Sex Tips for Men - From a Therapist
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- Опубліковано 30 вер 2024
- Positive role models and examples of healthy sexual relationships are nonexistent for most men. Here are 3 sex tips from a therapist especially for men that offer some much needed encouragement and guidance.
01:01 Tip 1
04:52 Tip 2
07:29 Tip 3
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My name is TyaCamellia (Tya) Stone, LMFT -- Licensed therapist in the states of California & Nevada (CA 112207 & NV 2779-R).
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Unfortunately - my Wife has decided 15 years ago that there will be no quantity, so quality is not an issue because she has destroyed our intimacy with her zero affection mindset.
Damn! Same for me. Love the woman but intimacy not really her thing. Makes me sad but at the stage where I’ve stopped caring. Seems there are many sexless marriages out there.
So what, you're gonna be sexless until you die? Either you divorce and live the rest of your life according to YOUR standards, or simply state the fact: She either puts out, or you get it somewhere else.
Leave her, then.
You should deal with that resentment
Dude, leave her if you can. Don't settle for this shit. Imagine if you never did anything your wife asked, she would leave you
Great tips for men. I guess these apply to women because many women have high body counts.
@cjceejay5261 Absolutely!
That "watching porn to get better at sex is like watching basketball to get better at basketball" analogy is 👌. It's such basic math, as simple as 2+2=4. So simple that it reveals that it's simply an excuse to continue embracing the effortless stimulation.
@wingnutmcspazatron3957 I'm so glad you found it helpful! You are absolutely right. Thank you for watching!
A sane woman talking on UA-cam, how refreshing :)
@raphaelkuttruf Thank you for watching!
Good video with great intent. I agree that people should seek connection more rather than seeing everyone as a an opportunity for one’s own pleasure. People, especially the latest generations, don’t know how to connect psychologically with others. Social media induced egocentrism and lack of wholesome socialization is to blame. And I’m not surprized it results in underwhelming sexual experiences. There is a lot of philosophical insights underneath these practical tips.
@Ruktiet Thank you for your kind words! You are absolutely correct. Thank you for watching!
Great advice at the end!
Just booked my vasectomy.
@user-is2kk9qn7r Stock up on ice!
This is very great advice. Loved all of it. Most men may stay single because half the women anymore especially the younger generation only want a sugar daddy. Tell a woman to pay for herself and they will always run away. Best birth control for women is the IUD. And for men, im glad i got a vasectomy.
@brianmizway9324 I'm glad you found it helpful! Thanks for watching!
This therapist continues to talk about the importance of not getting trapped in a bad relationship by having sex and the potential partner perhaps not being committed or having a selfish character. How about trying it God's way? That is, don't have sex UNTIL you are in a committed relationship and you know the commitment and character of your partner?
@keithlamb5398 I agree 100% God's way is BEST 🙌!! Unfortunately, many people are lost in hookup culture and need gentle guidance towards a better direction.
By 5:10 😮😢
Excellent, Just shared this video with two young men under 25 hope they watch it a couple of times . Respect, Truth, Loyalty, Trust. Each of your specific guidelines are supported by real life scenarios. Believing is an action with committed attitude. ♥️🌹🦅🙏🍀✡️
@jerrymoran8323 I'm so glad you found it helpful enough to share! Thank you for looking out for the young men out there!
Thank so much for this video, very informative
@mauricemboula5869 You are very welcome! Thanks so much for watching!
Not needing to have a high body count as a man is one thing. Being a man in his mid-thirties with a body count of zero in a world where marriageable women are this scarce is another thing altogether. What is a man to do in such times?
@samcotten2416 Great question! I think men in that specific situation first need to shift their attention and energy in a more constructive direction. Focus on improving their physical and mental health. Find and exploit their individual strengths/most attractive qualities, or develop some from scratch. Improve social health where they are around good, wholesome people, where they can meet women who are ready for healthy marriage. Stop listening to all cultural/media sources that feed the negative belief of marriageable women being scarce.
09:37 I wish I got that advice before my ex wife got pregnant.
Sorry for the poor humor. But amazing advice that I wish I'd heard earlier (not relating to my daughter, but rather the mature perspective of sex which you're illustrating here)
@martin72345 Yes, two things can be true at once. I'm glad you found this helpful! Thank you for watching!
#1 we are not Animals
@gregthompson9434 You are correct! Thank you for watching!
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this was so well explained. Excellent and invaluable video to men, beyond measure. They are cheating themselves when watching porn, so sad.
@muma6559 I'm so glad you found it helpful. You are correct! Thank you for watching!
I would go as far as to say porn has single handedly destroyed my self esteem, my confidence and my life. I mourn for the life I could have had. Not that I didn't see anything wrong with it, I was taught very young it's bad but I've spent my whole life trying to overcome it and only now it's settled but that's because my drive for life has completely dissipated. I now live without desire and that includes sexual desire. It's more peaceful but no longer even feels like I'm alive.
Healthier means of sexual development sounds great.
Where would I try to find those?
@aaronlarsen4674 Great question! It's found in healthy committed relationships.
Excellent points men need to digest. Thank you.
@JorgeCabrita-hy8hb You are so welcome! I'm glad you found it helpful. Thank you for watching!
Yay, common sense!!!
Absolutely ❤💯
@daveondiekaaron2204 I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thank you for watching!
@thedailyjules_ I'm glad you enjoyed the video! Thank you so much for watching!
When humans have needs / wants sometimes the logic goes right out the window.
@marcuspatten2257 You are not wrong!
The sad thin about porn is that it is just treat sex as something you do it takes away from that shared eye contact shared touch .sex for my lover's has always been about them feeling safe and comfortable. Not just the actions. The communication I think for a woman being desired is the Orgasm. I think for me her mental emotional and trust that sex between for me and my partner must be open about need and won't things as a man I look for beyond ever her looks but her mind
@david9920 I'm glad you have a healthier relationship with your partner!
This is from a womans perspective. The first few times sleeping with a woman is amazing because it's about exploring her. That's fun. But I do agree sleeping around isn't good
@denistaylor1782 Thank you for watching! Not all men and not all women think the same way; everyone has different life experiences.
Great advice 👌🏻
@highvaluegentleman Thank you for watching! I'm so glad you found it helpful!
Wow! Great tips are covered in your video ❤ love them
@Epictrophy I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thank you for watching!
Good tips but it seems like you are putting the body count on men when women are having just as much sex by definition. It seems these days there are relatively few men interested in body counts, but many women are sleeping with those few men. How would you speak to those women?
@DustinJohnsonPC Yes, women are absolutely just as accountable as men! Both men and women are drawn to the same behavior though through different motives. I made a Sex Tips for Women video where I covered the motives and responsibility of women.
Honored to find a Lady knows Her work ya where'd normal but yes one female rooted connection is Logical when you find the right Girl the fragrance of one bond makes sense. In a honorable way thanks for information she's cool doctor
@RobinBLackberrycreek24 I'm glad you found it helpful, thank you so much for watching! To clarify, I am not a doctor, but a licensed psychotherapist.
This is a great presentation. Thank you! Question; Would you consider “Romance” books “Porn”?
@timothyschertz2050 Great question! I would not consider romance books to be the same as visual porn in regards to the negative impact on the human brain. However, I would classify it as pornographic, as it would be inappropriate for a child to be exposed to it.
So ldr is also not a good thing. 😮
@patrickd3602 if you mean long distance relationships, yes -- they have a high failure rate.
HELPFUL.. ❤️💯
@daveondiekaaron2204 I'm glad this was helpful to you! Thank you for joining our community!
Great advice 🙏
@CornelNorocea I'm so glad you found it helpful! Thanks for watching!
Everything thing that you said may a lot of sents
@davidlogan6964 Thank you for watching!
What if you don’t have any desire of a relationship but still want to have sex then what?
@MessageInABottle869 I think that's a feeling many people can relate to! I suggest you check out my Situationship series where I break down human nature and human attachment. Essentially, what you describe is wanting to use someone's body to masturbate with; wanting the benefits of sex without responsibility to the other person's humanity.
Try a sex doll.
@keithlamb5398 I see the sentiment you're offering! Sex dolls can seem to solve one problem, yet create others. People who rely on sex dolls often struggle with connecting sexually with a real person.
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In my case I do not have access to a real person so my only concern is I don't see a doll as satisfying. I'd love to hear others experiences in this regard.
Pay for it. Sex work is the oldest profession in the world. Not saying it's healthy but if you don't have access to sex/relationship at least the deal is clear. Might even be worth forming some what of a relationship with 1 sex worker so there is a bit of rapport. Problem I guess here would be building an attachment (either way) over time.
My body count is 98 kg 😂
@didierbaudot Thank you for your sense of humor!
❤cool
@renem2257 Thanks so much for watching!
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@stevelopinto4828 Always a pleasure!
This lady is best tip herself.❤
@jerry-mind-sky Thank you for watching!
You are simply amazing. These videos are so important right now thank you for doing it so carefully too.
One non-critical tip: at the beginning, when you mention that the (redpill) view of the man as the one made to be sleeping around is biologically/evolutionarily false; that part, like any point that debunks this widespread "philosophy" could use a super quick reference to studies. It would convey the point better, and I think, be better received by men's brain.
A fellow psychologist man ;)
You don't need to sleep around, but every time i have a lot of women around interested in me, my partners maintained a stronger attraction towards me. And viceversa when i really commit they seem to lose interest. This is my personal experience, but saddly seem to be a common one for a lot of men
@KenpachiKanto This is a real thing! I would interpret this pattern as a sign of an immature or insecure woman.
@aaaight8628 Thank you for the feedback, it is appreciated! Glad to hear from a fellow psychologist man
@@tipsfromatherapist So there are a lot of insecure women around