Guy here- I used to be so addicted to porn in my early 20s. Masturbating multiple times a day and hooking up a lot. For me, it was a way to self soothe pain from a trauma and it worked but it left me so lonely, depressed, and broken. I felt worse after. In my heart I wanted to be in love with someone and feel connection and not end up like one of these guys who was always taking it a step further and further. I had a few great relationships but they never worked out because porn ruined my sense of peace, intimacy, love, and ability to communicate and listen and contain my emotions. It truly is a poison. I’m happy to say I no longer watch porn nor is there a desire. I’m so sorry there are women hurting out there because their men aren’t aware of what damage it’s causing.
Is it possible to love a woman after it without comparing her to others? I hope the answer is yes, but I feel very hopeless, porn use of men around me has really affected me
Betrayal Trauma is real. A CSAT is such a great resource. The lying is as bad as the actions. We all were lied to, in addition to cheated on. I'm so sorry for everyone who finds themselves here. We are all healing. ❤
😢😢😢😢just found out a few months Ago . Multiple sites of Pornography; disturbing 😳 Images on my husband’s computer!!! I am so torn , so hurt , so deeply Devastated!!! I don’t even know where to begin!!!
I remember posting on a private all women’s group on Facebook about my bf watching porn and how much it hurt me especially the lying about it - I couldn’t believe the response I received. I was told I was insecure and that they feel sorry for my bf. And that he has every right to watch it. Was so shocked. There was no empathy whatsoever. “It’s completely natural” I beg to differ. How can something man made he natural?
It's not even Real So it can't possibly be natural. They are lying to themselves as well as you. I refuse to let porn control my life or my relationship with my future wife and our future kids. I hatee What Porn has done to my brain. I'm not passing this on to my kids
What a great video!!! That being said, I’ve come to the conclusion that, with porn being so accessible, it affects everyone of us. It’s destroying relationships everywhere and it can’t be cured unless we take the internet down. What’s really frightening is that children can access porn at any given time. I liked life before we had the internet
Authenticity is the only thing that will stop something like this. Inauthenticity/ free will. The freedom to do whatever it is you like (the Ego self) will mean that some people will choose to watch porn. Authenticity is people loving themselves for who they are and being true to themselves.
Real problem there!!! My partner is addicted to porn and it such a shame. When i found out about it.. I just have lost my respect to him. It's disgrace to have a partner who's addicted to porn. Fight me but I don't respect those kind of men.
No fighting here. It is a shame, destroying men, their partners, their families. I’ve lived with a man for thirty years who did this stuff, STILL lies about it, and it’s destroying everything he is and has. Divorce is imminent. I can not live with this any longer.
When we ask them 2 stop porn, they get more into it. I don't get it. The more we beg and plead, the more they jerk there little peckers and act like we're the problem. Smh.
@@laurenmorgan881 Because men only understand consequences and punishment. You have to leave him and start dating other people. And energetically speaking, trying to convince or plead with them to change, only fuels the energy of the problem. It is better to re-direct that energy towards knowing your own worth and showing him by your actions that you will not tolerate his abuse.
@@TK-tg6kr That’s the plan for me. My husband didn’t come clean willingly. I had to show him evidence I found on his computer to get him to confess. I would have never know anything had I not walked in on him years ago. I’m done. Him confessing just validated that I’m not crazy and my gut feeling is right. I am working on leaving. I will never deal with a man again. Ever.
I find this somewhat disturbing. I'm a husband that has a wife that is addicted to porn. The assumption that it is only women and wives that suffer from this epidemic is hurtful and leaves me feeling very alone. Although I understand that it is by and large men who are the major targets of pornography addiction, there is an ever increasing number of women who are falling into this category. They leave behind them the same swath of wreckage as any man does. Please don't discount and forget us.
Eric Jensen I’m so sorry that you’re suffering from feeling like you’re left out and alone. Your feelings and struggles are valid. Women actually account for almost a 1/3 (last I heard) of porn addicts and that shouldn’t be swept under the rug. I know how hard it is to try to cope with your partner being an addict.
@@kirstenashley4289 Thank you so much. I think this is too big a problem to be falling into the gender blame game. Even when it is the man with the problem, CHILDREN of both genders can be affected as well so it never ever was just the wife as a victim. A father or mother can have a lasting impact on their children as well as their spouse. We need to be talking about the impact on everyone concerned, men and women, spouse and child. My wife went to every one of our children, some married and some quite young, and apologized for the time and her inadequacy as a mother during her addiction. She's making HUGE changes and improvements but it had far-reaching impacts and it will take a long time to undo the consequences of her choices.
Eric Jensen I completely agree. The spouse may suffer the most emotionally with feelings of invalidation, low self esteem, betrayal, worthlessness, and other things in that realm, but others get affected as well -and if the addiction gets bad enough it definitely can affect other family members a lot as well in deeply emotional ways or even financially. And yes, men often end up addicted more frequently, but that doesn’t mean that women don’t get exposed to it as well or don’t find it appealing as well and therefore fall into the same trap of intense addition. We should be treating this in a gender neutral and inclusive way because people seeking emotional reassurance and help for those in their lives who have this addiction don’t need to feel further pushed away and invalidated.
So true. I was shocked when I saw the search history on my girlfriend's laptop. It was obvious she has a fixation with BBC. I show many searches for someone called Poldark. I haven't confronted her yet but she has some explaining to do.
Kirsten Ashley thanks for mentioning that! It gets pretty frustrating & hurtful that these videos are always about men for women, I haven’t found one single video dealing with men who had to deal with a wife addicted to porn and sex. It’s always men men men.
Guys deny it when confronted that makes it more of a betrayal that they are lying and that is when trust in that person is lost. I had to ask him why he dis that and the answer was it poped on my phone and then I had to show him he searched it up so I made my conclusion he was lying and that brought the relationship to the edge. It’s more than just watching that it’s the lie and you can’t trust someone that might do worse after that.
This has explains exactly what I have gone through- codependency never really for for me - but this is definitely what it is to go through - betrayal trauma - spouse- kids-Parents - religion - which leads to friends - 4degrees that make you feel crazy because the narcissist spouse with the sex addiction has the gift to make things their way
Extremely damaging. It actually has many chemical biological and mental consequences. You need to rewire your brain after any addiction,but especially this one. They've made it so accessible and ruined childhoods for 3/4 of a century. It's everywhere and promoted as normal.
Yeah and them just looking at provocative videos to pretend they aren't looking at porn but still performing the addictive behaviors. It's really hard when you figure out that part too. Like scantily clad women on Tik Tok, Instagram, or Facebook. Or them watching videos of women twerking or even modeling lingerie.
For all you guys "struggling" with this lust thing....... let's compare apples to apples here. Men are visually stimulated. Woman are stimulated by physical and/or emotional touch. A man looks at a woman and (within 3 seconds) has mentally decided if he would or would not want to have sex with her. (anyone who doesn't believe this is the actual mind processes of a man - is out of touch with reality) If the answer is yes it's because he determine that she is attractive/hot/sexy/pretty/cute/etc. (pick something). If that particular man decided to tell his partner that he thinks the other woman is attractive and women are smart enough to know that he has made that determination based on his conclusion that he would be willing to have sex with her. Men want the luxury of being visually stimulated and feel they should be allowed to do so without judgement. Here is where the apples to apples comparison comes in. We, women, are stimulated by physical and/or emotional touch so in order for us to have a similar experience to men's - we need to have some sort of "interaction" with the men we find attractive. So men - Wise up and recognize that your partner is probably jealous because she hasn't given herself permission to "interact" with other men for the physical and/or emotional connection (i.e. massage, hugging, intimate conversations, quality time, etc.) she would need to experience a comparable feeling to what you are getting out of "noticing" how attractive other women are. The next time you are feeling so sorry for yourselves for being misunderstood by your partner - realize that she doesn't misunderstand you at all! She GETS YOU!! That's what pisses her off! And if you don't want her to be pissed off - give her complete permission to go get a full body massage from the hottest man in town and spend the rest of the night with him sharing her feelings. That experience would (most likely) put her in a similar mindset as you allow yourself to go into every time you look twice at other attractive women! ONLY if you give your partner your blessing for her experiencing a similar mental rush ( in a way that pleases her ) to what you get from getting turned on by 'looking' at other women, can you give your own self permission to do what you do! Men you aren't stupid - you are just selfish! Either STOP sharing your own minds with other women - or start sharing your woman's mind with other men! If you don't want to do that then let that be your motivation to just stop!! It's a choice! That's it - A CHOICE!!
👏👏👏👏👏 It's that simple!! The problem here is that we are still living in a male dominated world. We haven't really got over that form of upbringing, and religion doesn't help. I just wish women had the courage to do what needs to be done. He replaces you with porn and meets his needs, you cheat and meet yours.
Oh I wish I had a dr like you nearby. This is such a heavy heavy hurt to carry for so many years with no validation and constant blame and manipulation.
I’d show this to my partner who just admitted being a porn addict and wanting my help, but I think it would be lost on him because she’s so attractive. Isn’t that awful.🙄
This group Bloom for Women has excellent classes for the betrayed woman. It's not the ysual religious shtick, but practical, respectful, and empowering.
Yes, because we've been traumatized by their lying and their addiction. Trauma rewires the brain, and as a result we think everything they've ever done, or do now will revolve around the addictive behaviors. I just had to end my relationship because it just kept happening, and I couldn't find it in myself, to not constantly think he was going to continue to do it and lie to me. Nothing we can do about it. We either stay and try to help and support them and they get help, or they don't, and we leave. It's like with any addict it's a conscious road of recovery. Most partners, male or female, that are lied to, cheated on, or have dealt with the addictions, are able to make their relationship work after the trauma. However, if you do decide to stay, you need to be apart of a support group or your own methods of healing to be able to get over it.
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Thank you for describing this so accurately and in such detail. You have helped to validate me and the trauma I’m experiencing and given me a point of reference that I can share with my husband to help him to understand the trauma and pain and confusion I am experiencing. And to help him understand the healing that I/we will need to move forward and to forgive and to process what has happened. 😢❤thank you
My relationship was going downhill and couldn’t figure out why until I found out he was watching porn and spending time watching instead of looking in his partner what he wanted somewhere else that’s what affected me. Some guys use it and don’t leave their partners in the shadow they get excited with their partners but if he is forgetting u and doing what’s he’s doing he has a problem and he isn’t worth finding a therapist either.
I have struggled with this for three years with my partner. I had left a narcissist and alcoholic and suffer CPTSD and still getting help. This has added to it. Hyper vigilance, therapy, denials, excuses, blaming me and it goes on. I was in a mental hospital after I left my ex and felt I was heading back there. I gave in yesterday after I found audio porn and his constant minimising. I am done with him and done with men.
I gave up on men 5 yrs ago, and let me tell you this: I AM SO HAPPY!!!!! I found that when I was with men, I always felt like I was betraying my authentic self. I made excuses for behaviour that shouldn't be excused - constantly. I highly recommend giving men up to other women. I've had a child by myself and have no need for a man now. The happiness is *amazing*. Blessings sister, I really feel for what you have gone through, may you find healing 💞✌️
Queen of the Butterflies I gave up on women a year and a half ago & am happier than EVER! All I care about is raising my daughter, providing her with a good life & taking care of myself! There are more toxic sex fiend women out there than men believe it or not.
The trauma of my life began early in my life from porn. I was born in 1987.. as the internet progressed.. the more f-d up my life became..all b4 I was 10 yrs old.
So sorry you’re struggling. You can learn about our online recovery meetings for betrayed spouses at www.sal12step.org. There are other resources at www.salifeline.org. We are here to help.
Recently found out that my husband is addicted to porn, and you've literally listed all of the effects that I'm experiencing. I don't know what to do at the moment. We have 2 kids, 5yrs and a 3 months old
Hello @JoyMala3. We understand how devastating this discovery can be. We would recommend you learn more about betrayal trauma by listening to our podcast, Pathway to Recovery, and learn how qualified therapy and 12-Step work can help you on this journey of healing. You can sign up for a free SAL 12-Step meeting at www.sal12step.org.
I was dismayed when I learned that some sexual therapists actually recommend porn to "spice up" things on the bedroom. I mean, here I am, hardly getting any sleep after giving birth to my second child. Looking like the walking dead, my body all stretched out and with some extra weight from pregnancy, an emotional wreck from baby blues, and the dude watching porn and getting off with girls that are half my age, all super dolled up and the body I used to have prior to babies. How am I suppose to feel sexy, attractive, and in the mood to be with him THAT way?? I mean...you don't have to be a genius to get that, right?
Im frozen after finding out he liked child pornography..he is in jail and i hope the authorites do their job but im still waiting to find out any information about the case i dont even have a case number..im suffereing in silence and have no income coming in on top of that so ya Very Crushing..idk what to do our how to reach out for help😢
My husband and I have been together 6 years. We have had a wonderful, full relationship!! He has a very high sex drive and this was never a problem. Within the last year (I’m turning 50 this year) I have gained weight and my sex drive has dropped dramatically. I have recently found that he is watching porn, something I have never seen before from him. It hurts so much because I am so lost right now and not sure how to fix myself. I’m really trying to balance my hurt with my trust in him. Does he have a problem? How do I get back to myself? Is this as serious as it hurts??
Thank you for reaching out. Many partners wonder if it is their fault their spouse has turned to porn instead of them for sexual fulfillment. Many partners also find themselves experiencing deep pain as a result of their significant other using porn, but wonder if their pain is valid since it seems that using porn is just what everyone does, right? In truth, when our loved one uses porn and does so in secret or in the open, it feels like a betrayal in the relationship because it is a betrayal of trust. When we choose to gratify our sexual desires through the myriad forms of porn, sexting, chat rooms, etc, the pain is very very real for the betrayed spouse. You are not alone in feeling this way. We invite you to go to our website www.salifeline.org and learn more about what we call betrayal trauma. There is hope and help available.
The religious leader who told the patient she had to forgive and stay with her husband for child pornography is an extreme interpretation of Religion. The bible prescribes that Sexual immorality called porneia (Hebrew) is a valid reason to divorce. It was later Catholic teachers and theologists that changed the rules, which are NOT based on the Bible. Christianity is much more fair, to be honest. But forgiveness is recommended, but not necessarily staying in that marriage.
It's like with any addict or addiction. You either choose to stay and they choose to get help as should you, or you or they don't and you leave the situation.
Weird that you make this gender specific. Women can be addicted to porn. Why be sexist? Shouldn't it say "effects on spouses"? As a woman, I'm offended.
( cautionary tale/ trigger warning) I have a close friend who was addicted to porn, and risky sex. He’d done this for years avoiding relationships n such. He was a musician and used the scene and smoking weed as a distraction. As well, he was a great father, a great friend, even a good person serving His community. But the more he spread himself thin to hide his other side the more stressed and the more he relied on his addictions to soothe him. There’s a lot of trauma sprinkled in there in his early childhood that he totally disregarded as well. That being said, as his brain kept looking for riskier and risker sexual conquests… things that were shocking and taboo… (but he was specific that this didn’t include beastiality) He found himself in forums of sexual predators. He convinced himself it was a type of personal investigation. That Prodding his curiosity was just as satisfying as porn. Because it wasn’t so much about the sex as it was the risk. Just seeing how their minds operated n such I guess. But it wasn’t long before photos were shared with him. (Specifically found CP from the dark web) One day one user asked for him to prove he wasn’t law enforcement and asked him to share photos back. To prove himself. And boom. Of course he shared photos with an officer. I was there when he was arrested and it was extremely traumatic. I understand he made those decisions and I am glad he was caught and stopped and had to face the severity of what he did. But there were a lot of issues with the aftermath of his arrest. 1. Law enforcement baiting sex addicts in this way in public internet spaces, using CP themselves… and then labeling those who fall in these traps as sex offenders. As well as how they handled the arrest extremely violently (I had over 10 guns pointed at my face just because I was the one who answered the door) it was a huge public ordeal that was dramatacized. And even local news circulated that he had intent to harm minors n such. So you see this whole other side of law enforcement and media that just wants to really demonize people to the fullest extent even if they never committed those harsher crimes. 2. The fact that society and lawmakers alive views sexoffensers/sexaddicts and pedophiles as the same thing is crippling to those, their friends, their family and their children. 3. The fact that sex addicts charged as offenders (specifically with non violent or non touching crimes) are given NO real treatment. They are shunned and treated like pedophiles… but the “treatment” is the equivalent of AA and hardly addresses childhood trauma, triggers or even the sex addiction itself. It’s kind of like a revolving door thing where they slap all kinds of fines and charges and rob you many many years of your life (for him it was over 5 years incarcerated and lifetime parole) And then that’s it. Your life is ruined because of a mistake you made from an addiction you had. I just wish there were more preventative and specific measures taken to address these issues. And it’s heartbreaking to know that people with addictions are baited into this when they could be using those tactics to help people get the help they need instead of fueling our industrial prison complex.
I suppose the therapist who would be helping these porn and sex addicts are busy providing services to the survivors of sex crimes, including innocent children
some men can only take so much rejection, before reaching for some distraction.. personally I would never, ever get married again……its not worth the stress
Spoken like a true addict. Avoidant behavior, blame game to justify their addiction, and gaslighting to not take responsibility for their actions, and not try to just be a better human and partner. Find someone you're actually compatible with instead of someone who rejects you. Leave if you aren't happy in a relationship, but take responsibly in your own actions for why you chose that partner, or chose to stay and watch porn. Touching yourself is different than an unhealthy attachment to pornography. You have an imagination use it. Porn is unrealistic and a lot don't know the sex trafficking that goes on and the minors used and abused in that industry.
@@MsJessyJess you assume far too much…..too busy to waste time on porn……..just done with relationships…. it seems some women arnt interested either….so friends with mutual benefits works great….. no entitlement or unrealistic expectations……..
Boo hoo, typical man. Your wife turns you down on time and it’s the end of the world. You’re doing women a favor by never getting married again. You should stay away from women all together. Just take responsibility for how you feel without blaming us.
@@elizabethcannon4338 Most men will never take responsibility for their actions. They have to blame someone. My husband was addicted to it before meeting me and he still married me. He would have been fine lying and sneaking around our whole marriage had I not found out. It disgusts me. We haven’t had sex in a year. I would have sex daily if possible. It’s not always women rejecting their husbands as men try to make it seem. Im sick of them.
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So Y won't they stop knowing the trauma and problems there causing us?! Obviously porn is worth losing us over. And Y when U tell them it bothers U and 2 stop watching porn, then they watch it even more behind your back. I don't get it. Also, my husband was caught paying for sumthing that's called premium porn on pornhub. Can anybody plz explain Y he is laying when porn is free?! Y would anybody pay?! Explain.
Because it's an addiction. Unfortunately, the porn industry has done a good job of getting to both men and women at a young age and they become addictive. A lot turn to it also because of their own mental instability or trauma. You have a choice also though, find a mentally, spiritually and physically stable partner who most likely doesn't do this.
Sex we are taught/educated more about the universe and the ocean floor. It’s completely natural, yet we cloth are bodies and even talking about it is taboo. You may blame Porn or whatever I blame the human condition.
That is false, and if you are lying about it, not being intimate with your partner because of it, having to continuously increase watching it and upping the intensity of it, are all signs of addictive behavior. How long did it take them to realize alcoholism was a disease that was put in the DSM????
@@sofiabravo1994 Wrong. Again, look up the DSM V, years of propaganda from the prudes and still, no evidence of addiction. Compulsivity is not addiction
You have no idea HOW much men are loved and not given up on by their partners DESPITE their betrayals and violations in a relationship You are talking out your ass.
Spoken like a true addict and narcissist. There's a difference between masturbation and masturbation with an unhealthy addiction to porn and lying about it to your partners.
I love being intimate with my husband so just because I don’t want him getting off be seeing other women intimately makes me a prude? I’m sure you would love being rejected by your wife preferring other men over you.
Every Woman, Every home, Every Relationship, Everyday. ENOUGH! We are all accountable to call out this extremely degrading behaviour.
So many women broken and torn. When will it stop.
Well ironically its Women mostly raising young boys into men. We have a societal norm to fight against BUT we aint fighting hard enough.
@@bladerubber Every human being has a responsibility to fight this degrading behaviour. Everyone!
“Ironically” it’s women raising boys to men because men are absent. It’s not about who IS there it’s about who’s NOT there!
Not "every". However, this does not minimize your pain and suffering 💔
Guy here- I used to be so addicted to porn in my early 20s. Masturbating multiple times a day and hooking up a lot. For me, it was a way to self soothe pain from a trauma and it worked but it left me so lonely, depressed, and broken. I felt worse after. In my heart I wanted to be in love with someone and feel connection and not end up like one of these guys who was always taking it a step further and further. I had a few great relationships but they never worked out because porn ruined my sense of peace, intimacy, love, and ability to communicate and listen and contain my emotions. It truly is a poison. I’m happy to say I no longer watch porn nor is there a desire. I’m so sorry there are women hurting out there because their men aren’t aware of what damage it’s causing.
Is it possible to love a woman after it without comparing her to others? I hope the answer is yes, but I feel very hopeless, porn use of men around me has really affected me
Bless you! 🤍
Betrayal Trauma is real. A CSAT is such a great resource. The lying is as bad as the actions. We all were lied to, in addition to cheated on. I'm so sorry for everyone who finds themselves here. We are all healing. ❤
😢😢😢😢just found out a few months Ago . Multiple sites of Pornography; disturbing 😳 Images on my husband’s computer!!! I am so torn , so hurt , so deeply Devastated!!! I don’t even know where to begin!!!
Such a serious problem. This video needs to be seen by millions not hundreds.
Climate Change is also Serious.
But Nobody Watches it.
BILLIONS
@Brandon Clarke Yes Lord AMEN
@@gauravdubey6989 so is tyranny. Nobody cares.
I remember posting on a private all women’s group on Facebook about my bf watching porn and how much it hurt me especially the lying about it - I couldn’t believe the response I received. I was told I was insecure and that they feel sorry for my bf. And that he has every right to watch it. Was so shocked.
There was no empathy whatsoever. “It’s completely natural” I beg to differ. How can something man made he natural?
I agree, I'm shocked by their responses and the lack of empathy towards you. Both parties need support.
Thanks for your comment Georgia. We definitely feel it's not "natural" at all. We hope you can find serenity and healing.
If you had sex with many men before marriage then don't bother your husband about porn.
It's not even Real So it can't possibly be natural. They are lying to themselves as well as you. I refuse to let porn control my life or my relationship with my future wife and our future kids. I hatee What Porn has done to my brain. I'm not passing this on to my kids
@@VyNguyen-mp9ky I agree! There is hope! facebook.com/groups/484776755742981/?ref=share
The trauma caused to the betrayed partner is gut wrechingly agonizing. Its maniacal and malicious injury period.
What a great video!!! That being said, I’ve come to the conclusion that, with porn being so accessible, it affects everyone of us. It’s destroying relationships everywhere and it can’t be cured unless we take the internet down. What’s really frightening is that children can access porn at any given time.
I liked life before we had the internet
So true it's an epidemic
This is a pervasive societal problem... and I will call it like it is
Internet...is sometimes like a Pandora’s box
Authenticity is the only thing that will stop something like this. Inauthenticity/ free will. The freedom to do whatever it is you like (the Ego self) will mean that some people will choose to watch porn.
Authenticity is people loving themselves for who they are and being true to themselves.
Real problem there!!! My partner is addicted to porn and it such a shame. When i found out about it.. I just have lost my respect to him. It's disgrace to have a partner who's addicted to porn. Fight me but I don't respect those kind of men.
Yep. I 2 lost respect and love 4 my husband. He chose porn over me. And Ill always hate hin 4 it. Never could get hard, unless porn was playing.
The older you get the more you'll lower the bar. Give it 5 years... you'll beg to ride a man.
@@whatareyoulookingat908 spoken like a true addict
No fighting here. It is a shame, destroying men, their partners, their families. I’ve lived with a man for thirty years who did this stuff, STILL lies about it, and it’s destroying everything he is and has. Divorce is imminent. I can not live with this any longer.
I'm glad she gets that religious leaders tend not to get it.
YOUR FEELINGS ARE 100% VALID... This ruins men and the women they put this through. Please stay far away from these men, they hardly ever get “better”
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When we ask them 2 stop porn, they get more into it. I don't get it. The more we beg and plead, the more they jerk there little peckers and act like we're the problem. Smh.
@@laurenmorgan881 Because men only understand consequences and punishment. You have to leave him and start dating other people. And energetically speaking, trying to convince or plead with them to change, only fuels the energy of the problem. It is better to re-direct that energy towards knowing your own worth and showing him by your actions that you will not tolerate his abuse.
@@TK-tg6kr That’s the plan for me. My husband didn’t come clean willingly. I had to show him evidence I found on his computer to get him to confess. I would have never know anything had I not walked in on him years ago. I’m done. Him confessing just validated that I’m not crazy and my gut feeling is right. I am working on leaving. I will never deal with a man again. Ever.
Yep, 18 years and didn’t get better, just got better at hiding it.
I find this somewhat disturbing. I'm a husband that has a wife that is addicted to porn. The assumption that it is only women and wives that suffer from this epidemic is hurtful and leaves me feeling very alone. Although I understand that it is by and large men who are the major targets of pornography addiction, there is an ever increasing number of women who are falling into this category. They leave behind them the same swath of wreckage as any man does. Please don't discount and forget us.
Eric Jensen I’m so sorry that you’re suffering from feeling like you’re left out and alone. Your feelings and struggles are valid. Women actually account for almost a 1/3 (last I heard) of porn addicts and that shouldn’t be swept under the rug. I know how hard it is to try to cope with your partner being an addict.
@@kirstenashley4289 Thank you so much. I think this is too big a problem to be falling into the gender blame game. Even when it is the man with the problem, CHILDREN of both genders can be affected as well so it never ever was just the wife as a victim. A father or mother can have a lasting impact on their children as well as their spouse. We need to be talking about the impact on everyone concerned, men and women, spouse and child. My wife went to every one of our children, some married and some quite young, and apologized for the time and her inadequacy as a mother during her addiction. She's making HUGE changes and improvements but it had far-reaching impacts and it will take a long time to undo the consequences of her choices.
Eric Jensen I completely agree. The spouse may suffer the most emotionally with feelings of invalidation, low self esteem, betrayal, worthlessness, and other things in that realm, but others get affected as well -and if the addiction gets bad enough it definitely can affect other family members a lot as well in deeply emotional ways or even financially.
And yes, men often end up addicted more frequently, but that doesn’t mean that women don’t get exposed to it as well or don’t find it appealing as well and therefore fall into the same trap of intense addition. We should be treating this in a gender neutral and inclusive way because people seeking emotional reassurance and help for those in their lives who have this addiction don’t need to feel further pushed away and invalidated.
So true. I was shocked when I saw the search history on my girlfriend's laptop. It was obvious she has a fixation with BBC. I show many searches for someone called Poldark. I haven't confronted her yet but she has some explaining to do.
Kirsten Ashley thanks for mentioning that! It gets pretty frustrating & hurtful that these videos are always about men for women, I haven’t found one single video dealing with men who had to deal with a wife addicted to porn and sex.
It’s always men men men.
Guys deny it when confronted that makes it more of a betrayal that they are lying and that is when trust in that person is lost. I had to ask him why he dis that and the answer was it poped on my phone and then I had to show him he searched it up so I made my conclusion he was lying and that brought the relationship to the edge. It’s more than just watching that it’s the lie and you can’t trust someone that might do worse after that.
Dr. Manning, everything you said is 100% true.
This has explains exactly what I have gone through- codependency never really for for me - but this is definitely what it is to go through - betrayal trauma - spouse- kids-Parents - religion - which leads to friends - 4degrees that make you feel crazy because the narcissist spouse with the sex addiction has the gift to make things their way
I don't people realize That it's Actually Very Tramatic to a young child to see porn. It's not talked about enough what this done to young boys
The Origin of Gaslighting....
Extremely damaging. It actually has many chemical biological and mental consequences. You need to rewire your brain after any addiction,but especially this one. They've made it so accessible and ruined childhoods for 3/4 of a century. It's everywhere and promoted as normal.
The neglect avoidant blaming is the hardest for me & finding porn sites in the text part of his phone to
I'm so sorry Renee. If you have additional questions, visit salifeline.org/category/for-her/ and sal12step.org.
Yeah and them just looking at provocative videos to pretend they aren't looking at porn but still performing the addictive behaviors. It's really hard when you figure out that part too. Like scantily clad women on Tik Tok, Instagram, or Facebook. Or them watching videos of women twerking or even modeling lingerie.
For all you guys "struggling" with this lust thing....... let's compare apples to apples here.
Men are visually stimulated.
Woman are stimulated by physical and/or emotional touch.
A man looks at a woman and (within 3 seconds) has mentally decided if he would or would not want to have sex with her.
(anyone who doesn't believe this is the actual mind processes of a man - is out of touch with reality)
If the answer is yes it's because he determine that she is attractive/hot/sexy/pretty/cute/etc. (pick something).
If that particular man decided to tell his partner that he thinks the other woman is attractive and women are smart enough to know that he has made that determination based on his conclusion that he would be willing to have sex with her.
Men want the luxury of being visually stimulated and feel they should be allowed to do so without judgement.
Here is where the apples to apples comparison comes in.
We, women, are stimulated by physical and/or emotional touch so in order for us to have a similar experience to men's - we need to have some sort of "interaction" with the men we find attractive.
So men - Wise up and recognize that your partner is probably jealous because she hasn't given herself permission to "interact" with other men for the physical and/or emotional connection (i.e. massage, hugging, intimate conversations, quality time, etc.) she would need to experience a comparable feeling to what you are getting out of "noticing" how attractive other women are.
The next time you are feeling so sorry for yourselves for being misunderstood by your partner - realize that she doesn't misunderstand you at all! She GETS YOU!! That's what pisses her off! And if you don't want her to be pissed off - give her complete permission to go get a full body massage from the hottest man in town and spend the rest of the night with him sharing her feelings. That experience would (most likely) put her in a similar mindset as you allow yourself to go into every time you look twice at other attractive women!
ONLY if you give your partner your blessing for her experiencing a similar mental rush ( in a way that pleases her ) to what you get from getting turned on by 'looking' at other women, can you give your own self permission to do what you do!
Men you aren't stupid - you are just selfish!
Either STOP sharing your own minds with other women - or start sharing your woman's mind with other men!
If you don't want to do that then let that be your motivation to just stop!!
It's a choice! That's it - A CHOICE!!
Lots of mental gymnastics there.
I imagine you could also compare a paper cut to a gushing wound.
👏👏👏👏👏 It's that simple!! The problem here is that we are still living in a male dominated world. We haven't really got over that form of upbringing, and religion doesn't help. I just wish women had the courage to do what needs to be done. He replaces you with porn and meets his needs, you cheat and meet yours.
Well said ladies. They can dish it out but can't take it the other way.
I wasn't so sure about how this started, but I sure like how it wrapped up. Fair enough.
Oh I wish I had a dr like you nearby. This is such a heavy heavy hurt to carry for so many years with no validation and constant blame and manipulation.
I’d show this to my partner who just admitted being a porn addict and wanting my help, but I think it would be lost on him because she’s so attractive. Isn’t that awful.🙄
This group Bloom for Women has excellent classes for the betrayed woman. It's not the ysual religious shtick, but practical, respectful, and empowering.
I understand exactly how you are/were feeling.
Yes, because we've been traumatized by their lying and their addiction. Trauma rewires the brain, and as a result we think everything they've ever done, or do now will revolve around the addictive behaviors. I just had to end my relationship because it just kept happening, and I couldn't find it in myself, to not constantly think he was going to continue to do it and lie to me. Nothing we can do about it. We either stay and try to help and support them and they get help, or they don't, and we leave. It's like with any addict it's a conscious road of recovery. Most partners, male or female, that are lied to, cheated on, or have dealt with the addictions, are able to make their relationship work after the trauma. However, if you do decide to stay, you need to be apart of a support group or your own methods of healing to be able to get over it.
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Thank you for describing this so accurately and in such detail. You have helped to validate me and the trauma I’m experiencing and given me a point of reference that I can share with my husband to help him to understand the trauma and pain and confusion I am experiencing. And to help him understand the healing that I/we will need to move forward and to forgive and to process what has happened. 😢❤thank you
My relationship was going downhill and couldn’t figure out why until I found out he was watching porn and spending time watching instead of looking in his partner what he wanted somewhere else that’s what affected me. Some guys use it and don’t leave their partners in the shadow they get excited with their partners but if he is forgetting u and doing what’s he’s doing he has a problem and he isn’t worth finding a therapist either.
I’m struggling with this. I’m trying to quit now, and have decided no matter how hard it is that I will not lie to whoever I date about this.
I have struggled with this for three years with my partner.
I had left a narcissist and alcoholic and suffer CPTSD and still getting help.
This has added to it.
Hyper vigilance, therapy, denials, excuses, blaming me and it goes on.
I was in a mental hospital after I left my ex and felt I was heading back there.
I gave in yesterday after I found audio porn and his constant minimising.
I am done with him and done with men.
I gave up on men 5 yrs ago, and let me tell you this: I AM SO HAPPY!!!!! I found that when I was with men, I always felt like I was betraying my authentic self. I made excuses for behaviour that shouldn't be excused - constantly. I highly recommend giving men up to other women. I've had a child by myself and have no need for a man now. The happiness is *amazing*. Blessings sister, I really feel for what you have gone through, may you find healing 💞✌️
I am seeing him again but it will not last.
I am 64 and over abuse and lies.
@@carolashlee8002 Sending you a hug, sister. You look after yourself and just know how truly precious you are ♥️
Queen of the Butterflies I gave up on women a year and a half ago & am happier than EVER! All I care about is raising my daughter, providing her with a good life & taking care of myself!
There are more toxic sex fiend women out there than men believe it or not.
7charlierox and stay away from toxic porno girls
The trauma of my life began early in my life from porn. I was born in 1987.. as the internet progressed.. the more f-d up my life became..all b4 I was 10 yrs old.
Oh My God!
That Really Hurts Me!
I know how that feels. But all the more reason for us to protect our children from the abuse
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I need help. My husband is addicted to porn and I am so sick of it. I don't know that I have any feelings left
So sorry you’re struggling. You can learn about our online recovery meetings for betrayed spouses at www.sal12step.org. There are other resources at www.salifeline.org. We are here to help.
Leave him you deserve better
And focus on your goals
Another man will appreciate you
Same. im just tired of all the lies and feeling betrayed all the damn time. I just wish he would stop giving up and fight..
What help. Get a divorce lawyer. There’s your help
Get into therapy and he needs to get real. Get blocking software on your CPU’s
Recently found out that my husband is addicted to porn, and you've literally listed all of the effects that I'm experiencing. I don't know what to do at the moment. We have 2 kids, 5yrs and a 3 months old
Hello @JoyMala3. We understand how devastating this discovery can be. We would recommend you learn more about betrayal trauma by listening to our podcast, Pathway to Recovery, and learn how qualified therapy and 12-Step work can help you on this journey of healing. You can sign up for a free SAL 12-Step meeting at www.sal12step.org.
Wow! Your window analogy was spot on
The only fans wave also needs highlighting .... Great video.
So huge...& why aren’t more watching this?!
Because they are watching porn instead of this.
Right!!!!!???? I was shocked to see it only had a few thousand views. Shocking
I was dismayed when I learned that some sexual therapists actually recommend porn to "spice up" things on the bedroom. I mean, here I am, hardly getting any sleep after giving birth to my second child. Looking like the walking dead, my body all stretched out and with some extra weight from pregnancy, an emotional wreck from baby blues, and the dude watching porn and getting off with girls that are half my age, all super dolled up and the body I used to have prior to babies. How am I suppose to feel sexy, attractive, and in the mood to be with him THAT way?? I mean...you don't have to be a genius to get that, right?
Darkness Hates The Light
Im frozen after finding out he liked child pornography..he is in jail and i hope the authorites do their job but im still waiting to find out any information about the case i dont even have a case number..im suffereing in silence and have no income coming in on top of that so ya Very Crushing..idk what to do our how to reach out for help😢
My husband and I have been together 6 years. We have had a wonderful, full relationship!! He has a very high sex drive and this was never a problem. Within the last year (I’m turning 50 this year) I have gained weight and my sex drive has dropped dramatically. I have recently found that he is watching porn, something I have never seen before from him. It hurts so much because I am so lost right now and not sure how to fix myself.
I’m really trying to balance my hurt with my trust in him. Does he have a problem? How do I get back to myself? Is this as serious as it hurts??
Thank you for reaching out. Many partners wonder if it is their fault their spouse has turned to porn instead of them for sexual fulfillment. Many partners also find themselves experiencing deep pain as a result of their significant other using porn, but wonder if their pain is valid since it seems that using porn is just what everyone does, right? In truth, when our loved one uses porn and does so in secret or in the open, it feels like a betrayal in the relationship because it is a betrayal of trust. When we choose to gratify our sexual desires through the myriad forms of porn, sexting, chat rooms, etc, the pain is very very real for the betrayed spouse. You are not alone in feeling this way. We invite you to go to our website www.salifeline.org and learn more about what we call betrayal trauma. There is hope and help available.
Wow. You must also read "Pornography and the Christian Girl" by Alberta Darku. Great supplementary read
The religious leader who told the patient she had to forgive and stay with her husband for child pornography is an extreme interpretation of Religion. The bible prescribes that Sexual immorality called porneia (Hebrew) is a valid reason to divorce. It was later Catholic teachers and theologists that changed the rules, which are NOT based on the Bible. Christianity is much more fair, to be honest. But forgiveness is recommended, but not necessarily staying in that marriage.
ThAnk you
Fantastic.
Very helpful. Thank you. Can give me the web addresd to apstats. I can't seem to find it. Thank you
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Wow, Dr Jill is right on! Amazing video and was so helpful. How do ya catch these bastards and then what?
It's like with any addict or addiction. You either choose to stay and they choose to get help as should you, or you or they don't and you leave the situation.
Weird that you make this gender specific. Women can be addicted to porn. Why be sexist? Shouldn't it say "effects on spouses"? As a woman, I'm offended.
Too little too late. After 16 yrs we live as brother and sister.. When will AIDS impact .
What?
@@MsJessyJess He died of AIDS last Nov. He is free of his addiction and so am I .
Oh I see was confused about living as brother and sister. Sorry for your loss. Much love for being over your addiction.
Oh! The things! I don't think!
Religion really pisses me off. A sin is a sin, none worse than another. All are equally wrong in Gods eyes.
That’s incorrect thinking.
( cautionary tale/ trigger warning)
I have a close friend who was addicted to porn, and risky sex. He’d done this for years avoiding relationships n such. He was a musician and used the scene and smoking weed as a distraction. As well, he was a great father, a great friend, even a good person serving His community. But the more he spread himself thin to hide his other side the more stressed and the more he relied on his addictions to soothe him.
There’s a lot of trauma sprinkled in there in his early childhood that he totally disregarded as well.
That being said, as his brain kept looking for riskier and risker sexual conquests… things that were shocking and taboo… (but he was specific that this didn’t include beastiality)
He found himself in forums of sexual predators. He convinced himself it was a type of personal investigation. That Prodding his curiosity was just as satisfying as porn. Because it wasn’t so much about the sex as it was the risk. Just seeing how their minds operated n such I guess.
But it wasn’t long before photos were shared with him. (Specifically found CP from the dark web)
One day one user asked for him to prove he wasn’t law enforcement and asked him to share photos back. To prove himself.
And boom.
Of course he shared photos with an officer.
I was there when he was arrested and it was extremely traumatic.
I understand he made those decisions and I am glad he was caught and stopped and had to face the severity of what he did. But there were a lot of issues with the aftermath of his arrest.
1. Law enforcement baiting sex addicts in this way in public internet spaces, using CP themselves… and then labeling those who fall in these traps as sex offenders. As well as how they handled the arrest extremely violently (I had over 10 guns pointed at my face just because I was the one who answered the door) it was a huge public ordeal that was dramatacized. And even local news circulated that he had intent to harm minors n such. So you see this whole other side of law enforcement and media that just wants to really demonize people to the fullest extent even if they never committed those harsher crimes.
2. The fact that society and lawmakers alive views sexoffensers/sexaddicts and pedophiles as the same thing is crippling to those, their friends, their family and their children.
3. The fact that sex addicts charged as offenders (specifically with non violent or non touching crimes) are given NO real treatment. They are shunned and treated like pedophiles… but the “treatment” is the equivalent of AA and hardly addresses childhood trauma, triggers or even the sex addiction itself.
It’s kind of like a revolving door thing where they slap all kinds of fines and charges and rob you many many years of your life (for him it was over 5 years incarcerated and lifetime parole)
And then that’s it.
Your life is ruined because of a mistake you made from an addiction you had.
I just wish there were more preventative and specific measures taken to address these issues. And it’s heartbreaking to know that people with addictions are baited into this when they could be using those tactics to help people get the help they need instead of fueling our industrial prison complex.
I suppose the therapist who would be helping these porn and sex addicts are busy providing services to the survivors of sex crimes, including innocent children
Baited?
Tie a fuking millstone around his beck.
some men can only take so much rejection, before reaching for some distraction..
personally I would never, ever get married again……its not worth the stress
Spoken like a true addict. Avoidant behavior, blame game to justify their addiction, and gaslighting to not take responsibility for their actions, and not try to just be a better human and partner. Find someone you're actually compatible with instead of someone who rejects you. Leave if you aren't happy in a relationship, but take responsibly in your own actions for why you chose that partner, or chose to stay and watch porn. Touching yourself is different than an unhealthy attachment to pornography. You have an imagination use it. Porn is unrealistic and a lot don't know the sex trafficking that goes on and the minors used and abused in that industry.
@@MsJessyJess you assume far too much…..too busy to waste time on porn……..just done with relationships….
it seems some women arnt interested either….so friends with mutual benefits works great…..
no entitlement or unrealistic expectations……..
Some men are addicted before they meet their partners. Partners don’t say no. Ever. And are still told they aren’t enough . What’s the excuse then
Boo hoo, typical man. Your wife turns you down on time and it’s the end of the world. You’re doing women a favor by never getting married again. You should stay away from women all together. Just take responsibility for how you feel without blaming us.
@@elizabethcannon4338 Most men will never take responsibility for their actions. They have to blame someone. My husband was addicted to it before meeting me and he still married me. He would have been fine lying and sneaking around our whole marriage had I not found out. It disgusts me. We haven’t had sex in a year. I would have sex daily if possible. It’s not always women rejecting their husbands as men try to make it seem. Im sick of them.
I am delivering a sermon to you 🙏😊 please read
Consistently Pray for forgiveness, guidance in a good (positive) direction, and for help against evil. Pray to be saved from hell (whatever that may be). Pray for your friends and your family too, it only takes a minute or so/less at a time to pray. Do it and your life will slowly get better, or maybe quickly. It probably just depends on you and the kind of person you are/have been. Don't wait until its too late and you have to suffer the consequences of built up bad karma from immoral acts/unrepented sins. Maybe together we can help make the world a better place by changing ourselves for the better, and changing things around us for the better.
And addressing/thanking the CREATOR, LORD GOD at the beginning and end of your prayers would be a good idea 😊
Or just be my friend if you don't want to say the prayer 😄
I'm trying to help you get right with the LORD 🙏
Amen.
I have worded a short prayer for you to say if you are not sure what words to use, it may not be the best but here it is 😊
'' CREATOR, LORD GOD,
Please forgive me and my friends and my family for our immoral acts, please help guide us in a positive direction and please help us against evil. Please save us from Hell and have mercy on our souls. Thank you CREATOR, LORD GOD. Amen. ''
Please say this at least once a day for at least a month, do it longer if you want to and can 🙏
You should prostrate yourself if you don't want to do spoken prayer, or do both 🙏😊 Please worship the LORD GOD and not any idol.
Please put your hands together 🙏 bow your head and say this prayer:
"CREATOR, LORD GOD, please know that I worship you and not any idols. Thank you for everything CREATOR, LORD GOD. Amen"
Say ' Om Namah Shivaya ' out loud or in your head 108 times, or try to do it 1008 times 😊 try to do it everyday if you want
repeat this aloud for as long as you want to, try to do it for like an hour a day or say it in a prayer "Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, have mercy on me, a sinner"
You can also say this prayer once a day or repeat it aloud as many times as you would like to:
"Hail Mary, full of grace. The Lord is with thee. Blessed art thou amongst women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb, Jesus. Holy Mary, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death, Amen." 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
Thessalonians 5:16-18
"Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you."
Philippians 4:6-7
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
"O Blood and Water, which gushed forth from the Heart of Jesus as a fount of mercy for us, I trust in You!" Repeat this aloud at least 3 times or as many as you want, do it everyday if you can
I apologize for all the words 😊 I know how it may look
So Y won't they stop knowing the trauma and problems there causing us?! Obviously porn is worth losing us over. And Y when U tell them it bothers U and 2 stop watching porn, then they watch it even more behind your back. I don't get it. Also, my husband was caught paying for sumthing that's called premium porn on pornhub. Can anybody plz explain Y he is laying when porn is free?! Y would anybody pay?! Explain.
Because porn is hyper stimulating, and sex with real women is boring
I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. I can feel your pain. It sounds to me he’s an addict acting out. I’m so sorry ❤️
Because it's an addiction. Unfortunately, the porn industry has done a good job of getting to both men and women at a young age and they become addictive. A lot turn to it also because of their own mental instability or trauma. You have a choice also though, find a mentally, spiritually and physically stable partner who most likely doesn't do this.
Dr.Trish Leigh youtube
Leave
He has the choice to get help and change
Sex we are taught/educated more about the universe and the ocean floor. It’s completely natural, yet we cloth are bodies and even talking about it is taboo. You may blame Porn or whatever I blame the human condition.
Women read lovey dovey novels. Now that hurts me! Sob!
People still read? 😂
DSM III, IV and V all agree.
There is no such thing as sex addiction.
It literally cannot happen
That is false, and if you are lying about it, not being intimate with your partner because of it, having to continuously increase watching it and upping the intensity of it, are all signs of addictive behavior. How long did it take them to realize alcoholism was a disease that was put in the DSM????
You’re in denial.
False. You can be addicted to anything sex is definitely included.
@@sofiabravo1994 Wrong.
Again, look up the DSM V, years of propaganda from the prudes and still, no evidence of addiction.
Compulsivity is not addiction
Icd-11?
How tf did I end up on the man hating side of UA-cam
It's not hating men, it's hating what some men choose to be doing that's tearing apart families and destroying their own lives.
You have no idea HOW much men are loved and not given up on by their partners DESPITE their betrayals and violations in a relationship
You are talking out your ass.
Typical male that always has to be a victim.
Prudes, prudes everywhere. Furthermore, comparing the use pornography to parafilic behavior is asanine.
Shut up, coomer.
Winston's Julia what is a coomer? Lol
@@pinnacleproductions6275 Look up "coomer" on youtube.
Spoken like a true addict and narcissist. There's a difference between masturbation and masturbation with an unhealthy addiction to porn and lying about it to your partners.
I love being intimate with my husband so just because I don’t want him getting off be seeing other women intimately makes me a prude? I’m sure you would love being rejected by your wife preferring other men over you.