How To Attract A Guy At The Gym: From Matthew Hussey, GetTheGuy
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Matthew Hussey shares dating tips on how to attract a guy at the gym without putting yourself under any kind of social pressure.
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“Excuse me sir, can you help me figure out how to run on this treadmill?”
Best comment😩💗
hahahahahah
That video is garbage
Bet tommorw
😂😂
As a guy who's regularly exercising at the gym, I feel like he missed the #1 trick so I'll give it to you. Lift weights. Seriously, where are most guys at the gym? By the weights. So you'll be closer and have more opportunities to talk. Treadmills and elliptical machines isolate you from those potential conversations (so do earbuds, of course). What do those guys likely find attractive? Women who lift weights. It means you value the same kind of personal/physical growth as them. And strong bodies will never go out of fashion (no, you will never look like the Hulk. Stop using that line as an excuse to avoid doing the hard work). Source: I lift weights and have crushes on women who also lift weights 😀
I agreee
Can u give a tip what do I say to a guy, (thats lifting weights) lets say that I like, and I don't even know if he's single? Give me a line. Nice shoes???
@@TODOMATIO Ask him what day it is today. Like biceps, back, or glutes-day ;)
Well, I can tell you what worked for me;
He was passing, looking amazing. I said, "I am new here. Wasn't it you I spoke to last week? He said; 'no, but I will be happy to introduce myself '
Next:
You look amazing. Please correct me if you see me do something wrong with the weights'
We have been small talking for a few weeks, and he has helped me. (Help is a great icebreaker)
Today he said, "Will you let me hug you?"
Can we meet? When I said yes he told me he wants me as his partner, and we are together now
Sharing your fitness ambitions, showing you are hardworking, and and telling him openly he is attractive will get you far
The problem is: I wanna get the trainer😂
selma grein same here lmao 😆
Omg same here
Girl sameeeee
Omg saaaame he’s sooo hawt ugh I can’t
Me too 😂😂 trust me it’s easy and now he is into me as well .
Tip: never date a trainer if you love your gym, you gotta find a new gym if it doesn’t work out 😂
I feel so ugly at the gym...
+rosemaravilha
I bet you don't look ugly.
Dawn I Awww, kind of you! But I'm not as pretty as you.
there is a huge misconception between ugly and low self esteem.
sak sezo And?? No one has solid self-esteem in all areas of their lives and everywhere. If they say they do...hmm...we usually catch them lying!
rosemaravilha
true, i sometimes feel ugly at the gym especially if i wore ugly outfit and when i stink, so iall i'm saying is, i'm not ugly, but what makes me think so is i wasn't looking good to feel good about my self, so you should try this, buy some sexy ass outfit and take a deep hygiene get your fleeky hair style on and go hit the gym , report your experience :D, i'm sure you'll love it.
sorry but I kill it at the gym, I normally train harder than most people so it looks to obvious if I ask for help
Same here.. sigh..
@@ariel7080 so try offering a bottle of water
i also work hard a the gym but sometimes i need help cause am petite so sometimes i cant reach out to stuff and can't lift some heavy
@@itsme2434 or just for spotting you with heavy weights is enough of an excuse, experienced peole also need spotters
if you are killing it at the gym then you don't have time to attract anybody. Problem solved
gym = the only place i can relax and think about MYSELF. and the last place i would want to worry about my looks, wear make up, flirt or get hit on! wtf
Lil'Monki I like to fuck guys who workout because they have more endurance haha. So it’s better you start caring if you wanna have a good time 😛
Sumtimes you just make too much eye contact with a moderately attractive person
Yeah but most guys at the gym are ridiculously hot, that's why I'd rather meet someone at the gym rather than the bar
Well girl thats you, the guys at my gym are sexy as hell. I need one
Awwwwww look at "young, just getting started" Mr. Hussey. Love this.
I am a receptionist at a gym. Using the staff really does work
Omg I didn’t know if they would be able to give this info out 😭 I should’ve
how does it work? what do y’all do?
@@alexisoliva74 ikr
I don't work there anymore but you just have to ask. They can't give out personal info, but you can ask for an assist.
What if you like the receptionist?
What if I like the trainer..
I'd like to say the guy "Can I grab your ass?" lol.
OMG!! So funny. I've had so many weird encounters at the gym. I was running on an outside trail and this guy ran up to me and started chatting to me. I can barely talk when I'm running, LOL. Anyway, when we got to the end of the trail, we continued to chat and he asked me out for later that evening. So I ran home, got dressed, put on make-up, etc. When he stopped by and I answered the door, he said he thought he had the wrong apartment. (because I had make up on and my hair was down-not in a ponytail like before, and I had real clothes on). He kind of sighed and replied "oh, your hair is down". I'm like "yeah" and he replied,"Oh no, it's just when your hair is pulled back in a ponytail, it really brings out the beauty in your face!" I'm like, how sweet, I an put it back in a ponytail if you prefer. He said, no that's fine, it looks great down too.
-Another time, I was off to the side doing stretches on a mat. This guy just came up to me and said, "you look like you could use a massage", so I'm like, ok. So I swear, for about 20 minutes he was giving me a massage. Awk-ward. It was kind of hilarious though. He must have been a massage therapist or something.
-Several times I have had guys approach me wanting to show me something or give me tips. One guy was so impressed that I was on the treadmill for an hour and a half. I ran 9 miles. When I got off, he approached me and said he was impressed by how long I was on the treadmill. I'm like, well I'm impressed that you noticed that I was on there that long. He and I were chatting for a while.
I was on a military base once, and I had been working out already for about an hour. I was about to end my workout and head home, then a whole squadron of marine helicopter pilots came in to work out. I wound up staying an extra half hour. I got on the stair stepper which over looked the weight room where they all were. It was a nice view.
There have been guys that I have dated where going to the gym was part of our routine. Even my husband and I hung out at the gym a lot together when we were dating. If your into physical fitness, it's a great place to meet like minded guys :)
I've never even thought about socializing at the gym. Oh god no.I am in no mood when I'm working out. Sweaty and focused and it's my time to myself.
I want my trainer. I just met him a week or so ago and he offered a free consultation with him. Turns out we are the same age and have hella stuff in common. We definitely lightly flirt and I've caught him checking me out (which I'm very surprised about). He's a tall, slender but toned auburn guy with a killer smile. I know he's way out of my league. I'm 5'4 with a very stubborn bottom half. Trying to figure out what my next move would be to show my interest without looking like a creep.
butternutscotch hey I feel the same about a trainer at my gym..I am so shy to talk to him..any ideas?😢
Just sex
I was just about to ask Matthew.. Hey what if you are crushing on your trainer.. Guess I'm not the only one :P
@@Thechildofthemoon1 I feel like everyone is crushing on their trainer...mine is sooooo freaking hot
@Maheen truuuue
legs, bums, and tums lmfaoo I just cracked!!!!!
Im a dude. Tbh i avoid girls like the plague at the gym. I always look away etc. I assumed girls just wanted to work out and not be bothered. The latter is still probably true. But i think I'll think twice before assuming a girl looking at me was a mistake/accident or that smile really meant nothing.
Same. No guy wants to be that guy.
My current predicament. What if she has somebody? What if I'm coming off as creepy?
I'm same way, I thought guys don't wanna be bothered at the gym, I don't want u to drop 250 lbs on yourself and crush your skull cause I was talking to you
SAME
i love guys with muscles
Mary
hahaha me too
Creepy, it just muscle
What happens if you like the trainer at your gym and you not sure if he likes you or he's just being nice as he should be... Asking for a friend 😂
I feel like such a tool for even watching this. The problem with me is if this guy is totally not interested, I’m going to still be seeing him everyday at the same time lmao. Also I can’t even really point out his age 🤔 now I’m second guessing if I should even go for it.
Rejection hurts but i hope you went for it
I approached my crush at the gym. Then after that he would get nervous around me and kind of avoid me. One day I caught him dead staring me down. I smiled; the next day he was really nervous. Now he will lift up his shirt while exercising next to me. Then looking at my reaction through the mirror he will smirk. I am so fustrated and confused. I really like this guy. I feel like I am being teased and after a while I might do or say something stupid that I will regret later. I'm so fustrated.
Don’t do anything further. You already showed him you’re interested, if he feels it he will do something in return otherwise it’s wasting time cause if you see him , he sees you too and he can do something az a man😊
@@gladiolus7057 Ur right; he wasn't interested.
@@3arhodes What happened?? :(
Guys communicate directly. Ask if he’s interested in going out with you or whatever your intentions are. It’s clear as day he’s super shy and simply needs that little push in the right direction. Alternatively you can play the long game and just play talk with him each day you see him so he feels more comfortable.
Please women don't start flirting at the gym if he catches you flirting at him he might drop on his skull,
hehe this video is 11 years old, jesus christ!!!! congratulations on all your efforts and your journey!! wowwww!! good for you Matthew
I can't believe there are videos on this topic for women
Mr. Hussey you should update this video I loved it! And would be great to see your advice now
YES I SECOND THAT @MATTHEW HUSSEY ALSO REMEMBER THAT AT THE GYM MOST PEOPLE KEEP TO THEMSLEVES SO THINK OF WAYS WE CAN MAYBE BREAK THE ICE WHERE IT DOESNT SEEM CREEPY OR DESPERATE
A guy at the gym thinks I rejected him (I wouldn't go out of town with someone who won't tell anyone his real name, only his 'nickname') so he's told all the other guys in the 'gym click' that I'm mean.
Told myself not to get involved w/anyone at the gym because if it doesn't work out I don't want any awkward moments or trying to avoid someone but It happened anyway. :(
Don't shit where u eat. Its that simple. Same thing goes for work, and social circles.
I think i'm in love with this guy in the gym but id rather have a root canal before doing this i'm just super shy lol
people go to gym to workout, hate those idiots who just wander around and waste time on machines
What if he's the guy at the front desk?
I have tried to make conversation but it doesn't last long because he's at work and has to salute other members walking in, plus I'm younger than him
Probably the only video I would disagree with. The gym is that LAST place I would worry about guys, and focus ONLY on ME. That's why I am there for right? For my body and my health... where I don't care about anyone else. I am not saying I'm not friendly or not talking to anyone...but hey if it just casually happens to meet someone and just naturally develops to become something more, than thats great too. Plus the gym is where I look at my worst lol...so if someone happens to like me there, then they really like you lol :)
I think it's a great way to meet like minded people. There are guys that I've gone out with that going to the gym was part of our routine.
Yet here you are watching this video. I feel like youre trying to convince yourself not to
You are fabulous for sure! I've also had personal trainers and they do know what's going on with other guests in the gym and there are many romances... Other " hot spots" where one would think least likely are trauma centers ... Some of the most compassionate nurses and doctors work there and of course lots of romance...if you happen to be in the medical field ..... Another cool place to meet tons of athletic and fun people are scuba divers!!! This is so much fun for a woman, because we' re still the minority as divers! I think if you're just out doing your own thing and having fun, you will attract like minded people!
Haha trauma centers romance? Really? :p
@@winterbegonia1168🤯 please no...!
My ex was a trauma doctor. They become numb to other peoples feelings. He was the coldest man I have ever known, and I felt I was nr 20 on his daily priority list.
It is not what it's hyped up to be
What about at school and work place?
How ironic I just watched this video at the gym haha
Never would of thought of those ideas. Such great advice and I'll be using them this summer!!!
That video is garbage
How did it go?
There is a guy at my gym really really confuse me! I notice he is always look at me while I'm working out but every time when I look at him he look away immediately! I asked my guy friends why he does that they said he might be shy and I should have an eye contact with him and smile but he won't look at my eyes. One day I walked to him and ask if I could take the 10kg plate;when he saw me walking towards him he looked shock and nervous and when I ask if I could take the plate he said"yeah go on!" With a cold voice and won't look at me! What confuses me the most is he seems to try to get my attention like he walks past me while I'm working out, quite a few times he was walking past me with a barbell and he purposely hit my hand with the barbell and pretend it was an accident....this has being carrying on for a couple of months now. He seems a bit strange to me!Can you guys tell me what he is up to? By the way, he is quite muscular but I'm older and taller than him. Thanks in advance!
+E K if he looks away immediatly he defo likes you but he is shy, smile at him and see what happens
Thanks for replying! It's good to have someone to talk to.
He definitely looks away! I caught him looks at me a couple of weeks ago, he looks away immediately with a funny expression...he looks nervous and not sure what to do. I found it very cute! He walks past me yesterday,when he sees me he immediately looks at somewhere else, I can see he was nervous from his eyes. I tried to smile to him but he wouldn't look at me and ignores my eye contact. Quite a few times he looke at me but I was so nervous and avoid having eye contact with him.
He was doing squats last week,I ask him how many sets left, he looked really happy and answered he had one more set left,he then helps me unload the bar. He then went to find another olympic bar to do the deadlift...he could have told me that he needed the bar for deadlift but he didn't, he gave it to me instead.
I have a strong feeling that he likes me but what worry me is about a month ago I saw him in a shopping mall with a girl....they weren't holding hands but she could be his girl friend though....
E K i know what you mean , i am a girl who goes to the gym to i never thought id like anyone from the gym but once i saw an attractive guy, i dont stare at them because i think i dont want to make it obvious, but hed stare at me to see if im looking at him , he last week watched me running on the track and he came in my way with his mate while i was running back which i think is blatantly obvious and then when he had done instead of going straight from where he was to the middle section he came on to the track and then went.
RIGHT ABOUT your situation when you have that strong feeling its like your gut is telling you and we all know your gut is like 90 percent right most of the time if you really do like this guy and by the seems of it , it does seem like he is interested or he could be friendly but who really is that friendly ? dont assume that could be anyone and he could have a gf so the only option you have to stop driving yourself crazy is sneakily try ask him if hes with someone or act dumb and be like so do you have a gf that comes gym too or? i dont know something like that it will help you know if he is or isnt if he isnt i think you should just tell him how you feel guys like gierls who take the lead and are straight up about their feelings but tread carefully only if he is single, if hes not then im here for you my sisters has been through it she had a major crush on her personal trainer and she never told him tho that she liked him but once he described the type of girls he went for and thats when she realised it wasnt her so maybe you could just be like just curious what type of girls are u in to andf if he asks why just say nothing just wondered if you had taste lmaooo
My crush also did the same thing, he often just walks past me even though he could used the shorter way lol
I am quite shy so I think I need hell lots of encouragement to talk to him! I'm thinking to write him a note telling him how much I admire him lifting heavy weights with good proper form and hand over the note to him...im not sure if I should enclosed my phone number though.. I will try smile to him and hopefully he won't look away lol
E K i am shy too and so awkward at first literally i was like that with my personal trainer and once i got to know him properly im so confident and we have a lot of banter i dont like him its just an example. he definitely likes being around you and if he does have a gf he still is interested you , yeah the best thing to do is if you cant say it face to face because rejection is scary do the note its the best way pop ur number in there so he can respond and if he doesnt well atleast you know hes not interested. definitely smile when you smile at a guy it makes u more attractive, open and easier to approach also it lets them know that you are into them also playing with your hair lets guys know your interested.
great idea! thats were i met my ex-husband! its so sexy....and men love it when you ask for help ....love the idea! works every time! thanks Matthew!
When you talked about the trainer’s help I was thinking like but what if the trainer is the one you like hihihi 🙃
What if I like the trainer?:(
That's even easier. Just ask him about some exercises
Girls at the gym tend to ask the personal trainers more than the guys at the gym. thats what i see.
hey i would like to know how you can trust a guy you like how you know it feels right to trust them and that :/
If he is worth getting he wont talk to you at the gym
I really enjoy listening to you videos- even when not really looking for a partner. It seems that you can make almost any topic sound interesting! I thought I would add a coment because there is something in addition to 'how to get a man' that you could maybe consider talking about one day. I think you could make a difference to many ladies' lives by talking about the fitness industry and what gyms could do to make their spaces more female-customers friendly. To me, one of the best steps any lady can take to 'get the guy' she likes is by taking care of herself (body and mind). A video asking ladies to send you short messages with their experiences at their local gyms and suggestions on what the industry could do to make them enjoy their workouts more/ visit gym more often might start a very needed at the moment dialogue between the industry and female customers. Talking about this could also win you a new large group of followers...
how do i get this guy?!
kickboxing! that's right..jeje
Hey Matt! I have recently saw a guy at the gym and we keep looking at eachother. The other day I asked him to help me with the cable machine bc i couldnt reach it but he alredy came to me and offer his help. I thanked him he was very kind but we didnt introduce eachother . The next day he was there too but with his friend he saw me sad hi and he was smiling i sad hi too but then we didnt talk ,I didnt want to bother him or I didnt want to be too much.. when I left we both sad hi... so do you think that was good I mean in baby steps and slowly but we can know eachother? Thanks:))
UPDATE!!!
Struggling here.
This accent make my mind fly
i luv it wen he snaps his fingers
What if you're the trainer who wants to approach a member? 😅
ugh so true lol Thanks for the tip!!!
Omg that last part you said is exactly how i managed to get a crush at the gym bahha omg.. so cute
"legs, bums, and tumbs" LOVE IT! :)
I have the same question..
This is genius! Never thought of getting to know the trainers.
Very helpful tips
My trainer did introduce me to him but he was with his mom
I think if he tries asking u to join as his client thats a pretty good indicator he's looking for the client base vs. hanging out with on a date?
See my problem with this…this involves going to the gym.
Everything he says, somewhere deep down i already know...but when he tells it again I realize i have to do it ;)
I did exactly what you said, way before watching this but never worked with me :'(( I still see the guy at the gym but we only have small chit chats, no more, no less :((
thank you , yea i,m always asking .
yea i,m like to have a laugh with my trainer, hes cool
What happens if the guyvyou want is the admin and does training on the side
Honestly? Start weight training! haha Guys at the gym loooove girls who lift heavy weights. I'm constantly being hit on haha
I've been weight lifting seriously for about three months. All I get are stares lol and some guys do approach me if they see I need help with a machine or something. Theres this one guy that comes near me to work out next to me occasionally or if I go to get more water he will pass by me but we don't ever talk..
I like a trainer in my gym he came and talked to me but I never get a chance to talk to him. Ugh
haha!! more men= more! This is seriously really good.. it is hard because everyone always has headphones in.
I work out in the free weights area which is like 99.9% male, men have come up to me smiling trying to tell me I'm working out wrong. I've completely shot htem all down. I guess they were trying to be "knights in shining armor'. Next time I will smile and tell them I know how to do it myself ->chat, silly me. It was bad I even compared one to a cave man b/c he kept insisting.
I met a guy at the gymn I am interested in getting to know better, there's alot of signs that he is interested but the conversation is short most of the time, I kinda get scared because although I am attracted to him I am afraid to like him because I don't know him well enough so tried to ignore ,and I was not sure if its right for me , he noticed I was trying to ignore him and got my attention asked me how I was I said I was fine i looked away whats next? where do i go from here?
i tend to do that a lot and i dont know how to approach guys at the gym. i do ask for certain things i find it awkward talking to some of them how do i get out of the awkward stage?
i have really bad scolisis, how do I get a guy to make eyes at me.
guess what! i tried this and it doesnt work! BIG SHOCK! Matthew hussey is W.R.O.N.G!!!
Plot twist: me and my trainer have a crush on each other 😂❤️
how about attracting a guy at a concert the guy I like is coming to town in March he is also my vocal teacher and I am really falling for him. I want to make the first move but I'm afraid I'm going to get rejected. Also I've known him since 2008 but until recently fallen for him. what should i do?
It z really helpful🙏thx
That's what happened to me hahaha.. suddenly i got 3 guys who works at the gym i atend that they can help me.
Also trainers have a reputation for ‘doing the rounds’ 😅
I have a Question!
So i like this guy at the gym, we talk, not too much, but here and there we do... so...what's the next step.. i DO find ways to touch him and stuff and that works great, sometimes i like the way he looks at me but im also sometimes not sure How he sees me, like, as a "little" girl, or its just the right positive look, cause he is a liiitle older then me, im 18, and he is probably 22-23 idk :/ so what should I do???
Help? :)
How do u know if the guy is getting bothered
Mirror their lot them at the gym don't stare at him it not very polite keep your eyes to your self, it like having guy staring you during your work out
@TheSchwarz1000 Awe the poor wee laddie. I wouldn't even bother telling them you know how to do it. If he's attractive, let him show you. He probably knows he doesn't know shit anyway, but if you praise his technique, he'll be totally hypnotized.
Legs, Bums and Tums HAHAHAHA your hilarious!
that's other than "legs,bums, and tums" LOL
What if it's the guy that works there? 😅
Ohhh please give me a break! LOL! In 2020 the title should read "How to bait a guy into a sexual harassment allegation in the gym".
A lot of females go to the gym dressed for attention or to look good only dressed in their booty tights and sports bra, and when they get the attention then they wanna cry harassment or say that "HE MADE ME FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE" just because a guy came up to talk to them. Just like at any other public place. That's why most guys don't even bother giving them any kind of attention. Even just glancing their way will make them "feel uncomfortable".
10 years ago when this video was posted you might be able to get by with this, but lets be realistic. In this day and age, there's a great chance that walking up to a female to talk to her or even just looking at her in any way will get you in trouble unless you're an attractive guy in her eyes, a female/feminine yourself, gay, or come off as gay. And that's not being paranoid, that's speaking from experience.
Is it possible that because I have an almost flat chest and I cover my butts :S I wear tight tops and for bottoms I wear tight stretch boot cut pants, I'm pretty also, guys find me hot!! At least that's what i get to listen from my male friends and through my encounters with strangers so is it possible that I'm not his type?
It's not so much that you look like Daniel Radcliffe, it is that you pronounce some words the same with similar mouth movement. Similar accent, are you from the same part of the UK?
I am in taekwondo class and i feel like i'm falling for my teacher ¬.¬
it can't heart? have you ever been to a kick boxing class? hahahahaah
@ComedianNicky hahaahah you're scarily kinky !! hahahah love that comment xD :D
How about a guy that works at the counter at the gym.. Gahhh HELP I dont wanna creep on him
Legs bums and tums 😂😂😂😂😂
I love you !
What if I'm attracted to the how-to-get-the-guy guy?
Matthewwwwww you are hot! Do you have a gf or you just help others with their dating/love life?
Oh, soo young :-)
Ok im a guy watching this no homo. I wanna see how the other half lives LMFAO. NO HOMO!!!
Thanks for the 411 on guyz.. by the way u got a sexy accent 👌‼️
No. I don't care to attract a guy at the gym... I just want to attract you!
Hmmmm....
Well, in my case, im attracted to the trainer 🙈🙈
the first step is getting to the gym...
same here ^^
Matt, how would you know if a straight guy in the office likes you? I'm gay
I agree. I talk to a trainer who has a wife and kids and we talk on a friendly level. One day we were in the locker room and I was on the scale trying to be a skinny bitch and he was getting out of the shower to get dressed. This new member he knows comes in and does a fist butt and greets him and I turn and see the guy who is really cute. He sees me and fist butts me and we catch each other's gaze before he walks off. I got turned on by that exchange.
Could you explain more on why?
*Stella Ambitions* Sorry but your story sounds very unlikely to occur when you say, _"One day we were in the locker room and I was on the scale trying to be a skinny bitch and he was getting out of the shower to get dressed."_ So you, a *woman,* were in the *males locker room?*
At my age, I can't attract anything