Why Your Ex Has To Learn The Hard Way

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  • Coach Lee explains why your ex has to learn the hard way when it comes to realizing that breaking up with you was a mistake.
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  • @rglickdrums
    @rglickdrums 3 роки тому +215

    Coach Lee so true that experience from all this explanation in this video has worked. It’s not magic it’s feeling and next thing you know I’m happy. Everybody follow coach Lee advice and get the breakup kit.

    • @erxfav3197
      @erxfav3197 3 роки тому +3

      Experience from all this explanation?? What do you mean?

    • @timmaysubway7697
      @timmaysubway7697 3 роки тому +3

      coach lee is the breakup guru .only one coach lee

    • @timmaysubway7697
      @timmaysubway7697 3 роки тому +4

      @@galadrielwoods2332 .he talks sense to all of us who messed up a good thing cuss we wernt learned in the ways of a healthy or smart approach too the breakup of someone we relly and truly loved

    • @timmaysubway7697
      @timmaysubway7697 3 роки тому +2

      @@galadrielwoods2332 just like i did cuss we are empaths and intuitively knew they were bs n us ..xoxo beautiful soul

    • @timmaysubway7697
      @timmaysubway7697 3 роки тому

      @@galadrielwoods2332 people arnt garbage nothing living is garbage .not even rats ...we all are alive at the same time weather ant or woman..garbage is a label too everything we thinl we can toss without karma attached..an abortion is the idea that will land yall in hell

  • @stripperchronicles_1015
    @stripperchronicles_1015 3 роки тому +187

    I went no contact and got engaged to a better man soon after. Been together for nearly 2 years now. Lol. My lesson was that I had to let him go completely in both mind and spirit and give someone else all of me. Thank you.

    • @Focus293
      @Focus293 Рік тому +1

      Who broke up with who and why?

  • @detales91
    @detales91 3 роки тому +120

    Forgiveness requires tons of strength.

  • @tysonmoffat9230
    @tysonmoffat9230 3 роки тому +460

    These videos are amazing. They calm my anxiety when it creeps up and helps me keep no contact 😊💯

    • @onelastkast3
      @onelastkast3 3 роки тому +11

      Yeah they do I’m going through it rn man. My fiancé and mother of my child just left me like 4 days ago.

    • @tysonmoffat9230
      @tysonmoffat9230 3 роки тому +11

      @@onelastkast3 head up king. I know it's hard but it does get easier. Remember your worth and value ☺️💪

    • @onelastkast3
      @onelastkast3 3 роки тому +12

      @@tysonmoffat9230 I’m trying man. I was a mess the first few days kept in contact and did everything wrong. Now I’m at the point where I realize I’m worth it and I’m not guna contact her, and just hope for the best.

    • @ieftykhan6698
      @ieftykhan6698 3 роки тому +2

      Completely relatable

    • @sanope572
      @sanope572 3 роки тому +2

      @@onelastkast3 how are you?

  • @aminez5215
    @aminez5215 3 роки тому +204

    My ex reached out after 40 days of no contact one NYE telling me that there will always be a place for me in her heart and what we had was special, i just replied happy new year !

    • @gew977
      @gew977 3 роки тому +15

      mine did too but i didnt respond..didnt want to break nc

    • @franky2347
      @franky2347 3 роки тому +6

      🤣

    • @shann6987
      @shann6987 3 роки тому +13

      @@gew977 u suppose to reply to her, but Keep it short hey, I think u should watch, the video on what to do when ur ex reaches out

    • @mootsiee
      @mootsiee 3 роки тому

      My ex said the same thing before . What exactly does that mean?

    • @aminez5215
      @aminez5215 3 роки тому +16

      @@mootsiee tbh I didn't even bother trying to understand the meaning behind her message, after 40 days I was kinda over it and if she has something to say then she's the one who's supposed to reach out and do the work

  • @yolandakerr7368
    @yolandakerr7368 3 роки тому +562

    It's been 6 months since our breakup and it still hurts me like it was yesterday

    • @solidsix6766
      @solidsix6766 3 роки тому +56

      1 year for me. I promise it will get better.

    • @zytxhdx1398
      @zytxhdx1398 3 роки тому +74

      I’m there with you. It’s been 6 months and some days it even feels like the pain is getting worse

    • @barflin
      @barflin 3 роки тому +51

      a little over 2 months and it's still unbelievable. i'm still in a dazey foggy mentality. trying to make sense of it.

    • @michaelferguson1934
      @michaelferguson1934 3 роки тому +36

      I fully get your pain my ex girlfriend broke up with me 11 months ago and still I live in hope and pain ...doing my very best to stay strong and in no contact for the last 4 month's

    • @adelal-ramahi1890
      @adelal-ramahi1890 3 роки тому +53

      Put in mind that you deserve a person that really appreciate and respect you, and that's what you didn't get from your ex. When you feel that, I will assure that you will start to get out of this misery. It's our bad luck that makes us fall with such persons. The coming days are worth living for. Best wishes....

  • @daisymazie21
    @daisymazie21 Рік тому +9

    I will never give up on him, but I won't chase him. He knows he did me wrong. He needs to fix it.

  • @siriusly_ash
    @siriusly_ash 3 роки тому +161

    I got back with my ex and I still love watching these videos.. 😅

    • @wilsonwalker9211
      @wilsonwalker9211 3 роки тому +2

      Congrat❤

    • @-Constrick-
      @-Constrick- 3 роки тому +5

      What happened for you to go back? Just curious..

    • @masmusiclive
      @masmusiclive 2 роки тому +2

      Congratulations! I hope mine returns as well ❤️

    • @lsh292
      @lsh292 Рік тому

      @@masmusiclive did it go well?

    • @bellahernandez544
      @bellahernandez544 Рік тому

      Omg congratulations how long did it take may I ask

  • @lizspinazola7674
    @lizspinazola7674 3 роки тому +91

    I am DYING 😂🤣.
    Rando: An ex is an ex for a reason!
    Coach: "We all think the person typing that is just brilliant....GREAT. Be you. Do...you."

    • @kanika9995
      @kanika9995 3 роки тому +2

      Me too 🤣

    • @michaelmiller8455
      @michaelmiller8455 3 роки тому

      Me too, Liz. She was the love of my life. Broke up with me 3 months ago and I feel...empty. There's a cavity in my chest. The pain is unbearable.

    • @dizzy1412
      @dizzy1412 2 роки тому +1

      😂😂😂

    • @bladimiragurcia4720
      @bladimiragurcia4720 5 місяців тому +1

      Happened to be reading this at the exact moment he said it 🤣🤣🤣

  • @ah2552
    @ah2552 3 роки тому +64

    My ex learned the hard way. She lost me for good. I met and married someone else and had 2 kids. She hasn't had a successful relationship since. Never married, no kids and now extremely bitterest towards me even though she broke up with me.

    • @Halliskyes
      @Halliskyes 3 роки тому +9

      Hah, classic

    • @dizzy1412
      @dizzy1412 2 роки тому +3

      Niiice

    • @starttakinnotez
      @starttakinnotez Рік тому +2

      Sounds like you were with a narcissist who's upset she can't get supply from you any longer.

    • @MrTJMaddox
      @MrTJMaddox Рік тому

      Well that was rude!!

    • @rwentfordable
      @rwentfordable 4 місяці тому +1

      ha, that's women for you, making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.

  • @1CrispyCracker
    @1CrispyCracker 3 роки тому +206

    My narcissistic ex is in a rebound but won’t stop texting me. I’ve ghosted her but she just keeps sending them. I will never be a back up plan or 2nd place to anybody.

    • @h2oboi531
      @h2oboi531 3 роки тому +33

      She wants a childish reaction from you, NEVER tolerate disrespect from a narcissistic emotional being who does NOT know what she wants. Walk away happy you cause you dodged a bullet

    • @kwamenyantakyi8398
      @kwamenyantakyi8398 3 роки тому +11

      Narcissists don't love you they love the control they have over you! Go no contact forever and never take her back!

    • @kenf.2413
      @kenf.2413 3 роки тому +5

      Tell her that she has 2 choices: 1. She moves on without you. OR 2. You will change your phone number and leave her forever.

    • @kwamenyantakyi8398
      @kwamenyantakyi8398 3 роки тому +10

      @@kenf.2413 Nothing against your advice in general but if she rly is a narcissist you don't tell her anything, any type of attention positive or negative is sadly what they feed of.. You block her everywhere and go no contact forever im in the same boat with the difference that I have a child with my narcissistic ex I still have to see that person every time and I'm dealing with ptsd and anxiety because of her

    • @redpillnow9127
      @redpillnow9127 3 роки тому

      block her

  • @diamond13130
    @diamond13130 3 роки тому +97

    I love Coach Lee! But I did the opposite to get my ex back. I did no contact on and off for 3 months when we broke up. I couldn’t take it anymore so I kicked down the door of no contact and spoke to him directly. After a few weeks of back and forth, we got back together and have been back together for over two years and planning for our future together. Our relationship is better than ever. It’s completely different from the 4 1/2 years we were together before our breakup. I’m beyond happy!! I’m blessed.

    • @gabriela3
      @gabriela3 2 роки тому

      ❤️

    • @evancase6101
      @evancase6101 2 роки тому

      What did you say to them directly

    • @dr.options
      @dr.options 2 роки тому +1

      Oh no...this won't end well...throw a marriage into the mix and it will be "Trigger City" for him...what's now blissful will turn into a nightmare. I wish you the best of luck but feel really bad for you knowingly going down this path with a FA.

    • @trust.it.444
      @trust.it.444 Рік тому +1

      Your comment makes me feel better. I've been contemplating about my breakup, and now I understand why it happened. This breakup is neccessary for both of us. I'm now focusing on myself. He gets to gain experience so that he knows for sure what he wants. I'm not waiting for him to come back, but I'm also not forcing myself to think that even if he does come back, I won't let him. I'll consider depending on our situation, and my decision will not be affected by loneliness. By then, I'll be a much better version of myself. If he doesn't come back, I'll still win because I choose to improve myself right now.
      But your comment gives me hope because it confirms that going back to an ex could also be a happy ending

    • @m.k.h.2718
      @m.k.h.2718 Рік тому

      You could've gotten someone better

  • @daisydaisy6180
    @daisydaisy6180 2 роки тому +41

    Guys he is so right stick to no contact no matter what
    My ex just messaged me that he want me back in 15 days of no contact
    Stick to it it's works thank you coach Lee

  • @MightyFoogle
    @MightyFoogle 2 роки тому +56

    About a month after the fact, spent my time healing every day. Take care of myself and live my best life. Accepted the fact that it’s happened, can’t change it. Honestly at this point, wouldn’t even care if she tried to come back. I’ve moved on and would rather focus on me.
    Thanks Coach Lee!

  • @belachewhm
    @belachewhm 2 роки тому +37

    This man is a national treasure

  • @barflin
    @barflin 3 роки тому +79

    I've become a big crybaby since we broke up! i swear it's tiring thinking about it. I miss her more and more every day!

    • @betherealdeal
      @betherealdeal 3 роки тому +14

      No shame
      That is growth. Pain is good. Don’t give up cry if you must but keep going keep growing.

    • @toddgoogle4387
      @toddgoogle4387 3 роки тому +6

      Don’t let her know you are shook up. Missing someone is normal. Get moving

    • @barflin
      @barflin 3 роки тому +7

      Thank you. I'm not. Haven't said a word her way since. I have moved on with my life since this happened. trying to at least.

    • @barflin
      @barflin 3 роки тому

      @@betherealdeal ...thank you.

    • @barflin
      @barflin 3 роки тому

      @@Redouku ....that really does make sense. I just wish I had some answers as to how it all went sour all of a sudden and if there was something I could have done differently. Thank you.

  • @heinz55
    @heinz55 3 роки тому +15

    “An ex for an ex is a reason” is just bitterness not insight.

  • @weecher8956
    @weecher8956 2 роки тому +72

    When we’ve learned the lesson it can often prevent further issues.
    This was a great lesson, Coach Lee.

  • @ahmedbenidir7098
    @ahmedbenidir7098 2 роки тому +37

    She came back...and said she doesn't wanna live without me ect...but
    Things never resparked again, things are awkward and shallow and there is no chemistry as it used to be(at least that's how i feel) and it pains me so much to see how things blow up over a stupid simple misunderstanding
    Somtimes... it's better to walk away fo good and extend the "no contact rule" few decades 😅

  • @albertodeulofeu5277
    @albertodeulofeu5277 3 роки тому +79

    I tried to tell her this, almost exactly like this, when she was leaving but she didn’t care. I’m glad to see someone else has the same definition of what love actually is

    • @JPogi690
      @JPogi690 3 роки тому +28

      I think you forgot that women don't think logical. They think emotionally. That's how they based their decisions in life in general.

    • @albertodeulofeu5277
      @albertodeulofeu5277 3 роки тому +4

      @@JPogi690 I didn’t know it at the time. I know it now.

    • @mmalithefather1472
      @mmalithefather1472 3 роки тому +1

      @@rufusekester6612 go away spam!

    • @gauravkumai
      @gauravkumai 8 місяців тому

      ​@@albertodeulofeu5277Did she contact you back?

  • @rainygamedays5873
    @rainygamedays5873 2 роки тому +18

    Watched these videos for 8 months. We're officially at the point where everything is completely reversed. Not answering her and she I trying very very hard. She won't actually just come home but she won't stop trying with me either. I explained my boundary to her. If she wants to even try again with me she has to come speak to me in person, she left to Texas from pa when she left me. I'm doing very good, whether she shows up or not doesn't matter anymore. It'll be ok everyone, I literally don't remember the first 2 months when this happened. But it does get better. Give them space, focus on yourself and become the best you you can be for you. Everything will work out the way it's supposed to, we just don't know it yet 🤗

  • @markryan9708
    @markryan9708 3 роки тому +163

    So, when / if attraction fades (i.e. desire, motivation toward the other person), that doesn't always mean due to issues with the other person, but it could be due to difficulties in their own life e.g. onset of depression (for whatever reason e.g. post natal), feeling overwhelmed due to recent life events, not sure what they want from the future, confusion etc. In such a cases, it is hard to take it personally when it has nothing to do with you (i.e. the one being dumped or pulled away from) and you wonder why the relationship or dating can't co-exist (which it could), but I guess it just adds pressure to the already existing "issues" and thus doesn't make for a good relationship. Addition: I guess also when the person's relationship with their self is not healthy, then this could affect the relationship with their other half and thus lead to own issue / life events causing a breakup or pull away.

    • @Simpleharmonica
      @Simpleharmonica 3 роки тому +6

      I think this is what’s happened to me. She said she’s not happy with her life and doesn’t know what she wants in a relationship. she is still open to talking to me but very little so I’ve gone no contact I didn’t beg or plead I just said i respect your decision but feel we are meant for each other. She has since cut her hair and is trying to go back to school. I’ve heard from a mutual friend. I know no one else is in the picture because she doesn’t have much social life only me and the mutual friend as well as her family.

    • @noahmosley8320
      @noahmosley8320 2 роки тому +10

      This is my exact situation

    • @mgjordanmusic7902
      @mgjordanmusic7902 2 роки тому +3

      If I could only talk to you about what has happened through the scope of our relationship in the last 3 years, this would be exactly what has happened. It’s so sad but it has happened and I can’t change anything besides myself from this point on.

    • @margotmaven1052
      @margotmaven1052 2 роки тому +8

      I can so relate to this. My ex was under incredible pressure and then his mom fell and right after that is when I got "the text". He was overwhelmed and went into a major depressive episode. He's on meds for that. It's been 3 weeks and I don't expect anything to happen but I surely am feeling better about a lot of things now. Thank you for reminding us that it isn't about us most of the time. :-)

    • @Kobeautycincy
      @Kobeautycincy 2 роки тому +2

      This is EXACTLY my situation right now. I’m wondering if there’s even hope

  • @amj338
    @amj338 3 роки тому +168

    I just want to know how many times coach Lee has said "no contact" in his lifetime 😅
    P.S. I'm a huge fan and appreciate all you do!

    • @angelaizzo641
      @angelaizzo641 3 роки тому

      Yo fake comments over here. Where the mods at????

  • @Garenop
    @Garenop 3 роки тому +18

    I honestly feel like this is a lesson for me. I was not a good bf and just in a depressed and angry state and pushed her away. She’s got tired of it and just blocked me on everything and I don’t hate that or blame her . It still hurts like hell because she’s already with someone else and I’m in the beginning of having to restart my life because I wasted most of it. It’s Hrd I was alone before I met her and when I was with her I didn’t even try to better my life it’s almost as if I used her as an excuse not to change. It all catches up to you in the end.

  • @brijitarellano4628
    @brijitarellano4628 3 роки тому +18

    I WON THE BATTLE OF NO CONTACT AND NO POST ON SOCIAL MEDIA, 😁😁😁😁

  • @xinxinzhang3716
    @xinxinzhang3716 3 роки тому +5

    It’s nice to hear Coach Lee’s voice, gentle and gentle

  • @lisaofthelodge
    @lisaofthelodge 3 роки тому +8

    My goodness Lee that is powerful. No one has intense content like that, that has to be your most valuable video for me so far. I'm so grateful to you, and this has given my nc a huge boost today. Phenomenal 💖

  • @DatLarbieGuy
    @DatLarbieGuy 3 роки тому +39

    Absolutely love Coach Lee. The most real and best relationship coach on UA-cam. Keep it up brother! ✊🏾

  • @KpopLunatic
    @KpopLunatic 3 роки тому +17

    Loving the new intro, Coach Lee! 😁 Immediately Liked the video once that new intro pop-ed out hahaha. Once again whatever you said really hits the spot, it's like you're telling my life story on the breakup. Can totally relate. Hoping 2021 will be a better year for all of us. Thanks for the video Coach! ❤️

  • @Rich-xg2cg
    @Rich-xg2cg 3 роки тому +18

    As usual....real advice and counseling 👍

  • @Gracie.Gardener
    @Gracie.Gardener 3 роки тому +7

    Love ya coach Lee! You saved me so much heartache and wasted time. Bless you & thank you.

  • @adelal-ramahi1890
    @adelal-ramahi1890 3 роки тому +4

    I like the way you present the ideas to give life back to our relationship. Unfortunately, this works with those who don't have mental disorder. It is a huge shock when you discover after all the steps taken to revive the relationship that your ex is not a normal person. Thanks a lot.

  • @keithd.rundle4783
    @keithd.rundle4783 Рік тому +5

    Coach Lee is awesome. So direct and concise. Love his style and advice, has helped me a bunch. Thx Coach!!! ❤️

  • @feelingoffbalance
    @feelingoffbalance 3 роки тому +5

    I gotta say, the title of this video is just amazing, love it love it!

  • @felicitykassis7015
    @felicitykassis7015 Рік тому +7

    Thank you coach Lee! You are very well spoken, your words always make sense to me and convince me to re-think about the breakup in a positive way

  • @kathyglass2922
    @kathyglass2922 Рік тому +2

    Just love your self control when you talk about other people's comments. You do very well.

  • @ladymay7789
    @ladymay7789 Рік тому +5

    The ex- has to learn the hard way because most likely they didn't put any serious thought behind their decision to break up, they acted emotionally and not rationally. The hard lesson happens when the honeymoon ends abruptly, both reality and karma come into the equation and they both become unavoidable.

  • @payat4417
    @payat4417 3 роки тому +22

    Getting better and better everyday! Thank you Lord🙏🏽

  • @stephaniesabarita1991
    @stephaniesabarita1991 3 роки тому +4

    I'm about to give up waiting for him. But, thank you so much for giving me another hope through your videos, especially this video.

  • @firemedic542
    @firemedic542 Рік тому +8

    I really value coach Lee and his videos. This is the first video I’ve listened to where I have to respectfully disagree on a particular area. Although it’s true that it’s out of our control if the other person broke up with us, I don’t believe we lost anything as long as we were authentic, kind and true to ourselves. You can’t lose something that you never had in the first place. If they don’t recognize your value and worth, in the end… THEY will be the ones who lost someone valuable.

  • @markf8871
    @markf8871 3 роки тому +15

    My ex has to learn the hard way, but i am definitely learning the hard way too!

  • @benhartart9487
    @benhartart9487 3 роки тому +5

    Coach literally has a video for everything :) great content as always brother keep it up

  • @joetiger5892
    @joetiger5892 3 роки тому +3

    Wow coach Lee, i´m impressed! The way you put your knowlegde to words is very cool!

  • @Amctothemoon
    @Amctothemoon 3 роки тому +3

    This guy is brilliant
    Straight to the point and everything he says makes sense
    Thankyou

  • @generatie
    @generatie 3 роки тому +4

    One day I will be better. Thanks Coach and Happy New Year! That last one was a bit better because of you

  • @agbordaniels
    @agbordaniels 3 роки тому +44

    I love the way this guy breaks down his lectures n drives the point home with examples.

  • @TheMuse3378
    @TheMuse3378 3 роки тому +3

    I just want to say Thank You for what you do. My ex and I are not back together but I think that's partly because I lack self control and I live in fear he'll forget me and get over me. It's irrational and silly I know and I wish I could find the strength to follow your advice to the letter. With that said, you still have helped me. I was an absolute inconsolable mess for months and some days I still faulter but I am handling things much better and have found some strength. So thank you from the bottom of my heart. I couldn't have gotten to where I am mentally without these videos.

  • @sandrawade2450
    @sandrawade2450 3 роки тому +2

    Coach Lee all I can say is your right on track!! WOW YOU GIVE GREAT ADVISE!! TY VERY MUCH!!❤🦋❤

  • @neysamicheli5561
    @neysamicheli5561 Рік тому +3

    Just what I needed 🙏🏼🙏🏼 I will stay strong 💪 . I hope one day I can get back and share the good news

  • @CoDLikeAhhBoss
    @CoDLikeAhhBoss 3 роки тому +106

    A week after my ex ended our relationship she texted me “how are you?” At 10pm. I waited till morning to respond and said “ Hey, thanks for reaching out. I’m good. How are you?” She responded with “I’m good.” And that was all. I felt like she didn’t leave me much to work with so I did not respond as I didn’t want to carry the conversation. It’s been 4 months since then and not a word. Things have gotten better but I still think of her everyday.

    • @emptysoul2757
      @emptysoul2757 3 роки тому +38

      You did the right thing

    • @keithzizis4860
      @keithzizis4860 3 роки тому +18

      Good job. Out of sight out of mind

    • @ppv1780
      @ppv1780 3 роки тому +7

      You can reach out, but that depends on your current mental and emotional state. If you have nothing to lose and you can be prepared to lose her forever then do it. Reach out, if she doesn’t reply or things seem bad, continue with no contact indefinitely. Good luck.

    • @nataliemassey6066
      @nataliemassey6066 3 роки тому +31

      She has very low interest, and other options . I wouldn’t text unless she does and don’t sound overly excited.

    • @maryalbazzaz8591
      @maryalbazzaz8591 3 роки тому +22

      Hey. I was in almost the exact same boat as you. Ex reached out 3 months after the breakup. He seemed thoughtful and I responded happily but wasn’t overeager and didn’t carry the conversation. A month later, still haven’t heard from him, so I reached out as I wanted to know if it was time to move on (4 months after the breakup) as I was driving myself nuts thinking and hoping every single day. Sure enough, he still isn’t that into me but we both quenched our curiosity about each other. It sucks but I feel like I got my closure and feel relieved. Do what’s best for your mental health-I get that you may want her back, but women have many options and you don’t want to spend years hung over on the same chick.

  • @anthonywilliams1909
    @anthonywilliams1909 3 роки тому +12

    I was dumped on Facebook ! They wanted to be friends at a “ later date “ blocked and immediate no contact !

  • @14karat90
    @14karat90 3 роки тому +2

    coach lee is my go to and has saved my entire life, thank you

  • @lokeshthakur5715
    @lokeshthakur5715 3 роки тому +4

    I love coach Lee's expressions..... He is simply awesome ❣️

  • @davidv.3135
    @davidv.3135 3 роки тому +4

    Coach Lee is absolutely right!

  • @christineallen3003
    @christineallen3003 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you Coach Lee
    I m so tired of this toxic cycle of breaking up with this leo! His behavior is so selfish & self-centered. I blocked him for 6months & his behavior has barely changed. I m done

  • @Reilly5
    @Reilly5 3 роки тому +1

    It's been a while Coach Lee, but I'm impressed by the graphics and camera quality upgrades to this video!

  • @abee2488
    @abee2488 3 роки тому +2

    OK...I just learned something new today. Limerance. I looked up the definition and there is a lot about it....often connected with people wit OCD.
    Fascinating. It helps to explain many things my particular situation. Coach Lee...THANK YOU!

  • @KDotz
    @KDotz 3 роки тому +27

    GOAT Lee 🐐

  • @_mcknight
    @_mcknight 3 роки тому +82

    "A lot of people say, 'An ex is an ex for a reason,' and we all read that in my comments section and think the person typing it is just brilliant..." - So glad you said that! I get sick of these people on here thinking they're such experts, when in reality I actually wonder how much love any of them even really have in their own hearts. Think about it: if you can give up and just move on so easily after being dumped, maybe you yourself didn't really love the other person as much as you thought either.

    • @ianbrown5955
      @ianbrown5955 3 роки тому +8

      Nobody can move on when they are in pain, but a painful heart acts in desperation, loneliness, and low self esteem.

    • @udochimoemeka2712
      @udochimoemeka2712 3 роки тому +2

      100 percent true

    • @ianbrown5955
      @ianbrown5955 3 роки тому +4

      @@bellagold8341 WOW!! Just what I was looking for; somebody to bring my "x" back. Would you like my account number and password?
      I'm pretty sure that you can do miracles. Where have you been? There were a few things I forgot to tell my father before he passed away, can you bring "him" back too?

    • @vibrantnubian27
      @vibrantnubian27 3 роки тому +1

      👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

    • @Denimchicken.
      @Denimchicken. 3 роки тому +4

      Makes me wonder why they are hear watching the videos of they’re so strong

  • @chevy2583
    @chevy2583 3 роки тому +13

    Thanks Coach Lee.... I hope dumpers see your videos and learn....

  • @mikealasmar3818
    @mikealasmar3818 2 роки тому +1

    i love you. i love this video.
    this so perfectly describes my ex.
    at this point i have already started moving on which is great.
    i feel bad for her honestly. i knew this to some degree but to hear it from a professional and hear it articulated like this is so satisfying.

  • @rizalievillanueva4948
    @rizalievillanueva4948 3 роки тому +11

    Coach lee your video makes me cry... I hold on to your word.. He never forget me at all because of the happy memories weve been together before.. Thank you coach lee you made me stronger..

    • @tyshastx
      @tyshastx 3 роки тому +6

      Keep doing no contact. He'll realize it soon. And if he doesn't, he's not for you. My ex called me crying after he found out I was dating. So date, meet people but don't use them as a tool to replace your ex. And don't have any expectations of anyone

    • @rizalievillanueva4948
      @rizalievillanueva4948 3 роки тому +1

      Coach lee my husband came to me and said theres no chance of getting back together but i dont know its quite confusing because he came to kiss and hug me.he is in a rebound his woman is pregnant.. I dont know what to do do i allow to continue doing that to me since i know he is in another woman.. He came to me and he go to the another one.. Quite confusing coach lee what should i do pls help me..

  • @ccdailyadvice6130
    @ccdailyadvice6130 2 роки тому +11

    Coach Lee is awesome. I love to go walking and just play one of his videos and listen to it in my air pods. not only am I getting exercise that helps make me feel better during the “focusing on yourself stage” I can also use his videos as motivation to keep on keeping on when times get hard and I just wanna cry

  • @bhavipdvlog3281
    @bhavipdvlog3281 11 місяців тому +1

    One of the best relationship coach i have ever seen. It helps me to get my ex 1 year ago after breaup. He help me keep motivated for no contact.

  • @prawingurung441
    @prawingurung441 3 роки тому +1

    Never thought i would be landing here...but seriously your videos help me become better version of myself

  • @sweetcristys
    @sweetcristys 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you Coach Lee...I’m still going to schedule a one-on-one though 😌

  • @edaluv
    @edaluv 3 роки тому +8

    “Great, be you... Do you” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love it coach lee!!
    I agree! Keep your bad advise over there please

  • @joescience1
    @joescience1 3 роки тому +2

    Saved to my ‘favorites’ playlist :)

  • @HappyGirl707
    @HappyGirl707 2 роки тому

    Aha! This totally explains the break up. Thank you for sharing.

  • @jennyjen3985
    @jennyjen3985 3 роки тому +8

    I always enjoy learning from you coach, u r amazing. Thank you for helping me out with your knowledge and advice, u have really helped me out so much.

  • @chasecole4872
    @chasecole4872 3 роки тому +29

    My ex kept keeping me around saying she loved me on day and wanted to work things out. The next she was wanting me to move on. A lot of back and forth as this happened more than once. I finally was able to put my foot down yesterday and told her this needs to stop and said my goodbyes. No contact has finally started started for real this time as of last night as I continue to work on myself. Thank you Coach Lee!

  • @astrologyfirst4376
    @astrologyfirst4376 3 роки тому +1

    At least we haven’t broken up coach lee 😊 love your videos your awesome 👏

  • @abcde3311
    @abcde3311 3 роки тому +7

    Been watching your videos for 2 months...one message for everyone..they will come back the day you dont care and let go

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 4 місяці тому

      I stopped caring almost a month ago but he hasn't reached out yet. I can see from his social media that he's busy talking to too many girls...

  • @tanyamaiauksonkhong4485
    @tanyamaiauksonkhong4485 3 роки тому +2

    NC is really worked! He reached me out at 21 days of NC and we come back to be together now :)

  • @drexelking8792
    @drexelking8792 3 роки тому +10

    Good information. Lee is the man.

  • @user-hh7fe9mt9w
    @user-hh7fe9mt9w Рік тому +1

    Here again, got throught one break up already, now it's second
    Good luck to all, you deserve be loved

  • @NomadUrpagi
    @NomadUrpagi 3 роки тому +1

    Thanks for guidance and mindfulness. I was full of disbelief and anxious hope when i started watching you. I hoped with all my heart she comes back in 3-4 months. Now, 11 months later i realised either something is wrong with her or she never loved me if she can just cross me out of her life like that never even peeking into my social media once.
    Now i am numb. Now i am indifferent. Now i don't feel love for her anymore. I think i am ready to give up on her. Let her be. Because she never truly loved me. Goodbye my love.

  • @emmacarla1752
    @emmacarla1752 3 роки тому +3

    Wisdom to live by...
    I ❤ Lee....

  • @theegenesis1475
    @theegenesis1475 3 роки тому +3

    I like the way he said “ That’s alright,be you do you “ 😂💯

  • @angelsolano2243
    @angelsolano2243 3 роки тому +2

    Love the new intro 🔥😁

  • @hassenelorfi3247
    @hassenelorfi3247 3 роки тому +1

    this video is really for smart people only , who treully falled in love , thank you coach

  • @TylerSmith-dx8pb
    @TylerSmith-dx8pb 2 роки тому +3

    I liked this video a lot Lee, and I also took a lesson away about what love really is!

    • @wandayarbrough
      @wandayarbrough 2 роки тому

      Still doing the no contact. 2 years now and I can only move forward to new and better. Do I miss him. Yes sometimes. I miss our music connection. But hopefully I find some one else who loves Strait as much as me.

  • @jameskemp2166
    @jameskemp2166 3 роки тому +40

    I watch your videos every day to give me the strength to stick with it.

    • @abacosmetology675
      @abacosmetology675 3 роки тому +5

      Sigh same here...there are days i feel so strong and some days i feel so lonely...

    • @dago1595
      @dago1595 3 роки тому

      My ex broke up with me 2,5 months ago. I can tell you, these videos do help you very much and are helping you to stick to no contact

    • @paolanamuncura8879
      @paolanamuncura8879 Рік тому

      @@abacosmetology675 update???

  • @lynx5603
    @lynx5603 3 роки тому +1

    Wow lol the visuals have changed at the beginning of the video awesome 👌

  • @lionface1364
    @lionface1364 3 роки тому +2

    Coach Lee is the truth

  • @Laurabora82224
    @Laurabora82224 Рік тому +6

    Thank you Coach Lee for your videos. It was on this video that I decided to message my ex who had broken up with me a month ago. Your videos helped get me through these last 30 days. I broke the no contact rule because I knew they wouldn't say anything. But I knew from my heart I wanted them to be happy with or without me so I let them know. It was a short but kind text exchange. Whether they would ever want me back or not, I know I have to go on with my own life. And we both will be ok. I am focusing on my goals and dreams more than ever and enjoying the things I love.

  • @toiletfarm
    @toiletfarm 3 роки тому +5

    Life is ebb and flo. Sometimes a person hurts you, you lose a career, something outside of your control derails a plan, but we all can recover. It's easy to be present when you're in pain, so my goal is to be more present when I am in the peaks of life.

  • @vtchevalier
    @vtchevalier 3 роки тому +1

    Oooo fancy new intro I like it 👏🏻

  • @nickmoreno7479
    @nickmoreno7479 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you coach Lee. Just what I needed to hear.

  • @patrickdolan8388
    @patrickdolan8388 3 роки тому +4

    I am learning a ton with these videos. A thought for you coach, the no contact rule, is it also considering the four attachment styles fearful avoidant dismissive avoidant, secure and anxious avoidant when applying your techniques?

  • @dami_t3178
    @dami_t3178 3 роки тому +4

    Very good knowledge to know. Wisdom on a crazy level Coach. I thank you especially for the fact of learning the hard way. I learned that as well with my break up. And I hope she does too even within a rebound

  • @laylaoesco239
    @laylaoesco239 Рік тому

    You are a genius of how love works ❤️THANK YOU for this

  • @oxymoron458
    @oxymoron458 3 роки тому

    I like your channel very true but optimistic and mature

  • @natalijaseme8725
    @natalijaseme8725 3 роки тому +14

    Waking up at 5am finding a new video of Lee telling you for the 150th time to do no contact hehe
    Thank you I get strength here
    My ex contacted me after 13 days of nc on 30th to wish me merry Christmas and i warmly and politely responded...but then I didnt say anything on NY ... it's now the start of day 5
    Maybe he will learn the hard way!
    Unless you have other suggestions haha

  • @jackassfat
    @jackassfat 3 роки тому +9

    You are right as long as the ideas such as : "there is a reason to call them ex" or " i am not just gonna just settle down for any body" or " i love you but i am not in love" or " i don't feel the butterfly in my stomach" or so many many other feelings and expressions, nothing gonna change and it will be pandemic. This society is different than our parents or grandparents. This society is stubborn and very opinion oriented. The "bad" role models or supporters of divorce are growing fast. no body wants to commit,everybody body wants freedom with zero commitments. This issue is expanding like a virus in the west. It seems everybody is raising somebody's else kids..Seems the whole thing is against the original family value...Moving on to 2021 i am not hopeful any change at all or even it gets worse. You and your generation of trying to advice the dumpers, will vanish soon..unfortunately.
    Things change in the past 2 decades hugely...we live in a society where divorce is a norm now...the rate is skyrocket...
    I have nothing else to add just we all must get used to single life for ever and hopefully when we get old we are still able to change our diapers....

  • @emilyweiler7843
    @emilyweiler7843 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you coach Lee .. I staying strong on no contact

  • @aurisamaisonet253
    @aurisamaisonet253 3 роки тому +9

    I recently discovered your videos and have basically been binge watching them. I love your content/ approach. These videos are helping me through a recent break up. I’m currently doing no contact and ran into my ex walking out of the store yesterday. I think I noticeably frowned and just waved at him and kept it moving. The next day he took our picture of off his Instagram, Did I blow it? I have not contacted him but it’s only been a week since our break up.

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  3 роки тому +7

      What you said you did did not sound like you blew it. Just stay in no contact.

  • @jjjreese
    @jjjreese 3 роки тому +4

    Wow, that was an amazing video.. I don’t see much on no contact -if you had to say good bye .. like because of being cheated on.. and yes I know people say walk away room cheaters forever ... but they too can learn... maybe we have been there maybe not but I’d love to see more on cheating and the dynamics...

  • @thrashingdemon09
    @thrashingdemon09 2 роки тому +9

    Coach Lee your advise is golden it's helping me a lot to get through this heartbreak and it has helped me realize that I am the master of my own mind and getting back with my ex is MY choice not theirs. My life has been improving in all aspects since the moment I decided to be the master of my own mind and my own emotions. If my ex decides she wants to come back it will be my choice to accept it not hers.

    • @thrashingdemon09
      @thrashingdemon09 2 роки тому

      @@Codedkhalifa I would like to hear about your story. How did it happen?

    • @thrashingdemon09
      @thrashingdemon09 2 роки тому

      @@Codedkhalifa spell caster?

  • @29mirstudio
    @29mirstudio 3 роки тому +2

    Looking back all the signs were there. Line drops of doubts. But when you are in love you have selective hearing. 3 month after NC, I sent her a courteous text New Years Eve; that’s when I found out she moved to a different city. It’s over! The first month I was in pure emotional hell, I can honestly say it still hurts, it was so disappointing but, I feel 80% better. Time heals! (Don’t follow who’s not ready to receive your love)