most people’s questions make me want to crawl through the screen and give them a huge hug and I don’t even like hugs that much lol...it just makes my heart hurt
@Kayleigh Dittemore : virtual hugs right back. Im dealing with toxic parents(from afar) while pregnant (question 4 before the fashion break in this video) and I so needed your comment right now. Take care ❤🦋
I quit self harming back in 2014. At the time I quit because hiding and keeping secrets was just leading me down a dark road. At the time I was in therapy. Now, years later I don’t do it because a) I don’t want to feel like all that hard work was for nothing and I’m afraid of the consequences and b) I’m doing A LOT better and have found different ways to cope: going for walks with my friends, talking, writing, swimming etc.
Kati Morton I started journalling because of you. I’m still going strong 8 years later. Recently I’ve read back on my old journals and it’s so interesting to juxtapose that with my medical/psych records and from why friends and family have told me.
@@JordanJFan do you ever get nervous about friends/family accidentally (or purposely🤪) coming across your journals & reading them?? That's honestly the reason I'm hesitant to journal. Especially when I pass away someone will go through my things & I'm sure read them.. any advice?
Yey, I/we need more discussion on existential crisis especially since the events of the past few months really left many people question whether our lives worth it
I love when you add personal touches to your answers. Like about how your therapy has helped you be a better theripist. It adds MORE heart to your answers.
To the person who asked the first question about attention issues, I feel that too and I recently found out that this lack of attention is actually not lack of attention but a kind of daydreaming where I start arguing with myself or other people, reliving conversations and how I could have performed better at them, rehearsing future conversations that might never happen... it is debilitating because I'm never in the moment when I'm actually having conversations because it's like I'm juggling thoughts in my head that might disappear if I let them, and then they do. And mindfulness doesn't work because you don't want to lose those thoughts because they may be useful. Does that sound like you?
To whomever may be curious, I suppose this is some kind of maladaptive daydreaming, only mine has this recurring conversation theme. The point is that trouble concentrating could be maladaptive daydreaming instead of a lack of ability to focus, and you may not know that until you stop and consider what took you away from the moment, if it was a distraction or a daydream. In my case, my therapist told me that I CAN let those thoughts go away without fear, because we are all able to recall thoughts and say them when they actually matter instead of "holding" them when they are still out of context and useless, and I need to practice that. And it's actually starting to work, so... I hope this helps somenone. It's really a game changer for me.
@@jupiter6942 OMG, this is the first time I ever hear about someone with the same problem. Are you getting better? What's working for you, and how do you think it started in the first place? I figured out I've been neglected as a child and pushed myself harder and harder to get attention and it never worked, so I developed this thing which is me always expecting my best intellectual and social performance.
@@javierat8308 I learned about maladaptive daydreaming just a little time ago and I still haven't figured out anything that would work. But I've started paying attention to what I'm daydreaming about because I think that it probably reflects my problems/things I wish would be different. I think it started because quite often I feel lonely. I'm also quite shy and socially awkward. So my daydreams are usually just about hanging out and having fun with people I wish I'd be closer and could hang out and have fun irl.
Another great podcast! And Kati, you should not apologize for rambling. This is one of the reasons why we love your videos and podcasts so much. And especially on a topic like the toxic parents. This is such a mighty thought, that we don't owe them anything and are not bad people if we cut them out of our lives. I had luck with my parents, but I know enough people who should hear that!
Admir Barucija I missed this new podcast today but I'll be watching it tomorrow my notification was late too I haven't been feeling well nice to see you here again hope we can talk more sometime let me know 🙂
I went through a crisis period of existential depression in early 2019 and it felt like it would never end. The only thing I found that could give me the slightest bit of distraction/relief was doing sudokus and solitaire - which really helped in some ways. Thankfully, from processing a traumatic loss I have gradually recovered over the past year, but I strongly feel for this person who has lost their grandmother💘 I hope you find some solace soon - in the words of Albert Camus, existentialist philosopher, “There is no love of life without despair of life.”
I can relate so much to question #2. Last year on my birthday I was diagnosed with stage 4 Adenocarcinoma in the colon and I recovered and everything was good again. Last month, the cancer activity resurfaced and I felt so lost and empty. Throughout my cancer experience I've been having questions without answers about life and the universe and it was so confusing. I hope you get better and know you're not alone in this.
Kati❤ thank you for answering my question (n.6). It gave me a warm and fuzzy feeling:) and it really made me think about the ways I replace self harming. For me, it's mostly making sure that I have something to do at anytime. This is especially hard during the current situation. I'm in the process of starting therapy and this is one of the first things I want to work on. Sending love from Germany 😊
Thank you so much for your thoughts on guilt after cutting contact w/ abusive family. I havent talked with my dad in years and finally had to cut ties with my mom too. Its been positive but really hard, struggling with guilt a lot even though I know its for the best and am getting good support from my therapist and a couple close people in my life.
Sometimes I wonder if I really know the difference between pushing my feelings away and accepting and letting them go. Sometimes I think how I understand those is the opposite of how others understand it. When people say accept those things I feel like I am supposed to do that magic trick that just makes me think that the thing I am to accept is ok. So I think it means... Forcing myself to think it is ok. Forcing myself to not think about it because people said accept so I should not be thinking about it. While pushing away I associate with ok I have that feeling. I realise it is not an important feeling right now because I know that feeling, and it's one of those that will just blow up if I keep thinking about it and I have realized I can live with it if I don't give it too much importance... So I just push it away and do what else I wanted to do.
That can be a difficult distinction to make.. and really it comes down to whether or not we recognized what it was that we were feeling, gave ourselves some space and time to feel it or express it, and then make the decision to move on. When we push them down we don't usually know what it was we were feeling or give ourselves any time to feel it. I hope that helps! xoxo
@@Katimorton Thank you for your comment. That makes sense, if you never thought about what is wrong it could be an important warning signal and it can just add up more and more to make you feel badly. I personally actually got better when I recognized that I'm actually obsessing about getting right what I am feeling and I'm creating my own anxiety by that so I decided to let things go without knowing what I am feeling. But that was after I already spend quite a bit of time with the feeling, even if I couldn't pinpoint it.
i feel exactly like the person from question 2 and i was so scared that i was going crazy or developing some really bad mental illness/disorder but now i feel more normal thank you
Wow that brain fog question came at just the right time for me. I wanted to bring up to my therapist that I have not been able to focus or concentrate. I'm nervous to bring up anything new to her and ask what it could be. I don't want to come across like self diagnosing.
The existential thoughts could be relentless due to exstiential OCD. The uncertainty of the meaning of life and what post death is can be maddening. I struggle with this myself, and it can be crippling. If the existential thoughts don't go away after after trama work, exposure therapy may be helpful.
Personally I dislike the extreme heat I have right now where I live (in Spain), but it is a nice excuse to eat more ice cream, slushies, slurpies and cold smoothies which I think everyone loves. Also, hot weather is perfect for going to the swimming pool or the beach and have a nice day. ♡☆
The portion about complaining was amazing and I think needs to be seen by more people? Could you make a video just on this on your regular channel? It’s so important!
For concentration, I really struggle with it still, but meditation is slowly helping, and I found using a Pomodoro timer can be helpful. It basically is an interval timer that I use for tasks, with built in break intervals. There is a chrome extension called Marinara for it
Thanks Quick clarification on question 10. Yes I'm in treatment now, and I was in treatment in college. I'm pass that hurdle. Just worried how to help little brother tred through similar waters
And no really, thanks, the answer I was looking for was in there...but my god, between you and my current therapist, I think I know the one thing that grinds the gears of any mental health professional. My parents found out about therapy in college, it caused a lot of backlash. My current therapist used harsher words than you to convince me to stay in therapy lol.
Question 4. I'm in a similar situation. I don't talk to my mother anymore. It's been +/-5 years since I was in contact with her. Yet, I still can't get past the guilt and the feeling of being fondamentaly defective. I still can't shake those feelings. It is so hard to believe that I am a good person, that I am worth more then a slap in the face. Anyway, it took time but my siblings are okay with me not being in contact with her. I told them that it's not that I don't want to be in contact with her for ever, but for now, for my own mental health, I need to cut ties with her. Good luck and have a nice day 😄 Thanks for the podcast Kati! ❤️
I went 5 years without speaking to my father when my kids were little because I didn’t want them to grow up watching him treat others better like I did. When a friends father died I thought about how I would feel if I died and never saw him again. So I got back in contact and would go see him on special occasions. I went in with zero expectations for him so I wouldn’t be disappointed. Last month my mom was in the hospital with covid19 and she nearly died. Now all the old feelings of hurt and anger toward him have resurfaced. I think the fear of losing my primary parent brought up past grief. It just sucks
@@monicabliss8348 I would probably be in the same state if my father almost died. The difference is, when I think about my mother dying, I feel relieved. Like a huge weight would be lifted off my shoulders.
Maya every situation is definitely different. My sister is incredibly toxic and has said hurtful things about my children and husband. She’s been very cruel to our mother. I wouldn’t say I’ve officially cut her out of my life but I don’t see her and only contact her when I need to update her about our mother. My husband is her medical proxy so all information comes through him. Which I think definitely pisses her off. Families are complicated especially when childhood trauma is involved
Omg I forgot it was Thursday I haven't been feeling well last couple of days I was so looking forward to watching this new podcast I'm sad I missed watching you kati but I'm glad I can still watch it another day I'm looking forward to listening and watching this tomorrow i also missed my notification hello also everyone here 🙂👍
OMAIGOOOOD!!! You don't like jeans? I live and breathe in jeans! And I always pictured you as a jeans and T-shirt type of girl. Interesting :) I absolutely love your podcast! Every question, every time. Thank you for everything.
Hello. Not sure if this will be helpful but the last term we had to do a mental health unit for HPE and we got told about numerous mental health websites/online counselling platforms. Here are some of the ones that I think are international: - R U OK? - Beyond blue
- Black Dog Institute - Headspace - LifeLine Love your videos by the way
Hey Kati, I'm loving your podcast! So so helpful, and I def look forward to listening all week! I was wondering if you could talk about medical trauma and how to cope if it is still ongoing? Maybe in the podcast or on your main channel? I have been dealing with cancer and PTSD since I was 10, and I'm now 17 and it came back again right after quarantine started
Yes, and sexual abuse by doctors. Dealing with a history of this right now. I think it happens too often. I was 10. Another time I was 30 and he said nobody would believe me because I was "mentally ill" as he handed me his home phone number, and even so, with his arrogance, he was right. I was so intimidated, I knew he was right. And it was only severe depression. I'm 65 now and just dealing with this kind of abuse. Always feeling it was my fault because I didn't say something. Hard stuff esp on top of other abuse. I was a sitting duck for medical abuse I think.
While listening to the answers on the first question, I had to go back at least 4 times to double check what she said 😅 Today I forgot my bag with all my documents and bank cards in a public toilet, and I was heading to an appointment where I was supposed to give the documents 😂
@the fun question :p Dungarees! ...my fav fav fav.....especially going through airports (not that I will be anytime soon lmao) but you just stick your passport in the front pocket so easy peasy hahah...and like you can dress them up with a pretty blouse or something underneath or be casualll and chill...ugh i love them.💗
Every since I started journaling I have been able to learn more about my emotions and meditation also is helpful! Katie have you or can you address incest and the effects it can cause?
And the many definitions. Does it have to be a family member. How about family generational abuse. My mom's uncle a (my great uncle) abused me, my mom, my aunt, who else since it's been kept a family secret. When I finally told my mom when I was 40, she said he did the same to her as a child. She repressed it. He was related by marriage only. What about his own now adult children? My sisters, cousins? Secrets.
@@AmethystWoman My two-step sisters were sexually abused by my brother as well as myself. I was also sexually abused by a cousin. My family doesn't talk about it. When I was in the 5th grade I actually abused a family member that was younger. I would like to learn more about incest. Even though I have been a walking example of traumas.
Is there a specific time that you allow questions? Because I keep missing them. I tried the notification bell, but I don't think it lets me know when you post on the community tab. I'm having a hard time trying to keep my self worth because a friend said some very invalidating things about my character despite going to therapy for years and trying to be my best self. I wanted to ask a question related to that, but I can never seem to catch the AKA time slots.
Yeah, by the time I got notified, it was way too late to get mine picked. I wonder why some people get early notice. Are they patreons who get notified early? That would be good for the rest of us to know. There are people in LA-ish without AC? Really surprises me.
Just wanted to share about my thoughts on question number 2. Death is what makes life purposeful because it makes us think what is really important things that we want to do or should do. By the way big hug for you and condolence
I have a question(could you answer in the replies of this comment please), how do I know if I’m a scape goat(sorry if I spelled this wrong or if this has already been answered)? So I used to self harm(c*tting) and I’m a few months clean, and one of the main reasons I was self harming was because of my parents(my mother mainly). i think I’ve turning to eating mostly and I hate that I’ve done that. it’s just a cycle that goes from me binge eating to me hating myself and then starving myself just to gain it back. I’ve also started scratching myself until I ripped my skin open and then I just peel off the scabs until I literally can’t peel it off anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. I wanna vent to my friends but whenever I do I worry them and I don’t wanna make them worry or have to be sad about me or make them take time out of their day to think about me when they could be doing and thinking about things that they like. I’ve lost interest in almost everything that I love. I love anime and reading manga and baking and being around my friends but I can’t do it anymore. I just lay in bed and watch the same UA-cam videos over and over and over again. Please answer or just give me advice, anything would be helpful.
Kati Morton I like that red top with the Mighty written on it I also use that website and app your hair looks nice too thanks for continuing to being these helpful podcast 🙂❤
Funny story..... So I’m in IOP for my eating disorder and my friend and I were at Walmart (she also has an eating disorder) and we were trying to find a snack and it took us an hour to find something bc we were calorie counting and all this shit and the next week I talked to my therapist about this and she got so mad because what we ended up buying was these mini gummy bears bc you could have 30 for 100 calories and she was so mad bc she was like “THATS SO DISORDERED IT DOSEN’T MEET UR MEAL PLAN!!” It was just so funny because I’ve never seen her get so mad about something 😂😂😂😂
Speaking of positivity. I'm low on money, but going to have a job soon (finally). And because of that I had to quit smoking. I just knew, that if I will continue I'm not gonna make it money wise. So...I actually fell better, more fresh. But I don't yet know what to fill the emptiness with, what to do in breaks and idk why but I'm little more numb and lazy. Maybe it's high blood pressure. I think it's 2 weeks now.
Isn't it mandatory for a therapists to have their own therapist (observer/supervisor maybe? i remember it from some movie where therapist had ofice in his house, and also had a lot of his own problems. interesting move, don't remember its name though)
S M. Hello how are you hows things nice you are here on kati s podcast again I have to watch it tomorrow I missed it live today forgot it was Thursday iv been kinda spaced and not well hope your good catch you another time 🙂
Kati on I pads and other devices you can’t see community posts so would you be open to the idea of pulling questions from the comments sorry if this is annoying
For anyone wanting to visit 7 Cups, here’s a link ❤️ www.7cups.com/11213420 I’ve personally been a listener there for 5+ years now, and I still love it. There are some tips and tricks I know of how to find a potentially good listener immediately. If you have any apprehensions or questions regarding the site, I’m here and open to answering ❤️ (won’t let you know my username there though haha)
I am confused. Can anyone help me understand why Kati Morton channel is abandoned and why these videos are mixing with OTDM podcast videos? I really am Katis fan when it comes to these videos, but podcast.. it's just not for me. But I can not follow just one of them. since they are on same channel.
Kati posts her normal videos on mondays, something happened with youtube this week, and she's having trouble publishing her latest video. I think it's healthy for youtubers to offer varied content, which I think is what she and Sean are trying to do. The podcasts are way less formal, and that clicks for some viewers.
Hi Kati, I signed up and paid for your journaling club and need assistance- I sent an email and didn’t get a reply so I haven’t been able to participate pls let me know how to get assistance
@@askkatianything Hi Kati, I wasn't sure where you ask the questions so I hope this goes through but my question is How have you been feeling this week? It has been a difficult couple of months and I was wondering if you was feeling any better inside.
30:00 But your parents gave you life. And you are enjoying it... unless you aren't. But if you didn't return it back to timeless cascades of disruptions, abruptions and other fascinating things, i guess in any case you rather probably owe something to your parents. Sort of. Well, it seems so. Just a thought were flying by, leaving a nice sparkling trail. Look how beautiful it is!.. I'm just tired, please don't mind.
I once had a therapist tell me it's their job to love you unconditionally. It's not yours to love them back. We can also love a person without liking them. I love my parents, just because I do - earned or not! - but in real life, I would not have chosen them as friends although they have many who only know the side they choose to show.
@@AmethystWoman job to love unconditionally. that sounds interesting) i don't think it's what their job is supposed to be, and nobody have to love anyone. unless you are in North Korea.
Hi, I have a desperate question! Any advice on having a healthy and at least a semi normal sex life with my Aspergers husband?? So, very desperate! Help!
most people’s questions make me want to crawl through the screen and give them a huge hug and I don’t even like hugs that much lol...it just makes my heart hurt
Awe xoxo
@Kayleigh Dittemore : virtual hugs right back. Im dealing with toxic parents(from afar) while pregnant (question 4 before the fashion break in this video) and I so needed your comment right now. Take care ❤🦋
Promethea 79 i totally understand where you are coming from that question made me tear up! you are so strong ❤️
Yoro Kumat aw ur welcome...you can do it! i know how hard it can be but i know you’ll persevere 💓 keep taking baby steps :)
I quit self harming back in 2014. At the time I quit because hiding and keeping secrets was just leading me down a dark road. At the time I was in therapy. Now, years later I don’t do it because a) I don’t want to feel like all that hard work was for nothing and I’m afraid of the consequences and b) I’m doing A LOT better and have found different ways to cope: going for walks with my friends, talking, writing, swimming etc.
you need to make a shirt that says “but have you tried journaling?”
Seriously! haha!! xoxo
Kati's version of "But can you do THIS???"
Kati Morton I started journalling because of you. I’m still going strong 8 years later. Recently I’ve read back on my old journals and it’s so interesting to juxtapose that with my medical/psych records and from why friends and family have told me.
@@JordanJFan do you ever get nervous about friends/family accidentally (or purposely🤪) coming across your journals & reading them?? That's honestly the reason I'm hesitant to journal. Especially when I pass away someone will go through my things & I'm sure read them.. any advice?
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🤗Twins...bet somebody still asks for the stamps 😂💗
Yey, I/we need more discussion on existential crisis especially since the events of the past few months really left many people question whether our lives worth it
Totally.. there is just so much going on in the world right now.. it's hard to process it all and be hopeful about the future. oxox
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@@heidiw5183 Lolol..No problem 🤗💗
Thank you :)
This is the best, thank you
I love when you add personal touches to your answers. Like about how your therapy has helped you be a better theripist. It adds MORE heart to your answers.
To the person who asked the first question about attention issues, I feel that too and I recently found out that this lack of attention is actually not lack of attention but a kind of daydreaming where I start arguing with myself or other people, reliving conversations and how I could have performed better at them, rehearsing future conversations that might never happen... it is debilitating because I'm never in the moment when I'm actually having conversations because it's like I'm juggling thoughts in my head that might disappear if I let them, and then they do. And mindfulness doesn't work because you don't want to lose those thoughts because they may be useful. Does that sound like you?
To whomever may be curious, I suppose this is some kind of maladaptive daydreaming, only mine has this recurring conversation theme. The point is that trouble concentrating could be maladaptive daydreaming instead of a lack of ability to focus, and you may not know that until you stop and consider what took you away from the moment, if it was a distraction or a daydream. In my case, my therapist told me that I CAN let those thoughts go away without fear, because we are all able to recall thoughts and say them when they actually matter instead of "holding" them when they are still out of context and useless, and I need to practice that. And it's actually starting to work, so... I hope this helps somenone. It's really a game changer for me.
I also struggle with this a lot. Almost every time I try to focus on school work I just relive these fake scenarios in my head over and over again.
@@jupiter6942 OMG, this is the first time I ever hear about someone with the same problem. Are you getting better? What's working for you, and how do you think it started in the first place? I figured out I've been neglected as a child and pushed myself harder and harder to get attention and it never worked, so I developed this thing which is me always expecting my best intellectual and social performance.
@@javierat8308 I learned about maladaptive daydreaming just a little time ago and I still haven't figured out anything that would work. But I've started paying attention to what I'm daydreaming about because I think that it probably reflects my problems/things I wish would be different. I think it started because quite often I feel lonely. I'm also quite shy and socially awkward. So my daydreams are usually just about hanging out and having fun with people I wish I'd be closer and could hang out and have fun irl.
@@javierat8308 Also I'm really glad we can relate to each other, I got really excited when I saw you responded to my comment 😊
Thank you Katie. I am also a scapegoat and your analysis is spot on. I am also LC/NC with the parental units. We owe them NOTHING.
*currently crying with relief* ~ Thank you for everything 💞 - Q#4
Another great podcast! And Kati, you should not apologize for rambling. This is one of the reasons why we love your videos and podcasts so much. And especially on a topic like the toxic parents. This is such a mighty thought, that we don't owe them anything and are not bad people if we cut them out of our lives. I had luck with my parents, but I know enough people who should hear that!
I can’t wait to listen when I get home!! 💜 I’ve been having an existential crisis these past few months, the path ahead is so uncertain
I hope it's helpful!! xoxo
Admir Barucija I missed this new podcast today but I'll be watching it tomorrow my notification was late too I haven't been feeling well nice to see you here again hope we can talk more sometime let me know 🙂
i will never get over how beautiful your eyelashes are and how perfect your brows are 24/7
Awe thanks :) xoxo
I went through a crisis period of existential depression in early 2019 and it felt like it would never end. The only thing I found that could give me the slightest bit of distraction/relief was doing sudokus and solitaire - which really helped in some ways. Thankfully, from processing a traumatic loss I have gradually recovered over the past year, but I strongly feel for this person who has lost their grandmother💘 I hope you find some solace soon - in the words of Albert Camus, existentialist philosopher, “There is no love of life without despair of life.”
I can relate so much to question #2. Last year on my birthday I was diagnosed with stage 4 Adenocarcinoma in the colon and I recovered and everything was good again. Last month, the cancer activity resurfaced and I felt so lost and empty. Throughout my cancer experience I've been having questions without answers about life and the universe and it was so confusing.
I hope you get better and know you're not alone in this.
Kati❤ thank you for answering my question (n.6). It gave me a warm and fuzzy feeling:) and it really made me think about the ways I replace self harming. For me, it's mostly making sure that I have something to do at anytime. This is especially hard during the current situation. I'm in the process of starting therapy and this is one of the first things I want to work on. Sending love from Germany 😊
Thank you so much for your thoughts on guilt after cutting contact w/ abusive family. I havent talked with my dad in years and finally had to cut ties with my mom too. Its been positive but really hard, struggling with guilt a lot even though I know its for the best and am getting good support from my therapist and a couple close people in my life.
This video is the best validation I could get right this moment. Thank you for this 🙌🏽
Thank you so much Kati for answering my question and for all the advice and tips!
Thank you so much as always❤
I swear every episode there is something I can relate to.
Im so excited for the book!
Hope you're doing good💛
Sometimes I wonder if I really know the difference between pushing my feelings away and accepting and letting them go. Sometimes I think how I understand those is the opposite of how others understand it. When people say accept those things I feel like I am supposed to do that magic trick that just makes me think that the thing I am to accept is ok. So I think it means... Forcing myself to think it is ok. Forcing myself to not think about it because people said accept so I should not be thinking about it. While pushing away I associate with ok I have that feeling. I realise it is not an important feeling right now because I know that feeling, and it's one of those that will just blow up if I keep thinking about it and I have realized I can live with it if I don't give it too much importance... So I just push it away and do what else I wanted to do.
That can be a difficult distinction to make.. and really it comes down to whether or not we recognized what it was that we were feeling, gave ourselves some space and time to feel it or express it, and then make the decision to move on. When we push them down we don't usually know what it was we were feeling or give ourselves any time to feel it. I hope that helps! xoxo
@@Katimorton Thank you for your comment. That makes sense, if you never thought about what is wrong it could be an important warning signal and it can just add up more and more to make you feel badly. I personally actually got better when I recognized that I'm actually obsessing about getting right what I am feeling and I'm creating my own anxiety by that so I decided to let things go without knowing what I am feeling. But that was after I already spend quite a bit of time with the feeling, even if I couldn't pinpoint it.
Toxic positivity would be great to make a regular video on as well. I’ve never heard the term and I think it’s eye opening to learn!
i feel exactly like the person from question 2 and i was so scared that i was going crazy or developing some really bad mental illness/disorder but now i feel more normal thank you
Is it bad these AKAs are one of the few things i look forward to? Cause it's definetely the case.
nah it’s definitely party time 🥳
Awe I am so glad :) xoxo
I loved your content before 2020, but it's really helped me get through lockdown. Thank you for everything that you do.
Wow that brain fog question came at just the right time for me. I wanted to bring up to my therapist that I have not been able to focus or concentrate. I'm nervous to bring up anything new to her and ask what it could be. I don't want to come across like self diagnosing.
Another great AKA. I feel like I learn something new every episode.
Ohh, I didn't expect those questions. Interesting.
They really are!! You all ask such great questions :) xoxo
Love these it helps me to stay in touch with my emotions and how I’m feeling over all
Yay!! xoxo
question 4 got me cryin in the club
“I’m disappointed in you” is the WORSTTT
The existential thoughts could be relentless due to exstiential OCD. The uncertainty of the meaning of life and what post death is can be maddening. I struggle with this myself, and it can be crippling. If the existential thoughts don't go away after after trama work, exposure therapy may be helpful.
Personally I dislike the extreme heat I have right now where I live (in Spain), but it is a nice excuse to eat more ice cream, slushies, slurpies and cold smoothies which I think everyone loves. Also, hot weather is perfect for going to the swimming pool or the beach and have a nice day. ♡☆
That second question is me. Exactly what I'm going through at the moment.
Thanks for the advice.
I was having a long day, and one of your podcast was all I needed. I learn about your channel lkke two days ago and I fell in love.
The portion about complaining was amazing and I think needs to be seen by more people? Could you make a video just on this on your regular channel? It’s so important!
I relate so much to these questions and I thank you for all you do especially lately in these times when we feel overwhelmed, i appreciate it so much💖
For concentration, I really struggle with it still, but meditation is slowly helping, and I found using a Pomodoro timer can be helpful. It basically is an interval timer that I use for tasks, with built in break intervals. There is a chrome extension called Marinara for it
Does anyone ever have a question but it's tooooooo weird to ask... No just me 🙃🙃
Absolutely love your videos Kati ❤
Ask it! bet atleast one person relates 💕
One day I will
Can't wait! Already downloaded and ready to listen to as soon as I am off work!
Love the topics this week! Hugely relevant to my current situation :-)
Saving this in my mental health resources for the complaining part. Thank you.
Can’t wait to listen ❤️ thank you Kati
Yay! I hope you love it :) xoxo
Kati Morton I loved it!
Katie, thank you so much for these podcast/UA-cam videos. I feel like I learn a lot from them. I hope you have a good week too.
Kati: Today is so hot, it’s like 86°. Me: *laughs in Arizonan*
*laughs in Floridian*
Thanks
Quick clarification on question 10. Yes I'm in treatment now, and I was in treatment in college. I'm pass that hurdle. Just worried how to help little brother tred through similar waters
And no really, thanks, the answer I was looking for was in there...but my god, between you and my current therapist, I think I know the one thing that grinds the gears of any mental health professional.
My parents found out about therapy in college, it caused a lot of backlash. My current therapist used harsher words than you to convince me to stay in therapy lol.
Question 4. I'm in a similar situation. I don't talk to my mother anymore. It's been +/-5 years since I was in contact with her. Yet, I still can't get past the guilt and the feeling of being fondamentaly defective. I still can't shake those feelings. It is so hard to believe that I am a good person, that I am worth more then a slap in the face.
Anyway, it took time but my siblings are okay with me not being in contact with her. I told them that it's not that I don't want to be in contact with her for ever, but for now, for my own mental health, I need to cut ties with her.
Good luck and have a nice day 😄
Thanks for the podcast Kati! ❤️
I went 5 years without speaking to my father when my kids were little because I didn’t want them to grow up watching him treat others better like I did. When a friends father died I thought about how I would feel if I died and never saw him again. So I got back in contact and would go see him on special occasions. I went in with zero expectations for him so I wouldn’t be disappointed. Last month my mom was in the hospital with covid19 and she nearly died. Now all the old feelings of hurt and anger toward him have resurfaced. I think the fear of losing my primary parent brought up past grief. It just sucks
@@monicabliss8348 I would probably be in the same state if my father almost died. The difference is, when I think about my mother dying, I feel relieved. Like a huge weight would be lifted off my shoulders.
Maya every situation is definitely different. My sister is incredibly toxic and has said hurtful things about my children and husband. She’s been very cruel to our mother. I wouldn’t say I’ve officially cut her out of my life but I don’t see her and only contact her when I need to update her about our mother. My husband is her medical proxy so all information comes through him. Which I think definitely pisses her off. Families are complicated especially when childhood trauma is involved
This one was very very good! Also the other were good but this one was more relatable for me personally.
Omg I forgot it was Thursday I haven't been feeling well last couple of days I was so looking forward to watching this new podcast I'm sad I missed watching you kati but I'm glad I can still watch it another day I'm looking forward to listening and watching this tomorrow i also missed my notification hello also everyone here 🙂👍
Ugh I've been replaying the part about not owing your parents anything. I really needed to hear that thank you 💗😭🤯😳 31:50 ish
So wonderful, thank you for doing this. I enjoy your videos and am able to use some of the suggestions and tools.
Every time someone ask "is it normal" the answer is " yes, it is". Is there anything not normal even exists?)
50:00 i revoke my question
Always love to get a notification for this channel
OMAIGOOOOD!!! You don't like jeans? I live and breathe in jeans! And I always pictured you as a jeans and T-shirt type of girl. Interesting :) I absolutely love your podcast! Every question, every time. Thank you for everything.
Hello. Not sure if this will be helpful but the last term we had to do a mental health unit for HPE and we got told about numerous mental health websites/online counselling platforms. Here are some of the ones that I think are international:
- R U OK?
- Beyond blue
- Black Dog Institute
- Headspace
- LifeLine
Love your videos by the way
Burke Williams is that awesome spa in Santa Monica. I used to go there often when I lived in LA.
Hey Kati, I'm loving your podcast! So so helpful, and I def look forward to listening all week! I was wondering if you could talk about medical trauma and how to cope if it is still ongoing? Maybe in the podcast or on your main channel? I have been dealing with cancer and PTSD since I was 10, and I'm now 17 and it came back again right after quarantine started
Yes, and sexual abuse by doctors. Dealing with a history of this right now. I think it happens too often. I was 10. Another time I was 30 and he said nobody would believe me because I was "mentally ill" as he handed me his home phone number, and even so, with his arrogance, he was right. I was so intimidated, I knew he was right. And it was only severe depression. I'm 65 now and just dealing with this kind of abuse. Always feeling it was my fault because I didn't say something. Hard stuff esp on top of other abuse. I was a sitting duck for medical abuse I think.
Thank you so much for evreything Kati
Your awesome
Thank you so much for the time stamps
Too old for bffs? Never! 👯♀️
Easy puzzles really have helped me from spiraling thoughts. Things like: easy dot to dot, simple word search, and sudoku PLUS many more
While listening to the answers on the first question, I had to go back at least 4 times to double check what she said 😅
Today I forgot my bag with all my documents and bank cards in a public toilet, and I was heading to an appointment where I was supposed to give the documents 😂
@the fun question :p
Dungarees! ...my fav fav fav.....especially going through airports (not that I will be anytime soon lmao) but you just stick your passport in the front pocket so easy peasy hahah...and like you can dress them up with a pretty blouse or something underneath or be casualll and chill...ugh i love them.💗
Shay Delano YES SHAY MY FAV
@@kayleighdittemore8352 Right??? Will literally never be convinced otherwise 😂
50:32 Your honor, I believe the questioner is leading the witness (Kati)
Thanks for the timestamps
Is it possible to do a video on toxic positivity? The subject fascinated me.
Every since I started journaling I have been able to learn more about my emotions and meditation also is helpful!
Katie have you or can you address incest and the effects it can cause?
And the many definitions. Does it have to be a family member. How about family generational abuse. My mom's uncle a (my great uncle) abused me, my mom, my aunt, who else since it's been kept a family secret. When I finally told my mom when I was 40, she said he did the same to her as a child. She repressed it. He was related by marriage only. What about his own now adult children? My sisters, cousins? Secrets.
@@AmethystWoman My two-step sisters were sexually abused by my brother as well as myself. I was also sexually abused by a cousin. My family doesn't talk about it. When I was in the 5th grade I actually abused a family member that was younger. I would like to learn more about incest. Even though I have been a walking example of traumas.
Open Path Collective also has discount therapy for people who are underinsured/financially struggling!!
Is there a specific time that you allow questions? Because I keep missing them. I tried the notification bell, but I don't think it lets me know when you post on the community tab.
I'm having a hard time trying to keep my self worth because a friend said some very invalidating things about my character despite going to therapy for years and trying to be my best self. I wanted to ask a question related to that, but I can never seem to catch the AKA time slots.
Yeah, by the time I got notified, it was way too late to get mine picked. I wonder why some people get early notice. Are they patreons who get notified early? That would be good for the rest of us to know. There are people in LA-ish without AC? Really surprises me.
Thanks for your advices. Super👍
Just wanted to share about my thoughts on question number 2. Death is what makes life purposeful because it makes us think what is really important things that we want to do or should do. By the way big hug for you and condolence
I learned sooo much from this!
I would love to see a video on toxic positivity!!!
You're funny, I like your bubbly hyperness. I'm like that too. Thanks for the video - I love watching these.
I have a question(could you answer in the replies of this comment please), how do I know if I’m a scape goat(sorry if I spelled this wrong or if this has already been answered)? So I used to self harm(c*tting) and I’m a few months clean, and one of the main reasons I was self harming was because of my parents(my mother mainly). i think I’ve turning to eating mostly and I hate that I’ve done that. it’s just a cycle that goes from me binge eating to me hating myself and then starving myself just to gain it back. I’ve also started scratching myself until I ripped my skin open and then I just peel off the scabs until I literally can’t peel it off anymore. I don’t know what to do anymore. I wanna vent to my friends but whenever I do I worry them and I don’t wanna make them worry or have to be sad about me or make them take time out of their day to think about me when they could be doing and thinking about things that they like. I’ve lost interest in almost everything that I love. I love anime and reading manga and baking and being around my friends but I can’t do it anymore. I just lay in bed and watch the same UA-cam videos over and over and over again. Please answer or just give me advice, anything would be helpful.
Kati Morton I like that red top with the Mighty written on it I also use that website and app your hair looks nice too thanks for continuing to being these helpful podcast 🙂❤
Funny story.....
So I’m in IOP for my eating disorder and my friend and I were at Walmart (she also has an eating disorder) and we were trying to find a snack and it took us an hour to find something bc we were calorie counting and all this shit and the next week I talked to my therapist about this and she got so mad because what we ended up buying was these mini gummy bears bc you could have 30 for 100 calories and she was so mad bc she was like “THATS SO DISORDERED IT DOSEN’T MEET UR MEAL PLAN!!” It was just so funny because I’ve never seen her get so mad about something 😂😂😂😂
Speaking of positivity. I'm low on money, but going to have a job soon (finally). And because of that I had to quit smoking. I just knew, that if I will continue I'm not gonna make it money wise. So...I actually fell better, more fresh. But I don't yet know what to fill the emptiness with, what to do in breaks and idk why but I'm little more numb and lazy. Maybe it's high blood pressure. I think it's 2 weeks now.
I love you swearing, Kati 😁👍
And your podcast! Greetings from Berlin 🙋
When do the episodes come out on spotify? I can’t wait to listen
It's all set! Check it out here: open.spotify.com/episode/2uXED7G1fFzFcETR1NMnko?si=Pj6ZFrj0TgeiGLp_WG2QWw
Hi
I am a little confused. Is it in here where you post your questions? I am not sure where else I can post my question. Thanks so much !
Journaling should be a 4 letter word 😅
Im not great at writing everyday but its actually really helpful
Check out Internal Family Systems (IFS) for trauma treatment if you haven’t already! 🤓
32:30 what is the 'aces'? score you mentioned? 🙏🏼
#AKA
What should I do to deal with emotion like anxious, insecure?
Isn't it mandatory for a therapists to have their own therapist (observer/supervisor maybe? i remember it from some movie where therapist had ofice in his house, and also had a lot of his own problems. interesting move, don't remember its name though)
Maybe, it makes sense, seeing as mental health professionals carry alot with them concerning their patients
Super helpful as always!!! 🥰 And yes, I caught "the dreaded J word" 🤣😂😐😘
S M. Hello how are you hows things nice you are here on kati s podcast again I have to watch it tomorrow I missed it live today forgot it was Thursday iv been kinda spaced and not well hope your good catch you another time 🙂
@@nikkimckay860 doing good, hope you are? You will enjoy this one for sure... Who am i kidding? They all are good 😉
What does your T-shirt said?
I have dyspraxia (similar to autism) i self harm but I use a chewing necklace n
Kati on I pads and other devices you can’t see community posts so would you be open to the idea of pulling questions from the comments sorry if this is annoying
Really?!?!? I had no idea!! I see it on my phone.. do you have the UA-cam app on your phone? That's how I post them there :) xoxox
And you are not annoying at all.. it's good for me to know :) xoxo
Q 4 PERFECT
For anyone wanting to visit 7 Cups, here’s a link ❤️ www.7cups.com/11213420
I’ve personally been a listener there for 5+ years now, and I still love it. There are some tips and tricks I know of how to find a potentially good listener immediately. If you have any apprehensions or questions regarding the site, I’m here and open to answering ❤️ (won’t let you know my username there though haha)
It's 107 degrees here in India! :D
I wish I would be hugged.
I am confused. Can anyone help me understand why Kati Morton channel is abandoned and why these videos are mixing with OTDM podcast videos? I really am Katis fan when it comes to these videos, but podcast.. it's just not for me. But I can not follow just one of them. since they are on same channel.
Kati posts her normal videos on mondays, something happened with youtube this week, and she's having trouble publishing her latest video.
I think it's healthy for youtubers to offer varied content, which I think is what she and Sean are trying to do.
The podcasts are way less formal, and that clicks for some viewers.
Hi Kati, I signed up and paid for your journaling club and need assistance- I sent an email and didn’t get a reply so I haven’t been able to participate pls let me know how to get assistance
Hey Ladybug, sorry to hear there is a problem. I can take a look... You can email otdmpod@gmail.com and I'll see it.
OpinionsThatDontMatter alright thank you
@@askkatianything Hi Kati, I wasn't sure where you ask the questions so I hope this goes through but my question is How have you been feeling this week? It has been a difficult couple of months and I was wondering if you was feeling any better inside.
Recommended read for trauma research: SuperNormal by Meg Jay
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8/10 aces score isn’t too bad right?
30:00 But your parents gave you life. And you are enjoying it... unless you aren't. But if you didn't return it back to timeless cascades of disruptions, abruptions and other fascinating things, i guess in any case you rather probably owe something to your parents. Sort of. Well, it seems so.
Just a thought were flying by, leaving a nice sparkling trail. Look how beautiful it is!.. I'm just tired, please don't mind.
I once had a therapist tell me it's their job to love you unconditionally. It's not yours to love them back. We can also love a person without liking them. I love my parents, just because I do - earned or not! - but in real life, I would not have chosen them as friends although they have many who only know the side they choose to show.
@@AmethystWoman job to love unconditionally. that sounds interesting)
i don't think it's what their job is supposed to be, and nobody have to love anyone. unless you are in North Korea.
38:48 It's a Privilege not a Right
Hi, I have a desperate question! Any advice on having a healthy and at least a semi normal sex life with my Aspergers husband?? So, very desperate! Help!