We had these great amazing beautiful calls, and then YEAH, he just didn't reach out or would turn back into a huge jerk. SO frustrating!! And so confusing. I feel like you're answering all my questions I've been asking lately!!!
My ex is very confuse. Last time he chat me and we talk have this genuine interaction then he stop. I am giving him space that is what i think he wants. I am starting to get tired of him. I know he is busy with his work. We have an event 2 weeks from now. I will tell him i will stop this game of his, because i am tired. 😑
the same :( but we never give it up! ... I moved from another city to be closer to her. not like 300+km before. Someone told me, i'm idiot, forget on her etc this staff.. so its hard, but believe in it
Riding the Dragon Phase is usually the longest phase in the process. ;-) It will also test how strong you have worked on your Advanced Relational Skills.
I wish I could find someone who doesn't consider it needy when I demonstrate my love for them... someone who also isn't afraid to demonstrate their love for me. Why can't partners just appreciate acts of kindness and love? Why does everything have to be some sort of psychological game? I was told by my ex that I treated her better than anyone else ever did, but because of that, she never saw me as a challenge, so she went with a player who is now cheating on her with like a dozen other women (gross, I know). Great... congrats on that, Mrs. Ex, you have a real winner there. Hopefully he fulfills your need for a challenge 🙄
See your ex told you the gospel truth and she's correct, you just can't see it cause you're so much into your feelings I've done it in my distant past only to feel that pain. Only you can save yourself my friend only you no one can.
My ex finally replied after 6 years and was friendly and said he still had a soft spot for me however I became to eager and now his egnoring me what do I do?
Same here.... He came to meet me. I was so excited yet I was acting tough... But he doesn't wanna initiate now. He expects me to call him .. I don't even have his no.nor asked him. But m dying inside. I did asked him to meet me once n we met . After that , he still expects me to initiate ... I stopped n deleted some messages I sent
Mr coach, I have this to tell you: when you treat someone well with loyalty, honesty and sacrifice and get treated like a piece of garbage, what do you do? Do you accept such people back in your life after the embarrassment?
If you are to evaluate the situation and the quality of person that you are trying to get back with, does it still match your personal values? That is why there are relationships that are worth saving and relationship that we need to let go especially if they are not aligned with our personal values.
Am not telling no one what they want to hear. Am only saying the truth, I can't see in a world of how many billion people and in this modern day an age people would be still running behind a he or she. Someone's missing the point here if people don't want you they would definitely won't need you! Time and life is too short to waste it.
Once I say no to you you are not coming back. It takes me time to make my decision, but once made, there is no going back. With me, it is about loyalty, honesty and sacrifice. If you think I am needy, clingy, or not to your standards and disrespect me, I will make a decision you can never undo. I have made such decisions severally and it had nothing to do with me getting relationship advice. It was about my dignity of human person, my self worth. Injure my pride and see what I can do.
Unfaithful, shady and dirty partners always view loyal friends who are there for them as clingy, needy, and weak. They want space to entertain their multiple partners or satisfy their childish and often imaginary needs. When they realize later that they made a mistake, they want to come back to you whom they think is cheap and waiting for them after they are done with their rubbish. I will make sure you pay for your duplicity by not accepting you back.
He didn't say you should text that. He said that that may be one of the few things you may say... I know, it's hard to catch his drift especially when you're emotional but try not to watch the video just to get one liners and spiels; cause that's exactly what Clay is advising you to avoid: playing mind games. It's a tall order sure, but you need to be in a place where you'll be okay whether he comes back or not.
My ex came round mine for dinner this evening and like before we've been very close again all evening but during the evening she said see how this goes? And when we left to take her home she wanted us both to walk And whilst walking she told me she may or might have met someone else she said they are just talking at the moment Then I said is it me but she didn't say yes or she didn't say no when she said she started talking to someone else Maybe she met someone else or maybe she hasn't who knows? Because when I said is it me she smiled a bit and couldn't say only time will tell if she as or not
We had these great amazing beautiful calls, and then YEAH, he just didn't reach out or would turn back into a huge jerk. SO frustrating!! And so confusing. I feel like you're answering all my questions I've been asking lately!!!
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We had lunch and I said let’s do this soon and she said let’s play it by ear
My ex is very confuse. Last time he chat me and we talk have this genuine interaction then he stop. I am giving him space that is what i think he wants. I am starting to get tired of him. I know he is busy with his work. We have an event 2 weeks from now. I will tell him i will stop this game of his, because i am tired. 😑
I feel like he’s been at riding the dragon phase for too long lol 😞
the same :( but we never give it up! ... I moved from another city to be closer to her. not like 300+km before. Someone told me, i'm idiot, forget on her etc this staff.. so its hard, but believe in it
Riding the Dragon Phase is usually the longest phase in the process. ;-) It will also test how strong you have worked on your Advanced Relational Skills.
@@ClayAndrews oh great 😅 thanks good to know :)
@@ClayAndrews How long can it last?! I feel he's been doing this for 9 months now. What's the longest you've heard of?
I wish I could find someone who doesn't consider it needy when I demonstrate my love for them... someone who also isn't afraid to demonstrate their love for me. Why can't partners just appreciate acts of kindness and love? Why does everything have to be some sort of psychological game? I was told by my ex that I treated her better than anyone else ever did, but because of that, she never saw me as a challenge, so she went with a player who is now cheating on her with like a dozen other women (gross, I know). Great... congrats on that, Mrs. Ex, you have a real winner there. Hopefully he fulfills your need for a challenge 🙄
See your ex told you the gospel truth and she's correct, you just can't see it cause you're so much into your feelings I've done it in my distant past only to feel that pain. Only you can save yourself my friend only you no one can.
@Darrell Barrett you hit it right on the nail, what I am feeling. I'm just sick of it.🙄
Chances are that you’re being too easy. People appreciate those things but generally when they have earned it.
My ex finally replied after 6 years and was friendly and said he still had a soft spot for me however I became to eager and now his egnoring me what do I do?
6 years tf
Same here....
He came to meet me. I was so excited yet I was acting tough... But he doesn't wanna initiate now. He expects me to call him .. I don't even have his no.nor asked him. But m dying inside. I did asked him to meet me once n we met . After that , he still expects me to initiate ... I stopped n deleted some messages I sent
Imo, it doesn't make sense to act this way, especially if that person reaches out to you.
Please don't disturb my headspace
Mr coach, I have this to tell you: when you treat someone well with loyalty, honesty and sacrifice and get treated like a piece of garbage, what do you do? Do you accept such people back in your life after the embarrassment?
If you are to evaluate the situation and the quality of person that you are trying to get back with, does it still match your personal values? That is why there are relationships that are worth saving and relationship that we need to let go especially if they are not aligned with our personal values.
Are you doing coaching calls. I need one solid call with you.
Yes, we do, you can book your coaching call through this link >> www.modernlove.life/coaching
Am not telling no one what they want to hear. Am only saying the truth, I can't see in a world of how many billion people and in this modern day an age people would be still running behind a he or she. Someone's missing the point here if people don't want you they would definitely won't need you! Time and life is too short to waste it.
What if i ask my ex that question if she is playing Hard to get, and she has no response. What would u do then?
It looks like your ex's wall of reactance is still high. Have you applied Active No Contact?
Once I say no to you you are not coming back. It takes me time to make my decision, but once made, there is no going back. With me, it is about loyalty, honesty and sacrifice. If you think I am needy, clingy, or not to your standards and disrespect me, I will make a decision you can never undo. I have made such decisions severally and it had nothing to do with me getting relationship advice. It was about my dignity of human person, my self worth. Injure my pride and see what I can do.
Yea I think my ex is getting stupid advice like you're mentioning!!
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Unfaithful, shady and dirty partners always view loyal friends who are there for them as clingy, needy, and weak. They want space to entertain their multiple partners or satisfy their childish and often imaginary needs. When they realize later that they made a mistake, they want to come back to you whom they think is cheap and waiting for them after they are done with their rubbish. I will make sure you pay for your duplicity by not accepting you back.
I text him what you said: it seems like you’re not interested in me. Is that what’s going on. And I got nothing outta him. 😔
He didn't say you should text that. He said that that may be one of the few things you may say... I know, it's hard to catch his drift especially when you're emotional but try not to watch the video just to get one liners and spiels; cause that's exactly what Clay is advising you to avoid: playing mind games. It's a tall order sure, but you need to be in a place where you'll be okay whether he comes back or not.
I agree with Keith, remember that we are not teaching "spiels" or templates but what we teach are life skills that you can apply in the process. :-)
@ICLOVE E Try listening to Patti Austin's "All behind us now" to give you a confidence boost.
I text him that because it seemed fitting for my situation. 🤷♀️
There's nothing wrong stepping back and focusing your energies towards yourself.
My ex came round mine for dinner this evening and like before we've been very close again all evening but during the evening she said see how this goes?
And when we left to take her home she wanted us both to walk
And whilst walking she told me she may or might have met someone else she said they are just talking at the moment
Then I said is it me but she didn't say yes or she didn't say no when she said she started talking to someone else
Maybe she met someone else or maybe she hasn't who knows?
Because when I said is it me she smiled a bit and couldn't say only time will tell if she as or not
So what happened
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