7 Signs You're Rejecting Love Without Knowing It
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- Опубліковано 9 тра 2024
- Ever feel like love keeps slipping through your fingers? Here are seven signs you might be unknowingly rejecting love. Whether it's putting up walls, avoiding vulnerability, or self-sabotaging relationships, rejecting love can happen without us even realizing it. If you find yourself questioning whether you're pushing love away, it's time to take a closer look at your dating habits and relationship patterns. By seeking dating advice, embracing vulnerability, and being open to love, you can break free from the cycle of rejection and welcome love into your life with open arms.
#love #relationship #dating
Writer: Dylan Swanepoel
Editor: Sidney Thompson
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
Voice Over: Brandon
Animator: Claire (new aniamtor)
UA-cam Manager: Cindy Cheong
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What are your thoughts on this animation? It's Claire first time working a project with us
It looks really good
Claire is a great animator, they got great skill
Bimbius.
I prefer it over the over saturation of the anime ones lately.
It's really cute!!🥰💙💗🩷
A perfect marriage or relationship is an illusion; there's no universal playbook for making them work. What's effective for one couple may not apply to another. Nevertheless, I've come to understand that there's always a solution to be found. Half a decade ago, my wife and I faced such trials in our marriage that divorce seemed inevitable. Yet, through perseverance and determination, we navigated through the rough waters and emerged stronger, reunited, and more resilient
There is a lot of sense in what you just said and I hope mine works the same way too, we are currently separated but I cant live without him, I love him so much. wish I can get him back I can do anything to have him back, we have tried therapy amongst other things
Its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is Shelly renee white
This is helpful, I will look her up online right now...Thanks
You wont regret it
Why are you wrong, wangcheng threethousandninehundred and fourty?
Litterally all my buddies, and my siblings have perfect, sunshine and rainbows relationships
Perfect relationships does exist, if youre just a perfect human being, which is rather easy. All you have to do is being not the excuse for a second degree human that I am.
This video made me sad. Just reminded me that this all is not even in my control and how lonely I actually am. I'm not rejecting love, I just don't get to choose.
May God bless you with the love you desire
Yea, same, I kinda just came to terms with it and gave up after years of trying
😢
🙏🏾🙏🏾❤❤ todo sera bien
I'm the same way.
Also I get people who want a version of me who doesn't exist instead of the REAL me.
0:17 Misunderstanding what love is.
1:09 Feeling unworthy of love.
1:34 Unrealistic expectations.
2:20 Fear of commitment.
2:53 Fear of vulnerability.
3:30 Disorders that make love difficult.
Edit: I seem to have missed one but I can’t tell what. If someone could tell me, I’ll add it.
How did I hit ALL of these 😅😭
I don’t think you missed anything
A difference in love languages.
So leaving someone is an unrealistic expectation because if one guy doesn’t love you enough to stay with you and grow up together despite the mistakes you make along the way then why stay with a Pathetic object in the first place. Sometimes it’s best to break up and go back with a depress loser as well and grow up together where you are at your lowest point in life and all you could think about is using each other for your bodies wealth being racist etc. love is love doesn’t matter how terrible it is lol. … I ain’t kidding btw it’s how I see it.
1.misunderstanding what love is
2.feeling unworthy of love
3.unrealistic expectations
4.fear of commitment
5.fear of vulnerability
6.Disorders that make love difficult
why am i here so fast-
Thanks for being here so early!
@@Psych2goHi I like your vids, and there is this girl in school I like and the way she acts, she probably likes me back but I dont know what to do
@@GuyonRobloxguysi am also in the same situation but im not sure if she likes me or not
@@GuyonRobloxguys it's quite simple honestly, just tell her man. Life's too short to be pondering upon should I, or should I not. Instead go for it. You'll never know unless you try
@@lucidojob209thanks. Also I already know she likes me but I'm still scared
I've already given up on love let alone my life lol
Ditto😂😂🙌🙌
Never give up 🫶
How did you give up on love? Im interested as i want to give up on it too but that annoying part of me still has hope despite there being not one reason for anyone to like me, i had a crush on someone for 5 years & i spoke to her twice & i didnt even initiate the conversations. Nowadays any crush i have barely gets to a week, how do i stop developing them? Since they last so little time its much better to not have one at all. I doubt ill even be alive in a few years so its unwise to have a relationship. That much wrong with me its foolish to think anyone would like me
as you should. You cant get heartbroken if you dont allow anybody inside your heart in the first place. The concept of "love" is only to hurt men beyond repair. I dont know why people still find it funny in this time and age to voluntarily get hurt.
Love will never make sense
Some say love is blind. Do you agree?
@@Psych2go Honestly, don't know but it causes pain.
Love is blind, love is pain, love is an abusive form of controlling others, love has no meaning anymore, love creates more hate, love is blind, love hurts, love is sick. So yep that is what love is.
@@lenninmontiel4539 I also can agree with that. I can assure that by witnessing Muslim extremists.
@@Psych2goPeople pine for love, live for love, kill for love and die for love, so yes, love is blind
2:53 ......
I love my freedom more than anything and can't sacrifice it on the name of insecurities of my partner 😓
😢
Communication is the key
Mostly the person who loves more got this label "insecure" from whom they have loved so much
It's honestly ironic
I'm rejecting love and I know it, It's not worth it as the bad things vastly surpass the benefits of it
i feel the same way bro
By all of thy fury and all of thy hate with Manastorms fury we seal your fate .
Exactly,Love is a scam
Yes
The illusion of love is what hurts us, real love wont hurt you. Don't give up
Learning to relinquish control and forgive yourself are some of the most valuable tips I’ve learned when it comes to finding love.
Hope anyone that is struggling can see their value. Also having a partner is not the most important thing in the world. I hate how being single is seen as a burden in our society
Well said
Gladly I reject it intentionally.
Of course I'm unworthy of love. I know what I did, all those years ago when I was young and stupid.
On the bright side, "worthiness" is neither necessary nor sufficient for love, since observably there are people who have love and don't deserve it, as well as people who don't have love but do deserve it.
What did you? If you mind sharing
@@tallajc-mt2zr I understand curiosity, but ... best not to trauma-dump. Suffice it to say I made a very bad decision that had Consequences.
@@rikitikitavatiki understandable
Just remember that you can learn to forgive yourself and that everyone makes mistakes and does wrongdoings
Just a few thoughts from a random stranger: Making a bad choice doesn't mean you're a bad person. Especially not if you understand that what you did in the past was wrong and are actively seeking to change yourself.
After all, the descriptors we use for ourselves (e.g. 'smart', 'kind', and 'worthy') are never fixed. Just because someone donated all their money to the poor doesn't mean they will forever remain a kind person, especially not if they suddenly turn their life around 180° and start murdering innocents. The inverse is true, too. People can change. As such, our mistakes do not define us or determine whether we deserve love.
Furthermore, our actions and decisions are influenced by a variety of factors: background, key influences in our life, state of mental clarity, and differing knowledge of situations. Sometimes it's so easy to look back at something and judge yourself for what you did, but you were operating based on limited information at that time, with perhaps a mindset that might have been clouded by certain emotions/ life situations (hindsight bias).
Lastly, everyone deserves love. It is often a lack of love---or rather, the right kind of love---that causes people to hurt others (either that or they have a mental condition outside their control).
I have decided to solo. Love is not worth going after from my personal perspective
“Love comes when you least expect it” I understand that this is a common quote but sometimes, when love comes you can choose to push it away. Often times, without even realizing it until after watching a video like this.
It was explained extremely well, thank you for teaching some of the common tactics and teachings in relationship psychology!
I can now confidently say; I will die completely and utterly alone.
Why do you feel that way?
Yep
@@oakbass122 There's nary a being that isn't a dog or a family member that truly loves me.
I really feel that
Remember, even if we're really convinced, we're not always right.
Hell yeah! I'm rejecting love according to this video. I don't expect romantic intimacy anyway as it seems to be the beginning of the hardest point of life but when I see attractive girls and couples I feel kinda hurt.
I feel you love will only make things worse, why do you think 100% of married couples end up divorced. The answer they outgrew their relationship, they end up fighting both physically and emotionally. (Specially couples with kids) they end up cheating on their partners and end up broken. So yep love is toxic and disgusting Specially now a days.
Statistically it would make sense to me if a lot of couple were just chasing fake love nowadays, true love should be rare by definition in my opinion, not to be found in most couples you meet.. If i may say, I think we can still hope for the best, maybe trying to cultivate and nourishing ourselves and others around us, and celebrate whatever good may happan to us, instead of actually chasing love by others. Relationships don't feels like a must to me, I would rather live my life the best I can, focusing on myself more, just stumbling upon good people eventually, and if not, still living life through it.
😂 Sorry for my English, stay safe ❤
@@lenninmontiel4539 I do agree with that. Romance is a sort of a natural obsession that lasts for a very short time. Once the gratification is fulfilled, it's gone. Then we've to face real life challenges which often causes for conflicts. Although, this natural obsession is something which we should break.
@@LuwkyYT Of course it's rare. Most of the moments where help is offered is because of the expectation of future gain.
@@LuwkyYT your view is actually nice,,, we shouldn't keep chasing love and forget to live life
I know a South African accent when I hear one 🇿🇦
Correct :)
Lekker
I love how this video has no backround music, it makes it special somehow. Thank you!
I absolutely loved the way this video addressed the common yet rarely discussed issue of love rejection. The part about the Triangular Theory of Love was so insightful and made me realize the importance of passion, intimacy, and commitment in forming strong connections. Thank you for such a thoughtful presentation!
Ouch, that kind of hurts. And my 'tism makes it even worse.
It's one thing if you're the one rejecting (mentally or physically), it's the other when you're not even given a chance because of who you are or how you're perceived socially.
I love a lot, but it isn't reciprocated most of the time.
I appreciate it when it happens & someone remembers though...
Great timing. Although I know full well why I am rejecting love at this point 💔
I don’t feel I will ever get it. As an engineer, you accept there’s some things you just can’t fix.
why is that something you need to "fix"? maybe you're overanalyzing
Crazy how accurate the timing of needing to hear this reminder was till i saw this video uploaded today.. 🚶🏽♂️
Nah, I know I'm rejecting love
Yea I had to drop this- and to make it easy for all of you.
Why people Reject Love:
0:18 Misunderstanding what love is
1:10 Feeling unworthy of love
1:35 Unrealistic Expectations
2:21 Fear of Commitment
2:54 Fear of Vulnerability
3:32 Disorders that Make Love Difficult
Love needs to grow but for those with fear of rejection to not understanding love to it is not really what they want to too much love daily, it depends.
Some have literally no love in their daily lives.
The part where you wrote, and i quote "Some have literally no love in their daily lives.", isnt that normal?
Just figured that I'm doing all of these signs unintentionally!
Even nobody loves me, god always loves me and that's the reason why I am alive
There is no "God"
@anderstermansen130 Just because others believe in God but you don’t doesnt mean you should act like they’re stupid, everyone has their own religious beliefs
@@anderstermansen130 omg ur so coll for not bieleving!!!11!
@@leonardorolingstella8554 people are of course free to believe in things that doesnt exist, like "God", if only they could keep it in their private homes, rather than boast about it.
@@revolverlover1 Im just being real here.
Great timing
Yeah, that could be the case. Hearing about the fear of vulnerability really opened my eyes to it. Glad to hear that it's a thing, which means I can't be the only one like that. This could be big. Thanks, Psych2Go!
Bigger than we think probably, fear is in all of us and takes a lot of shapes. Helped me so much trying to practice with compassion, for myself and others.
Stay safe
Nah man, there cant be other men out there who have as much as a fraction of MY feear of being vulnerable. You have infinitely better chances than i ever will for the rest of my days. And you got about 52 years remaining, my guy.
@@anderstermansen130 What's your story? Also, thank you, but it's probably less than 52 years, I'm almost 29 and don't have the healthiest lifestyle
I didn’t expect to cry this morning
I'm rejecting it, and well aware of it
Don't believe in love especially romantic love love is the biggest illusion in society
Love is a very hard thing, but not an impossible one. Have hope :)
@@emilyfaria9864 have hope for an illusion no hope for something that doesn't exist
@@emilyfaria9864 love is a fools game never trusted something that only exists in movies
@@liamodonovan6610literally cope lol
@@cordgonsinged7676 cope with what exactly
Thank you so much for this video
The animation is cute and incredible
Great Stuff!
Thankyou so much for this video.
Can you make a video about Asperger's Syndrome?
I feel like it needs more recognition.
That’s no longer in the DSM5, it’s all under the Autism Spectrum. There’s high support needs and low support needs.
I love these videos they help me gain insight on what others might be thinking. Could you guys please make a video on healing from s* assault or past s* trauma? It would help me
I could be thinking about someone but after all of that, I feel like I'm still not worthy.
I always think that it’s ok for me if someone I like enters a relationship because I can't fulfill it.
I don't want my long-time personal issues to weigh more than my commitment to someone, someday.
In the end, I just became patient and light-hearted with that feeling, everything that belongs to you will come naturally.
And I do think and am certain that I can still express love in different ways. I'm not ignoring it, I’m choosing the path I want to focus on.
Ever since i did cleanising,my awakening was absolute ,it's like my old self was replaced by my newer self,More focus,calmness and confidence,the result anytime I work hard is great no set backs at all
On point 💯
I have this sabotaging behaviour when it comes to liking someone I tell myself I could never be with them
Same
Well in my case, I suffered from emotional burnout all the time being an introvert which leads to me detaching from my emotions which leads to me losing the feeling of all my emotions and couldn't understand how to feel love at all.
When real life experience repeatedly has shown that you're unworthy of love, despite your best effort, what is one to do? Some of us truly seem to be unlovable from a long-term standpoint. You have it, then you lose it without any catastrophic event... people just don't care to hold onto you. Is this karma at work?
Perfect timing
Hope this video helps you today!
Hello Psych2Go. I personally request a video series based on the 16 personality traits and an in-depth or brief explanation of each one in a very active voice. A passive vocal request will get me nowhere. This topic has been one of confusion in the past for me because I dislike small talk as an ISTP-A. I would be interested in knowing more about them through your lenses. I find your channel attractive, by the way. It makes me see myself in a different way. I don't really know how. Good content for the most part. I also have interests in psychological tricks, with language that is less complicated so I can understand it in your monotone narrations. I have to use subtitles if I want to listen to your videos on a low volume, lol.
My partner is autistic, has ptsd and other mental health issues, and has been through trauma. So, I can confirm that that part is true. We’ve known each other for a long time, but have been together for three years. Our relationship doesn’t look like a “normal” relationship, and that’s okay. I know their mental health and past trauma makes it difficult for them to show love and do certain things. We do what’s best for us.
Well... This explains it...
Yeah thats a good topic ❤❤
Hope this video helps you!!
I broke up with my loved ones(like literally she was my first love). She left me for no reason and she told that we can be friends like before even if she loves me so much or I love her. She said this was not our age to be in a relationship. I cried the whole night just thinking she loves me but...
I don't know how to express this😭
I'm cryin while watching this video like this have so much loyalty and betrayal.
At the end of the day life is not like a movie where you fell for someone and it's meant to be mine.
Stay happy wherever you are. I love you 😘
Youre a fool for thinking she gives two grams of a fck about your general existence. Women only "date" men to hurt them beyond repair. The woman who chose to "date" you, saw you as nothing more than a victim.
29 years, never dated, never fell in love, never got intimacy..... yes we exist and it's not that bad. But I still hope there is someone out there....
I’ve no doubt there’s someone out there for everyone
Relatable but I'm slowly learning how to accept the love languages of others. As an autistic person with depression and anxiety, yeah it's a pain in the spine. However through guided therapy and conversations with open-minded fellows, I was able to understand love languages. I still am however unable to commit myself for a long run. Not because I fear love. I have my reasons. But respect is my largest one.
Youre a fool for thinking respect is a cornerstone of functioning love, in 2024.
I've been cheated by her... i thought she was straight ... but after 3 years ... she choose girl over than me ....and then she said she was a lesbian
the end.
Oh
I’m so sorry you had to suffer that, I pray that you can move past the pain
doesnt it ring a bell to you, about the volumes it speaks?
Beautiful
I have ADHD, Autism, Depression, and Anxiety. I always get anxious whenever I fall in love with someone or be in a relationship with them. I always get scared whenever I seem like a burden (I don't share my problems often to people).
Love will come find your way. Don't ever think that you're not worthy of love, because you are. Don't ask questions like "Do I deserve it?" because you do and it's irrelevant if you don't. If you want it, you deserve it.
I hope you can find love too 👍
I had been playing Psych2go Bingo but quit cause I never could mark anything, but this video just gave me a full board. 😖
Second time perfect timing 😭😭😭😭
1. Different Love Languages - consummate love triangle. Also, different love languages makes you feel unfulfilled if not in accordance to how you know how to love
2. Feeling unworthy of Love- childhood trauma and rejection coming from neglect or physical abuse.
3. unrealistic spectations - idea of perfect pairings based on movies/tv/books. Denying a person based on criterias based on unrealistic expectations
4. fear of commitment - responsibility of the relationship and losing independence (insistence of freedom=hyper independence)
5. fear of vulnerability =afraid of showing you’re not perfect. Intimacy and vulnerability is needed for in order to connect to people that want to know you. Nobody is perfect. Our quirks makes us human. A perfect human being would be hard to connect to …
6. Mental or physical disorders - Austism, depression, anxiety, social disconnection, etc
i believe ive lost friends because they have liked me like that and ive not had any idea until it was too late, so in turn i rejected their efforts without realizing it :(
Just what I don't need. A bigger guilt trip.
I'm pretty certain by now I needed hugs and someone close to me more than just gifts or the knowledge I'm with my mom.
She was the best but I don't feel like she could give me the love I needed. Probably she knew that too which is why she felt so bad :,(
*sigh* Yea... but I too experienced lots of bullying ever since I was a kid and girls usually made fun of my looks and my voice, the same way boys did anyway but that left a deep mark.
The unrealistic expectations thing however is something that everyone needs to learn in time, I think. Personally I enjoy those love stories for what they are in movies and shows but I accept it as functional construct in that fictional environment. Nothing that'd work in real life necessary.
As for the disorder thing, if anything it would be a combination of fear of rejection, the bad experiences from bullying and being highly introverted for me. I just lack massive social experiences.
Pretty sure I could pull off to love someone and commit to it but... it's no given for me.
Love is so so beautiful. but its something that varies in status.. its amazing to feel love at first sight, WoW, a smell that enters your heart forever.. the hug you give to friends..
Timestamps
1). Misunderstanding what love is 0:15
2). Feeling unworthy of love 1:08
3). Unrealistic expectations 1:34
4). Fear of commitment 2:20
5). Fear of vulnerability 2:53
6). Disorders that make love difficult 3:29
Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I was just at a park waiting for a woman that will never show up to meet me ever in this life I've been married over 26 years. I stay with my wife because the woman I wait for and talk to in my mind at the park for all these years told me to stay with her. The park was around the corner from her Ma's house and down the road from the Church/Convent I pray at outside sometimes. I lived over 40 winters and I still don't know what love is...
Ever since my ex abandoned me 16 months ago I don't even think about being loved again. I'm starting to get over the hurt, but I don't believe I will trust someone to get that close to me ever again.
May those wounds be completely healed
@@emilyfaria9864 Thank you. I'm slowly regaining interest in an activity we used to enjoy together. To trust another companion though, that might take years but we'll see. I do appreciate your support.
And sometimes, it really is just everyone else that’s to blame.
Feel like many of these issues aren't actually people rejecting love but people just being not being able to connect for various reasons. Saying they reject love makes it seem like they actively choose not to "give in" when they don't have a choice at all. Granted, i don't know a better way to word it right off the bat.
Being on a self improvement journey and constantly worrying about being inconsiderate as family history shows massive craptacular communicating skills use... had to check this video...
Proud of you man, keep up 👍🏻
What i'm facing the most in potential partners is fear of vulnerability and commitment, though the tensiin is palpable!
Saddest thing: they don't even muster the courage to talk it out, but rather run or ghost.
6th sense for picking cowards i guess.
Boutta prepare a whole platoon of knowledge for my first date ever
Whatever the condition might be, you can try to heal it step by step if you are not used to expressing yourself or cannot right now.
Be real together💙💙👍👍
I know what love is but from my perspective I keep seeing it as a double edge sword. Theirs this saying that ' the first cut is always the deepest' and maybe this is what I'm afraid of so i just try to avoid it at this point in my life
Story of my life 😢
well this explains a lot...
Oh I fully know I’m rejecting love. I said I would, that I would not love again. I fucking meant it. Enough is enough. All my life since childhood it’s been one heartbreak after another, and it’s gone on so goddamn long that I doubt I’ll ever be able to love normally again. And with Joy, BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOURSELF PSI, I actually believed God was telling me to hold on and have faith, when I was most desperate for his guidance.
Just shit on me like everyone always does, proving “God” is just a secret society that meddles with people’s heads and hearts. Good on you for the psychological warfare.
I fucking meant it. That’s enough. Enough games. Enough trials and tribulations fucking daily. I don’t need the drama of another emotionally unstable narcissistic person in my life, got myself to deal with already and that’s more than enough most days.
I don’t want to live and do not have the heart for it, because I’m already broken and beyond repair and all that has EVER been to a fucking soul is ammunition to blame me with whenever shit goes wrong. Ask me how I know.
Honey those pigs at the Vatican brainwash millions of innocent individuals to believe that their "god" is the purest of love. Pls like honestly why do you think there's wars over money and power and secret cults forming now a days. Specially people of higher power mix the term of love to manipulate others into believing in it thats why so many people, in this economy fight one another, break laws, commit horrible acts because of their type "elite and powerful" these type are cruel and heartless.
If I may, and you said it, you don't need people's drama, actually, you don't need people at all. All the pain you have been through brought you the knowledge and awareness you show in your words, and that's because you had the courage to face it in the first place. People failed to understand the gift of your braveness and attention maybe, and that sucks, but let me please suggest you one thing: there's still a person who deserves your company and affection, and that's you, try to keep all your virtues within yourself where they matter the most, and speak kindly to yourself because you deserve it. With just you by your side and the pain that had you growing up until now, I think you could get bulletproof in the end, without stressing much about others. I really wish you well, and even if it's not God talking here, just a random anon on yt, I still hope you are safe
I’m so sorry that you’ve been through so much, I hope that you’ll be able to recover. Such a shame that people like you should have to suffer so much in this day and age
I guess I gotta put in 120% of my potential so that instead of rejecting love unknowingly, I can do it with all my heart and the remaining brain capacity I have that isn't dedicatsd to Jogoat.
Oh dear. I seem to have checked all these boxes again! Never mind. I always end up in an unrequited situation anyway. Better off alone.
Oh I know I reject it and will continue to do so 😂
This sounds like me explaining relationships four years ago.
I completely filled out my bingo card for this video so what do I win?
Besides always feeling lonely and that I'll never truly know what love is?
This channel always reminds me that I'm single
But also reminds you that you won’t stay single, so I see this as a positive
the videos from this channel i happen to be coming across Now feels a bit targeted but yknow, im here for it
It's interesting to me that most languages only have one word for love. In Hungarian there are two different words for love. One for friendship/family love (szeretet) and romantic love (szerelem), but there is only one verb for both (szeretni)
Greece has 7 type of it!
I've given up on love. I don't think I'm lovable (romantically, anyway), and I'm tired of trying.
It's probably for the best anyway; I would probably be a terrible husband/father.
I do not remember i wrote this comment.
I need help, i like this guy since last year and we tried to get into a relationship, but it never worked. I thought that I was the one avoiding, but watching this video made me realise that he probably is the one avoiding. He tells me he loves me, but don't talk to me very often, he is an insecure guy and he dont think that he is worty of love. Everytime I say that it won't work and that we can stay friends, i'm scared that he move on. He doesn't make efforts. Maybe he is scared. I can't move on, but I never feel like it works.
I'm very open to advices and thoughts
(English isnt my first language, sorry for the mistakes:) )
Encourage open and honest communication with him. Let him know how you feel and ask him about his feelings and concerns. Understanding each other better can help resolve any misunderstandings or insecurities.
Hey do you think you could make a video on frequent hallucinations that are NOT caused by schizophrenia or on what to do when you can't see a medical professional. Thanks a lot for your videos btw, they really helped me.
I think you talk about "daydreaming".
@@aysenursayg9747 No? I mean visual, sensory and auditory hallucination that last between 0,5 to 2 seconds around twice a day for no specific reason.
You really dont want to see a medical professional, trust me. If you do, you admit you have zero control of your own life, and you lost at simply living a normal life. Just live with the pain, and walk quiet past the doors with it, got it?
@anderstermansen130 You would really give up at trying to live a better life and choose being in pain forever? If there is a way to stop it, then they should go for it. And admitting you have little control over your life isn’t a bad thing, and if you need help, you should reach out. I can’t believe anyone would undervalue life so much as to allow themselves to suffer rather than live better
I don’t feel like I am unworthy to be loved, it’s just, who in their right mind would love me? Did they hit their head on a fire hydrant or something? I am not meant to be loved. Liked? Sure, who wouldn’t? Hate? Fair enough,because the feeling is more than mutual, love~ But someone saying they love me? Sorry, that doesn’t work with me here.I accept hearts, but not that kind, I’m afraid. Come back to me when you have the right currency😂
The reason why i'm unworthy of love because I can't even love myself and hate myself for how I look.
Don't hate yourself. It's not worth it. And there's no reason to accept false shame about your appearance. Don't believe those lies
As you should. If you dont remind yourself why you will cruise singlelife on autopilot for the rest of your days, women will make sure you understand.
So, you tell that ALL of my insecurities are actually the reason not to feel the love of others or block it?
Well, it's just the way I am 🙃
I'm deeply in love with someone, only problem is is that they don't exist. It's a fictional character :)
Seems like everyone around me either just already has a partner or isn’t interested in me, I was hoping to see that I was doing something wrong but I guess I’m just that unlucky with love…
You're not the only one. I've been unlucky too few times. That doesn't mean i have to give up. I keep going and see what happens next. I hope you'll find someone who really wants to create a relationship with you. Wish you all the best
@@SMGDL2009 thank you
Wouldnt you think i feel the same way? When my best buddies, and even both my siblings have perfect sunshine and rainbows relationships from day one? And i sit here, being 28 years old, tired of being alone, yet i dont get to have a partner, unlike these normal functioning people...
...who doesnt suffer from autism? Although im highly functional, and you wouldnt even suspect i have autism if you met me, - my brains is still redlining in 7th gear when out in town, say on the local Tavern, drinking beers with friends. Im tired of not understand these social cues "hints" women come up with.
How am i supposed to know a woman is interested in me, when she looks at me for a fraction of a second, wearing her RBF?
Wouldnt you think that make me sick and tired of myself, who i am, this curse of autism i involuntarily carry with me, and this life in general?
At least i can be thankful i only have approximately 52 years of this punishment sentence, remaining...
This rant is concluded and signed.
ABT
22-04-2024
I ask you to wish me to find the right husband and to have unconditional love, appreciation, loyalty, mercy and joy between us ♥️♥️
I do deserve the love that I want. I'll pass the buck and will tell her as much. Interlopers prevented me earlier which is why I was late.
Hey Psych. My mind has been troubled recently. I am still of school age and have had trouble with relationships before. I had just found out that the girl I like likes my friend. The only class I have with her is the only class she has with him. Except I know for a fact that he has no feelings for her. So I guess what I'm asking is this: should I see if they turn out to be anything, or should I try to win her over? Any other advice?
You know you dieing alone when you check all the boxes like me 😂
Love comes in all forms. Love is the air we breathe and the day we enjoy. Almost everyone believes that the only form of love can be through romantic love or only through people. Love is a form of energy able to be felt by all if they allow it. May be as simple as enjoying the beauty of flowers and living in the moment. Enjoyment of animal friends, admiring the trees, or just sitting and truly being with all those around (That includes plants, insects, the ground, and other animal life of all kinds). True love with being yourself and being part of life is completely different than ‘true’ love with a partner/s that has been so heavily cultivated into our entire lives in society. True connection and love with a partner does exist but can be difficult to find. Most are so hasty to rush off into a relationship of any nature with anyone that they don’t stop to think and feel if the person/s they’re with is really the one/s they want to be with. Feeling the happy high of being with someone can make a lot people think it’s true love. For a few, it could be. For the majority, it’s the incorrect person/people. Always trust within whether they are right for you or not.
Love is a word highly misinterpreted and twisted by many. We are taught that love is through a partner/s (mostly) usually romantic or sexual. Although more friends and family are being included in the definition of love even it’s a small part of it. True love is through all beings everywhere. Not strictly human. That being said everyone’s version of love can be different. They may show it in many forms. Positive and negative depending on childhood situations and how they grew up. How they may have dealt with their issues if at all. Sometimes their form of ‘love’ is harmful to their partner/s. They may not realize it themselves. If they do and don’t care, it’s best to leave that situation.
Everyone talks about worthiness of love. It’s true that everyone is worthy of it if you choose to place a value on life. To me, how can there be worthy and unworthiness? No one being is worth more or less than another. We may all look different but we are still made of the same energy no matter the sizes we may come in. We each function differently because there would be no life if everyone was exactly the same. Adaptions are needed to survive various scenarios and situations. Variety and change is and creates life. Keeps it from being stagnant. So there is no such thing as value, worth, or unworthiness. Only the chosen perception of it.
This got longer than intended but I saw a lot of posts about those feeling unworthy of love and wanted to hopefully help those see a different point of view.
You are redefining love in a way that is unhelpful to most people.
@@wilhelmvonn9619 redefinition?
It seems you are correct. For most people, it will be unhelpful as a whole but it may give a new perspective they didn’t think about before. See a new angle to thought that may not have been previously there. That’s the point. Up to them whether they accept or reject the whole idea entirely or just pieces of it.
I guess redefinition is a good word for it. Break out of ‘love’ being one or two ways of thinking. It’s always helpful to keep an open mind to different views from life all over the world. You may just never know what you couldn’t see before…
To the person/people that it could help then I’m glad!😉
Is being heartbroken, hurt, dumped and abandoned also a form of love? Because in that case, i dont want it. Not anymore.
@@anderstermansen130 in many ways it can take you on the path/s to the right love or where you’re supposed to be. Feelings are part of life too and they unfortunately aren’t always so pleasant but we learn a lot from the experiences of having them. People learn more from failure and pain than success and happiness. For example if someone chooses to break up with you, it’s probably for a reason. Whether it’s a you reason they don’t like, a them reason of not being happy, or it could be a shallow or deep reason. The amount of reasons are endless. But it usually boils down to needs not being met.
Communication helps out in relationships but if someone is simply unhappy being with someone regardless of the steps taken to help the relationship from both/all parties then they’ll leave. If no steps have been taken to help the relationship from both/all parties then they will most likely leave quicker. Someone shouldn’t stay in a relationship to make someone else happy if they’re unhappy. Number one also has to be happy (That’s yourself by the way) and everyone has a number one. Meaning that all parties have to be happy for a great relationship! Just like there are many versions of love, there are also different versions of people’s happiness. It’s best to look at yourself and the other person/s from an outside perspective. Almost imagine you’re another person looking at your situation. See what’s it like ‘being in their shoes’. What is life/the relationship like from their point of view? What is it from your point of view? What do your actions look like to them? What do their actions look like to you? Remember that childhood growing up with how they’re raised, trauma of any kind, mental disorders, and personality are all going to change the perspective of each. But this may help to see what may have gone wrong.
A certain action may look like nothing to one person but may set the other person/s off. Blowing off their feelings for the hurt makes it worse and makes them feel unheard. If this continues to happen multiple times for a long time even after they may try to open a line of communication. Yeah you bet they’re most likely gonna leave. Good for them for doing what they need.
This is only one example and even then there are multiples of reasons, actions, and perspectives to make that one example look and feel different to each person. There is no one cure all for anything since each situation is different. Things are never just black and white. There’s a whole color wheel of colors.
If you don’t want anything to do with breakups and such then you don’t have to do the thing that has the possibility to cause them. You can choose not to be in a relationship and be by yourself. Everyone has that ability to choose whether they know it or not. Socializing with people is still important so this is a reminder to hang out and talk with your friends! If you’re by yourself for a while and are unhappy then you can change that too. Most often times, opportunities come to us when we aren’t looking for them. Once they’re there it’s up to us whether we choose to let them pass us by or to see where that road goes!