@annaann348 Yes. Yes, to it being misogyny. Oppressed groups are treated like idiots who can't be trusted to know themselves. That's *exactly* why, as the video points out, it takes YEARS on AVERAGE for this to get diagnosed. The doctors hears "this hurts really bad" and thinks "Yeah, sure. Crybaby" because they don't trust women when they speak.
It's unfortunate that many people, especially those with menstrual pain, face dismissal and gaslighting. Your comment sheds light on an important issue. It's crucial to advocate for yourself and seek healthcare providers who take your concerns seriously. You're not alone in this experience, and raising awareness about it can lead to positive change.
@@nicolesymonds2349 We understand that navigating healthcare when you're in the Medicaid/Poverty/low income bracket can be incredibly challenging. It's a reality many people face, and it can feel overwhelming. While advocating for yourself might seem like an uphill battle, there are still steps you can take: Research Clinics: Look for community clinics or healthcare centers that specifically serve low-income individuals. They often provide a range of services, including gynecological care, and can be more affordable. Seek Out Medicaid Specialists: Find healthcare providers who accept Medicaid, as they may have experience dealing with patients in similar situations. Some doctors and clinics are more willing to work with Medicaid patients than others. Patient Advocacy Groups: Join support groups or advocacy organizations focused on endometriosis or women's health. They can offer advice, resources, and sometimes even assistance in finding affordable care. Local Assistance Programs: Explore local programs that provide financial assistance or access to healthcare services for individuals with low incomes. These programs can vary by location. Communication is Key: Don't hesitate to have open conversations with your healthcare provider about your financial situation. They may be able to recommend alternative treatments or connect you with resources. Remember, you're not alone in facing these challenges. It's a tough situation, but there are resources and people who want to help. Your health is important, and seeking out the right care is a step in the right direction."
Yap and in my school when I was 12 grade student I was in so much pain for a week before my period and when it did come I had a heavy flow , can't eat food b/c I would throw up it was impossible for me to stand on my feet because of so much pain you know what the school vice director saw me and said I should control the pain and eventually I couldn't stand any more and fell to the ground so my parents came and took me to the hospital and did some tests and as expected I wasn't able to go to shool the next day so that old man put me under his radar because not only I have a very serious type of period pain but also peptic ulcer which is very painful because mine is a severe case and every time he sees me when I am sick he says don't make a big deal out of it and go to your class which is ridiculous The sad part is the pain is still there despite every medication , I started having periods when I was 10 the unbearable pain started when I was 14 and now even after so may years every time my period came I wouldn't be able to sleep all night or even sit because I would feal pain in that sertain area and can't eat food because I get more sick and throw up and my weight is shockingly dropping Sorry for ranting I really needed it😅
its because historically women's health wasn't studied or prioritized for very very long time. So our understanding of the female body and specific pathology is still very limited - due to limited research on the matter. Even heart attacks were based on men, so when women presented in with different symptoms doctors would miss it as the presentation was different. Things are slowly changing and through out my medical degree they stressed the importance of these, unfortunately though we still dont have the best treatment options for many of these things (again due to how slow we have been to research these things) but the newer generation of doctors are more aware and hopefully we can change some things with time.
I put all my fingers down. I had both children with no pain meds and made it to the doctor just 1 hour before I was fully dilated. If it hadn’t been for her dad, I would’ve delivered at home. It felt just like the horrific periods I had growing up.
Bc they know for decades they have been prescribing addictive narcotic pain medication to the mass population, they think everyone is seeking drugs! A doctor is someone who is supposed to care for you and treat the root problem not the symptoms , which is what most doctors 😂 I should say Nurse Practitioners do these days. Treat the symptoms long enough to get them out of the office and all looks good in their office and their mind. And do not be in menopause and expect these people to help you.. it is a joke what they do to menopausal women and have been doing for decades!!!!!
I saw an obgyn for two years and he told me all the pain was in my head and to calm down and it would stop. Then a female specialist joined their office. I saw her and she said you have endometriosis and confirmed it two weeks later. She was an advocate for endometriosis and women's health and taugh seminars around the world. I was so lucky to find her.
It's truly fortunate that you found a knowledgeable and compassionate specialist who recognized your symptoms and provided you with the correct diagnosis of endometriosis. Unfortunately, many individuals face skepticism and dismissive attitudes from healthcare providers, so it's heartening to hear about your positive experience. Your story highlights the importance of seeking out specialists who are advocates for women's health and are well-versed in conditions like endometriosis. Thank you for sharing your journey, as it may inspire others to persist in their search for proper care.
And then men get upset when women want only female medical staff. There are just some things that men are not qualified to diagnose since they’ll never know in the slightest what it feels like
@@madikoko but the fact that nothing has been developed to help with significant pain and bleeding is ridiculous. regular tylenol and midol doesn’t help .
@@idk-jy6cc I've had to lay on the floor at work=multiple different jobs because mine are so bad When I had my IUD put in they said here's the pain and I legit felt nothing at all. My mom held my hand and said breathe and I asked when they were gonna do it and it was already done. Mine are so bad my obgyn said to get pregnant, have a radical hysterectomy or just deal with it........ Oh and if I take pain meds other than Aleve I throw them up. And my cramps are bad enough where I throw up at least every other cycle
@@madikokook but the point is there Should be more research done so you DONT need to go through that. I’m sorry you have to do manual labor on your period. It would help if there was better treatment but women’s pains are often brushed to the side and we are told to “get over it”. We shouldn’t have to
After 20 years of not being listened to, finally at 30 I discovered I had endo, cysts, and fibroids, and ultimately had to get a hysterectomy. Extremely grateful to have found a doctor that actually HEARD me and cared. Listen to your patients. We know when something is wrong with our own bodies....
Yes!!! Because THAT is exactly what it feels like! My mom finally took me to the Dr. to see if he could help me. He couldn’t. That was decades ago, and the only way I didn’t have VERY painful periods anymore, was to have a baby!!
You're absolutely right! Listening to patients and taking their concerns seriously is a crucial aspect of providing proper medical care. It's essential for doctors to be attentive and empathetic to their patients' experiences and symptoms, especially when it comes to conditions like endometriosis or severe period pain. Advocating for oneself and finding healthcare professionals who truly listen and understand is key to getting the right diagnosis and treatment.
They will never do that. It's so much easier to pass the patient off than to try to diagnose. If you stick with that, eventually the patient will stop trying to get help.
This is exactly what happened to me minus the diagnosis of endometriosis. They just told me it was "normal" to have cysts. And they would come and go. Quote "You just have a cyst, that's why you're hurting. It's not dangerous. Now here are your discharge papers...." I'm now an RN and I have to stand by as doctors say this to young women all day every day. (I work ER) But I had no trouble getting pregnant. I had 6 pregnancies by age 25. I have 3 kids. And now I'm 40. (My kids are 23, 19, and 15.) So when I go to the doctor now they say "its probably just menopause". 😂
I hate it when doctors ignore clear signs of danger especially in the female reproductive system. The fact that this man has a full PhD, and COMPLETELY shuns you obvious signs of abnormally excessive bleeding that sent you to the ER is beyond me.
Fun fact doctors don't have PhDs usually 😅 they just hand out a doctor's title for MDs because 🤷🏻♂️ we value doctors enough to let them fool us they have a PhD lol.. In med studies they usually have a very insignificant training in how research is conducted, at least in Europe, which should lead to a very decreased ability to read up on new research themselves. In my city, our professors (psych profs) repeatedly tell us they need to go to the Med Uni again to teach them basic stats because they can't do it themselves. And mind you I'm in my masters in psych, my faculty has a huge emphasis on methodology and I'm one of the few interested in stats, and not even I can be sure if I read a paper to always know if even the statistical analysis is that great, my girlfriend in her med studies says she has no idea how to conduct any research whatsoever. So I wouldn't be surprised if someone who got their MD in the 90s was still on that basis of research. Fun facts I know... but some doctors are completely arrogant considering they mostly don't know where their knowledge comes from or if a paper they read had any worth and they still don't listen to the patient in front of them who must know better about what level pain they're feeling than the one who's not feeling it. I'm glad that is not encouraged in Universities that much anymore, but you'd be surprised how much terrible treatment of patients is still taught in Universities, like "oh if the patient is too exhausting don't bother, you need to protect your own stress levels"... instead of teaching effective and empathetic ways to communicate 🙈
nurses should have bigger paycheck than the fucking doctors .. I know that position and education certificate determined someone's salary for most of jobs out there but scratch that.. We all know majority of doctors don't do shit but tell nurses do it for them, some of them even bold to get angry to the busy nurses for a simple task that those doctors could also do.
@@effingeff3981 ^ this. Its seperate but parallel; there is litterally a city in England that has files because of discrimination against women in pay. Male dominate jobs were eligible for a target based bonus (drivers, builders etc) and female were not (services, lunch ladies). Twice. We litterally have treatments to maximise men's pleasure, but no real awareness of minimising women's pain. I firmly believe 'period pain' is nonsense, because it's a cop out. Combined internal inflammation syndrome or litterally something is very wrong should be researched.
It's not just doctors even girls and other women do this. I remember arguing with a woman on a tiktok about this subject and she got SOOO offended when i said that: yes, while periods are painful they aren't supposed to be extremely painful and if they're painful enough to send you to the ER it means that there is something physically wrong with you. Both her and many many girls in that comment section started coming after me attacking me and acting super offended saying that not all periods are the same and some are just more painful and how it's such a shame on me for assuming i know what they're going through..
My gf has _clear_ endometriosis and I was actually the one to tell her this first. (Saw my single mom struggle from it before surgery and my gfs mom is very abusive so she never learned anything about what is or is not normal) I’m afraid if she goes to someone they aren’t going to diagnose her, meanwhile she suffers terribly to the point of asking me to “rip it out” of her in excruciating pain. Even if her condition is so blatantly obvious, hearing stories that women go through I wish I could just be there with her to make sure they aren’t dismissive and that I’ve lived it beside her as proof.
Personally ive found that drs take me way more seriously if i bring my bf with me. Gynos allow ppl to bring partners and might allow partners to stay in the room for exams
This is terrifying. I’m a girl and I have cysts and terrible pain, for years they’ve Made me take birthcontrol… what do I do??? They tell me the cysts are too small for removal and I’m “too young” (I’m fucking 20) to make a decision that could impact my reproductive health
Fr lol. As doctors, they should do better, but women should know that a lot of girls and other women loooooove to embellish the pain so not everyone would assume something is wrong since every girl in the world claims it's painful Edit: Just like the comment below mines do, women healthcare workers may also dismiss the claims. I'm more so inclined to believe that more Women healthcare workers ignore the period pain complaints compared to men; especially now with more and more women in the workforce and younger male healthcare workers who are passionate. I might not know if they are embellishing their pain, but when you can't SHUT UP about it for 40+ years it gets extremely tiring to hear and believe. But that's exactly what I'm referring to, the pain is so mainstream and different from person to person y'all really act like women can't deal with it, and if it's as painful as you people say then why not go elsewhere to get treated? America isn't the only place on Earth.
“But then you don’t know if you’re in labor because going into labor feels exactly like a period” That line hit me so hard,I genuinely wish this girl is doing better because this sentence just shows how much pain she actually went through.
That's the part that hit me. I've had 4 kids and if I had that pain when I was 14 I would have thought I was dying. 😢 I always heard it was painful but didn't realize it was that bad.
I've experienced a similar situation for over two decades where my body mimicked labor pain during periods. It's horrific! Though I'm better now after going through multiple gynecologists
Holy shit, I'm lucky and don't have strong periods and strong cramps/pain, just some cramps sometimes, and they hurt, sure, but they are over in like 5 minutes. The fact that women are walking around having cramps that feel like contractions and gynecologists are like "nothing we can do about it 🤷🏼♀️" pisses me off to no end. I'm sending love to all the women who are plagued by bad period cramps or endometriosis.
Assuming it’s in the US, we pay a lot of money to get treated, you would think we’d get pretty damn good care considering how much we pay, but there are so many malpractice cases it’s insane
@@RichielaurensIII Exactly. Most people don't have the resources (funding) to pursue the charge/case. Lots of medical personnel practicing that have treated patients poorly
I have never been able to have a baby because doctor's disregarded my "period pain" in middle school, which was later found to be an ovarian cyst that had grown to the size of an orange while they ignored my pain. They took being able to make a baby from me.
Yes every doctor that ever makes a mistake should be sued. Get real, people make mistakes, people are busy and doctors are people. If you expect only perfection from doctors then maybe there won’t be any doctors. But I’d bet you’d be mad about that too.
My mom definitely had endometriosis and didn't know. As a teen, she'd faint from her cramps, and when she was in labor with me, she didn't feel a single contraction. The doctor was completely shocked. Afterwards, every time she'd gets her period (10+ days), she'd bleed through the maximum absorbency tampon + pads in an hour. Her gyno kept telling her that he wouldn't give her a hysterectomy because she could have more kids. Luckily, she went to another gyno who immediately did the hysterectomy and found 2 huge uterine fibroids. He saved her life.
Preserving fertility shouldn't be the top priority for doctors - it should be making sure their patients are heard and treated properly!! If they need a hysterectomy to be able to live normally, imaginary children and husband's should have no say in the treatment plan. Source: it took me 24 years from initially asking to getting sterilized, was finally diagnosed with endo. No talks about options, just bingos.
He should have done an assessment of her pain levels. But periods are painful (painful meaning it can cause PAIN, like in crmap9ng ehich is normal due to chemicals being released), that's not a lie. It just depends on HOW painful.
Not just young. I in March 2020 reported I was malnourished but eating plenty and my stool was an alarming color with side pains like an organ was trying to slowly push out... doctor, even a woman, said stomach virus, likely to pass. I had to push back twice to at least get blood work, because I worried one of my organs was failing. They never came back around. I just did several things to assist my biome and healthy bacteria, but if I pause supplements and heavy culture consumption (prebiotic, yogurt, etc) all my symptoms return.
They disregard adults too. Listen to horror stories about women going into labor from a doctor putting an iud in while telling the woman there aren't any nerves down there.
The fact that her pain was so strong that she was used to it as period cramps is crazy. That poor women, we need to do better. I'm sorry that happened to her.
I passed out from pain on the stairs, got up, went to class, and ended up having to have my teacher pick me up off the floor and put me in a wheel chair. The doctor gave me 200 more MG of ibuprofen 🙃
I would like to say as a side note for society, a grown MAN told a 12 YEAR OLD GIRL that "all periods are painful" and "you'll get used to it". That angers me on a whole new level -btw ik not many men are like this, but some need to hear themselves sometimes!!
Im just so happy she had her baby and didn't miss that. She'll use the things shes been through to be the best mother. Still horrific story. Hope she sues that gynecologist.
Yes!! My nurse asked me what my pain scale was and I said "3 or 4 it just feels like my period" she just gave me a blank stare and said " you need to get that checked out. Periods shouldnt hurt like youre dialated 8cm"
I had all 3 of mine full term without any meds, other than being induced with my first which they say pitocin contractions are the worst. Endo pain started in ‘08, thought it was my appendix, and had 5 operations from ‘08 to ‘18 and by some miracle had babies in ‘13, ‘17 and ‘19. And none of their births even touched my endo pain levels.
The fact that there are countless women who experience medical gaslighting on this shows that we need to hold doctors accountable. They need to be sued or lose their license
I think female doctors should be the go-to for women problem since they understand how and what level of pain a period should be... honestly if all doctors for women problems were men then we would have the catholic church from 600 years ago again but as doctors instead of priests this time
@@cassandrakraft5712 i understand that but im talking about the general situation, where i live, ive actually never met a woman that visits a male doctor for her problems. Besides it also has a lot to do with the country you live in since in some countrys doctors are actually indirectly asked to blame alot of problems on periods. Ive heard storys about a doctor getting fired for telling the patient run some tests instead of asking her when was her last period and telling her to take a pregnancy test....
@@Isntmycatcute I think that the concept of "A f3male specialist would do it better" is quite idealistic, I had female gynecologists who dealt with my pain with a "All women deal with it and you're not dy!ng" and a f3male psychologist who would try to convince me that what was happening was not mis0gyny or abus3 because it's already the norm in society I have had better experience with male specialists in general, they have the attitude of "I'm not a woman so I don't know how serious what you're going through is, so I'm going to listen to you and take your concerns seriously because you're my patient and I care about your health" I'm not saying that there aren't female specialists who do their jobs well, but if they do, they won't do it because they are women. But for being good professionals.
Same Dr Andelin always treats me like a human being, like were a team. He teaches other students too :the patient will always tell you whats wrong". he didnt just mean listen to thier words and everything they say he also meant look at thier body language, have they showered are they healthy at home. Hes the only doctor i asked for when things got really bad and he took care of me like hes supposed to. the only doctor im not afraid of. I know i can count on him no matter how many other doctors fail me.
@lizz3226 some things can't be fully treated, some times all we can do is manage it with pain meds. My mom has ostio and degenerative bone disease, her bones are too messed up and brittle for them to fix so all she can do is take pain killers to manage the pain.
Its a proven fact women are undertreated in hospitals. Often, our pain is dismissed or ignored until the problem is life-threatening. I had a doctor claim I was nothing but a drug seeker and had me removed by security. I was back in the hospital two days later when I had gone septic and my eyes were yellow. My gallbladder was about to burst. I needed immediate invasive surgery. If they had just believed me, it would have been a standard gallbladder surgery and wouldn't have required 6 months' recovery.
Two years of pain shooting down my legs, feeling like something was lodged into me, and heaviness in my abdomen. Several doctors and scans and no one found anything. Went to one last doctor and she diagnosed me with endometriosis in five minutes. We did an exploratory surgery and there it was the whole time. I also had a cyst that twisted on itself and was starting to become necrotic. The surgery saved my life. Don’t walk around in pain. It is not normal. It is not in your head. There are still good doctors out here that listen and won’t stop until they get you an answer.
Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment. I have all the same symptoms and have been ignored for so long by my doctor's and made to feel like I'm going crazy or making stuff up that I just decided to ignore it. I get scared thinking if I keep ignoring it there might be no hope for me 😕 But just something about you being so real with your symptoms and what you went through kinda makes me feel not so alone and that I do need to keep fighting for an answer so again thank you for your comment 🙏☺️
Im dealing with this right now. Seeing this just made me lose it. So many doctors never taking me seriously. Here i am at 26. I get pregnant this time last year, told obgyn about my severe endo and pcos . She didnt listen, nor take any blood, etc. I lost my baby due to medical negligence. My first pregnancy....after being told at 16 by a DOCTOR "Yea youll probably never get pregnant naturally" like he was telling me the weekly weather prediction....like it was nothing. My body came thru, proved me wrong. Then my baby was gone, from something that could have been prevented JUST FROM TAKING MY BLOOD.
@@katelyncalcutt6776I am so sorry to hear that. I hope things work put for you. Good job at getting pregnant in the first place, that's a good sign. With any luck this goes on your record as something to look out for.
I know thus isn't an invitation to share my story but I really need too, this nonsense messes with me daily. Got my first period at 9 and it was incredibly painful then it stopped.Then it came back at 12 and every school year from 12-14 I'd miss around 3-6 days a month because my period was insanely painful and insanely heavy. Constant visits to the ER and they constantly said I was fine it's just normal cramps. In the middle of my 9th grade year in my drama class I passed out. While doing a monolouge doctor's finally admitted me to the hospital without even telling my parents why. I had a 19 centimeter tumor inside my ovary. We didn't find out why I had gotten moved to the surgery floor into the day of my surgery, and when the nurse practitioner came in she at first refused to do the surgery. They had to get the actual surgery team instead of the gyno team to remove the tumor. It was germ cell tumor, and I ended up with stage 2 advanced ovarian cancer. If the doctors would have removed the Tumors (there wasn't just 1 it was actually 3, 2 on my right side, one on my left) Sooner I would probably be in remission by now. I had to drop out of my performing arts high-school, and I've been put completely on virtual all because the doctors refused to help a teenager because it could've been her "anxiety"
It’s genuinely alarming the amount of people who have said appendix bursting pain is comparable to their period cramps. But apparently you can tell the difference if you press on your abdomen. If it gets significantly worse after releasing, it’s your appendix.
Getting a competent doctor is key. I spent a number of years cuddling a heating pad to get through the pain of my periods, but never complained to my doctor because most young women back then (1985) were told to buck up and that period pain was normal. When I finally mentioned it to my (amazing) doctor, he had me scheduled for a diagnostic laparoscopic procedure immediately and found a fair amount of endometriosis. My sister had just been diagnosed and lost an ovary, then later lost everything and could not have children. Debilitating period pain is not normal. If your doctor says that it is, get a new doctor! It’s not just about the pain, but also about your ability to conceive.
Here's some advice: if you tell a doctor you're having pain and they do nothing, HAVE THEM MARK IT IN YOUR CHART THAT *YOU* TOLD THEM AND THEY DID NOTHING. So that down the line, if there really was an issue, they can get in trouble for dismissing your issues. Say you complain about sudden migraines and your doctor doesnt follow up with any tests, then months later you are rushed to the ER with a braon tumor, that doctor will be shamed and looking into for failing to do their job. Lets hold doctors accountable for NOT doing their jobs.
@seachingona thank you! A friend of mine mentioned this to me about a year ago and now i tell people anytime i see an appropriate chance. It's important that people know they have options, no matter how small they may seem at the time, it could be really helpful in the long run!
That's a good idea that I will start doing. I'm so tired of bringing up legitimate health issues only to be dismissed and told it's in my head or I just need to think the pain away, that I don't even want to go in to see any of my doctors. I don't understand how someone would want to go into a field where they're supposed to help people only to not actually want to help.
This works so long as you physically see them enter it into the chart. But just telling them “put this in my chart” is unfortunately not a guarantee of anything.
EVEN WORST when a doctor does think you have endometriosis but the MRI/CT/Ultrasound doesn't show it for 100% certainty, but you have all of the symptoms and you experience CHRONIC PAIN (horrible period-like pain, but not only on your period), you still don't count as a patient with endometriosis and you don't get all the help you need (: ***You need surgery to get a diagnosis/help and when you're young no one wants to take the risk
@@noasoher4409that could just simply be because they’re scared of misdiagnosing. We need to develop a better way to test for it so this scenario doesn’t happen as often
Yep. The early 90s, doctors just pat you in the head and jokingly say: it's just normal cramping, wait until you give birth... (I gave birth natural with less pain than my period cramps.)
It's disheartening to hear that many people had their pain dismissed by doctors in the past. Thankfully, awareness about conditions like endometriosis has improved over the years, and medical professionals are now more attuned to recognizing and treating these issues. It's essential to continue sharing our experiences to raise awareness and ensure that others don't have to go through the same dismissals and misunderstandings.
@@HakunaMatata-gr9mm Depends. For some people it was effortless and for some it quite literally endangered their life. You'll hear all types of experiences from mothers.
@@suki9268 when I typed that first comment,I had things like cramps, heavy periods, PMS, etc in mind. But looking at your comment, I'm reminded that we females can be a whole lot of "problem" in many ways! LoL 😂
Which funny enough causes its own problems women get gaslit into thinking is not because of it (weight gain, depression, etc, im looking at you, "not a symptom of birth control")
Our schedule is not built to allow us time to change pads! Because some kids destroyed the bathrooms one time, they had it so we can’t go to the bathroom twenty minutes at the beginning or end of class. But in the middle is when teachers are teaching and also won’t allow you to go to the washroom 🥲🥲
Oh honey I’m holding my students hair back and getting them water while they puke in my trash can while trying to teach at the same time because our god damn nurse quit. There’s nothing I can do about it. I’m not even legally allowed to give ibuprofen.
@@margomoore4527Congrats, I guess? A lot of teachers these days will stop people from going to the bathroom. I had a college professor that would berate you if you dared to leave your chair in an 8 am class.
This is wayyy too common unfortunately. I am 40 and went undiagnosed for over 25 years. I even suggested that it may be Endo. They always dismissed me. I have never gotten to have children and I fear its too late now. We need more doctors that actually listen and care💯
It's definitely too late it's usually already late at 30's but usually 35 though my mom had my brother at 31 but when you get pregnant later and later after your 20s the possibility of the child being disfigured and/or mentally incapable vastly increases such short time but it's never well can be too late to have a child bio but it can happen not to well into your 40 I think it's kinda a little too old now but adoption is always a choice but on the other hand you could be a cool aunt or get you egg hopefully successfully harvested to have another mid 20 woman carry it not the best choices but it's quite grim but it's kinda all bye chance. Note if I got anything wrong I'm open to suggestions. But it's not looking good out there but there's a chance :/
@@Insitika My aunt had her daughter at 40, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with her (deaf in one ear from ear infections, but that's it). She's really smart and lives a great life. Yes, there's higher concern for complications, but you can deliver a healthy baby at 40.
this is so validating. i’ve always had horrendous period cramps. i would cry and scream and be genuinely paralyzed by the pain. everyone always told me i was either lying or exaggerating the pain. when someone asks me, i always compare it to giving birth (i have not given birth). i know it sounds crazy but i swear the pain is UNREAL. my heart goes out to you girl ❤
Sorry to hear that. Its brain breaking that its that painful. I feel that 'period pain' is a bs term to minimise things. Like, there must be more going on then just the uterus being a, well, C. I've never had cramps so the only thing I can liken it to is gallbladder. I wonder if it is actually the gall bladder playing silly buggers, that would explain the extreme pain. Why research it though if women are *willing* to *put up with it* 😑
I have gone into labor and my period pain feels just like labor. I believe you. And I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I've been there with people, and doctors, thinking I'm either lying or exaggerating. I understand your frustration. It used to be devastating to me. Like why would I make that up? I will say, I have more people believe me after I went into labor. Which I don't really agree with. Just because you haven't gone through labor doesn't mean you don't know what pain is or how bad something hurts. All that means to me is now I have something to compare it to. It doesn't take away the fact that before then it was just as terrible. The thing that irritates me more now is hearing "Well, we just don't know enough about this or that because there hasn't been enough sufficient research in that area." This isn't to discourage you. I believe you should try and find a good doctor to help. Get as many second, third whatever opinions as you can. And I know it's hard, but try not to let the people who don't take you seriously get you down. Most of the time, I've found it's just ignorance on their part. Not always though. Some just don't care. I'm just an internet stranger, but I believe you, you're not alone. I wish you luck on finding ways to help and finding a doctor that believes you too. They are out there. So are other people that will believe you too.
Same within 2 yrs my periids will be so bad that i will faint but luckily with the pill i can manage it better but how is that normal... i dont seem to have endometriosis but im still very confused how this is normal... you shouldent faint from period pain, how is that normal...
@@emiliebollansee7059 that's maddening. You are litterally bleeding so why wouldn't your blood pressure be all wonk? Have a chocolate bar on me. Cadburys always sorts me out at that time, but if your in the states might not get them.
@@astrumnacht6015 they are victim blamed, r@ped, forced to have a baby at 8 if they are impregnanted by a r@pist. Any healthcare is ignored, and you're seen as nothing more than a uterus. And when you do have a baby, your comfort is pushed aside for the doctor's ease.
My first ever period was 6 weeks long and so painful I would throw up and pass out but I was too embarrassed to tell anyone. Eventually a teacher pulled me aside and I told her and she was like “Taylor that’s not normal” that was at 13 I didn’t get a diagnosis until 17. I’ve had 4 surgeries and had to finish high school online and lost jobs because of it. I now openly speak about endo and encourage others to speak up and understand that incredibly painful periods are NOT normal. Endo and other issues need to be openly discussed in schools.
Why would u be embarrassed??? Lol Ik people who have the slightest pain and act like they need to be airlifted out of the room lol my mom being one of them. We were shopping at a luxury place and she had a CRAMP and sat down on the couch and started WAILING andSCREAMING. I was so mf embarassed. An employee massaged her and she didn’t even tip him I’m so horrified 😭😭😭 but anyway lesser degrees of that theatrics is pretty common in my area lol I live in he PH
@@OO_sunflower_OO because 15+ years ago you never even said the word period in front of anybody. It was something that was never openly discussed it was rushed over as a puberty talk but beyond that it was never mentioned. It was just a different time (god I feel old saying that) Luckily everyone is more open today myself included. I just wish I had someone from the very start telling me that I wasn’t crazy so I try and be that person today so some scared little teenager no longer feels shunned or kept in the dark.
@@OO_sunflower_OOtbf you never know how bad someone else's cramps are, a lot of people dismiss women's pain as exaggerating, even other women. We need to sympathise and believe women about their pain in the first instance
I remember my dad literally having to go into the gynaecologist with me. This was after years of me begging them to at least check for any issues and getting nos and that I just had “heavy periods”. My dad had a little notepad of my symptoms that id been tracking and had also looked after me with my mum during my periods so saw how bad they were. He expressed this to the doctor ONCE didn’t even need to reiterate and I was immediately given the option of a laparoscopy which then gave me my endometriosis diagnosis at 17. Surprisingly I cried with joy when they told me I had it (I think a lot of commenters here can relate) because I’d been made to believe I was crazy for years and it’s was nice to prove everyone wrong and also get treatment before it was too late. Too many women arnt as lucky as I was and it’s awful. We shouldn’t need to beg and we ESPECIALLY shouldn’t need our dads to speak for us
Wow. I am speechless. They didn’t believe you. But when your dad went with you, they believed and did proper diagnosis. If this is not discrimination against women, I don’t know what this is. This is so infuriating. And people say we don’t need women empowerment movements. We need it everywhere in the world.
@@lildiamond6235I doubt it's sexism. It's was probably because she was young. So when an adult was vouching for how serious it was, and people are more likely to take an adult over a teenager seriously, that's when it became urgent. It's a problem with age, not sex. We do live in a sexist society, but it's not against women. As a woman saying this, I could completely ruin my boyfriend's life on just my word alone. That's because of the female empowerment movements and feminism. It happens all over the place all the time.
@@deadshotruby6667then why do so many women have stories in which they didn't have a man to speak for them (ew) and ended up diagnosed at 35, 45 , 55 even though they spent decades as adults and doctors didn't listen? It's the sexism. It's the misogyny. Pick-me is a bad look on you.
@@MuchToDoAboutNowt When men have a higher suicide rate than women, I think calling me a pick me girl goes out the window. It's not just women who get misdiagnosed or ignored either. It happens to everyone. Again, not sexism, just doctors not taking their patients seriously.
This message is for everyone: If a doctor dismisses your pain, find another doctor. They’ll dismiss you again. It’s your health and your life. Don’t gamble with it.
my own mother dismissed my excruciating period pains. would tell me to "walk it off" turns out i had 3cm cysts in my ovaries every now and then she only understood my pain after she had multiple cysts in her womb and needed surgery.
@@swellswagal indeed, I do feel bad for you men, but bro, you can't really compare that to the pain of giving birth being felt every single month for 7 days, then being told to walk it off. Come on.
I didn't get treatment until I got a male doctor, actually. He was well versed in endometriosis and cysts and was able to get my surgeries covered by my insurance. Gender is less of the issue, it's being informed and willing to do the extra tests to find the answers that makes the better doctor
But I mean…also props to the doctor who’s post this literally is, who to me at least appears to be male. I’ve had wonderful male and female doctors. It doesn’t always have to be so black and white
Female doctors can be just as faqed in the head. I had one who didn't want to prescribe me nasal allergy cream because "that's nothing a young lady should use" and then a few weeks later she overdosed me on a pain shot when I had a slipped disk because she overestimated my weight because apparently if you don't weigh 45kg you're morbidly obese and need to be shot with an safari rifle like some elefant. Gosh I still hate that chic. I'll never forget that feeling of being in horrible pain and slipping in and out of consciousness.
My daughter went through the same thing. So many uppity dismissive doctors. Finally, after a few decades, she was fortunate to find a great doctor who listened and helped.
This is real. My period feels exactly like a miscarriage. Speaking from experience. Edit: thank you for all the kind words 💖 I'm doing OK. It was a good opportunity to become more aware of my body and its needs. Blessings 🙌 to you 🙏
its so extremely frustrating having periods be constantly downplayed and dismissed as normal. edit: i seem to have caused some misunderstanding, periods are completely normal obviously. but some ppl get extremely painful and/or irregular periods and this can be caused by something else but alot of doctors (especially male ones) just prescribe the pill and move on. i have said multiple times to multiple doctors that the pill just doesn’t work for me yet its seems to be their only solution and its quite annoying. (not discouraging the pill but it doesn’t work for everyone)
@@z4kiaathank you captain obvious. That's not the point obviously. Periods are normal. Light cramping pains from the shedding are normal. Debilitating pain to the point you cannot stand, is not normal and is dismissed as normal because of people that just ignore women and say "periods are normal".
@@arsenbrooks438Icl I’ve never heard anyone who said that periods that hurt to the point they cant stand, is normal 💀 everyone would rush over to see if they’re okay if that happened what r u on ab. It’s also rlly annoying that girls compare normal period cramps to giving birth which is just so false 😭 my mum says that giving birth is one of the worst pain a woman could go through i’ve never heard her complain ab a period 🤦♂️
@@yobask8855 Your experience is not gospel. Many doctors ignore this, that was the whole point of this video that I guess you just ignored? Some women have period cramps so painful it is as bad as giving birth and they are ignored. Idk why you want to argue against this when we have so many personal stories from these women who have experienced this. We have statistics on women being ignored by doctors but I guess real life statistics have nothing on your singular perspective. 🙄 Edited for grammar and to add that your mom never complaining about periods means jack shit and basing your entire opinion on this very real topic on your mom's experiences is indicative of an immature child that hasn't lived or experienced much yet.
When she said that she couldn't recognise the fact that she went into labour because it felt like having her period... Literal chills down my uterus. I can't believe how ignorant that gynaecologist was. In my opinion medical staff should never ignore it when someone says they have a symptom unless they're absolutely sure nothing is wrong. It's better to have wasted some time and resources for diagnosis than to be in a much worse stage later and go through so much pain and trauma
You're absolutely right. It's essential for medical professionals to take their patients' symptoms seriously and conduct thorough evaluations to rule out potential health issues. Ignoring symptoms or dismissing them can lead to delayed diagnoses and unnecessary suffering. Trusting patients' accounts of their experiences and being proactive in investigating potential problems is a crucial part of providing quality healthcare. It's unfortunate when medical staff overlook or downplay symptoms, and it's something that needs to change for the well-being of patients.
I went thru 25 painful years of undiagnosed endometriosis and pcos! Had several d and c to remove uterine cysts and have never gotten a proper diagnosis. Always told the problems are in my head and to just learn to live with it. It caused me to become sterile. Don't let this happen to you. Keep searching for a good doctor who will listen to you. It could save your life! ❤
@@annem951 As someone with endo this is both comforting and not at the same time 😅 going to the gyno is a process because just a check up can be painful. I really fear having a baby, but also thankful I have an incredible pain tolerance...ish
My gynecologist helped my mom deliver me 27 years ago and she was the only one that ever listened to me. She was an infertility doctor and made an exception for me when I first starting having periods like this at 12. She even had to give me medications to stop my periods because they were so heavy. Well she retired and since then everyone that I have been to gives these same responses. I have scars and cysts all over my ovaries and I’m just “being dramatic”. Healthcare sucks 😒
HERE IS WHAT EVERYONE SHOULD LEARN: Periods may be a little uncomfortable. They may also give you some GI upset. YOUR PERIOD SHOULD NEVER BE SO PAINFUL AS TO INTERFERE WITH YOUR DAILY ACTIVITIES. If your doctor ignores you, insist on getting treatment, or go to a different doctor. For everyone out there dealing with this - it doesnt have to be like this.
i know I'm shocked when i hear girls talk about these kind of period cramps and pain, bc that's not how it is for me or other females in my family. I only had the period pains, while having some hormonal problem and was given medications that caused it, so i had pain killers for it too, but once i was off med i was good. Btw the medication i was on was hormonal birth control, it makes me wonder if there was a correlation there... but now im suffering from the side effect of taking birth control from age 13 to 20... pray for me... luckily i'm not dying from heavy bleeding anymore caused by hormonal imbalances ( so the dr. said) and apparently it's more common in teens nowadays.
This. Periods can be uncomfortable, but nothing ibuprofen won't fix. It should never be so painful you're having trouble living. I have been blessed with periods that are light and not painful at all. But I have a sister in law who's periods are so bad she can't stop herself from screaming. I can't help but empathise with people that have to live with this, because I see it. I don't feel it, but I would do anything to help her feel better in that moment.
My periods are horrifically painful and I did once go to the ER for it, but it's usually nothing two-four ibuprofen won't fix. Should I still consider endometriosis as a possible explanation?
@@annate1721 Probably, yes. It should never send you to the emergency room. I'm happy to hear ibuprofen works for you. I was saying that mostly when ibuprofen is not even enough to get you through the pain, it's extremely worrying. But you shouldn't have to go to the ER for something like a period, because it should be a normal part of your life. So that in itself is worrying. I hope you can get the help you need.
Yes! At least where I live you can demand to see your patient information. What they wrote down. Take pictures of the lack of tests. Tests that could have avoided years of pain and you know basically being infertile. That's medical neglect. And I think if we all made a big group we could go as far as sue the education system that enables this kind of neglect specifically towards women. It might not give us any financial but it might be symbolic enough for them to finally tell doctors to LISTEN TO WOMEN AND DO THE REQUIRED TESTS
@@estridwittner4649not all Americans always sue for anything and everything and also in this case the patient was neglected and always told she was fine when it should have been looked into more before her pain was assumed to be period pain so she would have the right to sue because you can’t just ignore a patient if they are feeling pain, it should always be checked before assuming it’s something else
I am so thankful the obgyn I saw when I was 19, immediately mentioned endometriosis & recommended a laparoscopy to make sure, he didn’t brush off my pain (when things aren’t meant to be painful such as intercourse or certain positions while sitting), he asked very involved questions. I cried because it was the first time a doctor actually listened to me.
I'm so glad my doctor basically grilled me to make me explain my pain specifically and make sure I know that its not normal to be in debilitating/horrific pain. She explained that many people think terrible period pain is alright, but it isn't, and I should speak up if I am struggling. She is amazing! I am so sorry for all the people who are ignored and dismissed by their obgyns when they are in pain, its horrific.
I'm 15 and no doctor listens to me. Maybe when they think I'm a "mature age" they will. I gave a list of 11 things medically wrong with me and he brushed it off saying I'm fine, I got a blood test and turns out I had vit D deficiency, anemia and hypothyroidism 🙂 It's awesome you got a doctor that will listen to you, it's very rare in cases with teenage girls that they're actually diagnosed and treated
@@Izu_fanaticI wish I could say it changes when you're older, but women's pain is often ignored. Be your own advocate. And if you can't, find someone who can be an advocate for you. Because you deserve better.
Yes. After being in real labor 3 times for 3 wonderful babies, I absolutely agree that endometrial pain is identical to labor pain. I always imagined myself freaking out and crying to the hospital in pain. That never happened. I was always told to just deal with it. I could’ve driven myself to the hospital just fine but I’m glad my husband did. The nurses never believed that I was in labor until they physically checked me.
That’s fascinating. I never had cramps. I ended up delivering my babies rather unexpectedly because I don’t have any pain until crowning. The one dr told me I could not be delivering so fast, as I’m kneeling in my bed and I’m like the baby is out. OMG.
Years ago my sister was feeling sick, the pain in her abdomen was so bad that she couldn't move. In the ER the doctor asked if she was on her period (she was) and said that it was just period cramps, no tests, took no sample, nothing, just heard she was on her period and assumed that was the cause of her pain. Our mom refused to accept that answer, and stayed in the ER for hours, until another doctor noticed my sister, asked what's wrong, they told the doctor about the pain, what the other doctor said, and that they don't believe it's that. The doctor did something really simple, touched my sister's abdomen, felt something, and immediately sent my sister to have an emergency surgery. My sister's appendix almost blew up, that doctor sent her in just in time.
jesus fucking christ that's terrible. my period cramps are pretty average, though they can make me sorta unable to move for short periods of time when theyre bad it's nothing compared to what your sister must have been dealing with. that could have killed her and the doctor brushed it off as cramps. what the actual fuck
I was similar, with the difference I was 11 and had PCOS. I'm not suffering with infertility issues, but apart of uterus cancer, I had EVERY SINGLE SIDE EFFECT that can come with PCOS, so life was pretty horrible until two years ago when I met my wonderful endocrinologist ans started the right treatment
Man, I feel this. I was having brutal periods for years and my primary care I grew up with said to deal with it, all periods are painful and then when I was 27 I was in so much pain I couldnt move at all and nearly fainted, I got a new doctor who immediately sent me to a specialist, was diagnosed with endo and the following year had a total hysterectomy because everything inside me was too much of a mess and they didn't think living on various birth controls would help. So.. been 3 years period free and its liberating lmao
Out of pure curiosity: do you need to take hormones or other medication to make up for the lack of the womb? I have no clue how this works so apologies for being a donut
@@bonk7455my mom got a full hysterectomy when they found a 50 pound mass on her ovaries.(she's 38, 2 kids and was 'fixed') She took hormones for a while. After a year or two she was taken off of the hormones because of another condition she had that made her moods crazy vivid. She didn't need them anymore. So I guess it varies on your body. But women go through menopause which is basically the same. Your hormones stop getting produced at those levels. Idk if you take hormones for that tho.
@@bonk7455My guess is no, hormones come from the ovaries not the womb as long as the ovaries are not remove it shouldn't be necessary. I think there is a kind of hysterectomie where they do take the ovaries as well called radical or something like that but on a total hysterectomie its only the uterus and the cervix as i understad it, you can look it up
@@bonk7455 If a total hysterectomy takes out the ovaries as well, then yes, but if not, odds are you're fine! The ovaries are what make hormones, not the uterus itself. Fun fact: Oophrectomies (spelling?) are when the ovaries are removed.
I took my 15yr old in to the obgyn because of cramps being so bad and they said oh ya you just have bad periods let just do birth control. I had to speak up for my child to get extra tests done. They didn't even want to do an ultrasound. It's crazy when someone tells you their period cramps are so painful they can't breath that some doctors don't want to even look at what might be causing it.
Same here. Although my mom didn't think to take me to the doctor and neither did I, I thought it was normal. My dad said I couldn't go on vacation ett m anymore at 14 , and I thought it was cause my pains were so strong I needed to stay in bed from the pain so I ruined their vacations. I didn't have kids but have always wondered how much more labor feels like compared to cramps.
@@liahk1000 i wouldn't help in comparing the two as i have very mild cramps. I am sorry you went through that. I could never leave my kids behind for any reason.
I recently went to the OBGYN for regular checkup but I mentioned that I had recently had a few heavier and more painful periods. I didn’t think it was a concern at the moment but she confirmed with me that if I wanted to look into it more, the most likely solution would be for me to go on birth control. I had never been on it though and wanted to have kids soon. Got pregnant and switched providers instead!
It took me years to convince doctors that my pain wasn't just normal menstrual cramps. I missed out on so much life. I finally made the local news because my Endo case was the worst they'd seen. Full hysterectomy after kids, and it changed my life ❤
I'm truly sorry to hear about the years of struggle you faced before finally getting the care you needed. It's unfortunate that you missed out on so much of life due to your pain. However, I'm so glad to hear that the full hysterectomy made a positive difference and changed your life for the better. Your story emphasizes the importance of perseverance and finding healthcare providers who listen and take your concerns seriously. Wishing you continued good health and happiness!
It's been suggested that I have a hysterectomy, but I have heard horror stories (I can't take estrogen). I'm on progestin right now and the night sweats are horrendous. What are your thoughts?
@@OkayCoolGuydo you mean you’ve heard horrible stories in terms of putting you into menopause? I’m only a student at the moment but from what I understand, menopause is not activated unless both ovaries are removed. The ovaries are the portion of the reproductive system that produce hormones. Removing just the uterus itself shouldn’t cause too many hormonal changes from what I understand. Hopefully this helps!
On my first period, I didn't have any pain at all. I got a few cramps sometimes after that but not so bad that I had to tell anyone. I feel SO bad for girls who have cramps.
I had this experience so when I needed to take my then 14yr old in to the Dr for painful periods I was ready to FIGHT hard core. Instead the dr listened to us and referred us to a pediatric gynecologist who was also amazing. I actually cried because I was so thankful that my daughter was getting the kind care that so many of us didn't. She's now 16 & doing great. She also had a great relationship with her gynecologist and had referred all her friends. I know she's the exception. I pray that someday it's the norm.
@@DoctorRich huge shout out to Children's Pediatric Gynecology in Saint Paul/ Minnesota MN. What a night and day difference than what I was expecting. ALL women deserve this level of care. ❤️ *THANK YOU* for speaking up on it! It's nice to see a male dr highlighting this. The more that do, the more we normalize it.
When I was in school, I knew a 12 year old girl who passed out several times a month because of her period. She had it for 7-12 days in a row and was in so much pain, looked like a vampire because of anemia and was bullied because of it. Sometimes even by her own parents. I felt so bad for her and tried to help, but there was not much what I could do aside from reassuring her that she doesn’t deserve to be treated like that :(
I got my period at 10 and when your in 5th grade normally people don’t have it, and what’s worse is I had a male teacher. So I couldn’t ask for anything and when I asked my teacher he sent me to the nurse. And when I asked the nurse for anything she gave me a slip to fill out to bring medicine and said “it happens to all of us get used to it” I barely knew what a period was.
same I'm turning 32 this month and having endometriosis removed several times is exhausting... and to mention all doctors I visited, female gynecologists went like that's normal pain, until I found out I had cysts and endometriosis at the hospital.
@@mollywredberg1976im a 6-7th grader, but back when i was in 5th grade, so many of the girls were on their period, we had a male teacher, but he would still let us go, im sorry that happened to you:(
It’s ignored all the time. Runs in my family and friends circle. Getting a diagnosis isn’t hard. Getting the doctors to take you seriously is a bloody war mission
You've highlighted a frustrating but unfortunately common challenge-getting doctors to take menstrual pain seriously, especially when endometriosis is prevalent in your family and social circle. It's essential to advocate for your health and seek healthcare providers who will listen and provide appropriate care. Your comment sheds light on an important issue that needs more attention.
This happened to my childhood best friend. She casually relayed to me that she was “not able to have children” every so calmly, our junior year. We’re 26 now and she just had her second baby!
OMG THE LABOUR!!! You are the first person to ever mention this since I had my baby 27 years ago! Nobody believed me when I said I couldn’t feel any contractions. The midwife at one point strapped the monitor around me and said ‘are you seriously telling me you can’t feel that?’. How have I never made the connection before?!
My mom has told me many times that the nurses got mad with her because she almost gave birth to my brother without saying anything to them but she said it felt just as bad as her periods so she didn't see the need to inform anyone because she thought it's ok and all the other women were screaming from pain so she was waitingfor it to get really bad. I think I just might have discovered that she has had endometriosis. She always said her periods were very painful but she just dealed with them. Good thing to know for my children one day.
“you don’t know if you’re in labor because going into labor feels exactly like a period” This isn't even an exaggeration, it really does feel that way, its enough to make you pass out in a sickly cold sweat randomly. I also want to say, its sad when the passing out is literally the only way to communicate the serious nature and be taken seriously. Even then, if they find out it was "aunt flow" its' just met with "Oh my god, you are such a champ for dealing with this!" No I am not! I have no choice. Literally no OBGYN, doctor, ancient wisdom, or anyone really... is capable of making it stop. You are in a torture chair till you get used to sitting in it. You don't get to ever leave that chair. It just starts to become a very shit "normal" that you guilt yourself over. No way to know your pain tolerance is sky high and you aren't a wuss. You are literally in Labor like pain. Till you brave labor... how would you know? even then how do you fix it? Why aren't female issues taken more seriously?! Why are we still going to work in that condition? Its frustrating because people around you expect a certain level of function. They can't see pain. for example, It very much looks like my period should come second in light of the fact my husband is sick with a cold. Periods are part of life, they come once a month, as a female I should be equipped, and responsible enough, to deal with my own bodies regular functions and be able to tend to the ill. Truth be told, if that is the scenario we face, then its my own personal hell. I feel like I have to chain myself to the train of "get over it, get it done." and let it drag me. I might be nothing but skinned bone by the time the train gets where its going, but hey, I got there. Fudging exhausting. I wish this was taken more seriously so I didn't feel that way. Sorry for the rant. That one statement just hit so deep, if your still reading this, thank you for letting me rant. Blessings on your head and home.
I completely understand your frustration, and it's essential to have a platform to express your feelings and experiences. Many women face the same challenges when it comes to the severity of period pain and the lack of understanding from others. It's a sad reality that conditions like endometriosis and severe menstrual pain are often downplayed or dismissed. Your description of feeling like you're in a "torture chair" and having to endure the pain as if it's a normal part of life is heart-wrenching. Women's health issues, including severe period pain, should indeed be taken more seriously, and there should be better support and understanding in place. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. You're not alone in feeling this way, and your voice is important in raising awareness about these issues. Your courage to speak out can contribute to positive changes in how women's health is addressed and understood.
@@DoctorRichI had a painful period at 11 and I’m 16 with even more pain and they just started me on birth control 😳😳. Should I do more test orrrr???
So true, and then there's also being super emotional during that stage, so your breaking down because your overwhelmed and in pain, but unable to do anything to stop it for DAYS, it's incredibly annoying that there isn't something that can actually help this.
If it feels this way than something is wrong. It feels this way for her because she has a cyst on her ovaries causing her pain normal periods though EXTREMELY painful are not the same as labour pains and if you are experiencing that type of pain please please see a doctor do not let them brush you off
My daughter got her period again last night. She’s 14. Got it when she was 12. She is in so much pain. She throws up and tbh it reminds me of someone in labour! This video might have saved her from years of more pain! I’ll be taking her to be evaluated and push for the reason! It was so heartbreaking for me 😢 Thank you & so sorry for your pain and suffering
@@m4ttaman I had a cyst go pop once, worst pain of my life. I was at work and slowly this pain in my side just grew and grew. By the end of my shift I was in tears and I had to DRIVE myself home like that. When I got home I curled up on my moms bed and took one of her prescription pain killers. After I could manage to feel like a human being again we went to the urgent care down the road and got me an ultrasound.
I would throw up and pass out and I can verify labor was a walk in the park for me and nurses were shocked because I was so used to the horrific pain from my monthly cycles. Only thing to kind of help me was birth control but child birth really helped when I finally had my son at 27 now I no longer suffer. Advocate for her! I had nobody but my dad and he didn’t understand.
Best thing you can do is advocate for her, explain to the doctor that no, this is real, I have seen how it affects her. You may get lucky and get someone good straight off, but it's very common to be dismissed. My gynae told me I "definitely didn't have endometriosis" despite having virtually every classic symptom. Three times in one visit she pushed for me to see a psychiatrist instead. She only paid a bit of attention when my Mum spoke up and said exactly that: "I have seen how much pain she is in, this is real". I finally got it confirmed with a laparoscopy several years later (the waiting list is very long and there are hoops they want you to jump through first).. 6 months after my Mum passed to cancer that the NHS didn't bother to treat. They diagnosed her then left her for 8 months before coming up with a treatment plan of any kind, by which time it was too late to do surgery so they left her to die. She never got to find out that I did in fact have endo all those years.. 16 years of agony before it was confirmed. Through it all my Mum was the only one who truly believed me and if she hadn't advocated for me I might still be fighting to be believed. Remember also that clear scans (ultrasound etc) don't rule endo out - it rarely shows on scans. Keep fighting until you find someone to take her seriously. It's a long road and a hard one alone. I'm glad she has you by her side. I'd give anything for my Mum to still be by mine. Hoping for you both to get answers xx
I have PMDD, major depression, among other things. I tracked my cycle and mood for three months, came in with my concerns just for them to chuckle at me and say "thats every woman with a period hun" like... no not every woman i know is contemplating suicide every month before their period like clockwork 😂😂
I have PMDD as well. I honestly don't know how I haven't killed myself yet. The suicidal ideations are intense!! And I know, it'll be the same next month. I pray menopause will help. Hang in there... you aren't alone ❤
I'm really sorry to hear that you've had such dismissive experiences with healthcare professionals. It's crucial for medical providers to listen to their patients and take their concerns seriously. Conditions like PMDD can significantly impact one's quality of life, and your experiences are valid. If you ever feel unheard or dismissed, consider seeking a second opinion from a different healthcare provider who may have a better understanding of your unique situation and can provide the support and treatment you need. Your mental health matters, and it's essential to find the right care and support to manage your condition effectively.
Omg I want to die monthly , that’s not normal ! 😅 I make impulsive and rash decisions🙄too ! Like life altering decisions. I have packed all of my belongings and move to Florida three times😩 It’s a huge problem. Idk if there’s even meds for pmdd but I need um💯 Anyways, I am keeping everyone who suffers from PMDD in my thoughts❤ n prayers.
Yep! My first child I was in labor for 18 hours, nurse kept saying how well I was doing, I told her this was just like cramps, she looked so sad and angry, she said she was sorry and hugged me.
I drove myself to the ER after having continuous cramps for a couple days at 39 weeks. I told the nurse "I don't think its labor, but I couldn't sleep because of the pain so I decided I should probably come in." She was assuring me that most moms come in at least once of with a false alarm before the real thing, then lifted her head up and said "well most of them aren't 8cm dilated and still unsure!" I remember the look on the nurses' faces when a contraction would come, and the most I did was take a deep breath.
my mom told me that when she was giving birth to me, the doctors told her to tell them when the pain got worse than her worst cramps and it never did. we have a blood disorder that makes cramps incredibly painful and literally nothing helped
I feel you. My first child was at 37 with the help a fertility doctor. Tried for 5 yrs. It was only then found out I had endometrosis. Hang in there. 🙏
The first time I met a man who understood period pain (without them being a gynaecologist or medically trained in general) was my current boyfriend. He asked after my first period while we had been together if I had painful periods, I said “they’re not that bad, only the first day or so” and he went full “Nooooo babyyyyy” mode. Honestly cute af. It’s been 9 years and he still does it every single fucking time. I think he knows my period schedule better than I do tbh.
That's incredibly sweet and supportive of your boyfriend! It's heartwarming to hear about someone who cares so much about your well-being, even during those tough days. Having a partner who understands and empathizes with period pain can make a world of difference. It sounds like you've got a wonderful and caring relationship.
I got the same reaction from my now husband! When I get my period, he always brings me ibuprofen, chocolate bars, a mug of hot tea and sometimes flowers, and turns on an animated movie because it helps me get distracted from the pain. He is the best
About 4 years ago I was working as a CNA and I started having a horrible pain on what felt my stomach and back. The pain did not feel muscular and when I went to see a doctor I explained this to him, that it felt “internal” (I couldn’t sleep because of the pain sometimes, this pain would cause me to throw up, and it would not stop for hours). This doctor just checked my vitals and told me that I was just “sore” and I was too young to be having back problems. I went on with my life thinking that it was something chronic, but there were days that the pain was so intense and unbearable that I was not able to do anything. About a year ago I noticed that certain foods triggered the pain, but eventually it was every time I ate it would hurt. I went to an Urgent Care and I was told by the doctor that I just had a “severe heartburn” and as long as I watched what I was eating I should be fine. Well, the next day I was rushed to the ER and it turned out my gallbladder was about to explode and I had two gallstones stuck on my vile.
That poor woman. I know what it's like when your doctors ignore you, dismiss your concerns or even worse - outright lie. I know there are good doctors out there somewhere. I just don't know where.
I had horrible periods from the age of 11. Heavy bleeding, pain and vomiting. My periods were also like clockwork every 21 days. I wanted a hysterectomy by the age of 12 years of age. My father was a doctor and he treated me like it was all in my mind and I was overreacting. I left home at 15 and at 18 years of age I went on birth control pills. My monthly problem was solved. Less bleeding and pain and zero vomiting. I reunited with my father at 22 years of age and the first question I had for him was "Why didn't you put me on The Pill when I was suffering so badly?" His answer was "I was not going to put my 12 year old daughter on the Pill." Being on the Pill at 12 years of age would have saved me from so much pain and agony. Years later when my niece was an adolescent, my brother called me and said that she was going through what did and he wanted to know what to do. I told him to get her on the Pill immediately. Do not let her suffer anymore than she already has. He took my advice. At least I was able to help her out.
@@savinggift158 I'm sure I could have had children, but I did not want to have children. Both my mother and grandmother had the same problem when they were young. I did have an ectopic pregnancy that resulted in emergency surgery. My fallopian tube ruptured. That was 30 years ago.
It’s odd that people think that if a girl takes the pill to treat a disease , then she will suddenly go out and sleep with all the guys. Both my daughters went on the contraceptive pill at 14. They took it continuously so they didn’t have a bleed and therefore the endometriosis didn’t bleed in their pelvis. Whether or not they had sex was a completely different conversation and one that all parents should have with their children. People seem completely incapable of understanding that a medication can be given to treat different conditions 😢
My 14 yr old daughter was recently diagnosed with a cyst. She has super heavy, long, and irregular periods. We are scheduled to do more testing and another ultrasound. I was told to think about putting her on BC of some sort but also warned about blood clots and other side effects. Trying to make the best decision but overwhelmed with all the info but I don't want her to have to suffer any longer either.
@@hollyshawverwhite I was on a low estrogen pill from 18 to 30 with no issues. But everyone is different. Follow your doctor's advice. It was a God-send to me. I was so grateful to not being sick every 28 days for a week. Thank you for taking care of your daughter. There is no need for her to suffer like that.
When I was 22 I was rushed to the ER by ambulance because of heavy stomach aches after sex. The gyno inisted it was because I was on my period because I was bleeding a little bit. I had to tell three doctors I had a IUD and did not have my period in three years because of it. Finally after a few hours I got a ultrasound and they found out because of sex my IUD moved a bit and caused a cyst in my uterus to burst. Hence the massive pain and bloodloss. After the discovery they shrugged and said. it happens. Doctors just pull the period card anytime a woman has stomach aches. Its just mindblowing
That end part she gave was a reaffirmation for me. When I've mentioned that even my mild cramps feel like they could be early labor pains even my aunt has laughed and said, "absolutely not, you'll definitely know the difference. Trust me, I've had a miscarriage and its nothing like period pain." It's sad that even other women disminishes and down plays the pain of other women. Like no I haven't had a pregnancy, but my mom had 7 kids, sister had 4, and I've been there with and for my cousin when she had 2 miscarriages. Based on what I've seen and heard and read, I'm pretty certain my menstrual pains are similar to labor pains. Every woman handles pain differently, and it's sad that if you handle it "well" then it means you aren't experiencing anything at all to others.
Oh god I’m sorry you go through this..and you ARE correct, period pains do feel like labour pains. The cervix opens around 1cm to let the blood out, while in birth it opens from 1cm to 10cm 🙃
The well fed doesn't understand the hungry. I don't usually have painful periods, like at all. Every single time I had a painful period there was something seriously wrong, but every single one of those times I was dismissed and told that it's just normal. No, for me it's not. And I do not believe that period pains that are so strong that they can prevent you from doing your day to day activities are normal and you have to just get over it. When there's something comlicating your daily life like this, it has to be treated, that's what every sane doctor tells you. Why are periods somehow an exception I don't understand.
unfortunately this is just the way women are treated in the medical industry. my doctor told me that when he was getting his degree, the study books they had were so old and outdated and a lot of the info on women was either not there and just not correct. its very sad, but unfortunately doctors are being taught that this is what you're supposed to do for women, put them on birth control for everything.
It is medical malpractice and with misogynist courts in some countries seriously thinking forcing unwanted pregnancy (which is plain out TORTURE), you can guess how that'd go. Also whith what money, patience and strength. Since when are ppl who need medical help in any place to get busy with legal issues. It's all ridiculous from start to finish
my doctor had to tell me "periods are supposed to be painful. do you hear me? do you understand what im saying???" after i had told him my periods were too painful to the point i had to be bedridden everytime. HE was the one who didnt understand what i was saying. i then told him i was still in pain after taking 2 different heavy painkillers TOGETHER then only he started to understand
I usually have bad period cramps but they're manageable, only a few times I had super bad cramps One was quite recently actually I took 1 painkiller, nothing I took a second, and it kind of worked. It made it so my cramp pain would lighten for a few seconds but then it went straight back to being extremely painful (over and over) So then I took a 3rd and I was fine 2nd worst period cramp comes in a few months before that one, I was on the floor in a ball because of the pain. 2 painkillers did the job though. The first period cramp listed was one of my most shocking, since I never had to take 3 painkillers before
I'm tired of this dumb shit doctors can't just do something when they don't know what's going on bad pain with no actual symptoms isn't much to give doctors they can't use precious resources and waste their time on a bit of pain with no real evidence
@@alexforce9so true. extreme pain is never normal, except in the case of giving birth. anything else has to be problematic. the pain of endometriosis is no joke, it's so painful women can't move or function.
He’s also just straight up not correct though. We have this misconception that all women have painful periods and that we should always expect and just live with pain. But that’s not true. I don’t have any pain with my period. Some women don’t have any pain. Pain is common, yes. But it’s not guaranteed. We don’t talk about how common it is to have and not have pain. Also! Extreme pain is NOT normal.
Oh my god. I'm 24 and just yesterday I was at gynecologist. For the first time in my life she told me it's endo. I was a mess all day, and now I'm crying again
Go on a antiparasite cleanse, every disease is from different types of parasites, including endometriosis! Exterminate those buggers and heal! Avoid sugar, carbs, dairy, that's what feeds them
I'm so sorry.. for me eating a whole food plant based diet has decreased the severity of my endo by like 95%.. turns out meat dairy and processed foods are super inflammatory and really make symptoms worse.. periods still suck but now they are not debilitating.. I hope yours get better too 💗
I had a fibroid the size of a grapefruit. I would bleed so heavily it was ridiculous. I finally had an episode at work and ended up in the ER. I found a doctor who said he would do a hysterectomy. At that point I had 2 sons and didn’t want anymore children. Despite a horrible experience with the nurses after my surgery it was the best thing I ever did. Why did I spend so much time suffering? I believe if you have the life,family, children that you need why go through a monthly ordeal? I believe that women should be in charge of their bodies and if you want a hysterectomy you should be able to get it. Men have vasectomies no questions asked. Women don’t need to suffer every month.
My friend has this and she said exactly the same. There were several nurses who looked in to her room because she didnt make one single sound during giving birth.
Spent my entire childhood begging my mother to bring me to a doctor. I knew my periods weren't normal, bedridden for days due to symptoms, dizziness for hours, etc. The moment I moved out I went to a doctor who was amazing, and got a diagnosis right away. I was put on the right meds and am doing much better.
This was what happened to my mother. I am the “miracle child” that she wasn’t supposed to have. 19 years later she died of ovarian cancer after 3 years of being in and out of the hospital complaining of severe pain and never being taken seriously. This phenomenon is deadly.
Yep, my first period was at 9. On birth control at 11. Passed out from pain several times. Scared people because I would turn so pale with blood loss. A doctor offered a hysterectomy at 17. Was told I would never have children. God blessed me with 2.
Well it is doctors, gynecologists in particular- who've studied the pathologies of a female reproductive system and should be able to diagnose something pretty fundamental as endometriosis - that are dismissing these female patients. It is always a good idea to teach boys and men about periods, but that just isn't enough. We need to take a closer look at how women's anatomy is being taught to medical students, and address the possible misogyny which is leading to the dismissal of women's pain.
@@sushmitaraodesaraju6330bro said “misogyny” 💀. Just stop 😭 ur taking this too extra 😭. It’s definitely not misogyny, it’s the fact that everyone is so used to girls having normal period pain, and not used to girls having the severe ones that rlly hurt them. Stop pinning things on hatred on women 🤦♂️. No one is gunna dismiss a woman that’s feeling so much pain just cuz they hate women. They would if they felt like they were maybe exaggerating it, or they were just used to women having normal cramps, they thought it was nothing more.
@@BearryTae so that it's not such a common misconception that women are overreacting about pain? considering how many men go into these fields i dont see how it's unreasonable at all for all of them to be provided with basic knowledge about half of the population
Thanks for this video. It's so important. At 72, I have finally learned I know my body best. If I don't feel any medical professional has heard me, I move on. You are worth being heard.
I will never understand why doctors dismiss their patients so immediately
Misogyny is a big reason.
@@RedRoseSeptember22No? depending on the place, most countries pay doctors by the patient rather than by the hour
@@RedRoseSeptember22dumb
Money
@annaann348 Yes. Yes, to it being misogyny.
Oppressed groups are treated like idiots who can't be trusted to know themselves. That's *exactly* why, as the video points out, it takes YEARS on AVERAGE for this to get diagnosed.
The doctors hears "this hurts really bad" and thinks "Yeah, sure. Crybaby" because they don't trust women when they speak.
Yep…menstrual pain gets dismissed constantly. Get gaslit into thinking it’s all in the head or over reacting.
It's unfortunate that many people, especially those with menstrual pain, face dismissal and gaslighting. Your comment sheds light on an important issue. It's crucial to advocate for yourself and seek healthcare providers who take your concerns seriously. You're not alone in this experience, and raising awareness about it can lead to positive change.
@@DoctorRich
Please give some advice on what to do for young patients who are stuck in the Medicaid/Poverty/low income bracket?
@@DoctorRichyeah then you advocate for yourself and they roll their eyes at you and treat you like you're being "difficult"
@@idk-jy6cc Keep trying. There is a provider out there for you.
@@nicolesymonds2349 We understand that navigating healthcare when you're in the Medicaid/Poverty/low income bracket can be incredibly challenging. It's a reality many people face, and it can feel overwhelming. While advocating for yourself might seem like an uphill battle, there are still steps you can take:
Research Clinics: Look for community clinics or healthcare centers that specifically serve low-income individuals. They often provide a range of services, including gynecological care, and can be more affordable.
Seek Out Medicaid Specialists: Find healthcare providers who accept Medicaid, as they may have experience dealing with patients in similar situations. Some doctors and clinics are more willing to work with Medicaid patients than others.
Patient Advocacy Groups: Join support groups or advocacy organizations focused on endometriosis or women's health. They can offer advice, resources, and sometimes even assistance in finding affordable care.
Local Assistance Programs: Explore local programs that provide financial assistance or access to healthcare services for individuals with low incomes. These programs can vary by location.
Communication is Key: Don't hesitate to have open conversations with your healthcare provider about your financial situation. They may be able to recommend alternative treatments or connect you with resources.
Remember, you're not alone in facing these challenges. It's a tough situation, but there are resources and people who want to help. Your health is important, and seeking out the right care is a step in the right direction."
“You’ll get use to it” SHOULD never come out of any doctor’s mouth especially if it’s about PAIN
Christianity made most people in this country just hate women. It's why we're ok with taking women's rights away in so many states.
Yap and in my school when I was 12 grade student I was in so much pain for a week before my period and when it did come I had a heavy flow , can't eat food b/c I would throw up it was impossible for me to stand on my feet because of so much pain you know what the school vice director saw me and said I should control the pain and eventually I couldn't stand any more and fell to the ground so my parents came and took me to the hospital and did some tests and as expected I wasn't able to go to shool the next day so that old man put me under his radar because not only I have a very serious type of period pain but also peptic ulcer which is very painful because mine is a severe case and every time he sees me when I am sick he says don't make a big deal out of it and go to your class which is ridiculous
The sad part is the pain is still there despite every medication , I started having periods when I was 10 the unbearable pain started when I was 14 and now even after so may years every time my period came I wouldn't be able to sleep all night or even sit because I would feal pain in that sertain area and can't eat food because I get more sick and throw up and my weight is shockingly dropping
Sorry for ranting I really needed it😅
Sounds like how we got in a pain killer addiction crisis
Watch there be some doctor/nurse with a chip on their shoulder disagree with this in the most UA-cam comments moment ever.
Yeah that doctor should be placed in jail
Its WILD that so many doctors just assume their patient is exaggerating the pain
its because historically women's health wasn't studied or prioritized for very very long time. So our understanding of the female body and specific pathology is still very limited - due to limited research on the matter. Even heart attacks were based on men, so when women presented in with different symptoms doctors would miss it as the presentation was different. Things are slowly changing and through out my medical degree they stressed the importance of these, unfortunately though we still dont have the best treatment options for many of these things (again due to how slow we have been to research these things) but the newer generation of doctors are more aware and hopefully we can change some things with time.
@@zineguri8515 I was talking more in general, but thanks for the info
I put all my fingers down. I had both children with no pain meds and made it to the doctor just 1 hour before I was fully dilated. If it hadn’t been for her dad, I would’ve delivered at home. It felt just like the horrific periods I had growing up.
10 years old for me
Bc they know for decades they have been prescribing addictive narcotic pain medication to the mass population, they think everyone is seeking drugs!
A doctor is someone who is supposed to care for you and treat the root problem not the symptoms , which is what most doctors 😂 I should say Nurse Practitioners do these days. Treat the symptoms long enough to get them out of the office and all looks good in their office and their mind. And do not be in menopause and expect these people to help you.. it is a joke what they do to menopausal women and have been doing for decades!!!!!
I saw an obgyn for two years and he told me all the pain was in my head and to calm down and it would stop. Then a female specialist joined their office. I saw her and she said you have endometriosis and confirmed it two weeks later. She was an advocate for endometriosis and women's health and taugh seminars around the world. I was so lucky to find her.
It's truly fortunate that you found a knowledgeable and compassionate specialist who recognized your symptoms and provided you with the correct diagnosis of endometriosis. Unfortunately, many individuals face skepticism and dismissive attitudes from healthcare providers, so it's heartening to hear about your positive experience. Your story highlights the importance of seeking out specialists who are advocates for women's health and are well-versed in conditions like endometriosis. Thank you for sharing your journey, as it may inspire others to persist in their search for proper care.
It is incredible that the doctor who helped you was willing to partner with a doctor who was invalidating and gaslighting their patients.
And then men get upset when women want only female medical staff. There are just some things that men are not qualified to diagnose since they’ll never know in the slightest what it feels like
@@donnawestbrook8992same thing for me female gp
She is the evidence that feminism is still necessary. Especially when it comes to health.
Why women or young girls are taught to just deal with painful periods is beyond me
Because the world doesn't stop when you're on your period......so we just have to fight thru and hope for the best.....
@@madikoko but the fact that nothing has been developed to help with significant pain and bleeding is ridiculous. regular tylenol and midol doesn’t help .
@@madikokoit's not the 1800s anymore. Periods shouldn't stop you from functioning.
@@idk-jy6cc I've had to lay on the floor at work=multiple different jobs because mine are so bad
When I had my IUD put in they said here's the pain and I legit felt nothing at all. My mom held my hand and said breathe and I asked when they were gonna do it and it was already done.
Mine are so bad my obgyn said to get pregnant, have a radical hysterectomy or just deal with it........
Oh and if I take pain meds other than Aleve I throw them up.
And my cramps are bad enough where I throw up at least every other cycle
@@madikokook but the point is there
Should be more research done so you DONT need to go through that. I’m sorry you have to do manual labor on your period. It would help if there was better treatment but women’s pains are often brushed to the side and we are told to “get over it”. We shouldn’t have to
After 20 years of not being listened to, finally at 30 I discovered I had endo, cysts, and fibroids, and ultimately had to get a hysterectomy. Extremely grateful to have found a doctor that actually HEARD me and cared. Listen to your patients. We know when something is wrong with our own bodies....
It hit SOO HARD when she said labour feels like period pain.😢
Yes!!! Because THAT is exactly what it feels like! My mom finally took me to the Dr. to see if he could help me. He couldn’t. That was decades ago, and the only way I didn’t have VERY painful periods anymore, was to have a baby!!
This is why doctors NEED to listen to their patients
You're absolutely right! Listening to patients and taking their concerns seriously is a crucial aspect of providing proper medical care. It's essential for doctors to be attentive and empathetic to their patients' experiences and symptoms, especially when it comes to conditions like endometriosis or severe period pain. Advocating for oneself and finding healthcare professionals who truly listen and understand is key to getting the right diagnosis and treatment.
@@DoctorRich Hard when you were treated so badly that you suffer from iatrophobia. One further issue that is not taken seriously enough. 😔
They will never do that. It's so much easier to pass the patient off than to try to diagnose. If you stick with that, eventually the patient will stop trying to get help.
This is exactly what happened to me minus the diagnosis of endometriosis.
They just told me it was "normal" to have cysts. And they would come and go.
Quote "You just have a cyst, that's why you're hurting. It's not dangerous. Now here are your discharge papers...."
I'm now an RN and I have to stand by as doctors say this to young women all day every day.
(I work ER)
But I had no trouble getting pregnant.
I had 6 pregnancies by age 25. I have 3 kids.
And now I'm 40.
(My kids are 23, 19, and 15.)
So when I go to the doctor now they say "its probably just menopause". 😂
OH MY GOD EVEN AS A GUY THIS STILL HURTS TO THINK ABOUT
I hate it when doctors ignore clear signs of danger especially in the female reproductive system. The fact that this man has a full PhD, and COMPLETELY shuns you obvious signs of abnormally excessive bleeding that sent you to the ER is beyond me.
Fun fact doctors don't have PhDs usually 😅 they just hand out a doctor's title for MDs because 🤷🏻♂️ we value doctors enough to let them fool us they have a PhD lol..
In med studies they usually have a very insignificant training in how research is conducted, at least in Europe, which should lead to a very decreased ability to read up on new research themselves. In my city, our professors (psych profs) repeatedly tell us they need to go to the Med Uni again to teach them basic stats because they can't do it themselves. And mind you I'm in my masters in psych, my faculty has a huge emphasis on methodology and I'm one of the few interested in stats, and not even I can be sure if I read a paper to always know if even the statistical analysis is that great, my girlfriend in her med studies says she has no idea how to conduct any research whatsoever. So I wouldn't be surprised if someone who got their MD in the 90s was still on that basis of research. Fun facts I know... but some doctors are completely arrogant considering they mostly don't know where their knowledge comes from or if a paper they read had any worth and they still don't listen to the patient in front of them who must know better about what level pain they're feeling than the one who's not feeling it. I'm glad that is not encouraged in Universities that much anymore, but you'd be surprised how much terrible treatment of patients is still taught in Universities, like "oh if the patient is too exhausting don't bother, you need to protect your own stress levels"... instead of teaching effective and empathetic ways to communicate 🙈
nurses should have bigger paycheck than the fucking doctors .. I know that position and education certificate determined someone's salary for most of jobs out there but scratch that.. We all know majority of doctors don't do shit but tell nurses do it for them, some of them even bold to get angry to the busy nurses for a simple task that those doctors could also do.
@@effingeff3981 ^ this. Its seperate but parallel; there is litterally a city in England that has files because of discrimination against women in pay. Male dominate jobs were eligible for a target based bonus (drivers, builders etc) and female were not (services, lunch ladies). Twice.
We litterally have treatments to maximise men's pleasure, but no real awareness of minimising women's pain. I firmly believe 'period pain' is nonsense, because it's a cop out. Combined internal inflammation syndrome or litterally something is very wrong should be researched.
It's worse when it's a female doctor who does it. I had a few who didn't care to try helping with clear issues I had.
It's not just doctors even girls and other women do this. I remember arguing with a woman on a tiktok about this subject and she got SOOO offended when i said that: yes, while periods are painful they aren't supposed to be extremely painful and if they're painful enough to send you to the ER it means that there is something physically wrong with you.
Both her and many many girls in that comment section started coming after me attacking me and acting super offended saying that not all periods are the same and some are just more painful and how it's such a shame on me for assuming i know what they're going through..
My gf has _clear_ endometriosis and I was actually the one to tell her this first. (Saw my single mom struggle from it before surgery and my gfs mom is very abusive so she never learned anything about what is or is not normal) I’m afraid if she goes to someone they aren’t going to diagnose her, meanwhile she suffers terribly to the point of asking me to “rip it out” of her in excruciating pain. Even if her condition is so blatantly obvious, hearing stories that women go through I wish I could just be there with her to make sure they aren’t dismissive and that I’ve lived it beside her as proof.
I feel like crying when you say she wants you to rip it out. If you're able to then please take her to a doc as soon as possible.
I hope your gf recovers
nothing but love to your gf
Personally ive found that drs take me way more seriously if i bring my bf with me. Gynos allow ppl to bring partners and might allow partners to stay in the room for exams
This is terrifying. I’m a girl and I have cysts and terrible pain, for years they’ve Made me take birthcontrol… what do I do??? They tell me the cysts are too small for removal and I’m “too young” (I’m fucking 20) to make a decision that could impact my reproductive health
Having a period as painful as GIVING BIRTH, is NOT something to get used to.
Most of my periods was that bad, until I had a baby. Then they were much, much better!!
Yea all periods feel like giving birth 😂 your uterus is contracting the same
@@Beanboi2225 good to know, I've been practicing for labor for 18 years then 😂
*”You have absolutely no idea what im feeling you say im overreacting and im not at all”* is what every girl will say once in life
Fr lol. As doctors, they should do better, but women should know that a lot of girls and other women loooooove to embellish the pain so not everyone would assume something is wrong since every girl in the world claims it's painful
Edit: Just like the comment below mines do, women healthcare workers may also dismiss the claims. I'm more so inclined to believe that more Women healthcare workers ignore the period pain complaints compared to men; especially now with more and more women in the workforce and younger male healthcare workers who are passionate.
I might not know if they are embellishing their pain, but when you can't SHUT UP about it for 40+ years it gets extremely tiring to hear and believe. But that's exactly what I'm referring to, the pain is so mainstream and different from person to person y'all really act like women can't deal with it, and if it's as painful as you people say then why not go elsewhere to get treated? America isn't the only place on Earth.
The craziest shit is there will be WOMEN gynecologist who do the same thing their male colleagues do, ignore and dismiss.
More than once
Once. Lol. I wish it was just once. 🤦♀️
@@KnownPhoenix Because it is very painful.
“But then you don’t know if you’re in labor because going into labor feels exactly like a period”
That line hit me so hard,I genuinely wish this girl is doing better because this sentence just shows how much pain she actually went through.
The thought of having period pain that is so severe it feels like you are in labour every month from the age of 12 is just really depressing
That's the part that hit me. I've had 4 kids and if I had that pain when I was 14 I would have thought I was dying. 😢 I always heard it was painful but didn't realize it was that bad.
I've experienced a similar situation for over two decades where my body mimicked labor pain during periods. It's horrific! Though I'm better now after going through multiple gynecologists
Holy shit, I'm lucky and don't have strong periods and strong cramps/pain, just some cramps sometimes, and they hurt, sure, but they are over in like 5 minutes. The fact that women are walking around having cramps that feel like contractions and gynecologists are like "nothing we can do about it 🤷🏼♀️" pisses me off to no end. I'm sending love to all the women who are plagued by bad period cramps or endometriosis.
Fr , I hope she is okay.
Doctors should be able to be charged with maltreatment and mispractice in this kind of scenario
Assuming it’s in the US, we pay a lot of money to get treated, you would think we’d get pretty damn good care considering how much we pay, but there are so many malpractice cases it’s insane
@@RichielaurensIII Exactly. Most people don't have the resources (funding) to pursue the charge/case. Lots of medical personnel practicing that have treated patients poorly
Fr
I have never been able to have a baby because doctor's disregarded my "period pain" in middle school, which was later found to be an ovarian cyst that had grown to the size of an orange while they ignored my pain. They took being able to make a baby from me.
Yes every doctor that ever makes a mistake should be sued.
Get real, people make mistakes, people are busy and doctors are people. If you expect only perfection from doctors then maybe there won’t be any doctors. But I’d bet you’d be mad about that too.
My mom definitely had endometriosis and didn't know. As a teen, she'd faint from her cramps, and when she was in labor with me, she didn't feel a single contraction. The doctor was completely shocked.
Afterwards, every time she'd gets her period (10+ days), she'd bleed through the maximum absorbency tampon + pads in an hour. Her gyno kept telling her that he wouldn't give her a hysterectomy because she could have more kids. Luckily, she went to another gyno who immediately did the hysterectomy and found 2 huge uterine fibroids. He saved her life.
Preserving fertility shouldn't be the top priority for doctors - it should be making sure their patients are heard and treated properly!! If they need a hysterectomy to be able to live normally, imaginary children and husband's should have no say in the treatment plan.
Source: it took me 24 years from initially asking to getting sterilized, was finally diagnosed with endo. No talks about options, just bingos.
I hope she informed her first doctor!
When doctors disregard your symptoms because you're young and apparently young people don't have pathologies.
they deserve a good slap across the face
He should have done an assessment of her pain levels. But periods are painful (painful meaning it can cause PAIN, like in crmap9ng ehich is normal due to chemicals being released), that's not a lie. It just depends on HOW painful.
Not just young.
I in March 2020 reported I was malnourished but eating plenty and my stool was an alarming color with side pains like an organ was trying to slowly push out... doctor, even a woman, said stomach virus, likely to pass.
I had to push back twice to at least get blood work, because I worried one of my organs was failing.
They never came back around. I just did several things to assist my biome and healthy bacteria, but if I pause supplements and heavy culture consumption (prebiotic, yogurt, etc) all my symptoms return.
Because you're a *woman.
They disregard adults too. Listen to horror stories about women going into labor from a doctor putting an iud in while telling the woman there aren't any nerves down there.
The fact that her pain was so strong that she was used to it as period cramps is crazy. That poor women, we need to do better. I'm sorry that happened to her.
I couldn’t help but cry at this. My friend in high school would be crying in the locker room, and had to be carried home.
I passed out from pain on the stairs, got up, went to class, and ended up having to have my teacher pick me up off the floor and put me in a wheel chair.
The doctor gave me 200 more MG of ibuprofen 🙃
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@@taeanna1644prayers ops
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@@taeanna1644that's terrible
I would like to say as a side note for society, a grown MAN told a 12 YEAR OLD GIRL that "all periods are painful" and "you'll get used to it". That angers me on a whole new level
-btw ik not many men are like this, but some need to hear themselves sometimes!!
I remember going into labor and was impressed that there was a break between the pains, unlike a period where the pain was constant.
Im just so happy she had her baby and didn't miss that. She'll use the things shes been through to be the best mother. Still horrific story. Hope she sues that gynecologist.
Yes!! My nurse asked me what my pain scale was and I said "3 or 4 it just feels like my period" she just gave me a blank stare and said " you need to get that checked out. Periods shouldnt hurt like youre dialated 8cm"
@@Sara-Eevtea I had both babies with no pain killers and until the end, say the last three centimeters, it was bearable.
I didn't have a break for that
I had all 3 of mine full term without any meds, other than being induced with my first which they say pitocin contractions are the worst. Endo pain started in ‘08, thought it was my appendix, and had 5 operations from ‘08 to ‘18 and by some miracle had babies in ‘13, ‘17 and ‘19. And none of their births even touched my endo pain levels.
The fact that there are countless women who experience medical gaslighting on this shows that we need to hold doctors accountable. They need to be sued or lose their license
Everywhere is like this even more so with someone like her cuz as many doctors have told me " you are too young to have problems with your body"
I think female doctors should be the go-to for women problem since they understand how and what level of pain a period should be... honestly if all doctors for women problems were men then we would have the catholic church from 600 years ago again but as doctors instead of priests this time
@@IsntmycatcuteThe doctor who told me my throwing-up-from-the-pain levels of pain during periods was normal was female.
@@cassandrakraft5712 i understand that but im talking about the general situation, where i live, ive actually never met a woman that visits a male doctor for her problems.
Besides it also has a lot to do with the country you live in since in some countrys doctors are actually indirectly asked to blame alot of problems on periods. Ive heard storys about a doctor getting fired for telling the patient run some tests instead of asking her when was her last period and telling her to take a pregnancy test....
@@Isntmycatcute I think that the concept of "A f3male specialist would do it better" is quite idealistic, I had female gynecologists who dealt with my pain with a "All women deal with it and you're not dy!ng" and a f3male psychologist who would try to convince me that what was happening was not mis0gyny or abus3 because it's already the norm in society
I have had better experience with male specialists in general, they have the attitude of "I'm not a woman so I don't know how serious what you're going through is, so I'm going to listen to you and take your concerns seriously because you're my patient and I care about your health"
I'm not saying that there aren't female specialists who do their jobs well, but if they do, they won't do it because they are women. But for being good professionals.
I want to also mention how grateful I am to the doctors I’ve had who listened to me the first time and gave me adequate pain medicine.
Same Dr Andelin always treats me like a human being, like were a team. He teaches other students too :the patient will always tell you whats wrong". he didnt just mean listen to thier words and everything they say he also meant look at thier body language, have they showered are they healthy at home. Hes the only doctor i asked for when things got really bad and he took care of me like hes supposed to. the only doctor im not afraid of. I know i can count on him no matter how many other doctors fail me.
Pain medicine shouldn't be given recklessly. Doctors should find the source of the pain and treat it
@lizz3226 some things can't be fully treated, some times all we can do is manage it with pain meds. My mom has ostio and degenerative bone disease, her bones are too messed up and brittle for them to fix so all she can do is take pain killers to manage the pain.
Its a proven fact women are undertreated in hospitals. Often, our pain is dismissed or ignored until the problem is life-threatening. I had a doctor claim I was nothing but a drug seeker and had me removed by security. I was back in the hospital two days later when I had gone septic and my eyes were yellow. My gallbladder was about to burst. I needed immediate invasive surgery. If they had just believed me, it would have been a standard gallbladder surgery and wouldn't have required 6 months' recovery.
Two years of pain shooting down my legs, feeling like something was lodged into me, and heaviness in my abdomen. Several doctors and scans and no one found anything. Went to one last doctor and she diagnosed me with endometriosis in five minutes. We did an exploratory surgery and there it was the whole time. I also had a cyst that twisted on itself and was starting to become necrotic. The surgery saved my life. Don’t walk around in pain. It is not normal. It is not in your head. There are still good doctors out here that listen and won’t stop until they get you an answer.
Thank you for taking the time to leave this comment. I have all the same symptoms and have been ignored for so long by my doctor's and made to feel like I'm going crazy or making stuff up that I just decided to ignore it. I get scared thinking if I keep ignoring it there might be no hope for me 😕 But just something about you being so real with your symptoms and what you went through kinda makes me feel not so alone and that I do need to keep fighting for an answer so again thank you for your comment 🙏☺️
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This brought tears to my eyes if only the doctors had taken her seriously the first time
Im dealing with this right now. Seeing this just made me lose it. So many doctors never taking me seriously. Here i am at 26. I get pregnant this time last year, told obgyn about my severe endo and pcos . She didnt listen, nor take any blood, etc. I lost my baby due to medical negligence. My first pregnancy....after being told at 16 by a DOCTOR "Yea youll probably never get pregnant naturally" like he was telling me the weekly weather prediction....like it was nothing. My body came thru, proved me wrong. Then my baby was gone, from something that could have been prevented JUST FROM TAKING MY BLOOD.
@@katelyncalcutt6776I hope you find a good doctor 😢
@@katelyncalcutt6776I am so sorry to hear that. I hope things work put for you. Good job at getting pregnant in the first place, that's a good sign. With any luck this goes on your record as something to look out for.
I know thus isn't an invitation to share my story but I really need too, this nonsense messes with me daily.
Got my first period at 9 and it was incredibly painful then it stopped.Then it came back at 12 and every school year from 12-14 I'd miss around 3-6 days a month because my period was insanely painful and insanely heavy. Constant visits to the ER and they constantly said I was fine it's just normal cramps. In the middle of my 9th grade year in my drama class I passed out. While doing a monolouge doctor's finally admitted me to the hospital without even telling my parents why. I had a 19 centimeter tumor inside my ovary. We didn't find out why I had gotten moved to the surgery floor into the day of my surgery, and when the nurse practitioner came in she at first refused to do the surgery. They had to get the actual surgery team instead of the gyno team to remove the tumor. It was germ cell tumor, and I ended up with stage 2 advanced ovarian cancer. If the doctors would have removed the Tumors (there wasn't just 1 it was actually 3, 2 on my right side, one on my left) Sooner I would probably be in remission by now. I had to drop out of my performing arts high-school, and I've been put completely on virtual all because the doctors refused to help a teenager because it could've been her "anxiety"
@@LetsGaurr424 I dont know why people are so evil.. I hope you recover well🌹
Knew a girl in my school that had her appendix burst and ignored it because it just felt like a period cramp
Oh my fucking god
Did she live???? Appendix bursts are no joke. I thought I had one, so they treated me seriously at the hospital, but it was something else
@@RichielaurensIII im pretty sure she did, she took heapsss of time off though. i dont entirely remember, i barely knew her
It’s genuinely alarming the amount of people who have said appendix bursting pain is comparable to their period cramps. But apparently you can tell the difference if you press on your abdomen. If it gets significantly worse after releasing, it’s your appendix.
That happen to me. OMG. That my go to I’m a badass story. I mean it suck almost dying and all but it a cool story.
Getting a competent doctor is key. I spent a number of years cuddling a heating pad to get through the pain of my periods, but never complained to my doctor because most young women back then (1985) were told to buck up and that period pain was normal. When I finally mentioned it to my (amazing) doctor, he had me scheduled for a diagnostic laparoscopic procedure immediately and found a fair amount of endometriosis. My sister had just been diagnosed and lost an ovary, then later lost everything and could not have children. Debilitating period pain is not normal. If your doctor says that it is, get a new doctor! It’s not just about the pain, but also about your ability to conceive.
Here's some advice: if you tell a doctor you're having pain and they do nothing, HAVE THEM MARK IT IN YOUR CHART THAT *YOU* TOLD THEM AND THEY DID NOTHING. So that down the line, if there really was an issue, they can get in trouble for dismissing your issues. Say you complain about sudden migraines and your doctor doesnt follow up with any tests, then months later you are rushed to the ER with a braon tumor, that doctor will be shamed and looking into for failing to do their job. Lets hold doctors accountable for NOT doing their jobs.
yes yes yes!! I felt the need to comment just so this gets seen higher up.
@seachingona thank you! A friend of mine mentioned this to me about a year ago and now i tell people anytime i see an appropriate chance. It's important that people know they have options, no matter how small they may seem at the time, it could be really helpful in the long run!
That's a good idea that I will start doing. I'm so tired of bringing up legitimate health issues only to be dismissed and told it's in my head or I just need to think the pain away, that I don't even want to go in to see any of my doctors. I don't understand how someone would want to go into a field where they're supposed to help people only to not actually want to help.
This works so long as you physically see them enter it into the chart. But just telling them “put this in my chart” is unfortunately not a guarantee of anything.
They don’t “do nothing” they just give you a pill. That’s all they ever do. They never tell you than PCOS is reversible.
OH MY GOD, this woman literally underwent pregnancy-level pain every month and her doctor just said "lmfao whoops" BROO
even worse 1 in 10 women have it. It's THAT common and doctors dismiss it so much
EVEN WORST when a doctor does think you have endometriosis but the MRI/CT/Ultrasound doesn't show it for 100% certainty, but you have all of the symptoms and you experience CHRONIC PAIN (horrible period-like pain, but not only on your period), you still don't count as a patient with endometriosis and you don't get all the help you need (:
***You need surgery to get a diagnosis/help and when you're young no one wants to take the risk
@@cybergalacticnovacould i be one of those women 😥
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@@noasoher4409that could just simply be because they’re scared of misdiagnosing. We need to develop a better way to test for it so this scenario doesn’t happen as often
Yep. The early 90s, doctors just pat you in the head and jokingly say: it's just normal cramping, wait until you give birth...
(I gave birth natural with less pain than my period cramps.)
It's disheartening to hear that many people had their pain dismissed by doctors in the past. Thankfully, awareness about conditions like endometriosis has improved over the years, and medical professionals are now more attuned to recognizing and treating these issues. It's essential to continue sharing our experiences to raise awareness and ensure that others don't have to go through the same dismissals and misunderstandings.
Really😢... I heard childbirth is the worst and I am scared for it
Because your body produces hormones to reduce pain ,
@@HakunaMatata-gr9mmhow old are u?
@@HakunaMatata-gr9mm Depends. For some people it was effortless and for some it quite literally endangered their life. You'll hear all types of experiences from mothers.
This happens so much it's sad. Had to get cancer before my pain was paid attention to.
I love how almost any female problem is supposed to be solved by getting on the birth control pill.
"female problem"
@@suki9268 when I typed that first comment,I had things like cramps, heavy periods, PMS, etc in mind. But looking at your comment, I'm reminded that we females can be a whole lot of "problem" in many ways! LoL 😂
As a person who’s doctor prescribed me birth control, yeah it doesn’t help for everyone but it can help minorly at least
Or having a baby
Which funny enough causes its own problems women get gaslit into thinking is not because of it (weight gain, depression, etc, im looking at you, "not a symptom of birth control")
To all the teachers who wouldn’t let you go to the bathroom.
Never had a teacher stop me from going to bathroom. Graduated from jr high in 1963; from high school in’68.
Our schedule is not built to allow us time to change pads! Because some kids destroyed the bathrooms one time, they had it so we can’t go to the bathroom twenty minutes at the beginning or end of class. But in the middle is when teachers are teaching and also won’t allow you to go to the washroom 🥲🥲
Oh honey I’m holding my students hair back and getting them water while they puke in my trash can while trying to teach at the same time because our god damn nurse quit. There’s nothing I can do about it. I’m not even legally allowed to give ibuprofen.
@@margomoore4527Congrats, I guess? A lot of teachers these days will stop people from going to the bathroom. I had a college professor that would berate you if you dared to leave your chair in an 8 am class.
what want a medal or something?@@margomoore4527 Its 2023. Time have def changed.
This is wayyy too common unfortunately. I am 40 and went undiagnosed for over 25 years. I even suggested that it may be Endo. They always dismissed me. I have never gotten to have children and I fear its too late now. We need more doctors that actually listen and care💯
This is my story too. 😢
if ur gyno was a dude, thats probably why...
This is pretty much my story too. 😭
It's definitely too late it's usually already late at 30's but usually 35 though my mom had my brother at 31 but when you get pregnant later and later after your 20s the possibility of the child being disfigured and/or mentally incapable vastly increases such short time but it's never well can be too late to have a child bio but it can happen not to well into your 40 I think it's kinda a little too old now but adoption is always a choice but on the other hand you could be a cool aunt or get you egg hopefully successfully harvested to have another mid 20 woman carry it not the best choices but it's quite grim but it's kinda all bye chance. Note if I got anything wrong I'm open to suggestions. But it's not looking good out there but there's a chance :/
@@Insitika My aunt had her daughter at 40, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with her (deaf in one ear from ear infections, but that's it). She's really smart and lives a great life. Yes, there's higher concern for complications, but you can deliver a healthy baby at 40.
I’m so sorry she went through this. Absolutely horrific the way medicine has failed women
this is so validating. i’ve always had horrendous period cramps. i would cry and scream and be genuinely paralyzed by the pain. everyone always told me i was either lying or exaggerating the pain. when someone asks me, i always compare it to giving birth (i have not given birth). i know it sounds crazy but i swear the pain is UNREAL. my heart goes out to you girl ❤
Sorry to hear that. Its brain breaking that its that painful. I feel that 'period pain' is a bs term to minimise things. Like, there must be more going on then just the uterus being a, well, C.
I've never had cramps so the only thing I can liken it to is gallbladder. I wonder if it is actually the gall bladder playing silly buggers, that would explain the extreme pain. Why research it though if women are *willing* to *put up with it* 😑
I have gone into labor and my period pain feels just like labor. I believe you. And I'm sorry you're experiencing this. I've been there with people, and doctors, thinking I'm either lying or exaggerating. I understand your frustration. It used to be devastating to me. Like why would I make that up? I will say, I have more people believe me after I went into labor. Which I don't really agree with. Just because you haven't gone through labor doesn't mean you don't know what pain is or how bad something hurts. All that means to me is now I have something to compare it to. It doesn't take away the fact that before then it was just as terrible. The thing that irritates me more now is hearing "Well, we just don't know enough about this or that because there hasn't been enough sufficient research in that area." This isn't to discourage you. I believe you should try and find a good doctor to help. Get as many second, third whatever opinions as you can. And I know it's hard, but try not to let the people who don't take you seriously get you down. Most of the time, I've found it's just ignorance on their part. Not always though. Some just don't care. I'm just an internet stranger, but I believe you, you're not alone. I wish you luck on finding ways to help and finding a doctor that believes you too. They are out there. So are other people that will believe you too.
Same within 2 yrs my periids will be so bad that i will faint but luckily with the pill i can manage it better but how is that normal... i dont seem to have endometriosis but im still very confused how this is normal... you shouldent faint from period pain, how is that normal...
@@emiliebollansee7059 that's maddening. You are litterally bleeding so why wouldn't your blood pressure be all wonk? Have a chocolate bar on me. Cadburys always sorts me out at that time, but if your in the states might not get them.
My period started when I was 8 years old and I'm currently on mine at the moment 😢
Women need so much more support than the world offers them. 😭
They have a fk ton of support wdym
@@astrumnacht6015Are you actually slow, did you even watch the video
@@dreamy_daze4 yes sir yes I did
@@astrumnacht6015You’re a man, aren’t you?
@@astrumnacht6015 they are victim blamed, r@ped, forced to have a baby at 8 if they are impregnanted by a r@pist. Any healthcare is ignored, and you're seen as nothing more than a uterus. And when you do have a baby, your comfort is pushed aside for the doctor's ease.
My first ever period was 6 weeks long and so painful I would throw up and pass out but I was too embarrassed to tell anyone. Eventually a teacher pulled me aside and I told her and she was like “Taylor that’s not normal” that was at 13 I didn’t get a diagnosis until 17. I’ve had 4 surgeries and had to finish high school online and lost jobs because of it. I now openly speak about endo and encourage others to speak up and understand that incredibly painful periods are NOT normal. Endo and other issues need to be openly discussed in schools.
Why would u be embarrassed??? Lol Ik people who have the slightest pain and act like they need to be airlifted out of the room lol my mom being one of them. We were shopping at a luxury place and she had a CRAMP and sat down on the couch and started WAILING andSCREAMING. I was so mf embarassed. An employee massaged her and she didn’t even tip him I’m so horrified 😭😭😭 but anyway lesser degrees of that theatrics is pretty common in my area lol I live in he PH
@@OO_sunflower_OO because 15+ years ago you never even said the word period in front of anybody. It was something that was never openly discussed it was rushed over as a puberty talk but beyond that it was never mentioned. It was just a different time (god I feel old saying that)
Luckily everyone is more open today myself included. I just wish I had someone from the very start telling me that I wasn’t crazy so I try and be that person today so some scared little teenager no longer feels shunned or kept in the dark.
my periods are never painful, am I having a period or did my vagina wall pop?
Oh poor dear 😢. I hope you are okay now. Sorry I don't have much knowledge about this I'll surely reasearch about the things you mentioned.
@@OO_sunflower_OOtbf you never know how bad someone else's cramps are, a lot of people dismiss women's pain as exaggerating, even other women. We need to sympathise and believe women about their pain in the first instance
My friend died after years of "they're just painful periods"
I'm so sorry...😔😔
My deepest condolences....
I am so sorry
mate no they didn’t
@@rushyeditlol are you god? Do you watch what happens in everyone’s life? No, you don’t so shut up.
I remember my dad literally having to go into the gynaecologist with me.
This was after years of me begging them to at least check for any issues and getting nos and that I just had “heavy periods”. My dad had a little notepad of my symptoms that id been tracking and had also looked after me with my mum during my periods so saw how bad they were. He expressed this to the doctor ONCE didn’t even need to reiterate and I was immediately given the option of a laparoscopy which then gave me my endometriosis diagnosis at 17. Surprisingly I cried with joy when they told me I had it (I think a lot of commenters here can relate) because I’d been made to believe I was crazy for years and it’s was nice to prove everyone wrong and also get treatment before it was too late.
Too many women arnt as lucky as I was and it’s awful. We shouldn’t need to beg and we ESPECIALLY shouldn’t need our dads to speak for us
Wow. I am speechless. They didn’t believe you. But when your dad went with you, they believed and did proper diagnosis. If this is not discrimination against women, I don’t know what this is. This is so infuriating. And people say we don’t need women empowerment movements. We need it everywhere in the world.
It’s crazy how I would always look at my mother for her to speak for me to the doctor,,, I just wonder what would they say if I was the one speaking 🤔
@@lildiamond6235I doubt it's sexism. It's was probably because she was young. So when an adult was vouching for how serious it was, and people are more likely to take an adult over a teenager seriously, that's when it became urgent. It's a problem with age, not sex.
We do live in a sexist society, but it's not against women. As a woman saying this, I could completely ruin my boyfriend's life on just my word alone. That's because of the female empowerment movements and feminism. It happens all over the place all the time.
@@deadshotruby6667then why do so many women have stories in which they didn't have a man to speak for them (ew) and ended up diagnosed at 35, 45 , 55 even though they spent decades as adults and doctors didn't listen?
It's the sexism. It's the misogyny. Pick-me is a bad look on you.
@@MuchToDoAboutNowt When men have a higher suicide rate than women, I think calling me a pick me girl goes out the window. It's not just women who get misdiagnosed or ignored either. It happens to everyone. Again, not sexism, just doctors not taking their patients seriously.
This message is for everyone: If a doctor dismisses your pain, find another doctor. They’ll dismiss you again. It’s your health and your life. Don’t gamble with it.
my own mother dismissed my excruciating period pains. would tell me to "walk it off"
turns out i had 3cm cysts in my ovaries every now and then
she only understood my pain after she had multiple cysts in her womb and needed surgery.
I had a 5cm cyst in my ovary. I think I had another cyst in my ovary rupture last night I was in so much pain.
yall ever wonder how men feel when told to man up
@@swellswagalBro are legit comparing THIS?
@@swellswagal indeed, I do feel bad for you men, but bro, you can't really compare that to the pain of giving birth being felt every single month for 7 days, then being told to walk it off. Come on.
@@swellswagal join the 80% lil bro
We need more female doctors
Unfortunately, that doesn't necessarily help at all.
yeah I had both male and female doctors and the gender really isn't an indicator how they will treat you
No we need more educated and sympathetic docters.
I didn't get treatment until I got a male doctor, actually. He was well versed in endometriosis and cysts and was able to get my surgeries covered by my insurance. Gender is less of the issue, it's being informed and willing to do the extra tests to find the answers that makes the better doctor
huh?
I hate the question "why do you want a female doctor" this is one of the many reasons
plot twist: she was seeing a female doctor this whole time
@@callusniegier5056nah, she said "he" a couple of times during the video.
@@callusniegier5056 another plot twist: she said “he” multiple times and your comprehension skills are bad
But I mean…also props to the doctor who’s post this literally is, who to me at least appears to be male. I’ve had wonderful male and female doctors. It doesn’t always have to be so black and white
Female doctors can be just as faqed in the head. I had one who didn't want to prescribe me nasal allergy cream because "that's nothing a young lady should use" and then a few weeks later she overdosed me on a pain shot when I had a slipped disk because she overestimated my weight because apparently if you don't weigh 45kg you're morbidly obese and need to be shot with an safari rifle like some elefant. Gosh I still hate that chic. I'll never forget that feeling of being in horrible pain and slipping in and out of consciousness.
My daughter went through the same thing. So many uppity dismissive doctors. Finally, after a few decades, she was fortunate to find a great doctor who listened and helped.
This is real. My period feels exactly like a miscarriage. Speaking from experience.
Edit: thank you for all the kind words 💖 I'm doing OK. It was a good opportunity to become more aware of my body and its needs. Blessings 🙌 to you 🙏
That's so sad. I'm sorry 😢
I'm so sorry ❤
So sorry!! 😔 much love!! ❤
I’m so sorry for your loss🕊️❤️
i’m so sorry
its so extremely frustrating having periods be constantly downplayed and dismissed as normal.
edit: i seem to have caused some misunderstanding, periods are completely normal obviously. but some ppl get extremely painful and/or irregular periods and this can be caused by something else but alot of doctors (especially male ones) just prescribe the pill and move on. i have said multiple times to multiple doctors that the pill just doesn’t work for me yet its seems to be their only solution and its quite annoying. (not discouraging the pill but it doesn’t work for everyone)
Shirley, but some doctors are experts on downplaying anything really from a broken bone to a severed limb...
having periods are normal
@@z4kiaathank you captain obvious. That's not the point obviously. Periods are normal. Light cramping pains from the shedding are normal. Debilitating pain to the point you cannot stand, is not normal and is dismissed as normal because of people that just ignore women and say "periods are normal".
@@arsenbrooks438Icl I’ve never heard anyone who said that periods that hurt to the point they cant stand, is normal 💀 everyone would rush over to see if they’re okay if that happened what r u on ab. It’s also rlly annoying that girls compare normal period cramps to giving birth which is just so false 😭 my mum says that giving birth is one of the worst pain a woman could go through i’ve never heard her complain ab a period 🤦♂️
@@yobask8855 Your experience is not gospel. Many doctors ignore this, that was the whole point of this video that I guess you just ignored? Some women have period cramps so painful it is as bad as giving birth and they are ignored. Idk why you want to argue against this when we have so many personal stories from these women who have experienced this. We have statistics on women being ignored by doctors but I guess real life statistics have nothing on your singular perspective. 🙄
Edited for grammar and to add that your mom never complaining about periods means jack shit and basing your entire opinion on this very real topic on your mom's experiences is indicative of an immature child that hasn't lived or experienced much yet.
When she said that she couldn't recognise the fact that she went into labour because it felt like having her period... Literal chills down my uterus. I can't believe how ignorant that gynaecologist was. In my opinion medical staff should never ignore it when someone says they have a symptom unless they're absolutely sure nothing is wrong. It's better to have wasted some time and resources for diagnosis than to be in a much worse stage later and go through so much pain and trauma
You're absolutely right. It's essential for medical professionals to take their patients' symptoms seriously and conduct thorough evaluations to rule out potential health issues. Ignoring symptoms or dismissing them can lead to delayed diagnoses and unnecessary suffering. Trusting patients' accounts of their experiences and being proactive in investigating potential problems is a crucial part of providing quality healthcare. It's unfortunate when medical staff overlook or downplay symptoms, and it's something that needs to change for the well-being of patients.
@@DoctorRich I'm glad I'm right 😭. My sister's studying to be a doctor and I hope she'll be an awesome one
Because women's suffering is seen as normal, unfortunately. It's not only a problem of crappy physicians, it's a societal one.
@@camilleroblin5005 well I somewhat agree but in this case the gynaecologist was definitely in fault for their ignorance
My mum too.
I went thru 25 painful years of undiagnosed endometriosis and pcos! Had several d and c to remove uterine cysts and have never gotten a proper diagnosis. Always told the problems are in my head and to just learn to live with it. It caused me to become sterile. Don't let this happen to you. Keep searching for a good doctor who will listen to you. It could save your life! ❤
I swear to god, if any of my male friends ever tell me I’m overreacting, they’re getting a shoe to the unholy region
Hmm.. let's have you bleed from your ass all day with cramps, see how you like it dude
-All women to men who say that 'your just dramatic'
bro ill help you beat up ur friends if they spout that shit-
my family is like this. I’ve literally had suicidal ideation bc of how much pain I was in.
And I'll be waiting to lecture them about overreacting 🧐🥳
@@antagonist_in_a_bag Hey thanks dude
I relate to the labor one. I have endometriosis and labor was actually...easier than normal periods.
I was just thinking the same thing.
@@annem951 As someone with endo this is both comforting and not at the same time 😅 going to the gyno is a process because just a check up can be painful. I really fear having a baby, but also thankful I have an incredible pain tolerance...ish
Jesus. That’s terrible
Then you must all be wonderful people
That sucks
My gynecologist helped my mom deliver me 27 years ago and she was the only one that ever listened to me. She was an infertility doctor and made an exception for me when I first starting having periods like this at 12. She even had to give me medications to stop my periods because they were so heavy. Well she retired and since then everyone that I have been to gives these same responses. I have scars and cysts all over my ovaries and I’m just “being dramatic”. Healthcare sucks 😒
Send e-mails to doctors ahead with your situation to see who is willing to help you. I heard in other countries it's hard for women.
The doctor that dismissed her deserves to lose his license.
HERE IS WHAT EVERYONE SHOULD LEARN:
Periods may be a little uncomfortable. They may also give you some GI upset. YOUR PERIOD SHOULD NEVER BE SO PAINFUL AS TO INTERFERE WITH YOUR DAILY ACTIVITIES. If your doctor ignores you, insist on getting treatment, or go to a different doctor. For everyone out there dealing with this - it doesnt have to be like this.
i know I'm shocked when i hear girls talk about these kind of period cramps and pain, bc that's not how it is for me or other females in my family. I only had the period pains, while having some hormonal problem and was given medications that caused it, so i had pain killers for it too, but once i was off med i was good. Btw the medication i was on was hormonal birth control, it makes me wonder if there was a correlation there... but now im suffering from the side effect of taking birth control from age 13 to 20... pray for me... luckily i'm not dying from heavy bleeding anymore caused by hormonal imbalances ( so the dr. said) and apparently it's more common in teens nowadays.
This.
Periods can be uncomfortable, but nothing ibuprofen won't fix. It should never be so painful you're having trouble living.
I have been blessed with periods that are light and not painful at all. But I have a sister in law who's periods are so bad she can't stop herself from screaming. I can't help but empathise with people that have to live with this, because I see it. I don't feel it, but I would do anything to help her feel better in that moment.
@@mariannepoirier2552 yes exactly, I'm glad Ibuprofen helps you! I hope she gets a diagnosis soon so something can be done about this
My periods are horrifically painful and I did once go to the ER for it, but it's usually nothing two-four ibuprofen won't fix. Should I still consider endometriosis as a possible explanation?
@@annate1721 Probably, yes.
It should never send you to the emergency room.
I'm happy to hear ibuprofen works for you. I was saying that mostly when ibuprofen is not even enough to get you through the pain, it's extremely worrying.
But you shouldn't have to go to the ER for something like a period, because it should be a normal part of your life. So that in itself is worrying.
I hope you can get the help you need.
This needs to be covered more thoroughly in the medical community
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Question that I'm genuinely curious about. Can you sue medical staff for gaslighting and neglect like this???
Yes! At least where I live you can demand to see your patient information. What they wrote down. Take pictures of the lack of tests. Tests that could have avoided years of pain and you know basically being infertile. That's medical neglect. And I think if we all made a big group we could go as far as sue the education system that enables this kind of neglect specifically towards women. It might not give us any financial but it might be symbolic enough for them to finally tell doctors to LISTEN TO WOMEN AND DO THE REQUIRED TESTS
Why do Americans want to sue for everything
@@estridwittner4649not all Americans always sue for anything and everything and also in this case the patient was neglected and always told she was fine when it should have been looked into more before her pain was assumed to be period pain so she would have the right to sue because you can’t just ignore a patient if they are feeling pain, it should always be checked before assuming it’s something else
@@estridwittner4649 in this case, they're right..
@@estridwittner4649 Because everyone sues for everything, not just Americans. If anything, it's good they know a thing or two around laws.
You poor woman! Women's concerns are so often dismissed out-of-hand 😢 This is an important video. Thank you!
I am so thankful the obgyn I saw when I was 19, immediately mentioned endometriosis & recommended a laparoscopy to make sure, he didn’t brush off my pain (when things aren’t meant to be painful such as intercourse or certain positions while sitting), he asked very involved questions. I cried because it was the first time a doctor actually listened to me.
I'm so glad my doctor basically grilled me to make me explain my pain specifically and make sure I know that its not normal to be in debilitating/horrific pain. She explained that many people think terrible period pain is alright, but it isn't, and I should speak up if I am struggling. She is amazing! I am so sorry for all the people who are ignored and dismissed by their obgyns when they are in pain, its horrific.
I'm 15 and no doctor listens to me. Maybe when they think I'm a "mature age" they will. I gave a list of 11 things medically wrong with me and he brushed it off saying I'm fine, I got a blood test and turns out I had vit D deficiency, anemia and hypothyroidism 🙂 It's awesome you got a doctor that will listen to you, it's very rare in cases with teenage girls that they're actually diagnosed and treated
@@Izu_fanaticI wish I could say it changes when you're older, but women's pain is often ignored. Be your own advocate. And if you can't, find someone who can be an advocate for you. Because you deserve better.
Yes. After being in real labor 3 times for 3 wonderful babies, I absolutely agree that endometrial pain is identical to labor pain. I always imagined myself freaking out and crying to the hospital in pain. That never happened. I was always told to just deal with it. I could’ve driven myself to the hospital just fine but I’m glad my husband did. The nurses never believed that I was in labor until they physically checked me.
That’s fascinating. I never had cramps. I ended up delivering my babies rather unexpectedly because I don’t have any pain until crowning. The one dr told me I could not be delivering so fast, as I’m kneeling in my bed and I’m like the baby is out. OMG.
My mom had endometriosis a few years ago along with a tennis ball for a cyst. Though this was waaaay after she didn't want anymore kids.
Years ago my sister was feeling sick, the pain in her abdomen was so bad that she couldn't move.
In the ER the doctor asked if she was on her period (she was) and said that it was just period cramps, no tests, took no sample, nothing, just heard she was on her period and assumed that was the cause of her pain.
Our mom refused to accept that answer, and stayed in the ER for hours, until another doctor noticed my sister, asked what's wrong, they told the doctor about the pain, what the other doctor said, and that they don't believe it's that. The doctor did something really simple, touched my sister's abdomen, felt something, and immediately sent my sister to have an emergency surgery.
My sister's appendix almost blew up, that doctor sent her in just in time.
jesus fucking christ that's terrible. my period cramps are pretty average, though they can make me sorta unable to move for short periods of time when theyre bad it's nothing compared to what your sister must have been dealing with. that could have killed her and the doctor brushed it off as cramps. what the actual fuck
THANK GOODNESS FOR SECOND OPINIONS OMG
Oh my god. Hope your sister are doing ok now. Can't imagine how much of a hell it felt like eaughhhhh
Omfg
Well my appendix did explode so I can relate 😊
I was similar, with the difference I was 11 and had PCOS. I'm not suffering with infertility issues, but apart of uterus cancer, I had EVERY SINGLE SIDE EFFECT that can come with PCOS, so life was pretty horrible until two years ago when I met my wonderful endocrinologist ans started the right treatment
Man, I feel this. I was having brutal periods for years and my primary care I grew up with said to deal with it, all periods are painful and then when I was 27 I was in so much pain I couldnt move at all and nearly fainted, I got a new doctor who immediately sent me to a specialist, was diagnosed with endo and the following year had a total hysterectomy because everything inside me was too much of a mess and they didn't think living on various birth controls would help. So.. been 3 years period free and its liberating lmao
Out of pure curiosity: do you need to take hormones or other medication to make up for the lack of the womb? I have no clue how this works so apologies for being a donut
Happend to a friend of mine recently.
@@bonk7455my mom got a full hysterectomy when they found a 50 pound mass on her ovaries.(she's 38, 2 kids and was 'fixed') She took hormones for a while. After a year or two she was taken off of the hormones because of another condition she had that made her moods crazy vivid. She didn't need them anymore. So I guess it varies on your body.
But women go through menopause which is basically the same. Your hormones stop getting produced at those levels. Idk if you take hormones for that tho.
@@bonk7455My guess is no, hormones come from the ovaries not the womb as long as the ovaries are not remove it shouldn't be necessary. I think there is a kind of hysterectomie where they do take the ovaries as well called radical or something like that but on a total hysterectomie its only the uterus and the cervix as i understad it, you can look it up
@@bonk7455 If a total hysterectomy takes out the ovaries as well, then yes, but if not, odds are you're fine! The ovaries are what make hormones, not the uterus itself. Fun fact: Oophrectomies (spelling?) are when the ovaries are removed.
I took my 15yr old in to the obgyn because of cramps being so bad and they said oh ya you just have bad periods let just do birth control. I had to speak up for my child to get extra tests done. They didn't even want to do an ultrasound. It's crazy when someone tells you their period cramps are so painful they can't breath that some doctors don't want to even look at what might be causing it.
Same here. Although my mom didn't think to take me to the doctor and neither did I, I thought it was normal. My dad said I couldn't go on vacation ett m anymore at 14 , and I thought it was cause my pains were so strong I needed to stay in bed from the pain so I ruined their vacations.
I didn't have kids but have always wondered how much more labor feels like compared to cramps.
@@liahk1000 i wouldn't help in comparing the two as i have very mild cramps. I am sorry you went through that. I could never leave my kids behind for any reason.
Yep… Labor was less painful than my worst periods.
I want to cry hearing. This.
I recently went to the OBGYN for regular checkup but I mentioned that I had recently had a few heavier and more painful periods. I didn’t think it was a concern at the moment but she confirmed with me that if I wanted to look into it more, the most likely solution would be for me to go on birth control. I had never been on it though and wanted to have kids soon. Got pregnant and switched providers instead!
It took me years to convince doctors that my pain wasn't just normal menstrual cramps. I missed out on so much life. I finally made the local news because my Endo case was the worst they'd seen. Full hysterectomy after kids, and it changed my life ❤
I'm truly sorry to hear about the years of struggle you faced before finally getting the care you needed. It's unfortunate that you missed out on so much of life due to your pain. However, I'm so glad to hear that the full hysterectomy made a positive difference and changed your life for the better. Your story emphasizes the importance of perseverance and finding healthcare providers who listen and take your concerns seriously. Wishing you continued good health and happiness!
It's been suggested that I have a hysterectomy, but I have heard horror stories (I can't take estrogen). I'm on progestin right now and the night sweats are horrendous. What are your thoughts?
@@OkayCoolGuyI hope someone answers you❤
@@OkayCoolGuydo you mean you’ve heard horrible stories in terms of putting you into menopause? I’m only a student at the moment but from what I understand, menopause is not activated unless both ovaries are removed. The ovaries are the portion of the reproductive system that produce hormones. Removing just the uterus itself shouldn’t cause too many hormonal changes from what I understand. Hopefully this helps!
Full hyst was best change ever for me on so many ways!
On my first period, I didn't have any pain at all. I got a few cramps sometimes after that but not so bad that I had to tell anyone. I feel SO bad for girls who have cramps.
I had this experience so when I needed to take my then 14yr old in to the Dr for painful periods I was ready to FIGHT hard core. Instead the dr listened to us and referred us to a pediatric gynecologist who was also amazing. I actually cried because I was so thankful that my daughter was getting the kind care that so many of us didn't. She's now 16 & doing great. She also had a great relationship with her gynecologist and had referred all her friends.
I know she's the exception. I pray that someday it's the norm.
It's heartwarming to hear that your daughter received the care she needed and deserved, thanks to a supportive pediatric gynecologist.
@@DoctorRich huge shout out to Children's Pediatric Gynecology in Saint Paul/ Minnesota MN. What a night and day difference than what I was expecting. ALL women deserve this level of care. ❤️
*THANK YOU* for speaking up on it! It's nice to see a male dr highlighting this. The more that do, the more we normalize it.
Having a mother like you should also be the norm btw
There are pediatric gynecologists?! 😮
@@blugreen123 there are. They see kids for a number of things, from really little to teenagers. It's actually pretty cool.
When I was in school, I knew a 12 year old girl who passed out several times a month because of her period. She had it for 7-12 days in a row and was in so much pain, looked like a vampire because of anemia and was bullied because of it. Sometimes even by her own parents.
I felt so bad for her and tried to help, but there was not much what I could do aside from reassuring her that she doesn’t deserve to be treated like that :(
I got my period at 10 and when your in 5th grade normally people don’t have it, and what’s worse is I had a male teacher. So I couldn’t ask for anything and when I asked my teacher he sent me to the nurse. And when I asked the nurse for anything she gave me a slip to fill out to bring medicine and said “it happens to all of us get used to it” I barely knew what a period was.
Have you ever.jacked.off so hard that you start getting cramps that shit is crazy 😂
@@NonyofuckingbuisnessYou are not funny
same I'm turning 32 this month and having endometriosis removed several times is exhausting... and to mention all doctors I visited, female gynecologists went like that's normal pain, until I found out I had cysts and endometriosis at the hospital.
@@mollywredberg1976im a 6-7th grader, but back when i was in 5th grade, so many of the girls were on their period, we had a male teacher, but he would still let us go, im sorry that happened to you:(
It’s ignored all the time. Runs in my family and friends circle. Getting a diagnosis isn’t hard. Getting the doctors to take you seriously is a bloody war mission
You've highlighted a frustrating but unfortunately common challenge-getting doctors to take menstrual pain seriously, especially when endometriosis is prevalent in your family and social circle. It's essential to advocate for your health and seek healthcare providers who will listen and provide appropriate care. Your comment sheds light on an important issue that needs more attention.
No pun intended
Endometriosis awareness is so important!! I am literally recovering from a hysterectomy at 32 years old. Hope you find your solution soon. Xx
This happened to my childhood best friend. She casually relayed to me that she was “not able to have children” every so calmly, our junior year. We’re 26 now and she just had her second baby!
awh thats awesome!
so happy for her!!
OMG THE LABOUR!!! You are the first person to ever mention this since I had my baby 27 years ago! Nobody believed me when I said I couldn’t feel any contractions. The midwife at one point strapped the monitor around me and said ‘are you seriously telling me you can’t feel that?’. How have I never made the connection before?!
Yes this part !
My mom has told me many times that the nurses got mad with her because she almost gave birth to my brother without saying anything to them but she said it felt just as bad as her periods so she didn't see the need to inform anyone because she thought it's ok and all the other women were screaming from pain so she was waitingfor it to get really bad.
I think I just might have discovered that she has had endometriosis. She always said her periods were very painful but she just dealed with them. Good thing to know for my children one day.
“you don’t know if you’re in labor because going into labor feels exactly like a period” This isn't even an exaggeration, it really does feel that way, its enough to make you pass out in a sickly cold sweat randomly. I also want to say, its sad when the passing out is literally the only way to communicate the serious nature and be taken seriously. Even then, if they find out it was "aunt flow" its' just met with "Oh my god, you are such a champ for dealing with this!"
No I am not! I have no choice. Literally no OBGYN, doctor, ancient wisdom, or anyone really... is capable of making it stop. You are in a torture chair till you get used to sitting in it. You don't get to ever leave that chair. It just starts to become a very shit "normal" that you guilt yourself over. No way to know your pain tolerance is sky high and you aren't a wuss. You are literally in Labor like pain. Till you brave labor... how would you know? even then how do you fix it? Why aren't female issues taken more seriously?! Why are we still going to work in that condition? Its frustrating because people around you expect a certain level of function. They can't see pain.
for example, It very much looks like my period should come second in light of the fact my husband is sick with a cold. Periods are part of life, they come once a month, as a female I should be equipped, and responsible enough, to deal with my own bodies regular functions and be able to tend to the ill. Truth be told, if that is the scenario we face, then its my own personal hell. I feel like I have to chain myself to the train of "get over it, get it done." and let it drag me. I might be nothing but skinned bone by the time the train gets where its going, but hey, I got there. Fudging exhausting. I wish this was taken more seriously so I didn't feel that way.
Sorry for the rant. That one statement just hit so deep, if your still reading this, thank you for letting me rant. Blessings on your head and home.
I completely understand your frustration, and it's essential to have a platform to express your feelings and experiences. Many women face the same challenges when it comes to the severity of period pain and the lack of understanding from others. It's a sad reality that conditions like endometriosis and severe menstrual pain are often downplayed or dismissed.
Your description of feeling like you're in a "torture chair" and having to endure the pain as if it's a normal part of life is heart-wrenching. Women's health issues, including severe period pain, should indeed be taken more seriously, and there should be better support and understanding in place.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences. You're not alone in feeling this way, and your voice is important in raising awareness about these issues. Your courage to speak out can contribute to positive changes in how women's health is addressed and understood.
@@DoctorRichI had a painful period at 11 and I’m 16 with even more pain and they just started me on birth control 😳😳. Should I do more test orrrr???
I once passed a uterine cast. It hurt the same as a period, but I was more dizzy.
Uterine casts hurt as much as a miscarriage.
So true, and then there's also being super emotional during that stage, so your breaking down because your overwhelmed and in pain, but unable to do anything to stop it for DAYS, it's incredibly annoying that there isn't something that can actually help this.
If it feels this way than something is wrong. It feels this way for her because she has a cyst on her ovaries causing her pain normal periods though EXTREMELY painful are not the same as labour pains and if you are experiencing that type of pain please please see a doctor do not let them brush you off
That doctor deserves to go to prison for not doing his profession properly and neglecting a patient
My daughter got her period again last night. She’s 14. Got it when she was 12. She is in so much pain. She throws up and tbh it reminds me of someone in labour! This video might have saved her from years of more pain! I’ll be taking her to be evaluated and push for the reason! It was so heartbreaking for me 😢 Thank you & so sorry for your pain and suffering
As someone who was once that girl, thank you. I wish someone had advocated for me. I was 27 before being diagnosed.
i had that too, throwing up and screaming in pain. it turns out i have cysts that rupture and it could become sepsis
@@m4ttaman I had a cyst go pop once, worst pain of my life. I was at work and slowly this pain in my side just grew and grew. By the end of my shift I was in tears and I had to DRIVE myself home like that. When I got home I curled up on my moms bed and took one of her prescription pain killers. After I could manage to feel like a human being again we went to the urgent care down the road and got me an ultrasound.
I would throw up and pass out and I can verify labor was a walk in the park for me and nurses were shocked because I was so used to the horrific pain from my monthly cycles. Only thing to kind of help me was birth control but child birth really helped when I finally had my son at 27 now I no longer suffer. Advocate for her! I had nobody but my dad and he didn’t understand.
Best thing you can do is advocate for her, explain to the doctor that no, this is real, I have seen how it affects her. You may get lucky and get someone good straight off, but it's very common to be dismissed. My gynae told me I "definitely didn't have endometriosis" despite having virtually every classic symptom. Three times in one visit she pushed for me to see a psychiatrist instead. She only paid a bit of attention when my Mum spoke up and said exactly that: "I have seen how much pain she is in, this is real". I finally got it confirmed with a laparoscopy several years later (the waiting list is very long and there are hoops they want you to jump through first).. 6 months after my Mum passed to cancer that the NHS didn't bother to treat. They diagnosed her then left her for 8 months before coming up with a treatment plan of any kind, by which time it was too late to do surgery so they left her to die.
She never got to find out that I did in fact have endo all those years.. 16 years of agony before it was confirmed. Through it all my Mum was the only one who truly believed me and if she hadn't advocated for me I might still be fighting to be believed.
Remember also that clear scans (ultrasound etc) don't rule endo out - it rarely shows on scans. Keep fighting until you find someone to take her seriously. It's a long road and a hard one alone. I'm glad she has you by her side. I'd give anything for my Mum to still be by mine.
Hoping for you both to get answers xx
I have PMDD, major depression, among other things. I tracked my cycle and mood for three months, came in with my concerns just for them to chuckle at me and say "thats every woman with a period hun" like... no not every woman i know is contemplating suicide every month before their period like clockwork 😂😂
I have PMDD as well. I honestly don't know how I haven't killed myself yet. The suicidal ideations are intense!! And I know, it'll be the same next month. I pray menopause will help.
Hang in there... you aren't alone ❤
Bloody hell!
I'm really sorry to hear that you've had such dismissive experiences with healthcare professionals. It's crucial for medical providers to listen to their patients and take their concerns seriously. Conditions like PMDD can significantly impact one's quality of life, and your experiences are valid. If you ever feel unheard or dismissed, consider seeking a second opinion from a different healthcare provider who may have a better understanding of your unique situation and can provide the support and treatment you need. Your mental health matters, and it's essential to find the right care and support to manage your condition effectively.
Omg
I want to die monthly , that’s not normal ! 😅
I make impulsive and rash decisions🙄too !
Like life altering decisions.
I have packed all of my belongings and move to Florida three times😩
It’s a huge problem.
Idk if there’s even meds for pmdd but I need um💯
Anyways, I am keeping everyone who suffers from PMDD in my thoughts❤ n prayers.
@@BreezybriefswithBrookeI'm keeping you in my prayers too. I deal with the exact same emotions every month.
Yep! My first child I was in labor for 18 hours, nurse kept saying how well I was doing, I told her this was just like cramps, she looked so sad and angry, she said she was sorry and hugged me.
I drove myself to the ER after having continuous cramps for a couple days at 39 weeks. I told the nurse "I don't think its labor, but I couldn't sleep because of the pain so I decided I should probably come in." She was assuring me that most moms come in at least once of with a false alarm before the real thing, then lifted her head up and said "well most of them aren't 8cm dilated and still unsure!" I remember the look on the nurses' faces when a contraction would come, and the most I did was take a deep breath.
my mom told me that when she was giving birth to me, the doctors told her to tell them when the pain got worse than her worst cramps and it never did. we have a blood disorder that makes cramps incredibly painful and literally nothing helped
I feel you. My first child was at 37 with the help a fertility doctor. Tried for 5 yrs. It was only then found out I had endometrosis. Hang in there. 🙏
The first time I met a man who understood period pain (without them being a gynaecologist or medically trained in general) was my current boyfriend. He asked after my first period while we had been together if I had painful periods, I said “they’re not that bad, only the first day or so” and he went full “Nooooo babyyyyy” mode. Honestly cute af. It’s been 9 years and he still does it every single fucking time. I think he knows my period schedule better than I do tbh.
That's incredibly sweet and supportive of your boyfriend! It's heartwarming to hear about someone who cares so much about your well-being, even during those tough days. Having a partner who understands and empathizes with period pain can make a world of difference. It sounds like you've got a wonderful and caring relationship.
Girl, keep him.
I got the same reaction from my now husband! When I get my period, he always brings me ibuprofen, chocolate bars, a mug of hot tea and sometimes flowers, and turns on an animated movie because it helps me get distracted from the pain. He is the best
Bro I can’t wait to be a doctor so I can treat these patients with some actual respect.
I wish you luck. Hope you achieve your dreams
I’m not reading all that😎
@@4bigguysandtheygrabonmyThighs_It's two fu##in sentences, ya dumbfawk
@@4bigguysandtheygrabonmyThighs_…okay??
@@4bigguysandtheygrabonmyThighs_😐
As a dude I was shocked when I heard how much pain the women around me go through on a regular basis. I feel for y'all, hang in there
In those moments when just existing is physically painful, the best thing to have is emotional support. Thank you stranger.
🥺😭 thank you
W comment, uplifting women without downplaying men. W fr.
Dude, you have no idea how good it felt to read that
Thank you, your support means a lot more than you probably realize
About 4 years ago I was working as a CNA and I started having a horrible pain on what felt my stomach and back. The pain did not feel muscular and when I went to see a doctor I explained this to him, that it felt “internal” (I couldn’t sleep because of the pain sometimes, this pain would cause me to throw up, and it would not stop for hours). This doctor just checked my vitals and told me that I was just “sore” and I was too young to be having back problems.
I went on with my life thinking that it was something chronic, but there were days that the pain was so intense and unbearable that I was not able to do anything.
About a year ago I noticed that certain foods triggered the pain, but eventually it was every time I ate it would hurt. I went to an Urgent Care and I was told by the doctor that I just had a “severe heartburn” and as long as I watched what I was eating I should be fine. Well, the next day I was rushed to the ER and it turned out my gallbladder was about to explode and I had two gallstones stuck on my vile.
That poor woman. I know what it's like when your doctors ignore you, dismiss your concerns or even worse - outright lie. I know there are good doctors out there somewhere. I just don't know where.
My heart truly goes out to this women. 🙏🙏🙏
I had horrible periods from the age of 11. Heavy bleeding, pain and vomiting. My periods were also like clockwork every 21 days. I wanted a hysterectomy by the age of 12 years of age. My father was a doctor and he treated me like it was all in my mind and I was overreacting. I left home at 15 and at 18 years of age I went on birth control pills. My monthly problem was solved. Less bleeding and pain and zero vomiting. I reunited with my father at 22 years of age and the first question I had for him was "Why didn't you put me on The Pill when I was suffering so badly?" His answer was "I was not going to put my 12 year old daughter on the Pill." Being on the Pill at 12 years of age would have saved me from so much pain and agony. Years later when my niece was an adolescent, my brother called me and said that she was going through what did and he wanted to know what to do. I told him to get her on the Pill immediately. Do not let her suffer anymore than she already has. He took my advice. At least I was able to help her out.
Were you able to have a family
@@savinggift158 I'm sure I could have had children, but I did not want to have children. Both my mother and grandmother had the same problem when they were young. I did have an ectopic pregnancy that resulted in emergency surgery. My fallopian tube ruptured. That was 30 years ago.
It’s odd that people think that if a girl takes the pill to treat a disease , then she will suddenly go out and sleep with all the guys. Both my daughters went on the contraceptive pill at 14. They took it continuously so they didn’t have a bleed and therefore the endometriosis didn’t bleed in their pelvis. Whether or not they had sex was a completely different conversation and one that all parents should have with their children. People seem completely incapable of understanding that a medication can be given to treat different conditions 😢
My 14 yr old daughter was recently diagnosed with a cyst. She has super heavy, long, and irregular periods. We are scheduled to do more testing and another ultrasound. I was told to think about putting her on BC of some sort but also warned about blood clots and other side effects. Trying to make the best decision but overwhelmed with all the info but I don't want her to have to suffer any longer either.
@@hollyshawverwhite I was on a low estrogen pill from 18 to 30 with no issues. But everyone is different. Follow your doctor's advice. It was a God-send to me. I was so grateful to not being sick every 28 days for a week. Thank you for taking care of your daughter. There is no need for her to suffer like that.
When I was 22 I was rushed to the ER by ambulance because of heavy stomach aches after sex. The gyno inisted it was because I was on my period because I was bleeding a little bit. I had to tell three doctors I had a IUD and did not have my period in three years because of it. Finally after a few hours I got a ultrasound and they found out because of sex my IUD moved a bit and caused a cyst in my uterus to burst. Hence the massive pain and bloodloss. After the discovery they shrugged and said. it happens. Doctors just pull the period card anytime a woman has stomach aches. Its just mindblowing
When she said her labor felt exactly like her period, it broke my heart 💔
Same! No-one should ever go through that.😭
What also sucks is the brain usually forgets the pain of labor. Having PCOS/Endo, You don't forget because you have a similar and consistent pain.
Why
Same here because I can 💯 relate unfortunately!
That end part she gave was a reaffirmation for me. When I've mentioned that even my mild cramps feel like they could be early labor pains even my aunt has laughed and said, "absolutely not, you'll definitely know the difference. Trust me, I've had a miscarriage and its nothing like period pain." It's sad that even other women disminishes and down plays the pain of other women. Like no I haven't had a pregnancy, but my mom had 7 kids, sister had 4, and I've been there with and for my cousin when she had 2 miscarriages. Based on what I've seen and heard and read, I'm pretty certain my menstrual pains are similar to labor pains. Every woman handles pain differently, and it's sad that if you handle it "well" then it means you aren't experiencing anything at all to others.
My mom gave birth to 2 children and told me, that it is the same pain........
Oh god I’m sorry you go through this..and you ARE correct, period pains do feel like labour pains. The cervix opens around 1cm to let the blood out, while in birth it opens from 1cm to 10cm 🙃
The well fed doesn't understand the hungry. I don't usually have painful periods, like at all. Every single time I had a painful period there was something seriously wrong, but every single one of those times I was dismissed and told that it's just normal. No, for me it's not. And I do not believe that period pains that are so strong that they can prevent you from doing your day to day activities are normal and you have to just get over it. When there's something comlicating your daily life like this, it has to be treated, that's what every sane doctor tells you. Why are periods somehow an exception I don't understand.
Same my cramps sometimes feel like contractions and I've never even had a baby.
Ignoring a patient's medical concerns like this should be illegal...
And if it's already illegal, the law needs to be enforced better
unfortunately this is just the way women are treated in the medical industry. my doctor told me that when he was getting his degree, the study books they had were so old and outdated and a lot of the info on women was either not there and just not correct. its very sad, but unfortunately doctors are being taught that this is what you're supposed to do for women, put them on birth control for everything.
It is medical malpractice and with misogynist courts in some countries seriously thinking forcing unwanted pregnancy (which is plain out TORTURE), you can guess how that'd go.
Also whith what money, patience and strength. Since when are ppl who need medical help in any place to get busy with legal issues. It's all ridiculous from start to finish
enforcingd dr to trust patients' words is like enforcing jaywalking. how many officers do you need? it's hard to prove pain level in court.
The amount of men telling women what's normal for their body is crazy.
my doctor had to tell me "periods are supposed to be painful. do you hear me? do you understand what im saying???"
after i had told him my periods were too painful to the point i had to be bedridden everytime.
HE was the one who didnt understand what i was saying.
i then told him i was still in pain after taking 2 different heavy painkillers TOGETHER
then only he started to understand
I usually have bad period cramps but they're manageable, only a few times I had super bad cramps
One was quite recently actually
I took 1 painkiller, nothing
I took a second, and it kind of worked. It made it so my cramp pain would lighten for a few seconds but then it went straight back to being extremely painful (over and over)
So then I took a 3rd and I was fine
2nd worst period cramp comes in a few months before that one, I was on the floor in a ball because of the pain. 2 painkillers did the job though. The first period cramp listed was one of my most shocking, since I never had to take 3 painkillers before
I'm tired of this dumb shit doctors can't just do something when they don't know what's going on bad pain with no actual symptoms isn't much to give doctors they can't use precious resources and waste their time on a bit of pain with no real evidence
Well thats some bs. Im not even a doctor and I would be worried if any woman around me had period that is anything above "it sucks but is manageable".
@@alexforce9so true. extreme pain is never normal, except in the case of giving birth. anything else has to be problematic. the pain of endometriosis is no joke, it's so painful women can't move or function.
He’s also just straight up not correct though. We have this misconception that all women have painful periods and that we should always expect and just live with pain. But that’s not true.
I don’t have any pain with my period. Some women don’t have any pain. Pain is common, yes. But it’s not guaranteed. We don’t talk about how common it is to have and not have pain. Also! Extreme pain is NOT normal.
Plot twist: The doctor reacting to this video was her doctor
“Yes everyone, let me show you all what I did horribly wrong. 🙂”
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f*****g hilarious xdddd
Oh my god. I'm 24 and just yesterday I was at gynecologist. For the first time in my life she told me it's endo. I was a mess all day, and now I'm crying again
Go on a antiparasite cleanse, every disease is from different types of parasites, including endometriosis! Exterminate those buggers and heal! Avoid sugar, carbs, dairy, that's what feeds them
Be strong, girl. You got this. Sending love to ya! ❤❤❤❤
Sending prayers and love!!! ❤️❤️❤️
I'm so sorry.. for me eating a whole food plant based diet has decreased the severity of my endo by like 95%.. turns out meat dairy and processed foods are super inflammatory and really make symptoms worse.. periods still suck but now they are not debilitating.. I hope yours get better too 💗
I had a fibroid the size of a grapefruit. I would bleed so heavily it was ridiculous. I finally had an episode at work and ended up in the ER. I found a doctor who said he would do a hysterectomy. At that point I had 2 sons and didn’t want anymore children. Despite a horrible experience with the nurses after my surgery it was the best thing I ever did. Why did I spend so much time suffering?
I believe if you have the life,family, children that you need why go through a monthly ordeal? I believe that women should be in charge of their bodies and if you want a hysterectomy you should be able to get it.
Men have vasectomies no questions asked.
Women don’t need to suffer every month.
My friend has this and she said exactly the same. There were several nurses who looked in to her room because she didnt make one single sound during giving birth.
It's absolutely horrible honestly. That disgusting that people don't listen they're doctors their whole job is to listen.
Spent my entire childhood begging my mother to bring me to a doctor. I knew my periods weren't normal, bedridden for days due to symptoms, dizziness for hours, etc. The moment I moved out I went to a doctor who was amazing, and got a diagnosis right away. I was put on the right meds and am doing much better.
im so happy for you. i hope yure living your best life fr fr
This was what happened to my mother. I am the “miracle child” that she wasn’t supposed to have. 19 years later she died of ovarian cancer after 3 years of being in and out of the hospital complaining of severe pain and never being taken seriously. This phenomenon is deadly.
it should not be ignored that way 😰 that’s horrible
So sorry.
I am so sorry about your mom, my mom passed from breast cancer. But I am happy your here.
Im so sorry this happened to you I would be in so much pain if that happened to me 😢
You should be proud of being her miracle
Yep, my first period was at 9. On birth control at 11. Passed out from pain several times. Scared people because I would turn so pale with blood loss. A doctor offered a hysterectomy at 17. Was told I would never have children. God blessed me with 2.
wow we need all men to have a course on periods and pain
Well it is doctors, gynecologists in particular- who've studied the pathologies of a female reproductive system and should be able to diagnose something pretty fundamental as endometriosis - that are dismissing these female patients. It is always a good idea to teach boys and men about periods, but that just isn't enough. We need to take a closer look at how women's anatomy is being taught to medical students, and address the possible misogyny which is leading to the dismissal of women's pain.
@@sushmitaraodesaraju6330bro said “misogyny” 💀. Just stop 😭 ur taking this too extra 😭. It’s definitely not misogyny, it’s the fact that everyone is so used to girls having normal period pain, and not used to girls having the severe ones that rlly hurt them. Stop pinning things on hatred on women 🤦♂️. No one is gunna dismiss a woman that’s feeling so much pain just cuz they hate women. They would if they felt like they were maybe exaggerating it, or they were just used to women having normal cramps, they thought it was nothing more.
@@yobask8855misogyny has layers. its not just the he man woman haters club bro
This!!
@@BearryTae so that it's not such a common misconception that women are overreacting about pain? considering how many men go into these fields i dont see how it's unreasonable at all for all of them to be provided with basic knowledge about half of the population
Thanks for this video. It's so important.
At 72, I have finally learned I know my body best. If I don't feel any medical professional has heard me, I move on.
You are worth being heard.