How to have a long-term, successful relationship

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  • @brooklynanderson3856
    @brooklynanderson3856 7 років тому +65

    I'm so glad I found your channel 👍

  • @mommajessy6194
    @mommajessy6194 6 років тому +14

    It's so crazy how much I needed to watch this video. I've been dealing with low self esteem, anger issues especially...and it's definitely been rubbing off in my relationship. We've been going at it for 5 years and this past year we've come to terms that we need to change and build a stronger foundation, not just for our sanity and our love but, for our children. I'm so happy to have found this channel and every single one of these points was what I needed to hear, not only for myself but to understand why I'm always out bursting at my partner. He's been amazing this last year...since I'm pregnant with our second child, I know that I'm definitely moody and hormonal but! Nonetheless, he's stayed strong for both of us, taking on every mood I change into lol. I finally realized that it's me and I have anger issues so I'm surrendering and looking out for a healthier mindset. Thank you for the advice! I will surely start TODAY! Your relationship is beautiful to watch as well.

  • @drpaulchan
    @drpaulchan 8 років тому +43

    Who does not want a happy long term realations? I found the 4 tips invaluable. Don't keep score. Be happy, not right! Or the marriage turns into a competition and a battlefield. Thanks so much!

  • @MekonenMeteor123
    @MekonenMeteor123 Рік тому +1

    Man this great 👍
    I love how direct and clear this is !

  • @stephanievalentin1088
    @stephanievalentin1088 5 років тому +5

    I love how you acknowledged that it took a lot of time and practice to be where you two are. Makes it much more encouraging to keep trying

  • @Surfsup448
    @Surfsup448 3 роки тому +4

    Where are the men that are open to having conversations like this? Super chill people that are easy going. Realistic. Most people are combative and argumentative.

  • @sunflower88888
    @sunflower88888 Рік тому +1

    I wish I discovered this earlier. But its never too late to learn this . thank you for making this video

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  Рік тому +2

      100% Theresa! And I also wish I could have learned the things that experiences have taught me earlier, but I think the key is being easy on yourself and taking the lessons that resonate with you into your future actions. Definitely sending you all my best and tons of peace!

    • @sunflower88888
      @sunflower88888 Рік тому

      @@DrChristianConte thank you! :)

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- Рік тому +1

    Great suggestions!!!😮

  • @wootwootwoot32
    @wootwootwoot32 4 роки тому +2

    You are both humble people. like the open attitudes.

  • @mariadsegovia80
    @mariadsegovia80 7 років тому +13

    I'm glad there's positive people who are part of the difference and impact others life and family

  • @shanhulkes4318
    @shanhulkes4318 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you both for putting this out there.

  • @sebastianfarias5670
    @sebastianfarias5670 7 років тому +31

    I wish i'd seen this before I screw my whole life up!
    Anyway, thank you so much, I really appreciate you and your wife for doing this!!... I didn't know I suffered of this self-destructive anger until I found myself doing something really bad and started to look for help (which I just found here)... U've got yourself a new subscriber! and again, I can't thank you enough for doing this, I hope to see more of these amazing videos !

    • @ericb4446
      @ericb4446 7 років тому +1

      Sebastian Farias my thoughts exactly

    • @gurpreetrayat7005
      @gurpreetrayat7005 7 років тому

      Sebastian Farias s

    • @MissDoktor
      @MissDoktor 2 роки тому

      You have never screwed your life up! There is always time to change!

  • @serenacross2969
    @serenacross2969 2 роки тому +1

    The way they look at each other

  • @PraveenSrJ01
    @PraveenSrJ01 Рік тому +1

    You both look really good not only physically but mentally and you both seem to be great characters. Keep up the good work! 😊

  • @keylo404
    @keylo404 Рік тому +1

    Love this channel yall are helping alot

  • @BroSlayzer
    @BroSlayzer 2 роки тому +1

    This is got to be one of the most inspiring couples on the internet here

  • @tbjwmd
    @tbjwmd 7 років тому +3

    Dr. Conte, I ordered a book from you a few years ago and still haven't read it! Ha Ha This video, though focused on a different topic entirely, has motivated me to pull the book from shelf and crack it open! Great insight into longevity in relationships! Thank you Mr. and Mrs. Conte! You're a beautiful couple! God bless your family!
    Tamara Brown, MASW, LSW, LICDC

  • @notonlyforlove
    @notonlyforlove 7 років тому +19

    I feel your energy, and your big heart. your family is amazing, keep up the hard effort.
    thank you for teaching us the right way, and sharing your experience.
    I wish i could be your friend, i am missing good people like you in my life :)
    too many negative and people that are keep their view only on the bad things without developing their self. with love from israel.

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому +3

      Hey Vlad, Sending you tons of peace and love from our family to you!

    • @notonlyforlove
      @notonlyforlove 7 років тому +2

      thank you :)

  • @luisfernandocuestasanchez4343
    @luisfernandocuestasanchez4343 6 років тому +2

    20 years together¡¡¡ (2018) what a beautiful thing to say, god bless your relationship and I wish you the best.

  • @lorigarza678
    @lorigarza678 7 років тому +5

    It's like a light went on in my mind when I heard "my memory was" whoa that's a smart move. I really love that! I am going to use this for sure. Thank you both!

  • @abbybrown5967
    @abbybrown5967 7 років тому +16

    congrats on 17 years of marriage!!

  • @armandocarrillo3223
    @armandocarrillo3223 5 років тому +2

    My morning drive with dr. Conte always a great watch and very helpful to my daily life thanks and appreciation.

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  5 років тому

      Appreciate you my brother! And drive safe! Sending you all my best and tons of peace!

  • @savednorwegian
    @savednorwegian 7 років тому +31

    I see why your daughter is already such a beauty. Beautiful mother, handsome dad good genes and real values.
    You seem like a very good and happy family from the couple of your videos I've seen - Family and childrearing are the most important thing. The most important for a child(ren) is the relationship of the parents!
    I wish you all the best and keep up this great work! *Subscribed* :)

    • @savednorwegian
      @savednorwegian 7 років тому +9

      But yeah as commented down below - adjust the sound effects, or to be honest the sound effects are not needed. You are already good at making it interesting (hehe, just as the 1 of the four advices/steps)

  • @billybunnysloth9003
    @billybunnysloth9003 7 років тому +10

    Whether my b/f makes me a cup of tea, washes up or re-grouts the bathroom, I always thank him and tell him he's done it well. He says the same. We get on ineffably well because we are the same personality type and have the same life goals.

  • @jilliannesmith80
    @jilliannesmith80 8 років тому +68

    Thx! Wow ur wife is a beauty!

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  8 років тому +35

      Thank you! She definitely is! Inside and out... :)

    • @Janelle-ws3cy
      @Janelle-ws3cy 7 років тому +1

      Dr. Christian Conte your daughter and wife are twins. So cute.

    • @teshamiller6001
      @teshamiller6001 5 років тому

      Ikr. They both look great and youthful. That's a sign of happy ppl😊

  • @muthrfuqrjonz3530
    @muthrfuqrjonz3530 3 роки тому +1

    You two make my life better 🙏🏼
    Thank you so much!!

  • @nanaeldewany6386
    @nanaeldewany6386 6 років тому +2

    Impressive as usual....nice topic ...

  • @sunshinegirl876
    @sunshinegirl876 5 років тому +1

    "Do you want to be right or do you want to be happy." Powerful

  • @mrbkg865
    @mrbkg865 8 років тому +66

    love the videos, if you could turn down the sound effects. your voices are really quiet and the sound effects are really loud.

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  8 років тому +12

      Thank you! Yes, definitely! Still learning to work these sound effects.... Sending you much peace!

  • @isabelangel8723
    @isabelangel8723 7 років тому +8

    What an awesome video. This couple is so cute!!

  • @myhdlist
    @myhdlist 3 роки тому

    You TWO are much appreciated!!!! I've shared this video to hopefully solve so much for others... Yes, especially for me/us. Thank you very much!!!!

  • @TheMonoilove
    @TheMonoilove 7 років тому +2

    You both are great

  • @dennism6544
    @dennism6544 2 роки тому

    God bless you both. You give me great hope that the most important person in my life, just might see the changes you help to bring me and us.

  • @Satan666Official
    @Satan666Official 4 роки тому +1

    Beautiful advice "Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?" I'll keep this with me forever!

    • @amandas1356
      @amandas1356 2 роки тому

      Dr Phil started this line.

  • @insanecaine
    @insanecaine 5 років тому

    This man is So lucky. They both are. He has my respect.

  • @oliverschroder3944
    @oliverschroder3944 4 роки тому +1

    She a stunner

  • @JoeMcVideo
    @JoeMcVideo 6 років тому +1

    Thank you so much! Stay querky!!!
    Much peace.

  • @jerseysama
    @jerseysama 7 років тому +2

    pratical tips....i love it. thx doc

  • @ella.q366
    @ella.q366 4 роки тому +1

    You guys are beautiful and inspiring . Thank you so much to learn.❤

  • @gizelekulu7850
    @gizelekulu7850 6 років тому +1

    ohhhhh..........bless u ! that was a very helpful life experience !

  • @pscoolguy
    @pscoolguy 3 роки тому

    Great video. It presents a lot to learn from.
    The list of things done was well placed. "Milking the chickens," at the end of the list is a good metaphor for saying everyone wants to say they are doing the impossible and want credit for it. Good point.

  • @aditipatil2237
    @aditipatil2237 6 років тому

    I'm so happy to have found your channel. I'm in the worst period mentally, and your videos are helping me tide over my issues

  • @k.6072
    @k.6072 7 років тому +1

    I like how you place emphasis on self in order to have substance to bring to one another.

  • @Voidcorner
    @Voidcorner 7 років тому +2

    Beautiful couple. Stay happy forever.

  • @karigray7376
    @karigray7376 4 роки тому +1

    Helpful reminders and tips. Thank you!

  • @Kev80ification
    @Kev80ification 6 років тому +1

    Great advice guys!

  • @adrianneh7712
    @adrianneh7712 6 років тому +2

    Barely cam across your channel and I'm already making life changes mentally ! So thank you so much God Bless You for making your channel!

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  6 років тому +1

      Thank you so much! I put my heart and soul into what I do, so that means a lot to me to hear. Sending you all my best and tons of peace!

    • @adrianneh7712
      @adrianneh7712 6 років тому

      Dr. Christian Conte That's so great to hear that! And Thank You So Much to yours as well! You have a beautiful Family! Keep up the video! I'll be sure to keep up!

  • @jelenaperisic9340
    @jelenaperisic9340 7 років тому +4

    I really enjoyed this video. You guys are so cute and complement each other so well.

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому +9

      Thank you! I think it's 19 years of being together..... She's my rock for sure. Sending you tons of peace!

  • @MegaLadylove2012
    @MegaLadylove2012 7 років тому +3

    Thank you for sharing! Wow! These are incredible! I think the same
    applies to every aspect of life. For example, I often tell staff or co Manager 'choose your battle.' Too often we thrive to be right. Being right at every situation can be such a waste of time bc correctness is nearly impossible at all times. Second, counting scores. I've Staff complained to me they have done this, this or that while x,y,z person did nothing. I think to myself, how can you assure he or she has done nothing if you keep scores about every little tasks. I keep expressin how we all work differently, as in, each person brings somethin unique to the workplace. Instead of focusing only on how one works, thrive to recognize the goodness others bring to the table. I learned rather than keep track of ones work, to complained about them later, express your needs or be direct about what you want from the other person because doing so will literally caused blindness towards what someone else sacrifices to make the relationship whole. Open communication without blames prevents unnecessary chaos.

  • @porto434
    @porto434 7 років тому +1

    Such great advice and yes like i have seen many others comment your wife is beautiful.

  • @porto434
    @porto434 7 років тому +1

    Thank you for sharing all these great essential life lessons not only in this video but all your other videos also.

  • @exitthematrix3806
    @exitthematrix3806 7 років тому +1

    Great advice! Beautiful family!!

  • @rainamarie9353
    @rainamarie9353 6 років тому +1

    This is good advice. Thanks so much

  • @Nêhiyaw2025
    @Nêhiyaw2025 5 років тому

    Wow I love this advice, you guys are so right but lots of people seem to forget these things. I'm currently working on my relationship after a break-up of 4 months but it's a work in progress and Dr. Conte, you and your wife are so right on this subject. Love your advice and your videos, keep them coming because I tend to watch a lot of them. #MuchPeace

  • @ReviewerR
    @ReviewerR 6 років тому +1

    I think your channel is so helpful! Please continue to do what you do!

  • @williamclabaugh9801
    @williamclabaugh9801 4 роки тому

    I enjoyed this and I will s try at practicing these tips. I trust this will help me keep the woman U love for a long time. Much peace to you and yours.

  • @Mushroom321-
    @Mushroom321- Рік тому

    I love the " my memory of my experience is ".. 😮😊

  • @johannbanman
    @johannbanman 7 років тому +5

    Awesome! I just randomly came across your video (this is the second video I watched) and I like your spirit. It's good to see a married couple happy together! I need a wife! Lol
    Peace to you too.

  • @johngarza3801
    @johngarza3801 6 років тому

    Thank you for everything

  • @carinacorrea1976
    @carinacorrea1976 6 років тому +1

    Brilliant and funny and true!!

  • @elainatrainer825
    @elainatrainer825 7 років тому +1

    You two are awesome!! Thank you for the advice!! I'm watching and learning!

  • @kiddonkiddojr.6578
    @kiddonkiddojr.6578 7 років тому +1

    I looooved it. Thanks for the advice

  • @jayjayramirez1456
    @jayjayramirez1456 6 років тому +1

    Thank you for your videos

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  6 років тому

      Thank you for the appreciation! Much peace brother!

  • @FabFaithBeauty
    @FabFaithBeauty 7 років тому +1

    Great great video. Such wonderful tips!! Thank you!

  • @staciecook5217
    @staciecook5217 7 років тому +2

    Good tips!

  • @paya2980
    @paya2980 7 років тому +64

    Easy on the sound FX please, you owe me new ears

  • @Crystalandjoshua2
    @Crystalandjoshua2 7 років тому +2

    me and my wife watched this video and the video about raising kids, we love it and we are trying to have a baby, so helpful. we wanted to add something about long-term relationship. make each other feel positive about one another. never make each other feel bad about them self.

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому

      I love it! Great advice! Thank you for your kind comments. We wish you much peace!

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому

      I love it! Great advice! Thank you for your kind comments. We wish you much peace!

  • @syntheticsol
    @syntheticsol 4 роки тому

    Right. Right. Right. Nice video, I'll remember to keep it interesting and keep growing. You're a saint, Christian.

  • @sobihasuleman6967
    @sobihasuleman6967 7 років тому +2

    I enjoyed your video.Great tips and advice.Your such a beautiful couple,bless.Thank you for sharing!

  • @williamswanson9165
    @williamswanson9165 4 роки тому

    Been watching your channel for the last few days and it's really making sense I have a anger problem my whole life don't know how to control it no one ever said nothing to me I was told I was verbal abusing so I try working on verbal abusing and when it comes down to it it's my anger I always think I'm right and not happy and this is where I have to start hopefully it's not too late

  • @314stacks
    @314stacks 7 років тому +1

    great video man, i hope it helps me when i start applying this stuff. very helpful how simple you two put it all. Thanks.

  • @eSKAone-
    @eSKAone- 7 років тому +2

    Beautiful wife, beautiful daughter

  • @MelissaRiccardi
    @MelissaRiccardi 8 років тому +3

    great stuff guys! keep the vids coming

  • @nhppublishing
    @nhppublishing 7 років тому +2

    It takes a lot of maturity to practice those types of universal laws through energy. Brains develop at different stages of life, and some people have not had the stability emotionally - to practice this yet. If someone told me this information in my 20s, I knew because of my addictions that I would not have bee able to practice this. I had to get my addiction under control first before I could contribute to someone else's life on this level. I truly would not ever encourage anybody in their early 20s to get married. I would have them mature some to develop a little bit stronger views from challenges. It took me six years to get things under control. I understand when people have psychological problems - and I don't interact with them anymore. I finally have gotten rid of all my toxic relationships in my life. I finally understand not to interact with those who are toxic with themselves. Being single has been in my best interest for a while now. And, I'm finally mature enough to handle these kinds of steps though. So for those who are married, this is a great tool for them. How wonderful that you guys do this together.

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому

      Thank you so much for taking time to comment. You are absolutely right that it takes a certain level of maturity to focus on living a more conscious life (and my wife certainly had to put up with too many years of waiting for me to be more conscious), but I can say that I really believe that good relationships are worth the effort. Sending you tons of peace!

    • @roflmows
      @roflmows 6 років тому

      god I wish the people in MY life understood this. i try to communicate these things and they think I'm crazy. x.x

  • @pavlinicos
    @pavlinicos 7 років тому +1

    Thanks ! subscribed for you 2 seam authentic and those 4 points could get me happier in my relationship.

  • @cynvaldovinos
    @cynvaldovinos 3 роки тому +1

    Congrats on your relationship 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻❤️

  • @aimanem3954
    @aimanem3954 7 років тому +2

    I love your video from the start until the ending with Bear staring at the camera. Had me laughing for a while. I like how you'd put transitions in between parts with sounds because it keeps us fresh and refresh. It'd be great if you could put volume of the sfx about the same as your speaking volume. Thank you so much for the tips, Dr. Sending love and peace to your family from Malaysia 🇲🇾

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому

      Thank you so, so much. Sending you tons of peace!

  • @amirpalang821
    @amirpalang821 8 років тому +3

    tnx .was really usful to me .

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  8 років тому +1

      Thank you! Sending you all the best and much peace!

  • @gabi_s4235
    @gabi_s4235 5 років тому

    Grateful for this video, learned a lot. Thank you guys!

  • @zamayahill8324
    @zamayahill8324 4 роки тому +1

    I need you guys as counselors in my 8 year relationship. 😩😩

  • @averiegirlsdream4247
    @averiegirlsdream4247 7 років тому +6

    You guys are so cute together😊 Kristen you are beautiful

  • @سارة-ق6ي
    @سارة-ق6ي 7 років тому +12

    one of the best channel ever , i cant believe i just found out about

  • @beckyblack8952
    @beckyblack8952 7 років тому +1

    Thanks this helped a lot!

  • @marekmelichar1382
    @marekmelichar1382 7 років тому +84

    Pls get rid of the sound effects...

  • @johannacampos85
    @johannacampos85 5 років тому

    I really needed this! Thank you

  • @siblingsunitedOrg
    @siblingsunitedOrg 6 років тому +2

    💕Much love to you both!💞

  • @helenorozco3833
    @helenorozco3833 5 років тому

    I love this

  • @moderate-_-6
    @moderate-_-6 7 років тому +2

    this was really good

  • @roninsamurai8128
    @roninsamurai8128 3 роки тому +1

    We never had those conversations.

  • @jadealexander8207
    @jadealexander8207 5 років тому +1

    She is so cute lol I feel ya girl I don't like being bin video either I'm so glad you did it though thank you !!! And yes the sound affects almost made me pee myself . Loud haha LMBO !!!

  • @carlamarian7932
    @carlamarian7932 7 років тому +2

    Wow, this video is a gem! Both my husband and I do all the don't s. No wonder we are arguing most of the time! Do you have a book on anger and relationships?

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому

      Thank you so, so much. I do have several books; the one that many couples tell me that they use together is Life Lessons. Couples have told me how they spend time going through that book together and then apply the lessons to their lives. I hope this helps. Sending you tons of peace!

  • @cynvaldovinos
    @cynvaldovinos 3 роки тому

    Thank you SO MUCH !! Love this thank you

  • @typereira4643
    @typereira4643 7 років тому +1

    Thanks for the video. I reall just NEVER know how to be in a relationship . I always felt like im the prize and small things bother me. Im really working on this, im growing in all aspects of life and this helped me in a area i have no clue whats so ever!
    Thanks
    I love the bust out moves.. Funny!
    Much love!

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому

      Thank you so much for your kind words! Sending you much peace!

  • @vitalule8889
    @vitalule8889 5 років тому

    Extremely happy couple

  • @DIRKCHRISTIAN
    @DIRKCHRISTIAN 7 років тому +1

    thank you very much for sharing! You bring up really helpful and practical suggetions, that I´ll gonna try hard the next time .
    Just one question: Did you ever have to struggle with one of you fell in love with another person (which I find over such a long period of time you´ve been together quite a "normal" thing) - and if yes, how did both of you cope with that?

  • @StoneyRidgeFarmer
    @StoneyRidgeFarmer 7 років тому +4

    New sub here...thanks for the info buddy..got some struggles here starting a new farm with my wife of 3 years

  • @naomi6056
    @naomi6056 Рік тому +2

    DAMN SHE BEAUTIFUL

  • @wherewildthingsgrow
    @wherewildthingsgrow 7 років тому +12

    The advice is great. The volume levels are all off though your voices are so quiet and your sound effects are crazy loud the volume needs to be turned up so I can hear you but then your sound effects are deafening because they are so loud

    • @DrChristianConte
      @DrChristianConte  7 років тому +2

      lol. True that. We're still learning how to mess with the sound - would love for you to subscribe, because I think we're getting a little better at it since we made this video. Sending you much peace!

  • @CuteGirl-co9ji
    @CuteGirl-co9ji 7 років тому +16

    I can't believe how much mum n daughter look alike! 😆

    • @teshamiller6001
      @teshamiller6001 5 років тому +3

      Why not? They're mother and daughter. Lol

  • @Dankdayz707
    @Dankdayz707 4 роки тому +1

    "Milked the chickens" 🤣🤣🤣
    I wonder how many people actually pay attention to these videos... I love the "easter eggs he hides in his videos... I wish I could talk to you personally, and get advice....but im sure your too busy, and I can't afford you🤣🤣🤣