I think me personally, (professional single dude here) I'd prefer it if the girl offer even though I'd probably pay anyways if it was the first date. I just think it shows independence and makes it more comfortable to split on future dates or rotate back and forth between who pays.
i usually just pay anyways. it doesnt bother me nor do i think of anything of it. espescially if i asked her out, in my head i just think i should be paying lol. BUT if she wanted to split the bill or if we go to like different vendors, like she pays for one thing, i pay for another, thats cool too. but the thought of her even motioning to or offering let's me know (i hope) that im not a free meal ticket lol
boys and girls think differently. As a boy, it's always welcome that a girl offers. To us it shows that she's not there to freeload off us as an expectation. If you're interested in the boy, don't push it when the boy says he'll pay, because the offer was enough. If you push too much, in a boys mind, yes it can definitely be taken as you're not interested and am paying to provide closure and not have any feelings of owing something. That said, if going out becomes regular, it should be expected that you two would take turns and share the experiences, so not splitting but alternate. Doesn't have to be 1 for 1, just every now and then. You did well. I used to travel for work and dined solo all the time, you'll come to realize no one really thinks about you and your situation as much. Just enjoy the time with yourself =) It's a phase, not forever
Dining alone somewhere fancy is my absolute favorite way to relax and be kind to myself. I can really focus on the food and the environment and just be meditative and unplugged. Glad you got to do so too!
As another single guy, it really depends on the scenario, Most of the time, will end up having that conversation in the date , saying something along the lines of. "How about dessert after?" and then "I'll get this, you get dessert?" as long as there are interest. Unless, she says and insistent , I much prefer splitting the bill, cause of "X" reason, then i'll be agreeable about it. If there is no interest, I feel like guys either cop the cost and then we just never chat again. Post date text is pretty important to communicate after that!
Hey Coco, I love this. I've few friends I can call out to go dining or socialise so it's comforting to relate to just taking myself out to some restaurant and enjoying my time experiencing new food. Quick question, what are you filming this on? I can see it's not your phone. Is it a GoPro? It''s very good quality!
I'd say offering to pay for your half is better than not. It demonstrates better positive qualities. Though, it's probably true that people are more likely to split out of politeness or spite if they didn't feel a connection. If you were to vibe with another person, it shouldn't matter in the end, but offering is polite and a positive. I've noticed a lot of reddit posts where guys pay for the full bill multiple times and start to feel resentment that their date never offered.
22M here, solo backpacked around SEA & Europe for some time after university. It’s natural to feel anxious on your own, connections are part of human nature, but you’ll realize you can do so much alone. Currently single by choice for the freedom, time, and priorities. On the paying for a meal part, it’s honestly relieving for the lady to offer to split (e.g. defo shows not feeling entitled), but I’d cover it anyways and ask for a next time to split :)
omg im always so self conscious being perceived as alone (like pls don't perceive me) so i started solo traveling LOL lowkey forced myself to be ok alone :,)
If he is traditional and you want a traditional guy, let him and expect him to pay but you must also be a traditional girl. If you are more modern or progressive, then you can pay for yourself. As you get older, you realize no one cares about you as much as you care about yourself. Sure, people will look and talk for a few seconds but once you are out of sight, they will forget you. Just be a good person and everything will work out.
I randomly stumbled on your channel! I'm really enjoying this series because I've definitely thought about doing a fun solo date vlog for myself as well! Great video and super fun to watch! Keep it up!
i mean me personally (I've never went on a date with a girl and a girl has never liked me), I would like that the girl offers but I would be perfectly fine to just pay myself.
Hi Coco, I have been to a lot of places dining alone and it varies, sometimes you are ignored and other times you get attention. People do stare but I just figure they have to look somewhere so it doesn't bother me. One place I went to when I was really watching my money and had become quite thin in the face. I sold some stuff and decided to treat myself to a nice meal. The waitress brought me a big bowl of soup and rolls with the meal I had ordered and I looked at another table and they didn't have the soup so I very softly called her over and whispered I don't think I have enough to pay for the soup, and noticed the other table didn't get soup. She smiled and said it was complementary. I looked at her and tried not to cry because I knew it wasn't, she was just being nice. She gave me the food I couldn't eat to take home and put a slice of pie with it. I thanked her when I left not knowing she had done that. As far as dates go, If I ask someone out to dinner I pay and don't really think about it. If we are just hanging out, sometimes she will pay, sometimes I will pay. I don't think anything is planed out, it just seems to work out. If she wants to pay, I think it is nice she wants to treat. The one thing I do find ackward is when there's a lot of people and they want to split the bill, it always seems so complicated and one person is always angry. I try and avoid that if I can. I've been to jazz and nightclubs alone and just enjoyed the atmosphere,usually stuck off to the side or at the back somewhere, but I don't think I minded. Just enjoy yourself, that's the main thing. Take care Coco.
personally on a date to make it more comfortable for myself n her i usually say before hand something like (i just got paid, so its my treat dw) even if thats not always true. tbh id rather just make it something neither of us need to think abt and whether she decides to chip in and return the gesture i dont really mind.
I have solo-dined a lot and it is actually better to the point that I know I'll have good time by myself while I may or may not with another person or a first date. There is however the downside of only being able to try half as much food 🫥 but I couldn't care less about what others think at the diner.
each people i watch i feel like i learn something from them, from coco i learn how to be comfortable with myself and not have a feeling of being lonely but instead comfortable to be alone.
Hi Coco! I recently found your channel and I’ve really been enjoying your videos as I find them funny and relatable. The self help ones and just listening to you sharing your stories and experiences has really comforted me. Idk if you will even see this but I just wanted to thank you for creating genuine content and being yourself, your videos/creations make positive a difference in people’s lives, and I’ll always be your supporter :)
Maybe just act more like you're there to review the food, instead of telling yourself you're on a "Solo date". It just might work to reduce social anxiety when people stare.
Me personally (with a bit of experience) I love it when we do a 2 second dance and we come to an agreement that I get to pay for the first date and the girl pays for the second. It's the definition of "I'm interested, and I'm willing to invest into this / it's not just a free meal for me." But also I know women have concerns about safety and about weird people so I offer to pay on the first every time because I'm less at risk and I appreciate them giving me the time of day in general. The second date means they actually want to see me! :)
Also the Chinese content was goated, I hope you do more of that especially if it means you'll say more of what you want to say in a public space without feeling judged!!
i find myself always eating alone at a place where most of my classmates are eating at, and it honestly feels so awkward when i see them too and i keep getting away from them for just not being awkward. is anyone here experiencing this, i wanna know how you overcome this 😭
from my experience of dining alone, if someone stares at you, you just stare them back and keep staring
Why are we staring 👁️ 😂😂😂😂
I think me personally, (professional single dude here) I'd prefer it if the girl offer even though I'd probably pay anyways if it was the first date. I just think it shows independence and makes it more comfortable to split on future dates or rotate back and forth between who pays.
who cares what other people think. just do what makes you happy (as long as it's legal) hahah looking forward to more of your vids!
i usually just pay anyways. it doesnt bother me nor do i think of anything of it. espescially if i asked her out, in my head i just think i should be paying lol. BUT if she wanted to split the bill or if we go to like different vendors, like she pays for one thing, i pay for another, thats cool too. but the thought of her even motioning to or offering let's me know (i hope) that im not a free meal ticket lol
boys and girls think differently. As a boy, it's always welcome that a girl offers. To us it shows that she's not there to freeload off us as an expectation. If you're interested in the boy, don't push it when the boy says he'll pay, because the offer was enough. If you push too much, in a boys mind, yes it can definitely be taken as you're not interested and am paying to provide closure and not have any feelings of owing something. That said, if going out becomes regular, it should be expected that you two would take turns and share the experiences, so not splitting but alternate. Doesn't have to be 1 for 1, just every now and then.
You did well. I used to travel for work and dined solo all the time, you'll come to realize no one really thinks about you and your situation as much. Just enjoy the time with yourself =) It's a phase, not forever
third date is usually bow chica wow wow~ can't wait to see how that's gonna play out 😝
LMAOOOII
haha did this myself some time ago, def super nerve racking but u realize how peaceful it is to be comfortable in ur own skin
Dining alone somewhere fancy is my absolute favorite way to relax and be kind to myself. I can really focus on the food and the environment and just be meditative and unplugged. Glad you got to do so too!
As another single guy, it really depends on the scenario,
Most of the time, will end up having that conversation in the date , saying something along the lines of.
"How about dessert after?" and then "I'll get this, you get dessert?" as long as there are interest.
Unless, she says and insistent , I much prefer splitting the bill, cause of "X" reason, then i'll be agreeable about it.
If there is no interest, I feel like guys either cop the cost and then we just never chat again.
Post date text is pretty important to communicate after that!
I’m preparing to celebrate my firm with the only promoter/coach and corner I would sign renting 1 Michelin Star Restaurant just for me. LEO
THIS IS THE GREATEST SECOND SOLO DATE OF ALL TIME!!!!!
@nang88 🤨
@@cocoxu He is abusing free speech
Hi I’m new here. I’m wondering where coco born and raised in. It doesn’t sound American at all. But you surely sound beautiful ❤
eating alone is so common. Not sure why it'll be awkward. Maybe at a fancier place?
The girls staring at u cuz you’re pretty 😊
Coco.... so many solo dates...... so many...... maybe its time for a change.......
No
lmao it just soooooo awkward
outro was so awesome!
Hey Coco, I love this. I've few friends I can call out to go dining or socialise so it's comforting to relate to just taking myself out to some restaurant and enjoying my time experiencing new food.
Quick question, what are you filming this on? I can see it's not your phone. Is it a GoPro? It''s very good quality!
I'd say offering to pay for your half is better than not. It demonstrates better positive qualities. Though, it's probably true that people are more likely to split out of politeness or spite if they didn't feel a connection. If you were to vibe with another person, it shouldn't matter in the end, but offering is polite and a positive. I've noticed a lot of reddit posts where guys pay for the full bill multiple times and start to feel resentment that their date never offered.
thought the series was about dating 50 guys.......didnt read the title properly. 拥有有趣的灵魂，自然学会了独处。
22M here, solo backpacked around SEA & Europe for some time after university. It’s natural to feel anxious on your own, connections are part of human nature, but you’ll realize you can do so much alone. Currently single by choice for the freedom, time, and priorities. On the paying for a meal part, it’s honestly relieving for the lady to offer to split (e.g. defo shows not feeling entitled), but I’d cover it anyways and ask for a next time to split :)
omg im always so self conscious being perceived as alone (like pls don't perceive me) so i started solo traveling LOL lowkey forced myself to be ok alone :,)
If he is traditional and you want a traditional guy, let him and expect him to pay but you must also be a traditional girl. If you are more modern or progressive, then you can pay for yourself. As you get older, you realize no one cares about you as much as you care about yourself. Sure, people will look and talk for a few seconds but once you are out of sight, they will forget you. Just be a good person and everything will work out.
I randomly stumbled on your channel! I'm really enjoying this series because I've definitely thought about doing a fun solo date vlog for myself as well!
Great video and super fun to watch! Keep it up!
i mean me personally (I've never went on a date with a girl and a girl has never liked me), I would like that the girl offers but I would be perfectly fine to just pay myself.
WOW!. I love to do that in different countries. I just talk with the closest table some times.
Hi Coco, I have been to a lot of places dining alone and it varies, sometimes you are ignored and other times you get attention. People do stare but I just figure they have to look somewhere so it doesn't bother me. One place I went to when I was really watching my money and had become quite thin in the face. I sold some stuff and decided to treat myself to a nice meal. The waitress brought me a big bowl of soup and rolls with the meal I had ordered and I looked at another table and they didn't have the soup so I very softly called her over and whispered I don't think I have enough to pay for the soup, and noticed the other table didn't get soup. She smiled and said it was complementary. I looked at her and tried not to cry because I knew it wasn't, she was just being nice. She gave me the food I couldn't eat to take home and put a slice of pie with it. I thanked her when I left not knowing she had done that. As far as dates go, If I ask someone out to dinner I pay and don't really think about it. If we are just hanging out, sometimes she will pay, sometimes I will pay. I don't think anything is planed out, it just seems to work out. If she wants to pay, I think it is nice she wants to treat. The one thing I do find ackward is when there's a lot of people and they want to split the bill, it always seems so complicated and one person is always angry. I try and avoid that if I can. I've been to jazz and nightclubs alone and just enjoyed the atmosphere,usually stuck off to the side or at the back somewhere, but I don't think I minded. Just enjoy yourself, that's the main thing. Take care Coco.
personally on a date to make it more comfortable for myself n her i usually say before hand something like (i just got paid, so its my treat dw) even if thats not always true.
tbh id rather just make it something neither of us need to think abt and whether she decides to chip in and return the gesture i dont really mind.
I have solo-dined a lot and it is actually better to the point that I know I'll have good time by myself while I may or may not with another person or a first date. There is however the downside of only being able to try half as much food 🫥 but I couldn't care less about what others think at the diner.
each people i watch i feel like i learn something from them, from coco i learn how to be comfortable with myself and not have a feeling of being lonely but instead comfortable to be alone.
People go on solo dates all the time. Just ignore other people's stare and just have a great time!! The food looked great btw.
Going dutch is quite usual nowadays given the gender equality, I guess ?
Coco you are a WINNER and we all love you and wish you the best :) The food did look pretty amazing too.
U CAN CANCEL THIS SERIES COZ YOU'RE MY WIFE NOW
How ruining is it for your mental health to work as a consultant at EY?
Had to check if it was still May when I saw you wearing your winter jacket
i love this! motivates me to go on a solo date sometime
作为一个I人，我非常喜欢自己吃饭，不管什么餐厅都🉑。
You just made me wanna go on a solo dinner date😮💨
Solo date very interesting experience. Do you like it or not
The little dance is necessary, the thought/gesture matters.
no way I would think it's cool if the girl wants to split the bill lol
Eating alone doesn't make you a loser. I love the narrative at the end ...and thats' growth right there!
Why dont you go out with your EX boss
If you come to Belgium I will take you on a date :)
I m a male n couldn't see ur solo date i wish i was there😴
Eating alone with music while scrolling on twitter is 🔥 😂
Hi Coco! I recently found your channel and I’ve really been enjoying your videos as I find them funny and relatable. The self help ones and just listening to you sharing your stories and experiences has really comforted me. Idk if you will even see this but I just wanted to thank you for creating genuine content and being yourself, your videos/creations make positive a difference in people’s lives, and I’ll always be your supporter :)
Thank you much Sandy! This comment made my day😊💖
Maybe just act more like you're there to review the food, instead of telling yourself you're on a "Solo date". It just might work to reduce social anxiety when people stare.
HAHAh i tried that and started laughing at myself
Just 8 minutes - and I can see the colours of your soul.
你的mbti第一个字母肯定是I吧😂
其实是E人
@@cocoxu哇，实在没想到。E人也会有social anxiety吗😂 作为I人，那一段social anxiety实在是感同身受
Loved that closing dialogue, great stuff coco.
Me personally (with a bit of experience) I love it when we do a 2 second dance and we come to an agreement that I get to pay for the first date and the girl pays for the second. It's the definition of "I'm interested, and I'm willing to invest into this / it's not just a free meal for me." But also I know women have concerns about safety and about weird people so I offer to pay on the first every time because I'm less at risk and I appreciate them giving me the time of day in general. The second date means they actually want to see me! :)
Also the Chinese content was goated, I hope you do more of that especially if it means you'll say more of what you want to say in a public space without feeling judged!!
i find myself always eating alone at a place where most of my classmates are eating at, and it honestly feels so awkward when i see them too and i keep getting away from them for just not being awkward. is anyone here experiencing this, i wanna know how you overcome this 😭
btw i love coco's content and been following her all the time since the first nyc video!
adorable tops on adorable person
gonna try this at a restaurant with bar seating first and maybe just stick with that method lmao coco keep inspiring the girlie pops to liiiiive xoxo
Yayyyyy sending love 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
i need to do thissss
OMG same phone case!
Yippee 😊 new vlog 🎉 so happy
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