Could you please do one on attraction? Like feeling so in love and then switching to focusing on physical flaws and repulsion even after thing they were very attractive to you at one point?
It was INCREDIBLE the day I feel so fearful and triggered but recognize the physical sensation of wanting to cry because I feel scare and powerless, then remember that I have the power to choose my actions, I can choose to run and hide to deal alone with the feeling or to stay present and welcome the feeling without giving it the power to decide for me. I know what I want, and I know what I crave. I'm no longer let my fears take the power of action Thank you so so much!!!! Your vision has clear mine
Paulien, a long-time follower here but haven't really commented much. Just want to let you know your videos and especially the introduction to tapping has been life-changing, if not life-saving, for me. Thank you.
For the past five years I've tried so many other somatic/bottom-up approaches and didn't get much benefit, which was very frustrating. And all of a sudden I've found something that works! EFT works on me! I can heal! The thing I'm afraid of is so unlikely, and it would be traumatic regardless of how much I plan ahead. All I can do is minimize the risk, treat myself with compassion no matter what, and move forward assuming things will turn out OK. I knew all this beforehand from CBT, but with one round of tapping I actually felt more relaxed, more like I believed it. There's more space in my mind for me to engage with the life that I want, which will ultimately feed back and make the Bad Thing even less likely!
Thank you for your videos! I am learning more about myself and how I have gotten myself in toxic relationships and emotionally unavailable people. I always thought it was the other person and finding out why they were the way they were. Now I’m realizing I’m a fearful avoidant when I’m with an emotionally available partner. And it’s very interesting. This vid was great because I do get very afraid and just want to run away when everything is fine. I appreciate this and the work you do. Hopefully more people can see this because I believe it’s necessary in today’s world of love/dating.
Is anyone on the way to healing? I am on the way to self-healing and notice a lot of my behaviors that used to ignore before. I am very confused recently because I could see my behaviors followed by intuition are different from my thinking. I feel very confused about which one I should follow and tolerant of the other
Hi Paulien! Thank you so much for your work and for more and more insights about our complex nature. I would really appreciate your advise regarding rejection. What is the best way to go about it if you’re in the same circles with that person. I feel like completely avoid communication it’s not the way but ignoring my feelings also feels wrong. I believe that through discomfort we can learn a lot about ourselves maybe even heal but where is that line?
Hello, I get what your saying. I also feel discomfort when my partner decides to not elaborate further about a struggle. BUT I learn to recognize when that urge it's actually a desire of control. That what I really want is hear her to say something that erase all my worries. But that's simply not in my control. She deserves the time and space to process the problem. She deserves to elaborate at their own pace. Of course, I feel that if the problem is not solved right now it will be dismissed and never touch again. That's scares me! The way I find peace in that storm of sensations is thinking: I speak with kindest, I was clear and tell MY true. I advocate for me, I do the best I can to be fair with me. I will not pressure or punish her for have a different view, a different experience, a different pace and way of thinking about things. She can advocate for herself. It's her duty. I'm not let that feeling make me break the connection isolating myself. Im safe, I have the power to decide. We can feel deeply triggered and discomfort and STILL have the power to choose what we really want. To choose to not hide anymore. To not let that feeling of fear decide over us
Could you please do one on attraction? Like feeling so in love and then switching to focusing on physical flaws and repulsion even after thing they were very attractive to you at one point?
It was INCREDIBLE the day I feel so fearful and triggered but recognize the physical sensation of wanting to cry because I feel scare and powerless, then remember that I have the power to choose my actions, I can choose to run and hide to deal alone with the feeling or to stay present and welcome the feeling without giving it the power to decide for me. I know what I want, and I know what I crave. I'm no longer let my fears take the power of action
Thank you so so much!!!!
Your vision has clear mine
Paulien, a long-time follower here but haven't really commented much. Just want to let you know your videos and especially the introduction to tapping has been life-changing, if not life-saving, for me. Thank you.
I appreciate you taking the time to comment! Thank you so much for being here :)
My no. 1 trigger is the break up question. Your videos are very valuable to me. Will tap for some hours and start your program soon. ❤
Yes one on atraction
Thank you so much ❤
For the past five years I've tried so many other somatic/bottom-up approaches and didn't get much benefit, which was very frustrating. And all of a sudden I've found something that works! EFT works on me! I can heal!
The thing I'm afraid of is so unlikely, and it would be traumatic regardless of how much I plan ahead. All I can do is minimize the risk, treat myself with compassion no matter what, and move forward assuming things will turn out OK. I knew all this beforehand from CBT, but with one round of tapping I actually felt more relaxed, more like I believed it. There's more space in my mind for me to engage with the life that I want, which will ultimately feed back and make the Bad Thing even less likely!
Incredible, this comes as I'm releasing a very powerful sad feeling. Thank you!
Thank you for your videos! I am learning more about myself and how I have gotten myself in toxic relationships and emotionally unavailable people. I always thought it was the other person and finding out why they were the way they were. Now I’m realizing I’m a fearful avoidant when I’m with an emotionally available partner. And it’s very interesting. This vid was great because I do get very afraid and just want to run away when everything is fine. I appreciate this and the work you do. Hopefully more people can see this because I believe it’s necessary in today’s world of love/dating.
Thank you so much, beautiful soul. Love and light. 💕
Is anyone on the way to healing? I am on the way to self-healing and notice a lot of my behaviors that used to ignore before. I am very confused recently because I could see my behaviors followed by intuition are different from my thinking. I feel very confused about which one I should follow and tolerant of the other
Your videos always come to me at the perfect time, thank you soooo much for everything you are doing!
Hi Paulien! Thank you so much for your work and for more and more insights about our complex nature. I would really appreciate your advise regarding rejection. What is the best way to go about it if you’re in the same circles with that person. I feel like completely avoid communication it’s not the way but ignoring my feelings also feels wrong. I believe that through discomfort we can learn a lot about ourselves maybe even heal but where is that line?
Hello, I get what your saying. I also feel discomfort when my partner decides to not elaborate further about a struggle. BUT I learn to recognize when that urge it's actually a desire of control. That what I really want is hear her to say something that erase all my worries. But that's simply not in my control. She deserves the time and space to process the problem. She deserves to elaborate at their own pace. Of course, I feel that if the problem is not solved right now it will be dismissed and never touch again. That's scares me!
The way I find peace in that storm of sensations is thinking: I speak with kindest, I was clear and tell MY true. I advocate for me, I do the best I can to be fair with me. I will not pressure or punish her for have a different view, a different experience, a different pace and way of thinking about things. She can advocate for herself. It's her duty. I'm not let that feeling make me break the connection isolating myself. Im safe, I have the power to decide.
We can feel deeply triggered and discomfort and STILL have the power to choose what we really want. To choose to not hide anymore. To not let that feeling of fear decide over us