the one where you feel like objects have awareness is really funny one to me, because i notice that it's strange. An example would be, we have two elevators where i work at and when both of them arrive at the same time i feel bad for the one i'm not taking and then i justify to myself why i took the other one 🙈
cindy sullivan I felt like this when I was a kid about inanimate objects and felt sorry for whichever shoe got put on second...I still catch myself feeling guilty about the potential hurt feelings of inanimate objects!
Same! If I'm buying something at the grocery store, like fruit, I feel bad for dented or bruised items because I think no one else will buy them, so I'll buy one. I thought it was kinda odd, but I just rolled with it. :) I don't think I've ever told anyone that before. I'm not on the spectrum, but I know my mind works differently from other people.
I’m 20F and just figuring out that I have autism. When you talked about the “pressure” from outside stimuli and how you might snap at someone even over a simple question, stuff clicked! My family thinks I’m just grumpy, but really I don’t want to be mean or snappy, I’m just dealing with a lot of “pressure” and so much of my energy goes to handling it. And the attachment to inanimate objects! I completely relate to this one. I have trouble throwing away complete rubbish sometimes because of this, and my room is so full of stuff I don’t need that it’s overwhelming.
I’m not an Aspie but have health issues and loads of stress and I could be perceived this way. Think my has Aspergers and this is why I follow. He does this constantly and answers simple questions like I’m dog shit. He does it to everybody but he can’t recognise it like you guys🤷🏻♀️it get its part of a condition but an apology would b lovely.
Wow! I understand this ever since I got a concussion. It feels the way you're describing, and I have so much more sympathy with people who meltdown now, because I have a couple of times. Its a part of my brain that needs blood to function. But I can't deal with too many things happening at the same time, or else it's like my brain trying to juggle dumbbells. At some point, I have to drop them or fling then back at whoever is burdening me.
Snoe Leppard, I didn’t know I had Aspergers until after I had already been in the military. It took a few years later for a proper diagnosis. I, too, have problems with objects that are truly “rubbish” as you put it. From the time I first learned that paper came from trees, I simply couldn’t throw paper away because I knew that trees were alive and it made sense to me as a child that therefore paper was alive too. I’m now 54 years old and I still have a terrible time with throwing paper away. As a child, I would see a piece of paper in the trash and actually think that the paper must have died and I would hold my own little funeral ceremony. As a child, I would cry desperately every time my mom or dad would try to throw paper away. I would beg them to not throw it away. They thought I was being overly dramatic and a little odd. I didn’t learn until recently that this form of object obsession was actually due to having Aspergers. Perhaps it would help others who have “rubbish” attachments to give their “rubbish” a little funeral service to make it easier to discard. All I know is that when I saw a piece of paper in the trash, I gave it a little funeral service which made it easier for me to not retrieve the piece of paper from the trash in order to save it.
Loved how to talked about objects having an awareness. Such a relief to know I am not the only one. Shopping and throwing things out can be a huge struggle. Especially when it comes to breaking up a set of something.
What it feels on the inside to have ADHD: -No ulterior motives -No idea of personal benefit: objects don't exist, only patterns and inter-relations. But also I might have such a wandering mind, that I never thought it meant anything to sacrifice my own good or other peopls good for future me, because, well, future me isn't here right now, but we are. So we are what matter. I don' draw hard lines between people. Everything is interesting -Complicated things which are boring are poison. Don't touch it! Yuck, paperwork. -I think so quickly, there's no time to think logically or in full sentences. Just think abstractly! In geometric patterns of colour or amorphous blobs, imagery, symbols, sounds, feelings... -Perfect memory for things which are fun and interesting -Time is not constant- 2 minutes can feel like 1 hour and it can feel like 2 seconds. Etc. Too long, didn't write... -oh yeah, hyperfocus
It's somewhat validating hearing you saying some of these things, such as repeating words in my head. I also have trouble throwing some things away because there are feelings tied too them. My bedroom was always a mess as a kid and even though I've moved twice since I still have things that I should have thrown away years ago. Ironically I'm supposed to be asleep now but my constantly monologuing brain wouldn't shut up so I turned to UA-cam to try and wear it out. 🙃
Me too. I do it all the time without actively choosing to think about it. If that makes sense? I’m sometimes almost watching entire movies in my head lol.
For me numbers are causing different feelings. Some numbers i hate cause i can’t stand the feeling i have for it. And the laughing thing is something i share with you.
for some reason, i started laughing when you started talking about laughing! its something that happens to me a lot, especially when i'm concentrating on something i have a random thought come into my head and i burst out laughing
I don't have it with words but with certain sounds. I need to cover my ears because it makes me aggressive and I feel that sounds every where in my body. It is painful and frustrating. Awesome video as always! ❤️
i'm hypersensitive to loud sounds and also specific sounds like whistling. it just makes me so overwhelmed and frustrated and even causes me physical pain. my neighbor tends to play really loud bass music or the same hiphop songs on repeat and it drives me crazy. i also like notice the vibrations coming from the music. the music can even be quite low and i'll still be bothered by it meanwhile none of my family members even notice it
I’m super sensitive to loud sounds as well! I’ve never heard anyone else describe loud sounds as physically painful before, so it’s good to know I’m not alone! I also hear the tiny things others can’t, like the lights screeching, or the automated sprinklers that roll across the wheat field in front of my house to water it in the middle of the night- so annoying! Take care! ||-// XD
I often wonder why my mind wanders off. I will play out a scenario in my head, and the laugh about it to myself... then realise I'm in public 😂. And if I like some words or find them interesting, I tend to say the word over in my head. Finding that I am getting more and more agitated by sounds.
To me monday is light green, tuesday dark blue, wednesday white, thursday chocolate brown, friday yellow, saturday pink and sunday red. Happiness is cyan, (my favorite color) fear is white, love is pink, sadness is indigo, satisfaction is creamy yellow, anxiety is gray and anger is blood red.
I certainly relate to all of these quirks but one. I never developed any connections with inanimate objects, likely because I was not allowed toys or any personal posessions (raised in a cult). Thus, I'm very minimalistic. Anyway, thank you very much for sharing! These vids are always helpful/insightful/relatable!
I could TOTALLY relate to the mind racing at night and attachment to inanimate objects, especially photos of people (who I feel like represent those people) and plushie animals. I've always loved them since I was a kid and even now into adulthood I have a hard time sleeping without one. We had a bed bug scare a few months ago and I absolutely broke down when I had to dispose of them. Even thinking about it now brings tears to my eyes. Related to most everything in this video actually. Thanks for sharing, Dan!
Today I found out how I hyper focus on things around something but not the actual thing. I found a sticker with a frog solving a Rubik's cube but I didn't see the frog I saw that the Rubik's cube had a white and yellow edge even though there can't be one.
I relate to repeating a word in my head for hours or sometimes even a day or two. I also hate throwing items out too because I feel some sort of familiar connection which ends up making me feel bad for throwing it out. Also want to let you know that I enjoy your videos! They have helped me to consider the possibility that I might have Aspergers as an 18-year-old female.
When you talk about the light. I feel like that when I'm for example watching something, and the person besides me is on her/his phone, then I can't concentrate on the thing I'm watching. But I am not that sensitive with lights, more sounds.
My mind is a lot like yours. I haven’t officially been diagnosed with Autism though I really believe I am. I do have a chromosome 16p11.2 duplication which is highly associated with autism. My son who has a different duplication has been diagnosed with autism as well. I believe though 100 percent that I am an Aspie and would push for a diagnosis if it wasn’t for being concerned how getting diagnosed could effect how some might think that I could take care of my 4 year old Autistic son. I’ve already encountered so much negativity from people not understanding me but I am definitely capable of scaring for him not I feel that if I pushed to be diagnosed once they knew they would use it against me. Could you give me what your view point might be on that or how since being diagnosed how it has effected you or changed the way people think of you. Thanks if you have anything to say towards my comment. I love watching your Chanel it’s so helpful even for me with my son as well as myself.
Thank you for this video. My 8 yr old has always struggled at school but lately as he's been getting help to express what he's feeling he's been telling me that some of the kids talking hurts his head. He comes home pale on a really hard day. He also has started expressing that on days they don't have fitness time his body hurts from not moving so he comes home very stressed. Your videos are helping me understand him better and I really appreciate them.
This is a more raw video, and I love it. I could see the rubbing on parts of your face (stimming?) And moving hands while talking. I didnt think I did that u til recently. Self-awareness 😊 I needed this!
I cried when my parents got rid off furniture. You can learn it though, throwing out things. Now I am dealing with my aspie son who needs to learn the same thing. Our garage is like...a collection of broken appliances. Music is difficult for me. Like your intro..it should not take a second longer or I would try to skip it. 😂 It's loud. My husband does not understand why I don't want to listen to music while driving. Listen to people talking is oke. But no music at least no longer than 20 min, it causes a headache.
Have you watched any Marie Kondo videos? Her process for sorting through objects and discarding what’s not needed is extremely helpful for me, and may be a good watch for you and your son! You hold the object, and if it sparks “joy” you keep it. If it doesn’t hold any special meaning, you thank it for what it’s done for you, and respectfully discard it or donate it.
OH.MY.GOSH!!! SO so many things I relate to here! Especially the one about words; words that I have never heard before especially! I’ll totally go all out and fixate on everything I can about it and the history of certain phrases too! I’m SO glad that you talked about objects as well! I didn’t even know that I could be on the spectrum until the Summer of 2017, and didn’t get any testing done until the day before and the day after I turned 55 years old this year! So I suffered through one of the most traumatic experiences of my life back in 2008 when I owned my own house and had it full of stuff, like hoarder full, and a group of people decided to “help” me..... I trusted them and let them clean up my house, but they ignored my instructions to only throw out trash and set aside what wasn’t trash..... They threw out almost EVERYTHING, while distracting me by giving me a box of stuff to “go through and sort”, so because I was so hyper focused on the box, I didn’t notice anything that they were doing. Then after they left and I realized what had happened, I was extremely distraught and angry, and the “friend” who organized the whole thing called me ungrateful and completely severed our friendship, refusing to ever speak to me again. All they left me was a few pieces of furniture and items that THEY decided I still needed and the clothes and shoes I was wearing. It’s still extremely painful to think about; especially when they took almost everything that I had left from my parents and grandparents who had all passed away that I inherited. No one understood how or why I was so attached to “all that junk”..... I couldn’t even understand it, and I was especially completely unable to express why I felt such an utterly devastating loss; one equal to that of when I lost my parents and grandparents..... So hearing that you experience this similarly means so so much to me! Thank you! I’m going to watch the video again because I can’t remember the other ones that I relate to, so I’ll come back and add those in a bit..... Ok, so I paused it so I could go point-by-point..... I just need to ask if you could clarify what you mean by Rainman’s savant characteristic being “lower”..... Like in functioning? Because I believe that I’m a musical savant, and I am an Aspie who the testing I had suggested that I’m somewhere around a 141 IQ. However because I have a specific learning disability in mathematics calculations (they were able to determine by that side of the testing being severely below average while everything else was extremely above average to superior) they weren’t able to give me a “standard” IQ score. The psychologist also said that I’m “sub-clinical” or “borderline” ASD but said unofficially that it’s most likely because of my age, having pretty much mastered my masking abilities. He said that the testing also shows that I have become extremely skilled in adapting or compensating to my environment. So I’m not sure what part of being a savant you were talking about. About thoughts; ok, wow, yeah; probably similar to what I experience as “scrambled eggs in my head” or feeling “scatterbrained” much of the time; everything feels so scrambled and disorganized, but when I try to get a handle on it, they’re like a mist or clouds that dissipate the moment I try to grasp them. And yeah, light and heat are at best, uncomfortable, and at worst, excruciatingly painful. Numbers, numbers, oh, the love..... Number patterns and sequences give me such a feeling of satisfaction; like a rush of love; I know, weird..... My son-in-law’s mother is the only person I have ever known who cannot stand ANY kind of music; she says it’s extremely painful, like screeching. I couldn’t fathom how that could ever be a thing, considering that for me, music is something I feel so deeply into the depths of my soul; especially the percussion and drum beats; like my heartbeat pounds in sync with the rhythm! I’m convinced that my son-in-law is on the spectrum as well as my daughter and grandkids. My son-in-law will absolutely loose his mind if his food cools down too much before he has the ability to eat it. He also cannot stand any kind of “crinkling” sound like from a snack bag or plastic grocery bag; he completely comes unglued and starts yelling at everyone in the room. Yeah, the “movie in my head” is always running through the various scenarios of conversations that I need to have with someone; especially when the outcome will have a significant impact on something in my life. What’s difficult for me sometimes is remembering that I haven’t yet talked to the person so I can’t attach my reactions to the “simulated conversations” to THEM, regardless of how very real they seem in my memory. Jokes, yeah, the reactions I get when I’m randomly busting out laughing for no apparent reason, and the person says something like, Wow, you’re just NOW getting that joke? That was like, HOURS ago!” And, “OMG, you’re still thinking about that DUMB joke?”..... Yeah..... Many times when I can’t sleep because my mind is running through all the scenarios and things that I have to remember to do the next day, or because of a situation that may have recently happened in the mental video I keep rewinding and replaying, searching for a solution to. I took a writing class in college many years ago, and the instructor said that the first step in writing something like a book, is to “dump” all your thoughts onto paper first, THEN begin organizing them. I adapted this technique to quiet my mind at night when I can’t get to sleep; I keep a journal next to my bed so that I can dump all my thoughts out onto the journal pages so that I can relax and get to sleep. Barring any other factors like sensory issues keeping me from being able to sleep, my mind is then able to relax and I’m soon sound asleep. So yeah, thanks for this video; I appreciate all your content 😊
When I think about things I think about a ton of other stuff. For example I think about oranges but I could also be thinking about eggs, screws, books, sand paper. So I don't really engage in the things around me because I'm thinking about multiple things. My is always wondering.
I don't really have the usual hypersensitivity problems, I'm more hyposensitive, so I won't notice sounds a lot. And sometimes it's like I get out of sync, and the air feels prickly and hot and cold at the same time, and I can barely hear music (like it goes past my ears instead of into them) especially if I'm high (it's legal here) I can't hear something unless I'm looking at it. But when I'm tired I feel any sound as a little electric shock through my body. I used to get really attached to objects when I was younger, but I've gotten much better about it. And man I'm so bad at sleep. I can lay in bed for hours, barely even thinking about anything, but I just won't drop off for HOURS, or I'll wake up at 3am and lay there until 6am before I get up and make coffee. (Did that this morning.)
This seemed slightly uncomfortable for you to share, or maybe just to put into words. Invaluable insights. I DID ENJOY this much. Thank you Dan. You’re the best!
Hi! I'm Anthony and I hit the spectrum of autism! I find your videos helpful on getting to know more of autism and to get to know myself better. Thank you for helping others with autism!
Ok sorry for so many comments but I have to say this was one of my favorite videos you’ve produced because you mentioned so many similarities... probably ALL the points you mentioned hit home with me! Well done!
i know what you mean about the words being registered as pain.. im not that way with words really but some sounds like static, especially when its breaking up other sounds. like im normally ok with static on its own, like white noise, but when there would be a radio playing and there was static.. it felt like a physical pain. i think i get a similar reaction to some emotional triggers to, like when see someone doing something i see as "egregiously wrong" it causes a sensation similar to pain. or like highly embarrassing things.
Hello Dan, great video. When I am in a state of relaxation, my mind screen is a tapestry of deep rich purple and emerald/ bluish clouds melting with each other. It happens occasionally and if a door is slammed at the time I both hear the sound and see a pale purplish pink clould exploding/opening the tapestry fabric.Very much attached to objects too and love to stroke explore them.
I also am on the Spectrum, and definitely have narrow fixations(I collect tobacco pipes and walking sticks/canes), am a big fan of star wars(still have most of my figures), play d&d here and there. Like you, I'll also laugh at random stuff that I remember from days, months or even years ago. I also repeat words in my head! I think that doing so is much similar to echolalia (albeit internally and non verbal). It is very interesting. Thanks for the video!
OMG!!! things have a soul! you're the first one I found to feel the same! Amazing! I have problems with possessing things I feel I can handle a maximum amount of objects of "whom" I can take responsibility. I cannot explain it better
“We’ve all seen the film Rain Man” I actually rolled my eyes when you said this 😆 Fantastic video. I relate to a lot of this, especially the ‘colours in blocks’ re. days of the week & having a planned pattern ‘thrown off’ causing devastation
I don’t have autism but I totally get that ‘colours and personalities for numbers and days of the week’. Like some numbers just feel nice and others dont, and I associate colours very heavily with repeating things like months and stuff
Thank you so much for helping me understand myself better! Seriously about a year ago I asked my mom if other people in the world had this too ADHD autism aspergers spectrum and she said of course and my mom's awesome although hearing it from a person that relates to me and others helps so much much love and peace
i had the word repetition thing when i was young a lot, less now but i still have it sometimes. and i DEFINITELY have the object attachment ESPECIALLY WITH TOYS, i gave them characters and a world for them to interact with.
I love puzzles & words. Although, I do have issues with reading. However, I love knowing every definition of a single word, so I know what someone else is saying & I don’t have to guess what they are trying to say
I will think about a line from a song over and over again. I might not have heard it for years or even know what song it's off. Just pops into my head and I end up searching and listening to that song over because of it.
I can 100% relate! Sometimes I will remember a funny line in Good Omens and just laugh...even if no one is with me at the time. I like that a single line can make happy many times over, who doesnt want to be happy? Also the part about synesthesia. To me everything is interpreted as colour- emotions, music, sound, words, sensations, pain...I don't really understand the NT words for things like emotions and pain...at least not in depth. Like I know what "sad" and "happy" are, its just that my understanding is not very meaningful or its purely logical awareness like associated behaviours. The colour is what makes sense to me. Also the part about feeling an connection to objects. I still "think" my soft toys are alive, even though I logically know that they are not as they don't have functioning body organs like hearts or lungs and they don't need to eat food for energy. Its not a delusion because I know its not reality, its just a thing my brain does. I get attached to my gaming pc's too. Books....anything. The part about things being chaos and overwhelming is also true.
I am looking for information on how an autistic person can ask for accommodations and what kind of accommodations to ask for at work. Advice on where to look?
My mind never stops. When I am unable to think about specifics I keep thinking about how I need to think about something. It’s highly uncomfortable not to have something to ponder. Often that’s when I actually fall asleep naturally if I let myself. Sometimes I won’t let myself.
I get so fixated on planes , i talk about planes all day and i go to my local airport and i have to take photos , i knew what a A380 was at 3 years old
Thanks, Dan❣. Shopping malls!!! The list of "stuff to get", the lights, people, noise, heat, smells muzak, etc... And wearing a mask... Dunno if I'm aspie, but retail therapy has NEVER been fun ❣😒
I often get words stuck in my head in the same way I could have a song stuck in my head. As a linguist, sometimes those words are in other languages (e.g. tokidoki, which means 'sometimes' in Japanese), or they're just random mundane words in English. But they get stuck in my head until I find a distraction or something to replace it with. I thought I was just a weirdo, so it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this kind of thing.
The other day I couldn't stop thinking about the phrase "few and far between." It got to the point where I curiously Googled it to see what Google had to say about it 😂
The Aspie world I'm stuck in a though loop. It calming a little bit now. But it very scary. I keep thinking, what happens when we die? That though turn into a pure O OCD though, I don't know if that is death toll of pandemic. Or generally anxiety. LAS video says that the world is every changing which is confusing for people with autism. But even for NT who know the world is changeable and image a new plan. Are saying this COVID secure world like a parallel world compared to even early March. I'm pleased about mask video. Thank you Dan. I was be angry at times were you channel was using pandemic to promote your channel. But the mask video is for us. It is to help autistic people during this pandemic. So I should go back and watch that video.
People’s emotions make me feel colors. It’s not that I see them I just feel them. When someone yells it’s like the room, my body, & mind floods with the feeling of reds, oranges, & bright yellows. I hate yellow when. It’s too much 😩
I can relate to literally all of these. I’m always sending autism articles and videos that I relate with to my family so that they can kind of see inside my head and interpret my thoughts/actions, so thank you for giving me yet another video to send them! (Also, I’m currently overthinking about my punctuation and possibly run-on sentences in this post. Don’t mind me 😂)
I can't shut off background sounds which means I hear everything all of the time. Even through noise cancelling headphones often. People just cannot comprehend how difficult it is to function and especially interact with humans when your head is permanently stuck in a bees nest.
For hearing words repeat in your head, I have to repeat it outloud to make it stop. Sometimes I have to say it multiple times. Sometimes it's really fun to say outloud too so I will continue to say it.
I relate a lot to the bit about disruptions in routine. I think it's partly because I have a loose grasp on time, and routine tethers me. So when someone changes a plan, it's especially frustrating because it breaks the chain I've built that helps me deal with that loose grasp. I don't think that's all of it - there are other factors involved for sure - but that's the latest in me trying to explain an aspect of it. Also, certain sounds hurt like dishes clanging and I will just say 'ow!' out loud when I hear them.
Yas to the sleep thing! I used to make up entire stories at night for hours and hours. I loved it! I can't do that anymore now, though. I think because I just have too much to think about in general so by bedtime my brain is just fried. 😔 Objects also have personalities to me too. Sometimes for some reason I look at objects and just feel like I know what kind of character they are. Super weird. As a kid it was part of my making up stories.
I still haven't been diagnosed (getting an appointment has been quite difficult) and sometimes I catch myself wondering if maybe I'm just making things up but everytime I watch one of your videos everything just clicks all over again? All of this sounds so very familiar and it would explain pr much everything I've been struggling with that my other diagnoses just don't cover. Makes me feel less alone, so thank you for your content.
The repating words thing is so interesting to me because when I was younger, I used to repeat everything I would hear out loud. If someone was talking to me I'd say the exact same thing back to them, even if I would hear people talking in the other room I would say their conversation out loud. I always thought it had to do with acquiring the language.
I think I have the latching on to one thing and only being able to concentrate on that with people and that's why being around more than one person is difficult in terms of trying to communicate with multiple people at once
Hahaha omg just hearing you explaining that about the jokes made me laugh because I remembered one time that happened to me. I just burst out laughing at the bus and I couldn’t stop my self. It must’ve looked insane 😂😂
Excellent insight video. I ran thru my life just surviving in a NT world. Now I'm using many of your ideas n realizing many downfalls were sensory overloads. Mis-dx didn't help. I see the monthly calendar symetrically. Plans n appts need to fall in repeatable pattern. N I love dominos, lining them up n the sound when they fall.
A word, a sound, a smell, a texture, a taste, I have certain ones that I can just explain as "headache". Like something smells like headache to me if that makes sense
I literally sat here nodding along to the whole video 😂 and the laughing randomly because of something you remembered thing!!! I've never heard someone talk about that in relation to autism but I do it all the time! 😂👏🏻 I love it
I can repeat words and sometimes my brain takes a while to process what people say . I also have in my mind a mini movie playing , especially when I have a quiet moment .
I have a question for other Aspies out there. I have always had a problem with my socks. The sew line can’t be located on the ends of my toes but on top of my toes and even then everything has to be straight so that I don’t feel any bumps on either side of my feet. I will take off my shoes and straighten my socks over and over again since I was a kid. I’m 54 years old now and, eve though I’m a paraplegic from my military service, I still have to straighten my socks. It’s not like I can feel the difference anymore but it’s that I can see the difference. Do any of you have this problem too?
Yee.... I work in the trades with steel cap boots & thick socks. I don't like my socks causing me a different feel between my feet. I'll stop right in the middle of work, take my boot off & pull up or reposition my sock. Other guys look at my funny. 😂 Like mate, I don't want to work feeling discomfort.
I can have similar issues with sleep, but my coping mechanism for them I developed quite young by telling stories to myself in my mind. It’s basically like reading a book, but I fully control what happens and I just naturally drift off during the story. Sometimes I pick up where I fallen asleep the previous night and sometimes I start a new story... no idea if it’s helpful or not to share 😅...
A typical is a great show on Netflix that is about a kid who has aspergers. The actor doesn't have it himself but they have done a lot of research and there is actually actors on the show who do have autism etc.
Hey, I’m a synesthete (someone with synesthesia) and though I have the type that correlates sounds to colors, scents, and tastes. It is far from the only type. The most common type is grapheme-color (I think) which is the automatic connection between letters, numbers, and/or words with colors. For example February is a medium pink while 8 is a vibrant red. You might have synesthesia yourself
When you mentioned the joke delay thing, I knew I've done that a lot. Then I thought about the Arnold Schwarzenegger "Predator" movie. Sonny Landham (William M. "Sonny" Landham III) played the role of Billy Sole the tracker in a military team that ends up fighting the Predator. In the helicopter Hawkins tells a joke and Billy Sole (Landham) does not react at all. Later Hawkins tells Billy Sole a similar joke and gives a quick explanation and after a short delay Billy Sole laughs, as if it's the funniest joke ever. The character Billy Sole (Landham) also has a special Intuitive skill of being able to sense the presence of the invisible Predator. Did the screenwriters give the Billy Sole character an autistic nature so that his later feats tracking the Predator were more believable?
If you could describe your pain with words, what would that be? The one produced by certain words. The reason why I say "tism" instead of "autism" is because the "au" sound on it causes me physical pain on my chest, right where the heart is. It's almost like sadness pain. BUt the sounds in "tism" make me feel a nice tingling sensation on the center of my spine for the 2 or so secs it takes me to make those sounds.
Thank you so much for sharing what goes on in your mind, i really appreciate the help you are providing. I started watching you because my 5 year old son has autism. Almost everything you described happens in my mind. makes me wonder if i could possiby have autism as well.
it sounds like your object personification is because each object has a specific purpose. You are denying it of its ultimate purpose in this existence. And it's a horrible mirror to look at. To have your usefulness taken away...
Hi, does anyone know any supplements or vitamins that help with the social deficiency’s with ASD? Like eye contact, social awkwardness, speaking? I’m really trying to make new friends and have relationships but it’s just hard to
For me, there's been no "magic pill" or supplement that really helped. Most of it is just practice. I still have eye contact trouble so I'll just look at the person's forehead, so they think I'm making eye contact. It's just so....i don't know. combative? to look into someone's eyes and it's just really uncomfortable for me to do it.
@@LycaWatyre Aw thanks for the response anyway:) I know its a complete joke that Autism has been around for 100's of years, and they still don't have any medication to target and treat the core symptoms that people on the ASD have which a huge one is social skills, like eye contact, ability to approach and talk to people fluently, carry on conversations etc! You need to have good social skills to help you succeed in this world, their so fundamentally important in everything you do in life. There has been recent talks of medications to help target and cure these symptoms, so hopefully these medications come out very very soon.
I don’t know about it treating ASD, but getting more omega 3s really helps my anxiety, which in turn might help you relax a bit in social situations. I hope this helps! ☺️
i know you cover a lot and i love your videos, but could you focus more on things for people on the spectrum, so they can understand themselves more? i notice in a lot of comments, come from people on yhe spectrum. thanks and keep up your good work
☂ great nostaga. A book called was a classic autism read at the time. Freeks, geeks and Asperger's syndrome. Where he talks about Aspergers being under an umbrella of autism. Now it's all a rainbow the autism spectrum.
the one where you feel like objects have awareness is really funny one to me, because i notice that it's strange. An example would be, we have two elevators where i work at and when both of them arrive at the same time i feel bad for the one i'm not taking and then i justify to myself why i took the other one 🙈
cindy sullivan I felt like this when I was a kid about inanimate objects and felt sorry for whichever shoe got put on second...I still catch myself feeling guilty about the potential hurt feelings of inanimate objects!
Me too
I'm the same! I always feel like I've hurt the feelings of inanimate objects.
I do that A LOT, except that I'm afraid AF of elevators
Same! If I'm buying something at the grocery store, like fruit, I feel bad for dented or bruised items because I think no one else will buy them, so I'll buy one. I thought it was kinda odd, but I just rolled with it. :) I don't think I've ever told anyone that before. I'm not on the spectrum, but I know my mind works differently from other people.
I’m 20F and just figuring out that I have autism. When you talked about the “pressure” from outside stimuli and how you might snap at someone even over a simple question, stuff clicked! My family thinks I’m just grumpy, but really I don’t want to be mean or snappy, I’m just dealing with a lot of “pressure” and so much of my energy goes to handling it.
And the attachment to inanimate objects! I completely relate to this one. I have trouble throwing away complete rubbish sometimes because of this, and my room is so full of stuff I don’t need that it’s overwhelming.
Yeah I hear you there. People cannot understand it and it is super difficult to try to explain it to them. It can be tough!!
I’m not an Aspie but have health issues and loads of stress and I could be perceived this way. Think my has Aspergers and this is why I follow. He does this constantly and answers simple questions like I’m dog shit. He does it to everybody but he can’t recognise it like you guys🤷🏻♀️it get its part of a condition but an apology would b lovely.
Wow! I understand this ever since I got a concussion. It feels the way you're describing, and I have so much more sympathy with people who meltdown now, because I have a couple of times. Its a part of my brain that needs blood to function. But I can't deal with too many things happening at the same time, or else it's like my brain trying to juggle dumbbells. At some point, I have to drop them or fling then back at whoever is burdening me.
The way I explained it when it got very bad and my parents wouldn't stop talking, was that "it feels like my skull is crushing my brain."
Snoe Leppard, I didn’t know I had Aspergers until after I had already been in the military. It took a few years later for a proper diagnosis. I, too, have problems with objects that are truly “rubbish” as you put it. From the time I first learned that paper came from trees, I simply couldn’t throw paper away because I knew that trees were alive and it made sense to me as a child that therefore paper was alive too. I’m now 54 years old and I still have a terrible time with throwing paper away. As a child, I would see a piece of paper in the trash and actually think that the paper must have died and I would hold my own little funeral ceremony. As a child, I would cry desperately every time my mom or dad would try to throw paper away. I would beg them to not throw it away. They thought I was being overly dramatic and a little odd. I didn’t learn until recently that this form of object obsession was actually due to having Aspergers. Perhaps it would help others who have “rubbish” attachments to give their “rubbish” a little funeral service to make it easier to discard. All I know is that when I saw a piece of paper in the trash, I gave it a little funeral service which made it easier for me to not retrieve the piece of paper from the trash in order to save it.
Loved how to talked about objects having an awareness. Such a relief to know I am not the only one. Shopping and throwing things out can be a huge struggle. Especially when it comes to breaking up a set of something.
What it feels on the inside to have ADHD:
-No ulterior motives
-No idea of personal benefit: objects don't exist, only patterns and inter-relations. But also I might have such a wandering mind, that I never thought it meant anything to sacrifice my own good or other peopls good for future me, because, well, future me isn't here right now, but we are. So we are what matter. I don' draw hard lines between people.
Everything is interesting
-Complicated things which are boring are poison. Don't touch it! Yuck, paperwork.
-I think so quickly, there's no time to think logically or in full sentences. Just think abstractly! In geometric patterns of colour or amorphous blobs, imagery, symbols, sounds, feelings...
-Perfect memory for things which are fun and interesting
-Time is not constant- 2 minutes can feel like 1 hour and it can feel like 2 seconds.
Etc. Too long, didn't write...
-oh yeah, hyperfocus
People have just laughed and shook their head when they realize I have no guile.
Omg
@@maggyurena4425 I know, eh?
I can totally relate to the eveything is interesting, perfect memory, and sometimes no concept of time.
Hate paperwork. Perfect memory for things that are Interesting.
It's somewhat validating hearing you saying some of these things, such as repeating words in my head. I also have trouble throwing some things away because there are feelings tied too them. My bedroom was always a mess as a kid and even though I've moved twice since I still have things that I should have thrown away years ago.
Ironically I'm supposed to be asleep now but my constantly monologuing brain wouldn't shut up so I turned to UA-cam to try and wear it out. 🙃
Haha I'm the same about repeating random words and movie in my head. Actually, all of it. Brilliant video. Thanks Dan.
The end scene of the movie Aviator
For me it’s lines from songs over and over and over...
Me too. I do it all the time without actively choosing to think about it. If that makes sense? I’m sometimes almost watching entire movies in my head lol.
I have aspergers syndrome
For me numbers are causing different feelings. Some numbers i hate cause i can’t stand the feeling i have for it. And the laughing thing is something i share with you.
for some reason, i started laughing when you started talking about laughing! its something that happens to me a lot, especially when i'm concentrating on something i have a random thought come into my head and i burst out laughing
Yeah it’s funny in multiple ways lol.
Me too
I don't have it with words but with certain sounds. I need to cover my ears because it makes me aggressive and I feel that sounds every where in my body. It is painful and frustrating. Awesome video as always! ❤️
Thank you so much!!
I over react to slight changes in body language, mood or the tone in people's voices
@@emmacassidy8482 me too. People say that there is "no way I have autism", because I am too sensitive to emotions. Lol
It can be that people with asd have many emotions they just don't know what to do with them
The train sounds and whistles are the worst!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i'm hypersensitive to loud sounds and also specific sounds like whistling. it just makes me so overwhelmed and frustrated and even causes me physical pain. my neighbor tends to play really loud bass music or the same hiphop songs on repeat and it drives me crazy. i also like notice the vibrations coming from the music. the music can even be quite low and i'll still be bothered by it meanwhile none of my family members even notice it
I’m super sensitive to loud sounds as well! I’ve never heard anyone else describe loud sounds as physically painful before, so it’s good to know I’m not alone! I also hear the tiny things others can’t, like the lights screeching, or the automated sprinklers that roll across the wheat field in front of my house to water it in the middle of the night- so annoying!
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I often wonder why my mind wanders off. I will play out a scenario in my head, and the laugh about it to myself... then realise I'm in public 😂. And if I like some words or find them interesting, I tend to say the word over in my head. Finding that I am getting more and more agitated by sounds.
To me monday is light green, tuesday dark blue, wednesday white, thursday chocolate brown, friday yellow, saturday pink and sunday red.
Happiness is cyan, (my favorite color) fear is white, love is pink, sadness is indigo, satisfaction is creamy yellow, anxiety is gray and anger is blood red.
I certainly relate to all of these quirks but one. I never developed any connections with inanimate objects, likely because I was not allowed toys or any personal posessions (raised in a cult). Thus, I'm very minimalistic. Anyway, thank you very much for sharing! These vids are always helpful/insightful/relatable!
Hey you are welcome!!
I see weeks as a wheel that never stops, we are on friday, bottom left on the wheel :)
My 5 year old son is autistic and you are helping me more than anyone else in my life. I can't thank you enough.
I could TOTALLY relate to the mind racing at night and attachment to inanimate objects, especially photos of people (who I feel like represent those people) and plushie animals. I've always loved them since I was a kid and even now into adulthood I have a hard time sleeping without one. We had a bed bug scare a few months ago and I absolutely broke down when I had to dispose of them. Even thinking about it now brings tears to my eyes. Related to most everything in this video actually. Thanks for sharing, Dan!
Today I found out how I hyper focus on things around something but not the actual thing. I found a sticker with a frog solving a Rubik's cube but I didn't see the frog I saw that the Rubik's cube had a white and yellow edge even though there can't be one.
That’s got me thinking about it haha!!🐸
I relate to repeating a word in my head for hours or sometimes even a day or two. I also hate throwing items out too because I feel some sort of familiar connection which ends up making me feel bad for throwing it out. Also want to let you know that I enjoy your videos! They have helped me to consider the possibility that I might have Aspergers as an 18-year-old female.
When you talk about the light. I feel like that when I'm for example watching something, and the person besides me is on her/his phone, then I can't concentrate on the thing I'm watching. But I am not that sensitive with lights, more sounds.
My mind is a lot like yours. I haven’t officially been diagnosed with Autism though I really believe I am. I do have a chromosome 16p11.2 duplication which is highly associated with autism. My son who has a different duplication has been diagnosed with autism as well. I believe though 100 percent that I am an Aspie and would push for a diagnosis if it wasn’t for being concerned how getting diagnosed could effect how some might think that I could take care of my 4 year old Autistic son. I’ve already encountered so much negativity from people not understanding me but I am definitely capable of scaring for him not I feel that if I pushed to be diagnosed once they knew they would use it against me. Could you give me what your view point might be on that or how since being diagnosed how it has effected you or changed the way people think of you. Thanks if you have anything to say towards my comment. I love watching your Chanel it’s so helpful even for me with my son as well as myself.
Thank you for this video. My 8 yr old has always struggled at school but lately as he's been getting help to express what he's feeling he's been telling me that some of the kids talking hurts his head. He comes home pale on a really hard day. He also has started expressing that on days they don't have fitness time his body hurts from not moving so he comes home very stressed. Your videos are helping me understand him better and I really appreciate them.
This is a more raw video, and I love it. I could see the rubbing on parts of your face (stimming?) And moving hands while talking. I didnt think I did that u til recently. Self-awareness 😊 I needed this!
I cried when my parents got rid off furniture. You can learn it though, throwing out things. Now I am dealing with my aspie son who needs to learn the same thing. Our garage is like...a collection of broken appliances. Music is difficult for me. Like your intro..it should not take a second longer or I would try to skip it. 😂 It's loud. My husband does not understand why I don't want to listen to music while driving. Listen to people talking is oke. But no music at least no longer than 20 min, it causes a headache.
Have you watched any Marie Kondo videos? Her process for sorting through objects and discarding what’s not needed is extremely helpful for me, and may be a good watch for you and your son! You hold the object, and if it sparks “joy” you keep it. If it doesn’t hold any special meaning, you thank it for what it’s done for you, and respectfully discard it or donate it.
Also, YES, for intros to music!!! If it’s too long-I’m out!
OH.MY.GOSH!!!
SO so many things I relate to here!
Especially the one about words; words that I have never heard before especially!
I’ll totally go all out and fixate on everything I can about it and the history of certain phrases too!
I’m SO glad that you talked about objects as well! I didn’t even know that I could be on the spectrum until the Summer of 2017, and didn’t get any testing done until the day before and the day after I turned 55 years old this year!
So I suffered through one of the most traumatic experiences of my life back in 2008 when I owned my own house and had it full of stuff, like hoarder full, and a group of people decided to “help” me.....
I trusted them and let them clean up my house, but they ignored my instructions to only throw out trash and set aside what wasn’t trash.....
They threw out almost EVERYTHING, while distracting me by giving me a box of stuff to “go through and sort”, so because I was so hyper focused on the box, I didn’t notice anything that they were doing.
Then after they left and I realized what had happened, I was extremely distraught and angry, and the “friend” who organized the whole thing called me ungrateful and completely severed our friendship, refusing to ever speak to me again.
All they left me was a few pieces of furniture and items that THEY decided I still needed and the clothes and shoes I was wearing.
It’s still extremely painful to think about; especially when they took almost everything that I had left from my parents and grandparents who had all passed away that I inherited.
No one understood how or why I was so attached to “all that junk”.....
I couldn’t even understand it, and I was especially completely unable to express why I felt such an utterly devastating loss; one equal to that of when I lost my parents and grandparents.....
So hearing that you experience this similarly means so so much to me!
Thank you!
I’m going to watch the video again because I can’t remember the other ones that I relate to, so I’ll come back and add those in a bit.....
Ok, so I paused it so I could go point-by-point.....
I just need to ask if you could clarify what you mean by Rainman’s savant characteristic being “lower”..... Like in functioning?
Because I believe that I’m a musical savant, and I am an Aspie who the testing I had suggested that I’m somewhere around a 141 IQ.
However because I have a specific learning disability in mathematics calculations (they were able to determine by that side of the testing being severely below average while everything else was extremely above average to superior) they weren’t able to give me a “standard” IQ score.
The psychologist also said that I’m “sub-clinical” or “borderline” ASD but said unofficially that it’s most likely because of my age, having pretty much mastered my masking abilities.
He said that the testing also shows that I have become extremely skilled in adapting or compensating to my environment.
So I’m not sure what part of being a savant you were talking about.
About thoughts; ok, wow, yeah; probably similar to what I experience as “scrambled eggs in my head” or feeling “scatterbrained” much of the time; everything feels so scrambled and disorganized, but when I try to get a handle on it, they’re like a mist or clouds that dissipate the moment I try to grasp them.
And yeah, light and heat are at best, uncomfortable, and at worst, excruciatingly painful.
Numbers, numbers, oh, the love..... Number patterns and sequences give me such a feeling of satisfaction; like a rush of love; I know, weird.....
My son-in-law’s mother is the only person I have ever known who cannot stand ANY kind of music; she says it’s extremely painful, like screeching.
I couldn’t fathom how that could ever be a thing, considering that for me, music is something I feel so deeply into the depths of my soul; especially the percussion and drum beats; like my heartbeat pounds in sync with the rhythm!
I’m convinced that my son-in-law is on the spectrum as well as my daughter and grandkids.
My son-in-law will absolutely loose his mind if his food cools down too much before he has the ability to eat it.
He also cannot stand any kind of “crinkling” sound like from a snack bag or plastic grocery bag; he completely comes unglued and starts yelling at everyone in the room.
Yeah, the “movie in my head” is always running through the various scenarios of conversations that I need to have with someone; especially when the outcome will have a significant impact on something in my life.
What’s difficult for me sometimes is remembering that I haven’t yet talked to the person so I can’t attach my reactions to the “simulated conversations” to THEM, regardless of how very real they seem in my memory.
Jokes, yeah, the reactions I get when I’m randomly busting out laughing for no apparent reason, and the person says something like, Wow, you’re just NOW getting that joke? That was like, HOURS ago!” And, “OMG, you’re still thinking about that DUMB joke?”..... Yeah.....
Many times when I can’t sleep because my mind is running through all the scenarios and things that I have to remember to do the next day, or because of a situation that may have recently happened in the mental video I keep rewinding and replaying, searching for a solution to.
I took a writing class in college many years ago, and the instructor said that the first step in writing something like a book, is to “dump” all your thoughts onto paper first, THEN begin organizing them.
I adapted this technique to quiet my mind at night when I can’t get to sleep; I keep a journal next to my bed so that I can dump all my thoughts out onto the journal pages so that I can relax and get to sleep.
Barring any other factors like sensory issues keeping me from being able to sleep, my mind is then able to relax and I’m soon sound asleep.
So yeah, thanks for this video; I appreciate all your content 😊
When I think about things I think about a ton of other stuff. For example I think about oranges but I could also be thinking about eggs, screws, books, sand paper. So I don't really engage in the things around me because I'm thinking about multiple things. My is always wondering.
I don't really have the usual hypersensitivity problems, I'm more hyposensitive, so I won't notice sounds a lot. And sometimes it's like I get out of sync, and the air feels prickly and hot and cold at the same time, and I can barely hear music (like it goes past my ears instead of into them) especially if I'm high (it's legal here) I can't hear something unless I'm looking at it. But when I'm tired I feel any sound as a little electric shock through my body.
I used to get really attached to objects when I was younger, but I've gotten much better about it.
And man I'm so bad at sleep. I can lay in bed for hours, barely even thinking about anything, but I just won't drop off for HOURS, or I'll wake up at 3am and lay there until 6am before I get up and make coffee. (Did that this morning.)
This seemed slightly uncomfortable for you to share, or maybe just to put into words. Invaluable insights. I DID ENJOY this much. Thank you Dan. You’re the best!
Hi! I'm Anthony and I hit the spectrum of autism! I find your videos helpful on getting to know more of autism and to get to know myself better. Thank you for helping others with autism!
Ok sorry for so many comments but I have to say this was one of my favorite videos you’ve produced because you mentioned so many similarities... probably ALL the points you mentioned hit home with me! Well done!
I have Autism and ADHD. I really like both yours and How to ADHD channel.
i know what you mean about the words being registered as pain.. im not that way with words really but some sounds like static, especially when its breaking up other sounds. like im normally ok with static on its own, like white noise, but when there would be a radio playing and there was static.. it felt like a physical pain. i think i get a similar reaction to some emotional triggers to, like when see someone doing something i see as "egregiously wrong" it causes a sensation similar to pain. or like highly embarrassing things.
Yes i have also had that from emotional triggers
Hello Dan, great video. When I am in a state of relaxation, my mind screen is a tapestry of deep rich purple and emerald/ bluish clouds melting with each other. It happens occasionally and if a door is slammed at the time I both hear the sound and see a pale purplish pink clould exploding/opening the tapestry fabric.Very much attached to objects too and love to stroke explore them.
I also am on the Spectrum, and definitely have narrow fixations(I collect tobacco pipes and walking sticks/canes), am a big fan of star wars(still have most of my figures), play d&d here and there. Like you, I'll also laugh at random stuff that I remember from days, months or even years ago. I also repeat words in my head! I think that doing so is much similar to echolalia (albeit internally and non verbal). It is very interesting. Thanks for the video!
OMG!!! things have a soul! you're the first one I found to feel the same! Amazing! I have problems with possessing things I feel I can handle a maximum amount of objects of "whom" I can take responsibility. I cannot explain it better
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“We’ve all seen the film Rain Man” I actually rolled my eyes when you said this 😆
Fantastic video. I relate to a lot of this, especially the ‘colours in blocks’ re. days of the week & having a planned pattern ‘thrown off’ causing devastation
I wanna see it again, is a beautiful film.
I don’t have autism but I totally get that ‘colours and personalities for numbers and days of the week’. Like some numbers just feel nice and others dont, and I associate colours very heavily with repeating things like months and stuff
I repeat words too. I will have a favourite word and will loop it in my mind.
Sleep is difficult because my mind is busy all the time.
"The Accountant" is an action movie that features Autism as well....might be worth a look
I'll take a look thanks
@@miriammaldonado7848 you're welcome
Cool!
I want to see it now.
My "special interest" is Me, Myself, and I.
I think the most realistic Aspergers interpretation ist delivered by sofia helin in "the bridge"
@@laraabach6201 I will have to look that one up thank you Lara.
Thank you so much for helping me understand myself better! Seriously about a year ago I asked my mom if other people in the world had this too ADHD autism aspergers spectrum and she said of course and my mom's awesome although hearing it from a person that relates to me and others helps so much much love and peace
i had the word repetition thing when i was young a lot, less now but i still have it sometimes. and i DEFINITELY have the object attachment ESPECIALLY WITH TOYS, i gave them characters and a world for them to interact with.
I love puzzles & words. Although, I do have issues with reading. However, I love knowing every definition of a single word, so I know what someone else is saying & I don’t have to guess what they are trying to say
I am the same with certain music, it causes me physical pain that I can not listen to it. I call it noise pollution.
I will think about a line from a song over and over again. I might not have heard it for years or even know what song it's off. Just pops into my head and I end up searching and listening to that song over because of it.
I can 100% relate! Sometimes I will remember a funny line in Good Omens and just laugh...even if no one is with me at the time. I like that a single line can make happy many times over, who doesnt want to be happy? Also the part about synesthesia. To me everything is interpreted as colour- emotions, music, sound, words, sensations, pain...I don't really understand the NT words for things like emotions and pain...at least not in depth. Like I know what "sad" and "happy" are, its just that my understanding is not very meaningful or its purely logical awareness like associated behaviours. The colour is what makes sense to me. Also the part about feeling an connection to objects. I still "think" my soft toys are alive, even though I logically know that they are not as they don't have functioning body organs like hearts or lungs and they don't need to eat food for energy. Its not a delusion because I know its not reality, its just a thing my brain does. I get attached to my gaming pc's too. Books....anything. The part about things being chaos and overwhelming is also true.
im sensitive to loud noises flashing lights some smells i dont like to be touched i dont like the taste of some foods i loved the video dan
I am looking for information on how an autistic person can ask for accommodations and what kind of accommodations to ask for at work. Advice on where to look?
My mind never stops. When I am unable to think about specifics I keep thinking about how I need to think about something. It’s highly uncomfortable not to have something to ponder. Often that’s when I actually fall asleep naturally if I let myself. Sometimes I won’t let myself.
I get so fixated on planes , i talk about planes all day and i go to my local airport and i have to take photos , i knew what a A380 was at 3 years old
Thanks, Dan❣. Shopping malls!!! The list of "stuff to get", the lights, people, noise, heat, smells muzak, etc... And wearing a mask... Dunno if I'm aspie, but retail therapy has NEVER been fun ❣😒
I often get words stuck in my head in the same way I could have a song stuck in my head. As a linguist, sometimes those words are in other languages (e.g. tokidoki, which means 'sometimes' in Japanese), or they're just random mundane words in English. But they get stuck in my head until I find a distraction or something to replace it with. I thought I was just a weirdo, so it's nice to know I'm not the only one who does this kind of thing.
The other day I couldn't stop thinking about the phrase "few and far between." It got to the point where I curiously Googled it to see what Google had to say about it 😂
Daniela Bodoh look up “ hitch hike”
I do stuff like this all the time
Wow. I can relate to SO much of this. Thank you for this video. ❤️
you have good material to be heard but the service delivery is overwhelming. you are great....you must have an audience that can follow. Thank you!
I know what you mean about the connection with objects. It's the same with me
Thanks Dan, this is totally relatable. I was just diagnosed this year.
The Aspie world
I'm stuck in a though loop.
It calming a little bit now.
But it very scary.
I keep thinking, what happens when we die?
That though turn into a pure O OCD though,
I don't know if that is death toll of pandemic.
Or generally anxiety.
LAS video says that the world is every changing which is confusing for people with autism.
But even for NT who know the world is changeable and image a new plan.
Are saying this COVID secure world like a parallel world compared to even early March.
I'm pleased about mask video.
Thank you Dan.
I was be angry at times were you channel was using pandemic to promote your channel.
But the mask video is for us.
It is to help autistic people during this pandemic.
So I should go back and watch that video.
People’s emotions make me feel colors. It’s not that I see them I just feel them. When someone yells it’s like the room, my body, & mind floods with the feeling of reds, oranges, & bright yellows. I hate yellow when. It’s too much 😩
I can relate to literally all of these. I’m always sending autism articles and videos that I relate with to my family so that they can kind of see inside my head and interpret my thoughts/actions, so thank you for giving me yet another video to send them! (Also, I’m currently overthinking about my punctuation and possibly run-on sentences in this post. Don’t mind me 😂)
I can't shut off background sounds which means I hear everything all of the time. Even through noise cancelling headphones often. People just cannot comprehend how difficult it is to function and especially interact with humans when your head is permanently stuck in a bees nest.
For hearing words repeat in your head, I have to repeat it outloud to make it stop. Sometimes I have to say it multiple times. Sometimes it's really fun to say outloud too so I will continue to say it.
I relate a lot to the bit about disruptions in routine. I think it's partly because I have a loose grasp on time, and routine tethers me. So when someone changes a plan, it's especially frustrating because it breaks the chain I've built that helps me deal with that loose grasp. I don't think that's all of it - there are other factors involved for sure - but that's the latest in me trying to explain an aspect of it. Also, certain sounds hurt like dishes clanging and I will just say 'ow!' out loud when I hear them.
I think you explain this perfectly I totally get you
That youtube skateboard 🛹 looks SICK 😃😃😃
Yas to the sleep thing! I used to make up entire stories at night for hours and hours. I loved it! I can't do that anymore now, though. I think because I just have too much to think about in general so by bedtime my brain is just fried. 😔 Objects also have personalities to me too. Sometimes for some reason I look at objects and just feel like I know what kind of character they are. Super weird. As a kid it was part of my making up stories.
I still haven't been diagnosed (getting an appointment has been quite difficult) and sometimes I catch myself wondering if maybe I'm just making things up but everytime I watch one of your videos everything just clicks all over again? All of this sounds so very familiar and it would explain pr much everything I've been struggling with that my other diagnoses just don't cover. Makes me feel less alone, so thank you for your content.
That was soooooo informative. Thank you
The repating words thing is so interesting to me because when I was younger, I used to repeat everything I would hear out loud. If someone was talking to me I'd say the exact same thing back to them, even if I would hear people talking in the other room I would say their conversation out loud. I always thought it had to do with acquiring the language.
Joined your Facebook page being on the spectrum myself and must say made some great new friends Dan
I have Aspergers and I understand everything
Me too 👍🏼
Hero!!
I think I have the latching on to one thing and only being able to concentrate on that with people and that's why being around more than one person is difficult in terms of trying to communicate with multiple people at once
You're awesome always to the rescue!!
Hahaha omg just hearing you explaining that about the jokes made me laugh because I remembered one time that happened to me. I just burst out laughing at the bus and I couldn’t stop my self. It must’ve looked insane 😂😂
thank you so much for this vid! my husband will be watching it too....you are SO inspirational and so helpful....thank you for all you do!
Excellent insight video. I ran thru my life just surviving in a NT world. Now I'm using many of your ideas n realizing many downfalls were sensory overloads. Mis-dx didn't help. I see the monthly calendar symetrically. Plans n appts need to fall in repeatable pattern. N I love dominos, lining them up n the sound when they fall.
A word, a sound, a smell, a texture, a taste, I have certain ones that I can just explain as "headache". Like something smells like headache to me if that makes sense
I literally sat here nodding along to the whole video 😂 and the laughing randomly because of something you remembered thing!!! I've never heard someone talk about that in relation to autism but I do it all the time! 😂👏🏻 I love it
Fascinating video, Dan! I really wish my kid's teachers could watch these videos!!!!
Thanks Dan, this was great!
I can repeat words and sometimes my brain takes a while to process what people say .
I also have in my mind a mini movie playing , especially when I have a quiet moment .
I have a question for other Aspies out there. I have always had a problem with my socks. The sew line can’t be located on the ends of my toes but on top of my toes and even then everything has to be straight so that I don’t feel any bumps on either side of my feet. I will take off my shoes and straighten my socks over and over again since I was a kid. I’m 54 years old now and, eve though I’m a paraplegic from my military service, I still have to straighten my socks. It’s not like I can feel the difference anymore but it’s that I can see the difference. Do any of you have this problem too?
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I work in the trades with steel cap boots & thick socks. I don't like my socks causing me a different feel between my feet. I'll stop right in the middle of work, take my boot off & pull up or reposition my sock. Other guys look at my funny. 😂 Like mate, I don't want to work feeling discomfort.
I do that too ( anthropomorphizing, but not as much. It can lead to Clutter 🐈 ) Just keep everything and nothing will be sad
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Nice video! Also i’m first!
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I can have similar issues with sleep, but my coping mechanism for them I developed quite young by telling stories to myself in my mind. It’s basically like reading a book, but I fully control what happens and I just naturally drift off during the story.
Sometimes I pick up where I fallen asleep the previous night and sometimes I start a new story... no idea if it’s helpful or not to share 😅...
Thank you for this video.
A typical is a great show on Netflix that is about a kid who has aspergers. The actor doesn't have it himself but they have done a lot of research and there is actually actors on the show who do have autism etc.
Hey, I’m a synesthete (someone with synesthesia) and though I have the type that correlates sounds to colors, scents, and tastes. It is far from the only type. The most common type is grapheme-color (I think) which is the automatic connection between letters, numbers, and/or words with colors. For example February is a medium pink while 8 is a vibrant red. You might have synesthesia yourself
When you mentioned the joke delay thing, I knew I've done that a lot. Then I thought about the Arnold Schwarzenegger "Predator" movie. Sonny Landham (William M. "Sonny" Landham III) played the role of Billy Sole the tracker in a military team that ends up fighting the Predator. In the helicopter Hawkins tells a joke and Billy Sole (Landham) does not react at all. Later Hawkins tells Billy Sole a similar joke and gives a quick explanation and after a short delay Billy Sole laughs, as if it's the funniest joke ever.
The character Billy Sole (Landham) also has a special Intuitive skill of being able to sense the presence of the invisible Predator. Did the screenwriters give the Billy Sole character an autistic nature so that his later feats tracking the Predator were more believable?
If you could describe your pain with words, what would that be? The one produced by certain words.
The reason why I say "tism" instead of "autism" is because the "au" sound on it causes me physical pain on my chest, right where the heart is. It's almost like sadness pain. BUt the sounds in "tism" make me feel a nice tingling sensation on the center of my spine for the 2 or so secs it takes me to make those sounds.
I can't seem to find the "sleeping playlist" you talked about putting in the description? 😊
I can say only one thing about u...... beautiful mind👍👍👍👍👍
I don’t do it with one word but I do obsess over phrases or a line in a song. The Baby Shark song is dread awful at getting to leave.
Thank you so much for sharing what goes on in your mind, i really appreciate the help you are providing. I started watching you because my 5 year old son has autism. Almost everything you described happens in my mind. makes me wonder if i could possiby have autism as well.
Who else sees numbers as having a different colour, i.e. 1 being dark blue, 2 being green, 3 being a goldish yellow etc.
it sounds like your object personification is because each object has a specific purpose. You are denying it of its ultimate purpose in this existence. And it's a horrible mirror to look at. To have your usefulness taken away...
This is the most excellent explanation of this I have heard! Brilliant!
Good point ❣
Hi, does anyone know any supplements or vitamins that help with the social deficiency’s with ASD? Like eye contact, social awkwardness, speaking? I’m really trying to make new friends and have relationships but it’s just hard to
For me, there's been no "magic pill" or supplement that really helped. Most of it is just practice. I still have eye contact trouble so I'll just look at the person's forehead, so they think I'm making eye contact. It's just so....i don't know. combative? to look into someone's eyes and it's just really uncomfortable for me to do it.
@@LycaWatyre Aw thanks for the response anyway:) I know its a complete joke that Autism has been around for 100's of years, and they still don't have any medication to target and treat the core symptoms that people on the ASD have which a huge one is social skills, like eye contact, ability to approach and talk to people fluently, carry on conversations etc! You need to have good social skills to help you succeed in this world, their so fundamentally important in everything you do in life. There has been recent talks of medications to help target and cure these symptoms, so hopefully these medications come out very very soon.
I don’t know about it treating ASD, but getting more omega 3s really helps my anxiety, which in turn might help you relax a bit in social situations. I hope this helps! ☺️
I can't have my phone is the bathroom while I am using it or showering because I feel like it is 'watching me.'
The repetition of words and phrases is called echolalia and I experienced echolalia with the word echolalia. That was interesting
i know you cover a lot and i love your videos, but could you focus more on things for people on the spectrum, so they can understand themselves more? i notice in a lot of comments, come from people on yhe spectrum. thanks and keep up your good work
☂ great nostaga. A book called was a classic autism read at the time.
Freeks, geeks and Asperger's syndrome.
Where he talks about Aspergers being under an umbrella of autism.
Now it's all a rainbow the autism spectrum.