The MOST Self-Destructive Habit | Simon Sinek

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  • @Slashco
    @Slashco 3 роки тому +6527

    "The reason we feel insecure is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel."

    • @50shekels
      @50shekels 3 роки тому +24

      I saw that video too

    • @angeliquetrinh7672
      @angeliquetrinh7672 3 роки тому +8

      What is "reel" ? Is it "life" ? Can't find it in the dic :/

    • @TheJonas973
      @TheJonas973 3 роки тому +7

      @@50shekels What video if you wouldn't mind sharing

    • @sapphirevaltiel
      @sapphirevaltiel 3 роки тому +4

      @@TheJonas973 I heard it for the first time from Dan Avidan from Ninja Sex Party and, perhaps more famously, Game Grumps. Maybe a GG compilation of inspirational phrases might have it there somewhere ;)

    • @chrisedwards3640
      @chrisedwards3640 3 роки тому +39

      @@angeliquetrinh7672 A reel is like a circular shape (cylinder) that has rope or wire, for example, spun around it. The reel in the sentence above comes from when movies used to be shown by spinning film on a reel (cylindrical thing that spins) and then projected on to a screen. In this case a 'highlight reel' refers to a collection of highlights, which I assume used to be shown with this kind of tape on a reel, as most videos were, and the term has remained in the language even if we don't use them anymore.

  • @ShadowNinjaDestiny
    @ShadowNinjaDestiny 3 роки тому +2534

    He's so relatable. He's human. I really enjoy his talks.

    • @Mr.Honest247
      @Mr.Honest247 3 роки тому +26

      Or maybe he tries to be more human so that you’ll like him more? He’s a smart man and I’m sure he knows this and uses it to his advantage because he, you know, is a speaker/author and needs your acceptance so he can make a living?

    • @DavidHRyall
      @DavidHRyall 3 роки тому +8

      I feel the opposite, he seems fake AF to me 😂 I'd like to see how he is on a Sunday morning when he has nothing on his schedule to see who he really is

    • @Mr.Honest247
      @Mr.Honest247 3 роки тому +10

      @@DavidHRyall I don’t know if he’s fake but probably is so concerned with being “on” that he’s never off and just chilling. Like he’s himself but he’s so ambitious that he forgot how to just be a simple man and enjoy himself. That Sunday morning is probably him just trying to get busy again lmao. What makes you think he’s fake?!??

    • @shrimptyd8059
      @shrimptyd8059 3 роки тому +20

      @@DavidHRyall you wouldn’t know what someone’s real mode of being is unless you’re them. How do u know what Simon’s mode of being is fake? Are you him? Clearly he’s comfortable in doing what he is doing.

    • @juggiebonebrain3383
      @juggiebonebrain3383 3 роки тому +1

      Uh, and everyone else isn't human

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 роки тому +2630

    *"Pain of regret is so much worse than pain of discipline."*

    • @2minuteschool929
      @2minuteschool929 3 роки тому +15

      Wow..that makes sense..many repeat and regret ♥️

    • @HaCkeMatician
      @HaCkeMatician 3 роки тому +12

      That is only for a "PERSON" with a Well-Defined Personal CORE-VALUES.

    • @Wisstihrwas
      @Wisstihrwas 3 роки тому +20

      that because disciplin you chose, regret choses you 😂

    • @geemail369
      @geemail369 3 роки тому +4

      Not neccessarily - Craig Ferguson had an interesting conversation once with Alice Eve regarding regret: discussing the likelyhood of regretting _DOING_ something vs. _NOT_ doing something, when it came to tattoos. Eye-opening!

    • @letsgoBrandon204
      @letsgoBrandon204 3 роки тому

      We rack disciprine!

  • @ThreesiXtydegreeS
    @ThreesiXtydegreeS 3 роки тому +4017

    "Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today."
    - Jordan Peterson

    • @gideontembo5123
      @gideontembo5123 3 роки тому +4

      @Simon Sinek am a keen follower, you are just amazing and smart in thinking . That's leadershift

    • @StephanG007
      @StephanG007 3 роки тому +25

      Just in case anyone else was confused. The Simon Sinek who replied in this comment thread isn't the real one. If you click on his name you'll see it's just an empty channel with the same name.

    • @iliveinsideyourhouse3943
      @iliveinsideyourhouse3943 3 роки тому +28

      "pet a cat when you encountering one in the street" -Jordan Petersons

    • @inspiringyoungchampions2482
      @inspiringyoungchampions2482 3 роки тому

      This quote is brilliant. so fitting! 👏

    • @AlumniQuad
      @AlumniQuad 3 роки тому +9

      "Don't compare yourself to the full-time baby boomers with their 5 weeks of paid vacation, 100% paid tuition, 401(k) plan plus pension, window offices, just be content as a permatemp code janitor in a cubicle farm earning $14/hour no benefits, no paid vacation, no nothing."
      - Corporate America to me in 1990-1992

  • @asadashraf2128
    @asadashraf2128 3 роки тому +309

    Got to respect his honesty, especially when he almost belittles himself to help and advise others.

    • @Anonymous-bm8sv
      @Anonymous-bm8sv 3 роки тому +7

      Just think about it. Think about all the autocratic world leaders who make decisions that greatly impact our lives on a global scale. How many of them see their competitors as worthy 'competitors'? (I know this depends on culture as well).

    • @nerdock4747
      @nerdock4747 3 роки тому +6

      And his public vulnerability, that's a big deal.

    • @monocle8868
      @monocle8868 3 роки тому +2

      This guy is really good. When vulnerability doesn’t bog you down, than you are good.

    • @IPv6people
      @IPv6people 2 роки тому +1

      It's not so hard to seemingly belittle yourself, when you are succesful and famous. Listen to him with his context and position in mind. Nice man and not all he tells is common sense in another jacket, but not a genius. Nice man.

  • @akovacsrealtor
    @akovacsrealtor 3 роки тому +802

    I’m not only loving your stories but also they way you’re delivering them! 😊

    • @tripandnature9496
      @tripandnature9496 3 роки тому +1

      Thank You for expressing my feelings for me as well. All I can do right now is smiling. 😆😆😆

  • @shiblee0670
    @shiblee0670 3 роки тому +1411

    I do not compare with anyone but I have a destructive habit of comparing my current situation with an ideal myself that I want to be. It is really deadly.

    • @emmelinebarre-minos6635
      @emmelinebarre-minos6635 3 роки тому +51

      Yes, kill your ideal self and embrace your common actual self, it is a daily work and it s worth it, you feel free and just yourself, I m enjoying after a while my ordinary me 😉

    • @True38
      @True38 3 роки тому +7

      Same with me although I do enjoy crushing others as well. But if you reach your own ideal, you won't have to. It is what it is.

    • @emmelinebarre-minos6635
      @emmelinebarre-minos6635 3 роки тому

      @@True38 i don’t believe in reaching our ideal self, semantically it will always be up and I feel personal development vicious to suggest « you are amazing, you can be better, you can do the impossible » ! Nope, how much I try I can’t fly by myself 🤣 what I mean is just discovering ourselves with dark and light is well enough and takes ages 😉

    • @True38
      @True38 3 роки тому +21

      @@emmelinebarre-minos6635 You can always do better and you should always strive to do better and reach your full potential. There is nothing better for yourself and everyone else if you pursue such an honorable goal in life.
      To just be where you are, to stop progressing, to stop developing, and to stop climbing, that's only going to make you dead on the inside.
      When you've reached the point of self-actualization, you are at the top of Maslow's pyramid, and there is no better state of mind than that. Trust me :)

    • @emmelinebarre-minos6635
      @emmelinebarre-minos6635 3 роки тому +26

      @@True38 of course improving is part of human nature, i just diverge on the way to reach it, in my experience (personal and as a psycho therapist) I just think acceptance of who we are with our darkness is way much interesting and achieving than always want to reach the sun ☀️. It s a hard work too, needs discipline, introspection and to remove our masks 🎭 about who we want to be and show to the world, to just be cool which who we are. This is not a question of trust my dear, it s my way of seeing life and it helps some others. We probably not on a same path and
      It s ok ! However, I don’t understand the link with Maslow who talk about needs, of course everyone keep going reaching them. Have a nice day

  • @sarasmith1255
    @sarasmith1255 Рік тому +24

    We are all on our own paths. Your path has nothing to do with my path, and my path has nothing to do with your path. There’s no point in comparing.

    • @bobreesjr9501
      @bobreesjr9501 9 днів тому

      The first step and the journey are what are most powerful. I agree. The path will be different.

  • @Mr.Honest247
    @Mr.Honest247 3 роки тому +49

    I always noticed that any talk of someone giving a solution to “comparing yourself to others”, people LOVE those talks. Just look at the like to dislike ratio. It may be a good talk too but I’m always seeing that consistency and that just shows how much people suffer from this.

    • @katehu7194
      @katehu7194 2 роки тому +1

      Expect them to remain hot-topic until social media completely shuts down.

  • @10ON10
    @10ON10 2 роки тому +43

    *That's why the quantity of social media usage should be in moderation, too much and it would spiral into depression and time wastage*

  • @corcoranmagriproperties
    @corcoranmagriproperties 3 роки тому +589

    It's healthy to grow our strengths rather then be intimidated by the strengths of others.
    Love this speech, very deep and humble person! 😊😊😊

    • @thamsanqathusi9671
      @thamsanqathusi9671 3 роки тому +7

      why do you people these days say "then" instead of "than". i don't get it. is it a new trend?

    • @gingfreecss3808
      @gingfreecss3808 2 роки тому +2

      @@thamsanqathusi9671 probably just wrong grammar

  • @Host2TransformGlobal
    @Host2TransformGlobal 3 роки тому +57

    "Is healthy to grow our own strength, rather be intimidated by the strengths of others", a great reminder and advice! Tapping into our strength and purpose able each of us to unlock potential and transform into great leaders.
    Thank you for sharing this experience with us!

  • @Clover_9777
    @Clover_9777 3 роки тому +503

    He is such a good storyteller.

    • @alicenyw1872
      @alicenyw1872 3 роки тому +7

      Yes! His way of talking always grabs my attention.

    • @dexterdexter402
      @dexterdexter402 2 роки тому +7

      It is because he has thought about these many many times, formed his opinion and practiced or played the story in his head many times. After a while it becomes normal

  • @SumonAdakpbx
    @SumonAdakpbx 3 роки тому +478

    "Comparison exaggerates our insecurities."

  • @davielgaming1200
    @davielgaming1200 3 роки тому +46

    What I love his ability to be fearlessly transparent about his own personal experiences and thoughts and emotions behind them and draw human behavior parallels. One of favorite speeches is where he talks about empathy; genuinely taking interest in others by keeping in mind, behind people lies a story we are unaware of. The video about being an idiot, I ask a lot of questions and have annoyed people as a result but also have seen others be alleviated to when the answers are received. You may be perceived as an idiot but your not because asking questions until you understand is learning. How do you learn if you don’t understand? Sound wisdom for the spiritual senses. Thank you for leadership Simon. It is unimaginably appreciated.

    • @IPv6people
      @IPv6people 2 роки тому

      It's not so hard to be 'fearlessly transparent' when you are succesful and famous. Listen to him with his context and position in mind. Nice man and not all he tells is common sense in another jacket, but not a genius. Nice man.

    • @Brickwilliams
      @Brickwilliams 2 роки тому

      @@IPv6people very smart man and wise. Has great perspective

  • @Drokkstar_
    @Drokkstar_ 3 роки тому +35

    " If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself." - Desiderata. c.1927

    • @lafudge2929
      @lafudge2929 3 роки тому +1

      Unless you're the best.

    • @theboombody
      @theboombody 6 місяців тому

      @@lafudge2929 Like Rick "The Model" Martel.

  • @davidm.57
    @davidm.57 3 роки тому +24

    so encouraging when you hear people like this share their battles and find out they are not so different from ours

  • @raymondtendau2749
    @raymondtendau2749 3 роки тому +345

    Comparison,is the thief of Joy.
    ‐Theodore Roosevelt.

  • @schmetterlingsfrequenz
    @schmetterlingsfrequenz 3 роки тому +6

    All those people are there for us as a mirror. If someone (or something) really annoys me, they most probably reflect something that I do not allow myself to be or to do. So, I am extremely grateful for every "annoying" person I meet since they really make me move forward. Thank you!

  • @inspiringyoungchampions2482
    @inspiringyoungchampions2482 3 роки тому +20

    Such a rich message. Nothing wrong with picking the strengths of those around you to deepen yours, but be your own person. Comparing yourself to others will keep you looking outside of enriching you! 👍

  • @foesfly3047
    @foesfly3047 3 роки тому +6

    I am seriously impressed with your candor, modesty and humility. Especially in how these qualities were demonstrated when you introduced your 'rival author'. What nominal people fail to recognize is the genuine strength of character and personal confidence such attributes indicate. I Seriously appreciate you, Brother.

  • @danieleliassalgadomiranda224
    @danieleliassalgadomiranda224 2 роки тому +15

    This is nothing but a hell of a masterpiece.
    I just had probably the best 3 minutes of my life.

  • @bellasonrisa42
    @bellasonrisa42 3 роки тому +6

    Your ability to instantly captivate an audience never ceases to amaze me, and your insights and brilliant storytelling are invaluable tools in my ongoing pursuit to self-motivate, succeed, inspire, and strive to become the best version of myself possible. Thank you for being you and sharing your gifts!

  • @johnhoward2481
    @johnhoward2481 3 роки тому

    I was in a California Sandwich shop reading, Start with Why. Another patron came over to me to speak about the book. It's amazing the positive effect you have on people willing to listen. I sincerely thank you.

  • @wisdom-for-all
    @wisdom-for-all 3 роки тому +32

    Comparing is the thief of Joy. Indeed, it is one of those battles you cannot win 🖖

    • @bmck3039
      @bmck3039 3 роки тому +1

      Great point...choose your battles wisely.

  • @lisabell1408
    @lisabell1408 3 роки тому +3

    Simon,
    I first started watching you in 2017 after feeling under valued / appreciated at work.
    You have inspired me to become a leader in my field (education) and have changed my life.
    I could honestly listen to you talk all day; which is why I listen to your books on audible.
    Keep working on inspiring content and educating us all on how to be better humans.
    Kind Regards,
    Lisa :-)

  • @lukeweidner1246
    @lukeweidner1246 2 роки тому +7

    feel lucky to be alive in this guy's era. one of our more influential thinkers of this century

  • @laaaliiiluuu
    @laaaliiiluuu 3 роки тому +28

    The body only hates pain that comes from things that can destroy it but absolutely loves pain that comes from things that can build it. We don't fear pain. We fear things that can destroy us. It has nothing to do with pain but with a false interpretation of what pain is. Pain is the symptom, not the cause. Make sure that what creates pain makes you stronger and you will love it in spite of the pain. The pain will motivate you to tame the beast you are tackling with because in doing so it makes you stronger.

    • @meepmonster750
      @meepmonster750 3 роки тому

      I would like to copy this to read later but youtube isn't letting me :(

    • @meepmonster750
      @meepmonster750 3 роки тому

      I'll just retype it lol

  • @shantanukadiyali7720
    @shantanukadiyali7720 3 роки тому +17

    It's healthy to grow our own strengths, rather than be intimated by the strengths of others.

  • @nerdymillennial
    @nerdymillennial 2 роки тому

    This popped up on my suggestions this morning. Gonna remember and try to live by this every day of 2023. Happy new year folks!

  • @boardmangot_paid718
    @boardmangot_paid718 3 роки тому +4

    I used to not be a big listener and thought i knew alot, until i heard Simon. He relates so much. You can learn alot about life hearing Simon ✊

  • @risingtitan1845
    @risingtitan1845 3 роки тому +2

    His sentences consist entirely of pure wisdom to listen to something like this is just refreshing.

  • @jasonchristiansen9063
    @jasonchristiansen9063 3 роки тому +77

    "Compare yourself to who you where yesterday not to who someone else is today." Jordan b Peterson.

    • @blakewilliams1746
      @blakewilliams1746 3 роки тому +2

      I love hearing guys like Jordan and Simon. I’m so glad there’s still hope in humanity.

    • @johncleet2837
      @johncleet2837 3 роки тому +3

      @@blakewilliams1746 If you believe there is, "hope in humanity", whatever the hell that means, because of a public paid speaker like Jordan Peterson who does nothing but remind us of what we already know, then there is no hope for the humanity you feel there's hope for.
      Good for you though, really, being hyperbole however, isn't going to serve you for long.

  • @VikasYadav-wd9yw
    @VikasYadav-wd9yw 2 роки тому +1

    One that I keep in mind,
    This guy perfectly explained it,
    "If results don't show up,it must not be working"---- but it is working and it wants consistency more than intensity.

  • @Kevin-jc1fx
    @Kevin-jc1fx 3 роки тому +7

    It's healthy to grow our own strengths rather than be intimidated by the strenghts of others. - That is wise.

  • @mohdnurhisyamtalang6106
    @mohdnurhisyamtalang6106 3 роки тому +2

    "I'm taking more pride in the things that I'm good at, rather than I have to be good at all that he good at". It's healthy to grow on our own strengths.

  • @christiebongel5737
    @christiebongel5737 3 роки тому +12

    Just listened to Simon’s podcast episode with Adam Grant (his nemesis), and they talked about his very story! Love it!!

    • @xxxx4083
      @xxxx4083 3 роки тому +1

      Thanks wass
      looking for the name of his "friend" hence reading the comments.

    • @prod_adrian
      @prod_adrian 9 місяців тому

      I thought it would be Ryan Holiday Lol

  • @reguisthesjw7796
    @reguisthesjw7796 2 роки тому +1

    I can confirm it works.
    I cannot stress enough how much more serene and confident I feel since I stopped comparing myself to others.

  • @no-bozos
    @no-bozos 3 роки тому +31

    This guy is the most self-aware person I've ever heard speak.

  • @ronandheather3079
    @ronandheather3079 2 роки тому +1

    I absolutely love and respect you Simon. You bless me and help me grind hard every day! God bless you!

  • @mjmarcinski
    @mjmarcinski 2 роки тому +7

    A worthy rival, good competition can provide good things because of motivation it creates. Thank you Simon.

  • @leapnlarry
    @leapnlarry 2 місяці тому +1

    This is why i love his audio books, so entertaining. Larry

  • @pamelah6431
    @pamelah6431 2 роки тому +3

    "...I have learned in whatever state I am, to be content: I know how to be abased, and I know how to abound. Everywhere and in all things I have learned both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need. I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me."
    Philippians 4:11-13

  • @victoriafarina3798
    @victoriafarina3798 Рік тому +1

    Simon i love the way and how you speak.The way you put your words across really holds my attention. And I love your honesty that I really respect. This Australian thanks you.

  • @hardcoregym7316
    @hardcoregym7316 3 роки тому +5

    Absolutely brilliant perspective.
    Simon! Through your experiences & efforts to re-educate people you are investing in rebuilding the human in humanity. Thank you very much for your help.

  • @jesmano1194
    @jesmano1194 3 роки тому +1

    Simon Sinek we love you!!! ❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you so much for being YOU! God bless you and your whole family! 💕💕💕💕💕

  • @kaivalytolbande8787
    @kaivalytolbande8787 3 роки тому +8

    infinite game theory is the best thing I learned in lockdown. thanks simon

  • @iLikeGreenTeas
    @iLikeGreenTeas 3 роки тому

    What I'm getting from this is Social Media = Bad in high doses.
    But, without social media in high doses, I would never have discovered Simon Sinek nor Sadhguru. So, in the end, Social Media = pathway to enlightenment.
    I thank you, the Creator (of Facebook) for changing my life.

  • @fadeldiande7658
    @fadeldiande7658 2 роки тому +22

    Very interesting video. I definitely agree with his view point. By comparing ourselves to others, it makes us feel very bad and less good at some things. I remember that each time I have to talk in front of people, the less I compared myself, the better I feel.

  • @mahms012
    @mahms012 3 роки тому +2

    This emotion is one of the oldest emotions known to men, i.e. envy. It destroys one inside and the best way to fight it is to look at someone below you and feel content that you have been blessed by more than you are grateful for. In essence what simon said is to be grateful of what you are given and drive the emotion of envy into competitiveness in good things/traits to help you grow.

  • @fathulbariofficial
    @fathulbariofficial 3 роки тому +7

    I love how you share your insecurities with such ease. ❤️😊

  • @cristianmicu
    @cristianmicu 2 роки тому

    this guy is a genius IN ONE DOMAIN. and for that specific domain, he deserves A LOT of customers and success

  • @arnavtumbde6249
    @arnavtumbde6249 2 роки тому +3

    he is such an excellent personality. always speaking relatable things

  • @Kakail
    @Kakail 2 роки тому

    That made me think about a new radio ad for a local station. They did a scientific study, and their audiance got a better QI. Then they said, "But better that what, we don't know... We like you that way!". Love that ad.

  • @aneeqm5777
    @aneeqm5777 3 роки тому +7

    Bro this was so good. He literally states the obvious and yet it seems so reassuring 😭🔥

  • @izaadh328
    @izaadh328 3 роки тому +2

    Aha! Then this is who Simon is! From this video I realized how perfectly he delivers the incredible message.! Love it

  • @1234makky
    @1234makky 3 роки тому +16

    Funny that how much I admire Simon and his vision, I am really curious about the other author and wish to know his name to read his books too! Always love to listen and learn from you.

    • @verenigingvandemagogen4548
      @verenigingvandemagogen4548 3 роки тому

      He’s not going to say that because it never really happened, it was just an example. A hypothesis.

    • @1234makky
      @1234makky 3 роки тому +1

      @@verenigingvandemagogen4548 your hypothesis does make sense but you cannot prove it.

    • @verenigingvandemagogen4548
      @verenigingvandemagogen4548 3 роки тому

      @@1234makky Indeed. When one possible explanation seems significantly more likely than any other explanation, I tend to stick with that one.

  • @drmonster6357
    @drmonster6357 9 місяців тому +1

    He seems like the most down to earth motivational speaker, I like the guy . But I'm always on guard for this type of stuff.

  • @renike2004
    @renike2004 3 роки тому +14

    How could someone not love you Simon, is beyond me...
    Love the UA-cam channel, the podcasts on Spotify.
    You're so admirable, infectiously inspiring, affectionate and the list could go on and on and on.
    Nobody has made me cry or laugh (with them) so much as you have with your stories or story telling.
    Please, don't ever stop what you're doing.
    You've helped me so much in my healing process, just by listening to your podcast or by watching your videos... I'm sure there are many others that can relate.
    All the best Simon 🙌🏻🙏🏼

    • @soulvey
      @soulvey 2 роки тому

      Maybe because a lot of what he says is just recycled garbage you can pick up from any two-bit self-help book in an airport, delivered with the same amount of sincerity as a copy-pasted LinkedIn post?

  • @stith_pragya
    @stith_pragya 10 місяців тому +1

    Thank You So Much for this wonderful video.............🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @danjwalker
    @danjwalker 3 роки тому +36

    "Comparison is the thief of joy"
    - Teddy Roosevelt

  • @pratik14jan
    @pratik14jan Рік тому

    My god .. what a perspective he has ... I really wish that ceos and mangers of word has same kind of perspective he has ..it would really change the corporate culture!!! ..1000% respect to Simon

  • @glennhonestly6600
    @glennhonestly6600 3 роки тому +5

    He's not the messiah, he'a a mere motivational speaker. You have free access to him compared to your school hiring one to motivate students

  • @ForzaNapoli666
    @ForzaNapoli666 3 роки тому

    Very wise words. A lot of people are sucked up in the world of social media, forgetting what's actually important in life.

  • @anyangthiep8802
    @anyangthiep8802 3 роки тому +8

    It's good for us to celebrate each other success and that will bring out the real authenticity in each other, it's make the world a better place for all of us. No jealous, just love 👍👍👍

  • @oxigenarian9763
    @oxigenarian9763 3 роки тому

    There is always a person out there who is better at something than we are.
    Forunately sometimes, we are that person...

  • @luthandolumarcho8400
    @luthandolumarcho8400 3 роки тому +5

    “It’s Healthy To Grow Our Own Strength Rather Than Being Intimidated By The Strength Of Others”

  • @rogerbruce2896
    @rogerbruce2896 2 роки тому

    well I hate you because you are so gifted at speaking and thinking off the cuff. I am an introverted leader and sometimes grasp for words. Lots to learn from you!!

  • @akkugaur4760
    @akkugaur4760 3 роки тому +6

    Wow, I just love this man and he makes me feel so light at times when I feel low🦉
    He is amazing indeed😂

  • @taivan9030
    @taivan9030 2 роки тому

    It’s been only 1 month since i deleted my facebook instagram and more of my social media accounts. I only kept youtube, cuz as you can see there’s so much to learn in here. I feel so calm. All of my worries have disappeared from the day 1. Reason is i used to compare myself to a girl who i love. But actually i had a fear of missing out, fear of being worse than her. In addition i live alone, i used to find myself feeling sad and lonely almost every single weekend nights. Now I’m sort of loving it. After quitting social media I understood that nothing is gonna go, nothing is gonna disappear suddenly. Only my mind making it happen subjectively.

  • @roxanamariascottlarrazabal8336
    @roxanamariascottlarrazabal8336 2 роки тому +7

    This happens without thinking in our competitive world, thanks for bringing awareness 💪🏻

  • @halfbee7886
    @halfbee7886 3 роки тому

    You're a great storyteller. The same story being told by someone else may sound generic and cliche, but you always have the right hook for people to care about yours.

  • @RonnyJimenez1
    @RonnyJimenez1 3 роки тому +4

    Comparison leads to jealousy, very unproductive feeling... Thanks for sharing

  • @advancedue476
    @advancedue476 3 роки тому +1

    My dad always tell me not to compare myself to others, but I feel the way I do it is different- usually with work only. I look at someone else effort and how well they did it and I use that to push me to do better.

  • @WhispearsofPadme
    @WhispearsofPadme 3 роки тому +41

    I love your stories, thank you for helping people and being you.

  • @josephgonzales9649
    @josephgonzales9649 Рік тому

    I love the sense of closeness and intimacy that the crowd gives this video

  • @amarug
    @amarug 3 роки тому +16

    explains a lot, i have never compared myself to others, not as a kid, not as a teen, not as an adult... i always wondered why i seemed much more content and happy than many peers 😂

    • @SoRandom31
      @SoRandom31 3 роки тому +1

      Isn't the claim that you were more content than others still technically a comparison? 🤔

    • @amarug
      @amarug 3 роки тому +3

      @@SoRandom31 technically it is, but i think you can see the subtle difference to what Simon is talking about: it's about comparisons that you actively seek out, which then immediately trigger an emotional valuation, that make you feel either good or bad. and then sometimes they output a new set of actions that you are determined to follow, in order to change the current status of the comparison. versus in my case, it was a sort of diffuse, curious observation from a far, without judgement or emotional feedback.

  • @jerryli3672
    @jerryli3672 5 місяців тому

    Thanks for the great lessons! Jealousy at work constantly bothers me when I see some people are good at things that I am bad. Now I am trying to see more on my strengths.

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 роки тому +45

    You'll realize how far you are in your journey, but you'll soon realize you can go even further and achieve greater challenges.
    Keep going my friend. 💥💥

  • @czowiekzlasu3740
    @czowiekzlasu3740 3 роки тому

    Looking up to others is one of the best things you can do, you can always assume the other person knows something that you don't, so there's always something to learn from them

  • @AhmetKaan
    @AhmetKaan 3 роки тому +11

    You just gotta keep going and fighting for everything, and one day you'll get to where you want. 🦁
    I believe in you, keep your hustle up.

  • @RamirezVB
    @RamirezVB 2 роки тому

    My dad always told me. No matter how good you are, how much money you make, there is always someone out there better or with more money.

  • @valeriadobriak8976
    @valeriadobriak8976 3 роки тому +12

    It’s a really cool story! Thank you for your speech:)

  • @ngamngo1177
    @ngamngo1177 11 місяців тому +1

    It is difficultés for me to believe that you Can feel insecure. You are so inspiring by all your words. Thank you for sharing all your thoughts and guide us to live in a better World 😅💐
    I wish a Happy New Year 2024 🎉💕

  • @busyshah
    @busyshah 3 роки тому +10

    Wow!
    Helpful learning.
    I was also confused about a person whom I sometimes hated and respected the same time. It can happen (I am not crazy).
    Lets focus on becoming better at what I am already good at.
    Thank you Mr. Sinek.

  • @orevaokaruefe3027
    @orevaokaruefe3027 3 роки тому +2

    Is it just me.... Or are these 3 minutes of Simon better than many 20 minute lectures out there?!!

  • @zurvey
    @zurvey 3 роки тому +37

    He's fixated only on half the problem. Feeling insecure about comparisons is bad, but feeling superior by comparison is perhaps worse. That's license to not respect others.

    • @billtruttschel
      @billtruttschel 3 роки тому +1

      Yes, however, respect must be earned, not expected.

    • @zurvey
      @zurvey 3 роки тому +4

      ​@@billtruttschel a cliché that has absolutely NOTHING to do with what I just said. 🙁 If person A is skinnier than person B, then person A might mock person B - and that has NOTHING to do with person B not "earning" respect. If person A has more subscribers than person B, it is not a license to treat person B disrespectfully. Again, Simon only addressed HALF the problem. Comparisons don't just make some feel insecure - they make others arrogant and disrespectful.

    • @vsezaye
      @vsezaye 3 роки тому

      That has nothing to do with what he's saying though, it's purely your fixation

    • @zurvey
      @zurvey 3 роки тому +2

      @@vsezaye Yes, it does. You're wrong.

    • @HoBBLeCooKiE
      @HoBBLeCooKiE Рік тому +1

      It doesn't matter which side of comparison you are on, it's bad. In both instances there could be a feeling of inferiority; you or the other person.
      By not comparing in the first place, both scenarios will be eliminated.

  • @wedge_one
    @wedge_one 3 роки тому +1

    I heard this really good phrase: if you work on your weaknesses, all you end up with are really good weaknesses. Work on your strengths instead!

  • @srijanuniyal2766
    @srijanuniyal2766 3 роки тому +7

    Short story big lesson. 👍

  • @nefariousnilbog
    @nefariousnilbog 3 роки тому

    I constantly compare myself to my younger brother who i love to bits, he's just brilliant. Wonderful miund, generous, brave, resourceful etc etc I have to really try hard not to compare myself to him and when I do I find myself sinking into a horribly dark place.

    • @nefariousnilbog
      @nefariousnilbog 3 роки тому

      I really try to be inspired by him and it has helped at times over my life.

  • @EnglishLearnersHere
    @EnglishLearnersHere 2 роки тому +3

    This is so true! Thanks for sharing this!

  • @srinivasanp.b9914
    @srinivasanp.b9914 2 роки тому +1

    Never ever compare yourself. Make a plan for your life and execute it, independent of anyone else. Never look at others around you. Focus only on your work. It's hard, but with practice you can master the skill. It is just a skill.

  • @martinasimanjuntak6136
    @martinasimanjuntak6136 3 роки тому +121

    One of the 12 rules of life by Jordan Peterson: only compare yourself with you yesterday.

  • @BenOnuMuDiyorum
    @BenOnuMuDiyorum 3 роки тому +1

    Man that was life changing. And what makes it so valuable is that it was a candid story. His own humble story which I loved.

  • @qmpoohbear97
    @qmpoohbear97 3 роки тому +5

    I love this!!! Thank you for your wisdom and honest stories.🙌🏼😁

  • @benjaminrobertgraham524
    @benjaminrobertgraham524 3 роки тому

    How true is it that when we spend time comparing to others through our own filter that we will consistently come up short. Powerful.

  • @urvashiappiah2736
    @urvashiappiah2736 3 роки тому +5

    I love this story so much 😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️ thank you for sharing such good contents!

  • @Rwb3n
    @Rwb3n 3 роки тому

    There is a man 10 years older than me yet his mental and physical capacity is 10 years below me. In 1 year I’ve progressed much faster than ever before (based on my personal perception) because I pay attention to everything he does and compare it to what I do, and make changes based on that. It's all about balance, no one is perfect.

  • @Mymultitube7
    @Mymultitube7 5 місяців тому

    "Comparison is the deadliest ...we can do to ourselves" Agreed💯💯💯

  • @zgeorgem
    @zgeorgem 3 роки тому +35

    SPOILERS
    for me the key takeaway from the story is that two different people with opposite traits are equally successful. so when you compare traits, it means nothing unless you consider yourself as a whole.