The Accident
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- Опубліковано 14 тра 2021
- Details about Sam's car accident when he was a young teenager, how it changed his personality and the kind of medical intervention the FLDS allow.
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We were the 2nd people who came in to the new St George ER right after you! My son was hurt in a bull riding accident in Hurricane! The doctors were telling us how lucky you guys were to be alive!!!
Holy cow! That is crazy that you were there! I hope your son was alright as well!
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy He's doing great! I'm so glad to hear that you guys are all ok! Small world! ❤️ My younger kids were fascinated by the EMTs wearing dresses!
My son was hit by a drunk driver when he was 12. 2 weeks before his 13th Birthday. September 14, 1995. I was told he broke his leg when someone came to our house to tell me. I drove a block down from us to the accident. When I got to the hospital, they told me to start planning his funeral and I got angry. I swore at them and said what kind of BS were they trying to pull on me since he only had a broken leg. That’s when they told me the truth. He had been hit by a car, thrown into the windshield and flew to the pavement landing between 2 manhole covers by the sidewalk. He had a compound fractured lower left leg, broken left arm and collar bone, road rash up his back, holes in the back of his head that we could put coins in, brain injury, lost his hearing and sight. He had plates and screws put in his leg and shoulder, so 6 surgeries. Hearing aids, full leg cast, skin grafts, massive headaches and a Very Big change to his personality.
Our son is 40 now and lives with the residual problems from his injuries. He was told he would Never drive or do his dream job. He drives semi’s and dreams of being a fireman.
Never give up on someone when they are hurt, they are being given a chance to be better than they would have been. So glad you and your brothers healed from the accident
Your 13th year sounds like it was pretty tough, medically speaking! Broken arm, stitches, sliced open hand, and the accident…goodness! Your poor parents! I can’t even begin to imagine being in an accident that bad…so glad to hear all 5 of you boys, and the van passengers came out of it okay in the end! 😊
I find it amazing how some people change after a major car accident. It really is wild. I had a cousin who was in a very serious accident back in the 1960s and he completely changed. He became very quiet and a bit reserved. He is in his late 70s now and is STILL like that. Before the accident he was very outgoing and gregarious. I have heard of others who changed like that too.
What a good video keep them coming! So glad your hear to tell your story
Yikes. So glad all of you are ok now. What a journey. Thank you for sharing. ♥️
So glad you made it to tell us the story❤️ your poor dad I can't imagine I would want to chase the ambulances!
Well this brings back some scary memories. I love you guys and I’m glad you all made it out alive. I remember sitting at home with the phones ringing off the hook with all the rumors flying around about how some if not all of you were dead and something about one of the ambulances crashing on the way to the hospital....anyway, crazy stuff
❤wow so happy to have you with us Sam!
Wow!! Thank you for sharing. Praise God you and your brothers were okay.
I've been waiting to hear this story
Omg so scary! I’m so glad everyone made it. So crazy.
Yay for another video! I am so intrigued by your life. And Melissa keeps the conversation going so organically.
The accident was back in 2003, lol!
Ugh! Listening to this story made my heart break for your parents💔😭
Wow. Sam, what an ordeal! I’m very thankful that you and your brothers all survived and are healthy. Your poor Mothers! I constantly worry about my “kids” (26,22,19, and 13), and always know when one of them is in trouble. I call it my Momma’s intuition. 💗
Thank you for sharing more about your family. Glad you made it out okay.
Wow! This is all a little close to home - my dad had a car accident and suffered a traumatic brain injury as a lasting result August last year. It gives me hope for him that you have said yourself and your brothers have recovered fully - we don’t know if he will ever get back to himself properly. Personality changes are quite common with TBI’s so it does surprise me too much. The fact that he survived his accident is a complete miracle, sounds exactly the same for all of you as well! So glad it’s well behind you now 😊
Goodness I have just watched this now for the first time and wow the belief in the power of prayer over healing sure was proved there. So relieved you are all fully healed. I hope you and your mom and brothers are still in contact with each other. Blessings to you, Melissa and kiddos
Those EMTs, pilots, doctors and nurses must have been extraordinarily good.
You were blessed with such unique experiences Sam!! You should definitely put this in your book.
Glad no one died holy cow!! 👍👍
I do feel for your mother! Two of my kids were in a bad accident, I rushed between two ER rooms and was a wreck. The nurses and Drs took ME and put me in another room to make sure I was going to be ok. They are fine, but I do feel for your mother..
Thanks for sharing your story! How scary! So glad you and your brothers were all ok in the end! Sounds like God was definitely watching over you all 🙏
Wow, Sam! Just WoW! I’m so happy you and your family and the other vehicle’s passengers were all “ok!” I am sure it was extremely stressful for your parents. Having the relearn to do things is so difficult! What a blessing that after such trauma you have all recovered well! I’m a believer that things happen for a reason and if you follow a higher power then his hands are upon you.
I have experienced the “fainting spell/blackout” moment you mentioned when you stood from bed and were walking to the door to open. It is the most bizarre feeling in the world. Incidentally, that moment changed not only my life but to a degree the lives of my immediate family members.
The personality you were born with is much like my life. I’m quiet and reserved and always worry what anyone might think. I’m SO happy you were freed from that and can now live more fully in all you do!
You and Melissa are true treasures and always a blessing!
Thank you for sharing a very harrowing and personal experience!
I am so grateful that all of you made it through the accident and made a full recovery! God bless you all! Quite a story and a wonderful example of how Good God is!
Love the way you interact with each other.
I'm so glad that you and your Brothers has made it. Terrifying to listen to your Story! Thank you for sharing The experience of your whole life. I've learnt so much!
Thank you so much for watching and supporting us!
That is so scary as a parent. They must have been just frantic over you all and afraid of the worst. I can't even imagine how I would react if that happened to my son. I am so happy that some sort of guardian angel saved you all from such a fatal accident. It seemed that your father had faith that your brother would come out of it and he was right. You have lived to tell the tale and to move on to start your own family. Thank you for sharing your experience.
Wow 😳 so glad you made it out of that horrible accident. So scary
I missed your live you two did on your date. 😞 Glad I'm here early. I hope you are both doing very well. God Bless You.
Hi Jill. Thank you so much! We're sorry you missed the live but we'll do another one soon. 😊
Wow! Thank god saved your and your brother what special a blessing both of you. It’s such beautiful story!
That is a crazy story. I too was in a bad car accident in 2002 and I was about the same age and you. In a comma also but for 3 weeks. I also had a “personality” change after very similar to you Sam. I have never meet anyone that had a similar experience. Thanks for sharing! Love your stories
Glad to hear that you and all your brothers healed up well and were able able to lead normal lives. I would think after going through and experience like that it makes you appreciate life and everything you have so much more. Thanks for sharing your experience with us. With leaving your family just 5 years after the accident, I wonder if you would have had the courage to venture out on your own if you weren't involved in the accident and the change in personality with it.
Oh yeah ! I have heard of near death experiences causing a change of personality and thank goodness for the better in your case!
That is fascinating about your change in personality! It can definitely happen. I'm a psych nurse and we had a patient who was in a motorcycle accident. Prior to the accident he was completely normal and had no psychiatric symptoms. He was similar to you in that he had a TBI and was comatose for a few days. He then developed severe OCD following the accident. A really unfortunately young man but medically interesting. I'm glad you got a 'good' change following yours.
This isn’t medically interesting. It’s a tragedy ang completely different from what happened to Sam.
I am so glad that you made a full recovery. On another topic, I kind of feel sorry for your whole community for not having access to pop music. I came across a chanel of a classicaly trained musician who grew up in an isolated amish community, this is her journey into discovering rock music, and I tought you might want to check it out, to round out your exposure into mainstream culture. I have enjoyed a lot. Be well
man that's scary. I'm glad y'all are doing ok now
Thank God y’all survived such a horrible accident. It is well documented that a brain injury causing prolonged unconsciousness can change a person’s personality quite substantially. Thankfully, it seems that it changed for the better for you as many times it can be just the opposite and people can have significant behavioral problems. It is especially true if there was an injury to the frontal lobe. Thank you for telling your story. I enjoy watching the dynamic of the two of you in whatever y’all choose to share with us 💗.
Exactly, losing consciousness = TBI. Probably in Vegas they had some kind of neurological specialists & rehab.
So glad you are ok!! This is the second utuber who had a serious head injury whose personality had changed for the better. Same situation as you super shy before and more outgoing etc after!
I saw that too! Fascinating the way the brain heals and makes alterations to itself! So happy to have these wonderful guys among us on this side!
So I am really missing you guys. Sure hope that everything is okay and you are just super-busy. I keep checking for new posts..... Hope all is well!!!
Phwew... life is crazy!! What a great story. Question: what do your kiddos know about Sam’s growing up? What do they think of their grandparents?
Hi Emily! Our kids are still young so I don't think they understand too much about my childhood experiences. We don't keep anything from them and as they get older, we'll continue to share my stories.
So glad u are ok! Please keep in your thoughts on the 22nd undergoing surgery in same hospital I almost died in November 2018(long story!) Too personal to put here
You are all so lucky to have came out okay after something like that. Appreciate your videos. You are so open with your lives. As someone who grew up with a very blessed life. No religon, but "leave it to Beaver" type upbringing, The whole FLDS religon and history is mind blowing. I never realized that there were communities that lived all to themselves and with such strong followed beliefs. Do you still talk to your mom(s) & dad? Or are they still not allowed to talk to you? Do you know if they still follow Warren? Do you know of your sisters that were married to men high up ; how are they? Oh, since pandemic, do you know of all your family gotten through it ok? Sorry, I Dont mean to be so intrusive.
Please so more videos with Sam’s siblings!!!
Hi there from Oklahoma and gnite can't wait to see more 📹
That must have been terrifying. One question does occur to me--what's health insurance like in FLDS?
They don't believe in health care just taking care of their own
I was in a coma & incubated for over a week. Caused by Pneumonia. I was nearly lost several times over the first two days. I mostly don't remember. A couple of interesting things happened that I seldom tell people about. It's pretty personal. No bright light to walk towards either. lol Mostly I knew certain things in the core of my being that I had not known before. My personality changed as well. From the research I've done this is normal. It's the type of experience that expands your personal view of life. You just can't help but see things differently. You have basically straddled the edge of life and death and somehow for some reason have bounced back to the life side of the edge. It can't help but change a person.
Super scary, Y’all are so lucky to have survived the crash. God was definitely watching over you & your brothers
So my father who died in a car accident on my mother’s birthday when I was 13 just wasn’t meant to live according to your God? Just didn’t deserve to his daughters grow up and to meet partners and grandchildren? And I deserved to grow up without a father and have trauma and depression for most of my life. Because your God was watching some football instead of watching my father. Gotcha.
I hope you see how damaging that ideology is where you make sense in a senseless and chaotic world by making judgements on who deserved misfortune and who didn’t.
"So I saw a bright light..." That part made me lol.
Hope you guys are doing ok! I noticed that you haven't posted in a while and I just wanted to say I hope everything is ok and everyone is healthy and well. Miss you both!
The accident was back in 2003, lol!
@@katjorbar I wasn't referring to the accident. I noticed, as I said, that they hadn't posted in a while and they usually do, so I was hoping all was well.
Good story 👏👏🙏🙏❤
I can not imagine the fear your father and mothers lived with watching their children in pain and in commas. ❤ prayer they someday come around so that you can have a better relationship together
Hey we miss you guys hope all is well
How terrifying for everyone involved.
Wow, that is quite a story. So glad everyone recovered. And... I keep wondering... how did you enjoy the hockey game last week?
Thank you! And it was AMAZING! Our team won in overtime so it was a great first hockey game! =)
Wow! That would definitely be hard as a parent 😭 Is your brothers that were in the accident still at the compound or did they leave as well.
When I was 16 I had a Suzuki Samurai, and I was going home one night and fell asleep at the wheel, I hit gravel and flipped 6 times. I was in the hospital over 2 weeks, no broken bones, but did have a hairline fracture to my neck. The doctor said it was like a giant rolled me into a ball and used me for bowling 😂 It was a rough time.
Glad y’all were all ok 😊 Have a great night!
Not every emergency room is a trauma center. Certain hospitals are level 1 or level 2 trauma centers but not all ERs are Trauma centers. Hence the lifeflight to Las Vegas.
Oh wow that sounds like you all were very, very, very lucky Sam. Your poor mothers, I couldn't imagine it.
How it happened sounds like some thing my older brothers would do too. They always seemed to want to push the limits, especially in cars. My second eldest brother got away with so much as a teenager but unfortunately later in life he was involved in a similar accident in which he broke his neck, and completely severed his spinal cord. He also was not wearing a seat belt ( he was just crossing an intersection on the way to getting some fuel, so didn't have his belt on) My brother got thrown out of the passenger window of the car and was found in the long grass on the side of the road. It took them quite a while to find him, like your brother.
It was super early morning, still dark and the other car was going to work (I suppose he had just woken up) and had forgotten to turn his cars lights on. Because it was such a well lit intersection, the glare actually hindered my brother being able to see the other car (without it's lights on) Of course it totally changed his life. The only, some what positive thing about it was that in Australia, in the state he lives in, traveling to and from work is included in workers compensation. Even with out that, the government also provides good care for people in his situation for as long as they live.
Yeah so.............Very, very scary stuff.
Traumatic brain injuries absolutely can change your personality
Brain injuries also can change the area of your brain that responds to religion. Interesting.
Wow. So glad you made it through that! Do you wear & recommend seatbelts all the time now?
Yes, we all wear our seatbelts now. It was definitely a wake up call.
I’m wondering if your dad ever waited to see how long it takes to run out of gas again after this? I guess as a parent I would have felt so guilty that this happened to my kids because I was irresponsible enough to let the tank empty that they needed to come help me😬
Wow. Miraculous. My daughter was in an accident last July. A person driving while on her phone hit the car she was in. She is still recovering in many ways. As a parent it is the most horrible experience.
We're very sorry to hear about your daughter and hope she recovers soon. Now that I am a parent, I feel so bad for my father and mother as I think about what they went through during this experience. I cannot think of anything worse than seeing a child suffer.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy thank you so much.
The power. of Prayer!
Level 1 traumas need to be handled at Level 1 trauma center. It takes quite a bit to be certified as a Level 1 trauma center.
TBIs can absolutely change people’s personalities!
I know 2 people that where in a coma, and both completely changed personality. One was a childhood friend of 15 years friendship that I ended up breaking ties with 3 years after his coma, because we really didnt get along anymore. The other is a family member and its like their partner divorced and married a different person. They are both functional people and the personality change doesn't seem to come from lasting brain damage or mental health problems. It really was like their brain did a factory reset. I have read its not uncommon but there doesnt seem to be one clear reason as to why it happens.
Hard to hit the like button on this video 😬 Glad you are okay 😁
I have a question...why do FLDS refer to their parents as Mother and Father verses Mom and Dad? Just curious... I love your stories and I've learned so much... You two are beautiful inside and out ..thank you for sharing your lives with us 🤗🤗🤗🥰🥰🥰👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 and p.s. I'm surprised that you don't have hundred's of thousand's of subbies verses 23k... Your channel is awesome 😎
Not all hospitals are set up to provide the services needed to be a trauma center, which is what you needed. So, for another example, not all hospitals are set up to be burn centers. Hospitals have certain profiles, because it would not be feasible for all of them to provide all the specialties.
I'm pretty sure I read or heard about this accident...maybe in Rachel Jeff's or Carolyn Jessup's books?
Did Warren Jeffs visit you or your brothers in hospital. Did they offer support to your family? I am Australian and am fascinated with your videos.
Sam's experiences growing up were very similar to my own. We were not lds but my parents were very old fashioned
Did your brother who was still awake have any tests done? I was in a car accident before & outwardly only had a black eye but had a ton of internal injuries. One was a laceration 4 on my liver & my right shoulder was in almost unbearable pain from it. I was told they don't exactly know why, but right shoulder pain is a common complaint/side effect of liver injuries.
Yes, they checked on his injuries and just had to take it easy for a couple months.
I was curious about how they decided who shared a room? Did your brothers from the same mother share rooms or the ones closest in age? Also did your father have his own room or the wives would visit his room or how did that work?
Great question! We are doing a video on that topic that will be released next week, so stay tuned! =)
Also curious if any of your brothers personalities changed as well? Did the accident change your relationship with them? Like were you guys closer after this?
I see someone else asked about what health insurance looked like in the FLDS community as I'm curious about that AND was everyone wearing a seatbelt that was involved in the accident? Or were some not? Curious what role the seatbelts played.
Sam said no one was wearing a seatbelt
Can you do a video about the short creek raid in the 1940s?
Or maybe talking to someone who was a child in the community during that time?
Everytime I watch something on why pologmy should or shouldn't be illegal-- someone mentions the raids, and talks about it being scary, but I find it very difficult to find articles explaining what actually happened
Not trying to get into personal things but Question: Did y'all have health or accident insurance? Or did the "unmarried" mothers have Medicaid? There had to be tremendous bills for ICU stays for that long!
Maybe that's WAY too personal to ask!
Good question! It’s interesting to know how independent these large families are or if they’re receiving goods and services in which others are forced to pay for.
@@jessicak4223 it's not our business how the bills are paid(would you like complete strangers asking u about it?)
@@carlasuannelockett1694 He makes his money on UA-cam by providing personal and enlightening information. That’s why people come back. Additionally, information about polygamists and their ability or inability to take financial responsibility, or pass it on to tax-payers, is something that many people would like to know about so they can be more educated when they vote for laws that affect polygamy and welfare. How bills are paid should be the business of those who pay.
I can't imagine how average families could provide private insurance for 34 children & dozens of spouses with average wages. I have read that most poly. families do receive medicaid but obviously am no expert and not speaking about anyone's family in particular.
This is completely unrelated but, we’re the kidnappers of Elizabeth Smart FLDS? Did they have any link to the group?
From what I have seen watching documentaries about her abduction he was not FLDS but grew up mainstream Mormon and later had his own fundamentalist ideas that his wife went along with.
I have a question about medical insurance. Did your parents have medical insurance? I can imagine the medical bills were enormous for these horrific injuries, along with all of the transport and rehab costs. Do some or most FLDS folks work for employers who give them a benefits package with medical insurance. I would think with so many children per family, the medical bills in a normal year must have been very high.
I thought that happens sometimes with car accidents where your head is hit.
Personality change.
I wonder if the other brothers that were in the accident later left or stayed with the family.
That’s a really good question 🙋♀️
All of us that were in the accident have left the community.
@@GrowingUpinPolygamy that’s awesome. So glad to hear. I always hope for all the people who are out of that religion already that their family follows. The followers are so faithful though so I know it’s tough.
God had his hand on all of you. Thank God for praying parents even ifs their beliefs are a little different they knew a loving father. And I have seen many many peoples lives completely changed after traumatic accidents. I have even seen peoples eye color and hair color change.
Did you have insurance or how were all the bills paid?
Yes, thankfully, we did have insurance.
Did your family have health insurance?
Scary all around.
was our full blooded brother the driver
I should have listened to the entire video. Disregard my question.
How old was Sam when the accident happened?
He said 13
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You probably needed a Trauma Level 3 or up so they flew you to Las Vegas. So glad you were able together the care you needed.
Likely that Vegas was the closest Level 1 Trauma Center
I'm not even done with the video yet, but I really hope your father stopped "testing his cars" like that after this accident. That stuff isn't safe, and if he REALLY wanted to "test his cars," he should be bringing his own full gas can to get himself to a gas station after he runs out. That stuff isn't worth risking your family's lives. Dang.
Always use your seat-belt! You've got *Nothing* to loose, and literally *Everything's* at stake to win.
(And be they 5 or 55, make sure *everyone* in the car has theirs on as well - Even your 5 year-old (as small as 5 year-olds are) goes from being your little car-buddy to becoming a lethal projectile upon impact. You've got *Nothing* to loose, and literally *Everything's* at stake to win!)
Is it too intrusive to ask about medical insurance? How was your Father able to take care of those bills? I can’t even imagine the financial cost, much the emotional trauma.
Maybe they transferred them to a children’s hospital and it was probably a picu (pediatrics)
St George didn't have a trauma team
I am so glad that you and your brothers are ok and of course the other people! What do you believe when it comes to Profits? Do you believe that there are current day Profits, that messages are sent to them from GOD? I always thought it would be totally hilarious if when the second coming happens, Jesus is doing all the things we are told that are bad, for example, smoking, alcohol, coffee, etc. What do you think about Church Presidents and how they conduct themselves? I think part of the reason I have trouble with the LDS church is because the President where I attended at first was in all the NEWS papers in the area because he was arrested for drunk driving, everyone knew him as the president of the Church so the headline was something to the effect of " LDS Church President __________ was arrested on ______ for drunk driving." It took my feet out from under me. I thought that he was supposed to be living the perfect life and he did this horrific " unworthy" thing and was still the President of our branch.
Hi Lisa! Thank you for your comment. I'll give the simple answer to your question. We do not currently put our trust in men's teachings of God.
A stroke which is a brain Injury can totally change your personality. I would assume having a traumatic brain injuty
Yes, traumatic brain injuries can cause a change in personality.
Did your dad learn not to let his car run out of gas? 😀🏴🏴🏴🏴🏴❤️
If you would have already had the gas, it could have been much worse.