How to Stop Holding Yourself Back | Simon Sinek
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- Опубліковано 3 тра 2021
- The power of the human mind is something to marvel at; however, sometimes it can work against us. Taking control of your perspective can actually make you much more likely to succeed.
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Simon is an unshakable optimist. He believes in a bright future and our ability to build it together.
Described as “a visionary thinker with a rare intellect,” Simon has devoted his professional life to help advance a vision of the world that does not yet exist; a world in which the vast majority of people wake up every single morning inspired, feel safe wherever they are and end the day fulfilled by the work that they do.
Simon is the author of multiple best-selling books including Start With Why, Leaders Eat Last, Together is Better, and The Infinite Game.
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This may have been some of the best advice in 2 minutes and 33 seconds Ive ever heard.
This is true!
I thought the same thing. I’ve heard a few clips from this guy now and all of them blow me away and make me feel so much more positive about existence. He’s unique.
@@tylerdurden4396 the fact that he can do the effect in such short videos really blows my mind
Very insightful indeed.
I feel the same, it’s like the whole advice is reshaping my thoughts. I love it
I've heard 'Stop getting distracted ' easily over 10,000 times in my life from at least 20 different people but never an 'I'll show you how to focus'. I had to watch UA-cam videos like this to learn that
+1
simultaneously, did you ever ask "can you teach me how to stay focused?"? :)
The answer is simple..... Meditation
Can you please share with me your resources you found about how to stay focused?
Herein lies the issue. Your distraction wasn't obvious to you and, without people bringing it to your attention, would not have been obvious to you. So what do you care?
Or, it was obvious to you but people brought this to your attention, time and time again - perhaps it was your parents, your teacher, a driving instructor, etc, because they wanted an outcome from you or, you actually wanted an outcome from yourself (but didn't, because you always got distracted) and they simply made the point 'stop getting distracted'.
The human brain is the most complex organism in the universe. It's up to you to harness its potential, but looking for external motivators or extrinsic rewards will only be a short-term fix.
To quote another great teacher on the same subject: "Your focus determines your reality."
Someone else said, "Quit thinking about it."
Yes, so what is the highest thing you could possibly focus on?
It's Jesus Christ.
I've also heard "The only thing we own is our perception."
"It's your choice how you choose to perceive your own career -- it's literally perspective."
😂😂😂🤣
wise words
I remember Qui Gon saying something very similar.
@@Cundalinis_Hand woww🤣🤣🤣🤣
@@quaimaboylan5175 😁😁😂🤣🤣
That elephant example made me laugh but also gave me such a surprise.
Our brain truly isn't capable of comprehending the negatives, it's our own narratives and choices that forces it to. 🤯
YOOOO ITS MIKE & MATTY
yuh
AYOO! 😂As Bojack Horseman would say, "What are you doing here !?"
He’s basically saying “What you focus on magnifies” focus on what could go wrong and the possibilities of it going wrong increase because that’s all you’re looking for, basically.
Yep, it's pretty obvious. I find what Simon says, pretty obvious.
Can you explain it? Please 🙏🏽 with a basic example!! I mean he says that the brain is incapable to understand the negative, so he made an example saying: "don't think in an elephant" and the brain what's suppose to do?
Thanks a lot🙏🏽.
@@kstylo27 Not too hard. You were suppose to start thinking of elephants but you may not have because you listened.
"Don't think of an elephant," is equal to "don't hit a tree." Your brain will start thinking about the subject (Elephant, Tree) Brain doesnt care about negative and positive. Your emotions care about that.
Ill reword it.
Making the demand is like saying "Hey Focus and think of an elephant. Hey Focus on the tree." That's the message the brain is getting. Free of donts and dos. The brain is only interested in finding things to focus/think on. Its all Suggestions to your Mental Focus.
And conversely, if you focus on what could go right, the possibility of that happening increases!
For a video like this, I wish UA-cam had an option for "I LOVE this."
You could hit like twice.
James me too!
"Follow the path. Follow the path... Only follow the path... Focus on the path through the trees." Great lesson! 👍🏽
You Said trees, which trees? Oh there *dies*
@@endimverpeilt9770 lol
This man is a frickin legend
Fucking LOVE his logic it’s great and makes total sense 🤦🏽♀️🤷🏽♀️🤯💪🏽🔥 like DUH🙄 lol love it
He's amazing in ways, how straight and fast he can get to the point, how effortless it seems and how much fun it is to listen to him 😉
@@janj.2898 big facts
Couldn't agree more...!!
The fact that he chooses to spend his time to being a legend
Many years ago a driving instructor, when teaching to drive in reverse through a narrow archway, told me - you go where you are looking. Much more concise.
"You go where you're looking" I'm gonna pin this up
This very mentality is helping me cut back on alcohol. I don't think "don't think tonight" anymore, I think "how can I fill my evening? Which project do I work on? What fun game do I play?" I focus on what I want to do, instead of what I want to avoid
got game ideas, and what have you started filling your evenings with? Asking for ideas for fun
@@ariababe444 Mostly making music and having a fixed hour for self care for now.
I'll have to add more though, as it is not enough
Oo, well if you need more ideas, i got some take em if u like em:
-Watching ted talks🤪
-Making a fairy house outside
-Planting seeds in your neighborhood or backyard for funzies like johnny appleseed
-dancing freestyle in your room
-doing Eft tapping for the subject of alcohol, or any other blockages tapping ai like a way to go through the energies and move around the energy by tapping on energy points on tour body as tou work thru it I recommend youtubing tapping up if it intrests you)
-Reading (the alchemist, atomic habits, etc)
- ppl u may fancy taking a sniff into: joe dispensa, brene brown(author), on youtube: Sapien Medicine
@@ofnir123how do you self care
another idea, saying tou love yourself in the mirror to yourself, giving yourself the validation you normally might want from somebody else
Having a nice fountain pen and nice ink (some are surprisingly cheap like 5-15$) and just writing letters . I've seen people write kind letters addressed to no one specific and they leave them in a parc or places where someone else can find it 😊 writing can take quite a bit of time if you need to or be short if you only have a small amount of time. Writing kind things helps them sink in your brain for yourself also :) there's a game on Steam that is pretty much that ( It's called Kind Words) . I like it but Writing on nice physical paper with A fountain pen with Juicy Ink is Soo satisfying/Relaxing( these are less straining to write with as they are usually thicker). Also maybe it's just me but journaling grateful thoughts is one of the only habit I've ever been able to stick to so far in my life even if the day is totally awful I can find a few things I'm grateful for and I feel more at peace when I go to bed after😊❤
"The only thing you see is the path" perfect!!!!!!
This applies in racing as well. Theres a saying "hands follow the eyes" which basically means you need to be focusing on where you want to go and your hands and body will generally know what to do and get you there. But if you focus on the cones or the other racers, you will inevitably hit them
Great🎱
One morning I found a drunk man lying across our yard gate. I told him several times "don't lie here" but he just remained there in his dazed state. Finally I pointed to another spot and told him "go lie there" and he instantly obeyed!
Because he thought at first it was fine to lie down on the gate, until you reminded him that there was a better alternative. Mind opened.
In Only 2m , he had summed what people spend their life searching for in books and seminars.. the secret of success , what a legend🙏🔥
It's so true. Our mind can't distinguish between the positive and negative. What we focus on is ultimately what defines us. It's human nature to feel safe and avoid getting out of the comfort zone, but ultimately if we can get out of that mindset and perceive things with optimism, we can live a fulfilled life.
This may have ended my self help binge for the day, putting this into action starting now
how's it going? :)
We should always follow our "affirmative" way of thinking. Negativity bears problems and obstacles while being affirmative bears solutions!!!
While studying for my exam I was telling myself "not to sleep while study" often...but did the same sh*t and became frustrated since I was unable to be consistent with myself..., but after hearing this advice I started to tell myself "be awake" and it's is truely effective. Thank you so much for your inspiration 🙏.
A more effective line I'd say to myself which also based on this premise is: "Let's solve just this 3 exercises" or "Let's study this section". This is often more clear than the phrase "Be awake" (at least to me) and the the tasks are limited to just 3 exercises making it more simple.
After that 3 exercises instead of saying "dont fall asleep must stay awake" I'd just simply take a 5 min toilet brake to walk around to keep me awake
Maybe you can try this sometimes
Great advice. Thank you both for sharing.
@@nfetc1307yea..breaking down tasks into smaller ones helps a lot i hear ..i should try doing it more often
I have learned more UA-cam more than what I ever learned from my family,school and my friends..
All school and family did was micro manage me to the extent that I ended up despising the things I was trying to do.
Hi from 🇫🇷. That's remind me what my motorcycles'teacher teach me. When a rock is on the road you have to focus on something else to dodge the accident.
Simon Sinek is the most underrated person I have ever seen in my life, it really shocks me every single time.
if I had to choose 1 person in this world to transform anyone for the better it would be him.
There are a lot of good authors out there on the topics he advocates but very few have the charisma he has when speaking in public
@@mygril2352 I agree, commenting to thank you for replaying to my message, this led me to revisit and rewatch this wonderful advice, made my day.
I've just discovered him and have watched 4 vids of 2,5 mins each and each video has literally blown my mind - instantly left a sub
The power of mind is crazy. The perspective you have on things really carries a lot of strength to do and believe something.
Just another reason I love to hear wisdom from Simon!
There is a common cause of motorcycle accident called 'Target Fixation' wherein a person literally does what Simon is espousing; the rider turns a corner and focuses on a tree/rock/pole on the side of the road, and they unconsciously steer into it.
It's why riders are instructed to always turn their head toward the bend in the road, and their body naturally follows.
Simon really has some neat insights.
counter steering
Wow. I'm reminded that this was true when I was learning how to surf in a crowded lineup. I had to train my eyes to look to where I wanted to go, because if I looked at someone in front of me who I wanted to avoid, I would actually gravitate towards them... So instead I had to focus and look to the opening (the path), and then my body would move in that direction! Great reminder that this is true of all life! 💙👀
I never thought i would have a poster in my bedroom of anyone, but i have one of this man right here. He doesn't know it, but he significantly helped me out of a bad place.
Must be the grim weather. Happens to me too.
This showed up in my recommended just before a major interview.fingers crossed
How did it go?
lol Im interested as well. How did it go?
Hope you aced it!
I'd like to know too lol. How'd it go?
Guessing not well ..because there’s no reply to the positive 😂
when the cops go after the bad guy.. he shouted ' Freeze' instead of ' Don't run' .... this is what my English teacher taught me in the school...
Love the teachings of Simon. I actively try and use this type of mindset at work but am met with many people's reactions of, your ignoring the problem. Changing other people's perspectives is tough!
Wow what an mind blowing,eyes opening video....
Instead of telling...how not to be get distracted...he tells how to concentrate
Perspective creates personality.
I don't think I have ever seen a better video with only 2,5 minutes. Funny, clever and to the point. I am amazed...
Yes absolutely we as humans must learn to motivate in the positive. My brain needs this especially when handling kids. I must focus on the positive always. Thank you Mr Sinek 💘.
You are right.
What one pays attention to is intensified as the target in one's mind.
For many years I went through intense pressure from my superiors at work. On several occasions, they have walk up to me and said. The things we do against you are intentional, to hurt you, to break you, but you have chosen to ignore it all like nothing ever happened, you consciously stay happy, cheerful, and spreading smiles 😊.
I always reply, a soldier undergoes tough experiences as training, should the enemy captures him as a hostage, he undergoes tough experiences too. It is up to him to psychologically view it as training or torture. If he considers it torture he will be broken. If he considers it as a training activity psychologically, he will remains firm even in the face of death.
Very powerful talk from Simon Sinek. Tell people what to do. Tell yourself the positive things you want to see.
Thank you for this, literally grateful Simon, you are a precious gift for this planet Earth☺️
I spend a lot of time thinking “I can’t do this”, “I won’t do it”, “this is far from possible right now”. It's not something I could change about myself easily, but I've learned to cope with my behavior and now I understand that while I mentally say “I can't do that”, it's inevitable that I start to imagine “How could I do that?”, “What would it be like if I could do it?", "Is there a simpler way?". Not everyone goes this path, I imagine, but for me it's routine. And doubting myself + not giving up has become my way of doing things that other people seem can not do.
This may seem a little strange, but I think it could also be related to what this dude is saying about we not compreehend the negative. Maybe doubt yourself its not the end of the world. But the way you doubt yourself... Weel, thats important.
I resonate with this. At least once we've been told, don't believe everything you hear(about the news, etc)... We should apply that same train of thought to ourselves. By having a little more patience, being more aware of our thoughts, our own program that takes all the shortcuts it can in order to keep us in "comfort" mode lifestyle. By automatically saying we can't do something we remove the possibility of challenge and therefore growth. Find it quite fascinating and yet here I am, unable to breakthrough many "I can't do this", "I won't do this".
Thank you Simon for being there and giving us guidance 😊
You lift up my heart Simon. Thank you for all your help. You've made such a difference for me.
This is all the advice you'll ever need to get anything you'll ever want. Amazing.
after watching many different motivation videos and ted talks, this is the best one i’ve seen yet, and has actually helped me in my life
This is literally what I came for and was looking for . Thank you 😊
Simon, you truly are an amazing human being. Many times you show us how to look at things from a different perspective and it is really helpful for our lives because often we are stuck in a tunnel. So thank you for sharing your knowledge.
One of the things I love about this video is how simple the set up is and how intimate the crowd is. Whether talking to thousands of people in an auditorium or 20 people in a small room, the message is the same 2yrs ago as it is today and is delivered with the same conviction.
It’s not about the size of the group, it’s not about the venue, it’s not even about being in the role as a prominent speaker or building a “brand”. It’s about the people.
Sure, build the brand to maximize impact through social media, books, talks, etc. but it all comes back to being about the people.
That’s what I truly love and what I’m doing (learning to do) too.
Inspiring those so that they can inspire others. Or in my case, to help others help others.
While I want to learn how to maximize my own impact in this movement, I realize now that I’m not working towards “how do I be a part of this?” but that I am already a part of it. WE are all a part of it by virtue of watching and sharing just this video.
It excites me to learn more on how I can be more effective at conveying/sharing the message. Also exciting to learn more skills to reach as many people as possible. Not for me but for THEM.
Let’s build this movement together, all of us. Not for us but for THEM.
Deepest struggle of my life has been to end the negativity loop... Can't has been such a big word but slowly it is losing its power...
The quality of wisdom in such short video is superb.
The best advice is short and simple like this as it's memorable. Thank you this is gold 🥇
Have heard this advice before but the skiing reference nailed it in my head. Only Simon can do this. Amazing.
This just opened a whole new world for me!! I am just in awe.
This just explains a lot and most of my questions are answered lets goooo!
I feel like an absolute moron for not piecing this together on my own. He really has a great skill of making advice easy to comprehend and very accessible.
I can't say you thank you enough to show me the direction but still accept my gratitude, Thank you Simon, it's a wise advise you gave me. Thank you Lord I didn't even search about this and it showed up in front of me, and this is exactly I wanted to know or get a reminder about. Thank you Universe, thank you to everyone.
Love this talk.
I’ve heard this before and needed this reminder. 😅😊😅
Thanks so much dear Coach.
In my country (cameroon). Classrooms have rules and real enough, all rules go thus;
Do not make noise in class
Do not eat in class
Do not this
Do not that.
As a teacher trainer back then our team realized this negative way of posing the rules didn't help... We tried convincing the teachers and only 2% will accept with us at first to second instance.
I am so happy to hear the person I look up to say something.
I know you believe in God.
GOOD GOD BLESS YOU SIR AND ANYONE READING
Brilliant advice. It applies in so many ways and situations.
Thank you SO MUCH for making your videos SHORT AND TO THE POINT !
I simply love how what you say and how you say it make so much more sense Simon.
You are absolutely right, what we focus on and feed our brain/subconscious constantly is what we manifest.
I cannot say that I have mastered life or relationships but I can say that your content definitely helps to show perspective and keep me from drowing in my own thoughts.
Thank you...💖
this is one of the shortest video but yet so impactful
Two of my "favourites" I picked up:
- "Feel free to..." rather than "Don't hesitate to...
- "Please remember to..." rather than "Don't forget to..."
I've found the first, when I started substituting it, encouraged people to reach out with less hesitation. It's an "arms open" approach.
The second has been especially useful with my son especially since he struggles with self-esteem relating to trouble remembering... He knows what to remember and in saying it this way, it removes that anxiety and perceived threat of "I forget so easily, what will happen if I do?"
That's some of my experience with your technique, it's very valuable in all settings.
Outside of the inherent neurological side to it, it's also more affirming and soothing knowing what TO do rather than what not to do.
In my experience on both sides of communication (delivering and receiving), this second approach leaves you with the open-endedness/trial and error of then trying to work out what someone actually wants. This can come with its own destructive outcomes for an individual (low self-worth, fear, anxiety etc being reinforced through perceived/actual "failure").
Slightly off topic given the video is about the brain's ability (or lack there of more to the point) to receive the negative. It seemed to flow on from that so I thought I'd share my experience/insight regardless 😊 and yes, this very much extends to self-talk, not just with others.
God bless and thank you for your work. It's always a blessing and delivered with great clarity and simplicity. I'm always sitting here nodding along with you (and sometimes out loud! 😅) 🕊️🦋
Lovely Jessica ☺️
@@_rajivsingh Thank you, that's kind of you 😊
I have thought about this and also discussed this with my friend how focusing on not doing anything make you do that thing ....you are awesome Simon
Slow & Steady Wins The Race !! Thanks Simon for sharing all your thought processes.......appreciated
Your videos inspire me to be a better person. Thank you Simon sinek
Awesome. Appreciate this video and you, Sir.
This is my new favorite thing and I'm so glad it came across my regular feed
Love this! Love Simon’s wisdom.
That actually blew my mind, and now I'm sitting in the dark at 3:22am rethinking ✨everything✨
Human brain takes negative things first, so we kept on focusing on the outcome, what if it will happen. The fear of hitting the obstacles or leaving the bad habits or the negative outcomes of your one mistake fades your focus. FDR said that, only thing we have to fear is...fear itself nameless, unreasoning, unjustified terror which paralyzes needed efforts to convert retreat into advance. And Simon is right he is trying to say that just don't focus on the negative. It makes you focus on the fear. Just follow the path. Be focused on it...
This advice literally changed my life I don’t know how to thank you🙏🏻🙏🏻💕
I love that so much! Thank you!
Your concepts are amazing! Sir
this man is so smart ... I noticed when you start a request with negative your chances of getting what you want is slim. Another legend is Jim Rohn
What amazing advice, definitely going to start focusing more on the path.
Thank you so much for this, I really needed to hear this.
🙏 *5 Things to Never Do in Rush:*
*1) Giving away your trust*
*2) Making big desicions*
*3) Judging someone's character*
*4) Falling in love*
*5) Eating your food*
But what DO i have to DO?... ;-)
Lol irony
This is how I started my recovery from drugs. All the programs told me to put all my focus and energy into staying sober one day at a time. That led to relapse. Instead, I found something else to put my focus on; something that promoted sobriety without focusing on it. I’m 11 years sober as I write this.
What is it 🤔 can you please share 😊
@@javedhaware175 what is the thing I put my focus on? God. I had always been taught there was a God, but I finally started seeking Him.
@@namechange90 GOOD 👍 😊
Definitely, the only one superpower, the most high☝️we should focus on.........
Same applies to mountain biking. I’m a rookie but going around sharp turns and narrow paths is all about looking where you’re going and NOT looking at the sharp corner or down at what you don’t want to fall off to. Such a small easy thing that has helped me make sure I don’t fall or have to break around turns.
I thank god everyday that i saw ur speeches one day and that u exist, thank u Mr Simon
Indeed in a 2:33 he delivered a whole session. Thank you sir ! Salute!
It's like a spotlight, it let's you focus only on what you want to see, and how much you want to see.
This is a grand enlightenment in just 2 minutes. Amazing! 👏🏽
I literally love this man. I've learned more about being a positive person from him in 6 months of watching his content than I have in the other 51 and a half years I've been on this planet.
Simon always had the right words!
Maybe but not the best words I bet, we all know who knows all the best words.
@@mobiledev6037 What you talkin' about?
@@Rjasper499 A bad joke really, a reference to the ex-president's quote: "I know words. I have the best words."
This comment reminded me of that when I first read it.
@@mobiledev6037 Wow it was not even a joke. But atleast I can laugh at your foolishness, well done bud
Perspective is everything
This is kind of incredible. It’s so simple what he’s suggesting and yet it can flip your whole around (in the best way possible!)
Simon Sinek is at it again bringing some golden nuggets on the table.
Whoa. This is eye opening
*“Align yourself with who you are. Access it, embrace it and just go with it. Things just start working from there.”*
Have an amazing day! ♥
Very well said
Who someone is might very well suck. It’d be better to align yourself with the utmost good.
Another life changing and wake up call video. Thanks so much!
Thank you. Needed to hear that
Ok... Wow... You can literally mirror this on almost everything in you life. It's so easy. I am gonna try this with my kids.
That was a very cool video.
I love these videos
It’s the most impressive lecture that I’ve watched. Thank you!!
Simon Sinek is brilliant and genious! Again this should be obvious but it is not. And the way he just brought this up... I will definately start to think more this way! Thanks Simon!
So simple...So true...
First, I was shocked...Now I''m laughing at myself for not having seen it earlier. 😅
Thanks for the illumination.
Have a good day, everybody. I'm writing from a little island in the Mediterranean Sea...and the sun is shining.
Teacher: "don't think of an elephant!"
Me: already thought of a cute baby elephant 🐘. 😄😄
its totally true, ive spent most of my life focussing on the negatives and almost never the positives!!!
This has been so helpful and needed today!
This is true and believe it, only when it happens to you.
My first day with my motorcycle everybody told me not to look at the curb.
First thing i saw was the curb and i drop the bike :D
Target Lock ... it will get you every time 🌺
He covered spirituality in 2 minutes.🙏🏽
How simple it is!!!! Thank you Simon 💕🙏
Simple yet so powerful, this guy is the real deal.