How to Become An Adult
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- Опубліковано 5 лют 2025
- Check out Ilene Cooper's An Angel in My Pocket: dft.ba/-TCa or if you prefer easy readers, Lucy on the Loose! dft.ba/-TCd Or if you prefer picture books, The Golden Rule! dft.ba/-TCf
They're all great, and I'm not just saying that because Ilene Cooper made my whole life possible.
In which John talks about the crushing monotony and paralyzing terror of one's first years entering the post-school world of grown-ups, and how getting a mentor, like the one John found in the author Ilene Cooper, can get you through.
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9 years ago, I was 22, unemployed, very broke, and completely paralyzed by terror. This video made me feel much less alone. Today, my baby puked on my face. After cleaning us both up, I thought, "John Green was right. This is definitely better than any day in my early twenties." Adulthood really does get a lot better.
Thank you for sharing!
this is such sweet story and comment
25, recently graduated and unemployed. Attending a few interviews but law is conpetitive and now in a recession. Quite scared as I hated my first job and currently woke up from a nightmare and found this video! I agree with the terror and monotony it feels very lonely and I feel inadequate. Nice to think it isn't just a me issue.
I needed to be told this thank you
"Find someone who's doing something you want to do better than you can do it, and listen to them."
I don't know why but I feel the need of take this phrase, write it on my wall and read it every time I wake up.
My best friend was exactly that for me with art hahaa
How is it going buddy
You should write a guide book called "Looking for Ilene" with guidelines on how to acquire this mystic all knowing figure!
5 years later there's a movie based on Miss Peregrine's Home For Peculiar Children. Well fucking done man
Neon Markov he didn't write the book
Eliza Pancakes He helped the guy who did. He says so in the video
sorry i'm lazy
Wait a minute, I've been watching VB for 2 months and I've just noticed this was John Green
Ya? How did you figure that out? Here is a better question. How did you not notice before now?
(Not to sound mean or anything in any of this. I'm sorry if it seems like I'm trying to be that is the last thing I want.)
Because everyone's favorite Green brother is Hank.
+Thallanar Rabidtooth not everyone's ;)
Something I thought a couple years ago: "Wait, the author John Green and the Crash Course guy John Green are the same guy? I can't believe I had no idea."
J.R. Hanvy OH MY FUCKING GOD, SAME. I have been taking important and serious advice for my life from someone I considered a shit author.
I truly do not know nothing.
It appears we are slowly destroying John with our Demands.
Tibees!! I love your videos and your personality so much and it's such an awesome moment for me to find you here in a channel I love(after 9 years but that's okay I guess lol)!!
hello verified person
This very accurately describes the experience I had during my first two years out of college. The part you left out is how fantastic it feels when you first realize you are accomplishing all of these things regularly on your own. Don't get me wrong. There's still the crushing fear that you will soon fail and lose all of this, but you're doing it for now. That's such an exciting thing.
Amazing co-workers is arguably better than an amazing job
At some phases of life yes, but sometimes challenging coworkers and difficult situations teach you more about yourself and mature you in interacting with diversity. Not everyone is like you, nor will you click with everyone. Everyone has their own walk in life etc
I certainly wouldn’t encourage you to seek out problems or stay long term in a poor career choice but them happening does bring some longer term value.
How to become an adult:
1. You never truly become an "adult," or how Americans define it. You are more or less molded by society and the people you interact with on a daily basis.
2. Find a job that'll keep you stable, an then go onto what you want to do (basically what John said).
3. This isn't really a "how to become an adult" video, this is more of a "how to survive modern society" video, which is more or less the same thing.
And 4. Thank you for making this video regardless. It helped me figure out a few things I was having problems with (I'm in college).
My definition of an adult:
Have papers that make you an adult.
Be a kid (in heart).
My definition of an adult (as 18 year old college student) is that you know yourself better then your parents know you
I've been and adult since I was 13, then.
This is the stuff kids should be taught in school. Not rocks and frogs.
@TAG I'm 24. I have a degree. I was sheltered and this didn't allow me to think for myself. I know how to apply for a job, pay taxes, file taxes, FAFSA, bank account, but I wanna learn to be responsible. I want to be able to live my life on my own and not depend on my parents. I just need to get mentally well and stable. If I can get well, I will feel better.
I watched this video 5 years ago as a community college student and now I have left school and found a job and I am still trying to find my Iline. Thanks for believing in us John.
hows the road of life treated you
"I wonder if I can take it down a button. No." So modest John. :)
I like the small moments like that when I can appreciate your humor (and good looks). You're clearly an interesting person on every level, especially intellectually (engaging thought-provoking) and emotionally (clever, humorous, empathetic).
(Not hitting on you. I'm happily engaged. You have traits I admire in a friend or mentor and hope to continue to develop throughout my lifetime)
I finding disappointing that even today people have to specify that they are not hitting on someone. It's as if you can only compliment someone you are romantically interested in. That is such a disappointing aspect of humanity.
annabelle mayes I don't understand what you said. When a person complments other person, he has to say on what is complimenting him. For example you could compliment this guy for being good talking, or for having smart arguments, or for having good video edition.
+Peter Castle I just mean that at my school I'm in band and whenever I compliment a guy on what he is playing everyone assumes that I like him and pick on me. it feels like I can't be nice to people without them thinking I like that person
I understand your frustration. I don't know if you realized but normally when girls flirt with guys, they don't say things like "i'm atracted to you" or "i want you to be my boyfriend". They are much more sutile. They pay attention to the guy and make them feel special. That confuses the guys sometimes and they don't know if the girls are flirting or complimenting.
Althought of course, sometimes what you are saying happens. But just in case, guys hit on you.
If you think they hit on you, just denied them and not more problems.
I see your point. Thanks Peter Castle
I was thinking about this video today after a rough morning at work so I looked it up on my break...This describes exactly how I've felt for the past few months and I spend a great deal of time most days reminding myself that this is a phase, this is an investment in my future, that it is temporary and eventually things will get better. Thanks, John, for making this video :)
John and Hank teach me more about life than any of my University classes will ever teach me.
please make a vid about how to become a child again
I didn’t find an Ilene but he’s not wrong about time. I was 32 before I found a stable relationship and that was after I worked on myself. But I’m in a much better place now in life and things are the best they’ve ever been.
"Find someone thats doing something that you want to do better than you can do it, and listen to them"
Got it
Been playing this on repeat in the background all day to give me the strength to keep going making these costumes for a documentary that films next week. Being responsible for things is HARD, this video is so assuring :)
What era costumes?
-Step 1: Find a Senpai
-Step 2: Let him/her notice you
notice me, Ilene-senpai!
Leave the internet and never come back
The other person who commented a reply seems to not understand the internet and it's culture. Stay on the internet and never leave! well, probably leave sometimes. Meals, and bathroom breaks and that jargon.
i'm leaving for a meal right now :P
thx btw (y)
I owe Ilene a lot because Looking For Alaska is one of my favorite books. Not only did it kill a lot of my time, but also did it kill a ton of my immaturity. A watershed between who I was and who I am. Thank you Ilene Cooper, and Thank you John.
Finally found back the first vlogbrothers video I have seen. So proud
I had no idea you were THAT John Green! I've been watching John and Hank for over a year now. Found my way here from SCISHOW (one of my favorite youtube channels) and this whole time, I didn't know that John was the author of Looking for Alaska. I had to go to my bookshelf and check when he said that. BTW, great book. One of my favs.
Church dude how did it take you this long.... *recollects on all previous stupidity*..... Ight maybe you have a point
That advice at the end sounds a lot like the poster that once hung in my math class in 8th grade. "Surround yourself with who you want to be." I've unconsciously followed that advice since then.
All the comments are like 4-9 years ago and I feel like I've chanced upon an isolated city which had people moving around and talking before and now it's empty...someone join me here!!
Hi!
@@matthewcox4997 woahh didn't think anyone will reply!! Hii
@@riddhimanna8437 Dude how are u doing now ?
John, I'll be graduating soon, and I already feel that crushing terror. Thanks for summing up all the things I get to look forward to.
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now.
I have an outline to do for a research paper right now! And I've been watching vlogbrothers and Crash Course for six hours. Crap.
I do this too much, too... ): making the excuse that it is educational... bah.
Ehh it can wait till the end of this video.
nenasolamor If you have a mac, install selfcontrolapp.com/. It is genuinely helpful.
Scarves 'n' Converse Sounds like you need an Ilene
i'm trying to do homework while listening to john and hank talking about random things and needless to say, i keep getting distracted.
I cannot agree more with that statement *glances at textbook on the table*
Yes, the textbooks are distracting.
What is sadder is that I am trying to play Pokemon, while watching the Vlogbrothers ... not getting too much done on the Pokemon game. I think the Vlogbrothers need to make a crash course on computer programming, then I'll watch that instead of reading text books :p
Crushing monotomy and paralyzing terror.
That's a nice summary.
Hope your hand heals quickly. I'm a nerdfighter, new grad, occupational therapist and I adore my first real-world job (if anyone potentially reading is considering a career in OT it certainly not monotonous and extremly fulfilling).
I watch this video very often, and john pretty much helps me out of my own crushing monotony and paralyzing terror.
This makes me feel mildly better about my life right now Thank you.
got these right:
"crushing monotony or paralyzing terror"
20% unemployed, 100% underemployed
and useful advice:
you need time & you need an "Ilene"
I TOTALLY FORGOT THAT YOU JOHN GREEN AND LOOKIN FOR ALASKA JOHN GREEN ARE THE SAME JOHN GREEN
HELLO
I've watched this video a few times over, and it makes me feel better every time. I am an older student who is FINALLY almost graduated. I also am a writer(i have 60 pages done on my novel!) and am glad to know that if I persevere, I will get there eventually. And I have friends who are like Ilene's to me right now, editing and giving advice(thank god for being friends with college english professors!). I hope to be published one day and end the crushing monotony..until then, thank you! DFTBA.
The timing in which I just watched this video is amazing. Thanks for quelling my fears about post-college life.
"Find someone who's doing something you want to do better than you can do it, and listen to them."
Now I just need to find what I want to do.
Finally someone who commented recently!! Thanks to you I feel less weird here as all the comments are from 4-9 years ago!
@@riddhimanna8437 I've only recently become a nerdfighter. But if there's one thing I've learned, it's that you're not alone in this community
@@jackdimmock same here! I have read John's books before but found out about the channel only recently and I love it here!! Thanks for making me feel welcome to the community!
you know your life is screwed when youre watching a video teaching you how be an adult
For some reason I really enjoy adulthood. I graduated from university about a year ago, since then I've gotten a job, saved money and started travelling. I'm currently in Australia and during the past 4 months of travelling I've figured out what kind of jobs I'd like to do the rest of my life:) Nothing's set in stone, but at least I have some ideas and that's very comforting. Thanks for the tip btw, I'm looking forward to meeting someone who's doing my dream job so I can ask them for advice and tips and stuff=) I want to be a(production designer - if anyone knows someone, give me a shout!) DFTBA!
I would love to do that in the future. Save money after school and spend a couple of years traveling. Tell me, how did you do it? How did you save money for that? It's something I've thought about doing as well, but it always seemed like a naive thing to think about. Plus there's money and employment to think about. Can you tell me how you did it?
Haha yes! I honestly got very lucky, because my parents didn't mind me moving back in with them for over a year(A) This way I barely had to pay for anything while working a full-time job, so I could save heaps. I also saved money during university, working several jobs, and yes, I do have student loans to pay off, but I'll worry about that later:$ My plan was to travel about a year, but I found a job (minimum wage though) in New Zealand and I'll be staying here for a couple more months:) Just try and live a low-budget lifestyle as well, it's totally worth it! I mean, make your travels your priority when making decisions; do you really need that cup of starbucks coffee or can you just whip something up at home?;) Every little bit helps:) Also, that job I had whilst living with my parents again, I absolutely hated it (long hours/minimum wage), but I just kept thinking of Australia & New Zealand and how it would totally be worth it at some point - which it truly is! That's just the money/employment part.. The hardest thing for me was saying goodbye to my family and friends and actually board that plane. I kept thinking about a line in Paper Towns: “It is so hard to leave-until you leave. And then it is the easiest goddamned thing in the world.” Which is totally true:) At first I had no idea what I was doing, but it's a risk you have to take I guess.. It's scary, but you know what they say: Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone;) I hope you get to travel some day! It's the best experience of my life and I wish everyone could have a similar experience:D Good luck!=)
About how much did you save? And thank you for answering. I was legitimately curious. I'll keep that in mind. I don't know WHEN I will have a chance to do it, but I will. Right now, I just graduated high school and I'm about to start college (a technical, two-year school, but I plan to transfer to University after). I'm waiting until I settle into school before I find a job and I still live with my grandparents (my guardians).
It's scary to me because I feel like I'm being thrust out into this adult world with no preparations. Even if I did get a chance to travel, I don't know how well equipped I would be to handle it. I was very sheltered as a child, and it's starting to bite me in the rear. I don't know what I even want to do as far as career goals or college majors, but I know that I want to breakaway from my family eventually, but sadly I'm not in that position yet where I'm able to do so.
My hope is that after transferring to University in two years, I will have sustained a good enough income where I can live on my own in either in an apartment or college dorm, and work my way there. I don't even know where I want to travel exactly, but it's thrilling to think about, but terrifying as well. I must sound totally childish and naive, but I agree with you: if ever given the opportunity to travel, one should take it!
Sorry for the novel. I'm just venting some of my insecurities to some kind stranger on the interwebs.. You know, the usual. :)
Hello!
Sorry for the late reply:) I had about 6000 euros in savings when I got on that first plane, so I'd already spent about 4500 on plane tickets, visas, bus tickets, vaccinations & basic travel gear.. It's definitely expensive (all my savings have magically disappeared in about 6 months, so that's kind of saddening) but like I said before, it's totally worth it! Also, I currently have a job, so I'm saving once again;)
I know the feeling, I never knew for sure when I was gonna go, but at some point I made it more of a goal than a dream, I just realised that after uni I wanted to save money as fast as I could, and then leave:) That sounds like a good idea though, getting used to a new school and settling into a new life style takes its time. the job'll come later:)
Trust me, you don't sound childish and naive to me, I've always felt the same way..;) Of course it's all very scary, but that's the good thing of having a dream so big & expensive; you can grow into it;) The closer you get, the more prepared & 'ready' you'll feel - although I still felt unprepared, but I guess that's normal.. I had already lived without my family (even abroad), but nothing can truly prepare you for this travel-lifestyle. You'll learn as you go;) As far as career goals go, I'm still pretty clueless myself.. I've decided to just trust my instincts (something I learned while travelling) and just do whatever I think will make me happy. If I find that I'm not happy, I'll keep looking;)
Haha using the interwebs to vent to strangers is one of the reasons I love this place so much:') Good luck with all your plans:D You'll find a place to travel to, the world is filled with fantastic locations:D If you ever want to talk more, you know where to find me:) Also, I make videos about my travels, they're all up on my channel, so if you want to get some inspiration^^ I'm sure it'll all work out for you:) Maybe not in the way you'd originally planned it, but you'll get there one way or another:D (that's something I learned as well, life always works itself out & dreams really can come true:P) I sounds like such a cheeseball, but I really do mean everything I say:) )
Thank you so much for making this. I'm currently a junior in college who still has no idea what she wants to do when she graduates in two years and it is absolutely terrifying. I really appreciate the advice.
i'm finishing up college and in my first full time job and i have been basically watching this a couple times a month since I started my job in December. thank you
Where do I find an Ilene, but for youtube?
well looks like you found one
You know, after watching this videos, I start to feel that I am very fortunate that I never feel as bad as John did after I graduated from university. Not that I am successful in anyway right now, but well, I am a lucky guy to get a rather comfortable job and it's well paid.
And btw, I am still looking for my Ilene.
when I was in the "middle grade" my reading level was actually already above high school level...oops
I am in the class where our test scores are above the average high school senior level and collage reading levels... I am in the seventh grade
Kellie Beam If you actually were in such a class, you would understand the difference between a collage and a college.
John DuBeau It is a simple typo. A mistake of the brain. What is your problem?
John DuBeau A collage is pictures. College is school.
#butyoualreadyknewthat
Dude, mine was college level in Elementary School.
I am sitting in the freshman dorm I have inhabited for about two weeks now, just barely getting over the crushing terror of living away from home, trying not to think about the crushing terror of living on my own in a few years...
And your video makes me feel a little less terrified.
So thank you.
Thanks so much John. This is helpful. I'll be ending the monotony and entering the terror in the spring when I graduate for the final time. Thank you for comforting all us growing-ups.
so basically, an "ilene" is a senpai
You would be surprised about how far from Ilene actual Japanese senpai are. Basically I was thinking about them at the "paralyzing terror" part
yeah a mentor..
Two months away from entering the CMAPT life and I'm NOT looking forward to it. :( NEED TO GET MYSELF AN ILENE !! -_-
Do you mean adulthood gets much, much better "IF" you make money, and much, much worse if you do not make money?
I NEED AN ILENE!
Ditto.
I just wanted to stress that while you are not my Ilene, you are my Ilene. Your books have changed my life, and you talk how I think. I like that more than I like writing. And that's a lot. Thank you so much, John.
I do the same thing! I'm just out of college and searching (a bit frantically) for jobs right now, while trying to also continue my writing...It's so difficult to not get discouraged. Every time I start to feel too overwhelmed/anxious, I watch this video. It always helps.
How are you doing now?
How to find Ilene
+ranmaster27 Get a job in a field you love and find a mentor figure.
YES SIR!
I work at my college, and a lot of my job is typing 8-digit student ID numbers into a database. XD #relatable
I keep my "adult" side for playing a "professional" when needed. Otherwise, I just be the crazy nerdy dork I am. I make all the money I want without so much social conformity. Turns out, other people who play "professional" rather enjoy someone who is not scared to do business while hardly playing a professional.
I just graduated college with paralyzing terror, $20k worth of loan debt, and a piece of paper that says it was worth it that hasn't even come in the mail yet. So, thank you, John Green! Your words are comforting. Now I've just got to find an Ilene...
I graduated in May. Totally needed this video. Life is lame right now, but I have hopeeeeeee.
I wanna be a professional reader. Now that would be a good job
Editor?
How do i find an ilene
The angel in my pocket in your pants?
I actually teared up watching this because you just described me and my current situation, so thank you for talking to all us almost adults :)
Thank you so much for this reminder. I am a teacher, recovering from a few bad years at that. It was initially more of a settling after getting out of school and deciding I didn't really want to be a writer. Oops. But I kept at it, found out teaching is pretty rad, and now I do that and break up the monotony with a few bands I do. Your videos have always been helpful to remind me about the fight for awesome, but this struck me as even more. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
John, don't feel bad about the face puke... when I was a baby I puked in my mother's mouth.
omigosh
omg. I puked in my dad's mouth as a baby. The funniest part was my mom had just fed me and TOLD him, but he ignored her!
why do you talk that fast?
Your brain goes much faster than speech, do you know how inconvenient that is? So we speak faster to get our information across faster.
Yes, I know our brain is faster than speech. But here, I can hardly understand what he is saying. I like to understand every word when I am listening to someone.
Video -> Settings -> Playback Speed -> 0.5?
Hmm -- that's a bit too slow, 0.8 would be nice. I'll look in to a solution :)
Thanks for suggestion
Do you know how to execute javascript on a page? This will run the video at 90 percent of the speed.
$('.html5-video-container video').playbackRate = 0.9
oh hey.....i see a pony.
The pony has a black santa as a cutie mark.
Ey! What are you too kids on too? I will not be swayed!
MRS4EVA
"IT'S NOT MY FAULT MY PARENTS HAVE THE WORLD'S LARGEST COLLECTION OF BLACK SANTAS!"- Radar
It's not my fault I have the world's largest collection of pastel ponies!
You guys are weird, *Grabs out prototype "Blue Molotov"* I want to use this so bad, but not on you guys, but I might have to do it.
Wow! I love that advice! "find someone who is doing what you want to do but better, and listen to them". I need that on a shirt or something now.
Jon,
this one touched deep on problems that have been afflicting my soul. Just wanted to say thank you very much for this one. Seriously, you need to keep doing this forever.
Sorry for my bad English,
Love from Brazil.
DFTBA
Me.
English was perfect.
+The Seth Thank you, came to get my semestral dose of life advice and stumbled on your complement. Thank you.
DFTBA.
how things are going?
Currently treading the waters of crushing monotony and paralyzing terror. This is such great motivation. Now to find an Ilene..
hello I'll be 17 within the next 3 months I'm not going to say exactly when you know I'm a junior in high school and this information has created more paralyzing terror but has given me something to look out for when I'm in the workforce so thank you.
Celebrating One Million Nerdfighters by re(re-re-re-re-)- watching my first vlogbrothers video. I will never not snort at 'I wonder if we can take it down a button... No.' Ive only been here for about 18 months, but it feels like I've been here since the start. Thank you.
I don't know what it is about you guys, but you're so damn inspiring that I get teary-eyed when I watch your videos. So yeah, thanks for making them.
John, I think you already are, like, a third of an Ilene for a lot of people. As an aspiring writer, I am motivated by seeing you and the life you have now, as well as just plain being inspired to embrace being intelligent and to love knowledge by your enthusiasm for these things. Obviously I need to find someone that I can have, like, real, face to face conversations with, and who can know me as a person, not just a comment, but knowing that you're there, caring, is almost enough. Thank you.
Thank you, John. I'm going into my third month of post-grad and I'm working at an unpaid internship 60 miles away from where I'm living with my parents, and I'm doing something I'm only somewhat interested in. I was staving off another round of tears when I decided to watch this video again, and you know what? It helped. Nerdfighteria always helps.
Thank you John Green. I needed to hear these word today more then any others. I do not yet know the words to express how deeply this video has touched me.
I just started my first job (in Occupational Therapy, no less). I've been a little too terrified and stressed to get to the monotony part. I really needed to see this video!
Watching this after the success of The Fault In Our Stars is so inspiring! Searching for my Ilene as we speak! Thanks John!!!
I believe it's TOTALLY possible to make something special of your life. Crushing monotony doesn't need happen if you're willing to set the time aside to make something special of yourself. Style is the key. Take time to develope what you do, in time you'll get your chance. Without this the best you can hope for is whatever the world around you will give while taking most of your work /pay away. Talent is a beginning, take what you love and hone it into something special. this is your best chance
I loved reading this book. I especially thought the reoccurring motif of referring to things such as depression etc..., as a side effect.
This video couldn't have come at a better time. I graduated from college in May, and I'm feeling like crap and stressing over paying off my student loans. I've filled out literally 50+ job applications since then and have been invited in to interview exactly 0 times. I'm glad to know it will get better. (As long as I, y'know, keep on trying.)
This is some advice I have found to be incredibly helpful, be your own Ilene. As odd as this sounds, the more you rely upon yourself the more experience you gain with something. For example I taught myself how to rock climb and mountain bike. It was very scary and painful at times but when I accomplished something on my own with no one else to help me it was very fulfilling and all of the mistakes you make along the way help to add to your knowledge in a unique way that nothing else can duplica
I could listen to this man talk all day.
I haven't even started my second year of college yet and I'm already feeling the crushing monotony.
@CanNotBeScene I completely understand. There is a time and place for everything. I meant to write if you didn't mind me asking. I wish you the best of luck in getting your 21 pages expanded, and published when you're comfortable with sharing it with the world. Just remember to share with Nerdfighteria
This is made me feel better about everything. I get so impatient and scared that I forget there are a lot of people in the same boat, and as the for the people who became successful they never did it alone, they always had an Eileen or Eileens.
oh my god i'm so glad i get to be the one to introduce you to this!
have you ever heard of chameleon circuit! they write awesome songs about doctor who (they're so awesome they convinced my friend to start watching it!) The band consists of like 5 people but I can only name Alex Dy and Charlie McDonnel off the top of my head.
Thanks... I got that already from the crushing monotony and depressing terror that is my life.
Thank you for being his Ilene, because my librarian had me read that book at the beginning/middle of last school year and I really liked it and have maybe possibly tried to shove it in my friends faces in an attempt to get them to read it as well.
John, it's called mentoring and I totally agree. Mentoring is essential for success in any endeavor.
Thank you for validating my paralyzing terror (mostly of the oncoming crushing monotony)! I was starting to feel silly and feeling silly for being terrified is rather unpleasant.
This was the first full Vlogbrothers video I ever saw, thanks to my Nerdfighter friend in Australia.
I really do need to find me an Ilene; I don't know how to be a novelist, and that is going to be my way of doing what makes me happy all the time.
i am 17 years old and so far the book that you helped wright was the best book I have ever read thank you so much for that!
"Miss Peregrine's Home For Peculiar Children" is such a good book!! That's so cool that you were an Ilene for the guy who wrote that!
In school today we had to say what our "dream job" was, and I could just hear John's voice in my head, and was so tempted to put down "Trock Star".
As an aspiring artist/editor, I wake every morning and just wonder when the safety net of a monotonous career is going to start. If you're EMPLOYED be grateful!
Thank you UA-cam for recommending this video to me right when I needed it. I had a mini breakdown today over exams and that nagging feeling that I'm heading towards forever boredom and unhappiness if I continue my university degree. You'd think these moments of impending doom and suffering over studies would stop by the time you're a 4th year double-degree student, but they don't.
Now excuse me, ladies and gents, I have a final exam to study for and I also need to find my Ilene.
I have the good fortune to have had several exceptional mentors, both personal and professional, and I can honestly say that without their guidance and leadership, my life would be crap. John is 100% right about this.
This video gives me more hope than I thought I had left.
Thank you for making me feel better about my current situation.It's not too bad, and I guess my manager is my Ilene. I am lucky that I got a job which enables me to do the kind of work I want to do, though often I am having to do other stuff which is monotonous. Like copying and pasting data from one place to another. Sigh. Still 100 more entries to go on Monday.
wow i never knew that about ilene cooper! i work in a library and shelve her stuff all the time (children's section, so i don't see you're stuff as often, but congrats on being considered for the newberry honor for tfinors). you gave me something to think about next time i'm at work
My Ilene is the "writing excuses" podcast. Great advise as I work on my projects. Just discovered you blog. Entertaining and funny.
John, you are awesome, and you are going to be the bestest father ever. Seriously, like no matter what sexuality, or gender identifier, your kid is going to have or be when he's older, he's got your support and I respect that. Hope he's doing well.
The thing about your life is that you evolve. Your passions and your mind; they evolve. You're not hopelessly lost ... you're evolving. College was by far the best and most rewarding experience of my so far brief existence. I changed ..my passions grew...I grew ... I discovered new meanings to my life. I redefined success to be less superficial and more about my happiness. My low days were only pieces to a puzzle that made my life more complete. One day you'll understand what I mean :)