Chapter breakdowns: 3:31 ADHD presenting in females Vs. males 5:05 Caffeine’s effect of ADHD and spectrum disorders 6:57 Breakdown Misophonia 9:35 Mental Health and Political Pressure 14:21 Advice for overcoming Imposter Syndrome at work 17:04 Breakdown Hoarding 19:34 Difference between Triggered and being challenged or uncomfortable 21:39 Neuroscience behind Borderline Personality Disorder 24:57 Indoor mold poisoning and mycotoxins 27:45 The difference between mood swings and Bipolar Disorder 28:45 Burnout’s effect on the brain 29:59 Advice on getting rid of TVs. 34:43 Raising an authentic child 36:58 Coping with anxiety as a first time mom 39:34 Sleep Deprivation’s impact on parents and Advice 43:48 How to deal with bursting into Tears when angry 46:32 Hitting walls with Therapist 47:52 Are Therapists with Anxiety and Depression effective? 49:14 Are midlife crises real? 51:50 Can you learn while sleeping? 52:55 Sex and Love addiction 57:04 Is it possible to have trauma that you don’t remember? 1:00:37 Book recommendations on the hippie era
I have adhd and misophonia and I'm really excited to watch this. The amount of times people tell me I'm "faking it" or overexaggerating my struggles is frustrating and infuriating at the same time.
I'm really sorry you're going through that. It is not fair of people to say you are faking or exaggerating your experiences just because they don't go through it themselves or because your experience is hard to imagine.
I started getting mesophonia symptoms when I was around 11 or 12. Believe me I can't stand it it's gotten better but I've been gas-lit by my whole family since I was 12. I feel like they felt like it was more important to eat like pigs than to acknowledge that I was tearing the hair out of my head. I struggled with it my life since adolescents.
When it comes to television and parents deciding whether to take it away from their kids, you replied the correct thing. "Find out what television means for them." My parents love me, but they weren't very affectionate (especially my mom) and they were very old school in their ways so we weren't the type of family that talked about our feelings to each other. In those aspects I can definitely say that Television raised me. It gave me the emotional examples of what love is or can be whether romantically, between friends, or within a family. If someone had taken TV away from me in the 90s, they would've taken away a lifeline, a friend, a teacher. We sometimes find in characters, books, music, what we can't seem to find within our own household. So if you're going to take something loved from a child, you better be prepared to supply them with whatever emotional need or stimulus that tv, phone, video game was providing for them that their real life doesn't seem to be providing.
My daughter first showed signs of misophonia during Covid lockdown when she was 6. She hates crunching and nose sniffling. She gets really angry. It was hard to go back to school, especially when colds were common and kids were constantly sniffing their noses. A fidget helped her stay calm until she eventually got used to it. She still gets triggered at times, but all of her teachers since then have been very helpful and supportive.❤
I battled sex addiction it nearly killed me. I'm so glad to hear someone discuss this type of addiction seriously. Thank you so much, I felt seen and not judged.❤
I love the ask Mayim anything episodes. I feel like you talk to us each week but even more so when you do these. As an adult dx ADHD thank you for explaining these. The focus and the lack of being able to filter. We also tend to be more emotional. I chose not to watch the news I was so overwhelmed by so many other things in life etc watching the news seemed to exacerbate it. Thanks for saying it is ok to be sensitive. I have been told I am too much too sensitive too emotional you may be the first person to say it is okay. The anxiety and imposter syndrome especially at work have been a huge struggle. I like when you give your personal experiences. The explanation of what things are and aren’t is so important. It always bothered me when people would flippantly use OCD, ADHD, TRIGGERS etc and make a joke about them. It is validating to hear someone who is properly educated in these things - way more than the things I have learned from experiences and my own research say that we need to be careful with these words. I have apologized to my children often, I’ve asked them how things make them feel and how we can do better together. I’ve learned so much from you.
Wow! I am in tears over this podcast. I have represented memories. I went to a therapist who tried to force it and I ended up having a psychotic episode induced by stress. I ended up unlocking the memories during the episode but it was intertwined with delusional thoughts so I still have no idea. If only I had access to information like this prior. If you have repressed memories please don't force it.
Hi Mayim, This is Julie and I asked the question about the difference between being triggered and feeling confronted. I asked the question as someone who has lived through childhood trauma (bullying in middle school). I also experienced bullying in a work situation and talking it through the situation with my therapist, she taught me that when when the co-worker bullied me, I was triggered because I physically and emotionally felt exactly like I did in middle school and my reactions were exactly mirrored from that time. Here's my concern, during the pandemic and especially during the social uprisings in the US, many people in the dominant culture when asked about topics such as racism, social justice, etc say that they feel triggered when you ask them questions. I tend to think that people have used the word "triggered" when they really feel confronted or uncomfortable. While it is natural to feel challenged or uncomfortable when social justice issues come up, I think we have to be careful about the language we use around those feelings. Using the word "triggered" to deflect a question seems to take away from the experience of people who have experienced real trauma that they are still processing/managing.
Yes! You really explained this well. I agree, it’s so unhelpful when society takes on a word with a powerful meaning-like trigger (I really felt what you were saying about “ trigger” because I have found a different word difficult-when society has picked up the term gaslighting and over-applied it in instances where they have probably been misled, clearly lied to, or strongly disagree with someone’s dominant perspective, albeit a nasty harmful perspective-but that’s not gaslighting!) These clinical terms are developed in the psychological health world through a lot of research, and the therapists who use them have studied and understood what it means, they explain it to us to help us explore what we have been through, and help us get better. But Gradually these powerfully helpful words leak out in to the wide world and people use the power in them to their own ends (it’s not that the people are bad, its just not the correct use), and it leaves those of us who depend on the word being used carefully, because it explains so much and we depend on it for our personal wellness, in a position where the word is downgraded/misunderstood and doesn’t feel as effective anymore. So then we have to work harder to make ourselves understood, and we have to put in some work to reassure ourselves that we know how intense what we are going through is, it’s as big as it always was, even if the word no longer sums it up.
It's rare that people talk about people who have become disabled, who deal with the feeling of worthlessness and depression. Families do not make us feel better, they make us feel like an obligation, the feeling of worthlessness can sometimes be overwhelming. Some of us have work our whole lives, and to succumb to an illness or an amputation, or blindness adjust too much. I pray every night that I don't wake up in the morning
Black mold poisoning is brutal! I was sleeping very close to black mold for several months, without knowing it, and developed what I thought was pneumonia. I kept going to the ER to get X-rays and they kept telling me I didn't have it and would send me home, meanwhile, I was nodding off every few minutes, my chest hurt, coughing, etc. Finally I went to the hospital again, they took another x-ray and confirmed I had pneumonia, therefore, I finally started treatment, but this was after being terribly sick for 3 months! I did 2 rounds of antibiotics and finally got better. Shortly upon recovery, I discovered a large amount of black mold that was only inches away from my head while sleeping (it was on the wall, down the side of the mattress so I didn't see it). My stepfather got sick the same time as me, but unfortunately he not only had pneumonia, but he also developed lung cancer. I went to clean his room out after he went away for treatment, and discovered that he also had mold in his room, in the same spot as where mine was. I do believe that if I hadn't kept going to the hospital and finally developing pneumonia so I could be treated, cleared the mold, I would have eventually died.
As someone with recovered memories that surfaced- ...they appeared at night and were terrifying. Go SLOW. And im privileged to have had a therapist that got this. You have to go slow because you're brain is inbetween trauma reality and now reality. I remember dropping to the floor and touching it to ground me in the now- i was crying and hysterical as i didn't want to believe it was true. I haven't found any book at all on this. The next couple years i felt like i was stitching those memories into reality and integrating. Really horrifying to have to accept a hideous history as part of your life. Then you start to unravel and keep making links to why you do certain things. Then there's the splitting.... incredibly complicated. Go very slow.
I'm going through this right now and have been for the last year and coming to terms with not just resurfaced trauma and repressed memories but realising it caused me to step out of reality for a little bit which has taken a huge toll on me trying to do anything but to work on it rather than pushing it down and trying to choose one over the other. I hope you are doing better cos that's all I want out of this
hi Mayim, i just wanted to let you know that you have become such a comfort figure in my life even if we don’t know each other. you are amazing and you deserve every ounce of happiness in your life. also, your name fits you so well. you are just as beautiful as the sea. -Bailey, random 23 (24 in a few days) year old guy from WA state 💙
OMG! I'm 60, and today I learned that I had or have some kind of misophonia! When I was in school, (at a non English speaking country) we had English lab for listening and pronunciation. some times the tapes had a weird sound that made me feel like vomiting! I suffered trying to hold it. I was ashamed of saying that a sound made me nauseous, because that was just crazy, and the nuns would probably make me suffer even more! Thank you Mayim!
Same age as you and I never knew there was a word for my issue. I just thought it was a side effect to menopause, lol. I've lived in the same apartment for 40 years, next to two schools, a park and the over head train, and in the last ten years certain noises have started to drive me crazy! I never should have told some of my co-workers that the jingle from the ice cream truck sends me into a meltdown. When the pandemic happened, they closed the park and I was so happy. Now the park has been shut down because of renovations for over a year, and no ice cream truck! Repetitive noises, car engines, having to listen to people play music on their cell phones while trapped on a train or bus also make me anxious. I always carry earplugs with me.
@j.b. @surrealadela DITTO! I didn't know misophonia was a thing! I thought there must be something that happened to me in my childhood that "triggers" (i know... i used the "t" word) the reaction. I always excuse myself from the room when the noise is too much. I used to work in a small space with someone who chewed gum "like a cow" and I seriously thought I was going to go in sane. funny how freedom comes when you understand you're not alone ... love this!
You're so intelligent, interesting, and super smart. I love listening to you talk. I struggle with hoarding, BPD traits, severe depression and anxiety, addictive personality, midlife crisis, hormonal issues, neurosis, and love addiction. I feel empty if not "in love". I wish someone would come into my home and throw every useless item out, as I would likely not miss any of it. I want to be a minimalist however, I'm such a maximumist. I've finally stopped collecting, but I'm struggling with throwing away all the crap I've collected. I'm especially bad with hoarding clothes and craft supplies.
Wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your commercials! No, I'm not joking, it's so hard as a consumer to sift through products and companies and corporations to find the ones with real quality and even (God forbid) corporate ethics. Your channel has become, for me, a place where I can let my guard down as a consumer and actually listen to the commercials (aka sponsorships) with interest, not criticalness and skepticism. As a fan of your show, I've now listened to enough episodes to get a sense of your character and it's obvious that integrity and a moral compass are very important to you. So I can just trust that your not going to plug sponsors unless their 17:01 product and their business are ethically defensible and quality, and that's such a good feeling! I just totally enjoyed the Helix mattress spot bc I'm a total "princess & the pea type" and have yet to find a mattress that doesn't give me back pain. And after listening to it, I just realized how grateful I am to have at least one place where I can trust the commercials bc I know they've already been screened by someone with a conscience! 😆 Thanks Mayim & Jonathan! Keep up the great work! 🙏🏼
I have no idea how/why I didn't know about this channel until just now but WOW. This episode alone is a reason to sub. I was fascinated by so much in this episode alone. Thank you for this.
The book Raising your Spirited Child was a life saver for me 25ish years ago with one of my twin boys. Taught me to learn about his positives and perspective vs just what was frustrating me. I learned him which taught me how to support him and it was magic. He’s my favorite.
You did such a great job answering these questions. Your podcast is such a refreshing and educational part of my Tuesday and make me feel better about my week. It is so great listening and watching an awesome and intelligent person like you Mayim! ❤
Mayim, I love your ability to speak about really deep topics in a way that honors and respects all... as someone in a ltr with a sex addict, I hope you do explore this topic further. The community of sex/love/porn addicts and their betrayed is growing, and the harm it causes needs to be cast into the light. I would love to see you interview Dr Rob Weiss, Dr David Fawcett, Michelle Mays, or Kristen Snowden, to name a few ❤
Thank you for talking about misophonia! There are people I leave the room when they enter, not because I don’t like them, but because the sound of them even breathing sends me up a wall no matter what I try.
So glad you brought this up. Diagnosed in the late 70s (female) with what's now called ADHD. Then it was Clinically Hyperactive. Only game in town then was ritalin. Our family declined and reorganized food intake. I went through the testing in my late 30's. I chose medication which is a ritalin derivative. Worked great. Now in my 50's and a continuing education, or life long student of sorts I'm looking to return to that therapy. I still have issues with those chewy red and purple now & laters on my desk here that trigger a pretty safe and simple motor mouth for an hour or more than a run and jump type person these days. I feel myself fortunate to have been seen back then as a female child in the 1970s to have been diagnosed. It certainly helped a life long acknowledgement and management of cause and result.
I am healing from CPTSD, traumatic childhood. I’ve had repressed memories come back after giving birth to my son 9 months ago. I guess my protective instincts kicked in and now I’m ready to heal what happened. EMDR and meditation has really helped me to process it.
When I became an RN I spent many years learning and becoming a real Nurse. If people had criticized every move I had made, many lives would have been lost or negatively changed. How do you rise above the negative? I was my own critic but you have to put up with people who put nothing at risk but who believe they are experts at everything. Just admire you!
Thank you Mayim. The issues you cover and how you articulate them has been incredibly helpful for me. I feel less alone and more empowered. You are a gem and so brilliant. ❤
Yes! I really appreciated that too! I've got some stories - in the 90's, childhood abuses came to the surface when I had a mental break (I call it) & an out of body experience. It's really just delayed PTSD.
Omg. I can't stand aggressive chewing and scraping teeth against utensils. I can't understand why people who are repetitively making constant noise I find so disrespectful lol... I have to leave or I feel like screaming SHUT UP! 😱 it is so hard at the movies with people and there popcorn and candy wrappers. Can't focus on movie. I want to place duckt tape on there mouth. Makes life hard to be patient. Or people that never shut up. It's hard because it limits being around people when you really would like to be around people 😕
Thanks so much for this episode. Originally, I found you at a time of difficulty in middle school with your show Blossom as I was able to identify with the character at a time of personal despair. Now, many years later, as a mom and someone going through another round of similar struggles, I've somehow run into your work again and it has helped me in a similar way - helping me feel like I'm not that alone in a world that tries very hard to forget some of us.
Some great advice right away. Most people get to comfortable with there therapist and than they don’t share what they truly need to get figured out they hide things cause they don’t wanna get embarrassed or whatever other reason may come up.
I couldn't get to the root of my issues, I wasn't ready to make the changes so I wouldn't bring it up to my therapist! We worked on a lot of things but I never felt comfortable enough to get into the weeds. Getting diagnosed ADHD was an amazing stepping stone to start working on those things myself. :)
Diagnosed BPD here, it took my psychiatrist 2 years to diagnose, and when he did and when i started kearning about it is when my life fonally started to shift for good, its weird because i had to learn to not trust blindly on my feelings, and have to step out of my self to analyze if what im feeling is rational or not, and Mayim explained it excellent
So true. What I share with my current therapist I didn't feel comfortable sharing with my past therapist. It's all about comfort level. I didn't realize that till now. Thanks Mayim🙏
I understand from a girl who was explaining that. Misophomia as she understood it is that the hearing part of our brain has to pass through the pain part of the brain and so it makes sense that oral noise would trigger pain for some people because the synapses travel down the same pathways.
I have ADHD and the medication I'm on (ritalin) doesn't help me prioritize the right task, but it does give me motivation to get things done. I ended up putting away laundry that I've procrastinated for months, wash the dishes that has been in the sink for a number of days, clean/organize my desk. Feeling proud of myself for accomplishing so much in a day, only to realize I was supposed to pay my credit card bill that's due that day, completely forgot, and now I'm slap with $200 late fee for my cards. The ADHD tax is real 😢
I have drank coffee since I was 12 years old. It's calming for me & has no difference on when I drink it to keep me awake, not even near bed time. We had a friend who's Ex would send their son to his dad without his medication on purpose, I gave him a cup of my strong coffee & the difference was amazing. I chanced upon that because it always helped me & ever after when he came to visit, we'd have coffee & catch up. There was only TV back then so once he'd calmed down, he could calmly watch TV while the adults visited. I think my ADHD is much worse as an adult, we avoid the outside world as much as possible & have a drama free home which really helps our anxiety issues. Finding the right medication & combos of what keeps my mind busy has helped more than anything in the past when I tried to do it all & had royal burnout. I really enjoy your pod casts & always walk away with a tool or two in my arsenal, sometimes it's just because I actually shared a thought, like saying something out loud really does take the power away from those thoughts we can't really let go of. People think just because you are really well read, educated, & seem "normal" that you don't have mental issues. My physical handicap is much more "showy" as time goes on but I'm glad my mental issues are not! I hoard art & craft supplies! But that all lends back to my ADHD & a story for another day. lol
I have misophonia. Certain sounds inspire rage, agitation, an inability to focus, etc. Examples: pen clicking, jingling change, teeth sucking, pen tapping, any kind of tapping, hearing bass through the wall, people walking on the calling if I'm on the ground floor of an apartment, door slamming, barely being able to hear music (just loud enough to not be able to make out the words, fidgeting, leg shaking, snoring, loud chewing, popping bubble gum, etc.
This was really helpful and affirming! I am SOOOO grateful for you! Between you, Michael Singers & 10% Happier, I have finally become a podcast listener! I've tried numerous ones & didn't understand; why all the hoopla? Now, I'm hooked & honestly, I feel gotten, understood & supported. Sorely needed during this period of building a new life (2nd time. This time I'm 70!)! My mind has ISSUES! I HAVE ADHD & sensory hypersensitivity (I forget the name) & past traumas (PTSD for which I've had MUCHO therapy in decades past & a great spiritual practice & spiritual community. Although, I currently am experiencinga a dearth of them all, after ANOTHER major life change. The advantage to finding you-all this late is, there are many hundreds of past episodes to sift through any day or time I choose! I LOVE your perfect blend of pragmatism, humor, logic, vast knowledge, & easy-going nature. You set a fine example of coming to terms with & not just accepting, but LOVING my authentic self. Fortunately, I have (or more accurately, HAD) a 130 IQ, so I am always deeply curious & love learning & exploring new things. My weirdness has been my super power. It's also my Achilles Heel.
I love The Web That Has No Weaver. I wrote a report on it for a complimentary medicine class. Also in the 90's I drove cross country and visited several intentional communities, including The Farm in TN. I met Ina May Gaskin there.She still had one of my roommate's birthing tub in her attic. There was also an acupunturist on the farm. I went back to finish my degree to become an acupuncturist and then changed direction towards nutritional medicine and coaching. I've learned so much about herbs and suppliments and trained in Massage therapy, polarity therapy, aromatherapy, reflexology and Reiki. I've also taken doula training with toLabor, but can't handle the sleep/no sleep life of a doula IRL. Early in my twenties when I was driving cross country in the late 90's I had a Dark Purple VW Camper van, before the current Van Life times! We could have so many great conversations.
@@MayimBialik Right?! I got all these chills from the web of synchronicity and life experiences that I've had that resonated with so much of this podcast, repeatedly! 🌸
I think I liked this more than all the other episodes I’ve watched! Very useful suggestions and informative answers to all the questions.Thanks for doing this.
I absolutely have major misophonia and have had my whole life. I remember being in hotel rooms with my dad and brother and their snoring drove me absolutely nuts. I would go in the bathroom and run the water or sit in the tub holding my ears as a kid. It was intolerable and I would be so angry and couldn’t sleep at all. I also have worked with many coworkers over the years that would eat so annoyingly and loudly when it was so quiet that you could hear a pin drop. Crunching on an apple or celery or the most annoying crunch food you could think of. And it didn’t seem to annoy anyone at all, but I would be sitting there FUMING and would eventually have to get up and leave. Chewing loudly and snoring are my biggest annoyances, but I have others. For me, it’s either very distracting and I can’t concentrate when I hear a certain noise or sound, or causes me intense anger. I never knew there was a name for this until a few years ago. I thought I was the only person that was this weird and my family made me feel like I was a freak. Glad to know I am not the only one.
I never watch or read the news. I'd honestly rather avoid depressing subjects. Keep your good job! You're my favorite actress ever! I hope you had a nice Easter! I also hope you someday invite Jim Parsons to your podcast! I also remember Amy yelling about the impostor syndrome in Big Bang Theory. You really did a great job!
The AMA question I sent: “Can you speak a bit specifically about Mental Health & Menopause (I say here pre-, peri- and post-)?” got unanswered. I think it’s a hard period for a lot of women that greatly affects not only their bodies but their mental health’s balance, sometimes triggering new symptoms/syndroms.. Maybe next time..🥺 Please!
Thank you greatly for your podcast. Whenever I get the notification that a new episode is available I'm immediately curious to see what you will be discussing this time. Watching you, and Jonathan, talk with other experts, celebrities, friends, and generally interesting people is always intriguing. The amount of informative and thought-provoking discussions are a highlight of my week. In this episode it was particularly uplifting to hear you talk about a disorder that doesn't often get a lot of discussion, even though it affects about one in five people. As someone who struggles with misophonia, among other things, it was great to hear you give a rather succinct description of what it is. Just a tidbit related to that, when you mentioned potentially using ASMR to help in dealing with misophonia, it made me giggle. ASMR can actually be a trigger with misophonia, as it is with me. Thought you might find that interesting.
Wonderfully refreshing ! I am now a big fan. thank you. Insightful as well as wise...even tho I'm71 with 40 years of therapy under my belt...still going!
Two things I would like to express. First of, thank you so much Mayim, love your podcast and the way you really to break down complex things in a simpler way but not without completely losing complexity. And i love the balance between psychology and social context, with sprinkled in neuroscience, so interesting! Thank you❤ Now, in a little more critical voice. I appreciate that the financial implications of producing a podcast like this needs sponsorship. I've been noticing that you advertise a lot for suppliments. There are sources out there that say that a lot of peoples take too many additional supplements to the extent that they have negative side effects or no effect at all and just making people pay for something they don't need. I love how you have your own stands on things in these podcasts. I just don't understand how this fits into the whole idea. I want to keep it constructive, so idk, maybe you can explain in a disclaimer that people 'over-suppliment' and often times don't need al of this or better check with their doctor ehat they actually need. Thank you for reading❤
Mayim thank you so much for all of the time, effort and energy that you put into your channel. I’m a fairly new listener - I really just want to voice how much I’m enjoying and finding comfort here.
On taking a news break: when the Sandyhook Masacre occurred, for 10 days I barely turned on the computer for anything more than checking emails,,, I stopped listening to talk radio and I didn’t turn on the TV because I knew that the media would have a feeding frenzy over it. All sides of politics would be consumed by it. I went to my local Menards and bought a small supply of hobby wood from the crafts section and I built rough scale models of my 16’ two axle trailer and 10’ single axle trailer. I remember that time walking up to a Walmart and a young man dressed up in a suit walking out with two little girls all dressed up, holding the hand of each one. Right there I almost broke down crying.
@Mayim I love your brain!! Lol It is amazing each time I hear you speak!! Your intelligence is so beautiful and I LOVE that you guys have this podcast!
‘How to raise an authentic child’ The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle. I Highly recommend this book, Carol speaks of the different energy we come into this world with, how we can emotionally wound our child by parenting them with our own desires of how they should be, rather than how they actually are. 💖 It’s a book that can help understand our own childhood wounds. Good Inside by Becky Kennedy, who has also been on this podcast, speaks to a more authentic parenting approach, that looks at how we perceive our children actually stems from the wounds and limiting beliefs we bring from our own childhood that shape how we parent our own children.
I don’t think I have misophonia it’s probably just a mix of the audhd, overstimulation and noise sensitivity but I can not handle hearing people eat … crunchy and hard foods. Like chips or crackers. I will leave the room or put on headphones or try and block my ears. I just can’t it makes me so uncomfortable and I involuntarily flinch when I hear it if I’m not actively focusing on masking. Noise sensitivities are no fun.
Ahhhhh one of the first! Love you podcast! Everything! You motivate me to graduate law school as your intelligence gives so much light and motivation in my life! Mom of 2 and work fulltime college full time! Your podcasts get me through ❤❤❤ Happy Tuesday
Mayim, I really enjoyed this episode. You should do this at least quarterly or monthly. This episode seemed to have fewer commercials. This was awesome because when you stop in the middle of an episode, my mind wanders, and your episode becomes white noise. I truly hope that made sense.
Could you do a segment on Vestibular Disorders? PPPD, MDDS, Vestibular Migraines..... chronic dizziness, thought to be caused by stress and anxiety, trauma!! Very hard to diagnose and treat!
I have a great ENT and we discussed Magnesium, CoQ10 and Vit B2. It has been a game changer. At night I do Omega oil, Vitd3 5k and also magnesium 200 mg. Works so great for me. Had 16 weeks of vestibular migraines. My neurologist also mentioned b1
Nice that you are opening up to us out there and letting us know that it is ok to find another therapist and that make us feel better. Thank you also for making it know that we all are not the only one out there with our problem that we are having. """Thanks May""".
Dissociation / trauma , protecting yourself from traumatic experiences , your brain actually blocks it out, like Mayim said. Sexual abuse is a HUGE one!!
You talk about The Farm. It still is running, the only commune from the 60s still running, albeit with some changes. But Douglas and Deborah are still there, leading the dance circles. Back in the day, the only thing that kept The Farm afloat financially was their midwife services, which were recognized as being excellent as well as gentle.
Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom. I didn't submit a question but the all questions were interesting. Followed up by informative answers and I feel like I learned a little bit of information that can help me.
I just stumbled across your channel through UA-cam shorts and I am so happy I did!! I also love that your intro sounds like the Big Bang Theory theme song 💗💗💗
I struggle with misophonia, I now mostly just remove myself from the space where the sound is bothering me, most commonly it is during meal times, it isn't fair to others for me to get mad at something they don't mean to do. I also struggle with my ADHD, imposter syndrome and CPTD, so..thats been fun.
Brilliant podcast, it would be great to see the neurological explanation behind cptsd and symptoms as someone who has it myself, but is not greatly informed on it
About anxiety over news and state of the world / politics. I feel anxious about the shootings, and I live far away, in Finland. Im anxious about trans people losing rights and women losing rights. Especially for BiPOC people. And plenty of issues right here in Finland. I have found some options. 1): You are not required to watch the news. .It is normal to feel anxious over it, and you know best, what your limit is. Try not to feel so guilty all the time. 2). It helps to take out all the other negative things we get through entertainment, social situations etc. Trying to reduce all gossip, avoiding gossipy shows, staying clear of true crime etc have really helped me. No need to lay down in negativity all the time, we have enough in our daily lives. Not listing those to judge people. But what we see as harmless fun might turn out to cause layers and layers of stress.
I would not get rid of all televisions. My parents did this and it was extremely socially ostrasizing not knowing tv shows, references to them, tv shows are where a lot of our slang teems and jokes come from. A young person cannot keep up with their peers socially without this. My example was in late 70's and early 80's around "Happy Days" time. It would be much worse now.
Loved this episode and hope you do another. I have a question for you for the next: WHY did you decide to do your doctoral thesis on Prader Willi? What was the catalyst for your work and did you find anything in your research that has been implemented in the treatment of this disorder??
How I love and appreciate ASK MAYIM ANYTHING episodes. Diagnosed by docs after tests that my hearing thereshold is wider than “normal” (“gifted” with “Sheldon’s Vulcan” hearing, I hear a 20% more than regular people) and using loop earplugs from years, I’ve learnt in today’s episode that probably I suffer from misophonia when even with earplugs on, some noises make me close to puke, sensory overloaded and so emotionally distressed that I desperately try to seek silence. Bit relieved now, if I could I’d hug you!🫂
When I was two years old I was attacked by a farm dog while my family was visiting my aunt/uncle's dairy farm. Although I have no memory of the incident itself, I do of subsequent occurrences like holding a wet cloth to my face, afterward, getting rabies shots in my stomach, and my uncle carrying me through the drugstore to buy me a treat. I also developed an overwhelming fear of dogs, despite my lack of memory of the incident.
Chapter breakdowns:
3:31 ADHD presenting in females Vs. males
5:05 Caffeine’s effect of ADHD and spectrum disorders
6:57 Breakdown Misophonia
9:35 Mental Health and Political Pressure
14:21 Advice for overcoming Imposter Syndrome at work
17:04 Breakdown Hoarding
19:34 Difference between Triggered and being challenged or uncomfortable
21:39 Neuroscience behind Borderline Personality Disorder
24:57 Indoor mold poisoning and mycotoxins
27:45 The difference between mood swings and Bipolar Disorder
28:45 Burnout’s effect on the brain
29:59 Advice on getting rid of TVs.
34:43 Raising an authentic child
36:58 Coping with anxiety as a first time mom
39:34 Sleep Deprivation’s impact on parents and Advice
43:48 How to deal with bursting into Tears when angry
46:32 Hitting walls with Therapist
47:52 Are Therapists with Anxiety and Depression effective?
49:14 Are midlife crises real?
51:50 Can you learn while sleeping?
52:55 Sex and Love addiction
57:04 Is it possible to have trauma that you don’t remember?
1:00:37 Book recommendations on the hippie era
You’re an angel! Thank you ☺️
I have adhd and misophonia and I'm really excited to watch this. The amount of times people tell me I'm "faking it" or overexaggerating my struggles is frustrating and infuriating at the same time.
I'm really sorry you're going through that. It is not fair of people to say you are faking or exaggerating your experiences just because they don't go through it themselves or because your experience is hard to imagine.
I started getting mesophonia symptoms when I was around 11 or 12. Believe me I can't stand it it's gotten better but I've been gas-lit by my whole family since I was 12. I feel like they felt like it was more important to eat like pigs than to acknowledge that I was tearing the hair out of my head. I struggled with it my life since adolescents.
Huh, so thats how a mom should respond to her kids. I need intense therapy 😭😂
Those people are just too lazy to do research and are ignorant
Creator bless this person. My next adventure is the dream analysis while serving my 12 step community to get out of self.
When it comes to television and parents deciding whether to take it away from their kids, you replied the correct thing. "Find out what television means for them." My parents love me, but they weren't very affectionate (especially my mom) and they were very old school in their ways so we weren't the type of family that talked about our feelings to each other. In those aspects I can definitely say that Television raised me. It gave me the emotional examples of what love is or can be whether romantically, between friends, or within a family. If someone had taken TV away from me in the 90s, they would've taken away a lifeline, a friend, a teacher. We sometimes find in characters, books, music, what we can't seem to find within our own household. So if you're going to take something loved from a child, you better be prepared to supply them with whatever emotional need or stimulus that tv, phone, video game was providing for them that their real life doesn't seem to be providing.
My daughter first showed signs of misophonia during Covid lockdown when she was 6. She hates crunching and nose sniffling. She gets really angry. It was hard to go back to school, especially when colds were common and kids were constantly sniffing their noses. A fidget helped her stay calm until she eventually got used to it. She still gets triggered at times, but all of her teachers since then have been very helpful and supportive.❤
I battled sex addiction it nearly killed me. I'm so glad to hear someone discuss this type of addiction seriously. Thank you so much, I felt seen and not judged.❤
How did you get through it? I'm battling this myself rn.
I love the ask Mayim anything episodes. I feel like you talk to us each week but even more so when you do these. As an adult dx ADHD thank you for explaining these. The focus and the lack of being able to filter. We also tend to be more emotional. I chose not to watch the news I was so overwhelmed by so many other things in life etc watching the news seemed to exacerbate it. Thanks for saying it is ok to be sensitive. I have been told I am too much too sensitive too emotional you may be the first person to say it is okay. The anxiety and imposter syndrome especially at work have been a huge struggle. I like when you give your personal experiences. The explanation of what things are and aren’t is so important. It always bothered me when people would flippantly use OCD, ADHD, TRIGGERS etc and make a joke about them. It is validating to hear someone who is properly educated in these things - way more than the things I have learned from experiences and my own research say that we need to be careful with these words. I have apologized to my children often, I’ve asked them how things make them feel and how we can do better together. I’ve learned so much from you.
Thank you for being so profound, informed and certified - You always make my day -Let's all continue to be educated!👍
Wow! I am in tears over this podcast. I have represented memories. I went to a therapist who tried to force it and I ended up having a psychotic episode induced by stress. I ended up unlocking the memories during the episode but it was intertwined with delusional thoughts so I still have no idea. If only I had access to information like this prior. If you have repressed memories please don't force it.
Hi Mayim, This is Julie and I asked the question about the difference between being triggered and feeling confronted. I asked the question as someone who has lived through childhood trauma (bullying in middle school). I also experienced bullying in a work situation and talking it through the situation with my therapist, she taught me that when when the co-worker bullied me, I was triggered because I physically and emotionally felt exactly like I did in middle school and my reactions were exactly mirrored from that time.
Here's my concern, during the pandemic and especially during the social uprisings in the US, many people in the dominant culture when asked about topics such as racism, social justice, etc say that they feel triggered when you ask them questions. I tend to think that people have used the word "triggered" when they really feel confronted or uncomfortable. While it is natural to feel challenged or uncomfortable when social justice issues come up, I think we have to be careful about the language we use around those feelings. Using the word "triggered" to deflect a question seems to take away from the experience of people who have experienced real trauma that they are still processing/managing.
Yes! You really explained this well. I agree, it’s so unhelpful when society takes on a word with a powerful meaning-like trigger (I really felt what you were saying about “ trigger” because I have found a different word difficult-when society has picked up the term gaslighting and over-applied it in instances where they have probably been misled, clearly lied to, or strongly disagree with someone’s dominant perspective, albeit a nasty harmful perspective-but that’s not gaslighting!) These clinical terms are developed in the psychological health world through a lot of research, and the therapists who use them have studied and understood what it means, they explain it to us to help us explore what we have been through, and help us get better. But Gradually these powerfully helpful words leak out in to the wide world and people use the power in them to their own ends (it’s not that the people are bad, its just not the correct use), and it leaves those of us who depend on the word being used carefully, because it explains so much and we depend on it for our personal wellness, in a position where the word is downgraded/misunderstood and doesn’t feel as effective anymore. So then we have to work harder to make ourselves understood, and we have to put in some work to reassure ourselves that we know how intense what we are going through is, it’s as big as it always was, even if the word no longer sums it up.
I hope you realize just how much good, you guys are doing! Thank you for helping me understand myself
a whole lot better! :)
It's rare that people talk about people who have become disabled, who deal with the feeling of worthlessness and depression. Families do not make us feel better, they make us feel like an obligation, the feeling of worthlessness can sometimes be overwhelming. Some of us have work our whole lives, and to succumb to an illness or an amputation, or blindness adjust too much. I pray every night that I don't wake up in the morning
Black mold poisoning is brutal! I was sleeping very close to black mold for several months, without knowing it, and developed what I thought was pneumonia. I kept going to the ER to get X-rays and they kept telling me I didn't have it and would send me home, meanwhile, I was nodding off every few minutes, my chest hurt, coughing, etc. Finally I went to the hospital again, they took another x-ray and confirmed I had pneumonia, therefore, I finally started treatment, but this was after being terribly sick for 3 months! I did 2 rounds of antibiotics and finally got better. Shortly upon recovery, I discovered a large amount of black mold that was only inches away from my head while sleeping (it was on the wall, down the side of the mattress so I didn't see it). My stepfather got sick the same time as me, but unfortunately he not only had pneumonia, but he also developed lung cancer. I went to clean his room out after he went away for treatment, and discovered that he also had mold in his room, in the same spot as where mine was. I do believe that if I hadn't kept going to the hospital and finally developing pneumonia so I could be treated, cleared the mold, I would have eventually died.
SO scary!!! Very sorry you and your family went through this, Jessi, and glad you got to the bottom of it. 🧠🫶
@@MayimBialik you're an awesome actress
@@matiaspereira9382 just delightful all around
Black mold is very common after hurricanes here. And it requires professional removal. Bleach actually makes it worse.
As someone with recovered memories that surfaced- ...they appeared at night and were terrifying. Go SLOW. And im privileged to have had a therapist that got this. You have to go slow because you're brain is inbetween trauma reality and now reality. I remember dropping to the floor and touching it to ground me in the now- i was crying and hysterical as i didn't want to believe it was true. I haven't found any book at all on this. The next couple years i felt like i was stitching those memories into reality and integrating. Really horrifying to have to accept a hideous history as part of your life. Then you start to unravel and keep making links to why you do certain things. Then there's the splitting.... incredibly complicated. Go very slow.
I'm going through this right now and have been for the last year and coming to terms with not just resurfaced trauma and repressed memories but realising it caused me to step out of reality for a little bit which has taken a huge toll on me trying to do anything but to work on it rather than pushing it down and trying to choose one over the other. I hope you are doing better cos that's all I want out of this
hi Mayim, i just wanted to let you know that you have become such a comfort figure in my life even if we don’t know each other. you are amazing and you deserve every ounce of happiness in your life. also, your name fits you so well. you are just as beautiful as the sea.
-Bailey, random 23 (24 in a few days) year old guy from WA state 💙
OMG! I'm 60, and today I learned that I had or have some kind of misophonia! When I was in school, (at a non English speaking country) we had English lab for listening and pronunciation. some times the tapes had a weird sound that made me feel like vomiting! I suffered trying to hold it. I was ashamed of saying that a sound made me nauseous, because that was just crazy, and the nuns would probably make me suffer even more! Thank you Mayim!
Same age as you and I never knew there was a word for my issue. I just thought it was a side effect to menopause, lol. I've lived in the same apartment for 40 years, next to two schools, a park and the over head train, and in the last ten years certain noises have started to drive me crazy! I never should have told some of my co-workers that the jingle from the ice cream truck sends me into a meltdown. When the pandemic happened, they closed the park and I was so happy. Now the park has been shut down because of renovations for over a year, and no ice cream truck! Repetitive noises, car engines, having to listen to people play music on their cell phones while trapped on a train or bus also make me anxious. I always carry earplugs with me.
BTW, what's with the mean nuns? It's a thing.
@j.b. @surrealadela DITTO! I didn't know misophonia was a thing! I thought there must be something that happened to me in my childhood that "triggers" (i know... i used the "t" word) the reaction. I always excuse myself from the room when the noise is too much. I used to work in a small space with someone who chewed gum "like a cow" and I seriously thought I was going to go in sane. funny how freedom comes when you understand you're not alone ... love this!
You're so intelligent, interesting, and super smart. I love listening to you talk. I struggle with hoarding, BPD traits, severe depression and anxiety, addictive personality, midlife crisis, hormonal issues, neurosis, and love addiction. I feel empty if not "in love".
I wish someone would come into my home and throw every useless item out, as I would likely not miss any of it. I want to be a minimalist however, I'm such a maximumist. I've finally stopped collecting, but I'm struggling with throwing away all the crap I've collected. I'm especially bad with hoarding clothes and craft supplies.
Wanted to let you know how much I appreciate your commercials! No, I'm not joking, it's so hard as a consumer to sift through products and companies and corporations to find the ones with real quality and even (God forbid) corporate ethics. Your channel has become, for me, a place where I can let my guard down as a consumer and actually listen to the commercials (aka sponsorships) with interest, not criticalness and skepticism. As a fan of your show, I've now listened to enough episodes to get a sense of your character and it's obvious that integrity and a moral compass are very important to you. So I can just trust that your not going to plug sponsors unless their 17:01 product and their business are ethically defensible and quality, and that's such a good feeling! I just totally enjoyed the Helix mattress spot bc I'm a total "princess & the pea type" and have yet to find a mattress that doesn't give me back pain. And after listening to it, I just realized how grateful I am to have at least one place where I can trust the commercials bc I know they've already been screened by someone with a conscience! 😆 Thanks Mayim & Jonathan! Keep up the great work! 🙏🏼
I have no idea how/why I didn't know about this channel until just now but WOW. This episode alone is a reason to sub. I was fascinated by so much in this episode alone. Thank you for this.
Yayyyy, so glad you found us!! 🧠🫶
The book Raising your Spirited Child was a life saver for me 25ish years ago with one of my twin boys. Taught me to learn about his positives and perspective vs just what was frustrating me. I learned him which taught me how to support him and it was magic. He’s my favorite.
You did such a great job answering these questions. Your podcast is such a refreshing and educational part of my Tuesday and make me feel better about my week. It is so great listening and watching an awesome and intelligent person like you Mayim! ❤
Mayim, I love your ability to speak about really deep topics in a way that honors and respects all... as someone in a ltr with a sex addict, I hope you do explore this topic further. The community of sex/love/porn addicts and their betrayed is growing, and the harm it causes needs to be cast into the light. I would love to see you interview Dr Rob Weiss, Dr David Fawcett, Michelle Mays, or Kristen Snowden, to name a few ❤
Thank you for talking about misophonia! There are people I leave the room when they enter, not because I don’t like them, but because the sound of them even breathing sends me up a wall no matter what I try.
Yes i hate hearing certain sounds what are your triggers?
So glad you brought this up. Diagnosed in the late 70s (female) with what's now called ADHD. Then it was Clinically Hyperactive. Only game in town then was ritalin. Our family declined and reorganized food intake. I went through the testing in my late 30's. I chose medication which is a ritalin derivative. Worked great. Now in my 50's and a continuing education, or life long student of sorts I'm looking to return to that therapy. I still have issues with those chewy red and purple now & laters on my desk here that trigger a pretty safe and simple motor mouth for an hour or more than a run and jump type person these days. I feel myself fortunate to have been seen back then as a female child in the 1970s to have been diagnosed. It certainly helped a life long acknowledgement and management of cause and result.
This helped me so much today, Mayim. Your podcast is a light in the world. Love to You and Jonathan... Thank you both.
I am healing from CPTSD, traumatic childhood. I’ve had repressed memories come back after giving birth to my son 9 months ago. I guess my protective instincts kicked in and now I’m ready to heal what happened. EMDR and meditation has really helped me to process it.
When I became an RN I spent many years learning and becoming a real Nurse. If people had criticized every move I had made, many lives would have been lost or negatively changed. How do you rise above the negative? I was my own critic but you have to put up with people who put nothing at risk but who believe they are experts at everything. Just admire you!
Thank you Mayim. The issues you cover and how you articulate them has been incredibly helpful for me. I feel less alone and more empowered. You are a gem and so brilliant. ❤
Thank you so much for covering repressed memories. This has been my experience. It took years for things to surface.
Yes! I really appreciated that too! I've got some stories - in the 90's, childhood abuses came to the surface when I had a mental break (I call it) & an out of body experience. It's really just delayed PTSD.
Omg. I can't stand aggressive chewing and scraping teeth against utensils. I can't understand why people who are repetitively making constant noise I find so disrespectful lol... I have to leave or I feel like screaming SHUT UP! 😱 it is so hard at the movies with people and there popcorn and candy wrappers. Can't focus on movie. I want to place duckt tape on there mouth. Makes life hard to be patient. Or people that never shut up. It's hard because it limits being around people when you really would like to be around people 😕
Thanks so much for this episode. Originally, I found you at a time of difficulty in middle school with your show Blossom as I was able to identify with the character at a time of personal despair. Now, many years later, as a mom and someone going through another round of similar struggles, I've somehow run into your work again and it has helped me in a similar way - helping me feel like I'm not that alone in a world that tries very hard to forget some of us.
Some great advice right away. Most people get to comfortable with there therapist and than they don’t share what they truly need to get figured out they hide things cause they don’t wanna get embarrassed or whatever other reason may come up.
I couldn't get to the root of my issues, I wasn't ready to make the changes so I wouldn't bring it up to my therapist! We worked on a lot of things but I never felt comfortable enough to get into the weeds. Getting diagnosed ADHD was an amazing stepping stone to start working on those things myself. :)
Diagnosed BPD here, it took my psychiatrist 2 years to diagnose, and when he did and when i started kearning about it is when my life fonally started to shift for good, its weird because i had to learn to not trust blindly on my feelings, and have to step out of my self to analyze if what im feeling is rational or not, and Mayim explained it excellent
Some times we cry and we don't really know why but we even cry in our sleep this is good
So true. What I share with my current therapist I didn't feel comfortable sharing with my past therapist. It's all about comfort level. I didn't realize that till now. Thanks Mayim🙏
I understand from a girl who was explaining that. Misophomia as she understood it is that the hearing part of our brain has to pass through the pain part of the brain and so it makes sense that oral noise would trigger pain for some people because the synapses travel down the same pathways.
I heard it's more of a brain disorder
I have ADHD and the medication I'm on (ritalin) doesn't help me prioritize the right task, but it does give me motivation to get things done.
I ended up putting away laundry that I've procrastinated for months, wash the dishes that has been in the sink for a number of days, clean/organize my desk. Feeling proud of myself for accomplishing so much in a day, only to realize I was supposed to pay my credit card bill that's due that day, completely forgot, and now I'm slap with $200 late fee for my cards. The ADHD tax is real 😢
I have drank coffee since I was 12 years old. It's calming for me & has no difference on when I drink it to keep me awake, not even near bed time. We had a friend who's Ex would send their son to his dad without his medication on purpose, I gave him a cup of my strong coffee & the difference was amazing. I chanced upon that because it always helped me & ever after when he came to visit, we'd have coffee & catch up. There was only TV back then so once he'd calmed down, he could calmly watch TV while the adults visited. I think my ADHD is much worse as an adult, we avoid the outside world as much as possible & have a drama free home which really helps our anxiety issues. Finding the right medication & combos of what keeps my mind busy has helped more than anything in the past when I tried to do it all & had royal burnout. I really enjoy your pod casts & always walk away with a tool or two in my arsenal, sometimes it's just because I actually shared a thought, like saying something out loud really does take the power away from those thoughts we can't really let go of. People think just because you are really well read, educated, & seem "normal" that you don't have mental issues. My physical handicap is much more "showy" as time goes on but I'm glad my mental issues are not! I hoard art & craft supplies! But that all lends back to my ADHD & a story for another day. lol
I have misophonia. Certain sounds inspire rage, agitation, an inability to focus, etc. Examples: pen clicking, jingling change, teeth sucking, pen tapping, any kind of tapping, hearing bass through the wall, people walking on the calling if I'm on the ground floor of an apartment, door slamming, barely being able to hear music (just loud enough to not be able to make out the words, fidgeting, leg shaking, snoring, loud chewing, popping bubble gum, etc.
Sounds like vaccine injury
Mayim, you're the best! I'm going to be a new mom soon and I just love all of these podcasts. They're so refreshing and helpful. ❤
HUGE CONGRATS, Jessica!!! 🧠🫶
This was really helpful and affirming! I am SOOOO grateful for you! Between you, Michael Singers & 10% Happier, I have finally become a podcast listener! I've tried numerous ones & didn't understand; why all the hoopla? Now, I'm hooked & honestly, I feel gotten, understood & supported. Sorely needed during this period of building a new life (2nd time. This time I'm 70!)! My mind has ISSUES! I HAVE ADHD & sensory hypersensitivity (I forget the name) & past traumas (PTSD for which I've had MUCHO therapy in decades past & a great spiritual practice & spiritual community. Although, I currently am experiencinga a dearth of them all, after ANOTHER major life change.
The advantage to finding you-all this late is, there are many hundreds of past episodes to sift through any day or time I choose!
I LOVE your perfect blend of pragmatism, humor, logic, vast knowledge, & easy-going nature. You set a fine example of coming to terms with & not just accepting, but LOVING my authentic self.
Fortunately, I have (or more accurately, HAD) a 130 IQ, so I am always deeply curious & love learning & exploring new things.
My weirdness has been my super power. It's also my Achilles Heel.
I love The Web That Has No Weaver. I wrote a report on it for a complimentary medicine class. Also in the 90's I drove cross country and visited several intentional communities, including The Farm in TN. I met Ina May Gaskin there.She still had one of my roommate's birthing tub in her attic. There was also an acupunturist on the farm. I went back to finish my degree to become an acupuncturist and then changed direction towards nutritional medicine and coaching. I've learned so much about herbs and suppliments and trained in Massage therapy, polarity therapy, aromatherapy, reflexology and Reiki. I've also taken doula training with toLabor, but can't handle the sleep/no sleep life of a doula IRL. Early in my twenties when I was driving cross country in the late 90's I had a Dark Purple VW Camper van, before the current Van Life times! We could have so many great conversations.
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@@MayimBialik Right?! I got all these chills from the web of synchronicity and life experiences that I've had that resonated with so much of this podcast, repeatedly! 🌸
I love you. Thank you for creating this space for other neurodivergent folks and people like myself that struggle with harshness and mental health.
I think I liked this more than all the other episodes I’ve watched! Very useful suggestions and informative answers to all the questions.Thanks for doing this.
I absolutely have major misophonia and have had my whole life. I remember being in hotel rooms with my dad and brother and their snoring drove me absolutely nuts. I would go in the bathroom and run the water or sit in the tub holding my ears as a kid. It was intolerable and I would be so angry and couldn’t sleep at all. I also have worked with many coworkers over the years that would eat so annoyingly and loudly when it was so quiet that you could hear a pin drop. Crunching on an apple or celery or the most annoying crunch food you could think of. And it didn’t seem to annoy anyone at all, but I would be sitting there FUMING and would eventually have to get up and leave. Chewing loudly and snoring are my biggest annoyances, but I have others. For me, it’s either very distracting and I can’t concentrate when I hear a certain noise or sound, or causes me intense anger. I never knew there was a name for this until a few years ago. I thought I was the only person that was this weird and my family made me feel like I was a freak. Glad to know I am not the only one.
Note that perimenopause can radically shift dopamine and aggravate any existing ADHD. Tried to stay normal but it was so hard for me 20 years ago.
I never watch or read the news. I'd honestly rather avoid depressing subjects. Keep your good job! You're my favorite actress ever! I hope you had a nice Easter! I also hope you someday invite Jim Parsons to your podcast! I also remember Amy yelling about the impostor syndrome in Big Bang Theory. You really did a great job!
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WAHOO!! Extra props to you for linking TMBG and Alan Ginsberg and all the Beats!
The AMA question I sent:
“Can you speak a bit specifically about Mental Health & Menopause (I say here pre-, peri- and post-)?” got unanswered.
I think it’s a hard period for a lot of women that greatly affects not only their bodies but their mental health’s balance, sometimes triggering new symptoms/syndroms..
Maybe next time..🥺
Please!
Thank you so much for answering my question. I continue to battle my hoarding. It has improved, but I still have a way to go.
Thank you greatly for your podcast.
Whenever I get the notification that a new episode is available I'm immediately curious to see what you will be discussing this time. Watching you, and Jonathan, talk with other experts, celebrities, friends, and generally interesting people is always intriguing. The amount of informative and thought-provoking discussions are a highlight of my week.
In this episode it was particularly uplifting to hear you talk about a disorder that doesn't often get a lot of discussion, even though it affects about one in five people. As someone who struggles with misophonia, among other things, it was great to hear you give a rather succinct description of what it is. Just a tidbit related to that, when you mentioned potentially using ASMR to help in dealing with misophonia, it made me giggle. ASMR can actually be a trigger with misophonia, as it is with me. Thought you might find that interesting.
Wonderfully refreshing ! I am now a big fan. thank you. Insightful as well as wise...even tho I'm71 with 40 years of therapy under my belt...still going!
Two things I would like to express.
First of, thank you so much Mayim, love your podcast and the way you really to break down complex things in a simpler way but not without completely losing complexity. And i love the balance between psychology and social context, with sprinkled in neuroscience, so interesting! Thank you❤
Now, in a little more critical voice. I appreciate that the financial implications of producing a podcast like this needs sponsorship. I've been noticing that you advertise a lot for suppliments. There are sources out there that say that a lot of peoples take too many additional supplements to the extent that they have negative side effects or no effect at all and just making people pay for something they don't need. I love how you have your own stands on things in these podcasts. I just don't understand how this fits into the whole idea. I want to keep it constructive, so idk, maybe you can explain in a disclaimer that people 'over-suppliment' and often times don't need al of this or better check with their doctor ehat they actually need. Thank you for reading❤
Hi Mayim. I love your show. I really like the Ask Mayim Anything episodes. You cover a lot of topics quickly, but well and I learn a lot.
Mayim thank you so much for all of the time, effort and energy that you put into your channel. I’m a fairly new listener - I really just want to voice how much I’m enjoying and finding comfort here.
April, one of the first things I learned about my therapist is that she also has a therapist of her own.
Great touch points for hippie era. I was a little kid in Berkeley area watching it go down. So scary and crazy in many ways.
Hi there Mayim, Thank you for doing this session on the different disorders. You had alot of questions that I was concerned about.
I loved this episode! So much to take in. Thank you for explaining things in such an interesting way!
On taking a news break: when the Sandyhook Masacre occurred, for 10 days I barely turned on the computer for anything more than checking emails,,, I stopped listening to talk radio and I didn’t turn on the TV because I knew that the media would have a feeding frenzy over it. All sides of politics would be consumed by it. I went to my local Menards and bought a small supply of hobby wood from the crafts section and I built rough scale models of my 16’ two axle trailer and 10’ single axle trailer. I remember that time walking up to a Walmart and a young man dressed up in a suit walking out with two little girls all dressed up, holding the hand of each one. Right there I almost broke down crying.
Incredible insight and intellect! Mayim hit this out of the park!
@Mayim I love your brain!! Lol It is amazing each time I hear you speak!! Your intelligence is so beautiful and I LOVE that you guys have this podcast!
best day of the week! favorite notification
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‘How to raise an authentic child’
The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle. I Highly recommend this book, Carol speaks of the different energy we come into this world with, how we can emotionally wound our child by parenting them with our own desires of how they should be, rather than how they actually are. 💖
It’s a book that can help understand our own childhood wounds.
Good Inside by Becky Kennedy, who has also been on this podcast, speaks to a more authentic parenting approach, that looks at how we perceive our children actually stems from the wounds and limiting beliefs we bring from our own childhood that shape how we parent our own children.
I don’t think I have misophonia it’s probably just a mix of the audhd, overstimulation and noise sensitivity but I can not handle hearing people eat … crunchy and hard foods. Like chips or crackers. I will leave the room or put on headphones or try and block my ears. I just can’t it makes me so uncomfortable and I involuntarily flinch when I hear it if I’m not actively focusing on masking.
Noise sensitivities are no fun.
Ahhhhh one of the first! Love you podcast! Everything! You motivate me to graduate law school as your intelligence gives so much light and motivation in my life! Mom of 2 and work fulltime college full time! Your podcasts get me through ❤❤❤ Happy Tuesday
Mayim, I really enjoyed this episode. You should do this at least quarterly or monthly. This episode seemed to have fewer commercials. This was awesome because when you stop in the middle of an episode, my mind wanders, and your episode becomes white noise. I truly hope that made sense.
Could you do a segment on Vestibular Disorders? PPPD, MDDS, Vestibular Migraines..... chronic dizziness, thought to be caused by stress and anxiety, trauma!! Very hard to diagnose and treat!
I have a great ENT and we discussed Magnesium, CoQ10 and Vit B2. It has been a game changer. At night I do Omega oil, Vitd3 5k and also magnesium 200 mg. Works so great for me. Had 16 weeks of vestibular migraines. My neurologist also mentioned b1
@@theresastewart1279 thank you for that information!
Nice that you are opening up to us out there and letting us know that it is ok to find another therapist and that make us feel better. Thank you also for making it know that we all are not the only one out there with our problem that we are having. """Thanks May""".
I love this podcast so much! Just found it so going back to the beginning and catching up! :)
Thanks very much for sharing @amberboggs9035, and for being here! 🫶🧠
Dissociation / trauma , protecting yourself from traumatic experiences , your brain actually blocks it out, like Mayim said.
Sexual abuse is a HUGE one!!
I have DID, CPTSD, etc. I just ignore those fools.
You talk about The Farm. It still is running, the only commune from the 60s still running, albeit with some changes. But Douglas and Deborah are still there, leading the dance circles.
Back in the day, the only thing that kept The Farm afloat financially was their midwife services, which were recognized as being excellent as well as gentle.
Best one yet... though I haven't watched them in order 🤷🏼♀️
What a fantastic Q&A 💜
You guys are awesome. Love, love loved ya on TBBT and so glad I stumbled on your podcast. Thanks for doing what you do!
I’m so happy I found you. Thank you.
I just found your UA-cam/podcast and I love it! Thank you for talking about these things and being so vulnerable, I really enjoy listening!
Thank you for sharing your experiences and wisdom. I didn't submit a question but the all questions were interesting. Followed up by informative answers and I feel like I learned a little bit of information that can help me.
You sure do know a lot about a lot of things. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with all of us.
Thanks for the advice/clarification. MVV from Chicago!
I just stumbled across your channel through UA-cam shorts and I am so happy I did!! I also love that your intro sounds like the Big Bang Theory theme song 💗💗💗
I struggle with misophonia, I now mostly just remove myself from the space where the sound is bothering me, most commonly it is during meal times, it isn't fair to others for me to get mad at something they don't mean to do. I also struggle with my ADHD, imposter syndrome and CPTD, so..thats been fun.
Brilliant podcast, it would be great to see the neurological explanation behind cptsd and symptoms as someone who has it myself, but is not greatly informed on it
Oh my goodness! You hit my soul with this!!
About anxiety over news and state of the world / politics. I feel anxious about the shootings, and I live far away, in Finland. Im anxious about trans people losing rights and women losing rights. Especially for BiPOC people. And plenty of issues right here in Finland. I have found some options. 1): You are not required to watch the news. .It is normal to feel anxious over it, and you know best, what your limit is. Try not to feel so guilty all the time. 2). It helps to take out all the other negative things we get through entertainment, social situations etc. Trying to reduce all gossip, avoiding gossipy shows, staying clear of true crime etc have really helped me. No need to lay down in negativity all the time, we have enough in our daily lives. Not listing those to judge people. But what we see as harmless fun might turn out to cause layers and layers of stress.
I would not get rid of all televisions. My parents did this and it was extremely socially ostrasizing not knowing tv shows, references to them, tv shows are where a lot of our slang teems and jokes come from. A young person cannot keep up with their peers socially without this. My example was in late 70's and early 80's around "Happy Days" time. It would be much worse now.
All else aside… I LOVE your Hart of a Champion trophy in the background!! 😂🏆😂
Thank you for talking about all of these topics.
Loved this episode and hope you do another. I have a question for you for the next: WHY did you decide to do your doctoral thesis on Prader Willi? What was the catalyst for your work and did you find anything in your research that has been implemented in the treatment of this disorder??
You are a queen Mayim. You are an inspiration. Keep up the AMAZING WORK. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
Always great advice and fun moments
Excellent, as always I enjoyed this, and learned so much! I can listen to you all day! lol Thank you! 🙂
Hi Mayim 🙃 Haven’t listened through yet but I’m excited! And also, jealous of your boba. 🤟🏼
Thank you girl you gust lightened up my day cheers
Hi, thank you, this episode is full of useful information, thank you so much for sharing all this. ❤
Not many people know OCPD!! Great job Mayim!! I'd love to hear more about that! (I think Hubs is OCPD)
How I love and appreciate ASK MAYIM ANYTHING episodes. Diagnosed by docs after tests that my hearing thereshold is wider than “normal” (“gifted” with “Sheldon’s Vulcan” hearing, I hear a 20% more than regular people) and using loop earplugs from years, I’ve learnt in today’s episode that probably I suffer from misophonia when even with earplugs on, some noises make me close to puke, sensory overloaded and so emotionally distressed that I desperately try to seek silence. Bit relieved now, if I could I’d hug you!🫂
Thank you, Mayim ❤
Love you, Mayim! Keep up the awesome content!
Wow. Priceless advice. Priceless.
When I was two years old I was attacked by a farm dog while my family was visiting my aunt/uncle's dairy farm. Although I have no memory of the incident itself, I do of subsequent occurrences like holding a wet cloth to my face, afterward, getting rabies shots in my stomach, and my uncle carrying me through the drugstore to buy me a treat. I also developed an overwhelming fear of dogs, despite my lack of memory of the incident.
Ahhhhh you answered my question thank you so much... Super helpful 💕