Thank you for being vulnerable about your journey to inspire those of us who don't feel like things won't get better. We all are capable of healing. Your journey is something to be so proud of
Wow, I would love more videos surrounding this topic and to hear about the steps you took regarding healing your relationship with money. I am definitely of the destroy and rebuild kin, but I want a family later in life, I don't want to be repeating this pattern and subjecting them to the consequences. Thank you and your channel is invaluable!
Thank you very much for your openess, and for sharing all of this with us. It's a bit gift. I felt you very close, I even cried too in this video. Your videos are so inspiring...
I really appreciate the reframe that she gives in the beginning. I was ready to push back against what she was saying: that other people's anger, expectations, etc. aren't real. But she WASN'T saying that they aren't real. She was saying that anger, expectations, etc. are theirs. They aren't mine. I think a huge part of my avoidant behavior patterns comes from trying to shoulder everybody else's crap that never should have been mine to begin with - and failing at this impossible task enough to stop trying at all. I wish I understood better how to put 100% of myself into life without also feeling like I'm responsible for everybody else too.
Thank you so much Pauline. Your wisdom, experience, and courage have helped me in some serious times of need. I was ready to blow up my relationship and my life many times. Now 2.5 years into my relationship I gradually experience longer periods of peace and ease and I am starting to see the benefits that safety and stability have to offer. I am so glad you touch on other topics like friendships and career because I know for a fact this fear and trauma extends beyond the romantic relationship. So thank you for all the time and thought you put in. It is a gift.
Thank you Paulien for sharing your story & being vulnerable with us. You are healing the world everyday 🫶 And now I have lots of good ideas for my vision board & more tapping sessions for who I want to shift into. ❤
Bravo Paulien!! You are our guiding light!! 🤗🤗 It’s also such a good thing to step back and look at how much you/me have healing. Because you can take it for granted and almost forget how dark life used to be.
Thankyou so much for this video Paulien. Your genuine honesty is as always wonderful, compelling, and inspiring; I particularly can relate to your description of not being able to 'follow through' on relationships out of a fear of rejection or some innate sense of inadequacy; your description of overcoming these limitations is immensely helpful, insightful and instructive. And you are always so modest about it, which makes me inherently trust you. Thankyou so much again.
Nope, you're not. I know it doesn't really change anything to know that, but at least you know that there's at least one other (and I suspect a LOT more) who experiences it the same way, and that you aren't uniquely f'ed up. Hope it helps.
Hi Pauline! Do you think you could make a video soon about how it felt when you were triggered by how good your relationship was vs how it felt when you were triggered by your man doing something that genuinely upset you? For me it feels the same for both and it's so stressful and confusing.
Is it common that a FA dumper becomes angry after a breakup if you dont chase him? My FA ex dumped me, almost 2 years ago because of the typical avoidant reasons. We hadnt have contact for 1,5 years. I bumped into him on the street and he was really (passive) angry, cold, defensive towards me. Says he never wants to have contact again (although during and after the breakup didnt want to loose the connection). Did I trigger is fear of rejection/abandonement? I dont understand his behaviour.
Thank you for being vulnerable about your journey to inspire those of us who don't feel like things won't get better. We all are capable of healing. Your journey is something to be so proud of
I never knew there were others out there who felt the same as me, this content has really given me hope that I can heal.
Wow, I would love more videos surrounding this topic and to hear about the steps you took regarding healing your relationship with money. I am definitely of the destroy and rebuild kin, but I want a family later in life, I don't want to be repeating this pattern and subjecting them to the consequences. Thank you and your channel is invaluable!
Thank you very much for your openess, and for sharing all of this with us. It's a bit gift. I felt you very close, I even cried too in this video. Your videos are so inspiring...
I really appreciate the reframe that she gives in the beginning. I was ready to push back against what she was saying: that other people's anger, expectations, etc. aren't real. But she WASN'T saying that they aren't real. She was saying that anger, expectations, etc. are theirs. They aren't mine.
I think a huge part of my avoidant behavior patterns comes from trying to shoulder everybody else's crap that never should have been mine to begin with - and failing at this impossible task enough to stop trying at all. I wish I understood better how to put 100% of myself into life without also feeling like I'm responsible for everybody else too.
Omg this sounds identical to my old behavior. I’m overcoming being avoidant and my life is so much better and so different.
Paulien - thank you for your transparency - the light is shining through you !
Thank you so much Pauline. Your wisdom, experience, and courage have helped me in some serious times of need. I was ready to blow up my relationship and my life many times. Now 2.5 years into my relationship I gradually experience longer periods of peace and ease and I am starting to see the benefits that safety and stability have to offer.
I am so glad you touch on other topics like friendships and career because I know for a fact this fear and trauma extends beyond the romantic relationship.
So thank you for all the time and thought you put in. It is a gift.
So happy to hear that your life is going well, thank you so much for sharing your journey with us.
Thank you Paulien for sharing your story & being vulnerable with us. You are healing the world everyday 🫶
And now I have lots of good ideas for my vision board & more tapping sessions for who I want to shift into. ❤
Bravo Paulien!! You are our guiding light!! 🤗🤗 It’s also such a good thing to step back and look at how much you/me have healing. Because you can take it for granted and almost forget how dark life used to be.
Thankyou so much for this video Paulien. Your genuine honesty is as always wonderful, compelling, and inspiring; I particularly can relate to your description of not being able to 'follow through' on relationships out of a fear of rejection or some innate sense of inadequacy; your description of overcoming these limitations is immensely helpful, insightful and instructive. And you are always so modest about it, which makes me inherently trust you. Thankyou so much again.
I relate so heavy to the things you struggled with in the past.
I feel like im the only one that cant atleast get better from cptsd.
Nope, you're not. I know it doesn't really change anything to know that, but at least you know that there's at least one other (and I suspect a LOT more) who experiences it the same way, and that you aren't uniquely f'ed up. Hope it helps.
How many years or relapses until this finally took place?
Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing.
Really love your channel!❤ so much help and compassion
Hi Pauline! Do you think you could make a video soon about how it felt when you were triggered by how good your relationship was vs how it felt when you were triggered by your man doing something that genuinely upset you? For me it feels the same for both and it's so stressful and confusing.
I'd like to echo this ask :)
Seconding this request too!❤
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Is it common that a FA dumper becomes angry after a breakup if you dont chase him? My FA ex dumped me, almost 2 years ago because of the typical avoidant reasons. We hadnt have contact for 1,5 years. I bumped into him on the street and he was really (passive) angry, cold, defensive towards me. Says he never wants to have contact again (although during and after the breakup didnt want to loose the connection). Did I trigger is fear of rejection/abandonement? I dont understand his behaviour.
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