S05 Ep01: Do You Have a Rejection Mindset?
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- Опубліковано 5 бер 2019
- All transformation begins with restoring the power of God’s love in your life and building who you are in your identity. But you need to know there is an enemy that resists you experiencing that. It’s call rejection. We want to begin this season helping you to understanding, discern and expose the rejection mindset.
A rejection mindset is a way of thinking, perceiving and living that is based on lies. It unleashes a sense of separation from love. It will distort what love looks like. Meanwhile, your relationship interactions will get tainted with rejection’s toxic poison.
You don’t have to live under the limitations of a rejection mindset, but it will take some sober discernment and self-awareness to realize what needs healing. The good news is that God is ready to heal, restore and move you into new season of overcoming, if you will allow Him.
You were destined to be loved and know who you are. Don’t let rejection steal that experience from your life.
To get your copy of Exposing the Rejection Mindset Book:
markdejesus.com/exposing-the-...
Listening to this while eating breakfast & now cannot eat because cannot stop crying.... when you talked about remembering a time when you felt loved, I was searching my memories & remembered how a friend years ago helped me when I was literally losing my mind. She took me to her home & made potato soup because she knew how the brain chemicals are affected by certain foods etc... she knew exactly how to interact with me. She didn't try to 'fix me' she just let me rest in her home & as I am remembering how kind she was to me at a time when I was so in need.... I cannot stop crying.... it's like I'm seeing it for the first time for what it was & this was in 1999.... yet it's like I never fully received her love & kindness until today... this is so odd. I also see God's hand in what she did for me & feel He was loving me through her. I must have had all this blocked inside but it's releasing today. So thanks again for making these videos. I for one, have been touched.
Such a great story of your journey! The power of love and nurture!
Yes- you just got a part of you healed! Wonderful. ❤
As a recovering people pleaser, i find it difficult when I make a mistake or trusting anyone. Im the 10th kid, crippled until my parents could afford for me to get braces. Every time I stood up for myself I got in trouble. my older siblings think its ok to talk down to me. One of my mantra's is I don't fit in. I had a very harsh inner critic & outer critic, one being my grandmother & the outter being my siblings. Wow God is doing a number in me. WHewwwww. He does love me warts and all.(still learning this).
I W yes, he loves you, and I love you too!
Absolutely, just know he loves you unconditionally, little by little he will set you free❤. I've strugged with understanding what God says about me and what family and parents have said about me as well
Mark, You have one of the most powerful ministries here on YT. Every video you have on resonates with me profoundly! Thank you for allowing God to use you. God bless you for helping us get free!
God brought this video to my attention this morning. Needed it. "I don't feel loved. I gotta do something."
I deal with rejection sensitivity. What taught me the most, was experiencing total discard by my husband. Now I know, to my core, that I can survive it. Nothing can touch God’s acceptance of me.
My 'feeling rejected, God where are you' Google search led me to Mark's book "Exposing the Rejection Mindset". That had me curious about Mark, which brought me to UA-cam. I needed this. Things work out for the greater good. I am almost 40. I need to overcome this issue of rejection.
Omg! Almost to the end. This is so me. Thank you God for listening and yet again pointing me into the right direction 🙏
Yesterday, I prayed for wisdom because I didn't know what to do and today God brought this , you and your ministry,into my life. Thank you.
So glad!
This video is spot on! The Roots of Rejection come up in so many diffrent ways. Its easy to project our own “stuff” on other people rather than take personal responsibility for issues. Not an easy “pill” to swallow for many of us.
We attract others into our life that are as emotionally healthy as we are. As we grow, develop and allow Gods love into our heart (this takes time) we attract healthier friends and walk in more joy and peace.
Wow this is great, I didn't realize how deep rejection was in my life. At work and my relationship I struggle to be my authentic self
I have been struggling very badly since I was little. I am now in my late 30s. Recently I've discovered, that I've been battling with toxic shame, rejection, condemnation & guilt. In all my life, I've NEVER heard any other Christian talk about this topic
in such a calm, loving & non condemning, non shaming kind of way.
You guys are not blaming or pointing a finger at the people who are struggling. It feels like you care deeply & understand 100%.
I found many Christians don't want to be real about their hurting hearts.
I W yes, because some of us don’t feel safe, we have been so betrayed and bullied by the very same people we once trusted, that we have decided to open our hearts to God the Father only, to avoid being stoned, among other reasons.
for real.....opened up just a little to fellow sisters today ....and they laughed at me :( nobody cares, i'm so lonely
Blue Kloudwalker I do care, I know there are people like that, but those of us that have been hurt and healed by the Lord have the grace to understand and love others as they are hurting and struggling. I’m here for you.
@@bluekloudwalker5468 I was crying out to God this morning how it's hard going through rejection or issues alone. I know how you feel. Cry out yet no one truly care to listen. I don't know you but if you ever need someone to really listen and pray with you please reach out to me.
What’s the point. Even he tells you to figure it out you have the power of God in you! Don’t always even look to God to deliver you, you figure it out!
You’re only allowed to share it once and then you better figure it out! 😂 or you are in a victim mindset!
This is a huge blessing. Thank you. I want everyone to get hold of this and kick rejection to the curb! It is a jerk!
Ty. So much more could be said. I trust it will sufficient to say that u have given me the truth. I am just beginning to muster the courage to begin the process of healing. I am 57 years old.
I have realized that I have huge rejection issues. Especially with men. I didn't know my dad until I was 30 & he died 2 yrs ago. So I feel I didn't get enough time. I isolate to avoid getting hurt. When I'm hurt by someone I use drugs to numb the pain. I'm a mess! This is going to be a journey! Thank God for your ministry! I left my church because I was condemned. I know I need help. 😔
I trust you have found help in God's love. My regard
Hope you are better I can sympathize I struggle as well. 🤍
Wow. This video is amazing. Thank you for sharing this with others. So many of us have a hard time experiencing God's love because of this. May God bless you for this.
Thank you so much Paula!
Paula vos sos la misma chica del canal "Cristianos contra el narcicismo"? si no sos vos..son super parecidas🙉
Hola Angie. Siiiiii. Soy yo. 🖐️ Tienes buen ojo. 😉
@@paulagonzalez1721 🙉Dios te Bendiga Hermosa😊🌸 me has ayudado muchisímo con tus videos. Te mando un abrazo apapachador desde Argentina💗
@@blonde.angelk No he oído hablar de ese canal.
Mark and Melissa : you 2 are awesome ! Mark what you just said turned a light bulb on in me . I have rejection issues but you said “ it’s all about being kind to yourself.” Yes , no matter what we are dealing with , kindness to ourselves is the key . I can already feel a difference , just in this short time of being kind to myself .
So profound, it made me break down in tears...Related to her testimony 💯
Beautiful reflections!
Thank you!!!
So glad it was helpful!
Thank you so much! Your videos have been so encouraging! I pray the Lord will continue to restore me and that I may receive His love and grace!
I pray that too for you Andrew!
Just watched 10 min of this and you ARE SO right on, Mark and Melissa!
A protective self ~ funny how revealing this is, when you realize this is what people are doing with their (bad) behavior all the time. Being vulnerable can sometimes open you up to being attacked ~ like being truthful (Will finish watching the rest this evening)!
Thanks for opening up your comments section ♥
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Loved this...
Great points! And Melissa when you add to what Mark says, it completes the convo bringing more clarity.
Keep sharing ... keep yeilding to the Holy Spirit...WE need this content !
God bless you both. I’m so blessed to have found this UA-cam video.
Just discovered your channel and so far I’ve learned a lot as I work though some things in my own life. Thank you🙏🏾
Oh my! I've been watching your videos and every one of them is talking directly to my heart. Just on time, thank you very much and thank you for letting God use You!
Oh my God! I cannot believe that it took me so long to discover this channel but I am so glad I am here now. Thank you so much!!!!! I feel I can breathe
Also watch Leif Hetland. He talks about a major supernatural experience he had called the Baptism of Love. He totally experienced God's love in a major deep way, but he says you have to learn to live in that.
I'm so screwed up that I can barely shed tears anymore. I feel emotionally numb. What if the Spirit of God doesn't really dwell in me? I'm constantly wondering if I'm a real christian or not. I'm scared everyday, i wonder if I'm just deceiving myself. My wife is a wonderful christian woman and I feel like a spiritual loser. Man, blessed are those who are full of joy in the Lord.
So amazing. Graciously thanking God for the messages He gives us to set us free. You guys are amazing. God bless
As a daughter of a pedophile who rejected me throughout childhood, i came to find out as an adult that he only liked little boys, and my uncle and son were only 2 of his many victims. No justice served here… This is a huge subject-thank you both-i needed this❤
I struggle with rejection and the rejection of my children and grandchildren. xx
Praying things have improved since you've posted this.
Great channel guys! Thank you. Your videos are helping a lot. God bless you both.
Thanks so much!
Huge!! Love the theme concept!
Guys, you are such a big blessing for me, you cannot even imagine. Thank you so much❤
I love you all. Thank you for sharing this awesome content.
WOW I see it now... at least I think so. I think I'm still carrying my mother's fear of rejection and her shame. Triggers drive me crazy -obsessive thinking.
Yes hate those triggers
I sooooo love this content!! It’s like getting therapy on demand ❤
❤this was me. Im so thankful for this
You guys are amazing. This has blessed me so much 🙏🏻
I was going through stuff with people 😕 and as I was listen to video know I know that I have a rejection mindset....this truth is awesome.Thank you both ❤
Yes I do but I also have a narcissistic family dysfunctional family and legalism and religious trauma
Thank you for elaborating on this.
I’m so thankful for your wife! I can totally relate!
Awesome guys!! You really voiced soooo much that it's really helpful here. God bless you guys
Thanks so much Gayla!
Praise God the Father!!
Oh this is such a blessing,finally pastors that will talk about the real stuff of life.. its a blessing to know that The Father loves me regardless.. still have to walk it out... daily... Lol...
regardless
My whole Christian life I haven't felt loved by God. I work and work. Never thought rejection was so powerful. I know im def rejection mindset. So how do we change this?
I wrote a book on the subject you can check out. Markdejesus.com we will also continue to talk about this subject.
@@marktdejesus thank you for your response. Im greatful for a book that shows how to tackle this, unfortunately a lot of Christian books tells us about what the issue is but not gow to tackle it. Thank you so much. Which book is it? The name
@@milyt1439 markdejesus.com/exposing-the-rejection-mindset/ Exposing the Rejection Mindset
Good information, thanks!
this was an amazing teaching! God bless
Sooo good ! Love you guys !
Thanks so much!
Subscribed. Thank you ❤️
Its just so so so so so helpful!
Lots of gems in this - I’m going to share and listen again.. and again... annnnnnddd again... 😊
So glad to know that! Thanks for tuning in Lori!
@@marktdejesus I love you guys 💙💙💙
I know i have many issues but i didnt make it specifically and take time to make it a name Thankyou for this
This is just what I need! I will be listening to all these. On a side note: Melisa you are Kristen Wig's twin!!
Just found your channel. So good! God bless you both in Jesus' name.
So glad thank you!
Fantastic
Grateful for you both
Root of prevention to break through- rejection!
- easy to deny
- lots of layers of rejection, our lens! Be kind to yourself!
- it’s process oriented! No easy quick
- love is who god is, who I am
- god changes us via relationships, rejection take root
Wherever love hasn’t taken work- rejection invades!
Distort love, or block it!
Aspect you need to operate from!
Gotta put on a presentation!
- gotta deal with root! Not symptom!
Father relationships! Distorted
Don’t feel loved, feel they need to get in Bible to get closer, or be heavily busy!
Pressure to put on something: rejection! Don’t need that to be loved!
“Can you easily experience gods unconditional love on a ongoing basis? Feel and experience. Not just knowing!
- loved, accepted, approved of by your father in heaven!
- god didn’t do the hurt, sinful people, enemy did!
- god immersions us in certain themes!
- god was not problem, your not problem,
“These people aren’t gonna like me, there gonna hurt me”
- rejection identification
How do you go about being loved in the first place? Do you have to accomplish something? Etc?
Bought your book and ready to get started! 😁
Wow, AMEN
I believe I deserve to be loved and I bind to hell being bothered by rejection of the wrong and false people, while binding to hell to think I will be rejected by the right people, in accordance with this whole message and job 22:28 in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!
Give love out if love it is not received get it from god and give it back out again
Thank you
Thanks
How about a counselor who asks you dis-empowering questions such as "do you feel depressed or anxious" about xyz or "are you disappointed" that xyz "does it make you feel let down" when you weren't even thinking that or feeling anything on that heavy a level on the spectrum. And am starting to notice a pattern of this type of questions or similarly statements made by this "counselor." I protest respectfully and get an apology but seems still to no avail. At first i was just feeling very confused about all of this. Now I am starting to think that continuing to converse and share with this person is not good for my health and well being.
Look up the tree of Rejection!!
You have a really good voice
Question: Background first and to the point: My parents were both alcoholics, one a narcissist. I've been through 2 divorces, realizing now when looking back and processing the mess of my relationships that I was ill equipped in my younger years to even chose rightly the correct person to be in a relationship with, which set the relationships up for failure. Both husbands were unfaithful, the first re-married, the second hasn't but lives a lascivious life. I feel 2 things: 1. Sad because I am disqualified from remarrying, and 2. Sad because I really was set up for failure because of my upbringing, and will (likely) never love and be loved in a marriage like what God had designed it to be. (I think being in a loving relationship was stolen from me.) How shall I process this and not have a rejection mindset? Is there even such a thing?
I find there are many layers of allowing God to heal rejection roots in our life. It takes time and patience to let love have a deep work. Growing up with alcoholics or narcissists will shatter our references for love, which take time to heal. The good news is that God's mercy and love is new this morning to meet you where you are to take the next step.
@@marktdejesus right. I'm morning deeply the loss of love. Hopefully I voiced myself well enough so that you see my point, which is, biblically speaking I shall not remarry. Which adds a certain level of pain. The unloved become unlovable. I know Jesus breaks the chains for indeed He has. But I shall not have a husband again. This has serious implications.
@Lexie It's very hard to not do what your subconscious mind is trained to do. I hope you don't mind me giving you advice, but I may never talk to you again. I have only one chance with you to try to make it so that you don't fall into the traps like I did. If I had to do it over again, I would not only walk with God daily, abide in His word, but I would go to church so that the chances of meeting the wrong people would be slimmed down, as I am sure there are narcissists there too. Then I would by all means get marital counseling before marrying, and never give out sex to get love. Last thing I would do is not give of my time or money unless someone proved themselves to me first. I know there's more, but this is a start. I did EVERYTHING wrong, and am paying the price now. Satan kills, steals, and destroys. This is what you want to be on the watch out for, because he'll do it to you too.
Thank you. I have a question.
In the beginning you were saying that you wanted to make a video in "generational imprinting" or something like that?
We may be designed for love, but I'm pretty sure we don't DESERVE it. Deserving implies effort or performance that merits reward, i.e., love.
Love your hair girl 💗
Hi Mark, I bought your book exposing the rejection mindset on amazon now its only for 3 weeks, I love the book and its helping me.am in South Africa can i get a hard copy of the book. i tried Cum book with no luck, how can i get a copy i need it as soon as possible
Mark I am on a journey where I realized how much I push love away. I will put up walls by being judgemental or not being or seeing lovingly towards my husband. I have had sexual trauma when young as well as an absent father and not much nurturing growing up. A lot of dysfunction. I love my husband but have realized in a sickness awakening that I wasn’t being a truly loving wife in thought and action. I just started Christian therapy but am wondering if this is a pattern that you have seen healed. I know it is a heart issue and not knowing the love of my father. Not truly loving myself because of deep shame and guilt. It is a lot!!!
Could part of the problem be that what we believe is what we receive? If we believe we are always going to broken then we will be. It becomes our expectation instead of being complete in Him as the word says.
Its finally happened. I hit my breaking point. I feel like my mom did when she started EMDR.
Edit: Just to elaborate when my mom started EMDR therapy it was UGLY. She was a total basket case.
I have live with rejection from my father then people like girls when I was looking for a girlfriend But I was never good enough, I was never good enough for my dad, the only person who I felt he love me was my best friend but now that I don’t have him in my life I been trying to find that love in other men and it turn into homosexuality, now I can’t stop seen men attractive, now I can’t see God as a good father because of my father figure and because my attraction, I been living feeling rejected by God because I’m not a good Christian and I’m “gay”
I pray you were able to receive deliverance and healing, have found that love you desire from a Father, in God and are free from homosexuality.
Hi Mark and Melissa! Thank you so much for all the content you provide. It is much appreciated!
Question - I am reading through your book Exposing the Rejection Mindset. I just read chapter 15 about authority figures, and how you wrote about not seeing change until you humbled yourself under the authority of authority figures/pastors/seasoned people. I am on a journey of overcoming anxiety, OCD type thinking, and this caused anxious thinking to rise up, as I currently feel like I’m in an area of my life where I feel like I’m being pruned. I don’t have many close people to my life, authority figures/seasoned people that I need to humble myself to. I attend a church: it is very clique-y, and it seems hard to develop relationships with anyone unless you’re “in”. Please tell me I can still see breakthrough and change in my life!
Hi Courtney, if you are feeling anxious or OCD about it, don't do anything. My heart is to encourage people to welcome healthy leadership input, but don't allow pressure to accuse you or condemn you if its not avaialble right now. I know what you are feeling. God knows your heart and that you want to welcome great relationships. Be at peace, knowing you are in process.
Mark DeJesus Thank you! I want more than anything to walk through these issues and overcome. Your material has been so beneficial! I think sometimes I assume all the information applies to me right now, when that may not be the case which in turn fuels anxiety/wrong kinds of thinking.
In my journey, I am currently learning to receive God’s love - not performing for it, or having to do anything to achieve it.. and to be grounded in my identity as a daughter of God, which will all cast out fear.
Bless you and Melissa!! It is such a relief to hear a story of someone else’s previous mental battles and know I am not alone. And to know there is hope, and God wants to heal me of these issues and walk me through this journey.
Courtney K, The Great Physician is absolutely the primary "authority" we need. I love reading that you are learning to accept God's love for you. Pastor Dan Mueller is a good UA-cam source to encourage people to find their value and identity in Christ alone. Once we see ourselves in Christ accurately, I think we can truly love others without stings attached.
This is so what I'm dealing with. But now what..
At what point does Jezebel/Ahab lach onto the rejection root?
What's the name of the book please
you re all over the place, sounds interesting, but difficult to follow
I hope they are watching this
So what’s the solution
Now that my rejection issues have surfaced, I’m having trouble dealing with experiencing the deep pain of a lifetime of suppressing it. I feel so vulnerable and weak. How do you deal with that?
Have you considered taking it to our healing, loving Father? Maybe get Mark's book? Blessings!
@@Nancy-ez5tt thanks Nancy. Yes, I’ve definitely been taking it to the Lord. I’m trusting that the healing will come in time.
@@karenduey9675Healing takes time. Inner healing ministry is amazing. I have had amazing results.❤
On the advice of my therapist, who warned me that my ex, who is still living with me for a while, may search for my comments, I am deleting what I wrote previously... unfortunately.
I don't know how to get from my head to my heart. Self-love sounds wrong, egotistical..
please do a podcast on becoming cyborgs!!!
This is the main reason i don’t believe myself
Nope I know people that do though
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This is aimed to be taken as feedback... very relevant topic, but it would be better presented by only one person. The second person just seems to keep taking it off topic
Are you wearing hearing aids mark?
Your husband thinkings should be fixed at once or you’re being a victim!
Surprised he doesn’t accuse you of being in a victim mindset when you think there’s a journey to processing!
Now he’s talking about who God is when he thinks we should figure it all out because we have God in us!
I wish these videos had some consistent thought to it! Super unhelpful!