MY AUTISM BURNOUT (Autism Overload)

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  • I have been experiencing a burnout due to autism overload! www.levelupautism.net
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  • @DeborahAnnsuperversatile
    @DeborahAnnsuperversatile 3 роки тому +36

    My mom says that my "tiredness" is not an excuse. I just don't know how to explain that it is something more than just "tiredness".

    • @nextpage3535
      @nextpage3535 3 роки тому +6

      It's like being mentally and physically frozen, stuck. You can't yell at the ice, or guilt trip it, to turn it into running water. It melts when the weather allows it to melt.

    • @artistically_autistic6232
      @artistically_autistic6232 3 роки тому +5

      What’s helped my mom and I a lot especially since I struggle with verbal communication is sharing videos with her that explain it well and being able to say “that’s like me,” or “that doesn’t apply to me.” Remember it is difficult for neurotypicals to understand the same way a LOT of their behavior is difficult for us to understand.

    • @DeborahAnnsuperversatile
      @DeborahAnnsuperversatile 3 роки тому

      @@artistically_autistic6232 thank you. She and I are very different in a lot of ways, even just basic personality traits. That is a good idea, thank you lots.

    • @gonnfishy2987
      @gonnfishy2987 3 роки тому +1

      i feel you

  • @sophiecailin
    @sophiecailin 3 роки тому +29

    I loved when you reassured us, “This pool noodle is not part of my clothing.”

  • @artistically_autistic6232
    @artistically_autistic6232 3 роки тому +20

    I’m autistic. I’m highly creative and naturally gifted with that ability. Verbal language is really hard and the first thing to go when I’m close to burn out (or tired or sick or excited or the winds blowing wrong). Making art helps so much. Also my weighted blanket which I’m under right now and videos like yours because like you said, being autistic can feel lonely. It’s so frustrating to speak and communicate different and constantly be misunderstood. I’m glad people push me but I wish I could go live in a cave far away from people and just make art and music for the flowers and birds and trees. I’m told constantly people need me though and my gifts. But the world is so noisy and confusing and mean. I just want to quietly love and make art and music and joy. It’s hard being different. But my art not only helps with burnout but it helps me bring people into my world. I need so much quiet alone time and reminders like this from other autistics who get it. My friend at work decided we’re family and loves my autistic mind and has been helping me get resources including finding a local support group for autistic adults. She’s going to help me get access to it and helps advocate for me at work because she’s very experienced with disabilities. I can’t wait to be a part of the group and think it’ll help so much. Thanks for your videos Dan. I watch all of them but usually delete my comments because I get scared to communicate with strangers.

    • @kelliharding2381
      @kelliharding2381 3 роки тому +3

      Thank you for your comment I feel the same way you do and I’m here to say I’m stand with you! Sending love and understanding

    • @MarieVIIVII7
      @MarieVIIVII7 3 роки тому +1

      Don't delete your comment! It's awesome! Thank you for sharing. 😊

    • @catherinejames2734
      @catherinejames2734 Рік тому

      Wow, you’re incredibly similar to myself. I’m also highly creative and people often make a big deal about it but I really create because it’s just who I am. When I burn out or am tired, I really can’t stand to talk. It’s a huge effort to do so and I hate seeing people when I’m like that. Need lots of time away from people, the world upsets me so much. Have often thought I’d like to live far away from everything, probably another planet.

  • @rachelsaviation346
    @rachelsaviation346 3 роки тому +16

    Some people just don't know how autistic people deal with things , Its really hard to be in this world , i deal with that too 💚

  • @KittyLove93
    @KittyLove93 3 роки тому +17

    When I have a overload, I always lay in bed and watch some gamers on youtube. Only easy slow games like oxyen not included or planet zoo. My last overload took like a week. Really frustrating. My biggest problem is to know when the overload is done. I always want to start working to early and get a hole new burnout.

    • @badmamjamma
      @badmamjamma 3 роки тому +3

      Mood. 😊✌️. The undeserved guilt of a break always messes with me.

    • @KittyLove93
      @KittyLove93 3 роки тому +1

      @@badmamjamma y, know that feeling xD

  • @lucillelucille8076
    @lucillelucille8076 3 роки тому +5

    Im having overloads and shutdowns a few times a week especially if I am working I know where you're coming from. Listening to music I personally find stimulating (depending what your preferences are) regarding my nervous system helps A LOT.
    Its awesome like a massage for my my whole neurological system. Or sitting in my cupboard.

  • @rhodaleader6824
    @rhodaleader6824 3 роки тому +5

    In my home we say we can't people today and that just means that we cannot deal with people outside of our family unit,
    With 3 out of 3 of us on the spectrum in the home it can get a little crazy,
    It has been a learning curve this past year,
    My Only sibling My Big sister passed away suddenly in January and we have had this whole world pandemic and My 16yo Daughter got her diagnosis last month.
    Obviously I knew she was on the spectrum but you know it takes a lot to get a diagnosis for a female,
    It took her falling apart completely with an emotional crash to get her rushed to the front of the waiting list.
    Dan,
    Remember life does not come with a guidebook and we as human beings can only do our best each day,
    Take each day as it comes and never feel bad for needing a little processing break or rest.
    You are not alone, you have us and we will never judge you for being your authentic self.
    Much love from London and hope you start to feel better soon 🌟

  • @emishala11
    @emishala11 3 роки тому +4

    I’ve been in a burnout the last couple weeks. I think it’s because there is no end time for covid. I think I will feel better once I get back to my life routine but there’s no date for me to look forward to. I’ve been following all the quarantine rules etc. but in the US a lot of people don’t seem to care so we will be stuck inside even longer. I think it’s just really hard for me to deal with that.

  • @purplequeen8298
    @purplequeen8298 3 роки тому +6

    I feel more understood here and I’m autistic but I have high functioning autism. I want to meet people who are like me. I think differently but that’s okay. And I don’t trust everyone either. 🙅🏻‍♀️

  • @jrkeys9540
    @jrkeys9540 3 роки тому +4

    Coming up to Christmas I have so many meltdowns I can't handle the social aspect of Christmas time I was adopted so my family is not my biological family and they are so different from me so to be non-neurotypical and to be adopted is really hard. 💞

  • @NatachaWasylykVinette
    @NatachaWasylykVinette 3 роки тому +17

    How are ADHD and ASD burnouts alike?

  • @tohrurikku
    @tohrurikku 3 роки тому +7

    I was thinking of this this morning actually. If I have too many things going on at once I often times end up either having multiple panic attacks or I just shut down and end up doing nothing that I need to do. I am almost to that point again right now. It is even harder when I know someone is waiting for me and they are preparing to dig into me for being late or not done what I need to do. The OCD makes the thought cycle worse.
    The best way to help it so that I am not overwhelmed is to plan ahead so I am mentally prepared, try to figure out what is the most important thing to do at the moment and decide that who ever is waiting can wait a bit longer. I am also trying instead of thinking "I do not want to do this" trying to think "now what do I want to do and what can I do right now?"

  • @susanbeever5708
    @susanbeever5708 3 роки тому +5

    All of the things you are doing all at once is amazing! Don’t be hard on yourself, you’re running circles around most.

    • @gonnfishy2987
      @gonnfishy2987 3 роки тому +1

      i was literally like “whoa i am running out of breath and in disbelief you are actually engaging all these things” while i watched.
      this level of ability is juggling level ten when i am proud i can catch a ball i throw at a wall.

  • @Jess-lq5tw
    @Jess-lq5tw 3 роки тому +5

    You know you've made it when you have asd and have kids. I'm just trying to find one friend out here. The struggle is real

    • @thomasa5619
      @thomasa5619 3 роки тому +1

      Same, I have like 3 people I like, and I can’t visit any of them without 2 weeks government quarantine at my expense.
      Each way

  • @sunrider3238
    @sunrider3238 3 роки тому +2

    I know I’m a day late but I’m in the process of getting diagnosed of ASD and I don’t know what kind I have and it seems like mine comes with Epilepsy (yay) but what I did when I was younger for whenever I had a burnout, if I had a bad day or whatever I would go to my friends house and we would ride horses and it got us out of the house and petting something fluffy and I love horses:) it improved my mood and made me happy! I love feeling the wind on face and just being carefree for just 10-15 minutes before we got back to the barn and we’d give them treats too! And sometimes they had foals, baby horses, so we would pet and play with them if they were weaned from their mothers. But I haven’t ridden in a few years and it looks I might ride again in the form of hippotherapy if they’ll agree to it and at my friends farm once again!

  • @LauraDora124
    @LauraDora124 3 роки тому +5

    //“I’m a mess” *groans*// - the most relatable part 😂 that’s me on a daily basis

  • @ginatheaspieexplorer4632
    @ginatheaspieexplorer4632 3 роки тому +5

    I have read that in bussiness leaders have to share the responsiblities when it's too much.

  • @rhi3rhi391
    @rhi3rhi391 3 роки тому +3

    Really love your videos Dan! That’s the most important thing I think! We are not alone, even when we feel like we may be, we have such a beautiful and fantastic community that understands us. Burnouts are so hard to deal with but knowing there are many others that understand and go through the same things really help! I will have to check out your website

  • @dumbmovies6003
    @dumbmovies6003 3 роки тому +9

    hope things get better

  • @pmskyV
    @pmskyV 3 роки тому +1

    the wind was on cue for the overload , how perfect to explain with such perfect sound effects by serendipity

  • @xfortunesquex
    @xfortunesquex 3 роки тому +2

    I feel this so much lately. I have chronic illness and the healthy people in my life are being flippant about pandemic safety around me. It is super, super overwhelming. I hope things get better for you soon, especially your leg.

  • @rqween767
    @rqween767 3 роки тому +14

    I literally only have black or pink in my wardrobe lol

    • @purplequeen8298
      @purplequeen8298 3 роки тому +2

      My closet has loads of colors.

    • @gonnfishy2987
      @gonnfishy2987 3 роки тому +1

      i have a staple of two colours and black/white. i buy clothes i am comfortable in and wear them (perhaps two bottoms and four tops) for literally a decade or until they fall apart. MY COMFORT ZONE.
      ... and the grief of having to relinquish something and buy something else? there are no words... 😔

    • @mariednathaliequirion2774
      @mariednathaliequirion2774 3 роки тому

      Me too Rqween

  • @BrandyEngle
    @BrandyEngle 3 роки тому

    I feel extra tired around the holidays. I am trying to distinguish shutdown versus meltdown versus burnout. They all the sound the same. Thank you for your content.

  • @deborahhallsworth8410
    @deborahhallsworth8410 3 роки тому +1

    I’m a pharmacist and have overloads most days/weeks. Most of the time I can get home and deal but the other week the phones at work were down and then one person saying a stupid thing had me crying. Most weekends I need extra sleep. I’ve damaged my back this week so running is being put off but when I’m overloaded getting out is so hard and I need a commitment to someone to get out. The last few weeks I’ve made exercise dates with friends. I live alone and the hardest thing is needing a hug, my weighted blanket is t quite enough. I would be great full for tips to

  • @SweetiePieTweety
    @SweetiePieTweety 3 роки тому +14

    Dan, Dan, Dan... 🤣 I can so relate to the running “to do” overwhelm. Peace!

  • @GHOSTGXZ
    @GHOSTGXZ 3 роки тому +1

    Dan, I am a straight man, but I love you, because I know you want to help everyone, and I can't explain how much your videos have helped me these last few weeks. Thank You very much!

  • @thesharingtreewithshari2735
    @thesharingtreewithshari2735 3 роки тому

    I’ve been having sleeping 😴 issues too. I had knee surgery, and my father is in an nursing home and rehab center was in the hospital weak with covoid and has Parkinson’s and Altheimers and physical therapy....and you just need to deep breathe and give yourself big hug...
    I so understand my back hurts and calf and ankle . I so love what you do! I’m the same way with your mission!
    You rock!!!!! You are de bomb! You are so correct! Can’t say enough how much I’m here for you!! Blessings!

  • @SuePZZ
    @SuePZZ 3 роки тому

    All the things we do are done with such passion that it's difficult not to do them to perfection. The only way I cope with burnout is to completely drop some of the things I truly didn't need in my life, I.e. activities that were causing my anxiety to increase and were no longer making my heart sing, plus anything that annoys me in a sensory way. For example as you have done with your jeans so far Dan. And I got myself a cleaning lady because I was having meltdowns over coming home from a full time job, then spending all my time cooking and cleaning and not being able to relax.

  • @kelliharding2381
    @kelliharding2381 3 роки тому

    I too am effected by burnout a lot. What works for me is to treat yourself like an energy bank that is empty. To recharge do the things you enjoy and is soothing. I make sure I am as kind to myself as possible and I love and accept myself just as I am ... no more and no less... this is hard for me but very necessary!... I know I am super hard on myself and the best thing when Im burnt out is to be ultra kind through self talking and the allowance for me to relax and recharge... do what you like best ... or sleep.... or do your special interest ... the key is to do the things you love! Hope this helps just a little 🤗

    • @Dancestar1981
      @Dancestar1981 3 роки тому

      Also don’t let family guilt you for taking the break you need

  • @steve00alt70
    @steve00alt70 3 роки тому +1

    I just go quiet and binge watch netflix and video games for a few days or play my bass guitar when i am feeling burned out. It doesnt help that autistics feel stress more easily. I struggle to deal with too many people over here at christmas time.

  • @freshorangina
    @freshorangina 3 роки тому +1

    Meltdowns with hitting is the worst! You must have been waaaaaayyyy past your hard stop. I’m so sorry you went through that.

  • @thomasa5619
    @thomasa5619 3 роки тому +1

    Work makes me travel 8-9 days every 2 weeks and my whole “weekend” is just burnout recovery/all my bottled up stress

  • @jennyguthrie1598
    @jennyguthrie1598 3 роки тому

    Autism burnout is awful, and so exhausting! I have identified things that calm me, that I can do in 20 minutes or so to recharge. I like the analogy about putting on your own oxygen first so you can help others. Yes, there are lots of things I should be doing right now, but if I dont take 20 minutes to tend to a digital koi pond or stare out the window, I will not be able to continue doing any of them without further harming my own well being. Stay strong, and take time for you, Dan!

  • @nitt3rz
    @nitt3rz 3 роки тому +2

    I really like cooking, but most times I try it gets way too over-whelming & I have a mini-meltdown; then get frustrated that I can't do simple things, which makes me feel worse.

  • @isisandreialimacaetano3694
    @isisandreialimacaetano3694 3 роки тому

    My dear, potty training is very stressful even for neurotipical parents. So take deep breaths and hold on tight, and know that it won’t last forever.
    Sending good vibes from here to you and your wife.

  • @teachertranslatorsimonemartins
    @teachertranslatorsimonemartins 3 роки тому

    I'm feeling the same today. I watch all your videos, they're very good and full of info. Thanks a lot!

  • @mauralombardi9634
    @mauralombardi9634 3 роки тому +4

    I am a Christian, so it is comforting to me to know that although I am not in control, God is.

    • @TheAspieWorld
      @TheAspieWorld  3 роки тому +1

      God has a plan 💚

    • @artistically_autistic6232
      @artistically_autistic6232 3 роки тому

      Oh yes I’m glad you brought this up. My faith helps me too. Actually when I’m in meltdown, not burnout, having someone pray really calms me. I don’t even think I’d need to believe in God for it to have this affect. There’s something I find really soothing when someone prays asking for calm and for the storm to pass. I think prayer works well with my pictures in my head and usually helps create something calm.

  • @elizabethCorkins83
    @elizabethCorkins83 3 роки тому +13

    Happy Thanksgiving Everyone
    Vegan Thanksgiving here for me though 👌🏻
    🌹Love & HuGz Everyone🌹

  • @krissyj.9362
    @krissyj.9362 3 роки тому

    I've been having alot of those melt dones alot. Meditation helps taking time for your self shower or bath listening to music helps drawing video games

  • @pilgrimlearning9530
    @pilgrimlearning9530 2 роки тому

    I'm an autistic mom of a 7yo autistic boy and a busy toddler girl, so pretty much every day causes burnout. I often struggle to cope with all the noise and mess! So yeah, it's a mission generally.

  • @carolinezimmermann6801
    @carolinezimmermann6801 3 роки тому

    Hope your leg feels better soon. I know what I mean.If you do too many things it gets a bit much, my husband and little one are the same. We just do one thing at a time. And stop when they have had enough

  • @aBatwoman
    @aBatwoman 3 роки тому

    I've read it last two years or longer for burnout.
    Honestly suggest if people can afford it to not work and focus on them and relaxing more. Also excersing in your own comfortable way.
    This is what helped me calm down from burnout. New hobbies help.

  • @LoyalMJfan
    @LoyalMJfan 3 роки тому

    I can relate cause I had a burnout last year cause I had all these projects going on and I moved and had to settle in this new neighbourhood and had some medical issues on top of it and it was just pretty exhausting so I started a bullet journal to exactly investigate why I felt so burned out so I discovered it was all work and no play. It was just chaos. So I drastically cut down my social engagements and put more downtime in my schedule and it worked. I feel much happier and calmer now. So, what helps me to this day is my schedule. I have a fixed day and week schedule and I do try to stick with it as now I know how to balance work and play. I think a burnout is caused by trying to do too much stuff in one day... That is why I have fixed days for chores, social engagement and then I have hibernation days where I load up my energy battery. It’s a challenge but in the end it’s worth it.

  • @mauralombardi9634
    @mauralombardi9634 3 роки тому +1

    Dan, I can completely relate

  • @socraticproblem86
    @socraticproblem86 3 роки тому +2

    DAN! I worked two weeks in a row non-stop. I must’ve slept all day. I’m really happy you uploaded this video. Sending love and healingS

    • @GHOSTGXZ
      @GHOSTGXZ 3 роки тому

      wow, what do you do for a living

    • @TheYahmez
      @TheYahmez 3 роки тому

      My boss did that to me once.
      I was used in order to manipulate the rotas to benefit everyone else's social lives all the time when I was younger and too agreeable.
      I had a meltdown at work and stormed out and was amazed that I didn't end up fired - it took me a long time to realise I was being exploited this way.
      It's eerily depressing how quickly some are to exploit us.

    • @GHOSTGXZ
      @GHOSTGXZ 3 роки тому

      are you familiar with the youtube channel, Spirit Science ? in this video if you skip to about 10: 54, it reveals some info that changed my life, it talks about how simply having feelings of love and compassion, lets your feel-good chemicals be present, and if youre stressed, they wont be actively present
      ua-cam.com/video/mqYb9T054mY/v-deo.html

  • @Kirsty178
    @Kirsty178 3 роки тому

    I find social stuff really hard. After a group things I have to shut down so I will get in bed and sleep or just listen to music.

  • @LeoSunPiscesMoon
    @LeoSunPiscesMoon 3 роки тому

    Thank you for sharing. My son and daughter have autism and experience burnouts. Any advice you can give on how to handle it when it happens is much appreciated 💞
    Blessings to you.
    Have a very merry Christmas.

  • @Megaloryan
    @Megaloryan 3 роки тому +2

    It's a funny coincidence, I was in a similar frame of mind today after being unfairly reprimanded in work, which caused a massive amount of tension and a swathe of negativity, the worst thing is that it unlocks a ton of other negative past experiences.
    I honestly feel like a door mat, constantly having people just wipe their feet all over me and I just lie there and take it.
    It is also exhausting and mentally draining, an overload. Worst is that, unless I want to put myself in a position that I lose my job, I can't stop away from it, which I need.

    • @badmamjamma
      @badmamjamma 3 роки тому

      I don't know your mental state at all, of course, but 🙂 that spiral of negativity also reminded me of depression.

  • @vocalsunleashed
    @vocalsunleashed 3 роки тому

    When I read your message that had a link to this video in it I thought you were like me, but if this is an autistic burnout than what I have is possibly the worst form ever. I literally can't even get dressed. I don't have the energy... All my energy goes to staying alive 😓

  • @suzanacottam924
    @suzanacottam924 3 роки тому +1

    Hey Dan, your schedule is full on dude! I know this is a crazy question to ask, this time of year, but are you able to plan time off for yourself? What's the situation in England and COVID - can you get out? I saw you live near the sea, it made me think of when I was in my 20s, I would get up early am, just before sunrise to go for walks and do Chi Kung along the beach. I found that time of day is a magical time as there isn't a lot of man-made sounds, more natural sounds, and I found that walking barefoot along the sand would help to ground myself and observing the changes from dawn to morning, change in seasons, high and low tide, helped me to be more in the present and quieten down my thoughts (now being a mum of 2 boys 8 & 11 who is on the spectrum, I can't go when I want to). These days, I sleep or hibernate in my room and put my headphones on and listen to music or a podcast or watch paranormal stuff on UA-cam - it's tricky because I get overloaded and burnt out, and currently going through tinnitus (that along with COVID, losing my dog of 13 yrs, and attending 2 funerals this year) has pushed me to a point where I can't function very well and get exhausted by simply going out to shops or shopping centres (sensory overload), even when I go and visit my parents, I can't deal with the acoustics and can't stay long (I have always had acute hearing - very frustrating sometimes) and my low energy levels causes issues with my relationship with my husband. He is often left looking after the kids most evenings after he comes home from work, he is very supportive don't get me wrong, but he is overloaded at the moment too, and it also affects my relationship with my kids. I believe that I may be on the autism spectrum. It's very frustrating as I have suffered from anxiety, depression and feelings of loneliness and feeling like I'm from another planet most of my life and when I have suggested to others even my psychologist (she said but your social etc which indicated to me she isn't the right person to help me) they all seem to doubt me. As you know with females on the spectrum, they are good chameleons and I believe I have learnt alot by studying human behaviour over my lifetime and have just hidden under the radar. Professor Tony Attwood's Ted Talk "Could it be Autism?" was scarily accurate for me! When he started to talk about female Aspie's - I was like freakin' hell that's me, I'm Hermione Granger😉! Hey from Adelaide, Australia🐨🦘🦋🖖

  • @guylamullins3602
    @guylamullins3602 3 роки тому

    I have an issue with chronic pain. I see a chiropractor a few times a year for si and scoliosis that creates an imbalance and causes a lot of issues in my right leg including sciatica. Level 5 pain is exhausting and distracting all on its own. It can cause burnout. Go easy on yourself and see if you can get someone to help a bit.

  • @LizM894
    @LizM894 3 роки тому

    Sorry about your leg. That sucks. It is a good idea to wear loose joggers if your leg is sore as tight jeans might squeeze on it and hurt it. It's good you have To-Do Lists because they help to organise what needs to be done. I have a background in Admin and Clerical work and it also helps to prioritise the things on the to-do lists and so you can get the ones of high priority done first. Tick them off when completed. If some of the other things that are to be done start them so that it doesn't play on your mind. Break down large tasks into small stages/tasks. Take a break and do things you enjoy to de-stress. You can "Carry Forward" the tasks that are not as urgent for the following day or week (if you are waiting on the post etc or confirmation of deliveries etc). Don't give yourself too much to do either..Things that need to be done, things that can be done and things that can be done today - if you have time. If not carry them forward for the next day or when they can be completed.

  • @sharrynrowsell4544
    @sharrynrowsell4544 3 роки тому +1

    My 7yr old son has been diagnosed with high functioning autism and adhd watching that you have a functioning independent life and a little family gives me hope he will live a fulfilling life when he gets older

    • @Dancinglemon
      @Dancinglemon 3 роки тому +1

      Plenty of us go on to lead fulfilling, if not conventional, lives. Try not to read too many statistics, they are never good and remember that a lot of science and theories about autism come from a huge place of ignorance and bias. I really recommend finding a community of autistic people if you ever need help understanding something, they are what helped me when I was first diagnosed and showed me I could still be successful.

    • @sharrynrowsell4544
      @sharrynrowsell4544 3 роки тому

      @@Dancinglemon yes I know that this does happen as my brother is also autistic and is married and has a job and living a full filling life as you have said it can be portrayed as a doom and gloom situation and thats not the case at all i think what im trying to say is its great to see it displayed on a social media platform so its bought to peoples attention and parents such as my self who get that early diagnosis and not sure what the future holds for there little ones just reassuring I suppose as the early years can be very uncertain

    • @Dancinglemon
      @Dancinglemon 3 роки тому

      @@sharrynrowsell4544 Oh man, I re-read my reply and it comes across the exact opposite of what I was intending. I 100% got what you were trying to say and was trying to be supportive and reassuring in turn. I phrased it wrong, my bad!

    • @sharrynrowsell4544
      @sharrynrowsell4544 3 роки тому

      @@Dancinglemon No thats fine looking my first comment I dont think I made my self completely clear its easy enough to do through writing rather than saying it :)

    • @Dancinglemon
      @Dancinglemon 3 роки тому

      @@sharrynrowsell4544 It's easily done online! Regardless, I hope for the best for you and your son and have a lovely christmas!

  • @donnaparks1919
    @donnaparks1919 Рік тому

    My brain can handle simple stuff 24-7.

  • @fionascheibel977
    @fionascheibel977 3 роки тому

    Yep. I get that overwhelmed cant cope feeling. I scratch my arms until they bleed when i pass my ability to cope.

  • @EB64915
    @EB64915 3 роки тому

    I feel like I'm in a similar thing right now, I have a neck injury that's been ongoing for such a long time, have a load of work stuff to do, juggling different doctor appointments and not able to do all the house chores and other usual things, and I'm now actually excited but also stressed about christmas because 1. I don't know what christmas is going to be like, if it'll be virtual or see a small group and 2. In my mind I'm already set on something virtual but feel like family want to do something in person but doing things in person makes my neck injury worse but I'm also set on just having a quiet christmas with a little bit of virtual time because christmas and any social gatherings in general even before covid just add to the exhaustion and make me more burnt out

  • @foxyp7057
    @foxyp7057 3 роки тому

    I did belly laugh when you said as a parent you spend 90% of your time picking up! I can so relate! And then I'm working from home, my husband has the fridge door open so its beeping and he's shouting me asking where the butter is!! Woooah! Meltdown approaching!

  • @arrekesu6384
    @arrekesu6384 3 роки тому

    Having the same with also major depression rn its so destructive...

  • @KittyLove93
    @KittyLove93 3 роки тому +3

    Could you do a video over having a child as an autistic person? I have autism and my husband is neurotypical. We are still trying to decided if we are able to have children. We really want to but I am a bit scared of I can handle it.

  • @OtaconEmmerich
    @OtaconEmmerich 3 роки тому +2

    2020 is my burnout year, Ugh.

  • @mariednathaliequirion2774
    @mariednathaliequirion2774 3 роки тому

    I had an autism overload yesterday… the kids went to bed by 9pm, and my boyfriend by 9:30pm… and I couldn’t sleep until almost 4am. My brain 🧠 wouldn’t shut down 😓😓😓
    It’s hard, and I am still not feeling good today. 😢😢😢

  • @karens346
    @karens346 3 роки тому +1

    Hi Dan.

  • @definitionofinsanity
    @definitionofinsanity 3 роки тому

    You are so relatable I always get like this like every 2 or 3 weeks Ialways punch my face and i am trying to stop it and I feel sorry for my mum because she always crys and I feel so guilty for doing it

  • @donnaparks1919
    @donnaparks1919 Рік тому

    Some people can function enough to do what they need to do so much I can't make my brain do

  • @christinaeberhardt4080
    @christinaeberhardt4080 3 роки тому +1

    My son has ASD too and he has meltdowns too but I try and identify his triggers etc and help him through. I have dyslexia (not autism) I have meltdowns too, I wonder if it's the same?

  • @sussybaka5322
    @sussybaka5322 3 роки тому

    I feel you on the burnout Dan, the funny thing with me is that I feel I burn out extremely quickly. I will do something for a short period of time and then get burnt out for a week or more. Also WTF Captain Kirk?!

  • @maikel3888
    @maikel3888 3 роки тому

    Hi, may I ask do you like every comment because of the OCD or it has nothing to do with it. By the way my cousin is on the spectrum and I get to know so much things from your channel thank you

  • @marknugent9851
    @marknugent9851 3 роки тому

    Hi Dan, can you point me to the Shatner thing? I'd like to know what he said. TBH TOS was before my time (though a couple of months ago I watched the first couple of eps on Netflix) I was a TNG guy but I do love the new films, the post Kirk films, Voyager, Discovery, Picard and Enterprise. The list isn't missing DS9... I just didn't like it. Odo's special effect did not make up for the change in tone and frankly absence of everything I liked about the franchise: exploration, philosophy, adventure, an engaging oddball that I could identify with and a vision of an aspirational future.

  • @turtleanton6539
    @turtleanton6539 Рік тому

    Wow

  • @krugerfuchs
    @krugerfuchs 3 роки тому

    How do you get out of burnout

  • @krissyj.9362
    @krissyj.9362 3 роки тому

    I feel u i really do u remind me of me

  • @mariednathaliequirion2774
    @mariednathaliequirion2774 3 роки тому

    I sing and play guitar: only my fav easy songs hahah I feel for you: it’s hard 😓

  • @Torby4096
    @Torby4096 3 роки тому

    Ok, Dan, step up with your good leg, step down with your bad leg.

  • @wildlifeforagers6515
    @wildlifeforagers6515 3 роки тому +1

    TAW can i ask what video editor you use and what os

    • @TheAspieWorld
      @TheAspieWorld  3 роки тому +1

      For this video I’m using lumafusion on my iPad is for iPad Pro

    • @TheYahmez
      @TheYahmez 3 роки тому

      @@TheAspieWorld I would recommend reconsidering the black hole of the apple sphere - but you're probably past the event horizon already.
      "If the users don't control the program, the program controls the users." - Richard Stallman.

  • @turtlekitten8040
    @turtlekitten8040 3 роки тому

    Hello

  • @jrkeys9540
    @jrkeys9540 3 роки тому

    If you can't run do you have a local pool I just know how amazing swimming is for injuries like your leg ☺️🏊🤽

  • @BigBoy069
    @BigBoy069 3 роки тому +4

    Hello there

  • @davidlanier7006
    @davidlanier7006 3 роки тому

    One thing at a time.

  • @bacht4799
    @bacht4799 3 роки тому +4

    .. okay first I am sorry I talking about myself here but today I almost feel like I would blow up not because it’s was I have it totally bad but because I so sick and tired of my thoughts I dealing with every day.. for 8 years I have dealt with a comic/manga there makes so mad because it’s so unfair and there some another comics, cartoons, movies and such there can turning around in my head and I so annoying by it .. like the word drunk can make me mad because of that comic/ manga and I use too love drunk jokes and such.. maybe it’s starting to get better but seriously 8 years when you thinking about something so stupid like a thing you have read , watch or something between or stupid thoughts because you don’t understand some nuances or grey areas.. so dumb man so dumb..

  • @northstarstatepolitics1652
    @northstarstatepolitics1652 3 роки тому

    Never knew you had a kid!

  • @fantasticalworlds
    @fantasticalworlds 3 роки тому

    just noticed in one of your old videos and your link to your band. I didn't know you were in one and two it says more coming soon but dated 2018.... Did you guys split up? I've been alone since 2007. Loneliness kills literally.

  • @cbm207
    @cbm207 3 роки тому +1

    I dunno if you wanna try this out, but maybe try switching your shoes. The narrow toe box inhibits proper foot function, which is the foundation of proper body alignment. If your leg is hurting, and it’s difficult to use properly, putting your feet in those shoe coffins isn’t gonna help. Barefoot footwear have a wide toe box so your piggies aren’t all boxed up, and they have a zero-drop foundation (ie no heel, even most men’s shoes have incline). Because ones feet have never properly developed its muscles, if one does decide to switch footwear, go slowly. Listen to your body, allow your feet to learn how to walk again. The difference is liberating.

  • @mrbispham9897
    @mrbispham9897 3 роки тому

    I’m a roadman

  • @nattymedina1284
    @nattymedina1284 Місяць тому

    You ware me out of all your to do list

  • @thesharingtreewithshari2735
    @thesharingtreewithshari2735 3 роки тому

    I take time to listen too music and solitude. Time to take a bit and decompress! Can you send me your email again. Love to network with you!!! Love y’all!

  • @deylofink2495
    @deylofink2495 3 роки тому

    Than picture didn't look like you

  • @deylofink2495
    @deylofink2495 3 роки тому

    😆

  • @espejoautoexistente
    @espejoautoexistente 3 роки тому

    I think you have too much going on. Anyone would burnout with so many different things to do and in their minds. Dont be so hard on yourself. I cannot handle too much information at once, and at least once during the day I believe everyone needs a moment to disconnect and recharge. Breath. Lol

  • @rqween767
    @rqween767 3 роки тому +4

    Yoooo

  • @danhevton9681
    @danhevton9681 3 роки тому

    Do you eat CDs?