One of the most freeing things I've been given in therapy; being told "You don't owe your mother anything." Knowing that we don't have to forgive our mothers feels like that.
Excatly. The moment I stopped handing out forgivenes for free, the moment I finally started healing. Took me 30 years and I am at the very beginning of my healing journey.
I ran into Janette in Hollywood and Western. Like in 2016 and I screamed omg your from I Carly can I get a picture with you. She was very nice but she said very quickly. "I'm on my way somewhere" I understood and for some reason I felt that she wasn't happy being recognized. Never knew she was dealing with my same trauma at the same age.
I appreciate the therapist making it very clear that her mother’s trauma isn’t a factor here. People might have reason for why they behave a certain way but if the end result is this level of abuse the trauma they experienced really doesn’t matter.
That's something my parents never got & it sucks. I was always blamed for reacting to others mistreatment to me, but no acknowledgement from them that anything they did was wrong or that they hurt me initially, even when I brought it to them first in conversation. And this has been all my relationships, not just them.
in tears, Jenette going in for the hug at the end after she expressed how that is soemthing she struggled with and feels guarded about it’s just so nice 🥹
One thing I got from Jeanette's book is that she was in a trance for much of her life. She even mentioned being on auto pilot throughout filming iCarly. I always thought about acting and being famous and having money but I never would want to go through half of the stuff she did for it. So no Jeanette, you don't sound whiny at all. You were just a child, you didn't deserve all that. This is heartbreaking.
I listened to Jenettes book which she personally audio recorded and it was honestly great. It is sad because it is about her real life but it was also so refreshing to hear her story. I couldn't stop listening. Everyone is going through something, even if they look happy or are "rich".
I remember when she went to the car show at the duke energy center in Cincinnati. I missed the meet and greet but even when she was being told to leave she stayed and talked to me while she signed a foam light bulb I brought and allowed me to sign her cast as well because at the time her arm was broken but I’ll never forget the time I met Jeannette McCurdy 💕 she really is sweet
I am absolutely amazed by Jennette. I can tell from how eloquently she articulates herself and how easily she expresses such an unbelievably complex life experience that she has done so much inner work and reflection, which is not easy by any means and takes so much courage and resilience, more than can accurately expressed in words. As someone who also has a parent with NPD, I am relate to so much of what she is saying and I am so unbelievably proud of her and the work she has done to heal herself. You truly don't understand what it's like growing up with a parent with a personality disorder unless you've lived it yourself and it is a kind of mental torture and turmoil that just cannot accurately be explained. It completely wrecks havoc on your sanity and your nervous system. I really enjoyed listening to her as painful as her story is and I just wish her so much happiness for the rest of her days. What an amazing woman.
My heart breaks for her. I would’ve never imagined this is what she was going through the whole time while she appeared on Nickelodeon during my childhood days. I wish i could give her a hug
the talk about how people put mothers on a pedestal was SO important. its hard for other people who haven't had or noticed that they has bad experiences with theirs mothers to understand that the title of being a mother doesnt exume you from being a bad person...that makes it really hard for the child to find support and to speak up because they are constantly discredit by "but it's your mom..."
Wow. She is so strong. "Brave," as was mentioned. My heart goes out to her. I hope she can live a safe and healthy life. I'm sure this book has touched many people. Thanks for sharing your story.
What a lovely show ladles! I'm thankful for women rising. I too have a book about my mother I been writing since my teens, but she is still with us and even though I'm in my 40s, maybe it will be something left behind for my son and his kids if I dont get it published. Thank you for being brave!
I noticed when Jenette is speaking and she’s about to get Emotional, she’ll say she’s about to get Emotional and sometimes even chokes up but you can tell that that Sadness and Anger just directly turns into Passion and Bravery
I relate so much to this. And when the therapist said about having a difficult time having future relationships with others I relate 100% to that. I always wondered why I have difficulty with relationships.
This was a good session. I loved the book and related to so many moments that Jeanette shared. Your transparency, and vulnerability has helped and healed many. I know it did for me! I pray your strength is eternally sheathed with love and protection from our Heavenly Father.
Man... I wish my mum would have the strength to go to therapy. She endured horrific abuse and it shaped her in a way that when she tried to love us, she loved us too tightly and it hurt us badly. I don't really speak to her or my family much now. But seeing multiple generations of women who can speak so openly about the wrong they've done and how they're mending it makes me so sad for what I've lost and what we could have. Poor Jeanette, too. I relate a lot.
Woman can be so amazing! this is the kind of communication the world needs. empathetic, respectful, kind, vulnerable... so many of life's hardships wouldn't be as hard. sigh . Also love willow! insanely talented musician!
i read her book. it was genuinely so good and so depressing. it's crazy how her mom is kinda responsible her becoming so successful and famous yet also responsible for so much trauma and the disorders she had. no one should go through such things at such a young age
One way that I knew I found my authentic identity separate from my mother and my family is the me where Im at now... Im the adult that child me always wanted to grow up to be, and my inner child is proud of who I am now. That's a confidence and pride that our parents can never give us, but we grow up craving it and continue to look for it as we get older since we never got that.
Parents are very wrong sometimes and is best to have a relationship with God first and just respect the relationship with your parents. You don’t have to listen to them.
Willow looked like she was about to cry this entire time. I genuinely hope she’s not hiding familial trauma of her own. She looked so much like she could relate.
I finally bought her book and I get why she chose that specific, yet powerful title. The look of shock horror I had was the same as Willow’s when I read that email. I cannot imagine her face when she read that for the first time
Mothers, need support. This is truly tragic for everyone. Her mom really missed out, and I'm glad she is able to tell her story, and empower folks to get their voices heard. Love, isn't suppose to be suffering or harm. Bitter sweet.
This table talk is intense! I really hope that she enjoys life more Also, I would like to read her book! I know letting it out is the best therapy u can get
It must have been so painful and powerful for Jeanette to witness the way Adrienne owns her mistakes and the ways it harmed her child. For Jeanette and so many others, their mothers will never take accountability like that.
I read Mariah's memoir first, now i definitely need to read Jeanette's book 😭🙏🏼❤️ used to be a fan of icarly and I'm so happy she's better now, mentally healing is so important 😭 I can't believe her mother put her through that... And she had cancer I'm surprised she even had the energy to be evil to her own daughter. I'm so glad for the brothers
Willow has been through some things, I can tell. Everyone probably has. But it can also be that she cant imagine being through some of the things shes hearing. But she seems like such a genuine heartfelt person.
35:30 I’m so glad she said this. Forgiveness can be an important step for *some* people in their healing, but it’s not something everyone needs to do to heal
I'm so saddened that an incredibly intelligent, strong and brave woman like Jeanette gets less recognition than Ariana or the other former Nickelodeon stars. Jeanette confronts her own upbringing as well as the statutory abuse on set of those Nickelodeon shows. She's an amazing woman
@34:47 What I've personally learned through The Lord and Holy Spirit through prayer as well as therapy is forgiveness is NEVER for the other person. Forgiving someone is for YOU! Lack of forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Carrying that ire, that malcontent inside you, festering inside you is only hurting one person... YOU. Forgiving a person doesn't mean you have to allow the person in your life in any aspect. It does mean your set boundary will help you move onwards into peace.
I adore this conversation and Jenette for her vulnerability and growth. I'm also glad that the therapist made an emphasis on the fact that forgiveness is NOT FOR THEM. Forgiveness is FOR US to LET GO and HEAL. So for those who can't seem to forgive, no ones asking you to forget or to reconcile with those that hurt you, keep striving to let go and forgive for YOU.
The part of the book when her mom is wearing the hat Jeannette got her and is bald underneath because of the chemo, and she wants to stay with Jeanette in her new apartment, because Jeanette finally moved out and got independence and she didn't want her to be independent was so familiar. the manipulation was obvious.
holy shit i’m bawling my eyes out at the end these ladies have such immense respect and sensitivity for each other i could’ve watched them talk for hours
Jenatte's legal or bio father ? Al of the adults in her life purposely turned a blind eye to her .Every one of them gained monetarily at the expense of her well being.
Jada's expressions when Willow spoke about maternal relationships.... Oof. I don't trust Jada at all and I wonder what's going to come to light with the Diddy scandal. Jeanette is such a strong and insightful person. I can't wait to read this book!!
We also have to remember she also played a very emotional and traumatic role in SVU! I can only imagine that confusion as she’s living through her own abuses
I swear, when I heard the letter, what her mother said about her boyfriend and all that other stuff in the letter, I was making so many expressions and I was squeezing my hands into fists and my nails were going into my palms
One of the most freeing things I've been given in therapy; being told "You don't owe your mother anything." Knowing that we don't have to forgive our mothers feels like that.
Excatly. The moment I stopped handing out forgivenes for free, the moment I finally started healing. Took me 30 years and I am at the very beginning of my healing journey.
@@ellasoriginalchannel9713 I feel like I have tried going forward and then took 20 steps backwards...its a struggle. even after therapy.
I ran into Janette in Hollywood and Western. Like in 2016 and I screamed omg your from I Carly can I get a picture with you. She was very nice but she said very quickly. "I'm on my way somewhere" I understood and for some reason I felt that she wasn't happy being recognized. Never knew she was dealing with my same trauma at the same age.
As a victim of parental abuse and sexual abuse, this conversation and your empathy is so healing.
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Who tf is “your” referring to when 5is is a random person reposting their content??
@@TheKatarinaGiselle chill maybe they didn't know
I appreciate the therapist making it very clear that her mother’s trauma isn’t a factor here. People might have reason for why they behave a certain way but if the end result is this level of abuse the trauma they experienced really doesn’t matter.
You are on point here. 🫶
I agree with you. It made me think of a quote in the show Brooklyn99: "cool motive, still murder". It's a comedy show, but that quote stuck with me
That's something my parents never got & it sucks. I was always blamed for reacting to others mistreatment to me, but no acknowledgement from them that anything they did was wrong or that they hurt me initially, even when I brought it to them first in conversation. And this has been all my relationships, not just them.
The real look of pain on Willow's face on so many points, I really believe she can relate to a lot of what Jennette went through
why she hasnt been abused has she?
I was thinking the same ..😢
Exactly
What happened?
The book was so good! Jenette is such a well spoken intelligent young woman.
in tears, Jenette going in for the hug at the end after she expressed how that is soemthing she struggled with and feels guarded about it’s just so nice 🥹
They’re all so agreeable the way they nod and look so concerned. Great empathy
you're praising them for nodding their heads 😂 child pls
@@MonM.-hj6mn it’s rare in hollywood
@@wonderwoman5528 they're all actresses that know they're on camera lol what u think they're gonna do? sit with crossed arms and roll their eyes?
@@MonM.-hj6mn I was referring to just Willow really
Actors are great liars.
She’s so well spoken I need to start reading!
It’s a great book 200-300 pages I finished it in a day or two you don’t wanna put it down
One thing I got from Jeanette's book is that she was in a trance for much of her life. She even mentioned being on auto pilot throughout filming iCarly. I always thought about acting and being famous and having money but I never would want to go through half of the stuff she did for it.
So no Jeanette, you don't sound whiny at all. You were just a child, you didn't deserve all that. This is heartbreaking.
Feel like willow also needed to hear these things. You could see how much she related.
lol thotLjust her being a Scorpio they are very intense and expressive she’s like that with every guest on that show
such a heartbreaking yet moving story. thank you Jennette for being so strong
I could listen to her talk for a while, she’s eloquent, intelligent, mature. I never would’ve thought she was experiencing this.
I listened to Jenettes book which she personally audio recorded and it was honestly great. It is sad because it is about her real life but it was also so refreshing to hear her story. I couldn't stop listening. Everyone is going through something, even if they look happy or are "rich".
I remember when she went to the car show at the duke energy center in Cincinnati. I missed the meet and greet but even when she was being told to leave she stayed and talked to me while she signed a foam light bulb I brought and allowed me to sign her cast as well because at the time her arm was broken but I’ll never forget the time I met Jeannette McCurdy 💕 she really is sweet
I do like how they listen instead of trying to compare stories like most people do. Very thoughtful, very demure. 😂
I am absolutely amazed by Jennette. I can tell from how eloquently she articulates herself and how easily she expresses such an unbelievably complex life experience that she has done so much inner work and reflection, which is not easy by any means and takes so much courage and resilience, more than can accurately expressed in words. As someone who also has a parent with NPD, I am relate to so much of what she is saying and I am so unbelievably proud of her and the work she has done to heal herself. You truly don't understand what it's like growing up with a parent with a personality disorder unless you've lived it yourself and it is a kind of mental torture and turmoil that just cannot accurately be explained. It completely wrecks havoc on your sanity and your nervous system. I really enjoyed listening to her as painful as her story is and I just wish her so much happiness for the rest of her days. What an amazing woman.
The book is a great read.
I swear!!!
My heart breaks for her. I would’ve never imagined this is what she was going through the whole time while she appeared on Nickelodeon during my childhood days. I wish i could give her a hug
the talk about how people put mothers on a pedestal was SO important. its hard for other people who haven't had or noticed that they has bad experiences with theirs mothers to understand that the title of being a mother doesnt exume you from being a bad person...that makes it really hard for the child to find support and to speak up because they are constantly discredit by "but it's your mom..."
Great revelation. We have to protect our children not abuse them😊
Wow. She is so strong. "Brave," as was mentioned. My heart goes out to her. I hope she can live a safe and healthy life. I'm sure this book has touched many people. Thanks for sharing your story.
What a lovely show ladles! I'm thankful for women rising. I too have a book about my mother I been writing since my teens, but she is still with us and even though I'm in my 40s, maybe it will be something left behind for my son and his kids if I dont get it published. Thank you for being brave!
The empathy in willows eyes is unmatched. Such a sweet girl.
The only reason i will watch RTT is solely because Willow is still present, and I'm here for what she says, only. Love you Ms Mc Curdy
I noticed when Jenette is speaking and she’s about to get Emotional, she’ll say she’s about to get Emotional and sometimes even chokes up but you can tell that that Sadness and Anger just directly turns into Passion and Bravery
I read her book over a year ago after my mother died. I had no sad feelings about her loss. She had been mean. The book, her sharing, helped me.
I relate so much to this. And when the therapist said about having a difficult time having future relationships with others I relate 100% to that. I always wondered why I have difficulty with relationships.
What a strong woman Jeanette is💕 it takes a lot of courage to come out as a victim of abuse.
This was a good session. I loved the book and related to so many moments that Jeanette shared. Your transparency, and vulnerability has helped and healed many. I know it did for me! I pray your strength is eternally sheathed with love and protection from our Heavenly Father.
Man... I wish my mum would have the strength to go to therapy. She endured horrific abuse and it shaped her in a way that when she tried to love us, she loved us too tightly and it hurt us badly. I don't really speak to her or my family much now. But seeing multiple generations of women who can speak so openly about the wrong they've done and how they're mending it makes me so sad for what I've lost and what we could have. Poor Jeanette, too. I relate a lot.
Woman can be so amazing! this is the kind of communication the world needs. empathetic, respectful, kind, vulnerable... so many of life's hardships wouldn't be as hard. sigh .
Also love willow! insanely talented musician!
excellent red table talk, truly conversation therapy
I loved her book 💕💕
I LOVE AND RELATE TO "THAWING OUT" at 52 yrs old!! Thanks for sharing guys!
~OneLove
That was traumatizing and amazing all at the same time. I couldn't hold back my tears.
i read her book. it was genuinely so good and so depressing. it's crazy how her mom is kinda responsible her becoming so successful and famous yet also responsible for so much trauma and the disorders she had. no one should go through such things at such a young age
exactly 🥺
The send money for a new fridge sent me LOL
One way that I knew I found my authentic identity separate from my mother and my family is the me where Im at now... Im the adult that child me always wanted to grow up to be, and my inner child is proud of who I am now. That's a confidence and pride that our parents can never give us, but we grow up craving it and continue to look for it as we get older since we never got that.
Nana Norris is my absolute fav! I love how real these woman are and how much they help just from talking to each other.
That’s a darn good book too! I listened to the audio and she narrates which alone is chefs kiss
So well articulated. I appreciate Jenette's openness and the courage she has to face her past and speak her truth.
She was literally my fav character on ICarly i loved her., it was so heartbreaking to hear her story 😭
I was once bullied by my dad's side of the family but never by my parents. My mom would always fight with them for doing things.
Your first relationship is with your parents so if you don’t have one or built on lies with them, none of your relationships are authentic!
Parents are very wrong sometimes and is best to have a relationship with God first and just respect the relationship with your parents. You don’t have to listen to them.
I pray that all kids speak out and say something to their parents that are evil and doing ill will.
!! I FEEL STUCK ❤ THANKS JEANETTE!!!!!!❤❤❤❤ I AM STILL TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT!
Willow looked like she was about to cry this entire time.
I genuinely hope she’s not hiding familial trauma of her own. She looked so much like she could relate.
See the look on Jada's face when Willow responded to these things.... There's definitely something there
I finally bought her book and I get why she chose that specific, yet powerful title. The look of shock horror I had was the same as Willow’s when I read that email. I cannot imagine her face when she read that for the first time
❤❤❤❤ such an eloquent young lady thank you for your honesty, it will help so many ❤❤❤❤
Mothers, need support. This is truly tragic for everyone. Her mom really missed out, and I'm glad she is able to tell her story, and empower folks to get their voices heard. Love, isn't suppose to be suffering or harm. Bitter sweet.
This table talk is intense! I really hope that she enjoys life more Also, I would like to read her book! I know letting it out is the best therapy u can get
It must have been so painful and powerful for Jeanette to witness the way Adrienne owns her mistakes and the ways it harmed her child.
For Jeanette and so many others, their mothers will never take accountability like that.
This show means alot we need more shows like it.. Appreciative ❤
A lot of people have been through this. It’s very difficult to talk about especially in the spotlight Hollywood isn’t a safe environment.
It is all part of life and I am always hopeful that we all get over them all. It is just a matter of time.
@@ContentCouture-247 exactly you don’t know what someone is going through everyone has been through something like who cares if they’re famous or not.
I read Mariah's memoir first, now i definitely need to read Jeanette's book 😭🙏🏼❤️ used to be a fan of icarly and I'm so happy she's better now, mentally healing is so important 😭 I can't believe her mother put her through that... And she had cancer I'm surprised she even had the energy to be evil to her own daughter. I'm so glad for the brothers
Willow asked the best questions i love her so much.
Willow has been through some things, I can tell. Everyone probably has. But it can also be that she cant imagine being through some of the things shes hearing.
But she seems like such a genuine heartfelt person.
This is so common. Society can't understand how a mother can be this way. But it happens - everywhere.
Oxox
35:30 I’m so glad she said this. Forgiveness can be an important step for *some* people in their healing, but it’s not something everyone needs to do to heal
jenette is so magical and she deserves better :(
I'm so saddened that an incredibly intelligent, strong and brave woman like Jeanette gets less recognition than Ariana or the other former Nickelodeon stars. Jeanette confronts her own upbringing as well as the statutory abuse on set of those Nickelodeon shows. She's an amazing woman
What a wonderful strong beautiful woman. No words.
she's so well spoken
Wow…. I wish there was more than a like button. This is too richly deep for just a thumbs up…
These ladies have the most flawless skin. Even with the makeup, you can see how smooth it is
@34:47 What I've personally learned through The Lord and Holy Spirit through prayer as well as therapy is forgiveness is NEVER for the other person. Forgiving someone is for YOU! Lack of forgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die. Carrying that ire, that malcontent inside you, festering inside you is only hurting one person... YOU. Forgiving a person doesn't mean you have to allow the person in your life in any aspect. It does mean your set boundary will help you move onwards into peace.
I adore this conversation and Jenette for her vulnerability and growth. I'm also glad that the therapist made an emphasis on the fact that forgiveness is NOT FOR THEM. Forgiveness is FOR US to LET GO and HEAL. So for those who can't seem to forgive, no ones asking you to forget or to reconcile with those that hurt you, keep striving to let go and forgive for YOU.
The part of the book when her mom is wearing the hat Jeannette got her and is bald underneath because of the chemo, and she wants to stay with Jeanette in her new apartment, because Jeanette finally moved out and got independence and she didn't want her to be independent was so familiar. the manipulation was obvious.
The part about the last conversation being about her thinness made me sob out, She is one strong woman.
I feel this so much this has helped me a lot in all honesty
she's so sweet i love her 😭💕 beautiful episode
That email ?! Oh hell no !
Very important episode ❤
MY GOD. I love you Jenette
❤❤❤❤ an amazing interview well done
She did so good for being shy
I really wish they still did this show
I listened to the Audiobook and it was absolutely incredible
holy shit i’m bawling my eyes out at the end these ladies have such immense respect and sensitivity for each other i could’ve watched them talk for hours
Forgiveness is for yourself as it frees you from the bondage you have with the other person.❤
O can’t wait to see her other interviews
Her father or not, he should have done something to stop all of it.
Jenatte's legal or bio father ? Al of the adults in her life purposely turned a blind eye to her .Every one of them gained monetarily at the expense of her well being.
When she said her mom would check her down there for bumps etc reminded me of the Menéndez boys what their mom did to them 😮
So glad to see Jenette thriving after all she's been through. 🌺
Finally, I wanted to see this. Thank you.
I hope Jada's mother can have a show one day. I'm over Jada...
All of the people at the end made me cry lol
same😭
I read her book and I legit said all three of the stuff her mom was mentally sick with but puzzling them togther and I was right and that shocked me
She is truely a HERO.
Sadly the effect Thing can have, when you are a Child.
Effect all of your life
Every human needs to read this book to understand there are so many horrible mothers
I love this. This was a great interview
Wow willow also really needed this in some way shape or from my heart also can relate in some way
it seems like the smiths fav word is WOWWWWW they say WOWWWW to anything lol
Wooooow
@@averyintelligence Your response is so funny LoL Wooooow!
Willow reaching to comfort her grandmother broke me 😢
Education is always freeing.
Off topic but her family is gorgeous.
Jada's expressions when Willow spoke about maternal relationships.... Oof. I don't trust Jada at all and I wonder what's going to come to light with the Diddy scandal.
Jeanette is such a strong and insightful person. I can't wait to read this book!!
Jeanette, please go on an unbiased platform. I love you so much.
We also have to remember she also played a very emotional and traumatic role in SVU! I can only imagine that confusion as she’s living through her own abuses
I swear, when I heard the letter, what her mother said about her boyfriend and all that other stuff in the letter, I was making so many expressions and I was squeezing my hands into fists and my nails were going into my palms