Third one I can relate with the most, i started exercising and did skin care and was starting to see results and was gaining more confidence but at some point stopped and i feel like I am losing confidence, definitely gotta pull myself together now
Recap Core idea: anxiety creates blockage to communication 1) When meeting someone new, try to share and connect your hobbies, passions, life style, etc with them instead of just trying to attract them 2) Read books 30-60 minutes a day to improve vocabulary, you need to know a base number of words to express yourself clearly 3) Improve your appearance and health, it makes you confident and people will want to talk with you naturally 4) Talk to yourself on camera 10 minutes a day, make videos on things you're interested in or to share your knowledge
1) Check 2) Check 3) For that I need around $80K+. Jawline/chin surgery which is not only for apperance but potential cure for sleep apnea and eliminating nasal speech and fixing my teeth by full-mouth extraction and prosthetic replacement and I'm only 30yo. 4) Not all ppl can do this, because it's a skill that needs to be developed. I once tried to record an unboxing and I failed miserably, my voice, the way I talk, the body language was way off almost as if I was drugged or something. There's just some mental barrier trying to talk to yourself in a mirror or on camera.
After watching this video, I was reminded of how much I dislike speaking. It's not that my communication skills are not good, it's just that I am an introvert and prefer to avoid talking much unless someone initiates a conversation.
People ask me all the time how do you know so much, why are you smart, who taught you how to speak, etc. They assume it’s because I went to a fancy university and got a fancy degree, which is true, but has nothing to do with my knowledge or ability to clearly articulate ideas and concepts. The truth is that everything I know and all of my abilities are from reading books. If you want to be smart, read books, if you want to expand your cognitive capacity, read books, if you want to communicate articulately, in clear and concise verbiage, then read books. If you hate reading then start small, just spend 15 minutes a day, every day, and read something that you know you will enjoy. Do you prefer fantasy, sci-fi, or romance? Then pick up one of the many great novels written for that genre. If you do it every day you will eventually get to the point where it is no longer a chore and you will breeze through those 15 minutes and be hungry for more.
@@somethingaboutthenamejesus2199 annotate. If you’re reading for enjoyment, don’t bother with memory. But if you’re reading educational books or with the intention of improving your communication, then take notes. Highlight words you’d like to use in your daily vocabulary, learn the meaning and pick a few at a time to practice inserting in your vocabulary for the next couple days until it comes to you naturally. If you’re reading for gaining knowledge, again, take notes.
I was outgoing as a child, I felt free, happy and in-control, but when high school started everything changed, I developed social anxiety and insecurities, this caused me to have no friends and become a loner. I could never forget the the suffering as it was the worst part of my life. I graduated high school 2 years ago and glad that its finally over, I'm becoming more confident and the people at college are welcoming and easy to get along with.
Same here brother, I was EXACTLY the same. I have a few close friends though which I have very grateful to have. Keep going brother, be the best you and you'll attract the best out of others ❤
Its the same for me currently in highschool and never ever felt worse than here, i cant wait to graduate and meet new people. In highschool i feel like every single person (with exceptions of course) are just fake AF and talk behind your back 🤷🏼♂️
I was always a pretty shy kid, and I'd say I started developing anxiety as early as 3rd grade or around 8 years old after getting kind of branded as the weird kid. Looking back, it was probably undiagnosed autism. I think my kindergarten teacher actually said something about it, but my parents refused to listen to her. In retrospect, I'd say the symptoms were very obvious. I remember most of my k-12 experience being a constant stream of being picked on and bullied, and teachers never doing anything about it. They were certainly quick to act when I was doing it, but nobody ever seemed to stand up for me. It's hard to develop confidence and self-love when most people in your life seem to attack you on a daily basis, and the adults who should do something about it rarely, if ever, did. I mean, I'm 29, and I feel like most of my 20s have basically been me trying to play catch up on development most people had completed a long time ago.
4 lessons from the video:- 1. Change your mindset from attracting the people to connect with the people 2. Increase your vocabulary for impressive and effective communication 3. Improve your looks to feel confident 4. Rehearsal in front of camera at least 10 minutes a day Literally speaking I can connect with all these point from my day to day life... Valid points... Thanks for sharing.. 🎉🎉🎉
I really appreciate your video. I am a visual leaner, so i really like this style of yours. Unfortunately, I can't relate much, cuz my blockage is on the genetic level. I am on the spectrum and while those advices can "correct" the issues, they don't necessarily remove it down to the root. I still appreciate your work tho, you can't help me a lot, but you can change others.I am Not thinking of myself as some insignificant little brat, even though my style might seem like it, it just hurts to realize that i will be falling behind, even if it's just one small step in every day live. But hey, still trying to embrace my strengths, recently found gf, and got accepted to uni, so life isn't that bad, still trying to watch your channel, simply because it makes me calm down and just chill even though they don't help much. I am really grateful to be living on the same planet with you.
You're a legend man, you did not need to do this but it says so much about your character. Keep being the best you every single day, everyone gets a stack of cards at the start of life, some are at a disadvantage but if you're strategic enough you can win the game. Put trust in that brother 👊❤
May allah heal you and guide your heart to Islam. That's the best prayer I can give someone. You look like a really good person. I'm sorry about your autism I know it's really hard.
don't ever, EVER, care what you think other people will think. never let others push you around, and don't mold to others desires. be yourself, and you won't have to suffer through any anxiety about playing a fake persona
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853yes op must be a child. Go in for a job interview and act that way and you’ll never hear back. You must learn to play dumb and be likable and mold to what they want.
Bro you have given me so much inspiration. I'm 16, and the things that you talk about are the exact things that I grapple with. Thank you so much for helping me out.
5:59 🤣🤣🤣 keeping that in the video is really cool of you as it showes your only human. It also proves that you are genuine and trying to actually look out for younger people. 📈📈📈
I can confirm that your level of insecurities DRASTICALLY changes your quality of speech, I’m a high schooler, so I talk to people every day, and I’m often given compliments on my public speaking skills, but any day that I feel my hair looks funny, I have a cough, or my shirt has something wrong with it, it ALL goes down the drain 😂. My ability to explain things drops off a cliff, even though it really shouldn’t. Just remember everyone, YOU are your biggest critic, so just don’t be so hard on yourself and that alone will make you much more confident.
@@Zavouk Haha thanks, sadly I’d say most of the time I’m anything but suave, but if you just try to be funny and just connect with people, you’ll do well 😁!
I love how he didn't cut off the part when he was trying to recall a word, which shows even him can make mistakes and that is okay! It's not the end of the world. and I love how he shows it in the video.
Another tip is to understand that when you talk to someone they are not gonna judge you on what your saying and even if they do they will forget in minutes. This applies to many other actions you make and it will help with some of that social anxiety.
Do you ever go to a party and wake up in the morning feeling bad about a way you acted that seems embarassing in reprospect? A question that was kind of stupid or something you had to ask twice or forgot about someone. Maybe a moment when you got anxious while dancing? Well noone fucking noticed. And even if they are also too much in their own head that they wont remember it anyways.
You want advice? Get up from the bed, get out of the house and start training, confidence will come from itself and with it everything that you ever wanted
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853 Funny thing. I actually do go to the gym lol and it has helped. I even matched with a girl about a week ago and convo has been going good
1. Intention must be not to validate yourself 2. Books to improve vocabulary 3. Improving looks to improve confidence 4. Speaking on camera Thanks for this exciting inspired video!
idk why I cried lol! when u mentioned that fear of judgments is what holding us back it made me sad, I too was extremly judged and outcasted in elementry school era and even my family would judge me so it's very hard to overcome my social anxiety for it has deep roots, I grew with it. it's been like 4-5 years since I first discovered that I have social anxiety and I started working on it since then, I've seen a big proggress and difference but I still can't say that I'm finally free. this video helps a lot, I thought it was a seperated problem, thank you!!
"Your intention creates your type of tension" I felt this one REALLY, i never wanted to connect with people Ever, because i always liked to be alone , but i forced myself to do so So i can develop good social skills and be successful...
Same bro, looking back at the interactions I had with people I can now say that I was focusing too much on my feelings and my well-being ignoring other people's emotions
I feel you bro, I feel like sometimes when I don't add heaps of edits to my vids that people won't enjoy them, but funny enough the videos that I spend the least amount of time on - people enjoy them the most 😂
Hey ! If you enjoyed these types of videos, there is a youtube channel called jetavanaramaya buddhist monastery and it's about a Buddhist monk who has a whiteboard like this and he speaks about super cool stuff and life improvement! I really enjoy that channel, and i think you would too if you like these types of simple content, one downside is the videos are long about 2 hours, but they're super interesting and they help me learn so much about life. Thank you
1) Selfless conversation 2) Read books to expand your ability to express yourself 3) Self care: haircut, diet, skin care, sleep, meditate 4) Record yourself speaking or doing things in general and post on social media.
Just watching any communication video lifts up your confidence a bit at least even if you don't get anything. Yes its true- because you realize that are many people out there just like you.
I had the same issue, as you, mine got blocked at 17 years old, my confidence exploded when i moved into another country, my clients in my new job started praising me and my job, girls were eating me with their eyes. Improve yourself and confidence are the key. Now people say i have high ego, my haters, they were used to a no confidence guy.
Basically the 2 things you need to improve your communication 1. Confidence 2. Language Skills To improve your confidence, you should improve your skills at certain tasks, improve your appearance, get more fit and start working out To improve your language sklils, you should read more books, and practice your english/whatever language you're speaking. Try to socialize a bit more as talking to more people will naturally improve your vocabulary skills
In elementary school I got "bullied" for my looks, these days people compliment me and say I look good, but still I can't leave what happend back then and it always haunts me. No matter how many compliments I get my confidence just stays the same because I doubt if they are even real. Great video, thanks
I feel that,I used to get called ,,Autist,, ,,Retarded,, and other bad things just because Im too calm(Im fighting myself to not lose my control because of anger).I have zero confidence and when I try to talk I remember these horible moments when everyone was against me while I was trying to talk. All I wanted was peace and all I got was suffering.
Sounds to me as if there could be guilt involved. For example when kids only get rejection from their parents when they talk to them or want something from them, want to show them sth etc. basically what happens is that just for being themselves - they develop "false guilt" for having a personality that has own interests. Because the parents only punished them for their individuality - later in life every time when this urge arises to express themselves from the bottom of their hearts they partly feel like crap. That is the false guilt for being alive and vibrant and strong, having own interests or being confident. So they cant live their lives fully and they might not think that they are unwothy of a good life but because of how the parents conditioned their nerveous system, they will often have this unconscious drive to put themselves down. Maybe that is what happens to you. Just make sure you would wish every person alive to be confident and happy with themselves and to go out strong and good looking and allow yourself too.
This man was not alive when my first son was born and I’m watching his video on how to be a better communicator. You can never be too old to be taught and you can never be too young to teach.
Can never relate better. I was a very mid looking teenager, still am. But when I appeared more on stage and showing my face in a lot of places, connecting and communicating with people, the quality of life just went 1000x better. My friends started to ask (mock) me 'how are you pulling girls?'. It even came from a point of attracting 0 girls to now avoiding unwanted attention from them, got placed before everyone with a really low grade... stepping out of my insecurities and being a communicator really paid off.
You could re film this exact video with the exact same points, but in the framework of literally any other self improvement end goal, and it would still be fantastic. This isn't just good communication advice, this is great life advice.
Been undergoing a complete transformation, mentally and physically, I guess a "glow up", and you have contributed to that so much. Thank you so much my brother
Thank you, bro. I've been struggling with communication as I am growing up. As a girly who is very insecure with her looks and speaking skills, I want to change all over the years. This video is a perfect timing for me to see.
I totally sympathize with the logic in this video. I talk with a few of my best friends and I have trouble speaking at times, and the reasons contributing to this video shows exactly why. Thank you!
Bro to be honest your communications skill is really good I haven't been hooked in a video for long always used to skip video in half way but this time I watched it completely anf will take steps.
What a video brother! You simply spoke out the most important rules that I've highlighted so far in my life. Congrats sir! Thanks for bringing all that up!
The moment about connecting with people instead of aiming for validation from them - teared me up. I realised that that's my main problem, because of my insecurities and mental problems, i often look at people as a source of validation, which is obviously repulsive. Im gonna work on that, thanks man.
this is the type of influencers the younger audience should watch. W vid btw, I learned a lot from this especially I'm in the field where we have to put ourselves out there and this actually helped me instead of school lol,, THANKYOUU !!
An advice I often hear from people of age who passed through life is to care less, or better say, don't give a f about it. The idea is to still be connected to the world around you but don't let the ideas of the people influence you because the thoughts will overwhelm you so you either care less or live a stressful life.
I caught myself smiling many times while watching this as it connects perfectly to my experience. And now that I need to communicate daily in a second language, things have become even more blurred. You helped me tons! Thanks!
Dude if only i could have met you earlier , you aint even directly talkin to ne but yet you are still a better friend that almost all the people ive met so far
I have read one book in my entire life and honestly it's not always books that are the root of improving yourself in every way possible but listening to others especially cult people, the kind of peoe who have lived through constant learning and improving themselves to be the best they can be
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853Nah bro all it takes is one good book to change your life and i’ll forever stand by that. Check out Lonesome Dove or 11/22/63, reading in school sucks and that’s coming from an avid reader. Reading for enjoyment outside of school is a completely different thing, just trust me man I have no reason to tell you BS.
In 3 years you've changed a lot than most people couldn't in decades. You improving yourself and helping others like this you know I'm proud of you bro. And I appreciate the good work.
for the people in the western world , this is what you do for better confidence . for us Asians in south east asia , we put on a fake british or american accent and we feel instantly better about ourselves
For the last 2 years i have bought a camera and stand but the thing which was stopping me was low confidence and i have watched so many videos but never helped.... This was the video i needed the most.... cuz there is a reality in it and i can see it in your eyes..... it inspired me soo much that i can now talk i front of the camera,.... thank you soo much
Hey jack i know you're not going to see this but i just wanted to let you know that you've changed my life completely man. You have one of the most unique and best advices ive heard and i'm just so grateful that i found you bro. Keep up the good stuff man. Much love from Sydney ❤
i have interview tomorrow and i was all over place, fear of rejection, nervewreck , overwhelmed. I clicked on video to perform better in interview communication wise but when you talked about having just pure intention I realised my task is just and just to give my 100% and probably learn if not accepted and to comprehend my knowledge better why I have this gunk of rejection already. After watching this I have new perspective and all my anxiety just disappeared. I only need to focus on myself and my intentions rest is up to them. I am so glad I clicked this video. Thank you so much 🥺🥺
7:54 "Ten minutes per day, five minutes per day, sit in the chair and just yap at the camera." This is exactly what I did when Philippines went into lockdown. Being bored, I picked up an old microphone and plugged it into my computer. A year later, my voice has improved so much that I've been scouted for local radio stations. Trust me, the first few recordings will make you feel embarrassed. Like "OH MY GOD. WHAT IS THAT" type of feels. I have some of my old recordings still with me (I believe?), last time I took time to listen it made me cringe so much.
Yeah ahah I used to hate my voice on camera, but now I don’t even notice a difference. I think it’s more of a placebo issue. Definitely the most effective thing I have done to improve my speaking that’s for sure
@@JakPiggottThis is exactly what happened to me actually because my school asked us to make regular voice memos, or just something to record the day or the last 12 hours. I used to think it was stupid that they told us to do this, but I realise why they did now.
Your gonna be a great father when you grow up an you can be a great father figure for this generation by teaching us these mandatory lessons and im just 13 so thank you brother.
Thank you, Jak. You dont know how much you have helped me in the past 4 months. I am happier. I am more concentrated and productive. You are a blessing. Keep doing what you do.
Jak. You probably won’t see this but I feel pressured to leave this comment anyways. So I can at least say I tried. I need help. I’m addicted to… corn… and anytime I think I’m getting better I fall back into the same habits. I hate myself also. I’m ugly, I hate the way I talk to people, my confidence is in the negatives, I’m stupid, I’m starting college pretty soon and I feel like I have no control. I feel like I’m a spectator of my own freaking life… more than anything I want someone that I can make happy. But talking to girls terrifies me. I have someone right now that I kind of like, and have made some conversation with. I’m sure she’s just being nice though, and even the idea of approaching her and talking to her terrifies me. I could go on and on for hours typing this comment but I’ll just stop there. I basically have no idea what to do, and I’m tired of life. I’m not sure why I’m even making this comment but at least I’m making some kind of effort.
I'm no far off, but you must keep in mind that miracles are just consequences, but unanticipated. There has to be effort to turn things into something you want. Now ofc there's some things you can't do anything about, so just dig your path around them and believe that you can change the other ones. I believe in you and since you have made this comment, might as well consider it a little piece of "something which reminds me of the need to change" sorta thing. Really hope it gets better
@@mikeydotexe thanks man, I agree with you, and I have a strong desire to make changes in my life. But I can’t seem to actually do it. Sometimes I’ll start living me positivity but then every time I make progress, I get screwed over by my addiction and am back at square one. I just feel trapped. I think my only way out is to talk to someone I know, but I feel like there’s an equal chance of me getting better on my own, then there is me actually talking to someone. I just can’t do that lol.
Set a base for your freedom like- tell yourself everyday that you love yourself and you won’t go back, something like that. If you find yourself finding corn to be a escape from reality then play video games or hang out with friends or something that takes your mind off everything. And mate there’s always a tomorrow so try your best, tell yourself your free. It will get better.
I physically stutter, like in everyday life, and speech therapy is expensive... so it's even worse for me in ANY public speaking stuff or for presentations...
I was a stutterer too, but only in school. Not at home, around familiar faces and surroundings., it seemed. Like he mentioned, there is a blockage and we need to find the source or event where the stuttering might have begun, friend. Hope this helps..
I am surprised you didnt mention the use of filler words. Practicing the elimination of these words can immediatly make ones speech sound clearer and more precise. Many people tend to insert "uh" or "um" to maintain attention while searching for the right words. Other common fillers include "like," "you know," "basically," and "so." One effective way to practice avoiding these is to select a simple topic and explain it aloud to oneself, conciously replacing fillers with deliberate pauses. This technnique is far more impactfull than filling silences with unecessary words. Additionally, being intentional about the message one wishes to convey at the start of a sentence can help. Speaking at a slightly slower pace can also provide enough time to articulate ideas and make better use of ones vocabulary.
UA-cam recommended this video to me. I just started making UA-cam videos, trying to share my knowledge. This was really direct to the point without any gibberish. This motivated me more.
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in crypto from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaire
No specific one really, because there are lots of investment plans and strategies littered all over the internet today, for instance, investments like real estates,gold, drop shipping crypto currency and lots more
brooo , i am the main speaker in an upcming event in my school and my partner is female classmate of mine that i have never spoken too , wish me luck bro
"Don´t try to attract, but try to connect!" Great advice!
Reminds me of one of my friends, he tries to attract people to be friends with him by doing what they do, basically peer pressure
Fr I'm going to write that down
indeed
This literally helped me , thank you
Even better is to just silently give her love. If she takes it then it is great and if she returns it then it is even better.
Bro never stop at helping this generation
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@@Serenity1.0_ ikr🤣😅
he doesn't GIVE people inspiration, he IS inspiration.
I'm not IN danger Skyler, I AM the danger
You attract what you are 👊❤️
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@@Sivaji_E.R it is actally: i am not in danger skyler, I AM THE DANGER
I completely agree. The more calm and collected you are and the more confident you feel, the greater your ability will be to communicate effectively.
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Flirtosphere Seduction on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
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1. Intention must be not to validate yourself
2.Books to improve vocabulary
3. Improving looks to improve confidence
4. Speaking on camera
This said 8 days ago from now just hits
Saved me 7 mins ty
easy peasy lemon squesay yet i aint got a phone, ill ask my friend then.
@@Crazedfolk you can’t even watch an informational 7 minute video
@user-ne3hi3hw2i it's not informational lmao it's only tips for communication skills chill. it ain't as deep as you think it is.
1. Intention creates tension
2. Read books (specially the one who improves your future)
3. Improve your overall appearance (for confidence)
Third one I can relate with the most, i started exercising and did skin care and was starting to see results and was gaining more confidence but at some point stopped and i feel like I am losing confidence, definitely gotta pull myself together now
4.Speak on camera
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@@mustangcody Atomic Habits,The Subtle Art of Not giving a F...k.
Recap
Core idea: anxiety creates blockage to communication
1) When meeting someone new, try to share and connect your hobbies, passions, life style, etc with them instead of just trying to attract them
2) Read books 30-60 minutes a day to improve vocabulary, you need to know a base number of words to express yourself clearly
3) Improve your appearance and health, it makes you confident and people will want to talk with you naturally
4) Talk to yourself on camera 10 minutes a day, make videos on things you're interested in or to share your knowledge
Thank you u really summed it up while also adding some tips
That's great 👍
perfect, thank you
thanks for saving my 8 minutes of life time
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3) For that I need around $80K+. Jawline/chin surgery which is not only for apperance but potential cure for sleep apnea and eliminating nasal speech and fixing my teeth by full-mouth extraction and prosthetic replacement and I'm only 30yo.
4) Not all ppl can do this, because it's a skill that needs to be developed. I once tried to record an unboxing and I failed miserably, my voice, the way I talk, the body language was way off almost as if I was drugged or something. There's just some mental barrier trying to talk to yourself in a mirror or on camera.
I'm leaving this comment so that when anyone replies or likes it, I can come back to this video when I have a lot of anxiety or less confidence.
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Come here bruhh it's time to watch this video again 😅
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what a way to farm likes. hey, it's my opinion and you can disagree with it or just respect my opinion, but don't share it.
After watching this video, I was reminded of how much I dislike speaking. It's not that my communication skills are not good, it's just that I am an introvert and prefer to avoid talking much unless someone initiates a conversation.
If you dislike speaking that can be something else rating than just being an introvert, maybe there's some shame too
@@morfx9911 same goes for me but my speaking is getting worse day by day
People ask me all the time how do you know so much, why are you smart, who taught you how to speak, etc. They assume it’s because I went to a fancy university and got a fancy degree, which is true, but has nothing to do with my knowledge or ability to clearly articulate ideas and concepts. The truth is that everything I know and all of my abilities are from reading books. If you want to be smart, read books, if you want to expand your cognitive capacity, read books, if you want to communicate articulately, in clear and concise verbiage, then read books. If you hate reading then start small, just spend 15 minutes a day, every day, and read something that you know you will enjoy. Do you prefer fantasy, sci-fi, or romance? Then pick up one of the many great novels written for that genre. If you do it every day you will eventually get to the point where it is no longer a chore and you will breeze through those 15 minutes and be hungry for more.
Hello my friend I would like to start reading books NOW. Can you recommend like 5 books I am open to wide variety of genres just want to start asap
Reading has not helped you with syntax.
What if you can’t remember what you read ?
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The power of NOW
Rich dad Poor dad
The Psychology of Money
Can't hurt me
Laws of Human Nature
@@somethingaboutthenamejesus2199 annotate. If you’re reading for enjoyment, don’t bother with memory. But if you’re reading educational books or with the intention of improving your communication, then take notes. Highlight words you’d like to use in your daily vocabulary, learn the meaning and pick a few at a time to practice inserting in your vocabulary for the next couple days until it comes to you naturally. If you’re reading for gaining knowledge, again, take notes.
I was outgoing as a child, I felt free, happy and in-control, but when high school started everything changed, I developed social anxiety and insecurities, this caused me to have no friends and become a loner. I could never forget the the suffering as it was the worst part of my life. I graduated high school 2 years ago and glad that its finally over, I'm becoming more confident and the people at college are welcoming and easy to get along with.
Same here brother, I was EXACTLY the same. I have a few close friends though which I have very grateful to have. Keep going brother, be the best you and you'll attract the best out of others ❤
@@JakPiggott Thank you for the tips and inspiration! you're one in a lifetime individual
Its the same for me currently in highschool and never ever felt worse than here, i cant wait to graduate and meet new people. In highschool i feel like every single person (with exceptions of course) are just fake AF and talk behind your back 🤷🏼♂️
Holy fck those first few sentences describe how my life was perfectly
I was always a pretty shy kid, and I'd say I started developing anxiety as early as 3rd grade or around 8 years old after getting kind of branded as the weird kid. Looking back, it was probably undiagnosed autism. I think my kindergarten teacher actually said something about it, but my parents refused to listen to her. In retrospect, I'd say the symptoms were very obvious. I remember most of my k-12 experience being a constant stream of being picked on and bullied, and teachers never doing anything about it. They were certainly quick to act when I was doing it, but nobody ever seemed to stand up for me. It's hard to develop confidence and self-love when most people in your life seem to attack you on a daily basis, and the adults who should do something about it rarely, if ever, did. I mean, I'm 29, and I feel like most of my 20s have basically been me trying to play catch up on development most people had completed a long time ago.
4 lessons from the video:-
1. Change your mindset from attracting the people to connect with the people
2. Increase your vocabulary for impressive and effective communication
3. Improve your looks to feel confident
4. Rehearsal in front of camera at least 10 minutes a day
Literally speaking I can connect with all these point from my day to day life... Valid points...
Thanks for sharing.. 🎉🎉🎉
The title is actually right, after the video, my social skill increased to zero.Shout out to this channel ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
"The intention creates your tension" what a great advise!
I really appreciate your video. I am a visual leaner, so i really like this style of yours. Unfortunately, I can't relate much, cuz my blockage is on the genetic level. I am on the spectrum and while those advices can "correct" the issues, they don't necessarily remove it down to the root. I still appreciate your work tho, you can't help me a lot, but you can change others.I am Not thinking of myself as some insignificant little brat, even though my style might seem like it, it just hurts to realize that i will be falling behind, even if it's just one small step in every day live. But hey, still trying to embrace my strengths, recently found gf, and got accepted to uni, so life isn't that bad, still trying to watch your channel, simply because it makes me calm down and just chill even though they don't help much. I am really grateful to be living on the same planet with you.
You're a legend man, you did not need to do this but it says so much about your character. Keep being the best you every single day, everyone gets a stack of cards at the start of life, some are at a disadvantage but if you're strategic enough you can win the game. Put trust in that brother 👊❤
May allah heal you and guide your heart to Islam. That's the best prayer I can give someone. You look like a really good person. I'm sorry about your autism I know it's really hard.
@@Muslim-in3nz I hope you find Christ brother. Jesus is the truth and the light. Jesus is God
@@ohhjah thanks for your concern about me, I appreciate it a lot, but islam is the one and only religion
@@Muslim-in3nz Its a false religion brother, I pray you find Jesus, the evidence is un deniable.
don't ever, EVER, care what you think other people will think. never let others push you around, and don't mold to others desires. be yourself, and you won't have to suffer through any anxiety about playing a fake persona
100%. I wish I could have told this to my younger self
You have to act like a fake? Hmmmm, I guess we've all been there at some point or another
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853yes op must be a child. Go in for a job interview and act that way and you’ll never hear back. You must learn to play dumb and be likable and mold to what they want.
"because i had built those insecurites my communication skill suffered " damn bro that was eye opening reality
Bro you have given me so much inspiration. I'm 16, and the things that you talk about are the exact things that I grapple with. Thank you so much for helping me out.
5:59 🤣🤣🤣 keeping that in the video is really cool of you as it showes your only human. It also proves that you are genuine and trying to actually look out for younger people. 📈📈📈
"God knew i'd be too powerful if I had social skills"
😂😂
God knew I will be to powerfull if I had confidence
@@Mihail-69god knows you'll be too powerful if you had a better grammar
@@kenzoetheveganlover4685God knew you’d be too powerful if you knew “grammar” isn’t singular💀
@@vintxge_taetae guess I'm powerful now
I can confirm that your level of insecurities DRASTICALLY changes your quality of speech, I’m a high schooler, so I talk to people every day, and I’m often given compliments on my public speaking skills, but any day that I feel my hair looks funny, I have a cough, or my shirt has something wrong with it, it ALL goes down the drain 😂. My ability to explain things drops off a cliff, even though it really shouldn’t. Just remember everyone, YOU are your biggest critic, so just don’t be so hard on yourself and that alone will make you much more confident.
Inspiring words man. Im in High School as well. Hopefully i sound as suave as you someday
@@Zavouk Haha thanks, sadly I’d say most of the time I’m anything but suave, but if you just try to be funny and just connect with people, you’ll do well 😁!
The Real Slim Shady is now straying away from breaking down people and focusing on building them up. Bravo, Mr. Marshall Mathers!
Haha thanks brother 😂❤
What?
@@WarLightning042 I don't know either but it's an Eminem reference
@@jodekoje I found the koke
He is blonde and has the buzz cut, that's the joke
7:30 "add a zero on top of that 4" ruthless 😭😭😭
🤣🤣🤣👍 7:30
I love how he didn't cut off the part when he was trying to recall a word, which shows even him can make mistakes and that is okay! It's not the end of the world. and I love how he shows it in the video.
Another tip is to understand that when you talk to someone they are not gonna judge you on what your saying and even if they do they will forget in minutes. This applies to many other actions you make and it will help with some of that social anxiety.
No one's ever thinking about you as much as you think they are ❤
Do you ever go to a party and wake up in the morning feeling bad about a way you acted that seems embarassing in reprospect? A question that was kind of stupid or something you had to ask twice or forgot about someone. Maybe a moment when you got anxious while dancing? Well noone fucking noticed. And even if they are also too much in their own head that they wont remember it anyways.
I’m 31yrs old and I’ve been working in sales for approximately 12yrs now. This video is absolutely golden. Well done!
What do you sale?
I came here for the free advice, not to be reminded that I'm single and 21
rope
@@Entryy😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😂😂😂
You want advice? Get up from the bed, get out of the house and start training, confidence will come from itself and with it everything that you ever wanted
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853 Funny thing. I actually do go to the gym lol and it has helped. I even matched with a girl about a week ago and convo has been going good
It's all good pal we're both in the same boat
Thanks bro I’ve just started UA-cam and I find talking quite hard on camera but I’ve seen you’re journey and I believe in myself
I hope you succeed brother
The fact that nobody talks about the forbidden book Mareska Manipulation on Vexoner speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
Where can i find that book
@@tanmay1807 on vexoner
@@tanmay1807I read it, it's on vexoner and it's interesting. I would recommend
@@tanmay1807i read it, it's on vexoner and it's interesting. I would recommend
@@tanmay1807I read it, it's on vexoner and it's interesting. I would recommend
He's winning life and helping his fellow brothers and sisters too. Road to 1 million in few months. Mark my words ❤
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I have my ups and downs just like the rest of us brother, but thank you ❤️
It didn't take a few months!! Congrats on 1m @JakPiggott !!!
Let's goooo🔥💥@@CVG_Flights
1. Intention must be not to validate yourself
2. Books to improve vocabulary
3. Improving looks to improve confidence
4. Speaking on camera
Thanks for this exciting inspired video!
idk why I cried lol! when u mentioned that fear of judgments is what holding us back it made me sad, I too was extremly judged and outcasted in elementry school era and even my family would judge me so it's very hard to overcome my social anxiety for it has deep roots, I grew with it. it's been like 4-5 years since I first discovered that I have social anxiety and I started working on it since then, I've seen a big proggress and difference but I still can't say that I'm finally free. this video helps a lot, I thought it was a seperated problem, thank you!!
wow i feel this comment so much
Jak being only 18 years old, and this skilled, is very impressive!
let me tell you that this video helped me more than you could have ever imagined, thank you!
"Your intention creates your type of tension"
I felt this one REALLY, i never wanted to connect with people
Ever, because i always liked to be alone , but i forced myself to do so
So i can develop good social skills and be successful...
Same bro, looking back at the
interactions I had with people I can now say that I was focusing too much on my feelings and my well-being ignoring other people's emotions
THIS is what educational videos need to be like, just down to earth dudes teaching something. not heavily edited bullshit
I feel you bro, I feel like sometimes when I don't add heaps of edits to my vids that people won't enjoy them, but funny enough the videos that I spend the least amount of time on - people enjoy them the most 😂
Hey ! If you enjoyed these types of videos, there is a youtube channel called jetavanaramaya buddhist monastery and it's about a Buddhist monk who has a whiteboard like this and he speaks about super cool stuff and life improvement! I really enjoy that channel, and i think you would too if you like these types of simple content, one downside is the videos are long about 2 hours, but they're super interesting and they help me learn so much about life. Thank you
1) Selfless conversation
2) Read books to expand your ability to express yourself
3) Self care: haircut, diet, skin care, sleep, meditate
4) Record yourself speaking or doing things in general and post on social media.
Just watching any communication video lifts up your confidence a bit at least even if you don't get anything. Yes its true- because you realize that are many people out there just like you.
Unintentionally found this video on youtube, it's going to change my life
I had the same issue, as you, mine got blocked at 17 years old, my confidence exploded when i moved into another country, my clients in my new job started praising me and my job, girls were eating me with their eyes.
Improve yourself and confidence are the key.
Now people say i have high ego, my haters, they were used to a no confidence guy.
Basically the 2 things you need to improve your communication
1. Confidence
2. Language Skills
To improve your confidence, you should improve your skills at certain tasks, improve your appearance, get more fit and start working out
To improve your language sklils, you should read more books, and practice your english/whatever language you're speaking. Try to socialize a bit more as talking to more people will naturally improve your vocabulary skills
In elementary school I got "bullied" for my looks, these days people compliment me and say I look good, but still I can't leave what happend back then and it always haunts me. No matter how many compliments I get my confidence just stays the same because I doubt if they are even real.
Great video, thanks
I feel that,I used to get called ,,Autist,, ,,Retarded,, and other bad things just because Im too calm(Im fighting myself to not lose my control because of anger).I have zero confidence and when I try to talk I remember these horible moments when everyone was against me while I was trying to talk. All I wanted was peace and all I got was suffering.
Sounds to me as if there could be guilt involved. For example when kids only get rejection from their parents when they talk to them or want something from them, want to show them sth etc. basically what happens is that just for being themselves - they develop "false guilt" for having a personality that has own interests. Because the parents only punished them for their individuality - later in life every time when this urge arises to express themselves from the bottom of their hearts they partly feel like crap. That is the false guilt for being alive and vibrant and strong, having own interests or being confident. So they cant live their lives fully and they might not think that they are unwothy of a good life but because of how the parents conditioned their nerveous system, they will often have this unconscious drive to put themselves down.
Maybe that is what happens to you. Just make sure you would wish every person alive to be confident and happy with themselves and to go out strong and good looking and allow yourself too.
This man was not alive when my first son was born and I’m watching his video on how to be a better communicator. You can never be too old to be taught and you can never be too young to teach.
This video just changed my after 15 years. If I could jump out of my screen and hug this dude I would Thank you so much
5:57 I love how he shows his imperfection here, it really shows how human we are!
It's okay to not be perfect
Can never relate better. I was a very mid looking teenager, still am. But when I appeared more on stage and showing my face in a lot of places, connecting and communicating with people, the quality of life just went 1000x better. My friends started to ask (mock) me 'how are you pulling girls?'. It even came from a point of attracting 0 girls to now avoiding unwanted attention from them, got placed before everyone with a really low grade... stepping out of my insecurities and being a communicator really paid off.
Really appreciate that you’re just helping people not trying to sell us anything.
You could re film this exact video with the exact same points, but in the framework of literally any other self improvement end goal, and it would still be fantastic. This isn't just good communication advice, this is great life advice.
Been undergoing a complete transformation, mentally and physically, I guess a "glow up", and you have contributed to that so much. Thank you so much my brother
5:28 yes bro, i keep my phone nearby when reading and just ask siri if i don’t know. it has improved my vocabulary a ton.
Thsts great
I do the same thing too😅😅
So glad I’ve found creators my age who share their experiences, it’s difficult to find people who go through the same struggles.❤
We need more authenticity in today's world for sure ❤
The most positive dude on the internet. I love your content.
Been a while since I clicked on any of your videos, did'nt realize how much I missed your vibe.
I need this alot man, I'll be watching most of this videos as I think they'll help me alot.
Bro cleaned my throat blockage for being judged by people,
now l'll try to not think what others think about me
A good way to become an asshole
Thank you, bro. I've been struggling with communication as I am growing up. As a girly who is very insecure with her looks and speaking skills, I want to change all over the years. This video is a perfect timing for me to see.
I totally sympathize with the logic in this video. I talk with a few of my best friends and I have trouble speaking at times, and the reasons contributing to this video shows exactly why. Thank you!
Hope this can help brother ❤
Bro to be honest your communications skill is really good I haven't been hooked in a video for long always used to skip video in half way but this time I watched it completely anf will take steps.
What a video brother! You simply spoke out the most important rules that I've highlighted so far in my life. Congrats sir! Thanks for bringing all that up!
Point of this video:
1. Read more books
2. Talk in front of the camera at least 10 min daily
Thank me later.
Love your videos bro
I’m just done being depressed
Watched 5 of your videos and I’m gonna be better person soon
Loads of love ❤
The moment about connecting with people instead of aiming for validation from them - teared me up. I realised that that's my main problem, because of my insecurities and mental problems, i often look at people as a source of validation, which is obviously repulsive. Im gonna work on that, thanks man.
This is just what I needed, thank you 🙂
this is the type of influencers the younger audience should watch. W vid btw, I learned a lot from this especially I'm in the field where we have to put ourselves out there and this actually helped me instead of school lol,, THANKYOUU !!
Are we not going to talk about how well you drew that tap.
An advice I often hear from people of age who passed through life is to care less, or better say, don't give a f about it. The idea is to still be connected to the world around you but don't let the ideas of the people influence you because the thoughts will overwhelm you so you either care less or live a stressful life.
1:08 absolute chad
I caught myself smiling many times while watching this as it connects perfectly to my experience.
And now that I need to communicate daily in a second language, things have become even more blurred.
You helped me tons! Thanks!
Practically, what you are saying is that healing yourself is that way, and you are right, for a lot of things not only communication issues.
Jak really is the guy who would help the people before him to fix problem that they struggle in
Thank you jak
Give to give brother not just to receive 👊
To him if he fixes others problems he fixes his own, he is intelligent and reliazed this
Dude if only i could have met you earlier , you aint even directly talkin to ne but yet you are still a better friend that almost all the people ive met so far
0:56 so cute 😂
*Read a thousand books and your words will flow like a river*
-Lisa See
Ayeee I love that quote
I have read one book in my entire life and honestly it's not always books that are the root of improving yourself in every way possible but listening to others especially cult people, the kind of peoe who have lived through constant learning and improving themselves to be the best they can be
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853 Relatable
@@nicolae-alexandruluca7853Nah bro all it takes is one good book to change your life and i’ll forever stand by that. Check out Lonesome Dove or 11/22/63, reading in school sucks and that’s coming from an avid reader. Reading for enjoyment outside of school is a completely different thing, just trust me man I have no reason to tell you BS.
The best advice I've seen here in YT for people like me with anxiety to communicate. Thank you
In 3 years you've changed a lot than most people couldn't in decades. You improving yourself and helping others like this you know I'm proud of you bro. And I appreciate the good work.
2:34 You were speaking to me directly here
can relate it felt like a personal attack not kidding I had tears listening to those couple lines 🙂
Enjoy your life to the fullest no matter what circumstances there are , cause at some point we will regret what we have not tried when we could.
I'm being abused by my psychopathic sister and sociopathic sister :(( it's hard to enjoy my life
Embarrassment lasts a moment, regret will last you a lifetime
for the people in the western world , this is what you do for better confidence .
for us Asians in south east asia , we put on a fake british or american accent and we feel instantly better about ourselves
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For the last 2 years i have bought a camera and stand but the thing which was stopping me was low confidence and i have watched so many videos but never helped....
This was the video i needed the most....
cuz there is a reality in it and i can see it in your eyes.....
it inspired me soo much that i can now talk i front of the camera,....
thank you soo much
Your open expression also helps! Love that you authentically share personal experiences. Keep up the good work!🎉
Hey jack i know you're not going to see this but i just wanted to let you know that you've changed my life completely man. You have one of the most unique and best advices ive heard and i'm just so grateful that i found you bro. Keep up the good stuff man. Much love from Sydney ❤
Nah man don’t doubt it, I read as many comments as I can, you should be immensely proud of yourself brother ❤️
i have interview tomorrow and i was all over place, fear of rejection, nervewreck , overwhelmed. I clicked on video to perform better in interview communication wise but when you talked about having just pure intention I realised my task is just and just to give my 100% and probably learn if not accepted and to comprehend my knowledge better why I have this gunk of rejection already. After watching this I have new perspective and all my anxiety just disappeared. I only need to focus on myself and my intentions rest is up to them. I am so glad I clicked this video. Thank you so much 🥺🥺
How was it going buddy?
@@Yasminijhum I got rejected but I learned what to improve and it was an experience
7:54 "Ten minutes per day, five minutes per day, sit in the chair and just yap at the camera."
This is exactly what I did when Philippines went into lockdown. Being bored, I picked up an old microphone and plugged it into my computer. A year later, my voice has improved so much that I've been scouted for local radio stations.
Trust me, the first few recordings will make you feel embarrassed. Like "OH MY GOD. WHAT IS THAT" type of feels. I have some of my old recordings still with me (I believe?), last time I took time to listen it made me cringe so much.
Well if you’re cringing, I’m pretty certain that means you’ve improved as a person.
Yeah ahah I used to hate my voice on camera, but now I don’t even notice a difference. I think it’s more of a placebo issue. Definitely the most effective thing I have done to improve my speaking that’s for sure
@@JakPiggott i can tell how much effort and pratice youve put into speaking!
@@JakPiggottThis is exactly what happened to me actually because my school asked us to make regular voice memos, or just something to record the day or the last 12 hours.
I used to think it was stupid that they told us to do this, but I realise why they did now.
how did it affect your public speaking? i imagine it will improve your english speaking alot (if it's not your mother tounge)
You have a very rare talent for speaking clearly and eloquently. Liked and subbed. Thank you for sharing your knowledge!
hello can you help me to improve my english
Your gonna be a great father when you grow up an you can be a great father figure for this generation by teaching us these mandatory lessons and im just 13 so thank you brother.
i have so much things in head that i cannot even talk all of them at the same time without forgetting one of them
Thank you, Jak. You dont know how much you have helped me in the past 4 months. I am happier. I am more concentrated and productive. You are a blessing. Keep doing what you do.
so true
Thank you for sharing this man, much love ❤
Jak should open a discord community because it's pretty much going to be the best community ever button
It would be good, I might make a free skool community, but not a discord, to many trolls 😂
@@JakPiggottyou should actually donit anyway you would help us even more
This video is a gem.
No one asked for this therapist, but we ALL need him. Especially younger males such as myself.
Love the background music!
Jak. You probably won’t see this but I feel pressured to leave this comment anyways. So I can at least say I tried. I need help. I’m addicted to… corn… and anytime I think I’m getting better I fall back into the same habits. I hate myself also. I’m ugly, I hate the way I talk to people, my confidence is in the negatives, I’m stupid, I’m starting college pretty soon and I feel like I have no control. I feel like I’m a spectator of my own freaking life… more than anything I want someone that I can make happy. But talking to girls terrifies me. I have someone right now that I kind of like, and have made some conversation with. I’m sure she’s just being nice though, and even the idea of approaching her and talking to her terrifies me. I could go on and on for hours typing this comment but I’ll just stop there. I basically have no idea what to do, and I’m tired of life. I’m not sure why I’m even making this comment but at least I’m making some kind of effort.
It’s ok, man. Just take your time and try to change what you can still control, for the better. I believe in you
@@hungduy4655 thanks man, I really appreciate that. I hope it does get better.
I'm no far off, but you must keep in mind that miracles are just consequences, but unanticipated. There has to be effort to turn things into something you want. Now ofc there's some things you can't do anything about, so just dig your path around them and believe that you can change the other ones. I believe in you and since you have made this comment, might as well consider it a little piece of "something which reminds me of the need to change" sorta thing. Really hope it gets better
@@mikeydotexe thanks man, I agree with you, and I have a strong desire to make changes in my life. But I can’t seem to actually do it. Sometimes I’ll start living me positivity but then every time I make progress, I get screwed over by my addiction and am back at square one. I just feel trapped. I think my only way out is to talk to someone I know, but I feel like there’s an equal chance of me getting better on my own, then there is me actually talking to someone. I just can’t do that lol.
Set a base for your freedom like- tell yourself everyday that you love yourself and you won’t go back, something like that. If you find yourself finding corn to be a escape from reality then play video games or hang out with friends or something that takes your mind off everything. And mate there’s always a tomorrow so try your best, tell yourself your free. It will get better.
I physically stutter, like in everyday life, and speech therapy is expensive... so it's even worse for me in ANY public speaking stuff or for presentations...
I was a stutterer too, but only in school. Not at home, around familiar faces and surroundings., it seemed.
Like he mentioned, there is a blockage and we need to find the source or event where the stuttering might have begun, friend. Hope this helps..
I am surprised you didnt mention the use of filler words. Practicing the elimination of these words can immediatly make ones speech sound clearer and more precise. Many people tend to insert "uh" or "um" to maintain attention while searching for the right words. Other common fillers include "like," "you know," "basically," and "so." One effective way to practice avoiding these is to select a simple topic and explain it aloud to oneself, conciously replacing fillers with deliberate pauses. This technnique is far more impactfull than filling silences with unecessary words. Additionally, being intentional about the message one wishes to convey at the start of a sentence can help. Speaking at a slightly slower pace can also provide enough time to articulate ideas and make better use of ones vocabulary.
UA-cam recommended this video to me. I just started making UA-cam videos, trying to share my knowledge. This was really direct to the point without any gibberish. This motivated me more.
Just be your self, but for that You have to know yourself, start there😉
You work for 40yrs to have $1M in your retirement, meanwhile some people are putting just $10K in crypto from just few months ago and now they are multimillionaire
That's great! I'm motivated too! How can we achieve this challenge?
No specific one really, because there are lots of investment plans and strategies littered all over the internet today, for instance, investments like real estates,gold, drop shipping crypto currency and lots more
I've heard alot about crypto currency investments and how effective it can grow your income! Any recommendations on a guide?
Warren T. Sonia is an amazing tutor for crypto. Highly recommended! She’s been my Tutor and Mentor for past solid 8years!
F. A. C. E. B. O. O. K.
brooo , i am the main speaker in an upcming event in my school and my partner is female classmate of mine that i have never spoken too , wish me luck bro
Wishing you luck. 🎉💯
luck
Good luck man! Go get that
Good luck
You got this dude
Giving you these 8 minutes feels like you’ve change my whole mind set. Thank you
Great analogy to showcase mental blocks present inside us, that prevents us from fully expressing our true selves at best.