How To Ignite DEAD Conversations
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- Опубліковано 15 вер 2024
- systembytodd.com
What do you do when the conversation goes dead? Most guys give up and leave. Some go for a premature close because they don't know what else to do. But what if I told you that awkward silence of a dead conversation is actually an amazing opportunity?
You're so articulate, and quick to think. I'm both inspired and scared of the level you're on if that's what it takes to be a good gamer. I like that you seem so straightforward and honest about what you say.
When you least expect it... You're attracted to Todd as well
If your style of connecting with women is to get less human and more logical and heavily thought out, then his strategy might be for you.
@@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou 🤣
@@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou I don't know. What if it is something else ?
@@IPoopOnYouEveryLastOneOfYou absolutely not less human ... more understanding of human nature
Respect for making your videos short and on point. A certain three-letter dating company would've made a 90 minute ramble video about this.
Most guys' biggest fear is "running out of things to say" or "that awkward silence". But actually, awkward silences are very useful... if you know what to do with them! systembytodd.com for more detailed technical game concepts and breakdown.
dude u give so much real value for free i feel the urge to give something back
You can always buy his products or attend his seminars, mate.
John Williams wtf did I just read 😂😂
John Williams bruh 😂😂
@John Williams what the fuck
Todd always gives such valuable answers, its amazing !
#TheToddfather aka the 5'7 feudal Lord.
Frederick0220 hehe thats soo good. #TheToddfather
Thanks bro! There are so many great nicknames you can use for the name Todd!
Manlet army, rise up
Yes
@@Frederick0220 he's 5'7?
This is one of those *Lightbulb* lessons!
Please, could you post the closing songs ?
Shazam doesn't recognize them.
Thanks!
May be just a beat he bought for like 10 bucks.
Sounds like Bojet, just similar
Dude I also tried to shazam the song
BØJET - I need you
The song is "Spend No Time" by Yung Mazeratiit.
Shazam worked for me
Better yet, is she boring u?
* Insert AMS *
If there is sexual tension, how do you use it to your advantage? Especially, if it comes early in the interaction.
Keep at it
If she's acting weak submissive around you after building sexual tension. She's practically down. Move in close work towards holding kissing. Then keep going. Watch her body for any negative tension when you escalate. Back off for a bit then try again. It's a dance not a race.
@@SPINERbg Yes and no. If there's sexual tension in the interaction, that means there's also attraction , therefore there's no need to keep trying to get attraction. You have to maintain your attraction levels, sure, but the important thing here is that you advance as quickly as possible to the next phase. Qualification in the M3, Evaluation in Todd's model.
@@ryanvtec3885 Well, yes. That would help you for a one night stand. But I think Todd would say, you'd also need to establish some kind of evaluation and rapport ... UNLESS is evident that the girl is also looking for a one night stand and doesn't really care for any external societal judgment.
Todd, If only I had watched this video this morning instead of tonight!!!
Premise, evaluation and closing. Would you go explain each a little more thoroughly?
@@Spidertech500 The OPEN-Close model doesn't have qualification as part of the general process though; it serves as a subset of evaluation
Amazing! Todd keep going as a Man of Value it's greatly appreciated
He said open, premise, evaluate, narrative and close?
Wow, as usual amazing advice, and a very short and to the point video.
Thank you Todd!
Questions, Answers, Tease, go off on tangent, do something in that stage
You should make a video about those 5 steps
he has videos on it
@@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027 which one?
gyammyvault On his main channel, “My easy step by step system”.
Great video Todd! I can really relate to this. In many interactions I had said a few premise statements but the girl doesn't really seem to register it and keeps doing platonic talk. So now I know I should hammer in more premise in that case.
That's awesome! I love Todd's advice. Also, focus on girls who already have a natural high attraction to you. You can tell with practice by looking at thier body language and how easy they make it to talk to them and spend time around them. Once you find a girl with high attraction to you, gaming and premise should be that much easier because she is ready and eager for it (and you). Have fun! Lol
You should push more until she, either accepts your premise or explicitly rejects it. Bear in mind you have to do it with calibration (2 steps forward, 1 step back), or with what we call "social intelligence".
So I’ve been with this girl for a night on our 2nd date. Then she became flaky on texts and on scheduling our next date, and finally said she’s trouble and we should go our separate ways. I suggested keeping it light and she accepted. Since then we had great flirting via text in which I implied of meeting while keeping the power, and yet she wasn’t available. Should I keep her on a back burner or not? Cause it got to the point its too much texting with no closing. What can I do here?
Hey Todd, thank you for your videos. They are so interesting and practical... I love how you formalize concepts and go into incredible depths on topics.
I've got a question: The style of seduction you teach seems to work really well on party/slutty-ish girls but how do you approach more respectable ladies who don't like players? Can you explain what adjustments you have to make please? Is it even possible to "game" these girls? Thanks!
I don't know how you evaluate respectable ladies but I'm going to assume you mean girls with more traditional values.From experience, I can say that you have to be more straightforward and less teasy as soon as you have established premise. These women will also mostly want to be submissive and will almost never say or decide the frame and leave everything to the man (hence less slutty since they only decide based on the level of perceived sincerity and consistence).Therefore it goes something like this:1. Contextual Opener2. Establish premise quickly, as said in the video as many times as needed to get a response. These ladies will require more than your typical party girl, depending on age 18-24 (3-5) - 25-40~ (1-1.5) - 45-infinity (less than 1 lol)3. Ask for number and the rest is history. At this point you have to assess based on diverse factors (religion, culture, family etc.)Don't hesistate to ask questions if it isn't clear enough.
Lmao you're delusional. All women desire sexual tension from their partner, and to submit/be feminine to the right guy. Don't treat 'respectable ladies' any different.
Hi Todd, love you content. I want to ask you about 'negs'. I know that back in the days, in a very structured game, negs were used very often at the beginning of the interaction in order to get the girl to send us IOSs. But what purpose, if any, do negs serve today ? What they really are ? Should we use them and if so in what situations ? I feel like 'negs' to this day, are still some of the most misunderstood aspects of the game. I know that you have touched this topic a while ago but right now any information would be so helpful. Thanks a lot !
They’re still effective. Todd put out a video where he said his friend used to open with “Nice sweater. It’s cool to see you bring the 80s back,” then the girl would qualify and be like “What?! This is so current.” The video is called “How to Tease to Get Her Attracted”
I have a question: You recommend, that if a girl doesn't text you back, you should throw some small content into the conversation, that doesn't require an answer, like something you would post in Facebook, but ideally with something, that relates to your prior conversations with that girl. If she does't answer to this as well, how long should I wait, until I try that again and throw in some other/different content? How often can I repeat that, before it appears needy or creepy?
I think once or twice. You can wait a couple days after the first content chunk, but if she didn't answer to the first one, is almost sure she won't answer to the second one, at which point you need to move on to the next girl.
Bookmarked to watch in five years when I am at this advanced level of social skills.
It takes 3-6 months to get good, not 5 years. BTW, don't you think this is a beginner skill, since beginners' conversations often go dead quickly? Cheers.
@@gligoratanasovski3329 Yes I agree it is beginner level and it will take me Five years to get to there. I'm a long way behind most people, and a slow learner.
Hey Todd, how would you pick up a neighbor if you lived in a multistory building and she was just one floor above you? Bottom line is that the logistics seems great, but you only have about 50 seconds in the elevator to game her after you've accidentally stumbled upon her waiting for it to arrive when she's coming back to her place.
First of all, I'm not Todd or anywhere near his level of social mastery, but I have picked up some valuable lessons recently that have worked wonders for me. Here's my advice: first, read her level of attraction to you. Read her body language. Is she looking at you, moving close to you, touching you? If you talk to her, does she make it easy by giving long or emotional answers or asking you questions about you? Next time you are in the elevator, read and test her attraction. Read her body language. Then ask her her name or another simple question and then watch how she responds. Does she seem excited to talk to you? Does she ask you questions back? If so, flirt and tease with her and then ask for her number. If a girl has a high attraction to you, she will make it easy to talk to her and get her number. If not, move on, there are many other girls out there with high levels of attraction to you. Best of luck! Let us know how it goes.
Sounds like you have oneitis. Talk and date other women. Let your neighbor see that you're bringing back attractive women to your apartment, and let her come on to you. Otherwise, don't 💩 where you eat.
My only question is when you say “there’s something about you I like and something I can’t stand” and she says “why?” what do you then respond with?
Hey Todd absolutely love your content. I watched your dating manifesto and you said to assume a "lover frame" as opposed to a "provider frame". I agree with that. But could you give practical ways of being a girl the best lover experience she's ever had? Thanks in advance.
Hey Todd absolutely love your content. I watched your dating manifesto and you said to assume a "lover frame" as opposed to a "provider frame". I agree with that. But could you give practical ways of being a girl the best lover experience she's ever had? Thanks in advance. Please answer.
Can someone explain for me what “premise” actually is ?
establishing the reason of the interaction, so like whether its a man to women interaction or just two fellow humans talking/texting/etc..
Hey Todd. I met this girl at a club we are about the same age and we had a blast that same night and I got her #. 1st date the chemistry was on fire, we made out like crazy. Texts and communication was strong. 2nd date on fire she was totally into me. Then the weekend came up and she was very busy. Did a complete U-Turn. Her excuse: Loads of house work and chores. Then we spoke on the phone and she said I'm too busy with my life and I don't feel the chemistry anymore, I'm sorry not gonna work out. I'm guessing she's dating other men or has an old flame on the side. I don't get it. I did everything right. Her loss I guess.
"Are you boring her.." Wait... what? Why can't this go both ways.. I have kept convos going to have them go stale because of the woman I'm talking to has the personality of a dead fish.. Example A: (me) Hey! What's up! I saw it was your birthday this last weekend! Do anything special? (her): it was fine. ***Now I'm thinking "what" was fine.. what did you even do? wtf?*** .. Or like another time I tell a girl who says she doesn't like boring people to message her.. I say.. Hey! I won't be boring if you agree not to be boring as well.. deal?.. she says "si".. I make a joke and say I don't know Spanish.. she says ok.
Why do I have to ignite the fkn conversation if I could literally have a more interesting conversation with a 5 year old! I don't want to even talk to someone that is as limp in conversations as that.
Then don't talk to them. Find more interesting women.
Question: I work at a nail salon. It may sound a little gay but if you think about it it's a great job if you want to practice talking to beautiful woman. Here's my problem: I'm confident with talking to a girl in my salon but I can't really say the same if I'm outside of comfort zone of my salon. Any tips how to take my confidence outside of my bubble? Thanks.
Tom
How do you express value?
Uriel Peña value is expressed through your lifestyle bro
I tried to translate premise in German but there are tausend meanings, is there anyone who thankfully can help me to give me other words than premise that has the same meaning or translate it direct into german?
Mr. Dan assumptions
@@inthedms82 Thank you my friend
Miami Immersion in March? If so panorama the students next time!! (more authority)
Todd, is narrative a crucial part of the close or is it a mere bonus to strengthen the close. In other words, do we need narrative to have a succesful close?
tease when conversation goes dead.
For premise to be established, she has to reciprocate it in someway. Has to be agreed or participate in someway
link me to the video that explains premise etc?
What about when u have a girlfriend how do u keep the relationship going
Question: How do you use social media (Direct Messaging specifically) to get good results?
Can someone gives examples of some more premisey type things ?
I NEED TO KNOW
whats the name of the song at the End??
What exactly is premise?
How would you go about trying to get a girl at your job? I don’t see her all the time cause we work in different areas, but when i do see her i want to make it more impactful or at least i want to be in a better position so when i do get a chance to talk to her for a longer period of time i wouldn’t have to start from scratch
For premise to be established, she has to reciprocate it in someway
what does he mean by Premise? Like vibe or establish man to woman?
In a sense both, but primarely establishing man to woman as you say. What is the interaction about? how do you relate to oneanother?...etc. It's about laying the foundation for where you want the interaction to go
Hello Mr Todd,
Here is a very interesting and important question i want to ask.
Each time you are doing approach / daygame or even nightgame do you directly / subtly ask/find out from the lady if she has boyfriend / availability.
(does it show way intent)?
I have seen it a lot in my game that sometimes girls meet you after cold approaches or in night game and sometimes things even escalate sexually and suddenly it comes out of nowhere.........
' Oh! Im sorry! I can't do this. I have a boyfriend ' cliche line. I
Has it happened to you...
What should be the reason for being in that situation
I watch so many videos and this is the best
Heyy Todd!
Have to say Love your content so much. Watching your content helped me gain massive number close but having trouble with setting up date. Specific question when girls don't reply to my message I respond back by the following :- "No reply" is also a reply and unfortunately they don't reply this message also. Can you please guide me what's wrong with my mentality.
Thanks a lot!!!!!
What is this idea of premise? And the 4 other stages?
What if you get lot one word answer and don’t care to qualify herself
What do you do or say
Then it means that your premise wasnt strong enough
Khalid Al-Saadi
Any suggestions what to do instead Then
@@janh3827 I suggest you make sure that you create a strong first impression. Once you have established that you're a high value guy and that she's lucky to even talk to you, then she will try to qualify herself to you by becoming more chatty
After the something I love it, something I can’t stand she replied : why can’t stand?
What should I reply guys?
ToddV your fallback term ‘organic’ has meaning for you, can you flesh out your expectations for the audience takeaway?
I'm like - If he says '' premise '' one more time....
Hey Todd
I think you are the only one on the planet who can help with this....
What do you think about walking up to one/two stranger girls and asking them to be your wing girls for an approach. Like you take them with you to meet a girl.( shows preselection)
Good question!
I think is better to do it by naturally merging sets. Julian RSD is extremely good at this shit. But this is advanced stuff.
Hey Tod, love your content! What's the best way to follow up with a girl you met during a night out where you ended up kissing and having a strong connection but then you lose her because the club is crowded as fuck? Thanks man!
There’s not many places to practice game where I live other than the mall, so u have any tips for me
Go to the mall
Premise?
Hey guys /todd leaving for the club soon which type of opener should i use
@YOSTY gonna test
For fucks sake.
Millions of hours of pick up content on youtube.
1000s of ebooks on game.
And you're still asking what type of opener to use.
No offense, but you don't deserve success with women.
@@alexaurelius2059 i realised the opener is not important so i had lt it go enjoyed the game and had success
Platon The opener you use does matter bro.
Hey, My question is I had a really great interaction with someone a few months ago and she even came back to my hotel room but nothing happened. I believe I just did not initiate enough. We have grown apart recently and she really only texts back with one-word responses where she used to send me paragraphs. Is there a way to rekindle something with her? Or should I just leave it alone as my friends say?
P.S. I live on an island in the Caribbean and she lives in the states. I stayed by her for a week last year and I was in a different town early this year and she visited with me.
Abundance bro. Meet new girls, work on your game to meet an even better girl. Maybe take a break with her and ping her every once a while.
Hate to say it but if she CAME TO YOUR HOTEL ROOM and nothing happened. You blew it. She now thinks your a punk who can't make things happen. Thats why there's such a drastic difference between how she used to text you compared to how she does now. Best to move on, get other females in your life. Who knows, you'll get better and have more females in your life, she might see that and wanna give you another shot (Preselection).
@@loulewis1935 You right. I'm trash lol...
I agree with the other said that you probably missed an opportunity with her in your room. With that said, the distance probably makes it nearly impossible to create a meaningful relationship of any kind. I agree that you should focus on other girls that are in your area and don't text I just one girl back unless she initiates contact. If she doesn't, then her attraction wasn't high enough to make it a great experience for either of you. If she does, text her back, keep things light and fun and playful and, if the situation presents itself, set a definite date with her. Best of luck!
Can you do this on text?
*Hey, the sky is blue. Look, a bird...*
Game on point
Good stuff 🤟
yo TODD THE SON OF GOD! can u tell me pls if there are differences to make if youre talking to an 18 year old compared to a 28 year old ?
Probably topics of conversations .... and maybe their personal values (not necessarily moral values) are way different.
He speaks like my maths teacher.
Nice vid. Thumbed up! :)
Love you Todd
Lol didn’t expect to see u here zenith 🤣
@@chrisrichbeats7383 didn't expect you either bro loool, mans red pilled as fuck. i dont wanna be one of these roadmen who dont know how to talk and apporach women ygm🤣🤣🤣i love RSD and all their content, as well of todd of course
ProducedByZenith yeah I get you bro Todd is a sick teacher 🤣
gold.
The users guide.
Evaluate?
BREAKING NEWS TODDINGTON POST
yes, but tits.
Ok so there is what this guy is saying and than there is reality. On tinder or bumble for example, if you were to say to a girl "you know there is something about you i really like and something i really can't stand" the girl would just say "um ok" or she wouldn't say anything at all..
Any dudes around Toronto want to practice game? Give feedback even
He is like a god to me
what is evaluating? Can somebody reply to me with a link or a description? Thanks and gg to everybody!
Evaluation is what in the M3 we call "qualification". It basically consist on extracting from the girl a specific reason for you to like her other than her looks: some specific thing in her personality, moral values, her hopes and dreams, her ambitions, her generosity, etc. This phase also help to extract investment from the girl, which causes more and more attraction and rapport as investment gets accumulated.
@@TheRumpelstinskin thanks bro!
@@gyammyvault No problem ;)
Robopickup. Why don't we make our lives a little easier guys and just hire someone to walk around holding a teleprompter.
Whatever works for you, man. There's no one unique style of pickup. Everyone is different.
If she giving short repiles, not saying wbu wen u ask her questions tht hurts man she ain't interested know how it feels.
Be less vague, I like how you started
In a nightlife job which offers a lot of opportunities; bartender, doorman, bouncer etc...What would your advice be for maximizing its potential?
Use your job as ammo. When I was a bouncer I would tell girls I'd protect them from creepy guys, I ran the outside bar, I can get you a discount of you're a good girl, etc
@@luisd8818I'm a bouncer too. Did you get to fight a lot? I was really scared at first...but I've really taken a liking to that aspect.
@@luisd8818oh and thanks...
@@OurTechnocraticDeathCult no because I worked at a more higher end lounge so there wasn't that many. And if any fights ever occurred we usually called the Russian guy to help is out because he loved getting action lol
Hey, How to get good at frame controlling any exercise and how to be more grounded any exercise any advice man.
For groundedness you can Watch Elliot Hulse, it's really a thing outside of game and comes with competence naturally.
I think frame controlling and being grounded or very related. For practice, pick a frame and maintain that frame no matter what somebody else does in conversation or interaction. You can practice frame control on anyone and the more you practice with everyone, the better you will be when you use framing with a girl you're attracted to. I think the most important frame is that you are the valuable prize and that women are attracted to you and want to chase you. If you interact with a woman that has a high level of attraction naturally to you, she will make it easy or easier for you to present and maintain your frame because she will more readily accept it and buy into it. In fact, her readiness to accept and agree with your frame is an indication of her interest and level of attraction. So it's both a great gaming strategy and a test of her natural level of attraction.
Oh I just like shopping and eating then what you say
Trouble with a lot of sets and dates is women assume it's their job to talk/lead and they like to talk a lot and they'll try to keep it predictable and cliche e.g. work, from, history, likes, dislikes etc If you lead they'll sometime still resist it and try to bring it back to the usual crap. I guess you could 4th wall it and point it out, what is this a job interview etc
Well primarily you want a woman to talk more than anything or else you could easily talk yourself out of getting with her. Or at least for less experienced guys in general. But her leading into only platonic talk is an issue as well so it's like you have to lead somewhat as well. Kind of a double edged sword?
Are women more attracted to your caracter as a man or your circumstances, what you can offer her?
The question is, is she boring to you? Go Red pilled fellas.
I Sense Love In You I think a couple of these guys are red pilled. Or at least aware of it
When you're a Chad like me girls come easy. Not trying to sound cocky, but if you are good looking , you dont have to do all this shit
premise hasnt extablished when she hasnt participated or acknowledged or she is qualifying man to woman related way.
I thinks it's crazy that us guys basically need a fking degree JUST TO TALK TO A WOMAN. Like jesus why does it have to he so complex. It shouldn't be this hard to speak to another HUMAN
If i am a you are b, we would be c
No, Is she boring Me?
This dude hasn’t slept in 15 years lol
Is she boring me? Most probably.
Damn this dude talking like he's giving advice kn how to restructure a business
WHY YOU EVEN TRYING TO IGNITE DEAD CONVERSATIONS
CUZ SOMETIMES THEY HAPPEN, MATE
So relationships last
If she is qualifying man to women related way
Hey todd , how do you pass the shit test in text?
Imho Todd is way too much into "how to fake high value guy" rather than "how to become high value on inner level". Would high value guy ever care if a girl bored? I can't remember the time when I last even thought about it like that. It is she who should qualify to be with me, not vice versa. I have standards and wouldn't date or fck just anyone, girl should deserve it first.
Dude, that´s exactly what the girl thinks about herself, too. Except, girls can get sex pretty much whenever they decide. I guess, most of the men can´t. PS: perhaps, Todd´s content is not for you.
Konstantin Udachlivii for as much as I love Todd, really becoming high value, isn’t favorable for his business model
Is anyone *not* bored these days..? Is "the entertainer" supposed to be my aspiration with women now..?
When is that damn A.I. takeover coming...
I always talk about Trump
Trump is a fascist tho.
So are women when it comes to choosing men
First
Better advice. She thinks your boring... Leave. Stop trying so hard. Be a freaking man and stop catering to these women
Nice vid. Thumbed up! :)