Can A Woman Turn A Boy Into A Man? (It Gets Crazy Deep) | Episode #2
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- Опубліковано 20 гру 2022
- Anthony O’Neal is embarking on a unique social experiment as the host of “Ladies, hear him out!” a live panel-style event where men will get the mic and the floor. And the ladies? Well, they’ll be in the audience, sipping and sighing, preparing their responses which can only be given after the last panelist has said his piece.
Sounds fun, right?
Many men have found themselves in a no-win situation: they’re either too vulnerable or too closed off. Is there a happy medium?
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I was raised by my grandmother. She made me bring all my books home to study. She made sure I wore suits and was well groomed. She made sure I ate extremely healthy. My chores started before school and more chores was after school. I didn’t meet a real man until I started playing football in the 9th grade. So for those 9 years of being under my grandmother. I give all props to my grandmother.
She seemed like an exceptional woman!
A boy becomes a man once he’s able to provide for and take care of himself. A man becomes a leader once he’s able to provide for and take care of his household. A leader becomes a king once he’s able to provide for and take care of entire communities!
AMEN SIR 🙏 !
This should be a yearly or bi-annual event. So good.
Yes and needed
Agreed with different locations also...
How can a man speak for the woman to say how she views a man.
Yes definitely in DC again. It’s a great way for men to gather & women to listen
"A man is knowing who to be in what room at the right time" That's it.
Yessssss
Love that! And there are levels of Manhood- from a boy to a great man. Just being born a male is not considered a man. There are several aspects they must have/ attain before they are considered a man by other men. Community involvement/ and protection is the highest level, taking care of family, taking care of self, being disciplined, self sacrificing, loving, emotionally open, aggressive when necessary, dominate when necessary, protector, a provider, teacher, and financially.
Women cannot make a man a man. We are called to help.
I would like to attach an addendum, to the "helping part" from a woman. They have a very vital an essential part, that we as men need your wisdom, insight, need your instinct of discernment, and have stated all the above. It makes us a better man. And helping making us a better man is small gesture in building a man. ( BUILD A BEAR).
Well let’s talk men of all men here, Jesus was raised by Joseph and Mary but scholars believe that Jesus’ father died before he was an adult. This is especially supported by the fact that Jesus lived at home till he was 30 and cared for his mother, and when he died he left the care of his mother to John. This was only done for windows. We can estimate that Jesus was likely raised to a certain extent by a single mother. I’m not saying she made him a man, but certainly He was very much the men of all men and for a time he only had his mother as his parent.
The pastor saves the discussion every time he addresses the nuances of the discussion. We change depending on the nature of what's going on in the room. The point is being able to adapt.
A woman can HELP raise a boy into a man…it’s called a mother. His mother.
A woman cannot teach a boy about manhood its the father job
A mother isn't sufficient to raise a man. He needs a Father/Father figure much more than he does a mother.
True. My son told me I couldn't teach him how to be a man. Because im not man.
Yooooo Anthony you’re winning with this series, we need more bro
Yes we really do ❤️
Agreed!
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Taking care of your family is the cornerstone of taking care of your community because the community consists of and is comprised of families.
I really liked the panel, their thoughts and opinions, and most importantly, their demeanor in sharing how they felt. Great discussion!
Yes no arguing and respecting each others opinions
I see why many of us are single! When asked what is a man, I don’t feel like any of them described themselves. There was nothing but projections and descriptions of what sound good! 🤷🏾♀️ How are you identifying as a man and don’t describe yourself first and give examples of what you do daily and/or for your family that makes you feel like head of the household/a man.
I love that men have a platform to just speak without us ladies interrupting.... I am learning a lot. Thank you!
A man is a boy who becomes responsible for himself and his livelihood. First step. A man is protective, provider, visionary, he's strong etc.
To responds that came after the brother said he cried with his daughters clearly shows that a senior baby boomer would have been totally in agreement with him because of maturity and wisdom that the father showed to his daughters
Love this panel session. It’s good to hear the different perspectives from great men.
Women cannot define what a man is. Only men can do that.
What women can do is INSPIRE and MOTIVATE men to do and be more.
My wife definitely inspired me. When we met, I was stuck in a rut. I was in a job I hated with no real opportunities in front of me and wasn’t really motivated to change it.
Once we started dating, I was so inspired and impressed by all the things she was doing that I had to re-examine myself and start making changes. 12 years later we have two great kids and I own my own business and make 5 times more than I ever did as an employee.
Unfortunately, the marriage didn’t work out, but I’ll give credit where credit is due. She was the catalyst for change.
As for the question of showing the feminine side of men…
Y’all don’t really want that. Women SAY they want that and THINK they want that, but whenever they get it from a man… it’s a turn off.
I agree with everything you said except I may be unclear about what you interpret as being the feminine side. As a woman who has had partners who showed their feminine side, it was a huge turnoff if the feminine side presented as needing me to often or always have the responsibility of direction or having to stay in my masculine to counterbalance and move forward. It would only lead to resentment. When the feminine side was expressed empathy, listening in order to understand, being vulnerable about their emotions, AND layered with ownership … an energy of “and here’s what I’m going to do about it” it’s connection and intimacy. If a woman has to stay in her masculine in order for a man to feel wanted, he’ll feel emasculated and likely leave for the next woman that hasn’t been hurt or developed resentment through his ongoing inaction, lack of intention/clarity, or ownership of his side of the street.
Men and women have both suffered a terrible injustice when young men were not taught how to recognize & express their emotions, and how to be soft while maintaining loving boundaries.
The idea that women love jerks is often a young woman’s inability to distinguish between a selfish a$$ and a self aware, boundaried man.
Great panel discussion. We definitely need more of it! Thank you for this content ❣️🙏🏾
Let that man cry about that hamster 🐹
The majority response to this is EXACTLY what the problem is. He had a valid point but we are conditioned that men only show certain emotions when society dictates. Would the tears have been ok if it were a woman shedding them🤔
HAMSTERS SO......CUUUUUUUTE
Some of them probably shot that down because many of them find hamsters as not worthy/significant enough to be cried over
It was disappointing to see how many people laughed at him about crying with his daughters over the lost of their hamster. I had a very sweet hamster for years and when he died it was very sad. Men should be allowed to cry over sad moments. It doesn’t matter if it wasn’t sad to them, it was sad to him.
That's the thing though, he didn't cry over the hamster. He cried with his daughters because they were sad that their hamster died. It seems like everyone on the panel missed what he said in full because he said "to connect with his daughters" he cried not he cried because their hamster died. It saddens me that the men on the panel don't see their problem with their response. This is exactly why a lot of men don't communicate properly or correctly when it comes to their emotions because of the response they get from both men and women. Unfortunately for us women, we then have to work harder to show them that it's okay. Both men and women need to have a safe place to fall within the relationship.
By crying he communicated with his daughters in a way that they all could truly understand regardless of age. No matter how old they get they will know their father genuinely cares. It’s sad that so many of the men didn’t understand that.
It’s so refreshing hearing smart black men speak on these issues! I can’t wait to see more!
I love how focused these men have grown to become.It’s the reaction to the guy who wanted to be open about his feelings & connecting with his daughters feelings about their hamster is the reason men don’t want to go there. He’s a multi-dimensional man who can go-through to stay connected with his people & is most likely successful & well-connected in his community. If men did the same for their wives the connection would be greater, & they would benefit from a woman’s “Hysterical Strength” to support her husband in all the ways he needs no questions asked & no one but God-Husband-Wife matters.
This is great example of why we need mentorship.
This came to my mind as I was thinking about the gentleman and his daughters losing their hamster. Jesus was deeply moved and even wept when he heard Lazarus had died. He knew he was going to bring him back to life, but being a Savior who empathizes with us wept with Mary and Martha. This gentleman is Christlike and a good representation of what it means to be the head of your family. Leaders need to be able to empathize with those who they are leading. Just thought I would share as that came to my mind.
Last I checked, Adam was walking in his purpose, defined by God (the Ultimate Father) as to who he was. Fashioned and formed and tending to the land. Known as man.
Only AFTER naming the animals did they find there was no partner for him.
Fashioned OUT of Adam by God, Eve came into being (as a HELPER not a “let me now make him into what he needs to be” but to support what was already cemented) and Adam identified her as woman.
I think that says it all.
This was wonderful, I've been waiting for something like this for a while. I love hearing all the different vast opinions of what a man is, what a man was, and what a man should be. This platform was powerful, You should definitely do this again. Thank you to all of the men and women who participated. Here is a shout of love to the host, ❤️ and a shout of love to the elevation taking place. 🌿🙏🏾🌿👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Yes pastor! Manhood is multidimensional and he broke it down beautifully.
Loved it, Anthony ! Nice group of diverend men's and opinions! ❤️
Waiting for #3
I love these videos. I wish they were longer. Great content.
I love these conversations! I think it’s important for everyone to understand that you cannot generalize and then isolate a specific situation to fit in the box. I hope that makes sense.
A balanced man needs both, a woman and man to help raise either woman/man. There are qualities that come from both which is important in raising a human.
Wow! I REALLY enjoyed these episodes! I am so glad, that Anthony had come up with these topics dealing with the man and woman! I feel it is so crucial to have this conversation, because in todays society, I am confused on how a man should treat their woman and vic versa.
I just want to say Thank you for this video and the panel of men. Six minutes in and I'm sitting up truly listening there is Nothing like your own personal truth! God Bless you all in Jesus name AMEN 🙏🏽
AO you did it once again...we need more of this
Loved this series! This should be a yearly event. One suggestion…it would be great to include men in the mental health/counseling field, as they too would have an interesting prospective on these topics. We don’t include those professionals enough in these types of conversations and mental/emotional health is a huge component!!!
This was good. A women can not make a man, because he will push back. A women can only support, but a real man transforms into a man from seeing a healthy example.👏👏good stuff💕
So much value in this video
This was a good content to talk about especially for our black community
These are sooo good, all I do is share your vids AO! Please keep these coming!!!
This is great, there needs to be more panels like this. Because you are Truly A Man when you can Express yourself and know the Real person you are and that is only through the Holy Spirit, and then owning up to it. Not being afraid to except who you are Truly and work with yourself to become a better person. It’s always about Evolving for All of Us because We all Men and Women have this Same Issue
Crazy thing is no one bought up building a stronger man hood circle but it’s pass the buck off to a woman that’s a parent to make a man. The question is rooted in a partner not a parent
AO has done it again with a dope panel of people. Awesome topic of discussion with mature men!! I loved this video. Thank you
I feel like the reason this is going around and around is because the wrong questions is being asked. Words have actual definitions. A "man" means an adult male human being. What you all are really asking is what is the definition of a mature and well developed man? If this is the question, then all the things Rico is saying is his definition of a mature man. What pastor is saying, is that with a woman by a mans side...she can be an asset to his life and in a lot of ways add to his level of maturity. Because like Rico said, if he's not a man until he meets the woman...what is he? And if he's not a man, what would make the woman want to be with him? So again, I think the question should be what does a mature, man of integrity look like?
Oh my gosh! You summed up the entire discussion!
Yes and in most of what is discussed on podcasts doesn't differentiate which you did very well.👋👋👋👋👋👋👋👋
I realized they are speaking of levels of Manhood. Just being born a male is not considered a man. There are several aspects you must have/ attain before you are considered a man by other men. So futher in the discussion after the first pastor spoke, other men stated knowing who to be, in different situations (there is no one single posture of manliness), community engagement/ involvement is the highest level of manliness, ect. Rico said he needed a man to develop him. And show him the characteristics of manhood. The panel concluded women cannot make men, but push foward a man's vision and be a pillar and pillow for men.
That was a great conversation, we need to hear more from the men. This helps women to understand men for better relationships.
I love this dialogue it is very much needed for women to understand men better.
Loved it👌👌👌
It mainly starts with the foundation of what we working with, the archetype of a man determines how that man will be... hence why same environments will produce men yet of different characters... the doc is definitely a mechanic, whilst others may be romantics... also are you an alpha or beta male. We are very much versatile as beings
Love these panels 💯
i love how balanced and what a good thinker the man in the blue is
Some rational convo from grown intelligent men, refreshing, Im here for this. Thank you
I’m loving these discussions
Really enjoyed this episode!
Once again this is so great!
The reason the conversation is so circular is because the entire panel is a debate about personal preference. No application of social sciences, history, or biblical principles (barely). Just a bunch of "I feel like as a man"
Right! I still feel confused on the definition of a man from this conversation. The only thing that remains true is the protect & provide aspect
Oh my no he didn't! I am extra curious to know how that goes! Waiting for that premier!
This is so good!
Great conversations!
BROO so much valueee! I wish I was there in person😂
Reeeeeco!!!! Nice pic great convo I will be adding this to my wife and I couples night conversation and at home ! Let’s go! AO great branch off Dave 🔥
Intelligent prospectives and Great conversation. 👏🏾
Best definition hands down: A builder! The ability to take something from idea to finished product with the inclusion of woman.
The doctor does not understand the assignment. He's still thinking too individualistically. Always focusing on himself instead of the collective.
Powerful stuff! Come on with it AO
Anthony, I love you for bringing Good, Mature, Black Christian Men on your channel🎉🎉🎉🎉
Great content, can't wait until the next one
We want more, please make the video longer
Pastor Chandler was spot on!!
Great topic 👍
I loved this series! I do not know any of your panelist. Is there somewhere on your page that will give a list of panelists?
I love how the pastor shut this whole conversation down!
I know the women learnin alot from these fresh male perspectives. Men are complexed and grow up in many different environments with different mindsets...but a man is always developing, always learning, self evaluating for the better.
This is a good segment and powerful convo with out the red-pill anti woman bs
It's not a feminine or masculine side. It's about ENERGY. We both have it! Energy is fluid. Wow.
Many of “us” don’t seem to understand this. 🤦🏾♀️
@@ItsMe-dr7ir 😤
@@Tcaramel25 I wish we could go deeper into understanding this. We operate in both energies all day, every day. People hijacked the terms masculine energy and feminine energy and tried to make them gender based. This is causing all kinds of misunderstandings and disconnection!!!
@@ItsMe-dr7ir let's connect. What's your handle on ig or fb?
Society dictates our behavior, not one individual.
I love this series and I am so glad women can't speak on it.
As a woman, I don't believe women can raise men nor can men raise women.
MERRY CHRISTMAS AO
This was really helpful to learn from successful Men ❤
This was sooo good. I agree with the young with the long hair and the one who spoke about emotions also the pastor. However I have not finished listening to this yet ....but what about character?
Profound- Who to be in the right room at the right time,- all of what he said.
And there are levels of Manhood- from a boy to a great man. Just being born a male is not considered a man. There are several aspects they must have/ attain before they are considered a man by other men. Community involvement/ and protection is the highest level, taking care of family, taking care of self, being disciplined, self sacrificing, loving, emotionally open, aggressive when necessary, dominate when necessary, protector, a provider, teacher, and financially
This conversation is interesting. It seems the pastor is putting it in the women to make a boy a man. It’s not our job to raise our husbands. Supporting your vision is not the same as raising you… looking at you pastor John Gray. I think that’s his name
The pastor with the curly top sorry I don’t know his name but babyyyyy he got it 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 a man is who he needs to be in every situation he’s not one dimensional ❤❤❤🙏🏾
Omg this is 🔥🔥❤️❤️
The idea that a panel of educated black men are having a discussion on whether or not and how a woman can raise a boy to be a man is one of the foundational problems within the black community. We just well ask can a fish teach a bird to fly, smh.
What do you mean? A panel of educated black man can’t express their opinions on what makes a man?
@@CameronjBritton I never said a panel of educated black men can't express their opinions on what makes a man. I clearly pointed out that the idea of those same guys speaking on if/how a woman could turn a boy into a man. If you disagree with what I said, fine. I'll do my best to articulate my reasoning. However I can't defend or even entertain what you felt you heard/read. That's on you
Wisdom= Your Pastor … LISTEN 👂🏾 ❤🙏🏾💪🏾
Just liked the conversation
9:13 - 9:55 Thank you for the response .
RICO’s chair was like one scootch from falling off the stage 🤣
I loved this 😌😌😌
Absolutely enjoy the diverse perspectives. The opinions expressed by the gentlemen on the panel highlights there is no definitive transformation period within a males journey into becoming a responsible adulthood. All male's travel diverse paths seeking various outcome. In my opinion the definition of a "man" cannot and should not be defined by a singular event nor achievement, but rather the totality of his growth & accomplishments over a lifetime.
I believe collectively we will never definitively define the term "man" as utilized within the culture. However as a collective we can provide definitive insight as to the characteristics possessed by males of integrity and virtue.
A man is someone who puts the childish things aside
We want more!
That’s what I just said!!!
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This was real talk they was talking deep and real good
Both men an women have both energies
Bobby is so extra🥰
Love it though✨
I’m mad we both dead said “ohhhh lordddd” at the same time 😂😂😂😂 like here we go 😂😂😂😂
Rico Huncho Ladies & Gents! Yessir!
I understand the men on panel not wantijg to minimize the role of women in a man's life, but we should not define manhood based on women.
You ideally should be a man before you get the woman and continue to grow into a better man.
Emotions and expressing them doesn’t not equal femininity
I love listening to men speak
Too good!
Where is episode 1?
23:58 I am a 🇵🇷 female and I do not like to cry but I don’t buy that it’s a culture thing it was a way to protect myself from feeling broken and vulnerable after an abusive relationship. Still hate to cry but I do it more often now
Paul gives six virtues that men of God should pursue: righteousness, godliness, faith, love, steadfastness, and gentleness (1 Tim 6:11b).