How Do You Know No Contact Is Working If You Haven't Heard From Your Ex
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- Опубліковано 8 лип 2024
- How do you know if no contact is working if you haven't heard from your ex? Here are signs that no contact is working even if your ex hasn't reached out. If your ex hasn't contacted you during no contact, it doesn't mean no contact isn't working.
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You'll know that No Contact is working when you feel compelled to reach out but then something inside you feels so injured that all you can think about is how they did you dirty and you feel repulsed. That's when you know that No Contact is working.
No contact simply is a way to heal and better ourselves for the next person. If someone wants to be with you then they will. There’s no guarantees it will work but it does for you.
Yeah, I kinda agree. Better yourself. Your ex lost. Move on. Try not to fixate on the negative. You made sacrifices for the ex. Now is YOUR time. Live it.
exactly
Thanks for the help
Not for me, I havent healed a bit. Becuase im dedicated to get her back, but obviously im not going to break it becuase its the only way.
“ Sometimes we have to lose what we have in order to appreciate it “ hit me right in the chest this exactly how I feel about my ex after she broke up with me, started NC a week ago do my best to stay positive and hoping for the best.
Even do I love her right now there is nothing I can do to make her come back and if I do she just gonna run farther away.
Wish ya’ll the best during your NC period, stay strong.
Eliasaf Cohen any updates?
Damn.. my ex gf of 5 years blocked me on everything ..
update?
Any update
any update?
No contact is for ourselves... don't wait for someone who dumped you. The earlier we move on...the better options we have out there 😊 I was dumped by my ex 2 months ago after 4 good years... I convinced and stay in contact with her for 1 and half months ....I saw myself that its not getting me to nowhere so I totally cut off all the communication because I know its the best for me. I don't want someone who discard me just like a pile of shit
I’m battling to feel attractive to anyone since being dumped .. 5 months ago
Uh I think I hold the world's record here. Dumped in 1983 and she reconnected with me via facebook 3 years ago!! Only thing is she is still in Florida and I'm in Pennsylvania. We did have some serious conversations on the phone. But we are completely different people now. She's into dogs...haha
Hahaha
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yes happened to me heard from two exes one after 10 years and another after 20 years via FB !! we ended up being good friends with one of them ..both had been terrible breakups only goes to prove they still remember you !!
You might have the world record 😉
too funny
My ex has never had to go long with no contact because I have always contacted him! I’m not doing it anymore! It’s his turn to go through what I have been through! He may not but I’m stronger now listening to Craig.
Don't do it..
Mary I doing this to an so called friend
@Mary Kerr did No Contact help? Did he come back?
Funny... my ex is named Mary and she is the reason why I'm watching these videos haha
Update??
These videos are so helpful. I've spent so much time getting right with myself, watching coach, as well as Jay Shetty and Trent Shelton videos. At this point, none of my exes deserve any part of me. Keep the videos coming 😊
You didn’t like “The Last Jedi”?!
Now I know you are legit!
I really like your approach. It's drastically different than the other dating coaches out there. I believe your signature trait is basing most, if not everything on childhood experiences (traumas), our interpretations of those events and how we handled them and continue to handle those traumas that inevitably infiltrate every situation in adulthood ... all unbeknownst to us. Thank you for helping to connect those important details.
This man just saying and everything is working like how!??? He like hacked everyone's brain and tbh everything he says is working exactly 🙏🏼❤️
For what I’ve learned my long time ex is, we as people have to learned people’s behaviors during the breakup, that will open the door wherever they are coming back or not, what does that tells is there mental behavior, is they have any issues, like BPD traits narcissistic etc, if they line up someone or looking for attention is likely they suffer BPD traits, this doesn’t mean they are fully BPD, many people have issues, we forget this things because we want them back, so we can fix our ego, good luck everyone it’s not easy going no contact but it’s one of the best options.
I love your channel it's so therapeutic listening to you both, has brought healing to me. These days I'm feeling so much better with your advice. You guys are a blessing ❤
Great analogy! And, you are so right! The Last Jedi was a complete suck Fest! I was so done with Star Wars after that and only the Mandalorian is possibly drawing me back in.
Phenomenal video!!! Love the workbooks
Another amazing video! You impress me so much with Joe dedicated you are to helping others and how often you release quality content and advice.
Further on the topic of No Contact, I was wondering if you could do a video talking about how to make it work specially if you have other commitments which involve interaction with the ex, eg work, group activities etc. Thanks!
Movie preview analogy is fantastic.
Was my birthday yesterday and I stupidly thought he would find that a good reason to reach out just to say happy birthday, of course he didnt. Never felt more alone.
Forget about it...be happy
Update??
I am very thankful that you make videos and post advice. 😀
This video will get me to do a coaching with you. We was together 4 months been in no contact for almost 2 months. I heard nothing from him. He is completely MIA. Thanks for very detailed video. Love it
Joe Blow yes that precisely what I've done
My Ex broke up with me in February. Two Weeks ago, we met up and she wanted to know what has changed since the break up because she said she „sensed“ it. I was working hard on me and my past traumas, attachment style with therapy and the workbooks. She was really blown away by my changes. BUT since then she didn’t reach out to me so I went back into NC and it is really hard because I love her so much. I really think our relationship could be so much better now. I am hoping she reaches out to me. That’s the woman I truly love with all my heart. Stay strong whoever is doing NC and work on yourselves!
Updates?
She ever reach out?
Needed to hear this today 👍🏽👍🏽💎💎💎
If he or she is stalking your social media’s then that’s a good sign there is interest there and the time in no Contact is likely doing a number on them
Thanks a lot, you‘re truly helping. I dont even know if you truly are a psychologist or something like that, but still what you are saying is helping.
I don’t know if your name is truly Gina but you’re welcome
Coach Craig Kenneth true ;)
WOW, coach Craig, you hit the nail on the head, my ex was prepared just as you said! You make me feel better in that you know what happens with our ex's. I'm in no contact and if she contacts me, I'm not sure I want to take her back after she treated me so badly that I had to say something and she got mad and left. That is why I think this was all planned. Thank you coach Craig for the insight.
It’s always planned, Tom. That’s just how they operate. It sucks, but you’ll be ok in time.
@@FM-zg5hz She has contacted me several times about 2 months after she blocked me. We texted politely but I have not done anything about meeting her again. She hinted at it about 3 weeks ago but I didn't take the bait. I'm still considering it, but my head is on straight and it's a we'll see right now....
@@TravelFoodHealth are you back together now?
@@stanceynkgowe2709 No, not together! Now I see very very clearly and she was never interested in long term. To be honest, I couldn't put up with her immaturity now.. She one time said, "never say no to me". I thought she was joking, but she was serious.I'm no longer head over heals with her and can't put up with that kind of stuff again. I Say no and she has a temper tantrum. Moved on.....thanks for asking. 😊
@@thomaslevine405 okay I hope you are healed now. As for me I am still in my healing journey. Hopefully one day I meet someone who will love me back
You're a hundred percent right -- about The Last Jedi.
Yeah, none of that. Next?
I actually cheered at that last jedi comment,
also good video
I love my personal growth , a friend of told me that I've changed for the better and I'm different now
Also my friends and it feels much better
Thank you, this video really helped me out! !
I'm doing no contact with Star Wars. It keeps reaching out but I'm not going back.
I love your videos , it's help me through my tough times, but you are saying the break up is a problem in your relationship. I had a wonderful relationship one day he come to me and said i cheated on you it's over , never heard from him for 3 years
How much likely is this going to work in the age of corona virus?Does it increase your chances Coach Craig Kenneth?
And speaks to you!
I moved away, cut off contact, didn’t look back. But I think about her often which is a step up from thinking about her all day everyday. I don’t expect her to come back as she is a fearful avoidant. She is afraid of her own shadow and over time I realize she probably isn’t good for me. At this point, I am just trying to eliminate thinking about her as often as I do. Not dating anyone now and don’t plan to anytime soon but I anticipate once I start getting back to seeing other women I will accomplish my goal of getting her out of my mind.
Craig please make a video on short term relationships
How long are we talking..i personally don't think the length matters. Me and my ex were together almost 6 months it felt like 3 years . We went through SO much shit together
This is serious no contact really works am si happy
The Star Wars reference 😂🤣
Downsizing! That movies looked awesome in the preview..
😂it looked funny and interesting but it was really sad
Amen to this!
My ex (who cheated on me) contacted me after 3 months of no contact to apologise & say she missed me.
I didn't think no contact would work but I was proven wrong
Did u go straight into no contact?
@@jamierinaldi3547 yes
cheaters don't bother, just throw them behind the bus, it's the worst thing one can ever do to their partner.
Out of the blue she said that? Or you were texting her back after hey how are you? I assume that is how she started
man, feeling like life or death doesn't ring so much true as right now, dealing with a break up and a pandemic, helpp lolololol
Haha I love the Jedi comment, my ex and I also love Star Wars.
I always have to go back to this video.Thanks coach !
She posted a pic of the restaurant we went to but she was in the picture with her new bf with the tag line “date night”. Guess I’m toast haha
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So what do you suggest? If they finally get contacted?
Only talk on the phone, or dinner? Nothing intimate of course, but what?
She liked my photos several times last year. I think she will be back soon. But even if she doesnt come back I know im better now
You are amazing
Sometimes they move on with someone else ... Sorry, but it’s just reality ... You need to accept that is a possibility ... I mean they did break up with you, and that’s not good to begin with ...
Ha! He was the dumper and i am the one who is contacting (contacted) his family (and tried with one friend... Terrible mistake). Not gonna do it anymore, iam tired, and he do not care a 7 years old relationship. But i like to hear Craig and Margaret because it helps ME.
I feel you. I dont chase anymore becoz I am really tired tho my heart is still broken. If we are meant to me tgt, it will be him to chase me again. I hope you are doing well Paulina.
@@Whmk6254 i am fine, omg, it's amazing what time can do and self care and love. I love him, i miss him, and that helped me a lot: do not try to erase what you feel. Love is expansive, we have this idea of possession and nooo, that's awful. So just feel, and love, feel the love, but first for yourself. Send you big hugs and love, everything will be okey.
Since I decided to go no contact, after noticing I just wasn't emotionally and mentally improving. Not saying I'm 100% improve with myself, but I do know what I need to do in order to be better in every aspect of my life. So while we are in no contact and letting her do the chasing. BTW she broke up with me... I put stuff on Facebook like funny stuff, also I put a song on there 21st February . We have this dance monkey song from tones and I that when she hears it it's me she remembers, there was no response to it until 9.15pm on the 1st March in which she liked the shared post to it. I've posted a few things after that, so she would have to physically go on my profile and like it. Didn't like any other posts but the one that we both have this connection to each other.
Since I never share any social media and don’t really let her get to know my friends or family (because I don’t really need theirs either - I’ve chosen her, but not the other people), she doesn’t have an alternative to reaching out directly. I even deleted her number, so she can’t even see my WA pic. All she has are our photos!
I watched lots of these videos. I went no contact he contacted me after 3 weeks. Act casually. Its, true they dont want you to forget them. Just act cool. If yiu love them do this! Its a killer but 100% worth it
This video is interesting.
And what about going No Contact to a Girl that you have just dated ONLINE for 3 months and she also had feelings for you (at least in the beginning) ? she ended our thing bcuz i was "stalking" her by visiting her local that she often visits without saying anything to her.. and also lied to her by denying that i visited that local ... is there still any hope ? what do you think?
Hey coach... If I opt for your mail or Skype coaching how many mails and Skype session does it consist... I mean it'll take a long session for me to explain my condition and her's... Then do I have to Book a separate session for coaching...? Is very expensive in India..
Especially after you lost your Mother in November
Could you make a video about what if your ex doesnt use social media. Or if they do. They never post or like anything. So basically you have ni idea what they are doing.. its very frustrating. Because i dont have any clue if he is looking at my social media and if he is wondering or missing me. Other than i see him online on messenger every now and then.. i have no clue what is going on in his life. If the ex posts songs or memes or pictures. Like you said you can find hiddens clues about how they feel about you. But mine doesn't like any posts or pictures ever! About me or anyone. And never posts nothing.. just online on messenger ever other day or so for a few minutes.. its exausting and i am really really sad..
Crying in pain samantha london
Thank you so much sir 💕 from lndia
Hey Coach! What about long distance relationships going through a no contact. Can you speak something about that
are you friends on social media?
TheMadMattster yes
How long does it usually take to get a response to am email coaching after i sent in the questionnaire
Just when I started moving on from my ex and have begun dating I start getting anonymous views on my Facebook stories which I have never seen happen on my page before... interesting 🤔
Could very well be someone else I just find it odd that someone who isn’t on my friends list has now been viewing my stories every day out of nowhere.
I’m also not particularly easy to find as I go by first and middle name rather than my actual name.
Me too!! I didn't realize that I didn't choose to share privately and it was public and someone watched one of my stories...and recently I found out the guy I was in a LDR blocked me on facebook. I definitely think it was him spying me.
Great video! I have one question for The Coaches or any views that maybe able to give me an answer. If your ex goes from breaking up with you one day and the day after is starting to see another woman that he said was interested in him, while starting something new will he still toy the thoughts around in his head as to whether his decision to break up with me was the right one? Or is that usually something more common after the rebound is history or ended?
Any update?
Okay so an unusual thing happened... We see each other ( common workplace ) but since the breakup I've been on no contact...
But today she called my name for some stuff to be sent to her... On a professional level... I thought she was calling someone else... And didn't look at her... But later on I came to know she was actually calling me... Now she thinks I'm ignoring her.... And don't want her in life...
What should I do?? Continue no contact...?
What about "accidentally" pocket dial you, when you haven't spoken to each other in weeks? Happened on 2 diff occasions
ha, "accidentally". Just like how my ex "Accidentally" liked new profile pics of mine 3 days apart lol
It sucks because we aren't FB friends so I can't watch for any of these social media signs. I'd love to get some kind of message. Together 8 years. Breakup 6 months ago (via voicemail, no less)
One little thing he done recently is he unblocked me from Facebook , no contact has been already a month .
No contact is also a strategy to distance from a narcissist. Can you speak to that? You wouldn’t want to get a narcissist back
Can you make a video about behaviour escalation??
So heres a question..
How do we know if our current partner is over their ex? How do we know that we aren't in the relationship that just "isn't going to work" because of this past relationship?
Not sure if this makes sense or not.
If he's emotionally available, no interest in or contact with ex and values, wants marriage..
i had done NC for 30 days & reached out a few times w no response (per a different coach) so i left him alone, then when i found out about him seeing another person a week before he left. i messed up & texted him just asking why he just didn't tell me, i didn't get mean or anything just said he could have just told me, i would have left him alone. he & the new girl actually broke up after my text which i thought was kinda funny, they did get back together but kept breaking up. now he's single again. it's been 5 months since we spoke (2 months NC since my last text), I wonder now if he will wonder if he'll experience that anxiety now that he isn't seeing anyone & i'm leaving him alone...
Is it common for a DA not to add you to social media? We added each other once and a couple of weeks later I had a trauma trigger and blocked him for a few weeks. That was 3,5 years ago and he won't add me to Anything. When I confront him he always says the same thing "You used to be on my Facebook, but then you blocked me."
I'm FA and he's DA and we've both left each other a hundred times the past 4 years. We're "just friends" and have never been an official item.
What if she's blocked you everywhere including Instagram but she changed her profile photo to one she knows is one of my favourite of her?
Mmmm too bad my ex is not on social media, I don't even know if he's my ex or what because he just went silent and stopped calling and doesn't want a break up but when i call him he answers any time of the day so I stopped calling and followed the no contact rule it's week 2 now
We broke up on the 3rd November and i already seen him on a dating app, i really want to hear from him. Guess he aint coming back.
My ex isn’t on the internet. No social media at all. Ugh
Can you do a Stalking one please?
I was stalked...he was convicted he then did it again so he was charged with stalking again.
Folder of evidence so am ready 📂
So how do you handle the person that left you emotionally to go to person to person .. that was still with u physically . Then found someone then dropped u
oof my ex has showed none of these signs lol. the first month and a half of the breakup he used to always reach out about insignificant things and now he doesn’t even do that, I’m on day 5 of my new no contact period and he hasn’t reached out at all. all he does is view my stories occasionally but he seems fine without me. I think he was reaching out to me so he can use me as a crutch to truly move on, not bc he had any intentions of getting back together with me… ever since he started talking to someone new he hasn’t reached out at all.
Yup , texted my daughters saying has their Xmass gift and mine. Change his WhatsApp picture to one I am with him and his friend . Lol NC works when you stick to it !
What if they don't put up, but "like" depressing pictures or quotes on Instagram? The ones that are about breakups, about having a broken heart, that are aimed at us? Is this a sign also or nothing to worry about unless they explicitly post it.
Hi craig, can you do a video about long distance and no contact- we broke up cause corona kept us separated but i will be moving to a city very close to his for work in a few months
Same experience I had . We have been apart for 1.5 years due to distance, he just broke up giving me all stupid reasons like culture differences .
About 3 months of NC, and my ex gf called really early Saturday morning, but I was doing something, heard my phone vibrate and saw the miss call. But she didn't leave a msg,so idk if she was just watching my page and accidentally clicked call and hung up or she wanted to talk but bottled it last minute. I haven't msged back BC I believe if she does wanna chat she'll leave a msg so ik her intentions.
I'd be open to talk , so let's see what happens this week
Update?
Hahahaha! Your comment on The Last Jedi was brilliant!
I hate that movie so much.
She blocks my phone and Facebook
Coach... but what if your blocked and they quickly moved into a relationship and put up pics a month later???
Any update?
Does no contact work if you are blocked
Guess I'm done 0 for 7 ....wow
The Last Jedi! Spot on. 😀
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what if your ex sit by you in class?
Ex wore my shirt on snap after she left me for month is that good or bad ?
Been in no contact for around 5 months maybe almost 6. Is there still time that her mind can turn?. I'm not worrying about her as much anymore. I've seen this video at the start of my breakup I'm here again because it was a UA-cam suggestion. But is there still time
10 weeks since the breakup. Haven’t heard anything from her in 5 weeks
It’s honestly so hard to hear that because if you have a kid with them an been with them for 5 years! It’s hard for you to just let them go cause it’s like a spiritual connection that girl in the picture an I were 16 an man I don’t want anyone on earth but her so I’m going to fight my own instinct an do the no contact rule!
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Hey coach Craig my ex boyfriend cheated on me. He only told me because he had an std. He claimed this was from someone he met one time in a club (but I suspect it was a fling). I was shocked and broke up with him immediately. In the lead up to the breakup we had a few arguments and he was particularly cruel about me putting on a little weight (in response to a mild depression) where he was so loving and kind and filled me with confidence before. I now suspect it’s because he was comparing me to another woman. I walked away from him as I was so shocked and angry and he wasn’t really giving me any answers at all. In hindsight I think it’s because he was lying about how he had contracted the std. The next day he was upset saying he wanted to cry because he messed us up. I agreed and was very strong about not wanting him back, telling him to delete my number. However over the next week I craved nothing more than to speak to him and actually have a discussion about it all to make sense of everything as I had been completely blindsided by his revelation. We broke up 7weeks ago and I went into no contact 6weeks ago. Sending him a nice text so he wouldn’t have to feel awkward to speak to me again. I have heard nothing since from him. However he has watched every single one of my what’s app statuses and still does! (He doesn’t have other social media). What do you think this means? We had a very intense loving relationship and I think stress and money issues put a strain on us, but communication was always a major strong point for us. My mums friend is psychic and picked up on everything. She said he had started seeing this other girl while with me and believes he is in contact with her. He still loves me and doesn’t know what to do and is trying to choose between us. And also he has a lot of stress in his personal life (which is true) But I literally have heard NOTHING from him in 6weeks. In the week after our breakup I kept trying to speak to him and went a little crazy one particular day calling him loads! and he didn’t want to talk at all and kept rejecting me saying he doesn’t want to talk right now, can’t face me or what he’s done and needs “space.” I’ve respected that and went into no contact but I didn’t think it would be this long. Do you think I should completely let go of him and do you think he will ever initiate contact? He’s told me in the past that girls have always tried to get him to open up but he never ever would and even got kicked out of therapy for not opening up. But he was always the opposite with me and told me he’s never been like that with anyone. Girls used to beg him to open up but he never felt a fraction for them the way he felt for me. But now it’s like he’s shut down on me completely. His love for me was always intense and almost obsessive. Now completely nothing. But still views every single status. Why is he watching my statuses??? He also built a bond with my young child and wanted a family with us. Something he seemed to really value at the time. I have no idea how he’s doing or if he even cares. Should I give up?
I’ve been working solidly on myself during the last 6weeks of no contact and learned to love myself more. Lost weight, focused on being a great mum, boosted my finances, taken up new hobbies and all my what’s app statuses reflect this too (which he views). I’ve never posted anything indirect. It’s all been positive and shown me being active and showcasing my changes. Part of me wonders if he feels scared to initiate contact because he hurt me and feels bad about it and never wants to admit to what he’s done. but part of me also doesn’t want to make excuses for him. Ion not a hard person to talk to generally and in our last messages I tried to make him feel comfortable enough to reach out even telling him I forgave the cheating. Which I do, but the lack of explanation and even ONE conversation is the thing I find hardest to deal with. Do you think he’s moved on with the other girl?
How can i manage a no contact if we go work togheter with my car?
Is that a good sign or bad sign
Criaig, you sound like we're talking about a 👻 ghost! :)