[storytime] My First Toxic Relationship
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OMG FIRST HI SHUGURR
SECONNDDDD
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Ok!
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*No one's ever obligated to stay in a toxic relationship. Talk it out and if nothing improves, just leave. You'll find better people.*
Howdy!
Thanks TJ
Ok. Thanks
And I love your vids
TJ Toons Truth but sometimes you can’t leave
Heyyyyy! Its TJ!
_Friendship should be like kid's toys, safe and non-toxic_
True
exactly.
FroyoHead Animation lool
Toxic friends are tide-pods
What happened to u uploading
Oh my god, that “we won’t be friends anymore” threat sent shivers down my spine
hey are you joking about this?
ye and there's the "I will block you if you do not respond" ugh
"If you don't reply to me as soon as you get home from school, I'm not talking to you for two weeks"
@@chiletoo8741 yea I think so
No one needs such friends, but a lot of times its hard to understand that because the toxic friend might get you further from your friends so you'll feel completely alone without the toxic friend
"Anything I liked, she would make fun of."
Now I know for sure that's what toxic people do, because my 'friend' did the exact same thing.
We can agree that stuff stings.
Yup
Yeah, my school ‘friends’ make fun of my art because I draw animal characters, and they call me a furry for it. I have to specify them as school ‘friends’ because my online friends are actually cool people.
My school pretty much minds their business, if somebody likes something it's either they aren't interested and leave, or just say it's weird.. and that's about it
Plus even if they aren't interested in somebody's other interests we really don't care, the only thing we care about is the amount of human decency somebody has.. like if you dig your nose in PUBLIC having no shame, or not wear socks while going outside of their house, nobody will like you.. some people in my school are disgusting like both of the examples I said but for 1 person, not to mention he used to cough on people thinking the virus is a joke.. he did many things too disgusting to say
YES
My “best friend” made me get rid of my pet hamster because it’s “ugly”
“We won’t be friends anymore if you leave me”
Me : pedals faster
I’M THE FIRST COMMENT
I would too.
Yep, sameeee
LMAO YO GO BRO
Me:Ha! What would I need friends for when i have this!
Sometimes I worry I’m a toxic person. I try not to be and my friends tell me I’m not but I still worry.
RadioOppy1 same
I do too
Well if you worry it means you care about your friends and this mean that it's unlikely toxic
Me too
There is a video called sings that you are becoming toxic, it may helps you!
My best friend has been going through a lot lately and has been getting a little toxic, I said something to her and she immediately stopped. She did not realize she was doing it and felt really bad about it and has apologized atleast twice a day since then 😭 sometimes toxic friends may seem like they don't care, but sometimes just confront them. A lot of time they don't realize they are doing it. Don't get me wrong though, if they continue definitely drop them. (During the time she was being toxic, I avoided her. She came to me crying asking why I was not talking to her anymore and I explained why. It's been 3weeks since then and we are doing great 😁)
Dang thats awesome!! So glad yall r doing well
If only everyone was as mature as you. People have to realize that others have personal lives, hurdles, and even secrets that can cause stress and unconscious impulsive and toxic behavior. UNDERSTANDING CONFRONTATION IS KEY FOR PEOPLE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU TRUSTED.
( although sometimes people are just manipulative trash. Always talk first though.)
This is why communication is very important. Although terrible mental health isn't an excuse to be a bad person, it's more of an explanation on why they are like this. I think it's good to keep an open mind and try and understand them. To be honest, I don't think most people are truly terrible people. I was both toxic person and had other people be toxic towards me.
Depending on the situation, the only way to move forward is not to go back. Forgive one another and especially, ourselves.
yay!!!!!!!! ^^
Sad to say I used to be one of those toxic people but since then I matured and learned to care of people's feelings
Sometimes, too much
I had SO many toxic friendship relationships. Its literally ridiculous how long it took me to realize that sticking with people who are not good for you will drag you down...
i still havn't learned despite being blackmailed, threatened (as in being unfriended or not talking ), loosing friends even though they clearly were being toxic and that emotionally affected me, being ignored (by a friend group even), and having almost no control over what we we're gonna do. But one thing iv realized is that people have their reasons and you'll tstill have to do your part being the empath.
My first toxic relationship was when I was bitten by a radioactive spider.
...Spiderman?
Random Cat spiderwoman
Heh
Spiderwoman?
Omg spiderman is that you?
I love how she hates Second Friend so much she doesn't even bother to give her a name
But Shugrr and Splenda is super cute.
That was probably to keep her identity so nobody hates on her too much
@@ducceatbredgaming3872 and so nobody feels offended
Her voice gets quieter every video
*:)*
"We won't be friends unless you stay with me" THATS when you stop peddling and punch her in the face
My first toxic relationship was with my best friend. Before in 1st-4th grade it was amazing, everyday we spent all of our time at each others house. but then came 5th grade. He for some reason became all rude. I was friends with the person everyone in our class called a weirdo. My best friend would always get him to be a lower role if we every played any type of game. soon enough it got so bad me and my friend would soon just play games by ourselves and relationships went down from there. My friend never came over anymore, he stopped interacting with me in class, everything was destroyed. He then moved away during summer and I haven't heard from him since even though we have each others phone number.
hey, so sorry to hear that. loosing a best friend can be so hard (i know this from personal experince) but you will learn to accept and im sure you have found better people already!
I think that's the work of toxic male friends in play. I've seen so many of my male childhood friends change so much at 5th/6th grade. And all of them changed because of their male friends who taught them toxic stuff in order to become "more masculine"
@@ameliaamels3563 I sure did, many students change because of popularity. In school I had this amazing friend but when we went in middle school, they completely changed. They would just laugh at kids they found a weird and just be a terrible person overall
@@chrisbloxxer1747 Your not the only one. When I was in Year 5 , I was excluded a lot and when my classmates finally did accept me , they used that to attempt to control my whole personality.
“Where do you think your going?”
*Ad plays*
Taco Bell, apparently.
*Chowking-* I
Yee Taco Bell let’s go
@@youweird6625 i thought choking xd
I had a ad to at that moment but it was school ;-;
Omg same
Jaiden: **Has an eating disorder**
Shgurr: **Has depression**
Toxic girl: Just get over it.
TheHunters Knot James: struggles with the meaning of life and it’s purpose (life is fun is the only reference)” Adam: was bullied
@@ViSat6002 Ok then, consult a therapist.
@@ViSat6002...That is sad...
@@ViSat6002 we're here for u bro
Jaiden: eating disorder
Shugr: depression
SomethingelseYT: bullies
Theodd1sout: *B*
The "we won't be friends anymore" reminded me EXACTY of what my first toxic friend said. This friend was awful, by the way. She robbed me of my lunch money every day when I bought her cookie (12 in one day was the record). She would never say nice things to me, and she always made me do what she wanted. And her catchphrase was "or I won't be your friend anymore". Eventually, when she said that, one day, I just said, "really? That's great!" and left.
I had a problem just like this, I was a shy girl who stayed with two toxic girls and lost lots of friends cause of how rude they were. I was too scared to leave because I was scared of being alone, great video btw!!
Well it's better to be alone then to have toxic bitches
My toxic friend actually tuned me toxic for a while until our friendship ended and I realized what was wrong and turned into a nicer person.
Although my old friend still tries to be friends with me and my other friends and hint what I did in the past
Man, toxic freinds suck. But it can be hard to leave because they are the only freinds you have.
How can you get a toxic friend if you don't have any?
_Modern problems require modern solutions_
A friend? What is this? Some kind of food?
Put them on the school shooter list
that's true, but you can be mean to yourself too ... it's not just other people
Mustard Gnome I've been gnomed
Hello me old chum!
That "friend" was toxic all right.
A TOXIC WASTE of space! (ba dum pssh)
This is beautiful
Good joke
OH SHIIIIIIIIII-
OH FUCK GOTTEM
Love it 😂
Oh, gosh--I feel this, I had a very toxic friend when I was little that I never really liked, and more or less ditched easily by third grade.
Later, though, I met my former best mate--she was smart, loved to read just like me, and had a great attitude and great sense of humor. Overall, I loved being with her! I was always so excited to see her, and my love language is gifts, so I was always giving her affection, little things, freshly-baked sweets, etc
For...whatever reason, this year, she got more standoffish, more of a perfectionist, and self-absorbed. She never approached me except even she needed a place to sit, never had time or effort to spend with me; always tried to one-up me a bit, and all-in-all, was less of my best friend than a picture taped to my wall. Because my real best friend is a really nice guy who also gets lots of love and attention and sweets from me and never tries to take advantage of it, I realized what she was doing wasn't okay. I still liked her, and tried to talk it through reasonably.
She eventually ignored me altogether and yelled at me in the middle of the hall for *suspecting* she might not be a good person because of her own words and actions. She was stressed, sure, and really wanted a fan club more than friends, but my own father used to have a temper like that, so the moment she decided her personal stress was an excuse to be a jerk at an innocent, unarmed friend?
Snap. Three years of close friendship, gone like *that.* I've barely blinked, and been quite happy talking about science and sharing pastries at breakfast with my real friends. Don't be a dick to your friends, kids.
4:12 my god her voice she mustve been really sad :(
Toxic friend : *talks to cooler friends and ignores me*
Me : *starts to leave*
Toxic friend : if you even think about leaving we won't be friends
Me : well then.....jackpot!!!! Later buddy
Me: Later buddy? I'd say Never
When I was in a toxic relationship, when anyone said that I couldn’t because he was the only person that liked me or even talked to me
Toxic friend: Well frick. Now I will I will have to solve my OWN problems.
LOL
Yeah i’d do the same thind
_Can’t have a relationship if no ones ever loved you._
(cries internally)
since when do i have a twin
@@chet262 Ya mean triplet O.O
@@baileymassey1302 you mean quadruplit?
Relatable
Just gonna give u a oof
This story is very similar to my experience with a toxic “best friend” I also stood up for myself when she was the most toxic and now I’m doing better and I’m happy.
Here's how to avoid sheep and save yourself time:
1. Don't look for friends on purpose.
2. Friendships are not work, if you feel like you have to try then you or them don't really care about one another or are just being fake.
3. They talk over you or when you finally talk they "yup" you or shrug off what you say just waiting for their turn.
4. They talk a lot about themselves and don't really ask about you.
5. When you discuss serious or casual topics they try to 1-up you as if it's a competition of who has had a harder life or better taste or whatever.
6. They're only there for you if they get something out of it and want you to cheer them up rather than them ever cheering you up.
7. Don't tell personal things about yourself that you wouldn't want people to know at first, leave red herrings to see if they try to out you or use it against you in arguments or when they're mad.
8. Make sure the times the person makes you feel happy far outweighs times they've made you angry or sad.
9. If you can't be yourself at the silliest, craziest, or dumbest without them judging you; then it's already a waste of time.
Remember these things, I've spent plenty of time analyzing different sheep and pushing through the herds to find my two best friends for years. There's only two yeah, but I'd trust them with my life and I'd die for them. I get to be who I am and not feel judged, feel joy, and laugh, and share my hardships with them and vice versa on our darkest days. You don't need a herd to be happy when you can have real friends.
So just have no friends forever?
@@isabella521 No, just be picky with who you trust with your heart.
@@picklewart5382 I know I was just joking around
Honestly, that “red herring” trick sounds pretty useful, especially against “friends” who turn out to be toxic. I will make sure to keep it in mind for when I need it most, thank you!!
I agree with everything you say except for the comparing people to sheep part. That is an analogy that is very commonly used by a group of people who... have a bunch of really weird conspiracy theories about jews and LGBTQ+ people... and how they secretly control the world with satan and need to be purged. and that is a group that you may or may not want to be using the same language as... 😬😬😬
Sgurr: im innocent
Sgurr later: why dont i shove my shoe up your-
she was probably gonna say mouth xp
What childhood is really like.
She said she was innocent when she was in 4th grade and shoving part was in middle school (sorry if it is the same thing )
Lol
100th like-
:c
I ruined iiiitt
I've never been in a toxic relationship...
*Because I'm the lonely one in the corner...*
HEY, lets go get Ice cream and watch random videos on youtube
@@AmineToo that escalated quickly
@@brotherspill1786 ikr
lol i'm lonely because i'm scared of going back into toxic relationships, so i'm scared to make friends.
Iv been lonely for 7 years...
Cause the friends I have.. well I don’t consider them as friends.. most like frienemies
Hey Shgurr I’m glad your doing better! I first found your videos after Covid began and now that your back I’m glad to see ya!
My first toxic relationship was with one of my closest friends when I was in 3rd or 4th grade- she would threaten me if I didn’t hang out with her, casually tease and bully me and then say she’s just joking, only let me do things she wanted to do, and guilt trip me on the DAILY. But the thing is I stayed friends with her for YEARS because I just didn’t know what an actual good friendship looked like since I hadn’t really had one.
I was in a toxic relationship for 7 years, and finally I got her reported. Oh SWEET revenge!
7 YEARS!!!
@@festivekamikaze once I was 7 years old my momma told me......sorry couldn't resist
@@festivekamikaze yep. We meet in pre school. She had long nails, and she would threaten me to play with her or she would scratch me...
Dang
I also had a toxic relationship it was for about 1 year, he was AWFUL he would make fun of me for absolutely everything
“This guy totally just totally whips out his-“ -Shgurr
What?
"He whipped out his Shgurr"
What color is it
@@kyrieespayos2580 green
Legends has it he still whipping it
I’m glad the internet exists because it keeps good friends connected
5:20 Lapis Lazuli: "I just feel trapped"
*Nobody deserves to be in a toxic relationship*
💯
Well yeah but it will always exist
My god ur name is real
But Britney Spears tells me other wise.
too true
Unfortunately people with narcissistic personalities (like "second friend" seems to have here) tend to gravitate to empathetic people and drain their energy like a leech.
I'm glad to hear that you were able to stand up for yourself in the end.
ditto
@@annaswanson5903 ditto
I had a friend like that and after dealing with her for years, I realized how controlling she was. She just recently ran one of my friends through the ringer mentally and financially, claiming it was all my friend's fault and refusing to accept the blame. Thankfully, I realized her attitude and left. I now have better friends and can stand up for myself.
Hiram McDaniels I used to be a narcissistic asshole and I did control my friends BUT I got over myself and now I still have one of those friends and we are the best friends!
And those tend to be borderline people which is why it’s really annoying that people think borderlines are the real sources of worry for people watching out for toxic relationships.
In the process of overcoming my BPD. Every relationship winds up getting toxic because I just want to tell everyone what they want to hear. Currently just staying out of relationships until I figure my own problems out first
"Where do you think you're going?"
Me: Going with my nontoxic friends that's where I'm going.
me: To Disneyland DUH
Well, it's like Jaiden said: You are not responsible for their happiness.
You have to take care of yourself first.
5:15 this is exactly my first toxic friendship in one word. That was what my ex friend would always tell me when I didn't do what she told me to do. So I was like her maid. When you have your toxic friends you just don't realize the red flags and how bad they're treating you. But yeah, in life you will just find toxic people. Very good that you stood up for yourself. I didn't, she just stoped being my friend because I ignored her one day.
Edit: meant "in one sentence"
ye know what is worse then being in a toxic relationship? No relationship. Even if we are being abused and humiliated it is still better then the total social isolation of having no one at all
@@rphb5870 this is like comparing abuse (relationship) to no abuse (no relationship), a very desperate attempt
just do not let people abuse you even if it's too hard to you to find friends, not worth it
@@rphb5870 I personally don't agree all that much. I think being in a toxic relationship and having no relationship are both bad.
Why would you be friends with someone who doesn't appreciate you or values you? When I was with that toxic friend, they once told me they didn't wanted to be friends with me just because I said that my parents disliked her, I instantly cried because of the fear of being alone. And yes being alone is the worst. I am feeling that right now in my new school. I still have friends who do treat me well and have things in common.
It's just my personal opinion. I just think that there is no better or worse between lonelyness and being in a toxic relationship.
@@galaxxxxxxx8974 thou may be right.
It is hard to understand, that is the problem, humans are hard to understand.
It is better to concentrate on things that are easier to understand like work and school, and forget, not about people, but about making friends. As long as we can be inoffensive and efficient in our work, that should be enough.
We would be a lot happier if we stopped chasing myths.
There is no such thing, as a friend.
I recently got out of a toxic friendship. Bit of context, I'm transgender male to female, and I've started to express that at school. It's been hard for me but I get through it. Now I was with this friend since the previous school year, along with a bunch of other people. I'll call this friend, Bill. So as I was expressing my gender at school with things like a trans flag on my backpack (y'know small stuff) Bill decided it would be funny to post transphobic memes in our discord server. This was only the beginning. I took offense to it and my trust with him went down. Later on we got into more frequent arguments until the final one WHERE HE LITERALLY SAID I WAS TRANSGENDER FOR ATTENTION ONLY. I am not a person who craves attention, in fact I prefer to stay in the shadows. He also complained about how I was expressing myself and how I always talked about it. First, I don't talk about it too often. I mix things up. SECOND, It's a big part of my f***ing life. After that I tried my hardest to get him out of every part of my life. I blocked him wherever he would talk to me digitally, left the friend group, and don't talk to him at school. It's much better now
I’m so sorry :( I understand you I’m trans myself
But still, you should've tried to understand why they did that, some reasons might be that they dont get as much attention as they need to be happy or they get totaly ignored because of you expressing yourself (no offense im not saying you shouldnt but im just stating some possibilities) or they might feel left out because they cant relate and that would affect your relationship, and sometimes you might be biased with the facts so you mightve talked about more trans stuff than you'd think.
If you think im one of the transphobic people, im not, im a genderfluid and aroace person. sure i cant relate to coming out irl but iv experienced similar stuff with friends.
Can I just say ‘dollars for scholars’ is pretty fricking cool
"I was in class and this guy just totally whips out his..."
...*his meAT SCEPTER*
Oh boy.
@@asielmilian38 Asiel that one comment cracked me up
@@itsdanielvibing really?
@@asielmilian38 Yes!!!
@@itsdanielvibing I get it.
I clicked on this video and thought it was going to be about a toxic boyfriend but I'm so glad it was about a toxic friend instead, I had a friend really similar to this so this video really spoke to me, thank you for making it.
Yeah you're absolutely right, staying friends with someone toxic out of politeness or whatever is a huge mistake, or thinking that you can get them to change their ways is a mistake too. One thing I've noticed with toxic people and or people with narcissistic tendencies is that they lack self awareness, so until they become more self aware, its extremely difficult for them to change. At least now you know how they operate though and will be more knowledgeable should you encounter someone similar in the future. Thanks for the vid :D
Lesson learned.
Don't socialize, stay safe, watch UA-cam
Not socializing gives you clinical depression, its inevitable. Study finds being lonely gives you depression no matter what.
That's why you make puppets and talk to them.
I'll always have friends as long as I have my penny, potato chip and tissue.
same
Little toon its a joke sooo R/Woosh and ye boi gonna get ya on reddit boi
Her: If you pedal away we won’t be friends anymore
Me: *ZOOOOOOOOMMMMM*
(Great video loved the message)
Ahhh~ if only it was that easy. It's more like you can try run away but the farther you run the more traped you feel. (Well for me atleast)
ME
Me: *Not here, sped away so fast you didn’t notice.*
That toxic friend looks at Girl Tom
(If you do you idk what im talking about it's edd's world.)
Maddymaehey Animations Hold up your not jimmy pesto from bobs burgers
I had a toxic friend relationship. It was awful. At first, she seemed okay, but when I would try to talk to friends about other things and things I didn't want to talk to her about, she would try to eavesdrop! And one day she just started hanging out with this other girl. Then, when I'd try to hang out with someone else, Shed snatch me and say "You're coming with me!" Then I'd say "What? Why?" Then shed say, "Because you're my friend!" And I just stopped talking to her. If she ever comes up to me and says, "Why are you mad at me?" Then ill say, "You cut me off."
Usually mine's just using me to phones because their broke or maybe want to break my phone. When I didn't bring my phone she just- she's just mad at me.
I can really relate to having a toxic friendship. I am actually going through trying to end one.
How are things going now?
Y'all know what to do. Let's reunite Shgurr and Splenda!! 🙌
CaseyBrinleeMusic y e a h
CaseyBrinleeMusic how
Ew not another one of those
Tomyplays 231 I have no idea. I got ahead of myself lol
Great idea.
Splenda is a clever name.
I wonder if she will have someone who's totally fake be called aspartame.
@@dagurr Someone who cuts calories?
@@dagurr What about the toxic friend? Did u know about her?
I literally got this video recommended to me 4 years ago, while in a toxic relationship. It’s scary how my experience is really similar to shgurrs. This video was the beginning of when I began to question if my relationship was toxic. Needless to say, after being best friends for almost 7 years, I finally gathered the courage and ended things with her about 3 years ago. Advice for people in relationships they may think are toxic, trust your gut, do research about what a toxic relationship is, and don’t be afraid of ending up “alone” after dropping the toxic friend. After I dropped her, I met some of the best friends I could ask for (online friends) and we’re now coming up on our 2 year anniversary of meeting each other ❤
1. I know it's way long overdue (technically speaking), but congrats for standing up to yourself at that age. I don't think elementary or middle school me would have had the guts to do this.
2. I'm legit happy to see another introvert story. Not just saying that as an introvert myself, but something about introvert stories hit home for me.
My friend: bla bla bla
Me: *LISTENING*
My friend: done
Me: Inhale-
My friend: ok bye
are u sure thats a friend?
That’s not a friend
sadly, same
SO TRUE AGH
That’s not a friend, that’s a fake friend
WIsh you and Splenda could of reunited at some point, seemed like a good friendship.
Imagine if that was today with the ability to stay in touch now. Really shows how tech has improved the lives of people.
*boomer comment* BaCK In My dAy
Yup
i actually stopped being friends with some people in high school last year. i will be fair, i started the argument we had but i also apologized and took all of the blame, they still decided that i was ' uncomfortable ' to hang out with me and went to the mall without me. i was honestly really hurt because i thought we would just forgive and forget, the night i found out was terrible and i contacted the ' lead girl ' and said that we should just stop being friends if that's how i was going to be treated. lately i've been missing one of them who i had a lot in common with, i may get back in touch with her since she was super sweet and caring and i want to see if i can have some sort of friendship with at least her.
I'm not sure what this argument was about and I really don't need to because it doesn't really matter at this point who was in the right and who was in the wrong, it happened a year ago. However there are some important things to keep in mind in order to have healthier relationships in the future
1. when you give an apology there shouldn’t really be an expectation of "forgive and forget", If something is actually worth apologizing for than the other person would be completely justified in not accepting your apology. If it is something that isn't worth apologizing for and somebody doesn't accept your apology then they are trying to string you along in guilt to control you. In either case the healthy response is to accept their decision and give them the distance they want. Even if it is painful and you have to grieve the lost connection. You may be able to try to check back in awhile later and see if they are ready to accept your apology after they have been given some space, but they still may not accept it and that is their choice.
2. Everyone is varying degrees of toxic in high school. Toxicity isn't a trait that some people are born with it is a trait that some people never grow out of. nobody in high school knows how to maintain a healthy relationship, fights and break ups are going to happen because none of you have enough experience with relationships to know how to have a mutually sustained relationship with proper boundaries and an understanding of each others faults. The thing adults don't like to tell you is that you are not going to have a completely healthy relationship with somebody your own age until AT LEAST Sophomore year of college, that does not mean you should not TRY to build friendships in high school, it just means that you should have an understanding that break ups and fights and drama are just par for the course and even though it can hurt really bad to go through it, relationships will not always be such a mine field. True friendships are waiting for you in your 20's and beyond some of them might even carry over from high school, but the toxic drama teenage years of friendships are unavoidable and you can either find a way to make the best of it or grit your teeth and keep walking until you come out on the other side.
I had a friend just likes this. It’s easy to get pushed around because you don’t want to lose that friend. They called my parents mean things. I hate them now and I replaced him with 2 other people. The feeling of having good friends is awesome and I learned to put my foot down when necessary
wait a MINUTE!!!!
the title is: "my FIRST toxic relationship"
How many people do we have to hunt down Shgurr???
Lol, this comment is underrated
Jesus we found a frikin hitman
ITS SHGURR
@@ckwang3082 oops sorry ||-3-
I made that mistake five times also I'm not mad
Let's say that most of us had at least 1 toxic friend.
But in my childhood...
I got a *radioactive* one !!!
*badum shhh*
montafid kasmi I never had a toxic friend because I am the toxic friend
L L Pure strategic genius
Fallout style?
montafid kasmi boi
I grew up with a friend like this. When they came out as bi I supported and defended them from everyone else. When I started questioning my own sexuality she was the only one who didn't believe me. I haven't talked to her since she tried to tell me my own sexuality and that I was wrong, which was only a year ago. nobody but me defended her and nobody but her questioned and insulted me. there were many more instances of her being a bad friend but that one hit me the hardest.
I’ve learned the hard way too many times that no something is better then toxic/bad something, fill in something with friends, dnd, or anything really. If anyone cares for the reason I stayed with some many people is because I somehow sub-consciously forgive people, or at least now because I can realize when someone is toxic.
Sounds like your friend is so toxic that could be classified as the Chernobyl disaster
Oh god thats pretty toxic my guy
Oh shi-
Every coin has two sides, the toxic person is probably toxic for a reason, or sometimes they don't even realize they are being toxic.
I want to like it, but it’s at 69 likes. :/
*elephant foot
"We had a toxic relationship"
Austria-Hungary: *_hold our beer_*
KnownNiche *urge to reference hetalia intensifies*
I’m really happy you gat out of that. Unfortunately sometimes like in my case they move in and start bullying you. Hope none of y’all’s go through that.
Your “second friend” reminded me of my “first friend” from 6th grade. How one sided the friendship was. How they would say things about others behind their backs. Even down to the colored jacket they wore.
Shiiiii honestly, I was friend #2. In middle school, I treated the closest people to me like absolute garbage, it's embarrassing to look back. Now that I'm in college, I've reached out to each of them and apologized. I've actually become even closer to two of the girls I mistreated and we're inseparable now.
Lesson: it's never too late to apologize and fix your mistakes! You will always have the choice to become a better person, so treat the people in your circle with kindness and respect--it's okay to poke fun of each other, but know the limits because if you don't, you could be straight up bullying a friend without realizing it.
Wait so your friend #2 aim this story Or another one-?
I feel you. Sometimes I realize I’ve been toxic and it hurts to look back to those days I did the same.
@@crunchysoulzu and the way I lacked self awareness and never realized the consequences of my actions and words always makes me cringe, but it also makes me more cautious of my behavior and how it effects it others
@@highsun76 I’m glad you became a better person and realized your mistakes!
Tbh I'm a Tsundere and my friend know it so they dont mind
Shguur: She is in a frickin hospital!!!
Second friend: yeah but-
Me: SHUT UUUPPPP!!!!!
I’m in 4th grade and I have the same thing, he keeps yelling at me when I try to get his attention(if he responds first then it would be ok). He also is very physical for no reason like I was chasing him and I tripped and he threw a hand full of leaves in my face and I was chocking and he didn’t care: his UA-cam channel is AwesomeAnimations93, and he takes animation ideas,logos, and the 93 in my UA-cam channel
Animation Boy 93 .... im sure this comment is a joke
*Insert old smash intro here*
This is a joke BTW
@@NotJustCole dude, unless your like, confronting this person, then you shouldn't really have the same general username for the YT channel. (this is just me, but i would personally have a totally different username.) and BTW, how does this dude even KNOW your YT channel? unless you straight up told him, then he shouldnt even be taking your logos whatever.
thak you! all you said at the end is totally true and it really opened my eyes even more.
and now I know that I am not the only one with that kind of problem
I've realize a couple of bad traits in myself- I always accidentally turn a conversation on myself by relating to it out loud, and I've realized I can be a bit selfish. I'm glad I realised this before it became a big thing, and I'm trying to fix it and become a better person!
Shgurr: "Yeah I was in class and this guy totally wips out his..."
Friend: "*Texting*"
Me: "I'm interested ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)"
He whips out his whip collection and starts lecturing me on the history of whips and started describing the textures of the leather and patterns of the stitching. It was extremely annoying considering the class was College Algebra...
I'm interested too
ME TOOOO
( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Lmao found the dirty clique
i know this is weird, but something about your voice is soothing.
Al Baker it is calm, it’s the kind you’d hear in a recording for calming down.
I agree
Omg I agreeeeeeee
She should do audiobooks or asmr or something
I like the animation most. The character design is noice too tho
2nd friend: "Where do you think your going?"
Ad: "I'm going in."
toxic relationships are crazy. You go through them and once you (hopefully) leave you are stuck with these extreme emotions. Sometimes I still miss the abuse.
Other animators: let's just call my old friend... "Jim"
Sugar: SeCOnD FriEnD
I’ve been in a toxic friendship before. She would take control over me because she knew that I had a hard time saying no. But I knew she could actually be a good, fun person, so I became more resilient. Slowly but surely, I started teaching myself how to stand up for myself, and now we’re best friends
I’ve had two and gotten over them
•Kirumi Tojo• Good 4 u!
Same ! But i would wait a while see of its gonna stop and if it dosent i leave
Same...i still am :(
so she’s better now?
i remember watching this when i was in my second year of highschool and going like "wow it sucks that this happens to people i'm so glad this sort of stuff never happened to me" and now after 3 years i come back and realize i was in just about the same situation as described here. it just shows how hard it can be tp recocnize unhealthy relationships even when the proof is laid out right in front of you
Thank you for this. Just today I had yet another argument with my best friend, and for a long time this friendship has been breaking me. I just saw this on my recommended, and it’s exactly what I needed. (Maybe the universe is trying to help me haha) It will be hard, but i think it’s for the best if I cut ties with her. I mean, it’s exactly like you explained in the vid. A friendship doesn’t work if it doesn’t go both ways, and I feel like it’s only me putting any effort. Thank you.
"i was in class and this guy just totally whips out his-"
what?....
C;
... His song?
Justified-Blu its phone
*unzips pants*
*PULLS OUT MEATSCEPTER
his ukulele...
"Why don't I shove my shoe up your..."
.....
=-O
Me:"OK KIDS"
Hi
its a friendship
(Continues potential sentence) 'ass!?'
Phanerozoic Wild up what?
@@j.4553 i literally said what she was gonna say..
Ive been on the other side, im afraid.
I was an extrovert and honestly, I may have sort of maybe totally ignored my friends sometimes when they were talking.
And some of my friends kind of disappeared, which I realize now may have been a bit my fault.
But now I try to pay more attention, and im getting better.
Yeah! Sometimes we're wrong too and that's okay. People mess up- but you're trying to learn and improve and that's miles more than most. Just know that just because it was you this time doesn't mean it's always your fault.
You've got this.
I finally left my toxic cousins after years of me doing what they asked me to do. My faith crisis in the Mormon church was paused for a long time because of them. Took me 2 years to figure out it was fake after that. I sent my cousin a text about 10 minutes ago I don't want to be her friend anymore. She hasn't responded yet but I'm so excited for the future without her. I can do my own thing now without her!
*Janaury 22 2024*
She never leaves me alone even when I tell her. Its like shes delusional or something and I know that she's toxic for me. A few weeks ago I went to a dance with my brother and we were forced to bring her and she completley abandoned my brother when he had to go to the bathroom. I reminded her about 30 minutes after she came and hung out with me and my friends. She left about an hour and a half after we got there and my brother wanted to go home so he asked my dad if we could go home and we left 30 minutes early. I told my parents about it and my dad blamed me and my cousin but mostly me because im his older sister. I told my brother i wanted to just hang out with my friends and he was fine with that and we forgot to tell my cousin our plans so that's why that happened. That's the story of my brother's first dance and I feel horrible about it.
so.. what happened?
@@queen_simp I was very close to my cousins because they only lived 90 minutes away. I started talking to my cousin. I'll call Alex. Alex and I are two years apart, and I told him doubts about the church, and he told me, "Pray about it and think about your family and friends." I did pray and barely felt anything, so I told him. And then he told me, "It wasn't the right time," and that broke me, so I pushed all of that down. Quarantine started and became friends with his sister. I'll call Danielle. The friendship with Danielle started off good, but then I asked about her family life, and she lied to me about Alex, and that made me view him as a terrible person. In October, she showed me a cartoon, and we were having fun, but 12 years old me was trying to get ungrounded, so I told my mom the truth. Danielle changed so much after that, so she became this Molly mormon, and I didn't like it, but I stayed with her. Time went by, and we began to develop different personalities and standards. She became rude so I stopped being her friend and now I'm worried for the next time I go to visit them. And yeah, that's what happened.
@@Iamaperson972 give her a punch if she was rude to you again these idiots never learn
Hope you're doing well!
My friend made a rule with me. I’m not aloud to talk to her other then in class, (she’s in my round) And it made me think bad about myself and then, her crush, heard her saying mean things about me. He came up to me and told me, and said he though I was cool, we became best friends. Long story short, suck on karma ‘bestie’
This is the best karma story ever👌
LOL
What’s a round?
@@IndependentOreo idk
Hi! Um I need help... I would ask other people but I don't want them to know and I don't even know you so it won't really affect me if I tell you all. I just want to know if my friend is toxic. So I have this friend I'll call her lilly as a fake name and I've known her ever since we were 2!
We got along great! Untill. 4th grade she's a year younger than me so was in 3 grade and we always walked home together but she said she had to start driving home with her mom. And I was sad but it was ok! After maybe month of that I was walking home and I saw her walking home. I was really upset! But she was pretty far so I thought it probably wasn't her! As I was walking I saw her hide from me. I just ran inside crying after that.
We eventually made up and started talking again! And everything was fine untill about 2-3 months ago!
So me and lilly call and text each other all the time! But she's pretty mean to me.
Whenever I say how stupid and ugly I feel she agrees!
She even calls me names! And she knows I'm very sensitive to when people call me mean and she called me a bully!
She also thretins me!
She always hurts me! She punches me, hits me, and pushes me! She also embarrasses me!
I have bruses bc of her!
And if I don't agree with her she hurts me! If I talk when she doesn't want me to she hurts me!
And for Halloween we were going to dress up together! We had been planning it for months! We were going to be avater characters! Than she gulted me into being an harry potter character!
Than on halloween she diched me! We were going to go trick or treating and on Halloween she refused to give me any information about where she was! Untill she finished trick or treating! We eventually went trick or treating together and she made me take hand fulls from the bowls even tho I hated it!
And I was talking to her about how upset I was and she laughed at me!!!!
Everytime I cry she makes fun of me!😭
I don't want to be her friend anymore but she's my only friend! What should I do?????
"Why don't I just shove my shoe up your-" MOOOOOOD
Toxic girl:up yours
Shgurr: Shut THE FU-
Me
The art style is soo cute I love it 🥺
during my one and only relationship I always worried about being toxic or even just taking my partner for granted. I know I'm not really a great person and have flaws but I still worried about being actually problematic
A new CypherDen video and a new Shgurr video in the timelapse of two days...
*life is still worth living*
What if...CYPHER DAN IS SHGRR IN DISGUIS- Shgrr:See,I pulled a sneaky on ya
DON'T LIKE THIS ANYMORE!! LOOK AT LIKES AND JUST COMMENT 👍. XD
Can’t have a toxic Relationship,
If you don’t have one!
Hahahaha....
Hahahaha...
:((
;-;
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Wanna hear a joke
MY LIFE
HAHAHAHAHA
:(
;-;
She cri
She no lie
But most importantly
I don’t have a rhyme.
Omg I hate how are this type of people that don't apreciate someone 🥺🥺
idk why but when people tell stories like this, i make a scenario in my head that they either arent toxic and are super friendly or they get pushed off a never ending cliff.
I just imagine the 2nd one, but way more torturous
Lol she’s Shgurr and her friend was Splenda
*I see what you did there*
*OMG YES GRAVITY FALLS*
The characters names were originally, Candy and Grenda for any straight up _p e a s a n t s_ who haven't watched gravity falls
Have you watched gravity falls?
Because shgurr and Splenda
candy and Grenda
Unless Splenda is something I've never heard about
I was gonna like the comment but then it turned 69 and I didn't wanna ruin it
Satria Sutena splenda is a another type of shgurr
@@Dumbassfish63 Shgurr is sugar, while Splenda is a sugar substitute :p
why does literally EVERYONE have to take the credit tho
@@evafrick395 that’s just not good
ducky... Can i be honest with you... I have sinned. For i have taken credit for another persons work
@@goese868 If you feel bad don’t do it again
I'm thw 666th like :v
One time I made a really popular class joke, then the popular kids took credit and only my friends knew
I really needed this right now. I just got out of a toxic friendship where I was giving so much and getting nothing in return. Makes me kind of wonder if I'm being spied on though for this to pop up just after I ended a toxic friendship.
Awww your drawing style is so cute!
This video made me cry. Not because I was insulted or anything, but just because I can relate to this and relating to this hurts. It hurts so much.
I'm sorry about that.
Need a hug
**hugs @Hd's Mind Dump**
Man
Even the thumbnail is questioning its own existence
Edit: I shall thank u humans for 200 likes
:D
XD
Anson Hartzler
Oof o haven’t
Lemme go watch
I used to watch this channel a long time ago,
glad to see the content still holds up!
I love how you draw/animate!
4:48
"Why don't I just shove my shoe up your-"
Edit: Woah! This is the most likes I've ever gotten! Tysm and have a great day!
"Shgurr"
Weirdx Animaationz HEY LET ME SHOW YOU WHERE MY SHOE FITS-
@@sekk9436 HAMILTON!
I read this after she said it
Hamilton !!
One time my friend stole my cat pencil topper that I bought with my own money in elementary school. I had no idea where it was until I saw her using it. I asked her if it was hers or if she found it somewhere. She asked why and I said “because I have one just like that.” She completely agreed that it was mine and she found it on the ground. I asked her if I could have it back and she said no. Her reasoning behind this was apparently “You lost it and I found it so now it’s my property.” I cried. She didn’t give it back. A couple days later I told my mom and older sister. My sister told me to stop being friends with her and my mom told me to tell her she had to give it back because she said so. I didn’t do either. But eventually I decided to be dumb and take it back when she wasn’t looking. We’re still friends and I bet if I mentioned it she would deny this ever happened. But of course I wouldn’t mention it cause she’s one of my only friends and she’s never done anything like that since. I guess it wasn’t that big of a deal but it just bothers me that she thought because she found it it belonged to her. Try applying that logic to a child that lost their mom in the store. Now you’re a kidnapper. Maybe I’m just overdramatic idk :/
Sorry for the long rant. It’s midnight and I’m bored
This is actually something that happened to me too. It's such a toxic thing to do especially because if she knew how much it meant to you and didn't give it back that just means they Probably aren't the greatest person to hang around. I know it's hard to cut people off though... but sometimes it's just better that way, y'know?
Lol
Got a story kinda like that example at the end.my parents decided to get a divorce when I was 5. When I was 7 their divorce still wasn't finalized. On the first day of summer vacation my mother passed away. Me and my sister's lives with my mom and so this meant that we had to move in with my dad and his bi*** of a girlfriend. I couldn't stop crying for a few days. When my dad's girlfriend saw me crying she told me to get over it and suck it up.she then grabbed my wrist and brought me to the car. I tricking hate her. I'm still living with them, it's the anniversary of my mom passing away today when I'm writing this. Sorry for the rant
You might just need to break it off. It's hard, but it will probably feel better.
That fact that you still think about it. Even now shows that you need to talk to your “friend” about it. If she really is your friend fear shouldn’t be the center of you two’s relationship.
“we won’t be friends anymore” same thing happened to me in 2nd grade. my friend (who was also my neighbor) said this and basically gaslit me into sitting by the wall with her at recess completely silent (or telling me about how much she hated recess) 3 times a week (she was also obsessed with schedules and was my only friend when i agreed to it and would also tell me that i wasn’t allowed to play with any other friends during those days since i already agreed) sorry for the long paragraph, it still upsets me to this day.