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thank you so so much

Truly found this helpful and explained some things that I wasn't aware of. Thank you T

More damaging for women then a man. Thanks for this video.. Truly eye opening 👏

Covert narcissist can’t have a relationship. I don’t think that they can change. I was honest with the worship leader the pastor coddled her and the pastor’s wife her as I explained in the practice on Saturday that gaslighting is BS then somebody blew up and determined to say that I was yelling and swearing in church and it was dumb. They acted like numbskull but got blessed anyway and when I quit the team somebody made the pastor decided to make an incident report on what happened, but he never asked or considered my side of the story so then I ended up figuring out too late, three months later, I was a bunch of flying monkeys and somebody betrayed me who was very close to me on the team so what do I do now?😅

Youre doing a great job.

you are beautiful and i am emotionally meture enough to compliment you and not get jealous <3

Thanks for this very insightful list! :) Chapters would have been great in that type of video, though.

I can’t wait for your channel to really kick off, bc your content is gold.

Great vid, how about healing our insecure and fearful attachment styles?

Interesting video content, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

Awesome insight! Thank you!

Coffee with T! Happy Sunday and thank you!

"Emotionally immature people are reckless with their emotions." 💯 Words and actions too. 🎯 Such an insightful video. Loved the clips. 👍🏾😊

Looks like I've got some work to do. In my last relationship I was generally good at this stuff but there was some behavior from my partner that became very exhausting after a few weeks. Unfortunately I snapped and behaved immaturely. They broke up with me. I'm gonna try my best if I ever get into another relationship

Thank you, this made things very clear. I have been soooo lovebombed very recently. I had no clue, never heard of it. I am an avoidant and I have been working so hard on my self the last 5 years because I really want to connect and have a deep fullfilling realtionship. I really thought I met 'the' guy and I was picking the fruits of my hard work. I fell in love so hard! Then his behaviour switched and I started to figure out the real story. I am still in the realtionship, I didn;t feel the strenght to step out. Eventhough I am sure now I have to. I have two questions: is an avoidant and a narcissist atracting each other? And is it possible the lovebomber is really in love but doesn't know how to act healthy or is there never real love involved? Thank you!

Good insight. I think another reason has to do with Myers-Briggs type. Introverts will have an introverted trait as their primary trait on the function stack (INTJ has the primary of Introverted Intuition) and the secondary trait is an extroverted trait (INTJ has the secondary trait of Extroverted Thinking). Therefore, introverts will most likely be perceived by their secondary traits by those who do not know them well because it is the extroverted trait that is most noticeable. The whole field of types is a mess and this hypothesis could be wrong, but from my experience it checks out.

This was a very simple and concise video on how to human lol

Very helpful :-) I used to date older women hoping they had the emotional maturity I seek. Holy smoke was I wrong. Apparently personality attributes such as emotional maturity does not improve beyond about age 30. People can learn to work with what they have after that, if they want, but the fundamentals are locked in at that point. You are correct, if someone has zero self awareness, then there is no hope of them changing. Move on.

All excellent points except no mention of trauma, adhd or autism. All can hide within maladaptive behaviour. Thank you

1. Humility - collaborative not defensive 2. Self - awareness - what we are feeling and how we reflect. Not overly critical. Not blaming others 3. Empathy - social awareness, validate and respond to others 4. Self-regulation - manage stress in the moment, and not overindulge in your emotions 5. Accountability - advocate for our needs, accept our duty to address, team effort. Articulate your emotions 6. Reliability - trustworthy and predictable in a positive way. 7. Flexibility - come up with creative solutions to problems and can deal with what is. 8. Humor - life isn’t too serious, room for play, not too sensitive.

Yes i did, thank you.

I know of one person who definitely needs to see this. He is all of the above and then some. I had to ghost him because he thought I was his personal psychiatrist. Always living in his past telling me every wrong every person ever did to him. Overreacted over the smallest of things. He had no one to speak to except for me. I felt sorry for him and tolerated him for far longer than I should have. I always felt miserable after our conversations.

It depends on the words and tone of voice and body language as to the way the message is received. Plus mood enters into it.😊

Very excellent video I really enjoyed that. It got me taking notes of the eight different emotional maturity checkpoints very good. I think it was a very good self-help video.

And learn how to identify avoidants

Good work, thanks!

Very helpful!

Great tips ! Thank you, thank you, thank you ❤️

Very good thanks, but the last one is unclear to me. Because emotionally immature people can just have a good sense of humor and a good sense of humor is not built upon those blocks before in my opinion. And I would also be careful with the term "too sensitive". It needs a lot of nuances. Emotionally immature people can be too sensitive in a certain way and indeed not safe to play with. But "too"(?) sensitive people are not necessarily immature people. Nor they are unsafe. It depends. For instance on their awareness about their sensitivity and how they use it and go about it. And when is it sensitive or too sensitive? An artist or a therapist couldn't do without this quality. This is a difficult category.

I liked the movie clips, they break it up and help accentuate the different qualities, made me laugh a couole times and are short enough, if you dont like them, should be easy to get over it. Adds a little play to her professional and concise delivery.

How to become less emotionally mature? I want to date much younger.

the clips in between 💎💎😂😂 I agree on these signs!

One more thought about the clips, which I find so annoying. The very best channels don't rely on stunts like this, they let the content speak for itself.

Applause!!!

Would you mind creating a part 2 with action tips?

So, I got a friend, who is newly divorced and re-entering the dating world. This friend's therapist recommended that he just "get a few under his belt before he decides to settle down again." Me: 🤦...maybe you should consider a new therapist?

Any kind of sexual intimacy outside of commitment, whether agreed upon or not, reduces the involved parties to objects for pleasure. This just hit me. It defies and disregards natural human inclinations. We cannot be a culture that demands respect for the dignity of the human person, while also promoting/encouraging/indulging in situationships. The two are fundamentally contradictory. 🤯

Such things come up later in relationship, at first people show their best side. So there is no way not to waste the time and emotions.

Thank you for speaking clearly and concisely. You truly are a wonderful communicator. I think your audience may take you more seriously/professionally without the movie clips Cheers, from a fellow mental health professional~ Max

Good content. Very annoying presentation. Those little clips. Ugh. Stop.

The clips add some lightness and entertainment value for me. Would be even better if some clips were quick examples of great emotional responses; such as demonstrating humility or self regulation. 😊

Excellent information for both self and others. I saw plenty of red flags on both sides of my experience. 😅

first 10 seconds; Oh a meme kind of format, this will be fun AND interesting! after 5min; I feel attacked.

Good points. Difficult to find folks with all these qualities haha, yes no one will change unless they truly want to. Thank you🌸

Very helpful, concise video. The hard part with some avoidant and emotionally immature people us they can put on a good front at the beginning of a relationship. They seem secure... the WHAM... everything you thought was real comes crashing down. How can we tease this out early?

Thank you for summing all this up so well

I liked the message you're giving, but all the little screenclips were pretty distracting and disruptive to my thought process. Not sure if others feel the same way, but personally I'd prefer your videos without screaming and weird voices coming out of no where.

Wow, I’m not perfect but this helped me see my ex had a lot more maturing to do. The greatest gift she gave me was divorce papers. Thank you!

This is sooooo true! This is an accurate description of the damage to our soul and body.

Can you make a video on manipulating boundaries