It’s been 2 days for me and my energy feels very low and I also feel a little depressed. However, I understand it’s a process that I’ve got to go through. It’s great seeing everyone else is feeling great and happy. ❤
It's no longer in your head. It's real. It was never just in your head. A narc's goal is to try to make you feel and look crazy to others, especially your own family. Sometimes, they will never understand how you were treated. Be ok with that and find a way that works for you to heal. Manipulation is a true art that they are skilled at. You will be OK. I never knew there was a specific therapy called Narcissist Abuse Recovery. It's real, and it works! Cheers to freedom...
For me, I felt the most free when I felt the trauma bond brake, and that's when I could really leave, but it took agessss for me to finally get to the point.
Ladies, dont do it for the plot. I accepted a situationship and it turned into a year of being manipulated and emotionally abused. Its now over 5 months of no contact to detach, learn from it and move on. Do not accept a first date so easily or freely. Having high standards wouldve prevented this.
This video is so important. It describes exactly how it feels and the different emotions related to the rollercoaster ride that awaits you when you do escape. But, believe me...therapy, support from family and friends is essential. 10 months after cruel discard, I can see clearly now. I look healthy. I am surrounded by wonderful people who have my back. My nervous system is back to normal and the fog in my brain has cleared. I am finally happy! There is light and freedom ahead! ❤
Lee , so appreciative of you , your honest journey and dedication to all who are affected by toxic relationships. I send people your way as I truly feel learning from the source of anything is key to the solution and you have made this possible. Thank you! My request is that your wife speak with you sometime. She is a key part in this process and journey and I would love to hear how she feels now . I have watched you since the beginning… and your explanation of her leaving and calling you a narcissist. I’m the daughter of a diagnosed narcissistic father . You have helped me and my path heal , please have your wife share your journey, this gives those who experience abuse see hope in themselves and what boundaries,self respect and compassion look like ! Many blessings! ❤just love you Lee !
The first time I left the “friendship” I felt nothing but guilt, scared, angry and feeling like I was missing out, so I came back. But the second time I left, I feel powerful, stronger, free, I can breathe, I can feel safe, I feel like the weight is lifted off my shoulders. Now that I’m engaged to the love of my life that I been with for 3 years, I feel like the shackles are broken finally off my ankles. I love it, 4 years of no contact and it felt amazing.
I noticed that right after I left, there were a couple of really hard weeks where I mourned. I didn't regret my decision and I definitely didn't miss my ex, but I cried for the loss of everything that was FAMILIAR (even if it wasn't good), for my broken expectations of what could have been. It's scary to go from being controlled to absolute freedom because "what if they are right about me, what if I will f@ck this up too, what if I AM the problem, how do I make my own decisions?" can get stuck in your head on a loop. It does get better when you heal with intention. The grass really was greener for me!
I'm missing him now... I know he's a liar, a cheater, and he's already moved on and he only wants to hurt me now and drag my name through the mud, but I miss him... I know why I miss him, so I'm being gentle with myself, because I know this feeling will pass soon enough...
Feels like opportunity just knocked :) Real talk it’s the literal version of “WHAT THE HELL” when it’s over. You’re in shock at what you experienced, angry for what you allowed and you probably look how you were treated. There may even be some uncontrollable crying over the soul you dishonored for someone who never loved you. I had already detached before I filed for divorce so I didn’t miss STBX. It was more relief at finally feeling like I could breathe. Each day you get stronger.
I am struggling with this currently. 21 years in a narcissistic trauma bond. Started at 13 and 14 years old so I over looked a lot of the signs later on because I “understood” his upbringing and I stayed patient. I left him again 3 weeks ago for the 10th time and I’m praying it’s the last time. I ran back to him earlier this year after ruminating again and in a matter of 4 months I lost everything I worked for myself during the last separation and he deemed me unworthy, inconsistent, he didn’t wanna help me so he discarded me once again and left me with nothing…. Idk why I keep doing this to myself. Each and everytime I’ve needed him he shows me he hates me. Now I’m in therapy and in need of medication, can barely function and he’s fine lol.
My ex husband of 31 yrs did tell me “ look at you, no one would want you anymore “. I was incredibly ill , 78 lbs, on a feeding tube and everything. I’ve been divorced 6 months now ( my choice). I’m struggling financially on disability but my peace is so worth it. Healing has been non linear. I am grateful I am out of the marriage. His abuse was getting worse.
I left the house and communicated to him that I’m leaving the house, but not the relationship. He punched the wall, and I was still willing to move forward with him. He sent me videos saying how amazing I am, and he loves me very much, but he must let me go since he’s tired of the disrespect. He disrespected me by calling me names and dismissing my feelings, and he thought I was criticizing him when I only wanted honest open conversation. I feel myself holding on, and I know I must let go too, and it doesn’t help he said one day we’ll meet. This is difficult and heartbreaking.
It's definitely a roller-coaster... Its been 2.5 years... He's just had his second Christmas with his new woman (who met our kids without my knowledge weeks after we split) and I'm not even remotely considering dating... I've survived the DA police investigation, I've survived family court (he didn't get what he wanted, despite having very expensive legal team and blocking my legal aid so I had to self represent) and now wading through the divorce 😑 he makes it hard at every turn, but I'd still rather be away from him any day. I miss my kids like mad when they're with him, but they get a healthy happy parent in me the rest of the time. It is like the stages of grief, there's anger, denial, etc. Therapy helps. An "ick list" helps amazingly. Focus on you, your friendships, your hobbies. It's worth it
I do miss him. We traveled n I loved my life. N then I question if I did the right thing. He belittled me during cancer. Belittled my family, my kids, etc
It was a good feeling knowing I didn't have to deal with him anymore and having time to myself until the stalking hoovering started but it's been over a year now and I'm good
After 13 years, I finally left on 1/4. I feel numb, and really guilty. Keep wondering if I chose the worse time to leave. That's what he told me. I feel bad because I get to go to my new apartment, and he has to leave our home and find someone to live with. I waited until he got a job, but he's 2 weeks in and I left without waiting for him to save up. I just cannot get over feeling so bad.
Initially, I felt good. It was awesome. Then it hurt like hell after four months. I'm still struggling, six months later. I hope I get through this soon.
@@teegibson23 I’m familiar with Dr. Ramani but not Terri Cole. Does she solely focus on boundaries? That’s my focus. Do you have any other recommendations?
Hence my screen name 😁 toxic phoenix. Escaped from abusive mum, step dad, dad, nan, first marriage and now second marriage. Does errode your trust in humanity... Not sure how many more times I could rise from the toxic ashes...
Lee, please consider a workshop in AZ! I am telling you, it will be sooo successful. Aim for the East Valley area. Message me if you want more info about the area. Trust me, you would want to come Fall, Winter, Spring, just not Summer! You are awesome Lee, your videos have helped me tremendously. If there is a way I could help you arrange this.. let me know. Bring your family, they will love it!
I normally comment really fast on all your videos but you post the videos now on a different time, where I can only see the videos 14 hours later since I live in Europe. I hope you are able to maybe post videos earlier like you used to so I can comment a lot under the videos and see it directly
Yip if I have a weak moment I'm sad azz but straight away I mentally snap out of it thinking wtf's wrong with you .. he never made you feel good without doubting coz I know he's sick in the head & I DONT WANT ANYONE LIKE THAT .. HE F##### WITH MY HEAD ..
Great analysis, thank you! Could you help me with something unrelated: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (mistake turkey blossom warfare blade until bachelor fall squeeze today flee guitar). Could you explain how to move them to Binance?
My ex husband of 31 yrs did tell me “ look at you, no one would want you anymore “. I was incredibly ill , 78 lbs, on a feeding tube and everything. I’ve been divorced 6 months now ( my choice). I’m struggling financially on disability but my peace is so worth it. Healing has been non linear. I am grateful I am out of the marriage. His abuse was getting worse.
It feels like a vacation I planned for years knowing I'm baggage free
I literally just left him yesterday and can't tell you the freedom I feel! After 14 years I stood up for myself and made him leave my home.
I’m so proud of you. And praying for power to you moving forward. #GOALs ❤
Stay empowered
Stay strong and don't go back!
Initially you are still looking over your shoulder but ultimately you are free
Waiting for the consequences, the smear, the threats, stalking.
Losing all that heavy tension, anxiety and strife off your shoulders, is like being able to breathe and you can live again. 😊💪💪
💪
You’re not actually missing them, you’re missing the dream of who you wanted them to be.
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I concur❤
oh okay this right here makes it clearer
Preach all of that!
@@Cynthia-ul4uh Exactly ❤️
Its been 2 and a half years. In every way my life is better. Who knew they were right.
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I'm grateful For the experience of narcissism It woke me up, Knowing what's in this world🌏 it Was part of my journey🙏🏽
FREE, PEACEFUL, Single life is Beautiful ❤❤❤
💜
Hallelujah 🙏🏽 One of the best decisions Not knowing about Narcissist Took all my power And blessings back in my life ✌️ No contact
🙏
It’s been 2 days for me and my energy feels very low and I also feel a little depressed. However, I understand it’s a process that I’ve got to go through. It’s great seeing everyone else is feeling great and happy. ❤
You will get there!!! Never give up.
It takes time 🙏
U will to keep going. Never go or look back
Left my own house with wet clothes to live with mom at 51..
Never knew what a narcissist was till 3 months ago.
Congrats. Stay strong. I too recenty was awakened to NPD+! Bizzare. 👽They are out there. Soon I get webcam i wanna do Lee courses. 🤍
It's no longer in your head. It's real. It was never just in your head. A narc's goal is to try to make you feel and look crazy to others, especially your own family. Sometimes, they will never understand how you were treated. Be ok with that and find a way that works for you to heal. Manipulation is a true art that they are skilled at. You will be OK.
I never knew there was a specific therapy called Narcissist Abuse Recovery. It's real, and it works! Cheers to freedom...
For me, I felt the most free when I felt the trauma bond brake, and that's when I could really leave, but it took agessss for me to finally get to the point.
I’m almost there… gaining strength building momentum. 🙏🏾❤️🩹
🙏
Ladies, dont do it for the plot. I accepted a situationship and it turned into a year of being manipulated and emotionally abused. Its now over 5 months of no contact to detach, learn from it and move on. Do not accept a first date so easily or freely. Having high standards wouldve prevented this.
Oh my
Yes coming out of Narcissist abuse May me stronger and better happy as can be💃
💃🏻
It’s the guilt of leaving and the death of a dream but eventually we heal and begin to get our happiness back. 🤓
I miss the happy days, but not the subtle threats and evil ways.. nope
It’s healing season
Feelings off 😂😂😂😂 you're hilarious, Lee. Thank you for being you.
😂
This video is so important. It describes exactly how it feels and the different emotions related to the rollercoaster ride that awaits you when you do escape. But, believe me...therapy, support from family and friends is essential. 10 months after cruel discard, I can see clearly now. I look healthy. I am surrounded by wonderful people who have my back. My nervous system is back to normal and the fog in my brain has cleared. I am finally happy! There is light and freedom ahead! ❤
Lee , so appreciative of you , your honest journey and dedication to all who are affected by toxic relationships. I send people your way as I truly feel learning from the source of anything is key to the solution and you have made this possible. Thank you! My request is that your wife speak with you sometime. She is a key part in this process and journey and I would love to hear how she feels now . I have watched you since the beginning… and your explanation of her leaving and calling you a narcissist. I’m the daughter of a diagnosed narcissistic father . You have helped me and my path heal , please have your wife share your journey, this gives those who experience abuse see hope in themselves and what boundaries,self respect and compassion look like ! Many blessings! ❤just love you Lee !
The first time I left the “friendship” I felt nothing but guilt, scared, angry and feeling like I was missing out, so I came back. But the second time I left, I feel powerful, stronger, free, I can breathe, I can feel safe, I feel like the weight is lifted off my shoulders. Now that I’m engaged to the love of my life that I been with for 3 years, I feel like the shackles are broken finally off my ankles. I love it, 4 years of no contact and it felt amazing.
It's a struggle after being divorced. Still look over my shoulder. It's been almost 2 years.
Yep!
❤️🩹
I noticed that right after I left, there were a couple of really hard weeks where I mourned. I didn't regret my decision and I definitely didn't miss my ex, but I cried for the loss of everything that was FAMILIAR (even if it wasn't good), for my broken expectations of what could have been. It's scary to go from being controlled to absolute freedom because "what if they are right about me, what if I will f@ck this up too, what if I AM the problem, how do I make my own decisions?" can get stuck in your head on a loop. It does get better when you heal with intention. The grass really was greener for me!
It's very hard to get past being alone but it comes with time. Do things you enjoy whatever it is. Every step forward is progress! Give them no power!
I'm missing him now... I know he's a liar, a cheater, and he's already moved on and he only wants to hurt me now and drag my name through the mud, but I miss him... I know why I miss him, so I'm being gentle with myself, because I know this feeling will pass soon enough...
I’m FREEEEEEEEE🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
🙌🏾
Feels like opportunity just knocked :)
Real talk it’s the literal version of “WHAT THE HELL” when it’s over. You’re in shock at what you experienced, angry for what you allowed and you probably look how you were treated. There may even be some uncontrollable crying over the soul you dishonored for someone who never loved you. I had already detached before I filed for divorce so I didn’t miss STBX. It was more relief at finally feeling like I could breathe. Each day you get stronger.
🎯
It always gets better it does take time
🙏
After 29 years of marriage and Two kids I feel happy just upset the time I lost
I am struggling with this currently. 21 years in a narcissistic trauma bond. Started at 13 and 14 years old so I over looked a lot of the signs later on because I “understood” his upbringing and I stayed patient. I left him again 3 weeks ago for the 10th time and I’m praying it’s the last time. I ran back to him earlier this year after ruminating again and in a matter of 4 months I lost everything I worked for myself during the last separation and he deemed me unworthy, inconsistent, he didn’t wanna help me so he discarded me once again and left me with nothing…. Idk why I keep doing this to myself. Each and everytime I’ve needed him he shows me he hates me. Now I’m in therapy and in need of medication, can barely function and he’s fine lol.
😔 😠…🙏🏽💕
My ex husband of 31 yrs did tell me “ look at you, no one would want you anymore “. I was incredibly ill , 78 lbs, on a feeding tube and everything. I’ve been divorced 6 months now ( my choice). I’m struggling financially on disability but my peace is so worth it. Healing has been non linear. I am grateful I am out of the marriage. His abuse was getting worse.
I left the house and communicated to him that I’m leaving the house, but not the relationship. He punched the wall, and I was still willing to move forward with him. He sent me videos saying how amazing I am, and he loves me very much, but he must let me go since he’s tired of the disrespect. He disrespected me by calling me names and dismissing my feelings, and he thought I was criticizing him when I only wanted honest open conversation. I feel myself holding on, and I know I must let go too, and it doesn’t help he said one day we’ll meet. This is difficult and heartbreaking.
🙏🏽
It's definitely a roller-coaster... Its been 2.5 years... He's just had his second Christmas with his new woman (who met our kids without my knowledge weeks after we split) and I'm not even remotely considering dating... I've survived the DA police investigation, I've survived family court (he didn't get what he wanted, despite having very expensive legal team and blocking my legal aid so I had to self represent) and now wading through the divorce 😑 he makes it hard at every turn, but I'd still rather be away from him any day. I miss my kids like mad when they're with him, but they get a healthy happy parent in me the rest of the time. It is like the stages of grief, there's anger, denial, etc. Therapy helps. An "ick list" helps amazingly. Focus on you, your friendships, your hobbies. It's worth it
It’s healing season
You said it to a T. FELT GREAT N EMPOWERED when I left. Now alone n question the decision
😅
I do miss him. We traveled n I loved my life. N then I question if I did the right thing. He belittled me during cancer. Belittled my family, my kids, etc
It’s healing season
it feels like fresh air blowing through you and your house coz the stench of the garbage is no longer there.
It was a good feeling knowing I didn't have to deal with him anymore and having time to myself until the stalking hoovering started but it's been over a year now and I'm good
"Love takes time to heal when your hurting soooo much" (Mariah Carey)
Why aver time they do some bs you feel like just being pulled right back in it ? Even when you don’t have nun to do with them
Hoovering
@ man he done took my phone I want nun to to do with him
After 13 years, I finally left on 1/4. I feel numb, and really guilty. Keep wondering if I chose the worse time to leave. That's what he told me. I feel bad because I get to go to my new apartment, and he has to leave our home and find someone to live with. I waited until he got a job, but he's 2 weeks in and I left without waiting for him to save up. I just cannot get over feeling so bad.
Get out & stay out! Heard.
🙏
I left over a month ago, n wonder if I made the right choice. Walked away from everything.
Stay strong
Continue to watch videos. It helped me so much
Its definitely a process, but like Lee said it does get better❤
😅😂😂😂The Magician fingers/hands…. I keep laughing….
It's been a year now and I was helping him with his son and he called me mom that's the part that hurts the most 💔 😢
Initially, I felt good. It was awesome. Then it hurt like hell after four months. I'm still struggling, six months later. I hope I get through this soon.
you will
I love myself. 🥰🥰🥰
💪
My freedom date 1-18-2024!
Confused...and a lot of dr Ramini
Yeeees and Terri Cole is amazing with setting boundaries.
@@teegibson23 I’m familiar with Dr. Ramani but not Terri Cole. Does she solely focus on boundaries? That’s my focus. Do you have any other recommendations?
@Eloquently_Rud3 Les Carter.is awesome too
I laughed because when you turned lights off an advert come on right away 😂😂😂😂😂
😂😂
Okay Lee with the Mark Sloan (Grey’s) reference!!!!
That’s his name lol. Appreciate it
I had to heal first it took some time still working on my self have good and bad day but I do have more freedom and peace
Hence my screen name 😁 toxic phoenix. Escaped from abusive mum, step dad, dad, nan, first marriage and now second marriage. Does errode your trust in humanity... Not sure how many more times I could rise from the toxic ashes...
🙏 🦅
Lee, please consider a workshop in AZ! I am telling you, it will be sooo successful. Aim for the East Valley area. Message me if you want more info about the area. Trust me, you would want to come Fall, Winter, Spring, just not Summer! You are awesome Lee, your videos have helped me tremendously. If there is a way I could help you arrange this.. let me know. Bring your family, they will love it!
I normally comment really fast on all your videos but you post the videos now on a different time, where I can only see the videos 14 hours later since I live in Europe. I hope you are able to maybe post videos earlier like you used to so I can comment a lot under the videos and see it directly
Yip if I have a weak moment I'm sad azz but straight away I mentally snap out of it thinking wtf's wrong with you .. he never made you feel good without doubting coz I know he's sick in the head & I DONT WANT ANYONE LIKE THAT .. HE F##### WITH MY HEAD ..
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That was me in the car with my baby and pets. Driving FAR AWAY
💯💯
Great analysis, thank you! Could you help me with something unrelated: My OKX wallet holds some USDT, and I have the seed phrase. (mistake turkey blossom warfare blade until bachelor fall squeeze today flee guitar). Could you explain how to move them to Binance?
How an ex narc know how we feel this going too far 😂
Exhausted
I can and peaceful sleep at night!
What about a Durham workshop?
When is atl workshop?
❤❤❤❤
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They gonna make fun of your jokes anyway. So it's all good.
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My ex husband of 31 yrs did tell me “ look at you, no one would want you anymore “. I was incredibly ill , 78 lbs, on a feeding tube and everything. I’ve been divorced 6 months now ( my choice). I’m struggling financially on disability but my peace is so worth it. Healing has been non linear. I am grateful I am out of the marriage. His abuse was getting worse.