Bob, a 65-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful 25-year-old blonde: she proceeds to knock everyone's socks off with her youthful appeal and charm. She also hangs on Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word. His buddies at the club are all aghast. They corner him and ask. "Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?" Bob replies. "Girlfriend? She's my wife!" They're knocked over, but continue to ask. "So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?" Bob says: "I lied about my age." His friends respond: "What, did you tell her you were only 50?" Bob smiles and says: "No, I told her I was 90." 😅
that is called a gold digger. Bob is having a good time... while a good looking wealthy man like me has never even been in a relationship or had sex at my age
Fast forward five years, and Bob is divorced. Why you ask? Because Bob has (ED) Bob has low energy and very low testosterone. Bob is old and unattractive to his much younger wife. All Bob has to hold on to her with is his finances. Poor guy 😂
I enjoy dating younger women because they are generally happier. Older women have lower self-esteem. Most guys don’t care about a few wrinkles or gray hair. My advice to older women is forget the Botox. Concentrate on the beauty inside.
My father is 16 years older than my mother. He always joked that he wanted her to take care of him in his old age. Sadly my mother passed away a year ago and left my dad devastated. They were incredibly happy. Don't listen to all the feminists criticizing older guys dating younger women, do what makes YOU happy.
As a 32 year old man that has dated both sides of the spectrum older/younger women and I prefer to be with an older woman and ill explain why. BTW I'm part Irish and it will become clear later in the story why I'm saying this and this story is quite long I appreciate the time for those that read jt. 1) Alot more mature 2) alot more respectful easy going 3) they know what they want and they know how to properly communicate. 4) they aren't after my resources and I'm not after hers. 5) The bedroom action is alot better with older women .Younger women never really satisfied me sexually and it was mostly just boring. Older Women actually like sex and they are more open minded about trying new things. Here's a my story I was 20 years old I had broken up with my 3rd gf because I caught her cheating with her dead beat ex bf. Then about a few months later I went out to a restaurant my date didn't show up so I went by myself and I saw this real attractive and beautiful woman who latter became mybwife sitting by herself so I decided to talk to her and she said she had a date however he never showed up and then I said mine stood me up to and she asked me to join her and I obliged we started talking and then after we ordered our food she asked me how old I was and I told her to guess and she said I was at least in my early mid 30's and then I told her I was 20 she was kind of surprised at first because she said I looked older than that. Then I guessed that she was in her mid late 20's and she said no I'm 37 years old. I was a little surprised myself because she didn't look a day over 30 tbh based on 1st impressions. Anyways we continued our dinner and talked some more she said she worked for a company made good money etc and I make pretty good money myself at 20 working on my journeyman anyways we stayed in touch for several years after that she considered us to be a long term FWB and we would go out for dinner dates etc she always insisted on paying for everything I didn't object to this however as a traditional man I told her I want to pay for dates dinner etc not just her every time and she finally relented which im surprised she did after so long of always insisting on paying for everything and told me ok you plan the next date for us. On my 23rd birthday I planned a special date for her So the 1st destination was the Salon to have her hair and nails done 2nd I took her shopping bought her clothes shoes etc. Then I bought her a Claddagh ring at a jewelry store and she really adored and appreciated the rings beauty and I told her she wears the finger on her right hand with the heart pointing towards her to indicate she is in a relationship or with heart pointing towards her fingers to symbolize that we are just friends she put it on with the heart pointing towards her. Then we went and ate lunch then I took her to the art museum and then I took her out to dinner at a fancy restaurant and then we finished the night off by going out to the club and we danced a little bit. Then after we went back hoke she said it was the best date a man ever took her on and she said she wanted to properly thank me for it then i told her i had fallen in love with her and she got teary eyed when i said it and hugged and kissed me and said shenhas fallen for me to long story short she said tonight i wont have to wear a condom and that night I ended up getting her pregnant and 2 months later when she told me the news I was so happy and her parents already really liked then when we announced the pregnancy her family was really excited and happy for us and at the dinner I planned i got on my knees and asked her to marry me she started crying and screaming yes then I put the ring on her right finger to symbolize we were getting married everyone in the crowd was cheering. Now I'm 32 years old and my wife is 49nwe have a 9 year old son still together to this day and we are intimate at least once a day sometimes 2x. If you thought the story is over I still have more to add over the years we've been together both me and wife have been subjected to negative stereotypes because of our age gap. Most common stereotypes against me are 1) he is just using her for her money which is completely false 2) That's probably his "Mother" like an adult mommy and that 1 particular infuriates both of us wife actually punched a woman in the face for saying it. 3) YOU can't find anyone your own age. I say I. Happy and she's happy it's none of your damn business. The most common stereotypes my wife gets are 1) She is old enough to be my mother when the word mother is uttered in regards to our relationship both me and her get real upset and angry. 2) She needs to find someone her own age. Now sometimes my wife gets called a cougar and she said damn straight I am she is proud to admit she is then she says your just jealous cause this fine man respects me treats me good and satisfies me while your single alone and miserable. Conclusion to my story is yes men do like younger women however certain men like me prefer an older woman it's just my own personal preference s everyone has theirs it's just important to respect life choices of others as long as their happy mind your own business and improve yourself instead of trying to pull someone into the same misery your currently in.
I appreciate your story. I used to think these relationships don't work until I learned that one of my heroes, Paul Stamets, married an older woman with kids at the start of his career and then went on to do critical research and development in mushroom science. To me, his career proved how correct his marriage was. Then someone I know married a woman 20 years older than him. I had my doubts, but his career has taken off and he loves his life and loves her. Then I followed this couple on youtube, Fitshortie Eats, and this crazy fruitarian lady found her soulmate in a younger man and then they had two kids. They are living their dream life. Could she have done this with any other man? I don't think so. Chippy is her soulmate. My older fiance cheated on me with a younger woman, so I developed a lot of false beliefs because of that. Then I found out that he was a serial cheater from his ex girlfriends. So I had to let go of those limiting beliefs about age differences.
If it works for the two of you, I'm happy for you. It's nobody else's damn business. People really need to learn how to mind their own business. I'm 1/2 Irish, 1/4 Scot, 1/4 Welsh by blood. Bloody American by birth and raising. Yes, in my family we are well aware of the Claddagh ring and what it represents.
Okay, but that’s not what a cougar is. A cougar is a woman who is specifically interested in younger man and she only goes for younger men. Also, the interest is purely sexual. If a woman falls in love with you and she happens to be older, that’s not a cougar. My partner is 32, I am 47. I have been called a cougar before and I feel insulted: they presuppose that I am using him, when in real fact, we love each other and neither of us was going for an age gap, which we were a little preoccupied with at first.
Then I've been a trend-breaker. The most unattractive thing for me is emotional & cognitive immaturity. So most of the women I liked were older. To me if she's older and in good shape, that trumps being young and unhealthy.
You're bringing personality into it though. This is just from the perspective of initial attraction. I think any guys would prefer an older, peaceful woman than a haughty, younger one for a long term relationship.
I notice that when we talk about this topic, a lot of people just have the vision of the 21 year old girl dating a 50-60 year old man which are not the most common age gaps. When we talk about men going for younger women and women being attracted by older men, the most common scenario are women in their 20's going for men in their 30's and early 40's. And yes this tendency happens from the earliest days. Girls in school are usually more attracted by boys a grade or two higher, it's very rare that a married woman is the exact same age or older than her husbands, usually the man is at least a few years older. Plus, most women openly admit not dating men younger than them even for just a year of difference.
@@sarahrobertson634 LOL It's amazing how some women like yourself who was not being addressed personally feel the need to try to convince a stranger on the internet.
@@sarahrobertson634 oh you ugly hoes care..you’re not fooling anyone..it’s too late for you skanks to change..might as well be sluts the rest of your lives 😂
At 26 I started dating a 19-year-old girl. She was madly in love, but the age gap actually seemed to be a problem in the sense that she was constantly insecure about how much further advanced I was in life compared to her (degree, adult job, knowledge, etc.) and felt incompetent. Despite her impressive efforts there was a gap in IQ as well, which didn't help her confidence either. So fellas, keep an eye out for those insecurities when you try younger women.
Do you feel 19 and 22 is as problematic as 19 and 26? I am a 22 year old guy and I like girl who is 19 so we are only 3 years apart and we are both in college and we tend to get along well and don't notice any difference.
I can attest to this. I am a female and my ex partner and I had a 5 year age gap and I will admit I was constantly comparing myself to him. I now realize we play two different roles in life man and woman, but I’m too late. I’d say there isn’t a problem dating younger women, but keep in mind, they are most likely less experienced at life and serious relationships. They’ll also mess it up, a lot of times. I know I did. So make sure you have patience, compassion, and understanding. This is my opinion and advice as a woman who found herself in this sort of relationship and who’s still learning. Good luck.
they dont get it.. older ppl fetishize younger ppl and use them as a social status symbol. for me its pretty clear that I need to date ppl I have a lot in common with and whos in the same stage of life as me.
@@manosijroy8282 age is important yes because our brains, personalities, experiences keep developing. elderly men preying on young ppl is just a red pill trope. women who are chasing young ppl are not well intended, nice ppl either. from what I have noticed for a relationship to work you need to have a lot in common with the person and see the world trough similar lenses. dont wait till you are old and more accomplished to find someone fitting or some asian teen.theres going to be too many cultural, financial, perspective differences. figure out what you want from someone and dont date anyone who doesnt have empathy for others, dont have tolerance for stress and dont deal well with the realities of the world. never let your hormones decide who you are dating because once you are in that phase its going to take around 2 years to get over it ;) look up the science of love and attraction and never waste time with the wrong ppl.
Young women are sometimes mocked with their infatuation about boys, weddings, planning weddings, reading about weddings, etc. But it's somewhat physiological. It's the flip side of this video. Young women want to nail down a good man while they are still young, because they know that's their most valuable asset. It's radical feminism that is messing with this paradigm and causing a generation of single women to grow older and miss their opportunity. (obviously this doesn't apply to all)
Most young women are married. It's your perspective of a young woman that's wrong. A young woman is a woman in her reproductive years. Not just women in their early 20s. You just want naive women because you're not family guys.
There's no point in marrying men who believe women "lose value" with age. Young women become old women eventually. I'm young and I'd rather stay single then date the types of men available nowadays, the ones who claim old women are ugly and useless
My mom went trough menopause at 57. Her last child was at her 48. My dad was already too old and they stoped to have sex after that. And my grandma had the last at 52 to 53. Maybe, it's genetics.
I'm 41, so please talk for yourself, like we say over here; it will be what you perceive; see it as a start with experience of what & who you do not want. It's better to have no relationship than a toxic one; and there are lots of reasons why women haven't started a family yet at our age; like illnesses in the past, etcetera. Women our age can still start a family; do not start shaming-victimizing us/self. Not all men want someone who has so little of life experience; not all men are the same, just like not all women are the same. I have a babyface; that means I am 41, I look like I am 25, and I am still waiting till someone of about my own age starts a talk with me ;p I mean, if that would be truth, that they want a young woman, then why are only young men interested in me, because of my babyface (them thinking I am around their own age); people/men of MY own age stay on a safe distance because of my babyface; because they 'think' I am too young, but well, I cannot walk around yelling my age, can I? ;p Most people even do not believe my age, well, it's a kind of mess in a way. But people just seem to be shocked, and if they start talking to me, lol, then they say it's just so weird because they had prejudices. Well, hope I won't met a man of my age who thinks I am 25 and then is disappointed because I am not the age I look like... Well, wish me luck ;p Anyways, just keep the faith alive, do not kill your own chances; stay open, ready & willing to meet that one right person; we are in this together... We are worth it, we 'are' beauty no matter what society shouts, and thus we owe it to ourselves to continue to believe that it can still be done.
@@82keiko I hear you, friend, but women have a clock, whether we like it or not, whether they like it or not. If I want to have a solid relationship with a woman, I will want to court/date her at least for two years before I want to start a family with her. A 39-year-old who wants to have children cannot afford to wait for two years, her fertility window is closing too rapidly. I've known mature 19-year-olds and I've known immature 37-year-olds. Women who do not think ahead will only start thinking about long-term goals when her options start to deteriorate. I wish it weren't so but experience has shown me otherwise.
@@immortaljanus So tell me about all of your experiences then, because you are not a woman, are you? You say it's the end of story for you, but you are then saying you are a man; well i am confused but it does not matter who you are ;p We are all in this together. But what is an immature 37 for you; how does that look like, maybe she was reflecting your wounds, and a 19 year old does not even know about life, let alone know who she really is, and what her wounds are... it's just a matter of time... for no one is perfect, and it's not about working at relating with others/partner, but with relationship with self; is a 19 year old prepared to work at herself? It's not only about your clock, it is also about your maturity. Healthy children doesn't mean a womb alone, it needs both parents who have first reparented themselves, so they are not still wounded that they mess up their children and make them sick, so afterwards, the next generation, has to hurry because of their clock ticking... because they became sick because of a messed up parental behavior towards them; i wish and pray that you find a very mature 19 year old, then. It takes more than your age for children to be healthy. I do not know how many women you had who were 40 and had problems with giving birth, but I do not know them personally. But I believe you are interested in people with a younger clock, and that's totally fine with me; each has to look for what he believes is more important in life: the age of the woman, I think it is more about the looks in first place if i read the general comments, not about the health inside and the future (because she TOO will age at a point); because you can look pretty and be younger of biological age but that doesn't mean you are healthier inside to deliver or grow a baby inside. I am not letting society tell me what to expect, but I understand if you are sure that a young woman will be better as a mother to your child and have a healthier delivery of it, one can only wish for but a body is more complex than that, and you do not see that with your eyes, you just hope you are right. But each must do as he/she pleases, I am not wasting energy at personal preferences ;p but I look young so naturally people of my age should be very interested in me, so in my experience only young men are interested (who think i am their age)... lol But please, be honest with yourself, do you want a younger woman because of her younger womb, of do you want a woman because you find that more attractive, or because society says that woman of your own age are boring like man of our age or what, just be specific (not for me, i mean, just for you to see what you find most important)... We don't have to hide what we prefer, we just should be honest with self, if we are honest as human beings with self, we can be honest with others too. It is as simple as that. I know enough women who are older than 40 so well, I you are scared of having a woman of your age giving birth, of find them unattractive, than i guess it's obviously better you look for a younger one who wants an older man. But to say that someone who is 40 is in her menopause already, well, that's like a societal idea of men LOL. Some women of my age, who have already had children, would love to hear that, to not have to deal with monthly inconveniences, you know; haha. Most important, but that is something personal, is self-love, so then you can have healthy love for someone else and not neediness; if children is number 1 priority, well, you could meet a young one who doesn't want or can have children as well... or who thinks; well, I am like you, I want to wait till I myself am 30 or 35 to start, because 19 is too young for me personally (for example) to start having children because you want them within 2 years... (like your clock is ticking, but the clock of a 19 year old might stop ticking for another 10-20 years and she will be still fine too... But hey, we do not have to make it that complex; let self-love lead the way... If people are meant to have children, that will come, and else we will have to accept it too...
I've been tossed aside by my sons mother for a neurosurgeon in his late 40's. She would have never met him had I not helped her to enter her career choice by becoming the stay at home father. It has not been an enjoyable experience(I've separated from her, and now have a 50/50 parenting schedule), but it has given me insights of great value. I wished I could have kept the family together, but letting her use me in the ways she did was unacceptable to me. My father raised my sister and I by himself, and I grew up believing that I would not do the same to my offspring. But, life is both wonderful and terrible, filled with peaks and lows. I am still searching for my one and only to build/share a prosperous/fulfilling future with. Best of luck to all on their Journey here on Earth.
@elise9537 lol you're very subtle, Elise. I need a woman like you in my life. To answer your question, no, he used her(my ex) and is still with his wife and daughter(shocking, I know). Life's greatest lessons are best taught through living them. I'm grateful to have lost a woman who betrays her partner and now have found an entertaining one on a UA-cam comments section.
I have never been attracted older men, physically. My ex husband was younger than me. and now that I am fifty, I am dating a much younger man. We have an strong chemistry. Women can be visual creatures too :)
Most of the men I've known have been a year or two younger than me. I've certainly never been into significantly older men. I think there is a lot of delusion out there in the "manosphere" regarding what they think women are into. It's also bizarre that they think we're not visual creatures.
@@capmidnite yeah but it's not exactly uncommon for the woman to be older, especially when it's only a couple of years. Age gaps of a couple of years where the bloke is slightly older are the most common. But this video is suggesting 50 year old men are teaming up with 18 year olds which is blatantly crap. It's also crap that women are at their most attractive at 18 (some might me, most aren't) and it's total crap that women aren't visual.
Maturity is probably the biggest factor. A lot of young people are into the party scene and hookup culture. If a woman wants a long term relationship, the odds are better with an older man.
Old guys when they want a relationship...they want for real and know all the specifics of it. That's a charm. If this guy has some appearance, behavior and a carrier. They can get a 25 or 28 girl in any time of his life. And yes, no kids and traumas is a good deal.
@@bobbob6743 I’m 42 and a virgin 😂. Was never in a rush to be in a relationship as I found no one I liked or any girl that liked me. If I had a chance, I’d be with an 18 year old virgin. Sue me.
Yeah and not only has the box been opened, the flaps are all worn out by someone else. Please advise young women to keep their virginity until marriage
When I was 25 I met the love of my life, he was 63! I found him irresistible and he was wise and loving, he also had enough money to take care of me. I was totally fulfilled by the love and didn’t even care about much money anymore. I think the maturity and wisdom of older men is very attractive to some younger women.
When my children were younger I employed young women, wanting to take a year break from their studies, to help with child care. I did this for 4 years with 4 different women. Each one at least once, was hit on by a man in their 40s/50s while working for me. Their advances were not received well in ANY of the cases. One woman working for me even came home scared and in tears. When I was in my early twenties I dated a man in his late 30s. It only lasted 6 months, we had little in common, we were in different places in our lives. A 15 year or less gap works, in my opinion, but when it goes beyond that....I personally have never seen a good outcome. My uncle, for example, was 30 years older than my aunt. My cousins were very sad when they lost their father as teenagers, and my aunt became a widow at 50. I definitely think men are drawn to younger women, but I am not convinced younger women reciprocate, unless they really just want money.
You are absolutely right. I’ve never ever been attracted to older men - but I’ve suffered their advances my whole life. So much so that I started to despise men and spent 10 years in therapy. No woman I know has ever dated an older man. I remember feeling disgusted when in my teens and twenties when a man my father’s age would try to flirt with me. Most young women I know don’t even know that older men hit on them - to them it’s not even a possibility. When I mention it I normally get a disgusted look. I am personally physically attracted to under 25 year olds and I am 40. I think that this guy is just trying to convince himself that young women want older men. He’s talking about less than 1%. I dated a guy who was 20 years older than me once. I remember thinking to myself how old he looked and today I cringe when I remember kissing him. I was embarrassed to tell anyone we were together - however briefly. I liked him as a person, we worked together which is the only reason I agreed to go out with him. This is a dangerous misogynistic rhetoric that he’s peddling here - disregarding 99% of women’s actual wants and needs and convincing men that they should pursue younger women because they are into older men. Today I date men younger than me mostly because the ones my age are falling apart lol And I don’t know a single guy who is with a much younger woman either. I don’t even know one who’s ever dated one. But I sure think that this video has made a lot of misogynists and incels happy lol
I don’t think so. All of the older men who hit on me just turn me off so hard. Idk why they’d even talk to me when they’re 15-20+ years older than me. I think they try to win me over by showing me their car and telling me how much they make only which isn’t what I want tbh.
I'll be real honest about men who do this to young women with the 20yr age gap. Recently, a guy I've been friends with for a very long time, he went after these women and he's 53 and the women are 26-30 years old. The only reason why he did this was for sex. He was not looking to commit to them in any way. He just wanted sex. So when I see men doing this, that's what I think of and the issue of how these slutty types will fall for his womanizing charms just blows my mind. Because when I was young, I could not stand the idea of dating someone that much older than me. My sex drive was over the top in my 20s, then there's the generational gap in age, and finally, being at completely different levels emotionally, physically, and mentally was ALL just too much to take into consideration. So when my friend told me what he did and that 3 of these stupid young women fell for that garbage, I told him, "I sure hope you used protection and that you get fully tested after all that. If they will jump in the sack with you, after only just meeting you and talking with you for a couple hours, then I can NOT imagine how MANY others they have slept with!" I'm utterly disgusted by people who have NO self respect and just fall for these types of men. I don't care that he's my friend and I've known him for 30yrs. I'm blunt and to the point, especially with people I've know for a long time. So I put him in his place and told him how disgusted I was. He backed off, realizing that he was coming across as some kind of perverted, womanizing, man-whore.
Reading this comment section, or in fact any comment section, makes you realize how many people believe their version of reality is the only reality. "I don't like dating older men, therefore that singular data point proves all women do not like dating older men." Sheesh.
@@dion5804h these young girls are getting pounded by older men everyday. Who gives a flying floppity about the marriage gap as if those married women are all virgins. I think whos fucking outweighs the importance of whose marrying. Considering 50 percent of Americans are unmarried and 50% of marriage’s end in divorce anyway.
@@jamesrick7351 Those are a very small minority of men and the women that they attract are with them because of their money or status, sadly. As soon they become ugly, ill or poor, they will regret of these marriages or relationships. Even side mistress can become real nightmares and ruin the life of their children as well. I watched this happening sometimes when I worked in upper class hospital. It's not pretty to see.
Its not just attraction. There are also very serious biological and psychological reasons too. If you can catch a girl BEFORE she goes through the absolute soul crushing grinder of college and university and the early work force you can kinda keep her calm, submissive, and soft. Not this loud, obnoxious, screeching, overbearing, violent behavior that follows after getting rolled over a 100 times during the college and early work force process. On top of that is simple reproduction. Birth defects, miscarriages, and infertility begin at 30 and exponentially increase year after year for most women and sometimes even earlier with all the toxins in our food, medicine, and water. Not to mention its easier for younger women to have multiple children. A 35+ year old has a baby and is like oh no I am done lol because she is older and can't bounce back from such a traumatic experience. A 20 year old can produce WAY more children than a 35-40 year old can. I have met some gorgeous women in their 30s and 40s but every single one of them was jaded, obnoxious, feminist who are very manipulative because they are so disgruntled by their bad choices. If you can find a young woman and nurture and keep these older women away from the younger women (they love to sabotage and make young women just as miserable as them) you can actually cultivate a beautiful relationship where you get what you want and the girl gets all that she wants without all the fussing and screaming. As long as you manage the marriage correctly and don't just let yourself go and not actively participate anymore.
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@@emeow7426 there is evidence men are hardwired for attraction to women who can breed. Nature at work. Not excusing it but that fact in addition to how shallow ppl have become and all the available porn snd the fragile ego of men in general….tadah
I read another perspective about this from a Psychologist who worked in Aspen. She said she saw a lot of wealthy older men with young women in the community. She stated that initially it worked out well but later the women seemed to feel like the men stole their youth and the relationship often ended.
@@popejaimie As if old people do not make foolish decisions. if you believe a 25 year-old woman is still not mature enough to make wise decisions, why not advocate for the age of consent to be lifted to 30?
Yes they are more attractive physically. However, never again will I bother with young women. They are too insecure, life is a mess, they just want to party, etc. I'm at a point were I have everything except a family so want a women not a girl. I want peace and calm from a partner not drama.
if there over 18 by law there not a girl lol also being older does not make u mature that's a Lifestyle thing. . I'm in my fancies. I still party with the young people. Half my social circle are between legal and 23.
The majority of younger people these days are hot messes. Guys too. Young Gay relationships are disastrous for other reasons but by this older/younger thing is just as common there, and just as unsuccessful.
@@corriescrivener1937 have you ever thought of what goes on in these young girls heads? that you are a dirty old man waiting to score for whoever is willing. I know it because I used to be this young girl with young friends and we get disgusted with old men who hang around younger women but of course we don't tell it to their faces.
I've been on both ends of this. I dated women 20+ years older than me, and now I'm with a woman 17 years younger. It happens. But I know that even though I dated older women successfully, I'm in the minority of men. Overall, younger women are simply more attractive, and many women don't wanna hear that. Though it's as basic and as true as saying that humans have two arms and two legs.
When I was 23 I had a sexual relationship with a 42 year old women. When I was 31 I had one with a 19 year old. A lot of different variations in between as well. I see the whole thing more from a orgasmic point of view. Younger women are better of with an older guy because he can hold back better and goes more for quality than quantity. An older women has enough experience with her own body, so she can catch up easier with the younger and more aesthetic younger guy.
And conversely, biologically younger men are more attractive, energetic, stronger, humorous, up to challenges and life positive than older men. In nature wild animals by instinct mate with their age peers.
Definitely younger for me and at 54 let’s face it few women are attractive at my age unless she’s a celebrity or takes good care of herself and makes an effort so I think it’s justified . Id rather be alone and buy a girl if I have to than be with anyone just for the sake of it .
@@H0lolo They don't necessarily. But for either sex who cares about soul, intellect and experiences, cultural alignment and compatibility, long term that factor rules, and complementarity of skills brought to the relationship. Younger people can be attracted to older who seem to have life and its issues figured out and solved. And people, depending on their life emotional histories, may prefer either a parent or child role.
My husband and I are 18 years apart. People online believe that my husband doesn't really love me but I know he does and has proved it. I couldn't be happier. ❤ My husband matches these qualities of the older man. He's actually 47 right now lol. One of the first things that attracted him to me is how informative I was about myself, I took care of myself and had a bubbly, welcoming attitude.
My bf and I are 20 years apart. We have a lot of haters, not just from older women but from older men who are jealous because they haven’t pulled a young woman.
@elise9537 he listens to me, has helped me form positive coping skills when all I used to do was punch things and drink. We're both sober. He is a really hard worker and knows about various topics. He's super creative and artistic. He's super in tune with his feelings and makes me laugh. He cares a lot about communicating with me. He's just super easy to be around. Hes level headed and chill as a cucumber. I'm also the one who came on to him, not the other way around as many think. We talked over the phone and bonded over family, Magik the gathering and anime. We're huge nerds. I keep adding things as I think of them 🤣
@@Why_Knott_Me well yes thats the context I am talking about.. actually told some of these guys not to make any creepy moves or comments :) and just be a normal, decent human being but I think they dont know how to fake that :)) otherwise they would. they watch all these tricks and tips on how to get women. they are either on the autistic spectrum or not so bright because everybody's doing the same lines, moves its annoying for women. why did you drink ? what kind of trauma do you have?
@elise9537 I've been sexually assaulted 7 times because my ex pimped me out for 6 years. I also had a boyfriend before this that later had 2 instances where he touched or pressured kids. This was a couple years after i broke up with him. He is a registered sex offender and was only a year older than me. He was incredibly threatening to be around and would blow up at anything. I broke up with him in a public place. My husband is the first man my parents have ever liked. My ex also didn't work for the majority of our 7 year relationship. He used drugs while I was pregnant with his son and would hide it from me. Obviously I found out. We had an open adoption with my best friends family. My ex isn't in the picture and doesn't talk to his son at all and doesn't care. I talk to my son when I can, and my husband and I pick out bday and Xmas gifts to send him every year. They live a few states away. Honestly it's one of the best decisions I ever made aside from getting away from my neglectful ex and getting clean. I'm almost 3 years sober. I'm a straight A student. I think the biggest problem a lot of women can have is when these things happen, they can blame men as a sex. These individuals that hurt me don't make up all men and remembering that is how I found a good man whose good for my mental and physical health.
I am a 36 year old woman with a 59 year old man. We were coworkers since 2015. He formed a close friendship with my family. After my boyfriend died last year from a sudden heart attack, he came into my life and we became more than just friends. He has done wonders with caring for me and my kids especially on an emotional level.
So... your boyfriend died a year ago, you had a whole family and kids with him... and you moved on to another man as soon as he died?? Sounds like you are a very emotional person and easily played into sex
Sorry tho hear about your troubles, but it sounds like you've found a kind competent man who will really appreciate you. I'm reading all these comments as I'm 60 and wondering what age lady could be appropriate for me, and I for her. For myself age is not an issue and never had been. If I'm attracted to someone age is not important really. Presentable Looks are very important and someone with an informed experience and who articulates feelings. Someone who reads too. All these loose prerequisites tend towards someone around 30and over and I'm sure I could find my Muse in her, I'm just getting a bit hung up about the age difference as it seems very important to women. I think Attraction trumps all really. Anyway, I think you're lucky, both of you. Wish me luck !
I was a virgin until the age of 26 - and after that womens interest in me went way up than when i was in my early 20s. I dont even look THAT different, but typically date women 4-8 years younger than me after my 30's
Careful! The rational male discusses this exact dynamic; men who start getting attention at around age 30 and women who start hitting their "epiphany phase" right around age 26-30 who seek this demographic of men. There's a very real reason for this; they're trying to cash in their chips before time runs out. My advice; don't date women over 25 (yet).
I’ve known men that actually like to date older women- and I’ve met women who prefer to date men their own age. A lot of women do not want to date an older man if he is controlling or father-like. Vice versa with a man not wanting the woman to be maternal-like. Honestly, I believe it’s just about personalities and what each person has to offer in the relationship. If both people make eachother happy I don’t think age should be an issue. My husband is 12 years older than me. But I didn’t marry him because he was older. We simply liked each others personalities and we clicked. I was 30 and he was 42 when we met.
I hate to admit this, but in my 50's I'm actually much pickier, perhaps because I'm not as testosterone driven as I was in my youth. I can't just **** anything that moves anymore. I'm exaggerating the difference but I was definitely able to get turned on by much less attractive women when I was younger. I think this issue (not being as virile and sexually driven anymore) plagues a lot of older guys and kind of forces them to seek out the hot women, which essentially forces them to date younger.
@@Sinsteel Less would be for sure. If there was pressure to not do something, such as say 60 years ago being sexually promiscuous, significantly fewer people did that. Now that it's open or "there is interest on both sides" it happens much more frequently. Similar principle. There will always be those that do things. Let's take an extreme, rape for example. Pretty much horrible in most/all cultures and societies. Yet it still happens, be it rarely. If there was now "interest on both sides" as it were, there would be a massive uptake in rape. So to your point, if it wasn't mutual there would be a few that are still attracted and go after young women, as there will always be with anything. But the majority wouldn't.
This comment section is giving me insecurity fearing that I would never be loved and cherished as I was in my 20s the same ever again when I get older, lose my shape due to biological factors, no matter how nice, decent and feminine I am to others. And I'm only 24 this year :)
There is a time limit on everything. That is the brutal reality of life. No person is perfect and thus there will never be a perfect relationship. Make best use of the time you have, some opportunities are gone forever.
The reason is very simple in terms of evolution. Women have a limited fertile age range. Men have to accumulate resources and status to support women during childbearing and rearing. In the past high child mortality meant that neither sex had the luxury not to use the woman's limited fertility window to its full (8 to 14 children was normal), hence men's fertility window extends much longer than women's.
It takes a 25 year old woman a few months to get pregnant by a man her age, while a man age 40 will take TWO YEARS to impregnate her. You are delusional
I agree. At age 45, I married a beautiful 27 year old woman. We were both at our peak attractiveness according to the factors laid out in the video. Fortunately, my wife is more mature than the average 27 (now 30) year old, so the relationship is still strong. We have our moments, which probably owe to the difference in experience and maturity, but overall, we are still very compatible.
Congratulations. I'm almost 40 and I'm looking for a woman between 27 and 31 with no kids, for something serious, maybe have kids in the future. My father met my mother (17 years younger than him) and had me in his 40's. 😊
@@Michelle.A79 Men seem to age better even though women live longer. Men in their 70’s can still attract younger women. Women in their 60’s and 70’s are still looking for men in their 70’s and 80’s. When I’m 70, my wife will be 52. Who’s she gonna cheat on me with - another 52 y.o.? No, because attractive 52 y.o. men are looking for 30-year-olds.
@@anthonyperrault4969 Jejeje not anymore! That’s not the case I know heaps of women who have cheated on their older husbands! And no women who’s 30 would go for a 50 year old man unless she’s a mail order bride.
@@Michelle.A79 Women cheat on their husbands no matter the age of the husbands. Propensity to cheat has little to do with the age of the partner. And it is not true that the only women dating men 20 years older than them are “mail order brides.” Maybe you should try dating someone significantly older than you. I think you may be surprised. I don’t know how old you are, but I can tell you that I have more than enough life and energy for my wife and young child. In fact, my very physically fit wife would admit that she has a hard time keeping up with me, not the other way around. But I’m still very youthful, athletic, and fit for my age. And I have no major medical issues. A prototypical 48-y.o. American male is fat, but it’s not the prototypical ones that are landing the young hot wives.
I love older men, like between 40-50 men genuinely look better. but the way people in the society look at big age gaps makes it nearly impossible to date someone 20 years older without being judged by everyone.. Which is really annoying 😢
OK and what is the assumption that a young woman does not come from a wealthy family? Or have a close relative with a handful of money. So then what if she doesn’t want it after all the family has it. That’s another possibility. That’s one reason why I don’t care about money. Just food for thought When I was in my early 20s, I was close minded to the idea of considering someone a lot older. Regardless of age, mental and emotionally mature ones versus predators are a lot harder to find.
Hi.. A real live woman here... here to tell you that Women in general do not like older men.. if u mean older than 3 years of her age.. We like to date men around our same age, whether that be within two to three years younger or older.. This is reflected in all the marriages out there where the statistics show that the husbands and wives are only a couple years apart at best. If u think a gal likes you and u r 5-10 years older than u r?? U r fooling yourself.. That is when she takes the liberty to try to balance things more to make things more fair to her so then she wants the old fart to make more money etc cuz she knows she is starting to get the bad end of the stick here in terms of inequality with the ages. Do you guys realize we think these things through?? We dont want the man to die ten years ahead of us and then we are widowed in old age. We think about this. We dont want the guy to not be able to have sex later on cuz he is so much older than us. We think about these things.. Wake up.. You guys tell yourself lies just to make yourself feel better.. When an older man by ten years or more looks at a woman we feel its creepy.. Its not fair to us since we are not gawking at men that much younger not because we dont think they are attractive, it just does not make LOGICal sense cuz of compatibility issues or simple fairness.
@@SuzyLemkeYou have no clue what women want. You’re probably over 25. Most men want women that’s 21. 25 is old. Most 21 year old women want wealthy men, irrespective of their age. You sound bitter 😂
As a female this makes me feel suicidal. I mean I already knew this stuff. Everyone does but I have been thinking hard about it the past couple years. I am 28 and have never been in a relationship, I was raised VERY sheltered and was not raised to have good confidence or social skills and I have been very isolated I am very sad. Guys did not like me when I was a teenager, because I was biracial in a white community before it was considered “cool” and “attractive” like it is today. What about my self esteem?
@@SuzyLemkehe Max average age gap in america seems to be about 7 years. But these guys are talking more about dating girls who are 10-15-20+ years younger.
@johnkeith2450 I'm 41, and a 66 year old man is my best friend. We're extraordinarily compatible, despite the age difference. I think the difference in maturity and personal security between a man in his 40s and a woman in her 20s is more significant and potentially detrimental to a relationship than the same age gap between a woman in her 40s and a man in his 60s. By that age, both are emotionally mature enough and knowledgeable of themselves to know what they want and to be considerate of the other person instead of self-centered and controlling or manipulative. Plus, it's less likely that either party will be drawn into a manipulative relationship with another person because they have discernment acquired from life experience that the younger set does not. By the time a woman is in her 40s, and a man is in his 60s, the gender and age disparities in maturity that affect the younger are pretty irrelevant. Both parties are emotionally and psychologically in the same grade and share the same desires for the relationship and for life goals. Whether an age gap relationship is viable or not has less to do with the difference in years and more to do with the difference in maturity.
I think this may be the case when the women don't have money. The women I grew up with were career women and had their own money. They expected a handsome man about the same age. They were just as shallow about looks as men.
"To want" means "to lack." So it makes sense that people want what they don't have, and to want less what they do. That said, by the time career women (or career men) come into their own financially, they're generally already in their early 30s. It's also important to understand that older men don't simply represent the possibility of access to greater resources. Older men typically have established lifestyles, emotional self-control, sexual experience, communication skills, etc.
I’m 44 and I’m interested in a 26 years woman. We are both interested but already dealing with prejudice and toxicity from other people, including my parents.
@@peridotbeauty That's not the reason. I don't have kids. Ley me had another reason: Women, specially older ones don’t like it because they are seeing themselves in the past when they were young, and that their prime time is gone. And all this envy and prejudice without being interested in the man.
No you are not that interested. You just want to flatter your ego. Otherwise you would not be here talking about other people. You'd be busy making the relationship work.
Me, a woman, whose husband is 2 years younger. Needless to say this is true. Younger men probably only like women older than them because of the stability and maturity... or so I've been told. Needless to say some have "found out" that they like more younger/youthful women. Ouch, but the truth hurts, that's how it is.
Amén! I'm a 39 year old man dating a 24 year old woman. It's amazing. She is even more mature in so many levels that the ones of my age or older. She happier and more easy to be around. Having the time of my life.
@@vidaacheampong2563 LOL! Maybe or maybe not. The importance of it all is to be happy with one self. To be with a younger, same age or older woman can't assure nothing. Be brave out there my friends.
I’m 25 years older than my wife during our first year together I asked her if our age difference was an issue for her. She looked at me like I was crazy and just said it doesn’t matter I love you, I never asked that question again lol!
Hi, I am age 65 and I’ve got a 30-year-old girl after me. She’s gorgeous. And she says and ask if I would be loyal and dedicated to her alone. Now that is a big age difference there my daughter is 35. I don’t know what to think of it. She’s wonderful to talk to beautiful, but I don’t care what people say. I really don’t care you know I mean people talk no matter what And the ones talk only other ones who are envious. But it’s a big difference. I just don’t know about that one.
@@MickGeorge-x5z What's the problem? People shun it because they are jealous and/or ignorant about the facts of life. You don't have to worry about the gap being too big. The only worry should be that she is already past her prime and whether you are OK with that or not.
@@MickGeorge-x5z you feel weird because people are judging you (or will). Read Mark Manson's book: "The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck" That and the good doctor in the video will help you with that. Remember she gets as much as you do from the relationship. Same value but different actual benefits. An older dude is like using a cheat code for life, she gets to level up on your experience. A younger woman is like being young again, but with the things you already know. You will both be happier if you are deadly honest about it.
I watched this one podcast and the guy said something very very very interesting: he said that ONE of the many reasons why most men go after the younger woman is because she makes his sperm still feel potent and still can make babies. i tried to put it as best as i can, but you have to hear him say it. It was mind boggling. He explained it so elequent.
@@cutebasooma OK everybody. I am 60 foot four years old. The girl that I’m currently speaking with is 34 years old. But we’ll see where it goes. I would not be comfortable with dating somebody that’s 27 because all they’re gonna do is eat pizza and hang up all night and party, come at night I’m gonna go to bed. But that’s OK. Some women emotionally can handle a mature relationship other women not so much. I think it truly depends on the two people involved. You can love it any age. You can fall in love at any age. If a man looks good. He feels good about himself at his age and a younger girl is attracted to him and she can emotionally handle the relationship. I think it’s a beautiful thing. If we look back in the Bible, a lot of older men married younger women. They really did, so ages just how do they put it just a number
@@MickGeorge-x5zThe fact that you’re 64 thinking that you should be going after a 27 year old and listing reasons why the young 34 year old is better for you, is disgusting. Are you a multi Millionare?
I am currently dating a woman how way much younger than me. I’m 42 and I still hang on to my fading good looks. I have become a good painter to the level that I will be working with a major gallery. She is an artist too and that is how we became closer together. Now people will say she is using me to learn what she needs and others will say I’m using her for sex. Both of opinions are not wrong, but we mutually agree to enjoy our time together, and even if it is a doomed romance, I’m happy that I got to enjoy this experience.
When I was in 20's I never wanted much older men. I always had an attraction to men my age or 2 years older. Older men ages you when you are young. I've seen that with some women. They are young women and they starts looking just as old as the older man they are with. By 30 years old, they looking like 40.
So lower their standard to old men. Young men have to wise up, for they end up waiting and becoming old. No one really wins, because if the young woman was sure enough she can get support from man her age- absolutely believe me she would 100% pick the young one!
Woman can no longer safely have children past the age of about 38. Men can continue to have children into their 60s. That’s two biological reasons. Another is men are much more visually stimulated and woman are more mentally stimulated.
A 70 year old man dating a 45 year old woman is also dating a much younger woman. For all of you assuming that it is about a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old women, and women in their 40's are upset because they have no options. Everyone is younger than someone.
the love of my life was 20 years younger than me. she chased me. i couldn't believe a beautiful 29 year-old woman (perfect face and near-perfect body) could be interested in me. it can happen.
Because it reminds them that time is a factor going against them in the dating/mating game.. These women feel similar-aged men "belong" to them and don't like that younger women are taking them instead...
@@davepazz580 That sounds like some unhealthy level of possessiveness. Like I think they wouldn't want to hear some guy say "every woman my age belongs to me and solely me".
Women are also visual and also choose men by appearance. And I don't think women like older men. Instead they like money, and young men usually haven't had time to earn it.
@@francisbureros Provided the man has the looks that attract her, you're correct. If he doesn't, she won't feel anything for him, regardless of what he says.
@chicolofi If she's a shallow woman, yes. But it's not the majority. I know plenty of beautiful women that are with ugly looking men, and no, it's not bc they're rich.
@@chicolofibut as a rule, men will generally keep their looks longer than women. I can attract 20 odd yr old girls easier now than I could in my 20s, girls my age can't do that.
@@ilikepancakes2368 They like to dominate a young guy and mother him, and then shame anyone outside of their circle who doesn't think like them. The hypocrisy of women who date younger men, who shame men for dating younger women is epic.
most women marry or date men who are 4 years older or younger than them because we want guys who are in the same stage. its really difficult to date someone whos still anxious out of their mind because they are yet to make it in life, they still dont know whats their life purpose is, they are focused on immediate goals only, they might know how to self soothe and calm down their anger and anxieties. Older men have geriatric issues and young guys are still a work in process. being a parent to someone is only hot in the movies. yes when in our 30s and 40s we should be marrying someone a bit younger because guys have shorter life span and major health issues :) just freeze your eggs and youll be able to safely date anyone you want till you find the dad genetic material. 30 yrs old male DNA is preferable to geriatric one.
Answer: youth denotes fertility & healthy offspring. The neotenous phenotype evolved alongside this. This is not only exclusive to looks, but is also present in behaviors as well.
When I was in my early twenties, I went with men much older than I was and it was because I was, frankly, super shy. I mean painfully socially shy - trying to speak to a guy my own age was really difficult because I was so intimidated esp. if he was good-looking. With older men, I didn't feel that intimidation because honestly, it sort of just felt like being with my dad. And they were so happy to be with someone much younger that I didn't have to do anything aside from be young and pretty. I didn't have to try or impress them in anyway - my youth itself was enough to make them want me (although, of course, I didn't realize that at the time.) Sometimes I do feel like I kind of wasted my youth in those types of relationships, but, then, we all do the best we can in the end...
You DID waste your youth, because you could have dated young and attractive men… So, that’s probably who you should be dating now, because if you wait too long you’ll miss out!
Lol, come on bruh, stop being so obtuse. A 28-year old is not being chased after by Chad. You're just getting a used car with 60,000 miles on it rather than 100,000. It's literally nothing to brag about.
@@ohtaesvnI’m 42 and a virgin I would never settle for a 28. I agree. That is a used 🚘. I’m not desperate or weak. I’ll ride this out by myself instead. All the 18-24 year old virgins are extinct. 😢😅😂
My moms husbands best friend married a very young woman 20 years young and she actually chased him. He was totally creeped out by it at first but where shes from its normal so she was like wtf why wont you date me 😂 anyways now theyre happily married. Men arent always predators in these cases or bad guys looking for 20yr old 🐈 to ruin
When I was younger, I used to say that I preferred older men. Then, I met my husband. He is 8 years younger than myself. We have been married for almost 15 years as of today. I know that this is the exception, but I think on a very basic level, I was looking for maturity and security, as was he. Because we were both intent on building together, we needed a strong foundation. This required both of us to be on the same goal path. My point is that there are many socially accepted boxes that we are expected to fit into. Some of us either don't fit into any of them, or just refuse to live under such restrictions. I think that my husband and I are much happier because of both.
I work for Me-too! I also have been a therapist for 30 years women do not want the older counterpart it is only to come into reality when we become their caregivers, realize yes the lie that they accept older men when they are young, but they get old too, so they shoot themselves in the foot and need to stand ground that after ten years that is so much incurring differences. Very rarely you will see such age difference on both sides that are satisfied, other than sex!! and the younger women/man, will want some of your pocketbook. Let's face it if you want to say women do not look as attractive, you have to turn it back to the men, who age faster and look like a decaying piece of flesh. NO I am not angry, I am very real and find it hard to see other who do not stay informed, aka prehistoric values of men, visual, natural, that has been debunked for years and is not true, it serves as the men in power who write these statements for their advantage. No I am not embarrassed I am older; I look better than a twenty-year-old, but that is not the point it is for me! I shows me men bitch far more than women if they have to keep up with these statements to try and convince themselves I am no old, women are. Wake up old geezers! We like to look at young handsome studs too, but I have more of a chance then you. so do you women stand up!! Young women who play along I blame you as you will seal your fate when you become thirty and older, this is how these type of men think
You are a therapist? I don't know what your verbal communications are like but your written communication needs some serious work. I had to work to decipher what you are saying. Proper punctuation and grammar help. I take it you are warning young women not to get involved with older men as they will only end up being their caregivers up the road. That can actually happen at any age. If the love is not very strong the younger person will sometimes ask for divorce or otherwise flee. Consider character before getting into ANY relationship, look deep, not superficially. Thank you for working for Me Too. I am a male who experienced abuse as a child and sexual harassment (twice) in the workplace as an adult. Yes...men get sexually harassed and abused too, not just women.
@@duncan18663she's an old lady who is insulting men her age as "a decaying piece of flesh" which really objectifies them. And she says she's a therapist. I wonder if her patients realize she thinks of them as "old geezers"
How about looking at statistics that compare age, physical attractiveness, status and financial resources in MARRIED couples. The traits that on average makes a person more successful in the dating market may not line up with the traits that get people married. I know married couples where the man is younger than the woman and this is NOT rare. I know couples where the woman is more educated and financially better off than her husband. This is also NOT the exception of the rule.
@@mugojr4766 you sound like someone who's ego is dependent on believing that catfish you've been "loaning" money is actually a beautiful young woman with sincere interest in your broken down husk.
Yeah that makes sense. Of course you can be an older woman and have kids but biologically the risk goes up the more you age. So if a man is finally in his field of work and is 35-40 it would make sense that he would want a woman in her 20’s especially if he wants a big family. Marrying and trying to have kids when your wife is 38 isn’t ideal. She has lost most of her eggs and if she does she may have complications. Wanting 5 or 6 kids forget about it. And yes younger women want stability and most men become more stable the older they get. It’s really not that weird. But I will say atleast let her be able to sit at the bar whether either drinks or not. Lol
I don’t like older men. I like men around my own age…I want to have lots of things in common, be from the same generation, and be at about the same maturity level and in the same place in life. Plenty of men are mature without being old. it’s like growing up with that person…you feel a greater connection when you’ve gone through many of the same experiences they have..like trends music political movements similar families so on. And as You get older you wanna go through life experiencing things together not playing catch up to the much older person who’s already experienced it all. 🤷🏻♀️ so yeah lots of women actually don’t wanna date older men.
I think the biggest issue is your first. Do you want to go through all your firsts with someone that has already done it 3 times, first house, first marriage, first child. I joke about wanting a younger woman because the truth is, they are very attractive but I would feel a bit guilty that I have experienced life and a young woman does not get to share her firsts with a young man also experiencing all his firsts. Casual sexual encounters are a different story but unfortunately all the young ladies I have talked to do not subscribe to the age is just a number.
Yes, I'm a woman and I feel the same way. I would never want to date anyone significantly older or significantly younger than myself. About 5 years maximum in each direction would be fine (for reference I'm 31). And I think that's the truth for most mature adults, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. I'm not trying to shame people who are in consensual age-gap relationships (provided they are both of age), but I just assume there comes a point where you ask yourself what do you actually have in common with a person who had been alive for twenty years before you were even born. I'm not saying that different generations can't find common ground, but our experiences shape us and there's no going around that and people from different generations are going to have different views and interests more often than not.
To this point, you can have many things in common and be from within the same generation with an age gap. A generation is around 15 years if I remember correctly. An older millennial and a younger millennial will still relate to many of the same things, have gone through many of the same experiences, and so on. The vast majority of relationships are within sub-15 years as well. Intergenerational relationships are quite rare. As for maturity, that is more a personality characteristic and will depend drastically on both individuals on where they are at and what they even believe maturity to be.
I don't think women like men who are a lot older than them generally speaking. There is data that shows this. I'd say on average they do like men a few years older than them, and this changes to skew towards liking younger men once women are somewhere in their 40s. Again, data shows this when it comes to online dating
It is in older women's interest to shame and stigmatize older men who like younger women. Why? Because if older men had the unfettered access to younger women, the older women would be rendered wholly irrelevant in the sexual marketplace.
It makes them feel threatened because they were given a blank check at 18 cashed it in for the cock carousel. Blown out and withered up, no one wants them anymore and since accountability escapes them, they have no idea why.
@@Jonslying If he's not too rich to compensate, it's not worth it. I saw the suffering of my mother having to take care of my father along with small children. Taking care of an old man is much worse than taking care of an old woman. Men are bigger and heavier. I say from experience.
Here’s the thing, they should be irrelevant in the market BECAUSE they shouldn’t be that damn old looking for a mate they should’ve found it at 20 in their prime! Men know this, the reason why that rule doesn’t apply to men is because their prime is older and it takes time for them to build the things women desire men for.
When I told my mother and my friend that in the future I don't want to marry a man older than me and I prefer to marry someone close to my age, they were shocked and I didn't know why. I was even shocked by the age difference between most of the married women who are my mother's friends. I realize now that this is common, but what I don't understand is how can there be compatibility between the two parties? I mean, if a man is 20 years older than a woman, he is definitely more mature and experienced in life. How can she understand him or can there be compatibility between them? I see this type of relationship as boring I don't know I'm 19 years old now and for me I don't want to get married at a young age I want to become a mature woman first able to take responsibility then I will start thinking about it as for the person I really want him close to my age I'm a bit of a silly girl but I love fun and joy I want to try a lot of things for the first time with a young man I love and who is close to my age it will be more fun when we go through the experiences and obstacles that life throws at us together but my mom always complains that if I get married at 25 and he is close to me or the same age as me he won't have money and won't be a mature person and I will be homeless but I don't see it that way I mean in terms of money we can work on it together I work several jobs and he does too then we get married and live together in a small apartment until we find other solutions we grow and improve and I think it will be more fun because we will face challenges together and we will support each other we will save money and when things improve we will think about traveling and discovering the world together, since my childhood I have been dreaming of that, then one day we will think about planning to start a family I I'm not really interested in being a mom and I find the thought of being a mom to something funny because I'd be a silly, clown mom with ADHD but maybe one day if the person I love wanted to start a family I think I might reconsider.
@@UnknownXlll if you don't want to marry 20 years older then you have the next 3 years to pick someone 8-12 years older before your options dramatically reduce. You admit you're silly, so you shouldn't be making firm permanent decisions. You don't have to decide to Maui mnarry someone on the first meeting. Just resolve to move forward with anyone who shows interest until you know them fully. It's the only way you can make an informed decision, to say nothing of letting your emotions have time to respond
You can make it work. I have friends who have done that. I wish I did. My husband‘s not a bad person. He’s just very emotionally immature. Waste tons of money on his gaming addiction. There’s only so much you can tolerate. It’s the only relationship I’ve had and unpacking it up and moving on. I don’t care what you do for a living. But if the intellectual conversation disappears or there’s no emotional growth that I’m out. We are only five years aged difference. You still have plenty of older men who still have not mentally matured. Physically yes mentally depends on the person. Anyone who has logical thinking, balanced out with emotional awareness is worth listening to. I’ve always admired those people. They usually give you advice if you ask. The mature ones do instead of logical thinking obsessively believing you want them to solve your problems when all you want is someone mature to shut up and listen. Having an adult uncomfortable conversation with you instead of running into a room, disappearing, playing video games believing that solves life complex issues. Sometimes two people cannot grow when together if one of them refuses to do so. you can always try. Better to be homeless to build yourself back up instead of stuck in codependency. Hope you never end up in that situation. Years full of unresolved conflict does not bring anything positive to the table. Someone who keeps running is not worth chasing.
@@SirineMenia It is a general vibe across every culture of men. However, in some cultures they’re shamed for it, but in general every men wishes to have a younger female partner.
You didn't discuss a crucial dynamic. What a woman is interested in a man, changes as she ages. The younger the woman the more she will be interested in looks and how fun the guy is, the older she gets she will lean more into status and wealth. A guy in his 30s who has played his cards right can be the best of both worlds for an early 20s woman i.e he makes a good amount of money, is mature, dresses, and looks good, and still has a fun appeal. But I noticed that women's requirements of income these days, despite their age can (at most) only be met by men over 40. Their lifestyle requirements are inflated.
Who hurt you? I am genuinely curious. I’m in my early 20s, I have no interest in what someone can give me materialistic wise compared to what they can give me emotionally, mentally and physically. I have no interest in fake hair, nails or expensive things. I’m happy with a home cooked dinner and a movie on the lounge, followed by a night of binding and cuddles. People base this off of the majority while leaving out the minority that have good intentions and genuine feelings. Older or not, we build together. Financial status doesn’t matter when you end up in the same place as everyone else when the road ends, memories make the richest of all! 😊
@@Megamon911that’s the point moron…. Women in their early twenties place an emphasis on fun/etc I’m 32, women 30+ seem much more interested in $/status/lifestyle than the women I date in their early twenties You lose this question - “who hurt you?”.. no one naive little girl- you don’t even have the perspective to speak on this things yet. Yes, the older women get the more $ and lifestyle is important. Interestingly enough it is also when their dating value takes big hits and they have trouble competing with younger women
This is a great observation and something I have noticed. As cultural perceptions have shifted in the West, so have the ideal ages. It used to be that women around 18-23 and men 38-43 were seen as the ideal. But as economic pressures change and with further advancements in technology and quality of life, preferences shift. I have noted something different. While women still have high income requirements they are valuing looks, fun, and lifestyle much more now than they used to. As such the late 30s and 40's men cannot compete as well as they used to and are no longer the gold standard. You actually hit the nail on the head where if a guy plays his cards right, 32-37 or so is the best of both worlds, and would now have the greatest selection to choose from.
Ok, never thought of it this way. And here is something that I have noticed: - Older women without a partner tend to be the women that focused only on their careers. Obviously, their options drop by the time they are in their 30's. And they are still confused, even then. So for a lot of them (as far as I experienced) this hits back as a massive frustration that clouds their judgment, wisdom, kindness, femininity. - Younger women have their behavior structure still mostly intact. They are unburdened by such frustration, which makes them more present, sincere, curious. Plus, they have time on their side. This is not just me saying this, this is what I hear from women on a regular basis. And it's not good, I believe that a lot of them were sold marketing lies without which they could have made better choices. Life doesn't begin in the 40's or 50's. I believe life happens every day, but consequences will be felt later in life.
Don't worry about older women, were okay with being single and our careers. i feel sorry for young girls who have to sleep with old farts and take care of them.
Most of your comment doesn't make sense, but I will assure you that younger women (and men - people generally) are far more insecure, highly strung and emotional.
Youth, particularly when combined with beauty, is more desirable the wealth. Hence the young woman is more valuable. I always ask people if they would rather be 20 and poor or 70 and rich. I have only ever had one answer to that question.
But youth and beauty is temporary. I’ll never understand people who are stuck thinking like this. We have a birthday every year. 20 year olds turn 21, than 22, and so on. Well maintained wealth can last longer than youth.
the majority of the 25 year olds don't date 45 year olds, so the basis of the whole argument is flawed. If you sexualise someone that is closer to your father's age than yours, you have unhealed psychological issues. Likewise, if you are attracted to someone that can be your child, your are creppy.
Everyone is different. It does not necessarily have anything to do with psychological issues. Some people are fatherless and childless; so the argument is misguided in that context.
@@frillylily8005 What happens if you had your kid at 16? Since most women are gardeb equipment and end up making poor choices and single moms so they wouldnt be able to date a younger guy? What about all these female school teachers dating, hanging out raping their students...women are hypocrites
The fact that something this basic needs to be explained is amazing. The cognitive dissonance older women use to make themselves better the second men have the advantage in desirability is pathetic
Right, but this still amounts to women getting "stuff" from men, without having to do anything to earn it, and men, once they get enough "stuff", they can use it to attract young, greedy women. Except what if by the time you got all this "stuff", you'd rather pull your own fingernails out than spend it on greedy gold-diggers?
For the first time in my life I'm liking the idea of being with a younger woman. Women my age 50's are crazy and angry. This one girl I like from work 20's is so sweet and kind and emotionally stable. I think I would like any woman who is sweet and kind and stable but most women my age don't meet that criteria. This isn't a vanity move. It would be a lot of work on my part to make it happen and I don't want her using me for money or to get away from her parents.
@@eyesofra1111yea but it’s not our problem. Nature designed us to always be attached to women 18-20’s. I’m not being mean. Just stating facts. I say this as a male who’s a heterosexual 42 year old virgin who’s been passed over by time and time but there have been factors that played it’s part. 💩 happens. 😂
@@Incel_81 ? why're you saying that to me? It's common sense, young fit bodies are more attractive....and since fertility is a fact, young women are more preferable I'm not even arguing about that....did u even read what I said? i said midlife crisis & sickness can make anyone cranky... even me, a 20 year old female
@@Incel_81 I was kind of insecure about it, all these "value of men vs value of women" fucked up my mental peace & made me feel like what if I get married, and after 30 years, my partner find me ugly compared to women in their 20's? I made peace with this fact that youthfulness is always preferable, whether its man or woman & the right person will stay no matter what the situation.... just cz my man fell in bed due to sickness, doesn't mean i go hunting for better dicks? its kinda like that
@@icequeen5553 previous relationships. Woman carry this with them for life, if it was good, current boyfriend gets harassed that he doesn't do one thing previous boyfriend did better, if bad, current boyfriend gets viewed that he'll do the same bad things. Women can't let go of previous relationships.
Most traumas that affect peoples relationships are made between the ages of 6-8 years old. A woman 28+ might have finally resolved that - and be much more ready for a relationship.
@@psychacks I know this is an older video, but I'm surprised that you as a mental health professional are not aware of studies showing that the closer the couple is in age, the greater success of the marriage. I didn't even go out of my way to look that up. I ran across it by accident. If I recall correctly, even a small age gap was less successful than if the couple was the exact same age.
This man is NOT a simp and I absolutely love it. Almost brought a tear to my eye brother. You deserve a free case of beer and a pack of Newports and a fertile 25 year old woman my guy.
I’m 48 my little princess is 28 she is a wonderful old soul and absolutely not like some of these crazy woman I see on social media. I’ve never been happier.
@@JohnSmith-ns6dp over the net actually in a game. I made a quip that since there are no woman on the internet, I didn’t buy her "act" and I was gonna just treat her like a 50 year old dude. 🤣 In reality I knew right away. But we kept it going for ages and it was a good laugh. When you just klick, everything, no matter how silly or stupid or weird just falls into place.
Women, specially older ones don’t like it because they are seeing themselves in the past when they were young, and that their prime time is gone. Envy, prejudice and toxicity kicks in.
I can see the nostalgia, but as I get older, being 37 currently, I've seen women that are inspiring in their latter 40's and early 50's rocking it and looking stunning. They seem more carefree and liberated, which also means they've done the groundwork to take care of themselves from the inside out. Not much had to be done when you're just young. And they're more experienced with life and what they won't tolerate with a guy. I stumbled across a guy in passing, that's a few years younger than me that seemed somewhat more mature, than the guys that were just a few years older than me that I dated in the past. My concern is, just because a guy is older and going for a younger woman doesn't mean he's also mature enough. I do have concerns for the younger women. Some younger women get swooped up before they even know they need time to grow into themselves to know what they want in a partner. Not all older men do this, I get that. But I do feel sorry for a lot of the younger women, because they're not mentally aware of all the array of possibilities that are out there for a wonderful partner and I think some older guys take first dibs in that regard before that option for a younger woman presents itself. ☹️
@Largo1845 Roundabout way of saying "no you" to men while the comments are filled with bitter old hags crying about guys prefering younger women while filling dating apps up with a long list of requirements (6ft, 6", 6 figures, being a princess that needs to be spoiled, etc) while having 5 kids and a 200+ body count from when they were 18 and skipping guys their age for the older guy every weekend. If average women would date average guys their age, why are significant numbers of men still a virgin well into their twenties? Is it because women are dating their age? No, it's because the majority of women bang the same 5% or so of older top-tier guys hoping for a commitment that group will never give them. The forgotten 20y/o guys glow up a bit and now finally have a shot with the 20 something y/o girls, but now it's shameful to have that preference. A preference mind you is evolutionary deep rooted in men as much as going for an older more established man with resources is for women. It's ridiculous, women went through their "hoe phase" then get too old to get that level of attention then shame men for banging the 25 y/o instead of their old bitter mysandrist ass. Gtfo with that bs!
I love younger men. They are more attractive and fun. I don’t care for old men at all. Older men let themselves go. They put weight on and don’t care how they look.
As an older guy in my late 40s I've dated women in their 20s or so for the past decade and it simply works great - they don't carry baggage, they're generally positive and excited about trying new things in life, beside the obvious attractiveness and fertility side. It's a win-win situation imo.
I'm 47 and still attracted to the same type of women I was attracted to when I was 20 - young, slim, sexy, sweet personality. Women even remotely my age completely turn me off.
@@Tidirita What exactly does a "mature" woman have to offer to me that a 20 year old doesn't 10x better? With a young woman, a lot of the things I do with her are a first for her. It's exciting for her and by extension for me. And if you're talking about having more mature conversations - I can have that with my friends. Oh and since I live in Thailand, am in good shape and run a successful business, I will never run out of young hotties.
@@reginapolo3357 Having money certainly helps but $1500 a month is enough for a decent lifestyle here, so by western standards you don't even have to make much. Personally, I don't like to show that I'm well off, especially when meeting a woman for the first time.
@@Axiomatic75 Hopefully you'll decide to get married one day to one of these ladies instead of jumping in and out of coochie. In 10 years, you're going to start looking too wrinkly for these chicks and in 20 years there will be some that still entertain you for some money. At some point however old men need someone to take care of them. Unless you have a bunch of kids maybe some of them will stick around. Unless you would rather not be around any sort of family make sure you pick a nursing home from now
@@Tionaintown876 I'm not crazy about sex anymore. Good to have sometimes but not something I'd chase if it took much chasing. As for getting older, I wouldn't bet on having my children (if I had any) look anyway. I can easily have a couple of nurses take care of me if or when that becomes necessary.
This is fair, my only concern is, what about growing old together? Will my spouse will still be attracted to me? I don’t want to question if my special other still has feelings for me after being together 20+ years
I friend of mine met an almost 30 years older man. They were together for a couple of years. After a while she wasn't attractive to him anymore bc he was old and it started to show.
How about the fact that most men like wrinkeless smooth skin? What about youthful, slim and curvaceous figures? And how about the fact that young women have much less baggage they're carrying around? Ever wonder about those rarely discussed facts??
"Seeing what people go after when they have the most options is our truest glimpse into what they really want" wow! I really like this saying!
What's the point of dating if you're prolly never what your partner really wants, if everyone is just settling because they don't have options??
@@SuperiorRobyn exactly right. Glad you’re getting it.
@@thorodinson6649 you feel the same?
@@SuperiorRobyn That's why many men are giving up on the US and doing the passport bros thing.
@@piligay6969 oooohhhh. I like thos perspective. But I see the point this original commenter is making
Bob, a 65-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful 25-year-old blonde: she proceeds to knock everyone's socks off with her youthful appeal and charm. She also hangs on Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word.
His buddies at the club are all aghast.
They corner him and ask. "Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?"
Bob replies. "Girlfriend? She's my wife!"
They're knocked over, but continue to ask.
"So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?"
Bob says: "I lied about my age."
His friends respond:
"What, did you tell her you were only 50?"
Bob smiles and says:
"No, I told her I was 90." 😅
lmao
Was it Anna??? Lol
that is called a gold digger. Bob is having a good time... while a good looking wealthy man like me has never even been in a relationship or had sex at my age
Fast forward five years, and Bob is divorced. Why you ask? Because Bob has (ED) Bob has low energy and very low testosterone.
Bob is old and unattractive to his much younger wife. All Bob has to hold on to her with is his finances.
Poor guy 😂
If Bob is smart, his money and property are in out of state trusts and in 5 years, IF she leaves, she'll discover that he actually owns nothing.
I enjoy dating younger women because they are generally happier. Older women have lower self-esteem. Most guys don’t care about a few wrinkles or gray hair. My advice to older women is forget the Botox. Concentrate on the beauty inside.
3 simple reasons a man wants a younger woman.
1) Less body count
2) Less drama from past relationships
3) High fertility
@@christianhenry4173 Also less bitter and cold.
Well with comments like these I'm surprised woman like men at all
@@scc8728 Uh most women do not like men...
@ffxiisucks uhh, you mean most women don't like most men,?,. ,. ,. ,. because the statistics say other wise,. ,. ,. ,. ,.
My father is 16 years older than my mother. He always joked that he wanted her to take care of him in his old age. Sadly my mother passed away a year ago and left my dad devastated. They were incredibly happy. Don't listen to all the feminists criticizing older guys dating younger women, do what makes YOU happy.
True as long as it's not a minor there's no problem.
Sorry for your loss...well stated. Amen
Gross
@@nevergiveupbaby17204:00
So he just wanted a maid
As a 32 year old man that has dated both sides of the spectrum older/younger women and I prefer to be with an older woman and ill explain why. BTW I'm part Irish and it will become clear later in the story why I'm saying this and this story is quite long I appreciate the time for those that read jt.
1) Alot more mature
2) alot more respectful easy going
3) they know what they want and they know how to properly communicate.
4) they aren't after my resources and I'm not after hers.
5) The bedroom action is alot better with older women .Younger women never really satisfied me sexually and it was mostly just boring. Older Women actually like sex and they are more open minded about trying new things.
Here's a my story I was 20 years old I had broken up with my 3rd gf because I caught her cheating with her dead beat ex bf. Then about a few months later I went out to a restaurant my date didn't show up so I went by myself and I saw this real attractive and beautiful woman who latter became mybwife sitting by herself so I decided to talk to her and she said she had a date however he never showed up and then I said mine stood me up to and she asked me to join her and I obliged we started talking and then after we ordered our food she asked me how old I was and I told her to guess and she said I was at least in my early mid 30's and then I told her I was 20 she was kind of surprised at first because she said I looked older than that. Then I guessed that she was in her mid late 20's and she said no I'm 37 years old. I was a little surprised myself because she didn't look a day over 30 tbh based on 1st impressions. Anyways we continued our dinner and talked some more she said she worked for a company made good money etc and I make pretty good money myself at 20 working on my journeyman anyways we stayed in touch for several years after that she considered us to be a long term FWB and we would go out for dinner dates etc she always insisted on paying for everything I didn't object to this however as a traditional man I told her I want to pay for dates dinner etc not just her every time and she finally relented which im surprised she did after so long of always insisting on paying for everything and told me ok you plan the next date for us. On my 23rd birthday I planned a special date for her So the 1st destination was the Salon to have her hair and nails done 2nd I took her shopping bought her clothes shoes etc. Then I bought her a Claddagh ring at a jewelry store and she really adored and appreciated the rings beauty and I told her she wears the finger on her right hand with the heart pointing towards her to indicate she is in a relationship or with heart pointing towards her fingers to symbolize that we are just friends she put it on with the heart pointing towards her. Then we went and ate lunch then I took her to the art museum and then I took her out to dinner at a fancy restaurant and then we finished the night off by going out to the club and we danced a little bit. Then after we went back hoke she said it was the best date a man ever took her on and she said she wanted to properly thank me for it then i told her i had fallen in love with her and she got teary eyed when i said it and hugged and kissed me and said shenhas fallen for me to long story short she said tonight i wont have to wear a condom and that night I ended up getting her pregnant and 2 months later when she told me the news I was so happy and her parents already really liked then when we announced the pregnancy her family was really excited and happy for us and at the dinner I planned i got on my knees and asked her to marry me she started crying and screaming yes then I put the ring on her right finger to symbolize we were getting married everyone in the crowd was cheering. Now I'm 32 years old and my wife is 49nwe have a 9 year old son still together to this day and we are intimate at least once a day sometimes 2x.
If you thought the story is over I still have more to add over the years we've been together both me and wife have been subjected to negative stereotypes because of our age gap. Most common stereotypes against me are
1) he is just using her for her money which is completely false
2) That's probably his "Mother" like an adult mommy and that 1 particular infuriates both of us wife actually punched a woman in the face for saying it.
3) YOU can't find anyone your own age. I say I. Happy and she's happy it's none of your damn business.
The most common stereotypes my wife gets are
1) She is old enough to be my mother when the word mother is uttered in regards to our relationship both me and her get real upset and angry.
2) She needs to find someone her own age.
Now sometimes my wife gets called a cougar and she said damn straight I am she is proud to admit she is then she says your just jealous cause this fine man respects me treats me good and satisfies me while your single alone and miserable.
Conclusion to my story is yes men do like younger women however certain men like me prefer an older woman it's just my own personal preference s everyone has theirs it's just important to respect life choices of others as long as their happy mind your own business and improve yourself instead of trying to pull someone into the same misery your currently in.
Nothing more attractive than looks 🤮
I appreciate your story. I used to think these relationships don't work until I learned that one of my heroes, Paul Stamets, married an older woman with kids at the start of his career and then went on to do critical research and development in mushroom science. To me, his career proved how correct his marriage was. Then someone I know married a woman 20 years older than him. I had my doubts, but his career has taken off and he loves his life and loves her. Then I followed this couple on youtube, Fitshortie Eats, and this crazy fruitarian lady found her soulmate in a younger man and then they had two kids. They are living their dream life. Could she have done this with any other man? I don't think so. Chippy is her soulmate.
My older fiance cheated on me with a younger woman, so I developed a lot of false beliefs because of that. Then I found out that he was a serial cheater from his ex girlfriends. So I had to let go of those limiting beliefs about age differences.
If it works for the two of you, I'm happy for you. It's nobody else's damn business. People really need to learn how to mind their own business.
I'm 1/2 Irish, 1/4 Scot, 1/4 Welsh by blood.
Bloody American by birth and raising.
Yes, in my family we are well aware of the Claddagh ring and what it represents.
Okay, but that’s not what a cougar is. A cougar is a woman who is specifically interested in younger man and she only goes for younger men. Also, the interest is purely sexual. If a woman falls in love with you and she happens to be older, that’s not a cougar.
My partner is 32, I am 47. I have been called a cougar before and I feel insulted: they presuppose that I am using him, when in real fact, we love each other and neither of us was going for an age gap, which we were a little preoccupied with at first.
big loser excuse
Then I've been a trend-breaker. The most unattractive thing for me is emotional & cognitive immaturity. So most of the women I liked were older. To me if she's older and in good shape, that trumps being young and unhealthy.
Nice! More youthful beautiful women for the rest of us! No problems here with you breaking that trend 👍 everybody wins
@@InAVanByTheRivrIf U have nothing to say, dont do it🐒
You're bringing personality into it though. This is just from the perspective of initial attraction. I think any guys would prefer an older, peaceful woman than a haughty, younger one for a long term relationship.
@@InAVanByTheRivrassuming they even want you….
@@InAVanByTheRivr most young women don't want much older men, that was more in the past than today.
I notice that when we talk about this topic, a lot of people just have the vision of the 21 year old girl dating a 50-60 year old man which are not the most common age gaps. When we talk about men going for younger women and women being attracted by older men, the most common scenario are women in their 20's going for men in their 30's and early 40's. And yes this tendency happens from the earliest days. Girls in school are usually more attracted by boys a grade or two higher, it's very rare that a married woman is the exact same age or older than her husbands, usually the man is at least a few years older. Plus, most women openly admit not dating men younger than them even for just a year of difference.
@@sarahrobertson634 Younger guys frequently get dumped for older guys.
@@sarahrobertson634 LOL It's amazing how some women like yourself who was not being addressed personally feel the need to try to convince a stranger on the internet.
@@sarahrobertson634 Well, best of luck to you LOL
@@sarahrobertson634 The younger guys always dump the tramps who cheat on the older dudes cause they mean absolutely nothing to us lol😄
@@sarahrobertson634 oh you ugly hoes care..you’re not fooling anyone..it’s too late for you skanks to change..might as well be sluts the rest of your lives 😂
At 26 I started dating a 19-year-old girl. She was madly in love, but the age gap actually seemed to be a problem in the sense that she was constantly insecure about how much further advanced I was in life compared to her (degree, adult job, knowledge, etc.) and felt incompetent. Despite her impressive efforts there was a gap in IQ as well, which didn't help her confidence either. So fellas, keep an eye out for those insecurities when you try younger women.
Do you feel 19 and 22 is as problematic as 19 and 26? I am a 22 year old guy and I like girl who is 19 so we are only 3 years apart and we are both in college and we tend to get along well and don't notice any difference.
I can attest to this. I am a female and my ex partner and I had a 5 year age gap and I will admit I was constantly comparing myself to him. I now realize we play two different roles in life man and woman, but I’m too late. I’d say there isn’t a problem dating younger women, but keep in mind, they are most likely less experienced at life and serious relationships. They’ll also mess it up, a lot of times. I know I did. So make sure you have patience, compassion, and understanding. This is my opinion and advice as a woman who found herself in this sort of relationship and who’s still learning. Good luck.
they dont get it.. older ppl fetishize younger ppl and use them as a social status symbol. for me its pretty clear that I need to date ppl I have a lot in common with and whos in the same stage of life as me.
@@manosijroy8282 age is important yes because our brains, personalities, experiences keep developing. elderly men preying on young ppl is just a red pill trope. women who are chasing young ppl are not well intended, nice ppl either. from what I have noticed for a relationship to work you need to have a lot in common with the person and see the world trough similar lenses. dont wait till you are old and more accomplished to find someone fitting or some asian teen.theres going to be too many cultural, financial, perspective differences. figure out what you want from someone and dont date anyone who doesnt have empathy for others, dont have tolerance for stress and dont deal well with the realities of the world. never let your hormones decide who you are dating because once you are in that phase its going to take around 2 years to get over it ;) look up the science of love and attraction and never waste time with the wrong ppl.
@@elise9537 but I am just 22 and my crush is 19. We are only 3 years apart in age
Young women are sometimes mocked with their infatuation about boys, weddings, planning weddings, reading about weddings, etc. But it's somewhat physiological. It's the flip side of this video. Young women want to nail down a good man while they are still young, because they know that's their most valuable asset. It's radical feminism that is messing with this paradigm and causing a generation of single women to grow older and miss their opportunity. (obviously this doesn't apply to all)
Most young women are married. It's your perspective of a young woman that's wrong. A young woman is a woman in her reproductive years. Not just women in their early 20s. You just want naive women because you're not family guys.
There's no point in marrying men who believe women "lose value" with age. Young women become old women eventually. I'm young and I'd rather stay single then date the types of men available nowadays, the ones who claim old women are ugly and useless
I'm 39. Women my age are on the verge of menopause. You can't start a family with a menopausal woman. End of story for me.
Really? I went through menopause at 58, no idea this happens to “most” women at such a young age.
My mom went trough menopause at 57. Her last child was at her 48. My dad was already too old and they stoped to have sex after that. And my grandma had the last at 52 to 53. Maybe, it's genetics.
I'm 41, so please talk for yourself, like we say over here; it will be what you perceive; see it as a start with experience of what & who you do not want. It's better to have no relationship than a toxic one; and there are lots of reasons why women haven't started a family yet at our age; like illnesses in the past, etcetera. Women our age can still start a family; do not start shaming-victimizing us/self. Not all men want someone who has so little of life experience; not all men are the same, just like not all women are the same. I have a babyface; that means I am 41, I look like I am 25, and I am still waiting till someone of about my own age starts a talk with me ;p I mean, if that would be truth, that they want a young woman, then why are only young men interested in me, because of my babyface (them thinking I am around their own age); people/men of MY own age stay on a safe distance because of my babyface; because they 'think' I am too young, but well, I cannot walk around yelling my age, can I? ;p Most people even do not believe my age, well, it's a kind of mess in a way. But people just seem to be shocked, and if they start talking to me, lol, then they say it's just so weird because they had prejudices. Well, hope I won't met a man of my age who thinks I am 25 and then is disappointed because I am not the age I look like... Well, wish me luck ;p Anyways, just keep the faith alive, do not kill your own chances; stay open, ready & willing to meet that one right person; we are in this together... We are worth it, we 'are' beauty no matter what society shouts, and thus we owe it to ourselves to continue to believe that it can still be done.
@@82keiko I hear you, friend, but women have a clock, whether we like it or not, whether they like it or not.
If I want to have a solid relationship with a woman, I will want to court/date her at least for two years before I want to start a family with her. A 39-year-old who wants to have children cannot afford to wait for two years, her fertility window is closing too rapidly.
I've known mature 19-year-olds and I've known immature 37-year-olds. Women who do not think ahead will only start thinking about long-term goals when her options start to deteriorate. I wish it weren't so but experience has shown me otherwise.
@@immortaljanus So tell me about all of your experiences then, because you are not a woman, are you? You say it's the end of story for you, but you are then saying you are a man; well i am confused but it does not matter who you are ;p We are all in this together. But what is an immature 37 for you; how does that look like, maybe she was reflecting your wounds, and a 19 year old does not even know about life, let alone know who she really is, and what her wounds are... it's just a matter of time... for no one is perfect, and it's not about working at relating with others/partner, but with relationship with self; is a 19 year old prepared to work at herself? It's not only about your clock, it is also about your maturity. Healthy children doesn't mean a womb alone, it needs both parents who have first reparented themselves, so they are not still wounded that they mess up their children and make them sick, so afterwards, the next generation, has to hurry because of their clock ticking... because they became sick because of a messed up parental behavior towards them; i wish and pray that you find a very mature 19 year old, then. It takes more than your age for children to be healthy. I do not know how many women you had who were 40 and had problems with giving birth, but I do not know them personally. But I believe you are interested in people with a younger clock, and that's totally fine with me; each has to look for what he believes is more important in life: the age of the woman, I think it is more about the looks in first place if i read the general comments, not about the health inside and the future (because she TOO will age at a point); because you can look pretty and be younger of biological age but that doesn't mean you are healthier inside to deliver or grow a baby inside. I am not letting society tell me what to expect, but I understand if you are sure that a young woman will be better as a mother to your child and have a healthier delivery of it, one can only wish for but a body is more complex than that, and you do not see that with your eyes, you just hope you are right. But each must do as he/she pleases, I am not wasting energy at personal preferences ;p but I look young so naturally people of my age should be very interested in me, so in my experience only young men are interested (who think i am their age)... lol But please, be honest with yourself, do you want a younger woman because of her younger womb, of do you want a woman because you find that more attractive, or because society says that woman of your own age are boring like man of our age or what, just be specific (not for me, i mean, just for you to see what you find most important)... We don't have to hide what we prefer, we just should be honest with self, if we are honest as human beings with self, we can be honest with others too. It is as simple as that. I know enough women who are older than 40 so well, I you are scared of having a woman of your age giving birth, of find them unattractive, than i guess it's obviously better you look for a younger one who wants an older man. But to say that someone who is 40 is in her menopause already, well, that's like a societal idea of men LOL. Some women of my age, who have already had children, would love to hear that, to not have to deal with monthly inconveniences, you know; haha. Most important, but that is something personal, is self-love, so then you can have healthy love for someone else and not neediness; if children is number 1 priority, well, you could meet a young one who doesn't want or can have children as well... or who thinks; well, I am like you, I want to wait till I myself am 30 or 35 to start, because 19 is too young for me personally (for example) to start having children because you want them within 2 years... (like your clock is ticking, but the clock of a 19 year old might stop ticking for another 10-20 years and she will be still fine too... But hey, we do not have to make it that complex; let self-love lead the way... If people are meant to have children, that will come, and else we will have to accept it too...
I've been tossed aside by my sons mother for a neurosurgeon in his late 40's. She would have never met him had I not helped her to enter her career choice by becoming the stay at home father. It has not been an enjoyable experience(I've separated from her, and now have a 50/50 parenting schedule), but it has given me insights of great value. I wished I could have kept the family together, but letting her use me in the ways she did was unacceptable to me. My father raised my sister and I by himself, and I grew up believing that I would not do the same to my offspring. But, life is both wonderful and terrible, filled with peaks and lows. I am still searching for my one and only to build/share a prosperous/fulfilling future with. Best of luck to all on their Journey here on Earth.
You helped her find love;) are they still together?
@elise9537 lol you're very subtle, Elise. I need a woman like you in my life.
To answer your question, no, he used her(my ex) and is still with his wife and daughter(shocking, I know).
Life's greatest lessons are best taught through living them. I'm grateful to have lost a woman who betrays her partner and now have found an entertaining one on a UA-cam comments section.
Never raise a womans status to a point where she perceives yours as lower. Sorry, but that is just begging for it. Hypergamy is a bitch.
@@levismirnoff5450 Indeed, this I now know well. Many things shall be different in my next(hopefully final) relationship.
@@musashiwebb sry you went through that. I hope you find someone who appreciates you 🙏
I have never been attracted older men, physically. My ex husband was younger than me. and now that I am fifty, I am dating a much younger man. We have an strong chemistry. Women can be visual creatures too :)
Why of course , kudos for y sweetie.
Thank you for saying that. I date younger as well and older if they look good and have money.
Most of the men I've known have been a year or two younger than me. I've certainly never been into significantly older men. I think there is a lot of delusion out there in the "manosphere" regarding what they think women are into. It's also bizarre that they think we're not visual creatures.
Oh look, an anecdotal example of one data point! While the vast majority of evidence points to the opposite phenomena being more common.
@@capmidnite yeah but it's not exactly uncommon for the woman to be older, especially when it's only a couple of years. Age gaps of a couple of years where the bloke is slightly older are the most common. But this video is suggesting 50 year old men are teaming up with 18 year olds which is blatantly crap. It's also crap that women are at their most attractive at 18 (some might me, most aren't) and it's total crap that women aren't visual.
Maturity is probably the biggest factor. A lot of young people are into the party scene and hookup culture. If a woman wants a long term relationship, the odds are better with an older man.
Old guys when they want a relationship...they want for real and know all the specifics of it.
That's a charm. If this guy has some appearance, behavior and a carrier. They can get a 25 or 28 girl in any time of his life. And yes, no kids and traumas is a good deal.
Just because he has an old body doesn't mean he's mature.
@@fingerprint5511 If he was he would want to date someone who was also mature. Not a young adult.
@@bobbob6743 I’m 42 and a virgin 😂. Was never in a rush to be in a relationship as I found no one I liked or any girl that liked me. If I had a chance, I’d be with an 18 year old virgin. Sue me.
@@Incel_81 im sure your mentality has nothing to do with why women avoid you lol
I've decided I'm not old; I'm 25 plus shipping and handing. 😁
Ur still a baby 👶 🤧 😘 bless you 🙏
Plus massive service tax
@@parshuram8031 she's not a slut cause I lost my virginity at 24 .
@@parshuram8031 And a 50% restocking fee for returns or exchanges.
Yeah and not only has the box been opened, the flaps are all worn out by someone else. Please advise young women to keep their virginity until marriage
When I was 25 I met the love of my life, he was 63! I found him irresistible and he was wise and loving, he also had enough money to take care of me. I was totally fulfilled by the love and didn’t even care about much money anymore. I think the maturity and wisdom of older men is very attractive to some younger women.
Would you have fallen in love with him if he was only on Social Security?
If you didn't have that money, you'd care.
@@SharonElizabethWhitfield mannn 😂
@@JackMason-oq8lf u never know
Key word MONEY 🙄
When my children were younger I employed young women, wanting to take a year break from their studies, to help with child care. I did this for 4 years with 4 different women. Each one at least once, was hit on by a man in their 40s/50s while working for me. Their advances were not received well in ANY of the cases. One woman working for me even came home scared and in tears. When I was in my early twenties I dated a man in his late 30s. It only lasted 6 months, we had little in common, we were in different places in our lives. A 15 year or less gap works, in my opinion, but when it goes beyond that....I personally have never seen a good outcome. My uncle, for example, was 30 years older than my aunt. My cousins were very sad when they lost their father as teenagers, and my aunt became a widow at 50. I definitely think men are drawn to younger women, but I am not convinced younger women reciprocate, unless they really just want money.
You are absolutely right. I’ve never ever been attracted to older men - but I’ve suffered their advances my whole life. So much so that I started to despise men and spent 10 years in therapy. No woman I know has ever dated an older man. I remember feeling disgusted when in my teens and twenties when a man my father’s age would try to flirt with me. Most young women I know don’t even know that older men hit on them - to them it’s not even a possibility. When I mention it I normally get a disgusted look. I am personally physically attracted to under 25 year olds and I am 40. I think that this guy is just trying to convince himself that young women want older men. He’s talking about less than 1%. I dated a guy who was 20 years older than me once. I remember thinking to myself how old he looked and today I cringe when I remember kissing him. I was embarrassed to tell anyone we were together - however briefly. I liked him as a person, we worked together which is the only reason I agreed to go out with him. This is a dangerous misogynistic rhetoric that he’s peddling here - disregarding 99% of women’s actual wants and needs and convincing men that they should pursue younger women because they are into older men. Today I date men younger than me mostly because the ones my age are falling apart lol And I don’t know a single guy who is with a much younger woman either. I don’t even know one who’s ever dated one. But I sure think that this video has made a lot of misogynists and incels happy lol
@@emm9002 great you are dating younger men! Thank you for your comment.
@@emm9002 so you dating younger men is OK, but men dating younger women is not? mmmk.
I don’t think so. All of the older men who hit on me just turn me off so hard. Idk why they’d even talk to me when they’re 15-20+ years older than me. I think they try to win me over by showing me their car and telling me how much they make only which isn’t what I want tbh.
I'll be real honest about men who do this to young women with the 20yr age gap. Recently, a guy I've been friends with for a very long time, he went after these women and he's 53 and the women are 26-30 years old. The only reason why he did this was for sex. He was not looking to commit to them in any way. He just wanted sex. So when I see men doing this, that's what I think of and the issue of how these slutty types will fall for his womanizing charms just blows my mind. Because when I was young, I could not stand the idea of dating someone that much older than me. My sex drive was over the top in my 20s, then there's the generational gap in age, and finally, being at completely different levels emotionally, physically, and mentally was ALL just too much to take into consideration.
So when my friend told me what he did and that 3 of these stupid young women fell for that garbage, I told him, "I sure hope you used protection and that you get fully tested after all that. If they will jump in the sack with you, after only just meeting you and talking with you for a couple hours, then I can NOT imagine how MANY others they have slept with!"
I'm utterly disgusted by people who have NO self respect and just fall for these types of men. I don't care that he's my friend and I've known him for 30yrs. I'm blunt and to the point, especially with people I've know for a long time. So I put him in his place and told him how disgusted I was. He backed off, realizing that he was coming across as some kind of perverted, womanizing, man-whore.
younger girls give men more attention affection respect admiration easier to get along with more relationship minded
That makes sense until the second child comes along 😊
honestly the most messed up men go for younger women like it's a game very sad
Young girls will take your money eat you up and spit you out 😂 they don’t really want YOU! Duh
@GaylineMillay Wrong. What you are saying is ageism.
Yeah so basically their easier to manipulate and let you control their life,understood 😂
Reading this comment section, or in fact any comment section, makes you realize how many people believe their version of reality is the only reality. "I don't like dating older men, therefore that singular data point proves all women do not like dating older men." Sheesh.
its solipsism, not their version of reality
Statistically, they are correct. Most marriages or relationships don't have more than 3 years of age gap. Makes sense.
@@dion5804h these young girls are getting pounded by older men everyday. Who gives a flying floppity about the marriage gap as if those married women are all virgins. I think whos fucking outweighs the importance of whose marrying. Considering 50 percent of Americans are unmarried and 50% of marriage’s end in divorce anyway.
@@dion5804 for average folks yes but not for handsome successful men the men these women want
@@jamesrick7351 Those are a very small minority of men and the women that they attract are with them because of their money or status, sadly. As soon they become ugly, ill or poor, they will regret of these marriages or relationships. Even side mistress can become real nightmares and ruin the life of their children as well. I watched this happening sometimes when I worked in upper class hospital. It's not pretty to see.
Its not just attraction. There are also very serious biological and psychological reasons too. If you can catch a girl BEFORE she goes through the absolute soul crushing grinder of college and university and the early work force you can kinda keep her calm, submissive, and soft. Not this loud, obnoxious, screeching, overbearing, violent behavior that follows after getting rolled over a 100 times during the college and early work force process. On top of that is simple reproduction.
Birth defects, miscarriages, and infertility begin at 30 and exponentially increase year after year for most women and sometimes even earlier with all the toxins in our food, medicine, and water. Not to mention its easier for younger women to have multiple children. A 35+ year old has a baby and is like oh no I am done lol because she is older and can't bounce back from such a traumatic experience. A 20 year old can produce WAY more children than a 35-40 year old can.
I have met some gorgeous women in their 30s and 40s but every single one of them was jaded, obnoxious, feminist who are very manipulative because they are so disgruntled by their bad choices. If you can find a young woman and nurture and keep these older women away from the younger women (they love to sabotage and make young women just as miserable as them) you can actually cultivate a beautiful relationship where you get what you want and the girl gets all that she wants without all the fussing and screaming. As long as you manage the marriage correctly and don't just let yourself go and not actively participate anymore.
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I just think it's pretty sad how y'all are trying to excuse men for their "preferences" via "biology" lol
Unsubscribing your misogynistic channel and telling all my friends too
@@emeow7426 there is evidence men are hardwired for attraction to women who can breed. Nature at work. Not excusing it but that fact in addition to how shallow ppl have become and all the available porn snd the fragile ego of men in general….tadah
@@emeow7426 Men don't need an excuse for their "preferences" lol.
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I appreciate the perspective. This is a dynamic that men and women are both responsible for.
I read another perspective about this from a Psychologist who worked in Aspen. She said she saw a lot of wealthy older men with young women in the community. She stated that initially it worked out well but later the women seemed to feel like the men stole their youth and the relationship often ended.
Not a lot of personal accountability in that anecdote. 🤔
Yes just happened to my dr. He married 30 yr old 25 yr dif. He had a health issue. not serious. woman saw writing on wall and bailed
@@psychacks young people make poor decisions and old people take advantage of them, who's accountable again?
@@popejaimie
As if old people do not make foolish decisions. if you believe a 25 year-old woman is still not mature enough to make wise decisions, why not advocate for the age of consent to be lifted to 30?
@@karllarsen8797 wild response, as though I argued that poor decisions should be illegal lol
Yes they are more attractive physically. However, never again will I bother with young women. They are too insecure, life is a mess, they just want to party, etc. I'm at a point were I have everything except a family so want a women not a girl. I want peace and calm from a partner not drama.
if there over 18 by law there not a girl lol also being older does not make u mature that's a Lifestyle thing. . I'm in my fancies. I still party with the young people. Half my social circle are between legal and 23.
The majority of younger people these days are hot messes. Guys too. Young Gay relationships are disastrous for other reasons but by this older/younger thing is just as common there, and just as unsuccessful.
@@corriescrivener1937 have you ever thought of what goes on in these young girls heads? that you are a dirty old man waiting to score for whoever is willing. I know it because I used to be this young girl with young friends and we get disgusted with old men who hang around younger women but of course we don't tell it to their faces.
Choose wisely.
I am a women and seeking same like u peace of mind 🎉
please make a longer video about this, this needs to be talked more
I've been on both ends of this. I dated women 20+ years older than me, and now I'm with a woman 17 years younger. It happens. But I know that even though I dated older women successfully, I'm in the minority of men. Overall, younger women are simply more attractive, and many women don't wanna hear that. Though it's as basic and as true as saying that humans have two arms and two legs.
When I was 23 I had a sexual relationship with a 42 year old women. When I was 31 I had one with a 19 year old. A lot of different variations in between as well.
I see the whole thing more from a orgasmic point of view. Younger women are better of with an older guy because he can hold back better and goes more for quality than quantity.
An older women has enough experience with her own body, so she can catch up easier with the younger and more aesthetic younger guy.
And conversely, biologically younger men are more attractive, energetic, stronger, humorous, up to challenges and life positive than older men. In nature wild animals by instinct mate with their age peers.
Definitely younger for me and at 54 let’s face it few women are attractive at my age unless she’s a celebrity or takes good care of herself and makes an effort so I think it’s justified . Id rather be alone and buy a girl if I have to than be with anyone just for the sake of it .
@@JudgeJulieLit so why don't woman prefer younger men why do women mostly prefer older men
@@H0lolo They don't necessarily. But for either sex who cares about soul, intellect and experiences, cultural alignment and compatibility, long term that factor rules, and complementarity of skills brought to the relationship. Younger people can be attracted to older who seem to have life and its issues figured out and solved. And people, depending on their life emotional histories, may prefer either a parent or child role.
My husband and I are 18 years apart. People online believe that my husband doesn't really love me but I know he does and has proved it. I couldn't be happier. ❤ My husband matches these qualities of the older man. He's actually 47 right now lol. One of the first things that attracted him to me is how informative I was about myself, I took care of myself and had a bubbly, welcoming attitude.
My bf and I are 20 years apart. We have a lot of haters, not just from older women but from older men who are jealous because they haven’t pulled a young woman.
What do you like about him?
@elise9537 he listens to me, has helped me form positive coping skills when all I used to do was punch things and drink. We're both sober. He is a really hard worker and knows about various topics. He's super creative and artistic. He's super in tune with his feelings and makes me laugh. He cares a lot about communicating with me. He's just super easy to be around. Hes level headed and chill as a cucumber. I'm also the one who came on to him, not the other way around as many think. We talked over the phone and bonded over family, Magik the gathering and anime. We're huge nerds.
I keep adding things as I think of them 🤣
@@Why_Knott_Me well yes thats the context I am talking about.. actually told some of these guys not to make any creepy moves or comments :) and just be a normal, decent human being but I think they dont know how to fake that :)) otherwise they would. they watch all these tricks and tips on how to get women. they are either on the autistic spectrum or not so bright because everybody's doing the same lines, moves its annoying for women. why did you drink ? what kind of trauma do you have?
@elise9537 I've been sexually assaulted 7 times because my ex pimped me out for 6 years. I also had a boyfriend before this that later had 2 instances where he touched or pressured kids. This was a couple years after i broke up with him. He is a registered sex offender and was only a year older than me. He was incredibly threatening to be around and would blow up at anything. I broke up with him in a public place.
My husband is the first man my parents have ever liked. My ex also didn't work for the majority of our 7 year relationship. He used drugs while I was pregnant with his son and would hide it from me. Obviously I found out. We had an open adoption with my best friends family. My ex isn't in the picture and doesn't talk to his son at all and doesn't care. I talk to my son when I can, and my husband and I pick out bday and Xmas gifts to send him every year. They live a few states away. Honestly it's one of the best decisions I ever made aside from getting away from my neglectful ex and getting clean. I'm almost 3 years sober. I'm a straight A student. I think the biggest problem a lot of women can have is when these things happen, they can blame men as a sex. These individuals that hurt me don't make up all men and remembering that is how I found a good man whose good for my mental and physical health.
I am a 36 year old woman with a 59 year old man. We were coworkers since 2015. He formed a close friendship with my family. After my boyfriend died last year from a sudden heart attack, he came into my life and we became more than just friends. He has done wonders with caring for me and my kids especially on an emotional level.
So... your boyfriend died a year ago, you had a whole family and kids with him... and you moved on to another man as soon as he died?? Sounds like you are a very emotional person and easily played into sex
@@heathert5455 merrage?
Sorry tho hear about your troubles, but it sounds like you've found a kind competent man who will really appreciate you.
I'm reading all these comments as I'm 60 and wondering what age lady could be appropriate for me, and I for her. For myself age is not an issue and never had been. If I'm attracted to someone age is not important really. Presentable Looks are very important and someone with an informed experience and who articulates feelings. Someone who reads too.
All these loose prerequisites tend towards someone around 30and over and I'm sure I could find my Muse in her, I'm just getting a bit hung up about the age difference as it seems very important to women.
I think Attraction trumps all really.
Anyway, I think you're lucky, both of you. Wish me luck !
I was a virgin until the age of 26 - and after that womens interest in me went way up than when i was in my early 20s. I dont even look THAT different, but typically date women 4-8 years younger than me after my 30's
There's a reason female interest in you significantly increased in your late 20s. I'll discuss more in a future episode.
Enjoy it my friend - and if you are single, it just keeps getting better as your wealth grows.
Careful! The rational male discusses this exact dynamic; men who start getting attention at around age 30 and women who start hitting their "epiphany phase" right around age 26-30 who seek this demographic of men. There's a very real reason for this; they're trying to cash in their chips before time runs out. My advice; don't date women over 25 (yet).
@@psychacks Which video is that?
Which proves the point women do NOT want inexperienced, virgin men.
I’ve known men that actually like to date older women- and I’ve met women who prefer to date men their own age. A lot of women do not want to date an older man if he is controlling or father-like. Vice versa with a man not wanting the woman to be maternal-like. Honestly, I believe it’s just about personalities and what each person has to offer in the relationship. If both people make eachother happy I don’t think age should be an issue. My husband is 12 years older than me. But I didn’t marry him because he was older. We simply liked each others personalities and we clicked. I was 30 and he was 42 when we met.
I hate to admit this, but in my 50's I'm actually much pickier, perhaps because I'm not as testosterone driven as I was in my youth. I can't just **** anything that moves anymore. I'm exaggerating the difference but I was definitely able to get turned on by much less attractive women when I was younger. I think this issue (not being as virile and sexually driven anymore) plagues a lot of older guys and kind of forces them to seek out the hot women, which essentially forces them to date younger.
Hahaha I love the way you said "it s because younger women like older men", you nailed it sir
Right, because of course if the interest wasn't mutual, older guys wouldn't be attracted to young women, right?
@@Sinsteel Less would be for sure. If there was pressure to not do something, such as say 60 years ago being sexually promiscuous, significantly fewer people did that. Now that it's open or "there is interest on both sides" it happens much more frequently.
Similar principle. There will always be those that do things. Let's take an extreme, rape for example. Pretty much horrible in most/all cultures and societies. Yet it still happens, be it rarely. If there was now "interest on both sides" as it were, there would be a massive uptake in rape.
So to your point, if it wasn't mutual there would be a few that are still attracted and go after young women, as there will always be with anything. But the majority wouldn't.
@@Sinsteel No, many older men pursue younger women, despite the younger women's parries, expressions of nonmutuality of romantic interest.
if he said it's because some younger women like older man it will be more correct, but what he initially said was wrong. take it with a grain of salt.
yeah so gross lol
This comment section is giving me insecurity fearing that I would never be loved and cherished as I was in my 20s the same ever again when I get older, lose my shape due to biological factors, no matter how nice, decent and feminine I am to others. And I'm only 24 this year :)
There is a time limit on everything. That is the brutal reality of life. No person is perfect and thus there will never be a perfect relationship. Make best use of the time you have, some opportunities are gone forever.
Definitely not never. But it is true it gets harder as time goes on.
Yeah. That's pretty accurate. That's how life is.
It's all good, you have at least another 6 months before you need to worry - lol that is a joke by the way.
Your newfound humility could turn out to be lifechanging. Most 24 year olds think the party never ends. When it does it isn't pretty. Plan ahead.
The reason is very simple in terms of evolution. Women have a limited fertile age range. Men have to accumulate resources and status to support women during childbearing and rearing. In the past high child mortality meant that neither sex had the luxury not to use the woman's limited fertility window to its full (8 to 14 children was normal), hence men's fertility window extends much longer than women's.
Your facts have no power here! [just read the comments if you doubt :) ]
It takes a 25 year old woman a few months to get pregnant by a man her age, while a man age 40 will take TWO YEARS to impregnate her. You are delusional
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I agree. At age 45, I married a beautiful 27 year old woman. We were both at our peak attractiveness according to the factors laid out in the video. Fortunately, my wife is more mature than the average 27 (now 30) year old, so the relationship is still strong. We have our moments, which probably owe to the difference in experience and maturity, but overall, we are still very compatible.
Congratulations. I'm almost 40 and I'm looking for a woman between 27 and 31 with no kids, for something serious, maybe have kids in the future. My father met my mother (17 years younger than him) and had me in his 40's. 😊
Until the younger wife cheats on you when you’re too old!
@@Michelle.A79 Men seem to age better even though women live longer. Men in their 70’s can still attract younger women. Women in their 60’s and 70’s are still looking for men in their 70’s and 80’s. When I’m 70, my wife will be 52. Who’s she gonna cheat on me with - another 52 y.o.? No, because attractive 52 y.o. men are looking for 30-year-olds.
@@anthonyperrault4969
Jejeje not anymore! That’s not the case I know heaps of women who have cheated on their older husbands! And no women who’s 30 would go for a 50 year old man unless she’s a mail order bride.
@@Michelle.A79 Women cheat on their husbands no matter the age of the husbands. Propensity to cheat has little to do with the age of the partner. And it is not true that the only women dating men 20 years older than them are “mail order brides.” Maybe you should try dating someone significantly older than you. I think you may be surprised. I don’t know how old you are, but I can tell you that I have more than enough life and energy for my wife and young child. In fact, my very physically fit wife would admit that she has a hard time keeping up with me, not the other way around. But I’m still very youthful, athletic, and fit for my age. And I have no major medical issues. A prototypical 48-y.o. American male is fat, but it’s not the prototypical ones that are landing the young hot wives.
I love older men, like between 40-50 men genuinely look better. but the way people in the society look at big age gaps makes it nearly impossible to date someone 20 years older without being judged by everyone.. Which is really annoying 😢
thats because they know why you like them
@@VicthemightyYeah, their money
@@Butterfly22593 exactly
OK and what is the assumption that a young woman does not come from a wealthy family? Or have a close relative with a handful of money. So then what if she doesn’t want it after all the family has it. That’s another possibility. That’s one reason why I don’t care about money. Just food for thought
When I was in my early 20s, I was close minded to the idea of considering someone a lot older. Regardless of age, mental and emotionally mature ones versus predators are a lot harder to find.
Very educational! Lesson straight to the point, with a dab of self esteem boost 👌
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Hi.. A real live woman here... here to tell you that Women in general do not like older men.. if u mean older than 3 years of her age.. We like to date men around our same age, whether that be within two to three years younger or older.. This is reflected in all the marriages out there where the statistics show that the husbands and wives are only a couple years apart at best. If u think a gal likes you and u r 5-10 years older than u r?? U r fooling yourself.. That is when she takes the liberty to try to balance things more to make things more fair to her so then she wants the old fart to make more money etc cuz she knows she is starting to get the bad end of the stick here in terms of inequality with the ages. Do you guys realize we think these things through?? We dont want the man to die ten years ahead of us and then we are widowed in old age. We think about this. We dont want the guy to not be able to have sex later on cuz he is so much older than us. We think about these things.. Wake up.. You guys tell yourself lies just to make yourself feel better.. When an older man by ten years or more looks at a woman we feel its creepy.. Its not fair to us since we are not gawking at men that much younger not because we dont think they are attractive, it just does not make LOGICal sense cuz of compatibility issues or simple fairness.
@@SuzyLemkeYou have no clue what women want. You’re probably over 25. Most men want women that’s 21. 25 is old. Most 21 year old women want wealthy men, irrespective of their age. You sound bitter 😂
As a female this makes me feel suicidal. I mean I already knew this stuff. Everyone does but I have been thinking hard about it the past couple years. I am 28 and have never been in a relationship, I was raised VERY sheltered and was not raised to have good confidence or social skills and I have been very isolated I am very sad. Guys did not like me when I was a teenager, because I was biracial in a white community before it was considered “cool” and “attractive” like it is today. What about my self esteem?
@@SuzyLemkehe Max average age gap in america seems to be about 7 years. But these guys are talking more about dating girls who are 10-15-20+ years younger.
I'm 66, she is 40. We like each other and are happy.
@@johnkeith2450 just bé careful thats all
Just be careful thats all 🙂😊
@johnkeith2450 I'm 41, and a 66 year old man is my best friend. We're extraordinarily compatible, despite the age difference.
I think the difference in maturity and personal security between a man in his 40s and a woman in her 20s is more significant and potentially detrimental to a relationship than the same age gap between a woman in her 40s and a man in his 60s. By that age, both are emotionally mature enough and knowledgeable of themselves to know what they want and to be considerate of the other person instead of self-centered and controlling or manipulative.
Plus, it's less likely that either party will be drawn into a manipulative relationship with another person because they have discernment acquired from life experience that the younger set does not.
By the time a woman is in her 40s, and a man is in his 60s, the gender and age disparities in maturity that affect the younger are pretty irrelevant. Both parties are emotionally and psychologically in the same grade and share the same desires for the relationship and for life goals.
Whether an age gap relationship is viable or not has less to do with the difference in years and more to do with the difference in maturity.
@@thethoughtfulpeanut6662 Thank you for the kind words. We are just lightly dating, but we get along very well. Maybe it will become more, maybe not.
I expected nothing new and had my jaw dropped when he said it
That's my mission with this channel: to help you see the world in a slightly different light.
Very true! Always dated substantially older and never cared what anyone thought!
I think this may be the case when the women don't have money. The women I grew up with were career women and had their own money. They expected a handsome man about the same age. They were just as shallow about looks as men.
"To want" means "to lack." So it makes sense that people want what they don't have, and to want less what they do. That said, by the time career women (or career men) come into their own financially, they're generally already in their early 30s.
It's also important to understand that older men don't simply represent the possibility of access to greater resources. Older men typically have established lifestyles, emotional self-control, sexual experience, communication skills, etc.
Thanks for the clarification!
Usually the men that careerwomen want don't want them back
*Expected* but don't get or keep for the long term. Peak men won't want them later.
When I went out with MrG (23 years older), I didn't have any money. He'd just been made bankrupt and was losing his home. Money was not a factor!
I’m 44 and I’m interested in a 26 years woman. We are both interested but already dealing with prejudice and toxicity from other people, including my parents.
Do what you want...forget family, so called friends. But keep it temporary, never marry!
you parents are haters
@@peridotbeauty That's not the reason. I don't have kids.
Ley me had another reason:
Women, specially older ones don’t like it because they are seeing themselves in the past when they were young, and that their prime time is gone.
And all this envy and prejudice without being interested in the man.
No you are not that interested. You just want to flatter your ego. Otherwise you would not be here talking about other people.
You'd be busy making the relationship work.
If you like her so much,marry her then and then ask for babies. Be a tradtional man at your big age.
Me, a woman, whose husband is 2 years younger. Needless to say this is true. Younger men probably only like women older than them because of the stability and maturity... or so I've been told. Needless to say some have "found out" that they like more younger/youthful women. Ouch, but the truth hurts, that's how it is.
And do most women prefer men as old as their fathers or so? The answer is no. Ouch, truth hurt, but that's how it is.
But you look fun/and youthful. Your husband is lucky.
Amén! I'm a 39 year old man dating a 24 year old woman. It's amazing. She is even more mature in so many levels that the ones of my age or older. She happier and more easy to be around. Having the time of my life.
While it lasts.. as you get older she won't want you anymore
@@vidaacheampong2563 By then, it no longer matters... he got his already.
@@vidaacheampong2563 LOL! Maybe or maybe not. The importance of it all is to be happy with one self. To be with a younger, same age or older woman can't assure nothing. Be brave out there my friends.
@@LuisFelipeCalderon when your " thing " stops functioning properly will you be happy with ones self? lmao
@@vidaacheampong2563 As long as he has use of his fingers, he'll be fine...
I’m 25 years older than my wife during our first year together I asked her if our age difference was an issue for her. She looked at me like I was crazy and just said it doesn’t matter I love you, I never asked that question again lol!
DAWG 25 IS CRAZY YOU WERE GRADUATING HIGHSCHOOL 7 YEARS BEFORE SHE WAS EVEN IN THE WOMB
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Hi, I am age 65 and I’ve got a 30-year-old girl after me. She’s gorgeous. And she says and ask if I would be loyal and dedicated to her alone. Now that is a big age difference there my daughter is 35. I don’t know what to think of it. She’s wonderful to talk to beautiful, but I don’t care what people say. I really don’t care you know I mean people talk no matter what And the ones talk only other ones who are envious. But it’s a big difference. I just don’t know about that one.
@@MickGeorge-x5z What's the problem? People shun it because they are jealous and/or ignorant about the facts of life. You don't have to worry about the gap being too big. The only worry should be that she is already past her prime and whether you are OK with that or not.
@@MickGeorge-x5z you feel weird because people are judging you (or will). Read Mark Manson's book: "The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck" That and the good doctor in the video will help you with that. Remember she gets as much as you do from the relationship. Same value but different actual benefits. An older dude is like using a cheat code for life, she gets to level up on your experience. A younger woman is like being young again, but with the things you already know. You will both be happier if you are deadly honest about it.
I watched this one podcast and the guy said something very very very interesting:
he said that ONE of the many reasons why most men go after the younger woman is because she makes his sperm still feel potent and still can make babies.
i tried to put it as best as i can, but you have to hear him say it.
It was mind boggling. He explained it so elequent.
So that means if an old man marries a woman in her 20s, she will give birth to celestial creatures or something?
@@cutebasooma OK everybody. I am 60 foot four years old. The girl that I’m currently speaking with is 34 years old. But we’ll see where it goes. I would not be comfortable with dating somebody that’s 27 because all they’re gonna do is eat pizza and hang up all night and party, come at night I’m gonna go to bed. But that’s OK. Some women emotionally can handle a mature relationship other women not so much. I think it truly depends on the two people involved. You can love it any age. You can fall in love at any age. If a man looks good. He feels good about himself at his age and a younger girl is attracted to him and she can emotionally handle the relationship. I think it’s a beautiful thing. If we look back in the Bible, a lot of older men married younger women. They really did, so ages just how do they put it just a number
@@MickGeorge-x5zThe fact that you’re 64 thinking that you should be going after a 27 year old and listing reasons why the young 34 year old is better for you, is disgusting. Are you a multi Millionare?
The largest group to produce autistic children in recent studies are older men with much younger women. What you wrote is a fantasy.
I think there is also the fact that a younger woman usually comes with less bagage in the relationship. Wich makes it way easier..
Women younger bring youth to the relationship vs older they’ve seen everything in life and nothing else.
I am currently dating a woman how way much younger than me. I’m 42 and I still hang on to my fading good looks. I have become a good painter to the level that I will be working with a major gallery. She is an artist too and that is how we became closer together. Now people will say she is using me to learn what she needs and others will say I’m using her for sex. Both of opinions are not wrong, but we mutually agree to enjoy our time together, and even if it is a doomed romance, I’m happy that I got to enjoy this experience.
When I was in 20's I never wanted much older men. I always had an attraction to men my age or 2 years older. Older men ages you when you are young. I've seen that with some women. They are young women and they starts looking just as old as the older man they are with. By 30 years old, they looking like 40.
But this usually happens regardless if she is with an older man or not... *most* women lose a lot after their mid-20's.
Men do not age better than women.
Sooner or later, an older partner will consume the youth of his younger partner.
@@davepazz580so not true😂 delusional comment
@@BadAssNigga95 It's *very* true and purposefully designed by nature to be that way... don't delude yourself on that.
So would you have still found 23 too old at 20? 3 or 4 years is still too much?
"Women desire financial security and a comfortable lifestyle, it's that simple."
So lower their standard to old men.
Young men have to wise up, for they end up waiting and becoming old.
No one really wins, because if the young woman was sure enough she can get support from man her age- absolutely believe me she would 100% pick the young one!
@@adk5997 womp womp
Woman can no longer safely have children past the age of about 38. Men can continue to have children into their 60s. That’s two biological reasons. Another is men are much more visually stimulated and woman are more mentally stimulated.
A 70 year old man dating a 45 year old woman is also dating a much younger woman.
For all of you assuming that it is about a 50 year old man dating a 25 year old women, and women in their 40's are upset because they have no options.
Everyone is younger than someone.
the love of my life was 20 years younger than me. she chased me. i couldn't believe a beautiful 29 year-old woman (perfect face and near-perfect body) could be interested in me. it can happen.
Why does this situation of older men dating younger women make women outside of the relationship angry?
Because it reminds them that time is a factor going against them in the dating/mating game..
These women feel similar-aged men "belong" to them and don't like that younger women are taking them instead...
@@davepazz580 That sounds like some unhealthy level of possessiveness. Like I think they wouldn't want to hear some guy say "every woman my age belongs to me and solely me".
I don't know if I'd call it "possessiveness" exactly... more like entitlement.
@@davepazz580 I agree, entitlement works much better.
Women are also visual and also choose men by appearance.
And I don't think women like older men. Instead they like money, and young men usually haven't had time to earn it.
Not necessarily. Women fall in love with their ears. If a man says the right things, no matter what age, she's still prone to falling for him.
@@francisbureros Provided the man has the looks that attract her, you're correct. If he doesn't, she won't feel anything for him, regardless of what he says.
@chicolofi If she's a shallow woman, yes. But it's not the majority. I know plenty of beautiful women that are with ugly looking men, and no, it's not bc they're rich.
@@francisbureros Ok, I believe you. Just for curiosity, which country do you live in?
@@chicolofibut as a rule, men will generally keep their looks longer than women. I can attract 20 odd yr old girls easier now than I could in my 20s, girls my age can't do that.
I prefer younger men. I know that's less common. All women I know like men older.
If you don’t mind me asking, what is it about younger men you find intriguing? It just makes no logical sense for a woman to desire a younger man.
@@ilikepancakes2368 They like to dominate a young guy and mother him, and then shame anyone outside of their circle who doesn't think like them. The hypocrisy of women who date younger men, who shame men for dating younger women is epic.
@@ilikepancakes2368 His equipment with stamina lol
most women marry or date men who are 4 years older or younger than them because we want guys who are in the same stage. its really difficult to date someone whos still anxious out of their mind because they are yet to make it in life, they still dont know whats their life purpose is, they are focused on immediate goals only, they might know how to self soothe and calm down their anger and anxieties. Older men have geriatric issues and young guys are still a work in process. being a parent to someone is only hot in the movies. yes when in our 30s and 40s we should be marrying someone a bit younger because guys have shorter life span and major health issues :) just freeze your eggs and youll be able to safely date anyone you want till you find the dad genetic material. 30 yrs old male DNA is preferable to geriatric one.
@@RearAdmiralTootToot go ahead. hit on youngsters and see how their dad reacts:)
Answer: youth denotes fertility & healthy offspring. The neotenous phenotype evolved alongside this. This is not only exclusive to looks, but is also present in behaviors as well.
When I was in my early twenties, I went with men much older than I was and it was because I was, frankly, super shy. I mean painfully socially shy - trying to speak to a guy my own age was really difficult because I was so intimidated esp. if he was good-looking. With older men, I didn't feel that intimidation because honestly, it sort of just felt like being with my dad. And they were so happy to be with someone much younger that I didn't have to do anything aside from be young and pretty. I didn't have to try or impress them in anyway - my youth itself was enough to make them want me (although, of course, I didn't realize that at the time.) Sometimes I do feel like I kind of wasted my youth in those types of relationships, but, then, we all do the best we can in the end...
You DID waste your youth, because you could have dated young and attractive men… So, that’s probably who you should be dating now, because if you wait too long you’ll miss out!
Your story sounds like that of an old woman trying to avoid accountability.
Yes, girls when young date old men, because it is SO easy, and anything they ask, man will do. It is obvious
This makes sense, I am 42 and dating a 28 year old Woman, so far we mesh really well!
@@peridotbeauty When you lived in Asia like me, you will widen that gap to 20 years or so.
@@peridotbeauty Of course. You would date a man 20 years older than you. Not uncommon in Asia.
Lol, come on bruh, stop being so obtuse. A 28-year old is not being chased after by Chad.
You're just getting a used car with 60,000 miles on it rather than 100,000. It's literally nothing to brag about.
@@sneksteppyno wonder you have no game cuz you compare woman to objects , cringe
@@ohtaesvnI’m 42 and a virgin I would never settle for a 28. I agree. That is a used 🚘. I’m not desperate or weak. I’ll ride this out by myself instead. All the 18-24 year old virgins are extinct. 😢😅😂
Great video: concise, persuasive, and fair minded.
My moms husbands best friend married a very young woman 20 years young and she actually chased him. He was totally creeped out by it at first but where shes from its normal so she was like wtf why wont you date me 😂 anyways now theyre happily married. Men arent always predators in these cases or bad guys looking for 20yr old 🐈 to ruin
What culture is she from?
When I was younger, I used to say that I preferred older men. Then, I met my husband. He is 8 years younger than myself. We have been married for almost 15 years as of today.
I know that this is the exception, but I think on a very basic level, I was looking for maturity and security, as was he. Because we were both intent on building together, we needed a strong foundation. This required both of us to be on the same goal path.
My point is that there are many socially accepted boxes that we are expected to fit into. Some of us either don't fit into any of them, or just refuse to live under such restrictions. I think that my husband and I are much happier because of both.
@@P.90.603 He was 28 when we married.
@@P.90.603 He was 28 when we married.
I work for Me-too! I also have been a therapist for 30 years women do not want the older counterpart it is only to come into reality when we become their caregivers, realize yes the lie that they accept older men when they are young, but they get old too, so they shoot themselves in the foot and need to stand ground that after ten years that is so much incurring differences. Very rarely you will see such age difference on both sides that are satisfied, other than sex!! and the younger women/man, will want some of your pocketbook. Let's face it if you want to say women do not look as attractive, you have to turn it back to the men, who age faster and look like a decaying piece of flesh. NO I am not angry, I am very real and find it hard to see other who do not stay informed, aka prehistoric values of men, visual, natural, that has been debunked for years and is not true, it serves as the men in power who write these statements for their advantage. No I am not embarrassed I am older; I look better than a twenty-year-old, but that is not the point it is for me! I shows me men bitch far more than women if they have to keep up with these statements to try and convince themselves I am no old, women are. Wake up old geezers! We like to look at young handsome studs too, but I have more of a chance then you. so do you women stand up!! Young women who play along I blame you as you will seal your fate when you become thirty and older, this is how these type of men think
You dont sound nor write like a therapist.
tldr
You are a therapist? I don't know what your verbal communications are like but your written communication needs some serious work. I had to work to decipher what you are saying. Proper punctuation and grammar help. I take it you are warning young women not to get involved with older men as they will only end up being their caregivers up the road. That can actually happen at any age. If the love is not very strong the younger person will sometimes ask for divorce or otherwise flee. Consider character before getting into ANY relationship, look deep, not superficially. Thank you for working for Me Too. I am a male who experienced abuse as a child and sexual harassment (twice) in the workplace as an adult. Yes...men get sexually harassed and abused too, not just women.
@@duncan18663she's an old lady who is insulting men her age as "a decaying piece of flesh" which really objectifies them. And she says she's a therapist. I wonder if her patients realize she thinks of them as "old geezers"
How about looking at statistics that compare age, physical attractiveness, status and financial resources in MARRIED couples. The traits that on average makes a person more successful in the dating market may not line up with the traits that get people married. I know married couples where the man is younger than the woman and this is NOT rare. I know couples where the woman is more educated and financially better off than her husband. This is also NOT the exception of the rule.
No, men don't like youngER women, men like YOUNG women (18-24)
I am 60 and quite successful. I find it amazing that women in their 20's seem attracted to me. This video really sheds some light on that subject.
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Absolutely no way
They are attracted to your money. Nothing more and nothing less.
You can't possibly be that clueless. Not unless it's critical to your ego to gaslight your own self.
@@dianemurray6550 this sounds like a jealous comment
@@mugojr4766 you sound like someone who's ego is dependent on believing that catfish you've been "loaning" money is actually a beautiful young woman with sincere interest in your broken down husk.
Yeah that makes sense. Of course you can be an older woman and have kids but biologically the risk goes up the more you age. So if a man is finally in his field of work and is 35-40 it would make sense that he would want a woman in her 20’s especially if he wants a big family. Marrying and trying to have kids when your wife is 38 isn’t ideal. She has lost most of her eggs and if she does she may have complications. Wanting 5 or 6 kids forget about it. And yes younger women want stability and most men become more stable the older they get. It’s really not that weird. But I will say atleast let her be able to sit at the bar whether either drinks or not. Lol
I don’t like older men. I like men around my own age…I want to have lots of things in common, be from the same generation, and be at about the same maturity level and in the same place in life. Plenty of men are mature without being old. it’s like growing up with that person…you feel a greater connection when you’ve gone through many of the same experiences they have..like trends music political movements similar families so on. And as You get older you wanna go through life experiencing things together not playing catch up to the much older person who’s already experienced it all. 🤷🏻♀️ so yeah lots of women actually don’t wanna date older men.
lucky for us, there are 4 other billion women in the world. I know thats hard to grasp
I think the biggest issue is your first.
Do you want to go through all your firsts with someone that has already done it 3 times, first house, first marriage, first child.
I joke about wanting a younger woman because the truth is, they are very attractive but I would feel a bit guilty that I have experienced life and a young woman does not get to share her firsts with a young man also experiencing all his firsts.
Casual sexual encounters are a different story but unfortunately all the young ladies I have talked to do not subscribe to the age is just a number.
Thank You for your honest opinion
Yes, I'm a woman and I feel the same way. I would never want to date anyone significantly older or significantly younger than myself. About 5 years maximum in each direction would be fine (for reference I'm 31). And I think that's the truth for most mature adults, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. I'm not trying to shame people who are in consensual age-gap relationships (provided they are both of age), but I just assume there comes a point where you ask yourself what do you actually have in common with a person who had been alive for twenty years before you were even born. I'm not saying that different generations can't find common ground, but our experiences shape us and there's no going around that and people from different generations are going to have different views and interests more often than not.
To this point, you can have many things in common and be from within the same generation with an age gap. A generation is around 15 years if I remember correctly. An older millennial and a younger millennial will still relate to many of the same things, have gone through many of the same experiences, and so on. The vast majority of relationships are within sub-15 years as well. Intergenerational relationships are quite rare.
As for maturity, that is more a personality characteristic and will depend drastically on both individuals on where they are at and what they even believe maturity to be.
I’m 33 and my boyfriend is 63 and he’s CEO
Omg don't you guys have fights?
Lol you're the same woman who commented that you flirt with other men at the gym
I’m 34 my girlfriend 18
When I was 40, I had a 19 year old who was 5-6, 130 lbs, with c cups and long black hair
I don't think women like men who are a lot older than them generally speaking. There is data that shows this. I'd say on average they do like men a few years older than them, and this changes to skew towards liking younger men once women are somewhere in their 40s. Again, data shows this when it comes to online dating
That's the most realistic comment
I agree, they settle when out of options. How do I know?? seeing that happening. know many women who settled for 10 years older man. Not for his looks
It is in older women's interest to shame and stigmatize older men who like younger women. Why? Because if older men had the unfettered access to younger women, the older women would be rendered wholly irrelevant in the sexual marketplace.
It makes them feel threatened because they were given a blank check at 18 cashed it in for the cock carousel.
Blown out and withered up, no one wants them anymore and since accountability escapes them, they have no idea why.
Absolutely 100%.
@Celtic girl so true I see young women with young men all the time. At 25 there’s no way I’d be interested in trading my young husband for an old one.
@@Jonslying If he's not too rich to compensate, it's not worth it. I saw the suffering of my mother having to take care of my father along with small children. Taking care of an old man is much worse than taking care of an old woman. Men are bigger and heavier. I say from experience.
Here’s the thing, they should be irrelevant in the market BECAUSE they shouldn’t be that damn old looking for a mate they should’ve found it at 20 in their prime!
Men know this, the reason why that rule doesn’t apply to men is because their prime is older and it takes time for them to build the things women desire men for.
When I told my mother and my friend that in the future I don't want to marry a man older than me and I prefer to marry someone close to my age, they were shocked and I didn't know why. I was even shocked by the age difference between most of the married women who are my mother's friends. I realize now that this is common, but what I don't understand is how can there be compatibility between the two parties? I mean, if a man is 20 years older than a woman, he is definitely more mature and experienced in life. How can she understand him or can there be compatibility between them? I see this type of relationship as boring I don't know I'm 19 years old now and for me I don't want to get married at a young age I want to become a mature woman first able to take responsibility then I will start thinking about it as for the person I really want him close to my age I'm a bit of a silly girl but I love fun and joy I want to try a lot of things for the first time with a young man I love and who is close to my age it will be more fun when we go through the experiences and obstacles that life throws at us together but my mom always complains that if I get married at 25 and he is close to me or the same age as me he won't have money and won't be a mature person and I will be homeless but I don't see it that way I mean in terms of money we can work on it together I work several jobs and he does too then we get married and live together in a small apartment until we find other solutions we grow and improve and I think it will be more fun because we will face challenges together and we will support each other we will save money and when things improve we will think about traveling and discovering the world together, since my childhood I have been dreaming of that, then one day we will think about planning to start a family I I'm not really interested in being a mom and I find the thought of being a mom to something funny because I'd be a silly, clown mom with ADHD but maybe one day if the person I love wanted to start a family I think I might reconsider.
@@UnknownXlll if you don't want to marry 20 years older then you have the next 3 years to pick someone 8-12 years older before your options dramatically reduce. You admit you're silly, so you shouldn't be making firm permanent decisions. You don't have to decide to Maui mnarry someone on the first meeting. Just resolve to move forward with anyone who shows interest until you know them fully. It's the only way you can make an informed decision, to say nothing of letting your emotions have time to respond
You can make it work. I have friends who have done that. I wish I did. My husband‘s not a bad person. He’s just very emotionally immature. Waste tons of money on his gaming addiction. There’s only so much you can tolerate. It’s the only relationship I’ve had and unpacking it up and moving on. I don’t care what you do for a living. But if the intellectual conversation disappears or there’s no emotional growth that I’m out. We are only five years aged difference. You still have plenty of older men who still have not mentally matured. Physically yes mentally depends on the person. Anyone who has logical thinking, balanced out with emotional awareness is worth listening to. I’ve always admired those people. They usually give you advice if you ask. The mature ones do instead of logical thinking obsessively believing you want them to solve your problems when all you want is someone mature to shut up and listen. Having an adult uncomfortable conversation with you instead of running into a room, disappearing, playing video games believing that solves life complex issues. Sometimes two people cannot grow when together if one of them refuses to do so. you can always try. Better to be homeless to build yourself back up instead of stuck in codependency. Hope you never end up in that situation. Years full of unresolved conflict does not bring anything positive to the table. Someone who keeps running is not worth chasing.
I am 32 and my wife is 19, and I am happy to have her.
You lucky bastard! ^_^
Can somebody say Paedophile??
What the fuck 😂😂😂😂 how the fuck did her father allow that?
That just screams Arabic vibes
Im fine with it though
hope you're both happy
@@SirineMenia It is a general vibe across every culture of men. However, in some cultures they’re shamed for it, but in general every men wishes to have a younger female partner.
You didn't discuss a crucial dynamic. What a woman is interested in a man, changes as she ages. The younger the woman the more she will be interested in looks and how fun the guy is, the older she gets she will lean more into status and wealth. A guy in his 30s who has played his cards right can be the best of both worlds for an early 20s woman i.e he makes a good amount of money, is mature, dresses, and looks good, and still has a fun appeal. But I noticed that women's requirements of income these days, despite their age can (at most) only be met by men over 40. Their lifestyle requirements are inflated.
😂😂😂
Who hurt you?
I am genuinely curious.
I’m in my early 20s, I have no interest in what someone can give me materialistic wise compared to what they can give me emotionally, mentally and physically. I have no interest in fake hair, nails or expensive things. I’m happy with a home cooked dinner and a movie on the lounge, followed by a night of binding and cuddles.
People base this off of the majority while leaving out the minority that have good intentions and genuine feelings.
Older or not, we build together. Financial status doesn’t matter when you end up in the same place as everyone else when the road ends, memories make the richest of all! 😊
@@Megamon911that’s the point moron…. Women in their early twenties place an emphasis on fun/etc
I’m 32, women 30+ seem much more interested in $/status/lifestyle than the women I date in their early twenties
You lose this question - “who hurt you?”.. no one naive little girl- you don’t even have the perspective to speak on this things yet.
Yes, the older women get the more $ and lifestyle is important. Interestingly enough it is also when their dating value takes big hits and they have trouble competing with younger women
This is a great observation and something I have noticed. As cultural perceptions have shifted in the West, so have the ideal ages. It used to be that women around 18-23 and men 38-43 were seen as the ideal. But as economic pressures change and with further advancements in technology and quality of life, preferences shift.
I have noted something different. While women still have high income requirements they are valuing looks, fun, and lifestyle much more now than they used to. As such the late 30s and 40's men cannot compete as well as they used to and are no longer the gold standard. You actually hit the nail on the head where if a guy plays his cards right, 32-37 or so is the best of both worlds, and would now have the greatest selection to choose from.
Ok, never thought of it this way.
And here is something that I have noticed:
- Older women without a partner tend to be the women that focused only on their careers. Obviously, their options drop by the time they are in their 30's. And they are still confused, even then.
So for a lot of them (as far as I experienced) this hits back as a massive frustration that clouds their judgment, wisdom, kindness, femininity.
- Younger women have their behavior structure still mostly intact. They are unburdened by such frustration, which makes them more present, sincere, curious. Plus, they have time on their side.
This is not just me saying this, this is what I hear from women on a regular basis. And it's not good, I believe that a lot of them were sold marketing lies without which they could have made better choices.
Life doesn't begin in the 40's or 50's. I believe life happens every day, but consequences will be felt later in life.
Don't worry about older women, were okay with being single and our careers. i feel sorry for young girls who have to sleep with old farts and take care of them.
@@EC-yl7xk Nobody forces them to sleep with old farts.
But at least they could choose old fucks!
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Most of your comment doesn't make sense, but I will assure you that younger women (and men - people generally) are far more insecure, highly strung and emotional.
I remember being told by women 2 years older than me that I was too young for them in my 20s
Bruh, they were too polite to tell you that you're a solid 0/10.
@@sneksteppy rest assured plenty of women have told me this too
@sneksteppy up vote this comment to give me some uncurable painful illness on Christmas
Youth, particularly when combined with beauty, is more desirable the wealth. Hence the young woman is more valuable. I always ask people if they would rather be 20 and poor or 70 and rich. I have only ever had one answer to that question.
But youth and beauty is temporary. I’ll never understand people who are stuck thinking like this. We have a birthday every year. 20 year olds turn 21, than 22, and so on. Well maintained wealth can last longer than youth.
I still think it creepy with maturity levels and also just the factor of power dynamics.
52
Dating 24
She doesn't mess me about like the women my age ?
I'm 24, and my father is 52 lol ew
younger woman are less complicated and more agreable less sad ect... its not only the " LOOKS "
the majority of the 25 year olds don't date 45 year olds, so the basis of the whole argument is flawed. If you sexualise someone that is closer to your father's age than yours, you have unhealed psychological issues. Likewise, if you are attracted to someone that can be your child, your are creppy.
Exactly.
Everyone is different. It does not necessarily have anything to do with psychological issues. Some people are fatherless and childless; so the argument is misguided in that context.
YES it’s gross to be in a sexual relationship with people who are the age your kids should be.
@@frillylily8005 What happens if you had your kid at 16? Since most women are gardeb equipment and end up making poor choices and single moms so they wouldnt be able to date a younger guy?
What about all these female school teachers dating, hanging out raping their students...women are hypocrites
All women want to date a guy that reminds then of their Fathers..
Its sciencetfic fact
I think it goes both ways. I think older men like younger women, and I think younger women like older men.
The fact that something this basic needs to be explained is amazing.
The cognitive dissonance older women use to make themselves better the second men have the advantage in desirability is pathetic
Right, but this still amounts to women getting "stuff" from men, without having to do anything to earn it, and men, once they get enough "stuff", they can use it to attract young, greedy women.
Except what if by the time you got all this "stuff", you'd rather pull your own fingernails out than spend it on greedy gold-diggers?
you go oldie... hit on them younglings and see how their dad reacts :)
@@elise9537 Mad post-wall woman detected hahaha
@@Propofol1234 Failed man who made the ideology of the unwanted his whole identity detected.
@@elise9537 CRY more- I'm a successful doctor and I only date women 18-23
Point of correction some young women might go for older men because of resources, money
For the first time in my life I'm liking the idea of being with a younger woman. Women my age 50's are crazy and angry. This one girl I like from work 20's is so sweet and kind and emotionally stable. I think I would like any woman who is sweet and kind and stable but most women my age don't meet that criteria. This isn't a vanity move. It would be a lot of work on my part to make it happen and I don't want her using me for money or to get away from her parents.
menopause & midlife crisis can make anyone go insane & cranky, honestly I don't blame those women in their 50's
@@eyesofra1111yea but it’s not our problem. Nature designed us to always be attached to women 18-20’s. I’m not being mean. Just stating facts. I say this as a male who’s a heterosexual 42 year old virgin who’s been passed over by time and time but there have been factors that played it’s part. 💩 happens. 😂
@@Incel_81 ? why're you saying that to me? It's common sense, young fit bodies are more attractive....and since fertility is a fact, young women are more preferable
I'm not even arguing about that....did u even read what I said? i said midlife crisis & sickness can make anyone cranky... even me, a 20 year old female
@@Incel_81 and cranky people push people away, nobody in their right mind will be attracted to a person who's irritated 24/7, regardless of gender
@@Incel_81 I was kind of insecure about it, all these "value of men vs value of women" fucked up my mental peace & made me feel like what if I get married, and after 30 years, my partner find me ugly compared to women in their 20's?
I made peace with this fact that youthfulness is always preferable, whether its man or woman & the right person will stay no matter what the situation.... just cz my man fell in bed due to sickness, doesn't mean i go hunting for better dicks? its kinda like that
Another great video Doc!
One of my theories is that women aged
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@@icequeen5553 previous relationships. Woman carry this with them for life, if it was good, current boyfriend gets harassed that he doesn't do one thing previous boyfriend did better, if bad, current boyfriend gets viewed that he'll do the same bad things. Women can't let go of previous relationships.
Most traumas that affect peoples relationships are made between the ages of 6-8 years old. A woman 28+ might have finally resolved that - and be much more ready for a relationship.
Men want younger women to boost their ego. Look at me I must be a stud. And for the young juicy sex. Period.
Disgusting
Studies show when there's more of a 6 to 8 year age gap, relationships have problems because of generational differences.
Hm. Do you have a citation for this? For me, a generational difference would be closer to 15 or 20 years.
I guess you meant "when there's less than a 6 years gap ..."
@@zxcbxfjyj423 but most relationships fail
@@zxcbxfjyj423 why are you too lazy to cite our sources? If you can type you can cite. Having people look it up leaves things up to chance.
@@psychacks I know this is an older video, but I'm surprised that you as a mental health professional are not aware of studies showing that the closer the couple is in age, the greater success of the marriage. I didn't even go out of my way to look that up. I ran across it by accident. If I recall correctly, even a small age gap was less successful than if the couple was the exact same age.
This man is NOT a simp and I absolutely love it. Almost brought a tear to my eye brother. You deserve a free case of beer and a pack of Newports and a fertile 25 year old woman my guy.
Lol.
I'm 25 and oldest I'd go is 30. Same for all my friends
Couldn't agree more. It makes perfect sense 🙂
When I was 25 I loved men my age. You should listen to women more instead, I wouldn’t have ever traded a young man for an old one.
This is so true! It makes perfect sense for me to go for older men for what they can provide.
@@nstar1372 Money
one word- tighter
Man ☠️
tf
I’m 48 my little princess is 28 she is a wonderful old soul and absolutely not like some of these crazy woman I see on social media. I’ve never been happier.
Little princess 🤮🤮🤮
Thats amazing. How did you meet?
@@JohnSmith-ns6dp over the net actually in a game. I made a quip that since there are no woman on the internet, I didn’t buy her "act" and I was gonna just treat her like a 50 year old dude. 🤣 In reality I knew right away. But we kept it going for ages and it was a good laugh. When you just klick, everything, no matter how silly or stupid or weird just falls into place.
She could be your daughter
@@T1tusCr0w Aww that's cute make sure you're giving her lots of money or you intend to marry her and take care of her
Women, specially older ones don’t like it because they are seeing themselves in the past when they were young, and that their prime time is gone. Envy, prejudice and toxicity kicks in.
I can see the nostalgia, but as I get older, being 37 currently, I've seen women that are inspiring in their latter 40's and early 50's rocking it and looking stunning.
They seem more carefree and liberated, which also means they've done the groundwork to take care of themselves from the inside out.
Not much had to be done when you're just young. And they're more experienced with life and what they won't tolerate with a guy.
I stumbled across a guy in passing, that's a few years younger than me that seemed somewhat more mature, than the guys that were just a few years older than me that I dated in the past.
My concern is, just because a guy is older and going for a younger woman doesn't mean he's also mature enough. I do have concerns for the younger women.
Some younger women get swooped up before they even know they need time to grow into themselves to know what they want in a partner. Not all older men do this, I get that.
But I do feel sorry for a lot of the younger women, because they're not mentally aware of all the array of possibilities that are out there for a wonderful partner and I think some older guys take first dibs in that regard before that option for a younger woman presents itself. ☹️
@@maylin1986 trying to sound not jealous auntie 😂
I have seen it many times in older men too. They get bitter and grumpy. It's not attractive.
@Largo1845 Roundabout way of saying "no you" to men while the comments are filled with bitter old hags crying about guys prefering younger women while filling dating apps up with a long list of requirements (6ft, 6", 6 figures, being a princess that needs to be spoiled, etc) while having 5 kids and a 200+ body count from when they were 18 and skipping guys their age for the older guy every weekend.
If average women would date average guys their age, why are significant numbers of men still a virgin well into their twenties? Is it because women are dating their age? No, it's because the majority of women bang the same 5% or so of older top-tier guys hoping for a commitment that group will never give them.
The forgotten 20y/o guys glow up a bit and now finally have a shot with the 20 something y/o girls, but now it's shameful to have that preference. A preference mind you is evolutionary deep rooted in men as much as going for an older more established man with resources is for women.
It's ridiculous, women went through their "hoe phase" then get too old to get that level of attention then shame men for banging the 25 y/o instead of their old bitter mysandrist ass. Gtfo with that bs!
@@NathanXYX.relax. You'll become old too
I love younger men. They are more attractive and fun. I don’t care for old men at all. Older men let themselves go. They put weight on and don’t care how they look.
Thankyou, 27y age gap, we both want a family, she is awesome, but the scorn from parts of society messes with my head
As an older guy in my late 40s I've dated women in their 20s or so for the past decade and it simply works great - they don't carry baggage, they're generally positive and excited about trying new things in life, beside the obvious attractiveness and fertility side. It's a win-win situation imo.
I'm 47 and still attracted to the same type of women I was attracted to when I was 20 - young, slim, sexy, sweet personality. Women even remotely my age completely turn me off.
@@Tidirita What exactly does a "mature" woman have to offer to me that a 20 year old doesn't 10x better? With a young woman, a lot of the things I do with her are a first for her. It's exciting for her and by extension for me. And if you're talking about having more mature conversations - I can have that with my friends. Oh and since I live in Thailand, am in good shape and run a successful business, I will never run out of young hotties.
@@Axiomatic75 now, take the "successful business" out of the equation and see what happens.....
@@reginapolo3357 Having money certainly helps but $1500 a month is enough for a decent lifestyle here, so by western standards you don't even have to make much. Personally, I don't like to show that I'm well off, especially when meeting a woman for the first time.
@@Axiomatic75 Hopefully you'll decide to get married one day to one of these ladies instead of jumping in and out of coochie. In 10 years, you're going to start looking too wrinkly for these chicks and in 20 years there will be some that still entertain you for some money. At some point however old men need someone to take care of them. Unless you have a bunch of kids maybe some of them will stick around.
Unless you would rather not be around any sort of family make sure you pick a nursing home from now
@@Tionaintown876 I'm not crazy about sex anymore. Good to have sometimes but not something I'd chase if it took much chasing. As for getting older, I wouldn't bet on having my children (if I had any) look anyway. I can easily have a couple of nurses take care of me if or when that becomes necessary.
This is fair, my only concern is, what about growing old together? Will my spouse will still be attracted to me? I don’t want to question if my special other still has feelings for me after being together 20+ years
If shes a woman no a guy yes.
I friend of mine met an almost 30 years older man. They were together for a couple of years. After a while she wasn't attractive to him anymore bc he was old and it started to show.
my Father is 13 years older than my Mother. we had a happy Family growing up. They are still together for 30+ years!
How about the fact that most men like wrinkeless smooth skin? What about youthful, slim and curvaceous figures? And how about the fact that young women have much less baggage they're carrying around? Ever wonder about those rarely discussed facts??
So young women get to deal with your wrinkles, beer belly, and soft🍆?
@@Butterfly22593young girls make soft 🍆 into hard 🔨
27 dating a 19yo. She's aware theres a gap in knowledge and experience of certain aspacts buts shes willing to learn 🎉