How To Know If No Contact Is Working

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  • Опубліковано 5 лип 2018
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    Coach Lee tells you how you can know if No Contact is working on your ex.
    So you've applied the No Contact Rule and you want to know if it is making your ex miss you and, ultimately, want to get back together with you.
    You're in luck! Coach Lee, of MyExBackCoach.com, is going to show you how you can know if the no contact rule is working on your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend.
    There are a few different ways to know if no contact is working and Coach Lee discusses five ways that you can know or at least have a very good idea if your decision to disappear and let your ex truly experience the breakup they think they wanted is working.
    In other videos, Coach Lee discusses the no contact rule and how it is effective and powerful in getting your ex to miss you, reach out to you, and to want to get back together with you.
    But he is a realist and knows that you'd like to have some things to look for in order to know that it is truly working. With that in mind, he created this video for his coaching clients and those who haven't yet had a coaching call with him.
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  • @NathanCabs
    @NathanCabs 2 роки тому +118

    My ex already contacted me a couple of times during no contact and radio silence and she's also on a rebound relationship lol. Her last message was "What's up?" Haha. Everything that Coach Lee is saying really is happening.

    • @doledo571
      @doledo571 2 роки тому +3

      how is it right now

    • @edwardramirez4482
      @edwardramirez4482 2 роки тому

      .

    • @accordblaze
      @accordblaze Рік тому +1

      Update?

    • @CC-br9qg
      @CC-br9qg Рік тому +2

      if he reached out last week, 8 months after he dumped me so coldly, saying "hey *pet name*, how are you? how's life been?" do i ignore? Do i respond? I can't gauge his intention, what do i do, it's not enough to just say how are you after what happened and i've also seen him w/ a rebound. now his brother is back to liking my social media too. We've been NC

    • @accordblaze
      @accordblaze Рік тому +4

      @@CC-br9qg be polite, friendly, unbothered. This is not the time to spill your heart out and your emotions. You truly should treat him like any other person. He's no longer your boyfriend.
      Here's a comment I left or reddit r/exnocontact, where the OP thought she was "playing it cool" but she hardly was. Her ex simply said "good morning" and the person responded with a whole paragraph "drawing her boundaries".
      "Agreed, not playing it cool at all.
      He wrote two words. You wrote a whole sentence. His was a "low effort" text. You should always mirror the level of "effort" or do less, not more."
      Hope this helps

  • @deanhamsah
    @deanhamsah 4 роки тому +1320

    Two things will happen in no contact .
    1. Your ex will contact you
    2. You will move on and get new better Gf/bf

    • @SFBay69
      @SFBay69 4 роки тому +236

      Sometimes God sends an ex back into your life to see if you're still stupid.

    • @amiralove342
      @amiralove342 4 роки тому +23

      1st and 15th 😂😂😂😂 “Still Stupid”

    • @lg316
      @lg316 4 роки тому +13

      @@SFBay69 So great. God plays mind games. Good to know

    • @YanaPetruk
      @YanaPetruk 4 роки тому +93

      I seriously doubt I will meet someone better. My ex is a really great person, he never cheated or lied. He is just confused and torn apart. And I’m not exaggerating and overthinking. Sometimes it’s true and you will never find someone better

    • @axelrose4556
      @axelrose4556 4 роки тому +3

      Yana Petruk same here

  • @1992SMOFF
    @1992SMOFF 5 років тому +567

    my ex hasn't contacted me but no contact has done the most important thing: I feel better! thank you coach Lee

    • @miraclesR4Eva
      @miraclesR4Eva 4 роки тому +1

      Omg meeeeeeee 😓 everything u said

    • @Laid2Sleep
      @Laid2Sleep 3 роки тому

      Are you trying to convince us or yourself that you feel better?

    • @mantasbekesius6993
      @mantasbekesius6993 3 роки тому +10

      @@Laid2Sleep Anyway its better than begging and losing yourself. Fake it until you make it

    • @Laid2Sleep
      @Laid2Sleep 3 роки тому +3

      @@mantasbekesius6993 I instaliked your comment.

    • @jamarcusrussel2352
      @jamarcusrussel2352 2 роки тому +3

      I don’t know how, after two months of NC I feel worse and more anxiety

  • @folledudesert1146
    @folledudesert1146 4 роки тому +800

    It’s been almost 3 months of no contact, no news, no message nothing but i feel good! I WON!

    • @fatchicken6978
      @fatchicken6978 4 роки тому +38

      But did you really win? Isnt the reason you're using no contact because you want your ex back? But your comment is 4m old now so are you back with your ex? Im just curious.

    • @redcloth6073
      @redcloth6073 4 роки тому +153

      @@fatchicken6978 of course he won, if he's feeling like that he improved, he doesn't depend on her. No contact is kind of a trick to improve ourselves and wait for the best to happpen in the end, single or in a relationship

    • @fiatmultiplaa
      @fiatmultiplaa 4 роки тому +60

      @@fatchicken6978 he won, he can work on himself now he probably doesnt care for her as much as he used to

    • @silviacortes1433
      @silviacortes1433 4 роки тому +62

      @@fatchicken6978 the thing about no contact is that you get the time to forget about that person, one day you will wake up and realize that this person is no longer in your mind. No contact is a rule applied to either wi them back or get over them.

    • @Giovanni-01
      @Giovanni-01 4 роки тому +53

      That fact that you feel good, no matter if your ex contacted you is a win-win.

  • @cynthiaanderson3252
    @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому +484

    Do not contact!!! Coach is right! I have improved my life so much during this time that I am getting a certification in my field, getting a career going, not a job, a career, and going to Mexico! I’ve also lost almost 20lbs and I look GOOD lol

    • @talenanoureddine1579
      @talenanoureddine1579 5 років тому +6

      Happy for you

    • @hyungmoney
      @hyungmoney 4 роки тому +8

      You are too good for your ex

    • @annetteincairns3528
      @annetteincairns3528 4 роки тому +3

      Cynthia Anderson WOW! That is truly fabulous. You go girl!

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 3 роки тому +2

      I forgot to mention. We have been seeing each other since January

    • @vibrantnubian27
      @vibrantnubian27 3 роки тому

      Good for you 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 That’s very encouraging

  • @sln06a.b56
    @sln06a.b56 4 роки тому +445

    Being miserable wont get your ex back ... being powerful attractive strong and sexy is what will make your ex crave you
    No contact will help you HEAL first.. so u can move on with what u want

    • @sln06a.b56
      @sln06a.b56 4 роки тому +1

      @_ BUDDHA _ u want her to beg you .. but she didnt then u went for the nc again ...she will move on ... you are applying the no contact in the wrong way man 😕

    • @sln06a.b56
      @sln06a.b56 4 роки тому +1

      @_ BUDDHA _ if she already said i love you then be sweet to her and let go a bit of your ego and just be with her and be happy together 😁 show her how much fun she will have with you and then she will beg you to never leave her 😉 the key is to make her feel like no one else out there does ... be charming loving to her .. and a simple little key here : ( make her feel a bit jealous ; let her know that there is some girls out there trying to get you ) but in a very wise way ... shr will get crazy for you

    • @KDubya-op3mc
      @KDubya-op3mc 4 роки тому +7

      Agreed! No contact helps you move on, period! Your ex is not missing you when their the one who dumped you and no longer wanted to be involved. It's false hope to think this will bring someone back into your life who left for their own selfish reasons, honestly. Do no contact for you and move on in a better mental and physical state.

    • @KDubya-op3mc
      @KDubya-op3mc 4 роки тому +5

      Not everyone uses social media. If you care for someone, you will know about there well being without tracking their moods by what they post. In fact, social media has become a passive aggressive way to connect or disconnect with people without any real emotions, explanation, or consequences. Dialogue is dead. It's quite lame and a crutch for cowards because they can simply ignore, block, or text without any emotion to someone when they don't have the courage to explain how they truly feel.

    • @undertheearth5405
      @undertheearth5405 4 роки тому +1

      Well said.

  • @prantik7607
    @prantik7607 3 роки тому +287

    Your videos single handedly have kept me going during this difficult time. I even had suicidal thoughts after the break up. Your videos made me stronger. Thank You. Wish I could thank you personally one day.

    • @antilaw9911
      @antilaw9911 3 роки тому +16

      No suicide brother! Go to bed sleep and wake up be strong next day!

    • @calvcarter287
      @calvcarter287 3 роки тому +12

      Hey man, are you doing better?

    • @seemu2927
      @seemu2927 3 роки тому +6

      Keep strong, you'll get through this!

    • @mummyd1990
      @mummyd1990 3 роки тому +23

      I totally get you,I took an overdose on pain killers but it failed,thought about hanging myself to but then I realised is my ex worth taking my life over and the true answer is NO.

    • @slavkaz4242
      @slavkaz4242 3 роки тому +8

      me too..when i was contacting him ..i felt like sht..depressed n anxious..now i feel better

  • @vanessasweeney9218
    @vanessasweeney9218 3 роки тому +44

    Doing no contact...one of two things will happen. They will see your worth or you will see your worth.

    • @vanessasweeney9218
      @vanessasweeney9218 3 роки тому

      @@danieljjbest847 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😜😜😜😜😜

  • @YouDontKnowMebro69
    @YouDontKnowMebro69 2 роки тому +41

    Even if no contact doesn’t get your ex back it will certainly get you your pride and dignity back and gain confidence and strength that you were able to move on.

  • @boitumelokeabilwe946
    @boitumelokeabilwe946 Рік тому +68

    Definitely NC works. I got mine after 48 days of NC. Thanks a lot Coach Lee. I’ve learnt a lot through your teachings that I am a prize my ex has to work for.

    • @DivyaMadheshwari
      @DivyaMadheshwari Рік тому +1

      It's really work for u I am in 20 days no conduct i feel insecurity

    • @CC-br9qg
      @CC-br9qg Рік тому +1

      if he reached out last week, 8 months after he dumped me so coldly, saying "hey *pet name*, how are you? how's life been?" do i ignore? Do i respond? I can't gauge his intention, what do i do, it's not enough to just say how are you after what happened and i've also seen him w/ a rebound. now his brother is back to liking my social media too. We've been NC

  • @kelso1286
    @kelso1286 5 років тому +488

    Some of the things that Coach Lee says, and the way he looks at u, is like a slap in the face of realization. I need that.

    • @melwill9868
      @melwill9868 5 років тому

      kelso 128 me too😇

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому

      kelso 128 this man is mine and coming back.

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому +3

      _ BUDDHA _ I think I posted this once. I can never tell. You do not wan her to humiliate herself and beg you back. You will lose respect for her, and the whole thing would turn toxic. Just let it happen nice and easy and natural. You can do it!!!!

    • @ENIGMAXII2112
      @ENIGMAXII2112 5 років тому

      Same here!

    • @kkwpam
      @kkwpam 3 роки тому

      The lecturing look lol

  • @stevenswan4686
    @stevenswan4686 4 роки тому +76

    If you check their feed you gonna stay in loop and will take longer to move on. No contact means total withdraw. If they want you they will contact. Use the time to raise your vibration, it's hard but totally necessary. Don't watch them it only slows your personal development and healing!

  • @gizziegamez1482
    @gizziegamez1482 4 роки тому +140

    If anybody makes profit off relationship advice it should be you COACH LEE you are truly the G.O.A.T. Much love and respect ✊🏾

  • @lynndenver28
    @lynndenver28 5 років тому +185

    They dont miss you, they miss your supply!

  • @armamdogonzalez1387
    @armamdogonzalez1387 5 років тому +191

    No contact means “ Absolutely no contact “ . That means cut off every social media filter . If ex wants forgiveness, she/ he will find or look for you, no need for social media to ask for forgiveness. Forgiveness should be awarded in person , straight forward ! Discussions through social media is so immature and could lead to more problems

    • @kevphillips02
      @kevphillips02 5 років тому +15

      Armamdo Gonzalez I agree with u . My contact means no contact . My ex has my number , my address and email . She finished with me in early September and if she has any apology or regret then she knows where I am .
      I have worth and I will not chase .

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому

      Armamdo Gonzalez right!!!! The circumstances of my breakup were all my fault and I am doing what it takes to get him back. I don’t mean to sound arrogant but he still loves me and I will take him back if he has someone new lol.

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому

      Tokyo Nitro it’s so hard! You can stick with her if she sticks with her meds. It’s so hard though if she’s titrating because she’s still working on the pharmaceutical fix that works for her. You should tell her that you support her fully, but you will leave her to it and support her while it happens. Titrating is hard and disturbing and exhausting and requires a commitment that will not allow a real relationship. But she will be fabulous once she’s medicated correctly.

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому

      _ BUDDHA _ Okay. So I’ve been cautiously texting with my ex all day today. I would never want him to beg back because I wouldn’t respect him.

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому +2

      Armamdo Gonzalez he gets NOTHING. My ex says he is
      Dating someone new and I totally think he was dating her toward the end of our relationship.
      I know she has his ear and is manipulating but I still have faith. It’s very strange

  • @mr.t5388
    @mr.t5388 3 роки тому +34

    As much as I say I love her I'm starting to realize maybe it's not about her coming back it's about if I really do think she deserves me for me to have her back...
    No contact makes you realize and see lots of things...
    Thank you Sensei Lee...

    • @lizxu322
      @lizxu322 3 роки тому +3

      Absolutely, all about you and your life honey...one week after no contact, literally the first day was the worst and afterwards I felt so free and happy, felt excitement for life again. Honest don't care if he wants me back, no contact is all about healing yourself first ❤

    • @mr.t5388
      @mr.t5388 3 роки тому +2

      @@tomgreet3118 Do yourself right and do not write me...

  • @gizziegamez1482
    @gizziegamez1482 4 роки тому +46

    Coach Lee your RELATIONSHIP GUIDANCE REALLY WORKS. You give good tools to help you realize places in relationship where a person can self reflect before reacting to their partners emotions irrationally. You helped me realize that I have to let of my EGO COMPLETELY and pay attention to what my partner is really saying at the root and not the surface

  • @omniscientingenue452
    @omniscientingenue452 5 років тому +200

    1. They post breakup posts on social media
    2. If they show up to places where you visit often
    3. They contact your friends/family & enquire about you
    4. They are curious about you, just wanna check on you
    They wanna know if you are dating someone
    They contact you

    • @serajeslami8484
      @serajeslami8484 4 роки тому

      Thanks

    • @tamerakennedy6893
      @tamerakennedy6893 4 роки тому +1

      Mines doing number one and 3

    • @SwaggyVilla
      @SwaggyVilla 4 роки тому +2

      Mine just went out to dinner with my cousins last night, hopefully this is a good sign ❤️✨

    • @flower6186
      @flower6186 4 роки тому +2

      mines doing number one weee

    • @flower6186
      @flower6186 3 роки тому +1

      dk about the rest. dont think he does it, who am i anyways. ive been thrown away by him. i doubt so he cares about me.

  • @xAv0iDz
    @xAv0iDz 5 років тому +27

    It’s funny I’m actually happy I found your channel. All other channels weren’t so in-depth and the no contact actually works. After ignoring her for couple of days she called back twice saying she misses me and asked me how I felt about her , I didn’t reply to her question of course. Uncertainty works 🤗 , keep the videos coming & thanks

  • @Troy12-fitnessmodel
    @Troy12-fitnessmodel 4 місяці тому +5

    4.5 months NC here...its not worked for her contacting. But im growing in strength, confidence and regularly hitting the gym. Im the best version of myself since my 20s.
    8 years of relationship, an engagment and 1st house/daughter together...for what.
    All i know is ive refound myself.

  • @clairerenee1660
    @clairerenee1660 4 роки тому +36

    You’ve changed my life coach lee. Although I found your channel a month after my break up and after making all of the possible mistakes I possibly could’ve, I will know all of this information before my next relationship and breakup. I won’t make the same mistakes and prolong the pain like I did this time. I NOW know what I deserve because of your videos, (unfortunately) but I’m grateful for them. Thank you. God bless you

  • @madisonroseblack
    @madisonroseblack 4 роки тому +24

    The music on your videos now has a Pavlov effect on me. It's soothing and instantly makes me feel a little better.

  • @cynthiaanderson3252
    @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому +83

    Apparently. I went 33 days NC and he text me at 6:45 this am. We have been texting ALL DAY. Nothing serious. Just very light and friendly. I think he knew I would miss him when he left. I don’t think he planned on missing me back. 😇

    • @HOMERUUN
      @HOMERUUN 4 роки тому +2

      how are things now?

    • @gregrrrichardson8587
      @gregrrrichardson8587 3 роки тому +1

      Ya I would like to see wha the step is once they do contact you

    • @brielleharmony7568
      @brielleharmony7568 3 роки тому

      oh no this doesn’t give me hope my ex asked me “are you ok “ I replied “ I’m good u “ he replied “ yeah I’m good “ and that’s it I never replied after that im just keeping it kl I’m not sure he will text me again I think he was just checking up on me

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 3 роки тому +21

      Ha! Mine worked entirely too well. It took forever but we are getting married! I am so in love it’s gross.

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 3 роки тому +2

      @@gregrrrichardson8587 okay. Be cool. Do NOT respond right away. Then sound totally cash like he’s one of your friends asking what you’re up to. Be cool.

  • @charliemvrphy
    @charliemvrphy 4 роки тому +33

    Coach Lee, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for being there for not only me, but everyone who watches your videos. You have encouraged me to be the best version of myself and to stay strong in the face of a heartbreak. Thank you!!

  • @alejandraescobar7091
    @alejandraescobar7091 4 роки тому +215

    My ex just contacted me after two months of no contact!!!

  • @hichamforu
    @hichamforu 4 роки тому +14

    Coach Lee is the best coach on UA-cam his advices are priceless. Thank you Sir 👍

  • @terriazar7370
    @terriazar7370 4 роки тому +12

    Coach Lee your video’s have helped me tremendously! I feel empowered and encouraged that I have a good shot at getting back with my ex boyfriend....and if it doesn’t happen...I will accept it!! Thanks again for your professional insight on relationships!!!

  • @ms.bkaraokeb4307
    @ms.bkaraokeb4307 4 роки тому +50

    Coach Lee, just listening to your videos has helped me so much. I've come to the realization that it is a blessing that my ex dumped me. I also realized that we were wrong for each other. Your videos have also revealed to me issues that I've had and mistakes that I've made so many times in relationships that caused breakups.

    • @stephentalich6801
      @stephentalich6801 Рік тому

      I’m the same boat. I sabotaged so many relationships with my ignorance. I’m learning and growing yo break that cycle. Stay strong my friend

  • @Heart3577
    @Heart3577 3 роки тому +5

    I'm on no contact but I got on here to get ads for Coach Lee... as paying my gratitude for the free coaching and comfort he gives.... and he doesn't complain when giving advices hahahaha like some friends do

  • @leefrankli1293
    @leefrankli1293 5 років тому +5

    Thank you very much Coach Lee for your kindness in replying. I will wait and see as I move on in the meantime. If I have any issues again I will definitely set up an appointment with you.

  • @ferretapocalypse
    @ferretapocalypse 4 роки тому +10

    Thank God I killed off all my social media long ago. Keeps me from checking on people constantly, and of course keeps me from getting jealous, depressed.

  • @kintuinka
    @kintuinka 2 роки тому +12

    Thank u coach lee i love how you hold us together in this hard process..... everyday i feel i want to break no contact but your clever explainations are helping me to stay strong in my desicion.

  • @annocampo7778
    @annocampo7778 5 років тому +195

    Hi coach i just wanna say how thankful i am to you. Your videos helped me go through some tough days during my break up. After almost two mos i can say i am feeling much better. Its still hurts but watching your videos soothes my anxiety. My x txted me friday asking how am i and he thought about me. I didnt reply. Ive decided not to do anything im not yet comfortable doing. I wanna focus on my well being. Anyway, thank you to you. Pls continue what you do coz you help alot of people. God bless you.

    • @rashidkhawaja5642
      @rashidkhawaja5642 5 років тому +3

      Ann ocampo surprisingly I’m in the exact same situation n I feel the same way towards coach’s videos!

    • @annocampo7778
      @annocampo7778 5 років тому

      Rashid Khawaja hi rashid, how are you feeling? Hope you are ok

    • @rashidkhawaja5642
      @rashidkhawaja5642 5 років тому +1

      Ann ocampo honestly I’m doing better than before but I’m not okay yet I’m still in a lot of pain! I’m still hurt I still miss her like shit! N I want her back she did do things that hurt me n said really mean n rude stuff so I think she’ll probably have a problem msging me herself but then I have my birthday in 10 or so days so I’m hoping she wishes! It’s been 21 days today since I started using no contact! I’m scared to think what she’s thinking of me even though I didn’t do anything wrong to her at all!

    • @annocampo7778
      @annocampo7778 5 років тому

      Rashid Khawaja would you like to talk about it? I feel the same way too. I still miss him. :( you can add me on messenger. Anngarcia ocampo.

    • @rashidkhawaja5642
      @rashidkhawaja5642 5 років тому

      Ann ocampo sure I’ll add you!

  • @hollydrucker3011
    @hollydrucker3011 4 роки тому +26

    I have too much respect for myself to not move forward and work on myself. I feel better and stronger and more confident. Keep working on yourself. Guys hang in there. You all deserve love in your lives. Be well!

  • @MsLatinVargas
    @MsLatinVargas 4 роки тому +2

    You are Simply the Best. I have heard several other coaches but none can compare to your wisdom and knowledge. I'm not here to give a testimony but just to let you know keep it up, you're doing a great job, and you have been a tremendous help. And to those of you looking for help and consolation consider the emergency break up kit 😉

  • @undertheearth5405
    @undertheearth5405 4 роки тому +16

    Love your positive words Coach Lee. I am feeling better these days. It took some time but I'm finally here. I look forward to what's to come.

  • @cynthiaanderson3252
    @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому +6

    Right. I have accomplished and insane amount of important things during that time. Of course I kept thinking about him, but I kept pushing through. We can do it!

  • @mersihacokovic9459
    @mersihacokovic9459 3 роки тому +7

    I always practice no contact, regardless of who broke up. It's the way, I was thought as a child. Don't go where you're not welcome.
    And it always worked. So that part, I've always done. But I learned a whole lot about what to do afterwards, from your video. Thank you for that! 🙏🏽

  • @daniellalaroux1805
    @daniellalaroux1805 5 років тому +192

    You remind me of Dexter from the show, Dexter. 💛

    • @erosvera9945
      @erosvera9945 5 років тому +3

      Danielle Daigle its almost to diffecult to not think of dexter each time you look at him.

    • @amandapimentadasilva7319
      @amandapimentadasilva7319 4 роки тому +1

      That so true!!! I thought the same haha

    • @spencermccoy
      @spencermccoy 4 роки тому +3

      Wait woah he does

    • @archidaous3191
      @archidaous3191 4 роки тому

      Me too, he remind me of that serie

    • @lilacmvvn
      @lilacmvvn 4 роки тому

      This post reminded me of someone who friendzoned me, lol because of the indicated name

  • @benhartart9487
    @benhartart9487 3 роки тому +5

    coach lee is on point here, as soon as my partner said we should see other people, I implemented NC and she has reached out on day 7 and again on day 11 asking how I am... I am great, I am working on myself, meditating, working out, I AM GOOD Fam, no contact is powerful, I am now more attractive and the balance of power is with me, now if you are in a similar position, continue no contact and cultivate an abundance mindset, and you will be happy :)

  • @SamWinchester55
    @SamWinchester55 3 роки тому +11

    Damn, I was about to reach out to my ex only 1 week after I started NC just because today would've been our 8th birthday, and then I watched this video and I felt like taking a slap right in the face. Thank you Coach Lee. I believe that thanks to your channel I will become a better man.

  • @butirki77
    @butirki77 5 років тому +21

    He speaks common sense honestly. He's very good

  • @jlorenzoval.1750
    @jlorenzoval.1750 3 роки тому +5

    You are the most logic person I have ever heard. Can't get enough of tour videos

  • @richardmiller3952
    @richardmiller3952 5 років тому +87

    why would anyone want someone who values their pride more than love?? if he or she dumps u... just move on.. dnt even think about them... best thing to do

    • @idklol5670
      @idklol5670 5 років тому +20

      easier said than done

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому +19

      Richard Miller I find that mindset disturbing. How can you just tell someone who broke up with you to fuck off and die? Apparently neither of you gave too much of a damn about each other in the first place.

    • @missybella9046
      @missybella9046 5 років тому +7

      Thank 4 your comment Richard. Needed 2 hear this my ex claimed i was the love of his life, but doesn't want 2 work on the issues. Love doesn't just quit

    • @Pma686
      @Pma686 5 років тому +9

      @@cynthiaanderson3252 cause if they cared they wouldnt of broke up with you in the first place so now the dumpee has to care? F that. If they dont see your worth and cant work through tough times keep moving and yes act as if they're dead cause that's how they're treating you. Its Called self respect!

    • @cynthiaanderson3252
      @cynthiaanderson3252 5 років тому

      And he has a new girlfriend. He told me after 18 months that he never wanted to talk to me again.

  • @diegogalvan1810
    @diegogalvan1810 2 роки тому +3

    Coach Lee I can't thank you enough. 7 days in NC and she reaches out to ask where and how to return my belongings (I returned all her things the day after starting NC) and after I only talked about what I needed she read it and ignored it. It's clear that the time and space is affecting her since she tried testing me and then withdrew from trying to return my things, she wanted me to beg and plead and she got disappointed from my discipline. I've learned that NC helps me to think clearly and to realize her manipulative BS. I've learned that she was holding me back and trying to manipulate like she tries to do now, I've quit smoking and hit the gym, started looking for internships, and now that I don't have to drive her anywhere and pay for all her meals and food, I know just booked a trip to Europe. I can't thank you enough Coach Lee, I never thought I could get over her since she's the only woman to ever told me that she loved me and how she admired that I was the only person to respect her. She gave up on me and abandoned me when I never did that with her. I'm now back on NC and look forward to my growth and exploration, and it's all thanks to you. God Bless you Coach Lee 🙏

  • @AnonymousxxxV
    @AnonymousxxxV 3 роки тому +7

    Man that “really, really?” Hit me right in the chest😂😂 best coach ever

  • @autumnself2713
    @autumnself2713 3 роки тому +1

    Coach Lee, just Watching your Videos that I appreciate being for Free which I can't Thank You, enough for these free Videos but, you Really Offer Me Strength and Encouragement everyday to hang in there and Keep making it through Everyday. Hopefully, one day my ex will come back we've been together almost 9 years. He was before the break-up my Best Friend.
    Thank-You, So Much

    • @angelaportman1325
      @angelaportman1325 3 роки тому

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  • @gew977
    @gew977 5 років тому +8

    listening to u is so therapeutic

  • @franklingrg
    @franklingrg 5 років тому +7

    This man is amazing..so helpful. Thank God!!

  • @WaseemAkram-ln5yp
    @WaseemAkram-ln5yp 5 років тому +12

    coach lee is best coach ever...thank you soo much sir

  • @annetteincairns3528
    @annetteincairns3528 4 роки тому +2

    Your videos are giving me so much strength. Thank you.

  • @krystalyork702
    @krystalyork702 4 роки тому +51

    Its been 6 weeks. I'm struggling today. Hope is dwindling. Some days I'm over it and it will last 7 to 10 days then BAM I'm emotional. No contact is getting easier but I'm still missing him. I'm having doubt.

    • @harris4357
      @harris4357 4 роки тому +1

      What happened? Did he contact??

    • @krystalyork702
      @krystalyork702 4 роки тому +5

      @@harris4357 he did reach out on day 59.. We exchanged shortly via text. And nothing since.

    • @Lev15157
      @Lev15157 4 роки тому

      Any updates Krystal?

    • @rikginchimarak4043
      @rikginchimarak4043 3 роки тому

      Is there any update . Did you guys got back together?

    • @pvz0484
      @pvz0484 2 роки тому

      I completely relate to this suffering Krystal. he reached out to me 2 weeks after we broke up, had a short convo and it ended there.
      It's hard to keep faith honestly, I just feel like an idiot at this point. and I think same, it's been 6-7 weeks now.
      Do you have any updates?

  • @jayl1712
    @jayl1712 3 роки тому +35

    NC works! 2 weeks in and I got a text the other day... “hey how are you?” Lol coach Lee tells no lie!!! Keep that distance!!!

    • @pvz0484
      @pvz0484 2 роки тому

      update after that? did y'all get back?

    • @jayl1712
      @jayl1712 2 роки тому +1

      @@pvz0484 unfortunately no. After a year of talking I was pushed into the friend zone and that is where I set my boundaries with my avoidant partner . And this time around I left the friendship/ relationship. And I feel so much better about it. You always have to do what’s best for you.

  • @yogihaughton
    @yogihaughton 5 років тому +10

    I think the dough was gonna run out in the electric meter towards the end there. Did u see how Coach Lee went into triple speed lol? Another great video. Coach Lee is all over the relationship thing. Everyday I have shit at my door with my ex, Coach Lee has a video for every scenario. Another good nights sleep for me I think. Feelin’ positive

  • @yaypot
    @yaypot 2 роки тому

    Coach Lee’s voice makes me feel better

  • @lastalfa
    @lastalfa Рік тому +2

    Just reading over the comments and it seems as much as the advice is soothing by creating hope and a more positive outlook, not many comments on here show there’s much success. Even when ex’s reach out they do it just out of curiosity to see what the other person is up to but without any intention for reconciliation.

  • @ElvisPresIey
    @ElvisPresIey 4 роки тому +37

    Starting tonight with no contact. He says he cares about me so I’ll do the nc as long as it takes before he reaches out to me. Thanks, Coach! Very helpful.

    • @brandonmarte7906
      @brandonmarte7906 4 роки тому

      October Killer Productions how’s it going

    • @ElvisPresIey
      @ElvisPresIey 4 роки тому +4

      Brandon Marte pretty great, he reached out to me less than two days after NC

    • @harris4357
      @harris4357 4 роки тому

      Any updates?

    • @ElvisPresIey
      @ElvisPresIey 4 роки тому

      Harris he’s part of a group to harass me and won’t let the past go.

    • @harris4357
      @harris4357 4 роки тому

      Oh i dont understand.... is he back or not¿

  • @zolanddd0007
    @zolanddd0007 4 роки тому +30

    She texted me back after 3 days!!! thank you coach lee!!! ❤️

    • @amyhintz471
      @amyhintz471 3 роки тому

      And now what has happened since?

    • @xMikeyHardyx
      @xMikeyHardyx 3 роки тому +8

      Only 3 days? Wtf

    • @zolanddd0007
      @zolanddd0007 3 роки тому +3

      @@xMikeyHardyx yeah bro crazy but she broke up with me again shorty after 😂

    • @IndiansAuto
      @IndiansAuto 2 роки тому +1

      @@zolanddd0007 lol is she gone for good?

    • @zolanddd0007
      @zolanddd0007 2 роки тому

      @@IndiansAuto for good my friend 🤞

  • @victorianorris1916
    @victorianorris1916 3 роки тому +2

    I feel much better now, Thanks Coach Lee

  • @user-jh5su8wn2u
    @user-jh5su8wn2u 3 роки тому +2

    Time to apply, I trust you!

  • @AndreM37
    @AndreM37 5 років тому +15

    2 quick NC stories....
    One relationship I was in with my high school and college sweetheart was very rocky and a lot of cheating on both sides(We was young lol) however I went NC n 3 years later she found me n we decide to try again. Although things doing work out we r truly best friends!! Weird strictly platonic relationship.
    2) My current relationship is having its ups n downs but I decided to do Full NC n everything u could think of she has done. Although I love her sum things mite be best left alone.
    Moral of my stories.... if someone loves you enough and you was the best version of yourself don’t worry what you put out in the universal you get back. Treat ppl good n with love and 1 day love that’s meant for you will find you

    • @Pma686
      @Pma686 5 років тому

      Love is false and shouldnt be searched or waited for. Do your own thing and dont worry about finding "love" cause it's useless. Live life without it and be much happier!!

  • @queensofiavillamil7628
    @queensofiavillamil7628 5 років тому +5

    Thank you so much coach lee, we get back together with my boyfriend ❤️

  • @trap7196
    @trap7196 Рік тому +1

    I believe that you love them as though they deserve it. Make it impossible to be forgotten. If they leave, then you should move on. They won't forget.

  • @ruthc184
    @ruthc184 4 роки тому

    You are brilliant! your reasoning is simply amazing

  • @carlosmagallanes2594
    @carlosmagallanes2594 4 роки тому +3

    After the break up do the no contact and work as hard as possible on yourself and improve everything you can. That way after weeks or months your a whole better person and if your ex still doesn't want you back then shoot you will get somebody better because of your improvements. It's a win win if you just keep grinding after.

  • @TheCtw20
    @TheCtw20 5 років тому +5

    Thanks so much for your videos. They have been helping me out alot and ithas kept me strong. So after a couple of days of trying to keep minimal contact, I found out that she misses me. Through a mutual friend and now, social media. Is this a good thing? I feel like its a bit too early to say since she told me that we may have something in the future but not now. Again, thanks so much

  • @FreedominLove711
    @FreedominLove711 4 роки тому +2

    I admire you Coach Lee. I am not sure after all the years of trying to make it work with my ex if I want to make it work this time but I do want him to pick up his stuff. It's been 5 weeks already. From watching your other videos, he may be keeping his options open which pisses me off more. I dislike these games..

  • @jamesritch5245
    @jamesritch5245 2 роки тому +1

    Dude your the man. I feel and look so good she even said something to me after 4 weeks of NC.

  • @ankitsworld8648
    @ankitsworld8648 5 років тому +7

    You gain a subscriber bro. 👌

  • @Simpleharmonica
    @Simpleharmonica 5 років тому +3

    She did contact after a few weeks but only to complain about her new boyfriend who isn’t treating her very well. She did not want to know about me and then apologized for hurting me and said she shouldn’t be talking to me about him.

  • @vaseemakram9609
    @vaseemakram9609 4 роки тому +1

    Coach Lee... I watch all your videos and it's really working... Thank you so much

  • @amandalongman737
    @amandalongman737 2 роки тому +2

    Blocking is sometimes necessary when they won’t stop talking to u to make it clear u need ur space.

  • @myname4884
    @myname4884 4 роки тому +12

    thanks for the tip, she was back in 4 days.... but i am not forgiving ;). i will move on

  • @mjop183
    @mjop183 5 років тому +6

    Hi Coach Lee! Absolutely love your work!!! I have a question I've always been dying to ask. My bf broke up with me because he said he has loss attraction for me. What causes the loss of attraction and how can I gain it back?

  • @karlov13
    @karlov13 2 роки тому +1

    Coach Lee your videos are always on point

  • @fathimajannah4329
    @fathimajannah4329 4 роки тому +1

    All your advices i take it and its pretty working because after 3 weeks of no contact rule my ex reached me out in my home. Only to say me hi and i told him i cannot stay longer time to be with him because i have priority to attend so o left. And today morning he reached me again in my home showing up his and saying to me he doesn't have a good sleep in a week so the things that i want it was happened. Here we are again starting to renew everything. Thank u so much that i found u the best advices i ever have

  • @sabajanjua9323
    @sabajanjua9323 4 роки тому +4

    This video does wonders.

  • @timwestchester9557
    @timwestchester9557 5 років тому +263

    I'm not gay, but your deep blue eyes are gorgeous.

  • @305nayeli
    @305nayeli 5 років тому

    Nice video, it shows you how to be codependent and go back to someone who hurt you. Nice

    • @RealCoachLee
      @RealCoachLee  5 років тому +4

      Not go back to, but being willing to accept that people make mistakes and might realize it. No one is perfect.

  • @theblackmentalhealthshow8506
    @theblackmentalhealthshow8506 4 роки тому +1

    I check multiple times a day honestly because she still has our pictures up 30 days later

  • @datbich1218
    @datbich1218 2 роки тому +6

    I did everything wrong after the break up. Pleading/begging for closure for nearly 5 months. Finally started no contact. After only eight days he reached out 🙂 Wish I had given him space from the beginning

    • @whitneymiller5139
      @whitneymiller5139 Рік тому

      Update? Wow he must have really loved you if you begged for that long and it only took him 8 days to crave you haha. If I begged for 5 months my ex would have a restraining order out against me 😂

    • @onikag4942
      @onikag4942 Рік тому

      I did everything wrong also. Begged and tried to talk him out of it for 3mths until we had a huge fight last week. We both apologized and i told him i still wanna try then i started NC. Its been 6 days.

  • @tammiecrawford2137
    @tammiecrawford2137 3 роки тому +9

    I moved out and left my husband a month ago...he has not contacted andI have not texted him since the day I left. I left because of his alcoholism, his disrespectful ways, calling me out of my name and always turning it around on me. I didn't want to leave my husband, but his drinking had gotten worse. I believed that he loved me, but I am surprised he had not tried to contact me to at least apologize, but I believe this was the best decision for me and that I need to keep trucking

    • @hhhdkkkdhbdj
      @hhhdkkkdhbdj 3 роки тому +1

      you made a vow.. a promise through sickness til death and u left him instead of helping him overcome it? how convinient for you

    • @HibiTeamQueso
      @HibiTeamQueso 2 роки тому +2

      @@hhhdkkkdhbdjI can tell you that if an alcoholic does not want help, you can't do shit and they'll hurt you over and over and over

    • @merysantana4789
      @merysantana4789 2 роки тому +1

      That's happened to me and my ex but his problem was drugs, I couldn't take it anymore and I left waiting for him to come and tell me he will change. It's now 1.5 month's of not contact so I guess he prefer his additions over me

    • @franciskoomson7312
      @franciskoomson7312 Рік тому

      I think you should find a way of helping him to overcome and not to leave him in that situation please my sis. At least he didn't leave you but he's in bad addiction challenge, he needs your help.

    • @rosealgreenwood6893
      @rosealgreenwood6893 Рік тому

      @@franciskoomson7312you can’t help a person with an addiction he has to help himself. If they stop because of you, they will start because of you. You can not go down the rabbit hole with them

  • @kayand736
    @kayand736 4 роки тому

    Omw my ex did the check up thing exactly how you explained it coach😂 spot on video

  • @stacym2201
    @stacym2201 4 роки тому

    To ALL d ppl who used NO Contact...i am proud and happy 4 them. Too baddd...i CAN'T say d same 4me. I hav done ALL d wrong tings....so now i hav 2 start ALL over. I feel helpless now dat i hav broken ALL d rules. But i am goin into NO Contact again and whatever happen...happens 4d BEST!!! I do TRUST u Coach Lee and i love all your videos. U giv me hope and confidence in myself every single time i watch dem. I DON'T tink dat d No Contact wil work on my Ex...i doubt he wil EVER reach out 2me or com back 2me...although i hav been faithful and honest in my 3yrs wit him. But i wil TRY 2 believe and hav faith. I stil cannot eat or sleep so far. I hope 1 day i wud get tru dis terrible feelin of loss.

  • @GPAnAngelDK
    @GPAnAngelDK 5 років тому +4

    OR getting THEIR ego fed... after ghosting 😒 It's SO sick & manipulating ~ REALLY don't get WHAT they win with the childish behavior or why the should.ve " rewarded " for the bratty BS. WHY can such guys don't see HOW much THEY ruin or that the partner will drawn away / be pushed away ? 😮😊

  • @MalitesZA
    @MalitesZA 3 роки тому +3

    I went into no contact and it is 6 weeks now, in the beginning I broke no contact on 3 occasions and now i never broke no contact for the past 2 weeks and I am keeping my faith in the no contact rule. It has made me feel better though but I will see how it goes and I will keep fighting in silence.

  • @Steve-ln8pk
    @Steve-ln8pk 4 роки тому

    I started a no contact with someone recently because I was not being valued like I should be. I did it on my own not even knowing it was something others did or that it was a strategy. However, I just wanted to see if I did the right thing. Therefore I researched UA-cam and found this video and few others on No Contact by Coach Lee. All I have to say is WOW! I now feel by watching these videos that I totally did the correct thing. I didn't think it was a way of getting someone back though. I just did it because I value my mental health. I had to stand up for myself and move on. But now seeing these videos she may contact me. I'm not sure how to even think of dealing with that. I cross that bridge if it gets here. But I even blocked social media because I don't want to see what she is up to. I believe that makes it harder to move on. I don't believe it is childish in my situation. No contact means NO CONTACT! Thanks Coach Lee!

  • @Jack_new82
    @Jack_new82 2 роки тому

    I have been in no contact for nearly 2 months and I've been told by friends that she's never been happier

  • @princhipessa1969
    @princhipessa1969 6 років тому +7

    I feel like I’m helping her move on. Silence is so deafening. I’m not on social media.

  • @divinegodesslife8816
    @divinegodesslife8816 4 роки тому +4

    Sometimes your ex will even post negative things in order to get your attention

    • @FreedominLove711
      @FreedominLove711 4 роки тому

      Sister, mine posted two negative things and removed his relationship status

  • @stephenstokes2621
    @stephenstokes2621 18 днів тому

    Boy does Coach Lee know his stuff..four weeks now after a serious break up and I am in No Contact /Dark side of the Moon and I feel so much better within myself and my pride and self esteem is slowly being restored.I know I am getting stronger each day and that feeling deep inside my stomach is slowly starting to fade.Thanks Coach lee its good to know that people like you are in this world.

  • @patriotastronomer6780
    @patriotastronomer6780 4 роки тому

    I do not have much of a social media footprint. No fake book or twitter. I am resisting the temptation to make contact, and working on feeling better first. I have to improve me first.

  • @SavageMatrix9
    @SavageMatrix9 5 років тому +99

    Lmao yo no contact could possibly have me single for the rest of my life😂.......🥺

  • @kalmeerperd4676
    @kalmeerperd4676 5 років тому +25

    Coach.. It looks like you're about to burst out laughing hahaha

  • @richardsullivan2749
    @richardsullivan2749 6 місяців тому

    My wife had the longest conversation with me in 6weeks since our separation initiated by her she discussed what we needed to work on and the path we should take, it's baby steps and that is good, she looks so sad and it hurts to know I caused it, time will tell where she goes from here, thanks coach lee strategic contact is working and I owe it binging your videos over the past 6 weeks

  • @alanbutler9083
    @alanbutler9083 Рік тому

    Thank you for your videos on getting your ex back. I have watched them and I have followed your advice to the letter. We broke up in September of 2022. I have had no contact with her at all. This morning she actually came to my Church knowing that I would be there. I did nothing to acknowledge that she was there. Then after church she came to me and just wanted to talk. I was polite and only spent a couple of minutes talking to her. She seemed like that she wanted to talk more… No contact is working.

  • @xincitan514
    @xincitan514 4 роки тому +11

    I’ve been into no contact for 8 days. This is his first time liking a post I shared on Facebook. Does that mean it’s (kind of) working ?

    • @jasminemiller5843
      @jasminemiller5843 4 роки тому

      yep that's exactly what it means but stay in no contact

    • @juliet3227
      @juliet3227 3 роки тому

      @@jasminemiller5843 that's breadcrumbs

  • @khushiangel844
    @khushiangel844 3 роки тому +5

    It will work out if it's true love if not..... Atleast eventually u will learn how to live without them...

  • @tommymitchell991
    @tommymitchell991 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you for being for here

  • @ernitahap2718
    @ernitahap2718 3 роки тому +2

    18 days NC the 2nd timr. 😐 sometimes am ok sometimes i miss him sometimes i am angry. The 1st time NC 67 days. This time no turning back unless he reach out. Please believe Coach Lee, he is right!! You got to be patient and let them reach out to you no matter how miserable you are. We can do this!

    • @SJ-nw1ym
      @SJ-nw1ym 3 роки тому

      Update?

    • @ernitahap2718
      @ernitahap2718 3 роки тому +4

      @@SJ-nw1ym no contact still. He watched all my FB stories each time I posted. I am beginning to hate him, He did not even wish me on my Birthday 2weeks ago. I guess I should move on. I am hopping to start seeing someone new. Its been 70 days. I deserve someone who appreciates me.

    • @SJ-nw1ym
      @SJ-nw1ym 3 роки тому

      @@ernitahap2718 I agree with you. You deserve all the happiness in the world & you'll surely find someone who'd love you unconditionally & won't make you go through this again. I wish you all the best for your life & hope that everything goes well for you ♥️
      P.S. Happyyyyyy belated Birthday ❤️🎊🎉