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@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Regarding Briefs vs. Boxers: Doctors and Hygienists will tell patients to wear Boxers to allow that area of our bodies (both men AND women) to "breathe" fresh air to prevent us from getting yeast infections from "sweating" when wearing Briefs. It is best to wear nothing that encloses the groin area, but in society, we must cover up that part of our bodies. So, the best compromise is to cover ourselves by wearing Boxers, NOT Briefs. Another problem with Briefs is that the part around the legs is usually made of rubber covered with cloth. That causes further "sweating" and yeast grows that way, that is, warm, dark, and moist. Briefs are very bad for both men and women.
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Regarding "Sleepers" (Slippers): Filipinas/os wear slippers or flipSlippers-flops or zories or rubber sandals to protect the bottom of their feet. Foreigners also wear those when in The Philippines. Why? Well, it is usually very warm in the P.I. so wearing leather shoes or sports shoes or tennis shoes or boots is not good for people's feet. Slippers or flip-flops are best for P.I. But in Western countries (USA, UK, Canada, Australia, NZ), it is not as warm. In fact, during winter time, warm boots are necessary because it is so cold from snow. So, Westerners do not wear flip-flops during the winter. Now, then, In MY home, I have always had a small bench to sit on next to the entrance door, so I can take off my shoes or boots, and then put on my "indoor house" slippers or flip-flops. That way, I wear indoor slippers inside my home and outdoor shoes outside my home. Another convenience in the P.I. is that, because the weather is so warm, slippers or flip-flops are worn and very easy to remove or put on again, unlike shoes or boots. Westerners are not used to removing shoes during summers and parts of spring and fall. For me, the reason for having slippers inside is so that I do not track dirt, mud, or other garbage into my home. And I only wear my slippers inside my home to keep them clean from bringing in outside dirt and grime.
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Regarding Humor: Humor is based on the history and cultural differences within each culture. It is unique for each country or area of the world. It is also based on customs developed through holidays, types of food (locally grown vegetables, fruit, and animals), and the climate and geological surroundings. Folklore and fables add to our differing humor. When a man from one country marries a woman from another country, they have very different experiences during the previous growing years of their lives. Their schools were different; their religions may be different; and their holidays are probably different. All these differences create two very different people. Therefore, two such people must practice much patience and forgiveness when judging their partner. Instead, each should enjoy their partner's differences with a bit of humor that we do not understand our partner's humor, and find it amusing.
I wish. I can get up extra early but I have ADD pretty bad and can have to turn around and go back inside because I forgot my wallet, then set my keys down and forgot where when I was looking for my wallet. Then I remember that I was going to grab my camera and have to go back inside. Then I realize I forgot to get fuel before making it home last night. Try as I might, punctuality is a real struggle for me.
@@chriswampler1 I feel it. It's not just ADD, it's also people with poor short term memory like myself. This is the fourth consecutive week that I have forgotten to take my garbage can down to the curb to be picked up. I left my tv remote in the fridge once.
I have always felt that it is incredibly rude to tell someone you will be there at 6pm and you show up late. It shows you don't care about the person waiting for you.
I finally got tired of my wife being late to everything that one year for Thanksgiving we were going to my brother's house. I kept telling her to get ready, and she kept ignoring me. I told her that we were leaving at a certain time, with or without her. That time came and our daughter and I left to go to my brothers and left her at home. I thought that might be a wake up call. Nope, she is still always late. Now I start telling her that we need to be someplace 1 hour before we need to actually be there.
Was in a manila elevator once when 2 flippina's walked in, after a moment of silence (that stunned me) one of them started speculating about a certain part of my anatomy in tagalog of course.After several floors, I got out and said this to them "di kasing laki sa tingin mo". The silence was deafening.
its true they all have that stupid topic , we have same size. whats the matter to them they think we are some kind of rude pigs that never bath , that are rude , impatient etc etc...they should know that we also have stereotypes about them and those are real.
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My wife is asian and of course I don't wear shoes I wore outside in the house. Often, we have other shoes we can wear once in the house. I learned this at 57, so I'm sure Gary can too. He should respect some of your culture, and I think this is a good thing.
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The 'british humour' (that may seem harsh) is just banter. Usually we only say mean jokes to the people we like the most. To us it means we're really friends... and we're happy for you to offend us too...as long as its funny! 😂
About House shoes or Slippers. They are meant to be worn only indoors. They are indoor shoes. Perhaps you should get him a pair of indoor and outdoor ones because the older you are it is more common to wear them outside I've noticed.
I always war Slippers inside (but such kind that you could't really wear outside), because in most of countries walking on floor it gets cold, especially in colder months.
My Filipina wife and I will be married 38 years in less than a month from now. She believes in ghosts. The other night, I finished my shower and walked into our bedroom where she was blow drying her hair. She screamed when she saw my reflection in the mirror. (I was in my birthday suit an standing still). I started laughing and reminded her how long we have shared our home together. I'm 76, but not a ghost, YET ! When I first brought her to the US, we were in the living room and she was talking in Tagalog. I waited until she finished her thought then told her to repeat that in English so I would understand. She started laughing about that and never forgot again. Oh, the waiting in the car for her to come out so we can go somewhere. Don't get me started. And Leah, just know that we men love you Filipinas in so many ways, because of the way your parents raised you. You have the values that are missing in our culture ( or are very hard to find.)
I believe there are good things and bad things from both sides. That's why we as a society should try to learn from each other and tell the truth about things.
Honesty is more appreciated in the west than paying insincere compliments. Imagine being the CEO of a company and all the managers reporting to you telling you what you want to hear. The freaking stock market would collapse.
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I used to mountain bike with some Filipinos in California. Everyone would plan on meeting up at 7:00… they’d end up arriving at 7:30, 7:45, 8:15, etc. we’d always give them a hard time about being on “Filipino time”.
How are you Leah, I watched your video on 7 things that expats do that shock philippinas. When you talked about humor, sometimes people will say things unknowingly that they think is funny, but could be offensive to you. Communication is key, sit that person down and talk to them, ask them could you explain what they meant by the certain comment they made that they thought was humor but was offensive to you. Keep making your wonderful videos, really love them. 💕 You and your husband. Chester
We all have differences. That's just life if I'm dating a foreigner. I'm learning from her she's learning from me. That's what makes it so exciting that we can learn from each other and continue to learn from each other. If somebody's talking, somebody's gotta be listeni, love this video. No wonder why you have a top position on UA-cam. Because you care about your audience and you're always giving us much more than what we asked for congratulations. I hope you have a great morning noon or night.
I usually have two pair of slippers. One pair never leaves the house at all and I use it to walk inside the house and then I have a pair for walking around outside the house and I leave that outside
Funny, my experience has been the opposite. As a European I was kind of shocked how bluntly honest Filipinas are, it almost seemed rude but you always serve your honesty with a smile and good spirits so it's impossible to feel offended. I'm used to it now. 😂
this is a nice video it broke up on my computer half way through then came back at the end i understood all the points you made and can relate to them every day i think gary must be frustrated if he is like me that his wife just doesn't realise just how funny he is my wife has been in the uk for 6 years so she does laugh more often now and occasionally she comes out with a cracker and after 5 seconds of thought i realised she is very funny as well i hope you find a nice house with nice neighbors we live in bacolod there were 10 or so expats here we would see around but we went to the uk before the pandemic and now we are back they have all disappeared any way good luck to you all
Not really dark humor, its just weird humor... When you watch those shows when people laugh in the background when thing are supposed to be funny, when people outside of UK watch those, they usually just go "huh... what was funny about that"...
Hi Leah. I found your topic fascinating since I am an American expat resident of Davao City living with my Filipina wife of almost three years. My wife lived in Australia for several years as a housekeeper. We have talked about your topic with each other on numerous occasions. We agree that when a foreigner seeks to marry a Filipina and a Filipina wants to marry an expat, both need to make an extra effort to understand the other to find a suitable middle ground when our backgrounds lead us in different ways in a situation. Let me begin with your example of time which assumes Filipinos run on Filipino time. For me, the matter is a pet peeve. Fortunately, my wife understands and recognizes, for example, that Filipinos do make every effort to get to church on time and not arrive until the offering is collected. (Humor!) The same is true with stores, businesses, and appointments with, say, the doctor. My wife is very cognizant that I am a punctual kind of person although not all Westerners are. She makes every effort to be on time when we need to be somewhere together. On the other hand, I do cut some slack with her when she is running late getting ready to leave to go somewhere which doesn't happen often. Patience is another matter. I have had to learn that in the Philippines it is most certainly a virtue although I was rather patient in the US except when driving and I am in a traffic jam. (More humor!) Now, I want to mention another matter that definitely bothers me about the Philippines. To be sure, I understand respect and the Filipino way of wanting to respect others, especially an older person as I am. I appreciate special lines (usually shorter) for "senior citizens." My concern, though, is the other side of the coin--consideration. Consideration is taking the other person into account when saying or doing something. How does what I do affect the other person, especially if what I do can have an adverse effect on others like playing loud music at night or cutting in line where a friend is standing. I find Filipinos are rather short on consideration in contrast to respect. As a religious and Christian nation, I would expect people in the Philippines to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. However, that often does not happen when people are inconsiderate. Thanks for listening,
Yes, your culture is much different than ours, but your video was on target . My Filipina wife was laughing at how accurately you described me. With punctuality we are taught from our earliest childhood both at home and at school the you are to be on time. I confess that I have no patience. Boxer shorts are supposedly healthy for you. When I first visited my wife in the Philippines and even still she is much more reserved than I am in public. I could go on but it was a great video.
Leah, about the slippers/shoes that are used from outside to inside the house. That is an easy solution. I live here in the USA but my whole family leaves our shoes/slippers at the front door or shoe rack at the front door inside the house. I’m making sure we don’t bring our shoes/slippers inside of the home, because shoes/slippers are dirty and steps everywhere. Solution is we have our inside slippers/sandals that is only used indoors.
About beeing on time : That is true for most people but i will give you my point of view. When i'm late it does not mean that i do not respect my girlfriend. It just means that my rhythm and feelings does not match exactly with time. I will go maybe 15 or 30 minutes late , but i will be happy, groovie and full of joy and fun. On the other hand if i had to stick exactly with time, that will make me pragmatic, sad and anxious. I think the first one is better and i don't mind my girlfriend to be late. It is all about to keep love alive... not just some numbers about time. But for most western - yes , it is about respect to be on time and i think it is quite sad.
Well said, mostly accurate ive been with my pinay seven years,im constantly laughing at her attitude ,but love her to pieces,she is utterly irreplaceable ❤️ ♥️ 💖 💜
I take the middle ground with honesty. Using your example of dinner, I would thank my girlfriend for making dinner and I would comment about something that I liked about the meal--because there's usually some aspect of a dish that is a positive even if you don't like it--and I would take care of washing the dishes afterwards. And only then would I tell her that I didn't like it, and I would tell her that the only reason I was telling her is because I didn't want her to make it over and over again because she thought I loved it.
Thanks for your thoughts. About outside slipers or shoes...it depends from what country you come from, like here in Finland and Sweden aso we dont wear our outside shoes inside either because we have 4 season and sometimes it might be very dirty outside so we change to indoor slippers or just socks 😎.
Thank you for the amazing video. I’m learning so much that I wasn’t aware of between your culture and Western Culture. I’m traveling to the Philippines later this year, looking for somewhere to live. Travelled Thailand + Indonesia before. Dated local ladies while doing so. I love how kind hearted + considerate the SE Asians are. Very different here in Canada. My Reactions (39 white boy, Canada) to your surprises with Foreigners; 1. Boxers! Haha, yeah that’s a “Western Man” thing. I’ll look into what the local Men there wear…maybe I’ll prefer those to boxers! 😂🤷♂️ 2. Punctual. (Meaning we like to be On Time, or Early for most things). For us, it is a sign of Respect to show up when agreed. It show’s respect for the other person’s time. Waste of your own time to have to wait for someone too. Mutual respect is the reason. 3. Straight Forward. Canada is less than UK+ USA for that. We tend to put on “Nice” masks as a front to how we really feel. But UK + USA ppl really let you know what’s up. It can be refreshing, as there are no blurry mind games…but it can be quite Disruptive as well: so pro’s and con’s of that. 4. Passionate/Desire to please our lady. Haha yes, we do want our lady to enjoy the experience very much. We help each other become better lover’s by sharing what works good to please our ladies. 5. Rude Humour. Unfortunately that can happen when Sarcasm (popular type of humour in the West) is taken too far. My Mom’s side of the family uses very aggressive + sometimes mean humour. My Dad’s is gentle and light hearted humour. Sounds like that’s the type in the Philippines. Beautiful. 6. Not Caring what Strangers think of you. I believe you will find that trait in MOST Foreigners, as they have left their homeland for something different…which most of them will be judged and get flack from family + friends for doing so. So they already have that trait. IN Western Lands…most Men are quite weak + will do whatever “authority” + the “herd” will do. Most don’t have the balls to stand apart from the crowd. Covid made this very clear. So FOREIGNERS IN YOUR LAND have this trait, but it’s not common back in Foreigners homeland. 7. Outdoor shoes inside. That’s gross. Apparently lots of the USA population does that. Us Canadians, take off out shoes at the door, and have indoor shoes/slippers if wanted. Walking on THE STREETS picking up ALL the FILTH…and then walking that filth through out the house, is disgusting. Thank you once again.
Good morning sweetie! It’s always nice to see you and your family. I’ve been married to the most Wonderful Woman GOD ever made. She is my joy,my love, my happiness!!! I’ve been trained hehehe take off my outside crocs and put on my inside crocs. Patients is a virtue I’m still working on, island time still annoys me but I have a work around. If I want to go at 1200 pm I say honey we go at 1100. It works most of the time. Boxers are the way to go, briefs are too small or tight. My wife said when we got married “ tell me the truth always” I say “ yes dear” so if I didn’t like something she cooked I would thank her for making it but this isn’t my favorite food. So she wouldn’t make it for me. To be honest I like most everything she makes, she is from pampanga so she cooks yummy food!! I will say filipina wives to me are the best!! Take care, GOD bless you and your family. Thank you for sharing.
I don’t wear shoes in the house because I married an Asian and it bothers her. At first I did it for her but now I see how much cleaner the house is and I no longer do it just for her, I do it for me too. When people visit I am the first to ask them to take off their shoes. I feel a little bad because I know how they think and feel but I don’t care about their feelings more than I care about not getting dirt from their shoes all over my house. Keep in mind, dirt on their shoes can be a mix of earth, dog poop, gum, dried sticky soda, etc. Our floors stay clean and I love it. So, I learned from Asian culture that the very small inconvenience of taking off shoes to go inside a house is worth the huge benefit in cleanliness.
I am willing to bet the majority of humans across the earth take off their shoes. Almost all Asian countries do, I believe most middle eastern countries do, and then quite a few European countries do. I think the countries that don’t are the exception to the rule. Once a person get used to it, it is a trivial thing to do and the benefits are significant.
In most (not all) of european countries you would be asked to take your shoes off (or you wouldn't need to ask), and you would be given slippers that you can wear inside.
Interesting video. It shed some light on my personal experiences. PS: I am not surprised Gary likes his showers. Guys from English speaking countries on average bath more and are more likely to wear underwear than foreigners from other European origins. Not sure why, but that’s what the stats say.
Honesty and promptness are ways to show respect and appreciation. There are bad ways to tell someone that you don't like something that they are doing but there may not be a good way to say it sometimes. I like a lot of different types of food and another man may only like meat and potatoes. I might be shocked that someone doesn't enjoy my pig tails with sauerkraut and potatoes but I won't be offended because I know it's just a matter of preference. My cooking is always good. I could do all the cooking for the family if my wife is taking care of the house and dishes. As for laundry, I like to share that work with my wife. Not that I have one in my life.
Hi Leah yep the lies really annoy me and can effect the relationship where trust building is concerned, no need for it , western way of straight talking is best. Slippers lol you come live in UK for the winter, you will be wearing them from day one with thick socks lol. Delightful to hear your view points as always , keep on vlogging 😃
As an American man speaking on the use of slippers or house shoes, a lot of it comes from personal experiences or preferences but as for me, I noticed that not all men’s feet are the same sensitive. I wear socks and slippers inside always because my feet are sensitive to what they touch. Like outside terrain can sometimes feel uncomfortable or slightly painful without shoes. I didn’t grow up going barefoot either.
I am a Brit living in Colombia and we don't "get" each other's humour. If a friend walks into a shop where are, I could say "Here comes trouble!!'" at the same time I wink at my wife or whoever I am with. My wife just doesn't get it even after 37 years of marriage!!
In regards to the meal. Every meal, my grandmother would ask my grandfather, how is it? Every time, my grandfather would say "just the way I like it"! Hehe.
Leah, humor. A person had headaches so she went to a doctor. The doctor told her she had a brain tumor and that she needed an operation. After the operation, the doctor told her that he was mistaken about how much of her brain he had to take out. He had thought about 3 percent but because the tumor was so large, he had to take out 95 percent of her brain. The doctor didn't know if she could even understand what he was saying to her.she just said ," talaga!!"
Honesty is the best policy to avoid problems in the long run, which is important when dealing with yourself and friends and family and coworkers. It matters less when dealing with a stranger you'll never see again.
The fact of making statements without regard for others feeling is in part to do with a philosophical distinction between Individual and collectivist cultures or societies. The notion of free will is at the core to making statements pertaining to the individual's intentions and desires. So this is a culture shock that is not going to go away easily and may be a reason avoid the other. The time factor is to do with a 100 year tradition of school bells ringing 'on time' in 9am the 10am for little lunch and so on, so its really a childhood trauma from the 70's and 80's and not such an issue for latter generations.
There is so much to uncover here but I definitely appreciate the honesty and I face the same issues as some coming from Caribbean to living in the UK I get you.
It's normal here being a foreigner ... Everything's faster here.. We care if people think of us but we been threw a lot in our lives we just roll with the flow..
I am Norwegian with Filipina wife. In my culture we take off the shoes in the entrance of the house, but she is asking me why i walk barefoot inside and not using the indoor slippers. But its a bit fun with the different cultureal differences.
Thank you for helping me understand more about my asawa. I will now be more understanding with her needs. Some Western women made us this way and we don't like to be like that either.
I really enjoyed your observations of being married to a foreigner. I am soon to married to my beautiful Filipina of whom I dated for over 9 years. According to her, she is my queen and she always gets her way on every issue. 😂 Obviously I have no problem with that because we know each other very well. On the wearing slippers ib the house problem, here's how you train Gary NOT to wear slippers in the house. Say no more love making until you stop wearing your sliipers in the house Gary. Let me know how long it takes Gary to stop wearing slippers in the house. I'm guessing less than a week 😂😂 God bless you and Gary and I hope the two of you live long and happy lives.
At least in rural Oregon , forty years ago , boxers were hard to find and briefs were the standard. That has reversed over the last forty years. One factor was they were used by bullies in middle and high school ( I have heard junior and senior high school is the terms in the philippines)
You're spot on with everything except the slippers! Your man is a bit unusual that way. Mostly we won't walk into the house with shoes we're wearing outside, especially if we live in country areas.
Time is important, in the west to be late or show up late we feel its rude. Being on time means you take the event seriously. Once your sure of who you are you can not a bit what others think.
A province girls sweetness! 👍Foreigners are different. British humor is special (watch the TV series Little Britain and you will be shocked) , as well as american humor. But there is also rare german humor and other culture humor. You have to try many men from all over the world to judge humor. Anyway humor is fun, dont take it serious!
As an American man, and a tall man, i can understand him wanting to wear slippers in the house.We are used walking on soft carpet, and rugs inside our homes, or using indoor slippers (house slippers) as they are Very comfortable, especially for us tall guys, our feel feel better wearing slippers, rather than walking barefoot on hard floors. We grew up walking on soft carpet, and rugs. I would suggest getting Gary some house slippers, for inside the house only, he will love them, and he will use them often.
A lot of western culture is centered around the clock, being on time a sign of respect and good upbringing. This seems to be from the industrial manufacturing phase of our history, where people worked set shifts in lighted building with the clock, not the sun, keeping track of time.. Soon our non-work time was also being scheduled on clock based factors. And we've been trapped in this clock controlled way of life ever since. Agriculture and hunting more follow the sun, not a clock, so time is more fluid than exact in cultures that still follow these historical norms. Most island communities I've been to follow the more fluid, less exact timing, for daily life. Some don't even name their streets or number their houses cause the locals know who and what is where without needing this extra labeling. And these Island locals with their more relaxed lifestyle seem happier and healthier then most westerners I know. So an agreed upon middle ground where time is concerned, may be the best of both worlds. Personally, since retiring, I've found I more naturally follow the sun in daily home life. Only check the clock for away from home scheduled events.
Small correction . Wearing sleepers inside houses depends on countries . Example : England no one wears shoes inside houses . Portugal every one wears shoes inside houses . Excellent videos . Lovely couple .
Boxer shorts vs. briefs...in America, briefs used to be more common in the past. But our men have discovered that boxers are less constrictive and uncomfortable, which is preferable. Imagine having sensitive internal organs on the outside of your body, and you'll understand why we don't want fabric pinching them. However, briefs can sometimes be better for athletes who want support during strenuous physical exertion, which prevents the testicles from banging around and becoming bruised.
So funny, I experience all your sharing with my wife. The briefs is hilarious. I got some briefs that I like, colorful and more like shorts. My wife likes them more than boxers. Our children tell friends and our family. All of us laugh!
Underware: My Father was in WWII and fount in the Philippines, Okinawa & Japan. I forget what the reason was, but he claimed he he never wore underware again after the war. Humor: Humor is very local to time and place. I grew up in Pittsburgh PA and later moved to New York City NY. Humor was vey different in Pittsburgh than in New York City. In the USA we had national TV for many years that sort of made common humor across the USA. I married a woman from Jamaica West Indies and she and I had to learn each others humor.
You stated that you care about other's feelings, even if you have to lie. That's exactly when you get drunk in order to forget temporarily some things. Because, you will hurt someone's feelings when he / she realizes it was lied....🤷♂🤷♂ Coming inside the house with the shoes on, it's individual matter. I never enter in the house with shoes from outside. I find it common sense. And yeah. If they need something to wear in the house, they can have slippers, but NEVER go outside with them.
It's just custom for Philippines time which is always 15 mins after the appointed time. It's not disrespectful to them. It took me a year to get used to it with my ex wife.
I think we are patient, its not that we can't wait. Its just disrepectful if someone is not respecting your time. For example, if someone is making you wait for a long time, and its because they are not organised, it tells us they don't respect you enough to be ready on time. Also we get annoyed if the reason we are having to wait is because someone is doing something stupid, like waiting in line at an ATM while the person in front seems to be doing 100 transactions.... just get your money and go!
Some guys just like to wear slippers haha! I think it's a comfort thing. I don't wear slippers and my feet are fine. You are quite beautiful and I can't wait to visit! What area should I go to? I do not want to go to a city or malls. I want a nice village girl.
Patience...I have almost none. Timeliness, is an essential element. I say we leave at 10:00, it does not matter if you are not ready at 10:00. I am leaving. You can come as you are, or stay behind.
In Norway, everything is so clean,that you could walk inside the house with your shoes, but it is very rude to do so. You should remove your shoes before entering a house of course. And know that in the Philippines there are so many street dogs who do their stuff on the road and on the sidewalk, it is very stupid to NOT remove your shoes. Otherwise you made some very interesting comments here. We do not like to wear briefs in the Philippines, because it is too hot and humid. Some of my friends from other countries, like Norway etc, insist on not wearing underwear at all, just to keep it fresh and not to sweaty. And yes, we are organized and like to keep our room tidy and clean, hating all kinds of insects like ants and cockroaches and Mice or Rats in our place.
Being brutally honest can hurt, but if the food is not to his taste. There are culturally very different but there are ways of telling somebody with kindness. My wife is from the Dominican Republic and there are cultural differences and if I did not like what she made I would tell her later because I can think what I would say to not hurt her.
It is inconsiderate and therefore it is also disrespectful to make people wait in line needlessly. A considerate store owner can assign additional clerks, perhaps train shelf stackers to switch to cash register temporarily. But they are inconsiderate or too cheap to pay for additional help.
If store owners (premium goods) want my business they better be on time for the demo meeting. The ones who do certainly have heard about the « customer lifetime value » 😊
Being on time is being respectful towards others. Making someone wait is saying your time is more important than theirs. If you worry about what others think then you will be in a constant state of worry. It’s mentally healthier to don’t worry about things you cannot control. Sarcasm does not work with a Filipina because your words will be taking literally. So Sarcasm does not work . I have worked with the same Filipinos for 21 years. We are all approaching retirement even though they are older than me, so it took 21 years before they understood my humor. I have yet to think they are funny though. So the humor thing is real . Which is too bad because humor, Laughing is important.
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I think your microphone is setup to pick up form only one ear and its really discomforting to listen to it with headphones. I just wanted to let you know :)
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@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Regarding Briefs vs. Boxers:
Doctors and Hygienists will tell patients to wear Boxers to allow that area of our bodies (both men AND women) to "breathe" fresh air to prevent us from getting yeast infections from "sweating" when wearing Briefs. It is best to wear nothing that encloses the groin area, but in society, we must cover up that part of our bodies. So, the best compromise is to cover ourselves by wearing Boxers, NOT Briefs.
Another problem with Briefs is that the part around the legs is usually made of rubber covered with cloth. That causes further "sweating" and yeast grows that way, that is, warm, dark, and moist. Briefs are very bad for both men and women.
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Regarding "Sleepers" (Slippers): Filipinas/os wear slippers or flipSlippers-flops or zories or rubber sandals to protect the bottom of their feet. Foreigners also wear those when in The Philippines. Why? Well, it is usually very warm in the P.I. so wearing leather shoes or sports shoes or tennis shoes or boots is not good for people's feet. Slippers or flip-flops are best for P.I.
But in Western countries (USA, UK, Canada, Australia, NZ), it is not as warm. In fact, during winter time, warm boots are necessary because it is so cold from snow. So, Westerners do not wear flip-flops during the winter.
Now, then, In MY home, I have always had a small bench to sit on next to the entrance door, so I can take off my shoes or boots, and then put on my "indoor house" slippers or flip-flops. That way, I wear indoor slippers inside my home and outdoor shoes outside my home.
Another convenience in the P.I. is that, because the weather is so warm, slippers or flip-flops are worn and very easy to remove or put on again, unlike shoes or boots. Westerners are not used to removing shoes during summers and parts of spring and fall.
For me, the reason for having slippers inside is so that I do not track dirt, mud, or other garbage into my home. And I only wear my slippers inside my home to keep them clean from bringing in outside dirt and grime.
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 Regarding Humor: Humor is based on the history and cultural differences within each culture. It is unique for each country or area of the world. It is also based on customs developed through holidays, types of food (locally grown vegetables, fruit, and animals), and the climate and geological surroundings. Folklore and fables add to our differing humor.
When a man from one country marries a woman from another country, they have very different experiences during the previous growing years of their lives. Their schools were different; their religions may be different; and their holidays are probably different. All these differences create two very different people.
Therefore, two such people must practice much patience and forgiveness when judging their partner. Instead, each should enjoy their partner's differences with a bit of humor that we do not understand our partner's humor, and find it amusing.
About being late... it isn't being disciplined about time but more like being respectful of other people and their time.
I agree with you! 👍😊
Exactly 👍🏻
you have to be disciplined if you wont to be (fillfull, show) this respect + being man of you word (that how you get respect for you)
I wish. I can get up extra early but I have ADD pretty bad and can have to turn around and go back inside because I forgot my wallet, then set my keys down and forgot where when I was looking for my wallet. Then I remember that I was going to grab my camera and have to go back inside. Then I realize I forgot to get fuel before making it home last night. Try as I might, punctuality is a real struggle for me.
@@chriswampler1 I feel it. It's not just ADD, it's also people with poor short term memory like myself. This is the fourth consecutive week that I have forgotten to take my garbage can down to the curb to be picked up. I left my tv remote in the fridge once.
Being on time shows that I value and respect your time and my time.
If you are late you are saying the person you are meeting isn’t important enough to be on time
Exactly!
Or she was looking for some one else to finance her families life style.
When your honest, then everyone understands how to improve things
Thats why modern women today in the West dont improve, they are lying to each other.
I have always felt that it is incredibly rude to tell someone you will be there at 6pm and you show up late. It shows you don't care about the person waiting for you.
Completely cultural. Your ideas are not applicable in a different culture. You are culturally insensitive.
I finally got tired of my wife being late to everything that one year for Thanksgiving we were going to my brother's house. I kept telling her to get ready, and she kept ignoring me. I told her that we were leaving at a certain time, with or without her. That time came and our daughter and I left to go to my brothers and left her at home. I thought that might be a wake up call. Nope, she is still always late. Now I start telling her that we need to be someplace 1 hour before we need to actually be there.
🤣 That's the ONLY way to deal with Filipino time!
Hi Leah!.. Great video!.. Unfortunately the picture was blank from 6:53 to 10:53 but the sound was good.. Have a good day!..😎
Was in a manila elevator once when 2 flippina's walked in, after a moment of silence (that stunned me) one of them started speculating about a certain part of my anatomy in tagalog of course.After several floors, I got out and said this to them "di kasing laki sa tingin mo".
The silence was deafening.
Hahahahaha! That's awesome, thanks for sharing!
So what did you say?
“Not as big as you think”
@@happycamper5900 magaling po
its true they all have that stupid topic , we have same size. whats the matter to them they think we are some kind of rude pigs that never bath , that are rude , impatient etc etc...they should know that we also have stereotypes about them and those are real.
One thing I have learned from living in different countries and trying to learn different languages is that humor does not translate across cultures.
Hello everyone. @paulchristensen7515. This is the best comment. He is right all languages does not translate across all cultures. I truly wished it did . We could all have great laughs together. Cheers Paul 🍻🍻
Humor isn't even consistent within cultures and languages.
Mr Bean does.
My wife is asian and of course I don't wear shoes I wore outside in the house. Often, we have other shoes we can wear once in the house. I learned this at 57, so I'm sure Gary can too. He should respect some of your culture, and I think this is a good thing.
Yeah and all Americans don’t do this. I find many people from rural areas don’t wear shoes inside.
My apologies I had a problem in this video From 6:54-10:53 due to editing software, I didn't see it until this morning. Again my apologies. Stay safe everyone!
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My left ear loved this video
@@kakerake6018 thought my earbud died. Lol
😂😂😂
The 'british humour' (that may seem harsh) is just banter. Usually we only say mean jokes to the people we like the most. To us it means we're really friends... and we're happy for you to offend us too...as long as its funny! 😂
J Klapka J Three men in a boat..... Boatload of Brit humor. "You can only gravely insult your friends, stranger could hit you."
About House shoes or Slippers. They are meant to be worn only indoors. They are indoor shoes. Perhaps you should get him a pair of indoor and outdoor ones because the older you are it is more common to wear them outside I've noticed.
I always war Slippers inside (but such kind that you could't really wear outside), because in most of countries walking on floor it gets cold, especially in colder months.
My Filipina wife and I will be married 38 years in less than a month from now. She believes in ghosts. The other night, I finished my shower and walked into our bedroom where she was blow drying her hair. She screamed when she saw my reflection in the mirror. (I was in my birthday suit an standing still). I started laughing and reminded her how long we have shared our home together. I'm 76, but not a ghost, YET ! When I first brought her to the US, we were in the living room and she was talking in Tagalog. I waited until she finished her thought then told her to repeat that in English so I would understand. She started laughing about that and never forgot again. Oh, the waiting in the car for her to come out so we can go somewhere. Don't get me started. And Leah, just know that we men love you Filipinas in so many ways, because of the way your parents raised you. You have the values that are missing in our culture ( or are very hard to find.)
Very honest and truthful my Filipino girl would agree I'm sure
I believe there are good things and bad things from both sides. That's why we as a society should try to learn from each other and tell the truth about things.
Interesting about the showering part. I have seen quite a few filipino homes and people and constant showering didn't come to mind. Jusy sayin'.
Honesty is more appreciated in the west than paying insincere compliments. Imagine being the CEO of a company and all the managers reporting to you telling you what you want to hear. The freaking stock market would collapse.
You clearly have not dealt with C level executives
This topic is Filipinas who never get out of the country and experience about different types of cultures. I'm well adapted to different culture. I'm out of the country for 30 yrs now...Love and Light💗💗💗
I used to mountain bike with some Filipinos in California. Everyone would plan on meeting up at 7:00… they’d end up arriving at 7:30, 7:45, 8:15, etc. we’d always give them a hard time about being on “Filipino time”.
Great content and well presented. Thanks Leah. As an Australian, I think most of that would apply to me as well.
How are you Leah, I watched your video on 7 things that expats do that shock philippinas. When you talked about humor, sometimes people will say things unknowingly that they think is funny, but could be offensive to you. Communication is key, sit that person down and talk to them, ask them could you explain what they meant by the certain comment they made that they thought was humor but was offensive to you. Keep making your wonderful videos, really love them. 💕 You and your husband. Chester
I stick to slapstick. Works in any language!
We all have differences. That's just life if I'm dating a foreigner. I'm learning from her she's learning from me. That's what makes it so exciting that we can learn from each other and continue to learn from each other. If somebody's talking, somebody's gotta be listeni, love this video. No wonder why you have a top position on UA-cam. Because you care about your audience and you're always giving us much more than what we asked for congratulations. I hope you have a great morning noon or night.
I usually have two pair of slippers. One pair never leaves the house at all and I use it to walk inside the house and then I have a pair for walking around outside the house and I leave that outside
Thank you Leah for sharing details of your life and thoughts. I learn a lot and grow watching your videos.
Funny, my experience has been the opposite. As a European I was kind of shocked how bluntly honest Filipinas are, it almost seemed rude but you always serve your honesty with a smile and good spirits so it's impossible to feel offended. I'm used to it now. 😂
Great topic Leah honesty is the policy ! ❤❤❤❤ thank you .
this is a nice video it broke up on my computer half way through then came back at the end i understood all the points you made and can relate to them every day
i think gary must be frustrated if he is like me that his wife just doesn't realise just how funny he is my wife has been in the uk for 6 years so she does laugh more often now and occasionally
she comes out with a cracker and after 5 seconds of thought i realised she is very funny as well i hope you find a nice house with nice neighbors we live in bacolod there were 10 or so expats here we would see around but we went to the uk before the pandemic and now we are back they have all disappeared any way good luck to you all
1st time viewing your channel. ❤ you are the reason western men travel around the world to find a mate . So sweet 🎉🎉🎉😊
Welcome aboard!Thank you!
Us English people tend to have dark sense of humour. It can be hard to get used to
True, i usually find it funny the next few day🤣😂
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 😂😂😂
its true. i am spanish , and i find it offensive too.
@@philippinefamilylifewithle2673 I'm just curious, do most fillapinas or fillipino men think passing gas is funny? 😊
Not really dark humor, its just weird humor... When you watch those shows when people laugh in the background when thing are supposed to be funny, when people outside of UK watch those, they usually just go "huh... what was funny about that"...
Thanks, Leah. Maybe someone already mentioned this, but why not switch to indoors only sandals when you come in the house? Great video. All the best.
Hi Leah. I found your topic fascinating since I am an American expat resident of Davao City living with my Filipina wife of almost three years. My wife lived in Australia for several years as a housekeeper. We have talked about your topic with each other on numerous occasions. We agree that when a foreigner seeks to marry a Filipina and a Filipina wants to marry an expat, both need to make an extra effort to understand the other to find a suitable middle ground when our backgrounds lead us in different ways in a situation. Let me begin with your example of time which assumes Filipinos run on Filipino time. For me, the matter is a pet peeve. Fortunately, my wife understands and recognizes, for example, that Filipinos do make every effort to get to church on time and not arrive until the offering is collected. (Humor!) The same is true with stores, businesses, and appointments with, say, the doctor. My wife is very cognizant that I am a punctual kind of person although not all Westerners are. She makes every effort to be on time when we need to be somewhere together. On the other hand, I do cut some slack with her when she is running late getting ready to leave to go somewhere which doesn't happen often. Patience is another matter. I have had to learn that in the Philippines it is most certainly a virtue although I was rather patient in the US except when driving and I am in a traffic jam. (More humor!)
Now, I want to mention another matter that definitely bothers me about the Philippines. To be sure, I understand respect and the Filipino way of wanting to respect others, especially an older person as I am. I appreciate special lines (usually shorter) for "senior citizens." My concern, though, is the other side of the coin--consideration. Consideration is taking the other person into account when saying or doing something. How does what I do affect the other person, especially if what I do can have an adverse effect on others like playing loud music at night or cutting in line where a friend is standing. I find Filipinos are rather short on consideration in contrast to respect. As a religious and Christian nation, I would expect people in the Philippines to do unto others as you would have them do unto you. However, that often does not happen when people are inconsiderate.
Thanks for listening,
Yes, your culture is much different than ours, but your video was on target . My Filipina wife was laughing at how accurately you described me. With punctuality we are taught from our earliest childhood both at home and at school the you are to be on time. I confess that I have no patience. Boxer shorts are supposedly healthy for you. When I first visited my wife in the Philippines and even still she is much more reserved than I am in public. I could go on but it was a great video.
in the west younger folk are a lot more disrespectful and are not honest or punctual totally selfish.
That is true now it was not the case 70 years ago when I was growing up. @keithprinn720
Hi Leah.
I just became a new subscriber to your channel.
I found your video to be very interesting and informative.
Thanks and keep up the great work.
Leah, about the slippers/shoes that are used from outside to inside the house. That is an easy solution. I live here in the USA but my whole family leaves our shoes/slippers at the front door or shoe rack at the front door inside the house. I’m making sure we don’t bring our shoes/slippers inside of the home, because shoes/slippers are dirty and steps everywhere.
Solution is we have our inside slippers/sandals that is only used indoors.
About beeing on time : That is true for most people but i will give you my point of view. When i'm late it does not mean that i do not respect my girlfriend. It just means that my rhythm and feelings does not match exactly with time. I will go maybe 15 or 30 minutes late , but i will be happy, groovie and full of joy and fun. On the other hand if i had to stick exactly with time, that will make me pragmatic, sad and anxious. I think the first one is better and i don't mind my girlfriend to be late. It is all about to keep love alive... not just some numbers about time. But for most western - yes , it is about respect to be on time and i think it is quite sad.
Well said, mostly accurate ive been with my pinay seven years,im constantly laughing at her attitude ,but love her to pieces,she is utterly irreplaceable ❤️ ♥️ 💖 💜
Thank you for the video. Again, I'm American. My Filipina friends say I'm very funny. 😁 It helps to have a simple silly sense of humor.
I take the middle ground with honesty. Using your example of dinner, I would thank my girlfriend for making dinner and I would comment about something that I liked about the meal--because there's usually some aspect of a dish that is a positive even if you don't like it--and I would take care of washing the dishes afterwards. And only then would I tell her that I didn't like it, and I would tell her that the only reason I was telling her is because I didn't want her to make it over and over again because she thought I loved it.
Nice vlog, too bad some of the video was blanked out in the middle, but the sound stayed on.
Think you'll make it?😂
Thanks for your thoughts. About outside slipers or shoes...it depends from what country you come from, like here in Finland and Sweden aso we dont wear our outside shoes inside either because we have 4 season and sometimes it might be very dirty outside so we change to indoor slippers or just socks 😎.
Thank you for the amazing video.
I’m learning so much that I wasn’t aware of between your culture and Western Culture.
I’m traveling to the Philippines later this year, looking for somewhere to live.
Travelled Thailand + Indonesia before. Dated local ladies while doing so.
I love how kind hearted + considerate the SE Asians are. Very different here in Canada.
My Reactions (39 white boy, Canada) to your surprises with Foreigners;
1. Boxers! Haha, yeah that’s a “Western Man” thing. I’ll look into what the local Men there wear…maybe I’ll prefer those to boxers! 😂🤷♂️
2. Punctual. (Meaning we like to be On Time, or Early for most things). For us, it is a sign of Respect to show up when agreed. It show’s respect for the other person’s time. Waste of your own time to have to wait for someone too. Mutual respect is the reason.
3. Straight Forward. Canada is less than UK+ USA for that. We tend to put on “Nice” masks as a front to how we really feel. But UK + USA ppl really let you know what’s up. It can be refreshing, as there are no blurry mind games…but it can be quite Disruptive as well: so pro’s and con’s of that.
4. Passionate/Desire to please our lady. Haha yes, we do want our lady to enjoy the experience very much. We help each other become better lover’s by sharing what works good to please our ladies.
5. Rude Humour. Unfortunately that can happen when Sarcasm (popular type of humour in the West) is taken too far. My Mom’s side of the family uses very aggressive + sometimes mean humour. My Dad’s is gentle and light hearted humour. Sounds like that’s the type in the Philippines. Beautiful.
6. Not Caring what Strangers think of you. I believe you will find that trait in MOST Foreigners, as they have left their homeland for something different…which most of them will be judged and get flack from family + friends for doing so. So they already have that trait. IN Western Lands…most Men are quite weak + will do whatever “authority” + the “herd” will do. Most don’t have the balls to stand apart from the crowd. Covid made this very clear. So FOREIGNERS IN YOUR LAND have this trait, but it’s not common back in Foreigners homeland.
7. Outdoor shoes inside. That’s gross. Apparently lots of the USA population does that. Us Canadians, take off out shoes at the door, and have indoor shoes/slippers if wanted. Walking on THE STREETS picking up ALL the FILTH…and then walking that filth through out the house, is disgusting.
Thank you once again.
Good morning sweetie! It’s always nice to see you and your family. I’ve been married to the most Wonderful Woman GOD ever made. She is my joy,my love, my happiness!!! I’ve been trained hehehe take off my outside crocs and put on my inside crocs. Patients is a virtue I’m still working on, island time still annoys me but I have a work around. If I want to go at 1200 pm I say honey we go at 1100. It works most of the time. Boxers are the way to go, briefs are too small or tight. My wife said when we got married “ tell me the truth always” I say “ yes dear” so if I didn’t like something she cooked I would thank her for making it but this isn’t my favorite food. So she wouldn’t make it for me. To be honest I like most everything she makes, she is from pampanga so she cooks yummy food!!
I will say filipina wives to me are the best!! Take care, GOD bless you and your family. Thank you for sharing.
I don’t wear shoes in the house because I married an Asian and it bothers her. At first I did it for her but now I see how much cleaner the house is and I no longer do it just for her, I do it for me too. When people visit I am the first to ask them to take off their shoes. I feel a little bad because I know how they think and feel but I don’t care about their feelings more than I care about not getting dirt from their shoes all over my house. Keep in mind, dirt on their shoes can be a mix of earth, dog poop, gum, dried sticky soda, etc. Our floors stay clean and I love it. So, I learned from Asian culture that the very small inconvenience of taking off shoes to go inside a house is worth the huge benefit in cleanliness.
In Northern Europe it’s concidered very normal to take of your shoes when entering somebodys house. Obviously I do the same in my own home.
I am willing to bet the majority of humans across the earth take off their shoes. Almost all Asian countries do, I believe most middle eastern countries do, and then quite a few European countries do. I think the countries that don’t are the exception to the rule. Once a person get used to it, it is a trivial thing to do and the benefits are significant.
It took a little bit of getting used to it. Taking shoes off when entering someone's house seemed a little too "familiar".
In most (not all) of european countries you would be asked to take your shoes off (or you wouldn't need to ask), and you would be given slippers that you can wear inside.
What a hilarious video! My Filipina wife and I have talked about every single thing on your list! 😂
Congratulations.Good job.Nice an good topic.
Interesting video. It shed some light on my personal experiences. PS: I am not surprised Gary likes his showers. Guys from English speaking countries on average bath more and are more likely to wear underwear than foreigners from other European origins. Not sure why, but that’s what the stats say.
Honesty and promptness are ways to show respect and appreciation. There are bad ways to tell someone that you don't like something that they are doing but there may not be a good way to say it sometimes. I like a lot of different types of food and another man may only like meat and potatoes. I might be shocked that someone doesn't enjoy my pig tails with sauerkraut and potatoes but I won't be offended because I know it's just a matter of preference. My cooking is always good. I could do all the cooking for the family if my wife is taking care of the house and dishes. As for laundry, I like to share that work with my wife. Not that I have one in my life.
Hi Leah yep the lies really annoy me and can effect the relationship where trust building is concerned, no need for it , western way of straight talking is best. Slippers lol you come live in UK for the winter, you will be wearing them from day one with thick socks lol. Delightful to hear your view points as always , keep on vlogging 😃
Hello Leah,
I'm in Valencia at the moment in case you and Garry have some free time. I'm from England.
Thank you, that was a great lesson before I want to find the right girl in the Philippines. I would like to have respect, so great 7 habit lessons…
As an American man speaking on the use of slippers or house shoes, a lot of it comes from personal experiences or preferences but as for me, I noticed that not all men’s feet are the same sensitive. I wear socks and slippers inside always because my feet are sensitive to what they touch. Like outside terrain can sometimes feel uncomfortable or slightly painful without shoes. I didn’t grow up going barefoot either.
My wife and I both wear slippers in the house but they are house slippers. We have different slippers to wear when we go outside.
I am a Brit living in Colombia and we don't "get" each other's humour. If a friend walks into a shop where are, I could say "Here comes trouble!!'" at the same time I wink at my wife or whoever I am with. My wife just doesn't get it even after 37 years of marriage!!
I learned that lesson regarding slippers/shoes to leave them outdoors, but here we leave the shoes just inside at the door then wear house slippers.
In regards to the meal. Every meal, my grandmother would ask my grandfather, how is it? Every time, my grandfather would say "just the way I like it"! Hehe.
Leah, humor. A person had headaches so she went to a doctor. The doctor told her she had a brain tumor and that she needed an operation. After the operation, the doctor told her that he was mistaken about how much of her brain he had to take out. He had thought about 3 percent but because the tumor was so large, he had to take out 95 percent of her brain. The doctor didn't know if she could even understand what he was saying to her.she just said ," talaga!!"
Yes we shock and awe 🫢 lol 😂 good conversations, also the reverse conversions what shocks the expats about their Filipinas 😅
That would be my next topic to talk about with Gary 😂
Well as to food......we love it with a gusto. As to being on time......if you are exactly on time you are 10 minutes late
it’s OK to generalize us aka stereotype us, we don’t mind, we actually find it humorous
Honesty is the best policy to avoid problems in the long run, which is important when dealing with yourself and friends and family and coworkers. It matters less when dealing with a stranger you'll never see again.
The fact of making statements without regard for others feeling is in part to do with a philosophical distinction between Individual and collectivist cultures or societies. The notion of free will is at the core to making statements pertaining to the individual's intentions and desires. So this is a culture shock that is not going to go away easily and may be a reason avoid the other. The time factor is to do with a 100 year tradition of school bells ringing 'on time' in 9am the 10am for little lunch and so on, so its really a childhood trauma from the 70's and 80's and not such an issue for latter generations.
Great video! Well done lady.👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼💖
👍👍2 summers ago I've met Gary and you at Ground Zero...you are a very nice couple! I wish you the best and same to your little girls! Cheers🍻🍻
It was nice meeting you, Thank you🥂
There is so much to uncover here but I definitely appreciate the honesty and I face the same issues as some coming from Caribbean to living in the UK I get you.
It's normal here being a foreigner ... Everything's faster here.. We care if people think of us but we been threw a lot in our lives we just roll with the flow..
Thankyou for your insights X
I am Norwegian with Filipina wife. In my culture we take off the shoes in the entrance of the house, but she is asking me why i walk barefoot inside and not using the indoor slippers. But its a bit fun with the different cultureal differences.
That was very informative, my girlfriend is from Philippines, she is my best friend and partner so this helps me to be more understanding
Thank you for helping me understand more about my asawa. I will now be more understanding with her needs. Some Western women made us this way and we don't like to be like that either.
I really enjoyed your observations of being married to a foreigner. I am soon to married to my beautiful Filipina of whom I dated for over 9 years. According to her, she is my queen and she always gets her way on every issue. 😂 Obviously I have no problem with that because we know each other very well.
On the wearing slippers ib the house problem, here's how you train Gary NOT to wear slippers in the house. Say no more love making until you stop wearing your sliipers in the house Gary. Let me know how long it takes Gary to stop wearing slippers in the house. I'm guessing less than a week 😂😂
God bless you and Gary and I hope the two of you live long and happy lives.
At least in rural Oregon , forty years ago , boxers were hard to find and briefs were the standard. That has reversed over the last forty years. One factor was they were used by bullies in middle and high school ( I have heard junior and senior high school is the terms in the philippines)
Being on time = respect
I been watching your UA-cam channel I been to the Philippines it’s a nice country to visit and go
Thank you
Welcome
You're spot on with everything except the slippers! Your man is a bit unusual that way. Mostly we won't walk into the house with shoes we're wearing outside, especially if we live in country areas.
Good video. Good discussion.
Honesty is a shock ....very funny
Time is important, in the west to be late or show up late we feel its rude. Being on time means you take the event seriously. Once your sure of who you are you can not a bit what others think.
A province girls sweetness! 👍Foreigners are different. British humor is special (watch the TV series Little Britain and you will be shocked) , as well as american humor. But there is also rare german humor and other culture humor. You have to try many men from all over the world to judge humor. Anyway humor is fun, dont take it serious!
As an American man, and a tall man, i can understand him wanting to wear slippers in the house.We are used walking on soft carpet, and rugs inside our homes, or using indoor slippers (house slippers) as they are Very comfortable, especially for us tall guys, our feel feel better wearing slippers, rather than walking barefoot on hard floors. We grew up walking on soft carpet, and rugs. I would suggest getting Gary some house slippers, for inside the house only, he will love them, and he will use them often.
A lot of western culture is centered around the clock, being on time a sign of respect and good upbringing. This seems to be from the industrial manufacturing phase of our history, where people worked set shifts in lighted building with the clock, not the sun, keeping track of time.. Soon our non-work time was also being scheduled on clock based factors. And we've been trapped in this clock controlled way of life ever since. Agriculture and hunting more follow the sun, not a clock, so time is more fluid than exact in cultures that still follow these historical norms. Most island communities I've been to follow the more fluid, less exact timing, for daily life. Some don't even name their streets or number their houses cause the locals know who and what is where without needing this extra labeling. And these Island locals with their more relaxed lifestyle seem happier and healthier then most westerners I know. So an agreed upon middle ground where time is concerned, may be the best of both worlds. Personally, since retiring, I've found I more naturally follow the sun in daily home life. Only check the clock for away from home scheduled events.
Small correction . Wearing sleepers inside houses depends on countries . Example : England no one wears shoes inside houses . Portugal every one wears shoes inside houses . Excellent videos . Lovely couple .
Im American man. She is spot on haha i do all off this!
If it doesn’t show in time the person is selfish.just thinking about themselves. And don’t care about other people.
Boxer shorts vs. briefs...in America, briefs used to be more common in the past. But our men have discovered that boxers are less constrictive and uncomfortable, which is preferable. Imagine having sensitive internal organs on the outside of your body, and you'll understand why we don't want fabric pinching them. However, briefs can sometimes be better for athletes who want support during strenuous physical exertion, which prevents the testicles from banging around and becoming bruised.
So funny, I experience all your sharing with my wife. The briefs is hilarious. I got some briefs that I like, colorful and more like shorts. My wife likes them more than boxers. Our children tell friends and our family. All of us laugh!
Underware: My Father was in WWII and fount in the Philippines, Okinawa & Japan. I forget what the reason was, but he claimed he he never wore underware again after the war.
Humor: Humor is very local to time and place. I grew up in Pittsburgh PA and later moved to New York City NY. Humor was vey different in Pittsburgh than in New York City. In the USA we had national TV for many years that sort of made common humor across the USA. I married a woman from Jamaica West Indies and she and I had to learn each others humor.
You stated that you care about other's feelings, even if you have to lie. That's exactly when you get drunk in order to forget temporarily some things. Because, you will hurt someone's feelings when he / she realizes it was lied....🤷♂🤷♂
Coming inside the house with the shoes on, it's individual matter. I never enter in the house with shoes from outside. I find it common sense. And yeah. If they need something to wear in the house, they can have slippers, but NEVER go outside with them.
It's just custom for Philippines time which is always 15 mins after the appointed time. It's not disrespectful to them. It took me a year to get used to it with my ex wife.
I think we are patient, its not that we can't wait. Its just disrepectful if someone is not respecting your time. For example, if someone is making you wait for a long time, and its because they are not organised, it tells us they don't respect you enough to be ready on time. Also we get annoyed if the reason we are having to wait is because someone is doing something stupid, like waiting in line at an ATM while the person in front seems to be doing 100 transactions.... just get your money and go!
being honest and prompt and sticking to schedule is a big plus pinas should realise that.
Thanks for the honest opinions and experiences
Some guys just like to wear slippers haha! I think it's a comfort thing. I don't wear slippers and my feet are fine. You are quite beautiful and I can't wait to visit! What area should I go to? I do not want to go to a city or malls. I want a nice village girl.
Patience...I have almost none. Timeliness, is an essential element. I say we leave at 10:00, it does not matter if you are not ready at 10:00. I am leaving. You can come as you are, or stay behind.
In Norway, everything is so clean,that you could walk inside the house with your shoes, but it is very rude to do so. You should remove your shoes before entering a house of course. And know that in the Philippines there are so many street dogs who do their stuff on the road and on the sidewalk, it is very stupid to NOT remove your shoes. Otherwise you made some very interesting comments here. We do not like to wear briefs in the Philippines, because it is too hot and humid. Some of my friends from other countries, like Norway etc, insist on not wearing underwear at all, just to keep it fresh and not to sweaty.
And yes, we are organized and like to keep our room tidy and clean, hating all kinds of insects like ants and cockroaches and Mice or Rats in our place.
Being brutally honest can hurt, but if the food is not to his taste. There are culturally very different but there are ways of telling somebody with kindness. My wife is from the Dominican Republic and there are cultural differences and if I did not like what she made I would tell her later because I can think what I would say to not hurt her.
It is inconsiderate and therefore it is also disrespectful to make people wait in line needlessly. A considerate store owner can assign additional clerks, perhaps train shelf stackers to switch to cash register temporarily. But they are inconsiderate or too cheap to pay for additional help.
If store owners (premium goods) want my business they better be on time for the demo meeting. The ones who do certainly have heard about the « customer lifetime value » 😊
Being on time is being respectful towards others. Making someone wait is saying your time is more important than theirs. If you worry about what others think then you will be in a constant state of worry. It’s mentally healthier to don’t worry about things you cannot control. Sarcasm does not work with a Filipina because your words will be taking literally. So Sarcasm does not work . I have worked with the same Filipinos for 21 years. We are all approaching retirement even though they are older than me, so it took 21 years before they understood my humor. I have yet to think they are funny though. So the humor thing is real . Which is too bad because humor, Laughing is important.