It's no wonder celebrities lack so much connection to people and get severely depressed, they are trying to never be ordinary whatsoever. You make really good points on this, I never thought about it quite like that.
Thank you! Celebrities can have a hard time connecting from both angles… resistance to ordinariness AND people only seeing them as extraordinary. So, there’s a double barrier.
Omg. Talk about unexpected! I felt shame as a child, but when I was 12, a school guidance counselor told me I was unique. I clung to it like Linus to his blanket to this day while striving to be the "cherry on top" among all the "sheeple." 😉 But in a rare moment of honest reflection a few weeks ago I wrote the following question to myself: "How is it--where does it stem from--that you think you are superior to others yet so totally uncomfortable in your own skin? Superior & Inferior simultaneously!?" Thanks to you and your (not so) ordinary video, I can begin to try to answer that question. ❤️
That’s very similar to what I’ve experienced. Just abiding feelings of inferiority and shame in childhood. Then, at 12, constructing identities of uniqueness to be greater than to compensate for being less than. But that superiority phase is an important step in the journey. Without it, the shame just swallows you and you can’t develop yourself. So it’s all steps on the long hard road out of shame.
This was very good . I spent my entire life trying to connect as the purple cow . I knew no one would or could connect to just a regular broken cow . Lots of Trauma led to this type of thinking and behaviour . Struggle today with it still , ordinary seems slow and pointless in some way , yet i remain so completely isolated in so many ways ...... It is a form of suffering that i kept applying to myself . Thanks for the insight .
It's always about the fear of being alone and unloved. If I am ordinary, as I grow older and lose my looks, nobody will love me in a sexual way...I will be invisible and desolate...just waiting to die..a fear we all face?
Some face that fear more than others. I always had this as an intense fear until my Ayahuasca ceremony in 2022. I realized that a lot of my fears of aging out of lovability came from me projecting one of my parents onto men. And it mirrored the changing dynamic from when I was a small child compared to when I was an older child. So, it was a pattern of seemingly aging out of lovability. Then, it manifested later on as a fear of aging out of lovability in the eyes of men. But once I realized what I was projecting my parental dynamic onto men, this fear subsided by a significant degree. It's crazy to me that it's barely a fear anymore. So, there is hope for shifting this dynamic.
Weird, this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot in the last week or two! Also not something I have heard much about. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for another great video! It is nice to see all the ways our deep rooted beliefs and shame can manifest in our lives. Your argument about connection being possible on an eye to eye level reminded me of something I heard recently, about being able to identify when we are in our ego (if I can say it that way) by the way we are comparing ourselves to others. Even if we want to be better, it's useful to take as reference ourselves
Another fantastic video. The way you illustrate the concepts you discuss with your own personal experience gives your channel a unique character. It is a great example of owning your experience such that you are willing to share with complete strangers that is really empowering :) Thanks Emerald.
Thank you so much Emerald, that was insightful as always. Please if you can, can you please share some insights about" a shadow of a leader or leadership " Thank you ❤❤❤
I needed to hear this so much! In fact, I need to hear it over and over again. My experience was quite similar. Looks like I still have a lot of shame to work through. Thank you for the insights!
Thank you for sharing with us this exemples of your life. This make the things much more easy to understand and to create a connection to help us to open to accept the subject you're talking about.
What might cause repeating external events to direct life's connections? Example: Losing (earlier in life, then again more later) a lot of friends / family through illness, accidents, suicide etc. ?
That can be one reason a person resists connection. If there is/was lots of loss and grief, it’s common for people to consciously or unconsciously avoid making deeper connections out of the fear of attachment and uprooting.
From my earliest adolescence I have been attracted to the outsiders of society. David Bowie my idol, so were mystics. I thought being a minority of one was the goal- maybe even my super power. It didnt phase me that so much of Bowie's music centers in isolation. Later thought it was consistent with Joseph Campbell's insistence that the path in our Heroes's Journey was unique- ours and ours alone. Enter the dark forrest where there is no trail... The result? Connection issues,,,,,, Campbell also talks about the Return part of the journey - its been much harder than I thought it would be. I really dont believe I am magically unique and I dont want to be anymore- Artists really need to separate out the creativity/public image etc with their humanity. Im new to that
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I would love to have connection. But it never feels possible. My lack of ordinariness was not a choice. It's not something I wanted. Just something I discovered. But this was a very insightful video. It gave me a lot to think about. Your content is always very thought-provoking.
@@TheDiamondNet well happy October to you! Haha. It's a great day for some Type O Negative 😜 October Rust is one of my favorite albums of all time.. like I grew out of my metal days (mostly) but that album is still awesome!
I liked a few songs from Type O Negative. My stepmom used to tease me and sing the song “Black No. 1” to me when my roots would start to show. I think she’d actually seen them in concert back in the 90s.
@@markfullerthank you so much for your discussion about it my mind absolutely filling off Plus hopeless about sperituality and manifestation after 7 years of practicing everything about religions sperituality and reading all of stuff traveling to those places physically I don't know at the end what should I do I feel still I don't know secret iam so stressful to know it 😢
@@markfuller thank you so much again you are really just like mind eye speaking..you are so true because my mom millionare without any trying there's so many people trying for money still haven't my problem is I don't know secret of this!!!!!!!!! after spending so much money can we speak privately!!
When it comes to manifestation, the practice I use is to recognize that I’m already manifesting what I need to get to where I truly want to go in my heart of hearts. So, you could ask yourself “How am I already manifesting what I want?” And look for signs and opportunities. Trust that your manifestation is already arriving.
@@markfuller I don't believe to past life if my mom don some thing good that's why she have all things I love her so much she spend her money for my tickets wherever I want to go you are so true maybe karma she help 4000 family all of around the world every month ,my problem not money at all ..is some character I wish I have but I will use your way try to make very good karma doing well with all and I wait for results thankkkkk youuu so much mexsiiiiiiii
this is genius level!!! however i might say that in europe and other countries i dont feel like everyone is beneath me. only in america do i feel that everyone is really provincial or really uninteresting, unsophisticated, uncultured and wastes of space really
i cant be deserving of worth by just being an ordinary disgusting person....so i have to be superior , ordinary people have something i dont.... always felt i was an alien
It's no wonder celebrities lack so much connection to people and get severely depressed, they are trying to never be ordinary whatsoever. You make really good points on this, I never thought about it quite like that.
Thank you! Celebrities can have a hard time connecting from both angles… resistance to ordinariness AND people only seeing them as extraordinary. So, there’s a double barrier.
Seriously, it is uncanny how much your videos come out exactly when I've been thinking/needing insight about them!
Glad to hear that it’s found you at a synchronistic time!
Omg. Talk about unexpected! I felt shame as a child, but when I was 12, a school guidance counselor told me I was unique. I clung to it like Linus to his blanket to this day while striving to be the "cherry on top" among all the "sheeple." 😉 But in a rare moment of honest reflection a few weeks ago I wrote the following question to myself: "How is it--where does it stem from--that you think you are superior to others yet so totally uncomfortable in your own skin? Superior & Inferior simultaneously!?" Thanks to you and your (not so) ordinary video, I can begin to try to answer that question. ❤️
That’s very similar to what I’ve experienced.
Just abiding feelings of inferiority and shame in childhood. Then, at 12, constructing identities of uniqueness to be greater than to compensate for being less than.
But that superiority phase is an important step in the journey. Without it, the shame just swallows you and you can’t develop yourself.
So it’s all steps on the long hard road out of shame.
I love how comfortable you are with being vulnerable and honest on a stage.
This was very good . I spent my entire life trying to connect as the purple cow . I knew no one would or could connect to just a regular broken cow . Lots of Trauma led to this type of thinking and behaviour . Struggle today with it still , ordinary seems slow and pointless in some way , yet i remain so completely isolated in so many ways ...... It is a form of suffering that i kept applying to myself . Thanks for the insight .
Your star is shining on a completely different level. Thank you Emerald!
Thank you!
It's always about the fear of being alone and unloved. If I am ordinary, as I grow older and lose my looks, nobody will love me in a sexual way...I will be invisible and desolate...just waiting to die..a fear we all face?
Some face that fear more than others. I always had this as an intense fear until my Ayahuasca ceremony in 2022. I realized that a lot of my fears of aging out of lovability came from me projecting one of my parents onto men. And it mirrored the changing dynamic from when I was a small child compared to when I was an older child. So, it was a pattern of seemingly aging out of lovability.
Then, it manifested later on as a fear of aging out of lovability in the eyes of men. But once I realized what I was projecting my parental dynamic onto men, this fear subsided by a significant degree. It's crazy to me that it's barely a fear anymore. So, there is hope for shifting this dynamic.
This topic speaks to me on a different level. Thanks for talking abt this, Emerald! ❤
Weird, this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot in the last week or two! Also not something I have heard much about. Thank you for sharing your experience!
Thanks for another great video! It is nice to see all the ways our deep rooted beliefs and shame can manifest in our lives. Your argument about connection being possible on an eye to eye level reminded me of something I heard recently, about being able to identify when we are in our ego (if I can say it that way) by the way we are comparing ourselves to others. Even if we want to be better, it's useful to take as reference ourselves
Just what I needed at the present time, This morning I became aware of a feeling of lesser-ness and how it is making me underperform. Thank you!
TOOL has a been a guiding light for me since my early 20’s. Lots of Jung inferences in their song. Theo music is universal
You explain profound ideas so well and in a way that’s relatable. So many of your videos has helped me so please keep doing what you do !
Thank you! This message is very encouraging!
Another fantastic video. The way you illustrate the concepts you discuss with your own personal experience gives your channel a unique character. It is a great example of owning your experience such that you are willing to share with complete strangers that is really empowering :) Thanks Emerald.
Very helpful! Omg! Thanks a lot for this video 🙏
You're welcome! I'm glad it was helpful.
Thank you so much Emerald, that was insightful as always. Please if you can, can you please share some insights about" a shadow of a leader or leadership " Thank you ❤❤❤
Thank you the recommendation! I definitely want to talk about that topic.
I needed to hear this so much! In fact, I need to hear it over and over again. My experience was quite similar. Looks like I still have a lot of shame to work through. Thank you for the insights!
you are always appreciated :)
Thank you for sharing with us this exemples of your life. This make the things much more easy to understand and to create a connection to help us to open to accept the subject you're talking about.
Can you tell me any suggested readings for this aversion to ordinariness?
I can so much relate to what you shared!!! Thank you Emerald for all the great videos.
this video is really helpful to me. Thank you so much for sharing
What might cause repeating external events to direct life's connections? Example: Losing (earlier in life, then again more later) a lot of friends / family through illness, accidents, suicide etc. ?
That can be one reason a person resists connection. If there is/was lots of loss and grief, it’s common for people to consciously or unconsciously avoid making deeper connections out of the fear of attachment and uprooting.
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Where is this ayahuasca retreat in Florida??
(Long-time listener, first comment! You help me greatly!) 7:50
Soulquest Ayahuasca Church of Mother Earth in Orlando, FL. I do a retreat there every Spring.
They do weekend retreats a few times per month.
@@TheDiamondNet Cool, thanks for the info! Where in FL are you?
@@TheDiamondNethow much do you pay for this retreat?
It's about $1000 for a weekend retreat
I'm in Saint Augustine
You seem to have a ton of knowledge for someone so young.
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From my earliest adolescence I have been attracted to the outsiders of society. David Bowie my idol, so were mystics. I thought being a minority of one was the goal- maybe even my super power. It didnt phase me that so much of Bowie's music centers in isolation. Later thought it was consistent with Joseph Campbell's insistence that the path in our Heroes's Journey was unique- ours and ours alone. Enter the dark forrest where there is no trail... The result? Connection issues,,,,,, Campbell also talks about the Return part of the journey - its been much harder than I thought it would be. I really dont believe I am magically unique and I dont want to be anymore- Artists really need to separate out the creativity/public image etc with their humanity. Im new to that
Love your content
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I would love to have connection. But it never feels possible. My lack of ordinariness was not a choice. It's not something I wanted. Just something I discovered.
But this was a very insightful video. It gave me a lot to think about. Your content is always very thought-provoking.
Hi. Whats your background?
Um, did you mention "tool?" My head literally snapped to attention.
Yes, I like Tool quite a bit.
You had to be a "metal chick" in high school! :)
I was a goth
@@TheDiamondNet well happy October to you! Haha. It's a great day for some Type O Negative 😜 October Rust is one of my favorite albums of all time.. like I grew out of my metal days (mostly) but that album is still awesome!
I liked a few songs from Type O Negative.
My stepmom used to tease me and sing the song “Black No. 1” to me when my roots would start to show.
I think she’d actually seen them in concert back in the 90s.
@@TheDiamondNet 🤣❤️
I think I would resist being ordinary because it might make me feel fake... or some type of imposter syndrome? (Great video btw!)
That makes sense. If we feel like a stranger in a strange land, then trying to feel ordinary might bring up imposter feelings.
Amazing content! Or perhaps ordinary for the standard I got used to.
Thank you!
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I think this overlaps heavily with enmeshment trauma as well.
If you dig bands like Tool, King Crimson and Van Der Graaf Generator f.ex. you are most likely an introverted, Intuitive individual i would say
Definitely true for me… INFJ
@@TheDiamondNet yep knew that instantly about you, spent so much of my life searching unsucessfully for people like us to relate to ;)
Extraordinary is best, not so uniquely terminal; underestimating purpose can allow one to be regressive and stunted in developing advantageousness.
Rohypnol?
but its true that people are truly sheeple lol...
What's secret of manifestation and success pray in some religions how should we use our mind for that 😊
@@markfullerthank you so much for your discussion about it my mind absolutely filling off Plus hopeless about sperituality and manifestation after 7 years of practicing everything about religions sperituality and reading all of stuff traveling to those places physically I don't know at the end what should I do I feel still I don't know secret iam so stressful to know it 😢
@@markfuller thank you so much again you are really just like mind eye speaking..you are so true because my mom millionare without any trying there's so many people trying for money still haven't my problem is I don't know secret of this!!!!!!!!! after spending so much money can we speak privately!!
When it comes to manifestation, the practice I use is to recognize that I’m already manifesting what I need to get to where I truly want to go in my heart of hearts.
So, you could ask yourself “How am I already manifesting what I want?” And look for signs and opportunities.
Trust that your manifestation is already arriving.
@@TheDiamondNet thanks dear very helpful all thing from you such a beautiful gift..
@@markfuller I don't believe to past life if my mom don some thing good that's why she have all things I love her so much she spend her money for my tickets wherever I want to go you are so true maybe karma she help 4000 family all of around the world every month ,my problem not money at all ..is some character I wish I have but I will use your way try to make very good karma doing well with all and I wait for results thankkkkk youuu so much mexsiiiiiiii
this is genius level!!! however i might say that in europe and other countries i dont feel like everyone is beneath me. only in america do i feel that everyone is really provincial or really uninteresting, unsophisticated, uncultured and wastes of space really
i cant be deserving of worth by just being an ordinary disgusting person....so i have to be superior , ordinary people have something i dont.... always felt i was an alien