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OPENING UP | THE LAST 9 MONTHS | Lydia Elise Millen
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- Опубліковано 7 лют 2021
- OPENING UP | THE LAST 9 MONTHS
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No matter what I go through, I pray I never become so miserable that other people’s celebrations and blessings annoy me. It must be an awful place to be in.
Real advice !
Love this. Celebrate everyone's successes and it'll come back 10 fold.
Ditto.... I love this comment so much❤️
This is so so good!
I just thought that too!
I have just watched the video that the other lady posted - please don’t me mean it isn’t good for your health - practice what you preach!!!!!!!
I think it’s important to remember that Lydia didn’t name and shame, she warned her industry colleagues yes, but the other party has posted on Instagram and now UA-cam dragging Lydia for what essentially was a disappointing service which did not warrant such a public attack. Very unprofessional, but kudos to Lydia for soldiering on to the best of her ability through a tough period.
@@CJ-gp9cn ya fair played to her for having a freak-out about her hair at a woman who was about to give birth any day 🤔🤔
@@michellewalsh6589 even if that is true, which would be none of our business (it was made clear that she was having a panic attack and needed help breathing through it), that justifies a public slander like this? No, the shaming video was disproportionate. So many comments like this seem only to care about Lydia apparently reacted to a bad hair appointment and seem to be missing or forgetting that this is a public shaming going on.
@@CJ-gp9cn poor you having to work for her!!! She's lost all perspective!!!
@@dimpleshergill8079 haha, no mate, the law is the law and the stylist has opened herself up to the risk of an expensive defamation case. Silly woman.
I think maybe the lesson is you don’t always have to find something positive to post? 48 hours after suffering the loss of your grandfather showing excitement about a bag could make you seem callous and shallow. Which I don’t believe you are at all. I also see your point of wanting to be a go to place for people to escape the reality of the world. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said you don’t show vulnerability and always want to make it seem everything is ok. I think showing some imperfection would only make you more endearing.
This is spot on what I was thinking. It must be so hard to be a content creator for that exact reason. On one hand people come to you for escapism and to see beautiful products and trips etc. But on the other, if you only show that side people accuse you of being shallow and tone deaf. But then when you do open up people attack those vunerabilities or say you're being insincere or demand to see the beautiful stuff instead because they want that escapism. It's a hard balance and I know I don't have the answer. It's why I couldn't be an influencer/content creator!
A few years ago I had a year where I experienced something along these lines.. illness in the family and my cat, a chain of events that were on me and I kept going and going until I crashed and it’s an ongoing thing to recover from, I wanted everything to end, my boss told me to leave it at the door but it consumed me so I quit my job and felt like I was falling apart.. I now have my own business. You’ve helped me more than you realise, the getting up and getting dressed, the little wins. Omg THE LITTLE WINS I echo this to others now, all the big moments, huge achievements (congratulations of course) are not what gets us through life. It’s what brings your joy in each day, routine, morning coffee, fresh air, the view from your patio is what will bring you back to life. 💖 and you did that while you were down, imagine what you can do when you are up. You’re amazing, thank you 🙏🏻
When someone tries to show that his or her life is perfect.. it's obvious that he or she is having a difficult time because life and perfect are not best friends of eachother...😔
like you read my mind, i always say same thing
My Granda always said “all the most beautiful roses bloom when they are up to their neck in shit”
Keep going love
Sounds soooooo much easier than it is, but just keep going, and take fine to stop and smell the roses 😉
Great comment xx
I love this quote so much haha
What an amazing 🤩 quote! Love ur granny!
What a wonderful Gran to say an absolute gem of a quote - excellent x
I say the following with love and respect, but I think you have to remember that all we see of your life is what you put out on social media and UA-cam. And that is mainly buying more things in one day than most of us buy in a year. So we see this constant excess coming from you, which is why some people, slightly unfairly, snap back at you at times and think you are ‘out of touch’.
Your audience need to understand that there is more going on in your life and more to you than just consumerism, and you also have to understand that we can only go off what you show us, to form an opinion.
I don’t think I’m explaining my myself well at all, and it sucks that you have been through a difficult time. I dunno, just trying to show both sides of the fence I guess.
Peace and love ❤️
Nail on the head. X
I think this explains it perfectly!
yesss! Show us your vulnerable site, too. After all, we are all humans and go through tough times, too! When we only see "positivity" and "an always smiling Lydia who buys stuff all the time" than this is what you want us to see. But deep within you have struggled and went through a difficult time, and this is also YOU. Then show us this site of you, too! It will only make you more human and more accessible
Couldn’t have said this any better ❤️🤟🏽
I'd like to see some videos about all the volunteering and charitable things you do as well. More of a balance. Genuinely curious what those things are, and perhaps that would encourage others to contribute as well. If there have been vlogs about this I have sadly missed them.
What I liked best was how Lydia said her life coach did a test and concluded she is an introvert, but how can someone with this job be introverted????
Not defending her, but you can have an outgoing job and be an introvert. I am a pianist and an introvert
Haha
That's why her current job is not the right job for her!!
I present for a living and am an introvert. Introvert/extrovert is about how you recharge and refill your tank not about wheather you are outgoing at all
Porter is not quite ready for long walks. He is still a baby.❤️
agreed
Lydia pressing that delete comment button with a 🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌🍌😂😂😂
If you don't like Lydia then just don't watch her videos
@@Sharlene89 time to hold people accountable. Narcissism won't allow her to, unfortunately. I hope she seeks help, if this isn't a huge red flag, then I don't know what will be. Unfortunately there's only worse to come if she doesn't get the help she so obviously needs
You just project materialism and appear to be so greedy
She’s a luxury fashion influencer if u don’t like that kind of thing don’t watch her😂
I completely agree!
She’s a real nasty piece of work... she bully’s so many people!
@@abineedham3183 but yet your still here watching her ???? Strange
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26:45 why dont you do that with the person that commented that your tweet was tone deaf?
Because she’s too self obsessed...
@@MinStocking yes
“A positive place on the internet for you to come to”. You have done that, with bells on. Thank you sweetheart.
Lydia, some people are just looking to hate, put people down etc. Anyone can be struggling, no matter what their financial situation is. If there's one thing I know about you is that you are a nice person and I know you shouldn't have to feel bad for having a hard time or for being happy about getting a new handbag. Everyone deals with things differently but it just goes to show how selfless you are you don't want to push your issues out to us because you want to give us positive things to watch. I'm so sorry you had to go through all that! Just know that there are some of us here who are always routing you on and overjoyed for you to see your life achievements! I love seeing your luxury purchases as well as it gives me inspiration for when I can get some of the items myself eventually. ❤❤❤❤❤
Well said 👏🏼👏🏼 exactly what I was thinking too
I think she is a roll model when it comes to standing the trench for Boundaries.
So true! ❤️
Very well said Elizabeth, I’m just reading then comments hoping anyone who watched tonight’s video is being supportive, and couldn’t have articulated my thoughts any better. I’m ready with my down arrow to poo poo any negativity here x
Totally agree! People need to have more empathy. Everyone is so fast to judge not knowing absolutely anything but thinking they know it all.
This is a reminder to all that what you see on social media are just highlights and dont feel bad that your life doesn't feel as exciting.
I havent see your Tweet as i dont use that platform, but maybe " Influencers" need to acknowledge these are not the best times atm but here is something im excited about eg my new bag.its all in the delivery.
It’s about execution. I watch some influencers showing their goods and I’m happy for them. Then there are others, they’re a bit more showy or obnoxious. Take accountability and not always make excuses! Be better from lessons learned. Escapism isn’t always about hauls, I would hope someone’s life is more than just shopping.
I watched a show about dogs and one of them wouldn’t walk. The behaviouralist said that when they stop it’s not because they WONT walk, it’s because they need to be allowed to stop to take it all in. Their senses are heightened, they’re tiny compared to their surroundings, and they don’t understand concepts and context. They don’t know they’re going for a walk and they’re supposed to like it they just know they’re leaving safety. Maybe just take him out and LET him stop, even sit. The animals on the show did this and ended up loving walks because they developed feeling safe.
I feel like we could always say 'people are dying' you can still care about people dying and take happiness from things in life... the two are not mutually exclusive and I wish people would realise that - you are allowed to take happiness from whatever gives you it. People are very quick to be angry right now, at everything and anything. The pandemic has made people crueler. I'm sorry. I'm glad you are doing better - you are amazing xxxxx
Honestly Lydia, I would rather not have any content from you for 6 months and knowing you’re okay than what happened. Take care of yourself. There is nothing more important
Nah! She needs the money and attention oh and her ‘friends’
@@nathalieandparis 🧐
girl you need to leave your face alone. your entire face shape has COMPLETELY changed. you're so beautiful and i wish you saw that.
Careful with long walks so soon, he’s just a little baby! 🥰
Thank you for saying this!!!!
This is why we should be kind, you never know what someone else is going through x
People need to realize that social media is a job for some people and at times an escape for many people and life is very hard for everyone at the moment and people should realize that no one should judge anyone because you don't know what people are going through.
Such a true statement and can’t agree with you more. Online is such a judgemental platform and we don’t know what people are going through .
You are an amazing person don’t ever forget that, you make so many people happy. I’m so sorry for your loss and pain this past year. You’ve made my year so much brighter!
To avoid Porter getting car sick, try a raised cushion seat specifically for dogs. It lets them see out the window which helps to avoid car sickness. And most have a harness mechanism to secure it to the seat and an internal harness for the dog to keep them safe in case of sudden stops.
Lydia, I had a Hysterectomy in December, lost my sister to COVID 19 and contracted COVID myself. Your videos have been such a bright spot in an otherwise miserable time for me. Please don't dim your light because other people choose to be blinded by it. I celebrate with you for getting your Birkin. Any pocket of peace and beauty that you can find in this world, grab it and hold onto it and whatever you do, please keep shinning.
I couldn’t pass by this comment and not say I’m genuinely sorry for your loss! Hope this year is a lot better 🌹
@@marionoladele Thank you so much. I am very hopeful for the future in spite of all these things. This too shall pass. Wishing you a wonderful year as well.
@@FlyGirlsReadToo Sending you love xx
Sending you love xx
This is a very strange comment. I love your videos and do not think you have to tell anyone how you actually feel. I would watch your videos regardless of this. But this video made you human. Not just because you opened up about your feelings, but the whole video. That you emphasized that you should treat yourself to a good meal, that you went for a walk with Porter without make-up, that you sat on the floor playing with the dog. Everything about this video gave me so much. For it is, unfortunately, the case that when I see influencers posting about expensive nice clothes, that they feel good about running (something I have never felt no matter how hard I try), that they eat healthy food, have a beautiful house and everything is absolutely amazing. Then I sometimes feel anything but perfect. I think that's why it's a debate around that influencers that only show the perfect exist, because it gives a misleading picture of reality. You've made me eat healthy, exercise, achieve my goals, dress in clothes that make me feel great. So even though I agree with what you said in this video, and even though I'm 24 years old and should know such things, it still helped to hear that everything is not always good, even if one is Lydia.
Don’t beat yourself up. I’m sorry for your loss. I live in the US and suffer from depression and anxiety all my life I have to go to a therapist on a regular basis but someone sent the following quote to me.
When people are rude to you, they reveal who they are, not who you are. So don't take it personally.
But couldn’t the “rude” person be going through something much like this gals situation? Although entitlement can’t be excused by mental health. It gives people with mental health issues a bad rap.
dear Lydia, I pray you will read this. I cannot understand your pain and struggles. Personally, I did everything to hold my head above the water; it was so painful. I learned how to float by the grace of God. I worked to rest on God's grace and stopped to try to be better. By God's grace, I am a new person, I don't struggle to self-improve and be happy. May the LORD give you peace in all areas of your life. xo
Sometimes stopping and giving yourself the time to think in silence is a good thing. A time to pause and evaluate, not marketing strategies, but rather loss and hurt. Ask yourself, am I providing information that will perceived as valuable in the current landscape, not for myself but for otherers goes a long way.
Lovely advice. I think that is so strong a message . And further, to ask yourself, what am I using my voice to do? To inspire, educate, lift up? That’s what we should all be doing at this time and going forward. ❤️
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I just wanted to let you know that I have stage four cancer and every week and I was going to radiation it just seemed that you would post and you’re my favorite I’ve been watching you for a very long time and you were the one that I could focus on that day well that video is not being miserable because I was absolutely Miserable going to radiation and I knew I had to do it because I have four children and two grandchildren but your videos help let me focus on something else other thanmiserable and painful my treatment and I want to thank you for that
Just want to send you love and best wishes xxx
Sending you love and light ❤️
Wishing you great health again soon, anything is possible stay positive ❤️
I hope you get better soon.. sending love
sending you lots of love and light! all the best, hugs from Italy
Little pups can only walk a few minutes. Maybe it's just ok to walk around the garden?
Your videos are a highlight to my day. After all the stresses from working in the medical field, worries about my family’s health and daily living, your videos has helped me alot. When I was sick with Covid in December, I watched your old videos to brighten up my day. Thank you, Lydia, Ali, Lumi and Porter. Please take care of yourself.
Having a dog will change your life forever. In the most positive way ❤️ I ended up going vegan purely because I love my doggies so much. Xx
Bravo🌱💚
Oh? Were you originally planning to eat them?
@@emptoao haha. Yeah. I used to love a bit of dog meat with gravy on top 🤣🤣🤣
@@emzyboo8 sorry, I couldn't help myself
@@emptoao 🤪
Lydia, your vlogs have been such a source of comfort over the past few months. I love your day to day life, I find so much joy in the simple comfort of your videos. Thank you for continuing to post amongst everything!
I agree your job may not be as hard as others, but verbal abuse is hard. This is why I do not often read the comments of others because I do not want to see others being rude. When I worked with kids I used to tell them to always think before you act or speak. I am happy to see when others achieve and do well. It gives inspiration and we know or at least should know that there is a bigger picture. Everyday is not sunshine nor should it be...rain and sunshine are both needed for growth. ❤❤
I’m not sure why people rely on influencers for “an escape” I personally love home decor and furniture so it is awesome to watch but to incorporate the real life hardship one has to endure doesn’t take away anything for me it just makes Lydia and anyone else more authentic in which I appreciate. Hardship is also not the only part of life. To still be living and breathing Jesus’s air is a huge blessing so it’s ok to celebrate the good.
Yes Brittney I agree and it's the same principle in why people have been reading Vogue magazine for years to escape into High Fashion. It's all relative. ;)
Everyone has a story. You were the perfect place to escape...especially the Christmas vlogs. Thank you 🤍
What a great message @lydia. Thank you for taking the time to open up. You are helping more people than you think!
Sausage dogs don’t really like going for walks 😂 a few of my friends have them and they are alittle lazy
Xx
I just want to give you the biggest hug in the world! I wish you could see what an incredible human you are. You’re determined, beautiful and incredibly strong which you’ve shown with all of these unfortunate events that have hit you over the year. No one should experience what you have especially at such a fast pace and in a pandemic and for someone who doesn’t know you to judge and shame you is disgusting behaviour and it’s not you that’s the issue in that situation. You bring joy the so many people, i have been rewatching your 2020 vlogs for support myself and It did appear at times that you were struggling, So proud of you for speaking up for yourself and I wish you nothing but the best ❤️
You’ve gone through so much, had to hold back tears watching this. Your real followers know that you come from a good place. Hearing your story reminds me of this quote “Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about” which is so true. You’re one of the most genuine people on the internet, thank you for sharing your story ❤️
Just a thought here, about lessons learned: you try so much to be as liked as possible on your socials that we lost the view on who you really are. I love the phrase: you cannot please everyone, you are not an avocado :) You know, perhaps don’t cry on vlogs if you don’t want to, but if you suppress yourself completely, who on earth are we following here?
Ha! That’s a good analogy, especially since there are people (like myself - whoops) who don’t even like avocados 😂
Stop being a vlogger. It’s an unreal and fictional presentation of reality to others…..and yourself.
Give all your freebies away to a good cause.
Get a proper job and help others.
You’ll be mentally so much happier.
I’m really sorry about your loss and struggles. I struggle profoundly unfortunately with mental illness, the kind where if something goes off on my meds, I can jump out a second story window thinking who knows what. I can’t tell you how much you’ve helped me this past year. Helped me stay grounded, laugh and just remain hopeful truthfully. There is a quote I saw somewhere that read “I see a lot of humans, but no humanity.” I struggle to see the good, especially with an illness that keeps me in such a dark place. I am forever grateful to have such a positive influence available to me to help me fight to remain optimistic. That said, I pushed through for years and paid for it almost with my life...please, please do not make that mistake. Maybe one day I’ll be brave enough to write you a real letter. Until then, thank you so so much. I wish all of you the very best.
This video has made me cry. So, so sad that you've struggled so much but you have every right to enjoy the fruits of your labour. We all do. It's unfortunate that you get such back lash for it. You are a luxury channel. Why are people upset when you buying something expensive. Your channel for me is a break from it all. Keep going Lydia, there's those of us that are here because we genuinely like you.
Lydia, this is real life. Sorry but this is true. You are not one and alone. This is real life of real people.
I like content where creators are real and show the bad with the good, because it makes it far more relatable for me. Thank you for sharing this with us. I have hit that kind of a low, and I know what its like to admit that to yourself and the fear of sharing that with others. I'm an empath and incredibly sensitive, and I can relate to what you are saying. When I hit my low, I started a new self-care routine, and like you, I felt good and ended up stopping many of the things that were so good for me - daily yoga, meditation etc. Last year I ended up getting in quite a bad place mentally and physically. I wasn't taking care of myself. I finally realised that I need to do these things consistently, not just when I need them the most. If you would be happy to do so, I'd love to see more content where you share aspects of your self-care routine - journalling etc, not just the 'get ready with me' that focusses on the hair, makeup.
Since I discovered you (over quarantine) I have been so loyal to your videos and have been so inspired by you but this video has inspired and made me relate to you on such a whole other level. Thank you sooo much for sharing this story. As someone who struggles to be open with the difficult times myself, it was very comforting to feel understood. You are shining light and that will be seen in any situation. Thank you again!
You have been SUCH a source of light and hope for me during his last year, and to hear just how much you’ve been struggling during this time makes me appreciate you so much more. I love you, your family, and your home, and every new video you post is like getting to have a chat with an old friend.
"You can have the best life in the world but if you are struggling, you are struggling... "
So true ❤
If you don't feel well mentally everything can mean nothing to you.
Lydia you are absolutely right about material things are nothing compared to your happiness. People are cruel. I am so glad you are taking about. I go through bad depression due to having MS and I hear you. My husband of 43 years is my rock and our son. Love you.
Dearest Lydia, I’m so sorry for the loss of your beloved Nonno and the challenges you’ve faced in the last year. While you don’t owe us anything, I’m glad you could be honest (in your time) and allow us to support you. After all, a sadness shared is halved and a joy shared is doubled. We’re all in this together, and kindness and love mean everything. Thank you for being that light for us. Congrats on a beautiful collection and your new Kelly! May 2021 be full of blessings for you.
Never commented like this, but here it goes: Yes you made it look like everything was "ok". You always push through no matter what, just to show us what good you had to give us. You are so strong, I can't imagine. I can't imagine the shit you go through, none of us can understand. But I hope that us, the good people, are enough to give you the light at the end of the tunnel. I look forward to every single video, you are my gym companion. Thank you for still being here. Sending all the love from Portugal.
Oh!!!! Portugal
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“Come to Me, all who are weary and heavily burdened [by religious rituals that provide no peace], and I will give you rest [refreshing your souls with salvation]. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me [following Me as My disciple], for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest (renewal, blessed quiet) for your souls. For My yoke is easy [to bear] and My burden is light."
King Jesus 🙌👑🙏
🌹🏆🌹HALLELUJAH🌹🏆🌹
Lydia, Thank you for feeling strong enough to be vulnerable with us. Depression needs to not be such a stigma. I got very sick before Covid started and had to quarantine at home. Due to ongoing health issues I am still quarantined. It has been since Nov 2019 that I have been pretty much stuck at home other than a handful of trips out. My depression has been awful during this time. It is so hard because the pandemic has cause such isolation and loneliness. We need to look out for each other more.
I rarely comment, but I really wanted to tell you that your content was one of the few occasions of escapism that I could find in this time when my life is so hugely impacted by the pandemic and my work as well. Don’t ever feel bad for sharing your passions with your audience, actually do more. And also if you feel like sharing your emotions through this tragic time, do it because it helps others cope better too 😊
I just hope she apologized to the lady…
Being someone who has suffered with anxiety and depression I always think that I have a different perspective on life and I always think before I speak because i would absolutely die if my angry comment was the last thing a person seen. In a world where we can be anything be kind any struggle is a struggle no matter how big or small, i lost my job yesterday because of the pandemic an home schooling 2 children at different ages whilst looking after a new born but i have food in my belly a roof over my head and a family that love me there a people who don’t even have that
Yes 🙌 I couldn’t have said that any better! This is so true. To someone who has been through so much suffering, trivial things don’t hold any weight in my mind, especially not enough to leave someone a nasty comment and ruin their day.
Hi Lydia, only just watching this after a hectic week at work. What you’ve done is the biggest step in your journey and that’s opening up. As a mum of a son who suffers with mental health I have the upmost respect for you opening up. You continue to do what you do, don’t listen to the people with negative thoughts. Unfortunately we are in a world where some people don’t respect feelings. You are doing amazing and you should be proud of your achievements. I watch you and would love to own just one of your bags so to own what you have you should be proud, only you have achieved that. Well done you. Keep it up and look forward to a more positive future. Your on the right path, stay on it and anyone that crosses that path with negativity just keep walking with your head held high. Thinking of you x
Unfortunately, there is always going to be negativity out there on the internet. Willingly or unwillingly - this is what you sign up for when you do what you do. Prioritize your mental health and choose another career if your skin is not thick enough for this. Control what you can control!
I agree. Have heard other influencers say “why should I change the job I love because people are mean?” But essentially, this happens to a lot of people. I had a job I really loved but unfortunately there was someone there who made my life really difficult. It was subtle but still bullying, but because it was so hidden HR were limited and ultimately I prioritised my mental health and changed my job. Best decision I’ve ever made. Miss the job but that wasn’t the most important thing in life.
Just started following you. I'm sorry about your Grampa or Nana. I lost my beautiful daughter October 29th, 2020.
We all are going through life and life changes. Thank you for being open and honest. And for sharing some personal information with us. I watch youtubers to be entertained but I also feel I watch some because I can either relate to them or just enjoy them and their content. Some of us may be wealthy or some might be living pay check to pay but we are all going through this pandemic.
I was thinking how nice your home is and how I've always dreamed of having mine. Just because I don't have it doesn't mean I won't get it but I can share in your joy that you share your blessings with me.
Yes, I agree we need to be more kind. Thanks again for being you and your puppy is adorable. Sending love and hugs 🌷🌸🌺💗
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I can’t believe you’ve been going through this yet still doing what you do best for us to escape too. I cried watching this video, to me you are so inspiring, so so inspiring, and even small snippets of your life , I see how hard you work. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through so much pain, but you know what? This just makes me love you even more. It’s good for us to see that not everything is as perfect as it may seem, but you’ve also shown today that it’s ok not to be ok too. I love you and appreciate everything that you work so hard to give us, even if it’s killing you, but don’t bloody do it again ok ☺️ you need to look after you cause if you don’t look after you then we don’t get you either, and that will be a travesty. Take care beautiful lady. Onwards and upwards now. ♥️♥️ Be yourself always. 😘
I've been in a really bad place for a few years due to my struggles with IVF and I understand the feeling of wondering if you'll ever feel true happiness and joy again. A deep sadness has been living inside of me and I too would keep it quite private, only talking to my husband. I discovered your videos at the beginning of March 2020 and you have brought me so much inspiration. Your love for beautiful things and a lovely home made me see how lucky I was to also have a beautiful home and beautiful things and I began to devote more time to my own self care and feeling good about myself.So thank you for that Lydia. You've helped me tremendously. I read a book called 'The Universe Has Your Back' and it has helped me in ways I could never have imagined. It literally brought me back to life. I think it will change your life xx
I wish you peace and happiness Lydia, which is something that you give to so many of us who enjoy your content. I don't know why some people feel entitled to see other people's pain, or they assume it simply doesn't exist. As a fellow anxiety/depression sufferer, I understand how tough it is. People can't see blood, so they don't think there is pain. You keep doing what you're doing because it is wonderful. I'm so happy that your lovely Karen Millen collection is doing so well and that you have Ali, Carrie, Lumi and Porter to remind you of all that is important in the world. Sending you sympathy for all that you've gone through, and strength and support for all the times ahead xx
My condolences to you and your family. Depression is real, keep your head up. People will try to make you feel like you are doing something wrong, but they are hurting. I never seem to look or act like my circumstances. Blessings to you.
My Mum had a fall last year and had delirium as a consequence of surgery. It was extremely distressing so I know exactly how you just have felt. She is now in a lovely nursing home being very well cared for xx
Thank you for your honesty. I often differentiate between Responding and Reacting. Reacting is what you described; someone who doesn’t think before they speak. Responding is someone who pauses, listens, and offers the appropriate support or acknowledgment. It’s been a challenging year without any additional stressors, issues, or life changing events. It seems everything is larger than life or more than most of us can handle; myself included. I cry nearly every day and I don’t have support. As a healthcare worker, I’ve seen firsthand the impact of how things weigh more heavily than typical. Then it’s made worse by others who choose to judge, project, lack empathy or lack the ability to see beyond the moment.
You have every right to your feelings and never apologize. for them. Please know your feelings /issues are valid and you must never minimize them. Yes, there’s always someone less fortunate but it doesn’t negate our “neighbors” circumstances. I’m financially unstable, but there’s someone who’s financially unstable And doesn’t have a roof over their head; whereas I do. It’s relative and distressing to each in their own ways. I wish you peace and pray you continue to care for yourself in ways that will help you to move forward. Like grief, moving forward doesn’t have a timeline or a guide book. Take all the time you need...listen to your heart, body and mind. If you need to stay in bed, do it; but it’s okay if you decide to get up. If you want to run a marathon, do it, but it’s also okay to stop running. I do hope this reaches you to know I’m thinking of you and sending love and good vibes from the states. Also, if you don’t already follow Valeria Lipovetsky, check her out. She’s amazing and I think she’ll be good for you. xo
Lydia I hope you read my comment.
I have M.E. 6 months after declaring it I lost my job on the 31st December 2019. I'm 54 years old. By the summer of 2020 after months of shielding I had a complete breakdown. Watching your videos gave me purpose in my darkest hours. So keep going. Ignore people with negative comments they lash out but serve you no purpose. You have a beautiful home and life with Ali and you have a beautiful soul and anyone who can't see that well my lovely it is truly their loss. So sorry about your Grandad. I too have lost friends to Covid. Take time to grieve and to reflect. Keep doing what makes you happy. THANK YOU for being you xxxx
Gosh Lydia. I'm so sorry. Thank you for being so vulnerable. I realised that something was up but assumed that everyone was going through 'something' because the past year has been really tough for most.
We can't hierarchize problems, there's always someone with objectively "bigger" pain but it doesn't minimize ours. Keep getting better Lydia ❤
This conversation was so refreshing and honest. And I'm so sorry for all that you have been through and are going through. I think it's very easy to look at your life (before the most recent events) and think your life is perfect but this is such a strong reminder that we really do only see an hour of your whole week which is barely a drop in the ocean. As someone who also suffers with my mental health, I know better than most that you truly have no idea what's going on behind closed doors or in someone's head. Thank you for being so open and true. Even if you weren't going through all of this, I still enjoy seeing other people have enjoyment...be it a Hermès handbag or a job with a designer brand. Those things keep a lot of us upbeat and distract from the struggles that we face everyday. Anyone that responds so negatively, I often think is jealous and just very sad in their own life and that is their problem not yours. Thank you for continuing to vlog throughout even when you probably didn't feel like it. Definitely prioritise your mind and your heart xxx
I’m sorry to hear about the last 9 months Lydia, I’m so glad you’re feeling better and getting stronger, you will one day look back at 2020 and think that year was shit but my god did it make me stronger!! Stuff shouldn’t have to happen to make you feel like that but unfortunately the world can be such a cruel place but I believe your channel is a positive corner of the world where people can go to and escape. I can’t wait to hear more about Porter and your greenhouse I feel like when you talk about them you can see the real joy in your eyes! Sending you lots and love and strength. You got this! Xxx
I also have a minor bag addiction and I find that ones in bright colours really helps alleviate my mood. Hermes have a fabulous selection of colours that they're renowned for that you could look into. I personally love a neon pink or banana yellow.
Sometimes life is crap...it’s ok to feel crap and negative at times .I hate the BE POSITIVE commitee!
We're all navigating choppy uncharted waters these days. It's a shame that so many others want to push some further off course. I regret that you had to go through such ordeals lately. You're very fortunate to have loving friends & family to help you help yourself. It seems that we both need time to process our emotions & are being helped by our therapists. We each have good days & bad days & fragile days. God willing that we have more good days on the horizon. You're an inspiration, Lydia, thank you!
Bless you Lydia I love your channel. Try and ignore keyboard worries you are keeping this 60 yr old sane thank you xxx
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Sorry you had such an upsetting time. A good message for everyone to remember to be kind - always. Thank you for sharing and for giving me something to look forward to (your videos - especially ones with an appearance from Porter!) during lockdown in Toronto. I miss traveling and even listening to your amazing accent helps. Sending love to you across the pond.
This is a perfect reminder that social media is just a glimpse of someone’s life, usually the highlight of it, and we viewers have no idea what else is going on. It’s easy to judge and throw out a snarky comment from behind a screen but what is propelling you to do that? Look within yourself before you judge others.
Gemma Louise Miles puts it best and she's a lot younger but wise beyond her years!
People can be mean and one thing I always think is "they don't have any idea what a person is going through" and I wish there could be more empathy. I actually like coming to your videos because you are so positive and share so much with everyone. You bring goodness and fun things to our lives which is a plus. But most people know your life is not perfect, neither do we have a perfect lives but you press on. Thank you for being you. I love how you and Ari interact and the love you have for each other and your animals especially love you. Before I leave I have to say that your collection is beautiful I was so impressed and in awe. Your attention to detail is so prevalent with your home, your animals, with other people you interact with. Also, thank you for being so personal and sharing with us.
If buying a new handbag during this awful time brings you even the tiniest spark of joy, please go ahead and buy yourself 1000 handbags. All of our lives have changed, self care and those small material things that produce that tiny spark of joy have never been more important and well deserved. You really didn’t need to explain yourself so publicly 💖
YES. More people need to hit the internal PAUSE button before responding to people, replying to an email, sending a DM, saying something rude to your significant other, etc etc. The world truly would be a kinder place! Sending you love
I discovered your channel a few years ago and instantly subscribed because you seemed so relatable! About a month ago I feel like I couldn’t relate anymore, so I unsubscribed. Just watching this video and seeing you so vulnerable and real with us, makes my heart warm 💗 What I love about Vlogs is that it feels like a little insight into peoples lives and it’s something we can really relate to. Show us some vulnerability every now and again. Not everything has to be super positive, your not a robot. It makes me feel much better if I can see that maybe one other person is feeling the same as me 🤷🏼♀️
My condolences to you for your loss. I am Canadian and we are again in a lock down and I struggle with my mental health and losing your grandfather must of been horrific and living in the lime light is so hard 😢 I could only amagine how hard to process everything. I am on a fixed income and I live a opposite life as you but your videos bring me joy and believe me you working with high end brands brings me joy. I have not been able to leave my house since December 23,2020 and watching you brings me joy and right know I am watching your video when your in your bedroom telling us what you are going through and my heart goes out to you ❤ and well as long winded this is I just want to say keep going not all yoir viewers are horrible. Love you 😍 keep going you are loved.
It's the first time I'm commenting on your vlogs although I've been watching them for a while. The reason I'm following you is because you give me hope that actually you can have it all in life, that with the right mindset and the right focus you can get in that sweet balanced place. The space you have created here is full of beauty and authenticity and it is exactly that effortlessness that seems to follow you everywhere that feels so good to watch. I am fully aware that the grass is not always greener on the other side but one can hope isn't it? You actually cannot give in and call it quits because the rest of us will loose hope for themselves, you get it?
Lydia thank you for being so vulnerable with this video. I'm a mental health therapist and have seen so many referrals at the hospital I work in.
When you can't recount the event, know that your body/brain have kicked into survival mode. When we go into that "fight, flight or freeze"/survival mode, our "thinking" brain shuts down, so it makes sense you don't remember or cannot recount the details.
You're an amazing, hard working, and a kind person. Sending you so much love, warmth, inner peace, and light.
I've followed you since your fitness days. I commend you for sharing this, as this is so hard to do. ♥️
Some of us are better at dwelling in the pain rather than looking at our blessings and finding a piece of joy. I do think it divides us at times like these because all of us grieve so differently and we expect each other to put out the same level of grief. I am so sorry for your loss, all of us are dealing with sadness. I am losing my childhood dog and I don’t know how long it will take me to recover. But I want you to know that you ARE that positive channel I come to and I enjoy escaping my grief to watch your videos and feel joy in watching your family and your successes and/or struggles. Love you Lydia!
When I lost my dad to Covid. It was important to stay busy. I had a good cry and did not want to think about the death but to think about the good times and memories.
We are all in this together . Thank You So Much. I am a Health Care worker who works 12hrs. Sometimes and watching you has been a blessing to me.Thank You for being you.:)
The issue here is what you want to portray, you either show your life 100% for its reality, bad days and all or you pick only the good bits to show, you cant blame people for interprating your life as just a celebration and a place of just positive things if thats all you put out there, im sure that person wouldnt of replied to your tweet the way they did if you had been more honest in your content over the past 9 months because they would have seen it was just a moment for you to find joy after a hard time, i think as viewers we appreciate seeing you vunerable too, it makes you so much more relatable and human ❤️ x
I am terribly sorry for all you are going through and have been through. Grief is very hard and so is depression. I lost my Mom, sister and Grandmother all eight months apart so I understand not being able to process and grieve properly.. The reality is even though a person is smiling it does not mean they are ok. People are delicate and we should always do our best to take care of each other instead of taking advantage...I honestly wish you love happiness success and all things wonderful for this new year, and even though you are my happy place and get away from reality...take care of yourself first. Xox
Lydia we love you. All sides of you. The fashionista side, the green thumb side, the interior design, side and your animal loving side. So don’t be afraid to show vulnerability. No one is perfect and we are all real people here. That’s part of the beauty of UA-cam is that creators are actually real regular people too with real live. After all, we are all so multidimensional ourselves. ❤️
What happened? I thought the tanning kit was a success and was sold out? I am so lost.
Yes, she did say that it was a major success. I’m so confused. I watched this video 3 times just to make sense of it. I get the feeling that she is trying to say something but I still don’t know exact what it is. It just seems to me that there is a lot of fear and also ....she seems very quick to be angry if anyone questions this video. It all so confusing. Anyway.... I just see the same cycle over and over again.
Some people just need to realize it’s time to grow up...life is not all rainbows and unicorns everyone has their ups and downs! The world does not revolve around just one person and materialistic things. The only ‘dirty secret’ here is attempting to hide shameful, egoistic, self-centred behaviour.
A few months ago I moved away from my family, from Los Angeles to Chicago. I had taken for granted how much sunshine was in my life, and I’m currently navigating the longest stretch of grey sky without sun I’ve ever experienced. It makes me sad, but I know in the spring there will be lots of simple little things that will bring joy to my day. Like growing plants in the spring. And seeing blue sky and color outside in the natural world.
You’re a strong person, that’s what brings me back to your channel each week. You inspire me. Thank you for talking about about struggles, it shows your humanity. You create beauty, in the way you design your home, and the energy you put into fashion and your channel, and even when you’re struggling, you are still a remarkably beautiful and vibrant person and no one can take that away from you.
Lydia, have you heard of rebound headaches? I suffered headaches continually for a year. I was taking pain killers every day not realising that they were actually causing the headaches. It's hell but try going a week not taking any. You will be amazed. I find using white tiger balm on my temples a god send xxx
yay, you just made my Monday better :) I think the lack of empathy is a real thing and that is because typically a lot of people can only see the world through their lense, that person's comment was more of a reflection of themselves than of you. A person can look through anyone's social media and find something they don't agree with, but it takes a well rounded person to understand that a difference of opinion is perfectly okay. I love your content, even though on a surface sense I am very different than you. Just know your appreciated here and most of us value your genuine opinions and personal view of the world :)
Yes what people post does not show the entirety of someone’s life. But the same holds true for that person who replied that to your tweet. You do not know what is going on in her life and how bad her day was which then led her to reply to your tweet.
Thank you so much Lydia for talking about this topic! I felt so seen, like someone actually put into words what I've been feeling for the longest time now, and still continue to struggle with every day.
I once found this quote, that said "Do whatever makes you feel like you again." and I remind myself that from time to time. And I hope that if you see this, it will help you too ❤️