PSA to parents: if your kids friends call and say they're concerned about them absolutely DO NOT brush it off because it takes a lot for someone's buddies to do that.
@@ledpinkdefsabbathwhokinksd9733 it’s pretty easy to say that from the outside looking in. They’re probably incredibly confused and hurt. No need to lash out my dude
I would give anything if my son’s friends had called beforehand. Our only son hung himself in August of 2019. Friends came out of the woodwork afterward telling us they thought about calling, that they were worried about him. Please, if you ever suspect a friend is in trouble, give the family an opportunity to intervene. His six sisters and his father and I are devastated. I never get to hug my baby boy again. We couldn’t even see him because he wasn’t found for a day and a half in the Arizona heat. If anyone is considering taking their life, I beg you to get help. You don’t realize what it will do to those you love. I feel like I’m the walking dead.
Unless he caused the death by unsafely and unsolicited following a depressed stranger who clearly wanted to be left alone. In which case, fuck that guy.
Did a law enforcement training course where we had to go over suicide and that is LITERALLY the number one sign and where you need to start asking hard questions and preparing to get proper authorities involved.
@@1Scital1 What would we all do without you, captain obvious...? No one mentioned it because it was obvious...When you can explain WHY he was suicidal, get back to us...?
The beginning of this story, and how he was giving his stuff to his friends/breaking up with his girlfriend are all massive signs of suicide. My heart goes out to him.
Yeah but the hesitation and signs that he survived the crash make me think he ran tf away from his crazy a§ Karen B mom. He could even get away from her by being nowhere. I think he crashed iff willing to die but ran when he survived. Hope I meet him. That guy deserves a feel blunt and a free hug.❤
Christian is a really wonderful person. I hope he doesn’t blame himself for not following him all the way home. He did so much to make sure he was safe
@@BabeBee. I found myself saying “oh my god what a sweet dude” every time John talked about him. Yeah I hope so too, sounds like he was going through a lot.
Definitely, and notice how the police did their job in a professional & caring way here too (how it should be all the time). Everyone tried, even his roomate & x-gf. Just sometimes you can't help those who won't help themselves. Obviously the kid was loved and respected too.
The Mechanic deserves an Award for being such an empathic, caring, upstanding citizen. He didn't know Bryce or his family & he went above & beyond to help the family
I think he looked in the eyes of Bryce and realized something was wrong... Too bad a lot of people are facing some issues with mental health problems and we can't realize it until it is too late...
As soon as I heard about him giving away valuables, my heart sank. A lot of people do that before attempting. Some write wills, some blow their money and others gift their most valuable items to friends and family. It's a sign that should not be ignored. Especially if the person doesn't seem their usual self
Plus his high ability to fake normalcy so nobody would interfere or try to talk him out of it. That shows some massive determination to the attempt and to follow through with it, when someone tries to prevent even the possibility of getting saved.
My heart goes out for to the parents. It's easy for us to sit here and say what we would do but his parents obviously believed in their son and are beating themselves over all this every day. GOD bless everyone that was involved in this tragic event.
when he gave his earrings and xbox to his friend, him being suicidal was the first thing I thought. If someone starts giving you their precious things out of nowhere, pay attention to them. Usually this behavior is an apology, a parting gift.
Exactly what I thought as well. It takes the place of a will and acts as a sort of goodbye and giving your loved ones something to remember you by. Suicidal people usually realize their death will have a negative emotional impact on their loved ones, and giving away things that are precious to them is also a way of giving them some form of comfort of their love even after they’re gone.
I’m just astonished that their kid was only three hours away and they didn’t just go pick him up. If they’re told that he’s just been sitting there, it’s obvious that he is not doing well (as his friends said). It’s frustrating to hear that he sat there for a whole day and they didn’t just go to him.
I can't believe the INSANE levels denial by his parents! This was SOOO preventable. I mean, just how many one-in-a-million chances did they get to intervene?! It's like the UNIVERSE was trying to prevent this, and they just shrugged and rationalized every time!
My parents are also like this. I was in an abusive marriage and begged them to come get me after she started breaking my bones. They never came. I tried ending my life to escape the situation.I was also only 3 hours away. Some parents really don't care. I escaped the situation myself and I'm no contact with my family now.
exactly what i was saying,, his parents seemed to care but they really didn’t care which is so strange cus why call and call?? like truly if the mom care after that second time she hear he was jus sitting, she should’ve got up and went to him herself, and she would’ve reached him in like an hour an a half and picked up her son so he’s IN HER EYE SIGHT, and find out what’s wrong and get him the help he needed. She’d probably be with her son today.❤️
I see where you’re coming from, but please don’t blame the parents. We have no idea why Bryce did what he did or why he had the psychotic break he did. The parents in the moment, thought their son would return home, everything would be fine and he would explain all what was happening to him. In the moment they thought that and I think we shouldn’t judge them. Bryce wasn’t in the right mind. When somebody is thinking rational thoughts they don’t think straight who knows maybe nothing would have happened if they went to pick him up or maybe he would’ve went back home, left and went missing that way. I think we have to have empathy and understand that Bryce’s parents tried as hard as they could to get their son home.
This is the case I can’t let go. One time, I had an emotional breakdown and tried to drive 4.5 hours to my parents. I got maybe halfway and I couldn’t go on. Called my parents and said I was at a rest stop. Fell asleep in the car and woke up to my daddy knocking on my car window. Yep, middle of the night and he drove all that way go get me. Ever since I heard about this case, I have been so grateful my dad did that. Now that he’s gone, I realize more and more how lucky I was to have him. I could have been like Bryce. It just really gets to me.
@@nohomoedgelordallenioso5005 I was literally yelling the same thing at my screen during the parts where his parents urged him to go home. I guess it’s easier to see in hindsight, or from the perspective of someone who has experienced similar psychological trauma, but I kept thinking to myself, for Bryce’s parents to repeatedly urge him to continue driving home, after a multitude of huge red flags, that it was akin to asking an intoxicated Alzheimer’s patient to do the same. It’s a tragedy that no one, including the police officers, were able to pick up on that.
Sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a genuine man. I’m sure he’s still with you, as he was when you were going through it. Positive vibes for you and your tribe 🙏
@@robinjandhi6661 I was thinking the opposite, that the parents were being extremely annoying and pestering him too much. They were treating him like a child, instead of an adult. Although when I was 18, my parents didn't buy me a car and put me in college and give me a credit card, so he wasn't that independent. I just kept thinking I would have been yelling at my mom to leave me alone, and I would have gotten really creeped out and upset if my parents looked up the gas station I went to had the guy come visit me. It just felt really intrusive to me personally.
His parents should have gone and picked him up. When somebody is acting strangely, you shouldn't trust them to drive themselves anywhere. Especially not on a 3-hour trip.
I agree, there is no way my parents would have sat at home and slept. They're in their 80's & no way would they ignore a stress call. They would have been on the road at any of these calls, the fact his parents didn't even attempt to drive out and meet him is strange. I wonder what was the reason he gave to the girlfriend for breaking up with her. I think something happened while he was on holiday with his parents, not when he can back to his dorm. I think maybe he was one of those people that just decided, "you know what I want a different life", it happens
I am 31 and I didn't answer my phone for a couple days at one point and my dad showed up at my house 3 hours away. These parents REALLY didn't want to get out huh?
@Eteuati S if he's acting so strangely that his ex-girlfriend is taking his keys from him so he can't leave and right before that you've gotten a phone call that also says how strangely he's acting you KNOW it's because he's acting strange and not because "it's a bad break up" and you should come assist in your sons weird behavior but not these parents and then there was the multiple times after that they should have intervened and decided not to. They now have to live with their choice to not help him when he needed them the most. Talk about shitty parents.
For me and my mom not talking for a few weeks normal. Actually it would bother me if she was checking in all the time. Although we return each others missed calls quickly
Good for you. All parents parent differently. He wasn’t just not answering the phone. I’m sure the parents are kicking their asses enough. They don’t need spoiled little brats like y’all kicking them while they’re down. They obviously loved him
It makes me mad when people are this ignorant. I don't mean the parents, I mean you..... You have a thing in your head that thinks and this is the best you came up with?
@@POIUYTREWQ62dude epic roast. You have a thing inside ur head, and it cooks up epic #rareinsults bro. Its a gift, and you should he thankful. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise. Much love, Andrew
@POIUYTREWQ62 It's bad parenting and I see why he didn't think he could speak to his parents about his mental struggles they couldn't have cared less in this situation. They did the bare minimum and Christian a total stranger cared more about their son then they did
@@joannajamerson35 Me too, not the best at it, but I’m pretty good at it which makes me sad sometimes because I can feel a lot of pain of others. :( Also, that helps me share out kindness into the world which I love doing. :)
I am not trying to be funny or say anything bad about this kid and this is just a theory based on the information gathered. Maybe he was gay and in love with his friend he gave the gifts to. I don't know a lot of guys who wear diamond earrings and he gave his earrings and x box to him then right before he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to tell his mother something. He may have been just sitting in the car wondering what everyone would think.
Once you find a missing person, you don't then move them on without a final destination. Best thing for the kid would have been to leave him where he was.
As soon as Bryce started giving his prized possessions away to his friend and severed ties with his girlfriend it was obvious this dude was planning on offing himself
I think my response if someone tried that would be to ask if they were dying. It mightn't occur to me that they might be offing themselves, but I'd certainly be worried for their welfare.
Police has conclcuded that he's alive and voluntarily missing. Apparently his parents were grade A douchebags. Who could've guessed that parents who can't be arsed to drive a couple hours to help their distressed son would turn out to be shitty parents.
@@Dalroc I was gunna say after Christian called and told them he was at the hotel parking lot, if it were my son I’d ask Christian to stay with my boy I’ll be there in an hour and a half.
Also, what's up with his parents? Do they not know how to drive? Why didn't they just go get him? When those closest to you don't seem to care, then what do you do? ... Check out -- Alone.
@@2Bad4YOUuu Not to mention his dad was the one who convinced his ex girlfriend to give him his keys back, this could've been avoided had he listened to them saying he was acting really odd and drove up to see what was going on with Bryce the next day. Terrible idea to let him drive in such a state and his ex knew it. And then after that instead of just going to pick him up they kept expecting him to drive home when obviously that wasn't going to happen. The parents really messed up here
Yeah it brings clarity to his mindset, his parents probably weren't the best to be parents to someone with any kind of mental struggles. Either lazy, uncaring or unfortunately not too bright
I’m sorry but his parents infuriate me. If that was my son I would drive out there myself and pick him up instead of sending everyone to go check on him.
Honestly those parents don't deserve a kid. Who can't be bothered to drive three measley hours, or even one hour after that saint of a tow truck driver made sure he left and followed him for over an hour!
@@JonathanLit to be honest we dont even know why the parents didnt druve out. obviously the obvious choice was for them to drive out and get him. but what if they didnt have a car or wouldve drove past him on the highway, maybe one of the parents were ill. idk?
It's called being in denial. I know someone who couldn't accept that her son has autism. He only recently received help at 18, and they only gave in since he became suicidal since he couldn't understand why he was different from other people. And yes, it's infuriating.
When people start giving away important, valuable things; it is a red flag for suicide. Breaking up for no reason is another one. This broke my heart as a mother.
They cheer up drastically as well. A weight is lifted so to speak once they commit in their heart to do it. They believe relief is coming. This goes hand in hand with gifting posession. And making amends as well.
Every time I hear this sad story I'm at a total loss to understand how his parents didn't drive back to him right away. They had so many opportunities. The guilt they must feel is unimaginable.
That's true but I have a lot of experience with suicidal people and often, when they've made up their mind , if they're *saved* they just go off and do it another day. It's very sad.
The moment he said he was tired of driving and wanted to take a nap after acting the way he did earlier I would have drove out with my husband to go pick my son up.. I can’t understand how they slept that night.
@@rscjawesom I mean he was on the highway. Go drive out there and look for your son along the same highway even if its all the way from Buttonwillow to whatever the other town was called
The mechanic was so caring, he went out of his way for a complete stranger several times. The thing about suicidal people is that you can put on a happy face so no one suspects it, I’m guessing the family just can’t accept it
Plot twist. The mechanic Christian followed him and foul play was involved. He seemed a little too interested in helping. No blood at the scene of the crash? I bet a mechanic would know how to jam the accelerator to send the car off the cliff. The car accelerated just before going over. His duffel bag open near the crash and rummaged through? Plus who better to perform nefarious acts on, than someone who is legit suicidal. Hmmm
@@nekad2000 yup thats the truth when your feeling that bad you get good at hiding it and truthfully no one will know unless you say something yourself. I know this because when I was 21 I myself tried to comment suicide and failed but no one ever knew what I did for nearly 15yrs when I finally told my family what I tried to do when I was 22. Everyone was dumbfounded and completely caught of guard when I told the full story in detail and they couldn't believe that they couldn't tell what was going on they all said I seemed so happy at the time but thats just how good you get at hiding your true self and putting on a facade for everyone else.
Yes, I agree, Christian is good people. I hope he's not feeling any kinda way about not following Bryce all the way home. I suppose the parents could have met him half way on the journey since they knew Bryce's behaviour was out of character. But I don't blame them for what happened, Bryce was fully grown and undiagnosed with any mental health issues. At the end of the day, no one has the gift of reading minds. We can only aim to trust our family members and hope for the best.
@@jennyjoyce9465 yeah seriously, how did his parents not go drive there and get him. instead they just wait around for hours calling people when they could have been there before he even left the rest stop.
Exactly what I was wondering. As his parent,, the moment he gave away his diamond earrings and his Xbox, I would have had him placed under 24 hr watch until I got there.
The second he started giving away his important things, my heart dropped and I realized where this was going. I feel so bad for his friends and family, being suddenly confronted with that severe warning signs.
I had the same feeling. I've seen it too many times in music videos of songs about this kind, most notably "Coming Down" by Five Finger Death Punch. The exact same scenario from this story played out in the song's music video.
I agree, giving away things that are important to someone to a good friend or family is a strong sign. Or other little things that are odd to ones character. At least his friend & girlfriend noticed & tryed to let his parents know their friend was in trouble. Usually things like this are only noticed in hind sight.
A kid at my highschool, my he rest in peaceace, started to give all his nice stuff away got into a drunk driving accident not long after and ended his life that night before cops showed up. Im 27 this was 10 years ago, none of us even knew real life yet. Its tragic when people think there is no option hope or salvation.
I was about to comment the same thing, I had an attempt like two years ago and it was the first thing I wanted to do… I hope he’s doing better now and he’s having a good life :(❤️
Parents: "it had to be foul play" Yeah, the foul play was his two parents sitting on their asses while their son was 3 short hours away in OBVIOUS distress.
Why would you pick someone up who has a car? What is the logic? to pick him up and get the car towed when he could just drive it him self? U lot just say all this now in hindsight but most normal people wouldn't assume the worst straight away.
@@jan-um7nh Both of the parents could have driven out there and then one of them could have driven Bryce's car back home. Or while on the phone with the mechanic they could have arranged to get the vehicle and their son back home. (it'd probably be a few hundred bucks but 🤷) I do have to say I thought about how strange it was that the parents didn't go get him but that was because the other videos I've seen about this case just stated that Bryce was "on the side of the highway." But if he was actually stopped at a motel, that's a bit more reasonable why he would be in the same town hours after getting gas. Like he stopped to sleep before driving again. However, when the mechanic called the parents an HOUR AFTER the police left and told them that their son was STILL at the motel THEN I would have definitely grabbed my shoes and start driving to get him if I was his parent.
@@jan-um7nhyou can't be that slow. It's not about picking them up. It's about seeing if he looks off and making sure he's good. Can also have him as passenger instead of driver
@@jan-um7nh the logic is there in what happened in those 24 hours. 3 times for hours when tols that come home he sat there. Even had to call the police to get to him, even after that he didn't move, he gave his stuff away, he was behaving strange, he was calm but his actions were definitely strange. That's reason enough to go get your son, and not rely on him to drive all the way home. Did he give a reason why he didn't drive for hours but just sat in the parking lot?
NO ill intent toward the parents, but after several hours of trying to coax my kid to come home from a strange town with no success, I would have just driven up to find him myself.
My daughter just went to the beach for graduation and had a flat 3 hrs away. She was with one other girl her age and I knew the road they were on was a long 2 lane stretch with nothing around for about 10 miles and it was getting dark. I don't trust anyone else when it comes to my daughter so I didn't even think about really. Just told her to sit in the car and if anyone stopped besides police tell them that police were in there way from a cracked window, keep the doors looked and I Got in my truck within 10 minutes and went down to fix it. It just blows my mind that these parents didn't take it upon themselves to go get their son. I don't care how old my daughter gets. I'm her father and protector and if I think she's in trouble I don't depend on other people. Such a shame
That's exactly what i thought. I know they were trying but instead of waiting so many hours I would have just driven there. Actually Bryce is a friend of a friend of a friend and they're actually from or lived in Naperville Illinois, I dunno if that's why or where the confusion is, I know they had a California home. But they may have been here in Illinois.
Most definitely. It’s one of the 1st things people who plan on committing suicide do. Very tragic story & I can’t imagine the pain of not knowing. It does seem as though he hitched a ride with a Trucker to “escape” from something...his demons or some bad people. How terribly sad for the parents & friends who obviously loved him so much. 💔
@@SisuGirl I swear on my kids life’s Iv seen him on a video on UA-cam 6 months ago... he’s a monk in Tibet .. I’m trying to find the video now.. I never forget his face coz he was telling his story.. Iv been searching for the video for the last hour... I can’t F?)king find it. Some one needs to tell his parents he’s still alive
I am beginning to wonder if I just watch you not so much because of the stories but because of your talent to tell a story in all its details and keep your audience captivated.
Yeah the man literally checked on the well being of a stranger twice while his parents just sat on their asses putting their trust in an obviously disturbed person smh
He went wayyyyy above and beyond. I bet he still beats himself up thinking he should've went just a little further. I hope he knows he did EVERYTHING he didn't have to do. OUTSTANDING PERSON🏆
@@MelissaNicoleYT i agree.. he is such a great person that i believed he will feel guilty he didnt sent the guy home.. he shouldnt have to so it saddens me to know he probably will have to live with this regret
I'm a survivor. As soon as he happily started giving away his expensive gifts, that triggered "suicidal" in my mind. The breaking up with his gf cemented it for me. The blank staring was, believe it or not, likely guilt; silently apologizing to everyone he knows he's going to hurt. He knew he wasn't coming home, and it's very likely he never will. I hope your troubles don't follow you to the hereafter, Bryce.
Stay a survivor, please, no matter how hard it seems. Even mental health professionals miss the the signs of 'a decision made'. Family and friends need to know the signs, particularly if a person has been acting stressed, unhappy/depressed, then seems to 'snap out of it' and/or begins prepping. If you believe you can educate those in your community about the signs and what kind of support is best from your pov, consider it?
@@sealyoness Firstly, thank you for the concern, friend. Secondly, this was approx. 25 years ago and I have been educating in a professional capacity for nearly that extent of that time. I want people to know that no matter how down they're feeling, they're never alone in that and that those left behind suffer just as much when they're gone. ";"
I agree. When I first heard about this story, i thought it might have been a psychotic break but it doesn't make sense to me that everybody he talked to along the way claimed he was acting completely normal. I still wouldn't rule out that possibility completely but you're right there are clear signs that might point to a possible suicide. It's a huge misconception that people have about individuals with suicidal ideations that they'd appear to be depressed or down. Sometimes they might even seem really happy, because they've made up their mind to do it. I guess he might have been sitting in his car for hours because he was battling this inner conflict of wanting to do it and knowing that he shouldn't. When he survived the crash he probably got a ride with a truck driver to god-knows-where and possibly finished it.
I'm half way through this video, and all I can think of is: why, the hell, the parents DIDN'T just drive to get their son? One of them could stay home, the other could drive, instead of waiting for him to come up by himself. Especially after numerous times Bryce failed to actually drive home. Come on, parents.
Yeah my thoughts exactly. That place was only 3 hours away and after all his erratic behaviour you'd think goin to get him would be by far the best option.
We're watching a Mr Ballen video. We know what to expect. We know that tragedy is almost certainly around the corner. Put yourself in his parent's shoes. They saw him barely 2 weeks earlier and saw how happy and enthusiastic he was about school and life. They'd most likely talked at length with him over the course of months about everything. We watched a video less than 30 minutes with the benefit of easily guessing what's in store. From their point of view it was just a bunch of odd setbacks and delays. Should they have just gone and got him? Absolutely. But I do understand their thought process having believed that everything was fine.
How is it that they didn't suspect some kind of mental health issue going on? I always can indicate if someone I'm close to isn't acting himself or herself. It's as if they were clueless. I'm not trying to insult them, but they really had no clue to tell police that their son was acting erratic and perhaps needed psychiatric intervention. I'm with you though, I would have driven up there if that were my son.
Christian was more invested than the parents. Breaks my heart that his parents did not come to get him. There was ample time to see him and get him help. Sorry you felt the way you did Bryce. Hope you’ve found some type of peace.
exactly what I was thinking. like, this totally unrelated dude took time out of his day to randomly go look for this dude but his own family didn't give enough of a $### to drive a couple hours to go check on him. I would have stolen a bicycle from a nun if I had to, to get to a family member clearly showing signs of distress. I am betting now he did get picked up by some random trucker who either took advantage of him, or worse, but maybe he did have a massive head injury combined with mental trauma causing a memory blockage and he is out there with no idea who he is or that people are looking for him. He could have been taken several states away by hitch hiking. Could be living in a trailer working at a truck stop 8 states away and have no idea who he was.
I cannot believe that, despite so many missed opportunities, Brice's parents did not drive 3 hours up to Brice in Buttonwillow from their home!! If I were them, I would have dropped everything and drove to him!
Mom could've stayed home just in case he was actually driving home and the dad should've driven up. IDK maybe one or both of the parents had a medical issue, night blindness, took heavy medication. I just don't get why neither of them drove up to find him. Thank God for Christian, he tried really hard to bring the boy home to his mama.
I lost my son to drug addiction 2 yrs ago 😢, but at least I knew what happened. I cannot imagine losing a child this way, with no closure. I hope his parents have found some kind of peace thru this 🙏🙏
Who ever Cristian the repair man is he is a great human being, caring, out going, and honest. I’m glad to see that good people exist in this world. This man followed a kid who he had nothing to do with for an hour after already helping him and checking on him once before. I hope he is healthy and living a long and happy life.
I feel awful for all of those involved, but I feel a special kind of empathy for Christian. He didn't need to get involved, he doesn't have any reason for guilt, but I know he regrets not following for the rest of the drive, not making completely sure that Bryce got home.
Yes. He went above and beyond - and is likely tormented he didn't follow Bryce the whole way. Thank you so much for making note of this. Christian is an amazing credit to the human race!
@@yuovettenelson8574 Yeah, it seems crazy and borderline suspicious to me that at least one of the parents wouldn't drive an hour or two to try and intercept him after everything that happened up to that point. Even a complete stranger went with him/followed for over an hour.
@@DankNG47 Suicidal ideation is common but faking your death is incredibly rare and typically only happens when they have something to run from like former gang members or people trying to avoid criminal charges. It was probably just depression.
I always thought it a bad thing that my mother was so pushy, but feel it's a godsend after hearing this. If she told me she's flying out, and I told her not to, she'd say, "I don't care if you want me there or not. Something isn't right. You stay right there until I get there." Don't be upset with your overly pushy parents. It could potentially save you someday.
As much as this story is heartbreaking, I kept wondering why Bryce's parents didn't just fetch him. He stayed in Buttonwillow for hours. They could have told the mechanic to please watch their son and they'll be there and fetch him.
@@18937charlotte Of course they can. Dude stays in a rest stop in Buttonwillow for 3 hours. What's the next thing he'll do? Continue staying there, of course! And then he stays there for another 7 hours. What's the next thing he'll do?
@@dwaynepeters4520 For sure it raised alarm bells in his parents, and they were certainly very worried and confused. However the extent of his actions were unlike anything they could have imagined. But even having heard their story surely leads to many parents realizing that literally anything is possible, and to not take any chances should they ever fave a similar situation.
@@leecoffill8425 they absolutley did not do ‘everything they could reasonably do’. They knew he was sat staring out the window in a car park for 9 hours after repeatedly lying to them about going home. ANY parent I know would have been on their way there the minute he was sat in a car park, lying about coming home after his friends had expressed mental health concerns.
@@leecoffill8425 no...they didn't. He said he was coming home hours ago from the first encounter in the parking lot. Second time in the parking......come on Missy, with Everything b4 that, I would know deeeeep down sump ant right n am gonna get out there.
@@leecoffill8425 I call bullshit. I was missing for an hour once during a mental break from depression and my father went out and hunted me down to take me home so I couldn't get hurt. An hour and the man dropped everything, he ran out of his job at a construction site to come find me. Shame his brain was completely torn apart by cancer and a previous head injury because he's not that same man anymore sadly, just a hollow asshole. But back then he'd move heaven and earth for his kids in a heartbeat. The fact his parents despite being 18 did not drive out the 2.5 hour drive to the stop to talk to him or pick him up makes me less sympathetic to them and more angry instead.
I feel bad for families who find it so difficult to accept the reality of a child’s death or disappearance that they believe it must have been foul play. Foul play is such a worse scenario but yet that is still easier to believe than that their child was depressed/suicidal.
My parents have traveled 3+hrs immediately to help me no hesitation for less. I've had mental and substance abuse issues in the past and have put myself in poor situations. I thank God everyday for the endless love they've shown me.
@@desperatelyseekingsusan6976 different people had different sense of urgency. take the mechanic, he offered to check on Bryce and the mom said oh it's really unnecessary they're sure he's on his way, but even after declined of his offer, he still went out his way to check on him. it's all down to a person's character, being proactive instead of reactive. it's just too unfortunate that he didn't see him through all the way till he's physically back home
One of his parents should’ve drove to that small town where he was sitting. The other stay back in laguna and waited. That Christian did more than both of his parents.
Their behavior is really weird I didn't understand why they didn't just go get him if you google it he was actually showing some warning signs of wanting to end his life. This wasn't one of those situations where you tell your kid what to do and expect them to listen this is one where it's best to step in because something is definitely off and it needs attention.
That's why I don't think he wanted to kill himself. The pressure from school, his girlfriend and his parents got to him and he just wanted to fake his own death and disappear and start over. Start a new life.
As soon as he started giving away expensive items that he owned, I knew it was going to be suicide. He was happy two weeks before the attempt because people suffering from major depression who have decided on suicide can paradoxically seem happier, back to their old selves to outsiders. The reason for the depression sufferer is that they now have a goal and an endpoint to their suffering, and it feels like a relief. Everything about the first part of the story is a textbook suicide story, regardless of what the parents think.
You’re exactly right. I (thank god) had a failed attempt to unalive myself and shortly after I had made the decision I did have a period of euphoria leading up to the event. I’m very happy to be alive today; I had lost my wife and daughter and thought I had nothing. It’s a dark place to be. If anyone ever needs help please call the National hotline text or call 988.
A stranger tries to accompany him home while his own parents stay at home and avoid facing him with his as-yet-unspoken-about issue. This suggests to me that his parents knew what he wanted to talk about and were terrified of speaking about it. Otherwise they would have gone straight out and got him. They are hiding something.
Mannnnn , a triple *SALUTE* goes out to *CHRISTIAN* for going the extra mile when nobody asked him too ✊.. The WORLD needs more people like *CHRISTIAN* in it 🤞💯
@@janedoebean8599 yes, but how would Christian have driven the car off a cliff without dying, and if he didn't die his friends would have brought up the severe injuries and blood
The parents were literally a couple of HOURS from their son. I'm not trying to judge them, as I'm sure they considered their options, but damn. They (or one of them) so could have driven straight to him multiple times before he drove off the road. I'm sure they are really kicking themselves and I realize that hindsight is 20/20...
This is what I kept thinking. Why not just get in the car and go to him? They could have had the cop or the mechanic sit with him in the hotel parking lot while they drove to get him.
I have personal experience with this type of scenario. When you tell your parents you're fine and sound normal they want to believe it so they do. Doesn't matter who told them what and they also don't want to step on toes making the situation worse. Best thing they could have done in hindsight is 5150 him.
So it’s just a few hours away but his parents didn’t attempt to go there, but this mechanic who didn’t know him was willing to find him twice and even followed him up hours to make sure he headed home. Was driving out to find your child such an inconvenience?
I'm fascinated by the abundance of comments talking about it being suspicious that the parents didn't drive to try and find him as soon as he started acting odd, or at least at some point during the ordeal. Based on my personal experience, I saw nothing unusual about it whatsoever...but that's clearly a reflection of my upbringing. Interesting notice. It's been more than 15 years since I first moved out as an adult, but I simply cannot see my parents going to the lengths other people are describing here - EVER - even in my 20s or as a teen. But my point is this...what they did is not necessarily fishy/suspicious at all. A lack of a truly strong reaction doesn't mean they're trying to kill their kid. They're just not the types to be 100% invested in their kids. I absolutely do know my parents love me. But they just aren't as devoted, proactive, or demonstrative as most parents, it seems (not just from my different perception of this situation, but also over the years and my noticing this in general.) I never knew it was unusual that they didn't show as much affection until I was older, and even now, I have trouble recognizing that it's unusual. I am so fortunate to have them in my life at all, and I know I'm not the only one with parents like this. But...it's kind of crazy to imagine how much of a difference it probably makes to have parents that fiercely love you and raise you to make sure you know what your life is worth. I do wish I could relate to these comments about the parents not seeming very devoted.
@@vivianisz761 I wouldn’t say the parents were suspicious or didn’t care enough, I’d say they didn’t believe their son to be capable being anything but “normal.” They weren’t concerned quite enough when both his roommate and gf called them. Even when he lied to them, they still believed him when he said he’d come home. As soon as I heard he was giving away things to his roommate, I immediately thought suicide. Of course it’s easy for me to say after the fact, but no matter what the son said during that first call with him, I’d already be driving/flying to go to him.
@@deprofundis3293 I know what you mean. My parents are very similar. It's not that they didn't/don't put much effort in to helping me in particular, they're the exact same way with everyone. My parents are very much proponents of the "you worry about yourself, not anyone else" philosophy. They do not understand many of the values my siblings and I have like going out of our way to help strangers, volunteering, or even being against racism. "Why do anything unless there's something in it for you" is a question they genuinely don't have an answer for. Why go out of your way to help a stranger who's never helped you before if it's going to waste your own personal time, make you late for work etc? Why volunteer and work for no compensation in return? Why care about what's happening to a group of people that you aren't a part of?" They essentially believe only stupid people would do these things. If you bring up the point that the only reason they live so privileged is because they were lucky enough to be born into a privileged family, they're answer is basically "so? is that our fault? if we were born into a poorer family then we would share the same views as other poorer families because that's what would benefit us the most. everyone does what's best for themselves and their situation." They don't seem to feel the emotions of guilt or empathy. I do love them in a sense, and I am very grateful I have them as opposed to no parents at all, but I know I can't ever rely on them or trust them. Even if I were on the brink of death, the first thing that would pop into their mind is the life insurance payout they would receive. There are people out there who have children for all the wrong reasons, and would never bat an eye to help their children. I also want to add that my siblings and I were all the top students in our class, got pre-acceptance and scholarships to all the schools we applied for after grade 11, I worked full-time in addition to going to school all throughout high school (I literally didn't have a minute of free time through the week), had to do the same thing while going to school full-time in an Engineering program, and am a professional engineer today. Whereas my friends would get praise from their parents for accomplishments that didn't even come close to mine, my parents never said a single positive word to me ever. They would only criticize when I did something wrong. Never congratulate when I did something right. People seem to think I must've done something terrible to my parents for them to treat me the way they do, but I haven't. That's just who they are. Unfortunately I know if I find myself in a dangerous situation, I'm completely on my own.
i can only guess that because they had a good relationship previously and he didn't have a history of this - and they hadn't observed how different he actually was now on a daily basis - they still think he's more or less the same, just going through a difficult time. also, the details make them seem pretty rich, so they're probably used to things being taken care of for them
Hindsight is 20/20.. I can guarantee this though, you trying to blame his parents in part for this is a disgusting and ugly thing to do.. You should be ashamed of yourself
People always say no one should blame themselves when a loved one ends their life but the reality is that a high percentage of suicidal people are clinically depressed because of their parents.
It's stories like these that really amplify the chaotic, unpredictable, deadly world we live in! Just passing through, just like you. Please remain in the light.
my brother who killed himself, previous to the suicide he would stare vacantly for hours. If you spoke to him, he would talk normally. After the conversation was over, he would go back to staring.
My 16 year old told me he was depressed and I took him to the pediatrician that day, got a therapist and psychiatrist within 2 weeks. I don't understand it either.
@@heroofhyrule9778 I'm saying be a parent. If you're lucky enough to have a kid that tells you these things or has friends that care enough to relay these things then act on it. I'd much rather have an alive and mentally healthy kid than a missing one and I don't really care that you think that I think I'm better than anyone. All I did was listen to my kid.
Why didn't the parents just drive up and get him when he was sitting around parking lots in that little town? Seems very weird that they'd just not think of that.
Exactly what I was thinking. They could have asked the police to "arrest" him or he could have stayed at Christian's house. Or the girlfriend could have kept the keys and the parents come there. I have no idea why they kept encouraging him to drive. All that time he was staring into space, they could have been there.
This one hits so close to home cus it's exactly how one of my housemates started to behave right before he tried to attempt. The sudden change in drinking and drug-use habits, breaking up with his gf and cutting off some friends, giving away valuable items. Of course we realized these were signs of something to come and we and his closer friends went as far as to buying him a plane ticket to go home to his family (we're all international students and his family lives in a different continent). But on the literal day of his flight, we had to rush him to the hospital after he intentionally tried to overdose. It was only later that I found out from his friends what had caused this spiral. He was horribly SA'd by a guy at a party and he just could not cope with the trauma. I can't even imagine what he must have gone through and how alone he must have felt in all of this. His family did take him back to their country. Last year a bunch of us received a message from him and he said he's doing a lot better and he thanked us for what we had done. Yes, depression is a silent killer. I have it myself. But idk if it causes such an abrupt and drastic change in lifestyle so quickly. I think with Bryce, he either had something bad done to him or he did or became complicit in some horrible act done to someone else. That's what he wanted to speak to his parents about but ultimately couldn't bring himself to do it. I applaud my housemate's family for their genuine desperation to be at his side. We were a bit worried at first since we come from a shared culture where older people think mental health issues are a myth or something to be ashamed of. But they put aside all their beliefs and only cared for him and his well-being. I'm not trying to sound nasty but I can't imagine having my child be 3 hrs away and not immediately driving to him at the first sign of trouble. When my cousin had a psychotic break, his sister flew across the world to be at his side and make sure he was safe. Bryce would still be with everyone if his parents weren't so dismissive and lacking in their initiative. Yes, hindsight is strong but if even Bryce's friends are worried to the point of calling them, you would think that they as the parent would jump into action.
So you’re telling me they knew exactly where he was several time but decided to repeat a conversation on the phone over and over again expecting a different outcome
Yeah, that is what people always get wrong. "He was happy" ,"He would never do that". Even if it's someone you think you know, you can't pretend it's not an option.
He sounds manic, or bipolar. The everything is perfect comment followed by problems is a red flag, drug and alcohol abuse is a red flag for that, giving away possessions, or things of value is another.
His parents never did see this coming. So sad. I applaud the mechanic Christian for being such a good guy in Bryce's time of need. No one does that these days. I hope he's found one day. 😢🙏
Christian a complete stranger drove multiple times to Bryce to see if he was okay and even drove halfway with him to his home. And his parents didn't. Why? Who the hell knows. Edit: wow I haven't gotten that many likes for years. Thx everyone.
I guess parents don't always think of every obvious thing to do, but I would've stayed on Bryce's tail until he pulled up to their house. That's just me, though.
Sounds like his parents were more interested in being 'friends' with their son than actually parenting. Notice how he says the son told them everything, how he talked about drinking with them, how he had a practically brand new car, etc. I am not blaming them and hindsight is 20/20 but this is why parents need to be parents while a child is growing up. There's time to be friends once both are adults together. I am sure whatever the son had going on, it seemed earthshattering and impossible to deal with. Welcome to adulting. I can't even count the number of times I've faced situations that i 'thought' i would never recover from or deal with...only to manage to muddle through somehow, someway. Just an all around very sad story. I do feel for the parents. Sounded like their only child too, hell, poor people.
The parents were there in that same parking lot. They had him they could have brought him home in their own car! What the fuck??? As a parent, they had it in their hands and they let him just sit there. I can't imagine how they feel if this is the real story. As a dad there's just so much that the story that doesn't sit well with me!! They could have should have would have done.
Christians such a good man. Imagine if he'd gone just that one step further and followed him half way to meet Bryce's dad there... Man... He did so much already, what an awesome guy.
Man not really. He checked and did the minimal amount of help. Take him home! Follow him! Stay with him! He ain't awesome, hes a shitty friend. Wtf are you thinking? How many times was Bryce left alone???? Nobody did shit for that dude
Christian went above and beyond. He did everything he thought was reasonable to help and he spent his time and energy trying. Much more than most people would do.
He literally tried to give up his most expensive possessions and got rid of his future wifey back to back in the same couple hours.. He clearly wasn't planning on being around.
He was likely planning to kill himself. If someone suddenly starts giving stuff away, stuff they still use and care about, it's probably because they're planning suicide.
Exactly. I’m wondering if he was doing this in an attempt to fake his suicide, maybe he exited the car before it went of the cliff and took out whatever he used to weigh the gas pedal down after it crashed. Then walked to the truck stop and hitched a ride somewhere to start a new life. I’d love to know if they ever searched his browser history on the phone he left behind or anything like that.
Yeah sure you all know everything that ever existed . By law you cant force an adult to get mental assistance nor admit them into a rehab. Theres nothing anyone could do. Everyone showed him love and its insulting for everyone to blame the parents and friends. How fukking dare the ppl in the comment section
Yep, giving away expensive things to close friends is such a red flag, I don't understand why the parents wouldn't have drove over to him they second they heard he was doing that
How heartwarming that Christian went to such lengths to help this family that were total strangers. I know from experience that many good people live in California’s San Joaquin Valley. It’s sad that, in the end, this tragedy wasn’t able to be averted.
@Booty Cheese like I said, it's not "stealing" because nobody owns it, people thinking that a youtube comment is some kind of intellectual property is getting really old
@Booty Cheese you can’t steal words unless you get a lawyer and have a business and all that stuff then if someone steals your words you can sue them for plagiarism lol
He went way out of his way.who can drive behind someone for 3 hours,then 3 more hours back& probably have to work in the morning he went beyond out of his way for being a total stranger.
Same here. He was already going so far out of his way and now probably lives with the regret of not going the last leg. Poor guy but he is awesome in my book 🤜🤛
Let’s talk about Christian for a second here. Like this guy didn’t have to do ANY of the things he did and still did them. At least there is a glimpse of good from this story.
It's crazy to me that his parents didn't go get him. I once missed my flight home from Vegas; I was safe and would have to stay another week with my boyfriend before I could fly back, but my mom still asked both myself and my boyfriend separately if she needed to drive the 8 hours in one direction to come get me. I was calm, just a little upset. If I had been acting like this there would be nothing I could say to prevent her from getting to me
My question is: why didn't his parents drive themselves to Buttonwillow? I mean, it's clear that Bryce was only 3 hours away by car from Laguna Niguel, that he was not moving from the spots where Christian and the police officer found him and that the only moved from those spots because Christian and the police officer made him do it. The father should have driven to where Bryce was parked while the mother should have kept talking with him on the phone to make sure that he was staying there!
As much as I adore Christian and commend his selflessness, I think he fucked up in the last interaction. He had enough evidence that Bryce was *not* interested in going home and only ever moved enough to appease people. Christian should've kept an eye on him from a distance and called the mom, because at that point it was obvious Bryce was *not* going home on his own. Christian should've either escorted Bryce the whole way home or stayed back in observation mode to monitor his safety and location until parents arrived to escort him home. Don't get me wrong: Christian is a fantastic human being. But that doesn't mean we can't analyze the situation for a *hopefully* better solution should we find ourselves in the same boat some day.
Could I maybe ask two questions I don't mean to pry or sound insensitive... I'm sorry if that's how it comes off.. Why did your brother not get in touch with Bryce or Bryce's parents not reach out to your brother & tell him to PLEASE GO GRAB Bryce up at that location put him in the car and either bring him home or hold him at a restaurant & keep him side tracked until you guys made his parents get to that restaurant?.... I'm sorry again.. but man there were so many RED FLAGS & opportunities to change this outcome I'm just so curious it don't make any sense... It seems that christian tried harder for this man then ANY ONE & that breaks my heart
@@xBIGxSAVAGEx17 you're being pretty insensitive. You're going to make people start thinking it's their fault and the cycle will roll over and they'll do it next. Then it'll be on your hands. Not everyone knows how to deal with stuff like this. Some people are sheltered and never been around something like that. Maybe their parents had never dealt with such things. Maybe the friends were hopped up on something and weren't with it. As a man with an idolized image for Xanax bars you should know better. Pathetic.
@@PaperMakersAdeludedbroad I think your last point was pretty mute a photo as a cover for UA-cam I don't see any relevance to my post nor what I was asking? I wasn't at all trying to be insensitive as I tried to carefully point out I was just treading waters to try to get a better understanding of this story just like everyone else and when I'd seen his brother and him were well? I figured I could 'Maybe' get a better understanding from this Man than anyone else? But thanks for the explanation some of your points did hold merit and I apologize if I did come off any type of way to this man it wasn't his fault nor his brothers I just wanted an understanding... (Crystal Meth..eny)
@@xBIGxSAVAGEx17 They said he had been a great friend to their brother & that the community was struck hard. Does that not sound possibly more like a friend from school days not college? Talking about the community they had grown up in. Thou i guess it could mean a group of university students, i dunno i didnt read it as it was the friend he hgave the earings too. He & high school mates would only be 19, a year outta school & memories of younger years would be fresh in the home community & in the kids he knew there.
@@appppppplecrumble6601 you have a very good point as well I didn't mean to offend anyone I really didn't I guess I read into it a little different but I do see what you're saying thank you for clarifying
Quite often people will have an uptick in happiness right before that commit suicide because they finally have come to a decision and are ready. Between that, the drug use, and giving his stuff away...definitely he had decided to do it. I just wonder if something happened or a sudden mental break, or if he was fighting depression and hid it.
The amount of time these parents spent calling and sending people to his location they could have been there. I’m still unsure why these parents didn’t make their way to him.
My heart dropped when I heard he gave away his important things AND broke up with his girlfriend. Those were clear red flags of suicidal behaviour and I feel incredibly sorry for his friends and family :(
@@cturdo Yeah as soon as he was giving things away... stimulants and alcohol abuse are very common in HS but in combo with strange behavior its immediately worrying 😞
Something tells me that Bryce tried to bring up his issues before heading back to college but his parents dismissed him because his life looked perfect to them. Depression doesn't care if your life is good.
@@TT-ql6ei I think a lot of people are too quick to judge on things like that. My life honestly isn't the greatest, and I somehow managed to get a neurological problem that makes my body go numb at random. It's made working difficult and it's really messed with my mood. I think anyone can develop problems regardless of where they're at in life, and society is still having issues acknowledging it.
@@dubiousinformation1756 its a rough world. Sometimes others can make it better, sometimes worse. Mostly I think people don't do anything. Maybe Bryce's parents fell into the latter category, probably didn't know what to do. I personally had my own psychotic break (I am bipolar and maybe autistic) my boyfriend's mother knew what to do, where my parents didnt really. Her actions might have saved me from being shot by police. As for Bryce I hope he got help from someone, somehow. I hope he makes it back to his friends and family. And if that is impossible I hope he found peace. The only thing left to do I suppose, is hope. I don't quite know your plight, my issues might not relate. But there is hope, or understanding out there. Empathy maybe. Most certainly help
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Well done!!!!!
Damm
Dang that was fast
Wow your quick
@@MrBallen hi😊
PSA to parents: if your kids friends call and say they're concerned about them absolutely DO NOT brush it off because it takes a lot for someone's buddies to do that.
"my kid wouldnt do that" "my kid isnt suicidal your wrong" like how fucking ignorant these people are
So true Dan so true I aint calling a buddies parents unless i think there life could be on the line
@@ledpinkdefsabbathwhokinksd9733 it’s pretty easy to say that from the outside looking in. They’re probably incredibly confused and hurt. No need to lash out my dude
Exactly, when I was that age, the only way I’d call my friend’s parent’s it has to be extremely bad, or I’m terrified of what might happen.
I would give anything if my son’s friends had called beforehand. Our only son hung himself in August of 2019. Friends came out of the woodwork afterward telling us they thought about calling, that they were worried about him. Please, if you ever suspect a friend is in trouble, give the family an opportunity to intervene. His six sisters and his father and I are devastated. I never get to hug my baby boy again. We couldn’t even see him because he wasn’t found for a day and a half in the Arizona heat. If anyone is considering taking their life, I beg you to get help. You don’t realize what it will do to those you love. I feel like I’m the walking dead.
Holy crap, can we give props to this selfless mechanic, Christian, who really went out of his way for a complete stranger. You’re a good man.
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Yeah sounds like a good dude
Not saying that he didn’t do enough, he did way more than expected, but if he followed him the whole way then he may have made it home.
Unless he caused the death by unsafely and unsolicited following a depressed stranger who clearly wanted to be left alone. In which case, fuck that guy.
Yes
Him giving away his possessions is a MASSIVE red flag.
that’s like THE suicide sign
Did a law enforcement training course where we had to go over suicide and that is LITERALLY the number one sign and where you need to start asking hard questions and preparing to get proper authorities involved.
Of WHAT though...? What could a 19 year old college kid get himself into that was THAT depressing? Only thing I can think of would be sexual abuse...
See alot of comments, nobody focused on this glaring red flag. The kid was planning to off himself from the beginning.
@@1Scital1 What would we all do without you, captain obvious...? No one mentioned it because it was obvious...When you can explain WHY he was suicidal, get back to us...?
The beginning of this story, and how he was giving his stuff to his friends/breaking up with his girlfriend are all massive signs of suicide. My heart goes out to him.
As someone's who's been on the verge before... Can confirm. I highly doubt it's anything but, unfortunately.
@@Foxlink87 I think everyone has been on the verge at some point in their life.
@@juliusseizure5705 not true lol
as soon as he was giving away his things i knew it.
Yeah but the hesitation and signs that he survived the crash make me think he ran tf away from his crazy a§ Karen B mom.
He could even get away from her by being nowhere. I think he crashed iff willing to die but ran when he survived.
Hope I meet him. That guy deserves a feel blunt and a free hug.❤
Christian is a really wonderful person. I hope he doesn’t blame himself for not following him all the way home. He did so much to make sure he was safe
I was just going to write the same thing. What a stand up guy for doing that for the family. I hope he's found safe.
@@BabeBee. I found myself saying “oh my god what a sweet dude” every time John talked about him. Yeah I hope so too, sounds like he was going through a lot.
He did more than the fuckin useless parents
Definitely, and notice how the police did their job in a professional & caring way here too (how it should be all the time). Everyone tried, even his roomate & x-gf. Just sometimes you can't help those who won't help themselves. Obviously the kid was loved and respected too.
Thank you Christian for all you did to help this man who for some reason just didn't want to go home. God bless you and your kindness.
I'd like to thank Christian for being such a wonderful human. He went above and beyond to look out for Bryce. We need more people like that.
Hey my name's Christian
What a good guy, honestly, such a rarity nowadays.
@@tfdidusayho so behave like a Christian now and be nice to people:-)
@@nekokittycat4004 I am a Christian nd I show kindness until someone doesnt
Yeah I know if he was my kid I wouldn't bother going myself to help my son. I would just count on a random person to do that for me.
The Mechanic deserves an Award for being such an empathic, caring, upstanding citizen. He didn't know Bryce or his family & he went above & beyond to help the family
I think he looked in the eyes of Bryce and realized something was wrong... Too bad a lot of people are facing some issues with mental health problems and we can't realize it until it is too late...
@@MikeDementor 🎯
I think the mechanic did it... for that sweet Toyota Highlander.
@@atlasfeynman1039 Maybe!
He cared more about Bryce than his parents did.
As soon as I heard about him giving away valuables, my heart sank. A lot of people do that before attempting. Some write wills, some blow their money and others gift their most valuable items to friends and family. It's a sign that should not be ignored. Especially if the person doesn't seem their usual self
That’s what I was thinking that was the first sign of suicide to me
Plus his high ability to fake normalcy so nobody would interfere or try to talk him out of it. That shows some massive determination to the attempt and to follow through with it, when someone tries to prevent even the possibility of getting saved.
That was my first thought to. If he didn’t commit suicide he was almost certainly considering it before he left his place to head to his parents.
My heart goes out for to the parents. It's easy for us to sit here and say what we would do but his parents obviously believed in their son and are beating themselves over all this every day. GOD bless everyone that was involved in this tragic event.
when he gave his earrings and xbox to his friend, him being suicidal was the first thing I thought. If someone starts giving you their precious things out of nowhere, pay attention to them. Usually this behavior is an apology, a parting gift.
Exactly what I thought as well. It takes the place of a will and acts as a sort of goodbye and giving your loved ones something to remember you by. Suicidal people usually realize their death will have a negative emotional impact on their loved ones, and giving away things that are precious to them is also a way of giving them some form of comfort of their love even after they’re gone.
i thought he was going to kill everyone and then himself
Or he is about to get caught for something.
I'd be surprised if anyone DIDN'T think that! It's not normal behaviour to start giving away your most precious possessions, is it?
that’s what i thought.
I’m just astonished that their kid was only three hours away and they didn’t just go pick him up. If they’re told that he’s just been sitting there, it’s obvious that he is not doing well (as his friends said). It’s frustrating to hear that he sat there for a whole day and they didn’t just go to him.
Exactly
exactly what I was thinking.
Even when Christian was trailing him why didn't they just come the rest of the way?
It's really sad. I get the sense that they were very much in denial about whatever was going on with their son.
I was thinking the same
I was thinking the same thing I would have drove as long as it took to find my child
That Christian guy is a living legend. Truly a genuine guy that went out of his way to help a complete stranger.
AMEN!!
I thought for sure, for a minute, he WAS going to follow him all the way home!
Or did he?!?
@@thedoctorroth lol calm down Sherlock
He did more to make sure he got home than his own parents!! So frustrating. Only 3 hours? I'd have drove out there to drag his ass back home myself.
@@jparody2025 yeah that was what I was thinking too. I would have told the police to take him to the station and that I’d be right out to get him!
I can't believe the INSANE levels denial by his parents! This was SOOO preventable. I mean, just how many one-in-a-million chances did they get to intervene?! It's like the UNIVERSE was trying to prevent this, and they just shrugged and rationalized every time!
Don't be. I have parents like this.
My parents are also like this. I was in an abusive marriage and begged them to come get me after she started breaking my bones. They never came. I tried ending my life to escape the situation.I was also only 3 hours away. Some parents really don't care. I escaped the situation myself and I'm no contact with my family now.
exactly what i was saying,, his parents seemed to care but they really didn’t care which is so strange cus why call and call?? like truly if the mom care after that second time she hear he was jus sitting, she should’ve got up and went to him herself, and she would’ve reached him in like an hour an a half and picked up her son so he’s IN HER EYE SIGHT, and find out what’s wrong and get him the help he needed. She’d probably be with her son today.❤️
Preventable that time, possibly.
I see where you’re coming from, but please don’t blame the parents. We have no idea why Bryce did what he did or why he had the psychotic break he did. The parents in the moment, thought their son would return home, everything would be fine and he would explain all what was happening to him. In the moment they thought that and I think we shouldn’t judge them. Bryce wasn’t in the right mind. When somebody is thinking rational thoughts they don’t think straight who knows maybe nothing would have happened if they went to pick him up or maybe he would’ve went back home, left and went missing that way. I think we have to have empathy and understand that Bryce’s parents tried as hard as they could to get their son home.
This is the case I can’t let go. One time, I had an emotional breakdown and tried to drive 4.5 hours to my parents. I got maybe halfway and I couldn’t go on. Called my parents and said I was at a rest stop. Fell asleep in the car and woke up to my daddy knocking on my car window. Yep, middle of the night and he drove all that way go get me. Ever since I heard about this case, I have been so grateful my dad did that. Now that he’s gone, I realize more and more how lucky I was to have him. I could have been like Bryce. It just really gets to me.
Yeah i don't understand why his parents didn't do the same. They should have went to him.
@@nohomoedgelordallenioso5005 I was literally yelling the same thing at my screen during the parts where his parents urged him to go home. I guess it’s easier to see in hindsight, or from the perspective of someone who has experienced similar psychological trauma, but I kept thinking to myself, for Bryce’s parents to repeatedly urge him to continue driving home, after a multitude of huge red flags, that it was akin to asking an intoxicated Alzheimer’s patient to do the same. It’s a tragedy that no one, including the police officers, were able to pick up on that.
Sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like a genuine man. I’m sure he’s still with you, as he was when you were going through it. Positive vibes for you and your tribe 🙏
@@robinjandhi6661 that’s so kind. Thank you!
@@robinjandhi6661 I was thinking the opposite, that the parents were being extremely annoying and pestering him too much. They were treating him like a child, instead of an adult. Although when I was 18, my parents didn't buy me a car and put me in college and give me a credit card, so he wasn't that independent. I just kept thinking I would have been yelling at my mom to leave me alone, and I would have gotten really creeped out and upset if my parents looked up the gas station I went to had the guy come visit me. It just felt really intrusive to me personally.
His parents should have gone and picked him up. When somebody is acting strangely, you shouldn't trust them to drive themselves anywhere. Especially not on a 3-hour trip.
At least started trying to meet him half way knowing that something was wrong!!!!
But sometime we don’t think about these things when the situation right in front of us!
Bateman, you would know all about people acting strangely, wouldn't you?
I agree, there is no way my parents would have sat at home and slept. They're in their 80's & no way would they ignore a stress call. They would have been on the road at any of these calls, the fact his parents didn't even attempt to drive out and meet him is strange. I wonder what was the reason he gave to the girlfriend for breaking up with her. I think something happened while he was on holiday with his parents, not when he can back to his dorm. I think maybe he was one of those people that just decided, "you know what I want a different life", it happens
Right!!!!!!
I am 31 and I didn't answer my phone for a couple days at one point and my dad showed up at my house 3 hours away. These parents REALLY didn't want to get out huh?
@Eteuati S if he's acting so strangely that his ex-girlfriend is taking his keys from him so he can't leave and right before that you've gotten a phone call that also says how strangely he's acting you KNOW it's because he's acting strange and not because "it's a bad break up" and you should come assist in your sons weird behavior but not these parents and then there was the multiple times after that they should have intervened and decided not to. They now have to live with their choice to not help him when he needed them the most. Talk about shitty parents.
For me and my mom not talking for a few weeks normal. Actually it would bother me if she was checking in all the time. Although we return each others missed calls quickly
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@@ismailb87 hi
Good for you. All parents parent differently. He wasn’t just not answering the phone. I’m sure the parents are kicking their asses enough. They don’t need spoiled little brats like y’all kicking them while they’re down. They obviously loved him
It made me so mad that the parents never left the house to go to their son.
It makes me mad when people are this ignorant.
I don't mean the parents, I mean you.....
You have a thing in your head that thinks and this is the best you came up with?
@@POIUYTREWQ62dude epic roast. You have a thing inside ur head, and it cooks up epic #rareinsults bro. Its a gift, and you should he thankful. Dont let anyone tell you otherwise.
Much love,
Andrew
@POIUYTREWQ62 It's bad parenting and I see why he didn't think he could speak to his parents about his mental struggles they couldn't have cared less in this situation. They did the bare minimum and Christian a total stranger cared more about their son then they did
Christian displaying amazing empathy as a human being for others.
I'm the same way
@@joannajamerson35 Me too, not the best at it, but I’m pretty good at it which makes me sad sometimes because I can feel a lot of pain of others. :(
Also, that helps me share out kindness into the world which I love doing. :)
I am not trying to be funny or say anything bad about this kid and this is just a theory based on the information gathered. Maybe he was gay and in love with his friend he gave the gifts to. I don't know a lot of guys who wear diamond earrings and he gave his earrings and x box to him then right before he broke up with his girlfriend and wanted to tell his mother something. He may have been just sitting in the car wondering what everyone would think.
Once you find a missing person, you don't then move them on without a final destination. Best thing for the kid would have been to leave him where he was.
The man is a saint
As soon as Bryce started giving his prized possessions away to his friend and severed ties with his girlfriend it was obvious this dude was planning on offing himself
I think my response if someone tried that would be to ask if they were dying. It mightn't occur to me that they might be offing themselves, but I'd certainly be worried for their welfare.
Police has conclcuded that he's alive and voluntarily missing. Apparently his parents were grade A douchebags. Who could've guessed that parents who can't be arsed to drive a couple hours to help their distressed son would turn out to be shitty parents.
@@Dalroc I was gunna say after Christian called and told them he was at the hotel parking lot, if it were my son I’d ask Christian to stay with my boy I’ll be there in an hour and a half.
@@Dalroc And where did you hear that? do you have a link to that story?
Yeah that's one of the warning signs.
Him breaking up with his girlfriend, giving away his things, substance abuse, and very erratic behavior are HUGE red flags for suicide
Also, what's up with his parents? Do they not know how to drive? Why didn't they just go get him? When those closest to you don't seem to care, then what do you do? ... Check out -- Alone.
I agree. Horrible parenting.
Really? You learn something new everyday.
@@2Bad4YOUuu Not to mention his dad was the one who convinced his ex girlfriend to give him his keys back, this could've been avoided had he listened to them saying he was acting really odd and drove up to see what was going on with Bryce the next day. Terrible idea to let him drive in such a state and his ex knew it. And then after that instead of just going to pick him up they kept expecting him to drive home when obviously that wasn't going to happen. The parents really messed up here
@@sneersh9107 Missed opportunity for sure 😔
A mechanic was more invested than his own parents. Poor guy
Yeah it brings clarity to his mindset, his parents probably weren't the best to be parents to someone with any kind of mental struggles. Either lazy, uncaring or unfortunately not too bright
So strange. That guy Christian is a gem, the world could do with more like him.
Bryce was gay and couldn't tell his parents and gf.
@Sports Enthusiast really? stupid
@Sports Enthusiast Nah, he was acting strange before he even met Cristian
@@esposexy2210 Thought the same thing.
He became emotionally invested at that point and his curiosity took over. I might have done the same.
I’m sorry but his parents infuriate me. If that was my son I would drive out there myself and pick him up instead of sending everyone to go check on him.
Honestly those parents don't deserve a kid. Who can't be bothered to drive three measley hours, or even one hour after that saint of a tow truck driver made sure he left and followed him for over an hour!
WTF is wrong with you people
@@JonathanLit to be honest we dont even know why the parents didnt druve out. obviously the obvious choice was for them to drive out and get him. but what if they didnt have a car or wouldve drove past him on the highway, maybe one of the parents were ill. idk?
@@nadheerahyasmin1267 If it's your kid, you find a way.
It's called being in denial. I know someone who couldn't accept that her son has autism. He only recently received help at 18, and they only gave in since he became suicidal since he couldn't understand why he was different from other people.
And yes, it's infuriating.
The third time he's lied to them about coming home, you'd think they'd go and fetch him, no?
Right...what were they waiting for ...damnnnn🤬
They don't even look like his bio parents. I have so many questions
They could try, but can’t do a whole lot. He’s over 18.
@@bravenewworld5824
He was a red headed step child 😀
@@omfug8593 Ahhh. That answers everything to me. Thanx.
Major love for the stranger who show more love to him than his own parents ❤️
Hats of to Christian. He sounds like such a caring individual that I be he'll carry a burden of guilt with him, probably for the rest of his life.
Yes
I agree bro, he's a stand up guy!
A genuine caring person, sort of unbelievable how hard he tried. His parents raised a good son.
He is a champ
I’m not sure why the parents didn’t meet Chris and Brice half way...so sad
When people start giving away important, valuable things; it is a red flag for suicide. Breaking up for no reason is another one. This broke my heart as a mother.
They cheer up drastically as well. A weight is lifted so to speak once they commit in their heart to do it. They believe relief is coming. This goes hand in hand with gifting posession. And making amends as well.
I thought everyone knew that .
It was because of the amphetamines, which is vyvanse. Its stronger than meth
Your so right, huge red flag.
@@hawk535 well it depends on how much you take lol
Every time I hear this sad story I'm at a total loss to understand how his parents didn't drive back to him right away. They had so many opportunities. The guilt they must feel is unimaginable.
True they could have driven to where it was 🥲
Hind sight is always easy. Foresight is not.
For reals they made alot of very poor decisions
That's true but I have a lot of experience with suicidal people and often, when they've made up their mind , if they're *saved* they just go off and do it another day. It's very sad.
True helicopter parents are the best
the story started with him giving away his stuff and my heart just absolutely sank.
The moment he said he was tired of driving and wanted to take a nap after acting the way he did earlier I would have drove out with my husband to go pick my son up.. I can’t understand how they slept that night.
They didn't know where he was, he was refusing to tell them
Thats the only flaw with that plan
Yes ma'am absolutely
Or the half dozen other times they could have made the trip out to him.
I would have driven out there as soon as I heard he stopped at a rest stop and was just staring at nothing. I'd be hauling ass to try and help my kid.
@@rscjawesom I mean he was on the highway. Go drive out there and look for your son along the same highway even if its all the way from Buttonwillow to whatever the other town was called
The mechanic was so caring, he went out of his way for a complete stranger several times. The thing about suicidal people is that you can put on a happy face so no one suspects it, I’m guessing the family just can’t accept it
Plot twist. The mechanic Christian followed him and foul play was involved. He seemed a little too interested in helping. No blood at the scene of the crash? I bet a mechanic would know how to jam the accelerator to send the car off the cliff. The car accelerated just before going over. His duffel bag open near the crash and rummaged through? Plus who better to perform nefarious acts on, than someone who is legit suicidal. Hmmm
@@dennisscott2516 nope because the camera showed him driving off the cliff purposely 20:50
Truth. Truly suicidal people do not cry for help or threaten suicide. They almost never confide in others about it, and just end up doing it.
@@nekad2000 yup thats the truth when your feeling that bad you get good at hiding it and truthfully no one will know unless you say something yourself. I know this because when I was 21 I myself tried to comment suicide and failed but no one ever knew what I did for nearly 15yrs when I finally told my family what I tried to do when I was 22. Everyone was dumbfounded and completely caught of guard when I told the full story in detail and they couldn't believe that they couldn't tell what was going on they all said I seemed so happy at the time but thats just how good you get at hiding your true self and putting on a facade for everyone else.
I know right awesome dude
Hey Christian ( mechanic ) I hope you're reading this and know that you're one hell of a good man .
I couldn’t agree more... people like that are few and far in between
Agreed
True
He has everyone fooled...How do we know he didn't kill him?
I wish he hadn't repeatedly confronted then followed a guy who clearly wanted to be left alone. I'm guessing that's what sent Bryce over the edge.
I would drive 3 hours for an acquaintance I was worried about. Can’t believe the parents couldn’t do it for their son
right?! To drive for measly 3 hrs shouldn't be a problem if they *really* loved their son like they say they do... his parents were full of bs
Christian is an exemplary person for going above an beyond to help a stranger.
Yes, I agree, Christian is good people. I hope he's not feeling any kinda way about not following Bryce all the way home. I suppose the parents could have met him half way on the journey since they knew Bryce's behaviour was out of character. But I don't blame them for what happened, Bryce was fully grown and undiagnosed with any mental health issues. At the end of the day, no one has the gift of reading minds. We can only aim to trust our family members and hope for the best.
Yes, he also did more than Bryce’s parents did for him…:(
Completely.
@@HumblyBlessed10 "at the end of the day,...no one has the gift of reading minds"!.......... I like that
@@jennyjoyce9465 yeah seriously, how did his parents not go drive there and get him. instead they just wait around for hours calling people when they could have been there before he even left the rest stop.
Why his parents just didn’t drive to get him in all that time is beyond me, he was there for hours and hours and they had enough time.
fair point to be honest
was wondering the same myself
I'm sure they ask themselves that every day 😢
why tf did they keep telling him to drive home himself when it was more than obvious he was suicidal.
Exactly what I was wondering. As his parent,, the moment he gave away his diamond earrings and his Xbox, I would have had him placed under 24 hr watch until I got there.
The second he started giving away his important things, my heart dropped and I realized where this was going. I feel so bad for his friends and family, being suddenly confronted with that severe warning signs.
Same here i was like oh no. This is not going to end well for this kid.
I had the same feeling. I've seen it too many times in music videos of songs about this kind, most notably "Coming Down" by Five Finger Death Punch. The exact same scenario from this story played out in the song's music video.
I agree, giving away things that are important to someone to a good friend or family is a strong sign. Or other little things that are odd to ones character. At least his friend & girlfriend noticed & tryed to let his parents know their friend was in trouble. Usually things like this are only noticed in hind sight.
A kid at my highschool, my he rest in peaceace, started to give all his nice stuff away got into a drunk driving accident not long after and ended his life that night before cops showed up. Im 27 this was 10 years ago, none of us even knew real life yet. Its tragic when people think there is no option hope or salvation.
I was about to comment the same thing, I had an attempt like two years ago and it was the first thing I wanted to do… I hope he’s doing better now and he’s having a good life :(❤️
Parents: "it had to be foul play"
Yeah, the foul play was his two parents sitting on their asses while their son was 3 short hours away in OBVIOUS distress.
I can't believe his parents never went out to get him, a mechanic with no real relationship to Bryce did more than them.
I agree with this.
Why would you pick someone up who has a car? What is the logic? to pick him up and get the car towed when he could just drive it him self? U lot just say all this now in hindsight but most normal people wouldn't assume the worst straight away.
@@jan-um7nh Both of the parents could have driven out there and then one of them could have driven Bryce's car back home. Or while on the phone with the mechanic they could have arranged to get the vehicle and their son back home. (it'd probably be a few hundred bucks but 🤷)
I do have to say I thought about how strange it was that the parents didn't go get him but that was because the other videos I've seen about this case just stated that Bryce was "on the side of the highway."
But if he was actually stopped at a motel, that's a bit more reasonable why he would be in the same town hours after getting gas. Like he stopped to sleep before driving again. However, when the mechanic called the parents an HOUR AFTER the police left and told them that their son was STILL at the motel THEN I would have definitely grabbed my shoes and start driving to get him if I was his parent.
@@jan-um7nhyou can't be that slow. It's not about picking them up. It's about seeing if he looks off and making sure he's good. Can also have him as passenger instead of driver
@@jan-um7nh the logic is there in what happened in those 24 hours.
3 times for hours when tols that come home he sat there. Even had to call the police to get to him, even after that he didn't move, he gave his stuff away, he was behaving strange, he was calm but his actions were definitely strange. That's reason enough to go get your son, and not rely on him to drive all the way home. Did he give a reason why he didn't drive for hours but just sat in the parking lot?
NO ill intent toward the parents, but after several hours of trying to coax my kid to come home from a strange town with no success, I would have just driven up to find him myself.
Exactly what I'm saying
My daughter just went to the beach for graduation and had a flat 3 hrs away. She was with one other girl her age and I knew the road they were on was a long 2 lane stretch with nothing around for about 10 miles and it was getting dark. I don't trust anyone else when it comes to my daughter so I didn't even think about really. Just told her to sit in the car and if anyone stopped besides police tell them that police were in there way from a cracked window, keep the doors looked and I Got in my truck within 10 minutes and went down to fix it. It just blows my mind that these parents didn't take it upon themselves to go get their son. I don't care how old my daughter gets. I'm her father and protector and if I think she's in trouble I don't depend on other people. Such a shame
That's exactly what i thought. I know they were trying but instead of waiting so many hours I would have just driven there. Actually Bryce is a friend of a friend of a friend and they're actually from or lived in Naperville Illinois, I dunno if that's why or where the confusion is, I know they had a California home. But they may have been here in Illinois.
Oh wait never mind the police were at their door.
EXACTLY! That's what I was saying. I would have already driven the 2hrs to him. And brought him home.
As soon as my child starts giving away his loved possessions, I'm on my way.
He’s a monk Iv see a video on a video on UA-cam
Most definitely. It’s one of the 1st things people who plan on committing suicide do. Very tragic story & I can’t imagine the pain of not knowing. It does seem as though he hitched a ride with a Trucker to “escape” from something...his demons or some bad people. How terribly sad for the parents & friends who obviously loved him so much. 💔
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@@SisuGirl I swear on my kids life’s Iv seen him on a video on UA-cam 6 months ago... he’s a monk in Tibet .. I’m trying to find the video now.. I never forget his face coz he was telling his story.. Iv been searching for the video for the last hour... I can’t F?)king find it. Some one needs to tell his parents he’s still alive
1000% same
I am beginning to wonder if I just watch you not so much because of the stories but because of your talent to tell a story in all its details and keep your audience captivated.
Christian needs a “life raise”, good human right there
Christian and Kim!!!!!!!!!!!!
Yeah the man literally checked on the well being of a stranger twice while his parents just sat on their asses putting their trust in an obviously disturbed person smh
He went wayyyyy above and beyond. I bet he still beats himself up thinking he should've went just a little further. I hope he knows he did EVERYTHING he didn't have to do. OUTSTANDING PERSON🏆
@Sports Enthusiast *plot twist*
@@MelissaNicoleYT i agree.. he is such a great person that i believed he will feel guilty he didnt sent the guy home.. he shouldnt have to so it saddens me to know he probably will have to live with this regret
I'm a survivor. As soon as he happily started giving away his expensive gifts, that triggered "suicidal" in my mind. The breaking up with his gf cemented it for me. The blank staring was, believe it or not, likely guilt; silently apologizing to everyone he knows he's going to hurt. He knew he wasn't coming home, and it's very likely he never will. I hope your troubles don't follow you to the hereafter, Bryce.
Stay a survivor, please, no matter how hard it seems. Even mental health professionals miss the the signs of 'a decision made'. Family and friends need to know the signs, particularly if a person has been acting stressed, unhappy/depressed, then seems to 'snap out of it' and/or begins prepping. If you believe you can educate those in your community about the signs and what kind of support is best from your pov, consider it?
@@sealyoness Firstly, thank you for the concern, friend. Secondly, this was approx. 25 years ago and I have been educating in a professional capacity for nearly that extent of that time. I want people to know that no matter how down they're feeling, they're never alone in that and that those left behind suffer just as much when they're gone. ";"
I agree with you. I think hes forever gone by his own hands.
I agree. When I first heard about this story, i thought it might have been a psychotic break but it doesn't make sense to me that everybody he talked to along the way claimed he was acting completely normal. I still wouldn't rule out that possibility completely but you're right there are clear signs that might point to a possible suicide. It's a huge misconception that people have about individuals with suicidal ideations that they'd appear to be depressed or down. Sometimes they might even seem really happy, because they've made up their mind to do it. I guess he might have been sitting in his car for hours because he was battling this inner conflict of wanting to do it and knowing that he shouldn't. When he survived the crash he probably got a ride with a truck driver to god-knows-where and possibly finished it.
Same for me
I'm half way through this video, and all I can think of is: why, the hell, the parents DIDN'T just drive to get their son? One of them could stay home, the other could drive, instead of waiting for him to come up by himself. Especially after numerous times Bryce failed to actually drive home. Come on, parents.
Yeah my thoughts exactly. That place was only 3 hours away and after all his erratic behaviour you'd think goin to get him would be by far the best option.
embarrasing parents
We're watching a Mr Ballen video. We know what to expect. We know that tragedy is almost certainly around the corner. Put yourself in his parent's shoes. They saw him barely 2 weeks earlier and saw how happy and enthusiastic he was about school and life. They'd most likely talked at length with him over the course of months about everything. We watched a video less than 30 minutes with the benefit of easily guessing what's in store. From their point of view it was just a bunch of odd setbacks and delays. Should they have just gone and got him? Absolutely. But I do understand their thought process having believed that everything was fine.
How is it that they didn't suspect some kind of mental health issue going on? I always can indicate if someone I'm close to isn't acting himself or herself. It's as if they were clueless. I'm not trying to insult them, but they really had no clue to tell police that their son was acting erratic and perhaps needed psychiatric intervention. I'm with you though, I would have driven up there if that were my son.
How many times did someone call them ? I know just one more chance. Or two or three or ......
That mechanic is a real good dude.. wish he was my neighbor
Christian was more invested than the parents. Breaks my heart that his parents did not come to get him. There was ample time to see him and get him help. Sorry you felt the way you did Bryce. Hope you’ve found some type of peace.
exactly what I was thinking. like, this totally unrelated dude took time out of his day to randomly go look for this dude but his own family didn't give enough of a $### to drive a couple hours to go check on him. I would have stolen a bicycle from a nun if I had to, to get to a family member clearly showing signs of distress. I am betting now he did get picked up by some random trucker who either took advantage of him, or worse, but maybe he did have a massive head injury combined with mental trauma causing a memory blockage and he is out there with no idea who he is or that people are looking for him. He could have been taken several states away by hitch hiking. Could be living in a trailer working at a truck stop 8 states away and have no idea who he was.
I cannot believe that, despite so many missed opportunities, Brice's parents did not drive 3 hours up to Brice in Buttonwillow from their home!! If I were them, I would have dropped everything and drove to him!
Exactly! I wondered why they didn’t too, I would have gotten on that highway and driven to him in a NY minute!!
Yeah! I actually just wrote a comment pointing out the same thing. I am glad to see that someone else noticed that!
This is what I'm saying!
Mom could've stayed home just in case he was actually driving home and the dad should've driven up. IDK maybe one or both of the parents had a medical issue, night blindness, took heavy medication. I just don't get why neither of them drove up to find him. Thank God for Christian, he tried really hard to bring the boy home to his mama.
Exactly parents fault
Christian the car repair man is definitely an amazing man. He went further than above and beyond anything he ever needed to do.
As a parent, I would have drove to him and took him home...
Soooo sad
@@kristabomhoff6137 I know right? So much danger.
He did more than the parents
@@kristabomhoff6137 i bet they’ve been regretting that everyday since :( …
and yet, he didn't finish the job in the most needed moments and parts of it... -_-
I lost my son to drug addiction 2 yrs ago 😢, but at least I knew what happened. I cannot imagine losing a child this way, with no closure. I hope his parents have found some kind of peace thru this 🙏🙏
I'm very sorry for your loss
I am sorry for your loss, we lost our brother because of that too in 2019.
Who ever Cristian the repair man is he is a great human being, caring, out going, and honest. I’m glad to see that good people exist in this world. This man followed a kid who he had nothing to do with for an hour after already helping him and checking on him once before. I hope he is healthy and living a long and happy life.
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I feel awful for all of those involved, but I feel a special kind of empathy for Christian. He didn't need to get involved, he doesn't have any reason for guilt, but I know he regrets not following for the rest of the drive, not making completely sure that Bryce got home.
The parents ....geez the guilt would be overwhelming, others seemed to go out of their way but they never left home
100%. Never thought of that.
Yes. He went above and beyond - and is likely tormented he didn't follow Bryce the whole way. Thank you so much for making note of this. Christian is an amazing credit to the human race!
@@yuovettenelson8574 Yeah, it seems crazy and borderline suspicious to me that at least one of the parents wouldn't drive an hour or two to try and intercept him after everything that happened up to that point. Even a complete stranger went with him/followed for over an hour.
Good thing Christian didn’t. The suicide was decided way back. Good thing he didn’t live to take people with him, like his parents.
For him to give belongings away and the other actions, it does sound like he was suicidal.
That’s what I thought when he said he was giving stuff away
That was my first thought
That was exactly my thought process
Either that or he had a death threat from someone
@@DankNG47 Suicidal ideation is common but faking your death is incredibly rare and typically only happens when they have something to run from like former gang members or people trying to avoid criminal charges. It was probably just depression.
I always thought it a bad thing that my mother was so pushy, but feel it's a godsend after hearing this. If she told me she's flying out, and I told her not to, she'd say, "I don't care if you want me there or not. Something isn't right. You stay right there until I get there."
Don't be upset with your overly pushy parents. It could potentially save you someday.
Same, no way in hell would my mother give up and sit at home. Whatever time or day she’d come and find me.
As much as this story is heartbreaking, I kept wondering why Bryce's parents didn't just fetch him. He stayed in Buttonwillow for hours. They could have told the mechanic to please watch their son and they'll be there and fetch him.
Dont Blame the parents they're feeling HORRIBLE as it is 😟😪
Unfortunately, hindsight is always 20/20 ....
They could not have foreseen this whatsoever
@@18937charlotte Of course they can. Dude stays in a rest stop in Buttonwillow for 3 hours. What's the next thing he'll do? Continue staying there, of course! And then he stays there for another 7 hours. What's the next thing he'll do?
@@dwaynepeters4520 For sure it raised alarm bells in his parents, and they were certainly very worried and confused. However the extent of his actions were unlike anything they could have imagined. But even having heard their story surely leads to many parents realizing that literally anything is possible, and to not take any chances should they ever fave a similar situation.
@@andreasaylor6831 The parents will never see this... and my parents would have been there to get me. They wouldn't have waited.
Why on earth didn’t his parents drive out to him when he was sat in a car park for 9 hours? Totally bizarre
Because he kept saying that he was coming home. Why is everyone blaming the parents? they did everything they reasonably could.
@@leecoffill8425 they absolutley did not do ‘everything they could reasonably do’. They knew he was sat staring out the window in a car park for 9 hours after repeatedly lying to them about going home. ANY parent I know would have been on their way there the minute he was sat in a car park, lying about coming home after his friends had expressed mental health concerns.
I dont have a car but I would literally use all my savings or sell my family gold to spend it on taxi or Uber, to just pick up this poor kid
@@leecoffill8425 no...they didn't. He said he was coming home hours ago from the first encounter in the parking lot. Second time in the parking......come on Missy, with Everything b4 that, I would know deeeeep down sump ant right n am gonna get out there.
@@leecoffill8425 I call bullshit. I was missing for an hour once during a mental break from depression and my father went out and hunted me down to take me home so I couldn't get hurt. An hour and the man dropped everything, he ran out of his job at a construction site to come find me.
Shame his brain was completely torn apart by cancer and a previous head injury because he's not that same man anymore sadly, just a hollow asshole. But back then he'd move heaven and earth for his kids in a heartbeat.
The fact his parents despite being 18 did not drive out the 2.5 hour drive to the stop to talk to him or pick him up makes me less sympathetic to them and more angry instead.
Tragedy and mystery aside, that is some world class car repair service right there. 10/10
I feel bad for families who find it so difficult to accept the reality of a child’s death or disappearance that they believe it must have been foul play. Foul play is such a worse scenario but yet that is still easier to believe than that their child was depressed/suicidal.
Right 💯
My parents have traveled 3+hrs immediately to help me no hesitation for less. I've had mental and substance abuse issues in the past and have put myself in poor situations. I thank God everyday for the endless love they've shown me.
You are very lucky💖
I feel like he gave his parents a chance to come get him and help him as he sat at the rest stop all them hours.
They never came... Sad.
@@desperatelyseekingsusan6976 different people had different sense of urgency. take the mechanic, he offered to check on Bryce and the mom said oh it's really unnecessary they're sure he's on his way, but even after declined of his offer, he still went out his way to check on him. it's all down to a person's character, being proactive instead of reactive. it's just too unfortunate that he didn't see him through all the way till he's physically back home
As a parent i would have driven 3hrs right at the begining after his girlfriend and friend had said he was acting strange
Dude, I’m 39 years old and my parents are the same way. They’re such amazing people, I feel like my brother and I won the lotto as far as parents go!
One of his parents should’ve drove to that small town where he was sitting. The other stay back in laguna and waited. That Christian did more than both of his parents.
Exactly what I was thinking. One stays home, the other goes to Buttonwillow. Bases covered.
My thoughts exactly
Their behavior is really weird I didn't understand why they didn't just go get him if you google it he was actually showing some warning signs of wanting to end his life. This wasn't one of those situations where you tell your kid what to do and expect them to listen this is one where it's best to step in because something is definitely off and it needs attention.
That's why I don't think he wanted to kill himself. The pressure from school, his girlfriend and his parents got to him and he just wanted to fake his own death and disappear and start over. Start a new life.
Lee is absolutely correct
As soon as he started giving away expensive items that he owned, I knew it was going to be suicide. He was happy two weeks before the attempt because people suffering from major depression who have decided on suicide can paradoxically seem happier, back to their old selves to outsiders. The reason for the depression sufferer is that they now have a goal and an endpoint to their suffering, and it feels like a relief. Everything about the first part of the story is a textbook suicide story, regardless of what the parents think.
Not neccesserry, yes for second part but also could be not depression but strong ptsd respond ad well
I 💯 agree. I know from my own suicide attempt. I wrote a note, a will pretty much, saying personal things, and who I wanted to have what possessions.
@@newsing33 hey you, I'm glad you're still with us, and sharing that story. I hope your life is filled with good things these days!
@@cambiata thank you, I appreciate that, I'm doing well! ❤️🙏
You’re exactly right. I (thank god) had a failed attempt to unalive myself and shortly after I had made the decision I did have a period of euphoria leading up to the event.
I’m very happy to be alive today; I had lost my wife and daughter and thought I had nothing. It’s a dark place to be. If anyone ever needs help please call the National hotline text or call 988.
A stranger tries to accompany him home while his own parents stay at home and avoid facing him with his as-yet-unspoken-about issue. This suggests to me that his parents knew what he wanted to talk about and were terrified of speaking about it. Otherwise they would have gone straight out and got him. They are hiding something.
Mannnnn , a triple *SALUTE* goes out to *CHRISTIAN* for going the extra mile when nobody asked him too ✊.. The WORLD needs more people like *CHRISTIAN* in it 🤞💯
I mean or he is a suspect? He was, after all, the last person to see him...He did a good thing, yes..but it is a little odd in a way.
@@janedoebean8599 this. I feel like everyone is giving him too much credit without questioning his motives and if he’s involved.
@@janedoebean8599 yes, but how would Christian have driven the car off a cliff without dying, and if he didn't die his friends would have brought up the severe injuries and blood
see Christians are good people
@@shaynenelson4536 Good Christians are good people
Congrats on the growth bro! Can't wait to see you hit 3 mil
oh hello donut, always knew you were a man of culture
Hello Donut Operator, are you guys related? There's a resemble between two of you.
lol, I keep checking too. One day soon...
🐷
Lol jk
Two of the best channels out there! Do a video together!!!!
“suicide? this is NOT my son.” It’s almost like a lot of depressed ppl put on a mask so that people don’t know that they’re depressed
Yup, absolutely.
Yep, that's me.
@@kemeee5407 hugs ; )
it explains him giving everything of value away
@@kemeee5407 I hope that you’re actively getting help you need
What a nice guy the mechanic is and the police officer 2 decent people ❤
The parents were literally a couple of HOURS from their son. I'm not trying to judge them, as I'm sure they considered their options, but damn. They (or one of them) so could have driven straight to him multiple times before he drove off the road. I'm sure they are really kicking themselves and I realize that hindsight is 20/20...
This is what I kept thinking. Why not just get in the car and go to him? They could have had the cop or the mechanic sit with him in the hotel parking lot while they drove to get him.
Exactly!
Agreed. They should have gone to get him.
I'm a parent and as soon as one of his friends contact me I'm on my way. No hesitation no questions asked.
I have personal experience with this type of scenario. When you tell your parents you're fine and sound normal they want to believe it so they do. Doesn't matter who told them what and they also don't want to step on toes making the situation worse. Best thing they could have done in hindsight is 5150 him.
So it’s just a few hours away but his parents didn’t attempt to go there, but this mechanic who didn’t know him was willing to find him twice and even followed him up hours to make sure he headed home. Was driving out to find your child such an inconvenience?
I'm fascinated by the abundance of comments talking about it being suspicious that the parents didn't drive to try and find him as soon as he started acting odd, or at least at some point during the ordeal. Based on my personal experience, I saw nothing unusual about it whatsoever...but that's clearly a reflection of my upbringing. Interesting notice. It's been more than 15 years since I first moved out as an adult, but I simply cannot see my parents going to the lengths other people are describing here - EVER - even in my 20s or as a teen. But my point is this...what they did is not necessarily fishy/suspicious at all. A lack of a truly strong reaction doesn't mean they're trying to kill their kid. They're just not the types to be 100% invested in their kids.
I absolutely do know my parents love me. But they just aren't as devoted, proactive, or demonstrative as most parents, it seems (not just from my different perception of this situation, but also over the years and my noticing this in general.) I never knew it was unusual that they didn't show as much affection until I was older, and even now, I have trouble recognizing that it's unusual. I am so fortunate to have them in my life at all, and I know I'm not the only one with parents like this. But...it's kind of crazy to imagine how much of a difference it probably makes to have parents that fiercely love you and raise you to make sure you know what your life is worth.
I do wish I could relate to these comments about the parents not seeming very devoted.
@@deprofundis3293 You are very kind to accept your parents the way they are. I also don’t think it’s suspicious, they just didn’t care enough.
Many parents don't live their lives up their adult childs butts.
@@vivianisz761 I wouldn’t say the parents were suspicious or didn’t care enough, I’d say they didn’t believe their son to be capable being anything but “normal.” They weren’t concerned quite enough when both his roommate and gf called them. Even when he lied to them, they still believed him when he said he’d come home. As soon as I heard he was giving away things to his roommate, I immediately thought suicide. Of course it’s easy for me to say after the fact, but no matter what the son said during that first call with him, I’d already be driving/flying to go to him.
@@deprofundis3293 I know what you mean. My parents are very similar. It's not that they didn't/don't put much effort in to helping me in particular, they're the exact same way with everyone. My parents are very much proponents of the "you worry about yourself, not anyone else" philosophy. They do not understand many of the values my siblings and I have like going out of our way to help strangers, volunteering, or even being against racism. "Why do anything unless there's something in it for you" is a question they genuinely don't have an answer for. Why go out of your way to help a stranger who's never helped you before if it's going to waste your own personal time, make you late for work etc? Why volunteer and work for no compensation in return? Why care about what's happening to a group of people that you aren't a part of?" They essentially believe only stupid people would do these things. If you bring up the point that the only reason they live so privileged is because they were lucky enough to be born into a privileged family, they're answer is basically "so? is that our fault? if we were born into a poorer family then we would share the same views as other poorer families because that's what would benefit us the most. everyone does what's best for themselves and their situation." They don't seem to feel the emotions of guilt or empathy. I do love them in a sense, and I am very grateful I have them as opposed to no parents at all, but I know I can't ever rely on them or trust them. Even if I were on the brink of death, the first thing that would pop into their mind is the life insurance payout they would receive. There are people out there who have children for all the wrong reasons, and would never bat an eye to help their children. I also want to add that my siblings and I were all the top students in our class, got pre-acceptance and scholarships to all the schools we applied for after grade 11, I worked full-time in addition to going to school all throughout high school (I literally didn't have a minute of free time through the week), had to do the same thing while going to school full-time in an Engineering program, and am a professional engineer today. Whereas my friends would get praise from their parents for accomplishments that didn't even come close to mine, my parents never said a single positive word to me ever. They would only criticize when I did something wrong. Never congratulate when I did something right. People seem to think I must've done something terrible to my parents for them to treat me the way they do, but I haven't. That's just who they are. Unfortunately I know if I find myself in a dangerous situation, I'm completely on my own.
Wow his parents are thick in the head if they think "he would nEveR" when he gave all the signs 🤦♀️
i can only guess that because they had a good relationship previously and he didn't have a history of this - and they hadn't observed how different he actually was now on a daily basis - they still think he's more or less the same, just going through a difficult time. also, the details make them seem pretty rich, so they're probably used to things being taken care of for them
For real, people have dark thoughts that don't tell others, sometimes even if its the closest person they have in their life.
Thank you Mr ballen for sitting on the side of the highway to tell this story! ❤️
People always say “we need more people like them in the word” rather than saying “we need to act more like him in this world”
Facts
Absolutely!
We need more comments like this
Well that’s what they usually mean
@@andrewlaxton50 ya but........shut up!!!! Lol
Why was Christian willing to drive nearly two hours to make sure he got home and the parents didn't even meet him half way 😭😭
Exactly! That total stranger was more invested in this boy’s life and safety than his parents were
That part!
you dont know shit about them or bryce so stfu, maybe they were trying to respect his space - sometimes thats what people need, its impossible to know
I've binged as many of these Bryce videos and I can and the parents are off, I hope I'm wrong.
Hindsight is 20/20.. I can guarantee this though, you trying to blame his parents in part for this is a disgusting and ugly thing to do.. You should be ashamed of yourself
This is extremely frustrating. Why didn't his parents just make the three hour drive?
lazy, likely alcoholics themselves.
Sometimes parents can be in denial more than strangers. Esp the dad in this case.
Seriously! They could have even made the partial drive to as far as Christian went....
A stranger cared more than his parents seemed to in that moment
People always say no one should blame themselves when a loved one ends their life but the reality is that a high percentage of suicidal people are clinically depressed because of their parents.
It's stories like these that really amplify the chaotic, unpredictable, deadly world we live in! Just passing through, just like you. Please remain in the light.
my brother who killed himself, previous to the suicide he would stare vacantly for hours. If you spoke to him, he would talk normally. After the conversation was over, he would go back to staring.
Perhaps fantasizing about the different ways he’ll do it? I am so sorry. Hope you and your family finds peace.
Deepest sympathies.
Thanks. It was a long time ago
Thanks. It was a long time ago
😔😔sorry to hear this.
I have a 27 year old son … if he ever acted like this I would be in my car and driving up to him! Why didn’t they ? It’s so odd
My 16 year old told me he was depressed and I took him to the pediatrician that day, got a therapist and psychiatrist within 2 weeks. I don't understand it either.
sure its easy to say in hindsight how much better you are than other people
No they are saying that if they had a hint that their kid was having problems they would act upon it asap and not push it off
@@heroofhyrule9778 I'm saying be a parent. If you're lucky enough to have a kid that tells you these things or has friends that care enough to relay these things then act on it. I'd much rather have an alive and mentally healthy kid than a missing one and I don't really care that you think that I think I'm better than anyone. All I did was listen to my kid.
How old are you, you look young ? 30 years maximum 32
Why didn't the parents just drive up and get him when he was sitting around parking lots in that little town? Seems very weird that they'd just not think of that.
That’s what I was thinking
Same, if it was my parents they would come get me but out of frustration, probably, but still
I asked myself that too
Exactly what I was thinking. They could have asked the police to "arrest" him or he could have stayed at Christian's house. Or the girlfriend could have kept the keys and the parents come there. I have no idea why they kept encouraging him to drive. All that time he was staring into space, they could have been there.
Alex you are right. The whole story is weird
This one hits so close to home cus it's exactly how one of my housemates started to behave right before he tried to attempt. The sudden change in drinking and drug-use habits, breaking up with his gf and cutting off some friends, giving away valuable items. Of course we realized these were signs of something to come and we and his closer friends went as far as to buying him a plane ticket to go home to his family (we're all international students and his family lives in a different continent). But on the literal day of his flight, we had to rush him to the hospital after he intentionally tried to overdose. It was only later that I found out from his friends what had caused this spiral. He was horribly SA'd by a guy at a party and he just could not cope with the trauma. I can't even imagine what he must have gone through and how alone he must have felt in all of this. His family did take him back to their country. Last year a bunch of us received a message from him and he said he's doing a lot better and he thanked us for what we had done.
Yes, depression is a silent killer. I have it myself. But idk if it causes such an abrupt and drastic change in lifestyle so quickly. I think with Bryce, he either had something bad done to him or he did or became complicit in some horrible act done to someone else. That's what he wanted to speak to his parents about but ultimately couldn't bring himself to do it. I applaud my housemate's family for their genuine desperation to be at his side. We were a bit worried at first since we come from a shared culture where older people think mental health issues are a myth or something to be ashamed of. But they put aside all their beliefs and only cared for him and his well-being. I'm not trying to sound nasty but I can't imagine having my child be 3 hrs away and not immediately driving to him at the first sign of trouble. When my cousin had a psychotic break, his sister flew across the world to be at his side and make sure he was safe. Bryce would still be with everyone if his parents weren't so dismissive and lacking in their initiative. Yes, hindsight is strong but if even Bryce's friends are worried to the point of calling them, you would think that they as the parent would jump into action.
So you’re telling me they knew exactly where he was several time but decided to repeat a conversation on the phone over and over again expecting a different outcome
Yes. Precisely.
I KNOW
Right like I have kids I woulda drive out to his collage the second his friends contacted me!
Yeah, no wonder he wanted to kill himself.
Another case of “MY CHILD would NEVER do anything like that!” Yet, here we are with no where to look.
Someone needs to start a petition to crown MrBallen as the King of UA-cam
I second that
Me third
Seriously!
King of the Internet 😄
yes
"He's not like that, he's not suicidal"....that's how suicide succeeds
Yeah, that is what people always get wrong. "He was happy" ,"He would never do that". Even if it's someone you think you know, you can't pretend it's not an option.
Not always but yes
There is no such thing as a successful suicide.
Oh yeah baby mission passed, suicide succesful
He sounds manic, or bipolar. The everything is perfect comment followed by problems is a red flag, drug and alcohol abuse is a red flag for that, giving away possessions, or things of value is another.
His parents never did see this coming. So sad. I applaud the mechanic Christian for being such a good guy in Bryce's time of need. No one does that these days. I hope he's found one day. 😢🙏
Parents should have been driving his way the whole time after she learned Christian was having to follow him
Yah really, I woulda been on my way after the first time I heard he was sitting in a parking lot staring out of his windshield for hours.
Exactly what I was thinking
If it was my child, I would have been driving that way for sure.
I’m sure they feel horrible already. The parents may be reading these, so please be considerate.
@@wendywarrior2264 that's like saying let's feel bad for a dude who killed another person. The parents didn't really care or they would have acted
Christian a complete stranger drove multiple times to Bryce to see if he was okay and even drove halfway with him to his home. And his parents didn't. Why? Who the hell knows.
Edit: wow I haven't gotten that many likes for years. Thx everyone.
FACTS
Typical out-to-lunch OC parenting.
I guess parents don't always think of every obvious thing to do, but I would've stayed on Bryce's tail until he pulled up to their house. That's just me, though.
Sounds like his parents were more interested in being 'friends' with their son than actually parenting. Notice how he says the son told them everything, how he talked about drinking with them, how he had a practically brand new car, etc. I am not blaming them and hindsight is 20/20 but this is why parents need to be parents while a child is growing up. There's time to be friends once both are adults together. I am sure whatever the son had going on, it seemed earthshattering and impossible to deal with. Welcome to adulting. I can't even count the number of times I've faced situations that i 'thought' i would never recover from or deal with...only to manage to muddle through somehow, someway. Just an all around very sad story. I do feel for the parents. Sounded like their only child too, hell, poor people.
Fuck... my mom can't legally drive, because of court shit, but for sure she would of drivin 10 plus hours if she had too. So sad..
cops, Christian, everybody else checking on him... parents waiting at home like "he'll be here any minute." smh 🙄
Christian did more than the parents did, not once, but twice, and followed him for an hr. He didn't even know the kid. What a stand up guy.👍
@@candikretz9544 that is in rare supply nowadays
@Sports Enthusiast I love your sense of humor.👍👍.
@Sports Enthusiast a good theory but it needs more to back it up
The parents were there in that same parking lot. They had him they could have brought him home in their own car! What the fuck??? As a parent, they had it in their hands and they let him just sit there. I can't imagine how they feel if this is the real story. As a dad there's just so much that the story that doesn't sit well with me!! They could have should have would have done.
Haven't even heard it all, and know this man needs a hug
Christians such a good man. Imagine if he'd gone just that one step further and followed him half way to meet Bryce's dad there... Man... He did so much already, what an awesome guy.
Man not really. He checked and did the minimal amount of help. Take him home! Follow him! Stay with him! He ain't awesome, hes a shitty friend. Wtf are you thinking?
How many times was Bryce left alone???? Nobody did shit for that dude
Christian went above and beyond. He did everything he thought was reasonable to help and he spent his time and energy trying. Much more than most people would do.
@@davinburk487 I'm talking about the car service guy. They weren't friends, he was just some random stranger.
I bet that haunts him daily. Someone knows something!
@@davinburk487 what version did you hear? You are 13 prolly
He literally tried to give up his most expensive possessions and got rid of his future wifey back to back in the same couple hours.. He clearly wasn't planning on being around.
He was likely planning to kill himself. If someone suddenly starts giving stuff away, stuff they still use and care about, it's probably because they're planning suicide.
Exactly. I’m wondering if he was doing this in an attempt to fake his suicide, maybe he exited the car before it went of the cliff and took out whatever he used to weigh the gas pedal down after it crashed. Then walked to the truck stop and hitched a ride somewhere to start a new life. I’d love to know if they ever searched his browser history on the phone he left behind or anything like that.
Yeah sure you all know everything that ever existed . By law you cant force an adult to get mental assistance nor admit them into a rehab. Theres nothing anyone could do. Everyone showed him love and its insulting for everyone to blame the parents and friends. How fukking dare the ppl in the comment section
Anyone feel suicidal please send me your stuff before I could make use of it thanks :)
Yep, giving away expensive things to close friends is such a red flag, I don't understand why the parents wouldn't have drove over to him they second they heard he was doing that
Christian's amazing for doing all that out of his own will when he didnt have too.
He’s a real one 👍
The real mvp for sure
For sure. He acted out of his heart.
Godzilla had a stroke trying to read this and fucking died.
@@zakaziam5467 zak, im pretty sure it's just you having your chronic strokes
How heartwarming that Christian went to such lengths to help this family that were total strangers. I know from experience that many good people live in California’s San Joaquin Valley. It’s sad that, in the end, this tragedy wasn’t able to be averted.
We need more people like christian in this world.
People always say “we need more people like them in the word” rather than saying “we need to act more like him in this world”
@Booty Cheese nope it’s a quote I forgot the name of the person
@Booty Cheese nobody owns a youtube comment bud, anyone can say whatever they want, even if it's been said before
@Booty Cheese like I said, it's not "stealing" because nobody owns it, people thinking that a youtube comment is some kind of intellectual property is getting really old
@Booty Cheese you can’t steal words unless you get a lawyer and have a business and all that stuff then if someone steals your words you can sue them for plagiarism lol
Who else was saying “Nooooooo” when Christian decided it was safe to stop following Bryce??
He went way out of his way.who can drive behind someone for 3 hours,then 3 more hours back& probably have to work in the morning he went beyond out of his way for being a total stranger.
Yeah he did ALOT more than what the average person would do by just going back to check on him
me
Same here. He was already going so far out of his way and now probably lives with the regret of not going the last leg. Poor guy but he is awesome in my book 🤜🤛
@@perinthia6829 he technically did more than the parents did as well and took action
Let’s talk about Christian for a second here. Like this guy didn’t have to do ANY of the things he did and still did them. At least there is a glimpse of good from this story.
he did more than the parents
Maybe he has something to do with the disappearance? Idk just something to think about.
@@verycoolman5724 it doesnt make sense
He seems like a good person.
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It's crazy to me that his parents didn't go get him. I once missed my flight home from Vegas; I was safe and would have to stay another week with my boyfriend before I could fly back, but my mom still asked both myself and my boyfriend separately if she needed to drive the 8 hours in one direction to come get me. I was calm, just a little upset. If I had been acting like this there would be nothing I could say to prevent her from getting to me
Lol, I am that type of mom too 😅
My question is: why didn't his parents drive themselves to Buttonwillow? I mean, it's clear that Bryce was only 3 hours away by car from Laguna Niguel, that he was not moving from the spots where Christian and the police officer found him and that the only moved from those spots because Christian and the police officer made him do it. The father should have driven to where Bryce was parked while the mother should have kept talking with him on the phone to make sure that he was staying there!
Or at least one of them drive to button willow and one stay there in case
I bet the parents ponder that question every day. how sad.
As much as I adore Christian and commend his selflessness, I think he fucked up in the last interaction. He had enough evidence that Bryce was *not* interested in going home and only ever moved enough to appease people. Christian should've kept an eye on him from a distance and called the mom, because at that point it was obvious Bryce was *not* going home on his own. Christian should've either escorted Bryce the whole way home or stayed back in observation mode to monitor his safety and location until parents arrived to escort him home.
Don't get me wrong: Christian is a fantastic human being. But that doesn't mean we can't analyze the situation for a *hopefully* better solution should we find ourselves in the same boat some day.
@@jessicatrask5608 Most likely the parents don't give a fucking shit about Bryce just like they didn't on that same day.
@@ivanpetrov5185 they do but they stupid af
Thanks for keeping Bryce’s story alive. He was a great friend to my brother and it struck our community very hard.
Could I maybe ask two questions I don't mean to pry or sound insensitive... I'm sorry if that's how it comes off..
Why did your brother not get in touch with Bryce or Bryce's parents not reach out to your brother & tell him to PLEASE GO GRAB Bryce up at that location put him in the car and either bring him home or hold him at a restaurant & keep him side tracked until you guys made his parents get to that restaurant?.... I'm sorry again.. but man there were so many RED FLAGS & opportunities to change this outcome I'm just so curious it don't make any sense... It seems that christian tried harder for this man then ANY ONE & that breaks my heart
@@xBIGxSAVAGEx17 you're being pretty insensitive. You're going to make people start thinking it's their fault and the cycle will roll over and they'll do it next. Then it'll be on your hands.
Not everyone knows how to deal with stuff like this. Some people are sheltered and never been around something like that. Maybe their parents had never dealt with such things. Maybe the friends were hopped up on something and weren't with it.
As a man with an idolized image for Xanax bars you should know better. Pathetic.
@@PaperMakersAdeludedbroad I think your last point was pretty mute a photo as a cover for UA-cam I don't see any relevance to my post nor what I was asking? I wasn't at all trying to be insensitive as I tried to carefully point out I was just treading waters to try to get a better understanding of this story just like everyone else and when I'd seen his brother and him were well? I figured I could 'Maybe' get a better understanding from this Man than anyone else? But thanks for the explanation some of your points did hold merit and I apologize if I did come off any type of way to this man it wasn't his fault nor his brothers I just wanted an understanding... (Crystal Meth..eny)
@@xBIGxSAVAGEx17 They said he had been a great friend to their brother & that the community was struck hard. Does that not sound possibly more like a friend from school days not college?
Talking about the community they had grown up in. Thou i guess it could mean a group of university students, i dunno i didnt read it as it was the friend he hgave the earings too.
He & high school mates would only be 19, a year outta school & memories of younger years would be fresh in the home community & in the kids he knew there.
@@appppppplecrumble6601 you have a very good point as well I didn't mean to offend anyone I really didn't I guess I read into it a little different but I do see what you're saying thank you for clarifying
“He was happy he was not suicidal “ the biggest mistake you can make is assume someone isn’t suicidal because they’re “happy”
Quite often people will have an uptick in happiness right before that commit suicide because they finally have come to a decision and are ready. Between that, the drug use, and giving his stuff away...definitely he had decided to do it. I just wonder if something happened or a sudden mental break, or if he was fighting depression and hid it.
Actually the best way to know whether is guy is suicidal or not is by talking to him
@@vincentkennedymcmahon50 not at all, I fucking hate it when people want to talk. I have shut everyone out because they all want to “help”
Right! Fcking “helpers” are not welcomed.
Never trust a ginger!
He was a couple hours away, yet they waited 3 hours past when he would have been there to contact police? GET IN YOUR CAR AND DRIVE!!!
The amount of time these parents spent calling and sending people to his location they could have been there. I’m still unsure why these parents didn’t make their way to him.
@James Rossi could have one stay and one go in that case so someone is home but also another is heading his way in case he hadn’t left again
EXACTLY !
Cant second guess their reasons,they did the best they knew to do at the time
How did they get all these people to do get involved do traces etc? Missing person? They spoke to him only hours earlier.
I was wondering the same.. I mean he was there only child
My heart dropped when I heard he gave away his important things AND broke up with his girlfriend. Those were clear red flags of suicidal behaviour and I feel incredibly sorry for his friends and family :(
I'm very confused on how they didn't find any bones from the crash site. Surely there must be some remains there
Yeah I knew the end just from the intro...
@@cturdo Yeah as soon as he was giving things away... stimulants and alcohol abuse are very common in HS but in combo with strange behavior its immediately worrying 😞
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Something tells me that Bryce tried to bring up his issues before heading back to college but his parents dismissed him because his life looked perfect to them. Depression doesn't care if your life is good.
Thats something that always bothers me. I have a privileged life, a happy one, depression still manages to take that from me sometimes.
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I think a lot of people are too quick to judge on things like that.
My life honestly isn't the greatest, and I somehow managed to get a neurological problem that makes my body go numb at random.
It's made working difficult and it's really messed with my mood.
I think anyone can develop problems regardless of where they're at in life, and society is still having issues acknowledging it.
@@dubiousinformation1756 its a rough world. Sometimes others can make it better, sometimes worse. Mostly I think people don't do anything. Maybe Bryce's parents fell into the latter category, probably didn't know what to do. I personally had my own psychotic break (I am bipolar and maybe autistic) my boyfriend's mother knew what to do, where my parents didnt really. Her actions might have saved me from being shot by police. As for Bryce I hope he got help from someone, somehow. I hope he makes it back to his friends and family. And if that is impossible I hope he found peace. The only thing left to do I suppose, is hope.
I don't quite know your plight, my issues might not relate. But there is hope, or understanding out there. Empathy maybe. Most certainly help
Not living close to a 5G tower are you? (serious question)
@@mollykeane2571 me? I don't think so