Still Single? Here's The REAL Reason Why w/ RC Blakes (Men Its Our Fault?)

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  • @angelacunningham8153
    @angelacunningham8153 Рік тому +1155

    “If a man wants to reap the fruit of submission from a woman he must first sow the seed of honor.”
    - RC Blakes

  • @anonmitty8250
    @anonmitty8250 Рік тому +485

    I don't think women dislike the word submit. I think women dislike the way, tone, and strong-arming way that some men use the word and want to enforce it.

    • @dbosslady3274
      @dbosslady3274 Рік тому +68

      It’s not that as a woman I don’t want to or know how to submit it’s submit to what foolishness, hypocrisy and degradation of my very soul No none for me please. A man of integrity who has developed the character that I can submit to.

    • @elainecrutcher5707
      @elainecrutcher5707 Рік тому +15

      AMEN SIS 👏👏👏👏

    • @shirleywalker4298
      @shirleywalker4298 Рік тому +14

      Absolutely

    • @bibi1583
      @bibi1583 Рік тому +1

      I believe submission is a man and woman issue...folks using biblical reference and don't invest any time or live a Christian life. Similar to a promiscuous person having traditional expectations.

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 Рік тому +52

      Right. They also demand it and aren't offering anything in exchange. Men aren't entitled to it but act like they are. They haven't earned it to be expecting and demanding it. Then some haven't demonstrated leadership qualities to lead. Pay the cost to be the boss.

  • @kellymurray8376
    @kellymurray8376 Рік тому +575

    This guy is who black men should've been listening to about women. As a faithful husband I have to say that it's much better hearing how We can help build Our women up.

    • @SG-qd8cj
      @SG-qd8cj Рік тому +24

      They don’t want to listen to someone who has sense sadly

    • @mjohnson8206
      @mjohnson8206 Рік тому +26

      They want to listen to Kevin Samuels

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr. Рік тому +14

      Thank you 🙏🏽

    • @exoticallovergirl
      @exoticallovergirl Рік тому +29

      @@mjohnson8206 people need to listen to the type of man who has the life that they want.

    • @mjohnson8206
      @mjohnson8206 Рік тому +5

      @@exoticallovergirl yes you are right

  • @Abmarp
    @Abmarp Рік тому +234

    “When a woman can trust a man, she can receive truth from that man” RC Blakes.
    FACTS 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
    Man, I’m so blessed by this episode. Please keep them coming

  • @sharron8766
    @sharron8766 Рік тому +225

    Women are to be cherished, men are to be honored and respected💞

    • @OLatreil
      @OLatreil Рік тому +7

      This is in line with Eph 5:33 "Nevertheless, each one of you must love his wife as he does himself; on the other hand, the wife should have deep respect for her husband."

  • @cynthiajackson100
    @cynthiajackson100 Рік тому +136

    "A marriage is a merger of two great entities." 💕🔥

  • @Vdee1987
    @Vdee1987 Рік тому +35

    Love when MARRIED men talk about marriage. Marriage examples are so important. Love em🙌❤️

  • @elainecrutcher5707
    @elainecrutcher5707 Рік тому +92

    What was so heart throbbing was when Pastor Blake's said "KING'S that knows how to manage their KINGDOM". I just melted. 😍. This is what a lot of us good women are looking and striving to have in our lives

  • @tawainahollis4770
    @tawainahollis4770 Рік тому +79

    As a man leads with masculinity, clarity and decisiveness, a woman will happily follow along with femininity & submissiveness. Hearing men take accountability and owning up to their influence on women is not only refreshing, but soothes like a medicinal salve on a 3rd degree burn. Thanks so much for this discussion 🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟

    • @narvelacook8672
      @narvelacook8672 Рік тому +3

      Amen Amen, I don't know a single women in my generation (Gen X) who doesn't want a masculine man who leads with love, respect, and honor, that will allow that man to walk away from her, she will absolutely want to be submissive and allow him to lead if his intentions are pure and for the welfare of his family in mind. I can't speak for the modern woman, but for the Baby Boomer/Gen Xer, that's the man of our dreams.

    • @mscotchery9861
      @mscotchery9861 Рік тому +1

      Yes!

    • @tawainahollis4770
      @tawainahollis4770 Рік тому

      @@narvelacook8672 ABSOLUTELY!!!

  • @jenniferthompson5146
    @jenniferthompson5146 Рік тому +29

    I heard a man just the other day say that his main role was to protect and provide. And that those things equaled love. But said nothing about emotional love. Everything was about the physical. Some men seem to have thrown the emotional part away, and that is very sad. You could have me in a mansion but if you are breaking me down emotionally, how is that love?

  • @BriW444
    @BriW444 Рік тому +233

    Mr RC Blakes … man he’s like a father figure God bless him

  • @crystaltharrell
    @crystaltharrell Рік тому +332

    RC Blakes helped me get through my first breakup in my 20’s. I was so broken, and since my father died when I was 11, I couldn’t go to him. Pastor Blakes and his word was there! I am so grateful for his life ❤

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr. Рік тому +5

      🙏🏽 Thank you 😊♥️

    • @Lifeisfun84
      @Lifeisfun84 Рік тому +3

      @@RCBlakesJr. Me too my father is still Alive but you, RC Blakes reminds me of him same faith same attitude…. So it sounds familiar and I’m more open to recieve it. I just love how he is so down to earth and sometimes straight to the point. I always laugh when he say let me just stop there or just stop mid sentence (because he would go full in) . I laugh, I learn, I pray, I cry …. Everyday I listen to him…. You helped me heal🙏🏾❤️ Love all the way from the Netherlands, Europe….

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr. Рік тому

      @@Lifeisfun84 😊♥️🙏🏽

    • @kw3036
      @kw3036 Рік тому

      Yessss, he is the BEST 😂! He did the same for me ❤

  • @jussjess2829
    @jussjess2829 Рік тому +92

    I literally watch RC all day everyday. The bishop is a national treasure. Thanks for having him on, what a pleasure.

  • @skyeburch
    @skyeburch Рік тому +151

    The part about when a healthy man comes with clear intentions, how can a woman respond with, “slow down.” I agree. Healthy with clear intentions is exactly what I want!

    • @salihahdick
      @salihahdick Рік тому +29

      Couldn't a narcissist also come with same language? I think a woman saying slow down, let's learn each other before u start telling me u want to marry me shows she's actually serious about something serious. I mean I could be a psycho how u know u wanna marry me on the 1st date?🤔

    • @skyeburch
      @skyeburch Рік тому +14

      @@salihahdick I see your point. I agree, we definitely must take our time when getting to know someone. I think the part about a healthy man is what distinguishes this. Once you take the time to see that the man is healthy I believe it’s best when he makes his intentions clear so that the woman can make a choice if she wants to move forward. Still moving forward with discernment and wisdom.

    • @skyeburch
      @skyeburch Рік тому +16

      One other note: once he states his intentions, it’s not to say that he wants to marry you on the first date or you want to even marry him. It’s to say that he is dating for marriage, he is being intentional and if the two of you connect and are aligned then let’s keep getting to know each other and see if marriage is in our future. It’s more so mindset and then you see if the mind and the actions align.

    • @politicomonsoon
      @politicomonsoon Рік тому +5

      @@skyeburch I think the issue with that language not yours in particular but whenever someone says good or healthy or something that takes time to evaluate, is that everyone makes that determination on their own time and it's possible for a man to be absolutely healthy yet for a woman to not have verified that information about him and thus requiring him to slow down.

    • @skyeburch
      @skyeburch Рік тому +4

      @@politicomonsoon I can see that. I think overall the guest wanted to highlight that healthy with clear intentions is positive. Caution should still be taken after intentions are made. If the man moves too quickly after stating his intentions, there’s nothing wrong with the woman communicating that. She should always use discernment even after intentions are stated.

  • @mimi2671atm
    @mimi2671atm Рік тому +11

    I'm Muslim and I can't deny that R.C. is the epitome of a spiritual leader that is feeding the community with real time real life practice that truly works and makes common sense.

  • @blossomofcurls
    @blossomofcurls Рік тому +6

    “I married her because I knew she fit my FUTURE” -RC Blakes !!! So powerful

  • @jasminejohnson575
    @jasminejohnson575 Рік тому +208

    RC Blakes is a true blessing. He inspired me to write my first book. I have learned so much from him and his ministry.

    • @Breejo
      @Breejo Рік тому +2

      same!

    • @nikkyk2016
      @nikkyk2016 Рік тому +6

      I have also started writing my book. Can you tell me where I can purchase your book? I would love to support you.

    • @RCBlakesJr.
      @RCBlakesJr. Рік тому +5

      WOW!!! Congratulations! What’s the title? Where can I get it?

    • @nikkyshamz2696
      @nikkyshamz2696 Рік тому +1

      Plug your book Ma .

    • @chloemouangue479
      @chloemouangue479 Рік тому

      @@RCBlakesJr.papa, please come to France WE love you hère 🇲🇫 much love dad

  • @UncleSwell707
    @UncleSwell707 Рік тому +62

    This was a good convo and great insights coming from a man who’s HAPPILY married…as opposed to hearing a bunch of stuff from “single relationship experts”.

    • @Annjenkins806
      @Annjenkins806 Рік тому +1

      I think we can learned as well from single experts. Remember they are looking for their Queen as well 😊

  • @Nitra813
    @Nitra813 Рік тому +29

    Take heart Anthony. Just like you had that moment where you said you’re tired of being the good guy. A lot of women have given men the benefit of the doubt that she has come to that feelings as well. She then gives up and goes back to what she KNOWS doesn’t serve her well. Then gets tired of them again, It’s a continuous cycle.

    • @chwash40
      @chwash40 Рік тому +2

      Key word I just read here, is a "cycle", not wanting to sound degrading nor off course, but take a female cycle for example, how it's naturally connected to the force of "God's " creative power, but is suppressed to yield to movement and preparation for life moving forward. Well when we male and female yields our lives to again what's naturally real( relationships), we place ourselves in the path of the force of " God's power. Something is going to happen in naturally if the forces of nature moves, but once restricted, controlled doesn't allow for it to be so. There is a scripture in the Bible that says," submit" to God, "resist" the devil, and he will flee from you.

  • @dwanialeonard982
    @dwanialeonard982 Рік тому +61

    I hope you are growing from your brokenness please continue to let Tony Gaskins and RC Blake's be a part of your journey in finding that special someone.🙏🏾❤️

  • @gapeach7814
    @gapeach7814 Рік тому +263

    I can't wait! I love love love Pastor Blakes. His wisdom is beyond priceless.

  • @saspalace8881
    @saspalace8881 Рік тому +20

    What we're missing are men that know how to lead! Don't ask for your rights from a women if you are not giving her her rights as a man.

  • @schoolwork232
    @schoolwork232 Рік тому +19

    "When a woman can trust a man, she can receive truth from a man!" R.C. Blakes...Powerful!

  • @lightinthedark1155
    @lightinthedark1155 Рік тому +19

    Please don't be tired of being a good man! There is nothing wrong with that, I believe in you finding your queen, be the trailblazer and don't let the masses make you believe that the bad boy is more desirable. Maybe to the wrong women, not the one thats for you!

  • @candacesmith5572
    @candacesmith5572 Рік тому +12

    If you're a good man or woman its hard to be anyone else. It is who you are to the core. No matter how many times you say you won't love that way again. You always do be it romantically, family, or friends.

  • @samonecollins8756
    @samonecollins8756 Рік тому +31

    Been following RC BLAKES since the pandemic. I have no idea how I came across him but he’s blessed me since. I’ve grown spiritually by leaps and bounds even as a married woman that had direction prior to watching him. I am my husbands peace and I do NOT have an issue with honoring or submission to him, even as an Alpha female that knows how to sit in my feminine 😊. However, there were a few missing pieces that were so sublet, it could be overlooked or seem like nothing major. But RC- HA, with the help of God, was able to shed light on those areas. I honestly feel so complete and WHOLE from the inside - ALL I can say is Gratefulness!!! His eloquent words shinned a narrative to the order steps in my life…And the Truth made her free! 🎉🎉🎉

  • @ayana4601
    @ayana4601 Рік тому +32

    Thank you for the BLATANT TRUTH SIR!!!! Men break us and call us angry when we aren’t happy abt it but clearly both sides have work to do but I’m sick and tired of omitting the man’s role in the abuse and tearing down of a woman- do better men stop with the excuses but us women gotta put a hault to it as well !

  • @64bitlewis98
    @64bitlewis98 Рік тому +4

    THIS WHOLE CONVERSATION IS WHAT WOMEN HAVE BEEN HAVING FOR YEARS!! GENERATIONS!!!! We tell you how we feel and you disrespect us but putting us down telling us it's all in our heads!!!
    What a "reversal of furtune"!

  • @hlengiwembata7045
    @hlengiwembata7045 Рік тому +67

    She can't submit to what doesn't love her and a woman knows when she's loved...

  • @quathetruth8314
    @quathetruth8314 Рік тому +11

    This needs to go viral. I’m praying the black community gets it together both women and our men! We need therapy and a redo! These other cultures are laughing at the way we have turned our backs on God/Religion and have been misguided by music and other influencers on social media to hate one another.

  • @darrellharrisonjr8402
    @darrellharrisonjr8402 Рік тому +52

    I'm in this process now and I'm not ashamed to say I need more guidance on this journey of becoming the best man God has put me here to be. RC I have been taking in your words since I was a kid, since the Chapel when pastor Steven use to run sprints around the church lol, love u man wish to hear from you soon, this was a powerful session, life lessons are in these words think y'all

    • @farahelf6120
      @farahelf6120 Рік тому

      I wish you nothing but the best in your journey. God bless you

  • @ogechiugwudi-alilonu6601
    @ogechiugwudi-alilonu6601 Рік тому +21

    When man owns up to his misgivings, takes responsibility and works on it, he is about to make a change that'll connect him to his divine greatness.
    Men I admire and listen to are here speaking reality and living their reality. God bless you for this collaboration.

  • @lekeshia84
    @lekeshia84 Рік тому +48

    I love RC Blakes. He's been "Fathering" me via UA-cam,for the past four years or so. Totally aided in bringing me back to my identity in Christ. A woman of value, worthy of a King.

  • @antoinetteprince7240
    @antoinetteprince7240 Рік тому +17

    Love This Segment, To Pastor Blakes comment to many women are masculine, but many women have not been raised to feel safe or be able to trust men
    That's where all that masculine enegry comes from in many women. It's has been her protection also

    • @lovefelix1566
      @lovefelix1566 Рік тому +4

      True... we haven't had femininity modeled in the home... Even in a marriage many women are "single" mothers

    • @JP-db8dy
      @JP-db8dy Рік тому

      Absolutely. Masculinity is protection. Masculinity is power. In the world we live in, it’s gotta come from somewhere. We’re all wired for survival.

  • @sarajefferson5393
    @sarajefferson5393 Рік тому +10

    I’m so glad Bishop Blake told the truth 💯, I always thought the same. A lot of men will not submit and obey God or Godly counseling from other men because of the dominant factor and they believe they already know what to do. I wish more men would submit themselves to God first and allow the Holy Spirit to guide their relationship with women and the same with women. We would see more successful relationships and God receives the Glory!

  • @erlynesaintil8361
    @erlynesaintil8361 Рік тому +22

    Pastor RC BLAKES IS PHENOMENAL! ❤ His teachings also helped me a lot to understand who I am and be accepting of the decision to walk away from a decade plus marriage without any remorse. My father was an extreme hard working immigrant and amazing provider he was. I accomplished most things deemed success. However, I just wish my father had those father daughter in depth relationship conversations with me I never had. These days a REAL man is called a SIMP. What is goin on? Meanwhile GROWN BOYS are praised and being PIMPS. Thank God Pastor RC BLAKES and Tony Gaskins exist. ❤️🙏🏾 AO I look forward to the men discussion with RC BLAKES plus the sisters. Excellent convo here! 🔥🔥🔥

  • @ACDxtr
    @ACDxtr Рік тому +16

    Submission is the fruit -- honor is the root🔥🔥🔥🔥 that’s so good

  • @madamebel6540
    @madamebel6540 Рік тому +10

    Men have come to me the same “intentional” way and they were abusive… as a woman i have to be careful … this is seen as moving too fast… it is pressure when a man meets you and wants a relationship at once… i do not know you well enough… these men want to run through women and when they are ready they expect everyone to be ready too… notice how both of them talk about how they damaged women at first… but now expect us to be ready when they are… i am ready but i need to take my time and i need committing myself to someone to happen when the person prove themselves worthy… if a man cannot understand that then they can go find someone else… if that leaves me to be single, then so be it… a man needs to understand that men have hurt women…. They have caused that brokenness and now they need to accept that they cant just go around demanding commitment from the first conversation… they caused that friends first conversation… we have been conditioned …. So now feel what we felt and wait until we are comfortable…. The difference is, a lot of women are just trying to protect themselves and not trying to use men.

  • @mistymojones9280
    @mistymojones9280 Рік тому +53

    OMG RC Blakes!!!!! Be prepared for jewels to be dropped all night... he is one of the best to do this.

    • @Only1QueenOfEverything
      @Only1QueenOfEverything Рік тому +1

      Yesssss! So excited…looking forward to this!!! 💃🏽💃🏽

    • @Abmarp
      @Abmarp Рік тому +1

      PREACH IT SIS

    • @gapeach7814
      @gapeach7814 Рік тому +3

      💯 Amen Sis. Pastor Blakes has definitely been called to do this. His wisdom is amazing. I've learned so much from him in the past year.

    • @KarinMYearwood
      @KarinMYearwood Рік тому +1

      Yesssss 🙌🏾

  • @nightswan1234
    @nightswan1234 Рік тому +42

    I like “ I need you happily married “ Yes, this is the end game!👍🏿

  • @Happyfeelinpeace
    @Happyfeelinpeace Рік тому +8

    Men do need imprints, yes. They also need to rid themselves of the dominance mindset. We'll all reap what we sow, more than what we've sown and later than when it's sown. Excellent content. Thank you both!

  • @nawhatererr
    @nawhatererr Рік тому +31

    I wish RC could do more interviews and become more and more famous. He has a message worth spreading

    • @ksquareshow4480
      @ksquareshow4480 Рік тому

      Honestly we need to see some crossover convos such as he and/or Tony gaskins interacting with content creators that men predominantly listen to. I think it would help people from both sides get to a common ground. I always wanted Blakes and Samuels to engage with each other directly instead of bashing each others message. Sadly the only two content creators today that are even close to being neutral are Stephan Speaks and Courtney Ryan

    • @nawhatererr
      @nawhatererr Рік тому

      @@ksquareshow4480 exactly- i agree

    • @ksquareshow4480
      @ksquareshow4480 Рік тому

      @@nawhatererr I just don’t think anyone person is 100% right. If we only talk to ppl we agree with we end up in echo chambers

    • @ksquareshow4480
      @ksquareshow4480 Рік тому

      @@brooklynsummers1294 I disagree with that. Blakes has never been in a debate in his life and Samuels would’ve exposed him as another Derrick Jaxn type from a message perspective. Samuels knew enough about the Bible to get his talking points in and Blakes would’ve been ruffled by that. No matter how felt about Samuels, he was the pendulum effect of content creators only telling men what they’re at fault for and not putting the same energy into telling women what they’re doing wrong.

    • @ksquareshow4480
      @ksquareshow4480 Рік тому

      @@brooklynsummers1294 Blakes thinks only women need to be uplifted while taking shots at men to do it. It’s a Derrick Jaxn kind of move. Only difference between him and Jaxn message wise is delivery. Truth never minds being questioned. It’s lies that hate to be challenged. That’s the reason Blakes will never have a discussion publicly with anyone who doesn’t agree with him all the way. He would also be afraid of MTR as well because he would expose Blakes as charlatan for hiding behind the Bible to badmouth men. And being a “pastor” he should be wanting to have those discussions. Kevin Samuels would def kick RC’s behind in a debate. You can’t throw all the blame at men like Blakes does than be upset with someone else calling shady women out. Samuels wasn’t selling books and seminars to make money off of people like Blakes does.

  • @tyyinspires
    @tyyinspires Рік тому +2

    My guy RC is SO SMOOTH!! I absolutely LOVED this interview!!! Thank you Anthony 💜

  • @Leah__Ro
    @Leah__Ro Рік тому +32

    I stayed listening to RC Blake's over 4 years ago after a divorce and man...what God has given him was light in so many areas. Love this interview! 👏🏾

  • @tieonneyvonne7420
    @tieonneyvonne7420 Рік тому +59

    I love Bishop Blakes! His fatherless women ministry has truly been a blessing to me🙌🙏❤

  • @cleartrueblue66
    @cleartrueblue66 Рік тому +21

    RC Blakes is such an inspiration! What a man. Thank you for having this wonderful guest. He is truly changing lives with all the work he does for these current generations of broken women.

  • @maximizedmotionsfitness4063
    @maximizedmotionsfitness4063 Рік тому +43

    I thought I was seeing things, RC and AO. OMG, this is going to blow our minds. I can not wait.

  • @patrikklwify
    @patrikklwify Рік тому +21

    Man you got RC Blakes wow, I watch both these brothers weekly and this is the collaboration we didnt know we needed. You guys have to do more segments together, great chemistry!

    • @elainecrutcher5707
      @elainecrutcher5707 Рік тому +1

      The best chemistry. These are powerful men in relationships and money issues. I will be tuning in.

  • @katishasturgis5195
    @katishasturgis5195 Рік тому +16

    What an AMAZING conversation!!! So peaceful and honest! Thank you for having him on your show! Let me start by saying that most women don't have a problem with submitting, however we do have a problem submitting to someone who doesn't know who they are and where they are headed. As a woman in her mid thirties with no children, educated, own home etc. I have NO problem with submitting to the right man. I have other friends who are successful and they feel the same way. I think respect plays a HUGE part in this for both individuals. If the relationship is centered with GOD and both people are intentional, have understanding etc., submission will take place. Women who are alpha don't really want to be alpha. They want to step back and let a man lead, however when that's all you know, it's a little hard to break away from HOWEVER, it's NOT impossible. It takes the right man to SHOW her that you don't have to do it all and that "I got you" for real is when she will change. I recently heard a black therapist say this about his wife. When he showed her, she was able to let go little by little. Pastor Blakes said a mouthful about women & healing. If they aren't healed, then they won't see what you said as "hey this guy is serious." She will take it exactly like the woman you were dating did. I would LOVE for a brother to say what you said to me BUT more importantly, show it. Sign me up! lol .. What he said about men being taught that it was ok to be promiscuous, yet telling the women to keep herself is so true. I do agree that men and women often don't understand each other. Sorry for my comment being long. I can go on but I won't. Very good conversation. I can't wait to hear the conversation with all of the men. This will be enlightening for sure.

  • @maryrios5986
    @maryrios5986 Рік тому +7

    This is the best thing I've heard in 2023..I've been following pastor rc Blake's for the last 5 yrs 🙌🏼 and I'm so happy u have him on your show thank u ❤️

  • @dralandralarkins8443
    @dralandralarkins8443 Рік тому +41

    Omgg I cant believe you two know each other! Two of my favorite people on the internet. So much knowledge in the room, Im excited!

  • @nnena3631
    @nnena3631 Рік тому +23

    Regarding the example of the woman that asked to take things slow. I see things differently.
    From a womans perspective it sounds like the young lady was trying to take things slow and remain sober minded. She didn't know you well, and wanted to take a measured approach without heavy expectations. Which I commend her for. You don't want a woman to be overly eager, or desire you for the wrong reasons. It sounds like you may have missed out on a possible gem.
    Try meeting a worthy woman where she is, by asking her questions. Find out what she means by what she says, why she came to that conclusion etc then get to know HER. Women are not microwaves just because you're ready for a wife and you tell her so dosent mean she's willing to instantly be your wife.
    Worthy women require patience, are cautious, and need sound reasons to give themselves to you.

    • @lovefelix1566
      @lovefelix1566 Рік тому +2

      Agreed!!!!

    • @Matoaka365
      @Matoaka365 Рік тому +5

      Yes!!!! 🙌🏾 There was a study done from the National Bureau of Economic Research. Couples who began as really good friends had more successful marriages. The study also showed that they prioritized the emotional connection over just the physical. So there is definitely a benefit to being friends.
      I think men hear that word "friend", and they think we're gonna be dragging them around to the boutiques talking bout, "what you think about this dress?" 😂 We say friendship, they hear friend ZONE. Lol!

    • @drea0795
      @drea0795 Рік тому +1

      @@Matoaka365 soooo true lol!

    • @sarahlysobey2917
      @sarahlysobey2917 Рік тому +4

      Shows his narcissistism. He got his Karma back. Periodt!

    • @CaramelCali
      @CaramelCali Рік тому +3

      @@sarahlysobey2917 I thought the same thing!

  • @latanyahenry
    @latanyahenry Рік тому +3

    Anthony, so many times I hear you ask questions and I wish we could speak. You're not wrong for wanting to show your integrity of intention, but telling a woman "Listen, I'm dating with the intention to marry" and she says let's be friends first, it just means she saying you're coming on too strong. You're wide open, full throttle. Some things you say to women have to be paced out and your masculinity should be tempered with finesse. P.S. I've been married 32 years, and I only knew him 6 months, and he wasnt my "type" but his approach won me over. Food for thought, young King...

  • @Th3lite
    @Th3lite Рік тому +4

    Pastor she was saying, I want to get to know you first. I want to build the relationship before just jumping to marriage when I don't know the real you.

  • @fromheretothere296
    @fromheretothere296 Рік тому +4

    Hello Anthony, and thank you for having this conversation. I have been divorced since 2003 and have not dated since my ex. I wanted time with God to understand many things about myself and through the process discovered who I was created to be. I have a saying, “I will always be polite and respectful when I am approached, but I will not entertain a man that doesn’t walk through the front door to pursue me with God’s intentions for me and my purpose.”
    Because of your direct approach, I now know the language I’ve been waiting for.

  • @Blessed75463
    @Blessed75463 Рік тому +2

    Thank you, Bishop for all your fruits of Godly insight 😪🙏🏾🙌🏿!!!

  • @KellieAlston
    @KellieAlston Рік тому +7

    I watched Bishop Blakes earlier while working and he mentioned that he enjoyed his conversation with you. I want to say thank you, Anthony, for inviting someone who actually has wisdom and expertise as it relates to relationships and the state of the 21st Century man and woman. He does not just use soundbites or create acronyms that tickle the ear or are even just "theoretical" or rehearsed. But, his counsel is based on his actual "practice" of what he shares. He has been a blessing to my life and the lives of so many for years now and truly comes across as someone who is genuinely led by God, operates with integrity, and seeks to improve the mindset and impact of all who have an ear to hear. Again, I commend you for having a person speaking on relationships who knows what he is talking about, has learned from his mistakes, has created a long-lasting marriage, and is therefore credible.👏👏👏

  • @jewelleedwards
    @jewelleedwards Рік тому +20

    Interesting that the woman who said she wanted to be just friends was seen as having broken consciousnesses. Many women/ men/couples/black/white/therapist/laymen, have been advising people to be just friends before getting into a relationship. And many couples share stories about how they started as friends first and it was a firm foundation. Is it possible she didn't have broken consciousness, she was just trying to be wise in following advise that has worked for others???

    • @acolley96
      @acolley96 Рік тому +7

      She also called him him insecure and controlling. As a woman who is looking for marriage I would be alarmed if a guy said this to me on the first date without knowing anything about me. But if he said this on the third or fourth date and we spent time going deep and talking and God said this is your guy I would be fine with it. That doesn't mean we aren't still developing a friendship or that our relationship is going supersonic fast. It means I understand where we are going potentially. It still may not end in marriage but it means we have both communicated our intentions. Many men especially in Anthony's position wont even have a conversation. They want to be friends with the benefits of a girlfriend. So if the lady isn't ready for marriage then she should say that. And maybe then I would say she is just taking the advice of people. And of course we are only hearing his side.

    • @sarahlysobey2917
      @sarahlysobey2917 Рік тому +15

      Agree! And he just got his Karma back. He strung women along, used them up and friend zone them. NOW that HE'S ready, he thinks she should just be desperate and comply immediately with what he wants. What goes around comes around. Every dog has his day.

    • @mrsmoderation7718
      @mrsmoderation7718 Рік тому +9

      @@sarahlysobey2917 I was thinking the same thing! I caught what he said. He’s ready now but he did many women wrong. Men don’t want karma from the hurt they gave out.

    • @shayemoore
      @shayemoore Рік тому

      @@sarahlysobey2917 Exactly. Women are looking at who he is NOW and immediately think he is a "good" man and above rejection. Something must be wrong with the woman if she doesn't accept his advances. Women are so male-identified. Smh.

  • @quincysthillaire
    @quincysthillaire Рік тому +7

    Tony,your brother in law , RC Blake's amazing men brother. You are very blessed to have access to these men. I still can't believe beleaf is your fam. Smh

  • @lexitaylor4077
    @lexitaylor4077 Рік тому +19

    Omg THIS is 🔥! Please Lord, let this trickle down to the vision-less men-folk. A 40-something man told me recently that I show up like I'm Superwoman but he couldn't articulate the vision he has for his life...but got mad because I "didn't have love for him." What and how?? This is exhausting...

    • @schoolwork232
      @schoolwork232 Рік тому +3

      HalleluYah Sister! Stay being superwoman. Never ever let your guard down for no one who is not worthy!

  • @jemartinez9499
    @jemartinez9499 Рік тому +6

    So happy to see more people are speaking to RC Blake. I loved his books.

  • @1111ScorpQueen
    @1111ScorpQueen Рік тому +13

    The purest reflection of a man is the quality of his woman.. 👀 I almost jumped out the window when pastor Blakes dropped that one!

  • @bongiwemdaka533
    @bongiwemdaka533 Рік тому +47

    Aaaaaaaaaaa! Screaamiiiing I love Bishop RC Blakes so much... His videos helped me with my journey to healing. Thank you Sir🙏🏾

  • @dancormom
    @dancormom Рік тому +2

    I absolutely love RC Blakes!! The only issue I have is that experience shows being friends is the only way to get to know a person is because it takes away the "thing" that drives people NOT to show the real them. Who you are when you're single tells me alot about who you'll be in a relationship.

  • @qwise1632
    @qwise1632 Рік тому +5

    Pastor Blake's help me to Level up as a woman mentally and leave a very toxic relationship and stand firm on it. Many blessings 🙌

  • @theamazingallens2324
    @theamazingallens2324 Рік тому +14

    This was sooo Good ... just his tone of speaking the truth .. MY GOD ... he is so needed in today's world ... I hope and pray women and men really listen to EVERY word he is speaking ... This was sooo Brilliant 🙌🏽

  • @fanmkreyol26
    @fanmkreyol26 Рік тому +22

    I can’t wait for this. Two of my favorite guys❤

  • @twizzy20girl
    @twizzy20girl Рік тому +4

    Papa RC at The Table?!!👑 I love his heart for us daughters. He both builds, and corrects us when necessary; sharing biblical lessons from the word of God in a practical way. His voice is NECESSARY. Thank you Anthony for introducing to some, and presenting to others this great, swaggered down, man of God! What I respect most is your vulnerability in sharing about your past relationships as well as your willingness to confess and apologize for your part in breaking the queen consciousness of women. Much respect to you for hosting the upcoming conversations around this topic of healing broken kings and queens. It's time for us to recover & reign!

  • @CaliLuv
    @CaliLuv Рік тому +5

    Enjoyed this! Love Bishop Blake's. Yes fellas let's keep this convo going! Let's heal both ends so we get more Kingdom and less of the mess!

  • @Godslady01
    @Godslady01 Рік тому +4

    I thank God for Bishop Blakes... Im glad hes speakibg with this young man about the seriousness of this issue

  • @kscourt21
    @kscourt21 Рік тому +1

    The purest reflection of the man, is the quality of his woman..... My God!!

  • @chaleecesharpe
    @chaleecesharpe Рік тому +7

    My FAVORITE Uncle Bishop! He’s been SUCH a blessing to me and MANY others❤❤❤

  • @frankieharrison356
    @frankieharrison356 Рік тому +7

    Pastor RC Blake's is fire 🔥🔥🔥🔥 we need a part 2. Great job Anthony keep up the good work

  • @profmj7630
    @profmj7630 Рік тому +6

    First you interviewed my Brother Tony Gaskins... now my surrogate Father RC Blakes....♥️

  • @lashonmathis5777
    @lashonmathis5777 Рік тому +1

    Thank you for this perspective!! No one wants to tackle these issues and it's so very necessary. It's refreshing to hear men talk like this! Keep it going please.

  • @karayourrealtorwhitesell
    @karayourrealtorwhitesell Рік тому +8

    This was great. I’ve been listening to RC Blake’s for years. He’s a blessing’ so wise.

  • @tahomalewis2300
    @tahomalewis2300 Рік тому +9

    This episode was so powerful. I'm a regular follower of RC Blake's Jr., and it was just amazing the gems 💎 💎 that he dropped. I'm looking forward to attending the event you are planning.

  • @TowannaLoweHarris-Realtor
    @TowannaLoweHarris-Realtor Рік тому +3

    This is going to be good!!! I’ve been following Bishop RC Blake’s since 2017❤️❤️❤️

  • @ceejane-c4r
    @ceejane-c4r Рік тому +4

    Omg AO, this interview was so needled and empowered for such a time as this. I loved this so much. Pastor Blake clam, humble and electrifying anointed Spirit of TRUTH and WISDOM was needed for both men and women to listen, learn, accept and grow.
    I can't wait for that gathering!!!❤🙏

  • @daizyodida4832
    @daizyodida4832 Рік тому +4

    I thought i was dreaming...Now I know, am on the right path. RC been my internet papa for months!

  • @Nitra813
    @Nitra813 Рік тому +5

    “High value COUPLE” 💎💎💎
    I’ve never heard of RC Blake’s but I’m so appreciative for his input and ministry. Look forward to more conversations with him.

  • @teedotel
    @teedotel Рік тому +36

    I love Bishop RC!!! Thank you for having him on 💛💛💛💛

  • @WWEENETWORK
    @WWEENETWORK Рік тому +2

    I am a mental of RC Blake for over 8 years. I share his words with my guy friends all day long.

  • @salangeshepard842
    @salangeshepard842 Рік тому +4

    This was sooo good! RC Blakes is the GOAT when it comes to this topic. Women must listen to this and take copious notes.

  • @bizzzness1
    @bizzzness1 Рік тому +3

    Totally agree, relationships impact your $$$money and every aspect of your life, peace of mind and quality of life style, well being. RC Blakes is a blessing to us.

  • @Chan_Shae
    @Chan_Shae Рік тому +3

    What a healthy balanced and candid conversation…RC Blake is a great leader, and I enjoy his weekly Monday UA-cam teachings.

  • @staceymedley1573
    @staceymedley1573 Рік тому +1

    So glad that you finally invited Bishop RC Blake’s to the show…perfect combination of wisdom, and insight on what’s really happening out here. And the soft serve of gospel is always welcomed🙏🏽🙏🏽

  • @Tlenee5418
    @Tlenee5418 Рік тому +2

    Man is the head of the woman but..he has to know God is the head of him.. We need to get back to scripture📜 there's all the answers we all need!! I truly want to be In my feminine energy!! But who will protect me? I we as women weren't made to lead only to assist! Thank You RC Blakes and May God continue Bless You 🙏🏾

  • @Radience100
    @Radience100 Рік тому +3

    This interview right here…….. it’s everything ❤! Thanks so much AO and Bishop RC Blake’s!!!!!!!!

  • @nichol6430
    @nichol6430 Рік тому +4

    Great interview I learned so much ! Mr. Rc has been a blessing in my brokenness season 🙏🏽

  • @LoveyourzAF
    @LoveyourzAF Рік тому +10

    I think she told you to wait because the trust wasn't there. Many men wear the cost of a "good/healthy man," and when you open yourself to them, the coat comes off, and we leave less than we came, and then the next man is now labeling you as damaged goods...

    • @lovefelix1566
      @lovefelix1566 Рік тому +2

      True. She, I believe was trying to figure some things out...

    • @anthonyoneal
      @anthonyoneal  Рік тому +1

      She could have said that without calling him "controlling and Insecure" would you agree with that?

    • @lovefelix1566
      @lovefelix1566 Рік тому +1

      @@anthonyoneal Sir, in any setting "name calling" is unacceptable. I do not know the nature of the incident so I am not sure if it was done out of frustration/anger or if I was done repeatedly over time. I also do not know the nature of your "relationship" so I cannot speak holistically, but what I can say is that every experience is a learning experience. Keep fulfilling your purpose and growing as a King and God in His infinite wisdom and impeccable timing will "bring" your Queen to you! Enjoy life, spend time in God's presence, keep living intentionally and on purpose, have faith AND EXPECT GREAT THINGS. Don't sweat these things, the right person Your Queen will make you forget the others even existed! Blessing my brother in Christ!

  • @paulandvaleriesmith6442
    @paulandvaleriesmith6442 Рік тому +2

    Thank you so much Bishop Blakes and Mr. Oneal! Bishop Blakes you are amazing. You always have great topics, insight and always reference the scripture. This is a much needed conersation. You are helping us more than you can imagine. I can't wait to listen and encourage my sisters to do the same at your next talk while our brothers to participaticate. Keep this content coming!!! Blessings and peace to you both.

  • @Steph2da
    @Steph2da Рік тому +9

    Love RC!!! This man gives amazing advice!!! I’m ready!!

  • @SB-lq9yz
    @SB-lq9yz Рік тому +3

    Speak Bishop absolutely supporter! God bless you and your beautiful Wife and family. I love hearing you speak the truth.

  • @bosstravels3625¹
    @bosstravels3625¹ Рік тому +2

    I understand all of this Pastor RC and I am ready for it. I thank God for you. I was scared of commitment for so long and I know my King is on his way.

  • @anatkins7241
    @anatkins7241 Рік тому +1

    I've been following Pastor RC Blakes, Jr. for a few years. He has so much wisdom. Awesome podcast‼

  • @msgrayson81
    @msgrayson81 Рік тому +34

    Thank you so much for this. You are bringing men and women to one place to heal.

  • @jacquelineking8706
    @jacquelineking8706 Рік тому +4

    Love Bishop RC Blakes and his queen, Lisa Blakes. I thank God for them.

  • @andreabutler3027
    @andreabutler3027 Рік тому +4

    I love Bishop RC Blakes teaching!! This was a great episode!

  • @empresserica
    @empresserica Рік тому +3

    Yes Pastor Blakes! You have helped me mature into self love so so much! Thank you. Bless you.🙏🏾🙌🏾👋🏽🔥