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@@AimanAlnnfan good luck. From my past experience the hard thing is to sell product and not to create or acquire it. If I were you I would try to find a buyer for your animated series by showing him one episode first before I would create more of them.
I agree. He's saying this because of his struggle. The people in their 20s might not even watch this video and if they do, they probably won't understand cause they haven't been through the struggle. The people his age and above would understand though.
lost a chunk of my early 20's from depression and started late at 2021 working seriously, now im 29 going to 30 on march soon. really wish i could start earlier but the lessons i received from those lost years did help me to be "me" and i would do it all over again to get to where i am now. happy.
Damn I felt this video. My early 20s I didn't know what to do with my life, I was in and out of college for 2 years, dropped out, went to work full time and quit. Back to school dropped out then back to work. Now I found what I wanted to do and I'm 25. I'm picking up everything where I left off and piecing it together. God bless every single one of you guys reading this paragraph.
Oh man i fear im having it the same way now. I am 20 and trying to move in another country, didn't succeed in my previous try, had to come back. Now im studying again and working in my country an think of trying again in 1 year. Is it even worth iti dunno....
The Title is obviously provocative so we click on it. And most of the young generations watch youtube but of course these points can help besides the age
while technically true, its not healthy for a 20 year old to have this mindset. your 20s need to be when you lock in, no waiting because you can be left behind quickly, or you can get into a rut that you never get out of your whole life.
wasting your 20's is a pretty common thing lol, its the age where you're still trying to figure everything out, and you're still in limbo in a way, transitioning from being a kid to an adult. I spent most of them going clubbing and playing video games. if you waste your 30s and beyond then that's a problem. With that said, those that figure it out in their 20s (or even younger) usually end up exceptional early on.
Adding on to the last paragraph- people who peak early also tend to stagnate in their 40’s. They spend their time watching TV or chilling instead of doing something meaningful. Just stuck in the hamster wheel
@@WoodyJ98interesting I'm 24 just got my dream job suddenly as a Park Ranger a dude with a badge no gun. Now Im nervous thinking about how this will be it for the rest of my life now I gotta ride it out. Kinda Scary.
@@dayblue_ honestly I'm lucky and greatful but when you lock in good stuff happens frfr. try to do your best always. Get better everyday grind and sacrifice a little and by my age 24 you'll be more established and professional more likely to find a good job and a decent chance of getting hired just get focused and set goals.
23 here and i waste a lot of time clubbing and playing video games with friends 😂 i don’t really think that’s a total waste, i think about how nostalgic i am for playing video games as a kid with my friends tbh, might think similarly when im early 30s? same with clubbing lol i definitely do that less than i did a few years ago but i dont think it was a waste to do those things! moderation is key as they all say
Lost my early 20’s due to anxiety, fear of failure and relationship. Now I’m 28 when I see my juniors achieving great things in life I think why I didn’t put in more efforts.
I have severe anxiety, it’s never too late to take the right steps for your mental health, I woke up one day thinking I didn’t want to do this anymore, and be this person. I quit everything, pop, drinking, smoking, eating past 8, fast food. All the bad habits in my life, I take cbd when it gets really bad but other than that, I do feel a bit of a change it just started. If this doesn’t help, take medication.
I'm almost 24 and completely lost in life. I'm graduating with a subject that I don't have much passion for. I'm completely confused about my career. I'm not in a good place health-wise or wealth-wise. I've been battling with depression for a few years now. But this comment section has made me feel that I'm not alone and is giving me hope to survive for the future. Thank you strangers. I wish you all good luck...❤
Focus on improving a little each day at something useful, even if it's your health and nothing else at first, slow and constant improvement is the key. And keep believing in yourself. You'll eventually get somewhere good in life if you do that. 👍
@@xaviermalcolm8481 Thank you for your kind words. I'm taking baby steps each day towards growth and life's getting better little by little. Turns out, putting your feelings first, works like magic. Wishing you a happy and healthy life as well. 🌷
I'm in exactly the same place as you right now. All we can do he keep going and make small baby steps. I've been going to the gym for the past 3 months regally and that's made a big difference
Same here, I'm also 24 years. But still I'm a second year in my university. Doing chemistry bcs I thought I love it, but now I feel like it's not my passion. My best friend doing her degree very happily, She has found her passion when I'm see others work happily in their feilds I feel depressed, I'm crying. Even in my 24th I haven't found my passion. But how ever I win, I have the power... Now I'm trying for a another feild , I do self studing while doing my degree... If it also wont setted to me I'll try another. Untill I find my passion I'm trying
I’m 29 and turn 30 in November. I feel like I just started really living at 27 due to being in an abusive relationship from 19 to 27. I graduated HS at 17, I got a Bachelor’s degree at 22. I worked as a paraprofessional for special needs kids from 22 to 29. I lost my mom at 25 which flipped my world upside down. I got engaged to my ex at 27 and a few months later I had to walk away from him which was an extremely dark time in my life but I am so glad I did. I finally experienced being single in my 20s at 27 and moved out of my parents home. I was single for a year and a half going on dates and having flings until I finally met my current bf at 28 almost 29. He is my first healthy relationship and I am so lucky to have him. And also at 29, I quit my 2 jobs of working with special needs kids and hopefully by this January, I will be in nursing school at age 30.
At least you've had flings. I am 24, coming close to 25 and have never even held a girl's hand let alone done all the other things I should've done by now. All because I've never felt good enough due to low self esteem and lack of proper social skill. I am even considering giving up on dating altogether if by 30 I haven't been with a woman. I'm not about to take my first steps in dating by the time my friends and peers mary and start families of their own.
Im 29 and turn 30 next month. Graduated HS at 17 Dropped out of community college at 19 and got a medical trade at 20 Worked in most industries until I found my passion in healthcare. Worked in ER in Los angeles at age 21 , moved around, got engaged then broke it off at 22, had chronic health issues that resulted in brain surgeries, but i kept pushing! Published a book at 23 Graduated with a bachelors in psychology at 25 Opened a ROTH IRA at 25 Been working remotely since age 26 Got my first townhome at 28. I made a lot of mistakes along the way and dont compare your life to others.
I’m 29 now. I had a lot of amazing things and terrible things happen in my 20’s. I wasted a lot of time partying, taking days off, screwing around. I also created a lot of fantastic memories, made friends, and learned so much I could make a series of 20 novels trying to cover it all. Whatever you’re doing with your time is not a “waste”. Maybe a financial advisor or your football coach will say you wasted it. I say you experienced it. As long as you use that experience to enjoy every day as it comes by, to apply yourself fully at everything you do, to make your family, friends and neighbours lives better, and continue on that path for the next 50 years… then I think you’ve done perfectly.
When i was 24, i had done nothing with my life. i spent my early 20s messing around with women, doing drugs, and working dead end jobs that i hated. When i was a few months off 25 i decided to make a change, i enrolled in college for an accounting degree and got grinding. Today, im 27, i am ALMOST done my degree (all the tax classes are behind me, hallelujah) and have a bright future ahead of me! It was a ton of work though, i got sober, focused on myself, sometimes had to work 2 jobs and a side hustle while taking 5 classes but i never stopped moving. Now i have HIGHLY marketable skills, and have never felt better about myself.
I'm 31 and literally wasted my mid twenties till today because of a long coming burnout, covid, personal traumas that happened during those years and now I'm just heart broken, broke financially, no job experience in the slightest while all my old friends excelled and evolved and LIVED, I'm angry at myself, in a victim mentality, not even that, just tired, numb and angry and never do anything. I feel like I'm in limbo. Literally never move from my couch except if it's needed. It's insane, it's like I was in such freeze mode and a mental coma that I burned my parents and sibling out as well so the thought of doing something new terrifies me because of how I abused my time with them as well and I feel like if I now move I'll make a mistake and always catastrophise not to dig deeper and further trauma dump. I literally saw today myself in the mirror and was in shock. My body is like saggy and that of a 50year olds and older not of a 31 year olds. I have joules and all that oxydized stress and problems have come out in my face as well. Vain but still it's the truth Ive been like a shocked deer in headlights and people just call me lazy. No career evolution not even a start nothing, dropped out of college still Living in my parents house, have gained conditions and still now that they're in remission I'm still that small, lost, exhausted, maybe lazy and paralyzed person. So to conclude and not to further trauma dump, this video made me feel better. It gave me hope actually. So keep going you for real have an impact on many of us. 🧿🙏🏻
A common shred of advice I've been given by people I know that are extremely wealthy is that you'll never become a multi-millionaire solely working for someone else (i.e a 9 - 5)
And a dash of "luck." Every wealthy person can point to the exact moment in their life that opened the door for them to be where they are now. Usually, it is simplified down to "right place right time" because nobody recognizes the hard work and long hour grinds that they were making.
Hi, everyone needs a bit of luck, you could say getting bullied by my manager was my piece of luck. Without that I may still be where I was if I had not been strong enough to leave. Luck comes in all sorts of ways, you have to put yourself in a position to take advantage of it when it comes. Good luck.
Luck played a big part in my success too. I was clueless about investing until I met the right professional, and that connection changed everything. A few smart moves, and my finances took off. Right person, right time!
I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Kristin Amy Rose” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.
@VincentChan network. Make an effort to stay connected to former colleagues. If this job market taught us anything, networking is still the best way to find employment. It's tiring for us introverts, but set a schedule to meet up with people.
I'm in my mid 20s and i wasted so much of my potential from my teens to 20s. I don't know where all of my time went, i was just passively living. But now i'm trying to use the next few years to turn my life around. I hope I persevere.
Most important for me is people are trying to soak up every ounce of your mental energy they can every second you're awake. It's sacred. Protect it. Prioritize things that *you* find truly important. Not what others convince you to.
"View your life as the book and you as the author", I needed to hear that. I have been lost and worried about the past but it came back to me that I can still change my future and if I don't, the things I do in the present will become the past and if I waste the present, it will haunt me again. To whoever is feeling lost now, I just want to say that consecutive small wins results in a big win. Do good, start now.
The biggest thing about 20’s is having supportive parents or friends. A lot of people do not have this, and fall into depression, anxiety, and personality disorders. Making it hard to enjoy their 20’s or get things done, stability is the biggest thing in someone’s life. I am 25 right now, and I was at my happiest when I had a good paying job, my own place and a car and money to just spend on things I wanted, not needed. After unfortunate events, I lost everything, and now I am completely lost, and depressed and in therapy to deal with the trauma of losing everything I worked for. Having not support from my parents and having no friends is very lonely and isolating. So really, support is the biggest thing to help someone accomplish more things.
Im feeling the exact same way but I cant afford therapy. Im in my early 20s aand working towards having my own but I dont really have a supportive community
@@JoyTothesummer I have people I get along well with but I wouldn't say we're close close in that way. My friends migrated and most adults already have their ppl.
I'm 55. I have learned so much in the 37 years since I left home. I could tell someone in their 20s all that I learned and most of it would go in one ear and out the other. I'm not faulting them for that. People have to learn things on their own.
I gotta push back on the "if it's something you can figure out, don't complain." I believe venting about something overwhelming can be incredibly valuable IF you actually do something after you get it all out. But a big mistake is venting about something overwhelming, and the second you feel that pressure and weight lifted, you carry on with your day without taking action. It's healthy to allow yourself time to vent, but take action afterwards
I do this all the time. I whine about shit then get that same shit done with ease. Stressing out verbally is quite cathartic for me. Only downside is that the people listening to you may get stressed themselves too. Shoutout to my mom who thought I was actually going to fail all my classes drop out of university (graduated summa cum laude 😅)
Always in a vent spiral but never getting anything done... yeah needed to hear this but at the same time I need my motivation to cooperate and let me do the bare minum
I’d also like to add careful who you vent to! If you vent to a manipulator they’ll use it against you, if you vent to someone emotionally unstable they’ll hold onto that feeling while overthinking it, if you vent to yourself you may spark inspiration or fall into a spiral etc. Best wishes!
In my 20’s I started to saving money to start a business until I finally had just enough to start at 26. I’m 31 and my business is stable and been investing hard in the past two years.
Same here, I started my business at 23 because I couldn't find a good paying job even with a degree. I was forced to start a business lol Unfortunately, my business would be a lot bigger if it wasn't for student loans that took me 6 years to pay off. I'd have more equipment, a bigger office, more employees, etc...
This is one of the few UA-cam videos that I'm bookmarking to watch again in the future. I'm at a very transitional period time of my life right now. Many of these items are important to hear and rehear.
I’m 29 about to be 30 in October and really got off track from 25-27/28 but have been back on track and really excited for my 30’s. All in all doesn’t matter if you’re 20 or 65. It’s never too late to be the best version of yourself 😁
Man, I wasted my teens, 20s and early 30s, until I took ownership and got rid of my old self. If you knew me back them i'm unrecognisable. Stay Uncommon!
I’m 26 now i spent most of my time since high school playing video games. Yea i regret it and i still play them although less and i go to the gym and everything now trying to take back my life. But i met the love of my life on those same video games and now we live together and are the happiest we have been. We push each other to be better in everything. So i see the video games as a gift and a curse. 100% the woman i’m marrying and having my family with. I didnt go to college but i am now studying back end development on my free time from my full time job and plan on trying to pursue that field. Better late then never. Sometimes it just take one thing or moment to make your brain switch on to oh snap i gotta take control of what im doing otherwise i would have just been still coasting by working a job i hated and not being conscious of my health. I am the healthiest and happiest i have ever been and i’m so glad i figured it out now before it was too late. Everyone’s life has a different path just don’t be afraid to take risks and give it your all.
Bro being too realistic is a real thing man I’m not saying I would’ve went far but I stopped playing sports in high school because in my mind I was like what is the point there are only so many athletes that make it. It also didn’t help that I didn’t have any family members to encourage me or change my mindset. Don’t let you get in the way of yourself
Guys please do not go to better help. The majority of them are NOT licensed and were involved in a scandal with everyone’s personal information. I called my “therapist” doctor and they told me that they are not licensed…. Not worth it at all
Yeah, I guessed that would be an issue. I like the message of the video but I'll stay away from any "link below" whenever it's mentioned lol. Thank you for the warning and god bless you!
One of my biggest dreams growing up was to be a Marine. When I turned 18 everyone told me no. Everyone said I couldn’t do it and I got discouraged. Ended up working in a kitchen for 7 years working for a company that constantly fucked over the employees. I regret waiting for this long. Now I’m 25 and I leave for boot camp in 15 days.
I tried going into the army out of high-school and I got discharged because of medical waiver not going through. I'm going to try again after 12 years later.
I’m 19, turning 20 in 3 months, and will graduate with a bachelor’s degree in 7 months. I’m so grateful I found this video and the comments, which made me realize that I’m not the only one struggling to adapt to adult life. It’s tough, but I need to keep fighting because I can’t pause time😢. I don’t know the future, but all the experiences shared in your comments have encouraged me to keep moving forward.
Im 24- was unemployed for 1 year and was really depressed (things are better now), but I feel like between that and the pandemic, I lost 3 years. Great video, btw! My motto is "It's always better to try and fail than not try and wonder what if"
@crazypato3752 it's a strange job... but when the garbage bins or transit shelters break in the city. I tell someone to go fix it, lol. It's part-time and works well with my school.
Speaking for myself here, I used to feel I wasted my 20s because I never went anywhere or did anything other than work and go home to drink, watch sports and play video games. Dated next to no one in my 20s and had no ambitions. I did however really start to discover who I am and not who “the world” wants me to be. That was such a freeing feeling because so many people deal with that unnecessary pressure they put on themselves for strangers approval. I’m 32 now and I’m doing way better than my 20 something self could ever imagined. I get quality dates and I’m truly confident (not arrogant) about my approach to life.
Which country or place are you from? Are women more open minded there? Here it is a bit more difficult Atleast unless I try out in a more liberal environment
I’m 30 and he made a lot of great points. Very wise and helpful. I want to mention something very important and it’s HOW you learn these things.. obviously you already figured out that you can simply ask for advice and watch UA-cam videos, but for you to create the information instead of taking it from someone else, you need to learn to trust your senses. This means, you have eyes so use them, you have a mind so use it. You have the tools. You don’t need advice for every experience, you need those two tools. Therefore learn how to have good judgement so that you can feel as clear as a 30yo giving advice lol.
I'm in my late 20's and I'm glad I found your video! This video describes the similar reflections I had after taking a career break. Thank you so much for inspiring us and reminding us that we are all capable of making a better life for ourselves!
I just turned 25 last month and i really do feel like im stuck in life right now. I got forced into working in construction since i was 18 by my dad and i work under him. it pays REALLY well but its extremely stressful and i do not want to work here for the rest of my life like my dad. But all i do after i get home from work is just chill and play video games because i honestly have nothing else to do. And i've been doing that since 2019. Its 2024 now. I have just 1 irl friend and hes always busy. I have no social life aside from my handful of online friends. But at the same, i feel stuck. I want to move out, but i cant. My parents have me so bubbled up in their place (i dont blame them, its easy to live with them due to financial reasons and i love them to death), but i still want to be independent so i can prepare myself later in life. But idk how. Im saving up for my car rn and i hope this changes things for me
Seeing as how I’m in my early 20’s now I’m actually pretty glad this video came across my feed and I was interested enough to click on it and stick to the end. It’s about time I do something concerning my mental state and way I’m living starting now. I also hope everyone can do the same and prevail against the walls that also hinder their lives.
Thank you! I'm 24 and this came at a very important moment in my life. I definitely need to execute more in life rather than just thinking about it. My motto in life right now is to JUST DO IT! I am the author of my own life. Time to be delulu!! 😊 I appreciate all the advices ❤
the biggest most important decision i made when i graduated/early 20s was to gung-ho pay off my student loans (it was only $26K for 2 yrs of public uni, thanks community college) before i started traveling/enjoying money from my first profesh job after college. for 2 yrs straight, i still lived like a college student, even though i was already making better money. so it kept my lifestyle low & then set me up for a debt-free life by age 24. i think that was the single biggest decision that changed the course of my financial journey.
Every time I hear No. 5, it hits hard. That's why I always go let's say to a new job/opportunity with the mentality of learning, not just for the paycheck.
Thank you very much for your video! It is very inspiring and made me feel more calm. For you at 29 realising all of this means a lot! You should be very proud of yourself :)
im 30 and even though i’m successful with my corporate job in an airline company and have enough savings and investments, i still feel unaccomplished. i realized that money is not everything and i hope it’s not too late to pursue my passion for music.
@@letterstomyyoungerself2024 yeah 30s is a really great time period. Young enough to look 20s, smart enough to be in your 30s, and being in your 20s but with money is basically the 30s. Amazing decade period.
The comment about there not being an ultimate goal, but a journey is something I have heard hundreds of times, but for some reason the way you said it just stuck with me. I appreciate that.
Im 1 minute in and forgive your parents is already such valuable information to me, so relatable as someone who is struggling to in their early 20’s Growing up is realising that they are also growing up, you said it perfectly. Subscribed and excited to see the rest of the video!
I'm 55 and pretty successful in many things (less successful in others) and I've come to realize that I'll be beginning again every day until the day I die. Good for you for beginning again!
Speaking as someone 30 years older than most of you, here are two others things I learned: 1. Any job is better than no job. Unemployment is very corrosive to men. If the only job you can get is washing dishing for $10/hr, grab it! It isn't about the money, it's about getting out of the house, being with people and building the self-esteem that only showing up for a job can provide. I still have a friend from my dishwashing job 37 years ago. You never know where you will meet a lifelong friend. 2. If you are depressed or addicted, your job as a 20-something (after you get home from whatever job you can get that will pay you a regular cheque) is to deal with your depression or addiction. Swallow your damned pride and go to a 12 step meeting or see a psychologist, and then do the work. If you can heal those conditions before you are 30 you are doing great! (Seriously, most people NEVER heal them, so if you can you are a star.) I don't even know you and I'd be proud of you if you do that. Even if you can't heal them till you are 50, it is still a great achievement.
@@bro918he is saying that getting a job is something to do with your time. I feel like it could expand to getting a hobby or interacting with people. And the 2nd point is also good. Making the strides to work on your mental health while young is way better than living in negative thought patterns for the rest of ur life!
I'm 29 as well. I spent all of my 20's forcing my way through school amidst lots of struggles with ADD, anxiety, and depression. First it was taking an extra couple years to get my associates (started at 18), then it was taking an extra year to get my Bachelor's, then my final semester was Spring 2020 and COVID messed with everything. I had a competitive resume with volunteering in multiple research labs, presenting at a conference, co-authoring a study, and being a UGTA, but despite searching all around, I was stuck working part-time front desk for a family friend's small business, then full-time retail. Those COVID years were demoralizing and the search made me feel worthless. I went back to attend a grad school in a completely different field at a tough school, and I've been really struggling to make it (multiple hospitalizations over the course of months of frequent severe panic attacks, a concussion, dental surgery, COVID, a totaled car, risk of homelessness, significant financial aid issues among other issues these past couple years), but I'm almost there if I can keep floundering my way through somehow for just one more year. I just hope graduating this time is different because I'm going to struggle to find any fight left in me for a while and I just want to feel comfortable for a bit.
Really good video, I’m 22 turning 23 next year and currently going for a bachelor’s degree. I always thought I’d just get a career for when I get the degree but I realize now that it’s just procrastination, sort of like leaving it all to my future self and not the current. I’ve always been logical but this video opened my eyes in a sense that you have to be delusional to keep you moving in the way you choose and will start incorporating this from now on. Thanks for the video!
I personally think time that is wasted in your 20's is lessons you will learn. You can't control time so do the very best you can and don't worry things that are out of your control.
I just turned 26 this week. Last year when I turned 25 i feel so lost, yet i could feel that something's changing within me. One year later, I'm a new person in a new chapter. I embraced the feeling of being lost even though it took me lot of confusing feeling. Lots of setbacks and redirection happened to me earlier this year. The biggest heartbreak also happened to me. Since that heartbreak i felt like I'm in rock bottom. Yet slowly I started to lift myself up. Now I 26 i could say i feel so much better. About to persue new things. Learning new things. Loving myself and investing more to myself. Right now I'm so down to improve my life and turn it around. It was a hard year, but it was necessary for me to learn all the tools i needed for this new chapter. Excited for whatever the next 5 years would look like!! I just know deep down that I'm about to make myself so proud.
i'm 29 and jobless right now still trying to start slowly and hope to live a better life. but with this setup i don't see myself having a family of my own
@@VincentChan the value of personal freedom is so important! I'm self-employed now, which has really answered my questions about how I should be prioritizing myself and not the opinions of other people. That was a huge problem I had in my 20s!
Happy belated birthday Vincent! I like the metaphor, "Think of your life as a book, and you're the author". We often tend to blame our circumstances, criticize others in a negative cannotation, or even berate ourselves mentally. Take charge of your life instead of letting it write itself. In April, fear fueled my adrenaline, igniting a wave mix of excitement and impatience. My failures became my guide and a chance to grow. Out of the blue! But I had that exact smiley face birthday balloon on my 24th birthday. w
You're a highly intelligent human being. One day, I paid my great-aunt a visit, and whilst catching up on life and progress, I simply told her that I was "looking for work opportunities." Out of nowhere, she literally asked if I thought about going back to school. I just shrugged my shoulders (when the definitive answer is NO), and then she told me why I "should not waste the opportunity" because I "have to make money," without me even saying another word. She even thinks I'm crazy just because I don't watch the mainstream news. 😆 I'm a 3-month unemployed 20-year old building a startup organisation with my mentor, and I will never tell them that because they'll come up with a million of bullshit excuses as to why it's a bad idea. Lesson: Don't ever take advice from anyone you wouldn't trade places with.
As a 21yr old I'm trying to get my CDL so I can pursue a career in truck driving, did do a lot of fun stuff in my life and this year been the roughest year ever for me. Was thinking about finding love early but it's hard to find a good girl/women to have a relationship with, maybe im not looking in the right places 🤔 they're are a few more things I'd like to experience before I get into my late 20s. I really appreciate this video, it really did help me appreciate the time I'm living in now instead of the time I lived in the past 😃
I didn't really take control of my life until I moved out at 24. I'm 27 now. I'm doing schooling, but my way, so I'm kinda just throwing shit at the wall and exploring options because I wasn't encouraged to do that when living with parents. I moved out with a BA in Psychology and I work with addicts now. Its a chill job but this isn't the career I wanted. I only wish I told my family to fuck off sooner and grab my own life by the balls. So anyone out there just listening to others because of what THEY THINK is good for you, try to not listen to them and do your best to just do what you think is good for you. Go against everything they say. Easier said then done and they might kick you out. Try to not get kicked out but also just know that you should be exploring and finding out what you value and what you want your life to be. For example, If you know you hate where you live, then your goal is to move cities, not working for the city, becauae your parents encourage you to and even nudge you in that direct. They'll say moving cities is dangerous. They won't help you research. YOU HAVE TO GRAB YOUR LIFE IF YOUR PARENT'S DONT LET YOU. Just really believe in yourself. In reality, after highschool, you're like one step or less even from being the same level of authority of your parents. I'd be living better than them if this was the 80s but we got inflation. And if you know you did better in highschool than them and more mature than them in general, definitely take their words with scrutiny.
I’m 29 too, will be 30 in a few months. My 20s were rocky filled with heartbreak, mental health hospitalizations, sexual trauma, friends gone bad…. I felt like i missed out on more parties, having fun, my career but i realized that those rocky times were my soul trying to connect to me and although tragic, made my life more profound in some ways. I experienced lessons lots of people don’t learn until they’re very old sometimes. I went against the grain and am an art teacher now and pursuing art
I’m 20 and turning 21 this year.. I’m scared to waste any of my years and I have so many goals I want to achieve. I’m scared of being lost because I want to succeed in every way possible
This video really resonates with me. I'm 27 and from 19-25 I was in college. Got my Masters and after getting dead end job after dead end job I was lost. Now I found a job that is completely different than what I went to school for but it fits my character and skill set and now I'm happier than ever. If Anyone is reading this my biggest peice of advice is never settle for a toxic work environment. No matter what you do surround yourself with positivity and good people. Being in a healthy work environment with people that want to see you succeed as badly as they themselves want to succeed will allow you to grow as a person and achieve things you never thought possible. It's never too late to find your passion.
20's are such a weird time. I am 27 and feel like im 80! Yeah go out and have fun, but also try to sit alone and find yourself (goals, relationships, etc.)
No8 is so important. Im currently 18 and i always make time to hang out with my mom and i never feel like wasting anytime doing that, my friends would often joke around about me being so close with my family (especially when youre in high school/ freshman year in college and youre supposed to “grow up”) but seriously its such a privilege, not everyone can still have their family by their side or be born into loving families. My mom is my best friend and the most important person in my life and im proud to say that :)
I am 27, Forgetting a step father was super hard, I love getting lost it’s an amazing feeling, Got to build the today for the tomorrow, I can’t wait to be 33. I see myself there already ❤
@@TonyCreates2 27-33 isn't as long as you think. I'm 30 turning 31 in October and I was still 29 last year lol. Numbers are weird and none of us know how long it'll take to get to where we want to be. I have a friend who is 32 right now who has been laid off for about a year and a half now. Its tough and no guarantee for sure.
@@CrewDino your right time is weird, Time will tell :) I am aiming to master HVAC rn, Later is pluming and electrician. I am a lonely dude who is just trying to survive the day. Happy early birthday @CrewDino. My is on Abril
@@CrewDino its over, the weak is purged ruthlessly and the older you get = the weaker you become. Only if you were born to athletic and strong parents do you stand a chance
People don't even realize how much they would achieve if they spend 30 minutes a day learning a skill instead of watching tiktok. For a lot of people it is too much of a sacrifice to watch tiktok for 5,5 hours instead of 6 hours straight.
I'm not scrolling on my phone like the others that are distracted. But I will say Im distracting myself don't know how. but I'm aware I need to take action,I know I need will and determination. Be intuitive. But I'm my own flaws. So been stuck trying to change or focus on something for a change .
Always appreciate your videos, Vincent. Your openness, genuineness, and a bunch of other amazing insights into life makes me reflect on my life and my early 20s. Well done and belated happy birthday 🎉!
I’m 29. And I turn 30 in 6 months. I took a lot of risk. - trade school at 20 completed and found entry level job - hired at a government agency at 25 - bought a new construction house at 25 - finished bachelors degree at 26 - joined the military reserves - engaged at 29 - accepted to grad school a 29. Now I work for a government agency that supports my military reserves. They go hand in hand The grind don’t stop mayne.
Man Vincent… you are 29 and have everything that I ever want. I feel so behind 😞. I envy that you have financial freedom and living your dream job. Maybe one ☝️ day I will get there too
I’m turning 24 in 19 days and always hate getting the feeling of “birthday blues” because I’m blessed to be here another year and been embracing the unknown. But I’m at a turn point of leaving a 7 year career for good and forming a new livelihood since I moved out of my home state over two years ago now. I think inside I’m realizing I’m about to hit my mid-twenties and I’m still getting comfortable with aging
Pleae listen to this guy and don't wait to do something you want. I kept pushing off taking dance lessons and now I'm chronically injured and may never be able to dance again
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I am 46 and I wasted my 20's, 30's and now I am wasting my 40's because I don't have any good opportunities to grab. LOL!
I'm not even 20 yet but right now I am building my future to become an animator with my very own animated series. Please, everyone, wish me luck!
@@AimanAlnnfan good luck. From my past experience the hard thing is to sell product and not to create or acquire it. If I were you I would try to find a buyer for your animated series by showing him one episode first before I would create more of them.
When is "I wasted my 30's" video?
I am turning 20 in 4 days lol
Thanks for the video.
If you learned all that in your twenties you didn't waste them. Your twenties were a roaring success.
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Roaring 20s LOL🤣🤣
I agree. He's saying this because of his struggle. The people in their 20s might not even watch this video and if they do, they probably won't understand cause they haven't been through the struggle. The people his age and above would understand though.
I'm 29 too. Started college a year ago. Things are improving. Better late than never.
And who says it's "late"? Props to you for going. Wishing you the best!
did you do online college?
Kinda was scared since I only wanted to take a year off & now I have to wait for spring next year
@@pixlyJolt thats how it starts
@@pixlyJolt dont take another year off
lost a chunk of my early 20's from depression and started late at 2021 working seriously, now im 29 going to 30 on march soon. really wish i could start earlier but the lessons i received from those lost years did help me to be "me" and i would do it all over again to get to where i am now. happy.
20's are a gong show for most folks.
Be thankful youve been properly enlightened before 40..or more.
👍🏿
it's never too late to start! you got this!! do you have any lessons you can share with the rest of us?
This might be personal, but how did you get out of your depression phase
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Damn I felt this video. My early 20s I didn't know what to do with my life, I was in and out of college for 2 years, dropped out, went to work full time and quit. Back to school dropped out then back to work. Now I found what I wanted to do and I'm 25. I'm picking up everything where I left off and piecing it together. God bless every single one of you guys reading this paragraph.
Same thing at 25 too
bless you aswell
Go bless u man
Oh man i fear im having it the same way now. I am 20 and trying to move in another country, didn't succeed in my previous try, had to come back. Now im studying again and working in my country an think of trying again in 1 year. Is it even worth iti dunno....
this sounds just like me…good luck and God bless ❤️
The points don't apply only to people in their 20s. It's never too late to learn.
The Title is obviously provocative so we click on it. And most of the young generations watch youtube but of course these points can help besides the age
if you are on your deathbed its kinda to late bruh
Yeaaa but a lot of momentum is lost once you’re out of your 20’d most people have already established the kind of life they’re gonna live
while technically true, its not healthy for a 20 year old to have this mindset. your 20s need to be when you lock in, no waiting because you can be left behind quickly, or you can get into a rut that you never get out of your whole life.
😂Thanks for clarifying that @@kryphons9138
wasting your 20's is a pretty common thing lol, its the age where you're still trying to figure everything out, and you're still in limbo in a way, transitioning from being a kid to an adult. I spent most of them going clubbing and playing video games. if you waste your 30s and beyond then that's a problem.
With that said, those that figure it out in their 20s (or even younger) usually end up exceptional early on.
Adding on to the last paragraph- people who peak early also tend to stagnate in their 40’s. They spend their time watching TV or chilling instead of doing something meaningful. Just stuck in the hamster wheel
@@WoodyJ98interesting I'm 24 just got my dream job suddenly as a Park Ranger a dude with a badge no gun. Now Im nervous thinking about how this will be it for the rest of my life now I gotta ride it out. Kinda Scary.
Thanks man really needed this fr I’m bouta be 21 in Nov n fuck my 20s was by far my worst year 🏌🏽♂️tryna bounce back by 21 and 2025 🏃🏻♂️
@@dayblue_ honestly I'm lucky and greatful but when you lock in good stuff happens frfr. try to do your best always. Get better everyday grind and sacrifice a little and by my age 24 you'll be more established and professional more likely to find a good job and a decent chance of getting hired just get focused and set goals.
23 here and i waste a lot of time clubbing and playing video games with friends 😂 i don’t really think that’s a total waste, i think about how nostalgic i am for playing video games as a kid with my friends tbh, might think similarly when im early 30s? same with clubbing lol i definitely do that less than i did a few years ago but i dont think it was a waste to do those things! moderation is key as they all say
Lost my early 20’s due to anxiety, fear of failure and relationship. Now I’m 28 when I see my juniors achieving great things in life I think why I didn’t put in more efforts.
It’s never too late
I have severe anxiety, it’s never too late to take the right steps for your mental health, I woke up one day thinking I didn’t want to do this anymore, and be this person. I quit everything, pop, drinking, smoking, eating past 8, fast food. All the bad habits in my life, I take cbd when it gets really bad but other than that, I do feel a bit of a change it just started. If this doesn’t help, take medication.
I once saw this quote "If 20 years ago was the best time to plant a tree, the second-best time is today
21 years ago
I'm almost 24 and completely lost in life. I'm graduating with a subject that I don't have much passion for. I'm completely confused about my career. I'm not in a good place health-wise or wealth-wise. I've been battling with depression for a few years now. But this comment section has made me feel that I'm not alone and is giving me hope to survive for the future. Thank you strangers. I wish you all good luck...❤
Focus on improving a little each day at something useful, even if it's your health and nothing else at first, slow and constant improvement is the key. And keep believing in yourself. You'll eventually get somewhere good in life if you do that. 👍
@@xaviermalcolm8481 Thank you for your kind words. I'm taking baby steps each day towards growth and life's getting better little by little. Turns out, putting your feelings first, works like magic. Wishing you a happy and healthy life as well. 🌷
I'm in exactly the same place as you right now. All we can do he keep going and make small baby steps. I've been going to the gym for the past 3 months regally and that's made a big difference
Same here, I'm also 24 years. But still I'm a second year in my university. Doing chemistry bcs I thought I love it, but now I feel like it's not my passion. My best friend doing her degree very happily, She has found her passion when I'm see others work happily in their feilds I feel depressed, I'm crying. Even in my 24th I haven't found my passion. But how ever I win, I have the power... Now I'm trying for a another feild , I do self studing while doing my degree... If it also wont setted to me I'll try another. Untill I find my passion I'm trying
@@bp_oilleak2131 you've been consistent for 3 months!! That's great... Keep going... Best of luck 🍀
As a 22 year old, thank you! I needed a dose of realism
im 21 and i can see myself watching this again and again and again
Same bro
Exactly
I’m 29 and turn 30 in November. I feel like I just started really living at 27 due to being in an abusive relationship from 19 to 27. I graduated HS at 17, I got a Bachelor’s degree at 22. I worked as a paraprofessional for special needs kids from 22 to 29. I lost my mom at 25 which flipped my world upside down. I got engaged to my ex at 27 and a few months later I had to walk away from him which was an extremely dark time in my life but I am so glad I did. I finally experienced being single in my 20s at 27 and moved out of my parents home. I was single for a year and a half going on dates and having flings until I finally met my current bf at 28 almost 29. He is my first healthy relationship and I am so lucky to have him. And also at 29, I quit my 2 jobs of working with special needs kids and hopefully by this January, I will be in nursing school at age 30.
everything will be oky there must be way where there is hope
You a Scorpio baby
At least you've had flings. I am 24, coming close to 25 and have never even held a girl's hand let alone done all the other things I should've done by now. All because I've never felt good enough due to low self esteem and lack of proper social skill. I am even considering giving up on dating altogether if by 30 I haven't been with a woman. I'm not about to take my first steps in dating by the time my friends and peers mary and start families of their own.
wishing you the best, you deserve it..hoping you can heal with a good and proper therapist for you and my heart goes out to you in this time :c
Congrats
Im 29 and turn 30 next month.
Graduated HS at 17
Dropped out of community college at 19 and got a medical trade at 20
Worked in most industries until I found my passion in healthcare. Worked in ER in Los angeles at age 21 , moved around, got engaged then broke it off at 22, had chronic health issues that resulted in brain surgeries, but i kept pushing!
Published a book at 23
Graduated with a bachelors in psychology at 25
Opened a ROTH IRA at 25
Been working remotely since age 26
Got my first townhome at 28.
I made a lot of mistakes along the way and dont compare your life to others.
You should be proud asf damn
Sometimes, it takes mistakes in life for us to learn, grow, and improve from it. Congratulations on your accomplishments!
@@anthonynoneyabusiness420 lol I am 😂 thank you
How did you afford school?
@@danielvargas7497 financial aid
I’m 29 now. I had a lot of amazing things and terrible things happen in my 20’s. I wasted a lot of time partying, taking days off, screwing around. I also created a lot of fantastic memories, made friends, and learned so much I could make a series of 20 novels trying to cover it all.
Whatever you’re doing with your time is not a “waste”. Maybe a financial advisor or your football coach will say you wasted it. I say you experienced it. As long as you use that experience to enjoy every day as it comes by, to apply yourself fully at everything you do, to make your family, friends and neighbours lives better, and continue on that path for the next 50 years… then I think you’ve done perfectly.
When i was 24, i had done nothing with my life. i spent my early 20s messing around with women, doing drugs, and working dead end jobs that i hated. When i was a few months off 25 i decided to make a change, i enrolled in college for an accounting degree and got grinding. Today, im 27, i am ALMOST done my degree (all the tax classes are behind me, hallelujah) and have a bright future ahead of me! It was a ton of work though, i got sober, focused on myself, sometimes had to work 2 jobs and a side hustle while taking 5 classes but i never stopped moving. Now i have HIGHLY marketable skills, and have never felt better about myself.
I'm 31 and literally wasted my mid twenties till today because of a long coming burnout, covid, personal traumas that happened during those years and now I'm just heart broken, broke financially, no job experience in the slightest while all my old friends excelled and evolved and LIVED, I'm angry at myself, in a victim mentality, not even that, just tired, numb and angry and never do anything. I feel like I'm in limbo. Literally never move from my couch except if it's needed. It's insane, it's like I was in such freeze mode and a mental coma that I burned my parents and sibling out as well so the thought of doing something new terrifies me because of how I abused my time with them as well and I feel like if I now move I'll make a mistake and always catastrophise not to dig deeper and further trauma dump. I literally saw today myself in the mirror and was in shock. My body is like saggy and that of a 50year olds and older not of a 31 year olds. I have joules and all that oxydized stress and problems have come out in my face as well. Vain but still it's the truth Ive been like a shocked deer in headlights and people just call me lazy. No career evolution not even a start nothing, dropped out of college still Living in my parents house, have gained conditions and still now that they're in remission I'm still that small, lost, exhausted, maybe lazy and paralyzed person. So to conclude and not to further trauma dump, this video made me feel better. It gave me hope actually. So keep going you for real have an impact on many of us. 🧿🙏🏻
A common shred of advice I've been given by people I know that are extremely wealthy is that you'll never become a multi-millionaire solely working for someone else (i.e a 9 - 5)
And a dash of "luck." Every wealthy person can point to the exact moment in their life that opened the door for them to be where they are now. Usually, it is simplified down to "right place right time" because nobody recognizes the hard work and long hour grinds that they were making.
Hi, everyone needs a bit of luck, you could say getting bullied by my manager was my piece of luck. Without that I may still be where I was if I had not been strong enough to leave. Luck comes in all sorts of ways, you have to put yourself in a position to take advantage of it when it comes. Good luck.
Luck played a big part in my success too. I was clueless about investing until I met the right professional, and that connection changed everything. A few smart moves, and my finances took off. Right person, right time!
Glad to have stumbled on this comment,, Please who is the consultant that assist you and if you don't mind, how do I get in touch with them??
I've experimented with a few over the past years, but I've stuck with ‘’Kristin Amy Rose” for about five years now, and her performance has been consistently impressive. She’s quite known in her field, look her up.
My imposter syndrome kept me trapped in depression for too long in my earlier 20s, it was so relieving when I started to focus on my own growth
I was wayward in my 20s. I wasted so much potential. I'm so grateful for this video. I'll pass this on to my children.
thank you! do you have any lessons you can share with the rest of us?
@VincentChan network. Make an effort to stay connected to former colleagues. If this job market taught us anything, networking is still the best way to find employment. It's tiring for us introverts, but set a schedule to meet up with people.
@@foodlover8151Agreed with this 1000000 percent.
I'm in my mid 20s and i wasted so much of my potential from my teens to 20s. I don't know where all of my time went, i was just passively living. But now i'm trying to use the next few years to turn my life around. I hope I persevere.
Most important for me is people are trying to soak up every ounce of your mental energy they can every second you're awake. It's sacred. Protect it. Prioritize things that *you* find truly important. Not what others convince you to.
1000%!!! What other lessons can you share with us?
"View your life as the book and you as the author", I needed to hear that. I have been lost and worried about the past but it came back to me that I can still change my future and if I don't, the things I do in the present will become the past and if I waste the present, it will haunt me again. To whoever is feeling lost now, I just want to say that consecutive small wins results in a big win. Do good, start now.
The biggest thing about 20’s is having supportive parents or friends. A lot of people do not have this, and fall into depression, anxiety, and personality disorders. Making it hard to enjoy their 20’s or get things done, stability is the biggest thing in someone’s life. I am 25 right now, and I was at my happiest when I had a good paying job, my own place and a car and money to just spend on things I wanted, not needed. After unfortunate events, I lost everything, and now I am completely lost, and depressed and in therapy to deal with the trauma of losing everything I worked for. Having not support from my parents and having no friends is very lonely and isolating. So really, support is the biggest thing to help someone accomplish more things.
Im feeling the exact same way but I cant afford therapy. Im in my early 20s aand working towards having my own but I dont really have a supportive community
oh wow. How did you lose your job if you don't mind sharing?
@@AerielFergusonyou don't have any friends? Or a girlfriend/boyfriend?
@@JoyTothesummer I have people I get along well with but I wouldn't say we're close close in that way. My friends migrated and most adults already have their ppl.
I'm 55. I have learned so much in the 37 years since I left home. I could tell someone in their 20s all that I learned and most of it would go in one ear and out the other. I'm not faulting them for that. People have to learn things on their own.
please, tell me. i want to hear ur advice
@@chosentohardbreaksame
Please tell us. I'd love to learn.
That’s some people. I’d love to hear your experiences and wisdom you’d like to share
I would be glad to know some of your life lessons man
I’m really grateful in my 23 years old learn a lot from people shared what mistake their make in their 20s. Thanks for sharing this video❤
I gotta push back on the "if it's something you can figure out, don't complain." I believe venting about something overwhelming can be incredibly valuable IF you actually do something after you get it all out. But a big mistake is venting about something overwhelming, and the second you feel that pressure and weight lifted, you carry on with your day without taking action. It's healthy to allow yourself time to vent, but take action afterwards
i love your response and i agree 100%
I do this all the time. I whine about shit then get that same shit done with ease. Stressing out verbally is quite cathartic for me. Only downside is that the people listening to you may get stressed themselves too. Shoutout to my mom who thought I was actually going to fail all my classes drop out of university (graduated summa cum laude 😅)
Always in a vent spiral but never getting anything done... yeah needed to hear this but at the same time I need my motivation to cooperate and let me do the bare minum
I’d also like to add careful who you vent to! If you vent to a manipulator they’ll use it against you, if you vent to someone emotionally unstable they’ll hold onto that feeling while overthinking it, if you vent to yourself you may spark inspiration or fall into a spiral etc. Best wishes!
100% agree
In my 20’s I started to saving money to start a business until I finally had just enough to start at 26. I’m 31 and my business is stable and been investing hard in the past two years.
that’s the dream , glad to hear it worked out for you . Did you run into any big barriers starting for the first time ?
Same here, I started my business at 23 because I couldn't find a good paying job even with a degree. I was forced to start a business lol
Unfortunately, my business would be a lot bigger if it wasn't for student loans that took me 6 years to pay off. I'd have more equipment, a bigger office, more employees, etc...
@@ROFLgator1You’re doing great. Keep going.
@@ROFLgator1what business are u running?
@@kitinluba dream 💀😂
This is one of the few UA-cam videos that I'm bookmarking to watch again in the future. I'm at a very transitional period time of my life right now. Many of these items are important to hear and rehear.
I’m 29 about to be 30 in October and really got off track from 25-27/28 but have been back on track and really excited for my 30’s. All in all doesn’t matter if you’re 20 or 65. It’s never too late to be the best version of yourself 😁
how does it feel to be 30 bro?
@ damn good because I’m back on track 🙌🏽🛐✨‼️
Man, I wasted my teens, 20s and early 30s, until I took ownership and got rid of my old self. If you knew me back them i'm unrecognisable. Stay Uncommon!
Im 24 and already knew most of your points still useful to get remembered and some where new, thanks appreciate your work.
I have seen a lot but this one is literally a quality video. 11:27 mins is totally worth it.
Certainly
I never really reply to comments but today I'd cuz I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!!!!!!
I’m 26 now i spent most of my time since high school playing video games. Yea i regret it and i still play them although less and i go to the gym and everything now trying to take back my life. But i met the love of my life on those same video games and now we live together and are the happiest we have been.
We push each other to be better in everything. So i see the video games as a gift and a curse. 100% the woman i’m marrying and having my family with.
I didnt go to college but i am now studying back end development on my free time from my full time job and plan on trying to pursue that field. Better late then never. Sometimes it just take one thing or moment to make your brain switch on to oh snap i gotta take control of what im doing otherwise i would have just been still coasting by working a job i hated and not being conscious of my health.
I am the healthiest and happiest i have ever been and i’m so glad i figured it out now before it was too late.
Everyone’s life has a different path just don’t be afraid to take risks and give it your all.
Bro being too realistic is a real thing man I’m not saying I would’ve went far but I stopped playing sports in high school because in my mind I was like what is the point there are only so many athletes that make it. It also didn’t help that I didn’t have any family members to encourage me or change my mindset. Don’t let you get in the way of yourself
Guys please do not go to better help. The majority of them are NOT licensed and were involved in a scandal with everyone’s personal information. I called my “therapist” doctor and they told me that they are not licensed…. Not worth it at all
Yeah, I guessed that would be an issue. I like the message of the video but I'll stay away from any "link below" whenever it's mentioned lol. Thank you for the warning and god bless you!
One of my biggest dreams growing up was to be a Marine. When I turned 18 everyone told me no. Everyone said I couldn’t do it and I got discouraged. Ended up working in a kitchen for 7 years working for a company that constantly fucked over the employees. I regret waiting for this long. Now I’m 25 and I leave for boot camp in 15 days.
CONGRATS!! Best of luck to you :)
good luck
@@DAYSTAHR thank you!!!
@@DAYSTAHR went on ya channel, your music is fire bro!!!
I tried going into the army out of high-school and I got discharged because of medical waiver not going through. I'm going to try again after 12 years later.
I’m 19, turning 20 in 3 months, and will graduate with a bachelor’s degree in 7 months. I’m so grateful I found this video and the comments, which made me realize that I’m not the only one struggling to adapt to adult life. It’s tough, but I need to keep fighting because I can’t pause time😢. I don’t know the future, but all the experiences shared in your comments have encouraged me to keep moving forward.
Im 24- was unemployed for 1 year and was really depressed (things are better now), but I feel like between that and the pandemic, I lost 3 years. Great video, btw! My motto is "It's always better to try and fail than not try and wonder what if"
Keep going!!! Proud of you!!!!
@@MalesAreDemons Thank you! ❤️
@@dashman2062 No problem keep going I believe in you!!!! You got this ❤️❤️❤️❤️👍
Whats your job now ?
@crazypato3752 it's a strange job... but when the garbage bins or transit shelters break in the city. I tell someone to go fix it, lol. It's part-time and works well with my school.
Speaking for myself here, I used to feel I wasted my 20s because I never went anywhere or did anything other than work and go home to drink, watch sports and play video games.
Dated next to no one in my 20s and had no ambitions.
I did however really start to discover who I am and not who “the world” wants me to be. That was such a freeing feeling because so many people deal with that unnecessary pressure they put on themselves for strangers approval.
I’m 32 now and I’m doing way better than my 20 something self could ever imagined. I get quality dates and I’m truly confident (not arrogant) about my approach to life.
Any relationships yet?
Which country or place are you from?
Are women more open minded there?
Here it is a bit more difficult
Atleast unless I try out in a more liberal environment
1 minute and 30 seconds in and this guy already gave me 4 life changing tips. This is how you start a video. no bullshit. straight to the point
I’m 30 and he made a lot of great points. Very wise and helpful. I want to mention something very important and it’s HOW you learn these things.. obviously you already figured out that you can simply ask for advice and watch UA-cam videos, but for you to create the information instead of taking it from someone else, you need to learn to trust your senses.
This means, you have eyes so use them, you have a mind so use it. You have the tools. You don’t need advice for every experience, you need those two tools. Therefore learn how to have good judgement so that you can feel as clear as a 30yo giving advice lol.
"You have to build your dream or someone else will hire you to build theirs" powerful!💯❤
Nothing wrong with working for someone. Not everyone has the talent nor patience nor the resources to build a dream.
@JoyTothesummer the message is for those who want to. We have to cut everybody some slack. Its not compulsory
I'm in my late 20's and I'm glad I found your video! This video describes the similar reflections I had after taking a career break. Thank you so much for inspiring us and reminding us that we are all capable of making a better life for ourselves!
Bro you really showed me I’m not alone and that more risk must be taking. Thank you fr
I just turned 25 last month and i really do feel like im stuck in life right now. I got forced into working in construction since i was 18 by my dad and i work under him. it pays REALLY well but its extremely stressful and i do not want to work here for the rest of my life like my dad.
But all i do after i get home from work is just chill and play video games because i honestly have nothing else to do. And i've been doing that since 2019. Its 2024 now.
I have just 1 irl friend and hes always busy. I have no social life aside from my handful of online friends.
But at the same, i feel stuck. I want to move out, but i cant. My parents have me so bubbled up in their place (i dont blame them, its easy to live with them due to financial reasons and i love them to death), but i still want to be independent so i can prepare myself later in life.
But idk how. Im saving up for my car rn and i hope this changes things for me
Seeing as how I’m in my early 20’s now I’m actually pretty glad this video came across my feed and I was interested enough to click on it and stick to the end. It’s about time I do something concerning my mental state and way I’m living starting now. I also hope everyone can do the same and prevail against the walls that also hinder their lives.
Thank you! I'm 24 and this came at a very important moment in my life. I definitely need to execute more in life rather than just thinking about it. My motto in life right now is to JUST DO IT! I am the author of my own life. Time to be delulu!! 😊 I appreciate all the advices ❤
You got this!
I turned 29 not long ago, really needed this video, thank you.
the biggest most important decision i made when i graduated/early 20s was to gung-ho pay off my student loans (it was only $26K for 2 yrs of public uni, thanks community college) before i started traveling/enjoying money from my first profesh job after college. for 2 yrs straight, i still lived like a college student, even though i was already making better money. so it kept my lifestyle low & then set me up for a debt-free life by age 24. i think that was the single biggest decision that changed the course of my financial journey.
I don't care
@@looksmatteronlyhater! Go and warm eba
@@looksmatteronlyI got my dream job at 24
@@theboycheef841 being an employee is not a dream for anybody kid
@@looksmatteronlyyou could’ve just kept scrolling then, instead of showing everyone how jealous you are 😂
“Enjoy being lost in life” wow that has to be my favourite 👏🏾
Every time I hear No. 5, it hits hard. That's why I always go let's say to a new job/opportunity with the mentality of learning, not just for the paycheck.
Thank you very much for your video! It is very inspiring and made me feel more calm. For you at 29 realising all of this means a lot! You should be very proud of yourself :)
I wish I understood this 10 years ago at 18. We are prepared for tests and exams but not for life. Much love from Jamaica!
This makes me happy. I'm 23 and have been doing these things subconsciously. Thank you for this video!
im 30 and even though i’m successful with my corporate job in an airline company and have enough savings and investments, i still feel unaccomplished. i realized that money is not everything and i hope it’s not too late to pursue my passion for music.
It's never too late for anything
You are very young still. Young adulthood lasts up to 40. Even so, most musicians got their success in their 40s. You aren't even close to 40 yet.
I see the 30s as prime time. You have so much more experience and wisdom than in your twenties, which is perfect to put into your music.
@@letterstomyyoungerself2024 yeah 30s is a really great time period. Young enough to look 20s, smart enough to be in your 30s, and being in your 20s but with money is basically the 30s. Amazing decade period.
Just turned 27 last month bro and these are all so freaking true
The comment about there not being an ultimate goal, but a journey is something I have heard hundreds of times, but for some reason the way you said it just stuck with me. I appreciate that.
Im 1 minute in and forgive your parents is already such valuable information to me, so relatable as someone who is struggling to in their early 20’s
Growing up is realising that they are also growing up, you said it perfectly.
Subscribed and excited to see the rest of the video!
I'm 29, I learn a lots of values from this Video.
Thank you so much Mr.Vincent
I wasted my 20s too, and now I begin again at 28!
I'm 55 and pretty successful in many things (less successful in others) and I've come to realize that I'll be beginning again every day until the day I die. Good for you for beginning again!
@@Kootenay613 Thanks a lot!
I'm 22. the timing of this video - just wow! thank you for this! ❤ things that I needed to hear. ✨
Speaking as someone 30 years older than most of you, here are two others things I learned:
1. Any job is better than no job. Unemployment is very corrosive to men. If the only job you can get is washing dishing for $10/hr, grab it! It isn't about the money, it's about getting out of the house, being with people and building the self-esteem that only showing up for a job can provide. I still have a friend from my dishwashing job 37 years ago. You never know where you will meet a lifelong friend.
2. If you are depressed or addicted, your job as a 20-something (after you get home from whatever job you can get that will pay you a regular cheque) is to deal with your depression or addiction. Swallow your damned pride and go to a 12 step meeting or see a psychologist, and then do the work. If you can heal those conditions before you are 30 you are doing great! (Seriously, most people NEVER heal them, so if you can you are a star.) I don't even know you and I'd be proud of you if you do that. Even if you can't heal them till you are 50, it is still a great achievement.
I personally disagree with #1. Also, depression isnt necessarily something you can 'cure'.
@@bro918he is saying that getting a job is something to do with your time. I feel like it could expand to getting a hobby or interacting with people. And the 2nd point is also good. Making the strides to work on your mental health while young is way better than living in negative thought patterns for the rest of ur life!
i’d add on to #1 that unemployment is corrosive to anyone, not just men.
@@bro918 he literally said to go see a psychologist (psychiatrist to be exact)
Thank you brother hope you doing good
I'm 29 as well. I spent all of my 20's forcing my way through school amidst lots of struggles with ADD, anxiety, and depression. First it was taking an extra couple years to get my associates (started at 18), then it was taking an extra year to get my Bachelor's, then my final semester was Spring 2020 and COVID messed with everything. I had a competitive resume with volunteering in multiple research labs, presenting at a conference, co-authoring a study, and being a UGTA, but despite searching all around, I was stuck working part-time front desk for a family friend's small business, then full-time retail. Those COVID years were demoralizing and the search made me feel worthless. I went back to attend a grad school in a completely different field at a tough school, and I've been really struggling to make it (multiple hospitalizations over the course of months of frequent severe panic attacks, a concussion, dental surgery, COVID, a totaled car, risk of homelessness, significant financial aid issues among other issues these past couple years), but I'm almost there if I can keep floundering my way through somehow for just one more year. I just hope graduating this time is different because I'm going to struggle to find any fight left in me for a while and I just want to feel comfortable for a bit.
BetterHelp's intention is to make money. Everyone is in it to make money!!!
If only that intention led them to make a better business smfh they’re scammers
Really good video, I’m 22 turning 23 next year and currently going for a bachelor’s degree. I always thought I’d just get a career for when I get the degree but I realize now that it’s just procrastination, sort of like leaving it all to my future self and not the current. I’ve always been logical but this video opened my eyes in a sense that you have to be delusional to keep you moving in the way you choose and will start incorporating this from now on. Thanks for the video!
Ive never seen a straightforward video like this one and THANK UUUU
As a 19 years old entering my twenties, I'm really grateful for this video. Thank you Vincent!
I personally think time that is wasted in your 20's is lessons you will learn. You can't control time so do the very best you can and don't worry things that are out of your control.
I just turned 26 this week. Last year when I turned 25 i feel so lost, yet i could feel that something's changing within me. One year later, I'm a new person in a new chapter. I embraced the feeling of being lost even though it took me lot of confusing feeling. Lots of setbacks and redirection happened to me earlier this year. The biggest heartbreak also happened to me. Since that heartbreak i felt like I'm in rock bottom. Yet slowly I started to lift myself up. Now I 26 i could say i feel so much better. About to persue new things. Learning new things. Loving myself and investing more to myself. Right now I'm so down to improve my life and turn it around. It was a hard year, but it was necessary for me to learn all the tools i needed for this new chapter. Excited for whatever the next 5 years would look like!! I just know deep down that I'm about to make myself so proud.
i'm 29 and jobless right now still trying to start slowly and hope to live a better life. but with this setup i don't see myself having a family of my own
THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU
32 here going on 33, I feel the same way but have realized its not too late.
Still very young! So much time! :D
@@CrewDino indeed, have a decent amt of stock via my company and recently created a CD. It may be small now but I got time to make mistakes.
Getting late on 33 missed out on a lot of opportunities especially investing
@@FutureDreamZz That is definitely not late. Not even close. You arent even close to mid age yet. So much time to do this.
I just turned 21 this year, and I don't regret watching this video. I will try to do most of these great techniques in this video
This was exactly what I needed to hear, just a month before my birthday!
happy early birthday to you!!! do you have any life lessons or advice that you picked up?
Same🎉im 21 by september 26
@@VincentChan the value of personal freedom is so important! I'm self-employed now, which has really answered my questions about how I should be prioritizing myself and not the opinions of other people. That was a huge problem I had in my 20s!
Happy belated birthday Vincent! I like the metaphor, "Think of your life as a book, and you're the author". We often tend to blame our circumstances, criticize others in a negative cannotation, or even berate ourselves mentally. Take charge of your life instead of letting it write itself. In April, fear fueled my adrenaline, igniting a wave mix of excitement and impatience. My failures became my guide and a chance to grow. Out of the blue! But I had that exact smiley face birthday balloon on my 24th birthday. w
You're a highly intelligent human being. One day, I paid my great-aunt a visit, and whilst catching up on life and progress, I simply told her that I was "looking for work opportunities." Out of nowhere, she literally asked if I thought about going back to school. I just shrugged my shoulders (when the definitive answer is NO), and then she told me why I "should not waste the opportunity" because I "have to make money," without me even saying another word. She even thinks I'm crazy just because I don't watch the mainstream news. 😆
I'm a 3-month unemployed 20-year old building a startup organisation with my mentor, and I will never tell them that because they'll come up with a million of bullshit excuses as to why it's a bad idea.
Lesson: Don't ever take advice from anyone you wouldn't trade places with.
great lesson!
Great Advice. Never tell them your dreams, show them the results. Thats it.
Listen to this man! I turn 29 in two months and this advise would have helped so much years ago!
As a 21yr old I'm trying to get my CDL so I can pursue a career in truck driving, did do a lot of fun stuff in my life and this year been the roughest year ever for me. Was thinking about finding love early but it's hard to find a good girl/women to have a relationship with, maybe im not looking in the right places 🤔 they're are a few more things I'd like to experience before I get into my late 20s. I really appreciate this video, it really did help me appreciate the time I'm living in now instead of the time I lived in the past 😃
A fellow truck driver, I am also 21 started driving trucks in europe this May. Good luck on your CDL
@@marton4247 thanks brother! I needed that 😄
This is the best advice video I’ve seen. I hope everyone in their late teens/early 20s and beyond watches. Thank you for sharing 🤍👏🏼
I didn't really take control of my life until I moved out at 24. I'm 27 now. I'm doing schooling, but my way, so I'm kinda just throwing shit at the wall and exploring options because I wasn't encouraged to do that when living with parents. I moved out with a BA in Psychology and I work with addicts now. Its a chill job but this isn't the career I wanted. I only wish I told my family to fuck off sooner and grab my own life by the balls. So anyone out there just listening to others because of what THEY THINK is good for you, try to not listen to them and do your best to just do what you think is good for you. Go against everything they say. Easier said then done and they might kick you out. Try to not get kicked out but also just know that you should be exploring and finding out what you value and what you want your life to be. For example, If you know you hate where you live, then your goal is to move cities, not working for the city, becauae your parents encourage you to and even nudge you in that direct. They'll say moving cities is dangerous. They won't help you research. YOU HAVE TO GRAB YOUR LIFE IF YOUR PARENT'S DONT LET YOU. Just really believe in yourself. In reality, after highschool, you're like one step or less even from being the same level of authority of your parents. I'd be living better than them if this was the 80s but we got inflation. And if you know you did better in highschool than them and more mature than them in general, definitely take their words with scrutiny.
I agree, I'm 32 and moved out around 24, I would still be a depressed mess if I hadnt moved out.
I’m 29 too, will be 30 in a few months. My 20s were rocky filled with heartbreak, mental health hospitalizations, sexual trauma, friends gone bad…. I felt like i missed out on more parties, having fun, my career but i realized that those rocky times were my soul trying to connect to me and although tragic, made my life more profound in some ways. I experienced lessons lots of people don’t learn until they’re very old sometimes. I went against the grain and am an art teacher now and pursuing art
I’m 20 and turning 21 this year.. I’m scared to waste any of my years and I have so many goals I want to achieve. I’m scared of being lost because I want to succeed in every way possible
Same age i feel the same
This video really resonates with me. I'm 27 and from 19-25 I was in college. Got my Masters and after getting dead end job after dead end job I was lost. Now I found a job that is completely different than what I went to school for but it fits my character and skill set and now I'm happier than ever. If Anyone is reading this my biggest peice of advice is never settle for a toxic work environment. No matter what you do surround yourself with positivity and good people. Being in a healthy work environment with people that want to see you succeed as badly as they themselves want to succeed will allow you to grow as a person and achieve things you never thought possible. It's never too late to find your passion.
20's are such a weird time. I am 27 and feel like im 80! Yeah go out and have fun, but also try to sit alone and find yourself (goals, relationships, etc.)
No8 is so important. Im currently 18 and i always make time to hang out with my mom and i never feel like wasting anytime doing that, my friends would often joke around about me being so close with my family (especially when youre in high school/ freshman year in college and youre supposed to “grow up”) but seriously its such a privilege, not everyone can still have their family by their side or be born into loving families. My mom is my best friend and the most important person in my life and im proud to say that :)
I am 27, Forgetting a step father was super hard, I love getting lost it’s an amazing feeling, Got to build the today for the tomorrow, I can’t wait to be 33. I see myself there already ❤
Why do you want to be 33?
@@STANY0307 climbing up there is going to feel super slow and super fast, a lot can happen and I am curious what’s going to happen.
@@TonyCreates2 27-33 isn't as long as you think. I'm 30 turning 31 in October and I was still 29 last year lol. Numbers are weird and none of us know how long it'll take to get to where we want to be. I have a friend who is 32 right now who has been laid off for about a year and a half now. Its tough and no guarantee for sure.
@@CrewDino your right time is weird, Time will tell :) I am aiming to master HVAC rn, Later is pluming and electrician. I am a lonely dude who is just trying to survive the day. Happy early birthday @CrewDino. My is on Abril
@@CrewDino its over, the weak is purged ruthlessly and the older you get = the weaker you become. Only if you were born to athletic and strong parents do you stand a chance
Thank You for being both reasonable and positive
9:17 lowkey fire advice
Probably the most well organized, tangibly beneficial UA-cam video I have ever watched. Thank you!
People don't even realize how much they would achieve if they spend 30 minutes a day learning a skill instead of watching tiktok. For a lot of people it is too much of a sacrifice to watch tiktok for 5,5 hours instead of 6 hours straight.
Because skills cost money and we dont even have enough money to live
Nope they don't. Research and improvise@@arclet1299
many skills can now be learnt for free from resources such as youtube and e-books!
Because people don't want to learn
I'm not scrolling on my phone like the others that are distracted. But I will say Im distracting myself don't know how. but I'm aware I need to take action,I know I need will and determination. Be intuitive. But I'm my own flaws. So been stuck trying to change or focus on something for a change .
No. 3 is so true. Life is better when i'm loving my mom
Always appreciate your videos, Vincent. Your openness, genuineness, and a bunch of other amazing insights into life makes me reflect on my life and my early 20s. Well done and belated happy birthday 🎉!
Im 29 now but will still listen and will try my best
I’m 29. And I turn 30 in 6 months. I took a lot of risk.
- trade school at 20 completed and found entry level job
- hired at a government agency at 25
- bought a new construction house at 25
- finished bachelors degree at 26
- joined the military reserves
- engaged at 29
- accepted to grad school a 29.
Now I work for a government agency that supports my military reserves. They go hand in hand
The grind don’t stop mayne.
I finished my master's at age 29! Major kudos to you for your relentless ambition.
Good job
your the the real hero thank u for everything you do for our country as well respect the work ethic
I started my bachelor at 26 lol
@@Settsup way to go! Did you complete it?
Live life as if it was your last day on earth! I turn 30 this October and I have zero regrets! 🙌🏻
Man Vincent… you are 29 and have everything that I ever want. I feel so behind 😞. I envy that you have financial freedom and living your dream job. Maybe one ☝️ day I will get there too
I’m turning 24 in 19 days and always hate getting the feeling of “birthday blues” because I’m blessed to be here another year and been embracing the unknown. But I’m at a turn point of leaving a 7 year career for good and forming a new livelihood since I moved out of my home state over two years ago now. I think inside I’m realizing I’m about to hit my mid-twenties and I’m still getting comfortable with aging
Thank you for this videos Vincent. It really helps me out!
Your newsletter is also great. Have a good day bro!
Pleae listen to this guy and don't wait to do something you want. I kept pushing off taking dance lessons and now I'm chronically injured and may never be able to dance again