This is soo true of an ENFJ, sometimes it's hard to make logical decisions because we care too much how other people will feel! Sometimes, I wish I can just think more logically.
You are good at making friends so if you do a logical approach, you can start by thinking your friends are just things. Then let your Fe take over. In other words, try to be selfish for no reason.
I wonder if a lot of enfj’s struggle with this as much as we do? Or maybe some just simply make a workaround and learn to be more selfish on a regular basis and only use their fe for their own benefit. It’s ridiculous how much I naturally only want to care about others well being and lose myself.
I'm an INTP and my roommate, who I dated for 6 years is an ENFJ. Nearlynevery time she tells me about her problems I get frustrated because I can't help her. My solutiin is always "Stop caring what other people think" and she just can't do that so she's stuck in a perpetual hell of having to deal with people who she'll hurt or offend no matter what she does. I have gained an appreciation for dominant Ti.
I feel you, I'm an enfj, but trust me it's a skill you can learn. After making many mistakes in life and with people I had to train myself to think more logically at times. And you can be logical and emotional simultaneously as well
I love the part when you said, that ENFJs think they want to socialize more then thay actually do. This is so true... Everyday I'm like: "Oh my god, I need to go to a party! I need to see people! I miss my friends! I could be partying everyday!" then after the party for 3 days: "Yeah, I hate when there is too much people around"
I am an ENFJ-T, and I identify with everything that was stated in this video verbatim. The part about seeking social situations, but feeling stressed due to my intuition was particularly true for me. I was wondering if any other ENFJs struggled with social anxiety and experienced difficulties in this area? I desperately want to be around people, but I tend to isolate myself as social situations stress me out and my mind goes into overdrive. It would be really nice to feel like I’m not alone in these experiences. x
Hey! I definitely feel the same way too, social anxieties have always been a struggle in my life! While I love being around people, their opinions on me matters to me so much that it can be suffocating, so I have to constantly remind myself that they probably doesn't even care as much! Haha. Its good to know that we're not alone on this! Meanwhile, im trying my best to make use of my people skills and be a good leader when situations requires it!! ♥️
I have to same problems. I'm an ENFJ, but I was severely bullied in my youth which led to severe social anxiety. I still suffer from it, but my need socialize with others usually helps me push past it. I have to remind myself that most people aren't judging me as much as I'm judging myself. Also, I get depressed when I'm anti-social for too long.
I have high functioning anxiety, I love being around people (that I know or know of) but it does take it's toll on me, I prefer being in social settings with the intention of having something to do but as soon as is hanging out in a relax situation I'm uncomfortable. Confident in my comfort zones but always trying to expand them while learning about what I will want to do again and what I can do but will not enjoy.
I am an ENFJ-T as well and I can completely relate to you. Last year I was invited to a few parties. I REALLY wanted to go and was excited to but the day of a couple of them I pulled out because I was too anxious to go. I have learned to overcome this now but I understand the social anxiety of the situations too.
I'm ENFJ and always considered myself extremely shy person. However, soon I found myself being usually the first to speak up and do things first. Some years ago I've got very into charisma and interacting with people. I think it's all part of me even thought back then I wasn't aware of my type :)
I’m ENFJ and an esthetician. I bounced from carpentry at 18. Human Resources in the military, nursing, cosmetology, maid, Walmart, maid, Lyft driver. Now I’m an esthetician and I LOVE IT! I’m proof you can find your dream and there’s nothing wrong quitting to be happy and actually SLEEP at night!
I just picked up a book called 'Refuse to Choose' by Barbara Sher. It's amazing. I can totally relate to her concept about 'Scanners'. Now that you mention it, maybe it also has something to do with being an ENFJ! :-O Considering you've bounced between different interests and careers, I'd recommend you check out this book! It's been really insightful.
As a true ENFJ I indeed am the Giver with a capital G. However, my J is shared 50/50 with the P side and I'm intelligent. Which makes me one of those ENFJ's that are based well in logic and knowledge. Besides that: many ENFJ's work on the thinking side, because of their need to be and catalyze a positive change in the world. Since that works better with actual knowledge, many ENFJ's invest a lot of their time in bettering themselves and their understanding of the world. Because we give with a reason: not to make ourselves poorer, but to make this world better. Not to be taken advantage off, but to lead by example.
Oh my gosh. I have never heard someone get into my heart and head so deeply and understand me so well. Unbelievable. Sadly, I’m a turbulent ENFJ and sometimes feel like a walking antenna and damaged goods. I think I have a love/hate relationship with my personality type. 😔
Being turbulent can be an asset, both to the world and to you, if you let it. :) An ENFJ-A 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝 🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝🐝
i just did this test today and i am a protagonist. very accurate to me, i work as a massage therapist and volunteer as an animal rights activist. sounds legit!
Spot on great video, It is mad the rarity of ENFJ's probably because their time is so taken up by others their duty never ends haha, and when their not trying to help others they pack in that well deserved down time, to think up more ways to keep progressing on stuff to get better to help more its endless :D
10:34 I’ve never listened to something more in tune with my personality.. wanting to go out and socialize but also not wanting it as bad as I thought and it stressing me out. Him saying you don’t live in the moment as much as you’d like hit different too..
Me and my best friend are ENFJ’s. It is hilarious trying to be nice to one another or take the blame for a problem that occurred. We both end up coming together emotionally and are a really good team.
I am an ENFJ and I recognize myself in all of that! Crazy how personlities can be studied that deeply! I am a 3th year dental student. I think that becoming a dentist will fulfill my need to see people, interact with then and help them (maybe even socially). My boyfriend is in psychology and I think he’s ENFJ too. We both talk so much hahaha! I always considered myself very intuitive and I listen to my heart a lot and at the end, I don’t regret it! People sometimes think I am naive because I care. When I see someone crying, I find myself crying with them, it’s annoying 🤷🏻♀️ please make some other videos about ENFJs.
ENFJ Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group and provide inspiring leadership.
Another thing I like about ENFJs is how boundary-conscious they are. The most outgoing among them might have a certain tendency to over-share certain things but it’s only out of concern, not a meaningless and poisonous urge to gossip about everyone in their immediate surroundings. Anyone whose dominant function is extraverted sensing I’m going to be wary of by default because they’re the types who value boundaries and confidentiality/personal space the least (by far). Their Se makes them too honed-in to their environment and what everyone in it is saying and doing even if those things bring no value to their internal compass (which is hardly even developed to any appreciable degree in people like that).
TY, I'm feeling validated for my leadership style. I've been made to think I'm too "soft" "easy" "pushover" as a leader. My employees claim otherwise...180° Quite confusing! Thank you for your help and support to understand what is going on here on Earth! LOL ❤️ Keep up the good work!
Thank you! I'm an ENFJ and am always trying to learn more about my type (and others for that matter) and have learned so much more with your video! I will say this, not sure it does speak to everybody but am a Gemini+ENFJ, the struggle is real ;) Thank you for your thorough work
There's a serious lack of ENFJ videos on youtube. It would be cool if there would be more channels. My girlfriend is an ENFJ and although I understand her very well, it would be interesting to see way more examples of what other ENFJ's are like. I dislike the celebrity-mbti -type-thing, because it's pretty much all speculation and if anything, celebs are great are portreying themselves a certan way, while it's harder to see what they're really like at home. Since most people who make MBTI videos focus most on their own type, it would be cool to see more ENFJ youtubers *Any good suggestions of channels I might not know* ??
Thanks, she is! Yeah, in even in real life I we hardly meet any other ENFJ's as well. We go to mbti meetups and such too, but still the vast majority of people tend to be infps, infjs, enfp's and such..UA-cam is sooo full of infj stuff too. I alwasy find it so odd that I meet so many infj's online as well as in real lifeand hardly any enfj's , while the infj's are supposed to be more rare and you'd expect to find more enfj's outside rather than the introverted infj's... *Enfj's please make a channel with lots of content! Would be greatly appreciated*
Yeah but even among women I encounter or spot them in such small percentages compared to types like INFJ who I meet often, which are supposed to be care if one would look at the statistics. I really sometimes wonder how accurate these statistics are, since I've asked the same thing to quite a lot of people, and all of them also hardly knew any ENFJ's..I've not met anyone who knows mbti who actually knows more than 2 ENFJ's or so..
When looking at personality types, it’s important to remember people will still act differently in different environments. The UA-cam that you mentioned could be under a lot of stress, or might not know online etiquette :) there are always lots of explanations, which is why personality tests are meant to reflect early childhood behaviours, and your are meant to respond with how you tend to act (eg an enfj feeling uncertain at work could display more introverted behaviour0. They could also be borderline enfj too
I believe them to be much more rare than INFJ's, who're always claimed to be the rarest. Think by yourself: How many ENFJ's do you know (anyone) and how many INFJ"s? I'm pretty sure that most people who answer this question will know more INFJ's..
This is so true especially the socializing part. I’ve always wandered about the after party or meetings depression that I get every time I go out ,although I wanted to go in the first place.
Thanks for making these videos when you get the chance! Helpful in digging below the surface understanding of these “types” to get a sense that goes beyond the “stereotype.” Came across it by chance, and makes me question how “F” I really am, which is food for thought...thanks!
Wow this is so me.. that's why I call myself the practical romantic. Going out and then wanting to come home - yes. Not a reckless in the moment person either. Love psychology
Wauw I think I finally found my type and feel understood. Often ENFJ are described as pure extrovert. And I do feel that the people in my life are so important to me, but I always need my alone time to process things. For that I thought that I might be a enfp. But I do need things to be settle and I do wear my heart on my sleeve. People can easily see when I am sad or happy. Thank you so much for this video🙏
I’ve been all over the internet taking this test and I keep getting ENFJ. Honestly thought it was normal, like there is a lot of us out there but the more “research “ I do the more I notice there not many people who are ENFJ or who may have ENFJ 100%.
I'm 100% a enfj I did the test 2 years ago and the same came out. I always thought it's normal to think so much about the people around you and I kinda feel dissapointed and lonely because there are not many enfjs....😢
Finding out all this info about different MBTI types, and what he said really grounded me in the face of it. “Types describe how you interact with the world and other people. Not who you are or what you’re supposed to be.” It’s not a cage that you have to find yourself in. It just attempts to ascribe ways you interact with different aspects of the world, really. A refreshing thing to hear as someone still figuring a lot of stuff out. So don’t go too heavy on the MBTI stuff, guys. ✨💖💜💙 P.S I don’t usually make YT comments lolol
yoo when under duress and having no answers leading to searching online that caught me off guard and struck a nerve,,, well put video you got yourself a sub👏🙌😂
I appreciate the time you took to make this video I’ve always been intrigued by psychology as in NFJ but I was worried whether or not I was romanticizing the career as opposed to actually having a sincere interest in it and more and more as I get older now at 30 I realize that I am activated by people and very visceral way I’d love to learn more about what you think so far in your journey to earning your psychology accreditation
I feel like this is the most well described of th ENFJ not only the description on the whole point of what an ENFJ is like but I love how you're tearing it down to the cognitive function of each aspects of this personality
Whew. Old vlog but find it very interesting. Nicely done! Here I am ENFJ with the compliments and concern for you ;) Recently retired from a massively giving job, and honestly not sure what to do with myself. No plan, no needs from me, kids are moved out, what the heck. I need a new passion obvs, but never been good at self-motivation. Giving myself some time, but so far a mess honestly…
I'm an infp and I have 2 enfj siblings, aswell as a intj friend... so I find it fascinating how my friend, in concept, sees my family and me... love these videos keep it up
About the example on extraverted feeling in regards to opinions, I would like to argue that taking into account the other person's opinion helps steer me in how I share my own. It's not that my opinion change, but my delivery. Most subjects have nuanced answers anyways and listening to others help me see what valuable opinions to share on my part to aid them into understanding my perspective or to boost their own self-image (which in this case is more important of a value than to settle on an independent opinion on a nuanced topic).
It's strange to hear, the thing about supressing some ideas just to not making sb close upset about yourself. As a ENFJ (by 16 personalities test - i make it once a year and have this type still) i must say that's exacly why i broke my relationship with girlfriend, I knew that i would need to supress my needs for fighting for some ideas in world around me or even stop talking about them just for sake of her comfort and not making her mad. It was so hard for me to make those decisions, be always in between love for her and ideas thats needs to be done. I left the relationship and feel somehow better but feel so bad about dissapointing her and her trust in me. But... Things need to be done.
Hello!!! I think you are doing an excellent job with your videos, but I just have one question for you: where do you get all your information from? I've been trying to understand the types, but I simply can't find enough information to gain the level of understanding that you have.
Advait Joshi Good question. Firstly, I am a certified practitioner of the actual MBTI personality inventory. The source book “Gifts Differing” is an absolute must. While not the most accurate source all of the time there are various forums that have good information. Certain aspects of my videos are interpretation of the theory in a way that hopes to explain the theory in a more easily understood manner.
@Chris G - AsuraPsych commenting 4 years later. I did read this book because of your comment and it improved my life immeasurably at the time. My oldest friend sent me a link to Psychological Types by Jung. Time to level up.
I am an ENFJ, and would like to congratulate you on your marriage to one of us! It really bodes well for the rest of your life, as long as you treat her right. 😉
I am ENFJ. And what I realise is that I judge, and as I judge my head start spinning towards solutions and not be biased then start cooperating afterwords we work together and solve problems. My head doesn't start thinking unless if it for the sake of some one.
This would've been me before addressing my trauma caused by childhood emotional neglect and parentification. No more taking care of society's "wet kittens," because people just need to figure out themselves. (And that intuition was my hypervigilance - knowing patterns and managing outcomes.) This way of existing is very unbalanced, and can lead to burnout and resentment.
Recently found myself taking a personality test only to see results as an ENFJ. My temperament test and many months of studying temperaments resulted in.... Sanguine, Phlegmatic 60% each Melancholy, Choleric 40% each At the moment I’m trying to figure out the similarities of my two results. I have recently found joy in understanding why and how people do the things they do. Psychologically that is
I was wondering the samr thing. How different (or similar results) is the popular free test to the oringal Myers Briggs personality test? I hope the publisher of this video responds.
This video explains why I always want to see people, but when I need to get something done (which is most ofthe time), I don't want to see anyone. Idk what type I am for sure tbf, but I took the free online thing and came out enfj.
I've been struggling with my type for a rather long time. So I'd like to ask you what an ENFJ looks like that has mostly been isolated his whole life/repressed empathy due to emotionally hostile family environments. The type seems to fit me quite nicely otherwise.
Sounds a bit like my sister. Me and her are ENFJ’s, but unlike her I am much more open minded and less critical than her. She struggled hard highschool time and kind of isolated herself from people. She told that she feels misunderstood and kind of lost faith in a lot of people. She dug herself deep into Ti that lead to be much more cold and sceptical.
I think an insecure ENFJ has hard time being patient and tries to look for quick answers. Altho I think that wouldn't make the person rude but I think you can see they're disconnected. I'd say that the best way to deal with this is to dumb down your analyticalness and just go thru all the feelings you've had and maybe talk about them with someone. I'm also pretty sure that my type is ENFJ but in this case I guess it doesn't really matter.
I too was raised in a dysfunctional environment. I spent many years afterwards isolating myself and dealing with anxiety until it got to be too much. I went through a lot if therapy to learn how to deal with anxiety and connect with other people and it worked. I've never been happier. I think people like us appreciate kind, loving connection because we rarely had it as children.
I don't get drained after social situations and I tend to crave for more. But having to interact with new people drain me so much because I get extremely shy and anxious if I will say or do something wrong, so I'm usually misunderstood as an introvert. Anyone feel like this too? Or I'm actually alone in this situation...
I feel like INFJs unite the idealistic humanitarianism and empathy between them and both ENFX types in a sort of humane abstraction to a level of profundity whereas ENFJs do what INFJs tend to lack to lack the concrete social confidence and ENFPs the hands-on, non-quirky pragmatism to do by default. I love ENFJs like die.
As one of the Rarest ENFJ 7w8 subtypes I think i should be honest about my Feelings and if someone doesn't go with me it just doesn't I should change cause that would be lying to them
Hi Asura MBTI, Would you please elaborate on the ENFJ propensity to over analyze? Also, what is “introverted thinking fear grip” that ENFJ’s are prone to? I never heard of that before and it sounds interesting. I do suffer from over analyzing peer group conflicts and slights. However, I vehemently disagree with the assertion that logic is not a ENFJ strong suit. I often find myself at odds with many of my peers, who are more emotional debaters - while I can be logical to a fault. Even with topics or values where I feel convinced about, I still can at least understand how my opponent can believe the opposite opinion respectfully and without demonization.
Hi agree. I'm typed by CPT as a divergent ENFJ meaning I can easily present as a Ti dom; indeed Fe acts at the behest of a Ti agenda. For many types the oppositional function sets the standard
I have.a question to the ENFJ in the comment section. I have been placed into this group...i have also gotten INFJ . I fall between both... and i wonder if this is because I’m an ambivert .I am not an introvert or an extrovert. I don’t fall on one side... I’m both....so no matter how many times I do this quiz...i get both 😵😑 One thing i noticed... i am extremely nice. I value education and that people should focus on growth every day. I value harmony above all else. HOWEVER, when i am arguing... and confronted by a toxic person....I’m a straight up savage and will make someone cry (I don’t feel proud about this... but its the reality of things). Recently... someone has been trying to make my group of friends really depressed. I had gotten tired of her tactics...and made sure i cut her off. She went crazy on me...and for the sake of the fact i wanted her to grow...and learn her lesson. I was brutally honest with her about her personality and made her cry. I didn’t feel bad..until i got home. But.. deep down... i value growth and education....so i didn’t regret my choice because I enjoy the challenges in life. Before someone thinks I’m a terrible person, i did this because she spoke poorly about an elderly person who died. She was insensitive to the fact of how she died and i thought it was truly disrespectful to the lady who passed away and the family that must have been affected by the tragedy. :( This scenario makes me wonder if i don’t fall into this group. BUT... everything else....does appear like me... Are there any ENFJ out there who feel that they are tolerable of people...BUT have no tolerance for certain behaviours?
Yes, I am a lot like you too, if I don't like how people treat other people, I'm like you, I cut them out too. I am ENFJ, we love kindness and that is what mostly attracts us to people.
I would like a study done on if an ENFJ male and an ENFJ female have different logical approaches? As an ENFJ male, I am very realistic and give alot of thought before I operate. I take joy in acquiring more wisdom and consider it a necessity to never stop doing that.
I love your content however I'd disagree with the notion that logic isn't an ENFJs strong suit; it's actually the function I possess in the highest magnitude (rated by CPT) and the elucidation of the 'cognitive' ENFJ in general. Ironically on the behaviourally imbued MBTI tests I test as an INTJ as they often conflate behaviour with cognition. Fe and Ti are inextricably linked; indeed Fe acts at the behest of a Ti agenda. My axis is particularly fluid at 50/50 meaning I can easily oscillate on my axis to present as a Ti dom; I'm a fantastic analyst, philosopher, mathematician etc all of which require a high Ti precision. If I wasn't typed by Harry from CPT I'd never have considered ENFJ due to the Ti inferior stereotypes...it's certainly not my weakest link! I'm also an enneagram 5w6; I perhaps don't relate to a lot of the stereotypes in general for this reason. I think it would be worth looking at CPTs fluid Ni-Ti model of as opposed to the static conception of functions operating on a 1,2,3,4 etc basis. The ENFJ has conscious Fe-Se and Ni-Ti (a perceiving function is meaningless without being adjoined to a codec of the same orientation). Sorry I dislike MBTI due to its static nature and the illogicalities thereof for this very reason. It's also worth noting that CPTs empirical studies suggest that the oppositional function is only suppressed in around 20% of people. Ironically my Ni-Ti is by far more convergent and conscious than my Fe-Se primary pairing. I think many, many people mistype due to misconceptions about cognition. I have to say I'm not particularly people centric - I'd prefer to impact society via my Ni-Ti ideations as opposed to working directly with people (I'm a mental health professional & academic researcher). I don't value above all else harmonious interaction but rather the truth, irrespective of how people feel about it; again a well developed Fe (as opposed to people pleasing) acts at the behest of a Ti agenda. I think it's a misnomer to state that ENFJs lead with their emotions & morals first for this reason. It's also worth noting that I have suppressed Fi-Si so establishing what my values & emotions are can be difficult. It may well be fair to say that you're describing a particular subtype (say an ambiverted ENFJ INFP) well but this isn't applicable to all of your ENFJ subtypes; indeed I come across much more as a thinking type. I also wouldn't agree that I necessarily meet a middle ground - my Ti is much more exacting in standards. Oh, it's also worth nothing that Ni is no more subconscious than any other cognitive function and indeed it is highly conscious in my many cognitive types. Ni gets elevated to an insane level in the MBTI community when it's simply the broad internal perception of perceived information; logically speaking Ni isn't adjoined to Fe - you cant adjoin a perceiving function to a codec of the opposite orientation- it simply doesn't make logically cohesive sense. It's also worth noting that the Ni-Ti pairing is concerned, much in the same way as the INFJ, with global far reaching impact as opposed to a more immediate scenario (eg friends co-workers etc - this sounds more like the ESFJ to me). As an ENFJ my Fe-Se isn't as activated hence I'm much more of a social introvert; it's the gateways therefore that defines me as a cognitive ENFJ. Sorry, I didn't really relate to this videos content. The irony being, for say an INTP, Ti acts at the behest of an Fe agenda...I think we're probably the most private of all the types which Harry agrees with hence why, to some extent, material presented on us tends to be way off the mark. Uummmfff, ENFJs don't think through problems from an analytical perspective? Analytics is the bedrock of my cognition. Ti isn't a grip; indeed developing Ti is a necessary pre-requisite towards individuation and a fluid axis, hence I don't abide by MBTIs notion of the 'inferior'.
There are only 4% enfj in the US and there are more female ENFJs than male ENFJs.
Like if u r a male ENFJ ! ! !
I like male ENFJ's.
@@Lady_Jewels what is your type?
@@Roy97h what do you love about it?
So then is it more rare to be an ENFJ male? If so no wonder I feel so damn alone my whole life.
@@volcom05345 according to some internet graphs (for whatever they're worth) ENFJ is one of the least likely to be male of all types, so yes
This is soo true of an ENFJ, sometimes it's hard to make logical decisions because we care too much how other people will feel! Sometimes, I wish I can just think more logically.
Sometimes I wish the same ahah
You are good at making friends so if you do a logical approach, you can start by thinking your friends are just things. Then let your Fe take over. In other words, try to be selfish for no reason.
I wonder if a lot of enfj’s struggle with this as much as we do? Or maybe some just simply make a workaround and learn to be more selfish on a regular basis and only use their fe for their own benefit. It’s ridiculous how much I naturally only want to care about others well being and lose myself.
I'm an INTP and my roommate, who I dated for 6 years is an ENFJ. Nearlynevery time she tells me about her problems I get frustrated because I can't help her. My solutiin is always "Stop caring what other people think" and she just can't do that so she's stuck in a perpetual hell of having to deal with people who she'll hurt or offend no matter what she does.
I have gained an appreciation for dominant Ti.
I feel you, I'm an enfj, but trust me it's a skill you can learn. After making many mistakes in life and with people I had to train myself to think more logically at times. And you can be logical and emotional simultaneously as well
I love the part when you said, that ENFJs think they want to socialize more then thay actually do. This is so true... Everyday I'm like: "Oh my god, I need to go to a party! I need to see people! I miss my friends! I could be partying everyday!" then after the party for 3 days: "Yeah, I hate when there is too much people around"
Lol. Same
I am an ENFJ-T, and I identify with everything that was stated in this video verbatim. The part about seeking social situations, but feeling stressed due to my intuition was particularly true for me. I was wondering if any other ENFJs struggled with social anxiety and experienced difficulties in this area? I desperately want to be around people, but I tend to isolate myself as social situations stress me out and my mind goes into overdrive. It would be really nice to feel like I’m not alone in these experiences. x
Hey! I definitely feel the same way too, social anxieties have always been a struggle in my life! While I love being around people, their opinions on me matters to me so much that it can be suffocating, so I have to constantly remind myself that they probably doesn't even care as much! Haha. Its good to know that we're not alone on this! Meanwhile, im trying my best to make use of my people skills and be a good leader when situations requires it!! ♥️
I have to same problems. I'm an ENFJ, but I was severely bullied in my youth which led to severe social anxiety. I still suffer from it, but my need socialize with others usually helps me push past it. I have to remind myself that most people aren't judging me as much as I'm judging myself. Also, I get depressed when I'm anti-social for too long.
I have high functioning anxiety, I love being around people (that I know or know of) but it does take it's toll on me, I prefer being in social settings with the intention of having something to do but as soon as is hanging out in a relax situation I'm uncomfortable. Confident in my comfort zones but always trying to expand them while learning about what I will want to do again and what I can do but will not enjoy.
I am an ENFJ-T as well and I can completely relate to you. Last year I was invited to a few parties. I REALLY wanted to go and was excited to but the day of a couple of them I pulled out because I was too anxious to go. I have learned to overcome this now but I understand the social anxiety of the situations too.
I'm ENFJ and always considered myself extremely shy person. However, soon I found myself being usually the first to speak up and do things first. Some years ago I've got very into charisma and interacting with people. I think it's all part of me even thought back then I wasn't aware of my type :)
Never seen something describe me so deeply i'm constantly freaked out learning more about my type
I want to know more about your type too 😉
So true. Its freaky how this works as a science.
Same. How hectic is this.
Lol finding that your not alone is a meaningful journey. Hope you've kept growing
I’m ENFJ and an esthetician. I bounced from carpentry at 18. Human Resources in the military, nursing, cosmetology, maid, Walmart, maid, Lyft driver. Now I’m an esthetician and I LOVE IT! I’m proof you can find your dream and there’s nothing wrong quitting to be happy and actually SLEEP at night!
I'm an ENFJ and I'm pretty similar but I'm also interested in so many things to that I bounce around a lot.
LMT ENFJ here lol. I get it.
I just picked up a book called 'Refuse to Choose' by Barbara Sher. It's amazing. I can totally relate to her concept about 'Scanners'. Now that you mention it, maybe it also has something to do with being an ENFJ! :-O Considering you've bounced between different interests and careers, I'd recommend you check out this book! It's been really insightful.
Damn I thought it was just me
Can so relate to you Girl😉❤
I’m an ENFJ male, and just found out that my girlfriend is an ENFJ too. Imagine the chances?
me and my girl too
Jim Aulenti how do you get along? Is it like a perfect understanding between you? I’m excited to hear your feedback.
Adam Collins can you give more details Adam? Inquiry minds want to know.😊
Me and the ex im trying to get back, she just made the test a while ago while we started dating again
You guys are lucky)) Your relationship should be a blast)
As a true ENFJ I indeed am the Giver with a capital G. However, my J is shared 50/50 with the P side and I'm intelligent. Which makes me one of those ENFJ's that are based well in logic and knowledge. Besides that: many ENFJ's work on the thinking side, because of their need to be and catalyze a positive change in the world. Since that works better with actual knowledge, many ENFJ's invest a lot of their time in bettering themselves and their understanding of the world. Because we give with a reason: not to make ourselves poorer, but to make this world better. Not to be taken advantage off, but to lead by example.
Something people don't realize is that, we're good to people but we have our struggles, and it hurts to be an ENFJ sometimes
Why does it hurt?
cuz ppl suck or have needs and that really stresses high Fe users__INFJ.
Big time!!
Oh my gosh. I have never heard someone get into my heart and head so deeply and understand me so well. Unbelievable. Sadly, I’m a turbulent ENFJ and sometimes feel like a walking antenna and damaged goods. I think I have a love/hate relationship with my personality type. 😔
Being turbulent can be an asset, both to the world and to you, if you let it. :)
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Paul-Napoléon Calland Lol Thanx for the encouragement. 😊 My brother is an ENFJ-A and we get along great!
Me too!
I didn’t know there’s another type of ENFJ 🤔 I beginning to think if I’m part of that or not
i just did this test today and i am a protagonist. very accurate to me, i work as a massage therapist and volunteer as an animal rights activist. sounds legit!
Ditto for me.
I am ENFJ. Your analysis is humble and uncomfortably accurate 😉
That is so true I love going out but it’s draining and I have to recover in a sense!!
Spot on great video, It is mad the rarity of ENFJ's probably because their time is so taken up by others their duty never ends haha, and when their not trying to help others they pack in that well deserved down time, to think up more ways to keep progressing on stuff to get better to help more its endless :D
10:34 I’ve never listened to something more in tune with my personality.. wanting to go out and socialize but also not wanting it as bad as I thought and it stressing me out. Him saying you don’t live in the moment as much as you’d like hit different too..
Me and my best friend are ENFJ’s. It is hilarious trying to be nice to one another or take the blame for a problem that occurred. We both end up coming together emotionally and are a really good team.
I am an ENFJ and I recognize myself in all of that! Crazy how personlities can be studied that deeply! I am a 3th year dental student. I think that becoming a dentist will fulfill my need to see people, interact with then and help them (maybe even socially). My boyfriend is in psychology and I think he’s ENFJ too. We both talk so much hahaha! I always considered myself very intuitive and I listen to my heart a lot and at the end, I don’t regret it! People sometimes think I am naive because I care. When I see someone crying, I find myself crying with them, it’s annoying 🤷🏻♀️ please make some other videos about ENFJs.
ENFJ
Warm, empathetic, responsive, and responsible. Highly attuned to the emotions, needs, and motivations of others. Find potential in everyone, want to help others fulfill their potential. May act as catalysts for individual and group growth. Loyal, responsive to praise and criticism. Sociable, facilitate others in a group and provide inspiring leadership.
Another thing I like about ENFJs is how boundary-conscious they are. The most outgoing among them might have a certain tendency to over-share certain things but it’s only out of concern, not a meaningless and poisonous urge to gossip about everyone in their immediate surroundings. Anyone whose dominant function is extraverted sensing I’m going to be wary of by default because they’re the types who value boundaries and confidentiality/personal space the least (by far). Their Se makes them too honed-in to their environment and what everyone in it is saying and doing even if those things bring no value to their internal compass (which is hardly even developed to any appreciable degree in people like that).
TY, I'm feeling validated for my leadership style.
I've been made to think I'm too "soft" "easy" "pushover" as a leader.
My employees claim otherwise...180°
Quite confusing!
Thank you for your help and support to understand what is going on here on Earth! LOL ❤️
Keep up the good work!
Thank you! I'm an ENFJ and am always trying to learn more about my type (and others for that matter) and have learned so much more with your video!
I will say this, not sure it does speak to everybody but am a Gemini+ENFJ, the struggle is real ;)
Thank you for your thorough work
I do have to add that you are describing "me" to a T!
I'm a Gemini+ENFJ as well! :)
I too am a Gemini ENFJ
I describe myself as a 'loved by all, but, hate myself', like a strive for perfection. Make sense ??
Wait..I'm a Gemini ENFJ too!
+jakey1306 exactly
Holy Shit this Video just helped me alot to understand myself better.
I always tested as INFJ but I feel more ENFJ after distancing myself from abusive people.
This by far the best explanation of a personality type I’ve heard. I am ENFJ and you have been a great help
There's a serious lack of ENFJ videos on youtube. It would be cool if there would be more channels. My girlfriend is an ENFJ and although I understand her very well, it would be interesting to see way more examples of what other ENFJ's are like.
I dislike the celebrity-mbti -type-thing, because it's pretty much all speculation and if anything, celebs are great are portreying themselves a certan way, while it's harder to see what they're really like at home.
Since most people who make MBTI videos focus most on their own type, it would be cool to see more ENFJ youtubers
*Any good suggestions of channels I might not know* ??
Hey- we are apparently pretty rare but I agree with you and will keep an eye out as well. Your girlfriend sounds like an awesome lady 🙂👌🏽
Thanks, she is! Yeah, in even in real life I we hardly meet any other ENFJ's as well. We go to mbti meetups and such too, but still the vast majority of people tend to be infps, infjs, enfp's and such..UA-cam is sooo full of infj stuff too. I alwasy find it so odd that I meet so many infj's online as well as in real lifeand hardly any enfj's , while the infj's are supposed to be more rare and you'd expect to find more enfj's outside rather than the introverted infj's...
*Enfj's please make a channel with lots of content! Would be greatly appreciated*
I’m an enfj and I’ve only met one person who is also and he’s one of my best friends. Apparently enfj is the second most rare type among men.
Yeah but even among women I encounter or spot them in such small percentages compared to types like INFJ who I meet often, which are supposed to be care if one would look at the statistics. I really sometimes wonder how accurate these statistics are, since I've asked the same thing to quite a lot of people, and all of them also hardly knew any ENFJ's..I've not met anyone who knows mbti who actually knows more than 2 ENFJ's or so..
When looking at personality types, it’s important to remember people will still act differently in different environments. The UA-cam that you mentioned could be under a lot of stress, or might not know online etiquette :) there are always lots of explanations, which is why personality tests are meant to reflect early childhood behaviours, and your are meant to respond with how you tend to act (eg an enfj feeling uncertain at work could display more introverted behaviour0. They could also be borderline enfj too
Damn... This is the most thorough analysis of ENFJ that I have ever seen. It's a bit frightening and humbling. Well done!
ENFJ here. Thank you for this.
same wow wow wow
Thank you for this video. Like you, I am an INTJ and my longtime partner is an ENFJ so I found this video to be very informative.
Antoine Cooper I’m a ENFJ very interested in an INTJ so this gave me a warm positive outlook on our possible future to read this (:
Antoine Cooper wanna date? Lmao
Jane Doe I know that’s right Jan Doe!
Its so lame that Enfj are so rare
I believe them to be much more rare than INFJ's, who're always claimed to be the rarest. Think by yourself: How many ENFJ's do you know (anyone) and how many INFJ"s? I'm pretty sure that most people who answer this question will know more INFJ's..
Low key it's kinda lonely to not have many peers
ENFJ here.
My manager is an enfj and my one of my college profs is an enfj. Just get better at finding them. It's harder to type people that are like you.
I agree , besides me I've only met 3 other enfjs in my whole life : / surrounded by sensors ,lol ..
Thank you :) Im an enfj and I like this video, clear description and voice.
This is the first video that makes total sense, now I am sure what type I am! Thank you so much, you explain it so well! 🙏🏻
Another epic video man. Love your ways and intuition. Great delivery!
I think ENFJs are more Empathic rather than Sympathic, same with INFJs.
This is so true especially the socializing part.
I’ve always wandered about the after party or meetings depression that I get every time I go out ,although I wanted to go in the first place.
Thanks for making these videos when you get the chance! Helpful in digging below the surface understanding of these “types” to get a sense that goes beyond the “stereotype.” Came across it by chance, and makes me question how “F” I really am, which is food for thought...thanks!
Wow this is so me.. that's why I call myself the practical romantic. Going out and then wanting to come home - yes. Not a reckless in the moment person either. Love psychology
Wauw I think I finally found my type and feel understood. Often ENFJ are described as pure extrovert. And I do feel that the people in my life are so important to me, but I always need my alone time to process things. For that I thought that I might be a enfp. But I do need things to be settle and I do wear my heart on my sleeve. People can easily see when I am sad or happy. Thank you so much for this video🙏
Take the Myers Briggs personality test free online and you'll find out exactly what your personality type is.
I’ve been all over the internet taking this test and I keep getting ENFJ. Honestly thought it was normal, like there is a lot of us out there but the more “research “ I do the more I notice there not many people who are ENFJ or who may have ENFJ 100%.
I'm 100% a enfj I did the test 2 years ago and the same came out. I always thought it's normal to think so much about the people around you and I kinda feel dissapointed and lonely because there are not many enfjs....😢
I took the test 3 times from two different websites. It’s crazy how I got this consistently. I do think our way of thinking changes every 7 years.
Finding out all this info about different MBTI types, and what he said really grounded me in the face of it.
“Types describe how you interact with the world and other people. Not who you are or what you’re supposed to be.”
It’s not a cage that you have to find yourself in. It just attempts to ascribe ways you interact with different aspects of the world, really. A refreshing thing to hear as someone still figuring a lot of stuff out. So don’t go too heavy on the MBTI stuff, guys. ✨💖💜💙 P.S I don’t usually make YT comments lolol
Harmony yes. Emotionally healthy yes.
Thanks for posting this video - I’m an ENFJ, and this really resonated with me.
woah, spot on! Thanks for the video. Found my type today. You ROCK
yoo when under duress and having no answers leading to searching online that caught me off guard and struck a nerve,,, well put video you got yourself a sub👏🙌😂
Really well said. This is the best MBTI video I’ve ever watched!
ENFJ Girl group?? 😀
Minoo Tait lets do it!
Breaking off relationships of any sort hurts haha...ENFJ here
I appreciate the time you took to make this video I’ve always been intrigued by psychology as in NFJ but I was worried whether or not I was romanticizing the career as opposed to actually having a sincere interest in it and more and more as I get older now at 30 I realize that I am activated by people and very visceral way I’d love to learn more about what you think so far in your journey to earning your psychology accreditation
My best blessing but my worst curse too.With the feeling people cannot just understand me.
I feel like this is the most well described of th ENFJ not only the description on the whole point of what an ENFJ is like but I love how you're tearing it down to the cognitive function of each aspects of this personality
Wow this was great, I am an ENFJ and I feel this video so accurate right on target. Thanks
*This. Is. So. True.*
- ENFJ
Whew. Old vlog but find it very interesting. Nicely done! Here I am ENFJ with the compliments and concern for you ;)
Recently retired from a massively giving job, and honestly not sure what to do with myself. No plan, no needs from me, kids are moved out, what the heck. I need a new passion obvs, but never been good at self-motivation. Giving myself some time, but so far a mess honestly…
I'm an infp and I have 2 enfj siblings, aswell as a intj friend... so I find it fascinating how my friend, in concept, sees my family and me... love these videos keep it up
Appreciate the positive feedback, thanks for watching!
Nodding my head throughly at min 5.08 - yours, ENFJ-T
ENFJ and I’m gonna be a psychiatric nurse! Talk about fitting.
Thank you for the explanation. Now I understand myself better. :)
About the example on extraverted feeling in regards to opinions, I would like to argue that taking into account the other person's opinion helps steer me in how I share my own. It's not that my opinion change, but my delivery. Most subjects have nuanced answers anyways and listening to others help me see what valuable opinions to share on my part to aid them into understanding my perspective or to boost their own self-image (which in this case is more important of a value than to settle on an independent opinion on a nuanced topic).
I'm an enfj. This is the most accurate and clear breakdown I have ever heard. Thank you!
A little sense of humor really goes a long way
It's strange to hear, the thing about supressing some ideas just to not making sb close upset about yourself. As a ENFJ (by 16 personalities test - i make it once a year and have this type still) i must say that's exacly why i broke my relationship with girlfriend, I knew that i would need to supress my needs for fighting for some ideas in world around me or even stop talking about them just for sake of her comfort and not making her mad. It was so hard for me to make those decisions, be always in between love for her and ideas thats needs to be done. I left the relationship and feel somehow better but feel so bad about dissapointing her and her trust in me. But... Things need to be done.
This is the best one I’ve watched so far 👏
Good job, man. Keep 'em coming. Enjoyed it.
From an ENFJ
Hello!!! I think you are doing an excellent job with your videos, but I just have one question for you: where do you get all your information from?
I've been trying to understand the types, but I simply can't find enough information to gain the level of understanding that you have.
Advait Joshi Good question. Firstly, I am a certified practitioner of the actual MBTI personality inventory.
The source book “Gifts Differing” is an absolute must.
While not the most accurate source all of the time there are various forums that have good information.
Certain aspects of my videos are interpretation of the theory in a way that hopes to explain the theory in a more easily understood manner.
Check out Cognitive Personality Theory 😊
@Chris G - AsuraPsych commenting 4 years later. I did read this book because of your comment and it improved my life immeasurably at the time. My oldest friend sent me a link to Psychological Types by Jung. Time to level up.
I am an ENFJ, and would like to congratulate you on your marriage to one of us! It really bodes well for the rest of your life, as long as you treat her right. 😉
My friends even my senior at university called me "mom"...
I am ENFJ. And what I realise is that I judge, and as I judge my head start spinning towards solutions and not be biased then start cooperating afterwords we work together and solve problems. My head doesn't start thinking unless if it for the sake of some one.
This would've been me before addressing my trauma caused by childhood emotional neglect and parentification. No more taking care of society's "wet kittens," because people just need to figure out themselves. (And that intuition was my hypervigilance - knowing patterns and managing outcomes.) This way of existing is very unbalanced, and can lead to burnout and resentment.
Recently found myself taking a personality test only to see results as an ENFJ.
My temperament test and many months of studying temperaments resulted in....
Sanguine, Phlegmatic 60% each
Melancholy, Choleric 40% each
At the moment I’m trying to figure out the similarities of my two results. I have recently found joy in understanding why and how people do the things they do. Psychologically that is
Great video. Love the S/N preference visual
The very fact I came on here because I did a search validates that I’m an ENFJ😂
hey you said 16 personality test is not appropriate, what you recommend personally. I tested ENFJ on it. I want to reconfirm. Thanks
I was wondering the samr thing. How different (or similar results) is the popular free test to the oringal Myers Briggs personality test? I hope the publisher of this video responds.
Try IDRLabs. So far, they gave me the same results as the 16 personality test.
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I took the test 5 years ago. I am now 45... I think I’ll take the test again. I have matured a lot . #Latebloomer Thank you
Great video!! I really like your voice!! Go you!!
This video explains why I always want to see people, but when I need to get something done (which is most ofthe time), I don't want to see anyone.
Idk what type I am for sure tbf, but I took the free online thing and came out enfj.
ENFJ-A 8w7 male, life is INTERESTING and sometimes lonely
Omggg sameee
This is so true and accurate!
So would it be a bad idea to work in the IT environment? Maybe IT support or IT consulting? Yes I am an ENFJ
I’m always either this or debater depending where I am in life lol
Same. I can't figure it out.
Thank you for creating this video!! I found it very interesting
I've been struggling with my type for a rather long time. So I'd like to ask you what an ENFJ looks like that has mostly been isolated his whole life/repressed empathy due to emotionally hostile family environments. The type seems to fit me quite nicely otherwise.
Sounds a bit like my sister. Me and her are ENFJ’s, but unlike her I am much more open minded and less critical than her. She struggled hard highschool time and kind of isolated herself from people. She told that she feels misunderstood and kind of lost faith in a lot of people. She dug herself deep into Ti that lead to be much more cold and sceptical.
I think an insecure ENFJ has hard time being patient and tries to look for quick answers. Altho I think that wouldn't make the person rude but I think you can see they're disconnected. I'd say that the best way to deal with this is to dumb down your analyticalness and just go thru all the feelings you've had and maybe talk about them with someone.
I'm also pretty sure that my type is ENFJ but in this case I guess it doesn't really matter.
I too was raised in a dysfunctional environment. I spent many years afterwards isolating myself and dealing with anxiety until it got to be too much. I went through a lot if therapy to learn how to deal with anxiety and connect with other people and it worked. I've never been happier. I think people like us appreciate kind, loving connection because we rarely had it as children.
One subscribe for you, really enjoyed the video, ENFJ in here
I don't get drained after social situations and I tend to crave for more. But having to interact with new people drain me so much because I get extremely shy and anxious if I will say or do something wrong, so I'm usually misunderstood as an introvert. Anyone feel like this too? Or I'm actually alone in this situation...
I relate
I feel like INFJs unite the idealistic humanitarianism and empathy between them and both ENFX types in a sort of humane abstraction to a level of profundity whereas ENFJs do what INFJs tend to lack to lack the concrete social confidence and ENFPs the hands-on, non-quirky pragmatism to do by default. I love ENFJs like die.
As one of the Rarest ENFJ 7w8 subtypes I think i should be honest about my Feelings and if someone doesn't go with me it just doesn't I should change cause that would be lying to them
Brilliant insightful video thank you
I bought the book Gifts Differing and it’s quite interesting!
very informative, thank you.
Hi Asura MBTI,
Would you please elaborate on the ENFJ propensity to over analyze? Also, what is “introverted thinking fear grip” that ENFJ’s are prone to? I never heard of that before and it sounds interesting.
I do suffer from over analyzing peer group conflicts and slights. However, I vehemently disagree with the assertion that logic is not a ENFJ strong suit. I often find myself at odds with many of my peers, who are more emotional debaters - while I can be logical to a fault. Even with topics or values where I feel convinced about, I still can at least understand how my opponent can believe the opposite opinion respectfully and without demonization.
Hi agree. I'm typed by CPT as a divergent ENFJ meaning I can easily present as a Ti dom; indeed Fe acts at the behest of a Ti agenda. For many types the oppositional function sets the standard
I have.a question to the ENFJ in the comment section. I have been placed into this group...i have also gotten INFJ . I fall between both... and i wonder if this is because I’m an ambivert .I am not an introvert or an extrovert. I don’t fall on one side... I’m both....so no matter how many times I do this quiz...i get both 😵😑
One thing i noticed... i am extremely nice. I value education and that people should focus on growth every day. I value harmony above all else. HOWEVER, when i am arguing... and confronted by a toxic person....I’m a straight up savage and will make someone cry (I don’t feel proud about this... but its the reality of things). Recently... someone has been trying to make my group of friends really depressed. I had gotten tired of her tactics...and made sure i cut her off. She went crazy on me...and for the sake of the fact i wanted her to grow...and learn her lesson. I was brutally honest with her about her personality and made her cry. I didn’t feel bad..until i got home. But.. deep down... i value growth and education....so i didn’t regret my choice because I enjoy the challenges in life. Before someone thinks I’m a terrible person, i did this because she spoke poorly about an elderly person who died. She was insensitive to the fact of how she died and i thought it was truly disrespectful to the lady who passed away and the family that must have been affected by the tragedy. :(
This scenario makes me wonder if i don’t fall into this group. BUT... everything else....does appear like me...
Are there any ENFJ out there who feel that they are tolerable of people...BUT have no tolerance for certain behaviours?
Yes, I am a lot like you too, if I don't like how people treat other people, I'm like you, I cut them out too. I am ENFJ, we love kindness and that is what mostly attracts us to people.
Are you a Virgo by chance?
damn he straight up roasted me
I would like a study done on if an ENFJ male and an ENFJ female have different logical approaches? As an ENFJ male, I am very realistic and give alot of thought before I operate. I take joy in acquiring more wisdom and consider it a necessity to never stop doing that.
I’m a ENFJ-D
It’s a lonely world. !!!
Traisee Kirkwood why? Lmao you all complain so much
I future feel a lot!! It’s helps me manage!! Less future past regrets lol lol
Lots of sighs and gasps while listening to this lol.
Thank you for the video! I am an enfj. Can you elaborate or point me to more info what you mentioned at 13:24? Thanks again
I love your content however I'd disagree with the notion that logic isn't an ENFJs strong suit; it's actually the function I possess in the highest magnitude (rated by CPT) and the elucidation of the 'cognitive' ENFJ in general. Ironically on the behaviourally imbued MBTI tests I test as an INTJ as they often conflate behaviour with cognition. Fe and Ti are inextricably linked; indeed Fe acts at the behest of a Ti agenda. My axis is particularly fluid at 50/50 meaning I can easily oscillate on my axis to present as a Ti dom; I'm a fantastic analyst, philosopher, mathematician etc all of which require a high Ti precision. If I wasn't typed by Harry from CPT I'd never have considered ENFJ due to the Ti inferior stereotypes...it's certainly not my weakest link! I'm also an enneagram 5w6; I perhaps don't relate to a lot of the stereotypes in general for this reason. I think it would be worth looking at CPTs fluid Ni-Ti model of as opposed to the static conception of functions operating on a 1,2,3,4 etc basis. The ENFJ has conscious Fe-Se and Ni-Ti (a perceiving function is meaningless without being adjoined to a codec of the same orientation). Sorry I dislike MBTI due to its static nature and the illogicalities thereof for this very reason. It's also worth noting that CPTs empirical studies suggest that the oppositional function is only suppressed in around 20% of people. Ironically my Ni-Ti is by far more convergent and conscious than my Fe-Se primary pairing. I think many, many people mistype due to misconceptions about cognition. I have to say I'm not particularly people centric - I'd prefer to impact society via my Ni-Ti ideations as opposed to working directly with people (I'm a mental health professional & academic researcher). I don't value above all else harmonious interaction but rather the truth, irrespective of how people feel about it; again a well developed Fe (as opposed to people pleasing) acts at the behest of a Ti agenda. I think it's a misnomer to state that ENFJs lead with their emotions & morals first for this reason. It's also worth noting that I have suppressed Fi-Si so establishing what my values & emotions are can be difficult. It may well be fair to say that you're describing a particular subtype (say an ambiverted ENFJ INFP) well but this isn't applicable to all of your ENFJ subtypes; indeed I come across much more as a thinking type. I also wouldn't agree that I necessarily meet a middle ground - my Ti is much more exacting in standards. Oh, it's also worth nothing that Ni is no more subconscious than any other cognitive function and indeed it is highly conscious in my many cognitive types. Ni gets elevated to an insane level in the MBTI community when it's simply the broad internal perception of perceived information; logically speaking Ni isn't adjoined to Fe - you cant adjoin a perceiving function to a codec of the opposite orientation- it simply doesn't make logically cohesive sense. It's also worth noting that the Ni-Ti pairing is concerned, much in the same way as the INFJ, with global far reaching impact as opposed to a more immediate scenario (eg friends co-workers etc - this sounds more like the ESFJ to me). As an ENFJ my Fe-Se isn't as activated hence I'm much more of a social introvert; it's the gateways therefore that defines me as a cognitive ENFJ. Sorry, I didn't really relate to this videos content. The irony being, for say an INTP, Ti acts at the behest of an Fe agenda...I think we're probably the most private of all the types which Harry agrees with hence why, to some extent, material presented on us tends to be way off the mark. Uummmfff, ENFJs don't think through problems from an analytical perspective? Analytics is the bedrock of my cognition. Ti isn't a grip; indeed developing Ti is a necessary pre-requisite towards individuation and a fluid axis, hence I don't abide by MBTIs notion of the 'inferior'.
very very good analysis!
Don’t forget Fi is a total wild card in the sense that those values can be almost exactly like that of an fe user or even a ti user…
Why does mayer brigs test only state a possitive, i feel its important to know the negatives too
cause the testa are absolute SHITE
It does offer negatives too... Theres a part that shows the weaknesses of a particular personallity type..
Wow that was accurate in a scary way (astrology who??)
Omg can so relate on every level!
Just subscribed. Really liked it. Could you someday please make an INFJ part?
My worst fear is to turn into a dark ENFJ