HEALTHY MEN - BROKEN MEN & TOXIC MEN by RC Blakes

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  • @faithlives5643
    @faithlives5643 3 роки тому +3318

    5 ways not to be used
    1. Believe patterns not apologies
    2. Don’t fall in love with potential
    3. Believe red flags
    4. Know your worth
    5. Don’t lower your standards

    • @rmbrugge
      @rmbrugge 3 роки тому +33

      Great tips

    • @5thHouseProductions
      @5thHouseProductions 3 роки тому +130

      Believe patterns not apologies! That is a word! We are creatures of habit, watch what they do, and believe half of what they say.

    • @terrybuckley2850
      @terrybuckley2850 3 роки тому +82

      Amen 🙏🏾 and more Amen’s! Anyone can change, but no one is changing for another person. So when they show you who they are...believe them. I don’t care who you are, how attractive and successful you are...if they are not the one for you...STEP (in my Martin Lawrence voice) Matter of fact, 🏃🏽‍♀️ for the hills!! 🙏🏾 Ladies, you are worth it!!

    • @travelchannel304
      @travelchannel304 3 роки тому +21

      I think im recognixing when i see it , sense it & how much is activated * what's dormant. It usually shows up in my body or Spirit will give me a hint. Its taken a while to recognize how to translate info i get into understanding when to paused and just observe if actions match up. Knowing this, no one gets to see my booty in public!! Shoot. Lol makes abstaining Very Easy!

    • @courtneysmith5211
      @courtneysmith5211 3 роки тому +53

      Yes thank so true I just ended it with a toxic man I knew the signs I choose me over his broken spirit I wasn't the problem he was too much trauma

  • @AliseIam
    @AliseIam 3 роки тому +2280

    Broken people generally don’t take the time to heal before they move on and they end up breaking others.

    • @nsengahughes9403
      @nsengahughes9403 3 роки тому +23

      So true

    • @yuvonnesingh9032
      @yuvonnesingh9032 3 роки тому +14

      Amen

    • @iamjen.B
      @iamjen.B 3 роки тому +87

      They also don't COMMIT OR WANT MARRIAGE.. 👍

    • @joyce5738
      @joyce5738 3 роки тому +15

      This is sooo important for all to hear !! Thank you, and God Bless!😊🙏🙏🙏🌹

    • @TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion
      @TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion 3 роки тому +16

      It takes The Glory of God to conceal a matter; The honor of Kings to search it out.
      Continue to teach the Daughters of Zion, The Sons of God and The Multitude (Strangers/Gentiles) that have cleaved to you.
      The Heavenly Father, Heavenly Mother (Wisdom/The Holy Spirit), The 24 Elders within The Counsel of Heaven and The cloud of witnesses salute you Pastor Blakes.
      ~Shalom~

  • @stayreal5083
    @stayreal5083 3 роки тому +2798

    A guy friend once told me to pay attention to the friends your man hang around, because most of the time toxic men hang with toxic men and cheating men hang with cheating men, lazy men hang with lazy men. A good honest hard working man is going to have friends with these qualities as well.

    • @katalynbabe
      @katalynbabe 3 роки тому +94

      Yes birds flock

    • @cachaygreen9641
      @cachaygreen9641 3 роки тому +21

      Yup!

    • @dolphinlight
      @dolphinlight 3 роки тому +71

      I learned this from experience. Your friend is right.

    • @thinkuknow789
      @thinkuknow789 3 роки тому +201

      Watch out for a man with no friends at all! Another red flag, he gonna want you all to himself, and won't want ya around any friends!

    • @adriennej860
      @adriennej860 3 роки тому +42

      Birds of Feathers will flock together(words of my old Mother 80+)

  • @Giftis2sing
    @Giftis2sing 2 роки тому +588

    “When a man finds himself broken he will be jealous of his woman’s success”. Wow! “Broken men don’t know how to love a woman”. This is all fact!! My last relationship.

    • @soiledskin
      @soiledskin Рік тому +5

      💯 💯

    • @cheburrell3989
      @cheburrell3989 Рік тому +3

      Yep!!

    • @cassanix9093
      @cassanix9093 Рік тому

      Same

    • @triciaa2156
      @triciaa2156 Рік тому +16

      Wow that’s how it was for me my ex was never happy for me it was like he wanted to compete with me it made me sad that he was like that 💔

    • @nancyregina6790
      @nancyregina6790 Рік тому +8

      Broken people need healing!

  • @doshinall
    @doshinall 3 роки тому +1886

    "A man who is not healthy will always try to clip your wings when he knows you're an eagle. He will work overtime to diminish you." That really hit home.

  • @PamelaMonroe07
    @PamelaMonroe07 3 роки тому +960

    “A healthy man will never diminish your self-esteem bank. He’s always pouring into your self-esteem bank.” ❤️

    • @ChristyShar
      @ChristyShar 3 роки тому +11

      Love this !

    • @karenmcgee1869
      @karenmcgee1869 3 роки тому +11

      Amen! I'm praying to receive a healthy man.

    • @judycrumbly914
      @judycrumbly914 3 роки тому +3

      Thank God for you and Lisa such a Blessing

    • @sryder8312
      @sryder8312 2 роки тому +1

      Preach sis

    • @daphinebonner7645
      @daphinebonner7645 2 роки тому +4

      I will rather be alone than settle for less than my worth! Some men want bck what they neglected, and in my case competes w/my Word knowledge trying to put Christ forgiveness to me I should consider his forgiveness (I have), and settle bck dwn with him...his wants no longer mines, It died, I mourned and Its burried!! ☝🏾🙏🏾👌🏾👋🏾

  • @williammcdaniel6823
    @williammcdaniel6823 3 роки тому +716

    I am a broken men honestly seeking to become repaired and whole im 34 looking to get my life back on track sincerely

    • @loveatlast3927
      @loveatlast3927 3 роки тому +69

      ♥️ the fact that you seek to is proof that you will ‼️♥️💪🏿 much blessings to you on your journey

    • @yvettecook9870
      @yvettecook9870 3 роки тому +33

      I agree with Love at Last. Just acknowledging it is a step in the right direction. Many blessings on your journey. You got this!

    • @ohemaa6703
      @ohemaa6703 3 роки тому +12

      🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @4everloyal2myself
      @4everloyal2myself 3 роки тому +18

      I salute you! You got this 💪🏾💪🏾

    • @loj3268
      @loj3268 3 роки тому +20

      This is so great to hear, keep going, as long as you seek to get your life back on track you will. Just give it time and be patient and keep working on you. Also keep seeking out strong men like RC Blakes to guide and learn from. I don’t know you but I’m very proud of you. ❤️

  • @briannebogle8008
    @briannebogle8008 2 роки тому +353

    “A healthy man has the GRACE to empower his woman. “ ❤️🙏✨

  • @PatricaKing
    @PatricaKing 3 роки тому +743

    I said.. " Where has this preacher been..?"
    Holy Spirit replied "he's been here all along, but ....you are finally ready to recieve what he says."
    Thank you Jesus!😇

  • @natashaevsimon1441
    @natashaevsimon1441 3 роки тому +336

    A toxic man will pretend that he is on the path of healing and use this to further abuse his victim. This is a toxic man.

    • @edith324
      @edith324 3 роки тому +6

      Thats all they grew up with when they meet someone different they don't know another way so they make them a bait. this is experience for 40yrs.

    • @tiffwashington1
      @tiffwashington1 3 роки тому +5

      💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

    • @lucygoose6237
      @lucygoose6237 3 роки тому +6

      My father in law is famous for "I've changed enough" 🙄

    • @katalynbabe
      @katalynbabe 3 роки тому +1

      Yes

    • @marleypup4462
      @marleypup4462 3 роки тому +6

      YEP! Covert narcissist

  • @kitana3977
    @kitana3977 3 роки тому +558

    I'm a broken man and want to change desperately. I'm about to lose my beautiful wife and family. Learning how to ignore my childhood wounds and constantly seeking God for His help. Please pray for me. Much appreciated. Joseph

    • @vivavidadela
      @vivavidadela 3 роки тому +46

      At least you recognize.

    • @TT-th1gb
      @TT-th1gb 3 роки тому +22

      Bless you and pray for you

    • @equitablehealthcare-drnatashak
      @equitablehealthcare-drnatashak 3 роки тому +24

      Please go to Christian counseling.

    • @seedofisrael1356
      @seedofisrael1356 3 роки тому +25

      Please go straight to God and not these demonic made churches!!

    • @miamiller9435
      @miamiller9435 3 роки тому +24

      First of all you must go to God yourself and pray for yourself and family!

  • @barbaralemarier4421
    @barbaralemarier4421 2 роки тому +459

    If there was only one video that I could listen to for the rest of my life this one would be it. This man is a rare diamond. May God richly bless him and his wife.

    • @pennygarcia9699
      @pennygarcia9699 Рік тому +13

      He is, class and wisdom and calm spirited. Appreciates women and my goodness we don’t find men like this. 🤯

    • @joanwhite3749
      @joanwhite3749 Рік тому +2

      I am very I want to ask this question it might sound silly can God heal them critters I know he can do all things through Christ Jesus'

    • @venessafields6945
      @venessafields6945 Рік тому

      Thank you, thank you coming from someone who knows what he is talkibg about

    • @sacredalkhemia28
      @sacredalkhemia28 Рік тому +1

      ,9o

    • @ellesyncronicious969
      @ellesyncronicious969 Рік тому

      Same!🎉

  • @knowyourkismat
    @knowyourkismat 3 роки тому +613

    “There’s nobody walking on the planet that deserves you sacrificing your life for them in hopes that they do right by you eventually”
    Wish I heard this 10 years ago!!! Thank you pastor 🙌🏽

    • @resarm5007
      @resarm5007 3 роки тому +23

      Boy do I understand this! Gave too much of myself and my life to someone who didn't value me. I raised his 2 children tho, so hopefully I did something right! 😢😔

    • @AwesomeMe47
      @AwesomeMe47 3 роки тому +5

      Ditto

    • @jamilam2242
      @jamilam2242 3 роки тому +13

      Currently me but I’m almost out of here 😔

    • @thakasato3743
      @thakasato3743 3 роки тому +2

      You and me both

    • @chelceasurgenor598
      @chelceasurgenor598 3 роки тому +10

      I was hoping my husband would change. But now I see he never will. Yes thank you pastor

  • @Holistretch
    @Holistretch 3 роки тому +654

    My past ex fits “Toxic Man”, my recent ex fits “Broken Man” exactly and my current bf fits “Healthy Man”. Hallelujah 😅 It took a LOT of self growth and hard work to attract a Healthy man. Amen.💓

    • @punk.rock.hippie
      @punk.rock.hippie 3 роки тому +20

      Amen!!! This makes me so happy for you! I love to hear about my sisters finding love and health❤️

    • @TheBlessed64
      @TheBlessed64 3 роки тому +10

      Good morning! Wow, happy for you. I’m waiting patiently!!! Enjoy your life 🕺🏽

    • @foziaafzalbhat4911
      @foziaafzalbhat4911 3 роки тому +5

      Give some tips to me as well...
      What you did???

    • @foziaafzalbhat4911
      @foziaafzalbhat4911 3 роки тому +2

      @RC Blakes Jr oh wow

    • @Holistretch
      @Holistretch 3 роки тому +1

      @@punk.rock.hippie Aw thank you!!🙏🏼💓

  • @SouthernSweetTee
    @SouthernSweetTee 3 роки тому +510

    "Sometimes you're so broken that your normal is dysfunction. Your function is dysfunction." If this ain't a WORD!!!!! 🙌🏾

    • @keitalattimore7984
      @keitalattimore7984 3 роки тому +4

      Powerful

    • @denisefox7874
      @denisefox7874 3 роки тому

      @RC Blakes Jr
      Yes! My stability was instability. My life is a mess, as I speak I locked myself in the bathroom to hear this as he's mumbling about how he had to make dinner. My son....my poor son. My husband is like what you said, "who you talking to, where you going" he is also like you said easily angry. Anything I say he gets defense. My poor son hears us everyday. I stand up for myself, I have a amazing relationship with my son. He's mad at me for marrying him. I told him he wasn't like that before we were married. I turned off the tv last night to hear him talk and he got mad that I didn't have to turn it off, that I can watch my shows, got up said sorry ( like you said always apologizing )for being in my way and went to the room for the night. Except to see what I was doing pretending to get milk. I can't anymore, I can't and will not fix him. My poor son, he doesn't say good morning to him, good night, he just controls all of my son like a soldier. I can't afford to leave...my poor son. I sleep with my son almost every night and we sit up and talk. My best time of the day

    • @LG-kx8xl
      @LG-kx8xl 3 роки тому +6

      @@denisefox7874 He might be jealous of the attention you give your son too making him pick at your son more. Idk, but some of these behaviors sound like narcissism. A narcissist will blow up about something & others will get away/get quiet & then when the narcissism wants things back to "normal", they can 1. Stop speaking to you for days (actually waiting for you to speak to them, 2. Will go around snapping at everyone in the house (they try not to in public since it would make them look bad which is a no-no), 3. Start being extra nice to "buy" you, but no apology. Major gifts can be pawns to try to take from you later to try to hurt you. Narcs have a tendency to pick at kids over nothing "military style" since they can't defend themselves or they will be extra nice to them if you're not speaking so as to think they have an ally.

    • @denisefox7874
      @denisefox7874 3 роки тому +1

      @@LG-kx8xl he does have narcissistic traits for sure thank you so much for reaching out to me have a blessed day

    • @greaterishe7197
      @greaterishe7197 3 роки тому

      My GOD FROM ZION!

  • @cinnamonbk1186
    @cinnamonbk1186 2 роки тому +203

    Letter F: Avoids deep conversations
    Letter G: Can't express his feelings
    Pastor Blakes, you are speaking the truth on so many levels right now

  • @wandanelson9888
    @wandanelson9888 3 роки тому +175

    The toxic man is a narcissist. Very insecure, pressured to succeed from parents, grandiose, Mr. Wonderful in public but oppressive and verbally abusive at home behind closed doors.

    • @aroyaldiadem3873
      @aroyaldiadem3873 2 роки тому +8

      This is so true. You just described someone who I just had to part ways with to the tee. Just devastating!

    • @kitana3977
      @kitana3977 2 роки тому +3

      That is exactly me. Broken but seeking healing through God. Trusting Him only

    • @joycemmccullers7915
      @joycemmccullers7915 2 роки тому +1

      I can really relate to what you're saying

    • @patricetheauthor6535
      @patricetheauthor6535 2 роки тому +2

      I know of that type of man unfortunately

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful 2 роки тому +7

      Narcissism is waaaay more complex than that and theres a whole spectrum and types.

  • @Ddeath.Eaterr
    @Ddeath.Eaterr 3 роки тому +296

    “A man can change, YOU can’t change him.” A word !!!

  • @tabithabrown5591
    @tabithabrown5591 2 роки тому +260

    A broken man is very dangerous!
    A broken man is seeking their Identity and portraying to be someone else It's sad but so True!!!!

  • @carieyounginsurance
    @carieyounginsurance Рік тому +275

    I’m separated from a broken man with toxic qualities as well. He’s getting help and therapy but I believe our marriage has run it’s course. He’s emotionally exhausted me and took my peace too long. I wish him well, but I do feel I chose poorly. Thank you for this video

    • @c.r.l2117
      @c.r.l2117 Рік тому +29

      My current situation. Sis, my soul is so tired!

    • @charlesdial7152
      @charlesdial7152 Рік тому +19

      My wife and I are at this point right now ourselves after 22yrs, I definitely ran her down but I just can't see her with someone else, and that will be hard for me to deal with. I do need help and support to release my anger and hurt from all these years.

    • @Patti-mp2ng
      @Patti-mp2ng Рік тому

      i’m

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Рік тому +22

      @@charlesdial7152 That's a step to admit that. Get the help, or you'll drag all that into your next relationship. Not wanting her w/ someone else doesn't mean love though. It just means possession and that's not healthy. Wanting the best for her is wanting her to be w/ someone who treats her well, and deal w/ the sting of that.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Рік тому +14

      Yep, I chose poorly too. Mine gave me that most lacklustre pitch to come back, but he doesn't really want me and still doesn't respect me or realize what he lost. The girl half his age finally ran out and his money ran out, and home security is what he wants back. He hasn't even bothered w/ counselling and I see no change. Just the same empty promises I've been hearing for over a year, while the affair continued and all the painful stunts and lies he pulled while he had his fun at my expense. He's out 4 months and I'm still struggling, but I know it would be worse if he was back.

  • @brittanyb5942
    @brittanyb5942 3 роки тому +294

    "A man can change but you can't change him" wow 💯

  • @Ihatemystylist
    @Ihatemystylist 3 роки тому +226

    "Queens ask questions, that only a king can answer". Powerful!

    • @kpmich8252
      @kpmich8252 2 роки тому +2

      Dayum

    • @sunshine9426
      @sunshine9426 2 роки тому +3

      SAY IT AGAIN only SANG IT from the roof tops! 🆗😀😌🌞

    • @tinamichelle6969
      @tinamichelle6969 2 роки тому +2

      Omg!! Ilove this!!

    • @MoMo-cn2hg
      @MoMo-cn2hg 2 роки тому +2

      💯

    • @ashleysno
      @ashleysno 9 місяців тому

      Yup! When he said that I knew something!😂👏💯

  • @mayashiva3287
    @mayashiva3287 3 роки тому +449

    My dad was a broken man but after he married my mom he wanted a family he can be proud of and realized that starts with him. He succeeded in his goal and he is well respected by his children. His father physically and mentally tormented him and his mom. But made a conscious decision to change that in his own family. Love my dad ❤️

    • @Cat-sx6ep
      @Cat-sx6ep 3 роки тому +24

      when you break the chain you are healthy

    • @stephanieorme2950
      @stephanieorme2950 3 роки тому +8

    • @dempress3549
      @dempress3549 3 роки тому +11

      Oh that's really encouraging, God bless him

    • @sheliaglass484
      @sheliaglass484 3 роки тому +18

      You just confirmed what we all should know. A man changes when he makes a decision to do so. And a real man who wants to break tge change of dysfunction can! You don't have to have the life that was modeled before you if you know it is not a good one. He wanted a healthy family unit and worked to do the opposite of what he saw. The winners in all of this is you and your family. Praise God!

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 роки тому +4

      Amazing GRACE how sweet it is

  • @margokerby1533
    @margokerby1533 Рік тому +70

    Reverend Blakes, you are the older brother every woman needs. Thank you.

  • @simoneammon9874
    @simoneammon9874 3 роки тому +126

    When you are in a relationship with a broken man, it doesn't matter how much you build them up, they feel intimidated by you, and are scared to be controlled by you. If there's a problem they will often try to run away, (either physically or emotionally - stonewalling) and have a tendency to behave in a passive aggressive way instead of being assertive. Even if you are confident, if you spend enough time around them, you start to feel broken and insecure because you have to diminish yourself and be constantly accommodating them. The guy may not be abusive or controlling, even if he's super passive where he can't meet your needs, it can be toxic.

    • @deloresiles2341
      @deloresiles2341 2 роки тому +19

      So true! I’ve been married to one for years. He always wanted to be the “smart one” couldn’t stand for a woman to know more than he did…he wanted someone to “dumb down” in order to feel good about himself. Very, very sad 😞
      I didn’t buy into that though.

    • @SaniyahRaks
      @SaniyahRaks 2 роки тому +4

      Amen...

    • @kitana3977
      @kitana3977 2 роки тому +4

      Unfortunately that's me. That was me and slowly healing from all my insecurities.

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing 2 роки тому +13

      Wow now it makes sense. I always wondered why when I would say something or make a comment about something my EX could never just agree with me. Even if I knew that I was right, he would still argue me up an down that I was wrong. That was the craziest thing to me. He was definitely a Mr. Know It All. SMH

    • @jaketasjourney
      @jaketasjourney 2 роки тому +1

      Wow that's interesting 🤔

  • @petratuomi1202
    @petratuomi1202 3 роки тому +458

    A healthy man is a giver not a taker and unguarded, keeps no secrets, but walks he talk!! Pastor, the way you break things down, is so refreshing! Thank you.

    • @riorio-rt1oq
      @riorio-rt1oq 3 роки тому +3

      I know one who thinks he is healthy and try to help every woman alive I ask him what about the men we are losing them he said amen🤷🏽‍♀️

    • @farfetched9296
      @farfetched9296 3 роки тому +6

      A healthy man don't talk HE DO....it's crazy how no one took time to teach us about healthy and toxic men. My parents we're too busy trying to marry me off to anyone. The things I know now🙂

    • @joenathan7962
      @joenathan7962 3 роки тому +4

      I disagree with unguarded to an extent ,some info is for wife only .Man will become broken by telling all his secrets right away. The Only reason a woman would want to know the deep stuff too soon I believe is because most likely because she's studying him. Filing those possibly hurtful vulnerable memories in the gaslight weaponized drawer for later. . Be careful what you say. Speak only with purpose respect, and after its ben thought through. Don't ever make promises either. If there's a chance you may drop the ball let that be known . Lets your yes be yes and your no be no. . :) My opinion only God bless all my brothas and sistas !!

    • @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407
      @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407 3 роки тому

      Amen!!!

    • @caljackson962
      @caljackson962 3 роки тому +1

      HALLELUJAH. I HADN THOUGHT OF IT AS CLIPPING MY WINGS BUT MY GOODNESS THATS EXACTLY WHAT HAPPENED. NO MORE.

  • @alwaysaccurate8725
    @alwaysaccurate8725 3 роки тому +668

    Background -00:00
    Healthy Man- 13:12
    Broken Man- 39:38
    Toxic Man- 1hr mark
    📌The whole video is a blessing♥️

  • @ingridj7070
    @ingridj7070 Рік тому +21

    A REAL MAN won't mind hearing this. Men who are broken and toxic will turn away from your channel and this video altogether ❤❤ God Bless You R.C Blakes❤
    Amen ...❤ CC

  • @cindyking7229
    @cindyking7229 3 роки тому +267

    I prayed for my kids dad to change for 20 years and he never changed because he didn't want to change. So last year I stop praying that prayer, so God sent me the exact man I was praying for him to become

    • @loveinautumn3978
      @loveinautumn3978 3 роки тому +24

      Congratulations sis! Hopefully God will send me a God fearing man who wants to be in covenant with me.

    • @cindyking7229
      @cindyking7229 3 роки тому +9

      @@loveinautumn3978 keep asking God

    • @Joureyoffaith555
      @Joureyoffaith555 3 роки тому +5

      Congrats ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @latashalewis873
      @latashalewis873 3 роки тому +3

      I believe you,sis!

    • @tiawannarichmonde250
      @tiawannarichmonde250 3 роки тому +14

      @@loveinautumn3978 That is good that she had her prayers answered. So many women settle for being a baby mama when they deserve to be a wife. It doesn't take years for a man to know that a certain woman is the one. If he wants her, he'll treat her like gold and do whatever it takes to get her. A man like that will come only from God Himself.

  • @unitrarenee1406
    @unitrarenee1406 3 роки тому +336

    "A BROKEN MAN WILL BREAK YOU... YOU DON'T POSSESS WHAT HE NEEDS"!!! OMG... so on point!!! Thank you sir.

    • @alice-asmithhill8123
      @alice-asmithhill8123 3 роки тому +14

      A broken spouse will break you.... You simply don’t possess what your spouse needs, to create healthy partnerships, forgiveness, receiving conversations in a mellow tone of voice, and develop with time a loving marriage you desire..... when your partner chastise your feelings, it’s their way of deactivating that persons need for them, by devaluation, belittled comments, pressing on past hurt, and creating a space of loneliness in the current moment. They do the deactivating for one purpose. To elevate the pressure from having to express his or her deepest feelings. The broken man don’t want to change for you so he creates you this image of self being a looser. Your friends are gone, family, job all gone. You get a new friend and he or she takes a jab at you by saying “hey go visit such a name and the new person is so boring.” They never like the old friend neither, but they know the hurt left behind in the broken friendship. Now the hurt partner don’t feel like going out with a new friend because his or her spouse devalued them and caused pain in association with that new friend. It’s all a roller coaster ride, the partner is hurtful and never remorseful because he or she is broken, and want you to feel hurt also. It’s a petty and hurtful game. I’m so sick of crying and not hearing a word of remorse or compassion. He said “you want to be sad, so I can go do what I want to. Go do it and I will go my way.” A ploy to find a new person then ditch you. Leaving you scorn for lifelong feelings of hurt and loneliness. A broken man wins what ever he puts his mind away from. He created the opposite of what he wants to make it seem it’s all your fault. Then not talking about it leaves the hurt to rot and pile up and up and up with hurt inside, never to be cared for and finally you go and the broken partner don’t care. The broken partner made sure they didn’t invest a heartfelt forgiveness nor compassion towards you so they haven’t any remorse. Remorse is not possible because they convinced themself and you that your not shit and not dependable, not faithful, not trustworthy, not fun, not pretty, not a lot of things that YOU TRULY DO MAKE SPECIAL, YOU ROCK THOSE FLAWS Flawlessly, AND IN ONLY THE FABULOUSE WAYS THAT YOU COULD. Not nobody is like you - god bless your God given uniqueness. Amen!

    • @babybudd5848
      @babybudd5848 3 роки тому +3

      @@alice-asmithhill8123 I haven't even watch the whole video. Be i came across this and, WOW, very insightful. Thank you. 💌

    • @tamibell4888
      @tamibell4888 3 роки тому +8

      @@alice-asmithhill8123
      Amen sister, I once had a husband that did me that way. He did an made me feel all those things. He was a broken man an I was a empath always trying to see the good in him, so I stayed for years until he literally broke me an threw me away for another woman.
      Took me foreve to get over him an the hurt.
      10 yrs later, now I met Jesus an have climb out of the pit of pain an our Abba Father has wrapped his arms around me. 😇

    • @shirleycollins2185
      @shirleycollins2185 3 роки тому

      Yes.

    • @madelinebigio7565
      @madelinebigio7565 3 роки тому +1

      Yesssss but the men needs help ! I have 3 brothers and only one matured but not all of them !

  • @foziaafzalbhat4911
    @foziaafzalbhat4911 3 роки тому +300

    A healthy man is a giver... Time, attention, love, care, available..
    A healthy man is a listener.. a man who is not a listener is a toxic guy..

    • @rahimi4762
      @rahimi4762 3 роки тому

      But the lady’s box ain’t hot for that by media design

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 3 роки тому +1

      Has a great heart great energy!

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 3 роки тому +2

      @@rahimi4762
      If its about her box she might not be a great catch?

    • @thinkuknow789
      @thinkuknow789 3 роки тому +21

      Oh the toxic ones will pretend to listen, and care. Then they usually take whatever you told them in confidence, and twist it somehow to false accuse, and use against you!

    • @aimyrenee4200
      @aimyrenee4200 3 роки тому +1

      In my case I think he is using it not in a good way for me. God has shown me over n over. When do I forgive n stay

  • @vanessahill0505
    @vanessahill0505 Рік тому +72

    I was married to a toxic man, who very easily cheated on me and accused me of being a narcissist, with borderline personality disorder, all so that he could justify being an adulterer, who didn't want to work. Married his mistress (18 years younger than him) who died, five months into their marriage. Apparently drank herself to death....Thank you RC Blake's for reminding me of the Queen that I am and always was. Shout out from the beautiful Cape Town, 🇿🇦

    • @aubreybryan5332
      @aubreybryan5332 10 місяців тому +9

      Wow..., this one is deep 🤯

    • @GiaCruz
      @GiaCruz 8 місяців тому +2

      I’m so sorry that happened to you and thank God you escaped!!!! 🎉 hope you are living your best life now!!!

    • @PetitHibou72
      @PetitHibou72 8 місяців тому +1

      Hello South Africa, from Texas! I love that RC is teaching sisters worldwide, how powerful. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope the peace you’ve found is deep and lasting, in Jesus’ Name. 🙏🏼💖

  • @riahs.7578
    @riahs.7578 3 роки тому +549

    I hope more men find God and become whole.

    • @crystalcormier9376
      @crystalcormier9376 3 роки тому +3

      Amen sis I hope so too. God bless

    • @MANDEE7962
      @MANDEE7962 3 роки тому +2

      Yes amen

    • @iamjen.B
      @iamjen.B 3 роки тому +10

      This is the very reason churches are full of singletons..nobody wants to change men/women. If their heart isnt right before God there will be no change period.. You cannot change a person, 👍

    • @7reload777
      @7reload777 3 роки тому +1

      God is not real 😅🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @dollyjohnson5848
      @dollyjohnson5848 3 роки тому +5

      @@7reload777 you ain’t real

  • @jelloshotsani
    @jelloshotsani 3 роки тому +514

    “If you’re not looking deep before you leap, you will drown.” 🙌🏾

  • @welldonerae4052
    @welldonerae4052 3 роки тому +848

    I really appreciate you. I love my father but he doesn’t have the time to teach me about life. I feel seen and taken care of when I watch your videos. I wish you knew how much you have helped re-mold my spirit 🙏🏾
    I quit smoking, quit drinking, cut ties with my abuser, im not fully healed but I’m on the right path. Thank you 🙏🏾

    • @redtigerlily8165
      @redtigerlily8165 3 роки тому +35

      That is a beautiful thing. Congratulations! May all the rest of your days be blessed!

    • @Pinkpanda811
      @Pinkpanda811 3 роки тому +25

      Good for you, sis! I love to see people level up their lives 💕

    • @sheambitious29lachelle17
      @sheambitious29lachelle17 3 роки тому +25

      I’m so glad your doing better sis, keep going

    • @leonajordan4365
      @leonajordan4365 3 роки тому +16

      Do your thing -- keep soaring🙏🏾

    • @MissLindsayRochelle
      @MissLindsayRochelle 3 роки тому +18

      Wowwww sister!!!! I’m proud of you!!! TRUE Testimony!!! Keep doing good!!!

  • @ms.h4541
    @ms.h4541 2 роки тому +103

    You need to make a healthy man boot camp. I honestly don't think toxic men are aware that they are toxic bc they lacked a godly father figure to teach them.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Рік тому +5

      I don't think most toxic men know they are toxic either. Mine sure didn't. He had Godly parents who were very principled. I don't think he much regrets what he did to me, but he is ashamed that he let down his parents values that he was raised w/. They are both deceased and he got worse after his mother died, starting his affair shortly after. He was the youngest andhis mother really favoured him. I think that's part of what made him so entitled and immature.

    • @jzloveinfinite
      @jzloveinfinite Рік тому +3

      They won't attend. I know someone who does this for men and attendance is very low. It's really heartbreaking to see. 😢

    • @nathalie8497
      @nathalie8497 Рік тому +4

      Do not fool yourself
      They DO KNOW

    • @CodyCole80
      @CodyCole80 Рік тому +1

      @@nathalie8497I believe they know too, which is why most don’t show their abuse or bad side until they’re behind closed doors.

  • @CBrown86
    @CBrown86 3 роки тому +245

    I watched this four times to make sure it sunk in.

    • @MyCrownstar
      @MyCrownstar 3 роки тому +10

      YES. I’ve made it a favorite so once a month I can go back and listen to it! If I meet a man (lol) I will listen again.

    • @adriennefavors2474
      @adriennefavors2474 3 роки тому +7

      I do this too! If I start dating someone, I’m like let me go listen!

    • @fionawmukuriah
      @fionawmukuriah 3 роки тому +6

      That's commitment 👏

    • @walcott70
      @walcott70 3 роки тому +5

      When it comes to relationships hunny you will never have enough knowledge. I don't care what the preacher, therapist, or book says. When dealing with thy flesh enter at your own risk...

    • @birungicarol4935
      @birungicarol4935 3 роки тому +2

      Every time I met someone

  • @stacyo.1080
    @stacyo.1080 3 роки тому +198

    I almost lost a wonderful man, who was everything I wanted in a man, because I thought he was boring. Pastor, after dating men who I thought had the 20 percent that was missing and the excitement I was looking for, I knew I made a mistake because they didn't come close to how he treated me. I was broken and dysfunctional because of a divorce and had lots of luggage. Thankfully, I worked on myself and he took me back and I have never felt more loved by someone.

    • @tonyaarnett2461
      @tonyaarnett2461 3 роки тому

      I'm happy for you. I'm also learning something's about myself. How long have You guy's been together?

    • @11940ful
      @11940ful 3 роки тому +4

      I hope you had his babies.

    • @kerrondonegal-ewen9479
      @kerrondonegal-ewen9479 3 роки тому

      Awesome 👏

    • @rahimi4762
      @rahimi4762 3 роки тому +3

      But why does the right man has to have the bad mans left overs? The best years was still given to the devil. Thank god you came out of the dungeon and started to love yourself so you can recognize

    • @evka24
      @evka24 3 роки тому +4

      @@rahimi4762 right man himself most of time had other experiences too. No one have to take leftovers. Find a be worthy of virgin girl if that’s ur priority

  • @angelabennings8027
    @angelabennings8027 3 роки тому +541

    I can not lie, this is the most valuable content being offered on UA-cam. May the Lord take this message far and wide, and into the communities that need it most! I pray that this information breaks generational curses.

    • @kayyoung9242
      @kayyoung9242 2 роки тому +4

      ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

    • @psalmfiya6315
      @psalmfiya6315 2 роки тому +2

      AMENOOO.......💪😂🌻💛☀👋🙌🌴💚🌍💙💓

    • @sarayaturner6170
      @sarayaturner6170 2 роки тому +5

      Have you took a look at Gino Jennings on tube. Trust your walk with God will never be the same 💕

    • @amarieneal7233
      @amarieneal7233 2 роки тому +5

      Yes to your prayer in agreement to heal folks from being, violated & abused & turning toxic as men & women, boys & girls who needed renewal to God's great purpose & place of love ❤, wisdom, respect 🙏, honor & being victorious over all things in life, in Christ Jesus name, Amen !!!!❤❤

    • @Melissakay09
      @Melissakay09 2 роки тому +1

      Amen 💕💕💕

  • @octaviagrant2109
    @octaviagrant2109 10 місяців тому +21

    I'm 49 and my dad never prepared me for a relationship with a man he was broken so he couldn't give me what he didn't have. Thank you for being my spiritual father

  • @PamelaMonroe07
    @PamelaMonroe07 3 роки тому +258

    “No healthy man is going to be calling himself the ‘prize’…umm-mm...No.” 😆

    • @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407
      @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407 3 роки тому +24

      Yeah my ex bf told me in December if I played my cards right, he might be my husband in 2021! About 5 minutes after that, I said if he plays his cards right, I won’t break up with him!

    • @anonymoususer5999
      @anonymoususer5999 3 роки тому +2

      @@fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407 amen sis 👏 but would you consider this a power trip issue?

    • @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407
      @fromdoormattoflyingcarpetw407 3 роки тому +1

      Anonymous user; why such a horrible negative screen name?

    • @RealLadi228
      @RealLadi228 3 роки тому +1

      Makes so much sense...

    • @Beautyforashes613_
      @Beautyforashes613_ 3 роки тому +3

      That’s cause the woman is the prize !

  • @francinemitchell8682
    @francinemitchell8682 3 роки тому +218

    I am so tired of these broken 💔 men wanting good natured empathic women I refuse to be your 🚪 mat therapist.

  • @indyTyson
    @indyTyson 3 роки тому +157

    Unfortunately I've only been with broken and toxic men and when I tell you, this was SPOT ON about their characteristics!! Working on myself in order to be healthy and attract a healthy husband! Pray for me! 🙏🏾

    • @lovingpia27
      @lovingpia27 3 роки тому +8

      Wow, this me as well. I am praying to God to heal me from childhood trauma that I endured from both parent especially my dad. I placed my dad on pedestal but he was never available emotionally and physically. My goal is for God to heal so I can attract the man he has ordained for me.

    • @caljackson962
      @caljackson962 3 роки тому +3

      BOAZ IS OUT THERE SOMEWHERE. FOR ME SOONER THAN LATER I PRAY. THIS WAS JUST THE TEACHING IVE NEEDED TO HEAR.

    • @akosuaakos9336
      @akosuaakos9336 3 роки тому +2

      Same here. How do you go about working on self? Praying a healthy overcoming victory for you!

    • @365SELFINTEREST
      @365SELFINTEREST 3 роки тому

      🙏🙏🙏

    • @arnelevans6779
      @arnelevans6779 2 роки тому +1

      @@akosuaakos9336 Working on self is basically letting go of the past, asking for forgiveness for yourself, for allowing hurt in your life. Prayer works too.

  • @HarlemDuke
    @HarlemDuke 11 місяців тому +25

    I’m not even Christian and I listen and watch your videos. Your words are beyond the bounds of religion. I just sent this video to a girlfriend of mine, so Thank you 😊

  • @bellydanza85
    @bellydanza85 3 роки тому +268

    “Stop popping all this gum, stop taking all these booty pictures; and start thinking your way through life!” - RC Blakes. My pastor don’t play! Love you!

    • @sammih7849
      @sammih7849 3 роки тому +6

      Amen!

    • @amberwise1148
      @amberwise1148 3 роки тому +7

      One of my favorite highlights!

    • @shug_no_avery8172
      @shug_no_avery8172 3 роки тому +6

      Lmao@popping the gun because it’s so true.

    • @shug_no_avery8172
      @shug_no_avery8172 3 роки тому +4

      @@amberwise1148 yesss mine too. He said in one of his father daughter talk videos

    • @tiawannarichmonde250
      @tiawannarichmonde250 3 роки тому +4

      I like his teachings. He makes a lot of sense. I'll also add one thing: Avoid a vengeful man. Look at the mem who have killed their kids to get back at their mother. Some women have done it too, but mostly this has been the pattern of men. I also (first and foremost) want to go deep into a man's childhood. This will tell you a lot about his attitude and good and/or poor decision making. So, Pastor Blake is on point.

  • @His_creation
    @His_creation 3 роки тому +170

    "A healthy man has no secrets"

  • @Iamlonndanicole
    @Iamlonndanicole 3 роки тому +284

    A healthy man these days seems very rare. Trying to keep my faith that a lot of the broken men and women will be healed so that restoration of Kingdom family will be seen in these last days.

    • @denetriawright9100
      @denetriawright9100 3 роки тому +8

      that's a word!!...

    • @princizzraven2000
      @princizzraven2000 2 роки тому +6

      Amen I’m believing in faith with you. With God all things are possible 🙏🏾

    • @Vixinaful
      @Vixinaful 2 роки тому +1

      Hear, hear, sister! ❤️

    • @geedee2501
      @geedee2501 Рік тому +2

      Amen! This here is it! 2 Chronicles 7:14
      14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

    • @saintejeannedarc9460
      @saintejeannedarc9460 Рік тому +1

      I think there's not too many healthy men or women these days. If they have a good heart and you are both sincere, healing can happen in the relationship.

  • @michelleleigh3739
    @michelleleigh3739 Рік тому +43

    I’m speechless , every every woman ( young girls need to hear this ) I’m soooo thankful to have found your ministry . This was a gift from Jesus 🙏😇

  • @jenniferjones1470
    @jenniferjones1470 3 роки тому +141

    "A man can change but you can't change him" LOVE IT

    • @MsPat.212
      @MsPat.212 2 роки тому +2

      True facts

    • @angelabaldwin9889
      @angelabaldwin9889 2 роки тому +2

      If he loves u, a healthy man will change.

    • @jenniferjones1470
      @jenniferjones1470 2 роки тому +4

      @@angelabaldwin9889 but you should distance yourself from that process because it's between him and his Maker. We as women want to be the solution the change maker but it is a mystery. Do not try to change him. You are the prize. the reward for a good man.

    • @angelabaldwin9889
      @angelabaldwin9889 2 роки тому +5

      @@jenniferjones1470 I meant or was trying to say he will make changes on his on accord to better himself… because he loves you…and he wants to do this. It’s like he will upgrade himself. Your love makes him better,lol.

    • @jenniferjones1470
      @jenniferjones1470 2 роки тому +1

      @@angelabaldwin9889 I got it, cool.

  • @brandyalaman8461
    @brandyalaman8461 3 роки тому +72

    This is so TRUE. In addition to this, a broken man will hide himself in a LIE and believe his OWN LIE!!

    • @sharoneh8929
      @sharoneh8929 Рік тому +3

      O my God Yes!!!

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 Рік тому

      @sharoneh8929 yes they will...will be so angry with the facts and true will sit right there and lie because they so ashamed...forget apologizing for it sincerely and taking accountability but recreate it and truly believe a lie version 🙄😒

  • @TheAdvantageCounselor
    @TheAdvantageCounselor 3 роки тому +36

    Broken men hide behind an identity rooted in his work.

  • @lebogabe
    @lebogabe 2 роки тому +75

    Thank you Pastor, God bless you. I'm a broken man, in the process of becoming a healthy man and I praise Jesus for this.

  • @merrytunes8697
    @merrytunes8697 3 роки тому +252

    “Let’s have a self respect challenge”. Yes, society has women thinking men are the prize now...we have to remember we are the prize

    • @Drealoveu2
      @Drealoveu2 3 роки тому +4

      Amen

    • @miriamhavard7621
      @miriamhavard7621 3 роки тому +3

      Amen!

    • @broncomcbane6382
      @broncomcbane6382 3 роки тому +2

      Disagree.
      God made WoMan from Adam's rib because he declared it was not good for Man to be alone. But there is nothing specific about WoMan until like Psalms, where it is said that a Man that has found a Wife has found a good thing.

    • @merrytunes8697
      @merrytunes8697 3 роки тому +3

      @@broncomcbane6382 you’re proving my point...but lets agree to disagree. Peace be with you.

    • @broncomcbane6382
      @broncomcbane6382 3 роки тому

      @@merrytunes8697 ok. I dont know...let me finish this video 1st

  • @maudie3684
    @maudie3684 3 роки тому +126

    Broken man is passive aggressive and intimidated by your success not good chemistry. We need to be equally yoked.

  • @P_Murriel
    @P_Murriel 3 роки тому +287

    As a male this has opened my eyes plz do female version. I have recently found you on UA-cam and been following all your male lessons. Would love more male lessons.

  • @shawnadionatutt
    @shawnadionatutt Рік тому +86

    This entire message added so much warmth to my body and spirit. I went through a 5 year Narcissistic relationship and became so insecure, unmotivated and lost. I’ve been looking for inspiration for about 2 years now and you definitely added spark that I needed. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom. 👑

    • @pricillageorge6593
      @pricillageorge6593 Рік тому +5

      I'm proud of you. I'm struggling to get over a narc relationship 😩

    • @keenas.8701
      @keenas.8701 Рік тому +1

      Relatable! Amen.

    • @chantemckeithan372
      @chantemckeithan372 Рік тому

      Yes the narc will drain you to the point that you don't or can't do anything else for yourself. They drain the life out of you..

    • @aubreybryan5332
      @aubreybryan5332 10 місяців тому +1

      Totally 💯 relatable

  • @skyboundzoo7529
    @skyboundzoo7529 3 роки тому +153

    i am a man guilty of all of this
    the holy spirit convicting me through your words
    thank you for your obedience to talk so candidly on a tough topic
    thank you

    • @tintina2753
      @tintina2753 2 роки тому +7

      So proud of your honesty bro . For this I pray there is hope for your healing if you are willing to trust God and work on yourself. All the best!

    • @kitana3977
      @kitana3977 2 роки тому +5

      Same here Sky
      Seeking healing every day

    • @anneiconex1473
      @anneiconex1473 2 роки тому +3

      @skyboundzoo @kitana l think that’s healthy that you recognize it. I’m sure you can heal. Take action and move toward a healthy mind. God Bless You ! !

    • @mariebrunson9078
      @mariebrunson9078 2 роки тому +1

      God bless and keep you in his care.

  • @Gloria_All_Day
    @Gloria_All_Day 3 роки тому +284

    Give me boring, I'll take that, because I'm boring too. 😊

    • @chasingclouds7101
      @chasingclouds7101 3 роки тому +12

      Me too lol!

    • @user-kpkxgtj
      @user-kpkxgtj 3 роки тому +18

      Me too. Give me boring and predictable - any day, everyday, because that's how I am 😊

    • @venitaw957
      @venitaw957 3 роки тому +19

      I love boring...it’s peaceful!

    • @terrybuckley2850
      @terrybuckley2850 3 роки тому +5

      Ditto!! 👏🏾👏🏾👍🏾👍🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @ohemgee4359
      @ohemgee4359 3 роки тому +7

      Stable and Reassuring would suit me nicely. Matter of fact, I would be thrilled.

  • @kannese
    @kannese 3 роки тому +81

    You know the language of LOVE. It does not brag nor boast it is patient and is kind. A real man will speak to you and you will never be afraid

    • @kannese
      @kannese 3 роки тому +1

      @RC Blakes Jr 👊🏼

  • @toniaparker3543
    @toniaparker3543 Рік тому +43

    So very true my ex boyfriend was very broken. You couldn't say nothing to him without him getting upset. Punching holes in the wall don't mind hurting himself. He felt that he didn't need help with anything. Even though it was hurtful but at the same time the relationship wasn't going anywhere anyway. He really didn't want me I was just there. I'm glad I'm not with him anymore best thing I could have done.

    • @lala5061
      @lala5061 Рік тому

      Im so happy u got out of there because that wall is what he wanted to do to u...that is a huge huge flag to ruuuunnn...breaking things gotta put there hands on something when in disagreement...don't ask me how I know 😒

  • @rinawilliams6249
    @rinawilliams6249 3 роки тому +149

    Wow!!!! What a revelation!...a man don't have to sleep with you,to form a soul tie..preach Pastor,preach!.

    • @t.calhoun8765
      @t.calhoun8765 3 роки тому +8

      I just saw your comment and said omg now I understand.

    • @gracelovepeace1
      @gracelovepeace1 3 роки тому +10

      Very true, I know from experience.

    • @mariongore728
      @mariongore728 3 роки тому +5

      Yes

    • @theom1442
      @theom1442 3 роки тому +5

      I never knew that😱😮🙏its true when they say learning never ends...I always thought as long as you don't engage in fornication or any sexual activities before marriage you're safe.
      thanks 💁‍♂️

    • @hunnyb1308
      @hunnyb1308 3 роки тому +4

      Emotional Soul Tie, can be just as worst as a Sexual Soul Tie.

  • @foziaafzalbhat4911
    @foziaafzalbhat4911 3 роки тому +20

    Healthy man never tried to make her feel second class citizen.
    Real man knows the worth of a women...

  • @hayamy3583
    @hayamy3583 3 роки тому +107

    "Lost puppies" I call them. Ive picked up a few in the past. Theyre so cute, and theyre sad and we think we can fix them with some worm paste and a wash. But, eventually, the mistreated dog will bite. He has to choose to learn to trust.

    • @w.v.e.8643
      @w.v.e.8643 3 роки тому +3

      Exactly!!!!

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 роки тому +1

      🤣. I shawl got bitten. 😅

    • @lindagilbert5733
      @lindagilbert5733 3 роки тому

      @@w.v.e.8643 you are such a blessing to social media keep doing God's work God's way

    • @francinemitchell8682
      @francinemitchell8682 2 роки тому +1

      Yes I picked 3 lost puppies I had to release them back to dog pound.

    • @juneelle370
      @juneelle370 2 роки тому +1

      😂 it totally works as a metaphor but in my experience animals who’ve been abused can learn to trust. I did adopt one female who was a challenge to the end but she was still family. This stuff doesn’t work with humans~ we’re a different kind of animal! 💜 brains so big and so much hurt. It sure can be done but only on an individual basis with Creator~with free will!

  • @micahasmr9937
    @micahasmr9937 Рік тому +25

    Omg, this is the father I needed in my life growing up. I thank God it's never too late to learn and grow.

  • @mypath4711
    @mypath4711 3 роки тому +226

    And also a lot of us women are attracted to the broken and toxic man because we are intimidated by healthy men, im changing! Bye bye toxic and broken hello healthy 🙂

    • @michellebrim9485
      @michellebrim9485 3 роки тому +4

      You are so right

    • @missfitphamous
      @missfitphamous 3 роки тому +9

      I just realized that about myself .. you are so right.. I wanted validation

    • @Abovegroundview
      @Abovegroundview 3 роки тому +32

      A lot of us women date men we feel are below us so we feel superior because we know if we date a man who is in a better position than we are I will require us to look at our own short comings and change what we've been doing for years. That is a painful change that many do not want to undergo.

    • @mypath4711
      @mypath4711 3 роки тому +5

      @@Abovegroundview lets do this no more

    • @free2fly374
      @free2fly374 3 роки тому +1

      Wow great point

  • @hopeinhumanity.
    @hopeinhumanity. 3 роки тому +167

    May I add to the list...
    A healthy man has an openness and willingness to watch and learn from R.C’s videos that are shared with him 😌

    • @O4FOXSAKES
      @O4FOXSAKES 3 роки тому +21

      I totally agree! Men should strive to be a better man every day. Never stop growing. "If you ain't growing, you're dying". Treat your woman like a queen and you'll be her king!!😊

    • @MarcGthaGreat
      @MarcGthaGreat 3 роки тому +5

      Amen!! 🙏🏾🙌🏾✊🏾

    • @faithwatari7210
      @faithwatari7210 3 роки тому +2

      I'm sorry but I think this is manipulative. A healthy person won't manipulate another to do what they desire. If you are healthy, you should be able to accept that probably he doesn't enjoy listening to the videos coz it's not his kind of thing. However, he has a healthy attachment nonetheless. You can't rate someone's healthy state by his ability to accept being arm twisted to do what you like. That's unhealthy in my opinion.

    • @hopeinhumanity.
      @hopeinhumanity. 3 роки тому +2

      @@faithwatari7210 I understand that and agree. In this case it was posted because someone had watched the video and it was posted more as an appreciation for that person watching it (and seeing the comment).

    • @1234nfd
      @1234nfd 3 роки тому

      😂😂😂😂

  • @vanessabeasley3402
    @vanessabeasley3402 3 роки тому +22

    "Alpha males are quiet! They are not interjecting themselves on every scene". Absolutely.

  • @stephiiuni
    @stephiiuni Рік тому +17

    Definitely was dealing with a broken man. I had to let go because I started to feel like a burden to him. Always apologizing, self-sabotaging, not being supportive, and always in his head. Hoping he will get help the needs someday. In the meantime, I have to move on and live my own life. 😥💔

  • @nequasheavenlycreations5016
    @nequasheavenlycreations5016 3 роки тому +172

    This is so powerful! I almost married a broken man. I left the relationship because the double mindedness was too much and the verbal abuse was a deal breaker!!

    • @Sally75015
      @Sally75015 2 роки тому +12

      I’m trying to leave to😞

    • @DrHen-xd3rv
      @DrHen-xd3rv 2 роки тому +5

      This is very powerful. Im literally in tears right now bc for over a year i was celibate and doing better as a person but bc i was being impatient and ready for family and marriage although I knew him and knew the baggage. So upset with myself because I KNEW BETTER. Been dealing with a roller coaster for over a year and I'm tired. Im ready to get back to the motivated person that I was before.

    • @ChichiMarie
      @ChichiMarie 2 роки тому +1

      Huge deal breaker

    • @Shayvideos1
      @Shayvideos1 2 роки тому +2

      @@Sally75015 do it..emotionally disconnect first but don't let it be so obvious if yall live together. If he has or has potential to be violent, leave in silence and leave now. Stay with someone or have him put out your place but if he's violent, you leave as soon as you can.

    • @toshiapallesen9152
      @toshiapallesen9152 2 роки тому +2

      Glad you listened to your intuition knew your worth and bailed 👍

  • @ameliabeneby2981
    @ameliabeneby2981 3 роки тому +142

    Toxic was definitely my child’s father. I wish I would have acknowledged the red flags sooner. Never answering my questions. Inconsistent. Anger issues towards women. Noncommittal. I ignored his energy and paid the price in the end. Currently working on my healing and looking forward to the future.

    • @Jit_N_LadyDade
      @Jit_N_LadyDade 2 роки тому +10

      Same I’m wishing well on your journey with your family. They don’t care about no one, not even the child. Just lingering to feel some type of substance i case they need supply

    • @marquettashahid3328
      @marquettashahid3328 Рік тому

      Bless 🙌🏿 you. SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN.

    • @Ann-pn9or
      @Ann-pn9or Рік тому

      33 years here....

  • @madelinemclean3263
    @madelinemclean3263 3 роки тому +89

    I can't change a man, only God can do that!

    • @LL-ip5mm
      @LL-ip5mm 3 роки тому

      And he himself can change him self if he wants too and believes god will help him do so

    • @Itssofiz.
      @Itssofiz. 3 роки тому

      Amen I'm testimony of that amen ,🙌🏽💓

  • @robertsidwell5856
    @robertsidwell5856 8 місяців тому +8

    This is brilliant . I’ve just lost the woman of my dreams. The age of 59 and I just realised I am a broken man. Father died when I was eight and I’ve been ruled by my ego ever since. This Video has been so hard to watch , what you say is hard to hear , and I don’t know what to do first to help myself heal. But at least now know for the first time in my life , I see why my life has been a collection of failures particularly in my relationships. Thank you for this video. I hope I can finally heal and find some happiness , finally. Even after suffering a heart attack, I feel like God has given me a second chance to sort it out and become the man always wanted to be. I think I need a strong male mentor and a good therapist ….any suggestions?!🙏🏼

  • @foziaafzalbhat4911
    @foziaafzalbhat4911 3 роки тому +72

    To be a man, husband, father.. you have to be a listener...

  • @LisaButterfly-lf7vb
    @LisaButterfly-lf7vb 3 роки тому +151

    "A man that is not healthy is going to try to clip your wings when he knows you are an eagle", Pastor RC Blakes, Jr. This is a very liberating statement. Thank you Pastor Blakes please keep your wisdom coming for the ladies out there and also the men!

    • @edith324
      @edith324 3 роки тому +4

      There are plenty of fish in the sea most of us are fishing in the wrong sea so we end up with sharks lol.

  • @catherinerowe9793
    @catherinerowe9793 3 роки тому +43

    "A queen asks questions that only kings can answer" PAH so good!!

  • @gegeunique8257
    @gegeunique8257 2 роки тому +39

    I got a letter from a narcissist and he even wrote it out himself “I built you up and tore you down over and over again” I’m glad I didn’t ignore the signs or blinded myself thinking he’s confessing to make a change, but it doesn’t work that way. Please ladies never ignore the signs especially if he’s telling you and showing you who he is already.

  • @mnorwo2
    @mnorwo2 3 роки тому +96

    "When you begin talking about being equally yoked, your partner has to have the capacity to contain you"! -RC BLAKES JR. Deep!!!

  • @maudie3684
    @maudie3684 3 роки тому +178

    A healthy man empowers his woman. Thank you Lord Jesus this message is for me.

    • @debramarsh1261
      @debramarsh1261 3 роки тому +3

      Me too.

    • @karenaturner8074
      @karenaturner8074 3 роки тому +4

      I am not with a healthy man every dream I have had he has shot down or mocked. I wanted a child daycare in my basement he said what about my man cave, I said we can turn the garage into a room he said what about my car where am I going to put it. He does not support he tries to control instead but it doesn’t work because I usually avoids him. It is not the best relationship he has no social emotional intelligence. I feel that he does not love women hood. He is also a minister and feels because he goes to church he is doing the right thing. That is so far from the truth. I used to buy into his negative comments and was wondering what I could do. I realized that it has nothing to do with me. We have been married for 14 years to be honest I feel like I have allowed him to steal my life. He is not physically abusive he is passive aggressive. He is guarded and believes he is smarter than most. He is very intelligent I must say. I only have gotten glimpses of him as a healthy minded thinker. He does not like to answering questions. This is so good I will definitely educate my girls on what to look for.

    • @karenaturner8074
      @karenaturner8074 3 роки тому +1

      RC Jr I must say that. You paying attention to my post just in lightened my spirit I will down load the app for some pointers.

    • @debramarsh1261
      @debramarsh1261 3 роки тому

      Thank you We all need them too hear this Open your Ears Men please.

    • @karenaturner8074
      @karenaturner8074 3 роки тому +1

      The man I am married to is so closed. He only lives in the Ego and he will not learn from me nor does he trust me. Not that I have done anything to him it’s what he thinks others have done and since I’m to sucker he try’s to break me. The number you have RC was to long.

  • @dazzkapp
    @dazzkapp 3 роки тому +195

    “A man that’s not healthy will always try to clip your wings, when he knows you’re an eagle.”
    You are preaching! And I am receiving🙏🏽

    • @ATurnergirl
      @ATurnergirl 2 роки тому

      Teach’

    • @carolp2244
      @carolp2244 2 роки тому +1

      You are great. I needed to find you on this you tube. GOD sent you to me!!! Thank you.

  • @Spcychkn
    @Spcychkn 7 місяців тому +3

    It’s tricky when the toxic man plays the role of the “broken” man to excuse his behavior, and plays on the woman’s emotions pretending to be the victim, in order to manipulate her so he can gain supply, and his way. Meanwhile, he’s living a double or triple life of secrecy and deception

  • @christanavaughn6224
    @christanavaughn6224 3 роки тому +81

    “My value is not based on acceptance” great quote

  • @brittneyberry4934
    @brittneyberry4934 3 роки тому +206

    The way Pastor Blakes is with Ms. Lisa just simply makes me feel gr8 inside. I know God is going to give me that some day...when im ready. My mama always says God dont bless a mess. And im a mess. But ill get to where he wants me.

    • @leeevesheher358
      @leeevesheher358 3 роки тому +11

      Amen sis

    • @chumieoctober6921
      @chumieoctober6921 3 роки тому +16

      It is indeed liberating to see how a man can love a woman in a very healthy way..
      God can indeed give you that..♥️

    • @ilissawalker7051
      @ilissawalker7051 3 роки тому +6

      Ikr.

    • @tacowboys6890
      @tacowboys6890 3 роки тому +7

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾& in that order darling..........Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ” Philippians 1:6

    • @TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion
      @TouchnotDAnointingof136DZion 3 роки тому +6

      It takes The Glory of God to conceal a matter; The honor of Kings to search it out.
      Continue to teach the Daughters of Zion, The Sons of God and The Multitude (Strangers/Gentiles) that have cleaved to you.
      The Heavenly Father, Heavenly Mother (Wisdom/The Holy Spirit), The 24 Elders within The Counsel of Heaven and The cloud of witnesses salute you Pastor Blakes.
      ~Shalom~

  • @doriscrumpton2980
    @doriscrumpton2980 3 роки тому +215

    Sometimes a man may have brokenness and toxic behavior. So we women need to have discernment to vet a man before dating a man. Listen to what comes out of his mouth and that will tell you what's in his soul. We women need to listen and pay attention to his actions and what he says. Don't talk to much, just listen to what's coming out of his mouth an watch his actions and do they line up together. Don't soul tie with a broken man or toxic man.

    • @OpulentAristocrat
      @OpulentAristocrat 3 роки тому +5

      Preach 🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿

    • @SoothingSoundsGL
      @SoothingSoundsGL 3 роки тому +15

      Absolutely! So true! Listening is key! If they are inconsistent in what the say and do that’s a huge red flag 🚩

    • @user-gn7rm1vq2j
      @user-gn7rm1vq2j 3 роки тому +3

      Amen!

    • @MeMyself984
      @MeMyself984 3 роки тому +8

      Amen amen amen! A wise woman told me that experience does not have to be our teacher.

    • @staceybelle7041
      @staceybelle7041 3 роки тому +17

      Sometimes it takes a few months for people to reveal their brokenness and it takes longer to see one's toxic nature. Also you never know someone until you live with them.

  • @TopExoticfoods
    @TopExoticfoods 10 місяців тому +17

    WOW! Thank you 🙏
    I’m a women who is currently married, trying to understand why my husband is the way he is. Also, on a healing journey while making plans to leave him without any hate/ bitterness towards him.

    • @cakesinthecity
      @cakesinthecity 9 місяців тому

      Just finalized my divorce with no bitterness but i won’t make the same mistakes again

  • @Tomisrhythm09
    @Tomisrhythm09 3 роки тому +47

    I dealt with a toxic man before and he actually admitted to housing several demons and I found he gained pleasure in bringing misery to several women

    • @1010QUEEN7
      @1010QUEEN7 Рік тому +1

      I swear you are talking about my narc husband lol

  • @practicalteachingchronicle6631
    @practicalteachingchronicle6631 3 роки тому +25

    Someone FINALLY talking about it. Pleass help MEN. They are so insecure, have identity crisis, have bruised egos and suffering from massive inaccuracies

    • @Giftis2sing
      @Giftis2sing 2 роки тому

      I wish more of them would chime in and follow Pastor Blake’s. 🫤 This is my prayer. 🙏🏾 My EX would never sit and listen to this type of teaching because he’s not ready to hear 👂🏽 the truth and to make a change.

  • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
    @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 роки тому +297

    A lion ain't gotta tell nobody hes a lion 😂😂😂😂

    • @Rita-cy3qw
      @Rita-cy3qw 3 роки тому +4

      Right 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

    • @austingilbert9350
      @austingilbert9350 3 роки тому +1

      Not true... A lion roars for a reason, to make sure he's heard, incase no one is listening.
      I've realized in life, coming from a single mother household, women can't raise boys. Love my mother, no issues...
      Women think they understand men.
      They do not...
      That was 80's 90's propaganda, otherwise marital rates (Black Community) would be better. Meaning, women would've used their experts knowledge for the betterment of a marriage, instead of benefits granted by family law via divorce/baby mama. The women from these prior generations could've taught this/our current generation of males, and females the right way... By teaching us the truth... Black matriarchs could've gotten together and formed a coalition of members and perhaps establish networks that could've reached corporate scales by this time. Oops, that didn't happen, we got BET, Oprah/OWN, Tyler Perry, Reality TV, etc. When Malcom El Shabazz was assassinated, our black patriarchal structure had been massively crippled. No devaluation of Dr. MLK Jr's. assassination or significant works, above and beyond. Although MLK assassination sparked the riots, the black males of the Black community took to the streets and carried out what Malcom X was advocating for most of his tenure, as our leader. RIP to both MLK, and Shabazz. It is true, men speak a different language. Me personally, I had to bust my ass to eradicate the "Simp/Mark" issues that came from being raised without my father in the household. I had to seek mentorship from various elder men who witnessed those events, or like my father, who was just a child, in order to complete my growth, and learn my trades (still pursued College). That's where the real stuff is at! Men of principality, are far more adept at handling and understanding there EQ and EI, than the average man despite being evil or good at heart... Honestly, my opinion regarding principalities are, they are guidelines that merit and condemn the actions and conduct of an individual's treatment towards him/herself and others. Principality is the gauge to where we are able to measure a man's character by means of integrity, or infidelity (thievery). Women must understand on a societal degree, that men (Black men) have been subliminally and spiritually repairing, and are preparing to return to our original, true, social, and patriarchal statures, within our community. Hopefully, by the time the Xiennials are reaching middle age (2050's), Blackpatriarchs will thrive once more, and the souls of the people will be mended. Therefore, so we (Black Community) can return to establishing and reaffirming our economy (Black Economy) once again, in likeness as in the time before Congress inacted Integration in the late 1960's. The, "True Black Economy" (TBE), must and has to be established, for future generations to have better social avenues for business interests, intellectual resources, financial programs that educate better, and a stronger community coalitions that ranges from coast to coast, to further supplement the "Black Common Economy" (BCE) networks (Hubs) we have today. That right, Money Trust Programs for B2B. I admit, I'm quick to hold any person accountable, but most expedient to inform any woman, with respect, regardless of race, thoroughly, when she is at fault. For when she begins to lie, deny, deflect, cry, insult, and/or spew malice. My roar becomes epic. My reason becomes sharpened, and if I must put down such falsehoods, spoken from her mouth, then my temper either drinks blood by the broke or eats straw like a lamb. Most brother's don't truly know how to handle a womans mouth, when she speak out of line... Most cases, women are very cunning. They are extremely keen, at knowing they cannot chastise (whip, inflict punishment, to censure severly, in order to solicitate an approved behavioral/performed outcome) men in order to have them carry out their whims, instead most women are commonly prone to mildly insulting their men in order to spite him, when he says "NO" , or implies it. If this behavior continues to accumulate it will thus transcend to numerous amounts of issues. Ultimately, leading to all kinds of circumstances for the man, because the woman knows not restraint for her mouth, or does not care, and most commonly, she does not listen, because she is either waiting to talk, or mainly talking over (loudly) her man. Weaker men will endure this behavior, until the woman can see with physical eyes, the outcome of her man's point. From there, she might or might not apologize for her past behavior, or simply attempt to justify it. If the woman is shrewed (archaic), or is a vixen (informal) she could violently, or abruptly insult the man yet again in order to reestablish herself. Men, are too strong to physically chastise a woman, and are insane if they do (personal opinion), so he battles her with his words. Disadvantaged state, for a man with a lesser EI/EQ. He may stress and struggle reasoning with her, and with her mouth may not yield willingly. She's determined to make her point, and have the final word. The common woman today, is better educated, even if she chooses not to attend college, better informed, career driven, competitive, vocal, independent and assertive. She may not possess all these qualities at once, but nonetheless she values her savvy. Her mental stamina is strong, and her cognitive reflexes stand at ready for debate. Lastly, the term, sassy, is now an underrated term for, classy. She displays these cognitive qualities daily, and may be unaware, as well as most (Non-Caucasian) men, that she is giving off masculine energy. Pride, peace, comfort, and security/stability, within the home, will all be in jeopardy, if the man cannot transcend, or manage his EI/EQ. Let's not talk about Domestic Internal Family Disputes. Who wants "That Paperwork" in their lives? Therefore, men should be preparing for marriage after age 30, and marry younger, "my personal opinion". Logically, it minimizes risk.
      Furthermore, I've only dated two women that can/could cook. I MEAN REAL FOOD FROM SCRATCH, my lady now, for 6yrs., and an old girlfriend from Tyler Tx. back when I was 21. Post MLK/Shabazz assassination, we are black men born from Matriarchal families. Single mothers generally struggle with sons starting at ages 12-13 yrs. After that, most male operate on instinct, until mid to late twenties. No excuse, but true.
      1965 black women traded their husbands out, who were already contrived by a society creating laws to stop their social, civil, and economic growth (Jim Crows Laws).
      Be it, academics, innovation, law, trade skills, and from 1915-1935 black man couldn't compete for any major world championship titles via sports/athletics. It is extremely sad and hurtful.
      Due to the uncontrolled mouth, most women unfortunately, wait for there turn to talk, or just talk over their men, without listening, women fail to hear keywords when a man is making his point. So, when the situation/circumstances comes to an abrupt. The woman, instantly blames the male, loses memory, accepts 0% accountability, and potrays herself as the victim with family and friends, after their egos are bruised, my family included. If man is married or not, kids or not (Canada), the man is subjected to family law, and is force to co-parent, against his wishes. I've seen this outcome too many times, with both my parents marriages, friends, co-workers, "overheard it at the barbershop", the list goes on.
      Yes, this topic brings about some serious toxicity and brokenness, because of the prospect of a lackened/slackened in-home environment..., where discipline, order, and conduct should be maintained and governed, a woman no longer has to file for government assistance, or file an "At Fault Divorce" to get her man in check after vows. The machines, of Family Law, Feminism, and Matriarchal household deficiencies are already in place to keep the mans life off balance, if he's not careful until he matures in his late twenties, thirties. Black men in particular, have a tougher "go at it" against these social elements. Mostly because of their foremothers' accepting government assistance post MLK/Shabazz assassination, thus forcing the Male (Blackman) out of his home. Separation, split, divorce, call it what you want. But the U.S. govt., supported by state burecracys of the time, anticipated (psychologically) that most men wouldn't leave their homes despite assistance, and thus put the husband and wife at odds. The money goes to her now, and thus came the ego. Our foremothers, turned on our forefathers, after 400 years Black man and Black woman endured Slavery, Reconstruction, Civil Rights Movement, and more. Sad things is, women don't care about that "1965 Truth", even when they hear it. Because, they like the way society is today, and don't care to listen. Marriage is children, Love is about sex. All men should marry after age 30, and marry younger women, in hopes of a longer lasting marriage. Therefore he can enjoy comfort and administer sound countenance in his home.
      I speak in representation of men with integrity, strong or weak in their EI/EQ. Houston Tx.

    • @misstiana77
      @misstiana77 3 роки тому +2

      @RC Blakes Jr you’re not the real RC Blakes so stop trying to scam

    • @durbansaladyinaccra2173
      @durbansaladyinaccra2173 3 роки тому

      @@misstiana77 Its the same thing I thought and wanted to write but then I thought what if RC wanted to reach out to Austin who made an extremely long comment to what I said...and then I also thought what if this person is trying to get me to contact him by leading me to believe he is RC (which I wouldn't do even if he is the real RC Blakes cos I have no business contacting no married man privately like that).

    • @godizself1
      @godizself1 3 роки тому +4

      @@austingilbert9350 Wow. You alright?

  • @karinteeples6517
    @karinteeples6517 2 роки тому +28

    These are 💯 truth! As women tho’, until we heal our own brokenness from childhood trauma or abuse, we will subconsciously continue to be attracted to an abuser whether physical or emotional thru neglect, abandonment, etc. we will not be attracted to a healthy, whole man. It actually will detest us. Look at the patterns: continued relationships of hell. I did the work on myself and the patterns stopped. Good word sir!!🙌🏻🔥

    • @user-oe2jt2oe2j
      @user-oe2jt2oe2j 2 роки тому +2

      💯❤, I did the inner work on myself too and I'm so hopeful for my future relationships 🙏

    • @MissModernprincess
      @MissModernprincess Рік тому

      Thank you for you comment! I am doing the work and it seems like it will never end! But reading your comment makes me have hope!!!

  • @KrystleLaughter
    @KrystleLaughter 3 роки тому +158

    I wish I had this information 15 years ago. Thank you for being the father many of us never had. I’ll continue to use my books and channel to help other women heal.

  • @nottedeliziosaa
    @nottedeliziosaa 3 роки тому +235

    I like the fact that you make a distinction between toxic men and broken men. Because sometimes we feel guilty leaving a broken man because we think he is not a bad person he is so nice, he really try... yes he is not a bad person but he is broken.

  • @soystef
    @soystef 3 роки тому +39

    wow my soul felt that- knocked a breath of air out of my lungs when he said "a healthy man is unguarded"

  • @lindasmith6668
    @lindasmith6668 Рік тому +13

    I am a giver and it blesses me to know that a healthy man is a guver and a listener. Thank you Bishop.

  • @lisaprude7285
    @lisaprude7285 3 роки тому +81

    After watching this I ordered my husband food to his job which I never done before. We haven't been talking lately so when he text me and asked me did I order him food I responded food and a video and I sent him this video right here. I think he liked it he mentioned since last night 3 times he watched it. I'm not go ask him what he thinks . I'm go wait til the right moment and video and do it again. Thanks for the video.. by they way I have a broken 💔 man

    • @ladyzinada5341
      @ladyzinada5341 3 роки тому +3

      Awesome

    • @thenotsolazymom4871
      @thenotsolazymom4871 3 роки тому +1

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829
      @Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829 3 роки тому +1

      Right ...Woman.😘......Not Women ..✨..or God would of made MANY at Once 🔂

    • @lisaprude7285
      @lisaprude7285 3 роки тому +1

      @RC Blakes Jr thank you so much...I will do..I'm waiting on his decision if he going try to make this work or he is going to walk...I took off for Monday the 22 so we can spend a night out and discuss what are issues and can they be solved I even asked him can we do a husband and wife contract. So I'll see how that goes but so far I'm listening to your videos you and your wife have and also if he stays I'm going to purchase your books..if not I still will purchase them to learn how to heal...and move on.. thanks stay safe and blessed

    • @Talkwithtina808
      @Talkwithtina808 3 роки тому +1

      Love this ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @cassleahg487
    @cassleahg487 3 роки тому +163

    “Let’s have a self respect challenge” yes ladies let’s do it! Thank you pastor 🙏🏾

    • @startrade8130
      @startrade8130 3 роки тому +2

      Great suggestion! I'm in!❤

    • @barbaraandrews5218
      @barbaraandrews5218 2 роки тому +2

      Let us learn together help us Lord your way is the best way give him all the glory thank you Jesus if Jesus is first his guidance will get you through this Victory is already ours in Christ Our Lord praise him let us learn listen believe father will finish what he started in each of us Faith Trust believe victory Hallelujah thank you Jesus lovingly winners

    • @barbaraandrews5218
      @barbaraandrews5218 2 роки тому

      Let us learn together help us Lord your way is the best way give him all the glory thank you Jesus if Jesus is first his guidance will get you through this Victory is already ours in Christ Our Lord praise him let us learn listen believe father will finish what he started in each of us Faith Trust believe victory Hallelujah thank you Jesus lovingly winners

    • @jenniferjones6233
      @jenniferjones6233 2 роки тому

      Ppp

    • @pazyamor1313
      @pazyamor1313 2 роки тому +1

      Loveeeee this❤❤

  • @angelbrown3162
    @angelbrown3162 3 роки тому +80

    Give me boring give me stable give me honest and it’s definitely beautiful to walk your talk

  • @sada-goddess7731
    @sada-goddess7731 10 місяців тому +16

    Currently practicing accountability, I’ve attracted broken AND toxic men with a hint of down low. That’s a wicked combo. Doing the work on me lead me to this editorial. Thank you for your words of wisdom and obvious commitment to giving us the tools to relate to ourselves and others better

  • @queencleopatrabeverly7914
    @queencleopatrabeverly7914 3 роки тому +64

    Don't sit around and wait for them to change themselves either 💯 I feel if a couple is working towards the same common goal they can grow together in God

  • @Smart2GoTraining
    @Smart2GoTraining 3 роки тому +50

    "I got my self together and went back and got my woman!" ~ Powerful!!!! LOL

  • @crystalcormier9376
    @crystalcormier9376 3 роки тому +89

    All I can say is hurt people will hurt people in so many ways. Smh

    • @shamonshontay5644
      @shamonshontay5644 3 роки тому +13

      Yeah but it's not ok, people need to heal themselves and get help. And not damage an innocent person.

    • @hunnyb1308
      @hunnyb1308 3 роки тому +6

      Toxic, recognizes Toxic.

    • @hayamy3583
      @hayamy3583 3 роки тому +1

      Amen.

    • @TubeYouInger
      @TubeYouInger 3 роки тому +4

      Unaware hurted people will hurt people over and over again and play the victim!!!
      Aware hurted people that are working on themselves and take full responsibility and commitment towards thenselves can hurt other people and try to do better another time. Just alike healthy people. But they will continue to heal themselves.

  • @nataliagoyster9489
    @nataliagoyster9489 2 роки тому +22

    Thank you so much for your lessons. I’m Ukrainian but feel like we got same culture, society issues. Can’t stop listening you. Your information my daily bread.please continue your sermons .God bless you🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻