Had a friend who didn't find out until the child was two years. He overheard the mother joking about it. Horrible thing, because he truly loved that child. Women who do this should be charged with parternity fraud.
I feel like if a woman lies about something like this, and it is proven, she should be ordered to pay him back. I bet that possibility would cut back on a lot of these grimy women out there.
I have always felt that if a woman's lies harmed a man either Financially or thru criminal accusation she should be equally punished. Make her pay him the monthly support her lies would have gotten her, imprison her for length of time her criminal accusation would have given him.
Pay him back and face criminal charges! I'm a woman and I know that's extremely effed up and immoral. She knew there was a chance he wasn't the father. I'm disgusted by women that do this
@@hdw237 not sure about prison because she could use that against him if he had a relationship with the child regardless of whether he was the father so it would hurt the kids but yes the money should be paid back with interest
In several states, who signed the birth certificate is irrelevant. If you're married, the husband is automatically the father. If you're not married, the AOP is the only document that establishes paternity.
I agree and the mother should have given him his money back every month she just didn't handle the situation right. I'm sure because of her actions and not owning up to her mistake caused him to drift away from the child's life.
One of my lifelong friends is fighting child support of two grown children, they were teenagers when he married their mother, he absolutely is not the father, has Never ever claimed to be their father, but Washington State keeps attaching everything! His disability checks from a job accident, his small paycheck, and they went after a huge portion of his settlement from the accident at work. It is absolutely criminal!
They should mandate DNA tests even before the child is born. I was dating someone who went through the exact same thing. Paid child support for 5 years, then was still legally responsible to pay for medical care for some time. People are never the same after going through something like this.
Human error exist and could tear and honest family a part. Should not be mandated, but is and should always be the responsibility of the individuals involved-especially the potential father. If he doubts, then he should get a DNA test-especially if he plans to sign the birth certificate. Signing a birth certificate only legally guarantees you to pay child support payments-it does guarantee you custody/visitation. Keep receipts and logs (dates & times) fir All interactions with the child-you will need it for future custody court battle and child support payment.
@@thaimays6933 they have a noninvasive one now. They draw some of the mother’s blood while pregnant 🤰 and swab the alleged father or draw his blood too.
I don't get it, we have WITNESSES of the kid being ours. Why aren't men entitled to the same certainty? I've seen a few women who divorced the father just because he wanted the test. "How dare you think I'd do that!" instead of "Okay, ouch, but whatever." I'd never deny my husband a piece of paper if he wants it. We actually want to do the gene testing just out of curiosity of what mix is in there.
@@katrinascarlet5637 well if it was routine. It would cut down on women being offended etc Not sure if it would be hospital policy or maybe an insurance policy.
@@deniseyweesy I could see it as an insurance policy somewhere inheritance is involved or insurance covering the expense but unlikely. Government wouldn't go for it because it's too inconvenient and hey someone else is paying for the kid so why ruin a good thing? If it ends up being mandatory it'll be waaaaaaay off in the future.
Knowing someone like her exists makes me smile. In a world where officials always make deals, sell out, do wrong, become corrupt, and just dont care... here this woman comes. Thank you for being you and doing what you do. You make our existence better as a whole.
@@XhipX2bXsquareX i was about to say bs she could easily given it back and by doing that it would make a good man help u if u did need it they were friends after all but regardless she shouldnt have to give it courts should stop the child support men honestly need to be fighting to correct these laws and divorce and everything but we wont
So both parents agree to stop child support in court, he challenged acknowledgement of paternity through the court within statue of limits, got a court-ordered DNA test, but a judge can ignore the legal proceedings and order a parent to pay medical support for a child that is proven in court is not theirs based on a moral feeling? That sounds illegal and sounds like a situation that could have been overturn in appeals.
Because they claim it's what's in the best interest of the child. So since the man is already there and supporting the child and the child has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle because of the involvement of this other person they basically say the child should not have to suffer so it's in their best interest that this person continues to support them. Now if mom finds the dad and dad is able to take over support I think that's one way out.
@@Tonnnnia well that’s illegal no matter how it’s put the mom should maintain the child’s life style and go seek for the biological father to pay child and medical support
In most states the federal government reimburses the state about 0.66 cts for every dollar of child support that they collect. Check each individual state for specifics.
@@Tonnnnia he said both parents agree probably meaning the mother could have covered the child's care on her own. So why would the courts still go against both parents making a request? The moral clause of the child being used to the man should not be a factor here
If a mother gets child support for example for 5 years or a guy goes to jail for 5 years for not paying child support and then the man finds out the child isn't his will the women have to pay him the same amount and also go jail for 5 years as it wasn't his child in the first place.
@@XhipX2bXsquareX but was it not signed up on lies he was told feels abit like a guy gets in trouble if he's accused of sexual assault and could go jail but if the women falsely accuses him she won't go to jail they will just say we don't have enough proof to say she was lying.
Legally she can go to jail when you sign an acknowledgment of paternity you swear by raising your hand saying that you slept with no one but the father who is mentioned on the acknowledgment of paternity paper only way to get off is to press charges on her and she gets arrested and has to pay back the money
@@atifghafoor6258Some states allow for mothers to wothhold the knowledge of another partner even if there's a chance that the other guy fathered her child. This is why the affidavit has to be signed and notarized. The guy is responsible for choosing whether or not a test is needed. This is also why signing a birth certificate is not binding in most states.
These men need to get together and sue the state in a class action lawsuit. He should sue the mother for fraud and the judge for fraud and malpractice.
@@Amp2895no man would willingly pay into a child that isn't his. If he doesn't know then the moment he finds out then the obligation ceases. His responsibility is to always find out and never to trust because women are untrustworthy which is where every man in this situation fails, they trust the untrustworthy.
Man I am so happy that my ex and I don't have any sort of child support arrangement. When my ex and I got divorced I made sure that I had 50% legal & physical custody of our son. I wouldn't have accepted any other arrangement for two reasons. 1. I couldn't imagine not seeing my boy on a regular basis(I see him two or three days during the week and every other weekend) and 2. I wanted to make sure he was properly provided for which he is at both of our homes The only financial arrangement my ex and I have is that she has to pay me monthly half of what it costs me for my son's health insurance since he's on my insurance at work. For all the deadbeat dads & moms out there I truly enjoy seeing Judge Vonda stick it to them!
Chick I felt the same. I really don’t know how people can be a part of a kids life and just not be :/ I know he wasn’t obligated to be there but maybe it’s just the mother in me but I would have atleast been there… super messed up for the kid :/
How is he a standup guy for walking out of the kids life. He aint have to pay keep paying child support or nothing but to be in hid life. Every young black man needs a father... He is a dirty dog.
I don’t think it is fair for the system to enforce child support on the man even if he signed the paternity believing that was his child after it proven the man is not the father he should not be obligated to pay for another man’s responsibility. This is BS because females like this knows who the slept around with and should be liable to pay that man back all his money for being such a liar😮We need to start a petition to the Lawmakers to change this around!😮😢
When women would be angry when you ask for a paternity test. They may not be aware of what happens when the fatherhood role begins. You should simply say you want access to the truth before you commit your life to a woman and her son.
If a child is proven not to be someone's legitimate biological child while that man was duped into thinking it was his that entire time he should not be financially responsible for that child any longer, and the biological father should be found and be held accountable.
I worked on maternity for about 18 years I would tell them if you have doubt, don't sign. I can't count how many men would ask me if the baby looks like him 🤦🏾♀️
I understand the child should be taken care of. I get that & fully agree. However, I don’t think the man should be forced to continue paying child support to a child that’s not his. Once it’s determined that he’s not the father, he should be taken off child support. Just my opinion.
Guys this is a good lesson. Go ahead and get that paternity test. Even more important, don't mess around with a woman you're not together with. Child support is one of the biggest businesses in America. When it comes to this, the court is not on a man's side.
Surely this is a contract signed under false pretences/with undisclosed information that would affects the merchandise (sorry to be plain)/one side was not acting in good faith? Surely there is a way to cancel out of it. Business deals have more protective clauses than this
Judge, I have to ask this simple question! Why is it that most states give a man 1-3 years to confirm or deny a paternity of a child once born but a woman can come back 10-15 years later and file for a paternity test and ask for backpay! Some women don't tell the potential fathers that they may be the actual father even if they know they may be ! How is this fair and or legal?
After watching paternity court all the time I learned to never sign the bc if u have any doubts. The judge always says that once u sign the bc u are legally responsible for the child. Even if it turns out not to be yours and u petition it in court the judge could decide to still make u pay regardless.
If a couple is not married it should be mandatory in every state that a DNA test be taken so this situation does not occur. Some women might not agree but I would believe those are the ones that have doubt on who their father of the baby is. If you have no doubt there should be no issue with the DNA test for court records
I agree but even in marriage DNA testing should also occur because I’ve heard of stories where the woman cheated, got pregnant, and claimed the father was her husband when she clearly knew I may not be his🤷🏿♂️
My son came out looking just like me. I still called Dana cause I knew what my ex was doing. Gotta play it smart fellas. Don’t let your feelings cloud your judgement
Was it yours though? Husband has a friend who had 2 kids that looked just like him, green eyes, white dude. Even the same birth mark. Dna came and they weren't his.
If you’ve watched Paternity Court, you know that when a man signs papers claiming paternity, birth certificate etc. he is legally responsible for the child. Even if he’s not the dna dad. If you’re married and have a child, the husband is always presumed to be the father. Even if he isn’t and even if a dna test proves you aren’t, there’s no guarantee that a court in your home state will let you off of child support. There are men who’ve paid child support for years and found out they’re not the father. They may never get that money back. Sad but true.
you didn't listen to grandma cuz you were whooped (no disrespect intended, I've been there too) and she wasn't telling you what you wanted to hear. I'd put good money on the fact that the "lady" was trying to disenfranchise you from your family. ALWAYS LISTEN TO GRANDMA!!
The court system is so outdated nowadays …it needs to be changed.. Protests & marches should prevail This is important .. so many females. Looking for a paycheck and having multiple partners and also the males are having multiple partners and innocent children are being conceived because many of you were playing games accountability and honesty and innocence are three strong words here but no man should pay or be obligated if he is not biologically related I believe the mother should have made some arrangements to reimburse the man she was a nurse and I’m sure she could have afforded to give him some type of reimbursement over the years in good faith but as we can see if she had an agenda to and she was very selfish Guys pay attention everything that looks good it’s not always good for you once again Judge I truly enjoy the freshness of your presentation in regards to child support thank you keep up the good work
Hi beautiful bless you 💓 😘 I love these 12 to 21 mins court episodes.....I'm new here I loving u are blessed your a strong powerful court worker sorry couldn't find the correct word
I need to be a guest on her show my child father got away with a lot. Although she aged out from receiving child support he literally pays 25 dollars and laugh about it.
Yes I knew and was reading about this in 1996. Playboy magazine with the cover of Mia St. John in 1996 ran articles explaining how once the role of father has been adopted that States will do things to force you maintain that role if later, it is discovered you are not the biological father. The thing to know is that DNA testing should probably be routine, especially if you and the mother of the child are not married.
They take blood from a newborn at the hospital for testing, paternity should be law and established right then at birth even if married. This would be in the best interests of the child and avoid emotional damage to everyone.
I’m really surprised that he just cut ties with a child he had a relationship with for 5 years and stopped seeing the child, I’m sure the child felt very abandoned by the only dad he had known, I just don’t see how you can turn off your love for a child no matter what a paper said. I feel bad for for the child because it was his fault, but he lost the only dad he ever new.
You ain’t heard crazy until you hear my husband’s story or my step brother’s story. Long story short after my husband and his ex wife were separated for 10+ years and he faithfully paid child support that entire time and refused to let him have any contact or visitation with the boys she went and got knocked up by some 70+ yo man who owned his own construction company but intentionally didn’t have him sign the birth certificate because she knew she could sock my husband with more child support because they were technically still legally married even though she lied to him when they got married and used some else’s ssn with her name at a fast wedding place in Las Vegas. We didn’t even notice his child support went up almost $200+ every week until we got an attorney for a reduction and the attorney asked why we didn’t disclose the 3rd child. My step brother got his ex pregnant at 16yo and then their second child when she was 18yo so instead of being another statistic he quickly got his ged and joined the military. His ex was ummm a few screws short so while my step brother went through basic training she ended up cheating on him and had a miscarriage and convinced everyone that she didn’t know she was pregnant before he left. We had no reason to think otherwise. So fast forward to my step brother graduating boot camp and getting a two week leave before being shipped to Alaska. Plan was my step brother goes out to Alaska and finds them housing and such, and while he was doing that the military pays movers to pack your house up and ship everything by boat to Alaska. It took a little longer then planned like 3 months. So after my step brother left to Alaska, about a month later she suddenly has another miscarriage and I went to the er with her. Turns out she was pregnant with twins and lost one but thankfully the other one was still viable but there were no guarantees that she would carry to full term. So with that it was best to wait for her to get past the critical first trimester before she had to endure a 2 day flight with a toddler and 1yo and high risk pregnancy. Fast forward to her carrying to about 31 weeks and out comes a baby with a darker skin complexion. We are not racist and I will prove that in about 2 seconds. Obviously ensue my step brother immediately freaked out and he was more heartbroken then angry as he had been waiting years for a boy only for her to have a boy and never told him she cheated on him with my step brother’s black bff from 3rd grade to that day. Now to show you the kind of man my step brother is, even though clearly the baby was not his within 24hours he did not hesitate to still sign the birth certificate and nobody was ever going to tell him that baby was not his. About 8 months later he caught her cheating on him with their neighbor and he was going to try and work it out until someone called his big boss because the baby had been crying for hours and it sounded like the girls obviously toddlers were being thrown around because they were running a muck while she was passed out drunk by 11am. So they gave her an ultimatum either go to rehab or find housing off base and sign custody of the 3 kids over to my brother and she could have supervised visits every other weekend or she could come back to FL with the kids and live with her mom and sign temporary custody of the kids to her mom. She ended up choosing her mom and sadly it wasn’t 6 months before her mom was kicking her out because she was getting drunk and would become physically violent and it was putting the children at risk. When my brother did his 4 years and came home he ended up getting custody of the kids but until they actually went to court and got a divorce he legally had to pay child support on all 3 kids. About 5 years later the baby boy’s biological father got out of prison and wanted custody of his son and unfortunately because that is his biological son there was nothing my brother could do unless he could prove his biological dad was an unfit parent.
Child support will harrass, seize monies, and jail the dads. But when the kid is found to not be the father's....they say sorry about your luck....go to civil court. Which is what child support is supposed to be in the first place. The system needs fixed.
Unfortunately, from my understanding, if you're an adjudicated father for 4 years, it's your child. I asked in WA about my son, and that's the answer i got. The Cleburne, TX child support office simply said we dont work backward. So even if you sign the AOT, get the DNA test before they're 4.
Judge Vonda B is a Noble African American Woman. She is a True Model of a Woman of the Highest Integrity. If someone told me she was Dr Martin Luther King's Daughter I would say the Apple didn't fall far from the Tree
I think its sad that after 5 years he didnt still see the child....you had a relationship with him....even if you aren't the father ...how does your love for him just disappear.....why didnt you and his mom come up with an arrangement...he can be told hey im not your biological father but i still want to be in your life like an uncle...feel so bad for that child.
She got more eye glasses than Elton Jhon 😂😂😂. Love them !
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Ty you are awesome! A fair judge is what we all need !! ❤️
That eyewear game is tight. Looks better symmetrical.
@@kashfortheking she’s got good taste bro.
Very interesting! 😀
Had a friend who didn't find out until the child was two years. He overheard the mother joking about it. Horrible thing, because he truly loved that child. Women who do this should be charged with parternity fraud.
That’s heartbreaking 😢 how can any woman trick her child and the ‘dad’ into a lie and joke about it?!
I feel like if a woman lies about something like this, and it is proven, she should be ordered to pay him back. I bet that possibility would cut back on a lot of these grimy women out there.
I have always felt that if a woman's lies harmed a man either Financially or thru criminal accusation she should be equally punished.
Make her pay him the monthly support her lies would have gotten her, imprison her for length of time her criminal accusation would have given him.
It is fraud, she should pay it back and go to jail if she said he was the father but DNA proves he is not and he paid child support!!!!
Pay him back and face criminal charges! I'm a woman and I know that's extremely effed up and immoral. She knew there was a chance he wasn't the father. I'm disgusted by women that do this
Real talk
@@hdw237 not sure about prison because she could use that against him if he had a relationship with the child regardless of whether he was the father so it would hurt the kids but yes the money should be paid back with interest
Never sign the birth certificate without getting a DNA test.
That part
I remember my husband thought his kid wasn’t his until the dna test came out positive
It’s crazy that ppl at offended by this. Before you end up in this man’s place and many others. Please exercise that right
Now a days, DNA test should be a must, please don't be offended...
In several states, who signed the birth certificate is irrelevant. If you're married, the husband is automatically the father. If you're not married, the AOP is the only document that establishes paternity.
there should be some kind of reimbursement for situations like this.
I agree and the mother should have given him his money back every month she just didn't handle the situation right. I'm sure because of her actions and not owning up to her mistake caused him to drift away from the child's life.
After she found out he wasnt the father, she should have handed back every penny of the child support payment for Myron to this guy!!!!
EXACTLY!!!!
One of my lifelong friends is fighting child support of two grown children, they were teenagers when he married their mother, he absolutely is not the father, has Never ever claimed to be their father, but Washington State keeps attaching everything! His disability checks from a job accident, his small paycheck, and they went after a huge portion of his settlement from the accident at work.
It is absolutely criminal!
DNA tests should be requested before ANYYYYYYYY DOCUMENTS ARE COMPLETEX. THIS COULD CUT DOWN ON LOTS OF ISSUES LIKE THIS!!!
They should mandate DNA tests even before the child is born. I was dating someone who went through the exact same thing. Paid child support for 5 years, then was still legally responsible to pay for medical care for some time. People are never the same after going through something like this.
They can do it before the baby born it's a certain way they go Abt doing it like sticking a needle in the women's belly button nope not for me
Human error exist and could tear and honest family a part. Should not be mandated, but is and should always be the responsibility of the individuals involved-especially the potential father. If he doubts, then he should get a DNA test-especially if he plans to sign the birth certificate.
Signing a birth certificate only legally guarantees you to pay child support payments-it does guarantee you custody/visitation.
Keep receipts and logs (dates & times) fir All interactions with the child-you will need it for future custody court battle and child support payment.
Maybe not mandated but offered to families if needed!
Jesus yes..Hell b4 the bby is born..save a lot of time
@@thaimays6933 they have a noninvasive one now. They draw some of the mother’s blood while pregnant 🤰 and swab the alleged father or draw his blood too.
They (hospitals) should do DNA tests when the baby is born. If mom doesn't agree that's a red flag right there.
Absolutely!
I don't get it, we have WITNESSES of the kid being ours. Why aren't men entitled to the same certainty? I've seen a few women who divorced the father just because he wanted the test. "How dare you think I'd do that!" instead of "Okay, ouch, but whatever." I'd never deny my husband a piece of paper if he wants it. We actually want to do the gene testing just out of curiosity of what mix is in there.
@@katrinascarlet5637 well if it was routine. It would cut down on women being offended etc
Not sure if it would be hospital policy or maybe an insurance policy.
@@deniseyweesy I could see it as an insurance policy somewhere inheritance is involved or insurance covering the expense but unlikely. Government wouldn't go for it because it's too inconvenient and hey someone else is paying for the kid so why ruin a good thing? If it ends up being mandatory it'll be waaaaaaay off in the future.
@@katrinascarlet5637 I was thinking health insurance. I am not a fan of having a law though.
Knowing someone like her exists makes me smile. In a world where officials always make deals, sell out, do wrong, become corrupt, and just dont care... here this woman comes. Thank you for being you and doing what you do. You make our existence better as a whole.
💯Agree!
As a woman, I wouldn’t have let him pay for a child that wasn’t his. She was grimy for that😑
She may not have had a choice if she gets any kind of public assistance. She should have given it back to him every month tho.
GURL!!!!
@@XhipX2bXsquareX i was about to say bs she could easily given it back and by doing that it would make a good man help u if u did need it they were friends after all but regardless she shouldnt have to give it courts should stop the child support men honestly need to be fighting to correct these laws and divorce and everything but we wont
I was thinking the same.
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So both parents agree to stop child support in court, he challenged acknowledgement of paternity through the court within statue of limits, got a court-ordered DNA test, but a judge can ignore the legal proceedings and order a parent to pay medical support for a child that is proven in court is not theirs based on a moral feeling? That sounds illegal and sounds like a situation that could have been overturn in appeals.
Because they claim it's what's in the best interest of the child. So since the man is already there and supporting the child and the child has become accustomed to a certain lifestyle because of the involvement of this other person they basically say the child should not have to suffer so it's in their best interest that this person continues to support them. Now if mom finds the dad and dad is able to take over support I think that's one way out.
@@Tonnnnia well that’s illegal no matter how it’s put the mom should maintain the child’s life style and go seek for the biological father to pay child and medical support
@@christferand7942 it should be illegal but courts do it all the time.
In most states the federal government reimburses the state about 0.66 cts for every dollar of child support that they collect. Check each individual state for specifics.
@@Tonnnnia he said both parents agree probably meaning the mother could have covered the child's care on her own. So why would the courts still go against both parents making a request? The moral clause of the child being used to the man should not be a factor here
If a mother gets child support for example for 5 years or a guy goes to jail for 5 years for not paying child support and then the man finds out the child isn't his will the women have to pay him the same amount and also go jail for 5 years as it wasn't his child in the first place.
Legally, she didn't break the law. He signed himself up which makes it his problem. Cold world.
@@XhipX2bXsquareX but was it not signed up on lies he was told feels abit like a guy gets in trouble if he's accused of sexual assault and could go jail but if the women falsely accuses him she won't go to jail they will just say we don't have enough proof to say she was lying.
Legally she can go to jail when you sign an acknowledgment of paternity you swear by raising your hand saying that you slept with no one but the father who is mentioned on the acknowledgment of paternity paper only way to get off is to press charges on her and she gets arrested and has to pay back the money
@@beautifullyblessed6112 Not in every state. Which is also why the mother in thisncase was never prosecuted.
@@atifghafoor6258Some states allow for mothers to wothhold the knowledge of another partner even if there's a chance that the other guy fathered her child. This is why the affidavit has to be signed and notarized. The guy is responsible for choosing whether or not a test is needed. This is also why signing a birth certificate is not binding in most states.
These men need to get together and sue the state in a class action lawsuit. He should sue the mother for fraud and the judge for fraud and malpractice.
That’s messed up. You should not be required to pay child support if the child is not yours.
Women are never held accountable.
It's like adopting a child. Once you claim this child, take care of the child for years it's your responsibility now. I agree and disagree with it.
I wouldn't say never.
@@Amp2895no man would willingly pay into a child that isn't his. If he doesn't know then the moment he finds out then the obligation ceases. His responsibility is to always find out and never to trust because women are untrustworthy which is where every man in this situation fails, they trust the untrustworthy.
Man I am so happy that my ex and I don't have any sort of child support arrangement. When my ex and I got divorced I made sure that I had 50% legal & physical custody of our son. I wouldn't have accepted any other arrangement for two reasons. 1. I couldn't imagine not seeing my boy on a regular basis(I see him two or three days during the week and every other weekend) and 2. I wanted to make sure he was properly provided for which he is at both of our homes The only financial arrangement my ex and I have is that she has to pay me monthly half of what it costs me for my son's health insurance since he's on my insurance at work. For all the deadbeat dads & moms out there I truly enjoy seeing Judge Vonda stick it to them!
I am sorry that your marriage was diminished, but I am pleased to know that you and your ex-wife are absolutely reasonable about everything.
I wish Byron didn't lose this man in this life he thought was his father. but the mother lied about it.😔
Chick I felt the same. I really don’t know how people can be a part of a kids life and just not be :/ I know he wasn’t obligated to be there but maybe it’s just the mother in me but I would have atleast been there… super messed up for the kid :/
Just wait until the son sees this! He will despise his mother
He appears to be a real stand up guy. He never spoke ill about anyone. Kudos to you Big Myron!
How is he a standup guy for walking out of the kids life. He aint have to pay keep paying child support or nothing but to be in hid life. Every young black man needs a father... He is a dirty dog.
I’m so glad he said be careful who you sleep with. Virtue could have avoided this whole situation.
Wow this is tough for the child to not see that man anymore. At 5, he remembers that man as daddy
He’s a good man bc he has created better circumstances for the child.
Thank you Judge Vonda for putting the spotlight on this major discrepancy.
I don’t think it is fair for the system to enforce child support on the man even if he signed the paternity believing that was his child after it proven the man is not the father he should not be obligated to pay for another man’s responsibility. This is BS because females like this knows who the slept around with and should be liable to pay that man back all his money for being such a liar😮We need to start a petition to the Lawmakers to change this around!😮😢
When women would be angry when you ask for a paternity test. They may not be aware of what happens when the fatherhood role begins. You should simply say you want access to the truth before you commit your life to a woman and her son.
You nailed it on the head. If a woman refuses a child to undergo a paternity test than she knows she has more than one partner in the works.
They Dnt care brother they will still try to emotionally manipulate u
If a child is proven not to be someone's legitimate biological child while that man was duped into thinking it was his that entire time he should not be financially responsible for that child any longer, and the biological father should be found and be held accountable.
Why wouldn’t the mother be held accountable did the biological father knew he had a child out there ?
I agree with this 💯
He need to know that you don’t sign the birth certificate when you’re not sure.
I worked on maternity for about 18 years I would tell them if you have doubt, don't sign.
I can't count how many men would ask me if the baby looks like him 🤦🏾♀️
I understand the child should be taken care of. I get that & fully agree. However, I don’t think the man should be forced to continue paying child support to a child that’s not his. Once it’s determined that he’s not the father, he should be taken off child support. Just my opinion.
Guys this is a good lesson. Go ahead and get that paternity test. Even more important, don't mess around with a woman you're not together with. Child support is one of the biggest businesses in America. When it comes to this, the court is not on a man's side.
I am shocked that a judge can make “moral” judgments! Proof was in front of her and legal is legal.
Thank you so much for your story Bless you brother
Momma's baby papa's maybe!!!!! Until every man understand this philosophy they will be paying child support for a child not his😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Judge Vonda B, I appreciate your character in handling these cases from the heart ♥
I love this woman !!!!!!
That woman shouldve never kept one dime of the support he paid after he found out
Surely this is a contract signed under false pretences/with undisclosed information that would affects the merchandise (sorry to be plain)/one side was not acting in good faith? Surely there is a way to cancel out of it. Business deals have more protective clauses than this
My heart breaks for this man... This is the altimate betrayal!!!
How could he not have hate towards the mom? She literally robbed him for 18 years
I hope you got the mother to pay you back all that child support as well for them years.
It’s only right out of respect.
Great advice brother I wish You the best in your future - Thank you sharing
I can't get enough of your videos 😂🤣 I love you to the moon and back. Wish we had more judges like you out there. Love your attitude 💖
Read the small print "Vonda Bailey is *NOT* a judge... The scenarios represented are *fictitious.* All participants are actors" 🤦♀️
This man is so articulate…great interview
Strong beautiful hunblws urself good kind of man bless ur see ur a great man and a great father & never let no1 tell u different bless ur kind soul
No man should not pay child support if the child is not his
Judge-Thanks. Great interview. I loved the ? and his honest answers…. no playin
Judge, I have to ask this simple question! Why is it that most states give a man 1-3 years to confirm or deny a paternity of a child once born but a woman can come back 10-15 years later and file for a paternity test and ask for backpay! Some women don't tell the potential fathers that they may be the actual father even if they know they may be ! How is this fair and or legal?
This was very enlightening
You're my favorite judge to watch
Wow, Excellent Man🙏
Stay STRONG👌
Man this Judge is Beautiful,Beautiful, Beautiful I say respectfully!!!!
After watching paternity court all the time I learned to never sign the bc if u have any doubts. The judge always says that once u sign the bc u are legally responsible for the child. Even if it turns out not to be yours and u petition it in court the judge could decide to still make u pay regardless.
Great conversation 😊
I think you are very Good Judge Vonda B keep up the good work.
Dna tests should be mandated at birth, before a certificate is signed
To be honest favorite judge
They should not allow anyone to sign an AOP without a blood test to protect everyone.
She should be able to pay him back
If she was fair, she would. Regardless of what the judge ordered she’s just give it back…
Has anyone actually read the small print? "Vonda Bailey is *NOT* a judge... The scenarios represented are *fictitious.* All participants are actors"
Praternity fraud should be a felony.
If a couple is not married it should be mandatory in every state that a DNA test be taken so this situation does not occur. Some women might not agree but I would believe those are the ones that have doubt on who their father of the baby is. If you have no doubt there should be no issue with the DNA test for court records
How is it not the fathers responsibility to get the test? I don't understand just signing a birth certificate/AOP like that...
I agree but even in marriage DNA testing should also occur because I’ve heard of stories where the woman cheated, got pregnant, and claimed the father was her husband when she clearly knew I may not be his🤷🏿♂️
My son came out looking just like me. I still called Dana cause I knew what my ex was doing. Gotta play it smart fellas. Don’t let your feelings cloud your judgement
Dana never lies! 🤣🤣
Was it yours though? Husband has a friend who had 2 kids that looked just like him, green eyes, white dude. Even the same birth mark. Dna came and they weren't his.
@@danniemikeey579 yes. He’s my son.
@@silverrain99205 it's good that they're yours.
Yes. Don’t allow women to emotional manipulate u into not getting a dna test. They will shame u into saying it dnt want the child
He is a responsible and good man. Not too many now days
Crazy, these females need to pay the men back, and go to jail for lying 🤔
Make dna test at birth mandatory
I’d sue that court. You’re not going to make me pay child support because YOU think I should because it’s “only right” get the hell out of here.
Great Video
If you’ve watched Paternity Court, you know that when a man signs papers claiming paternity, birth certificate etc. he is legally responsible for the child. Even if he’s not the dna dad. If you’re married and have a child, the husband is always presumed to be the father. Even if he isn’t and even if a dna test proves you aren’t, there’s no guarantee that a court in your home state will let you off of child support. There are men who’ve paid child support for years and found out they’re not the father. They may never get that money back. Sad but true.
I'm a woman that thinks all men should get a DNA. It should be required. Too many men get caught up like this.
Sad.
you didn't listen to grandma cuz you were whooped (no disrespect intended, I've been there too) and she wasn't telling you what you wanted to hear. I'd put good money on the fact that the "lady" was trying to disenfranchise you from your family. ALWAYS LISTEN TO GRANDMA!!
Nope ! Dont play step dad either 💯🚨📣
The court system is so outdated nowadays …it needs to be changed..
Protests & marches should prevail
This is important .. so many females. Looking for a paycheck and having multiple partners and also the males are having multiple partners and innocent children are being conceived because many of you were playing games accountability and honesty and innocence are three strong words here but no man should pay or be obligated if he is not biologically related I believe the mother should have made some arrangements to reimburse the man she was a nurse and I’m sure she could have afforded to give him some type of reimbursement over the years in good faith but as we can see if she had an agenda to and she was very selfish Guys pay attention everything that looks good it’s not always good for you once again Judge I truly enjoy the freshness of your presentation in regards to child support thank you keep up the good work
Hi beautiful bless you 💓 😘 I love these 12 to 21 mins court episodes.....I'm new here I loving u are blessed your a strong powerful court worker sorry couldn't find the correct word
I need to be a guest on her show my child father got away with a lot. Although she aged out from receiving child support he literally pays 25 dollars and laugh about it.
Why he didn’t ask her what type of advocating is she doing to fix a broken child support system
Excited 😁
Mandatory DNA test on the birth of the child will end this kind of thing.
Yes I knew and was reading about this in 1996. Playboy magazine with the cover of Mia St. John in 1996 ran articles explaining how once the role of father has been adopted that States will do things to force you maintain that role if later, it is discovered you are not the biological father. The thing to know is that DNA testing should probably be routine, especially if you and the mother of the child are not married.
Especially if you are married...women dont marry for love or lust.
They take blood from a newborn at the hospital for testing, paternity should be law and established right then at birth even if married. This would be in the best interests of the child and avoid emotional damage to everyone.
If they wasn't claiming each other as a couple he should have known she was out there also
Good dude!!
I’m really surprised that he just cut ties with a child he had a relationship with for 5 years and stopped seeing the child, I’m sure the child felt very abandoned by the only dad he had known, I just don’t see how you can turn off your love for a child no matter what a paper said. I feel bad for for the child because it was his fault, but he lost the only dad he ever new.
never sign the certificate with out a dna test
Especially in Texas 🤦🏽♂️ 😒
DNA tests should be required at birth
How would judge Vonda not know if it is legal or not for a judge to make a ruling on a moral issue instead of a legal issue
You ain’t heard crazy until you hear my husband’s story or my step brother’s story. Long story short after my husband and his ex wife were separated for 10+ years and he faithfully paid child support that entire time and refused to let him have any contact or visitation with the boys she went and got knocked up by some 70+ yo man who owned his own construction company but intentionally didn’t have him sign the birth certificate because she knew she could sock my husband with more child support because they were technically still legally married even though she lied to him when they got married and used some else’s ssn with her name at a fast wedding place in Las Vegas. We didn’t even notice his child support went up almost $200+ every week until we got an attorney for a reduction and the attorney asked why we didn’t disclose the 3rd child.
My step brother got his ex pregnant at 16yo and then their second child when she was 18yo so instead of being another statistic he quickly got his ged and joined the military. His ex was ummm a few screws short so while my step brother went through basic training she ended up cheating on him and had a miscarriage and convinced everyone that she didn’t know she was pregnant before he left. We had no reason to think otherwise. So fast forward to my step brother graduating boot camp and getting a two week leave before being shipped to Alaska. Plan was my step brother goes out to Alaska and finds them housing and such, and while he was doing that the military pays movers to pack your house up and ship everything by boat to Alaska. It took a little longer then planned like 3 months. So after my step brother left to Alaska, about a month later she suddenly has another miscarriage and I went to the er with her. Turns out she was pregnant with twins and lost one but thankfully the other one was still viable but there were no guarantees that she would carry to full term. So with that it was best to wait for her to get past the critical first trimester before she had to endure a 2 day flight with a toddler and 1yo and high risk pregnancy. Fast forward to her carrying to about 31 weeks and out comes a baby with a darker skin complexion. We are not racist and I will prove that in about 2 seconds. Obviously ensue my step brother immediately freaked out and he was more heartbroken then angry as he had been waiting years for a boy only for her to have a boy and never told him she cheated on him with my step brother’s black bff from 3rd grade to that day. Now to show you the kind of man my step brother is, even though clearly the baby was not his within 24hours he did not hesitate to still sign the birth certificate and nobody was ever going to tell him that baby was not his. About 8 months later he caught her cheating on him with their neighbor and he was going to try and work it out until someone called his big boss because the baby had been crying for hours and it sounded like the girls obviously toddlers were being thrown around because they were running a muck while she was passed out drunk by 11am. So they gave her an ultimatum either go to rehab or find housing off base and sign custody of the 3 kids over to my brother and she could have supervised visits every other weekend or she could come back to FL with the kids and live with her mom and sign temporary custody of the kids to her mom. She ended up choosing her mom and sadly it wasn’t 6 months before her mom was kicking her out because she was getting drunk and would become physically violent and it was putting the children at risk. When my brother did his 4 years and came home he ended up getting custody of the kids but until they actually went to court and got a divorce he legally had to pay child support on all 3 kids. About 5 years later the baby boy’s biological father got out of prison and wanted custody of his son and unfortunately because that is his biological son there was nothing my brother could do unless he could prove his biological dad was an unfit parent.
Child support will harrass, seize monies, and jail the dads. But when the kid is found to not be the father's....they say sorry about your luck....go to civil court. Which is what child support is supposed to be in the first place. The system needs fixed.
Judge Vonda B look just like the female gremlin with those glasses on. 😂😂
A judge did this to my uncle found out he wasn’t his at 12 but the judge said you took on the role continue until he’s 21
Wow!
I've been through a situation similar to Mr Johnson. Different state have different laws, Because I I signed the form I was not granted a DNA test
Smh wouldn't have been me..Morally liable.UnReal!Crooks
Unfortunately, from my understanding, if you're an adjudicated father for 4 years, it's your child. I asked in WA about my son, and that's the answer i got. The Cleburne, TX child support office simply said we dont work backward.
So even if you sign the AOT, get the DNA test before they're 4.
I feel bad for this man and that boy all because of this woman
Judge Vonda B is a Noble African American Woman. She is a True Model of a Woman of the Highest Integrity. If someone told me she was Dr Martin Luther King's Daughter I would say the Apple didn't fall far from the Tree
Yeah, I agree, a DNA should automatically be done with all birth's, married or unmarried. (Grandma knows)
I think its sad that after 5 years he didnt still see the child....you had a relationship with him....even if you aren't the father ...how does your love for him just disappear.....why didnt you and his mom come up with an arrangement...he can be told hey im not your biological father but i still want to be in your life like an uncle...feel so bad for that child.
Can he take the actual father to court to recoup chil support?