i’m a boy and i have experienced the same thing. i was at 9th grade, when one of my uncle did the same thing to me and i felt really uncomfortable and insecure about myself. next day, i told to my mom about this and she was like so mad at me. telling that i shouldn’t walk like a girl, that’s why i’m getting attacked. and what made me feel so upset is that my mom said that she was embarrassed to have a son like me. if you’re a guy or girl and experienced these, it’s not your problem. i’m giving y’all love and strength. you’re not alone ❤️
please youre the strongest guy ive ever seen, please acknowledge that not only females experience this and i feel so sorry for them, i hope we can respect each others in the future
The fact I started crying at the “no matter what the circumstance no matter how long it’s been happening it’s never to late to stop it.” I was abused and witnessed abuse by and from my father when I was still just a baby up to about 12 (I’m 13 now , don’t know how long this will go on for..) I don’t live with or visit him anymore and I never really opened up to anyone about it.. But , after being recently diagnosed with autism by this kind doctor who also listens to others with similar stories like mine and having a strong feeling that I can trust her…I might tell her what’s happened in my childhood. Wish me luck
I was abused since my childhood from my stepfather and i never have told anyone before. Luckily my mom is getting divorced- Are you doing alright though?
I was sexually abused by my uncle and I told my family, my aunt wanted nothing to do with me and I wasn't allowed to see my cousins. My family didn't support me. About 5 years later I found out he was doing it to my sister. Now my parents finally wanna listen to me and now there is so much going on and I feel so alone.
Thank you for sharing. I know there will be times you will feel alone, just know that Jesus is close to the broken hearted. You’re not alone 💕 Your story will be used to help/save others. I’ll be praying for you ❤️
i was sexually abused by my uncle as well, and he had done it to his own kids before me (his wife found out and they divorced and he went to jail, when he got out i had never met him before and thats when the abuse started). i was never brave enough to tell my parents. i live in a different state now and never have to see him, but i still wish i could tell someone what happened. i just want you to know that you aren’t alone, and that you are so strong and so brave for hanging on through all of this. if you need any support, i know the RAINN textline is really good. i just wanted to briefly share my story so you would know that you aren’t alone. im so proud of you for being able to speak up about your experiences, and i really _really_ hope that you can heal in the future. i believe in you, im proud of you, you can do this. please hang in there.
I mean this is a serious and important channel but unrelated, the art style for these cartoons is really pretty and fluid? Its just very visually appealing idk
Thank you, everyone for the best of wishes! Unfortunately, the birth was not what I expected, but baby and I are doing amazing! He is now 3 months old!
When i told my mom how grandpa touched me, she was the one to break down because he did it to her as well and she thought that he would draw the line at his grandkids. I cant wait to see his funeral.
I can't wait to see his funeral too after all he has done to you, you people deserve so much better, You guys are so strong, I could never be like you guys who goed thrue such a harsh time and Im sorry, I wish I was your friend or I wish I could've helped you. Hope you're doing atleast a bit better. Im such a scaredy cat that If a stranger ask me my name I wouldn't tell them my real name or just run away as fast as possible- Like faster then nezukos run
you will never recover from anything unless you do something about it he may die but what he did to you will stay in your mind forever. I think it is never too late to stand up for yourself and take action about it .
It’s soo heartbreaking having to scroll down and see others stories of how they got sexually abused. 😭 To all those people, I hope you are doing alright. Remember to stand up for yourself and tell a trusted adult!! 🧡
This was hard to watch. This happened to me when I was just a child with a older cousin. He wanted to rape me but I got away and said something right away. My family brushed it off like nothing, and during holidays I was expected to pretend like it didn't happen. I forgave my cousin and actually feel sorry for him. Everyone shut him off because he got into drugs and steals and doesn't really have a home. But he made his own bed. Now he has to live with it.
Same one of my friends now my ex friend, got on top of me while I was in my room then I pushed him off and said "what tf are u doing?" I'm traumatized to this day
I feel your pain❤️ exactly my story as well this holiday season was tough I had so much time to think about due to the pandemic and it made it all worse. This is the last Christmas I pretend it's all fine with me.. He still lives with this mom at 30, never had a girlfriend and is miserable I do feel that the universe does look out for people. That you reap what you sow. Doesn't make it better on the bad days but the regular ones it does help a little bit to know he's not winning at life :)
I'm with you on this...it happened 17yrs ago with me ex stepdad and for the longest time I couldn't tell anyone especially my mom, they knew each other "platonically" from high school and that just made it more difficult to say anything. I didn't understand any of this and was creeped out, he even paid me to keep quiet...it's been dealt with and I NEVER have to see the bastard again but It didn't just traumatize me mentally, I'm so physically traumatized the very thought of getting touched intimately/non-intimately terrifies me to this very day!
I work for a domestic violence agency and these videos have been very helpful to show clients. If you could make more videos about witnessing domestic violence I would greatly appreciate it.
Same! That's why I don't dress up when visiting them. Tbh I only dress up when im out with my friends. I don't even dress up for school. I just always feel self conscious about the way adults especially males in my family making the compliments. I mostly wear jeans and t-shirts. It's easy to wear and it's minimal. Thanks for letting me share. Edit: I also would like to add even if i don't dress up, I don't get why I can't be pretty as well in casual clothing. Its like when we girl/woman bare our skin to the world is when it is most accepted, via the male audience. Sometimes I wonder if the rare ones only like girls for whom they are no matter how we look just liking us for us.
this NEEDS to be shown in schools. as someone who is a survivor of sexual harassment, i feel like this video would have helped me see it more easily edit: ok can people please stop taking pity on me? i already said im over it-
my brother sexually abused me multiple times when i was 7-9 years old. i didn't wanna tell my mother because my aunts ex boyfriend did the same thing to me around the same age. when i told my mom she just brushed it off. she told me to "hide behind the shed" whenever he visited our garden. the things that my brother did to me still plague me to this day as he visits us every other day of the week. i have to hear his voice and look at his face and it's hurting me. i'm lucky to have friends that distract me with phone calls and texts whenever he's around. i really love and cherish them
I understand you. I was sexually abused by my older brother as well when I was 10 and it lasted until I was 12. He would treat it as a "game between siblings". I was always afraid of speaking up because he would tell me that if I said something he would do something to me as if what he was doing was not bad enough. I called him out when I was 12 (he was 16) and that is when he "apologized" but it never healed. When I was 15, my cousin (who was 21 at the time) started to do things to me and touched forcibly and I would cry every night wondering if what I had been thru was not enough. I could not speak because we all lived in a big house together and I did not want to make things harder than it was for my parents, so I pretended that it never happened. To this day, I currently live with my brother and parents. My mom now knows the whole story IN DETAIL about my cousin and my brother and said it was a "teenage phase". She made me feel that I was an experiment to them since I was the only young female of that house. Never told my dad because he has a very severe heart condition and I don't want to make him feel my misery since he is the only person who has shown me genuine parental love. It gets to you, when people you think are supposed to support you do these nasty things to you, creating a double standard that if they were complete strangers, they would not hesitate to put them behind bars, but since its family they do not do justice. I promised myself I would hold them accountable.
@@emogirl-qm9jv You thought and did the right thing. Remember that family is kind of a pact between people (an ancient one, sure). You are not isolated in this micro system (unless physically so). There is always someone out there who is able to help you, if you feel like you need an extra hand to break free.
I’ve been told so many times it wasn’t sexual abuse because it was my mom doing it and not my dad. Women can also be sexual abusers, I don’t know why people can’t understand that. The point is I was a child and she was an adult. End of story.
Yes it goes for all of us I was a child myself and my uncle was the adult but he still hurt me anyway and I've blamed myself for years for what happened and the worst part is that no one in my family knows about it and I don't think I'll ever have the courage to tell them
And men who got abused probably aren't in the mental state to say it online they know if they say it to the public noone would believe them so they just suicide.... this also explains the high suicide rate of men all over the world
The fact that the uncle was a well dressed man that seems kind and respectful was even more accurate. Sexual assault doesn’t have to be from the crackhead on the street or the obese and hairy 40 year old man who catcalls random teens. It can be from people who you care about and trust and love you and it doesn’t have to be hardcore penetration or ripping your clothes off and pushing you against the wall. It can be as simple as touching you in strange ways or saying/asking weird things from you and you might not know or even somewhat enjoy it until way later when you realize that it wasn’t normal and that you were taken advantage of.
@@mia-yf8pz Then you talk to someone you can trust about it, because even though the thought of telling someone may seem scary at first it's going to lead you to a better life.
They hit the nail on the head here. The way they depict the predators - with friendly, lovable faces is very accurate. You can’t always tell when someone is grooming you, because to you they always start off as a companion.
I leterally love this channel, it teaches me everything about abuse. I'm a 6th grader, so I'm really young, and this channel teaches me how to protect myself from abuse. Thanks.
When she started crying I did too, I hate how people in positions of power (pastors, bosses, elder family members, etc.) can take advantage of people and get away with terrible things because they offer good things. Thank you guys for this
The worst part is even if you tell, they sweep it under the rug and pretend everything's fine (I didn't mean to discourage any victims I was just sharing my experience with this)
tbh its really hard to believe that someone like your uncle would do such a thing but American parents... smh if these were my parents and this happened to me I swear to god they wouldn't stop until my uncle was in jail
Family... is tough. My experience wasn't like this. My parents were loving figures (mostly) in my life... until I turned 18. Then they decided that they would rather bury me (literally) than support me in any way. They forced me out in the cold to die... alone. Family should be there for you... support you... and be healthy influences in your life. They should never be destructive... Sharing stories like this video does is vital to helping prevent further trauma and abuse as well as save lives.... because scars don't always heal... and those of us who fail them burn and ache every morning when we wake... Sometimes we don't survive until lunchtime...
Ah, family can be both a sword and a shield. It cuts deep when it wields pain instead of support. But remember, a warrior's strength often comes from forging new bonds. The scars tell your story, but they don’t define your destiny. Rise and let those who share your fight become your true family.
i told my mom about me being touched inappropriately when i was a kid for years. i don’t remember most of what happened but i had flashbacks and visuals of someone pulling my private area since i was about seven years old. it’s like i could physically feel it happen to me. i felt like no one believed me. my mom told i had to get over it and that it “probably happened in a past life” (yea she actually said that). i’m doing a lot better now and reading these comments made me start crying. no one deserves any type of abuse and to anyone who’s reading this, you’re strong and you matter and you’ll get through this
oh yeah I get that feeling. it's like your brain remembers where and how that sensations feels on the skin it's weird. so sorry that happened to you, hope you're doing well
The “he talked about sex a lot” really fucked with me. There was this guy I was talking to very briefly, for a day to be exact, but it all went too far too fast. I was 13 he was 16. We were in an online game. We started talking because I really liked his voice and he started complimenting me. But it escalated to him randomly sounding….. aroused by random stuff I’d say. He’d say I was “mature for my age” yknow, classic predator stuff. We exchanged discords so we could talk better and we went to play more games together but it kept getting more and more uncomfortable. He starting talking about morning wood and other sexual stuff. He was implying he had very sexual feelings towards me and I thought I felt the same. What I actually liked was the attention. I liked being noticed by someone for once in my life. He made me feel special. But then we finally went to sleep after talking from 11 pm to 7 am and once he woke up we started messaging on discord and then he started to beg for me to reveal my face. I said I didn’t want to a ton of times but then I finally sent him a half picture of my face. He disappeared for about 30 minutes doing god knows what but then he came back and said he would send me pictures of him so I would fully reveal my face. He sent multiple pictures of his face and that’s when all the uncomfortableness fully hit me. He was…… really ugly. I realized none of this was ok or what I wanted. I told him that my mom said I wasn’t allowed to exchange discords with people (which was half true) and blocked him. It took me a while to realize what was happening. I was 13 and he was 16……… I knew that if I saw someone else in the same situation that it would be gross. But I just wanted validation. I was just a lonely kid looking for someone who cared but it didn’t go how I wanted it to. I haven’t told my parents. I was stupid and naive and I blame myself. I feel like deep down I know I’m the victim but even deeper down I still feel like it’s my fault. I don’t know. I’m shaking writing this. This is the most I’ve ever said about that situation.
And your siblings probably trust you to stay quiet when they climb into your bed at night, as you give yourself up so they don't fight you down and make it take longer.
@@goldensunflower6761 yeah a proper respective brother will always love you and will give thier life for you (don't get the wrong idea of this, I just wanted to point out how should a bond between siblings be)
For me it is bullying and sexual abuse. And knowing that my step dad wants to keep the sexual abuse under wraps from the world. So what Happened me and my family went overseas to visit my step dad's family. It was fun, we went to the beach and went to a little carnival there. I was probably around 9 or 12 at the time if my memory serves me right. Some months later my mom and step dad left me at a friend's house. The lady that they left me with was supposed to stay to watch me but she left someplace and left me alone with my step dad's brother. His name is Ali. I was laying with my arms behind my head relaxing by a couch and watched TV. He sat next to me and that's when he started to touch my breasts. He even went as far as to put his hand under my shirt and would squeeze my nipples. I was so scared that I pretended that I was asleep. I felt so sick and shaky during this. After some time he stopped and his brother came to pick me up. I was so scared the whole drive back to my step dad's mom's place which was where me and my family were temporarily staying untill we found another place to stay. I didn't tell anyone what had happened because I felt like I had no rights and that I thought nobody would believe me. The sexual abuse didn't end there unfortunately. He would get in my face and kiss me on the lips. He even did it while I was standing behind my mom while she was on the computer. I wanted so bad to tell her what happened but I couldn't. On the last day when me and my family were at the airport my mom left me sitting next to him and when she was gone he forced me to kiss him. He grabbed my head and did it. When my mom came back from wherever he quickly pushed my head down to make it look like I was resting my head down on his lap. My mom asked if I needed to go to the restroom with her and I said yes. As we were there I told her what happened. She made me kiss her lips the same way he did to me. I felt so sick. We left and went to catch the plane and while we did that she gave him a look and left. My step dad wasn't with us during our second trip so it was only me my mom and two little brothers and that monster abusing me.
I've had similar experiences with both my uncle on my moms side, and my grandpa on my dad's side. With my grandpa it was a slow build up over the years after my grandma died. I was young and chalked it up to he was lonely, and needed a friend. He'd kiss me on the lips and I'd tell him I didn't like it, he'd promise he'd stop and then the next time he saw me he'd do it again. I thought he just didn't remember since he was old. I didn't want anyone to get in trouble, because my dad was really close to his dad, and I didn't want my 'wrong' feelings to get in the way of that. Plus I was scared that since I'd let it go on for so long my parents would get mad at me for not saying anything sooner. The thing with my uncle was a lot shorter, only lasting a few days, but it was worse. He came to visit us. Me and my siblings shared a room with him and he and I slept in the same bed since it was the biggest. He'd wait until my siblings were asleep and then tell me to do things that I didn't even know what they meant at the time. I wasn't even brave enough to tell my parents myself. He tried doing something and I made up the excuse that i had to go to the bathroom. My mom and dad were still awake and I guess something about me was off because my mom followed me to the bathroom to ask what was wrong. I told her everything, she hugged me and calmed me down, and then brought me to tell my dad. My uncle came out to see what was taking me so long and my parents confronted him about it. He said I was lying and to this day denise it ever happened. I'm not sure what happened after that but he was gone the next morning. I'm just glad I was their only target. My sister recently told me that our grandpa tried to do the same to her, but she's way stronger and more assertive than I am
A well written and animated short film that deals with a sensitive subject in a clear and understandable way, this should be shown in every secondary school! 🙏
When i was little the nearby church leader (if you know what Mormonism is... he was the bishop) would babysit me because he had all the trust in the world from that neighborhood. He penetrated me at 5. Definitely be cautious of babysitters. They may be someone who you literally believe is gods helper
im 14 and im well educated its really hard to belive that someone like my uncle would do such a thing... in my country this is just not a common thing and its really rare for such a thing to happen but American parents smh if these were my parents and this happened to me I swear to god they wouldn't stop until my uncle was in jail
I was sexually abused by my biological father. he and my mom divorced when I was about five or so, but he used to touch me in inappropriate ways and would lock me up in a closet for hours if I ever did something to annoy him. I was only a small child so ofc I didn't know any better, didn't know that was wrong and couldn't ask for help. for all I know, he was like this for much longer and I can't even remember it. I finally broke my silence when I was around 13, not long after one of my best friends took his own life. everything just kind of broke out of me at that time, I ended up in a mental hospital where I was able to be diagnosed with depression and PTSD. I received the help I needed, I know I would've killed myself that day hadn't my school counselor called the police to Baker Act me. now I'm 18 years old, turning 19 this year, an out transman and am about to start college. I'm majoring in psychology to hopefully help others the way I've been helped. I sincerely hope that anyone out there who may be going through anything similar to what I've been through, those who have been hurt by a family member or groomed over the internet (don't trust people on discord, found out the hard way as a kid that love doesn't equal nudes), may be able to find their own peace. just know that help is out there and you are not alone
I was sexually assaulted multiple times by multiple people since from when I can remember 3 years old, up until I was 14. i just turned 20. everyday is confusing numb pain. Im sorry you went through all that and im glad you got help, and good luck with your college stuff :))
@@glocksantana853 I am really touched by your comment and I feel your pain Last year October I felt abandoned broken and an outcast and had no one to turn to but in that moment of desperation was when I decided to open up the bible app on my phone and I started to read the book of proverbs I started to feel remorseful and realised that the life I was living was an attempt to feel true love and happiness but that was something that always didn’t feel right and that was because I didn’t know God our creator and was constantly trying to fill a void only he can fill because that’s how we are all created. And so when I had nowhere and no one to turn to the ONLY person there for me was Jesus and he said I love you and I’ve been waiting for you to come and at that moment I felt this peace in my heart and I was overwhelmed with the love of God and now 9 months down the line I’ve been loving Jesus ever since and he’s always been watching over me listening to me and answering my prayers. And after reading your comment I can see me of Last year who all I needed was to come to Jesus again wholeheartedly just as I am and accept his love he’s always knocking but he waits for us to answer first. And he doesn’t condemn or judge us of our sins or wrong doings but instead gives us his Holy Spirit which will strengthen and help us to do what is right in God’s sight and the best part is God is ENOUGH. He is more than any woman/ man/ friend could ever be although having a woman/ man/ friend is nice but trust me once you have God everything else will fall in place. Jesus loves you he died so that your sins can be forgiven and if you believe in him you will have eternal life there is hope beyond death I hope you have a blessed day😇
Oh, my goodness! I'm so sorry! I don't agree with you decision on being trans but I think I see why you decided to do so. Such action from him is utterly condemned by the Scripture and if it were up to me, I'd have your biological father, castrated and forced to eat his own genitalia.
I don't know how society will judge because being a boy , society pictures you as a abuser not a victim. But , Back in few years - I was sexually abused by one of my female friend that I haven't share with the world. I JUST WANT TO FORGET THOSE HORRIFYING MEMORIES BUT they are not letting me do so.
I have a couple male friends who were also abused and deal with the same problem. You are not alone, and there are people who will listen and take you seriously. Best of luck to you stranger
I feel you. When I told my mom my cousin used to touch me and my sister inappropriately I was told don't tell dad he already hates my family. When I told her about her friend who grabbed my crotch as an adult, I was told don't tell dad it would ruin their friendship. When I told her about her brother making me uncomfortable by wanting to take underwear pics of me on my wedding day and when he grabbed me by my waist and tried to force me to kiss him on the lips ( to this day) she makes excuses for his behavior. When I was raped my sister told me I was not because he did not use violence or threats he used manipulation. The so called friend who set us up didn't believe me and did not want to get involved. I always say, the assault was nothing compared to the betrayal of your so called loved ones. 😢
@BigbigSmall-xn1bj I did. He was pissed at her. But later on in life I realized my father is an emotional abuser and gaslighter along with the rest of the family. I no longer speak to them.
I was abused by my own biological father at the age of 12. It took me roughly two years to work up enough courage to tell my mother about the abuse because I didn't know how to express what was happening to me.
Hate to admit it but happened with my biological brother...that's how I knew what sex and this stuff was actually. I got the courage to tell my mom after like...3 yrs?
I was abused by my moms boyfriend at 12 for almost a year. When I told her she did nothing besides tell me to just stay away from him.. it wasn’t until I told friends at school that the police got involved. He was sentenced to 16 years and my mom was charged with failure to report a crime which is basically a slap on the wrist for her.
Hey im so sorry about what happened to you. I hope you can fully heal and keep on helping others with your story. I want to recommend you reading eckhart tolle’s book. “The power of now”, the bible and the tao te king to heal both mentally and spiritually. Apart from that please take care of your brain by healthy diet and training so that you can handle your emotions better. Read about nutrition for the brain and try to be the best versión of yourself from now on by helping yourself and helping those around you. God bless.
my cousin would talk about sex, puberty and sexual things. i would always feel uncomfortable until he would ask me to show him my body. saying its "normal" and no one will know. But everytime he asks me that, I would always tell him no. he keeps asking but I would never accept his request. everyday when we would meet, id pretend everything is fine,but in the inside I feel so uncomfortable around him
If those kind of things make you uncomfortable, tell him or tell an adult. Tell your parents, grandparents, uncle or aunt about it. Your cousin sounds very immature for saying "its normal" and "its fine don't worry about" and stuff like that if it makes you uncomfortable talking about it. Don't feel like you have no one to talk to because you do.
Please get help, please. You know that you are uncomfortable. You gotta talk to a responsible adult to set things up. You have to do the best thing for yourself.
My older brother is exactly like this minus the gifts. But he doesn't know boundaries and has called me "a wh0r3" and has compared me to a 🌽⭐ and he was always WAY WAY too touchie even if i told him to stop. He gave me the wlw S3X talk at like 9. He has to come over for thanksgiving this year. Thank you so much for helping me realize it was actually wrong and I wasn't just too dramatic. Keep the good work up please because you are helping MORE THAN YOU KNOW.
This is relatable for me 😢 I can understand you but mine is younger cousin like 6 months younger than me . I am 16 so yeah he is like this 😢 I hate meeting him at the family gathering etc
I wish people would talk about not only the fact that some of us get sexually abused and have to go through therapy for it, but some of us get sexually assaulted and we actually orgasm because physically I guess our body likes it, but mentally we are hating it. My psychiatrist said this actually does happen but for some reason it's just making things even harder for me to move on and I can't even like have a serious relationship because it just messes me up so much. But nobody ever talks about that part of the abuse because I think it adds to the torment later on.
this is so true. And to make things worse, a cousin sexually assaulted me. An elder brother. It torments me everyday and i just wanna be able to tell my parents soon
@RF I'm working on it. It's just that my mum will be really sad and i really dont want to see her like that. It's also really hard to tell them because mentally, we really want to tell them but when we go forward to do it, I just am not able to. I am doing a bit better now, thanks to these videos and my assaulter not being around anymore. Thanks for taking the time to ask. I really appreciate it.
@@gayathrimasadi2371 Do you live with family? I wanted to ask, not to invade, but because if family shares your space or is very close by, it affects the situation and makes it feel harder to tell.
Before anyone comments anything rapey or stupid, just don’t. And yeah. Saying people like it because physically their body is reacting to it as it does, is like saying someone likes stress because your forcing them to smile at gunpoint.
I told my mother and she doesn't take me seriously and gets mad when I'm "too dramatic". Luckily I'm in my twenties, and can take measures myself. It just sucks to feel so invalidated.
Disown your mom. If she cares about you she'll know she was wrong. Usually people who say stuff like that are just ignorant and need to be educated or atleast taught a lesson. If she doesn't care about losing her daughter she never cared in the first place.
@@Randomela Well u need to prove to the court that you living with your parents is actually hurting your welfare. Saying this off my memory though could be wrong
I was also abused by my brother. I was probably around 5-7 years old when it first started happening and it didn’t stop until I was 10. I’m 23 and I just told my mom. She said her brother did it to her too. I really don’t know how to feel but it feels good to have gotten it off my chest.
I remember being a kid and being so paranoid. I felt like nearly every adult had a nefarious secret. I didn’t know I was autistic, but I knew that if an adult made me uncomfortable, “do something.” But unfortunately for me, just about everything felt uncomfortable. I didn’t understand social cues so when other adults tried to talk to me like normal kids I was either deemed an “old soul” or obstinate. And physical touch was really overwhelming for me, so even though adults thought I hated hugs from family at the holidays because I thought it was “cool” to not like “mushy stuff,” it physically made me want to scream and shout, like I was being waterboarded. And that’s part of why disabled kids are so often targets of that sort of abuse, people overstep their boundaries since the day they are born, no one listens to their discomforts anymore. I was lucky I was never touched by a family member that way (that I know of), but I spent much of my youth feeling violated and uncomfortable when my grandparents would insist I sit in their laps, or aunts give me a big wet kiss on the mouth, or even when I had to lock myself in the bathroom and cry because there were too many sounds, and adults would get mad at me for being rude when I had no idea what was going on. Teach children in your family what healthy boundaries among family members looks like, so that they know they can go to you if something ever happens.
@@radhamadhavdasi-y1z Yeah, it’s not fun. I’m lucky in that I had a pretty expansive vocabulary from a young age so I could communicate my feelings, but not every kid has such a luxury.
I was a very smart child. The first time I met my uncle, was at my grandpas funeral. most of my family members were there, I didn't cry tho. The first time I met him there at the church for the burial, I just had that gut feeling that he was no good, he had that aura, and back then I was like 6-8 years old. I KNEW my uncle was no good, at the burial outside of the church, we had to wait outside, I stood in the shadows of the trees, when he came up to me, all he said was hello and greeted me, and then suddenly started touching my back and hips, I walked away from him and to my dad and parents, to feel safer, cause even TODAY im still scared of him. Once last year 2020 my parents invitited him for christmas dinner, and during the dining, he was often staring at me, and when I'd look, he'd look away. And when we had to say goodbye, he hugged me, and kept touching me. Last time I saw him, AINT NEVER GONNA SEE HIM AGAIN. My gut feeling was valid, that man did not mean good.
Lol, now imagine if this was all just some paranoid chick who had a prejudice against him. Oh no, he hugged you, he made eye contact, how dare he. At least make it convincing and use more detail.
@@kylevernon oH nO hE hUgGeD yOu, OH IM SORRY I FEEL HUMAN EMOTIONS AND FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. HERES MORE DETAIL, our family does not evem think about inviting him for dinner, because one, he does drugs, second, he steals stuff.
@@bread2083 Thank you for more detail, it really helps set the scene. The only actions you brought up was that he greeted you and consoled you by touching your shoulder and hip. The next time he made eye contact and gave you a goodbye hug. That in itself does not sound bad whatsoever, so you must understand it sounds weird when you're so creeped out by minimal actions. So some shady guy who you never really met before and all that you knew is that he was an "uncle", when in reality he's little more than a stranger from your perspective which makes sense why your child brain would be somewhat scared. In the end, it's best to stay away from addicts and thiefs. You made the right choice.
Yeah usually you get abused by your own family members. My uncle did the same to me....sometimes I remember the stuff he did and I am like yo hold up that was predatory behaviour. Now he is not allowed to talk to me, look at me, breath near the same vicinity as me.
I was abused by my uncle when I was 11 as well.. I escaped and told my family.. they told me to shut up.. I was silence.. and hated the warmth of being touched for 14 years.. then I began to fall apart.
My sister abused me for a year... When I grew up I told my mom but she said, " maybe I misunderstood because how can a girl can abuse another girl." she also asked me to hide it cuz nobody likes a abused person.
gender doesn't matter... girls are human beings and can abuse other people if they are not good at heart. your trauma is valid. What happened to you was not your fault.
Related to the "hide" part... That's not true. You need to speak with a trusted person about it, and if they really care about you in a good way, they will accept and support you regardless of your past. So, take courage!
My mom went through the same thing as me and felt bad because she was so careful to put me around only people she trusted. My cousin was one of the few people I could actually spend the night over with and she. Man I felt so bad for years around girls it makes me cry. I always got to be strong. I try to protect my other cousins and second cousin from evil. Kids deserve to be protected. And I guard them.
To all the people who were sexually abused: Im sooooo sorry this happened to you and you are all in my prayers. You didn't deserve this horrible treatment. God bless! ❤
Thank you so much that made me so happy! 💗 I was sexually abused twice by my 2 younger and older cousins I had selective mutism after they touched me and other stuff but I told my mom about it. but thanks 😊💗💗
It's okay, it makes me really special since barely anyone believes it was actually sexual abuse someone on my level would have to get it but still they'd be less special than me even if they get it. Only one person I know is more special than me. Anyway, I was sexually abused by my step-brother at the age of 6(I have a lot of early childhood trauma) and my brother watched and did nothing
If they get in trouble for what they did, then it's their fault, not yours for speaking up. A lot of abusers make their victims feel guilty with gaslighting and emotional manipulation to get them to keep quiet or "go with it" and make them feel worse for "letting it happen". You didn't. They did, and part of what they did was use you being a better person to make you feel guilty for something that is not your fault. If they face consequences, then that's on them, not you.
You know, I'm worried that way too, just like you. I mean...he slipped the comments, but strangely...do I relate? I don't even want to think about it, I'm getting paranoid and terrified of imagining it in the future.... I mean, I don't even remember half of my life, of course I didn't live it. But still...
The incest part can be ignored by people who do this, and can even be a factor of their "attraction". There's also the factor of if the abusee has an obligation to their family, which helps the abuser keep what they've been doing secret.
as someone who’s been abused...they usually ignore the fact that it’s incest. they just want to use your body, it’s not even about you. it’s only for your body and their pleasure. that’s why they befriend you first. it’s a type of grooming method, they want your trust.
In my school, teachers always say ''treat your fellow classmates like your siblings''. It was always directed at boys so now i understand what it really meant.
@@agenthitlerfbi3056 do you doubt teachers trying to teach kids like that? Ive gone to a good school and i’ve seen some shit. One of my teachers used to work at a juvie. They know what goes on and they want to prevent it in the future; most teachers anyways.
I am 26 years old, I recently confessed to my mother that my older brother used to touch me when I was around 6 years old. But apparently he didn't believe me, and today, life is still normal in the family. Someday I hope to get a good job and get away from all these people.
It sounds like my situation but it was with the whole family like uncles and grandparents etc... After I told them about what happened they kinda just pushed it under the rug and we've never spoken about it again. They're still in contact with her and pretend everything is okay. This was 4 years ago and I was 14 at the time...
@@q4m00r, I'm sorry that you're going through this. You have to tell someone that you trust or a counselor at school. Before you tell anyone try and record it on a cell phone if u can, or a least voice recorder on your phone then they will believe you. Even if it's a sibling tell on them, this is not cool. I got your back.
If you're not in school, get a job that you can travel for and relocate, you don't owe anyone anything. Just be safe and take care of yourself. I believe you still can tell the authorities, you might not be his only victim, who cares if they are gonna say mean things after that, they don't care about you now... I'm sorry you are going through this.....
“When I realized my relationship with my uncle wasn’t normal I thought it was too late” explained it all for me I was the same way but it’s never to late to speak up
Stories like this. The abuse. It hurts so much. The family should be protecting. Not what happens in things like this. I am so sorry for everyone who has been abused
I just realised I've been repressing 24 years of sexual abuse and even though I was reading about it and it seemed right... I couldn't believe myself because I was always told I was making up stories. Just read that 1 in 3 girls in my country experiences it before 16. I am so disappointed in our fucking system. Orwell was right.
im 14 and im well educated its really hard to belive that someone like my uncle would do such a thing... in my country this is just not a common thing and its really rare for such a thing to happen but American parents smh if these were my parents and this happened to me I swear to god they wouldn't stop until my uncle was in jail
For victims of abuse, like me, I want you to know this If it was "just" a grope, feeling abused is valid. If it was someone of the same gender as you, you are valid. If it was someone of your opposite gender, you are valid. If you are a boy, you are valid. If you are a girl, you are valid. If you're from the trans umbrella, you are valid. If you are intersexual, you are valid. If it was someone younger than you, you are valid. If it was a family member, you are valid. If it was a friend, you are valid. If you were both children, you are valid. If you didn't defend yourself or put up a fight, you are valid. If it was someone you have a bad relationship with, you are valid. If it happened a long time ago, you still have the right to feel bad. YOU ARE VALID, no matter what. It doesn't matter if it was something "small", it doesn't matter your gender, it doesn't matter when, where or who it was. You are valid and you have the right to feel the way you feel, you have the right to ask for help, to feel bad, to speak, to feel safe, AND IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
I don't know if I deserve to feel abused though. My mother used to grope my ass for long periods of time for years. I remember telling her off, but she said it was okay cause she was my mum. She also used to pull my pants down randomly to check if I was wearing underwear as I sometimes neglected that. I remember it felt so fucking humiliating. I remember trying to pull away, but she held on. But I wasn't penetrated, and it's not like she meant it sexually.
Thanks for encouraging me to tell my parents Edit: Update for everyone! I did tell my parents and I’m a bit better now, I guess Thank u all for ur support☺️
I'm fortunate enough to have never experienced sexual abuse from family (or ever), but it really sucks that many people here aren't so lucky. I really hope you guys get the healing you may need and that whoever you decide to speak to about it listens and believes you, it's _never_ your fault and you are _never_ alone ♥
@@unknownvibesofshru I'm sorry to hear that...your abusers will get what's coming to them in due time. In the meantime I hope you're doing much better now ♥
I was sexually abused by my own sister, when I was just 4 years Old till I was in the 6th grade, I didn’t know what she was doing was wrong till I wanted her to stop, I told my mom about what she had done to me and she told me that it was my fault and that I bet “I liked it” and I felt so numb like I was nothing to her, and basically gave no punishment to my sister because she was the favorite. I to this day feel like I am worthless, I tried to end my life many times but could never actually die, my mom is a neglectful person and she always tries to be the victim of everything. Now every time we talk it always ends up in an argument, I am saving up to move this year.
Sexual abuse is so wrong, especially when it’s a family member Edit: thanks for 462 likes. I hope more people can come forward with sexual abuse before it hurts them even more
Yeah. It’s much worse when it’s someone extremely close and a family member. And if it happens at a young age you really don’t know what’s happening since it’s something new. My dad would buy me toys when I was young and then ask what it’s worth and I wouldn’t know. And I would follow along because he was my dad and I was supposed to trust him and love him. I didn’t know any better. Hell, it’s happened multiple times. Later on he bribed me into letting him touch if I really wanted something. I was so lucky my mum believed me and since I’m much older and mature, I’m fine now. Personally it’s so difficult when you’re an only child and you aren’t connected with many family members since you don’t know who to tell. But it’s always worth to attempt talking about it to someone.
This hits in a similar yet different way for me. I was sexually abused by my stepfather when I was 11 almost 12. It started with things like touches, then he started showing me porn, then he made me partake in sexual activities. I'm out of that situation now, but I still remember it. And I remember the impact it had on me. Videos that raise awareness of this kinda stuff like this gave me the courage to speak up about what was happening because up until that point I didn't know that what was happening to me was wrong. I knew I didn't like it, but I didn't entirely know why until the realization came to me. Edit: Thank you all for the kind comments. :)
My mom was abused by her uncle and she told her mom and her mom didn’t believe her. Now, my uncle sometimes makes me uncomfortable and the way he handles my nieces is off so I told her and she was like nah hes your uncle that’s different 😀😀
That’s what I’m scared of, even though my mom would probably break down and hug me. There’s always a thought in the back of my head that maybe she won’t believe me and that’s why I still haven’t told anyone about my uncle touching me.
Ya my sister was actually touched by idk someone my family knows and I remember when I was smaller or before I knew it he would always be around him and now I’m just like .... wow I wish I been knew this
sadly, it's always the people who are awesome and fun, that are the ones to be the abuser. they use it to lure you in. anyways, this channel's content is one of the best channels i've seen that have covered this topic in a way that isn't too light or heavy. you can learn a lot from these stories, even aside from the main topic of abuse. this is great content, they should definitely show this channel to more schools.
Ah, the thing about this is that as a child, when you say the word no, for some reason, people think you don't mean it. As for getting out of the situation, your a child, weak compared to an adult. No, I wasn't r@ped or anything, but I was touched inappropriately and groped on the daily for a full 6 months. Haven't told a soul. While it doesn't happen anymore, I have developed quite a severe case of haphephobia because of it.
Hello does anyone know how to help a friend who has a dad who is physicly abusing her I want to help idont know how im trying to comment this everwhere i can.
@@lotuspiper1124 please tell somebody in school like a teacher or one of your close relatives about this. also if those don't work, try local hotlines in your area or see a social worker in your area/school.
This is so great and important! Love it! They need to show this stuff on TV and in schools, seriously! Can you guys make videos on emotional/psychological child abuse? That's what I survived, and I think it's just as important, if not more!
I had to take breaks between watching this because got my flashbacks were awful... I want to dedicate myself to healing from it all. I want to be happy
I was abused by one of my family friend when I was hardly 10 and my mom brushed it off. Even to this date it is a pain in my heart and she doesn't even give a damn about it.
Please listen to me Tell Jesus what you feel. As a friend whom you can't see. He will never brush it off....never!!! He will do justice , whoever treated you that way will one day regret. Don't worry. God is with you always and He loves you. You can talk to Him whenever you want
@@jacealpha7413 thanks sister for the kind words. You're absolutely right and I will follow duly follow your advice...god bless you and family with the best...
Im still a kid and already been a victim. I was 10 years old when i was sa by my uncle . He was 17 that time. I was confused , mad , sad ... All of my emotions combine. Since that night, i felt really dirty., i feel like im doing something wrong, i feel like i did something. I was scared, so scared.ive never been too quiet and dazzed out before the situations happens. I cry every night thinking what makes me feels this way. Even after that night, im scared of men, im scared to lay down infront of people without covering my parts . I tell my mom , my family and someone i trusts.. even after telling them, i don't feel correct nor happy .
i’m a boy and i have experienced the same thing. i was at 9th grade, when one of my uncle did the same thing to me and i felt really uncomfortable and insecure about myself. next day, i told to my mom about this and she was like so mad at me. telling that i shouldn’t walk like a girl, that’s why i’m getting attacked. and what made me feel so upset is that my mom said that she was embarrassed to have a son like me.
if you’re a guy or girl and experienced these, it’s not your problem. i’m giving y’all love and strength. you’re not alone ❤️
Same I also experienced it
I'm sorry.
@@masterchief4842 huh
🤍🤍🤍 I hope you are doing well ☺️
please youre the strongest guy ive ever seen, please acknowledge that not only females experience this and i feel so sorry for them, i hope we can respect each others in the future
“Remember kids, if someone touches you somewhere or someway that makes you uncomfortable, that’s no good!”
-Sonic
Sonic is great.
I REMEMBER THAT
When did he say this?? 😯
@@spaghetto9836 in Sonic Says
Sonic, PREACH
The fact that he said “ your no fun “ made me so MAD. He knows what he’s doing .
Everyone's always aware of what they're doing.
Why else do you think we loathe people like them?
@@goofybutserious4807 can you even see? They said 'he KNOWS what he's doin'
@@leeknowsnose You mean HEAR?
I HATE it when people play on your feelings... Like REALLY? Take a look in the mirror!!
@@goofybutserious4807 he basically had this statement in his msg tbh....
I'm a kid, and I'm glad I've found videos like this. I want to stay safe. Thank you, whoever created this channel.
we still have hope guys
Me too
Same I feel safe with this Chanel
Same
Agreed
I like how the Mom noticed by her tone that something was up. Respect.
Oh my god I think I recognize your pfp
Is it the "am I handsome" Monster from Sweet Home?
@@goofybutserious4807 it is! Keen eyes you got there!
@@Endmysuffering3162 :D
Do I lOoK gOoD?
but i ? no
my mom don't care all about me
Once she said, “I didn’t want to get him in trouble,” I started crying. That hit close to home.
right
I'm so sorry
Same, sometimes I want revenge and for people to not be nice with him, but sometimes I don’t want to ruin my parents perspective of him.
I understand that
same
It doesn't have to be an adult, it could be a sibling cousin, or peer.
Mine was a cousin
Kush Kouture same
Ain't that the truth?
Mine was my dog
Exactly
The fact I started crying at the
“no matter what the
circumstance no matter how long it’s been happening it’s never to late to stop it.”
I was abused and witnessed abuse by and from my father when I was still just a baby up to about 12 (I’m 13 now , don’t know how long this will go on for..)
I don’t live with or visit him anymore and I never really opened up to anyone about it..
But , after being recently diagnosed with autism by this kind doctor who also listens to others with similar stories like mine and having a strong feeling that I can trust her…I might tell her what’s happened in my childhood.
Wish me luck
wishing u good luck🙏🙏 hope ur doing better now and ur taking the right action by finding an adult you could trust
I wish you all the luck in the world!!! ♥️ No one deserves to be in a situation like that!
I was abused since my childhood from my stepfather and i never have told anyone before. Luckily my mom is getting divorced-
Are you doing alright though?
:0 I have autism too :)
Please do! She should be able to help! I'm so sorry that happened to you, but I wish you the best of luck!
I was sexually abused by my uncle and I told my family, my aunt wanted nothing to do with me and I wasn't allowed to see my cousins. My family didn't support me. About 5 years later I found out he was doing it to my sister. Now my parents finally wanna listen to me and now there is so much going on and I feel so alone.
Thank you for sharing. I know there will be times you will feel alone, just know that Jesus is close to the broken hearted. You’re not alone 💕 Your story will be used to help/save others.
I’ll be praying for you ❤️
Im so so so srry you went through that. You did the right thing tho
i was sexually abused by my uncle as well, and he had done it to his own kids before me (his wife found out and they divorced and he went to jail, when he got out i had never met him before and thats when the abuse started). i was never brave enough to tell my parents. i live in a different state now and never have to see him, but i still wish i could tell someone what happened. i just want you to know that you aren’t alone, and that you are so strong and so brave for hanging on through all of this. if you need any support, i know the RAINN textline is really good. i just wanted to briefly share my story so you would know that you aren’t alone. im so proud of you for being able to speak up about your experiences, and i really _really_ hope that you can heal in the future. i believe in you, im proud of you, you can do this. please hang in there.
You said the same thing here : ua-cam.com/video/c3L0iKqCaC0/v-deo.html
I hope that things will get better for you, you're being really strong right now.
Sexual abuse is NEVER the victim’s fault. It is never, EVER your fault for being abused.
Yes it can be victims fault
Stop victim blaming stfu I know these people who replied didn't know how painful and traumatizing it is to be abused
the comments under this are sick y'all stinky weirdos
me when backlash because hilarity ensues
I didn’t fucking stutter. It is NEVER the victim’s fault.
I mean this is a serious and important channel but unrelated, the art style for these cartoons is really pretty and fluid? Its just very visually appealing idk
I think it actually helps. I mean, if it is visually atractive then people stay to listen
Yeah, I love the animation and the voice acting is also good too.
Its meant to be for children, so a cartoonish type of video might be more familiar
YES! I watched another video of theirs and watched this right after it because i loved the art
I agree.
I’m pregnant with my first baby, definitely showing him these videos when he’s of age
you are going to be a good mom!
you’re gonna be a great mum as the first reply said :]
Hope your doing well
Hopefully it all goes well!
Thank you, everyone for the best of wishes! Unfortunately, the birth was not what I expected, but baby and I are doing amazing! He is now 3 months old!
When i told my mom how grandpa touched me, she was the one to break down because he did it to her as well and she thought that he would draw the line at his grandkids. I cant wait to see his funeral.
Iam so sorry that happened to you 😢 😔 😞 💔
I can't wait to see his funeral too after all he has done to you, you people deserve so much better,
You guys are so strong, I could never be like you guys who goed thrue such a harsh time and Im sorry, I wish I was your friend or I wish I could've helped you.
Hope you're doing atleast a bit better. Im such a scaredy cat that If a stranger ask me my name I wouldn't tell them my real name or just run away as fast as possible-
Like faster then nezukos run
you will never recover from anything unless you do something about it he may die but what he did to you will stay in your mind forever. I think it is never too late to stand up for yourself and take action about it .
A lot of us r waiting for certain peoples funerals so we can be the ones smiling
Funerals are fun. My grandmother almost burned the house to ashes, that was satanic picture.
I LOVE HOW WHEN SHE REALIZED, SHE TOOK OFF THE GREEN BRACELET.
Ikr
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It’s soo heartbreaking having to scroll down and see others stories of how they got sexually abused. 😭
To all those people, I hope you are doing alright. Remember to stand up for yourself and tell a trusted adult!! 🧡
*:(*
Omg pls you're so cute 😭💕💕
Yes u are true..
Yess my body n mind feels so ugly to know about this type of story 💔💔😫😫😥
Thank you so much💗
I am so so sorry for anyone that has to go through this kind of stuff. Just remember that it's never your fault.
Whe I told about my dad abusing me I was medicated for being “sick”
That just mess up.
I was baker acted and told it was all in my head. Nobody believes it when it’s a family member. I hope you’re doing well.
WT ACTUAL F?
woah, thats not fair!
That is
This was hard to watch. This happened to me when I was just a child with a older cousin. He wanted to rape me but I got away and said something right away. My family brushed it off like nothing, and during holidays I was expected to pretend like it didn't happen. I forgave my cousin and actually feel sorry for him. Everyone shut him off because he got into drugs and steals and doesn't really have a home. But he made his own bed. Now he has to live with it.
Same one of my friends now my ex friend, got on top of me while I was in my room then I pushed him off and said "what tf are u doing?" I'm traumatized to this day
I am so sorry for both of you I hope u all are ok
I feel your pain❤️ exactly my story as well this holiday season was tough I had so much time to think about due to the pandemic and it made it all worse. This is the last Christmas I pretend it's all fine with me.. He still lives with this mom at 30, never had a girlfriend and is miserable I do feel that the universe does look out for people. That you reap what you sow. Doesn't make it better on the bad days but the regular ones it does help a little bit to know he's not winning at life :)
I'm so sorry. I feel your pain that when your abuser is a family or relative your own family just brush it off which irks me. Sending my hugs.
I'm with you on this...it happened 17yrs ago with me ex stepdad and for the longest time I couldn't tell anyone especially my mom, they knew each other "platonically" from high school and that just made it more difficult to say anything.
I didn't understand any of this and was creeped out, he even paid me to keep quiet...it's been dealt with and I NEVER have to see the bastard again but It didn't just traumatize me mentally, I'm so physically traumatized the very thought of getting touched intimately/non-intimately terrifies me to this very day!
I work for a domestic violence agency and these videos have been very helpful to show clients. If you could make more videos about witnessing domestic violence I would greatly appreciate it.
Thnx __ me too am an Arab man ___ This is really helpful
@@1ali1996 سلام
@@deen_771 حبيبي ايهم اهلين تشرفنه صديقي ....
there are sometimes when women stay with their abusers or if they go to jail they live in fear of what will happen when their spouse gets out.
Samantha Day, you’re a great person for working there, I hope that the people you see can get better
0:51 btw NEVER put your feet up there!!! You could leave you paralyzed in a crash!!!
Just telling people
Thanks for the info! So helpful 👍🏾
Yes. Good to know.
Thanks!
literally most of the male figures in my family make me so uncomfy. i cant even wear a tank top or shorts without being uncomfortable i hate it here
So there are no other girls but you in your family?
Do you need somebody to talk to?
Same!
Same! That's why I don't dress up when visiting them. Tbh I only dress up when im out with my friends. I don't even dress up for school. I just always feel self conscious about the way adults especially males in my family making the compliments. I mostly wear jeans and t-shirts. It's easy to wear and it's minimal. Thanks for letting me share.
Edit: I also would like to add even if i don't dress up, I don't get why I can't be pretty as well in casual clothing. Its like when we girl/woman bare our skin to the world is when it is most accepted, via the male audience. Sometimes I wonder if the rare ones only like girls for whom they are no matter how we look just liking us for us.
They shouldn’t make you feel like that.
this NEEDS to be shown in schools. as someone who is a survivor of sexual harassment, i feel like this video would have helped me see it more easily
edit: ok can people please stop taking pity on me? i already said im over it-
agree, raising awareness to children would save them.
Are you ok?
@@kaylarevuelta3988 Yes, I've gotten professional help with the situation and I'm getting over it. ^^
@@neighbrly ok good
@@neighbrly don't hesitate to connect if you need someone to talk to
"He talked about sex a lot and my body."
*ALARM SOUNDS*🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
@@moranoaldre wtf are u serious
@@moranoaldre oop- found the uncle 💀💀🚨🚨🚨
@@bungacow9241 what did he say?
@@bungacow9241 what did they say in the first place?? 🤔
@@tyciydf.7e397 They said the uncle could be talking about having a "healthy" body, which you can say without mentioning se* 😒
As someone who never been treated nice, I feel better now, thanks therapist
my brother sexually abused me multiple times when i was 7-9 years old. i didn't wanna tell my mother because my aunts ex boyfriend did the same thing to me around the same age. when i told my mom she just brushed it off. she told me to "hide behind the shed" whenever he visited our garden. the things that my brother did to me still plague me to this day as he visits us every other day of the week. i have to hear his voice and look at his face and it's hurting me. i'm lucky to have friends that distract me with phone calls and texts whenever he's around. i really love and cherish them
I really hope ur okay, please stay safe love you.
Omg 🙊 im so sorry for you 😭😭😭 get better soon 🖤❤🖤
I understand you. I was sexually abused by my older brother as well when I was 10 and it lasted until I was 12. He would treat it as a "game between siblings". I was always afraid of speaking up because he would tell me that if I said something he would do something to me as if what he was doing was not bad enough. I called him out when I was 12 (he was 16) and that is when he "apologized" but it never healed. When I was 15, my cousin (who was 21 at the time) started to do things to me and touched forcibly and I would cry every night wondering if what I had been thru was not enough. I could not speak because we all lived in a big house together and I did not want to make things harder than it was for my parents, so I pretended that it never happened. To this day, I currently live with my brother and parents. My mom now knows the whole story IN DETAIL about my cousin and my brother and said it was a "teenage phase". She made me feel that I was an experiment to them since I was the only young female of that house. Never told my dad because he has a very severe heart condition and I don't want to make him feel my misery since he is the only person who has shown me genuine parental love. It gets to you, when people you think are supposed to support you do these nasty things to you, creating a double standard that if they were complete strangers, they would not hesitate to put them behind bars, but since its family they do not do justice. I promised myself I would hold them accountable.
@@emogirl-qm9jv You thought and did the right thing. Remember that family is kind of a pact between people (an ancient one, sure). You are not isolated in this micro system (unless physically so). There is always someone out there who is able to help you, if you feel like you need an extra hand to break free.
Call the police
I’ve been told so many times it wasn’t sexual abuse because it was my mom doing it and not my dad. Women can also be sexual abusers, I don’t know why people can’t understand that. The point is I was a child and she was an adult. End of story.
Fuckin preach, man. Abuse is abuse. The gender doesn’t matter. Damage has been done
I know abuse can be made by anyone, but your mom? That's a whole new level. I am sorry you had to go through that. God bless you.
I am so sorry. You are so brave for telling this. I hope you get help and healed. Sending love❤
Yes it goes for all of us I was a child myself and my uncle was the adult but he still hurt me anyway and I've blamed myself for years for what happened and the worst part is that no one in my family knows about it and I don't think I'll ever have the courage to tell them
And men who got abused probably aren't in the mental state to say it online they know if they say it to the public noone would believe them so they just suicide.... this also explains the high suicide rate of men all over the world
The fact that the uncle was a well dressed man that seems kind and respectful was even more accurate. Sexual assault doesn’t have to be from the crackhead on the street or the obese and hairy 40 year old man who catcalls random teens. It can be from people who you care about and trust and love you and it doesn’t have to be hardcore penetration or ripping your clothes off and pushing you against the wall. It can be as simple as touching you in strange ways or saying/asking weird things from you and you might not know or even somewhat enjoy it until way later when you realize that it wasn’t normal and that you were taken advantage of.
Especially if this "well dressed man" helped you and your family.
And you trust him with your life
To be fair, Steve also falls under the stereotypical rapist
Older White middle aged man, 5 O’clock shadow, graying at the sides, an uncle
@The Padded Cell you know the situation is real, right?
Exactly, the same happened with me.
Damn, that's insane, man.
a strict parent is better than a creepy relative.
Def
not when ur parents are abusing u having sex in front of u
what if your strict parent is the creep
@@mia-yf8pz Then you talk to someone you can trust about it, because even though the thought of telling someone may seem scary at first it's going to lead you to a better life.
@@mia-yf8pz 911
“Age is just a number”
*ah jeez. HERE WE GO AGIAN*
So is a jail sentence
A prison cell is just a room.
Actually, age is a word
So is 911
Just as a life sentence is just a word.
They hit the nail on the head here. The way they depict the predators - with friendly, lovable faces is very accurate. You can’t always tell when someone is grooming you, because to you they always start off as a companion.
When she wanted to speak to her mother but started crying instead, i felt that. I do that too lol
a few months ago..I also tolld my mom.......
I told my mom on this tuesday ...this week
I cried and she cried she gave me a hug
@@purplelemons6277 same here 🙂 being a girl is fuckin uncool
@@armiuaena8534 It is cool. We just have to trust our instincts. Are you okay?
@@eeinahyena1092 please tell her ♥️
I leterally love this channel, it teaches me everything about abuse. I'm a 6th grader, so I'm really young, and this channel teaches me how to protect myself from abuse. Thanks.
When he said "a cute girl with curves", I said "bruh"
Sexual abuse is such a bruh moment right
@@sprite5048 right.
SAME I- 😭✋
ALL GIRLS ARE CUTE
NOT ONLY GIRLS WITH CURVES
@@OMELOTTIE *ye*
When she started crying I did too, I hate how people in positions of power (pastors, bosses, elder family members, etc.) can take advantage of people and get away with terrible things because they offer good things. Thank you guys for this
The worst part is even if you tell, they sweep it under the rug and pretend everything's fine
(I didn't mean to discourage any victims I was just sharing my experience with this)
I can relate to this.....
tbh its really hard to believe that someone like your uncle would do such a thing but American parents... smh if these were my parents and this happened to me I swear to god they wouldn't stop until my uncle was in jail
@@ahmadmujtabawazir4814 wasn't an uncle for me, a disabled cousin
@@Sassynbluntaf disabled??
@@ahmadmujtabawazir4814 physically
Family... is tough.
My experience wasn't like this. My parents were loving figures (mostly) in my life... until I turned 18.
Then they decided that they would rather bury me (literally) than support me in any way. They forced me out in the cold to die... alone.
Family should be there for you... support you... and be healthy influences in your life.
They should never be destructive...
Sharing stories like this video does is vital to helping prevent further trauma and abuse as well as save lives.... because scars don't always heal... and those of us who fail them burn and ache every morning when we wake...
Sometimes we don't survive until lunchtime...
Ah, family can be both a sword and a shield. It cuts deep when it wields pain instead of support. But remember, a warrior's strength often comes from forging new bonds. The scars tell your story, but they don’t define your destiny. Rise and let those who share your fight become your true family.
This channel is better than that stupid channel over there which generate stupid story and moral message.
It is My Story Animated. I subbed to it.
I think they meant about truestory, actually happened ete where the stories are basically wrong and redicluos
@@kieranstark7213 they usually exaggerate stories. This is much more realistic.
@@noorehab8273 Oh yeah. THAT channel
He’s talking about ACTUALLY HAPPENED
i told my mom about me being touched inappropriately when i was a kid for years. i don’t remember most of what happened but i had flashbacks and visuals of someone pulling my private area since i was about seven years old. it’s like i could physically feel it happen to me. i felt like no one believed me. my mom told i had to get over it and that it “probably happened in a past life” (yea she actually said that). i’m doing a lot better now and reading these comments made me start crying. no one deserves any type of abuse and to anyone who’s reading this, you’re strong and you matter and you’ll get through this
oh yeah I get that feeling. it's like your brain remembers where and how that sensations feels on the skin it's weird. so sorry that happened to you, hope you're doing well
@@Mendoxs_ same time you!! you’re very strong
R u good now??
@no
I feel you that happend to me too :( and my mom did not care it hurts more
@@AG-et6qp yea i get it i’m sorry that happened to you
"You're not fun"
No, I'm just not comfortable with you.
Love your profile photo!
@@brisjapenseboyfriendyaoi4869 Thanks!♡
I'm guessing it's BTS!
*Anneyong ARMY* *Stay gold, stay strong.*
@@brisjapenseboyfriendyaoi4869 that's nct
The “he talked about sex a lot” really fucked with me. There was this guy I was talking to very briefly, for a day to be exact, but it all went too far too fast. I was 13 he was 16. We were in an online game. We started talking because I really liked his voice and he started complimenting me. But it escalated to him randomly sounding….. aroused by random stuff I’d say. He’d say I was “mature for my age” yknow, classic predator stuff. We exchanged discords so we could talk better and we went to play more games together but it kept getting more and more uncomfortable. He starting talking about morning wood and other sexual stuff. He was implying he had very sexual feelings towards me and I thought I felt the same. What I actually liked was the attention. I liked being noticed by someone for once in my life. He made me feel special. But then we finally went to sleep after talking from 11 pm to 7 am and once he woke up we started messaging on discord and then he started to beg for me to reveal my face. I said I didn’t want to a ton of times but then I finally sent him a half picture of my face. He disappeared for about 30 minutes doing god knows what but then he came back and said he would send me pictures of him so I would fully reveal my face. He sent multiple pictures of his face and that’s when all the uncomfortableness fully hit me. He was…… really ugly. I realized none of this was ok or what I wanted. I told him that my mom said I wasn’t allowed to exchange discords with people (which was half true) and blocked him. It took me a while to realize what was happening. I was 13 and he was 16……… I knew that if I saw someone else in the same situation that it would be gross. But I just wanted validation. I was just a lonely kid looking for someone who cared but it didn’t go how I wanted it to. I haven’t told my parents. I was stupid and naive and I blame myself. I feel like deep down I know I’m the victim but even deeper down I still feel like it’s my fault. I don’t know. I’m shaking writing this. This is the most I’ve ever said about that situation.
Hey, you were just a kid. It's not your fault
Aw it's not your fault at all! It's that guys fault, who is the one who made you uncomfortable, and tried that stuff with you. Don't blamde yourself
Wait, if he was pretty what would you do?
@@fabricio-245 I probably would have stayed with him for a little while and it would have been so much worse :(
The only family member I trust are my parents and siblings
And your siblings probably trust you to stay quiet when they climb into your bed at night, as you give yourself up so they don't fight you down and make it take longer.
@@MrCODEmaster00 excuse me, but what the fuck??
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Someone literally abused by brother
@@rukablackburn9526 ....that doesn't mean all siblings are like that okay?? stop making them paranoid. They trust them, so leave. them. alone.
@@goldensunflower6761 yeah a proper respective brother will always love you and will give thier life for you (don't get the wrong idea of this, I just wanted to point out how should a bond between siblings be)
Why doesn’t school show this instead of I s a w y o u r w i l l y?
I HATE THE I SAW YOUR WILLY VIDEO SO MUCH
Omg I saw this lmao
@@ashlynnketchum9017 ikr it's so cringe
TiMmY pOsTeD a PiCtUrE oF hIs WiLlY aND sHoWeD iT tO sAlLy sO sAd 😭😭😭😭😭😭😢😢😢😢
Remember the scene where the group of adults in the bus saw him walking by and said "I saw your Willy!"
For me it is bullying and sexual abuse. And knowing that my step dad wants to keep the sexual abuse under wraps from the world. So what Happened me and my family went overseas to visit my step dad's family. It was fun, we went to the beach and went to a little carnival there. I was probably around 9 or 12 at the time if my memory serves me right. Some months later my mom and step dad left me at a friend's house. The lady that they left me with was supposed to stay to watch me but she left someplace and left me alone with my step dad's brother. His name is Ali. I was laying with my arms behind my head relaxing by a couch and watched TV. He sat next to me and that's when he started to touch my breasts. He even went as far as to put his hand under my shirt and would squeeze my nipples. I was so scared that I pretended that I was asleep. I felt so sick and shaky during this. After some time he stopped and his brother came to pick me up. I was so scared the whole drive back to my step dad's mom's place which was where me and my family were temporarily staying untill we found another place to stay. I didn't tell anyone what had happened because I felt like I had no rights and that I thought nobody would believe me. The sexual abuse didn't end there unfortunately. He would get in my face and kiss me on the lips. He even did it while I was standing behind my mom while she was on the computer. I wanted so bad to tell her what happened but I couldn't. On the last day when me and my family were at the airport my mom left me sitting next to him and when she was gone he forced me to kiss him. He grabbed my head and did it. When my mom came back from wherever he quickly pushed my head down to make it look like I was resting my head down on his lap. My mom asked if I needed to go to the restroom with her and I said yes. As we were there I told her what happened. She made me kiss her lips the same way he did to me. I felt so sick. We left and went to catch the plane and while we did that she gave him a look and left. My step dad wasn't with us during our second trip so it was only me my mom and two little brothers and that monster abusing me.
I feel you🙁
YOU NEED MORE DAMN LIKES!!!!
its gonna happen to me, my dad keeps trying to touch my hips or my thighs.. im seriously scared.
I've had similar experiences with both my uncle on my moms side, and my grandpa on my dad's side. With my grandpa it was a slow build up over the years after my grandma died. I was young and chalked it up to he was lonely, and needed a friend. He'd kiss me on the lips and I'd tell him I didn't like it, he'd promise he'd stop and then the next time he saw me he'd do it again. I thought he just didn't remember since he was old. I didn't want anyone to get in trouble, because my dad was really close to his dad, and I didn't want my 'wrong' feelings to get in the way of that. Plus I was scared that since I'd let it go on for so long my parents would get mad at me for not saying anything sooner. The thing with my uncle was a lot shorter, only lasting a few days, but it was worse. He came to visit us. Me and my siblings shared a room with him and he and I slept in the same bed since it was the biggest. He'd wait until my siblings were asleep and then tell me to do things that I didn't even know what they meant at the time. I wasn't even brave enough to tell my parents myself. He tried doing something and I made up the excuse that i had to go to the bathroom. My mom and dad were still awake and I guess something about me was off because my mom followed me to the bathroom to ask what was wrong. I told her everything, she hugged me and calmed me down, and then brought me to tell my dad. My uncle came out to see what was taking me so long and my parents confronted him about it. He said I was lying and to this day denise it ever happened. I'm not sure what happened after that but he was gone the next morning. I'm just glad I was their only target. My sister recently told me that our grandpa tried to do the same to her, but she's way stronger and more assertive than I am
@@_faith_6958 omg such a sad story hope it doesn't happen again
A well written and animated short film that deals with a sensitive subject in a clear and understandable way, this should be shown in every secondary school! 🙏
One of my fears is leaving my child with a babysitter because I don't know much about who they really are.
Totally!!!
When i was little the nearby church leader (if you know what Mormonism is... he was the bishop) would babysit me because he had all the trust in the world from that neighborhood. He penetrated me at 5. Definitely be cautious of babysitters. They may be someone who you literally believe is gods helper
@@reaganruthie2176 I'm sorry that happened to you!
@@reaganruthie2176 I'm sorry that happened to you!
@@reaganruthie2176 I'm sorry that happened to you!
YES! She took that bracelet off by the time she’s narrating this! Cut free from that creep!
I didn’t even notice this!! Amazing!
YES!
People who abuse others don’t deserve to live
Benjamin Goodman Agree.
Lonely Guy not really, abusers don’t have feelings
Lonely Guy true they don't have to die :/
Zaria The UA-camr technically they shouldn’t deserve life tho if they keep it up
@Lonely Guy agree
2:12 “have some fun” 💀
Crazy 💀
@@3ndless_ ikr
Danggg💀
:(
Some mothers trust their husbands more than their daughter 😢
Yesss 💔
AND son
:((
They don't deserve to be called MOTHER
I wish parents could listen more of their child/children
What schools SHOULD teach:
What schools ACTUALLY teach: "If Billy had 763 apples and Nayoung had 980 lemons, what is Sofia's shoe size?"
the answer is e
@@korvexus9922 yes, how are you such a genius
im 14 and im well educated its really hard to belive that someone like my uncle would do such a thing... in my country this is just not a common thing and its really rare for such a thing to happen but American parents smh if these were my parents and this happened to me I swear to god they wouldn't stop until my uncle was in jail
@@korvexus9922 YOUR TOO SMART TO LET LIVE OH NO DON'T USE 50% OF YOUR POWER ON ME
My teacher was teaching and I said what the fuck is wrong with you
I was sexually abused by my biological father. he and my mom divorced when I was about five or so, but he used to touch me in inappropriate ways and would lock me up in a closet for hours if I ever did something to annoy him. I was only a small child so ofc I didn't know any better, didn't know that was wrong and couldn't ask for help. for all I know, he was like this for much longer and I can't even remember it. I finally broke my silence when I was around 13, not long after one of my best friends took his own life. everything just kind of broke out of me at that time, I ended up in a mental hospital where I was able to be diagnosed with depression and PTSD. I received the help I needed, I know I would've killed myself that day hadn't my school counselor called the police to Baker Act me. now I'm 18 years old, turning 19 this year, an out transman and am about to start college. I'm majoring in psychology to hopefully help others the way I've been helped. I sincerely hope that anyone out there who may be going through anything similar to what I've been through, those who have been hurt by a family member or groomed over the internet (don't trust people on discord, found out the hard way as a kid that love doesn't equal nudes), may be able to find their own peace.
just know that help is out there and you are not alone
I was sexually assaulted multiple times by multiple people since from when I can remember 3 years old, up until I was 14.
i just turned 20. everyday is confusing numb pain. Im sorry you went through all that and im glad you got help, and good luck with your college stuff :))
Reading that made me tear up
@@glocksantana853 I'm so sorry to hear that you went through this :( I genuinely hope for your happiness and wish you a successful future
@@glocksantana853 I am really touched by your comment and I feel your pain Last year October I felt abandoned broken and an outcast and had no one to turn to but in that moment of desperation was when I decided to open up the bible app on my phone and I started to read the book of proverbs I started to feel remorseful and realised that the life I was living was an attempt to feel true love and happiness but that was something that always didn’t feel right and that was because I didn’t know God our creator and was constantly trying to fill a void only he can fill because that’s how we are all created. And so when I had nowhere and no one to turn to the ONLY person there for me was Jesus and he said I love you and I’ve been waiting for you to come and at that moment I felt this peace in my heart and I was overwhelmed with the love of God and now 9 months down the line I’ve been loving Jesus ever since and he’s always been watching over me listening to me and answering my prayers. And after reading your comment I can see me of Last year who all I needed was to come to Jesus again wholeheartedly just as I am and accept his love he’s always knocking but he waits for us to answer first. And he doesn’t condemn or judge us of our sins or wrong doings but instead gives us his Holy Spirit which will strengthen and help us to do what is right in God’s sight and the best part is God is ENOUGH. He is more than any woman/ man/ friend could ever be although having a woman/ man/ friend is nice but trust me once you have God everything else will fall in place. Jesus loves you he died so that your sins can be forgiven and if you believe in him you will have eternal life there is hope beyond death I hope you have a blessed day😇
Oh, my goodness! I'm so sorry! I don't agree with you decision on being trans but I think I see why you decided to do so. Such action from him is utterly condemned by the Scripture and if it were up to me, I'd have your biological father, castrated and forced to eat his own genitalia.
I don't know how society will judge because being a boy , society pictures you as a abuser not a victim. But , Back in few years - I was sexually abused by one of my female friend that I haven't share with the world. I JUST WANT TO FORGET THOSE HORRIFYING MEMORIES BUT they are not letting me do so.
You are lucky 😂 so
@@Tarzan2006That’s disgusting to say..
Im so sorry. I'll pray for you. You didnt deserve this
@@Tarzan2006wtf is wrong with u.
I have a couple male friends who were also abused and deal with the same problem.
You are not alone, and there are people who will listen and take you seriously. Best of luck to you stranger
The worst part being abused is not the abuses itself, but the sense of "betrayal" from those who We Trust and comfort the most. 😔😔
I feel you. When I told my mom my cousin used to touch me and my sister inappropriately I was told don't tell dad he already hates my family. When I told her about her friend who grabbed my crotch as an adult, I was told don't tell dad it would ruin their friendship. When I told her about her brother making me uncomfortable by wanting to take underwear pics of me on my wedding day and when he grabbed me by my waist and tried to force me to kiss him on the lips ( to this day) she makes excuses for his behavior. When I was raped my sister told me I was not because he did not use violence or threats he used manipulation. The so called friend who set us up didn't believe me and did not want to get involved. I always say, the assault was nothing compared to the betrayal of your so called loved ones. 😢
@@Ivy-jt3qm nice
@@Ivy-jt3qmyou should’ve told your father
@BigbigSmall-xn1bj I did. He was pissed at her. But later on in life I realized my father is an emotional abuser and gaslighter along with the rest of the family. I no longer speak to them.
@@Ivy-jt3qm Damn
I was abused by my own biological father at the age of 12. It took me roughly two years to work up enough courage to tell my mother about the abuse because I didn't know how to express what was happening to me.
I'm sorry that happened to you
Hate to admit it but happened with my biological brother...that's how I knew what sex and this stuff was actually. I got the courage to tell my mom after like...3 yrs?
Horu now?
I was abused by my moms boyfriend at 12 for almost a year. When I told her she did nothing besides tell me to just stay away from him.. it wasn’t until I told friends at school that the police got involved. He was sentenced to 16 years and my mom was charged with failure to report a crime which is basically a slap on the wrist for her.
Hey im so sorry about what happened to you. I hope you can fully heal and keep on helping others with your story. I want to recommend you reading eckhart tolle’s book. “The power of now”, the bible and the tao te king to heal both mentally and spiritually. Apart from that please take care of your brain by healthy diet and training so that you can handle your emotions better. Read about nutrition for the brain and try to be the best versión of yourself from now on by helping yourself and helping those around you. God bless.
my cousin would talk about sex, puberty and sexual things. i would always feel uncomfortable until he would ask me to show him my body. saying its "normal" and no one will know. But everytime he asks me that, I would always tell him no. he keeps asking but I would never accept his request. everyday when we would meet, id pretend everything is fine,but in the inside I feel so uncomfortable around him
If it still happens please tell someone
my cousin wouldn't even get to finish the sentence i would have drop kicked him or something
If those kind of things make you uncomfortable, tell him or tell an adult. Tell your parents, grandparents, uncle or aunt about it. Your cousin sounds very immature for saying "its normal" and "its fine don't worry about" and stuff like that if it makes you uncomfortable talking about it. Don't feel like you have no one to talk to because you do.
Please get help, please. You know that you are uncomfortable. You gotta talk to a responsible adult to set things up. You have to do the best thing for yourself.
You should tell someone who you trust that's the best choice
My older brother is exactly like this minus the gifts. But he doesn't know boundaries and has called me "a wh0r3" and has compared me to a 🌽⭐ and he was always WAY WAY too touchie even if i told him to stop. He gave me the wlw S3X talk at like 9.
He has to come over for thanksgiving this year. Thank you so much for helping me realize it was actually wrong and I wasn't just too dramatic. Keep the good work up please because you are helping MORE THAN YOU KNOW.
This is relatable for me 😢 I can understand you but mine is younger cousin like 6 months younger than me . I am 16 so yeah he is like this 😢 I hate meeting him at the family gathering etc
I wish people would talk about not only the fact that some of us get sexually abused and have to go through therapy for it, but some of us get sexually assaulted and we actually orgasm because physically I guess our body likes it, but mentally we are hating it. My psychiatrist said this actually does happen but for some reason it's just making things even harder for me to move on and I can't even like have a serious relationship because it just messes me up so much. But nobody ever talks about that part of the abuse because I think it adds to the torment later on.
this is so true. And to make things worse, a cousin sexually assaulted me. An elder brother. It torments me everyday and i just wanna be able to tell my parents soon
@RF I'm working on it. It's just that my mum will be really sad and i really dont want to see her like that. It's also really hard to tell them because mentally, we really want to tell them but when we go forward to do it, I just am not able to. I am doing a bit better now, thanks to these videos and my assaulter not being around anymore. Thanks for taking the time to ask. I really appreciate it.
@@gayathrimasadi2371
Do you live with family? I wanted to ask, not to invade, but because if family shares your space or is very close by, it affects the situation and makes it feel harder to tell.
Its the same thing as “It wasn’t rape, he had an erection!”. Bodies are simply going to respond to physical stimuli regardless.
Before anyone comments anything rapey or stupid, just don’t.
And yeah. Saying people like it because physically their body is reacting to it as it does, is like saying someone likes stress because your forcing them to smile at gunpoint.
I told my mother and she doesn't take me seriously and gets mad when I'm "too dramatic". Luckily I'm in my twenties, and can take measures myself. It just sucks to feel so invalidated.
I'm so sorry she said that to you. You're not being too dramatic. Wish I could send you lots of warmth
You're not being too dramatic. We're here for you!
Disown your mom. If she cares about you she'll know she was wrong. Usually people who say stuff like that are just ignorant and need to be educated or atleast taught a lesson. If she doesn't care about losing her daughter she never cared in the first place.
@@chaosincarnate7304 how do you disown your mom? i thought only parents could disown
@@Randomela Well u need to prove to the court that you living with your parents is actually hurting your welfare. Saying this off my memory though could be wrong
so we gonna ignore the fact that he left the babies alone while he went on a drive with her
*oh shid*
somebody was going to watch them he said so i think they are not lying
@@doublenaut443 k
He said his wife got the kids. He didn’t just leave them by themselves.
@@aungsay3283 nice
Your interviews with experts add so much value to your channel. They provide unique perspectives that are hard to find elsewhere.
Sexual abuse in a family really exist. I was once abused by my brother and I'm still carrying the trauma.
Omg i feel so sorry for you it's really hard to forget something like this especially if it traumatized you :(
Sorry mhiemaaars😢
Seek counseling , help . You can go through this . Best wishes .
I was also abused by my brother. I was probably around 5-7 years old when it first started happening and it didn’t stop until I was 10. I’m 23 and I just told my mom. She said her brother did it to her too. I really don’t know how to feel but it feels good to have gotten it off my chest.
Same here
I remember being a kid and being so paranoid. I felt like nearly every adult had a nefarious secret. I didn’t know I was autistic, but I knew that if an adult made me uncomfortable, “do something.” But unfortunately for me, just about everything felt uncomfortable. I didn’t understand social cues so when other adults tried to talk to me like normal kids I was either deemed an “old soul” or obstinate. And physical touch was really overwhelming for me, so even though adults thought I hated hugs from family at the holidays because I thought it was “cool” to not like “mushy stuff,” it physically made me want to scream and shout, like I was being waterboarded. And that’s part of why disabled kids are so often targets of that sort of abuse, people overstep their boundaries since the day they are born, no one listens to their discomforts anymore.
I was lucky I was never touched by a family member that way (that I know of), but I spent much of my youth feeling violated and uncomfortable when my grandparents would insist I sit in their laps, or aunts give me a big wet kiss on the mouth, or even when I had to lock myself in the bathroom and cry because there were too many sounds, and adults would get mad at me for being rude when I had no idea what was going on. Teach children in your family what healthy boundaries among family members looks like, so that they know they can go to you if something ever happens.
That's not good 😐😕
@@radhamadhavdasi-y1z Yeah, it’s not fun. I’m lucky in that I had a pretty expansive vocabulary from a young age so I could communicate my feelings, but not every kid has such a luxury.
@@ChestersonJack ya
“The worst part of being mentally disabled is that people expect you to not be “-joker
@@minecraftjoe7009 Facts
I was a very smart child. The first time I met my uncle, was at my grandpas funeral. most of my family members were there, I didn't cry tho. The first time I met him there at the church for the burial, I just had that gut feeling that he was no good, he had that aura, and back then I was like 6-8 years old. I KNEW my uncle was no good, at the burial outside of the church, we had to wait outside, I stood in the shadows of the trees, when he came up to me, all he said was hello and greeted me, and then suddenly started touching my back and hips, I walked away from him and to my dad and parents, to feel safer, cause even TODAY im still scared of him. Once last year 2020 my parents invitited him for christmas dinner, and during the dining, he was often staring at me, and when I'd look, he'd look away. And when we had to say goodbye, he hugged me, and kept touching me. Last time I saw him, AINT NEVER GONNA SEE HIM AGAIN. My gut feeling was valid, that man did not mean good.
So sorry 😞 u went through that 😔 😢
I am so sorry for what happened but go and tell your parents and trusted ones about this you can’t hide it!!
Lol, now imagine if this was all just some paranoid chick who had a prejudice against him. Oh no, he hugged you, he made eye contact, how dare he.
At least make it convincing and use more detail.
@@kylevernon oH nO hE hUgGeD yOu, OH IM SORRY I FEEL HUMAN EMOTIONS AND FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE. HERES MORE DETAIL, our family does not evem think about inviting him for dinner, because one, he does drugs, second, he steals stuff.
@@bread2083 Thank you for more detail, it really helps set the scene. The only actions you brought up was that he greeted you and consoled you by touching your shoulder and hip. The next time he made eye contact and gave you a goodbye hug. That in itself does not sound bad whatsoever, so you must understand it sounds weird when you're so creeped out by minimal actions. So some shady guy who you never really met before and all that you knew is that he was an "uncle", when in reality he's little more than a stranger from your perspective which makes sense why your child brain would be somewhat scared. In the end, it's best to stay away from addicts and thiefs. You made the right choice.
This is such an important topic to talk about, I’m glad you guys post these videos! Hope some parents show this to their kids/teens
This is actually a cinematic masterpiece lol
666 likes bro
Sorry had to break it
The 666 likes
What the hell
I can comment
Poor girl, she TRUSTED him and felt so safe.
Yeah usually you get abused by your own family members. My uncle did the same to me....sometimes I remember the stuff he did and I am like yo hold up that was predatory behaviour. Now he is not allowed to talk to me, look at me, breath near the same vicinity as me.
@@laibajubbein8745 i'm truly sorry you had to go through that. you're such a strong person and i hope you are safe and well
I was abused by my uncle when I was 11 as well.. I escaped and told my family.. they told me to shut up.. I was silence.. and hated the warmth of being touched for 14 years.. then I began to fall apart.
I’m so sorry, I hope your better now,,
oh my gosh im atcually so sorry about that.. are you doing okay now? are you safe?
Call 911 or u can call child safety program
If it’s still happening, call the cops. Ur family r no fucking help
I'm sorry that happened to you
love this animation, doesnt feel like 4 minutes feels longer and packs a good story aswell as a message
My sister abused me for a year... When I grew up I told my mom but she said, " maybe I misunderstood because how can a girl can abuse another girl." she also asked me to hide it cuz nobody likes a abused person.
I'm sorry that happened to you
gender doesn't matter... girls are human beings and can abuse other people if they are not good at heart. your trauma is valid. What happened to you was not your fault.
Related to the "hide" part... That's not true. You need to speak with a trusted person about it, and if they really care about you in a good way, they will accept and support you regardless of your past. So, take courage!
My mom went through the same thing as me and felt bad because she was so careful to put me around only people she trusted. My cousin was one of the few people I could actually spend the night over with and she. Man I felt so bad for years around girls it makes me cry. I always got to be strong. I try to protect my other cousins and second cousin from evil. Kids deserve to be protected. And I guard them.
I feel sick in my head pray for me
To all the people who were sexually abused: Im sooooo sorry this happened to you and you are all in my prayers. You didn't deserve this horrible treatment. God bless! ❤
Thank you so much that made me so happy! 💗 I was sexually abused twice by my 2 younger and older cousins I had selective mutism after they touched me and other stuff but I told my mom about it. but thanks 😊💗💗
@@cats_are_cool_too145 Your very much welcome! 😊♥️
It's okay, it makes me really special since barely anyone believes it was actually sexual abuse someone on my level would have to get it but still they'd be less special than me even if they get it. Only one person I know is more special than me. Anyway, I was sexually abused by my step-brother at the age of 6(I have a lot of early childhood trauma) and my brother watched and did nothing
@@ExceptionalOneStandAlone ♥️
Tysm i needed it a lot😭
"I didn't want to get him in troublue, I just wanted things to get normal again" That was the strongest line in this video
This was so eye opening, thank you so much 😢❤ I always felt uncomfortable around people who touch me, so from now on I won't let it happen.😊
Damn...so many people who's gone through the same shit.
IKR 😔
It’s exactly why these videos and such need to be seen, because people don’t see it unless shown it.
The people that are supposed to make this world bright, make it a horrible place
@@alexispark3504 yep, so true :(
I'm not a victim of sexual harassment, but I wish anyone who is luck for the future, and I'm really sorry this happened. You got this!
you will be soon
@@PissJohn w-WHAT?
i like your name BANANA
@@freedomxjinx Thank you :)
@@PissJohn ...
Don’t think that getting people in trouble for *their* actions is selfish, because it sure as hell isn’t. Your safety is very important.
If they get in trouble for what they did, then it's their fault, not yours for speaking up.
A lot of abusers make their victims feel guilty with gaslighting and emotional manipulation to get them to keep quiet or "go with it" and make them feel worse for "letting it happen".
You didn't.
They did, and part of what they did was use you being a better person to make you feel guilty for something that is not your fault.
If they face consequences, then that's on them, not you.
Dude I’ve always been scared of a family member or anybody doing this to me. I’m so glad I found this video.
You know, I'm worried that way too, just like you. I mean...he slipped the comments, but strangely...do I relate? I don't even want to think about it, I'm getting paranoid and terrified of imagining it in the future....
I mean, I don't even remember half of my life, of course I didn't live it. But still...
What I never understood
Is why FAMILY AKA RELATIVES sexually abuse each other...like sexual abuse is wrong in anyway but....incest....like
The incest part can be ignored by people who do this, and can even be a factor of their "attraction". There's also the factor of if the abusee has an obligation to their family, which helps the abuser keep what they've been doing secret.
as someone who’s been abused...they usually ignore the fact that it’s incest. they just want to use your body, it’s not even about you. it’s only for your body and their pleasure. that’s why they befriend you first. it’s a type of grooming method, they want your trust.
they basically see you as a piece of meat that can be used at that point
Because it's about power and the power imbalance in family hierarchies is just something else they like to use to their favour
Because it's easier with manipulation
In my school, teachers always say ''treat your fellow classmates like your siblings''. It was always directed at boys so now i understand what it really meant.
Could you please explain what this means? I struggle to understand things easily
@@invadermaythe1st The teachers were basically saying to the boys, “don’t rape your classmates because you wouldn’t rape your sister”
@@victoriancrystal5144 bro wtf, when are you going to understand that a teacher said that to a child like that?
@@victoriancrystal5144 obviously he says it in the form of companionship man
@@agenthitlerfbi3056 do you doubt teachers trying to teach kids like that? Ive gone to a good school and i’ve seen some shit. One of my teachers used to work at a juvie. They know what goes on and they want to prevent it in the future; most teachers anyways.
I am 26 years old, I recently confessed to my mother that my older brother used to touch me when I was around 6 years old. But apparently he didn't believe me, and today, life is still normal in the family. Someday I hope to get a good job and get away from all these people.
i did too, it stopped at about 10 i think, i am 12 and i still havent told my mom, i never knew it was wrong, i felt so disgusting, and filthy.
and now he has depression, and is gonna move out when he becomes 18. i think this is karma
It sounds like my situation but it was with the whole family like uncles and grandparents etc... After I told them about what happened they kinda just pushed it under the rug and we've never spoken about it again. They're still in contact with her and pretend everything is okay. This was 4 years ago and I was 14 at the time...
@@q4m00r, I'm sorry that you're going through this. You have to tell someone that you trust or a counselor at school. Before you tell anyone try and record it on a cell phone if u can, or a least voice recorder on your phone then they will believe you. Even if it's a sibling tell on them, this is not cool. I got your back.
If you're not in school, get a job that you can travel for and relocate, you don't owe anyone anything. Just be safe and take care of yourself. I believe you still can tell the authorities, you might not be his only victim, who cares if they are gonna say mean things after that, they don't care about you now... I'm sorry you are going through this.....
“When I realized my relationship with my uncle wasn’t normal I thought it was too late” explained it all for me I was the same way but it’s never to late to speak up
0:08
bruh that’s some smooth animation
Real smooth dude no kidding
fr thooo, It looks like it’d look nice as a cartoon or something
I also appreciate the quality lol. I did a double take. x.D
IKRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
its the only part thats 60 fps while the rest is 24 fps
what happened there
If you look closely she ends up not keeping the wristband at the end
Oh yeah I just noticed by now
Stories like this. The abuse. It hurts so much. The family should be protecting. Not what happens in things like this. I am so sorry for everyone who has been abused
I just realised I've been repressing 24 years of sexual abuse and even though I was reading about it and it seemed right... I couldn't believe myself because I was always told I was making up stories. Just read that 1 in 3 girls in my country experiences it before 16. I am so disappointed in our fucking system. Orwell was right.
Me too.
im 14 and im well educated its really hard to belive that someone like my uncle would do such a thing... in my country this is just not a common thing and its really rare for such a thing to happen but American parents smh if these were my parents and this happened to me I swear to god they wouldn't stop until my uncle was in jail
which country are you from?
For victims of abuse, like me, I want you to know this
If it was "just" a grope, feeling abused is valid.
If it was someone of the same gender as you, you are valid.
If it was someone of your opposite gender, you are valid.
If you are a boy, you are valid.
If you are a girl, you are valid.
If you're from the trans umbrella, you are valid.
If you are intersexual, you are valid.
If it was someone younger than you, you are valid.
If it was a family member, you are valid.
If it was a friend, you are valid.
If you were both children, you are valid.
If you didn't defend yourself or put up a fight, you are valid.
If it was someone you have a bad relationship with, you are valid.
If it happened a long time ago, you still have the right to feel bad.
YOU ARE VALID, no matter what. It doesn't matter if it was something "small", it doesn't matter your gender, it doesn't matter when, where or who it was. You are valid and you have the right to feel the way you feel, you have the right to ask for help, to feel bad, to speak, to feel safe, AND IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT.
I don't know if I deserve to feel abused though. My mother used to grope my ass for long periods of time for years. I remember telling her off, but she said it was okay cause she was my mum. She also used to pull my pants down randomly to check if I was wearing underwear as I sometimes neglected that. I remember it felt so fucking humiliating. I remember trying to pull away, but she held on. But I wasn't penetrated, and it's not like she meant it sexually.
Thanks for encouraging me to tell my parents
Edit: Update for everyone!
I did tell my parents and I’m a bit better now, I guess
Thank u all for ur support☺️
I hope you already did it! I know it seems so difficult but it will be better. It's important to tell someone.
Hey, are you okay now? Make sure you tell them if anything is going on. They're there for you :)
Are you okay now? Just hoping that your taking everything well now
Good for you Alexis!
Hope you're beginning to heal.
I'm fortunate enough to have never experienced sexual abuse from family (or ever), but it really sucks that many people here aren't so lucky. I really hope you guys get the healing you may need and that whoever you decide to speak to about it listens and believes you, it's _never_ your fault and you are _never_ alone ♥
Yes dude but I was and it's hell trust me nd it was for 3 years
@@unknownvibesofshru I'm sorry to hear that...your abusers will get what's coming to them in due time. In the meantime I hope you're doing much better now ♥
Ur lucky
I was sexually abused by my own sister, when I was just 4 years Old till I was in the 6th grade, I didn’t know what she was doing was wrong till I wanted her to stop, I told my mom about what she had done to me and she told me that it was my fault and that I bet “I liked it” and I felt so numb like I was nothing to her, and basically gave no punishment to my sister because she was the favorite. I to this day feel like I am worthless, I tried to end my life many times but could never actually die, my mom is a neglectful person and she always tries to be the victim of everything. Now every time we talk it always ends up in an argument, I am saving up to move this year.
I sorry that happened to you i hope your are fine now.
I'm sorry you went through one time I see a girl sexually abusing a boy I got so angry, disgusted and heartbroken
Bro your not worthless you should have been heard out just remember your not worthless your the best in my book
Those people don't deserve you
You're not alone
@Scarlet web. Wth?
DA whAt ?? That sounds weird and nasty assty.
*blah*
I'm a kid and this is EXACTLY what happened with me with my uncle, im glad this video speaks out about people like this.
Sexual abuse is so wrong, especially when it’s a family member
Edit: thanks for 462 likes. I hope more people can come forward with sexual abuse before it hurts them even more
It’s wrong either way
• L i o n • true
I scream That’s a fair point-
Yeah. It’s much worse when it’s someone extremely close and a family member. And if it happens at a young age you really don’t know what’s happening since it’s something new. My dad would buy me toys when I was young and then ask what it’s worth and I wouldn’t know. And I would follow along because he was my dad and I was supposed to trust him and love him. I didn’t know any better. Hell, it’s happened multiple times. Later on he bribed me into letting him touch if I really wanted something. I was so lucky my mum believed me and since I’m much older and mature, I’m fine now. Personally it’s so difficult when you’re an only child and you aren’t connected with many family members since you don’t know who to tell. But it’s always worth to attempt talking about it to someone.
LilDonutNapper X3 omg I’m so sorry that happened to you.
This hits in a similar yet different way for me. I was sexually abused by my stepfather when I was 11 almost 12. It started with things like touches, then he started showing me porn, then he made me partake in sexual activities. I'm out of that situation now, but I still remember it. And I remember the impact it had on me. Videos that raise awareness of this kinda stuff like this gave me the courage to speak up about what was happening because up until that point I didn't know that what was happening to me was wrong. I knew I didn't like it, but I didn't entirely know why until the realization came to me.
Edit: Thank you all for the kind comments. :)
its good to know that you are our of that situation now and you are strong for talking about im sorry that ever happened to you :(
Gross, but at least you're away from him now. Plus, you now know that this is wrong
Stay Strong and do what you love gurl!
I'm so sorry that happened to you... I wish the best for you and hope you're okay now.
Jail???
My mom was abused by her uncle and she told her mom and her mom didn’t believe her. Now, my uncle sometimes makes me uncomfortable and the way he handles my nieces is off so I told her and she was like nah hes your uncle that’s different 😀😀
wow what a hypocrite smh parents should trust and listen to their kids
see if u can talk about it with someone else, and be careful around this uncle
Less harmful but my mum has the same issues. Repeating the past and expecting different results. I don't know how those ideas happen.
That’s what I’m scared of, even though my mom would probably break down and hug me. There’s always a thought in the back of my head that maybe she won’t believe me and that’s why I still haven’t told anyone about my uncle touching me.
Ya my sister was actually touched by idk someone my family knows and I remember when I was smaller or before I knew it he would always be around him and now I’m just like .... wow I wish I been knew this
Burn the whole house down.
sadly, it's always the people who are awesome and fun, that are the ones to be the abuser. they use it to lure you in.
anyways, this channel's content is one of the best channels i've seen that have covered this topic in a way that isn't too light or heavy. you can learn a lot from these stories, even aside from the main topic of abuse. this is great content, they should definitely show this channel to more schools.
"If someone touches you first say no and then get out of there" -Sonic
It's like i could hear his voice while reading this
It doesn’t matter who says it, it just needs to be spoken. Thank you sonic.
Ah, the thing about this is that as a child, when you say the word no, for some reason, people think you don't mean it. As for getting out of the situation, your a child, weak compared to an adult. No, I wasn't r@ped or anything, but I was touched inappropriately and groped on the daily for a full 6 months. Haven't told a soul. While it doesn't happen anymore, I have developed quite a severe case of haphephobia because of it.
Not when I was asleep when it happened 😭
Who's sonic?
Pros: The animation is good, it teaches you about child groomers, the voice acting is amazing, the stories sound very real.
Cons: none lol
I know a con,
This isn't being shown in schools
@@Rikken552 You're not wrong
Hello does anyone know how to help a friend who has a dad who is physicly abusing her I want to help idont know how im trying to comment this everwhere i can.
@@lotuspiper1124 please tell somebody in school like a teacher or one of your close relatives about this. also if those don't work, try local hotlines in your area or see a social worker in your area/school.
Cons - underrated, and they don't have a movie or a TV show.
I started crying, I was abused when I was 10 years old, he was my grandpa
It happened to me the same thing but when i was 9
I know how it feels , stay strong
Stay strong
What???? 😱
He *was* your grandpa, he IS your fucktoy now, I'm happy to hear he was your grandfather in past tense.l
This is so great and important! Love it! They need to show this stuff on TV and in schools, seriously! Can you guys make videos on emotional/psychological child abuse? That's what I survived, and I think it's just as important, if not more!
I had to take breaks between watching this because got my flashbacks were awful... I want to dedicate myself to healing from it all. I want to be happy
you have a right to pursue happiness and growth. i believe in you
Didn’t ask
Shrek Wonders There’s always some random edgy doofus like you here lol I’m surprised this “comeback” doesn’t get old yet.
@@piidiid7705 imagine still finding shrek memes funny
You will get there! I'm in the process too stay strong we can do this and maybe help some people one day❤️
Uncle: let’s go to the beach
Me: it’s night man just go home
Uncle: let’s go to the beach
Me: *NO SAND*
Me : stfu i don't need your stupid ass opinion Ù_Ú
😂👏
Uncle:Take milk to make you fEeL gUd!
Me:MAMA COME HERE!*Hits glass*
I dont like sand...
@@qeencrimson7060 AH LOL
I was abused by one of my family friend when I was hardly 10 and my mom brushed it off. Even to this date it is a pain in my heart and she doesn't even give a damn about it.
I'm sorry that happened to you
@@bensmith8957 thanks for the kind words, god bless you
Please listen to me
Tell Jesus what you feel. As a friend whom you can't see. He will never brush it off....never!!! He will do justice , whoever treated you that way will one day regret. Don't worry. God is with you always and He loves you. You can talk to Him whenever you want
@@jacealpha7413 thanks sister for the kind words. You're absolutely right and I will follow duly follow your advice...god bless you and family with the best...
@@chandrikachandrasekharan9025 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Im still a kid and already been a victim. I was 10 years old when i was sa by my uncle . He was 17 that time. I was confused , mad , sad ... All of my emotions combine. Since that night, i felt really dirty., i feel like im doing something wrong, i feel like i did something. I was scared, so scared.ive never been too quiet and dazzed out before the situations happens. I cry every night thinking what makes me feels this way.
Even after that night, im scared of men, im scared to lay down infront of people without covering my parts .
I tell my mom , my family and someone i trusts.. even after telling them, i don't feel correct nor happy .
Was he arrested and taken care of? If not, the police can always help. Never too late! :)