Yes he has a very dry sense of humour which I absolutely loved. This is basically why we connected immediately in Oslo and why I wanted to continue chatting to him
People Minnesota don’t tend to talk to people in passing and we are very about our personal space like Norwegians, probably because Minnesota has a very high concentration of people of Norwegian and Swedish heritage.
So Marina, you're telling me that there's one talkative male Norwegian out there who agreed to talk for almost 2 hours on a podcast. This man must be an exception to the general rule! 🙃 Informative and entertaining talk.
Haha he is one of a kind. I am telling you - I met this man randomly on the street. He looked super scary but stopping him resulted in a conversation we couldn't stop. We just stood on the street chatting away for ages 😂
Marina, Norwegians from the south are not the same as we from Northern Norway. We are known as the Italians of the Nordic, so you should visit Tromsø.❤️
@@datingbeyondborderscast I did listen to the whole podcast, but I never heard him talking about other places than Bergen and Trondheim. That's not Northern Norway.
Jo, men det der er for ENKELT....Hva med alle som er en mix av nordlending - søring ? Trøndere ? Jeg er mix Bergenser og Balsfjording.... ALTFOR ENKELT..
36:00 - I DIED LAUGHING OUT LOUD AT THIS LMFAOOOOO I love that Norwegians literally have a name for this!! BAHAHAHAHAHA 1:13:05 - bergen :) ... best place in Norway to connect with Norwegians as a foreigner (both in friendship and romance). 1:36:42 - bergen & tumheim
The Julebord was a huge culture shock. I tend to separate my professional work from the partying and socializing so seeing my older bosses somehow magically gain the energy of a 17-year-old while binge drinking at the alcohol fountain was so crazy to me. Awkward social interactions happen. People show up at the professional workplace afterwards like nothing happened. I can't unsee what I just saw and no one talks about what happened at the Julebord.
I love how he apologized for saying "lazy, get nothing done Spaniards" then explains why Spain is so important to Norwegians xD (although, as a Spaniard he's not wrong )
As a Norwegian I think this guy represents only himself and not all Norwegians, being it boys or girls. You can’t categorize people that much. Norwegians are all individuals and of different types or personalities. You can’t say that Norwegians are like this or that. We are all different. I have never experienced a Norwegian not wanting to talk with me even though we don’t know each other. It all depends on how you approach them.
Å snakke med noen som åpenbart prøver å starte en samtale med deg er nok ikke alltid fordi de virkelig ønsker å snakke. Noen Nordmenn kan være ganske konfliktskye så ikke sikkert de kommer til å si til ansiktet ditt at de ikke ønsker å snakke med deg, for å ikke såre følelser. At du aldri har snakket med en Nordmann som ikke ønsket å snakke med deg er rett og slett noe du ikke kan vite. Men ja selvfølgelig representerer ikke denne karen alle Nordmenn, hvem i all verden trodde det?
How do people in Norway meet other people or build a network of friends and collegues, how in the world the sale people survive in Norway if you can't engage people in conversation
Regarding the question at about 1.19 h regarding how Norwegians view sex growing up. As a Swede I don't remember us ever getting any kind of information how it would be good to wait with sex or anything like that. We were informed about the different ways to protect ourselves from pregnancies and STDs, that's it. We had a visit with school to the adolescence clinic- a clinic free for teenagers where we get free condoms, can get prescribed birth controls etc etc. They're not in communication with the parent. So it was a very non judgmental attitude.
Nobody telling you that should wait, or find someone special before doing it etc, that your first time happens only once etc, is kind of irresponsible and gross when talking to kids about it in my opinion. I actually live in Norway, and were told these things.
I was involved with a Norwegian man for some years. To this day, I can't figure him out. In all the years, he has never said happy birthday or bought me a Christmas present. his sister was quite different in that she was quite emotional.
Was he inexperienced with relationships? I had trouble with my British husband being an absolutely inept gift giver (as in not bothering at all) but it wasn’t down to culture, he was baby of the family and never had a girlfriend before. He wasn’t used to having to dote on or take care of another person before. I was very hurt by it and told him it was emotionally abusive to neglect someone this way and he’s better now.
I'm from South-East of Norway, I also find it weird... This is more the jokes we tell about us self as Norwegians when we want attention from some foreigners... Except the part of the "Julebord", and the part of "one good friend vs. multiple not so good friends". Maybe I am to old, and experienced the '80s and '90s.
@@StoltHD And I am both from Northern Norway and too old. But I live in the south and have children of the relevant age. I suspect he is describing Oslo's dating scene.
@@ahkkariq7406 - yeh, and the dating scenes of today, because it was never like that back in the days when I was "fast inventar" at John's, "Søstrene Larsen" etc.
It seems from his point of view that is about proving yourself to be right or wrong, doing the "right thing" thing and being too aware of your surroundings.
It is not clear: 1. He says if you split means you're done and no further dates. 2 the ones asking out pays . 3 . if you don't split means you pay for the first date and the other pays for the second one (you agree there will be a second date).
Free meal women are very common in the US. The more attractive they are, the more likely you, as a male, will just be used to pay for a meal because she is bored on whatever night it is. They have their list of guys on their phones and they sure as hell know who the pushover free meal guys are. That is why as an American guy, if I am going on a date, it is clarified up front that we are splitting the bill long before we get to wherever we are going. If there is another date after that, it will also be split. This method quickly washes away the women who are only interested in using you for your wallet, versus actually interested in spending time with you.
Bitter loser will never have a meaningful relationship. Will likely be emotionally abusive because he walks through life with a chip on his shoulder always expecting the worst. Ladies, AVOID AVOID AVOID men like this!
@@OakwiseBecoming It must have been the chips and salsa you wanted to get for free. So sorry you had to cough up actual money to pay for your half. Men, stay FAR FAR FAR away from women like this! She probably pretends to go to the bathroom and then leaves you with the bill after ordering lobster. Run don't walk men!
Hm interesting. I wonder though if it's the actual free meal that would be the driving force for this behavior. Maybe it's more to feel in a position of power, to try out how much she can make men do for her. Like more of an ego trip thing?
@@liahk1000 Of course it’s not driven by the threat of starvation. It’s just nicer to eat in restaurants and even nicer to know you got a guy to pay for it.
It doesn't matter if you make a friend with Norwegians because it is the way of behaving that differs, your relationship will be cold and distant comparing to other cultures.
I love your podcasts especialy this one because you both made me laugh.Why didint you make a video about Greeks and dating culture in Greece? I would love to see that
The thing is that dating did not used to be so expensive. Taking a girl out to the movies and an ice cream was a "cheap date", affordable for everybody and very enjoyable. it would be "low maintenance" as Sondre puts it. In addition, if the young man wanted to see you, he would come to your family home and he would socialize with you, some friends, and your family. Your mother would feed him and he would be invited to Christmas parties and other events. Now dating is more isolated and one on one. Now going to the movies is $60 if you share the popcorn. Who can afford that ? I went to a boring, small neighborhood pub and on the menu, the basic hamburger was $31 !!!! So for a guy to invite you out for just a hamburger and a beer is going to cost almost $100 !! I am on the side of that men need to pay for dates. It is gallant and good manners. But even I can see that expecting a guy to pay $100 - $200 every time he sees you is unsustainable.
Splitting the bill seems like an easy fix for the problem, but since you think men 'need' to pay for dates, it kind of feels like this issue is partly self-inflicted.
@@Commentator488 I mean considering that OP claims that going to the movies in her country costs 60 bucks which is Insane btw, I'm very certain that she is going to have to cope and pay for herself sooner or later regardless of her culture
@@Commentator488 Use your brain and think about it: If going to the movies costs you 60 bucks, how much do you think other dating activities will cost? The answer is probably more. I live in Norway which is considered expensive and movie tickets are nowhere near 60 bucks.
Most likely he visits or visited Spain in summer time which is quite a special moment even to the spanish people where we increase our tendency to approach people very much so should they be foreigners, let alone if they are blonde with blue eyes although i acknowledge this is not the case, that makes this interaction even more interesting. On the other hand, he most likely went to the coastal areas of Spain which also have an extra predisposition to being specially welcoming to foreigners also from an economic point of view. This spanish stereotype born out of this particular context and areas differs quite a lot from the interior and northern parts of Spain, but very specially from the interior . Not gonna say they are scandinavians but it's a whole different animal in comparison to this other Spain depicted or stereotypical. But there is one thing for sure, Spain, given its history where the scandinavians by the way had their part, is been very much exposed to many cultures and different people through millennials so i guess that that together with the climate, beaches and a very much tourism based economy explains the average spanish character.
sex is open but there is no real connection or intimacy. Sex is alcohol is very risky. You never mention that alcohol makes you lose the control and get specially women in risky situations, and not having safe sex. . For many men is fast and enough, for women in general we need more time and dedication to feel pleasure . It will be nice when you address the sex topic if you include if people practice safe sex. It should not be taken for granted because the reality is that many people they try to have sex without a condom.
His sense of humour is over the roof. Laughed throughout the podcast.
Yes he has a very dry sense of humour which I absolutely loved. This is basically why we connected immediately in Oslo and why I wanted to continue chatting to him
Yes dry humor is the way to go in the north😄
People Minnesota don’t tend to talk to people in passing and we are very about our personal space like Norwegians, probably because Minnesota has a very high concentration of people of Norwegian and Swedish heritage.
So Marina, you're telling me that there's one talkative male Norwegian out there who agreed to talk for almost 2 hours on a podcast. This man must be an exception to the general rule! 🙃 Informative and entertaining talk.
Haha he is one of a kind. I am telling you - I met this man randomly on the street. He looked super scary but stopping him resulted in a conversation we couldn't stop. We just stood on the street chatting away for ages 😂
I know many Norwegians like this, but I belong to a different generation. Maybe he was born 25 years too late.
can you please interview him again? he's such a great interviewee!
Marina, Norwegians from the south are not the same as we from Northern Norway. We are known as the Italians of the Nordic, so you should visit Tromsø.❤️
Yess - if you listen to the whole Podcast, Sondre actually makes that distinction
@@datingbeyondborderscast I did listen to the whole podcast, but I never heard him talking about other places than Bergen and Trondheim. That's not Northern Norway.
Jo, men det der er for ENKELT....Hva med alle som er en mix av nordlending - søring ? Trøndere ? Jeg er mix Bergenser og Balsfjording.... ALTFOR ENKELT..
Can't tell too many people about that hehe
As a søring who just visited Bodø, I can confirm this is true.
36:00 - I DIED LAUGHING OUT LOUD AT THIS LMFAOOOOO I love that Norwegians literally have a name for this!! BAHAHAHAHAHA
1:13:05 - bergen :) ... best place in Norway to connect with Norwegians as a foreigner (both in friendship and romance).
1:36:42 - bergen & tumheim
This was great! Please Sondre, start a UA-cam channel, I want to hear more. You are so funny 😃.
He is the best!
The Julebord was a huge culture shock. I tend to separate my professional work from the partying and socializing so seeing my older bosses somehow magically gain the energy of a 17-year-old while binge drinking at the alcohol fountain was so crazy to me. Awkward social interactions happen. People show up at the professional workplace afterwards like nothing happened. I can't unsee what I just saw and no one talks about what happened at the Julebord.
I wish foreigners would be informed of these cultural differences before getting involved ...save us a lot of misunderstanding
I love how he apologized for saying "lazy, get nothing done Spaniards" then explains why Spain is so important to Norwegians xD (although, as a Spaniard he's not wrong )
Sounds the same to the British view of Spanish work ethnic but need and love for Spain.
As a Norwegian I think this guy represents only himself and not all Norwegians, being it boys or girls. You can’t categorize people that much. Norwegians are all individuals and of different types or personalities. You can’t say that Norwegians are like this or that. We are all different. I have never experienced a Norwegian not wanting to talk with me even though we don’t know each other. It all depends on how you approach them.
Å snakke med noen som åpenbart prøver å starte en samtale med deg er nok ikke alltid fordi de virkelig ønsker å snakke. Noen Nordmenn kan være ganske konfliktskye så ikke sikkert de kommer til å si til ansiktet ditt at de ikke ønsker å snakke med deg, for å ikke såre følelser. At du aldri har snakket med en Nordmann som ikke ønsket å snakke med deg er rett og slett noe du ikke kan vite. Men ja selvfølgelig representerer ikke denne karen alle Nordmenn, hvem i all verden trodde det?
This was EXCELLENT!
How do people in Norway meet other people or build a network of friends and collegues, how in the world the sale people survive in Norway if you can't engage people in conversation
Regarding the question at about 1.19 h regarding how Norwegians view sex growing up. As a Swede I don't remember us ever getting any kind of information how it would be good to wait with sex or anything like that. We were informed about the different ways to protect ourselves from pregnancies and STDs, that's it. We had a visit with school to the adolescence clinic- a clinic free for teenagers where we get free condoms, can get prescribed birth controls etc etc. They're not in communication with the parent. So it was a very non judgmental attitude.
Nobody telling you that should wait, or find someone special before doing it etc, that your first time happens only once etc, is kind of irresponsible and gross when talking to kids about it in my opinion. I actually live in Norway, and were told these things.
This guy is so cool haha, love it.
Greetings from the Netherlands (Groningen).
Norwegian-American here. Sondre and his natural contrariness, gives me hope for my cousins there.
Interesting and charming guest.
I was involved with a Norwegian man for some years. To this day, I can't figure him out. In all the years, he has never said happy birthday or bought me a Christmas present. his sister was quite different in that she was quite emotional.
I think you can replace ‘Norwegian’ with ‘socially inept,’ lol. It’s not a normal, nor common feature among Norwegian men or women.
Was he inexperienced with relationships? I had trouble with my British husband being an absolutely inept gift giver (as in not bothering at all) but it wasn’t down to culture, he was baby of the family and never had a girlfriend before. He wasn’t used to having to dote on or take care of another person before. I was very hurt by it and told him it was emotionally abusive to neglect someone this way and he’s better now.
You must have found a cave man 😊
I am from Northern Norway, and I find what he is describing weird.
Thank God 😂
I'm from South-East of Norway, I also find it weird...
This is more the jokes we tell about us self as Norwegians when we want attention from some foreigners...
Except the part of the "Julebord", and the part of "one good friend vs. multiple not so good friends".
Maybe I am to old, and experienced the '80s and '90s.
@@StoltHD
And I am both from Northern Norway and too old. But I live in the south and have children of the relevant age. I suspect he is describing Oslo's dating scene.
@@ahkkariq7406 - yeh, and the dating scenes of today, because it was never like that back in the days when I was "fast inventar" at John's, "Søstrene Larsen" etc.
Next Denmark 🇩🇰
a great conversation
Really interesting video! Thank you both! 😊
Seems that Bergen is the Thessaloniki (Vs Athens) of Greece 😋
Sounds exactly like a Scottish Christmas party, but then we do have a lot of Norwegian DNA. 😂
Maybe the Norwegian DNA is from a Christmas Party centuries ago :P
@@Alaskan-ArmadilloYes maybe, but it was called joul back then, not christ mas
Usually people who will agree to appear on camera are not the majority of people, so they do not represent most of the people.
It seems from his point of view that is about proving yourself to be right or wrong, doing the "right thing" thing and being too aware of your surroundings.
Ironically, they don't like acting like alphas but they want to be with alphas.
Who pays first date or how to organise the couple money wise, not only is cultural but in the same culture there are different ways.
It is not clear: 1. He says if you split means you're done and no further dates. 2 the ones asking out pays . 3 . if you don't split means you pay for the first date and the other pays for the second one (you agree there will be a second date).
So I’m at marker 39:57 and . . . did Marina just go 50 SoG on this man?!? 😂❤😂
And he turns it around on her! Love it 😂😂😂
Free meal women are very common in the US. The more attractive they are, the more likely you, as a male, will just be used to pay for a meal because she is bored on whatever night it is. They have their list of guys on their phones and they sure as hell know who the pushover free meal guys are. That is why as an American guy, if I am going on a date, it is clarified up front that we are splitting the bill long before we get to wherever we are going. If there is another date after that, it will also be split. This method quickly washes away the women who are only interested in using you for your wallet, versus actually interested in spending time with you.
“Just come over, I’m making spaghetti.” That’s the way to handle it.
Bitter loser will never have a meaningful relationship. Will likely be emotionally abusive because he walks through life with a chip on his shoulder always expecting the worst. Ladies, AVOID AVOID AVOID men like this!
@@OakwiseBecoming It must have been the chips and salsa you wanted to get for free. So sorry you had to cough up actual money to pay for your half. Men, stay FAR FAR FAR away from women like this! She probably pretends to go to the bathroom and then leaves you with the bill after ordering lobster. Run don't walk men!
Hm interesting. I wonder though if it's the actual free meal that would be the driving force for this behavior. Maybe it's more to feel in a position of power, to try out how much she can make men do for her. Like more of an ego trip thing?
@@liahk1000 Of course it’s not driven by the threat of starvation. It’s just nicer to eat in restaurants and even nicer to know you got a guy to pay for it.
It doesn't matter if you make a friend with Norwegians because it is the way of behaving that differs, your relationship will be cold and distant comparing to other cultures.
Hahaha jeg er norsk, men har bodd 30 år i Frankrike. Sondre du er så morsom 😂❤
I love your podcasts especialy this one because you both made me laugh.Why didint you make a video about Greeks and dating culture in Greece? I would love to see that
Will get to it ☺️
The thing is that dating did not used to be so expensive. Taking a girl out to the movies and an ice cream was a "cheap date", affordable for everybody and very enjoyable. it would be "low maintenance" as Sondre puts it. In addition, if the young man wanted to see you, he would come to your family home and he would socialize with you, some friends, and your family. Your mother would feed him and he would be invited to Christmas parties and other events. Now dating is more isolated and one on one. Now going to the movies is $60 if you share the popcorn. Who can afford that ? I went to a boring, small neighborhood pub and on the menu, the basic hamburger was $31 !!!! So for a guy to invite you out for just a hamburger and a beer is going to cost almost $100 !! I am on the side of that men need to pay for dates. It is gallant and good manners. But even I can see that expecting a guy to pay $100 - $200 every time he sees you is unsustainable.
Splitting the bill seems like an easy fix for the problem, but since you think men 'need' to pay for dates, it kind of feels like this issue is partly self-inflicted.
@@joninator7858
I would argue that depends on the culture, splitting in Scandinavia absolutely yes
@@Commentator488 I mean considering that OP claims that going to the movies in her country costs 60 bucks which is Insane btw, I'm very certain that she is going to have to cope and pay for herself sooner or later regardless of her culture
@@joninator7858
Or they won’t watch the movie lol
@@Commentator488 Use your brain and think about it: If going to the movies costs you 60 bucks, how much do you think other dating activities will cost? The answer is probably more. I live in Norway which is considered expensive and movie tickets are nowhere near 60 bucks.
where is this guy from? he was very positive about western cities, is he from Bergen as well?
Most likely he visits or visited Spain in summer time which is quite a special moment even to the spanish people where we increase our tendency to approach people very much so should they be foreigners, let alone if they are blonde with blue eyes although i acknowledge this is not the case, that makes this interaction even more interesting.
On the other hand, he most likely went to the coastal areas of Spain which also have an extra predisposition to being specially welcoming to foreigners also from an economic point of view.
This spanish stereotype born out of this particular context and areas differs quite a lot from the interior and northern parts of Spain, but very specially from the interior . Not gonna say they are scandinavians but it's a whole different animal in comparison to this other Spain depicted or stereotypical.
But there is one thing for sure, Spain, given its history where the scandinavians by the way had their part, is been very much exposed to many cultures and different people through millennials
so i guess that that together with the climate, beaches and a very much tourism based economy explains the average spanish character.
This dude spun gold.
sex is open but there is no real connection or intimacy. Sex is alcohol is very risky. You never mention that alcohol makes you lose the control and get specially women in risky situations, and not having safe sex. . For many men is fast and enough, for women in general we need more time and dedication to feel pleasure . It will be nice when you address the sex topic if you include if people practice safe sex. It should not be taken for granted because the reality is that many people they try to have sex without a condom.
That's correct to think about a Norwegian
Sounds like he like one on one times with his friends.
So not my experience of Norwegians. They were so loyal and lovely
Mel Gibson would be a good interview on this alcohol topic.
If you treat a norwegian with "warmth" it will feel like "sun" on a vampire ... :)
I am from Romania btrw :)
Elskede hvert og et sekund ♥️ fra Aarhus
I’m filipino i relate to 11:54 hahahahah
dating in norway is a catastrophe... no other country with so many dissmissive avoidants and number 1 when it comes to cheating....
this guy can't bee serious, everthing he is saying screems fear or rejection or insecurties or even sociall anxieties
American perspective . who is paying. 0
ahahaha lol .... imposible not to act ALPHA , when you are , ALPHA .
Hahaha jeg er norsk, men har bodd 30 år i Frankrike. Sondre du er så morsom 😂❤