the intense scrutiny Diana faced under the microscope of the media AND public - yet Meghan was apparently left clueless. The blame for Meghan's lack of preparation for Royal life lies with her husband. He had a responsibility to fully prepare her for his world, as she would have had to educate and prepare him for the US. He failed, and she has suffered for it. Once he accepts that his shoulders bear the burden of that blame, he can hopefully start realising that he is not a victim but the root cause of her problems. The man didn't even bother to meet her father before proposing yet moaned about having to ask the Queen for permission. The UK media seemed to turn on the couple after Meghan's family starting courting the press and complaining. Yet Harry seems to blame the media for talking to relatives he himself failed by not bothering to socialise and get to know them in person during his courtship with Meghan.
Everyone has treated her poorly,.... according to her.
I’m glad you have stated, in the past, that not all rules will apply to EVERYONE. I glance into people’s eyes when having a conversation, not because I’m checking to see if they are buying something but because I get very uncomfortable looking people in the eye but know that it can come across as rude and/or uninterested to NOT make eye contact.
Yes! Sometimes I look away and gather my thoughts and then I redirect my gaze to the other person so as not to appear rude.
I like that you cite body language research as the basis for your analysis. Thank you.
You summed up their entire dynamic in the first video with “he tries to protect her like he couldn’t his mother”
There have been multiple televised royal weddings. There’s no way she didn’t know that people lined up on the route.
She wrote a blog about William & Catherine’s wedding…… she knew.
People lined up the streets days in advance. I’m British and live close to Windsor, I was there the day before the Wedding, there was a party atmosphere in town (it’s s small town). Streets and the park (the long walk) we’re filled with locals and Brits from other parts of the country and lots of Americans and Canadians who camped on the streets days in advance to ensure they have first row view of the carriage as it passes. This would have been covered on the news so unless she was locked up in a dungeon that has no WIFI or TV or radio and didn’t speak to anyone at all, there is no way she would not have known there are people on either side of the roads. These stupid lies she tells are pointless and only make her seem more dumb, insincere, fake and weird.
@@aabc8141 - Well said. I’m a yankee and I knew that people lined up on the streets. You folks are amazing at showing you love and respect.
I do want to say thank you for taking the time to make these videos. Been following you since JD and AH trials. Your the first pod cast I've watched ever, and from there now I watch the behavior panel, law and lumber, lawyer you know, and you. Just wanted to take a sec and say I appreciate what you guys are doing
Ditto!! Me too!!!
Me three !
I follow E.Baker too!
Oh, I hadn't heard of the Behaviour Panel, is it just as enjoyable as Spidey? I might have to have a look.
Same. And I like how he manages to be sweet and fair as well as critical.
I love that you display the behaviour or cut to the shot of them doing it as you discuss it, it's really helpful. Thank you for your hard work, Spidey. Looking forward to the next one ❤️
I was raised in Missouri and I knew of the Royal Family.
Imagine carrying all the anger Harry feels for what happened to his mom, and then marrying someone who relentlessly attempts to convince you that everything you are and everyone you ever loved is, by nature, evil. When he said, "I hated myself..." it took me aback for a second - the contempt on his face looks, to me, like self-loathing... in the present ☹️
To me it feels like Harry should have gotten a professional mental health care, and instead he pulled himself into a toxic relationship.
He uses his mother's death
I’m English and I am admit while I never knew we called it a walk about for the royals, as the media would mostly when I watched the news (hardly watch it now😂) they always addressed it as something along the lines of. “The royals ‘insert names’ were out greeting the public at such and such a place”, so I will agree that initially yes, she may not have known what it was, but when she keeps stating no one helped her at all,theres multiple royals and high society people and aides who offered help and she allegedly turned it down. So she has no one to blame but her self
I agree. If she wasn't familiar with the term walk about, she could simply ask. I agree that there were likely plenty of people available to advise her and answer her questions if she would have bothered to ask.
Liking this before even watching it! Love your content. Thank you Spidey!
I don’t believe she didn’t know she wasn’t supposed to talk about certain things. My wise teacher once said “it is not excuse to say I didn’t know, if you don’t know, find out”. For someone who did international studies and is an “activist”, there is a lot she doesn’t or didn’t know.
Thank you so much for your impartial reading- many others let their opinions “leak” loudly..
…and…
THAT
IS WHY I admire you.
15:30 I believe it was kept there because it resembles the gesture of having that knot in the throat that happens when we're about to cry (or while being too emotional) and to subdue it, we tend to gulp it down. Interestingly, the hand gesture goes along with it as well! The placement is just right too; seemingly after unloading a rather sensitive topic, this gesture does seem to 'add' that tinge of an authentic emotion surging inside him tying the whole narrative of it all being truly emotional and genuine.
Funny how it was either a hiccup or a burp, but the whole package works to depict something entirely different too, albeit too shabbily😄
It has been reported that, only a few days before Diana's death, she called the boys because she was away and wanted to check in. Apparently Harry refused to come to the phone for whatever reason. And so he never talked to her, and then she died. This is a very important fact and would, I would think, have a hugely negative and painful effect on Harry, and perhaps explains, at least in part, why he can't seem to heal from his mother's death.
Yes I remember the interview, it was when they did a tribute to Diana a few years after she died.
Yes in agreement..
I was called by hospice my mom didn't have long
I regret..but was so hysterical and upset.
It affected me and my job
I just couldn't view.
My brother and father were horrible ..narc s and I couldn't
Deal with it all.
So much drama and corruption
And lies..
So that can haunt..
Thanks I know so much more
Now than I did yrs ago..
I read that story, also
Yes, Harry also mentions this moment in the book. He very much regrets not really want to talk with his mother when she called because he was having too much fun playing. He did in fact talk to her but he rushed through the conversation and wasn’t really listening to her. He was after all 12 years old, so I can see he was involved with his own stuff at the time.
His guilt is still there, but he continues to blame others for everything.
What I caught is that she is saying that nobody taught her how to wave, she just watched and learned. This makes her story about not knowing how to curtsy even less believable. Even if, supposedly, no one in the royal family taught her how, she could watch hours and hours of footage of people curtsying, so she would know.
There's footage of her doing a curtsy in SUITS
She studied ballet when she was young. How on earth she didn't know to curtsy. All ballerinas are taught to make it. This is another lie. That is way she has been labelled a Pinocchio.
She's so full of crap
Chase Hughes found evidence that she was given huge amounts if information from the courtiers.
It's so interesting to have specific details pointed out that leads to the same conclusion I recognize but had no idea the small expressions are seen subconsciously. Nice job Spidey!
In “Finding Freedom” the authors specifically state how much help Meghan received! In fact, I think “Finding Freedom” goes into details better that the docuseries and “Spare.” The reason is that there is a more sinister reason for the docuseries and “The Spare.” Harry is gradually getting more frustrated as this saga proceeds! And reading the book you get a completely different concept of Harry’s story than when Harry talks about the book! The reason, someone else without the hate and animosity wrote the book! The book presents Harry as having a really wonderful childhood!!
She absolutely knew what a “walk about” was. She did extensive research validated by her “friends” who witnessed her googling, reading articles, watching interviews, etc. She knew just about everything to sell herself as comfortable with the press and her potential role in the Royal Family.
How do you know ? were you there?
For a woman who has been obsessed with BRF since she is a teenager, she knew. And evidence are many, like the photo taken by her friend in 2004 in airport that she was googling the Queen with a clear view of laptop screen, and the words from her classmates and many acquaintance when they talk about her, and BTW those person have better credibility than her especially she was caught by public on media for lying so many times.
I’m dubious of the ol “a friend said” or “a source close to X said,” you should be too. We know tabloid media tactics are suspect. They aren’t news, they’re rumor mills.
@@soulpowerful Well established by whom? Exposed by whom? What are your sources?
Janis I lived in FOUR countries. You can research ALL DAY and still miss small subtleties, you ONLY know once you have seen and breathed it. Kind of like a man talking about what it is to be a woman.
To me, when I heard Meghan say 'so weird to say I'm getting married in the castle' (paraphrasing), I didn't hear she wanted to be relatable. It came across to me as 'how cool am I?! I got married in a castle'.
yess… she was proud of that
Agree
Humble braggart extraordinaire.
@@mademsoisellerhapsody Spot on description. She does that a lot. It's a very passive-aggressive trait.
She wanted to emphasise it. That's why she said it twice. But she wrapped it up in a performative layer of relateability. ("I'm so special, I got married in a castle! I want to show off about it but I have to pretend to be humble").
In fact, it would be more authentically relatable (to a lot of Americans at least) if she had said: how frickin' cool is that!? I got married in a castle! I just heard myself say it ! My life is like a fairytale :)
I am not against Megan but, come on, since you become girlfriend of a Prince you begin to ask, search, get info and over all when you are going to meet Royal Family!!!! No question on it!
One thing it got me thinking is how not approachable the whole institution seems to be. Because when Harry talks about how the decision to have him leave went about makes me think offices talked to each other but not the person per day.
Also the cottage they were giving to live… total not it. Without them saying, these are my words, based on my life experiences. Rarely when you shine more than your boss, the end result is your promotion or continue support towards your success but the opposite until you part ways. Just bringing it to my own experiences. I can see them being shunned. Honestly. These are powerful people that are head of states. I don’t see them loosing time with details and accommodating people. We are being naive to think they would.
I don’t think any research can prepare you enough. Diana is a perfect example.
Totally agree. Any ordinary person who cares about their partner would ask about the family before meeting the parents. Megan would have had plenty of chances looking these things up on the internet or to ask around. But clearly... She didnt, and now blames it on arguably the most easily searched family in the world, lol.
Meghan did research The RF, according to her half sister, Samantha. Meghan has proven at this point to be a very destructive Malignant Narcissist. She alienated her own family & then did the same to the RF. They both have been caught in lie after lie. I refer you to the videos by Lady Colin Campbell on this subject as she has her own reliable sources of Info. She also has personal experience with a narcissistic relative. She wrote a book about it, worth reading- Daughter of Narcissus. Many therapists have written to her & confirmed that from what they have seen, Meghan fits the personality disorder. What led to Meghan’s gesture? She’s an actress & not a very good one. That’s what.
Same, don't dislike the lady at all but unfortunately recently she and he haven't done themselves any favours. I wish they would disconnect frm the yes ppl around them and view there life as there own,not a soap opera needing constant new episodes.
Body language is so interesting. Thank you!
Nice videos 👍👍
Imagine trying to talk and have someone watching you so intensely and staring with what looks like she is saying to him" watch what you say.do not dare contradict me...."
I thought of something that I didn’t see talked about during this clip but there were other examples of similar situations given in part 1. Now maybe the reason it wasn’t mentioned is because there wasn’t much body language to support my claim but my claim is based mostly on common sense.
The clip I’m referring to is when she is talking about her wedding and she explains that she knew there would be lots of people at the castle, but what she “didn’t know is people would be lining both sides of the street.” She even adds details like her mom apparently saying to her “what is going on here?” Meghan tells this story with a bit of excitement in her voice, but I have a very hard time buying her story.
There is hours and hours of William/Kates wedding, from every vantage point possible, all available to her. She can probably get family copies of that wedding that most the public will never see. I just don’t think it’s reasonable to believe that with this perfect example of what you might be able to expect with your own wedding that you didn’t watch any of the Williams/Kate wedding. I have to believe she would have watched the William&Kate wedding hundreds of times just to get ideas for her own wedding.
Seeing Meghan tell this lie with such ease and enthusiasm makes me believe she is a skilled liar. Meghan is so consistently dishonest and seems to lye about such small details that it makes you wonder what she won’t lie about. Unfortunately, you have to draw the conclusion that if there is any motivation for her to lye about something she won’t skip a beat.
34:47
Well said. Pretty accurate! I believe - especially regarding MM’s behavior patterns of lying, the veil between truth and a lie seems non-existent for her. It is said that is a characteristic of the narcissistic personality. Acting for her as a profession provides opportunities for role playing which can blur the lines between reality and fantasy under the circumstances as well.
Hmmm.. Good point. I don't like how she says, "I didn't know this, I didn't know that." Really, being an actress you have to research your roles so you can get a feel for the character. Wasn't this one of the biggest if not the Biggest most import role of your life? How could you not fully research every aspect about it? Definitely, the hardest claims for me to swallow. The other things I think are more believable, but not she just didn't have a clue.
Even if she hadn't watched Princess Catherine and Prince William's wedding, there were clips from King Charles and Diana, whom she idolizes intensely. It's likely that she would have watched Diana's wedding at some point.
She had dupers delight.
I also thought it was so silly. How could you not know? The wedding for Kate and William was super publicized. You're marrying the son of Princess Diana. You're marrying into royalty. I seriously doubt none of this was unexpected 😒.
I really enjoy these shows. It helps me learn more about people and their expressions.
Your videos are the most high quality and insightful on UA-cam! We really see your hard work & love you for it ❤️
Super interesting! Would love an episode on Princess Diana's famous interview!
The idiocy of both of them thinking anyone will buy that she didn't google him or what a "walk about" could possibly mean is stunning. It simply directs people to think they don't know how to navigate the modern world. Even 6 year olds will tell you if you want to find out absolutely anything you google it. But she's not smart enough to decide to do that? She'd rather make a public fool of herself doing it wrong and breaking protocol? She does it deliberately and they both offer lame unbelievable excuses.
Oh she walked that statement back also..later said she "looked at his Instagram" preferring the audacity that Googleing isn't the same as Instagram ..both of them also have many ways that "infers" things but.dont come out with specifics...I'm done with these two
He school girl friends and best friend through college, and her 1st marriage, said she was obsessed and really admired Princess Diana. She would have watched alot of the walks bouts Diana did, as we all did in North America. At another girl's birthday party video around age 13 or 14, Megan was seen running around with a crown on her head, calling herself the QUEEN . This was her FRIENDS BD party! She was saying now you guys have to obey me and cursty or whatever.
She’s the “smart girl” right? Did she never watch the news? Walk abouts are on the news all the time on the US news. In fact, US presidents do walk abouts , particularly on Inauguration Day. To feign ignorance on this subject, frankly I find completely unbelievable.
I have never seen or heard of a "walk about" here in the US. But the name is pretty self explanatory. I don't know if I would have said or handled it differently if I was in her position.
@Janice I’m from the US and have have never heard of a walkabout, nor seen it on the news. Not every household watches the news (my parents read the newspaper every morning)… TV was only for cartoons and movies.
You draw people who are like you. You are balanced and generous in your examination and speech towards the subjects in your videos.
When the burp/ hiccup moment happened- I actually interpreted it as a hard swallow or gulp, conveying emotion. The same hand to the gesture is also used for the same purpose of holding back emotions
It's interesting to hear that "probably" is a low confidence word. I often use it in conversations to come off less aggressive when I'm giving an opinion, or allow open room for error in the future if I'm found to be wrong. That's so fascinating how that works!
I do the same! I suppose low confidence could mean not arrogant/ assertive here? More approachable / open?
totally agree. I do the same thing even when I'm very confident, just to leave room for disagreement without it becoming awkward. but you could argue that it could be interpreteded as unconfident.
Hello 😊Maybe I should have specified. When I say “low confidence word;” I don’t mean low confident in oneself I mean low confidence in the position. Exactly as you described. If you’re uncertain or willing to have an open discussion it would indicate that you’re speaking of opinion not fact. Ex: you would never say “my name is probably Michaela” you know this to be true. We don’t use “probably” if we know for a fact what we’re saying is true.
Also always remember baseline. Some people are naturally more open minded, so they use “probably” or “in my opinion” more often to leave room for debate naturally. He does not
Thanks for watching 😊
@@TheBehavioralArts hard to argue against the baseline argument. Keeping with the royals could you do a breakdown of the infamous prince andrew interview?
@@TheBehavioralArts ah! I'm fangirling that you now know my name, haha. And yeah totally, I understood but maybe didn't specify enough that I agreed with your statement lol. Love your videos, keep up the great work!
I’m terrible with eye contact when I’m being questioned, especially when I feel accused and am being truthful.
My impression of Meghan is she is very social, has trouble empathizing, and is sensitive to criticism. I know someone like that, and they are constantly beefing with 7 people at once. I still support them and love them, but it’s exhausting and frustrating. I have also learned that the only way to have peace is to never speak my mind. I wonder if Harry is in a similar boat.
I can relate to this. My SIL was a very similar personality and family functions were always laced with anxiety for us all, treading on eggshells the whole time in case she took offence and got upset. ( Of course she could be breathtakingly insensitive to us in her comments ! ). We knew it would make life difficult for my brother when they got home later on. Exhausting is a good word for it. They are divorced now, each with a new partner, and I can't tell you the difference in family parties etc. Far more relaxed and less tiring. It's odd how much one person can influence the whole group.
Why do you still love them if the only way you have peace is to not speak your mind? Just a genuine question, it sounds exhausting.
She’s self-obsessed!
Narcissists are good at socializing, lack empathy, and are hyper-sensitive to criticism (real or imagined)
@@Charlotte8591 Because they are not all bad and they respect my boundaries. I do avoid them a lot and decline many offers to hang out, haha. Luckily, they understand themself significantly better than many others with similar traits, thank god.
I love your analysis, fair and professional. Thank you
You are REALLY good at this! Thank you for the insights.
Regarding “unconscious bias“ his statement being to mind a saying: “ I didn’t say it was your fault, I said I was going to blame you.“
yay i’m early!
i just wanna say i really love your videos! i have a bachelors in psychology (emphasis in addiction counseling) & your content is so interesting and you make it all really engaging! it’s obvious you’re passionate about what you do & all your hard work shows! you seem like such a genuinely good person & one of the things i really admire about you is how you handle difficult topics too when not many people would handle with nearly as much care. i love seeing your channel/following grow bc it is so well deserved! (:
Excellent analysis!! Spot on!! Thank you Spidey!! I always learn something new and see people and behaviour from different perspectives. I appreciate your videos so much. 🌟🙏
15:47 I felt like that came off as a kind of emotional gulp and maybe they kept it there for dramatic impact.
I more than enjoyed it, it was brilliantly done, and so profoundly dissected, amazing 👏
I don't know why your videos don't pop up more often, but this one did, and am grateful!
There is a difference between a 'regular' wave and how a Royal waves for a reason. The Royals usually have to wave at crowds for a considerable length of time and so to wave heartedly in the usual manner would take a lot of energy and would become very tiring very quickly. If you look at how the late Queen waved, you can see it was a very minimal gesture, raise the arm and wave only the forearm back and forth or the even just the hand. It is actually known to many as "The Royal Wave".
I imagine there are very practical reasons behind most of what the Royals do.
It's an etiquette requirement.
He talks about having a lived experience and joining the army like other members of the Royal family haven't done it. William was in the raf and was part of the raf search and rescue force for 6 years and then was a full-time pilot for the air ambulance for 2 years.
This is true, my brother use to increase his eye contact when he was lying and make his eyes bigger 😳 I could always tell if he was lying when he done this 🤣
I always give people eye contact when talking to them but I am not lying to them.
I was thinking maybe they left that 6 second moment in with Harry when he burps or hiccups because they thought it could look like emotion towards what he was talking about.
I wish we could see the unedited version of interviews!
Thank you for all your hard work, you are such an inspiration!
I think they left the hiccup in because everybody hiccups, no one can control it... Harry is really just like one of us. His chamber attendants put his trousers on one leg at a time!
She was given a thirty five page file with instructions
Oh my god how much I LoVE watching you analyzing! I do not care about Harry and Meghan, I watch you to be amazed and learn! Thank you.
My mother always knew when I was lying as I just stared at her without blinking. I still do it. Obviously I haven't perfected it yet 🙈😂😂
I'm sorry about this but Meghan was offered so many of the Queens top people to guide and help her as she didn't want a repeat of the mistakes that happened with Diana. Even Sophie offered to help her, she was given a massive file on protocol not to obey but to explain the why's and how's, all of this she refused. As to a "walk about", she watch video after video of Diana and the Royal family, according to her friends, and would have seen them all doing "walk about". These two are passing the buck. We all wanted this to work apparently they didn't.
I can't help but notice this inherit awkwardness that Harry has every time Megan says something. It's almost as if he struggles to really believe her and accept her story as truth as well. It's actually quite sad to see.
Yep i though its was only me who saw that deep down he knows now that she's a liar and his big brother was right about her
He seems so unhappy around her.
I see it more as meekness. He seems to mostly defer to her in these interviews. She seems to completely dominate her, and I'm not sure he is completely happy with it.
Lightbulb moment for me was when you talked about the Oedipal Complex which many agree that Harry has. Not only is he involved with his mom/wife and wants to protect but the other half of this is how they hate/intensely dislike their father! This would explain all the nasty things he said in Spare about how cold and uncaring his father was/is. Poor Harry hasn’t grown up-he’s a case of arrested development (emotional and mental stage stuck at 13 yrs old)! Thank you for explaining things so well!
Oh come off it! His father IS a case!
I’ve wondered that, too, if he hasn’t been “stuck “ at the age his mother died. I’ve seen this happen to other folks.
Emotionally stuck at 13, yes
I think he grew up, but you could never forgive your father cheating on your mom and allowing the press to lead to a high-speed chase that killed Diana. I STILL hate the UK press and I'm not even royalty or british.
Very convenient for them that he doesn't hate Dad's money!
Spidey, you are amazing at remaining impartial. Hearing Harry speak about the difficulties and stresses of being a part of the Royal family, I get that it is not for everyone, and it certainly wasn’t a role his wife found conducive to her happiness. However, I wish they stopped trying to blame everything and everyone for their inability to fit that life and their desire to move away from it. Another thing that has popped into my mind after the endless complaining in interviews, podcasts, series, book, articles, and the unkindness with which they constantly speak about the Waleses, is how much harder it must be for William and Katherine to carry themselves with such dignity and grace, under the constant attacks and the pressure of being the future King and Queen consort, and while bringing up their young family. I don’t believe one needs to pick sides and can actually feel compassion for both parties in this situation.
William cheats on Kate and she has to take it. One reason people have a positive opinion of W&K is that so much negative energy toward H&M distracts from all the negative stories there are about not just William, but the whole RF.
@@karmad4491 still, it’s not about how awesome William is, it’s about the stress of constant attacks. It must be tough and personally, I find compassion for both brothers based on how I’d feel if I was in that situation with a sibling. I also think H&M might be making things worse for themselves by constantly over sharing. My that’s just my personal opinion.
ya, but you have to realize Kate and William are likely deliberately making H and M the undesirables to be able to rule. Its a classic problem of siblings vying for the crown and power. Has been historical truth for generations, so the same thing is likely happening here as well via the press vs real battles.
This has been disproven as a lie and the man that started the rumor has since apologized.
I am a people watcher/observer. I love body language videos and your channel and content is brilliant. I have learned so much. Keep up the great videos 🙌🏻
As usual your analysis is awesome and your kindness fairness at its very core.
Really enjoyed learning about body language. You explained this so well 👍
I appreciate this well rounded and compassionate review of what you are seeing. There's definitely a strangeness to whatever is going on with this couple and yet it doesn't feel fair when body language experts are too rough on him, esp taking into consideration his unique highly publicized trauma at a young age. So thank you for avoiding the pitfalls and presenting a humanistic view.
Behind almost everything Meghan says I see narcissism, insincerity and condescension. I find her incredibly difficult to warm to.
I see a public persona. We don't know her.
This was worth the wait! Thanks!
As a Person born in Scotland,I /we as nation respect our Royal Family and for Harry and Megan to disrespect what we consider to be very important and “trying to make a laughing of our Heritage is not only insulting,shameful but out right massively unacceptable,they both are two spoiled brats and have no idea what real life is about !Our Royal Family has supported us through the rough times…I am appalled by them ,the lack of self awareness is beyond my understanding!
You truly the best body language specialist , your understanding of even the smallest nuances are amazing. I’m not a fan “H” and “M” but that being said I appreciate that you are very fair. Thank you for your videos.
I never liked their clothes much either! Haha 😅 H&M