In Europe it’s so normal to flush them though, I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t.. they’re marketed as flushable so I never knew there was even a debate around this until this video! Edit: seems like my info is outdated (I haven’t used tampons in almost 10 years since discovering the cup). I checked the tampons in my supermarket and they say DO NOT FLUSH so there you go. Don’t flush em guys!
@@kellycatrina2891 as a European I have to say that definitely not everywhere 😅 I don’t know anyone who DOES. We have those toilet paper rolls that are marketed as flushable but I’ve also read that they’re really not that flushable either…
@@emmaward2530 Correct me if you find otherwise, but there is not a Dixie menstrual cup brand. Dixie cups are paper disposable cups definitely not for putting inside you.
@@jadenlee2575 theres a brand of mentrual cup called "pixie cup" I assume that's where the confusion comes from! Dixie cup is a brand of tiny disposable cups
Wrap in tissue paper and throw in the trash. That’s what you do with tampons, unless you want to get a huge plumber bill. Eventually tampons will clog your toilet pipes. Flushing your tampons is also very harmful to the environment. Just don’t flush your tampons…
I completely AGREE!!! It doesn’t sit right with me that Thanksgiving gets passed by! In my eyes because people don’t like being thankful for things, they’d much rather get things (you don’t get gifts on thanksgiving)! And it’s pushed so much because of money! The stores and CEO’s make SO MUCH money during Christmas time and it’s disgusting how they shove it down people’s throats. I prefer to give thanks then get gifts
Exactly! And doing it in other people's places is so rude. You don't know the state of their pipes abd you are certainly not paying for the plumber whenever this accumulates to a significant issue
Literally the reason I stopped doing my homework was to comment on this … HAS LAUREN EVER PAID ATTENTION!? Never flush the tampon, never cross the streams…life rules 101.
One of my best friends works in the septic industry and he has told me some stories about unclogging cases at malls and shopping centers.. you would be mind blown how many woman ignore that sign! 🤢
@@baileyspeltbeefy1768good for you 🙄 not everyone was taught. Not everyone reads random signs. Not everyone reads tampon boxes. You're not better just because you knew not to flush tampons. Stop acting like it. My mom taught me to flush em 🤷♀️ I got my period when I was 10. I listened to my mom. Thank fuck my bc stops my period so I don't have to deal with that anymore, but you're not a bad person for flushing a tampon, Jesus.
I’ve actually never flushed a tampon! I was always too scared of them clogging the toilet so to save the arkward convo if it did I always wrapped them and thrown them away ahaha
i went to comments to read about people's talking about Thanksgiving (in my country we do not celebrate it, but i love the stories!) but everyone is talking about FLUSHING TAMPONS 😳
That’s what I’m sayinnnng. It was a small moment in the podcast but the comments are filled with tampons 🥴 I like to watch on UA-cam vs listening on Spotify to read what people have to say
Honestly I don't understand the "family only" aspect of Thanksgiving. Growing up we had third cousins, great uncle's, the neighborhood kids, spouses, bfs/gfs, family friends, and even co-workers. We ALWAYS had too much food and it basically turned into a block party every year.
This sounds amazing! I’m a single mom, widowed, with one daughter and we always have a small Thanksgiving every year. I would love to find a family like this that would let us come celebrate with a bunch of happy people.
~TIME STAMPS~ 1st story: 6:34 2nd story: 15:56 3rd story: 41:28 4th story: 1:05:54 5th and final story: 1:16:05 also btw if you haven't already look at his post the one right before the "dad" one it talks abc the goodbye letter and such it almost makes me cry and overall it gets better for the two of them. I loves your guys podcast and can't wait for the next episode!
So there's a new update for the last story, the dad ended up inviting his son to dinner. He said the son wasn't comfortable meeting the entire family yet so just the two of them spent Thanksgiving together and it was great. It must be so tough for them both but I'm glad things seem to be working out ☺
I’ve missed Lauren but I don’t know anyone else who flushes tampons… it’ll add long term chemicals to local water systems, ruin sewer filters, and can clog your pipes over time, resulting in build ups that can be thousands to fix. If someone flushed a tampon in my house, I don’t think they’d be allowed back unless they agreed to stop…
Yeah when your in school and get that talk The most important thing and they take your Brain and push it there is “ DONT FLUSH YOUR SHIT DOWN THE TOILET.”
I've had people flush panty liners down our septic tank it clogged in no time. We had to unclog it ourselves in the snow at midnight. I now have a deap hate for for people who flush sanitary products
@@caitlinshields4828 From the uk here as well, and I was always been told to definitely don’t flush them. It’s most likely what everyone has been taught but I have never knew anybody who flushes them🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
My sister literally BROKE THE WATER PIPES by flushing her tampons. They got all mangled together and got stuck in a sewage pipe and just clogged it. Everyone on the street was so pissed off because no one knew until the street started to smell horrible and the smell would back up into people's houses. The town board had to put out a statement to homes in town that used the sewage system saying the tampons are not flushable
If anyone EVER put tampons in my toilet they would be immediately banished from my house. Grown adults should not have to be told not to destroy others' property like that.
Yes yes yes to the Santa thing. We are very privileged and teach our kids that Santa brings 1 smallish gift, for this exact reason. They know that we are the ones providing everything else and the magic of Christmas is still there lol.
Love this! My mum always used to say Santa brings the stockings and then I had 1 or 2 small gifts like colouring books that were from Santa, the rest I knew were from the family
I had a similar system. Santa would bring new pyjamas, sweets and things like that. Then I knew there were some gifts from my family and I always made something for them as well.
I personally do not want to tell my kids about Santa because I don't think they would even believe it. I don't remember what it was like when I was 3/4 but from when my memories begin I never believed my parents nor friends that Santa existed. My brother didn't either. I also don't want them to go through the trauma of realizing that all the magic that we as their parents (whom they should be able to trust completely) told them existed, never actually existed. I think I'll focus on emphasizing the beauty and magic of reality rather than telling them about Santa. That being said, different strokes for different folks. These are just my views and I understand how others may feel differently. :) Do whatever feels right to you.
My mom never told me santa existed, i knew it was her buying me gifts, she told me who santa was and that I needed to be respectful with my friends and don’t tell them that santa it didn’t exist and tbh it didn’t affect me in any way, on the contrary it made me respectful of other peoples believes and to understand whenever my mom was struggling money wise
Yeah I always had my stocking from santa and usually one gift from santa next to my stocking. All gifts under the tree were family gifts to me, my parents, and any other family members we were with that year
The fact Lauren was getting irritated that you aren’t supposed to flush tampons.They even have signs in public restrooms. Yes, people are supposed to throw sanitary products away, my dad is a plumber.
@@kellycatrina2891 Which country, because the Netherlands all brand stay do not flush. Its not even allowed lol. Same in Spain, Germany, Belgium and the UK atleast.
@@CarinaSchrijft just checked the boxes in my supermarket (I haven’t used tampons in almost 10 years) and you’re all 100% right, it says do not flush down the toilet.
Morgan: “it’s really bad” Lauren: “is it tho?” Morgan and I together, emphatically: “YES!” Yes Lauren it is really bad. Can cause clogs and thousands of dollars of plumbing damage!
Oop! I'm in the minority here 😳😳 I'm mind blown at all the comments saying NOT to flush them. I winder if this is a regional thing? I've been told they're safe to flush my entire life and literally every woman in my life flushes them. I'm so curious now!
@@belindarocky961 can I ask where you live? Just out of curiosity. In the UK the tampon boxes have writtin on in capitals 'DO NOT FLUSH' and every woman I currently know doesn't flush them. However, I used to know a girl who did flush them (I knew her when we were teenagers at school). And her mum taught her to flush them. I pointed out the instructions say 'do not flush'. But she said her mum had done it for years and it had always been fine. So I think it depends on how women were taught to use them. Also, some people are going to do whatever they want no matter what evidence you provide on why that thing is bad e.g. can block your pipes, bad for the environment, causes problems in sweage plants. In my experience, those type of people only change when something bad happens to them e.g pipes are blocked and they are landed with a HUGE plumbing bill.
2nd story: It’s maybe okay to have a family dinner together but not to exclude anyone on THANKSGIVING. Sister definitely has got issues to not see her nephew. What the kid do? Nothing!
ive never even thought of flushing a tampon. I literally just found out a few years ago there are women who do this and I was floored. always securely wrap them in toilet paper and into the trash. I mean I thought it was obvious since they have those little disposal bins for sanitary items in public restrooms. What did Lauren think those bins were for? lol
She never said she flushed her tampons though. She was asking the question of WHY exactly we can't flush tampons down the toilet. I'm pretty sure she knows what the sanitary bins are for.
I can never imagine telling my brother that since I don’t like his wife, I don’t want to be apart of my nephews life. Like she seriously needs to grow up!
I throw my tampons in the trash. My mom didn’t know they couldn’t be flushed, and it backed up our pipes when I was a kid. Morgan is correct, even if that doesn’t mess up your pipes it will end up in a giant mass, and not decompose.
My mom didn't either, except it hasn't backed up our pipes yet. She won't listen to me and thinks i'm crazy, so I guess I'll just wait for the tampons to teach her to stop.
The Christmas tree one really hits home! My grandma (my dad's mom) died the day before my mom's birthday. We were with her when she died and she told my mom that she still better have a cake and celebrate her birthday. It's been a couple of years and I now always dread my moms birthday, which I feel terrible for also 😅
You shouldn’t flush tampons because they will clog up the pipes! I learned my lesson years ago after getting a hefty plumber bill. Wrap it in TP and throw away
I feel so dumb and kinda concerned that no one’s ever told me not to flush a tampon! I never even considered wrapping it in toilet paper and putting it in the trash. My family has always had this weird aversion to putting toilet paper in the trash can so I assumed that meant tampons too😅 I will take this knowledge with me going forward haha
I have a seperet trashcan for my tampons, still rap it in toilet paper and then put it in that trashcan 🤗 jut a tip. And, sorry for the spelling, I have dyslexia and I am from sweden 🙈🙂
My mom wouldn’t put a trash can in the bathroom because our dog would destroy it all. I was so embarrassed to walk around the house with a toilet paper with my tampon in it that I flushed my tampons for a long time… but no one ever told me how bad it was for the plumbing until I was in my early twenties 😳
Christmas tree story: I would say ESH if the husband actually just went ahead and called his mum AND said that it was just because she wanted to do it first. She sounds controlling and like she has issues with lacking control, but some of her points like the deaths of her parents around Christmas can be considered.
In regards to inviting people to holiday gatherings - just do it! We are a military family and we always make sure everyone has a place to go to enjoy a holiday home cooked meal. We’ve fed as many as 20 people on the fly and as few as none. You never know the difference it can make to not have to spend a holiday alone!!!!
Where I'm from, every single place explicitly puts up signs in the restrooms to not flush ANYTHING but toilet paper. Every type of sanitary product (tampons, pads, etc.) are to bei either wrapped or put in special bags provided and then thrown on a bin.
Same here. But I haven’t worn tampons up until 2 yrs ago so my brain was like why would anyone flush a pad??? I’m mortified of how my brain assumed it was only for pads and not tampons but I’ve learned since then 😭🤣
For the fourth story: Mu mother has an open door policy for the holidays. Anybody can walk through our door and eat. Even if they don't want to sit and stay, they can fix a plate and take it with them. Nobody should be alone if they don't want to be for the holidays. Have a heart. It can be such a lonely time for people.
My FIL just had a sugar attack, (sugar dropped bad, below 60) it got worse so we had to call the ambulance. I was watching this and making rice and while I’m trying to help the paramedics and my FIL all you can hear is “Am I the asshole” 😂😂😂 EMT knew who you were and me and her bonded over it 😂😂 this just happened btw
Sugar under the tongue will raise it back up pretty quickly. Also have him carry glucose tablets. Mine drops all the time and sometimes without warning. A few weeks ago it dropped and after I started eating 2 glucose tablets. Then while shaking and fumbling around trying to keep from blacking out I tested my sugar and it was 38. I know how to handle my sugar dropping drastically. My mom is a nurse as well so even though it’s a very horrible and scary feeling when your sugar drops I am always prepared and know what to do unless I’m too late and starting to black out. That last time a few weeks ago was the last time it went that low. All I could do was take the glucose tablets and lay down while I bounced in and out of consciousness until it came back up. That’s the lowest I’ve ever seen it on the monitor.
Can you post the links to the stories please! I need to see if there is an update to the SIL not wanting the wife and toddler at thanksgiving!! I love these stories so so much
For me the christmas tree thing is about how much stress christmas brings. I didn't enjoy the fall season this year at all just from hearing the music playing at stores. It automatically takes me into the stressed out ptsd moment of panicking that I don't have enough money and I've forgotten to buy certain gifts, or the decorations aren't put up, or some dish we're making for the holiday burnt. It's a knee-jerk reaction at this point. I kept having to take deep breaths at the grocery store for thanksgiving this year and remind myself that it wasn't christmas yet while I tried to avoid stressing out too much standing next to the christmas sweaters at walmart.
I totally relate and agree. While she maybe didn't handle it in the best way, I'm sure that grieving on top of all that is enough to make a very rational person act out.
I, h a t e, seeing Christmas stuff out during fall. It's FALL. AUTUM. Why on earth is Christmas stuff out? I adore Christmas but it also gives me such bad anxiety. I don't get panic attacks I just get angry haha. My biggest pet peeve is people who put their trees up early or all year round. To me it's tacky and doesn't allow other holidays their time to shine but that's just me. I noticed my opinion is not one that is commonly shared haha 😂😅
As to the second story, it sounds to me like the sister is the "squeaky wheel" child who is constantly coddled because she'll lash out if she's told "no." Taking an old grudge out on a child is disgusting and his parents are despicable for enabling this behavior.
If I stayed at a someone house and bled on the sheets I'd be sneaking to their laundry in the middle of the night to clean them because I'd just be that embarrassed 😅😅🤣😂🤣🤩😍
It blows my mind how many people flush tampons. It literally says on most tampon boxes to not flush them. Do you put cotton balls or q-tips in toilet? No. Geez
@@theyoutubeanalyst3731 eh I grew up in Australia where you only flush toilet paper, we generally do not flush tampons and are given sanitary disposal bins in most toilets
@@cruciothelight I guess, but apparently it's not that extended knowledge to avoid flushing tampons. It's just a guess though, in my country even flushing toilet paper will get the pipes fucked.
@@cruciothelight same here in the uk, but I’ve seen some comments from other people from the uk saying they do flush them. I guess it just differs to what people have been taught but I thought it was common knowledge🤷🏻♀️
y’all let’s not shame people who didn’t know you shouldn’t flush tampons. my mom always told me to flush them and i only found out you can’t a couple months ago. there’s still so much like misinformation about periods even among people who have them. let’s all just learn from our mistakes and not make each other feel stupid.
On the topic of the importance of birthdays and how they have an impact on your personality: My birthday is in early January. Most of the time it was on the first or second day of school after the new year. In secondary school I had a classmate who shared a birthday with me. Every single year people would bring her balloons and gifts and congratulate her while completely ignoring me. This experience definitely had a huge impact on my self-esteem, self confidence and how I see myself. So many factors around your birthday can have an impact on your emotional wellbeing. That should never be played down or forgotten. To have your birthday be on Christmas in particular really sucks, because you cannot separate those two events. Where everyone else will get presents two times a year, you'll only get them once. Having a birthday party on your birthday will also never really be a thing, because it's Christmas. To then have this event also tainted by the death of not ONE, but BOTH parents is absolutely terrible. I feel very sorry for OP. Her husband is also super unsupportive and disrespectful. Why go running to your mom immediately? However, I also think OP blew the issue of the Christmas tree out of proportion. It is just a tree and she cannot dictate what people put up in their houses. OP could still have a beautiful experience decorating a Christmas tree with her child. OP and her hsuband kind of suck. The MIL I will not judge, because there are not enough information on how she reacted. At least it doesn't seem as if MIL was reacting in a rude / bad way to hearing the news from her son.
I feel for op on the birthday thing. My birthday is right before Christmas and more times than not I'd get a birthday/Christmas present rather than them being separate. Getting a Christmas card with a written in happy birthday is kinda disheartening.
I feel you, my birthday is January 3rd. Every time in elementary when one of the outside monitors (basically teachers watching the kids and making sure they’re not getting into trouble or if they get hurt they can run over and help) would start singing happy birthday to students (that they knew more than others) during lunchtime I always got excited for my turn. But I never got sung to. I even knew a girl who’s birthday was during the winter break and she got sung to! It’s a small problem, but it hurt me because I felt lonely and I wanted the attention of my fellow classmates and that friendship bond that the monitor and student had. But on the bright side, I had teachers that would celebrate kid’s birthday’s during the winter break. Some of my teachers were better than others :)
I think some people are just confused because they thought it was common knowledge, but of course it depends on where or what type of household they had and how open their family’s were
@@BisexualBeauty I’m part of the new generation I’m 17 and I knew not to flush them but that’s because I was told not to. Not everyone has an open family and a lot of people weren’t taught about periods at all. It’s also not someone’s first thought to google how to deal with them. The best thing to do is to educate people and not shame them and to teach them the best way to deal with these things.
@@peace_golden1998 I understand that you're trying to be nice, but I'd like to note that many sanitary products come with instructions. No need to even google. I'm on the younger side too and my mother never taught me, so I read the packet and never had an issue.
@@mitsusah2612 Yeah I definitely get what your saying, just a lot of people don’t read instructions🤷🏻♀️ And yeah it might be common knowledge but a lot of people just don’t think that way. But I do get both sides of the argument I just think it could be easier to educate and not shame especially when woman still get put down for periods, body hair and other natural things.
Agree with everything you said. Throughout my marriage my husband and I have had our children join family traditions that were already in place before children, because we didn't want to upset anyone and we wanted to celebrate with everyone. However, it does hurt, as a mother, to never be the one that gets to create the traditions. Everytime we have tried to change things a little to have some of it be our own others have not been kind. But in my experience sometimes parents do things like put up the tree, eventhough it wasn't the "normal" time for them because they are purposefully trying to make the tradition they way they want it. Why didn't the mother in law call the mom and say "I was thinking this would be fun, what do you think?" It feels to me like the mother in law was overstepping a little too.
I totally agree. It made me wonder if MIL has over stepped small boundaries before and it's starting to add up and grate on OP. My MIL would pull crap like that
Yes I also wrap my tampons in toilet paper and throw them away. Since I first started having periods I was told to never flush them. Lauren isn’t the only one who flushed tampons but the more we educate to NOT do it the better :)
In reference to when to start decorating for Christmas, we wait until after thanksgiving to decorate BUT we keep the decorations up until after January 6th. In the majority of Mexican families, we celebrate 3 Kings Day (Jan 6) where the decorations are appropriate.
Saaame! Love kings day bc they also brought gifts and are so special to my childhood bc I was taught that on their ay to give baby Jesus his gifts they stopped by ours to give us a gift as well. Aaaaah sweet memories! Can’t wait to pass along this tradition to my son. And yes I keep my decorations until the end of January lol
When they were talking about the woman not telling her kids about Santa. It reminded me of what My mom always told me. She said that everyone has their own Santa
That’s so funny I was born and raised in California and I say “vague” like the first way you pronounced it! Like it rhymes with plague. I’ve never heard anyone say “vague” any other way! Accents are so interesting haha.
i’m from minnesota and i have always pronounced “bag” like vague but with a b. morgan wasn’t saying that the way she pronounces “vague” is the right way, she was saying is that because she had to reprogram how she pronounced “bag,” that changed how she says “vague” as well. hope that makes sense!
for the tampon discussion: i’ve literally gotten yelled at by my very mildly mannered father about flushed tampons that have clogged our sewage pipes so bad, that fecal matter and urine would come out of the bathtub drain. i NEVER flush tampons because of this (this happened years back when i first started using them in HS) but would happen every time i had girlfriends over. to the point i had to put a SIGN in my bathroom saying “DO NOT FLUSH TAMPONS, PADS OR BABY WIPES”. it never happened again. for context, we live in LA county in a nice small neighborhood so it’s not like we didn’t have good plumbing. so yeah, don’t flush tampons 😂
I didn’t know until I was college aged or older that you can’t flush tampons. My dad is a handy man and said they will wreck your septic tank. He said plumbers have to deal with them a lot and call white “white mice” :S .
My husband works for the city water system. I never wore tampons till after I had kids so I didn’t know you weren’t supposed to flush them until he had a bad day of unclogging some pipes and found tampons and found out I flushed them. Lesson learned. And this was literally 2 yrs ago. I was 27 yrs old.
The whole rant about Christmas and birthdays are really interesting. I felt really bad for this woman! She had a lot of traumas around Christmas and though she didnt handle it the best she could, no one gets a handbook on how to deal with trauma. I think she did the best she could at the time and her husband should have seen that. The husband is the asshole, not the wife who i feel miscomunicated.
But i feel that point 1 is the most important to her... At least it is how it looks like by the way she wrote the post. Maybe she told her husband that same way and that's why he got annoyed with her (not that it makes ok for him to go complaining about her to his mother.) She sounded very entitled with the first few points and then used the last few to draw empathy. Maybe i'm wrong... i lost a parent and have friends that lost both so i see how this could trigger her, but she should've kept the talk only about that. Her MIL sounds like someone that wants to keep the peace so it should've been easy to get what she wanted without the drama.
I understand that she has trauma but the thing is that it's not about her. Not everything revolves around her and the way she communicated how she felt made her sound super entitled and like she wanted the whole holiday to revolve around her feelings. Again, she might just be terrible at communicating and her husband definitely sucks too but her MIL seemed like she was trying to accommodate her (albeit ridiculous) requests. I don't know, she gave me very Karen vibes.
@@claudiarodrigues4965 yeah I think she could have explained herself better, I just feel that if theyre all a family then they should at the very least take her trauma into account, you know? Your own trauma is yours to deal with and it doesn’t give you any right to be an ass, but if your family cares about you shouldn't they not want to put you into that situation in the first place? Then again, maybe you're right and shes just a Karen, who even knows right lol
@@C0C0N0T they aren't really her family tho, they're her in-laws. If they were family, husband included, there would be discussions not snap judgments & vindictive phone calls.
@@joanahalfeld As a child born on Christmas Eve, I see her side a lot more than most. Point one is fair to be the most important because she wants to have that first time with the kiddo, which is entirely fair. I personally hate seeing all this stuff about Christmas before December, I don't care afterwords, but beforehand its just very uncomfortable because it reminds me of all the times I wanted my birthday party on the day and never got to cause people always preferred their families.
Timestamps: Into - 0:00 First story - 7:03 Second story - 15:55 Third story - 41:28 Fourth story - 1:05:58 Fifth story - 1:16:05 Hey guys! Sorry this timestamp took so long, I was busy with family for the holidays and finals! Speaking of finals, Good luck on your finals this year, and I hope you have a wonderful holiday season!
With the Christmas redit: OP needs to talk to the mother in law directly and explain why and how she feels. Invite her over for the tree decorations day so it is special for all. The AH here is the husband for not listening to his wife for her to explain her standpoint. When her loss this time of year I understand her standpoint. The emotions that come up is not easy to deal with.
Okay for the tampons, i was never taught to not flush until i was 21 and never knew it was not okay. When i would read “please do not flush feminine hygiene products down” i always just thought it meant the plastic and i was like “duh” 😂
Okay same lol, my mom never told me not to flush them. It wasn't until I was probably 20 and moved in with my aunt and cousin and they told me not to flush them.
I'm sorry. It's very hard and I hope you are doing ok. That's so loaded but I do hope you can get through it and be ok on the other side. It's hardly a consolation prize but you're depth of self is so much greater than most people you meet and you'll be the best person anyone can know as a result.
**NEVER** flush tampons! My dad works for our local city’s sewer division and he taught me young NEVER to do it. Morgan’s right it, it will clog your pipes and you will be in charge of the bill not the city! It’s not worth it!!
For the Christmas tree story going up before Thanksgiving, that whole situation could’ve been different if her husband and wife actually sat down for the conversation. I feel like some of her points were very valid and the mother-in-law would’ve totally understood if the husband would’ve gave her the time of day to listen and to relay. That would open a door for the wife to have a conversation in bond with the mother-in-law.
I appreciate this but mother in law already wrote off my mother's death 10 years before this situation. I shared with her the trauma quite emotionally and her response was My mom died too. Granted my mother's death was when I was 12 and hers was in her 40s after the births of both her children. The outcome of this whole thing was so funny because I actually am so feeling about people's experiences but my MILs reaction to my Mom death story is the only off-putting one I've had. It was honestly super bizarre. Most ppl go with wow, that's hard.
I have a lot of period related issues and whether a cup, tampon or pad, I bleed on the sheets at night. I agree she should have cleaned it up, but it's not because of negligence that some people get blood on the sheets. On my first day I fill a menstrual cup at least twice.
Agreed. I would’ve also put down a ton of towels if I knew I had a history of that and was staying at someone else’s place. No shame in heavy periods but she def needs to be more courteous about dealing with them!!
Hey, have you tried the disk? Maybe your bleeding+the shape of your vaginal canal is not the best for cups which is totally okay. Cups are a standard product for a body part that varies a lot in shapes but maybe the disk keeping your blood from getting through your cervix might be your best bet.
It's not always negligence, but it clearly is on her part because she's also not even bothering to flush the bloody toilet water or wipe off the seat. I've had to use a full pad with a super tampon before, so I get it (maybe that may work for you?).. But frankly, if a person knows this is likely to occur (which she obviously does), you can bring your own sheets and pee protector to protect the mattress of your host. I would have been just as straightforward with her. It's either don't come, or bring your own blow-up mattress and sheets. Once is an accident, twice is intentionally being disrespectful & there won't be a third time.
As a December baby I feel the pain that comes with it. As an adult I feel horrible for wanting anything because I now understand the financial stress that comes with having a birthday so close to Christmas. Birthdays get togethers always get trumped by Christmas parties and gatherings. My mum did a sweet thing for me growing up where we never put decorations or the tree up until after my birthday. It was more important to celebrate me first, and then christmas. I hated christmas for a very long time until I came to appreciate she did that
The lady that doesn’t want a Christmas tree at thanksgiving I can kind of understand. It sounds to me like she wants to reclaim the holiday season a little bit after all of the loss she’s experienced in that time of the year. Just one holiday season of doing it the way you want and being a little stingy can help set a new pattern and reclaim that season
My mother is a case manager for a few home health agencies and it's honestly just heart breaking to hear this woman talk about how she didn't want the home health aid at Thanksgiving. My mother works so close to these home health aide and they are so underpaid and mistreated. It makes me so upset to hear stories like this.
On the topic of the Christmas tree story, it would be a really lovely tradition for the whole family to decorate the tree together after the Thanksgiving meal. My family did this at my grandma's house before my parents' divorce and it is a really fond memory. Especially if you have some sentimental ornaments, it can be so fun and sweet to go through all of those things together.
Tampon flush story: I flushed one at my friends house (older house) I clogged the pipe and FLOODED the house!! And my friends room was in the basement and water was everywhere busting through the ceiling everywhere it was a mess! Tampons expand in your pipes & ruin them! The pipes are not that big. Always throw them in the trash !!! My sister used to ALWAYS flush them my mom would have to pay $500 to have the plumber out. My kids use flushable pipes and our pipes are old cast iron so their not smooth and the wipes get stuck and clogged over time and again $500 plumber bill. DONT DO IT
I know this episode is from forever ago, but I’m getting such a kick out of Lauren’s shock over tampon disposal. When I used tampons, I would always put the old one inside the wrapper of the new one I was about to put in. Kept it from leaking blood all over and getting sticky in my hands and inside the tiny trash bin.
So good to see Lauren back! Love this episode! The talk about Santa was great, my parents would always get us the big present and Santa would get us something small to go with the present. Example: I got a bicycle one year from my parents and Santa got me the helmet to go with it.
Canadian here. We celebrate Thanksgiving pretty much the same. It's a statutory holiday here where we gather with friends and family around a big wonderful feast. With turkey, ham, stuffing, different kinds of potatoes, pies, etc etc. All to celebrate what we are thankful for....then we go into food comas for approximately 3 days from the feast and all the leftovers 😊
Friendly linguist to help! Your ancestry has nothing to do with your pronunciation, people do not inherit languages. Your pronunciation is a matter of regional accent, probably typical to where you grew up. Especially since what people call you out on is vowel placement - unlike consonants which have a set place of articulation within the oral cavity, vowel placement differs between each individual. Vowels are more prone to changes between accents of the same language. I say don't care about regular speakers who play pronunciation police, you've been approved by a linguist to pronounce things with vowels that feel natural to you ;)
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I’m sorry, but for the Thanksgiving/Christmas tree story I’ll have to say, I definitely understand her being triggered by the time of year, but OP comes off as out of touch. For one, it could’ve been handled waaay better by being an adult & directly having a heart to heart with her MIL & it could’ve been a different outcome or some form of compromise(no guarantees) rather than going to her husband (which I do agree he poorly handled it which wasn’t fair to her). Overall it’s unfair to not only gatekeep, but practically give an ultimatum over a tree. As harsh as it sounds, no one is responsible for your triggers especially someone who you don’t even live with, so how does it sound to expect others to tiptoe around you over a certain time of year. My sister passed December 2nd last year two days prior to her son’s birthday & prior to that my family definitely hasn’t made the holidays ~enjoyable~ growing up, but I don’t expect everyone to tiptoe around me that time of year bc it’s no one’s responsibility. Outside of this holiday story, I genuinely hope she seeks help for her trauma for her own well being & also couples counseling bc your spouse is definitely not supposed to throw you under the bus.
Lauren…… PLEASE don’t flush them. My neighbor flushed her tampons in a city, and out of nowhere one day the backup got so bad that the pipes burst and peoples poop was flowing down from their yard, down the sidewalk, into our whole neighborhood. They had to pay for all of it. 😭 Nobody I have ever met has flushed them except that neighbor.
I had a friend growing up who had her birthday on either Christmas or new years eve, and every year she would have her birthday party on a random date in the summer instead. An idea for people in the same situation.
That’s really neat! My nieces is bday is 4 days before Christmas and she tries very hard every year to make sure Christmas and her birthday are 2 separate days. If family can’t see her until Christmas and has bday and Christmas she has asked them in the past to make sure the wrapping paper or gift bags distinguishes which the gifts are for. So that my niece knows which ones which and they don’t get thrown together.
Yes Lauren! most people wrap up tampons and put them in the trash. I know someone that add a huge septic problem in their business because the pipes were cloged with hundres of babywipes and tampons
I grew up in Minnesota and say bag like "Beg" and i think I've grown so attached to these podcasts because y'all are from Minnesota and i miss it there so much
I think another reason that the grandparents lied to the grandchild about their father could actually be more related to her death. If she died when the kid was 2, presumably when there daughter was probably 19, there's a good chance that they look at the son like the last piece they have of their daughter so they were probably afraid the father would want custody if he found out about him when she passed.
That doesn’t ring true. They moved their daughter away when she got pregnant, & cut her off from the love of her life. She would’ve been 17 when she died, if she’d been 18+ she would’ve been able to get away & contact her Son’s father, but she never got that chance.
As someone who’s birthday is on Christmas Day, I can agree. It’s tough having your birthday on major holiday. It’s never really your birthday. Especially when you’re growing up and everyone gets gifts on your birthday. It’s never about you.
We have a block behind my mom's house we all call "the tunnel of lights" in my town. It starts Thanksgiving and ends after new years eve. This is the HOLIDAY season. The Jewish family on the street lit up a star of David on their roof every year to be part of it. It was beautiful how they all participated together, they strung lights across lines between each yard to make it a tunnel (tall enough for truck clearance, they really worked on this) my whole life. It's amazing. Let people enjoy the season their way.
I've literally never even heard of people flushing tampons/pads. I told my mom about it and said what I just told you. She said "Yeah my sisters used to do that and our plumbing was always horrible"
Storytime time: been flushing my tampons all my life and it we never had any plumbing issues aside from minor backups here and there. Well I moved in with my boyfriend who is staying at his parents family house, well one month and one period later I have absolutely ruined the plumbing, it's a two story house and the parents stay downstairs and have their own bathroom, well that bathroom was filling up with shit. And I had to go out with my boyfriend to buy a shit vaccum so his parents could manage all the shit that filling their bathroom floors and leaking into their downstairs living area. I was mortified, both bathrooms were unusable showers, sinks, toilets and the kitchen sink too. 6 plumbers later and my boyfriend's mom who is an angel and very forgiving after I apologize profusely came to my door with the plumber to tell me that tampons were found clogging the pipe and the plumper showed me pictures to which I tried to hide my horrified expression under apologies and telling them I didnt know but I won't flush them from now on, it was.. mortifying. I took the rest of the day off from work and sulked thinking I ruined my image and relationship with my boyfriend's family. Well the next following week I had my boyfriend give his mother 1k from me, and he too gave her funds to cover the cost of the plumbers, and also to help with the cost of remodeling the bathroom as it is now needed. Moral of the story. Don't flush tampons.
So for the tampon debate, definitely wrap well and throw away!! The christmas tree story stumped me, I definitely empathize with all of her different triggers, but like you said as an adult she should have been able to talk these things through with her MIL, especially now that we know the MIL agreed not to put up the tree, even after the husband threw her under the bus!
The last story had an update that was so bittersweet ⚠️ TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️ After the parents moved them away the ex fell into a depression and ended up committing suicide but before she died she wrote everyone a goodbye letter, one for her parents, her older sister, the son, and one for Op. The sister who was also lied to about Op, kept ahold of his letter because she thought he was a deadbeat and didn’t deserve the ex’s last words, but never actually read the letter. Op gets into contact with the sister and tells her the truth, at first she doesn’t believe him, but later that day with her curiosity peaked she decides to finally read the letter and everything was there. The sister finally delivers the letter, apologizes to Op and agrees talk to the son for Op and tells him everything. Now with Op vindicated the son calls Op asking if they could meet up again, they meet up at Op’s house, it was tense at first, but they eventually ended up bonding over Op’s memories of the ex. The son cuts off his grandparents and moves out. In the end Op and his son maintain contact, but his son is still a bit short with him as he hasn’t fully worked through his emotions and has to unlearn the hatred for Op that was built up over the years. Not the best ending, but still a hopeful one all the same.
Girl my tree stayed up till March last year too!😂 I had just had my 2nd born last December so it just wasn’t a priority & it was nice to have the cozy lights on from the tree whenever I woke up with the baby for his feedings. We would relax on the couch while he fed & I’d turn a show on or UA-cam on & the tree just made it so relaxing. And I totally agree with Lauren, I think the Christmas lights on our houses should stay up till it’s not cold out anymore! We unintentionally keep ours up on our house till it starts getting warm out😅
Omg the situation about the dad not knowing about his son and the grandparents turning the son against the dad after the mom died literally happened to my dad as well. He had no idea and the mom died when his daughter was around five, and she found him when she turned 18.
Lauren always has 50/50 takes for me, but her birthday explanation really hit me. Like my grandma died in September, which is my birth month. Even tho my birthday is at the end and her death was at the beginning, it's still just, hugely impactful And my cousins birthday is christmas
I’m just concerned for how many tampons Lauren has flushed in her life 😳
Really😑
Seriously
Yeah, wtf people, don't flush your tampons!! 😱
In Europe it’s so normal to flush them though, I don’t know of anyone who doesn’t.. they’re marketed as flushable so I never knew there was even a debate around this until this video!
Edit: seems like my info is outdated (I haven’t used tampons in almost 10 years since discovering the cup). I checked the tampons in my supermarket and they say DO NOT FLUSH so there you go. Don’t flush em guys!
@@kellycatrina2891 as a European I have to say that definitely not everywhere 😅 I don’t know anyone who DOES. We have those toilet paper rolls that are marketed as flushable but I’ve also read that they’re really not that flushable either…
Crying at Morgan saying “Dixie Cup” 😂😭 it’s Diva Cup Morgan 😂❤️
There are several brands of menstrual cup; moon, diva, dixie etc. She's not wrong for saying saying dixie lmao
@@emmaward2530 Correct me if you find otherwise, but there is not a Dixie menstrual cup brand. Dixie cups are paper disposable cups definitely not for putting inside you.
@@jadenlee2575 theres a brand of mentrual cup called "pixie cup" I assume that's where the confusion comes from! Dixie cup is a brand of tiny disposable cups
She might’ve just been doing word play or had misspoke idk why it’s such a big deal
@@emmaward2530LMAO Dixie Cup is a paper disposable cup. 😅
Wrap in tissue paper and throw in the trash. That’s what you do with tampons, unless you want to get a huge plumber bill. Eventually tampons will clog your toilet pipes. Flushing your tampons is also very harmful to the environment. Just don’t flush your tampons…
I completely AGREE!!! It doesn’t sit right with me that Thanksgiving gets passed by! In my eyes because people don’t like being thankful for things, they’d much rather get things (you don’t get gifts on thanksgiving)! And it’s pushed so much because of money! The stores and CEO’s make SO MUCH money during Christmas time and it’s disgusting how they shove it down people’s throats. I prefer to give thanks then get gifts
Exactly! And doing it in other people's places is so rude. You don't know the state of their pipes abd you are certainly not paying for the plumber whenever this accumulates to a significant issue
How many public bathroom signs that say “don’t flush feminine products” has Lauren ignored!?!
Literally the reason I stopped doing my homework was to comment on this … HAS LAUREN EVER PAID ATTENTION!?
Never flush the tampon, never cross the streams…life rules 101.
@@KillerKistal To be fair, she might just not use tampons, we don't know
One of my best friends works in the septic industry and he has told me some stories about unclogging cases at malls and shopping centers.. you would be mind blown how many woman ignore that sign! 🤢
@@emmab5204I don’t use them and I know…
@@baileyspeltbeefy1768good for you 🙄 not everyone was taught. Not everyone reads random signs. Not everyone reads tampon boxes. You're not better just because you knew not to flush tampons. Stop acting like it.
My mom taught me to flush em 🤷♀️ I got my period when I was 10. I listened to my mom.
Thank fuck my bc stops my period so I don't have to deal with that anymore, but you're not a bad person for flushing a tampon, Jesus.
I’ve actually never flushed a tampon! I was always too scared of them clogging the toilet so to save the arkward convo if it did I always wrapped them and thrown them away ahaha
As you should
My grandma has her tree up year round and decorates it for every holiday! Her
July 4th tree this year was cute!
i went to comments to read about people's talking about Thanksgiving (in my country we do not celebrate it, but i love the stories!) but everyone is talking about FLUSHING TAMPONS 😳
That’s what I’m sayinnnng. It was a small moment in the podcast but the comments are filled with tampons 🥴 I like to watch on UA-cam vs listening on Spotify to read what people have to say
What is your culture?
@@moondriedtomato I'm from Poland, we don't celebrate Thanksgiving here
Honestly I don't understand the "family only" aspect of Thanksgiving. Growing up we had third cousins, great uncle's, the neighborhood kids, spouses, bfs/gfs, family friends, and even co-workers. We ALWAYS had too much food and it basically turned into a block party every year.
For them not to even want his son there is wild the son is family it would be the sister nephew
This sounds so much more fun.
This sounds amazing! I’m a single mom, widowed, with one daughter and we always have a small Thanksgiving every year. I would love to find a family like this that would let us come celebrate with a bunch of happy people.
friends giving has been the best thanksgiving ive gone to
we threw a “Friendsgiving” this year! Much less drama than a family thanksgiving lol
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also btw if you haven't already look at his post the one right before the "dad" one it talks abc the goodbye letter and such it almost makes me cry and overall it gets better for the two of them. I loves your guys podcast and can't wait for the next episode!
THX for the time!!
Sometimes the commentary gets a bit repetitive or long winded. Thanks for the time stamps 🙏🏼
My adhd brain struggles to pay attention for too long if I know the outcome of the conversation ☠️rip
Love people like you 👍🏼
you are a god send
So there's a new update for the last story, the dad ended up inviting his son to dinner. He said the son wasn't comfortable meeting the entire family yet so just the two of them spent Thanksgiving together and it was great. It must be so tough for them both but I'm glad things seem to be working out ☺
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I’ve missed Lauren but I don’t know anyone else who flushes tampons… it’ll add long term chemicals to local water systems, ruin sewer filters, and can clog your pipes over time, resulting in build ups that can be thousands to fix. If someone flushed a tampon in my house, I don’t think they’d be allowed back unless they agreed to stop…
Yeah when your in school and get that talk
The most important thing and they take your Brain and push it there is “ DONT FLUSH YOUR SHIT DOWN THE TOILET.”
I've had people flush panty liners down our septic tank it clogged in no time. We had to unclog it ourselves in the snow at midnight. I now have a deap hate for for people who flush sanitary products
@@NameName-yj7lp I was never taught that in school lol
From the uk here. I never knew you couldn’t flush tampons. My mum taught me that you flush them. Not pads of course
@@caitlinshields4828 From the uk here as well, and I was always been told to definitely don’t flush them. It’s most likely what everyone has been taught but I have never knew anybody who flushes them🤷🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️
My sister literally BROKE THE WATER PIPES by flushing her tampons. They got all mangled together and got stuck in a sewage pipe and just clogged it. Everyone on the street was so pissed off because no one knew until the street started to smell horrible and the smell would back up into people's houses. The town board had to put out a statement to homes in town that used the sewage system saying the tampons are not flushable
That sounds like the type of story that is someday going to be told at her wedding😂😂
If anyone EVER put tampons in my toilet they would be immediately banished from my house. Grown adults should not have to be told not to destroy others' property like that.
Yes yes yes to the Santa thing. We are very privileged and teach our kids that Santa brings 1 smallish gift, for this exact reason. They know that we are the ones providing everything else and the magic of Christmas is still there lol.
Love this! My mum always used to say Santa brings the stockings and then I had 1 or 2 small gifts like colouring books that were from Santa, the rest I knew were from the family
I had a similar system. Santa would bring new pyjamas, sweets and things like that. Then I knew there were some gifts from my family and I always made something for them as well.
I personally do not want to tell my kids about Santa because I don't think they would even believe it. I don't remember what it was like when I was 3/4 but from when my memories begin I never believed my parents nor friends that Santa existed. My brother didn't either. I also don't want them to go through the trauma of realizing that all the magic that we as their parents (whom they should be able to trust completely) told them existed, never actually existed. I think I'll focus on emphasizing the beauty and magic of reality rather than telling them about Santa. That being said, different strokes for different folks. These are just my views and I understand how others may feel differently. :) Do whatever feels right to you.
My mom never told me santa existed, i knew it was her buying me gifts, she told me who santa was and that I needed to be respectful with my friends and don’t tell them that santa it didn’t exist and tbh it didn’t affect me in any way, on the contrary it made me respectful of other peoples believes and to understand whenever my mom was struggling money wise
Yeah I always had my stocking from santa and usually one gift from santa next to my stocking. All gifts under the tree were family gifts to me, my parents, and any other family members we were with that year
"I thought you were having a meltdown. I was just waiting for it to stop" why is Lauren ME 😂😂😂 I love her!
Best part 🤣🤣
The fact Lauren was getting irritated that you aren’t supposed to flush tampons.They even have signs in public restrooms. Yes, people are supposed to throw sanitary products away, my dad is a plumber.
Agreed, even the box clearly states do not flush
@@kellycatrina2891 Not all boxes in Europe, I have never seen a tampon box like that
@@kellycatrina2891 Which country, because the Netherlands all brand stay do not flush.
Its not even allowed lol. Same in Spain, Germany, Belgium and the UK atleast.
@@CarinaSchrijft just checked the boxes in my supermarket (I haven’t used tampons in almost 10 years) and you’re all 100% right, it says do not flush down the toilet.
My mom taught me tampons are flushable and I didn’t learn otherwise until college
Morgan: “it’s really bad”
Lauren: “is it tho?”
Morgan and I together, emphatically: “YES!”
Yes Lauren it is really bad. Can cause clogs and thousands of dollars of plumbing damage!
omg same
Lmao I said the same thing!! Jesus Lauren 🤦♀️
I’m mind blown people would think it’s ok to flush tampons down the toilet lmao
Same I am shook
Oop! I'm in the minority here 😳😳 I'm mind blown at all the comments saying NOT to flush them. I winder if this is a regional thing? I've been told they're safe to flush my entire life and literally every woman in my life flushes them. I'm so curious now!
@@belindarocky961 can I ask where you live? Just out of curiosity. In the UK the tampon boxes have writtin on in capitals 'DO NOT FLUSH' and every woman I currently know doesn't flush them.
However, I used to know a girl who did flush them (I knew her when we were teenagers at school). And her mum taught her to flush them. I pointed out the instructions say 'do not flush'. But she said her mum had done it for years and it had always been fine.
So I think it depends on how women were taught to use them.
Also, some people are going to do whatever they want no matter what evidence you provide on why that thing is bad e.g. can block your pipes, bad for the environment, causes problems in sweage plants. In my experience, those type of people only change when something bad happens to them e.g pipes are blocked and they are landed with a HUGE plumbing bill.
@@xwinwinwinx I'm on the east coast of the US.
We in New Zealand flush them
2nd story: It’s maybe okay to have a family dinner together but not to exclude anyone on THANKSGIVING. Sister definitely has got issues to not see her nephew. What the kid do? Nothing!
ive never even thought of flushing a tampon. I literally just found out a few years ago there are women who do this and I was floored. always securely wrap them in toilet paper and into the trash. I mean I thought it was obvious since they have those little disposal bins for sanitary items in public restrooms. What did Lauren think those bins were for? lol
Same! I was shocked.
Yeah my mum taught me that when I was ten. Never imagined anyone would flush period products til years later Omf
She never said she flushed her tampons though. She was asking the question of WHY exactly we can't flush tampons down the toilet. I'm pretty sure she knows what the sanitary bins are for.
@@michellefierro9816 I think her reaction kind of implied that she flushes them cause I'm not the only one who thought that
Pads. Flushing those is an actual psycho move lmao plenty of people flush tampons
I can never imagine telling my brother that since I don’t like his wife, I don’t want to be apart of my nephews life. Like she seriously needs to grow up!
I throw my tampons in the trash. My mom didn’t know they couldn’t be flushed, and it backed up our pipes when I was a kid. Morgan is correct, even if that doesn’t mess up your pipes it will end up in a giant mass, and not decompose.
My mom didn't either, except it hasn't backed up our pipes yet. She won't listen to me and thinks i'm crazy, so I guess I'll just wait for the tampons to teach her to stop.
@@sageseeker9197 it’s literally on the box! But I understand my mother was also extremely stubborn.
But that’ll happen when you put them in the bin too?
The Christmas tree one really hits home! My grandma (my dad's mom) died the day before my mom's birthday. We were with her when she died and she told my mom that she still better have a cake and celebrate her birthday. It's been a couple of years and I now always dread my moms birthday, which I feel terrible for also 😅
You shouldn’t flush tampons because they will clog up the pipes! I learned my lesson years ago after getting a hefty plumber bill.
Wrap it in TP and throw away
Whoever told you that British people say "ruined" as "rooned" lied to you 😂 I'm English, and I say "roo-ined"
Irish and georgie folks say rooned - kinda!
I feel so dumb and kinda concerned that no one’s ever told me not to flush a tampon! I never even considered wrapping it in toilet paper and putting it in the trash. My family has always had this weird aversion to putting toilet paper in the trash can so I assumed that meant tampons too😅 I will take this knowledge with me going forward haha
I have a seperet trashcan for my tampons, still rap it in toilet paper and then put it in that trashcan 🤗 jut a tip.
And, sorry for the spelling, I have dyslexia and I am from sweden 🙈🙂
My mom wouldn’t put a trash can in the bathroom because our dog would destroy it all. I was so embarrassed to walk around the house with a toilet paper with my tampon in it that I flushed my tampons for a long time… but no one ever told me how bad it was for the plumbing until I was in my early twenties 😳
I was never told to not flush tampons either! I didn't think it was right but I also didn't know how to dispose them.
Finally, people like me! I never knew this was wrong until recently. My mom never wore tampons so I just assumed you flushed it.🤷🏾♀️
what do you do with pads tho
Christmas tree story: I would say ESH if the husband actually just went ahead and called his mum AND said that it was just because she wanted to do it first. She sounds controlling and like she has issues with lacking control, but some of her points like the deaths of her parents around Christmas can be considered.
I’ve missed Lauren!!! Who else loves seeing her? 😩💕
Me!!! I've missed her imput in these latest episodes!
Same! They’re a great duo
Meee, she's so prettyyy
She's awesome
Yeah!! I love how unique her inputs are! She always tries to see both sides of the story and empathizes with everyone involved.
In regards to inviting people to holiday gatherings - just do it! We are a military family and we always make sure everyone has a place to go to enjoy a holiday home cooked meal. We’ve fed as many as 20 people on the fly and as few as none. You never know the difference it can make to not have to spend a holiday alone!!!!
Where I'm from, every single place explicitly puts up signs in the restrooms to not flush ANYTHING but toilet paper. Every type of sanitary product (tampons, pads, etc.) are to bei either wrapped or put in special bags provided and then thrown on a bin.
Same here. But I haven’t worn tampons up until 2 yrs ago so my brain was like why would anyone flush a pad??? I’m mortified of how my brain assumed it was only for pads and not tampons but I’ve learned since then 😭🤣
For the fourth story: Mu mother has an open door policy for the holidays. Anybody can walk through our door and eat. Even if they don't want to sit and stay, they can fix a plate and take it with them. Nobody should be alone if they don't want to be for the holidays. Have a heart. It can be such a lonely time for people.
My FIL just had a sugar attack, (sugar dropped bad, below 60) it got worse so we had to call the ambulance. I was watching this and making rice and while I’m trying to help the paramedics and my FIL all you can hear is “Am I the asshole” 😂😂😂 EMT knew who you were and me and her bonded over it 😂😂 this just happened btw
Sugar under the tongue will raise it back up pretty quickly. Also have him carry glucose tablets. Mine drops all the time and sometimes without warning. A few weeks ago it dropped and after I started eating 2 glucose tablets. Then while shaking and fumbling around trying to keep from blacking out I tested my sugar and it was 38. I know how to handle my sugar dropping drastically. My mom is a nurse as well so even though it’s a very horrible and scary feeling when your sugar drops I am always prepared and know what to do unless I’m too late and starting to black out. That last time a few weeks ago was the last time it went that low. All I could do was take the glucose tablets and lay down while I bounced in and out of consciousness until it came back up. That’s the lowest I’ve ever seen it on the monitor.
can we talk about how Lauren’s hair is GLOWING in this episode!! 😍y’all are both gorgeous
Can you post the links to the stories please! I need to see if there is an update to the SIL not wanting the wife and toddler at thanksgiving!! I love these stories so so much
They're at the description box
For me the christmas tree thing is about how much stress christmas brings. I didn't enjoy the fall season this year at all just from hearing the music playing at stores. It automatically takes me into the stressed out ptsd moment of panicking that I don't have enough money and I've forgotten to buy certain gifts, or the decorations aren't put up, or some dish we're making for the holiday burnt. It's a knee-jerk reaction at this point. I kept having to take deep breaths at the grocery store for thanksgiving this year and remind myself that it wasn't christmas yet while I tried to avoid stressing out too much standing next to the christmas sweaters at walmart.
I totally relate and agree. While she maybe didn't handle it in the best way, I'm sure that grieving on top of all that is enough to make a very rational person act out.
I, h a t e, seeing Christmas stuff out during fall. It's FALL. AUTUM. Why on earth is Christmas stuff out? I adore Christmas but it also gives me such bad anxiety. I don't get panic attacks I just get angry haha. My biggest pet peeve is people who put their trees up early or all year round. To me it's tacky and doesn't allow other holidays their time to shine but that's just me. I noticed my opinion is not one that is commonly shared haha 😂😅
As to the second story, it sounds to me like the sister is the "squeaky wheel" child who is constantly coddled because she'll lash out if she's told "no." Taking an old grudge out on a child is disgusting and his parents are despicable for enabling this behavior.
tampons expand in liquid imagine what those are doing to your septic system 😂
If I stayed at a someone house and bled on the sheets I'd be sneaking to their laundry in the middle of the night to clean them because I'd just be that embarrassed 😅😅🤣😂🤣🤩😍
It blows my mind how many people flush tampons. It literally says on most tampon boxes to not flush them. Do you put cotton balls or q-tips in toilet? No. Geez
I think that if you grew up flushing toilet paper, it sounds like it makes sense to flush tampons, so I can see where the confusion comes from
@@theyoutubeanalyst3731 eh I grew up in Australia where you only flush toilet paper, we generally do not flush tampons and are given sanitary disposal bins in most toilets
@@cruciothelight same in Argentina
@@cruciothelight I guess, but apparently it's not that extended knowledge to avoid flushing tampons. It's just a guess though, in my country even flushing toilet paper will get the pipes fucked.
@@cruciothelight same here in the uk, but I’ve seen some comments from other people from the uk saying they do flush them. I guess it just differs to what people have been taught but I thought it was common knowledge🤷🏻♀️
y’all let’s not shame people who didn’t know you shouldn’t flush tampons. my mom always told me to flush them and i only found out you can’t a couple months ago. there’s still so much like misinformation about periods even among people who have them. let’s all just learn from our mistakes and not make each other feel stupid.
I’m 44 and I had never heard not to flush tampons, except in the case of a septic tank. Shoot, my mom used to flush her hair and dental floss. 🤦🏻♀️
On the topic of the importance of birthdays and how they have an impact on your personality:
My birthday is in early January. Most of the time it was on the first or second day of school after the new year. In secondary school I had a classmate who shared a birthday with me. Every single year people would bring her balloons and gifts and congratulate her while completely ignoring me. This experience definitely had a huge impact on my self-esteem, self confidence and how I see myself.
So many factors around your birthday can have an impact on your emotional wellbeing. That should never be played down or forgotten. To have your birthday be on Christmas in particular really sucks, because you cannot separate those two events. Where everyone else will get presents two times a year, you'll only get them once. Having a birthday party on your birthday will also never really be a thing, because it's Christmas. To then have this event also tainted by the death of not ONE, but BOTH parents is absolutely terrible. I feel very sorry for OP. Her husband is also super unsupportive and disrespectful. Why go running to your mom immediately? However, I also think OP blew the issue of the Christmas tree out of proportion. It is just a tree and she cannot dictate what people put up in their houses. OP could still have a beautiful experience decorating a Christmas tree with her child. OP and her hsuband kind of suck. The MIL I will not judge, because there are not enough information on how she reacted. At least it doesn't seem as if MIL was reacting in a rude / bad way to hearing the news from her son.
I feel for op on the birthday thing. My birthday is right before Christmas and more times than not I'd get a birthday/Christmas present rather than them being separate. Getting a Christmas card with a written in happy birthday is kinda disheartening.
I feel your pain. My birthday is 2 days after NYE
@@verakeys8912 it can be difficult having a birthday close to holidays things tend to get smoothed together.
I feel you, my birthday is January 3rd. Every time in elementary when one of the outside monitors (basically teachers watching the kids and making sure they’re not getting into trouble or if they get hurt they can run over and help) would start singing happy birthday to students (that they knew more than others) during lunchtime I always got excited for my turn. But I never got sung to. I even knew a girl who’s birthday was during the winter break and she got sung to! It’s a small problem, but it hurt me because I felt lonely and I wanted the attention of my fellow classmates and that friendship bond that the monitor and student had. But on the bright side, I had teachers that would celebrate kid’s birthday’s during the winter break. Some of my teachers were better than others :)
Lauren asking if “sleuth” is a real word made me laugh for like 5 minutes straight
Between the tampon flushing and the word sleuth this episode made laugh. Oh Lauren
Same 😂😂
Be easy on Lauren, most women were not taught how to deal with periods at all.
I think some people are just confused because they thought it was common knowledge, but of course it depends on where or what type of household they had and how open their family’s were
With google there is no excuse...new gens are just ignorant
@@BisexualBeauty I’m part of the new generation I’m 17 and I knew not to flush them but that’s because I was told not to. Not everyone has an open family and a lot of people weren’t taught about periods at all.
It’s also not someone’s first thought to google how to deal with them.
The best thing to do is to educate people and not shame them and to teach them the best way to deal with these things.
@@peace_golden1998 I understand that you're trying to be nice, but I'd like to note that many sanitary products come with instructions. No need to even google. I'm on the younger side too and my mother never taught me, so I read the packet and never had an issue.
@@mitsusah2612 Yeah I definitely get what your saying, just a lot of people don’t read instructions🤷🏻♀️
And yeah it might be common knowledge but a lot of people just don’t think that way.
But I do get both sides of the argument I just think it could be easier to educate and not shame especially when woman still get put down for periods, body hair and other natural things.
Agree with everything you said. Throughout my marriage my husband and I have had our children join family traditions that were already in place before children, because we didn't want to upset anyone and we wanted to celebrate with everyone. However, it does hurt, as a mother, to never be the one that gets to create the traditions. Everytime we have tried to change things a little to have some of it be our own others have not been kind. But in my experience sometimes parents do things like put up the tree, eventhough it wasn't the "normal" time for them because they are purposefully trying to make the tradition they way they want it. Why didn't the mother in law call the mom and say "I was thinking this would be fun, what do you think?" It feels to me like the mother in law was overstepping a little too.
I totally agree. It made me wonder if MIL has over stepped small boundaries before and it's starting to add up and grate on OP. My MIL would pull crap like that
Yes I also wrap my tampons in toilet paper and throw them away. Since I first started having periods I was told to never flush them. Lauren isn’t the only one who flushed tampons but the more we educate to NOT do it the better :)
In reference to when to start decorating for Christmas, we wait until after thanksgiving to decorate BUT we keep the decorations up until after January 6th. In the majority of Mexican families, we celebrate 3 Kings Day (Jan 6) where the decorations are appropriate.
Saaame! Love kings day bc they also brought gifts and are so special to my childhood bc I was taught that on their ay to give baby Jesus his gifts they stopped by ours to give us a gift as well. Aaaaah sweet memories! Can’t wait to pass along this tradition to my son. And yes I keep my decorations until the end of January lol
When they were talking about the woman not telling her kids about Santa. It reminded me of what My mom always told me. She said that everyone has their own Santa
That’s so funny I was born and raised in California and I say “vague” like the first way you pronounced it! Like it rhymes with plague. I’ve never heard anyone say “vague” any other way! Accents are so interesting haha.
That's how we say it in the UK:)
I had no idea anyone said it differently 😂
i’m from minnesota and i have always pronounced “bag” like vague but with a b. morgan wasn’t saying that the way she pronounces “vague” is the right way, she was saying is that because she had to reprogram how she pronounced “bag,” that changed how she says “vague” as well. hope that makes sense!
for the tampon discussion: i’ve literally gotten yelled at by my very mildly mannered father about flushed tampons that have clogged our sewage pipes so bad, that fecal matter and urine would come out of the bathtub drain. i NEVER flush tampons because of this (this happened years back when i first started using them in HS) but would happen every time i had girlfriends over. to the point i had to put a SIGN in my bathroom saying “DO NOT FLUSH TAMPONS, PADS OR BABY WIPES”. it never happened again. for context, we live in LA county in a nice small neighborhood so it’s not like we didn’t have good plumbing. so yeah, don’t flush tampons 😂
I didn’t know until I was college aged or older that you can’t flush tampons. My dad is a handy man and said they will wreck your septic tank. He said plumbers have to deal with them a lot and call white “white mice” :S .
My husband works for the city water system. I never wore tampons till after I had kids so I didn’t know you weren’t supposed to flush them until he had a bad day of unclogging some pipes and found tampons and found out I flushed them. Lesson learned. And this was literally 2 yrs ago. I was 27 yrs old.
Awww I’ve noticed the “roon” for “ruin” when you say it. It’s endearing. 😊
The whole rant about Christmas and birthdays are really interesting. I felt really bad for this woman! She had a lot of traumas around Christmas and though she didnt handle it the best she could, no one gets a handbook on how to deal with trauma. I think she did the best she could at the time and her husband should have seen that. The husband is the asshole, not the wife who i feel miscomunicated.
But i feel that point 1 is the most important to her... At least it is how it looks like by the way she wrote the post. Maybe she told her husband that same way and that's why he got annoyed with her (not that it makes ok for him to go complaining about her to his mother.)
She sounded very entitled with the first few points and then used the last few to draw empathy.
Maybe i'm wrong... i lost a parent and have friends that lost both so i see how this could trigger her, but she should've kept the talk only about that. Her MIL sounds like someone that wants to keep the peace so it should've been easy to get what she wanted without the drama.
I understand that she has trauma but the thing is that it's not about her. Not everything revolves around her and the way she communicated how she felt made her sound super entitled and like she wanted the whole holiday to revolve around her feelings. Again, she might just be terrible at communicating and her husband definitely sucks too but her MIL seemed like she was trying to accommodate her (albeit ridiculous) requests. I don't know, she gave me very Karen vibes.
@@claudiarodrigues4965 yeah I think she could have explained herself better, I just feel that if theyre all a family then they should at the very least take her trauma into account, you know? Your own trauma is yours to deal with and it doesn’t give you any right to be an ass, but if your family cares about you shouldn't they not want to put you into that situation in the first place? Then again, maybe you're right and shes just a Karen, who even knows right lol
@@C0C0N0T they aren't really her family tho, they're her in-laws. If they were family, husband included, there would be discussions not snap judgments & vindictive phone calls.
@@joanahalfeld As a child born on Christmas Eve, I see her side a lot more than most.
Point one is fair to be the most important because she wants to have that first time with the kiddo, which is entirely fair.
I personally hate seeing all this stuff about Christmas before December, I don't care afterwords, but beforehand its just very uncomfortable because it reminds me of all the times I wanted my birthday party on the day and never got to cause people always preferred their families.
Lmfaoooo the "beg" vs "bag" I'm dying. I moved to hawaii from wisconsin and everyone asks what im talking about 😂😂 same with "milk" vs "melk"
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Why would anyone think flushing a tampon is beyond me, it clearly doesnt disintegrate in water, would you flush a pad? No, its basically the same
With the Christmas redit:
OP needs to talk to the mother in law directly and explain why and how she feels. Invite her over for the tree decorations day so it is special for all. The AH here is the husband for not listening to his wife for her to explain her standpoint. When her loss this time of year I understand her standpoint. The emotions that come up is not easy to deal with.
Okay for the tampons, i was never taught to not flush until i was 21 and never knew it was not okay. When i would read “please do not flush feminine hygiene products down” i always just thought it meant the plastic and i was like “duh” 😂
Okay same lol, my mom never told me not to flush them. It wasn't until I was probably 20 and moved in with my aunt and cousin and they told me not to flush them.
That’s what I thought too
Same! I thought it meant the applicator! I’d been flushing for at least 12 years 😅😅😅
that’s what i thought too, have always flushed them and didn’t know 😭
SAMMMMEEE‼️ I found out last year, and I was 21!
Just became an orphan myself and I understand having the holidays being hard
I'm sorry. It's very hard and I hope you are doing ok. That's so loaded but I do hope you can get through it and be ok on the other side. It's hardly a consolation prize but you're depth of self is so much greater than most people you meet and you'll be the best person anyone can know as a result.
**NEVER** flush tampons! My dad works for our local city’s sewer division and he taught me young NEVER to do it. Morgan’s right it, it will clog your pipes and you will be in charge of the bill not the city! It’s not worth it!!
For the Christmas tree story going up before Thanksgiving, that whole situation could’ve been different if her husband and wife actually sat down for the conversation. I feel like some of her points were very valid and the mother-in-law would’ve totally understood if the husband would’ve gave her the time of day to listen and to relay. That would open a door for the wife to have a conversation in bond with the mother-in-law.
I appreciate this but mother in law already wrote off my mother's death 10 years before this situation. I shared with her the trauma quite emotionally and her response was My mom died too. Granted my mother's death was when I was 12 and hers was in her 40s after the births of both her children. The outcome of this whole thing was so funny because I actually am so feeling about people's experiences but my MILs reaction to my Mom death story is the only off-putting one I've had. It was honestly super bizarre. Most ppl go with wow, that's hard.
Omg thank god!!! 😭 I’ve been checking your channel everyday for a new video. I have fallen in LOVE with your channel in such a short time ♥️
I am 30y/o and just now learned to not flush tampons!!!! You’re not alone Lauren!
Girl you could’ve had the most perfect setup for the Brooke Linens ad. 😂 “speaking of period blood-ruined sheets…”
OMG NOOOOO. Such a missed opportunity
For tampons, my mom taught me to use the wrapper of the second tampon you’re unwrapping to put the tampon holder in.
I have a lot of period related issues and whether a cup, tampon or pad, I bleed on the sheets at night. I agree she should have cleaned it up, but it's not because of negligence that some people get blood on the sheets. On my first day I fill a menstrual cup at least twice.
Agreed. I would’ve also put down a ton of towels if I knew I had a history of that and was staying at someone else’s place. No shame in heavy periods but she def needs to be more courteous about dealing with them!!
Hey, have you tried the disk? Maybe your bleeding+the shape of your vaginal canal is not the best for cups which is totally okay. Cups are a standard product for a body part that varies a lot in shapes but maybe the disk keeping your blood from getting through your cervix might be your best bet.
It's not always negligence, but it clearly is on her part because she's also not even bothering to flush the bloody toilet water or wipe off the seat. I've had to use a full pad with a super tampon before, so I get it (maybe that may work for you?)..
But frankly, if a person knows this is likely to occur (which she obviously does), you can bring your own sheets and pee protector to protect the mattress of your host.
I would have been just as straightforward with her. It's either don't come, or bring your own blow-up mattress and sheets. Once is an accident, twice is intentionally being disrespectful & there won't be a third time.
My flow was so heavy as a teenager that at night I had to wear a Super+ tampon AND two overnight pads, and sometimes I still leaked on my sheets. 🩸
As a December baby I feel the pain that comes with it. As an adult I feel horrible for wanting anything because I now understand the financial stress that comes with having a birthday so close to Christmas. Birthdays get togethers always get trumped by Christmas parties and gatherings. My mum did a sweet thing for me growing up where we never put decorations or the tree up until after my birthday. It was more important to celebrate me first, and then christmas. I hated christmas for a very long time until I came to appreciate she did that
your mother is amazing for that, truly ❤
The lady that doesn’t want a Christmas tree at thanksgiving I can kind of understand. It sounds to me like she wants to reclaim the holiday season a little bit after all of the loss she’s experienced in that time of the year. Just one holiday season of doing it the way you want and being a little stingy can help set a new pattern and reclaim that season
Thank you
My mother is a case manager for a few home health agencies and it's honestly just heart breaking to hear this woman talk about how she didn't want the home health aid at Thanksgiving. My mother works so close to these home health aide and they are so underpaid and mistreated. It makes me so upset to hear stories like this.
Lauren and Alejandra are my faves! Love to see her back on the pod!!!
On the topic of the Christmas tree story, it would be a really lovely tradition for the whole family to decorate the tree together after the Thanksgiving meal. My family did this at my grandma's house before my parents' divorce and it is a really fond memory. Especially if you have some sentimental ornaments, it can be so fun and sweet to go through all of those things together.
Tampon flush story:
I flushed one at my friends house (older house) I clogged the pipe and FLOODED the house!! And my friends room was in the basement and water was everywhere busting through the ceiling everywhere it was a mess!
Tampons expand in your pipes & ruin them! The pipes are not that big. Always throw them in the trash !!!
My sister used to ALWAYS flush them my mom would have to pay $500 to have the plumber out. My kids use flushable pipes and our pipes are old cast iron so their not smooth and the wipes get stuck and clogged over time and again $500 plumber bill. DONT DO IT
I know this episode is from forever ago, but I’m getting such a kick out of Lauren’s shock over tampon disposal. When I used tampons, I would always put the old one inside the wrapper of the new one I was about to put in. Kept it from leaking blood all over and getting sticky in my hands and inside the tiny trash bin.
So good to see Lauren back! Love this episode!
The talk about Santa was great, my parents would always get us the big present and Santa would get us something small to go with the present. Example: I got a bicycle one year from my parents and Santa got me the helmet to go with it.
Canadian here. We celebrate Thanksgiving pretty much the same. It's a statutory holiday here where we gather with friends and family around a big wonderful feast. With turkey, ham, stuffing, different kinds of potatoes, pies, etc etc. All to celebrate what we are thankful for....then we go into food comas for approximately 3 days from the feast and all the leftovers 😊
Friendly linguist to help! Your ancestry has nothing to do with your pronunciation, people do not inherit languages. Your pronunciation is a matter of regional accent, probably typical to where you grew up. Especially since what people call you out on is vowel placement - unlike consonants which have a set place of articulation within the oral cavity, vowel placement differs between each individual. Vowels are more prone to changes between accents of the same language. I say don't care about regular speakers who play pronunciation police, you've been approved by a linguist to pronounce things with vowels that feel natural to you ;)
I was literally wishing and praying you’d bring up the way you say Ru-Ined lol
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I know this is an old ep but I'm truly bewildered. Lauren! We were all always wrapping and throwing away 😭
I’m sorry, but for the Thanksgiving/Christmas tree story I’ll have to say, I definitely understand her being triggered by the time of year, but OP comes off as out of touch. For one, it could’ve been handled waaay better by being an adult & directly having a heart to heart with her MIL & it could’ve been a different outcome or some form of compromise(no guarantees) rather than going to her husband (which I do agree he poorly handled it which wasn’t fair to her). Overall it’s unfair to not only gatekeep, but practically give an ultimatum over a tree. As harsh as it sounds, no one is responsible for your triggers especially someone who you don’t even live with, so how does it sound to expect others to tiptoe around you over a certain time of year. My sister passed December 2nd last year two days prior to her son’s birthday & prior to that my family definitely hasn’t made the holidays ~enjoyable~ growing up, but I don’t expect everyone to tiptoe around me that time of year bc it’s no one’s responsibility. Outside of this holiday story, I genuinely hope she seeks help for her trauma for her own well being & also couples counseling bc your spouse is definitely not supposed to throw you under the bus.
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Lauren…… PLEASE don’t flush them. My neighbor flushed her tampons in a city, and out of nowhere one day the backup got so bad that the pipes burst and peoples poop was flowing down from their yard, down the sidewalk, into our whole neighborhood. They had to pay for all of it. 😭 Nobody I have ever met has flushed them except that neighbor.
I don’t flush ANY period/waste products. It all get either wrapped in tp or placed in the wrapper of the new one I’m changing into.
I had a friend growing up who had her birthday on either Christmas or new years eve, and every year she would have her birthday party on a random date in the summer instead. An idea for people in the same situation.
That’s really neat! My nieces is bday is 4 days before Christmas and she tries very hard every year to make sure Christmas and her birthday are 2 separate days. If family can’t see her until Christmas and has bday and Christmas she has asked them in the past to make sure the wrapping paper or gift bags distinguishes which the gifts are for. So that my niece knows which ones which and they don’t get thrown together.
Yes Lauren! most people wrap up tampons and put them in the trash.
I know someone that add a huge septic problem in their business because the pipes were cloged with hundres of babywipes and tampons
I'm with Lauren. I just learned that you're not supposed to flush tampons 😳😳😳
I grew up in Minnesota and say bag like "Beg" and i think I've grown so attached to these podcasts because y'all are from Minnesota and i miss it there so much
I think another reason that the grandparents lied to the grandchild about their father could actually be more related to her death. If she died when the kid was 2, presumably when there daughter was probably 19, there's a good chance that they look at the son like the last piece they have of their daughter so they were probably afraid the father would want custody if he found out about him when she passed.
Oooo such an interesting take. I think you’re on to something
That doesn’t ring true. They moved their daughter away when she got pregnant, & cut her off from the love of her life. She would’ve been 17 when she died, if she’d been 18+ she would’ve been able to get away & contact her Son’s father, but she never got that chance.
I agree with you PeachesRGreat!
As someone who’s birthday is on Christmas Day, I can agree. It’s tough having your birthday on major holiday. It’s never really your birthday. Especially when you’re growing up and everyone gets gifts on your birthday. It’s never about you.
Are we the ones that flush ? 😭 my mom always told me “just flush it trust me it’ll be ok” 🤣
We have a block behind my mom's house we all call "the tunnel of lights" in my town. It starts Thanksgiving and ends after new years eve. This is the HOLIDAY season. The Jewish family on the street lit up a star of David on their roof every year to be part of it. It was beautiful how they all participated together, they strung lights across lines between each yard to make it a tunnel (tall enough for truck clearance, they really worked on this) my whole life. It's amazing. Let people enjoy the season their way.
NOT a tampon flusher! Always in a bin! 👍
I've literally never even heard of people flushing tampons/pads. I told my mom about it and said what I just told you. She said "Yeah my sisters used to do that and our plumbing was always horrible"
Storytime time: been flushing my tampons all my life and it we never had any plumbing issues aside from minor backups here and there. Well I moved in with my boyfriend who is staying at his parents family house, well one month and one period later I have absolutely ruined the plumbing, it's a two story house and the parents stay downstairs and have their own bathroom, well that bathroom was filling up with shit. And I had to go out with my boyfriend to buy a shit vaccum so his parents could manage all the shit that filling their bathroom floors and leaking into their downstairs living area. I was mortified, both bathrooms were unusable showers, sinks, toilets and the kitchen sink too. 6 plumbers later and my boyfriend's mom who is an angel and very forgiving after I apologize profusely came to my door with the plumber to tell me that tampons were found clogging the pipe and the plumper showed me pictures to which I tried to hide my horrified expression under apologies and telling them I didnt know but I won't flush them from now on, it was.. mortifying. I took the rest of the day off from work and sulked thinking I ruined my image and relationship with my boyfriend's family. Well the next following week I had my boyfriend give his mother 1k from me, and he too gave her funds to cover the cost of the plumbers, and also to help with the cost of remodeling the bathroom as it is now needed.
Moral of the story. Don't flush tampons.
I love LAUREN episodes, she is so cool and talks sense
So for the tampon debate, definitely wrap well and throw away!! The christmas tree story stumped me, I definitely empathize with all of her different triggers, but like you said as an adult she should have been able to talk these things through with her MIL, especially now that we know the MIL agreed not to put up the tree, even after the husband threw her under the bus!
I absolutely love the way Morgan says ruined!
The last story had an update that was so bittersweet
⚠️ TRIGGER WARNING ⚠️
After the parents moved them away the ex fell into a depression and ended up committing suicide but before she died she wrote everyone a goodbye letter, one for her parents, her older sister, the son, and one for Op.
The sister who was also lied to about Op, kept ahold of his letter because she thought he was a deadbeat and didn’t deserve the ex’s last words, but never actually read the letter.
Op gets into contact with the sister and tells her the truth, at first she doesn’t believe him, but later that day with her curiosity peaked she decides to finally read the letter and everything was there.
The sister finally delivers the letter, apologizes to Op and agrees talk to the son for Op and tells him everything.
Now with Op vindicated the son calls Op asking if they could meet up again, they meet up at Op’s house, it was tense at first, but they eventually ended up bonding over Op’s memories of the ex.
The son cuts off his grandparents and moves out.
In the end Op and his son maintain contact, but his son is still a bit short with him as he hasn’t fully worked through his emotions and has to unlearn the hatred for Op that was built up over the years.
Not the best ending, but still a hopeful one all the same.
Thank you for this!!
Girl my tree stayed up till March last year too!😂 I had just had my 2nd born last December so it just wasn’t a priority & it was nice to have the cozy lights on from the tree whenever I woke up with the baby for his feedings. We would relax on the couch while he fed & I’d turn a show on or UA-cam on & the tree just made it so relaxing. And I totally agree with Lauren, I think the Christmas lights on our houses should stay up till it’s not cold out anymore! We unintentionally keep ours up on our house till it starts getting warm out😅
Omg the situation about the dad not knowing about his son and the grandparents turning the son against the dad after the mom died literally happened to my dad as well. He had no idea and the mom died when his daughter was around five, and she found him when she turned 18.
Lauren always has 50/50 takes for me, but her birthday explanation really hit me. Like my grandma died in September, which is my birth month. Even tho my birthday is at the end and her death was at the beginning, it's still just, hugely impactful
And my cousins birthday is christmas